WEBVTT - #195 My Mom Hates Me...

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to say, I'm so sorry. A girl.

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<v Speaker 2>Should never deserve to grow up like this or be

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<v Speaker 2>treated like this. I believe the little boys and little

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<v Speaker 2>girls should have a mother and father that loved them.

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<v Speaker 2>What's up, everybody, Welcome back to the podcast. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 2>being here and listening. This is good for me because

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<v Speaker 2>I actually, although I put these out every single Monday morning,

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't actually recorded one in two or three at

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<v Speaker 2>least two or three weeks, because I spent some time

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<v Speaker 2>in Pakistan and Dubai recently, and so because of that,

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<v Speaker 2>I front loaded the podcast and recorded a bunch of

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<v Speaker 2>them in a row over the course of one week,

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<v Speaker 2>like three weeks ago. So needless to say, I've kind

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<v Speaker 2>of missed recording them. So I'm back on schedule now

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<v Speaker 2>with you guys. I enjoy doing this. I enjoy kind

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<v Speaker 2>of in the hectic moments of my life. I enjoy

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<v Speaker 2>slowing down and reading your questions, which is what we

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<v Speaker 2>do here.

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<v Speaker 1>I read your.

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<v Speaker 2>Questions that you send in to Grangersmith podcast at gmail

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<v Speaker 2>dot com, walk through these emails like we're just two friends,

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<v Speaker 2>just slow analysis. I don't have notes and books and

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<v Speaker 2>quotes in front of me, so I'm gonna walk through

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<v Speaker 2>it like you asked me.

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<v Speaker 1>If we could talk.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, we're in the cab of a truck and

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<v Speaker 2>you say, hey, may can we talk about something? I

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<v Speaker 2>have been talking all day? In fact, i've been I've

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<v Speaker 2>done two podcasts this morning, other People's podcast, plus after

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<v Speaker 2>midnight my radio show. So now I'm a little I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit horse, but I kind of live in

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<v Speaker 2>a con state of a horse voice. But here I

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<v Speaker 2>am diving into the first question, and I'm gonna go

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<v Speaker 2>randomly into these questions. The first one says letting go.

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<v Speaker 2>The question reads, Hey, Grangeer, my name is Maddie. My

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<v Speaker 2>question is how do you learn how to let go

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<v Speaker 2>of things? How do I let go of someone that

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<v Speaker 2>I know I need to let go of, but I

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<v Speaker 2>just keep wanting and wanting to go back to be

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<v Speaker 2>with them, but I know I shouldn't. It's so hard

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<v Speaker 2>to let go when you just want to go back

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<v Speaker 2>with that same person, but everything is telling you to

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<v Speaker 2>move on and you know that you should. It's just

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<v Speaker 2>hurst to see things and people change, and it's so

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<v Speaker 2>hard to let go. I hope you understand what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 2>and thank you for taking the time to read this, Maddie, Maddie, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>diving in the first. First observation from your email is

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<v Speaker 2>that you started out by saying, how do you learn

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<v Speaker 2>to let go of things?

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<v Speaker 1>But in reality, the email.

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<v Speaker 2>Is actually about a person person that you're having trouble

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<v Speaker 2>letting go of and you know you should, and you

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<v Speaker 2>said everything is telling you to move on, which is

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<v Speaker 2>probably your instinct, and it's your friends and family and

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<v Speaker 2>everyone else around you is probably saying you gotta let go.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm not gonna do anything different here. I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>going to tell you that you need to hang on,

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<v Speaker 2>because you already know you need to let go. But

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<v Speaker 2>that's not your question. Your question is how do I

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<v Speaker 2>do it? So practically speaking, just practically, let's say because

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<v Speaker 2>because your heart is involved and you're connected with this

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<v Speaker 2>person intimately, and you know you shouldn't be so because

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<v Speaker 2>that's kind of clouding your vision. Understandably it would mine

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<v Speaker 2>it does anybody else, because that's clouding you. Let's not

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<v Speaker 2>use the scenario of a person. Let's use the scenario

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<v Speaker 2>of an actual thing or addiction or habit or something

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<v Speaker 2>like that. So let's say this. Let's say you were

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<v Speaker 2>trying to quit or let go of eating Oreo cookies. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>It's not that far fetched of an idea. I think

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<v Speaker 2>we've all gone through times in our life when we're like, man,

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<v Speaker 2>I need to quit snacking on sweets so much. So

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<v Speaker 2>I'll lay at the scenario for you. You want to let

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<v Speaker 2>go of eating Oreo cookies, and yet you keep them

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<v Speaker 2>in the pantry, or you keep them on the cabinet

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<v Speaker 2>right there on the on the counter, or you have

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<v Speaker 2>somebody living with you in your same house that continues

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<v Speaker 2>to buy them in the grocery store and puts them

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<v Speaker 2>in the cupboard. Right that, that's one scenario. So you

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<v Speaker 2>wake up every day and you're walking through life and

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<v Speaker 2>you're going, man, I need to let go of Oreo cookies.

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<v Speaker 2>But here they are on the counter or the pantry,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's there's your keys to your car, and you're

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<v Speaker 2>going to work, and right by your keys is this

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<v Speaker 2>cookie jar and there's Oreo cookies in there. That's very

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<v Speaker 2>difficult to let go of. It's right there. All you

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<v Speaker 2>have to do is grab it. And you might say, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>so that's a matter of self discipline or willpower, agreed,

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<v Speaker 2>But you have to set yourself up for success, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's not doing it that way. Here's the other scenario.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to let go of Oreo cookies. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna eradicate my house. Any cookies that are left in

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<v Speaker 2>the house, I'm throwing them in the trash and they're

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<v Speaker 2>going out to the street. Okay, I will not buy

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<v Speaker 2>any at a grocery store or at a gas station

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<v Speaker 2>or convenience store or anywhere else. I'm not gonna buy

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<v Speaker 2>Oreo cookies. I'm gonna tell the people I'm living with, mom, dad, friends, sibling, spouse, whatever, kids.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna tell them. Please, can you do me a

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<v Speaker 2>solid here? I need just to let go of Oreo cookies.

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<v Speaker 2>It's bobbing me that I keep snacking on them. It's

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<v Speaker 2>become a habit and I want to let go of it.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you please, out of your love for me, can

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<v Speaker 2>you can you help me with something? Can you not

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<v Speaker 2>buy Oreo cookies and bring them home to this house?

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<v Speaker 2>Because it's affecting me. It's makes it more difficult to

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<v Speaker 2>let it go. Okay, that's simple. That's simple, and that

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<v Speaker 2>is a way to set yourself up for success. Out

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<v Speaker 2>of sight, out of mind. You go to grab your

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<v Speaker 2>keys and guess what, There's apples in the cookie jar

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<v Speaker 2>instead of oreos, So you gotta if you're kind of hungry,

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<v Speaker 2>you're gonna snack.

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<v Speaker 1>You grab an apple.

