1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:05,880 Speaker 1: I just want to say, I'm so sorry. A girl. 2 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:12,240 Speaker 2: Should never deserve to grow up like this or be 3 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:17,400 Speaker 2: treated like this. I believe the little boys and little 4 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:31,400 Speaker 2: girls should have a mother and father that loved them. 5 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 2: What's up, everybody, Welcome back to the podcast. Thanks for 6 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 2: being here and listening. This is good for me because 7 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:41,440 Speaker 2: I actually, although I put these out every single Monday morning, 8 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:46,839 Speaker 2: I haven't actually recorded one in two or three at 9 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 2: least two or three weeks, because I spent some time 10 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 2: in Pakistan and Dubai recently, and so because of that, 11 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 2: I front loaded the podcast and recorded a bunch of 12 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 2: them in a row over the course of one week, 13 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:05,040 Speaker 2: like three weeks ago. So needless to say, I've kind 14 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:07,960 Speaker 2: of missed recording them. So I'm back on schedule now 15 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 2: with you guys. I enjoy doing this. I enjoy kind 16 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 2: of in the hectic moments of my life. I enjoy 17 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 2: slowing down and reading your questions, which is what we 18 00:01:20,120 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 2: do here. 19 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:21,759 Speaker 1: I read your. 20 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:26,679 Speaker 2: Questions that you send in to Grangersmith podcast at gmail 21 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:30,839 Speaker 2: dot com, walk through these emails like we're just two friends, 22 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:35,120 Speaker 2: just slow analysis. I don't have notes and books and 23 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 2: quotes in front of me, so I'm gonna walk through 24 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:38,679 Speaker 2: it like you asked me. 25 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 1: If we could talk. 26 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:42,760 Speaker 2: You know, we're in the cab of a truck and 27 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 2: you say, hey, may can we talk about something? I 28 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 2: have been talking all day? In fact, i've been I've 29 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 2: done two podcasts this morning, other People's podcast, plus after 30 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:57,240 Speaker 2: midnight my radio show. So now I'm a little I'm 31 00:01:57,240 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 2: a little bit horse, but I kind of live in 32 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 2: a con state of a horse voice. But here I 33 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 2: am diving into the first question, and I'm gonna go 34 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,919 Speaker 2: randomly into these questions. The first one says letting go. 35 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:14,640 Speaker 2: The question reads, Hey, Grangeer, my name is Maddie. My 36 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:17,320 Speaker 2: question is how do you learn how to let go 37 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:21,080 Speaker 2: of things? How do I let go of someone that 38 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 2: I know I need to let go of, but I 39 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 2: just keep wanting and wanting to go back to be 40 00:02:25,639 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 2: with them, but I know I shouldn't. It's so hard 41 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 2: to let go when you just want to go back 42 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 2: with that same person, but everything is telling you to 43 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:37,360 Speaker 2: move on and you know that you should. It's just 44 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 2: hurst to see things and people change, and it's so 45 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 2: hard to let go. I hope you understand what I'm saying, 46 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:45,519 Speaker 2: and thank you for taking the time to read this, Maddie, Maddie, okay, 47 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 2: diving in the first. First observation from your email is 48 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 2: that you started out by saying, how do you learn 49 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 2: to let go of things? 50 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 1: But in reality, the email. 51 00:02:57,240 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 2: Is actually about a person person that you're having trouble 52 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:06,520 Speaker 2: letting go of and you know you should, and you 53 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 2: said everything is telling you to move on, which is 54 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:13,079 Speaker 2: probably your instinct, and it's your friends and family and 55 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 2: everyone else around you is probably saying you gotta let go. 56 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 2: So I'm not gonna do anything different here. I'm not 57 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 2: going to tell you that you need to hang on, 58 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:22,720 Speaker 2: because you already know you need to let go. But 59 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 2: that's not your question. Your question is how do I 60 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:32,919 Speaker 2: do it? So practically speaking, just practically, let's say because 61 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:36,640 Speaker 2: because your heart is involved and you're connected with this 62 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:42,120 Speaker 2: person intimately, and you know you shouldn't be so because 63 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 2: that's kind of clouding your vision. Understandably it would mine 64 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 2: it does anybody else, because that's clouding you. Let's not 65 00:03:49,080 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 2: use the scenario of a person. Let's use the scenario 66 00:03:52,560 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 2: of an actual thing or addiction or habit or something 67 00:03:55,840 --> 00:04:01,120 Speaker 2: like that. So let's say this. Let's say you were 68 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 2: trying to quit or let go of eating Oreo cookies. Right, 69 00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:10,800 Speaker 2: It's not that far fetched of an idea. I think 70 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:13,000 Speaker 2: we've all gone through times in our life when we're like, man, 71 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 2: I need to quit snacking on sweets so much. So 72 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 2: I'll lay at the scenario for you. You want to let 73 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 2: go of eating Oreo cookies, and yet you keep them 74 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:30,479 Speaker 2: in the pantry, or you keep them on the cabinet 75 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 2: right there on the on the counter, or you have 76 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 2: somebody living with you in your same house that continues 77 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:42,440 Speaker 2: to buy them in the grocery store and puts them 78 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:47,720 Speaker 2: in the cupboard. Right that, that's one scenario. So you 79 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 2: wake up every day and you're walking through life and 80 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:53,359 Speaker 2: you're going, man, I need to let go of Oreo cookies. 81 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 2: But here they are on the counter or the pantry, 82 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 2: and it's there's your keys to your car, and you're 83 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 2: going to work, and right by your keys is this 84 00:05:01,640 --> 00:05:05,839 Speaker 2: cookie jar and there's Oreo cookies in there. That's very 85 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 2: difficult to let go of. It's right there. All you 86 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:13,040 Speaker 2: have to do is grab it. And you might say, oh, 87 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:17,160 Speaker 2: so that's a matter of self discipline or willpower, agreed, 88 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:20,680 Speaker 2: But you have to set yourself up for success, and 89 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 2: that's not doing it that way. Here's the other scenario. 90 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:28,120 Speaker 2: I need to let go of Oreo cookies. So I'm 91 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 2: gonna eradicate my house. Any cookies that are left in 92 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:33,520 Speaker 2: the house, I'm throwing them in the trash and they're 93 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:38,280 Speaker 2: going out to the street. Okay, I will not buy 94 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:40,839 Speaker 2: any at a grocery store or at a gas station 95 00:05:41,040 --> 00:05:43,839 Speaker 2: or convenience store or anywhere else. I'm not gonna buy 96 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:50,839 Speaker 2: Oreo cookies. I'm gonna tell the people I'm living with, mom, dad, friends, sibling, spouse, whatever, kids. 97 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell them. Please, can you do me a 98 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 2: solid here? I need just to let go of Oreo cookies. 