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Speaker 2: Uh, you gotta check that blockchain, baby.

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Speaker 1: Just just dump it, dump it all in baby. So

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Speaker 1: about a year ago, I had no idea what read

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Speaker 1: it was like this weird app. He said a lot

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Speaker 1: choice of words. But the thing that sits with me

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Speaker 3: Grown, we won't be married. WHOA.

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Speaker 1: At the time, he wrote that we were having some issues.

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Speaker 3: You don't say it sounds like it.

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Speaker 1: Well, it comes from over recognition twenty seven oh seven

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Speaker 1: from the art size Okay storytimes over read it they say, Uh,

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Speaker 1: he controlled all the money and would give me and

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Speaker 1: the kids an allowance. I had no say in anything

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Speaker 1: and had no idea what was going on.

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Speaker 3: Red Flag.

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Speaker 1: I had been a ad home mom since twenty sixteen,

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Speaker 1: when our fourth child was born, but had supported myself

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Speaker 1: until twenty twenty one. Side Hustles won a court case

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Speaker 1: so we never shared finances. He paid the recurring bills,

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Speaker 1: But once that all slowed down in twenty twenty one,

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Speaker 1: that's when Big Daddy fully controlled all the money because

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Speaker 3: Course that the court case. Money's running now.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, sorry, big Daddy's in tork now. So in twenty seventeen,

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Speaker 1: he was having an affair, he said, how great it was.

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Speaker 4: What the god I wasn't ready for.

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Speaker 3: That, dude, what the twists the turns and you got

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Speaker 3: ten k in crypto that you just wiped out, Like

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Speaker 1: Haven't even gotten there yet. We haven't even gotten there,

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Speaker 1: but you know where we have gotten. Who is it

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Speaker 1: grandma who gave us their Grandma's got a pottymouth? On Thursday,

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Speaker 1: almost got a pottymouth, big shout out.

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Speaker 4: Thirty minutes already we unlocked it. Let's freaking go. So

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Speaker 4: he said how he felt like himself.

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Speaker 1: This really made me angry. He was taking online classes,

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Speaker 3: Yo. The tench CAD is the least of your concerns

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Speaker 1: Absolute least of like classic situation, right It's like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 4: We're like, uh, there's a lot more worse going on.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: He never got up at night with the kids, he

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Speaker 3: Sorry that part made me angry to read.

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Speaker 1: Loll Anyway, we worked it out, so I thought I

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Speaker 1: finally started living my best life and doing things for myself.

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Speaker 1: After that, went back to the gym, joined jiu jitsu.

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Speaker 1: He was treating me nice wins.

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Speaker 4: What could go wrong? I mean, everything is perfect?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, sure, all is good, everything's fine.

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Speaker 4: But then he's uh, then he's like, have another baby.

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Speaker 1: I match you, your your great life and things are

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Speaker 1: finally working with Push another one at your couter.

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Speaker 2: New baby unlocked. Yea, that'll fix everything.

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Speaker 1: So we did welcome sweet old vid baby in twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty one. Then I found out that he had taken

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Speaker 3: Let me make sure I got that.

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Speaker 1: Found out he had taken all of the twenty twenty

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Speaker 1: I've just read, he has dumped the entire UH savings account,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, the entire retirement fund went onto a sixteen leg

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Speaker 3: parlay that he missed. Dakota, Babe, we were gonna win

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Speaker 1: Let's hope the Browns win and doge coin goes through

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Speaker 4: You could try doing WNBA.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, just pick Caylen Clark over all the time.

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Speaker 1: That's true, that's true, But now he has no money.

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Speaker 1: He all the first bets.

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Speaker 1: So he continued to put more money into crypto until

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Speaker 1: single deposit, Ladies and gentlemen. He might have gotten some

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Speaker 2: Can someone say one eight hundred gambling?

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Speaker 4: Dude?

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Speaker 3: Is that a lot hotline? That's the number you call

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Speaker 3: where you do stuff like this? He needs it desperately,

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Speaker 1: Also, so twenty k a year in salary, twenty four

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Speaker 1: he was depositing one thousand dollars but getting an eight

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm That's what I believe I'm reading. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: He's like up. And then I got a great idea, Babe.

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Speaker 1: I asked for tires on her van and he told

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Speaker 4: Was she driving on rims for six months?

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Speaker 3: They were just bald bald tires? She was just drifting

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Speaker 4: Yeah? For real? I did? Uh?

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Speaker 5: I kept my tires like seven or nine years something

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Speaker 3: Will the same pair of tires?

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Speaker 5: I had the same one?

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Speaker 3: Where did you go? Like?

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Speaker 4: I went everywhere?

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Speaker 5: I would drive to the Bay Area, drive back.

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Speaker 4: I would guys, ever ever do that?

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Speaker 2: Or maybe just get the tires that John had.

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Speaker 3: But we changed it.

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Speaker 4: We're safe for safe, It's okay, don't do what I do.

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Speaker 3: We learn, We learn, We learned, we learned, we learned.

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Speaker 1: So uh so, finally I was like, when when is

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Speaker 4: Magic?

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Speaker 1: The next paycheck I got them, said said tires. I

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Speaker 1: him and I get our own accounts. Then we have

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Speaker 1: let's set it up, which seems like on the surface

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Speaker 2: Yeah, split, but it's like it's but split and everyone

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Speaker 4: Yes, there we go.

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Speaker 1: When we got back our when we got our taxes

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Speaker 1: So I think it's like, yeah, what they what they

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Speaker 1: the bills that is. The rest goes to him.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, this guy shouldn't be getting any money

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Speaker 4: Oh my god. Well, I mean what he does.

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Speaker 3: We know what he does. I don't even think he's

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Speaker 4: Hit the crypto and gamble. He's working.

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Speaker 2: Oh is it working. It's just that's all he does.

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Speaker 1: And and he's like saving that to when she's like

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Speaker 5: That was actually my winnings.

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Speaker 4: I know, actually I know a guy that gets three

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Speaker 3: Oh that's definitely not so he could be back to

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Speaker 3: haunt him. I'm sure no one is going to look

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Speaker 3: for that money. Oh, man, tell your friend to be

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Speaker 1: Riley, you'll figure it out. This is this is great.

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Speaker 1: Just get a lawyer. That's two hundred dollars a day.

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Speaker 1: But I did start saying, I'm not buying all of

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Speaker 1: What is that sixty eight a year? He's keeping sixty

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Speaker 1: So when stuff started breaking and he said that we

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do it.

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Speaker 5: I don't get to see anything.

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Speaker 1: Everything seemed to be out of control at this point,

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Speaker 1: but that's all I had a saying, it's just like

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Speaker 5: Just shows no trust in the relationship.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is this is like control control free, just.

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Speaker 1: Like abusive control, like financial abuse what chat always tells us, Yeah.

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Speaker 4: And you just said it in the chat.

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Speaker 3: I did not know about this one.

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Speaker 1: He actually had two of them, So I think, great,

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Speaker 3: I forgot about that, we forgot about.

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Speaker 1: We were literally so in like financial abuse world, you know,

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Speaker 4: Remember when we were like, wow, this affair is crazy.

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Speaker 4: We haven't even got to the money part yet.

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Speaker 3: Just completely ours. Now the money part is so crazy,

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Speaker 3: we completely forget about the affair. Leave him, leave this man.

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Speaker 3: Just just take your children, no matter how much money

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Speaker 3: he makes. You're better off without this. Guys, guys, While.

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Speaker 1: Matt Hattergill says, I'm sorry the moment someone, regardless if

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Speaker 3: Literally just get get out of there, take the kids

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Speaker 3: and go to a state where there's no online gambling.

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Speaker 1: and the Bahamas will leg it, you know, like it's

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Speaker 1: I look like him, freaking out, Can I see the

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Speaker 3: Sleep?

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Speaker 4: Please?

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Speaker 1: No, He's like, no, you can't see the cell phone bill.

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Speaker 1: Then I started thinking, well, if he doesn't want me

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Speaker 1: and he had begun depositing money into sports betting.

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Speaker 3: Again.

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Speaker 1: This has been going on for a year. I've been

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't do this. You need to be

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Speaker 3: Oh oh my, uh oh. They're physically hurt, you know what.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like goosebumps of like anger. I didn't know

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Speaker 1: An angry goose.

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Speaker 5: That's an angry freaking goose of my friend.

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Speaker 3: Dude, No, you don't have to. I mean this guy,

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Speaker 3: maybe this guy is just so locked in. He really is.

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Speaker 3: He's like, you need to change because I'm over here

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Speaker 4: So it's actually talking about so we're gonna get back.

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Speaker 1: There is more to the story, Ladies, and gentlemen, as

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Speaker 1: much as I shape to say it. But before we

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Speaker 1: get to that, how do you think op should leave?

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Speaker 1: Because this is a pretty insane, like she doesn't have

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Speaker 1: Like what do you think that plan of action is?

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Speaker 3: That's dude, that's really that's I think family needs to

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Speaker 3: laws too, yes, and be like your boy is ruining

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Speaker 4: And then you get a statistic of how many think

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Speaker 4: he is starting an affair and how many are not.

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Speaker 3: Get a pot together, and then yeah, you make against.

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Speaker 5: Yes, that is so funny. That is hilarious.

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Speaker 2: A fair, A fair already leave a fair?

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah, so it's but to your point, it's like, hey,

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Speaker 1: get like probably a home for you and the kids

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Speaker 1: to sleep out, probably you're in laws. Uh uh. You

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Speaker 1: like probably take it sounds like a crap car, but

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Speaker 1: take take the car, take whatever you can. And then

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Speaker 1: also we've heard this in other stories from from a

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Speaker 1: lot of great comments in chat, talking to a divorce

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Speaker 1: lawyer and asking them what are the what's like immediate

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Speaker 1: shortlist of anything that you need, like, for instance, evidence

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Speaker 1: of the cheating, so that way in the divorce trial

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Speaker 1: you can show, oh, there was infidelity. Yes, give me

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Speaker 1: give me that alimony.

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Speaker 3: Yes, receipts.

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Speaker 4: Receipt You need the receipts.

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Speaker 3: If you're gonna do anything legally, you always got to

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Speaker 3: have the receipts. Remember that, folks.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I like this plan. Get with the in laws.

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Speaker 1: Make sure you're squared away. Talk to a lawyer.

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Speaker 4: Ditcham yeah, ditch.

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Speaker 3: Maybe you can like make a scheme with the in

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're like, hey, we're gonna we're gonna match your bet,

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Speaker 1: but you have to send just wire to us and

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Speaker 1: we'll place for you.

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Speaker 5: He might just do it.

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Speaker 3: He might just do it. The in laws are also

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Speaker 5: That's so tragic.

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Speaker 1: Whoa oo, Bree wild Bear, thanks for the fifty bucker, Rooneyes.

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Speaker 1: Just a quick fifty piece, dude, I got. I get

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Speaker 1: paid this Thursday, so let's go. Okay, fame guys, let's go.

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Speaker 1: Not even Thursday. Pre wild Bear is giving us generosity

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Speaker 1: in a pre generosity.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this is insane. Wild Bear Christmas game two days early. Dude,

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Speaker 3: it really did.

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Speaker 4: They also donated an earlier ten dude.

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Speaker 1: Brees has first time on the donor link, tipping for

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Speaker 1: Dakota's stay on the stream. But love you, guys is

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Speaker 1: a Dakota. I won't even say it, but I think

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Speaker 1: Chad knows what I was about to say. Dakota might

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Speaker 1: then they'll start rallying. You know, they're rallying, cry Dakota

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Speaker 3: Dirt, dirt, dirt.

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Speaker 1: You'll see dirt dirt. I think I'll think we'll say

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Speaker 1: it at some point, but big Choud de Brie, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: thanks Brie. One step closer to getting another thirty minutes.

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Speaker 1: Let's freaking out, go the guys.

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Speaker 3: We're not done here.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god. Okay, it's not over.

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Speaker 1: So I'm finally like, fine, let me pick my dang

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Speaker 1: suffering trial because I cannot go on like this. I

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Speaker 1: the chaos. I was sitting upstairs all day reading through

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Speaker 1: text messages and it broke me. Begging this man just

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Speaker 1: to lead our family. Just I think I think that's lead.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like, beggar, please be a man.

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Speaker 1: Be a man, be a man, you could be a

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Speaker 1: Stop betting on the Cleveland Browns.

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Speaker 4: They're not winners. Be an involved dad, and bet at

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Speaker 4: your kids sporting games. Yeah, there we go.

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Speaker 3: Bet on your children, small scale, small scale, five dollars,

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Speaker 3: small scale. Stop betting the entire tax return, stop betting the.

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Speaker 4: Four oh one k oh and you want a new kid,

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Speaker 4: bet at the gender revial party. There we go. So yeah,

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Speaker 4: that's honestly, we just removing together. I just want to

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Speaker 1: Yeah right, yeah, it's like, what what do we have

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Speaker 1: to do to get this guy in here? So I'm

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Speaker 4: I left?

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Speaker 3: How op he says, it's like all the time. It's funny.

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Speaker 1: I didn't ask him to give him his page. I

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Speaker 1: Was I wrong for asking? He said he doesn't want

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Speaker 1: What was I supposed to do? Then I read that

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Speaker 1: he's so relieved to be divorcing. By the way, we

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Speaker 1: precisely at three pm PSC who can join our lives

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Speaker 1: and listen get all the relief in the world.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what else to tell you. That's right,

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Speaker 3: I don't know what else to tell you.

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Speaker 1: But back to op, she says he never even made

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Speaker 1: saying he was avoiding conflict. I told him I was

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Speaker 1: lonely because he never did anything with me. He told

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Speaker 3: Oh no, no, sir, you don't get to do that.

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Speaker 4: Also, he was like, you asked for another one, So like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: what are we?

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Speaker 3: What are we talking about?

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Speaker 1: So I am in this spicy, sleepless, loveless marriage and

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Speaker 3: I could have been I could have been.

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Speaker 1: More loving and compassionate this last year, but that's hard

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Speaker 3: Of fight or flight. That's correct.

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Speaker 1: I don't want a divorce, but I also feel like

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Speaker 1: there's no way to have sustained that.

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Speaker 4: I feel like if he I feel like.

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Speaker 1: He wanted the divorce, he just didn't want to be

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Speaker 3: And I am so dang sad. Honestly, I'm confused, Like, is.

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Speaker 5: This my fault.

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Speaker 4: Let's just super quickly answer this question.

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Speaker 2: No, yes, Riley, Riley.

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Speaker 3: Fry. She could have left Riley right, say okay, okay, nah,

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Speaker 3: thank you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean this is this is just a a uh

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Speaker 1: just just but it's it's the the reality distortion field.

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Speaker 1: It's the I have to break out into his world.

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Speaker 1: And you know what, uh, she has no money.

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Speaker 3: He has.

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Speaker 1: He has literally like stopped her from from from having

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Speaker 1: he doesn't want abuse.

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Speaker 5: It's like the financial abuse.

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Speaker 3: You have that control. Now you know she can't leave

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Speaker 3: because it's for so long now she's been taking care

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Speaker 3: she's really making herself, right, Yeah, I mean so in

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: If I leave now, we don't have any money, and

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Speaker 3: are they going to give the kids to him instead

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Speaker 3: of me? And it's like that's where the like we

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Speaker 3: said earlier, the attorney involved get the receipts on the

445
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Speaker 3: infidelity boom, like the fact that what a sweetie pie

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Speaker 3: staying with a guy who cheated on you, like for

447
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Speaker 3: the kids, probably for the kids, but like you're too sweet.

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Speaker 5: No, it's it's it's it's the hardest no.

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Speaker 2: Ever salty salty salty.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Salt Bay for you. But I think, yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: the plan. I think that's the best plan. And hopefully

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Speaker 1: you actually leaves.

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Speaker 3: We don't know, yeah, I mean might be something needs

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Speaker 3: to be planned out over time.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 3: It's like it's hard to try to leave with no

457
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Speaker 3: safety net, right, sort of like how you get out

458
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Speaker 3: of debt and you make a plan. This is what

459
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Speaker 3: you have to do in this situation. Look, at that. Hey, true,

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Speaker 3: Riley Riley Financial Financial, Riley Ben Riley, the bank, the

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Speaker 3: Bank Church of Riley.

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Speaker 4: It's just a bank of love.

463
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Speaker 1: I was subscribed to that, the Love Bank, the Love Bank,

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Speaker 1: the Love Bank is here.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, it worked.

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Speaker 4: Whoa did you see that animation?

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Speaker 3: What did you see that?

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Speaker 4: That is something that Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: Oh Riley gets excited. I can't I can't ever tell

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Speaker 3: if he's just excited or in pain. Yes, dude, oh.

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Speaker 4: My god, my god, shout. Okay, we got a lot

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Speaker 4: of donations.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's start, let's start right, Dakota take it all

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Speaker 1: right from ighty five five smackaroons.

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Speaker 3: Just wanted to check it if the what is that bugs?

476
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Speaker 3: The bugs can be used in donations. But hey, you

477
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Speaker 3: are all amazing.

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Speaker 1: Thank you live stream developers. Yeah, for the man himself,

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Speaker 1: we've got a lot of we'll give you back that

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Speaker 1: five bucks.