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<v Speaker 2>Why am I saying all this because I think that

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<v Speaker 2>you might be I'm gonna bet that you might be

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<v Speaker 2>dealing with something similar with this person in terms of

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<v Speaker 2>they're on your Facebook feed or your social media Instagram, TikTok,

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<v Speaker 2>whatever feed, or you have a friend that's still having

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<v Speaker 2>dinner with this person all the time and you're seeing them.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe it's maybe you're seeing them at work some kind

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<v Speaker 2>of scenario. There's still oreos in the cookie jar around you,

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<v Speaker 2>and if you want to let it go, if you

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<v Speaker 2>want to set yourself up for success, you need to

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<v Speaker 2>get this out of your eyesight. Okay, get it out

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<v Speaker 2>of sight, out of mind. Can you do it? Can

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<v Speaker 2>you quit oreos with them still in the house?

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<v Speaker 1>Sure?

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<v Speaker 2>It just takes extreme willpower and self discipline. And I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to put you through that. I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to go through that. I want to set myself up

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<v Speaker 2>for success right off the bat. If I'm wanting to

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<v Speaker 2>let something go, okay, you know you need to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Block them on Facebook, block them on Instagram, tell your friends,

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<v Speaker 2>sit them down and say can I do Can you

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<v Speaker 2>do me a huge favor?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to avoid this person because my heart is

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<v Speaker 2>still attached and I need to let go. Can you

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<v Speaker 2>do me a favor and try to not bring them

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<v Speaker 2>around me? If you know I'm coming over, would you

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<v Speaker 2>mind warning me or can you tell them? Or can

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<v Speaker 2>you please just do me a solid and let me

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<v Speaker 2>know if that person is going to be around Just

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<v Speaker 2>help me here? Okay, simple stuff, quitting oreos. Next question

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<v Speaker 2>seems a little more serious, more detailed, says probably the

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<v Speaker 2>subdecline says Prophecy and eschatology or the Gospel. Hey Granger,

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<v Speaker 2>my name is Cody. I'm twenty seven years old from

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<v Speaker 2>southern Illinois. So I had a dream the other night

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<v Speaker 2>that I was standing in a desert and a little

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<v Speaker 2>ways ahead of me was Jesus and surrounding him was Matthew, Mark, Luke,

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<v Speaker 2>and John. I don't know how I knew it was them,

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<v Speaker 2>but for some reason I just knew who they were.

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<v Speaker 2>Jesus never spoke to me, but Matthew, Mark, Luke and

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<v Speaker 2>John were telling me I need to go preach the Gospel.

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<v Speaker 2>How do I know if this was a dream from

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<v Speaker 2>Jesus or if it was just a random dream. Either way,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I need to do what they were

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<v Speaker 2>telling me to do. After all, that's what Jesus wants

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<v Speaker 2>us all to do. I talked to my pastor about it,

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<v Speaker 2>and he thinks it's truly from Jesus. As I said,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm feeling called to do this, but I still have

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<v Speaker 2>a ton to learn. I listen to the Bible on

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<v Speaker 2>audiobook every day while I'm at work. I work at

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<v Speaker 2>my local community college as a landscape maintenance man second shift,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm the only person on the entire campus. But

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still in the Old Testament right now. However, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>getting close to the New Testament. I'm currently in Execuel,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm having a hard time understanding and comprehending the Bible.

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<v Speaker 2>My pastor said he would help me comprehend it better.

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<v Speaker 2>I do have this podcast I listen to that gives

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<v Speaker 2>you a thirty minute synopsis of each book to help

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<v Speaker 2>you better understand the Bible. I also have a book

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<v Speaker 2>called the Ultimate Bible Guide that explains each book better. However,

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<v Speaker 2>I also feel very compelled to get a degree in

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<v Speaker 2>Biblical study as well as Bible prophecy and eschatology. I

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<v Speaker 2>listen to podcasts such as Prophecy Prose and Encounter Underground,

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<v Speaker 2>as well as read books by Jeff Kinley and Alan Diddio.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess what I'm asking is, do you think I

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<v Speaker 2>should try to pursue the prophecy and eschatology degrees or

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<v Speaker 2>just stick to the gospel. My wife thinks her and

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<v Speaker 2>I should learn as much as we can first through

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<v Speaker 2>our Bible study together as well as at church, before

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<v Speaker 2>I start pursuing those things. But she is very supportive.

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<v Speaker 2>But I feel as though the rapture will be here

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<v Speaker 2>sooner than we think, and I don't want to see

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<v Speaker 2>a bunch of people get left behind. Thank you for

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<v Speaker 2>your time. Make God bless you and your families you

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<v Speaker 2>enter into mindustry. Also, I look forward to seeing you

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<v Speaker 2>and Marian on July twenty seventh. Sorry for such a

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<v Speaker 2>long email, Have a great day and God speed. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you, Cody. Sorry from our raspy voice here as

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<v Speaker 2>I'm reading your email, thank you for your careful thoughts

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<v Speaker 2>and ideas, and I'm going to walk it through you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to walk through this and I'm gonna give you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna give you brotherly advice. I'm gonna give you

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<v Speaker 2>advice as though me and you are friends, because I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like we are. I want to think of us

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<v Speaker 2>as friends, Okay, And I'm setting that up because I

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<v Speaker 2>also want to give some tough love here, and I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want it to sound like it's harsh or criticizing

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<v Speaker 2>or bitter in any way. First, I want to say,

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<v Speaker 2>just overall, just first analysis, Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John,

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<v Speaker 2>it would be very odd for those four men to

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<v Speaker 2>be standing together because they came in different time periods.

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<v Speaker 2>They were not all for disciples. Luke and Mark never

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<v Speaker 2>walked with Jesus at all, so you could understand it's

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<v Speaker 2>a little odd. Mark would have been a disciple of Peter,

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<v Speaker 2>and Luke would have been a disciple of Paul. Neither

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<v Speaker 2>of them walked with Jesus. Interesting if you think of

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<v Speaker 2>it in terms of your dream had them altogether with Jesus. Listen,

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<v Speaker 2>not saying that, don't read too deep into that. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just saying that's the first thought. It's interesting. The second

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<v Speaker 2>thought is you said they're speaking to you Matthew, Mark Luke,

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<v Speaker 2>and John are telling you you need to go preach

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<v Speaker 2>the gospel. Right, Well, that is not that's not prophecy.

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<v Speaker 2>In fact, that's just the Great commission, and the Bible

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<v Speaker 2>is going to tell us the same exact thing. So

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<v Speaker 2>in a way, it's good that you're lining up truth

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<v Speaker 2>that's already in the Bible.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's how you can confirm that something is right

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<v Speaker 2>because you can always confirm it. There is no new prophecy,

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<v Speaker 2>there's no new command, there's no new information that no

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<v Speaker 2>one ever knew before coming to you. That's never going

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<v Speaker 2>to happen unless you could back it up clearly with

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<v Speaker 2>the whole of scripture.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so.

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<v Speaker 2>You're getting a command from this dream that is aligning

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<v Speaker 2>with the Bible, the great commission, go forth make disciples

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<v Speaker 2>of all nations, right, that's the Great commission. And then

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<v Speaker 2>digging further into this, so right there, you say, do

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<v Speaker 2>you think that was just a dream or Okay, digging

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<v Speaker 2>further into this, you immediately go from that how you're

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to go and share the Gospel, you go directly

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<v Speaker 2>into You're still working through the Bible yourself, and you

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<v Speaker 2>have a lot to learn in fact, you haven't read

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<v Speaker 2>any of the New Testament yet, I'm assuming, and you're

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<v Speaker 2>only a little bit way through the Old Testament in Ezekiel.