99 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 2: It's bobbing me that I keep snacking on them. It's 100 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 2: become a habit and I want to let go of it. 101 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 2: Can you please, out of your love for me, can 102 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:10,719 Speaker 2: you can you help me with something? Can you not 103 00:06:10,920 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 2: buy Oreo cookies and bring them home to this house? 104 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 2: Because it's affecting me. It's makes it more difficult to 105 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:22,359 Speaker 2: let it go. Okay, that's simple. That's simple, and that 106 00:06:22,520 --> 00:06:25,360 Speaker 2: is a way to set yourself up for success. Out 107 00:06:25,400 --> 00:06:27,839 Speaker 2: of sight, out of mind. You go to grab your 108 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:30,920 Speaker 2: keys and guess what, There's apples in the cookie jar 109 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:35,240 Speaker 2: instead of oreos, So you gotta if you're kind of hungry, 110 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 2: you're gonna snack. 111 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 1: You grab an apple. 112 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 2: Why am I saying all this because I think that 113 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:41,359 Speaker 2: you might be I'm gonna bet that you might be 114 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:45,640 Speaker 2: dealing with something similar with this person in terms of 115 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:50,560 Speaker 2: they're on your Facebook feed or your social media Instagram, TikTok, 116 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 2: whatever feed, or you have a friend that's still having 117 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 2: dinner with this person all the time and you're seeing them. 118 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 2: Maybe it's maybe you're seeing them at work some kind 119 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 2: of scenario. There's still oreos in the cookie jar around you, 120 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:09,560 Speaker 2: and if you want to let it go, if you 121 00:07:09,560 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 2: want to set yourself up for success, you need to 122 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 2: get this out of your eyesight. Okay, get it out 123 00:07:16,640 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 2: of sight, out of mind. Can you do it? Can 124 00:07:20,520 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 2: you quit oreos with them still in the house? 125 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:23,000 Speaker 1: Sure? 126 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 2: It just takes extreme willpower and self discipline. And I 127 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 2: don't want to put you through that. I don't want 128 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:31,800 Speaker 2: to go through that. I want to set myself up 129 00:07:31,960 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 2: for success right off the bat. If I'm wanting to 130 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 2: let something go, okay, you know you need to do it. 131 00:07:37,600 --> 00:07:40,520 Speaker 2: Block them on Facebook, block them on Instagram, tell your friends, 132 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 2: sit them down and say can I do Can you 133 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:43,560 Speaker 2: do me a huge favor? 134 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 1: I'm trying. 135 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:48,480 Speaker 2: I'm trying to avoid this person because my heart is 136 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:51,760 Speaker 2: still attached and I need to let go. Can you 137 00:07:51,760 --> 00:07:56,240 Speaker 2: do me a favor and try to not bring them 138 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 2: around me? If you know I'm coming over, would you 139 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 2: mind warning me or can you tell them? Or can 140 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 2: you please just do me a solid and let me 141 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 2: know if that person is going to be around Just 142 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:17,040 Speaker 2: help me here? Okay, simple stuff, quitting oreos. Next question 143 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 2: seems a little more serious, more detailed, says probably the 144 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 2: subdecline says Prophecy and eschatology or the Gospel. Hey Granger, 145 00:08:27,760 --> 00:08:30,120 Speaker 2: my name is Cody. I'm twenty seven years old from 146 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,839 Speaker 2: southern Illinois. So I had a dream the other night 147 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 2: that I was standing in a desert and a little 148 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:41,439 Speaker 2: ways ahead of me was Jesus and surrounding him was Matthew, Mark, Luke, 149 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:44,679 Speaker 2: and John. I don't know how I knew it was them, 150 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 2: but for some reason I just knew who they were. 151 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:51,559 Speaker 2: Jesus never spoke to me, but Matthew, Mark, Luke and 152 00:08:51,640 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 2: John were telling me I need to go preach the Gospel. 153 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:57,800 Speaker 2: How do I know if this was a dream from 154 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 2: Jesus or if it was just a random dream. Either way, 155 00:09:03,160 --> 00:09:04,839 Speaker 2: I feel like I need to do what they were 156 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:08,120 Speaker 2: telling me to do. After all, that's what Jesus wants 157 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 2: us all to do. I talked to my pastor about it, 158 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:14,480 Speaker 2: and he thinks it's truly from Jesus. As I said, 159 00:09:15,000 --> 00:09:18,400 Speaker 2: I'm feeling called to do this, but I still have 160 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 2: a ton to learn. I listen to the Bible on 161 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:23,679 Speaker 2: audiobook every day while I'm at work. I work at 162 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:27,560 Speaker 2: my local community college as a landscape maintenance man second shift, 163 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:30,680 Speaker 2: so I'm the only person on the entire campus. But 164 00:09:30,720 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 2: I'm still in the Old Testament right now. However, I'm 165 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:37,280 Speaker 2: getting close to the New Testament. I'm currently in Execuel, 166 00:09:37,760 --> 00:09:41,240 Speaker 2: but I'm having a hard time understanding and comprehending the Bible. 167 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:44,839 Speaker 2: My pastor said he would help me comprehend it better. 168 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,520 Speaker 2: I do have this podcast I listen to that gives 169 00:09:48,559 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 2: you a thirty minute synopsis of each book to help 170 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:53,320 Speaker 2: you better understand the Bible. I also have a book 171 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 2: called the Ultimate Bible Guide that explains each book better. However, 172 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:00,760 Speaker 2: I also feel very compelled to get a degree in 173 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:05,240 Speaker 2: Biblical study as well as Bible prophecy and eschatology. I 174 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:09,720 Speaker 2: listen to podcasts such as Prophecy Prose and Encounter Underground, 175 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 2: as well as read books by Jeff Kinley and Alan Diddio. 176 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:17,440 Speaker 2: I guess what I'm asking is, do you think I 177 00:10:17,440 --> 00:10:20,599 Speaker 2: should try to pursue the prophecy and eschatology degrees or 178 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 2: just stick to the gospel. My wife thinks her and 179 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 2: I should learn as much as we can first through 180 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 2: our Bible study together as well as at church, before 181 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 2: I start pursuing those things. But she is very supportive. 182 00:10:35,000 --> 00:10:37,840 Speaker 2: But I feel as though the rapture will be here 183 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 2: sooner than we think, and I don't want to see 184 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 2: a bunch of people get left behind. Thank you for 185 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 2: your time. Make God bless you and your families you 186 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:48,400 Speaker 2: enter into mindustry. Also, I look forward to seeing you 187 00:10:48,520 --> 00:10:51,920 Speaker 2: and Marian on July twenty seventh. Sorry for such a 188 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 2: long email, Have a great day and God speed. Okay, 189 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:58,160 Speaker 2: thank you, Cody. Sorry from our raspy voice here as 190 00:10:58,200 --> 00:11:02,600 Speaker 2: I'm reading your email, thank you for your careful thoughts 191 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:04,560 Speaker 2: and ideas, and I'm going to walk it through you. 192 00:11:04,679 --> 00:11:07,400 Speaker 2: I'm going to walk through this and I'm gonna give you. 193 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:11,880 Speaker 2: I'm gonna give you brotherly advice. I'm gonna give you 194 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:15,160 Speaker 2: advice as though me and you are friends, because I 195 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:16,920 Speaker 2: feel like we are. I want to think of us 196 00:11:16,960 --> 00:11:20,560 Speaker 2: as friends, Okay, And I'm setting that up because I 197 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:22,959 Speaker 2: also want to give some tough love here, and I 198 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:28,760 Speaker 2: don't want it to sound like it's harsh or criticizing 199 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:32,040 Speaker 2: or bitter in any way. First, I want to say, 200 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 2: just overall, just first analysis, Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John, 201 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 2: it would be very odd for those four men to 202 00:11:39,080 --> 00:11:42,280 Speaker 2: be standing together because they came in different time periods. 