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Speaker 3: Out of put it on your page. A d Welcome

482
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Speaker 3: to the Nights. I was gonna bring a sword so

483
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Speaker 3: I can go shing shing when we do this, but

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Speaker 3: I'll have to bring it for next time. I got

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Speaker 3: a sword you can borrow Yeah, okay, well I'll borrow

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Speaker 3: it later. Is it come?

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Speaker 2: On guys. I really thought for a second. I was like, wait,

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Speaker 2: does he.

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Speaker 3: Actually have a sword? We actually do, like legitimately have one. Okay,

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Speaker 3: well actually I know that we do. Yeah, okay, uh

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Speaker 3: Saturn emotionless. Remember for four months? I like that name,

492
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,439
Speaker 3: like the stream. Also love you guys. Been a fan

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Speaker 3: since COVID when you were on TikTok when it was

494
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Speaker 3: purple background and orange.

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Speaker 1: Unify, that's a real one certified certified Young Saturn motionless.

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Speaker 1: Everyone says, oh, we've been a fan forever. That's certified,

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Speaker 1: that ctified uh mad hatter goal member for seven months.

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Speaker 1: Well it's been seven months since I've joined this community.

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Speaker 1: Not only am I back from vacation in San Diego,

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Speaker 1: but also engaged.

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Speaker 4: Congratulations. Can you put the ring or all the things

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Speaker 4: in the discord?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the the yeah, the ring pick? Yeah yeah yeah,

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Speaker 1: drop it into discord? Do you mind if I put

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Speaker 1: this here for now? O?

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Speaker 3: Cool?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: Ahead? God? Uh wait there was another one. No yes,

511
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Speaker 3: because you gave us ten piece. I am sorry. The moment,

512
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Speaker 3: someone regardless if they are your partner or not, I

513
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:46,280
Speaker 3: would have to check the numbers right there and then

514
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Speaker 3: no one should live like this even when the kids

515
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Speaker 3: are around. Did say that actually, but said it again.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, mad Hatal. Congratulations on your engagement. Yeah, and

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Speaker 3: we got a five dollars from Amy. H Is Sam

518
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:03,960
Speaker 3: doing more I'm the scene stuff. Seems like he's not

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00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 3: on Live much the past few weeks. Uh, don't worry.

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00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,160
Speaker 3: Still love the rest of you. Well, we love you too.

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Speaker 1: Uh. Sam is cooking something up. He's I will tell

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Speaker 1: you one thing. He is flying to New York this

523
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Speaker 1: week and we're working on something very special, very new.

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Speaker 3: Uh.

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Speaker 4: That's all I'm gonna say.

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Speaker 3: Right now.

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Speaker 1: They say, look at say I'm flying you can you can?

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Speaker 1: You can theorize and chat if you want. What's a

529
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:36,800
Speaker 1: good what's a good guess? I should give the people.

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Speaker 3: From a hint, give him little hint.

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Speaker 5: He's flying to New York.

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Speaker 1: That's that's I'll give you one more, very very vague one,

533
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Speaker 1: because that's already a hint.

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Speaker 2: He's going to play for the New York Yankees.

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Speaker 1: He's going to talk to some strangers. M He's gonna

536
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Speaker 1: fly to New York and talk to strangers.

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Speaker 3: That's it.

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Speaker 1: That's that's it. That's all I'm gonna say. No way,

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Speaker 1: nothing more.

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Speaker 5: I don't even know this.

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Speaker 3: Now I'm.

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Speaker 5: Nothing more.

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Speaker 3: Okay, next I think is next as Joseph Josephine, our

544
00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 3: favorite favorite Swede with a twenty seven Swedish coroner. Run girl,

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00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 3: Run run and do not look back. Run run fast.

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Speaker 4: Agreed, Thank you? Agreed.

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Speaker 3: Another ten bucks from Matt hatter Gal. I am sorry

548
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:27,320
Speaker 3: John to rain on your parade. But knowing how this

549
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:31,320
Speaker 3: guy's work, even if the judge tells him to pay, ope,

550
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Speaker 3: he will drag his feet or not even pay at all.

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00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 3: He does sound like the guy who would be a

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Speaker 3: scumbag and ignore the court order.

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00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 4: That's true.

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Speaker 3: Addie five, Welcome to the Knights. Let's go. You've been

555
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Speaker 3: a knight. Uh five dollars from Angie. Thank you Angie.

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Speaker 3: By the way, okay, storytime can give us a lot

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Speaker 3: of relief. John hi Uh, y'all had a lot of

558
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:57,320
Speaker 3: people worried with the lateness of the stream. Where's our relief?

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00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 4: The relief was we started with got a new machine.

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00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:03,160
Speaker 3: We were we had a new machine in the building.

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00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:06,080
Speaker 1: We are trying to handle all of the cool stream

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00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 1: things that we do. Riley uh fantastically got this computer

563
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 1: upgraded and but it's it's literally we just we just

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00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:17,040
Speaker 1: we just crammed new parts of this thing, booted it up,

565
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 1: and you know it's, uh, it's trying to figure it

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00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 1: its way out. You know, it's like, if you got

567
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 1: new legs, are you running the next day?

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00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:26,400
Speaker 3: If you've got new legs, Lieutenant Dan, you got new

569
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 3: l Come on, you're like, are you just kidding up?

570
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 3: Just sprinting? No, you're not.

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00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 1: You have to right, you gotta practice standing up, you

572
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:35,399
Speaker 1: gotta walk, then you can go.

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00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:38,040
Speaker 3: I made this thing effing sprint. The second guy here,

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00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:40,760
Speaker 3: you have to play. New Legs by John exists. Play

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00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:44,640
Speaker 3: but you're not sprinted on day one, makes five gifted

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Speaker 3: story okay, storytime memberships on another, Oh my sixty five Corona,

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00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 3: Give me an L, give me an E, give me

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00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:58,879
Speaker 3: an hey, give me an E, give me an E.

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Speaker 3: What's that spell? Leave? Go oh pee go leave this man.

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00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 1: I should have jumped in, but then the moment passed.

581
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:12,520
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I know, I know, I dropped

582
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 1: the ball. That's okay, it's okay.

583
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:17,240
Speaker 4: You remember that SNL skit. I scream, you scream, we

584
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:23,920
Speaker 4: all scream, and then they just vagina cream.

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00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay.

586
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:27,679
Speaker 4: The skit was basically they did a branded sponsorship with

587
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:28,520
Speaker 4: a vagina cream.

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00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 2: You know how many skits there are in SNL?

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00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 4: For you?

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00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:32,800
Speaker 3: You remember that skit from SNL?

591
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 4: But no, no, it was the raw raw. I knew

592
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 4: what you were talking about.

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00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 3: You. I didn't remember that line.

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00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:41,719
Speaker 5: It has Will Ferrell in it, right, Yes it does.

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00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 3: Yes, there we go. I got you, I got you,

596
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 3: big dog. It sounds like the best era.

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Speaker 1: Bree Wilde Bear, Welcome to the Nights, Tina.

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Speaker 3: M remember for four months? Wow? Forty five minutes late?

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00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 3: Is that a record? You stress your fans out?

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00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 1: Guys? Oh, we had to stop stressing the fans on

601
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 1: our GPU, which is we're literally breaking guys. It just

602
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 1: wasn't Here's here's the question. Did you want a stream today?

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00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 1: Did you want our computer to melt down and then

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00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 1: we have to wait two weeks before we can do another. No, no, no,

605
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 1: not at all, guys. Our computer so many amazing, so

606
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 1: many amazing people here. Our computer gets pushed to the

607
00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 1: brink every day. So we had Now it's got like

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Speaker 1: a twelve pack. Yeah, exactly, it's got so many abs.

609
00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:28,400
Speaker 1: You're like, where do those abs go?

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00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:29,160
Speaker 4: Exactly?

611
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 3: Didn't we have that art our street?

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00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:31,960
Speaker 4: No?

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00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:34,280
Speaker 2: That was with Sam. We're talking about abs down the leg.

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00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 1: That's a different We're we're not gonna go back down

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Speaker 1: that road body horror.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, do you have any more timbling? No, we're

617
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Speaker 4: gonna go the next one. You know what that means?

618
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Speaker 4: The coda, big d who.

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Speaker 3: Lett's go.

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Speaker 4: Dose.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm gonna take that, guys. Uh, we all know

622
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 3: where this hat's from, right, it's from the nameless. We

623
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Speaker 3: do that that will remain nameless, the Swedish furniture store.

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00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 3: That will remain nameless until they officially sponsored the show.

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00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 3: And you know who can get that done?

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Speaker 1: You?

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Speaker 4: That's true?

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Speaker 3: Bomb to Twitter?

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Speaker 1: Bomb, No, no, no, not like the wrong word came

630
00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 1: out first. I was supposed to say Twitter first.

631
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Speaker 3: Just send them comments, send them tweets, call them, call

632
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Speaker 3: their headquarters. Don't send what I said first to the headquarters,

633
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 3: but call them. Let them know.

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Speaker 4: We wouldn't get it. They'd be we definitely.

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Speaker 2: They know that I misspoke. Show them my Swedish accent.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I will work.

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Speaker 2: I will learn Swedish for that. The nameless, I'll do it.

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00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 5: Go ahead and do it so funny.

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00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 2: I can't do it right now?

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Speaker 4: Okay, are you ready do it.

641
00:30:56,120 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 3: My wife found out I secretly spent twenty two thousand stuff,

642
00:31:02,280 --> 00:31:04,880
Speaker 3: so now she wants to see my other bank account.

643
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 3: Sounds innocent to me, sounds like you've done nothing wrong.

644
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 3: My wife doesn't know. I'm sorry. My wife doesn't like

645
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 3: how much time indoor money I spend on my hobbies,

646
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 3: which are primarily related to outdoor sports, archery, equipment, bicycles, optics,

647
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:27,160
Speaker 3: shity bang bang stuff, clothes, bags, et cetera. My hobbies

648
00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 3: take up a lot of my mental time, but given

649
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:33,040
Speaker 3: my parenting and household duties, I honestly don't get much

650
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:35,600
Speaker 3: time to actually participate in them. I went to an

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00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 3: archery shoot over the weekend for half a day. I

652
00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 3: do some archery practice in the garage once every few

653
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 3: nights after everyone is asleep. I might take some time

654
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 3: off work midweek once a month to do something, and

655
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 3: then spend at most half a day once per weekend

656
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,800
Speaker 3: during hunting season for two months. This guy's got his

657
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 3: hobbies planned.

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Speaker 4: Out to at Bro's going bananas respect.

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Speaker 3: Straight banana And by the way, this comes from user

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Speaker 3: deleted account on the r slash Okay story time, So

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Speaker 3: I read it so I haven't ridden my bicycle in

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Speaker 3: any significant amount for nearly a year now and a

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Speaker 3: year ago I was taking a two hour ride once

664
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 3: per weekend. Okay, years before that, and before we were married,

665
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 3: I might have spent all day diving or spearfishing three

666
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 3: times a month. Who is this guy, like.

667
00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 1: The the President of Australia or something like, he's he

668
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:32,960
Speaker 1: does everything. He is the President of Australia. Do you

669
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 1: like to be President of Australia? You gotta do a

670
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 1: lot of extreme.

671
00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 3: Actiony stuff.

672
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:44,680
Speaker 1: In the krocky but gutt in spafishing, sparefishing in the outs,

673
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 1: and then we're gonna go, okay, cliff diving and then spare.

674
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 2: Fishing at the same time.

675
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 3: Catch a water bad it?

676
00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:54,520
Speaker 4: Yeah?

677
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:56,600
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, they got bears in Australia. I don't know

678
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 3: about that. They would come here to catch their bears. Okay, anyway,

679
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 3: so this guy is an action hero. But once we

680
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 3: got married, I couldn't, you know, spearfish three times a month.

681
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:11,440
Speaker 3: I had a child and hobbies and transition to things

682
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:13,800
Speaker 3: that I could do close to home, like land hunting

683
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 3: or together like cycling and skiing. Shit. Oh uh, even

684
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:23,480
Speaker 3: now it feels like pulling teeth and I don't get

685
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 3: any actual support or encouragement to do the things I enjoy.

686
00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 2: Well, you know, before I say anything, let's just keep going.

687
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 3: Let's keep going because I can't participate in my activities

688
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:41,440
Speaker 3: as much as I would like. I participate by buying

689
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 3: stuff related to the activities which I don't get to

690
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 3: use as much as I want. A new bow, new optics,

691
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:51,000
Speaker 3: new clothes, new dive gear, scopes, bicycle equipment, et cetera.

692
00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, hey buddy, I'm going ahead and tell

693
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:56,280
Speaker 1: you right now, that's just wasting money.

694
00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 5: Simmer downs, simmer down.

695
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 3: You're looking for the dope, mean hit of like buying

696
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 3: a new shiny toy. Maybe get your dopamine from raising

697
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 3: your children, right, No, possible, impossible. I'm an archer, cliff diver,

698
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 3: spear hunting, helicopter spear spearing an Australian bear. No bet feeling, mate,

699
00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:23,280
Speaker 3: That's why there's no bears in Australia's because he's spearfished exactly.

700
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 3: That's what I fear hunted all of the bears out

701
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:25,880
Speaker 3: of Australia.

702
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 5: That's what I was saying. Chat, But you can you

703
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:27,799
Speaker 5: can still.

704
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:33,839
Speaker 3: It's okay, okay, So he goes on, essentially going on

705
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 3: gear binges to optimize my equipment that you don't really

706
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:42,640
Speaker 3: get to use anymore. My wife would never approve of

707
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:45,440
Speaker 3: these purchases, so I hid them from her by setting

708
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:48,800
Speaker 3: up a separate account and depositing cash payments I received

709
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 3: from my clients. Oh my gosh. When she noticed something

710
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:54,760
Speaker 3: new arrived, I would just tell her that I traded

711
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 3: or sold something else, which wasn't always false. That's a

712
00:34:58,840 --> 00:35:01,400
Speaker 3: really cute way of saying, you're lying to your wife.

713
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:06,399
Speaker 3: I'm basically completely truthful. I'm basically truthful all the time,

714
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 3: except for the times did I lie? Okay, place, And

715
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:13,919
Speaker 3: that's the truth. I'm telling the truth. I never lie

716
00:35:14,040 --> 00:35:19,239
Speaker 3: except when I do. Okay, all told. It adds up

717
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 3: to twenty two thousand dollars in purchases since late twenty

718
00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:26,520
Speaker 3: twenty one, and maybe three to four thousand in items

719
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:30,320
Speaker 3: sold and deposited to the account. So the purchases increased

720
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 3: pretty significantly in the past year or so, which I

721
00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 3: would attribute to me trying to find a dopamine source

722
00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 3: while I was dealing with a stressful job raising a child,

723
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 3: a pregnancy we terminated because it was nearly killing her

724
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:46,400
Speaker 3: and then conception problems are now halfway through a pregnancy

725
00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 3: that is nearly as bad as the other two. Feels

726
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 3: go out to you for that. That is very rare

727
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:55,840
Speaker 3: for sure, and it you know, it does make sense

728
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:57,880
Speaker 3: as to I know people who it's like they'd like

729
00:35:57,920 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 3: to spend money when things are stressful, and it's like, yeah,

730
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:02,239
Speaker 3: it's because it does give you that dopamine and it

731
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 3: makes things feel a little bit better in the moment.

732
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:06,840
Speaker 1: It's like the cousin to hurt people, hurt people like

733
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:09,279
Speaker 1: uh or you know, you shouldn't be allowed to hurt

734
00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:11,800
Speaker 1: people because you're hurt people like you.

735
00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 5: You can't going through things.

736
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 1: You can't just like blow especially you and your partner's money,

737
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:20,759
Speaker 1: right and hide that from her. Yeah, you know, it's

738
00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:23,239
Speaker 1: like that doesn't that doesn't give you the license to do.

739
00:36:23,239 --> 00:36:24,600
Speaker 3: I mean, I think you know once you're because I

740
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 3: think he's saying it's like money from his clients, I

741
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 3: guess from his job. But once you're married and like

742
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:31,800
Speaker 3: you have a kid, like your money is her money,

743
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 3: it's like completely together money.

744
00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:37,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, like you wouldn't know how my grandpa uses

745
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 4: his money. Let's go to me, how does he do it,

746
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:42,839
Speaker 4: so he has bonuses and then he has checks he gets.

747
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 4: I don't think he really sees the checks that he gets.

748
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:47,480
Speaker 4: He uses it for like bills and everything, but all

749
00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 4: the bonuses he gets it, and like he keeps it

750
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 4: and he cashes it and he just uses that to

751
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 4: live off of really.

752
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 3: Just off the bonus.

753
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:59,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, and he like buys guns and gets Ammo

754
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 4: and like does whatever with that money.

755
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 3: It's all just a bonus for Grandpa Riley.

756
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:08,680
Speaker 1: Every time Riley tells me a story, I'm like, it's

757
00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:11,799
Speaker 1: it's this is Riley, this is this is Riley, this

758
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:13,880
Speaker 1: is Riley's relative, this is whatever it is, like, this

759
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:14,600
Speaker 1: is Riley.

760
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 4: Riley lives up to his name. He does beautiful thing

761
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 4: he does does any but I could see like I'm

762
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:22,080
Speaker 4: like not really like too mad about this story because

763
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:23,360
Speaker 4: like my grandpa does this.

764
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:26,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, after after hearing this, it's like, well,

765
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:28,439
Speaker 3: now that that makes a little more sense why it's

766
00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 3: ramped up recently.