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<v Speaker 2>So the first thought is how are you going to

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<v Speaker 2>preach or teach or share what you don't fully know yet?

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<v Speaker 2>So first step is equip yourself, equip yourself, learn, pump

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<v Speaker 2>the breaks, take your time, be affirmed by people in

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<v Speaker 2>the faith that have been doing this for a long time.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no rush, there's no rush out of the door.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't need to be running off and sharing the

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<v Speaker 2>gospel that you don't that you haven't even read yet. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>So that's friendly advice and just out of love, pump

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<v Speaker 2>the breaks. Here there's a lot. There's a lot to learn,

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<v Speaker 2>a lot to study, a lot to be affirmed in,

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<v Speaker 2>and a lot to equip from. Then we get to

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<v Speaker 2>another part of the question, and that is the prophecy

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<v Speaker 2>eschatology question. Eschatology for people that don't know, is study

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<v Speaker 2>of end times. So you might have heard me before.

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<v Speaker 1>And by the way, I do.

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<v Speaker 2>I do not know these podcasts that you mentioned, and

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<v Speaker 2>I do not know these authors that you mentioned. That's okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know a lot of podcasts and a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of authors. But we're going to dive into your idea

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<v Speaker 2>of should you pursue prophecy and eschatology degrees or just

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<v Speaker 2>stick to the Gospel. Well, first of all, you don't

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<v Speaker 2>have to choose between the two, because the Gospel is

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<v Speaker 2>always gonna be a heavily studied thing that you do

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<v Speaker 2>for the rest of your life. The Gospel is going

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<v Speaker 2>to infiltrate everything. There is no eschatology without gospel. There

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<v Speaker 2>is no prophecy without gospel. Otherwise it's just straight heresy.

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<v Speaker 2>The Gospel needs to infiltrate everything you do. You don't

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<v Speaker 2>choose should I do a little gospel or should I

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<v Speaker 2>do a little prophecy, because if you don't have gospel,

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<v Speaker 2>you have nothing but satanic lies. In this other hand, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just that's straight up what the truth is. So

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have to choose. It's all going to go together.

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<v Speaker 2>The Gospels always going to be there. It needs to

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<v Speaker 2>always be there. But if you've heard me on this

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<v Speaker 2>podcast before speak about eschatology, I am concerned with that

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<v Speaker 2>word and with becoming obsessed with eschatology. I'm concerned with

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<v Speaker 2>let me speak clearly, I'm concerned with people worrying about

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<v Speaker 2>the end times, because we are, in almost every sense

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<v Speaker 2>of that term, living in the end times now, and

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<v Speaker 2>we have been since Christ was born and he ushered

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<v Speaker 2>in the present age of the Kingdom. The end times

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<v Speaker 2>officially began when he ascended into heaven right, and so

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<v Speaker 2>the end times started in the first century, so people

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<v Speaker 2>have been living in the times for two thousand years.

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<v Speaker 2>It's very important important to understand that. And you say, well, well, Granger,

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<v Speaker 2>all the prophecies are coming together, like rumors of wars

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<v Speaker 2>and pestilence and storms and disease and mark at the beast,

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<v Speaker 2>and this is all coming to fruition now. And I say,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm concerned because that stuff has come to fruition many

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<v Speaker 2>times in history, first of all. And you could argue me,

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<v Speaker 2>and you could. You could, you could push against this,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's okay. This is not a this is not

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<v Speaker 2>a disagreement. I'm just voicing a concern that I think

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<v Speaker 2>people get caught up in that stuff. Like you, you're

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<v Speaker 2>saying you feel as though the rapture is going to

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<v Speaker 2>be here sooner than we think, and you don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to see a bunch of people get left behind. I

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<v Speaker 2>promise you, brother, I promise you ninety nine point nine

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<v Speaker 2>nine nine nine ninety nine percent chance you will die

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<v Speaker 2>on this earth without seeing the quote unquote rapture that

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<v Speaker 2>you're talking about. So are you going to concern yourself

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<v Speaker 2>with the point zero zero zero zeros zers zero years

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<v Speaker 2>zeros zeros years zero one? Are are you going to

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<v Speaker 2>concern yourself with infiltrating the Gospel in you and carrying

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<v Speaker 2>out the great commission sharing the good News with the world,

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<v Speaker 2>because that's what you're commanded to do right now. And people,

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm concerned about is people start worrying about the

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<v Speaker 2>zero zero zero years z is a zero one percent

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<v Speaker 2>and they get caught up in looking for signs and

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<v Speaker 2>trying to use Revelation as a roadmap, the Book of

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<v Speaker 2>Revelation as a roadmap to look, look when the Antichrist

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<v Speaker 2>is coming and he's going to be here for three

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<v Speaker 2>and a half years here and then and then he's

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<v Speaker 2>going to reveal himself. And like, you start reading that

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<v Speaker 2>as a roadmap and you start getting off track, you

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<v Speaker 2>start forgetting the whole purpose of the Gospel. So let's

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<v Speaker 2>not do that. You could great, you want to study

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<v Speaker 2>that ten years from now, after you've equipped yourself and

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<v Speaker 2>you've completely armed yourself with the gospel, and you're very

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<v Speaker 2>well read, and you're good at proselytizing and evangelizing, and

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<v Speaker 2>you fill the Holy Spirit, and you want to study

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit more about eschatology.

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<v Speaker 1>Cool, cool, cool cool.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking ten years down the road. But don't get

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<v Speaker 2>caught up in it now, because it could become an

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<v Speaker 2>idol to you. It can become an obsession. Just check Twitter.

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<v Speaker 2>People are all over this stuff like end of Times,

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<v Speaker 2>mark of the Beast, anti Christ, Christ is coming back,

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<v Speaker 2>white horse, here we go. It's like, man, how long

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<v Speaker 2>you think people have been saying that and their focus

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<v Speaker 2>is just getting Jesus would say, stop looking for signs,

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<v Speaker 2>stop it. I am here now. The Kingdom is here now. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>Christ is present with us. Now stop looking for him

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<v Speaker 2>coming later, and start realizing that he's here now.

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<v Speaker 1>The Kingdom is with us. Now.

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<v Speaker 2>Preach the gospel that way, not the eschatology way.

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<v Speaker 1>Take a break here at that.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want to get a hold of me for

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<v Speaker 2>some reason, maybe get a video message from me. You

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<v Speaker 2>could do that through cameo dot com, slash Granger Smith,

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<v Speaker 2>or you could download the Cameo app c am eo

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<v Speaker 2>and search for me Granger Smith. It's a great way

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<v Speaker 2>to maybe get a last minute gift to somebody, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>a birthday present, maybe a baby announcement. I've done a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of those happy anniversary. If you're like, man, what

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<v Speaker 2>can I get this person? They kind of have everything

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<v Speaker 2>or there's nothing they need. You can get me to

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<v Speaker 2>give you a customized video message. And I've been doing

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<v Speaker 2>this for a long time. Cameo is very efficient and

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<v Speaker 2>it's just a good organization, a good company that I've

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<v Speaker 2>worked with since probably two thousand and eighteen ish. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just part of my daily routine is I check and

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<v Speaker 2>see if I have any Cameo request. I pull up

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<v Speaker 2>the app and then it says, Hey, Granger, it's my

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<v Speaker 2>son's birthday, Luke, he's turning eleven. Can you wish him

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<v Speaker 2>a happy birthday? These are some things that he likes,

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<v Speaker 2>and these are the songs that he likes from you.