203 00:11:42,360 --> 00:11:47,400 Speaker 2: They were not all for disciples. Luke and Mark never 204 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:51,160 Speaker 2: walked with Jesus at all, so you could understand it's 205 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:53,760 Speaker 2: a little odd. Mark would have been a disciple of Peter, 206 00:11:54,720 --> 00:11:58,960 Speaker 2: and Luke would have been a disciple of Paul. Neither 207 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:02,600 Speaker 2: of them walked with Jesus. Interesting if you think of 208 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:07,200 Speaker 2: it in terms of your dream had them altogether with Jesus. Listen, 209 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:10,839 Speaker 2: not saying that, don't read too deep into that. I'm 210 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:16,280 Speaker 2: just saying that's the first thought. It's interesting. The second 211 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:20,839 Speaker 2: thought is you said they're speaking to you Matthew, Mark Luke, 212 00:12:20,840 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 2: and John are telling you you need to go preach 213 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:29,960 Speaker 2: the gospel. Right, Well, that is not that's not prophecy. 214 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:33,439 Speaker 2: In fact, that's just the Great commission, and the Bible 215 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 2: is going to tell us the same exact thing. So 216 00:12:36,559 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 2: in a way, it's good that you're lining up truth 217 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 2: that's already in the Bible. 218 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:41,760 Speaker 1: Right. 219 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:44,440 Speaker 2: So that's how you can confirm that something is right 220 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:48,440 Speaker 2: because you can always confirm it. There is no new prophecy, 221 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:52,320 Speaker 2: there's no new command, there's no new information that no 222 00:12:52,360 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 2: one ever knew before coming to you. That's never going 223 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:59,880 Speaker 2: to happen unless you could back it up clearly with 224 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:01,160 Speaker 2: the whole of scripture. 225 00:13:01,520 --> 00:13:03,120 Speaker 1: Okay, so. 226 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 2: You're getting a command from this dream that is aligning 227 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:13,840 Speaker 2: with the Bible, the great commission, go forth make disciples 228 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:18,280 Speaker 2: of all nations, right, that's the Great commission. And then 229 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:21,360 Speaker 2: digging further into this, so right there, you say, do 230 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:27,680 Speaker 2: you think that was just a dream or Okay, digging 231 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:32,640 Speaker 2: further into this, you immediately go from that how you're 232 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:36,120 Speaker 2: supposed to go and share the Gospel, you go directly 233 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:40,880 Speaker 2: into You're still working through the Bible yourself, and you 234 00:13:40,920 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 2: have a lot to learn in fact, you haven't read 235 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 2: any of the New Testament yet, I'm assuming, and you're 236 00:13:46,679 --> 00:13:50,280 Speaker 2: only a little bit way through the Old Testament in Ezekiel. 237 00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:56,040 Speaker 2: So the first thought is how are you going to 238 00:13:56,080 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 2: preach or teach or share what you don't fully know yet? 239 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:08,520 Speaker 2: So first step is equip yourself, equip yourself, learn, pump 240 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:12,480 Speaker 2: the breaks, take your time, be affirmed by people in 241 00:14:12,520 --> 00:14:14,559 Speaker 2: the faith that have been doing this for a long time. 242 00:14:15,240 --> 00:14:17,160 Speaker 2: There's no rush, there's no rush out of the door. 243 00:14:17,559 --> 00:14:21,280 Speaker 2: You don't need to be running off and sharing the 244 00:14:21,280 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 2: gospel that you don't that you haven't even read yet. Okay, 245 00:14:25,360 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 2: So that's friendly advice and just out of love, pump 246 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:35,160 Speaker 2: the breaks. Here there's a lot. There's a lot to learn, 247 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:38,080 Speaker 2: a lot to study, a lot to be affirmed in, 248 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:43,720 Speaker 2: and a lot to equip from. Then we get to 249 00:14:43,960 --> 00:14:47,359 Speaker 2: another part of the question, and that is the prophecy 250 00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:51,160 Speaker 2: eschatology question. Eschatology for people that don't know, is study 251 00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:55,920 Speaker 2: of end times. So you might have heard me before. 252 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:56,280 Speaker 1: And by the way, I do. 253 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:59,240 Speaker 2: I do not know these podcasts that you mentioned, and 254 00:14:59,280 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 2: I do not know these authors that you mentioned. That's okay, 255 00:15:03,680 --> 00:15:05,240 Speaker 2: I don't know a lot of podcasts and a lot 256 00:15:05,280 --> 00:15:11,680 Speaker 2: of authors. But we're going to dive into your idea 257 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:16,520 Speaker 2: of should you pursue prophecy and eschatology degrees or just 258 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:20,920 Speaker 2: stick to the Gospel. Well, first of all, you don't 259 00:15:20,960 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 2: have to choose between the two, because the Gospel is 260 00:15:23,440 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 2: always gonna be a heavily studied thing that you do 261 00:15:27,760 --> 00:15:30,080 Speaker 2: for the rest of your life. The Gospel is going 262 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:35,400 Speaker 2: to infiltrate everything. There is no eschatology without gospel. There 263 00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:40,680 Speaker 2: is no prophecy without gospel. Otherwise it's just straight heresy. 264 00:15:40,840 --> 00:15:44,200 Speaker 2: The Gospel needs to infiltrate everything you do. You don't 265 00:15:44,280 --> 00:15:46,600 Speaker 2: choose should I do a little gospel or should I 266 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:50,000 Speaker 2: do a little prophecy, because if you don't have gospel, 267 00:15:50,160 --> 00:15:53,920 Speaker 2: you have nothing but satanic lies. In this other hand, okay, 268 00:15:53,920 --> 00:15:56,880 Speaker 2: I'm just that's straight up what the truth is. So 269 00:15:56,920 --> 00:15:59,200 Speaker 2: you don't have to choose. It's all going to go together. 270 00:15:59,240 --> 00:16:02,560 Speaker 2: The Gospels always going to be there. It needs to 271 00:16:02,640 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 2: always be there. But if you've heard me on this 272 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:15,520 Speaker 2: podcast before speak about eschatology, I am concerned with that 273 00:16:15,640 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 2: word and with becoming obsessed with eschatology. I'm concerned with 274 00:16:23,120 --> 00:16:26,720 Speaker 2: let me speak clearly, I'm concerned with people worrying about 275 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:33,600 Speaker 2: the end times, because we are, in almost every sense 276 00:16:33,640 --> 00:16:37,680 Speaker 2: of that term, living in the end times now, and 277 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:42,560 Speaker 2: we have been since Christ was born and he ushered 278 00:16:42,640 --> 00:16:47,520 Speaker 2: in the present age of the Kingdom. The end times 279 00:16:47,880 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 2: officially began when he ascended into heaven right, and so 280 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:58,360 Speaker 2: the end times started in the first century, so people 281 00:16:58,680 --> 00:17:03,240 Speaker 2: have been living in the times for two thousand years. 