767
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:33,160
Speaker 2: Yes, it hurt people, hurt people, Stressed people buy stuff.

768
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:33,880
Speaker 4: That's true.

769
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:35,799
Speaker 5: Stress people buy stuff one hundred percent.

770
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:39,919
Speaker 3: Okay, So to continue on here, from her perspective, I'm

771
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:44,560
Speaker 3: lying and cheating, which I get. I'm definitely lying and

772
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 3: committing financial infidelity. I've never heard that before. Yeah, I

773
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,959
Speaker 3: know it's not giving her any assurance, but I've given

774
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:56,239
Speaker 3: her access to absolutely everything I have, but she still

775
00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 3: doesn't believe me. Well you've lost the trust, buddy.

776
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:00,320
Speaker 4: Yeah.

777
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:02,399
Speaker 3: Can I just circle back and quickly say, I feel

778
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 3: like financial infidelity would be spending money on strippers for

779
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:05,879
Speaker 3: other people.

780
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:09,720
Speaker 2: Or do we have to say spicy dancer.

781
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:12,759
Speaker 4: Let's say like you have a sugar mama and your

782
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:15,279
Speaker 4: partner doesn't, and you're getting money for that for just

783
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:17,200
Speaker 4: like going to dinner or like whatever.

784
00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 1: Yeah that Yeah, it's like if you have a sugar baby,

785
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:22,440
Speaker 1: but you're not like, actually you know the people that

786
00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 1: you just pay for dates or whatever?

787
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 2: You right, if your platonic sugar baby is paying you money?

788
00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:30,520
Speaker 3: Yeah right, all right? Yeah, moving on, got a little

789
00:38:30,560 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 3: loss of the weeds there, right, Okay, gave her all

790
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:39,000
Speaker 3: the access, right, absolutely everything, and she does not believe me,

791
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:41,719
Speaker 3: and without defending my actions. But to put all this

792
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 3: into perspective, the amount of money I spent is a

793
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 3: rounding error for our finances overall. It's around one percent

794
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 3: of our total assets. Five percent of our annual net

795
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 3: income and three percent of our annual gross net income

796
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:00,799
Speaker 3: if you compare what I spend in a given year.

797
00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:04,640
Speaker 2: All right, so op, he's making a lot of money.

798
00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:07,239
Speaker 1: Opie's making four hundred and forty thousand dollars a year

799
00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 1: by my calculation.

800
00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 3: I mean, you know, just because you're making that much money, though,

801
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:14,480
Speaker 3: doesn't mean you can just blow twenty thousand dollars on

802
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:19,400
Speaker 3: gear you're not gonna use. But go ahead, I disagree.

803
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:22,879
Speaker 3: I think he can, yes to tell the wife.

804
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:26,280
Speaker 4: Right there there we go, like like the fact that

805
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 4: he was.

806
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 1: Like taking taking cash and like doing this whole separate account,

807
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:33,400
Speaker 1: like you know that that's it's it's not even that

808
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:36,239
Speaker 1: it's like necessarily quote unquote wrong, but like you know

809
00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 1: that your wife would have a problem with it.

810
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:39,760
Speaker 5: You just need to go to the wife.

811
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:45,240
Speaker 4: But what if it's a rush away from her saying

812
00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 4: so good, no, Riley can't pay. The bills are being paid.

813
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 4: It's just his little dirty secret, John, John, this feather

814
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:56,400
Speaker 4: on this bow is so nice on this arrow.

815
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:58,960
Speaker 1: But you know what, and you know what what the

816
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:01,400
Speaker 1: tables could have totally been turned where if he went

817
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:03,839
Speaker 1: to her and he's like Hey, listen, I make four

818
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:05,640
Speaker 1: hundred and forty thousand dolls a year. I would have spend

819
00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 1: twenty two thousand dollars a year on like uh, stupid

820
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 1: stupid little stuff. It won't have any parents on like

821
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,239
Speaker 1: anything our child, you anything else.

822
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 3: Uh.

823
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:16,759
Speaker 1: And it's the money he brings in. It's She's then like,

824
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:21,359
Speaker 1: how dare you? Absolutely no way. Then it's like, well,

825
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:24,319
Speaker 1: then that's you with the problem and you should not

826
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,840
Speaker 1: have an issue with me doing that. He could have

827
00:40:26,920 --> 00:40:27,880
Speaker 1: been all in the clear.

828
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 2: You need to have just the conversation up front.

829
00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 3: Tell her why you feel transparent.

830
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:37,239
Speaker 2: You're like, I'm kind of I think we're all going.

831
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:40,920
Speaker 3: Through it here in the house. And sometimes daddy just

832
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:42,840
Speaker 3: needs a new bow and air. Let's do that.

833
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 1: He's not gonna use. Can we like give you twenty

834
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:46,759
Speaker 1: thousand dollars year for new shoes and new stuff? And

835
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 1: then we're both and then it's ten percent? But it

836
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:49,680
Speaker 1: makes us happy.

837
00:40:49,880 --> 00:41:00,400
Speaker 3: Lot of machines, So bloody retro, I know what? All right? Anyways,

838
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:02,839
Speaker 3: you're such a giggler, Riley.

839
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:06,359
Speaker 4: So cute.

840
00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:07,719
Speaker 5: Okay, So.

841
00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 3: Mister money bags over here is only spending about five

842
00:41:12,719 --> 00:41:16,760
Speaker 3: percent of his annual income. I know I hide spending

843
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:19,000
Speaker 3: the money because I know she doesn't want me to

844
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:21,800
Speaker 3: spend it, and I get really resentful that she doesn't

845
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:25,520
Speaker 3: want me spending money on my hobbies. The first time

846
00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:27,880
Speaker 3: she caught me, she said we had to agree on

847
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 3: every single purchase either of us made yes. From my perspective,

848
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 3: this meant that she got full control because I know

849
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 3: that her spending will never be a problem for me,

850
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:39,880
Speaker 3: and I even push her to spend money on herself.

851
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:42,120
Speaker 3: The second time she caught me, she said I could

852
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 3: spend fifty dollars a month on unapproved hobby purchases because

853
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:49,640
Speaker 3: she felt guilty about being so restrictive. Again, this caused

854
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:52,359
Speaker 3: resentment because I felt like I had no control over

855
00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:54,720
Speaker 3: my finances or the money I earned, So I eventually

856
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:58,560
Speaker 3: started sneaking purchases, which snowballed.

857
00:41:58,800 --> 00:42:01,200
Speaker 4: Made me feel bad, but yeah, gave me a rush.

858
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:04,880
Speaker 3: I think, I think, maybe like this all is just

859
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 3: from him, not He's like, I don't even want to

860
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 3: try to have this conversation with my wife because I

861
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 3: know she's gonna just say no. But you can't. You

862
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:15,360
Speaker 3: can't do that. You gotta still have the convo and

863
00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:17,440
Speaker 3: then be like, you know, at the end of the day,

864
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:19,919
Speaker 3: if it's like, fine, Okay, I won't spend twenty thousand dollars,

865
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:23,439
Speaker 3: maybe I'll spend five. Wait, I'm not spending fifty dollars though.

866
00:42:23,680 --> 00:42:26,800
Speaker 4: Yeah. Question, But if you have a joint bank account

867
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:29,759
Speaker 4: with your significant other, what's the limit before you have

868
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,319
Speaker 4: a conversation with each other, Like if you have a

869
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 4: purchase of one hundred bucks, you have to check with

870
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:35,400
Speaker 4: the person, or over one hundred bucks.

871
00:42:35,200 --> 00:42:37,760
Speaker 1: I would say, well, I mean I would be relative

872
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 1: to like everyone's financial systation.

873
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:41,280
Speaker 4: I'd say you right now, if you had a partner.

874
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:44,600
Speaker 3: If I was, if I was in this exact situation,

875
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:47,120
Speaker 3: we were making this much money, I would probably be

876
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 3: like a thousand anything over a thousand bucks, like let

877
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 3: me know.

878
00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:54,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, honestly, I would say me and Sam's marriage,

879
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:57,959
Speaker 1: we have a pretty good setup, and we always thanked

880
00:42:58,000 --> 00:42:58,439
Speaker 1: each other.

881
00:42:58,680 --> 00:42:59,840
Speaker 4: Hey, I'm gonna get.

882
00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 1: This and it works great, like honestly, like, yeah, anything

883
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 1: over like a few hundred dollars or sometimes even less,

884
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:10,759
Speaker 1: Like we just have a very big philosophy of just

885
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 1: like sending it to each other just just so we're

886
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:15,800
Speaker 1: both like in the no, so a few.

887
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 3: Hundred bucks and you said a thousand, Yeah in this situation, well,

888
00:43:20,160 --> 00:43:22,799
Speaker 3: in your situation, but I don't. I don't know. It's

889
00:43:22,880 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 3: it's so relative. I couldn't give you an answer because

890
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:31,319
Speaker 3: it's it's so context dependent. Yeah, one hundred bucks plus.

891
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:32,279
Speaker 4: Probably it's for me.

892
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 3: It would be like anything.

893
00:43:35,840 --> 00:43:37,200
Speaker 4: Baby spent a dollar?

894
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:46,399
Speaker 3: Stop, Where am I fifty cents that baby? Okay, I've

895
00:43:46,520 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 3: just painted myself in a great light there. So to

896
00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:54,440
Speaker 3: add insult to her injury, she did pay off my

897
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 3: student loans in the low six figures with her personal

898
00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:01,839
Speaker 3: savings before we were married. Hard left turn. You are

899
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 3: no longer allowed to spend any money that she doesn't

900
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:08,280
Speaker 3: want you to spend. She paid off one hundred thousand,

901
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:11,280
Speaker 3: he said, low six figures. That could be two hundred

902
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:14,560
Speaker 3: three hundred thousand dollars of debt she paid off personally.

903
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 1: But he makes four forty a year pay her back.

904
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:22,000
Speaker 1: I keep buying that stuff especially. Look, if you're spending

905
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 1: money on stuff that's actually usable now, right, Okay, yeah,

906
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 1: that's fair. But if you're spending like that much money

907
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 1: now on stuff that nobody else gets to make, not

908
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:32,760
Speaker 1: even you.

909
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:34,319
Speaker 3: You're like, I don't even have the time to use

910
00:44:34,320 --> 00:44:37,840
Speaker 3: this stuff. I'm just buying it. Buy some relevant stuff.

911
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 3: Maybe buy some this something cool that everyone can enjoy it.

912
00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:44,719
Speaker 1: This might be a bad take, but I'm like, if

913
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:46,840
Speaker 1: he makes that much, if he pays his wife, falc.

914
00:44:46,880 --> 00:44:49,400
Speaker 1: As long as it's in the right scenario, if it

915
00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 1: makes him happy, go ahead. Yeah, there's more to this story.

916
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:59,920
Speaker 3: Oh oh gosh. Not only did she pay off a

917
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:04,000
Speaker 3: unknown quantity in the six figures of student loans for

918
00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:07,760
Speaker 3: her husband when we were in school, she paid off

919
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 3: a low four figure credit card debt and she was

920
00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 3: the primary earner for a year after I graduated, before

921
00:45:15,239 --> 00:45:19,160
Speaker 3: I found a job. That was ten years ago. And

922
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 3: we are in a much better financial position now, making

923
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:26,480
Speaker 3: around four hundred k per year after taxes together and

924
00:45:26,600 --> 00:45:32,840
Speaker 3: have maybe two million assets and no debt and no debt.

925
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:37,839
Speaker 3: What oh my god? Yeah, this top right here. Yeah

926
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,799
Speaker 3: this dude, I might be swinging back now after hearing that.

927
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 3: It's like, have you got two million in assets and

928
00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:47,359
Speaker 3: no debt? Okay, maybe we're okay here. Just stop lining

929
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:52,319
Speaker 3: to your wife, Yeah, stop lining you. Neither of us

930
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:56,200
Speaker 3: come from money. She was on public assistance as a child,

931
00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 3: but she got a head start with a high paying

932
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:01,280
Speaker 3: job right out of school, and it took me longer

933
00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:03,880
Speaker 3: to catch up. Although my current income has met or

934
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 3: exceeded her as depending on the year. As far as

935
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:10,080
Speaker 3: currently managing our finances, all of her income is deposited

936
00:46:10,080 --> 00:46:12,839
Speaker 3: into a saving slash investment account, which has been going

937
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 3: on for years. We then live off maybe forty thousand

938
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:19,280
Speaker 3: per year and save slash invest the rest of my income.

939
00:46:19,360 --> 00:46:20,000
Speaker 4: Holy crap.

940
00:46:20,280 --> 00:46:25,720
Speaker 3: So I don't know what to do. Stop lining your wife.

941
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 3: I know she's never going to believe me that I'm

942
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 3: never going to do this again. I've said it to

943
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:32,920
Speaker 3: her and to myself plenty of times and failed at

944
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 3: keeping my word. That's why she's not gonna believe you.

945
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 3: So she says that it is completely over and that

946
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:41,439
Speaker 3: there's no way to recover through counseling, etc. She's never

947
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:43,080
Speaker 3: going to be able to trust me, and that has

948
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 3: ruined the foundation of our marriage. And I get that.

949
00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 3: Wow wow, wow Yo. This has been a juicy story,

950
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:56,759
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951
00:46:56,880 --> 00:47:00,239
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952
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:04,680
Speaker 3: Just tap our profile to finish this off. How do

953
00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 3: I move forward with her and reassure her that we

954
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 3: can work through this. She has gone all but no

955
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,040
Speaker 3: contact with me except to tell me how much of

956
00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:14,880
Speaker 3: a liar I am and get information from me to

957
00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 3: look at our finances.

958
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:17,799
Speaker 4: Oh my god.

959
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:19,239
Speaker 1: You know what I meant to say this, and I'm

960
00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:22,800
Speaker 1: so I so regret it now. I was gonna say divorce,

961
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:25,600
Speaker 1: like divorce later in the story, let's talk about it,

962
00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:29,560
Speaker 1: and wow, wow, I really not expect that to happen, though,

963
00:47:29,640 --> 00:47:30,600
Speaker 1: My god.

964
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 3: I mean, hey, good for the wife though, for standing

965
00:47:32,760 --> 00:47:38,440
Speaker 3: up on business, being like, yeah, you lied, no trust, liar, divorce.

966
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,920
Speaker 1: I don't know, you know, yeah, actually I think like

967
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 1: I think she was being pretty controlling, given once we

968
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:50,800
Speaker 1: got the full context of their story.

969
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:54,760
Speaker 4: Yes he did, yes, uh, you know she did.

970
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:57,840
Speaker 3: Pay off all that stuff. For sure. They have.

971
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:00,719
Speaker 1: They have a lot in assets. They have no doubt

972
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 1: that high I have had the half high income. He

973
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:04,440
Speaker 1: is now currently the breadwinner. And I think it was

974
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 1: actually twenty two grand over a few years. Yeah, over

975
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:10,000
Speaker 1: in a few years, twenty three years. It was like,

976
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:11,319
Speaker 1: but it spiked, he said.

977
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:14,320
Speaker 3: It was like most of that had come from recent okay,

978
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:17,360
Speaker 3: so boom, but started in twenty twenty one, and it

979
00:48:17,400 --> 00:48:20,040
Speaker 3: got worse after the kind of the stress bid was

980
00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:23,239
Speaker 3: add enough. And you know, Opie's wife is definitely going

981
00:48:23,239 --> 00:48:23,800
Speaker 3: through a lot.

982
00:48:23,680 --> 00:48:26,320
Speaker 1: Of stress herself, definitely, right, there's a lot of stress

983
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 1: clearly in the house.

984
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:29,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I don't know if it's so much as

985
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:32,839
Speaker 3: the money that Op's wife is upset about. It's more

986
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:34,600
Speaker 3: yeah than no trust.

987
00:48:35,080 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I also feel like trust going behind her

988
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:39,680
Speaker 1: back multiple multiple, multiple.

989
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 3: Times, and now she's like if you can't do this,

990
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:46,560
Speaker 3: I can't trust you. So justified in a sense, but

991
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:52,080
Speaker 3: also like, well, poll Pole, I know exactly what Pole

992
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:55,120
Speaker 3: is gonna say. It's gonna be a big fat divorce

993
00:48:55,200 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 3: in the poll for sure. But it's hard. It's like

994
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:01,080
Speaker 3: one of the truck has gone. How do you get

995
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 3: it back? It's like I think maybe, you know, if

996
00:49:04,520 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 3: she's completely made up her mind, like that's one thing,

997
00:49:09,160 --> 00:49:10,839
Speaker 3: but maybe if you're just like, all right, babe, bike,

998
00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 3: I will you can take care of all of the

999
00:49:13,040 --> 00:49:17,120
Speaker 3: money for you know, a certain amount of time, right, Yeah,

1000
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:19,399
Speaker 3: and I'll prove it to you. It's like I'll take

1001
00:49:19,480 --> 00:49:20,800
Speaker 3: myself out of the equation.

1002
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:23,480
Speaker 1: Like, if you're really serious about staying with your wife,

1003
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:25,840
Speaker 1: you need to prove to her that you are able

1004
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:28,640
Speaker 1: to be trusted, and you even said it yourself, you

1005
00:49:28,680 --> 00:49:32,239
Speaker 1: can't trust yourself because you Yeah, maybe that's.

1006
00:49:32,120 --> 00:49:34,400
Speaker 3: Went back on your own word multiple times.