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<v Speaker 2>And I see it right there on my screen, and

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<v Speaker 2>so then I say, what's up, Luke, it's Granger. I

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<v Speaker 2>heard from your mom. I heard you're turning eleven. Happy birthday, buddy.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for being a fan of the song d

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<v Speaker 2>Sol and I hear that you like four wheelers and

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<v Speaker 2>you like hunting Dove or whatever it might be. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>that's just a scenario that I love to do. Cameo

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<v Speaker 2>dot com slash Granger Smith or download the cameo app

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<v Speaker 2>search for me Granger Smith. My book Like a River

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<v Speaker 2>is coming out August the first, twenty and twenty three,

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<v Speaker 2>so getting so close from the time I'm recording this,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm one month away from that release, so just so

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<v Speaker 2>exciting to finally get my full story out there into

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<v Speaker 2>the public. So you could either read the book, you

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<v Speaker 2>could listen to the audio book. You can get it

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<v Speaker 2>on Kindle wherever you love to find books. You could

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<v Speaker 2>pre order that right now grangersmith dot Com I'm using

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<v Speaker 2>as kind of the hub that will kick you out

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<v Speaker 2>to all the different sites like Barnes and Noble and Amazon,

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<v Speaker 2>Walmart dot com, all that kind of stuff. You can

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<v Speaker 2>go to grangersmith dot com as the hub to all that.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm excited because this is a book about my

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<v Speaker 2>journey and my story since we lost my son River

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<v Speaker 2>in twenty nineteen, and then moving forward to how we

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<v Speaker 2>walked through that journey, how we got to where we

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<v Speaker 2>are now, and I think a lot of y'all will

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<v Speaker 2>be surprised because it's there are some things in this

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<v Speaker 2>book I've never talked about in public in any other forum.

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<v Speaker 2>So when the book comes out, we'll be able to

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<v Speaker 2>discuss further. But meanwhile, be looking for like a river

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<v Speaker 2>wherever you love to find books. You could pre order

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<v Speaker 2>it now, which helps me to get it, kind of

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<v Speaker 2>kick up the algorithm, and then it'll be on the

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<v Speaker 2>shelves August. First, thank you all for listening. Back to

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<v Speaker 2>the podcast. All right, back to the questions. If you

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<v Speaker 2>have one for me, email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna jump into this one subject line. How do

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<v Speaker 2>I know she's the one? Hey Granger, My name is Ty. Basically,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm homeschooled and I met a girl at homeschool conference

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<v Speaker 2>that and she just felt different. We didn't talk besides

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<v Speaker 2>in a group for a little bit. She felt different

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<v Speaker 2>than any crushes I've ever had before because she was

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<v Speaker 2>someone important. So I went home and prayed about it,

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<v Speaker 2>asked for a sign. And it had also been my

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<v Speaker 2>birth birthday recently, and my grandmother always gave us a

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<v Speaker 2>prophetic word and our birthday cards, and I had forgotten

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<v Speaker 2>about the card, and the next day, after I prayed,

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<v Speaker 2>I remembered I was supposed to open that card, and

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<v Speaker 2>in it she talked about me throwing out She had

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<v Speaker 2>seen me throwing out my rope to catch a bunch

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<v Speaker 2>of roses, and how she thought it meant I was

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<v Speaker 2>ready for a girlfriend. I always feel like I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>good enough for her. Though I'm seventeen, she's fifteen. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't have any way of contacting her, and I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like the age gap is an issue for.

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<v Speaker 1>A few years.

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<v Speaker 2>I will see her again next year, and I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if I'll have something to do about it. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>just wondering what your advice would be. Okay, Ty, thanks

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<v Speaker 2>for emailing brother. You are seventeen. Okay, it's interesting. Before

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<v Speaker 2>the break we talked about prophecy almost in the same way,

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<v Speaker 2>and I got to say, I got a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>emails about this kind of stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>It comes in a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to give full respect to Grandma, but Ty,

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<v Speaker 2>do you need let me ask you this, just as

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<v Speaker 2>a friend, do you need, if you like a girl,

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<v Speaker 2>for Grandma to give you a birthday card with a

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<v Speaker 2>prophetic word?

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<v Speaker 1>About you.

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<v Speaker 2>Throwing out a bunch of roses, catching catching a bunch

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<v Speaker 2>of roses, to tell you that you are justified in

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<v Speaker 2>liking the girl. Really, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no.

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<v Speaker 2>Your grandma doesn't need to tell you that it's okay

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<v Speaker 2>to like a girl or it's time to start dating.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't need to tell you that it's okay to

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<v Speaker 2>like a girl and it's time to start dating. You're seventeen,

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<v Speaker 2>your body is changing, and you are You're in to girls,

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<v Speaker 2>maybe for the first time. Maybe this is the first time,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's okay. Maybe it started at twelve, maybe it

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<v Speaker 2>starts at twenty five. Either way, no one has to

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<v Speaker 2>tell you when it's time to like a girl. Not

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<v Speaker 2>a birthday card from grandma, and not Granger Smith on

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<v Speaker 2>the podcast You know it with everything inside you. You

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<v Speaker 2>lay your head down in your pillow at night, and

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<v Speaker 2>you go, I can't stop thinking about that girl. She's special,

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<v Speaker 2>she talks different, she gets me, I get her. Our

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<v Speaker 2>conversations are great. I really like this girl. Regardless of

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<v Speaker 2>what a birthday card says, right or some prophecy. That's weird.

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<v Speaker 2>That's weird, all respect to Grandma.

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<v Speaker 1>That's weird.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't need that, ty you like this girl. It's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no rush.

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<v Speaker 1>I think.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm here to tell you is there's no rush.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no need to worry or think about. Oh no,

0:26:58.080 --> 0:27:01.320
<v Speaker 2>there's the age difference. I'm seventeen and she's fifteen. That's normal.

0:27:02.400 --> 0:27:05.200
<v Speaker 2>Here's the good news. You're going to see her next year.

0:27:06.400 --> 0:27:11.600
<v Speaker 2>You are going to see her next year, right, write

0:27:11.640 --> 0:27:14.520
<v Speaker 2>her letters. I don't know, write write a few letters

0:27:14.520 --> 0:27:18.840
<v Speaker 2>to her. You said you have don't have a way

0:27:18.880 --> 0:27:20.000
<v Speaker 2>to contact her. That's okay.

0:27:20.480 --> 0:27:22.960
<v Speaker 1>Look, get a notebook. Get a notebook, and.

0:27:22.920 --> 0:27:25.520
<v Speaker 2>This will be good, a good practice even for you,

0:27:26.000 --> 0:27:28.760
<v Speaker 2>regardless of you see her. If you see her or not,

0:27:28.800 --> 0:27:32.360
<v Speaker 2>it doesn't matter, irregardless. So take the notebook and just say,

0:27:32.400 --> 0:27:36.080
<v Speaker 2>dear girl, I've been thinking about you. I like you.

0:27:37.359 --> 0:27:39.040
<v Speaker 2>I want to tell you a little bit about myself,

0:27:39.080 --> 0:27:41.160
<v Speaker 2>and don't you don't have to give it to her.