282 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 2: It's very important important to understand that. And you say, well, well, Granger, 283 00:17:08,359 --> 00:17:11,680 Speaker 2: all the prophecies are coming together, like rumors of wars 284 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:17,240 Speaker 2: and pestilence and storms and disease and mark at the beast, 285 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:23,119 Speaker 2: and this is all coming to fruition now. And I say, 286 00:17:24,040 --> 00:17:28,600 Speaker 2: I'm concerned because that stuff has come to fruition many 287 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:31,760 Speaker 2: times in history, first of all. And you could argue me, 288 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:34,080 Speaker 2: and you could. You could, you could push against this, 289 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:36,159 Speaker 2: and that's okay. This is not a this is not 290 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:40,840 Speaker 2: a disagreement. I'm just voicing a concern that I think 291 00:17:40,880 --> 00:17:44,040 Speaker 2: people get caught up in that stuff. Like you, you're 292 00:17:44,080 --> 00:17:46,440 Speaker 2: saying you feel as though the rapture is going to 293 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:49,560 Speaker 2: be here sooner than we think, and you don't want 294 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:51,000 Speaker 2: to see a bunch of people get left behind. I 295 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:54,160 Speaker 2: promise you, brother, I promise you ninety nine point nine 296 00:17:54,240 --> 00:17:58,560 Speaker 2: nine nine nine ninety nine percent chance you will die 297 00:17:59,359 --> 00:18:03,199 Speaker 2: on this earth without seeing the quote unquote rapture that 298 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:08,560 Speaker 2: you're talking about. So are you going to concern yourself 299 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:11,680 Speaker 2: with the point zero zero zero zeros zers zero years 300 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:15,119 Speaker 2: zeros zeros years zero one? Are are you going to 301 00:18:15,720 --> 00:18:20,080 Speaker 2: concern yourself with infiltrating the Gospel in you and carrying 302 00:18:20,119 --> 00:18:25,120 Speaker 2: out the great commission sharing the good News with the world, 303 00:18:25,520 --> 00:18:29,240 Speaker 2: because that's what you're commanded to do right now. And people, 304 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:31,680 Speaker 2: what I'm concerned about is people start worrying about the 305 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:34,000 Speaker 2: zero zero zero years z is a zero one percent 306 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:38,480 Speaker 2: and they get caught up in looking for signs and 307 00:18:38,520 --> 00:18:42,359 Speaker 2: trying to use Revelation as a roadmap, the Book of 308 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:46,680 Speaker 2: Revelation as a roadmap to look, look when the Antichrist 309 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:49,080 Speaker 2: is coming and he's going to be here for three 310 00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 2: and a half years here and then and then he's 311 00:18:50,760 --> 00:18:53,520 Speaker 2: going to reveal himself. And like, you start reading that 312 00:18:53,560 --> 00:18:56,480 Speaker 2: as a roadmap and you start getting off track, you 313 00:18:56,520 --> 00:19:00,840 Speaker 2: start forgetting the whole purpose of the Gospel. So let's 314 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:04,520 Speaker 2: not do that. You could great, you want to study 315 00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:07,879 Speaker 2: that ten years from now, after you've equipped yourself and 316 00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:11,880 Speaker 2: you've completely armed yourself with the gospel, and you're very 317 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:16,080 Speaker 2: well read, and you're good at proselytizing and evangelizing, and 318 00:19:16,119 --> 00:19:18,840 Speaker 2: you fill the Holy Spirit, and you want to study 319 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:20,520 Speaker 2: a little bit more about eschatology. 320 00:19:21,000 --> 00:19:22,639 Speaker 1: Cool, cool, cool cool. 321 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:25,680 Speaker 2: I'm talking ten years down the road. But don't get 322 00:19:25,680 --> 00:19:28,119 Speaker 2: caught up in it now, because it could become an 323 00:19:28,240 --> 00:19:33,000 Speaker 2: idol to you. It can become an obsession. Just check Twitter. 324 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 2: People are all over this stuff like end of Times, 325 00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 2: mark of the Beast, anti Christ, Christ is coming back, 326 00:19:40,119 --> 00:19:44,560 Speaker 2: white horse, here we go. It's like, man, how long 327 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 2: you think people have been saying that and their focus 328 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:51,040 Speaker 2: is just getting Jesus would say, stop looking for signs, 329 00:19:52,600 --> 00:20:01,400 Speaker 2: stop it. I am here now. The Kingdom is here now. Okay, 330 00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:06,640 Speaker 2: Christ is present with us. Now stop looking for him 331 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:10,760 Speaker 2: coming later, and start realizing that he's here now. 332 00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:13,000 Speaker 1: The Kingdom is with us. Now. 333 00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:16,960 Speaker 2: Preach the gospel that way, not the eschatology way. 334 00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:17,879 Speaker 1: Take a break here at that. 335 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:24,000 Speaker 2: If you want to get a hold of me for 336 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:27,600 Speaker 2: some reason, maybe get a video message from me. You 337 00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:31,119 Speaker 2: could do that through cameo dot com, slash Granger Smith, 338 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:35,320 Speaker 2: or you could download the Cameo app c am eo 339 00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:38,080 Speaker 2: and search for me Granger Smith. It's a great way 340 00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:40,920 Speaker 2: to maybe get a last minute gift to somebody, maybe 341 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:44,560 Speaker 2: a birthday present, maybe a baby announcement. I've done a 342 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:49,000 Speaker 2: lot of those happy anniversary. If you're like, man, what 343 00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:51,639 Speaker 2: can I get this person? They kind of have everything 344 00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:54,399 Speaker 2: or there's nothing they need. You can get me to 345 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:59,160 Speaker 2: give you a customized video message. And I've been doing 346 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:01,960 Speaker 2: this for a long time. Cameo is very efficient and 347 00:21:02,040 --> 00:21:05,560 Speaker 2: it's just a good organization, a good company that I've 348 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:09,760 Speaker 2: worked with since probably two thousand and eighteen ish. It's 349 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:12,480 Speaker 2: just part of my daily routine is I check and 350 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:15,879 Speaker 2: see if I have any Cameo request. I pull up 351 00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:18,960 Speaker 2: the app and then it says, Hey, Granger, it's my 352 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:22,719 Speaker 2: son's birthday, Luke, he's turning eleven. Can you wish him 353 00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:24,640 Speaker 2: a happy birthday? These are some things that he likes, 354 00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:26,320 Speaker 2: and these are the songs that he likes from you. 355 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:28,359 Speaker 2: And I see it right there on my screen, and 356 00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:30,480 Speaker 2: so then I say, what's up, Luke, it's Granger. I 357 00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:33,480 Speaker 2: heard from your mom. I heard you're turning eleven. Happy birthday, buddy. 358 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:35,840 Speaker 2: Thank you for being a fan of the song d 359 00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:39,080 Speaker 2: Sol and I hear that you like four wheelers and 360 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:43,000 Speaker 2: you like hunting Dove or whatever it might be. Anyway, 361 00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 2: that's just a scenario that I love to do. Cameo 362 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:49,440 Speaker 2: dot com slash Granger Smith or download the cameo app 363 00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:52,280 Speaker 2: search for me Granger Smith. My book Like a River 364 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:56,920 Speaker 2: is coming out August the first, twenty and twenty three, 365 00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:59,640 Speaker 2: so getting so close from the time I'm recording this, 366 00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:04,439 Speaker 2: I'm one month away from that release, so just so 367 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:08,680 Speaker 2: exciting to finally get my full story out there into 368 00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:11,040 Speaker 2: the public. So you could either read the book, you 369 00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:13,639 Speaker 2: could listen to the audio book. You can get it 370 00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:16,320 Speaker 2: on Kindle wherever you love to find books. You could 371 00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 2: pre order that right now grangersmith dot Com I'm using 372 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:21,960 Speaker 2: as kind of the hub that will kick you out 373 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:26,240 Speaker 2: to all the different sites like Barnes and Noble and Amazon, 374 00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:28,440 Speaker 2: Walmart dot com, all that kind of stuff. You can 375 00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:31,159 Speaker 2: go to grangersmith dot com as the hub to all that. 376 00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:33,639 Speaker 2: But I'm excited because this is a book about my 377 00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:36,560 Speaker 2: journey and my story since we lost my son River 378 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:41,520 Speaker 2: in twenty nineteen, and then moving forward to how we 379 00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:44,320 Speaker 2: walked through that journey, how we got to where we 380 00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:47,520 Speaker 2: are now, and I think a lot of y'all will 381 00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:50,280 Speaker 2: be surprised because it's there are some things in this 382 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:53,399 Speaker 2: book I've never talked about in public in any other forum. 