1007
00:49:34,800 --> 00:49:37,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm trying to, like cause like in a way,

1008
00:49:38,080 --> 00:49:39,839
Speaker 1: I kind of see like two two paths here.

1009
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:44,160
Speaker 3: In a way, it is like, oh, my wife doesn't.

1010
00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 1: Like me like going out and eating a bunch of cheeseburgers,

1011
00:49:46,239 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 1: So I'll like go out and eat cheeseburgers.

1012
00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:51,959
Speaker 4: Because of the relative like amount they spend, Like.

1013
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:55,879
Speaker 1: What's what's five percent of actually know this, this will

1014
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 1: help it. So let's see what like five percent of

1015
00:49:57,840 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 1: like sixty grand is? Yeah, yeah, ah, that's three thousand dollars. Okay,

1016
00:50:02,520 --> 00:50:05,480
Speaker 1: that's not nothing, But what what is?

1017
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:09,200
Speaker 4: What is the percentage of four hundred to twenty two?

1018
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:12,920
Speaker 3: So if he makes uh I got you?

1019
00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:15,600
Speaker 1: That has been over years, that's about five Yeah, it's

1020
00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:18,719
Speaker 1: about five percent. Four forty is twenty two grand is

1021
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:21,600
Speaker 1: five percent of four hundred forty thousand. Yeah, but I

1022
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 1: think that was spent over a few years.

1023
00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:27,960
Speaker 3: Wow, that's honestly, we have more therapy votes than I expected.

1024
00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean I think my take is like

1025
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 1: get the divorce. Yes, he was lying but I don't.

1026
00:50:38,560 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 1: I almost felt like she was bringing down the hammer

1027
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 1: harder than.

1028
00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:47,480
Speaker 5: He might he might have deserved.

1029
00:50:47,960 --> 00:50:53,120
Speaker 1: Possibly there was lying, but it was ultimately kind of inconsequential,

1030
00:50:53,680 --> 00:50:56,680
Speaker 1: and like I think what he should have done is

1031
00:50:57,000 --> 00:51:00,399
Speaker 1: go to her, been one hundred percent transparent, but like, hey, look,

1032
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:02,400
Speaker 1: buying this stuff makes me happy. I'll pay for it

1033
00:51:02,440 --> 00:51:04,719
Speaker 1: on my own, and I would never do it in

1034
00:51:04,719 --> 00:51:06,920
Speaker 1: a way that would like harm any of our other stuff,

1035
00:51:07,520 --> 00:51:10,120
Speaker 1: and maybe like I should do it within control. Maybe

1036
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:11,399
Speaker 1: I should like tell you to make sure I don't

1037
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:13,800
Speaker 1: spend like more than like I don't know, twenty grand

1038
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:16,320
Speaker 1: a year or something like that, but like, ult honestly,

1039
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:17,960
Speaker 1: this is something that makes me happy and something that's

1040
00:51:18,040 --> 00:51:21,359
Speaker 1: that I that I want to do. I feel like

1041
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 1: her behavior almost leads me to believe that she would

1042
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:27,319
Speaker 1: have said like still no and kind of controlled it.

1043
00:51:27,360 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 1: And at that point I think I would have been

1044
00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:30,919
Speaker 1: probably one hundred percent on his side.

1045
00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:33,360
Speaker 3: Well maybe maybe she's like waiting for him to be like,

1046
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:36,440
Speaker 3: let's let's get into something we both like do. I

1047
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:39,040
Speaker 3: have a feeling that the wife maybe never enjoyed this

1048
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:42,319
Speaker 3: stuff better he was in for hobbies, which does mean

1049
00:51:42,360 --> 00:51:44,600
Speaker 3: he shouldn't do those things. Yeah, yeah, it doesn't mean

1050
00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:48,280
Speaker 3: that those are wrong. But maybe instead of secretly spending

1051
00:51:48,320 --> 00:51:50,799
Speaker 3: you know, twenty g's on your own stuff, you go, hey,

1052
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:54,399
Speaker 3: why don't we spend twenty g's together something that there's

1053
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 3: something else.

1054
00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:58,680
Speaker 5: I think that there's something else. Op did not mention, but.

1055
00:51:58,600 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 3: It is four hundred k point income four K and

1056
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:04,719
Speaker 3: joint income. Yes, so it's like both of them are

1057
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:06,520
Speaker 3: making that's true.

1058
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:08,719
Speaker 4: It's two point salary.

1059
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 3: The fact that she paid off all of his loans

1060
00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 3: while he was still looking for a job. It was

1061
00:52:14,440 --> 00:52:16,680
Speaker 3: like in the you know, we're talking about probably like

1062
00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:18,879
Speaker 3: two hundred maybe three hundred thousand dollars worth of stuff,

1063
00:52:18,920 --> 00:52:22,120
Speaker 3: because then he's like low five figures. Yeah, what is that? No,

1064
00:52:22,200 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 3: I think I think it's low five figures. Dude, you're

1065
00:52:24,680 --> 00:52:26,239
Speaker 3: talking about five figures.

1066
00:52:26,800 --> 00:52:28,399
Speaker 1: I think I think I think you got me because

1067
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:30,920
Speaker 1: I was trying. I was like trying to like understand

1068
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:33,280
Speaker 1: the math because like, like, for instance, if he spent

1069
00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:36,720
Speaker 1: like if he was addicted to getting one dollar fries

1070
00:52:36,719 --> 00:52:39,200
Speaker 1: at Cdonald's and his wife didn't like that, but he

1071
00:52:39,280 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 1: got five hundred of them in a year, I just

1072
00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:43,439
Speaker 1: can't be mad.

1073
00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 4: At him, you know what I mean.

1074
00:52:44,560 --> 00:52:47,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, but but this I think it has passed the

1075
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:51,399
Speaker 1: threshold for just being too much.

1076
00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 2: And it's just the lies that I would feel disrespected.

1077
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:57,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, after after I paid all that and helped you

1078
00:52:57,920 --> 00:53:02,279
Speaker 3: with your loan so we could like flourish together, and

1079
00:53:02,320 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 3: now you are lying to me about finances behind my back.

1080
00:53:05,200 --> 00:53:07,840
Speaker 1: And I think there's also like a misalignment. And like

1081
00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:10,719
Speaker 1: I think I'm getting the sense that she's very much

1082
00:53:10,800 --> 00:53:13,440
Speaker 1: like I'm gonna take everything I earn, spend nothing, and

1083
00:53:13,440 --> 00:53:15,080
Speaker 1: reinvest it. And that is how I like to live

1084
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 1: my life. I'm the one that paid everything off. I

1085
00:53:17,480 --> 00:53:21,759
Speaker 1: am basically the breadwinner for overall in our relationship, so

1086
00:53:21,960 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 1: like like that's what I want and he wants something else,

1087
00:53:25,840 --> 00:53:27,920
Speaker 1: I think, which is a misalignment in the relationship.

1088
00:53:28,080 --> 00:53:32,280
Speaker 3: You can you put up a slippy Tovez's comments slightly

1089
00:53:32,480 --> 00:53:36,520
Speaker 3: slightly so even though he's spending their joint money, the

1090
00:53:36,600 --> 00:53:38,600
Speaker 3: wife made the decision to put most of her money

1091
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:41,640
Speaker 3: into savings in retirement. That was a joint decision, so

1092
00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 3: all they're spending money is technically his.

1093
00:53:44,680 --> 00:53:46,160
Speaker 5: I think I disagree with that.

1094
00:53:46,239 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 1: Actually, I don't even know if I would go that

1095
00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:51,759
Speaker 1: far because yeah, she's deciding to put it, but like,

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00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:54,800
Speaker 1: in that sense, shouldn't he too? If it was really equal,

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00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:57,640
Speaker 1: he would put an equal that in the savings account,

1098
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:00,360
Speaker 1: or as much as he feasibly could.

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00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:01,319
Speaker 5: I don't know.

1100
00:54:01,440 --> 00:54:03,000
Speaker 3: I think sticky situation.

1101
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:04,120
Speaker 5: It's a sticky situation.

1102
00:54:04,239 --> 00:54:07,200
Speaker 1: But I think, like, ultimately he absolutely should not have

1103
00:54:07,239 --> 00:54:09,200
Speaker 1: done that, And I think it was it was. It

1104
00:54:09,239 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 1: was worse than I was thinking it was initially. I'm

1105
00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:14,880
Speaker 1: on your side. I believe something else is happening, and

1106
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:18,560
Speaker 1: something else there's got to be. There's we've read too

1107
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:20,520
Speaker 1: many rand And stories. There's there's no there's no way.

1108
00:54:20,520 --> 00:54:23,479
Speaker 3: There's got to be another layer. There's gotta be one

1109
00:54:23,520 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 3: more layer to the onion.

1110
00:54:24,600 --> 00:54:26,360
Speaker 5: But you know what else, there should be another of us.

1111
00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:28,719
Speaker 3: Oh there should be another story up here.

1112
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:32,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, let's read it.

1113
00:54:32,520 --> 00:54:38,960
Speaker 1: I got you, Brie with the ten bucks, this right here, Brie, thanks.

1114
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:41,080
Speaker 5: For the ten bucks again one more time.

1115
00:54:41,440 --> 00:54:43,640
Speaker 1: I have to dye my hair for the concert this weekend,

1116
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:46,719
Speaker 1: and I need y'all's help to make the time go by.

1117
00:54:46,960 --> 00:54:50,040
Speaker 3: Brie. We freaking got you, We got you, We got

1118
00:54:50,080 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 3: we got you, Bro, that's what concert you're going to pow.

1119
00:54:53,440 --> 00:54:55,799
Speaker 1: That black girl magic. Thanks for the twenty bucks. Let's

1120
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:58,640
Speaker 1: freaking go on the tip link no less. Finally finished

1121
00:54:58,640 --> 00:55:01,439
Speaker 1: with my six weeks of twelve hour days, six days

1122
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:03,520
Speaker 1: a week, and you guys have been such a bright

1123
00:55:03,560 --> 00:55:05,759
Speaker 1: spot at the end of a shift, just putting in

1124
00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:11,520
Speaker 1: the work. Uh John Riley dimples, thank you, love you.

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00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:16,520
Speaker 1: Side note, Riley, I need friends info with the gambling glitch.

1126
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 4: Riley, just to see what you've done. I'm not doing

1127
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:24,880
Speaker 4: that because I feel like you work for the online

1128
00:55:25,320 --> 00:55:28,600
Speaker 4: gambling people.

1129
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:32,000
Speaker 3: You don't want to do that. They are gonna cut

1130
00:55:32,000 --> 00:55:34,560
Speaker 3: If it's actually like a glitch, they're gonna come back

1131
00:55:34,600 --> 00:55:36,919
Speaker 3: for that money and it's all gonna belong to them. Okay,

1132
00:55:36,960 --> 00:55:39,480
Speaker 3: with the glitch is not like that bad no, But

1133
00:55:39,520 --> 00:55:45,399
Speaker 3: if it's a glitch and statistic glitch, basically basically, you're.

1134
00:55:45,280 --> 00:55:46,719
Speaker 4: Gonna put it on blast right now.

1135
00:55:48,440 --> 00:55:50,520
Speaker 5: Relax, Okay, okay.

1136
00:55:51,320 --> 00:55:54,600
Speaker 2: Laugh, You're gonna get everyone in the stream arrested.

1137
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 5: And then another one for another thirty bucks.

1138
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:02,279
Speaker 1: Dude crowns in the chat because Breed is the queen

1139
00:56:02,280 --> 00:56:05,720
Speaker 1: of stream back taxes on membership because I couldn't figure

1140
00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:08,880
Speaker 1: it out before, Does that mean that bree got back,

1141
00:56:09,680 --> 00:56:13,680
Speaker 1: like is that something like European like like, uh, which rebate.

1142
00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:14,160
Speaker 3: Thing or whatever?

1143
00:56:15,000 --> 00:56:15,840
Speaker 4: I don't know European.

1144
00:56:16,680 --> 00:56:18,279
Speaker 5: Explain that in the you can you can put it

1145
00:56:18,280 --> 00:56:20,839
Speaker 5: in the comments. But that's interesting. And then who else

1146
00:56:20,880 --> 00:56:21,160
Speaker 5: we got?

1147
00:56:21,880 --> 00:56:27,640
Speaker 1: We got guacam mock em OLDI uh where do I start?

1148
00:56:28,040 --> 00:56:28,839
Speaker 3: I think right there?

1149
00:56:28,880 --> 00:56:30,960
Speaker 1: Yes, man had got Thanks for the five bucks. Riley

1150
00:56:31,040 --> 00:56:35,440
Speaker 1: checked the general chat. I fulfilled your assignment, okay, Jesseph

1151
00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:37,400
Speaker 1: Bidal burk weest Dakota.

1152
00:56:37,520 --> 00:56:39,120
Speaker 5: What sweetish words do you want to learn?

1153
00:56:39,680 --> 00:56:41,600
Speaker 4: Big boy? Daddy all of them?

1154
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:46,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, Daddy tell us Daddy just yeah, like actually daddy.

1155
00:56:46,440 --> 00:56:49,480
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, ring that's a dope ring.

1156
00:56:49,600 --> 00:56:53,520
Speaker 1: Also embellishment, Yeah, very very fitting of Like Matt Hander

1157
00:56:53,560 --> 00:56:56,879
Speaker 1: got that feels like you feels like your man's new

1158
00:56:57,080 --> 00:56:59,120
Speaker 1: knows you and and gave you the dude.

1159
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:00,720
Speaker 5: I love that. Hey, everyone going.

1160
00:57:00,600 --> 00:57:04,800
Speaker 1: To discord and uh heart Matt hatterguy was engagement photo

1161
00:57:04,840 --> 00:57:07,839
Speaker 1: and wish her a happy engagement because she freaking deserves it.

1162
00:57:07,880 --> 00:57:08,960
Speaker 3: Happy engagement.

1163
00:57:09,280 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 1: Bret Wildbear thanks him two bucks. Policing tiny dancer, but

1164
00:57:12,560 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 1: a spicy dancer.

1165
00:57:14,160 --> 00:57:25,040
Speaker 3: How make spycard? Dad? That's on the spicy how I mean,

1166
00:57:25,160 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 3: spicy ly dude.

1167
00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:29,000
Speaker 4: I would not have known that great rendition.

1168
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:31,479
Speaker 3: You thought it was over?

1169
00:57:31,760 --> 00:57:35,560
Speaker 1: Oh I thought, I thought, j Blady Biker, thanks for

1170
00:57:35,600 --> 00:57:36,400
Speaker 1: becoming a member.

1171
00:57:36,640 --> 00:57:40,040
Speaker 4: Dumpster Fire gifting ten members.

1172
00:57:41,800 --> 00:57:45,760
Speaker 3: And then little Bird with five more new babies member.

1173
00:57:45,480 --> 00:57:47,480
Speaker 4: Ships back to freaking bad. Did you guys see the

1174
00:57:47,480 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 4: animations whenever you gifted those? I saw it the protein.

1175
00:57:51,320 --> 00:57:54,320
Speaker 4: I saw all the big protein, big and then this

1176
00:57:54,360 --> 00:57:56,520
Speaker 4: one had a pigeon thing going on. Oh no, I

1177
00:57:56,560 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 4: missed that one.

1178
00:57:57,520 --> 00:57:58,440
Speaker 3: I'm excited to see that.

1179
00:57:58,360 --> 00:57:59,600
Speaker 4: Though, gifted more.

1180
00:57:59,760 --> 00:58:02,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're a pretty wild beare they send the two

1181
00:58:02,320 --> 00:58:05,200
Speaker 1: bucks like the stream bus people. Guys, we could spend

1182
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:07,439
Speaker 1: the wheel right now. We could spend the wheel right now.

1183
00:58:07,480 --> 00:58:08,560
Speaker 1: Everybody like the street.

1184
00:58:08,640 --> 00:58:09,000
Speaker 3: Let's go.

1185
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:11,720
Speaker 2: When this wheel spins, it makes my brain happy.

1186
00:58:12,000 --> 00:58:16,320
Speaker 3: Yeah. And then Ellen Norrel yes with the five dollars

1187
00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:17,720
Speaker 3: fourner k is joint.

1188
00:58:17,760 --> 00:58:20,200
Speaker 2: I bet the majority is hers based on his breakdown.

1189
00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:22,200
Speaker 3: Yeah. Plus he said they live off of forty K

1190
00:58:22,280 --> 00:58:24,080
Speaker 3: and he spent twenty two k in two years. I

1191
00:58:24,120 --> 00:58:26,240
Speaker 3: think that's also an important thing. If they're living off

1192
00:58:26,320 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 3: forty K and you're spending a.

1193
00:58:27,760 --> 00:58:30,240
Speaker 4: Great point half of the very good boy I don't think.

1194
00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 4: I think it's he puts Siphon's money into another account

1195
00:58:33,840 --> 00:58:35,640
Speaker 4: they're not using that forty K they live off of.

1196
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:39,440
Speaker 1: But still him spending ten K year while they live

1197
00:58:39,440 --> 00:58:44,760
Speaker 1: off of forty jointly, is that's half of his spending

1198
00:58:45,400 --> 00:58:47,600
Speaker 1: like or like life expenses.