0:27:41.200 --> 0:27:44.560
<v Speaker 2>In fact, I wouldn't. That's kind of creepy. But if

0:27:44.600 --> 0:27:48.520
<v Speaker 2>you married her, you could actually did that with Amber.

0:27:48.720 --> 0:27:49.199
<v Speaker 1>I wrote her.

0:27:49.280 --> 0:27:52.320
<v Speaker 2>I wrote several pages in a notebook and didn't give

0:27:52.320 --> 0:27:54.840
<v Speaker 2>it to her until the night before her wedding. Gave

0:27:54.880 --> 0:27:57.960
<v Speaker 2>it to her, So pour out your feelings that way,

0:27:58.000 --> 0:28:00.879
<v Speaker 2>it might help you understand them a little more. And

0:28:00.920 --> 0:28:05.080
<v Speaker 2>then when you see her next year, find some time

0:28:05.400 --> 0:28:09.359
<v Speaker 2>to pull her aside. And I don't know when or

0:28:09.400 --> 0:28:11.399
<v Speaker 2>how this is going to work when you're gonna see her,

0:28:11.440 --> 0:28:13.600
<v Speaker 2>but find some time, take a walk in a park

0:28:14.600 --> 0:28:17.640
<v Speaker 2>and just say I gotta tell you. Can I tell

0:28:17.640 --> 0:28:23.320
<v Speaker 2>you something? I just I really like you. I'm reading

0:28:23.320 --> 0:28:28.000
<v Speaker 2>your words, Ty, I really like you. And we've talked

0:28:28.040 --> 0:28:28.520
<v Speaker 2>for a little bit.

0:28:28.560 --> 0:28:28.920
<v Speaker 1>I just.

0:28:30.359 --> 0:28:32.520
<v Speaker 2>You're different than any crush I've ever had.

0:28:33.160 --> 0:28:35.200
<v Speaker 1>You are different.

0:28:35.280 --> 0:28:39.480
<v Speaker 2>You feel important to me, and I've prayed for a

0:28:39.520 --> 0:28:45.120
<v Speaker 2>girl like you, and I'm just awkward and embarrassed because

0:28:45.840 --> 0:28:48.960
<v Speaker 2>I've never felt this way before, and I wanted to

0:28:49.000 --> 0:28:51.280
<v Speaker 2>reach out to you and just just tell you. And

0:28:51.560 --> 0:28:53.920
<v Speaker 2>I hope you feel the same way, but even if

0:28:53.920 --> 0:28:55.520
<v Speaker 2>you don't, I just I wanted to get it off

0:28:55.560 --> 0:28:57.800
<v Speaker 2>my chest because I think I think you're really cute

0:28:57.840 --> 0:29:02.360
<v Speaker 2>and really interesting and funny and smart and all the

0:29:02.440 --> 0:29:04.240
<v Speaker 2>qualities that I like in a girl. And if you're

0:29:04.240 --> 0:29:07.320
<v Speaker 2>not that girl for me, then at least I know

0:29:07.400 --> 0:29:10.600
<v Speaker 2>a little bit more about the girl of my dreams.

0:29:11.000 --> 0:29:13.760
<v Speaker 2>I just wanted to tell you that, and she's either

0:29:13.800 --> 0:29:17.320
<v Speaker 2>going to go, oh, that's so sweet. I don't see

0:29:17.360 --> 0:29:20.760
<v Speaker 2>ourselves like that, we're just friends. Or she's going to go,

0:29:21.720 --> 0:29:24.760
<v Speaker 2>I've been thinking about you too over this last year,

0:29:25.120 --> 0:29:27.920
<v Speaker 2>and I was hoping you'd say something like that. By

0:29:27.960 --> 0:29:32.440
<v Speaker 2>then she's sixteen or eighteen. You take it slow, continue

0:29:32.440 --> 0:29:38.600
<v Speaker 2>that path. But that's it. There's no like crazy, weird,

0:29:38.720 --> 0:29:44.640
<v Speaker 2>mumbo jumbo type, you know, secret sauce. It's just being honest,

0:29:44.840 --> 0:29:45.760
<v Speaker 2>being vulnerable.

0:29:46.680 --> 0:29:55.560
<v Speaker 1>That's it. More. Let's see here.

0:29:55.600 --> 0:29:59.960
<v Speaker 2>How about if I jump into a this looks in

0:30:00.000 --> 0:30:05.160
<v Speaker 2>interesting right subdecline says how to stop hating mom? I

0:30:05.200 --> 0:30:08.040
<v Speaker 2>wonder what this says, ey grand I'd like to stay anonymous.

0:30:09.080 --> 0:30:13.240
<v Speaker 2>I need help moving past the situation from my past.

0:30:13.440 --> 0:30:14.040
<v Speaker 1>I need help.

0:30:14.120 --> 0:30:16.600
<v Speaker 2>I need help moving past the situation from my past,

0:30:17.080 --> 0:30:19.560
<v Speaker 2>and I'm not sure how to do it, since it's

0:30:19.600 --> 0:30:22.680
<v Speaker 2>something that I think I'll think about almost every day.

0:30:23.480 --> 0:30:26.320
<v Speaker 2>A little backstory. My mom and I have never been close.

0:30:26.840 --> 0:30:29.720
<v Speaker 2>When she had custody of me as a child, she

0:30:29.720 --> 0:30:31.600
<v Speaker 2>would drop me off a daycare and pick me up

0:30:31.600 --> 0:30:33.720
<v Speaker 2>at the end of the day every time. I was

0:30:33.800 --> 0:30:37.120
<v Speaker 2>always respectful when I was with her and tried not

0:30:37.280 --> 0:30:40.600
<v Speaker 2>to cause her problems. Anyways, when I was sixteen I'm

0:30:40.640 --> 0:30:42.959
<v Speaker 2>now twenty. The last thing my mom said to me

0:30:43.160 --> 0:30:46.000
<v Speaker 2>was I hate you. You are such a C word

0:30:46.080 --> 0:30:48.959
<v Speaker 2>and a B word. You were the biggest regret of

0:30:49.040 --> 0:30:51.880
<v Speaker 2>my life. This was the day I got confirmed at

0:30:51.960 --> 0:30:54.160
<v Speaker 2>church too, So a day that I was supposed to

0:30:54.200 --> 0:30:56.480
<v Speaker 2>be really that was supposed to be really special, turned

0:30:56.520 --> 0:30:58.400
<v Speaker 2>into one of the worst days of my life. So

0:30:58.440 --> 0:31:01.120
<v Speaker 2>my question to you is this, how could I move

0:31:01.160 --> 0:31:04.280
<v Speaker 2>past this that has been on my mind for the

0:31:04.320 --> 0:31:07.040
<v Speaker 2>last four years. Deep down, I want to forgive her

0:31:07.080 --> 0:31:09.840
<v Speaker 2>and move on, but it's not necessarily the easiest thing

0:31:09.880 --> 0:31:12.239
<v Speaker 2>to do. Any advice would be great. Thanks for all

0:31:12.280 --> 0:31:16.240
<v Speaker 2>you do, Anonymous. Anonymous, thank you for being vulnerable and

0:31:16.680 --> 0:31:19.000
<v Speaker 2>opening up in this way. And I want to say,

0:31:19.520 --> 0:31:22.600
<v Speaker 2>first of all, before anything, I just want to say,

0:31:23.280 --> 0:31:24.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry.