383 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:56,800 Speaker 2: So when the book comes out, we'll be able to 384 00:22:56,840 --> 00:23:01,240 Speaker 2: discuss further. But meanwhile, be looking for like a river 385 00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:04,280 Speaker 2: wherever you love to find books. You could pre order 386 00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:06,879 Speaker 2: it now, which helps me to get it, kind of 387 00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,719 Speaker 2: kick up the algorithm, and then it'll be on the 388 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:13,119 Speaker 2: shelves August. First, thank you all for listening. Back to 389 00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:20,040 Speaker 2: the podcast. All right, back to the questions. If you 390 00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:23,800 Speaker 2: have one for me, email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. 391 00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:27,040 Speaker 2: I'm gonna jump into this one subject line. How do 392 00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:31,679 Speaker 2: I know she's the one? Hey Granger, My name is Ty. Basically, 393 00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:35,919 Speaker 2: I'm homeschooled and I met a girl at homeschool conference 394 00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:42,000 Speaker 2: that and she just felt different. We didn't talk besides 395 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 2: in a group for a little bit. She felt different 396 00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,639 Speaker 2: than any crushes I've ever had before because she was 397 00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:51,639 Speaker 2: someone important. So I went home and prayed about it, 398 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:55,359 Speaker 2: asked for a sign. And it had also been my 399 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:59,320 Speaker 2: birth birthday recently, and my grandmother always gave us a 400 00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:02,920 Speaker 2: prophetic word and our birthday cards, and I had forgotten 401 00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:05,879 Speaker 2: about the card, and the next day, after I prayed, 402 00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:07,800 Speaker 2: I remembered I was supposed to open that card, and 403 00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:12,520 Speaker 2: in it she talked about me throwing out She had 404 00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:15,240 Speaker 2: seen me throwing out my rope to catch a bunch 405 00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:17,720 Speaker 2: of roses, and how she thought it meant I was 406 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:22,720 Speaker 2: ready for a girlfriend. I always feel like I'm not 407 00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:25,399 Speaker 2: good enough for her. Though I'm seventeen, she's fifteen. I 408 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:27,480 Speaker 2: don't have any way of contacting her, and I feel 409 00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:29,920 Speaker 2: like the age gap is an issue for. 410 00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 1: A few years. 411 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:33,320 Speaker 2: I will see her again next year, and I don't 412 00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:36,520 Speaker 2: know if I'll have something to do about it. So yeah, 413 00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:39,879 Speaker 2: just wondering what your advice would be. Okay, Ty, thanks 414 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 2: for emailing brother. You are seventeen. Okay, it's interesting. Before 415 00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:50,600 Speaker 2: the break we talked about prophecy almost in the same way, 416 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:53,760 Speaker 2: and I got to say, I got a lot of 417 00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:55,080 Speaker 2: emails about this kind of stuff. 418 00:24:55,080 --> 00:25:01,359 Speaker 1: It comes in a lot. 419 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:07,840 Speaker 2: I want to give full respect to Grandma, but Ty, 420 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 2: do you need let me ask you this, just as 421 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:16,800 Speaker 2: a friend, do you need, if you like a girl, 422 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 2: for Grandma to give you a birthday card with a 423 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:23,640 Speaker 2: prophetic word? 424 00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:24,680 Speaker 1: About you. 425 00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:30,080 Speaker 2: Throwing out a bunch of roses, catching catching a bunch 426 00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:35,280 Speaker 2: of roses, to tell you that you are justified in 427 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:39,240 Speaker 2: liking the girl. Really, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no. 428 00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:45,320 Speaker 2: Your grandma doesn't need to tell you that it's okay 429 00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:47,399 Speaker 2: to like a girl or it's time to start dating. 430 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:49,919 Speaker 2: I don't need to tell you that it's okay to 431 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:52,720 Speaker 2: like a girl and it's time to start dating. You're seventeen, 432 00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:58,240 Speaker 2: your body is changing, and you are You're in to girls, 433 00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:01,360 Speaker 2: maybe for the first time. Maybe this is the first time, 434 00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,119 Speaker 2: and that's okay. Maybe it started at twelve, maybe it 435 00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:08,439 Speaker 2: starts at twenty five. Either way, no one has to 436 00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:11,480 Speaker 2: tell you when it's time to like a girl. Not 437 00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:14,280 Speaker 2: a birthday card from grandma, and not Granger Smith on 438 00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:17,840 Speaker 2: the podcast You know it with everything inside you. You 439 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:19,600 Speaker 2: lay your head down in your pillow at night, and 440 00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:24,600 Speaker 2: you go, I can't stop thinking about that girl. She's special, 441 00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:29,120 Speaker 2: she talks different, she gets me, I get her. Our 442 00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:34,639 Speaker 2: conversations are great. I really like this girl. Regardless of 443 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:40,240 Speaker 2: what a birthday card says, right or some prophecy. That's weird. 444 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,040 Speaker 2: That's weird, all respect to Grandma. 445 00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:44,800 Speaker 1: That's weird. 446 00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:50,280 Speaker 2: You don't need that, ty you like this girl. It's okay. 447 00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:51,560 Speaker 2: There's no rush. 448 00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:51,920 Speaker 1: I think. 449 00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:54,600 Speaker 2: That's what I'm here to tell you is there's no rush. 450 00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:57,520 Speaker 2: There's no need to worry or think about. Oh no, 451 00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:01,320 Speaker 2: there's the age difference. I'm seventeen and she's fifteen. That's normal. 452 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,200 Speaker 2: Here's the good news. You're going to see her next year. 453 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:11,600 Speaker 2: You are going to see her next year, right, write 454 00:27:11,640 --> 00:27:14,520 Speaker 2: her letters. I don't know, write write a few letters 455 00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:18,840 Speaker 2: to her. You said you have don't have a way 456 00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:20,000 Speaker 2: to contact her. That's okay. 457 00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:22,960 Speaker 1: Look, get a notebook. Get a notebook, and. 458 00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:25,520 Speaker 2: This will be good, a good practice even for you, 459 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:28,760 Speaker 2: regardless of you see her. If you see her or not, 460 00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:32,360 Speaker 2: it doesn't matter, irregardless. So take the notebook and just say, 461 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:36,080 Speaker 2: dear girl, I've been thinking about you. I like you. 462 00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 2: I want to tell you a little bit about myself, 463 00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,160 Speaker 2: and don't you don't have to give it to her. 464 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:44,560 Speaker 2: In fact, I wouldn't. That's kind of creepy. But if 465 00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:48,520 Speaker 2: you married her, you could actually did that with Amber. 466 00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:49,199 Speaker 1: I wrote her. 467 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:52,320 Speaker 2: I wrote several pages in a notebook and didn't give 468 00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:54,840 Speaker 2: it to her until the night before her wedding. Gave 469 00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:57,960 Speaker 2: it to her, So pour out your feelings that way, 470 00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:00,879 Speaker 2: it might help you understand them a little more. And 471 00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:05,080 Speaker 2: then when you see her next year, find some time 472 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:09,359 Speaker 2: to pull her aside. And I don't know when or 473 00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,399 Speaker 2: how this is going to work when you're gonna see her, 474 00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:13,600 Speaker 2: but find some time, take a walk in a park 475 00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:17,640 Speaker 2: and just say I gotta tell you. Can I tell 476 00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:23,320 Speaker 2: you something? I just I really like you. I'm reading 477 00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:28,000 Speaker 2: your words, Ty, I really like you. And we've talked 478 00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:28,520 Speaker 2: for a little bit. 479 00:28:28,560 --> 00:28:28,920 Speaker 1: I just. 480 00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:32,520 Speaker 2: You're different than any crush I've ever had. 481 00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,200 Speaker 1: You are different. 