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00:58:47,920 --> 00:58:49,920
Speaker 3: And I think she's probably just really annoyed that it's

1200
00:58:49,920 --> 00:58:52,040
Speaker 3: like you're spending all this money on stuff you can't

1201
00:58:52,120 --> 00:58:53,480
Speaker 3: even use, Riley.

1202
00:58:53,520 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 1: It would be like you spending half of what you

1203
00:58:56,720 --> 00:59:00,440
Speaker 1: spend every year on three D printing like mob and

1204
00:59:00,440 --> 00:59:01,800
Speaker 1: resin and stuff.

1205
00:59:01,680 --> 00:59:03,600
Speaker 3: Or like if you spent like if you spent like

1206
00:59:03,760 --> 00:59:06,960
Speaker 3: five thousand dollars on like a bunch of basketballs that

1207
00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:10,280
Speaker 3: you never ended up playing with, just keeping them there

1208
00:59:10,360 --> 00:59:12,919
Speaker 3: just in cases like you're using the same basketball every

1209
00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:13,560
Speaker 3: week anyway.

1210
00:59:13,640 --> 00:59:17,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, so basketball shoes, three D equipment stuff and like

1211
00:59:18,400 --> 00:59:22,360
Speaker 4: mustache combs, mustache combs and axes and axes, go I

1212
00:59:22,440 --> 00:59:24,240
Speaker 4: forget okay, okay, oh good stuff.

1213
00:59:25,880 --> 00:59:28,120
Speaker 3: Hey, but you know what I want to ask, what

1214
00:59:28,400 --> 00:59:30,120
Speaker 3: is if we're ready for this next story?

1215
00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:34,919
Speaker 4: I am? I am all right? One, I two three.

1216
00:59:36,480 --> 00:59:42,160
Speaker 3: My husband won't pay the mortgage, but he has fancy cars.

1217
00:59:44,480 --> 00:59:49,280
Speaker 3: Imagine that me, thirty six female, and my husband, twenty

1218
00:59:49,360 --> 00:59:52,919
Speaker 3: nine male, got married a year ago. We both make

1219
00:59:52,960 --> 00:59:55,800
Speaker 3: about eighty thousand dollars per year and own homes that

1220
00:59:55,840 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 3: we purchased prior to our marriage. He bought a condo

1221
00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:01,960
Speaker 3: into twenty two for three hundred K, and I have

1222
01:00:02,000 --> 01:00:04,720
Speaker 3: a townhouse that I purchased in twenty twenty one for

1223
01:00:04,800 --> 01:00:06,120
Speaker 3: two hundred and twenty five K.

1224
01:00:06,320 --> 01:00:09,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, don't right, we got property owners.

1225
01:00:09,680 --> 01:00:11,920
Speaker 3: By the way. This comes from user common Distance three

1226
01:00:12,000 --> 01:00:15,800
Speaker 3: oh seven on the Okay storytime subreddit. So after we

1227
01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:18,640
Speaker 3: got engaged, he moved into my house. I have a

1228
01:00:18,720 --> 01:00:22,920
Speaker 3: daughter from a previous relationship and she goes to school here. Initially,

1229
01:00:23,160 --> 01:00:26,520
Speaker 3: he struggled a bit with his employment situation. He lost

1230
01:00:26,520 --> 01:00:29,080
Speaker 3: his job and was only working part time and wasn't

1231
01:00:29,120 --> 01:00:32,200
Speaker 3: really contributing to any household bills except for food. I

1232
01:00:32,280 --> 01:00:34,080
Speaker 3: tried to be as supportive as I could during that

1233
01:00:34,160 --> 01:00:36,720
Speaker 3: time and didn't make a fuss about him not contributing

1234
01:00:36,720 --> 01:00:39,560
Speaker 3: to household expenses, as I figured he'd get back on

1235
01:00:39,600 --> 01:00:42,720
Speaker 3: his feet again soon. We got married in October of

1236
01:00:42,840 --> 01:00:46,480
Speaker 3: last year, and around that time he found more regular work,

1237
01:00:46,720 --> 01:00:52,200
Speaker 3: but continued to contribute unevenly I ended up paying for

1238
01:00:52,320 --> 01:00:54,680
Speaker 3: more than half of the wedding, and he was only

1239
01:00:54,680 --> 01:00:58,360
Speaker 3: paying for the electric bill, the cell phone bill, and

1240
01:00:58,440 --> 01:01:01,440
Speaker 3: some food, while still pay saying his own mortgage for

1241
01:01:01,640 --> 01:01:05,080
Speaker 3: the condo. I mean that sounded kind of.

1242
01:01:05,120 --> 01:01:06,760
Speaker 2: I think that was more of a comment about being

1243
01:01:06,800 --> 01:01:07,960
Speaker 2: sour of, like I paid.

1244
01:01:07,680 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 3: For the whole wedding.

1245
01:01:08,400 --> 01:01:12,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know, I've been paying very close attention

1246
01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:14,480
Speaker 1: some people haven't. Could you give me a quick tel

1247
01:01:14,560 --> 01:01:16,680
Speaker 1: dr breakdown of everything HELDR.

1248
01:01:16,920 --> 01:01:17,960
Speaker 4: I've been paying great attention.

1249
01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:19,800
Speaker 3: But you know, Op is in a relationship where her

1250
01:01:19,840 --> 01:01:23,000
Speaker 3: husband is not contributing equally to household expenses and is

1251
01:01:23,040 --> 01:01:27,760
Speaker 3: financially irresponsible and maybe emotionally a little bit.

1252
01:01:27,840 --> 01:01:30,720
Speaker 2: Oh use okay, well gotten into that yet hold on

1253
01:01:30,880 --> 01:01:31,760
Speaker 2: all right, too long?

1254
01:01:31,840 --> 01:01:32,840
Speaker 3: Haven't even read that yet?

1255
01:01:32,920 --> 01:01:37,120
Speaker 2: Joints Okay, so boop.

1256
01:01:37,360 --> 01:01:39,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, So he's still paying the mortgage on the condo

1257
01:01:39,520 --> 01:01:41,640
Speaker 3: and he's paying some bills at the house. I continued

1258
01:01:41,680 --> 01:01:45,080
Speaker 3: to pay for just about everything else. In November, he

1259
01:01:45,160 --> 01:01:48,400
Speaker 3: started paying my car payments. In total, he was contributing

1260
01:01:48,440 --> 01:01:52,080
Speaker 3: about maybe one thousand dollars towards household expenses, whereas I

1261
01:01:52,160 --> 01:01:57,400
Speaker 3: was contributing sixteen hundred okay. In January of this year,

1262
01:01:57,480 --> 01:02:00,200
Speaker 3: he started working full time at his current job, and

1263
01:02:00,240 --> 01:02:02,560
Speaker 3: I thought that finally, at that point he would start

1264
01:02:02,600 --> 01:02:06,880
Speaker 3: contributing equally towards household expenses. But he kept saying he

1265
01:02:06,880 --> 01:02:08,600
Speaker 3: needed to catch up on bills from when he was

1266
01:02:08,600 --> 01:02:11,360
Speaker 3: still unemployed, and every month when I brought up splitting

1267
01:02:11,360 --> 01:02:15,000
Speaker 3: expenses fifty to fifty or contributing equally to a joint account,

1268
01:02:15,280 --> 01:02:19,840
Speaker 3: he kept saying that he needed more time, which I'm

1269
01:02:19,840 --> 01:02:21,160
Speaker 3: gonna go out on a limit.

1270
01:02:21,240 --> 01:02:26,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna kind of say that's I would be surrounding

1271
01:02:26,240 --> 01:02:27,160
Speaker 1: some more time as well.

1272
01:02:27,200 --> 01:02:32,439
Speaker 3: Maybe I don't know, oh no, but I can see

1273
01:02:32,440 --> 01:02:34,240
Speaker 3: how it would be grating to not be fifty to

1274
01:02:34,240 --> 01:02:36,600
Speaker 3: fifty yet still just waiting for that fifty to fifty, like,

1275
01:02:36,600 --> 01:02:38,320
Speaker 3: come on, are we doing it yet? Are we doing

1276
01:02:38,360 --> 01:02:40,919
Speaker 3: it yet? He's got If he didn't have the other

1277
01:02:40,960 --> 01:02:44,320
Speaker 3: mortgage right, and he wasn't, like, I'd be like, all right,

1278
01:02:44,920 --> 01:02:46,000
Speaker 3: that's but he's got.

1279
01:02:46,400 --> 01:02:50,200
Speaker 1: Anyway, I think it's fair. No, that's a good point.

1280
01:02:50,480 --> 01:02:55,600
Speaker 3: In April, he bought himself a new sports car fifty

1281
01:02:55,800 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 3: seven thousand dollars. I retract my statement same. I was

1282
01:03:03,160 --> 01:03:09,160
Speaker 3: one sentence away from learning in the truth. I was

1283
01:03:09,280 --> 01:03:12,040
Speaker 3: angry about this because he told me it cost the

1284
01:03:12,280 --> 01:03:15,520
Speaker 3: same price as my car, which was only thirty five

1285
01:03:15,560 --> 01:03:18,120
Speaker 3: thousand dollars, and he didn't even really need it.

1286
01:03:18,520 --> 01:03:22,040
Speaker 4: And yeah, but before I got the new tires and

1287
01:03:22,440 --> 01:03:23,240
Speaker 4: windows tinted.

1288
01:03:23,760 --> 01:03:26,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, so stock, it's the same as your car, but

1289
01:03:27,240 --> 01:03:32,840
Speaker 3: don't look under the hood. Okay. So part of the

1290
01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:34,800
Speaker 3: deal was that he was only going to get something

1291
01:03:34,840 --> 01:03:37,480
Speaker 3: practical that he could use for side jobs as a

1292
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:41,920
Speaker 3: private investigator, but he decided to go for a.

1293
01:03:41,800 --> 01:03:44,520
Speaker 4: Flashy car instead. Dud, who is this guy?

1294
01:03:44,600 --> 01:03:44,760
Speaker 3: Dude?

1295
01:03:44,800 --> 01:03:48,240
Speaker 1: You're getting you're getting busted. Like, if you're a private investigator,

1296
01:03:48,520 --> 01:03:51,200
Speaker 1: that's what uh P I need? Magnum P I needed?

1297
01:03:51,440 --> 01:03:53,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, you need like a Honda Odyssey. If you're

1298
01:03:53,840 --> 01:03:57,160
Speaker 3: a driver's investigator, you need the mini van, mom van.

1299
01:03:57,640 --> 01:03:59,920
Speaker 3: Nobody's gonna want you on a They don't even want

1300
01:03:59,920 --> 01:04:06,800
Speaker 3: to look at that. They're looking away actively. Now it

1301
01:04:06,840 --> 01:04:10,280
Speaker 3: has been ten months since he started working full time again.

1302
01:04:10,560 --> 01:04:13,480
Speaker 3: He has a nine hundred dollars monthly payment for his

1303
01:04:13,560 --> 01:04:16,400
Speaker 3: new car, and he has yet to contribute anything towards

1304
01:04:16,480 --> 01:04:18,560
Speaker 3: the mortgage of the home that we live in together

1305
01:04:18,960 --> 01:04:22,720
Speaker 3: or split household expenses evenly with me. He also has

1306
01:04:22,800 --> 01:04:27,320
Speaker 3: another car that is a project car that has cost

1307
01:04:27,400 --> 01:04:30,120
Speaker 3: him probably three to four thousand dollars in total and

1308
01:04:30,200 --> 01:04:32,560
Speaker 3: continues to cost him more and more. Yeah, it's gonna

1309
01:04:32,600 --> 01:04:35,120
Speaker 3: cost way more than three to four thousand, probably gonna

1310
01:04:35,200 --> 01:04:38,440
Speaker 3: end up costing like thirty thousand. That's just a hole

1311
01:04:38,520 --> 01:04:41,520
Speaker 3: in the ground that you throw money into a project car.

1312
01:04:41,800 --> 01:04:50,080
Speaker 3: Come on, Oh okay, current situation colon. We both want

1313
01:04:50,120 --> 01:04:52,440
Speaker 3: to relocate and move to a new house in a

1314
01:04:52,480 --> 01:04:56,680
Speaker 3: new city, but he refuses to sell his condo. He

1315
01:04:56,720 --> 01:05:00,840
Speaker 3: says he wants to keep it as an investment instead, which, honestly,

1316
01:05:00,880 --> 01:05:02,320
Speaker 3: given this say to the real estate market.

1317
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:05,120
Speaker 1: Maybe I mean, is that I could be I mean,

1318
01:05:05,280 --> 01:05:08,400
Speaker 1: if anything, I would be like, is he renting it out?

1319
01:05:09,240 --> 01:05:10,880
Speaker 3: Yeah? Man, I mean could you air bimbi?

1320
01:05:11,200 --> 01:05:14,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, do that and then take that money to help

1321
01:05:14,960 --> 01:05:16,200
Speaker 1: start Finally.

1322
01:05:17,400 --> 01:05:19,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, it'd be nice if it was an investment. But

1323
01:05:19,000 --> 01:05:22,120
Speaker 3: you've got to invest in the expenses that we currently had.

1324
01:05:22,200 --> 01:05:24,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly. I think for that to be an asset,

1325
01:05:24,920 --> 01:05:29,040
Speaker 4: you can't drive it whatsoever. I can't. I don't think so.

1326
01:05:29,160 --> 01:05:32,520
Speaker 4: Because some dude we were recently talking about guy to Lambo,

1327
01:05:33,200 --> 01:05:35,280
Speaker 4: and he was like, it's an asset. But if it's

1328
01:05:35,280 --> 01:05:37,800
Speaker 4: an asset, you can't have more than like X amount

1329
01:05:37,840 --> 01:05:38,440
Speaker 4: of miles on.

1330
01:05:38,440 --> 01:05:44,000
Speaker 3: It because then it depreciates. Yeah, oh yeah, I mean

1331
01:05:44,040 --> 01:05:45,880
Speaker 3: it's an ins just a bad investment. It can be.

1332
01:05:45,920 --> 01:05:47,920
Speaker 5: You're talking about the car or the condo.

1333
01:05:48,480 --> 01:05:49,400
Speaker 3: Did you say the Lambo?

1334
01:05:49,840 --> 01:05:52,360
Speaker 4: I was, Oh, I was talking about the car. I'm sorry.

1335
01:05:53,320 --> 01:05:56,120
Speaker 3: Car is a car is still technically an investment. But folks,

1336
01:05:56,120 --> 01:05:59,120
Speaker 3: it's never gonna hold its money. I mean, with very,

1337
01:05:59,240 --> 01:06:03,040
Speaker 3: very very limit exceptions. Yeah, it's It's okay.

1338
01:06:03,120 --> 01:06:07,560
Speaker 4: Ryley said a condo. You thought we said Lambeau.

1339
01:06:07,800 --> 01:06:11,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, I live in a Lamborghini is our next story.

1340
01:06:11,840 --> 01:06:13,360
Speaker 4: His ears are dyslexic. You give me.

1341
01:06:15,240 --> 01:06:21,919
Speaker 3: So, okay. Moving on from Riley's literacy, I don't really

1342
01:06:21,960 --> 01:06:25,080
Speaker 3: know how much equity he has in his condo. He

1343
01:06:25,160 --> 01:06:28,520
Speaker 3: told me he put about eighteen thousand down up, but

1344
01:06:28,640 --> 01:06:31,160
Speaker 3: I've looked up records and it says he's mortgaged for

1345
01:06:31,280 --> 01:06:33,880
Speaker 3: up to two hundred and forty thousand, So I really

1346
01:06:33,920 --> 01:06:36,640
Speaker 3: don't know. He keeps me in the dark about a

1347
01:06:36,640 --> 01:06:38,800
Speaker 3: lot of that stuff. He says he can make more

1348
01:06:38,840 --> 01:06:40,600
Speaker 3: money off of it if he waits to sell it,

1349
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:42,880
Speaker 3: but I don't know how long he wants to wait.

1350
01:06:43,080 --> 01:06:48,440
Speaker 4: Super quick. They're married, yes, red flag, yes, red flag, yes,

1351
01:06:48,480 --> 01:06:49,280
Speaker 4: red flag.

1352
01:06:49,280 --> 01:06:53,680
Speaker 1: Because if I'm married, I am communicating with my wife

1353
01:06:54,080 --> 01:06:56,560
Speaker 1: all of my Oh yeah, I already do that with

1354
01:06:56,560 --> 01:06:59,560
Speaker 1: my long term partner. Like, not doing that with your

1355
01:06:59,560 --> 01:07:02,000
Speaker 1: wife is bananas to me.

1356
01:07:02,440 --> 01:07:05,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, so you and Sam both do that. Oh yeah,

1357
01:07:05,360 --> 01:07:07,000
Speaker 3: we do other things that are along.

1358
01:07:08,440 --> 01:07:09,120
Speaker 4: Meetings.

1359
01:07:11,680 --> 01:07:14,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, honestly, it's got to raise an eyebrow

1360
01:07:14,360 --> 01:07:16,280
Speaker 3: being like, yeah, babe, I know we're married, but I

1361
01:07:16,360 --> 01:07:19,360
Speaker 3: want to keep this condo just, you know, as an

1362
01:07:19,400 --> 01:07:23,600
Speaker 3: investment so that I can maybe hang out there for

1363
01:07:23,840 --> 01:07:24,520
Speaker 3: just me time.

1364
01:07:24,600 --> 01:07:26,560
Speaker 5: It's my condom.