0:31:26.720 --> 0:31:27.440
<v Speaker 1>A girl.

0:31:29.360 --> 0:31:33.800
<v Speaker 2>Should never deserve to grow up like this or be

0:31:33.880 --> 0:31:38.960
<v Speaker 2>treated like this. I believe that little boys and little

0:31:38.960 --> 0:31:42.880
<v Speaker 2>girls should have a mother and father that loved them

0:31:44.640 --> 0:31:51.320
<v Speaker 2>and that respect them, and that selflessly raise them. But

0:31:51.440 --> 0:31:54.080
<v Speaker 2>that is not the world that we live in. We

0:31:54.120 --> 0:31:58.520
<v Speaker 2>live in a fallen world where sin has infiltrated.

0:31:57.760 --> 0:31:59.760
<v Speaker 1>The earth, and.

0:32:01.280 --> 0:32:02.640
<v Speaker 2>What are we going to do with that? What are

0:32:02.640 --> 0:32:04.280
<v Speaker 2>we going to do with the fact that we live

0:32:04.320 --> 0:32:07.280
<v Speaker 2>in a fallen world and there aren't There aren't always

0:32:07.400 --> 0:32:10.680
<v Speaker 2>perfect families with perfect mothers raising perfect daughters.

0:32:10.680 --> 0:32:12.320
<v Speaker 1>That is not the case.

0:32:12.640 --> 0:32:15.440
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I'm want to leave with that and just say

0:32:15.480 --> 0:32:18.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry, And then I want to say this.

0:32:20.320 --> 0:32:24.840
<v Speaker 2>You are so strong for thinking through this and for

0:32:24.960 --> 0:32:28.440
<v Speaker 2>listening to podcasts like this one and writing me in

0:32:28.840 --> 0:32:33.560
<v Speaker 2>a way where you are You're really being so selfless

0:32:33.600 --> 0:32:36.440
<v Speaker 2>about this email itself and just saying, listen, I want

0:32:36.440 --> 0:32:39.600
<v Speaker 2>to forgive her and I want to move on, but

0:32:39.640 --> 0:32:41.800
<v Speaker 2>it's not the easiest thing to do, That's what you're saying,

0:32:41.800 --> 0:32:46.160
<v Speaker 2>And you're underplaying that this is really hard. I have

0:32:46.280 --> 0:32:52.760
<v Speaker 2>not been in your situation, so I cannot imagine, and

0:32:53.120 --> 0:32:57.080
<v Speaker 2>I would imagine, if anything, that you're underplaying just how

0:32:57.080 --> 0:33:03.000
<v Speaker 2>difficult this is. Okay, So all that being said, you

0:33:03.480 --> 0:33:10.200
<v Speaker 2>forgiving your mother doesn't have anything to do with her

0:33:10.360 --> 0:33:15.360
<v Speaker 2>accepting that forgiveness or changing or being someone different at all.

0:33:17.200 --> 0:33:22.800
<v Speaker 2>You forgiving your mother is a release from you. It's

0:33:22.840 --> 0:33:29.160
<v Speaker 2>a letting go of holding on to a grudge. So

0:33:29.520 --> 0:33:33.320
<v Speaker 2>by you letting that grudge go, you're opening up your

0:33:33.360 --> 0:33:39.240
<v Speaker 2>clenched fist to her, and you're saying, I am no

0:33:39.280 --> 0:33:44.040
<v Speaker 2>longer holding a grudge against you. I'm no longer thinking

0:33:44.080 --> 0:33:48.800
<v Speaker 2>of you as the perfect parent, because no one is perfect.

0:33:49.680 --> 0:33:55.040
<v Speaker 2>And I am hereby letting go of anything that I

0:33:55.120 --> 0:33:59.560
<v Speaker 2>might have been holding against you, because.

0:34:01.320 --> 0:34:02.680
<v Speaker 1>I know that we have a sovereign God.

0:34:02.720 --> 0:34:04.320
<v Speaker 2>Okay, you don't have to say that, because I don't

0:34:04.320 --> 0:34:05.880
<v Speaker 2>know if you believe that, but that's what I believe.

0:34:06.200 --> 0:34:08.480
<v Speaker 2>We have a sovereign God that is always working for

0:34:08.520 --> 0:34:12.399
<v Speaker 2>the greater good, allowing certain things to happen to us,

0:34:14.000 --> 0:34:18.360
<v Speaker 2>including evil things, for always for a greater good. Now,

0:34:18.520 --> 0:34:21.080
<v Speaker 2>to prove that is not a contradiction at all of

0:34:21.320 --> 0:34:24.520
<v Speaker 2>a loving God that allows evil to happen, it's super

0:34:24.560 --> 0:34:27.480
<v Speaker 2>easy to prove that that's not a contradiction. I don't

0:34:27.480 --> 0:34:30.440
<v Speaker 2>have to prove that God. I don't have to prove

0:34:30.640 --> 0:34:34.720
<v Speaker 2>what his reason is. I only have to prove that

0:34:34.719 --> 0:34:39.560
<v Speaker 2>that kind of scenario is possible. And you could use

0:34:39.680 --> 0:34:40.480
<v Speaker 2>any example.

0:34:41.200 --> 0:34:41.719
<v Speaker 1>Here's one.

0:34:42.480 --> 0:34:45.000
<v Speaker 2>This is a bad analogy, but I could take it

0:34:45.200 --> 0:34:50.759
<v Speaker 2>my child to a person in a room with a light,

0:34:51.200 --> 0:34:55.040
<v Speaker 2>and I could sit my child down in a chair,

0:34:55.360 --> 0:34:59.319
<v Speaker 2>and I could have that person inflict pain on my

0:34:59.440 --> 0:35:02.160
<v Speaker 2>child and I could stand there and watch it happen

0:35:03.200 --> 0:35:07.280
<v Speaker 2>as my child is in pain and maybe a little scared,

0:35:08.520 --> 0:35:12.400
<v Speaker 2>and I could pay that person to inflict the pain

0:35:13.000 --> 0:35:17.800
<v Speaker 2>and a little fear into my child. Is that awful

0:35:17.920 --> 0:35:21.160
<v Speaker 2>and evil of me? Does that make me an evil person?

0:35:23.000 --> 0:35:25.880
<v Speaker 2>What if I told you that I was taking my

0:35:25.960 --> 0:35:31.080
<v Speaker 2>child to the dentist and I was doing that because

0:35:31.080 --> 0:35:34.200
<v Speaker 2>I love my child, not because I'm evil. I love

0:35:34.280 --> 0:35:36.680
<v Speaker 2>my child and I know that the end result of

0:35:36.719 --> 0:35:42.680
<v Speaker 2>this momentary pain and momentary fear equals straight teeth in

0:35:42.719 --> 0:35:46.520
<v Speaker 2>the future, which will result in a huge benefit for

0:35:46.640 --> 0:35:50.840
<v Speaker 2>my child. Because I love my child, That's why.

0:35:50.640 --> 0:35:51.080
<v Speaker 1>I do it.