482 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:39,480 Speaker 2: You feel important to me, and I've prayed for a 483 00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:45,120 Speaker 2: girl like you, and I'm just awkward and embarrassed because 484 00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:48,960 Speaker 2: I've never felt this way before, and I wanted to 485 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,280 Speaker 2: reach out to you and just just tell you. And 486 00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 2: I hope you feel the same way, but even if 487 00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:55,520 Speaker 2: you don't, I just I wanted to get it off 488 00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:57,800 Speaker 2: my chest because I think I think you're really cute 489 00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:02,360 Speaker 2: and really interesting and funny and smart and all the 490 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:04,240 Speaker 2: qualities that I like in a girl. And if you're 491 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:07,320 Speaker 2: not that girl for me, then at least I know 492 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:10,600 Speaker 2: a little bit more about the girl of my dreams. 493 00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 2: I just wanted to tell you that, and she's either 494 00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 2: going to go, oh, that's so sweet. I don't see 495 00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:20,760 Speaker 2: ourselves like that, we're just friends. Or she's going to go, 496 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,760 Speaker 2: I've been thinking about you too over this last year, 497 00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 2: and I was hoping you'd say something like that. By 498 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:32,440 Speaker 2: then she's sixteen or eighteen. You take it slow, continue 499 00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:38,600 Speaker 2: that path. But that's it. There's no like crazy, weird, 500 00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:44,640 Speaker 2: mumbo jumbo type, you know, secret sauce. It's just being honest, 501 00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:45,760 Speaker 2: being vulnerable. 502 00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:55,560 Speaker 1: That's it. More. Let's see here. 503 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:59,960 Speaker 2: How about if I jump into a this looks in 504 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:05,160 Speaker 2: interesting right subdecline says how to stop hating mom? I 505 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:08,040 Speaker 2: wonder what this says, ey grand I'd like to stay anonymous. 506 00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:13,240 Speaker 2: I need help moving past the situation from my past. 507 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:14,040 Speaker 1: I need help. 508 00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:16,600 Speaker 2: I need help moving past the situation from my past, 509 00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:19,560 Speaker 2: and I'm not sure how to do it, since it's 510 00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:22,680 Speaker 2: something that I think I'll think about almost every day. 511 00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:26,320 Speaker 2: A little backstory. My mom and I have never been close. 512 00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,720 Speaker 2: When she had custody of me as a child, she 513 00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:31,600 Speaker 2: would drop me off a daycare and pick me up 514 00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:33,720 Speaker 2: at the end of the day every time. I was 515 00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:37,120 Speaker 2: always respectful when I was with her and tried not 516 00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:40,600 Speaker 2: to cause her problems. Anyways, when I was sixteen I'm 517 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:42,959 Speaker 2: now twenty. The last thing my mom said to me 518 00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:46,000 Speaker 2: was I hate you. You are such a C word 519 00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:48,959 Speaker 2: and a B word. You were the biggest regret of 520 00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:51,880 Speaker 2: my life. This was the day I got confirmed at 521 00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:54,160 Speaker 2: church too, So a day that I was supposed to 522 00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:56,480 Speaker 2: be really that was supposed to be really special, turned 523 00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:58,400 Speaker 2: into one of the worst days of my life. So 524 00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:01,120 Speaker 2: my question to you is this, how could I move 525 00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:04,280 Speaker 2: past this that has been on my mind for the 526 00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:07,040 Speaker 2: last four years. Deep down, I want to forgive her 527 00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:09,840 Speaker 2: and move on, but it's not necessarily the easiest thing 528 00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:12,239 Speaker 2: to do. Any advice would be great. Thanks for all 529 00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:16,240 Speaker 2: you do, Anonymous. Anonymous, thank you for being vulnerable and 530 00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:19,000 Speaker 2: opening up in this way. And I want to say, 531 00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:22,600 Speaker 2: first of all, before anything, I just want to say, 532 00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:24,040 Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. 533 00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:27,440 Speaker 1: A girl. 534 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:33,800 Speaker 2: Should never deserve to grow up like this or be 535 00:31:33,880 --> 00:31:38,960 Speaker 2: treated like this. I believe that little boys and little 536 00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:42,880 Speaker 2: girls should have a mother and father that loved them 537 00:31:44,640 --> 00:31:51,320 Speaker 2: and that respect them, and that selflessly raise them. But 538 00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:54,080 Speaker 2: that is not the world that we live in. We 539 00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:58,520 Speaker 2: live in a fallen world where sin has infiltrated. 540 00:31:57,760 --> 00:31:59,760 Speaker 1: The earth, and. 541 00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:02,640 Speaker 2: What are we going to do with that? What are 542 00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:04,280 Speaker 2: we going to do with the fact that we live 543 00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:07,280 Speaker 2: in a fallen world and there aren't There aren't always 544 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:10,680 Speaker 2: perfect families with perfect mothers raising perfect daughters. 545 00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:12,320 Speaker 1: That is not the case. 546 00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:15,440 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm want to leave with that and just say 547 00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:18,720 Speaker 2: I'm so sorry, And then I want to say this. 548 00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:24,840 Speaker 2: You are so strong for thinking through this and for 549 00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:28,440 Speaker 2: listening to podcasts like this one and writing me in 550 00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:33,560 Speaker 2: a way where you are You're really being so selfless 551 00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,440 Speaker 2: about this email itself and just saying, listen, I want 552 00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:39,600 Speaker 2: to forgive her and I want to move on, but 553 00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:41,800 Speaker 2: it's not the easiest thing to do, That's what you're saying, 554 00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:46,160 Speaker 2: And you're underplaying that this is really hard. I have 555 00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:52,760 Speaker 2: not been in your situation, so I cannot imagine, and 556 00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:57,080 Speaker 2: I would imagine, if anything, that you're underplaying just how 557 00:32:57,080 --> 00:33:03,000 Speaker 2: difficult this is. Okay, So all that being said, you 558 00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:10,200 Speaker 2: forgiving your mother doesn't have anything to do with her 559 00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:15,360 Speaker 2: accepting that forgiveness or changing or being someone different at all. 560 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:22,800 Speaker 2: You forgiving your mother is a release from you. It's 561 00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:29,160 Speaker 2: a letting go of holding on to a grudge. So 562 00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:33,320 Speaker 2: by you letting that grudge go, you're opening up your 563 00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:39,240 Speaker 2: clenched fist to her, and you're saying, I am no 564 00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:44,040 Speaker 2: longer holding a grudge against you. I'm no longer thinking 565 00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:48,800 Speaker 2: of you as the perfect parent, because no one is perfect. 