1365
01:07:27,960 --> 01:07:33,040
Speaker 3: My condos got condomes in them. For the affair. I'm

1366
01:07:33,040 --> 01:07:36,160
Speaker 3: inevitably planning to commit in the condo.

1367
01:07:37,120 --> 01:07:39,800
Speaker 4: Okay, And if your partner's not willing to talk money

1368
01:07:40,040 --> 01:07:41,640
Speaker 4: with you, then you have no idea how they.

1369
01:07:41,640 --> 01:07:46,200
Speaker 3: Perceive it you. It's just like, oh darkness.

1370
01:07:46,280 --> 01:07:50,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, just a great way to put it.

1371
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:54,280
Speaker 3: So his mom moved into his condo a few months ago. Okay,

1372
01:07:54,880 --> 01:07:59,760
Speaker 3: I retract again. Oh wait, yeah, could it be a

1373
01:07:59,760 --> 01:08:03,800
Speaker 3: show your mommy? Hmmm? So mom moved into the condo

1374
01:08:03,840 --> 01:08:06,520
Speaker 3: a few months ago, and she now pays for his mortgage.

1375
01:08:06,760 --> 01:08:09,720
Speaker 3: She's using it as a second home. Her primary residence

1376
01:08:09,800 --> 01:08:12,920
Speaker 3: is in New York. He's not making any extra money

1377
01:08:12,920 --> 01:08:15,400
Speaker 3: off of her being a tenant. I don't agree that

1378
01:08:15,440 --> 01:08:18,000
Speaker 3: it is a great investment. We're in Florida and condos

1379
01:08:18,040 --> 01:08:21,040
Speaker 3: here are going downhill. It seems to me more like

1380
01:08:21,080 --> 01:08:28,720
Speaker 3: it could be more of a liability perhaps. Plus, his

1381
01:08:28,840 --> 01:08:36,240
Speaker 3: mom keeps destroying stuff there. Come on, Mom, what.

1382
01:08:34,720 --> 01:08:36,160
Speaker 4: Where did that come from?

1383
01:08:36,320 --> 01:08:40,000
Speaker 3: Is destructive? Mom just doesn't her own strength, you know.

1384
01:08:40,200 --> 01:08:43,400
Speaker 1: She just come and she's like bus a table, like

1385
01:08:43,560 --> 01:08:45,200
Speaker 1: breaks refrigerator bike. You know.

1386
01:08:45,800 --> 01:08:49,360
Speaker 3: Ever since Mom got blasted with that gamma radiation, she

1387
01:08:49,560 --> 01:08:52,000
Speaker 3: just seems a lot angrier, you.

1388
01:08:52,000 --> 01:08:57,120
Speaker 4: Know, or she's blasting something else galaxy gas.

1389
01:08:57,800 --> 01:09:02,760
Speaker 3: Uh. I'm not even gonna talk about that. We're moving on.

1390
01:09:04,600 --> 01:09:07,679
Speaker 3: So BOM's destroying stuff in the condo. He also doesn't

1391
01:09:07,720 --> 01:09:10,160
Speaker 3: want to add my name to the condo, so it'll

1392
01:09:10,160 --> 01:09:15,000
Speaker 3: always be solely his. That is a huge red flag. Furthermore,

1393
01:09:15,120 --> 01:09:17,519
Speaker 3: I think the main reason he's keeping it is not

1394
01:09:17,560 --> 01:09:19,439
Speaker 3: to use it as an investment, but rather a place

1395
01:09:19,479 --> 01:09:21,960
Speaker 3: he can run to whenever he's mad At me and

1396
01:09:22,080 --> 01:09:24,519
Speaker 3: just sleep there instead, which he does often.

1397
01:09:24,760 --> 01:09:26,160
Speaker 5: Oh my god, little.

1398
01:09:25,840 --> 01:09:35,840
Speaker 1: Baby man, Little baby man wants his little baby cris.

1399
01:09:33,760 --> 01:09:36,000
Speaker 4: Shut up, Shut up.

1400
01:09:37,000 --> 01:09:44,639
Speaker 3: You heard the man, I'd listen. I feel like he's

1401
01:09:44,840 --> 01:09:47,479
Speaker 3: just keeping it just in case our marriage doesn't work out,

1402
01:09:47,640 --> 01:09:51,080
Speaker 3: and he's kind of admitted that I think that we

1403
01:09:51,120 --> 01:09:53,360
Speaker 3: would benefit so much more from selling the condo and

1404
01:09:53,479 --> 01:09:56,080
Speaker 3: using that money for the down payment, But he doesn't

1405
01:09:56,120 --> 01:09:57,960
Speaker 3: seem to care what I have to say about it.

1406
01:09:58,479 --> 01:10:01,640
Speaker 3: He says he'll sell it of when he's ready to,

1407
01:10:02,200 --> 01:10:05,000
Speaker 3: and gets extremely angry and defensive with me when I

1408
01:10:05,080 --> 01:10:08,680
Speaker 3: suggest him selling it. He tells me I'm being controlling.

1409
01:10:09,160 --> 01:10:12,240
Speaker 3: He also starts insulting me, saying that I'm just after

1410
01:10:12,360 --> 01:10:14,760
Speaker 3: him for money, that I just want a rich guy

1411
01:10:14,800 --> 01:10:21,080
Speaker 3: to pay for my down payment and my house, et cetera. Okay, yeah, yo,

1412
01:10:21,120 --> 01:10:22,960
Speaker 3: you don't get to live in the house at all. Right, Yeah,

1413
01:10:23,000 --> 01:10:24,439
Speaker 3: it's just hers hmm.

1414
01:10:24,520 --> 01:10:29,080
Speaker 1: Kind of almost seems like she's been paying the vast

1415
01:10:29,120 --> 01:10:32,879
Speaker 1: majority of all the expenses. Yeah, what about that reality,

1416
01:10:32,920 --> 01:10:36,280
Speaker 1: It almost seems like you're after her money.

1417
01:10:36,520 --> 01:10:39,200
Speaker 4: Hmm, gotcha, sucker.

1418
01:10:40,120 --> 01:10:42,280
Speaker 3: Well, let's see what she had to say about that.

1419
01:10:43,160 --> 01:10:45,799
Speaker 3: I don't appreciate him acting like I'm a gold digger

1420
01:10:45,840 --> 01:10:49,400
Speaker 3: for wanting him to be an equal contributor. Here, I

1421
01:10:49,439 --> 01:10:52,599
Speaker 3: am his wife, and all I'm asking is for him

1422
01:10:52,640 --> 01:10:56,280
Speaker 3: to contribute equally towards the down payment. I feel like

1423
01:10:56,680 --> 01:10:59,360
Speaker 3: he just wants to squirrel away all his money so

1424
01:10:59,439 --> 01:11:01,800
Speaker 3: he can spend it on car stuff while I pay

1425
01:11:01,880 --> 01:11:04,400
Speaker 3: for more than half of the bills here. Yes, yeah,

1426
01:11:04,400 --> 01:11:06,599
Speaker 3: I think he does. He wants to finish that that

1427
01:11:06,800 --> 01:11:10,439
Speaker 3: project car, so he has his fancy cars, he has

1428
01:11:10,439 --> 01:11:13,080
Speaker 3: his condo, and he has zero savings or money that

1429
01:11:13,120 --> 01:11:15,120
Speaker 3: he's willing to contribute towards a down payment for a

1430
01:11:15,160 --> 01:11:17,800
Speaker 3: new house together. I just don't think this is fair.

1431
01:11:18,200 --> 01:11:20,080
Speaker 3: I ask him where all his money is going every

1432
01:11:20,080 --> 01:11:22,800
Speaker 3: month if he's not paying any mortgages. He says he

1433
01:11:22,800 --> 01:11:25,040
Speaker 3: spends three thousand dollars on food every month.

1434
01:11:25,760 --> 01:11:27,559
Speaker 4: What what?

1435
01:11:28,000 --> 01:11:31,760
Speaker 3: Yeah? I find that hard to believe, especially since I

1436
01:11:31,840 --> 01:11:35,320
Speaker 3: do the grocery shopping or treat for food, sometimes spending

1437
01:11:35,320 --> 01:11:39,840
Speaker 3: three k on like lobster, like takeout, yeah, postmating like

1438
01:11:40,040 --> 01:11:44,600
Speaker 3: expensive cuisine. What that's I don't even know how you

1439
01:11:44,640 --> 01:11:48,639
Speaker 3: do that? And then the rest goes to his car

1440
01:11:48,680 --> 01:11:52,439
Speaker 3: payments and his other car mods. I would have liked

1441
01:11:52,479 --> 01:11:54,880
Speaker 3: to have a joint account where we both contribute equally

1442
01:11:54,920 --> 01:11:57,679
Speaker 3: towards household expenses, but I'm not sure I even trust

1443
01:11:57,720 --> 01:12:00,200
Speaker 3: him enough to do that anymore, because he hasn't been

1444
01:12:00,200 --> 01:12:03,200
Speaker 3: transparent about money with me. He also has student loan

1445
01:12:03,240 --> 01:12:06,360
Speaker 3: debt that he won't really talk about with me. Dude,

1446
01:12:06,479 --> 01:12:08,920
Speaker 3: this guy is a clown for spending all that money

1447
01:12:08,960 --> 01:12:12,519
Speaker 3: on cars. It's like what. On top of that, he's

1448
01:12:12,600 --> 01:12:15,160
Speaker 3: also been controlling about where we get to live. He

1449
01:12:15,200 --> 01:12:18,160
Speaker 3: has vetoed pretty much every house I've shown him. He'll

1450
01:12:18,160 --> 01:12:20,320
Speaker 3: complain he doesn't want the house because it doesn't have

1451
01:12:20,360 --> 01:12:22,479
Speaker 3: a garage, or he doesn't like the location or wants

1452
01:12:22,479 --> 01:12:25,519
Speaker 3: something more urban, blah blah blah. Then if I don't

1453
01:12:25,560 --> 01:12:27,760
Speaker 3: like the house he shows me, he gets upset and

1454
01:12:27,800 --> 01:12:30,200
Speaker 3: says that I'm just saying no to those houses because

1455
01:12:30,280 --> 01:12:34,439
Speaker 3: I have no respect for him. One thing I really

1456
01:12:34,479 --> 01:12:36,479
Speaker 3: want is a backyard for our daughter to play in,

1457
01:12:36,760 --> 01:12:39,200
Speaker 3: and he says that I'm ridiculous for wanting that because

1458
01:12:39,200 --> 01:12:43,240
Speaker 3: she might outgrow it in a couple of years. Hey, hey,

1459
01:12:43,400 --> 01:12:50,120
Speaker 3: captain clown, you don't outgrow going outside. Am I wrong?

1460
01:12:52,160 --> 01:12:57,519
Speaker 1: It's just it's just such an insane statement, like, I

1461
01:12:57,520 --> 01:12:58,360
Speaker 1: shall get bored of this.

1462
01:12:58,520 --> 01:13:01,400
Speaker 3: She'll outgrow going outside. I didn't playing in the backyard.

1463
01:13:02,760 --> 01:13:05,519
Speaker 3: We'll never and we'll outgrow cherishing all those memories.

1464
01:13:06,120 --> 01:13:07,120
Speaker 5: Becomes the twitch streamer.

1465
01:13:07,400 --> 01:13:10,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I was thinking. Caso never goes outside.

1466
01:13:10,200 --> 01:13:13,120
Speaker 3: She can twitch stream in the backyard. We have twitch

1467
01:13:13,160 --> 01:13:15,559
Speaker 3: stream outside. No one does that but us. Yeah, they're

1468
01:13:15,560 --> 01:13:19,479
Speaker 3: the only ones to do that. Well, we've cornered the market.

1469
01:13:20,920 --> 01:13:24,080
Speaker 3: So uh, no respect from the husband, By the way,

1470
01:13:24,080 --> 01:13:26,880
Speaker 3: it's so projecting for him being like, you don't respect me,

1471
01:13:27,600 --> 01:13:32,439
Speaker 3: it's you are showing no respect. He has decided what

1472
01:13:32,520 --> 01:13:36,000
Speaker 3: our budget should be, even though he is not contributing.

1473
01:13:36,479 --> 01:13:38,479
Speaker 3: He says he will pay half the mortgage once we

1474
01:13:38,479 --> 01:13:41,799
Speaker 3: get the house, but his past history makes me doubt it. Yeah,

1475
01:13:42,120 --> 01:13:45,360
Speaker 3: good instincts. Uh. He also ran up my credit card,

1476
01:13:45,520 --> 01:13:47,360
Speaker 3: racked up over a thousand dollars on it, and he

1477
01:13:47,400 --> 01:13:49,280
Speaker 3: promised he'd pay me back before I have to start

1478
01:13:49,280 --> 01:13:51,360
Speaker 3: paying interest on it. But it's been over three months

1479
01:13:51,400 --> 01:13:53,800
Speaker 3: and he keeps making excuses why he can't pay me

1480
01:13:53,840 --> 01:13:56,160
Speaker 3: back yet. He also wants to start a business, and

1481
01:13:56,200 --> 01:13:58,400
Speaker 3: he asked me to give him money to help fund

1482
01:13:58,439 --> 01:13:59,639
Speaker 3: his business, or to give.

1483
01:13:59,520 --> 01:14:02,200
Speaker 1: Him my credit card to put expenses for his project

1484
01:14:02,200 --> 01:14:09,240
Speaker 1: car on. This guy's a he's late for his shift

1485
01:14:09,240 --> 01:14:11,240
Speaker 1: at the circus.

1486
01:14:13,080 --> 01:14:14,320
Speaker 3: My sister does it? Well, I don't.

1487
01:14:16,320 --> 01:14:17,679
Speaker 4: There you go, that's pretty good.

1488
01:14:18,560 --> 01:14:22,080
Speaker 3: I feel used. This doesn't feel at all like what

1489
01:14:22,200 --> 01:14:24,479
Speaker 3: a marriage should feel like to me. I didn't get

1490
01:14:24,520 --> 01:14:26,280
Speaker 3: married so I could support a man to have all

1491
01:14:26,280 --> 01:14:28,960
Speaker 3: these fancy things while I'm stuck paying for more than

1492
01:14:29,000 --> 01:14:31,719
Speaker 3: my share of the actual living costs. Not to mention

1493
01:14:31,840 --> 01:14:33,960
Speaker 3: that I do most of the cooking, cleaning and child

1494
01:14:34,000 --> 01:14:38,320
Speaker 3: rearing as he's fairly hands off with my daughter. Oh wait,

1495
01:14:38,479 --> 01:14:40,519
Speaker 3: it's her daughter, right, it's not there, it's from a

1496
01:14:40,520 --> 01:14:41,400
Speaker 3: previous relationship.

1497
01:14:42,439 --> 01:14:43,720
Speaker 4: He's not a sleep.

1498
01:14:43,520 --> 01:14:47,200
Speaker 1: Scumbag, but he is, I mean bag, honestly, honestly. Yeah,

1499
01:14:47,280 --> 01:14:49,439
Speaker 1: I'm sorry if you're If you're if I'm marrying someone

1500
01:14:49,560 --> 01:14:51,880
Speaker 1: that's also my daughter, yeah, right, Like you know what

1501
01:14:51,920 --> 01:14:54,200
Speaker 1: you're getting into. Bro. You can't just be like, well,

1502
01:14:54,240 --> 01:14:56,479
Speaker 1: it's not my kid, it's like it is now, you

1503
01:14:56,760 --> 01:14:59,080
Speaker 1: do fish, Yeah, he married me. Unless you don't want

1504
01:14:59,080 --> 01:15:01,519
Speaker 1: to be married anymore, exactly, unless you don't want to

1505
01:15:01,840 --> 01:15:05,080
Speaker 1: be here with us ever, single on the streets.

1506
01:15:05,080 --> 01:15:13,920
Speaker 3: Why don't you go marry your car? Yeah, Optimist Prime. Okay, no,

1507
01:15:14,560 --> 01:15:19,800
Speaker 3: I know I know exactly what you're thinking. Okay, no, no, no, no, okay,

1508
01:15:19,800 --> 01:15:25,600
Speaker 3: we're did you say it? I mean what if Optimist

1509
01:15:25,640 --> 01:15:28,280
Speaker 3: Prime was just like a really good partner, you know,

1510
01:15:28,840 --> 01:15:29,840
Speaker 3: like is.

1511
01:15:29,800 --> 01:15:30,479
Speaker 5: That what you were thinking?

1512
01:15:30,439 --> 01:15:31,679
Speaker 3: Would you date Optimist Prime?

1513
01:15:31,800 --> 01:15:34,400
Speaker 5: Or are you thinking about another thing about optims thinking?

1514
01:15:34,439 --> 01:15:37,040
Speaker 1: Wouldn't it be funny if Optimus Prime, Like there's like

1515
01:15:37,080 --> 01:15:39,559
Speaker 1: a bit about Optmus Prime, like having a crush on

1516
01:15:39,640 --> 01:15:45,320
Speaker 1: Sam with Wiki and he was just like, what would.

1517
01:15:45,040 --> 01:15:46,720
Speaker 3: You rate me on a scale of one to ten?

1518
01:15:47,479 --> 01:15:50,599
Speaker 3: Who was saying? He's like, He's like, Optimists, I give

1519
01:15:50,600 --> 01:15:52,320
Speaker 3: you like a ten out of ten. You're my favorite.