0:35:51.680 --> 0:35:57.879
<v Speaker 2>So that small scenario proves that there is no contradiction

0:35:58.120 --> 0:36:01.520
<v Speaker 2>by God allowing evil to happen to us for a

0:36:01.560 --> 0:36:04.000
<v Speaker 2>greater good. I don't have to tell you what the

0:36:04.040 --> 0:36:09.800
<v Speaker 2>greater good is. All of that being said to you, Anonymous,

0:36:11.200 --> 0:36:15.040
<v Speaker 2>is that you can forgive your mother without needing her

0:36:15.080 --> 0:36:19.480
<v Speaker 2>to reply or change or fix anything, or heal anything.

0:36:19.880 --> 0:36:22.520
<v Speaker 2>This is for you. You can call her up, you

0:36:22.520 --> 0:36:24.920
<v Speaker 2>can write her an email or a text, send her

0:36:24.960 --> 0:36:27.120
<v Speaker 2>a letter, whatever it might be, and just say Mom,

0:36:28.680 --> 0:36:32.600
<v Speaker 2>I love you because you're my mother and you carried

0:36:32.640 --> 0:36:37.360
<v Speaker 2>me for nine months inside your body. Now, I know

0:36:37.440 --> 0:36:41.040
<v Speaker 2>we've had our disagreements, and that's saying it lightly, right,

0:36:42.120 --> 0:36:45.319
<v Speaker 2>but I just want to let you know, regardless of

0:36:45.320 --> 0:36:50.640
<v Speaker 2>what has happened, I love you and I forgive you.

0:36:52.640 --> 0:36:56.000
<v Speaker 2>And what you're saying is I hereby release any kind

0:36:56.040 --> 0:37:03.319
<v Speaker 2>of regret or anger or remorse or grudge that I

0:37:03.360 --> 0:37:07.040
<v Speaker 2>hold against you. Here's the kicker, Anonymous, here's the kicker.

0:37:07.880 --> 0:37:13.000
<v Speaker 2>You don't have to believe that, because a big part

0:37:13.000 --> 0:37:16.000
<v Speaker 2>of you is going to go, No, I don't forgive,

0:37:16.280 --> 0:37:20.400
<v Speaker 2>I don't release my grudge. I'm still angry. How dare

0:37:20.440 --> 0:37:23.120
<v Speaker 2>a human being treat their their own flesh and blood

0:37:23.200 --> 0:37:26.640
<v Speaker 2>child like my mother did to me. A part of

0:37:26.640 --> 0:37:29.000
<v Speaker 2>you is going to say that, and I can't make

0:37:29.040 --> 0:37:33.000
<v Speaker 2>that part of you stop. But the rational part, the

0:37:33.440 --> 0:37:36.440
<v Speaker 2>front part of your brain, is going to say this

0:37:36.600 --> 0:37:38.560
<v Speaker 2>and write this and type this and text this.

0:37:39.480 --> 0:37:40.080
<v Speaker 1>I forgive you.

0:37:42.200 --> 0:37:45.759
<v Speaker 2>And as as your brain says it and your heart

0:37:45.840 --> 0:37:48.520
<v Speaker 2>is screaming against it, you say it. You put it

0:37:48.560 --> 0:37:51.399
<v Speaker 2>out there, and you send the message and you let

0:37:51.440 --> 0:37:53.600
<v Speaker 2>your heart catch up later. Because I promise you that's

0:37:53.600 --> 0:37:56.000
<v Speaker 2>the beginning of healing for all of this. There is

0:37:56.040 --> 0:37:58.359
<v Speaker 2>so much pain you have caught up with this, with

0:37:58.400 --> 0:38:01.920
<v Speaker 2>your mother, daughter's stuff going on here, and it's gonna

0:38:01.920 --> 0:38:03.920
<v Speaker 2>begin with you just going, you know what, I'm not

0:38:03.920 --> 0:38:06.520
<v Speaker 2>gonna hold this anymore. I'm gonna let all of this go.

0:38:07.440 --> 0:38:09.680
<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna hold this anymore. I'm not I'm not

0:38:09.760 --> 0:38:14.560
<v Speaker 2>perfect myself. I've messed up many times. I am not

0:38:14.719 --> 0:38:17.680
<v Speaker 2>someone that needs that, that thinks I'm on a higher

0:38:17.680 --> 0:38:20.480
<v Speaker 2>standard than anyone. Right, this is you and me talk,

0:38:20.560 --> 0:38:23.239
<v Speaker 2>it's all of us. So I'm gonna release that. I'm

0:38:23.239 --> 0:38:24.719
<v Speaker 2>gonna go, you know what, I'm gonna hold I'm not

0:38:24.760 --> 0:38:28.200
<v Speaker 2>holding onto this anymore. I forgive you, Mom. Now she's

0:38:28.239 --> 0:38:30.600
<v Speaker 2>gonna go. She could respond and go, I don't care

0:38:30.719 --> 0:38:33.480
<v Speaker 2>what you do, I don't care what you say. You

0:38:33.560 --> 0:38:35.440
<v Speaker 2>are a B word, you are a C word. And

0:38:35.480 --> 0:38:39.600
<v Speaker 2>you go, well, that's not surprising that you would react

0:38:39.719 --> 0:38:45.319
<v Speaker 2>like that. But it's not something you did that earned forgiveness, right,

0:38:46.080 --> 0:38:49.640
<v Speaker 2>It's something I did with my own personal grace to you, Mom,

0:38:49.960 --> 0:38:52.560
<v Speaker 2>because you're my mother, that I'm releasing you from my

0:38:52.640 --> 0:38:58.200
<v Speaker 2>own grace. I'm saying, I forgive you. What's crazy is

0:38:58.239 --> 0:39:00.960
<v Speaker 2>how this relates to the Gospel of g and Us

0:39:02.160 --> 0:39:12.920
<v Speaker 2>and that's another story. Let's continue another question here. This

0:39:12.960 --> 0:39:15.080
<v Speaker 2>next one says, Hey Granger, I'm twenty one years old.

0:39:15.160 --> 0:39:17.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm a guy who would like to stay anonymous, but

0:39:17.239 --> 0:39:19.120
<v Speaker 2>I still need some advice on how to handle a

0:39:19.160 --> 0:39:22.480
<v Speaker 2>situation with one of my friends. I met her at

0:39:22.520 --> 0:39:25.600
<v Speaker 2>college last fall and we've become good friends. But recently

0:39:26.120 --> 0:39:29.719
<v Speaker 2>my feelings toward her have changed and I have a

0:39:29.760 --> 0:39:32.440
<v Speaker 2>big crush on her. She's a Christian, which is the

0:39:32.480 --> 0:39:35.680
<v Speaker 2>biggest box for me. I know we can't really date

0:39:36.120 --> 0:39:41.000
<v Speaker 2>because she's going on to stint with Crewe in Slovakia

0:39:41.080 --> 0:39:43.960
<v Speaker 2>for a year, and other reasons to where we wouldn't

0:39:44.000 --> 0:39:47.560
<v Speaker 2>work long term. And if only if I've only got

0:39:47.560 --> 0:39:51.080
<v Speaker 2>to date, If I'm only going to date to Mary,

0:39:51.560 --> 0:39:55.160
<v Speaker 2>then we shouldn't date to guard each other's hearts. I'm

0:39:55.200 --> 0:39:56.960
<v Speaker 2>not sure if I should talk to her about this,

0:39:57.719 --> 0:40:01.680
<v Speaker 2>just try ignore my feelings for now, or what I

0:40:01.719 --> 0:40:02.560
<v Speaker 2>should do from here?