566 00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:55,040 Speaker 2: And I am hereby letting go of anything that I 567 00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:59,560 Speaker 2: might have been holding against you, because. 568 00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:02,680 Speaker 1: I know that we have a sovereign God. 569 00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:04,320 Speaker 2: Okay, you don't have to say that, because I don't 570 00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:05,880 Speaker 2: know if you believe that, but that's what I believe. 571 00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:08,480 Speaker 2: We have a sovereign God that is always working for 572 00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:12,399 Speaker 2: the greater good, allowing certain things to happen to us, 573 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:18,360 Speaker 2: including evil things, for always for a greater good. Now, 574 00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:21,080 Speaker 2: to prove that is not a contradiction at all of 575 00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:24,520 Speaker 2: a loving God that allows evil to happen, it's super 576 00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:27,480 Speaker 2: easy to prove that that's not a contradiction. I don't 577 00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:30,440 Speaker 2: have to prove that God. I don't have to prove 578 00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:34,720 Speaker 2: what his reason is. I only have to prove that 579 00:34:34,719 --> 00:34:39,560 Speaker 2: that kind of scenario is possible. And you could use 580 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:40,480 Speaker 2: any example. 581 00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:41,719 Speaker 1: Here's one. 582 00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:45,000 Speaker 2: This is a bad analogy, but I could take it 583 00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:50,759 Speaker 2: my child to a person in a room with a light, 584 00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:55,040 Speaker 2: and I could sit my child down in a chair, 585 00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:59,319 Speaker 2: and I could have that person inflict pain on my 586 00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:02,160 Speaker 2: child and I could stand there and watch it happen 587 00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:07,280 Speaker 2: as my child is in pain and maybe a little scared, 588 00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:12,400 Speaker 2: and I could pay that person to inflict the pain 589 00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:17,800 Speaker 2: and a little fear into my child. Is that awful 590 00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:21,160 Speaker 2: and evil of me? Does that make me an evil person? 591 00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:25,880 Speaker 2: What if I told you that I was taking my 592 00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:31,080 Speaker 2: child to the dentist and I was doing that because 593 00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:34,200 Speaker 2: I love my child, not because I'm evil. I love 594 00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:36,680 Speaker 2: my child and I know that the end result of 595 00:35:36,719 --> 00:35:42,680 Speaker 2: this momentary pain and momentary fear equals straight teeth in 596 00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:46,520 Speaker 2: the future, which will result in a huge benefit for 597 00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:50,840 Speaker 2: my child. Because I love my child, That's why. 598 00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:51,080 Speaker 1: I do it. 599 00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:57,879 Speaker 2: So that small scenario proves that there is no contradiction 600 00:35:58,120 --> 00:36:01,520 Speaker 2: by God allowing evil to happen to us for a 601 00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:04,000 Speaker 2: greater good. I don't have to tell you what the 602 00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:09,800 Speaker 2: greater good is. All of that being said to you, Anonymous, 603 00:36:11,200 --> 00:36:15,040 Speaker 2: is that you can forgive your mother without needing her 604 00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:19,480 Speaker 2: to reply or change or fix anything, or heal anything. 605 00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:22,520 Speaker 2: This is for you. You can call her up, you 606 00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:24,920 Speaker 2: can write her an email or a text, send her 607 00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:27,120 Speaker 2: a letter, whatever it might be, and just say Mom, 608 00:36:28,680 --> 00:36:32,600 Speaker 2: I love you because you're my mother and you carried 609 00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:37,360 Speaker 2: me for nine months inside your body. Now, I know 610 00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:41,040 Speaker 2: we've had our disagreements, and that's saying it lightly, right, 611 00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:45,319 Speaker 2: but I just want to let you know, regardless of 612 00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:50,640 Speaker 2: what has happened, I love you and I forgive you. 613 00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:56,000 Speaker 2: And what you're saying is I hereby release any kind 614 00:36:56,040 --> 00:37:03,319 Speaker 2: of regret or anger or remorse or grudge that I 615 00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:07,040 Speaker 2: hold against you. Here's the kicker, Anonymous, here's the kicker. 616 00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:13,000 Speaker 2: You don't have to believe that, because a big part 617 00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:16,000 Speaker 2: of you is going to go, No, I don't forgive, 618 00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:20,400 Speaker 2: I don't release my grudge. I'm still angry. How dare 619 00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:23,120 Speaker 2: a human being treat their their own flesh and blood 620 00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:26,640 Speaker 2: child like my mother did to me. A part of 621 00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:29,000 Speaker 2: you is going to say that, and I can't make 622 00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:33,000 Speaker 2: that part of you stop. But the rational part, the 623 00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:36,440 Speaker 2: front part of your brain, is going to say this 624 00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:38,560 Speaker 2: and write this and type this and text this. 625 00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:40,080 Speaker 1: I forgive you. 626 00:37:42,200 --> 00:37:45,759 Speaker 2: And as as your brain says it and your heart 627 00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,520 Speaker 2: is screaming against it, you say it. You put it 628 00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:51,399 Speaker 2: out there, and you send the message and you let 629 00:37:51,440 --> 00:37:53,600 Speaker 2: your heart catch up later. Because I promise you that's 630 00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:56,000 Speaker 2: the beginning of healing for all of this. There is 631 00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:58,359 Speaker 2: so much pain you have caught up with this, with 632 00:37:58,400 --> 00:38:01,920 Speaker 2: your mother, daughter's stuff going on here, and it's gonna 633 00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:03,920 Speaker 2: begin with you just going, you know what, I'm not 634 00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:06,520 Speaker 2: gonna hold this anymore. I'm gonna let all of this go. 635 00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:09,680 Speaker 2: I'm not gonna hold this anymore. I'm not I'm not 636 00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:14,560 Speaker 2: perfect myself. I've messed up many times. I am not 637 00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:17,680 Speaker 2: someone that needs that, that thinks I'm on a higher 638 00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:20,480 Speaker 2: standard than anyone. Right, this is you and me talk, 639 00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:23,239 Speaker 2: it's all of us. So I'm gonna release that. I'm 640 00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:24,719 Speaker 2: gonna go, you know what, I'm gonna hold I'm not 641 00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:28,200 Speaker 2: holding onto this anymore. I forgive you, Mom. Now she's 642 00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:30,600 Speaker 2: gonna go. She could respond and go, I don't care 643 00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:33,480 Speaker 2: what you do, I don't care what you say. You 644 00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:35,440 Speaker 2: are a B word, you are a C word. And 645 00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:39,600 Speaker 2: you go, well, that's not surprising that you would react 646 00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:45,319 Speaker 2: like that. But it's not something you did that earned forgiveness, right, 647 00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:49,640 Speaker 2: It's something I did with my own personal grace to you, Mom, 648 00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:52,560 Speaker 2: because you're my mother, that I'm releasing you from my 649 00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:58,200 Speaker 2: own grace. I'm saying, I forgive you. What's crazy is 650 00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:00,960 Speaker 2: how this relates to the Gospel of g and Us 651 00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:12,920 Speaker 2: and that's another story. Let's continue another question here. This 652 00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:15,080 Speaker 2: next one says, Hey Granger, I'm twenty one years old. 653 00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:17,200 Speaker 2: I'm a guy who would like to stay anonymous, but 654 00:39:17,239 --> 00:39:19,120 Speaker 2: I still need some advice on how to handle a 655 00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:22,480 Speaker 2: situation with one of my friends. I met her at 656 00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:25,600 Speaker 2: college last fall and we've become good friends. But recently 657 00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:29,719 Speaker 2: my feelings toward her have changed and I have a 658 00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,440 Speaker 2: big crush on her. She's a Christian, which is the 659 00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:35,680 Speaker 2: biggest box for me. I know we can't really date 660 00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:41,000 Speaker 2: because she's going on to stint with Crewe in Slovakia 661 00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:43,960 Speaker 2: for a year, and other reasons to where we wouldn't 662 00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:47,560 Speaker 2: work long term. And if only if I've only got 663 00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:51,080 Speaker 2: to date, If I'm only going to date to Mary, 664 00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:55,160 Speaker 2: then we shouldn't date to guard each other's hearts. I'm 665 00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:56,960 Speaker 2: not sure if I should talk to her about this, 666 00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:01,680 Speaker 2: just try ignore my feelings for now, or what I 667 00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:02,560 Speaker 2: should do from here? 668 00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:03,600 Speaker 1: Thanks Anonymous. 