1520
01:15:52,560 --> 01:15:56,120
Speaker 3: You're my favorite transformer Transformer And he's.

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01:15:55,960 --> 01:16:01,120
Speaker 1: Like, no, Sam, like, do you think I'm cute?

1522
01:16:04,520 --> 01:16:06,880
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, now I know I said it.

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01:16:06,960 --> 01:16:07,799
Speaker 4: Riley, are you happy?

1524
01:16:08,200 --> 01:16:08,759
Speaker 3: Are you happy?

1525
01:16:08,880 --> 01:16:09,240
Speaker 4: Sham?

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01:16:09,640 --> 01:16:09,920
Speaker 3: Finish?

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01:16:10,000 --> 01:16:12,280
Speaker 4: Let's finish the story, Sham. You can't do pull ups

1528
01:16:12,320 --> 01:16:13,040
Speaker 4: on that pipe.

1529
01:16:14,240 --> 01:16:21,080
Speaker 1: Use mine to defeat though the defeat there's only one

1530
01:16:21,160 --> 01:16:23,240
Speaker 1: weapon powerful enough to take them.

1531
01:16:26,800 --> 01:16:31,479
Speaker 4: Okay, we've completely clear, completely bit is now.

1532
01:16:32,240 --> 01:16:36,559
Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, we milked that one for all We could get.

1533
01:16:36,600 --> 01:16:44,000
Speaker 4: Oh yes you did, alright, finisher.

1534
01:16:43,680 --> 01:16:45,960
Speaker 3: I teed it up if you sent it home.

1535
01:16:46,040 --> 01:16:54,759
Speaker 6: Okay, okay, So who he says, I'm the one who's

1536
01:16:54,800 --> 01:16:57,679
Speaker 6: been controlling because I'm telling him he needs to sell

1537
01:16:57,720 --> 01:16:58,240
Speaker 6: his condo.

1538
01:16:58,680 --> 01:17:02,200
Speaker 3: To be clear, I never once told him he needs

1539
01:17:02,240 --> 01:17:05,679
Speaker 3: to do anything, but I have expressed my unhappiness about

1540
01:17:05,720 --> 01:17:08,360
Speaker 3: him wanting to keep it. If he doesn't sell it,

1541
01:17:08,600 --> 01:17:10,559
Speaker 3: we won't be able to get anything decent, and I

1542
01:17:10,640 --> 01:17:14,639
Speaker 3: find that unfair. He could easily provide half or possibly

1543
01:17:14,720 --> 01:17:17,680
Speaker 3: even the entire down payment for a new house, and

1544
01:17:17,760 --> 01:17:20,719
Speaker 3: he won't do it. Instead, I'll be on my own

1545
01:17:20,880 --> 01:17:22,920
Speaker 3: with the down payment, and we won't be able to

1546
01:17:22,960 --> 01:17:26,120
Speaker 3: really get anything nicer, or we won't be able to

1547
01:17:26,160 --> 01:17:29,759
Speaker 3: really get something nicer than what we have. In all likelihood,

1548
01:17:29,800 --> 01:17:32,240
Speaker 3: it'll be a downgrade because homes are more expensive now

1549
01:17:32,320 --> 01:17:34,160
Speaker 3: than they were a few years ago. I was a

1550
01:17:34,200 --> 01:17:36,439
Speaker 3: single mom for years before I met him, and I

1551
01:17:36,479 --> 01:17:38,360
Speaker 3: didn't get married so that I could feel like I'm

1552
01:17:38,439 --> 01:17:42,200
Speaker 3: still all on my own facts facts. I don't feel

1553
01:17:42,200 --> 01:17:44,040
Speaker 3: like this is a team at all. I feel like

1554
01:17:44,080 --> 01:17:46,040
Speaker 3: he acts like he cares but doesn't want to give

1555
01:17:46,160 --> 01:17:49,479
Speaker 3: up anything to help provide for our family. But you

1556
01:17:49,600 --> 01:17:55,519
Speaker 3: know what you can provide for your family is by

1557
01:17:55,760 --> 01:18:01,040
Speaker 3: joining our YouTube live every weekday at three pm. Just

1558
01:18:01,200 --> 01:18:04,280
Speaker 3: tap our profile get and you know that was the

1559
01:18:04,400 --> 01:18:06,960
Speaker 3: smoothest transition ever. I don't want to hear anything about

1560
01:18:06,960 --> 01:18:11,240
Speaker 3: how it wasn't yep uh am I wrong to feel

1561
01:18:11,240 --> 01:18:14,120
Speaker 3: like this is totally unfair and unreasonable. I tried to

1562
01:18:14,160 --> 01:18:16,559
Speaker 3: tell him how the situation felt unfair to me, and

1563
01:18:16,600 --> 01:18:18,560
Speaker 3: it ended up in an argument, with him accusing me

1564
01:18:18,640 --> 01:18:21,000
Speaker 3: of not trusting him to have our best interests in

1565
01:18:21,040 --> 01:18:23,519
Speaker 3: mind and storming out to go sleep at his condo

1566
01:18:23,880 --> 01:18:27,000
Speaker 3: as usual. He also told me that I'm an F

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01:18:27,120 --> 01:18:30,240
Speaker 3: and B and that my house is a piece of

1568
01:18:30,280 --> 01:18:33,120
Speaker 3: crap and that no one loves me, not even my kid.

1569
01:18:33,439 --> 01:18:37,120
Speaker 3: He lashes out like this often, so I'm used to

1570
01:18:37,200 --> 01:18:39,920
Speaker 3: it by now. Oh my god. He apologize for saying

1571
01:18:39,960 --> 01:18:42,960
Speaker 3: that stuff later on, but now he's being back. Now

1572
01:18:43,000 --> 01:18:45,040
Speaker 3: he's back to being cold again, and that is the

1573
01:18:45,160 --> 01:18:45,719
Speaker 3: end of that.

1574
01:18:46,800 --> 01:18:48,440
Speaker 4: For the streets.

1575
01:18:48,920 --> 01:18:52,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, how about you let him marry his car, marry

1576
01:18:52,720 --> 01:18:54,720
Speaker 3: his condo. Then he wants to keep he can live

1577
01:18:54,720 --> 01:18:55,280
Speaker 3: with his mom.

1578
01:18:55,360 --> 01:18:59,000
Speaker 1: That destroys everything, and you and your daughter will be

1579
01:18:59,040 --> 01:19:03,240
Speaker 1: better off without this maniac who like is like and

1580
01:19:03,320 --> 01:19:05,960
Speaker 1: nobody loves you, not even your daughter, and everyone hates

1581
01:19:06,000 --> 01:19:07,200
Speaker 1: your house because it sucks.

1582
01:19:07,280 --> 01:19:10,360
Speaker 3: And also you're the one who's controlling and I've never

1583
01:19:10,360 --> 01:19:11,120
Speaker 3: done anything wrong.

1584
01:19:11,840 --> 01:19:14,880
Speaker 1: Divorce, you know what I think we should do? Let

1585
01:19:14,920 --> 01:19:18,320
Speaker 1: optimist prime, Let optimist prime.

1586
01:19:19,080 --> 01:19:22,200
Speaker 3: You know how many decapitations are in Transformers movies, like

1587
01:19:22,520 --> 01:19:24,800
Speaker 3: every Transformers movie that has come out since two thousand

1588
01:19:24,840 --> 01:19:25,200
Speaker 3: and eight.

1589
01:19:25,360 --> 01:19:27,639
Speaker 1: Like, because he's trying to get that head, Like, does

1590
01:19:27,680 --> 01:19:28,759
Speaker 1: it shoot out lasers?

1591
01:19:28,800 --> 01:19:29,559
Speaker 3: You know what it? Like? Like?

1592
01:19:29,640 --> 01:19:30,080
Speaker 4: How like?

1593
01:19:30,560 --> 01:19:31,600
Speaker 5: Or does it?

1594
01:19:31,000 --> 01:19:32,920
Speaker 4: Is it an exhaust hype?

1595
01:19:32,960 --> 01:19:38,120
Speaker 1: Like? How does this creasey greez? Dude, it's all that's

1596
01:19:38,160 --> 01:19:39,320
Speaker 1: all the built of oil.

1597
01:19:39,439 --> 01:19:41,519
Speaker 4: That shit too. Just think about I mean, it has

1598
01:19:41,600 --> 01:19:42,280
Speaker 4: so many movies.

1599
01:19:42,400 --> 01:19:44,800
Speaker 3: No, I don't want to think about this anymore. I don't.

1600
01:19:44,960 --> 01:19:45,879
Speaker 4: I'm kind of fascinating.

1601
01:19:46,240 --> 01:19:47,479
Speaker 3: But we can make a mistake.

1602
01:19:47,560 --> 01:19:48,240
Speaker 5: We can move on.

1603
01:19:49,680 --> 01:19:53,439
Speaker 4: Wow, what a crazy what a crazy? Riley was right.

1604
01:19:53,479 --> 01:19:55,120
Speaker 5: Riley warned us that there'd be a crazy bunch of

1605
01:19:55,120 --> 01:19:56,719
Speaker 5: stories today, and he was not wrong.

1606
01:19:56,760 --> 01:19:57,639
Speaker 3: He was not wrong at all.

1607
01:19:57,680 --> 01:20:01,400
Speaker 4: We're about to read some crazy snap that's not even

1608
01:20:01,600 --> 01:20:02,519
Speaker 4: we haven't even started.

1609
01:20:02,600 --> 01:20:04,960
Speaker 3: Ladies and gentlemen, it was just the first that was

1610
01:20:05,160 --> 01:20:08,320
Speaker 3: you thought that was crazy. I thought that was crazy.

1611
01:20:08,600 --> 01:20:12,720
Speaker 1: Let's read these donos, uh, but weeen c thanks at

1612
01:20:12,720 --> 01:20:15,880
Speaker 1: the five Bucks can afford a membership, but hype to

1613
01:20:15,960 --> 01:20:19,240
Speaker 1: finally catch the live. Sam and Damien do a great

1614
01:20:19,280 --> 01:20:22,439
Speaker 1: Trump impression. I think you might mean Dakota Amien.

1615
01:20:22,680 --> 01:20:26,840
Speaker 2: I don't know if we have a new personality unlock Damien.

1616
01:20:26,600 --> 01:20:29,240
Speaker 5: Your alter ego En. That does sound like your alter.

1617
01:20:29,360 --> 01:20:32,000
Speaker 2: Amiens just the cool version, right, He's just like, let

1618
01:20:32,080 --> 01:20:32,960
Speaker 2: me slip back hair?

1619
01:20:34,560 --> 01:20:36,040
Speaker 3: Is Damien me with no hat on?

1620
01:20:36,160 --> 01:20:41,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, Davies, what do you do to Dakota? Hey, I

1621
01:20:41,000 --> 01:20:43,679
Speaker 1: don't appreciate that. I didn't do nothing in AA bring

1622
01:20:43,720 --> 01:20:45,559
Speaker 1: Dakota back. Hey, it was just he was gone.

1623
01:20:45,600 --> 01:20:48,080
Speaker 5: I'm gonna pull out Optimus Prime right now. Yeah, there

1624
01:20:48,120 --> 01:20:48,320
Speaker 5: you go.

1625
01:20:48,360 --> 01:20:51,519
Speaker 1: I'm gonna pull up my Prime read. Thanks in the

1626
01:20:51,560 --> 01:20:53,679
Speaker 1: five Bucks. This is all I considered at the moment.

1627
01:20:53,720 --> 01:20:55,880
Speaker 1: But thanks for always making work a better time.

1628
01:20:56,000 --> 01:20:56,520
Speaker 3: PS.

1629
01:20:56,640 --> 01:20:59,519
Speaker 1: I went back and listened to every episode and I

1630
01:20:59,560 --> 01:20:59,960
Speaker 1: love them all.

1631
01:21:00,360 --> 01:21:01,680
Speaker 3: Wow, guys, what.

1632
01:21:01,840 --> 01:21:03,800
Speaker 1: Okay, here we go, Here we go. I think we're

1633
01:21:03,800 --> 01:21:07,400
Speaker 1: still numbering episodes. I'm gonna look it up literally right now. Yeah,

1634
01:21:08,200 --> 01:21:11,040
Speaker 1: this is champion. This is oh wait oh, it tells

1635
01:21:11,080 --> 01:21:13,439
Speaker 1: me on no, no, no, hold on, hold on, it's

1636
01:21:13,479 --> 01:21:16,960
Speaker 1: around nine hundred something hold on uh.

1637
01:21:16,840 --> 01:21:17,799
Speaker 3: The last episode.

1638
01:21:17,960 --> 01:21:23,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, one thousand, eight hundred and twelve episodes currently on

1639
01:21:24,720 --> 01:21:26,440
Speaker 1: the podcast.

1640
01:21:27,200 --> 01:21:28,800
Speaker 5: Also, our ratings are done. What are you guys doing?

1641
01:21:28,920 --> 01:21:32,000
Speaker 4: This is the Rats five stars? Please they're down?

1642
01:21:32,320 --> 01:21:36,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, the four point three no crazy, absolutely insane.

1643
01:21:36,240 --> 01:21:38,320
Speaker 3: You gotta pump those numbers up, guys. We gotta pump

1644
01:21:38,320 --> 01:21:39,960
Speaker 3: pump those numbers up. Geat hear me, you gotta pump

1645
01:21:40,000 --> 01:21:40,599
Speaker 3: those numbers up.

1646
01:21:40,800 --> 01:21:41,120
Speaker 4: We're doing.

1647
01:21:43,360 --> 01:21:45,519
Speaker 1: Jody Maine thanks in five bucks. Please send him love

1648
01:21:45,520 --> 01:21:46,880
Speaker 1: and good vibes my way. I have a six four

1649
01:21:46,960 --> 01:21:48,680
Speaker 1: year old and a husband has to stay late at

1650
01:21:48,680 --> 01:21:50,120
Speaker 1: work for the fifth night in a row.

1651
01:21:50,360 --> 01:21:51,839
Speaker 5: We were both trained and need some support.

1652
01:21:51,880 --> 01:21:52,200
Speaker 4: Guys.

1653
01:21:52,360 --> 01:21:54,960
Speaker 1: I want to see hearts flooding the chat for Jody

1654
01:21:55,040 --> 01:21:56,599
Speaker 1: main her sweet baby.

1655
01:21:56,439 --> 01:21:59,640
Speaker 4: Child, Jody, Jody. My gosh, Hark goes out to you,

1656
01:21:59,720 --> 01:22:03,160
Speaker 4: Jody and Sammy. Thanks for the five bucks long stream. Please.

1657
01:22:03,240 --> 01:22:06,479
Speaker 1: I'm still out delivering mail packages in North Carolina. It's

1658
01:22:06,600 --> 01:22:09,280
Speaker 1: nighttime and I'm ready to go home. You heard it,

1659
01:22:09,360 --> 01:22:11,400
Speaker 1: Sammy will stay. It will stay as long as the

1660
01:22:11,439 --> 01:22:12,680
Speaker 1: people let us.

1661
01:22:12,720 --> 01:22:14,479
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right. If we get it five hundred likes,

1662
01:22:14,520 --> 01:22:17,320
Speaker 3: that means that we'll spin the wheel and add more time.

1663
01:22:17,760 --> 01:22:21,040
Speaker 1: Comar easy light with the stream free you can like

1664
01:22:21,280 --> 01:22:22,680
Speaker 1: wheel free.

1665
01:22:22,600 --> 01:22:24,920
Speaker 2: Make my brain happy. Come on, I want to hear

1666
01:22:24,960 --> 01:22:25,919
Speaker 2: the wheel spin.

1667
01:22:25,840 --> 01:22:30,040
Speaker 5: Anymore any more? Donuts on the donor link. That's it

1668
01:22:30,080 --> 01:22:35,000
Speaker 5: there and on YouTube.

1669
01:22:35,800 --> 01:22:41,680
Speaker 1: Alrighty uh thanks, Hey Wilson for the five bucks.

1670
01:22:41,680 --> 01:22:43,679
Speaker 3: Bro Riley, I got a ticket today. Can you spare

1671
01:22:43,720 --> 01:22:46,160
Speaker 3: me five dollars? Uh?

1672
01:22:46,320 --> 01:22:51,400
Speaker 4: No, Bro is now down ten dollars. Josephine, thanks for

1673
01:22:51,400 --> 01:22:52,240
Speaker 4: the sixty five k.

1674
01:22:52,680 --> 01:22:55,120
Speaker 1: Here are some Swedish curse words for anyone that wants

1675
01:22:55,120 --> 01:22:57,120
Speaker 1: to hear them without being demonetized.

1676
01:22:57,760 --> 01:22:58,200
Speaker 3: That's all you.

1677
01:22:59,080 --> 01:23:03,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, Elvita Javla skit bit the dude?

1678
01:23:03,760 --> 01:23:05,200
Speaker 5: Those are Can you tell us what those means?

1679
01:23:05,320 --> 01:23:06,800
Speaker 2: I think I think I know what a couple of

1680
01:23:06,800 --> 01:23:07,280
Speaker 2: those means.

1681
01:23:08,520 --> 01:23:11,599
Speaker 1: Pigeon Royal, I said, thanks for to five pounds. Still

1682
01:23:11,600 --> 01:23:13,559
Speaker 1: in the hospital because of my cancer, but I took

1683
01:23:13,600 --> 01:23:17,840
Speaker 1: the longest walk today and equipment to Uh. Watching you

1684
01:23:17,880 --> 01:23:19,920
Speaker 1: guys helps me put my mind at ease in the

1685
01:23:19,960 --> 01:23:23,840
Speaker 1: recit and relax, ladies and gentlemen, We need hearts in.