0:40:02.600 --> 0:40:03.600
<v Speaker 1>Thanks Anonymous.

0:40:03.920 --> 0:40:07.839
<v Speaker 2>All right, buddy, let's see let me kind of decompress this.

0:40:07.880 --> 0:40:12.760
<v Speaker 2>Sorry about my scratchy voice. Guys twenty one years old,

0:40:13.080 --> 0:40:15.600
<v Speaker 2>you have a girl that she's a friend, but now

0:40:15.600 --> 0:40:18.480
<v Speaker 2>you're feeling more than friends. But the problem is she's

0:40:18.520 --> 0:40:23.120
<v Speaker 2>about to take off for a year. You're worried.

0:40:23.640 --> 0:40:32.000
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I got it. So when we say when.

0:40:31.840 --> 0:40:35.200
<v Speaker 2>We say you should guard your heart, you should protect

0:40:35.239 --> 0:40:40.040
<v Speaker 2>your heart. That doesn't mean don't ever say you like

0:40:40.080 --> 0:40:47.080
<v Speaker 2>a girl. Right, there's guarding your heart from heartbreak, or

0:40:47.160 --> 0:40:51.799
<v Speaker 2>from hurt is, or because you're too young. All of

0:40:51.800 --> 0:40:55.440
<v Speaker 2>those reasons are way way wait, wait, way down the

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<v Speaker 2>road after you say you like them. You gotta peak

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<v Speaker 2>up at all costs at the beginning. Otherwise you're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>be full of would it, could have, should have done?

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<v Speaker 2>And this sounds like a pretty cool girl. Gotta be

0:41:12.520 --> 0:41:15.600
<v Speaker 2>honest with you. It sounds like she's got a lot

0:41:15.640 --> 0:41:21.680
<v Speaker 2>going on, sounds like she's very self less, she's a Christian,

0:41:21.800 --> 0:41:26.640
<v Speaker 2>she's going to Slovakia for a year. That she sounds

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<v Speaker 2>pretty cool. You don't find them like that too often.

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<v Speaker 2>So I don't think there's anything wrong, Anonymous. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think there's anything wrong with you having coffee with her

0:41:40.480 --> 0:41:48.200
<v Speaker 2>and saying this the very beginning. These are the kind

0:41:48.239 --> 0:41:51.919
<v Speaker 2>of stories you hear often that people end up getting married. Right,

0:41:52.480 --> 0:41:56.600
<v Speaker 2>It's like, this is how it starts. I think you'd

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<v Speaker 2>be honest, and you say exactly what you told me

0:41:59.160 --> 0:42:04.359
<v Speaker 2>over coffee before she leaves to Slovakia. You say, can

0:42:04.400 --> 0:42:09.520
<v Speaker 2>I tell you something? I I don't know how to

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<v Speaker 2>say this in a way without me feeling embarrassed, but

0:42:12.800 --> 0:42:15.320
<v Speaker 2>I need to say it because.

0:42:15.520 --> 0:42:20.160
<v Speaker 1>The feeling is overwhelming. But I like you.

0:42:21.160 --> 0:42:25.440
<v Speaker 2>I think you're super cool. I think you're somebody that

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<v Speaker 2>I could see myself with. And I also see that

0:42:30.880 --> 0:42:33.759
<v Speaker 2>there are problems with me saying this right now, because

0:42:33.760 --> 0:42:36.919
<v Speaker 2>you're about to leave for a year and I don't

0:42:36.920 --> 0:42:39.279
<v Speaker 2>know what that means, and maybe you don't like me

0:42:39.320 --> 0:42:41.839
<v Speaker 2>at all. Maybe this is all just maybe you could

0:42:41.840 --> 0:42:44.279
<v Speaker 2>shut it down right now, And maybe partly that's what

0:42:44.280 --> 0:42:47.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm looking for, is for you to say, oh, honey,

0:42:47.760 --> 0:42:51.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't have any kind of feelings for you, but

0:42:52.280 --> 0:42:55.200
<v Speaker 2>if you do, Can I be your pinpal way you're

0:42:55.200 --> 0:42:58.959
<v Speaker 2>in Slovakia? Could I be someone that you know Once

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<v Speaker 2>a week or so you hit me up on an

0:43:01.200 --> 0:43:03.319
<v Speaker 2>email and you tell me how things are going, and

0:43:03.320 --> 0:43:06.239
<v Speaker 2>i'd tell you how things are going over here. Then

0:43:06.239 --> 0:43:10.080
<v Speaker 2>maybe I could be someone that helps encourage you. Maybe

0:43:10.120 --> 0:43:12.200
<v Speaker 2>you're gonna be lonely in Slovakia. And I could be

0:43:12.239 --> 0:43:13.879
<v Speaker 2>there to just kind of give you a little pick

0:43:13.960 --> 0:43:17.520
<v Speaker 2>me up. If not, I just wanted to tell you

0:43:17.600 --> 0:43:19.680
<v Speaker 2>because I needed to get it off my heart. And

0:43:20.920 --> 0:43:24.239
<v Speaker 2>if you are that's someone, then I'm excited for you

0:43:24.280 --> 0:43:26.960
<v Speaker 2>to come back and see where the next coffee date

0:43:27.040 --> 0:43:30.359
<v Speaker 2>is going to be. Listen, dude, I don't think there's

0:43:30.400 --> 0:43:32.279
<v Speaker 2>anything wrong with that. I don't think. I don't think

0:43:32.280 --> 0:43:35.760
<v Speaker 2>that's moving at a pace it's too fast, or that's

0:43:36.760 --> 0:43:39.680
<v Speaker 2>unguarding your heart, that's opening up the security gates of

0:43:39.719 --> 0:43:40.360
<v Speaker 2>your heart.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't see that. So I think that there's nothing

0:43:43.680 --> 0:43:45.960
<v Speaker 1>wrong with you just being honest.

0:43:46.320 --> 0:43:49.160
<v Speaker 2>Now, if you said this, if you said, look, I

0:43:49.200 --> 0:43:52.759
<v Speaker 2>love you and I want to marry you, and I

0:43:52.760 --> 0:43:54.399
<v Speaker 2>don't feel like I should ever say that to someone

0:43:54.480 --> 0:43:56.400
<v Speaker 2>that I don't feel like I'm gonna marry and I

0:43:56.400 --> 0:43:57.840
<v Speaker 2>do feel like I'm going to marry you because I

0:43:57.880 --> 0:43:59.759
<v Speaker 2>love you. If you start saying that now, you're not

0:43:59.800 --> 0:44:02.680
<v Speaker 2>going your heart right. But all we're talking about is

0:44:02.719 --> 0:44:06.880
<v Speaker 2>coffee and just saying you like her, you think she's cool,

0:44:07.120 --> 0:44:08.440
<v Speaker 2>you'd like to get her to.

0:44:08.440 --> 0:44:11.000
<v Speaker 1>Know her a little bit more. I don't think. I

0:44:11.000 --> 0:44:12.359
<v Speaker 1>don't think there's anything wrong with that.

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate you you opening up that story with me

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<v Speaker 2>and I wish you the best. Thank you. I appreciate

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<v Speaker 2>all you guys for your questions and that's all the

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<v Speaker 2>time we have. I'll see you next Monday. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 2>joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all.

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