669 00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:07,839 Speaker 2: All right, buddy, let's see let me kind of decompress this. 670 00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:12,760 Speaker 2: Sorry about my scratchy voice. Guys twenty one years old, 671 00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:15,600 Speaker 2: you have a girl that she's a friend, but now 672 00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:18,480 Speaker 2: you're feeling more than friends. But the problem is she's 673 00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:23,120 Speaker 2: about to take off for a year. You're worried. 674 00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:32,000 Speaker 1: Okay, I got it. So when we say when. 675 00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:35,200 Speaker 2: We say you should guard your heart, you should protect 676 00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:40,040 Speaker 2: your heart. That doesn't mean don't ever say you like 677 00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:47,080 Speaker 2: a girl. Right, there's guarding your heart from heartbreak, or 678 00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:51,799 Speaker 2: from hurt is, or because you're too young. All of 679 00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:55,440 Speaker 2: those reasons are way way wait, wait, way down the 680 00:40:55,520 --> 00:41:00,239 Speaker 2: road after you say you like them. You gotta peak 681 00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:05,160 Speaker 2: up at all costs at the beginning. Otherwise you're gonna 682 00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:09,520 Speaker 2: be full of would it, could have, should have done? 683 00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:12,480 Speaker 2: And this sounds like a pretty cool girl. Gotta be 684 00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:15,600 Speaker 2: honest with you. It sounds like she's got a lot 685 00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:21,680 Speaker 2: going on, sounds like she's very self less, she's a Christian, 686 00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:26,640 Speaker 2: she's going to Slovakia for a year. That she sounds 687 00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:29,720 Speaker 2: pretty cool. You don't find them like that too often. 688 00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:36,239 Speaker 2: So I don't think there's anything wrong, Anonymous. I don't 689 00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:39,200 Speaker 2: think there's anything wrong with you having coffee with her 690 00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:48,200 Speaker 2: and saying this the very beginning. These are the kind 691 00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:51,919 Speaker 2: of stories you hear often that people end up getting married. Right, 692 00:41:52,480 --> 00:41:56,600 Speaker 2: It's like, this is how it starts. I think you'd 693 00:41:56,640 --> 00:41:58,960 Speaker 2: be honest, and you say exactly what you told me 694 00:41:59,160 --> 00:42:04,359 Speaker 2: over coffee before she leaves to Slovakia. You say, can 695 00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:09,520 Speaker 2: I tell you something? I I don't know how to 696 00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:12,680 Speaker 2: say this in a way without me feeling embarrassed, but 697 00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:15,320 Speaker 2: I need to say it because. 698 00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:20,160 Speaker 1: The feeling is overwhelming. But I like you. 699 00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:25,440 Speaker 2: I think you're super cool. I think you're somebody that 700 00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:30,480 Speaker 2: I could see myself with. And I also see that 701 00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:33,759 Speaker 2: there are problems with me saying this right now, because 702 00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,919 Speaker 2: you're about to leave for a year and I don't 703 00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:39,279 Speaker 2: know what that means, and maybe you don't like me 704 00:42:39,320 --> 00:42:41,839 Speaker 2: at all. Maybe this is all just maybe you could 705 00:42:41,840 --> 00:42:44,279 Speaker 2: shut it down right now, And maybe partly that's what 706 00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:47,360 Speaker 2: I'm looking for, is for you to say, oh, honey, 707 00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:51,360 Speaker 2: I don't have any kind of feelings for you, but 708 00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:55,200 Speaker 2: if you do, Can I be your pinpal way you're 709 00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:58,959 Speaker 2: in Slovakia? Could I be someone that you know Once 710 00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:01,200 Speaker 2: a week or so you hit me up on an 711 00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:03,319 Speaker 2: email and you tell me how things are going, and 712 00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:06,239 Speaker 2: i'd tell you how things are going over here. Then 713 00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:10,080 Speaker 2: maybe I could be someone that helps encourage you. Maybe 714 00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:12,200 Speaker 2: you're gonna be lonely in Slovakia. And I could be 715 00:43:12,239 --> 00:43:13,879 Speaker 2: there to just kind of give you a little pick 716 00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:17,520 Speaker 2: me up. If not, I just wanted to tell you 717 00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:19,680 Speaker 2: because I needed to get it off my heart. And 718 00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:24,239 Speaker 2: if you are that's someone, then I'm excited for you 719 00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:26,960 Speaker 2: to come back and see where the next coffee date 720 00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:30,359 Speaker 2: is going to be. Listen, dude, I don't think there's 721 00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:32,279 Speaker 2: anything wrong with that. I don't think. I don't think 722 00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:35,760 Speaker 2: that's moving at a pace it's too fast, or that's 723 00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:39,680 Speaker 2: unguarding your heart, that's opening up the security gates of 724 00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:40,360 Speaker 2: your heart. 725 00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:43,640 Speaker 1: I don't see that. So I think that there's nothing 726 00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:45,960 Speaker 1: wrong with you just being honest. 727 00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:49,160 Speaker 2: Now, if you said this, if you said, look, I 728 00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:52,759 Speaker 2: love you and I want to marry you, and I 729 00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:54,399 Speaker 2: don't feel like I should ever say that to someone 730 00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:56,400 Speaker 2: that I don't feel like I'm gonna marry and I 731 00:43:56,400 --> 00:43:57,840 Speaker 2: do feel like I'm going to marry you because I 732 00:43:57,880 --> 00:43:59,759 Speaker 2: love you. If you start saying that now, you're not 733 00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:02,680 Speaker 2: going your heart right. But all we're talking about is 734 00:44:02,719 --> 00:44:06,880 Speaker 2: coffee and just saying you like her, you think she's cool, 735 00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:08,440 Speaker 2: you'd like to get her to. 736 00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:11,000 Speaker 1: Know her a little bit more. I don't think. I 737 00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:12,359 Speaker 1: don't think there's anything wrong with that. 738 00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:16,239 Speaker 2: I appreciate you you opening up that story with me 739 00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:19,720 Speaker 2: and I wish you the best. Thank you. I appreciate 740 00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:21,799 Speaker 2: all you guys for your questions and that's all the 741 00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:24,719 Speaker 2: time we have. I'll see you next Monday. Thanks for 742 00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:28,040 Speaker 2: joining me on the Granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all. 743 00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:28,480 Speaker 1: Of you guys. 744 00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:31,440 Speaker 2: You could help me out by rating this podcast on iTunes. 745 00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:34,799 Speaker 2: If you're on YouTube, subscribe to this channel. Hit that 746 00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:38,239 Speaker 2: little like button and notification spell so that you never 747 00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:41,719 Speaker 2: miss anytime I upload a video. If you have a 748 00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:43,760 Speaker 2: question for me that you would like me to answer, 749 00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:51,880 Speaker 2: email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com.