1686
01:23:23,800 --> 01:23:26,400
Speaker 4: The chat for Eli, Eli, shout out.

1687
01:23:26,280 --> 01:23:28,639
Speaker 1: To you, Thank you God did not need to donate

1688
01:23:28,680 --> 01:23:30,960
Speaker 1: to the show by any means, but shows how how

1689
01:23:31,080 --> 01:23:33,200
Speaker 1: kind of a heart you have. And listen, glad to

1690
01:23:33,200 --> 01:23:35,799
Speaker 1: have you in the family, Eli, Glad, glad we can hang.

1691
01:23:35,720 --> 01:23:38,000
Speaker 4: And I speak for us all. We are against cancer.

1692
01:23:38,439 --> 01:23:42,479
Speaker 1: That absolutely, that's that's one thing we will point our

1693
01:23:42,520 --> 01:23:46,479
Speaker 1: flag on Riley's hottest take of the year, truly hottest

1694
01:23:46,479 --> 01:23:49,200
Speaker 1: take of the year. We hate cancer, but big shut

1695
01:23:49,280 --> 01:23:51,640
Speaker 1: F word, F word cancer. I had a lot of

1696
01:23:51,800 --> 01:23:53,400
Speaker 1: F word cancer stuff.

1697
01:23:54,640 --> 01:23:57,240
Speaker 3: Because my mommy, my mom got a little bit of

1698
01:23:57,280 --> 01:23:59,960
Speaker 3: the uh she's she's remiss.

1699
01:24:00,320 --> 01:24:04,320
Speaker 2: Now that's Christion. Yes, well she's she's all clear.

1700
01:24:04,600 --> 01:24:04,960
Speaker 3: There we go.

1701
01:24:05,560 --> 01:24:05,800
Speaker 1: Nice.

1702
01:24:06,200 --> 01:24:08,040
Speaker 3: Was scary and it sucks and we hate it. And

1703
01:24:08,080 --> 01:24:11,639
Speaker 3: that's why we say F word to the cancer fit.

1704
01:24:12,200 --> 01:24:14,679
Speaker 1: Yes, the big shout to you and and hearts out

1705
01:24:14,680 --> 01:24:18,320
Speaker 1: to Eli. Matt Haddergal thanks for to ten bucks. Actually

1706
01:24:18,320 --> 01:24:20,200
Speaker 1: I should get the credit on the ring loll. I

1707
01:24:20,240 --> 01:24:22,439
Speaker 1: sent a few photos of rings of my burstone since

1708
01:24:22,479 --> 01:24:25,760
Speaker 1: I am a December child to my boyfriend, and one

1709
01:24:25,760 --> 01:24:28,000
Speaker 1: of the ones I sent he picked out that one.

1710
01:24:29,000 --> 01:24:30,840
Speaker 1: Fair enough, fair enough, We'll give you the credit there

1711
01:24:31,560 --> 01:24:35,960
Speaker 1: Winter ninety six girl gift in the five memberships, big

1712
01:24:36,000 --> 01:24:39,679
Speaker 1: shout out Baby five new babies popping out the coooter

1713
01:24:40,080 --> 01:24:42,720
Speaker 1: and Bratt zero eight A two thanks for being a

1714
01:24:42,800 --> 01:24:43,559
Speaker 1: member for three months.

1715
01:24:43,560 --> 01:24:45,960
Speaker 5: My boys are playing legos and just her John shout

1716
01:24:46,040 --> 01:24:46,599
Speaker 5: shut up.

1717
01:24:46,640 --> 01:24:50,599
Speaker 1: Oh no, they got quiet, And then Stephen, my youngest boy,

1718
01:24:50,920 --> 01:24:54,479
Speaker 1: starts quietly says you and starts playing.

1719
01:24:54,520 --> 01:24:56,120
Speaker 4: Oh that's like you shit.

1720
01:24:57,600 --> 01:24:58,160
Speaker 3: Adorable.

1721
01:24:58,400 --> 01:24:59,519
Speaker 4: Sorry for scaring your children.

1722
01:24:59,560 --> 01:25:00,240
Speaker 3: I do that lot.

1723
01:25:00,560 --> 01:25:04,839
Speaker 4: Also, take what did you get that ticken on? Oh tape?

1724
01:25:04,920 --> 01:25:09,000
Speaker 3: Take? Oh? Yeah, yeah, I was like maybe we got two?

1725
01:25:09,760 --> 01:25:19,200
Speaker 1: Oh whoa, my god? Okay, okay, okay, three fifty another

1726
01:25:19,560 --> 01:25:22,080
Speaker 1: another fifty dollars don on the tiplink.

1727
01:25:22,479 --> 01:25:23,559
Speaker 3: F it we ball?

1728
01:25:25,080 --> 01:25:27,440
Speaker 5: That is what he's doing right now, My goodness.

1729
01:25:27,160 --> 01:25:29,720
Speaker 4: A ball at nine tonight. Yeah, that's true. Right's got

1730
01:25:29,720 --> 01:25:32,080
Speaker 4: a game. I have a game and nothing's gonna stop me.

1731
01:25:33,000 --> 01:25:34,760
Speaker 5: And then Grandma's got a potty mouth.

1732
01:25:34,760 --> 01:25:36,920
Speaker 4: Thanks for the twenty five buckeroonies.

1733
01:25:37,120 --> 01:25:40,840
Speaker 3: Let's go. That was the Prisoner of Thursday, just keeping

1734
01:25:41,400 --> 01:25:42,519
Speaker 3: going out of potty mouth.

1735
01:25:43,400 --> 01:25:45,160
Speaker 4: And then three blinds picked out of five bucks.

1736
01:25:45,320 --> 01:25:47,439
Speaker 3: I can't see this? Could you all do me? A

1737
01:25:47,520 --> 01:25:57,679
Speaker 3: favor and sound off. Sound off, Yeah, sound off. I'm Dakota.

1738
01:25:57,800 --> 01:26:00,200
Speaker 5: Sound oh yeah, take take it.

1739
01:26:00,920 --> 01:26:02,640
Speaker 3: Sound off. I'm Dakota.

1740
01:26:03,000 --> 01:26:05,599
Speaker 2: Yeah No, that's not what this is, is it?

1741
01:26:06,400 --> 01:26:07,280
Speaker 3: I thought it was? Is that?

1742
01:26:08,840 --> 01:26:09,040
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1743
01:26:09,240 --> 01:26:12,479
Speaker 3: I am Dakota. Yeah, my name is Dakota. Yeah, so

1744
01:26:12,600 --> 01:26:13,360
Speaker 3: check me out.

1745
01:26:13,640 --> 01:26:20,679
Speaker 4: Yeah, I drink soda forgetting them all mixed up. Sound off.

1746
01:26:20,840 --> 01:26:21,680
Speaker 4: I'm John.

1747
01:26:24,000 --> 01:26:25,200
Speaker 2: Finger pointed at Riley.

1748
01:26:25,600 --> 01:26:26,439
Speaker 4: I'm making noise.

1749
01:26:26,479 --> 01:26:31,639
Speaker 3: I'm Riley, John, Riley Dakota, Me I Dakota.

1750
01:26:33,600 --> 01:26:37,559
Speaker 4: Yeah, we did it. Take got a ticket for being

1751
01:26:37,560 --> 01:26:39,479
Speaker 4: on his phone. So I think he was streaming us.

1752
01:26:40,240 --> 01:26:45,120
Speaker 2: Oh the dedications.

1753
01:26:46,160 --> 01:26:51,759
Speaker 3: Not streaming drive. You're not streaming drives? Dangerous, dangerous, Caitlin

1754
01:26:51,840 --> 01:26:54,120
Speaker 3: van Cabin. Thank you for the two dollars, Thank you

1755
01:26:54,120 --> 01:26:55,400
Speaker 3: for the two hours in the hearts.

1756
01:26:59,520 --> 01:27:03,799
Speaker 1: Ah all right, ladies and gentlemen. I think that means

1757
01:27:03,840 --> 01:27:07,320
Speaker 1: we read.

1758
01:27:05,840 --> 01:27:08,840
Speaker 3: And I have it. I've got it.

1759
01:27:09,280 --> 01:27:11,439
Speaker 4: This one will definitely do the Facebook thing I was

1760
01:27:11,479 --> 01:27:15,519
Speaker 4: telling you about. All right me, Yeah, there we go.

1761
01:27:15,520 --> 01:27:16,160
Speaker 4: Wait here we go.

1762
01:27:18,000 --> 01:27:19,200
Speaker 5: Sharp beep sorr eighty seven.

1763
01:27:19,600 --> 01:27:23,799
Speaker 1: Grandma's behave Grandma's a survivor of colon cancer cancer.

1764
01:27:23,880 --> 01:27:27,360
Speaker 4: Let's brick and go, get out of there, shout out Grammy.

1765
01:27:30,240 --> 01:27:31,599
Speaker 3: Okay, are you ready?

1766
01:27:33,920 --> 01:27:34,599
Speaker 4: We'll let you know.

1767
01:27:37,200 --> 01:27:44,080
Speaker 3: Best speaking moss impression, go, I'm so sorry.

1768
01:27:44,120 --> 01:27:45,080
Speaker 2: What's going on over there?

1769
01:27:48,560 --> 01:27:54,160
Speaker 3: My girl? Now you got it? Starting over the girl

1770
01:27:54,240 --> 01:27:57,479
Speaker 3: my fiance cheated on me with is trying to send

1771
01:27:57,560 --> 01:28:05,120
Speaker 3: us a package. It arrived one year later. Intriguing. Intriguing.

1772
01:28:07,680 --> 01:28:13,439
Speaker 3: So this is in November of twenty fifteen, first post ever.

1773
01:28:13,720 --> 01:28:18,040
Speaker 3: Wh mandatory apologies for my English details in places muddled

1774
01:28:18,160 --> 01:28:21,320
Speaker 3: just in case, well, the title says it all. My fiance,

1775
01:28:21,720 --> 01:28:24,920
Speaker 3: Oliver and I have been together for twelve years, stuck

1776
01:28:24,960 --> 01:28:28,320
Speaker 3: together through thick and thin, you know, long distance relationship,

1777
01:28:28,360 --> 01:28:30,639
Speaker 3: the usual problems of a couple starting off very young,

1778
01:28:30,680 --> 01:28:34,240
Speaker 3: et cetera. In the last year he has been struggling

1779
01:28:34,280 --> 01:28:37,120
Speaker 3: a lot with depression and anxiety, but he is slowly

1780
01:28:37,200 --> 01:28:40,080
Speaker 3: getting better. And by the way, this comes from user

1781
01:28:40,360 --> 01:28:44,040
Speaker 3: dried Garlic on the r slash Okay storytime suburden. So,

1782
01:28:45,240 --> 01:28:48,680
Speaker 3: at some point in our long distance relationship, we were

1783
01:28:48,680 --> 01:28:52,760
Speaker 3: living in two separate countries and during his stay he

1784
01:28:52,840 --> 01:28:56,920
Speaker 3: became very good friends with two other people, Ben and Sarah.

1785
01:28:57,080 --> 01:29:00,360
Speaker 3: The three of them bonded through shared experiences, the same

1786
01:29:00,400 --> 01:29:05,080
Speaker 3: mental health issues, etc. At some point he came back,

1787
01:29:05,479 --> 01:29:09,120
Speaker 3: we started living together, eventually becoming engaged. We decided on

1788
01:29:09,160 --> 01:29:11,400
Speaker 3: a long engagement of two plus years, since we were

1789
01:29:11,439 --> 01:29:18,280
Speaker 3: both settled on long academic paths. Our relationship that had

1790
01:29:18,320 --> 01:29:21,880
Speaker 3: at some points been turbulent, settled very well as we

1791
01:29:22,000 --> 01:29:24,880
Speaker 3: both acquired maturity and got to really know each other

1792
01:29:25,000 --> 01:29:29,519
Speaker 3: during our daily lives. And things were peachy keen Oh.

1793
01:29:29,600 --> 01:29:32,880
Speaker 3: Three years ago though Sarah moved closer to where we

1794
01:29:32,960 --> 01:29:37,680
Speaker 3: lived and for a two year stay. Now we were

1795
01:29:37,720 --> 01:29:40,400
Speaker 3: all good friends, everything was good, etc. Long story short,

1796
01:29:40,439 --> 01:29:43,920
Speaker 3: my fiance cheated on me with her shortly before she

1797
01:29:44,160 --> 01:29:49,160
Speaker 3: left the country, and an emotional affair was included, and

1798
01:29:49,280 --> 01:29:52,519
Speaker 3: she found it by snooping bad on me? I mean

1799
01:29:53,800 --> 01:29:56,040
Speaker 3: yes and no. It's like it's bad on you if

1800
01:29:56,080 --> 01:29:58,280
Speaker 3: you find nothing. But then it's like your instincts were

1801
01:29:58,360 --> 01:30:00,200
Speaker 3: right if you do find some thing.

1802
01:30:01,040 --> 01:30:03,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's it's a very, it's a very. It's a

1803
01:30:03,240 --> 01:30:06,040
Speaker 1: very tricky and slippery slope.

1804
01:30:05,760 --> 01:30:08,960
Speaker 3: Is a slippery slope full of context and intrigue.

1805
01:30:09,120 --> 01:30:12,000
Speaker 1: Speaking of slippery slopes, that's not a segway at all.

1806
01:30:12,120 --> 01:30:14,760
Speaker 1: But uh, who just made the big dono?

1807
01:30:15,920 --> 01:30:17,920
Speaker 4: Wait wait wait what? Uh sir?

1808
01:30:18,160 --> 01:30:23,320
Speaker 1: Check it out what somebody donated. If you scroll the

1809
01:30:23,520 --> 01:30:28,000
Speaker 1: blind bandit, what the heck? The blind bandit just donated

1810
01:30:28,000 --> 01:30:31,840
Speaker 1: one hundred to put us over the goal?

1811
01:30:32,360 --> 01:30:33,639
Speaker 3: Who put us over?

1812
01:30:34,439 --> 01:30:34,639
Speaker 1: Got?

1813
01:30:34,960 --> 01:30:37,040
Speaker 3: Where you are you? Blind? Did you put an extra

1814
01:30:37,120 --> 01:30:38,439
Speaker 3: zero on there by accident?

1815
01:30:39,479 --> 01:30:42,800
Speaker 5: I always listened to imagine they actually it is the

1816
01:30:42,800 --> 01:30:43,559
Speaker 5: biggest day you'll.

1817
01:30:43,439 --> 01:30:45,519
Speaker 2: Ever But that means that they're also a bandit, So

1818
01:30:45,560 --> 01:30:46,519
Speaker 2: I'm in the clear truth.

1819
01:30:47,439 --> 01:30:49,760
Speaker 1: I always listened to Spotify, but I came to live

1820
01:30:49,800 --> 01:30:54,680
Speaker 1: today just the tip all hail the worm Army. I

1821
01:30:54,680 --> 01:30:57,479
Speaker 1: hope everyone's enjoying the live ps. Lots of love to

1822
01:30:57,560 --> 01:31:00,519
Speaker 1: Uncle Daddy Jesse, where's that Cale Daddy Jesse and Baby Godzilla,

1823
01:31:00,800 --> 01:31:04,160
Speaker 1: who have baller user names. Wow, dude, baby then Jesse,

1824
01:31:04,200 --> 01:31:06,599
Speaker 1: where are you at? And baby G? Baby G come back,

1825
01:31:06,640 --> 01:31:09,280
Speaker 1: baby G. But big shout the blind man.

1826
01:31:09,520 --> 01:31:12,439
Speaker 4: That's that's huge. So we had this one right here.

1827
01:31:12,320 --> 01:31:13,799
Speaker 4: We forgot a little bit ago.

1828
01:31:14,000 --> 01:31:18,240
Speaker 3: Oh go for it from Savannah Riggs five dollars, thank

1829
01:31:18,280 --> 01:31:20,559
Speaker 3: you very much. I am the same age as the

1830
01:31:20,600 --> 01:31:24,160
Speaker 3: O G Friends cast. I figured out the new cast

1831
01:31:24,200 --> 01:31:27,120
Speaker 3: of Friends. Since Sam and Sophia are brother and sister,

1832
01:31:27,200 --> 01:31:28,679
Speaker 3: they're the new Ross and Monica.

1833
01:31:30,360 --> 01:31:32,920
Speaker 2: Uh oh, I got the names mixed up.

1834
01:31:33,360 --> 01:31:37,040
Speaker 3: John is the new Chandler, Riley is the new Joey

1835
01:31:37,120 --> 01:31:41,080
Speaker 3: for obvious adorable reasons. I like Molly for Phoebe, and

1836
01:31:41,200 --> 01:31:46,599
Speaker 3: Rachel is now Dakota. Dude, I'm Jennifer Aniston. I want

1837
01:31:46,640 --> 01:31:54,519
Speaker 3: to oh that means Kerry, one of my favorite movies,

1838
01:31:55,000 --> 01:31:57,200
Speaker 3: not Liar Liar, Bruce Almighty Byer Liar is also up

1839
01:31:57,240 --> 01:32:03,160
Speaker 3: there though. Wow, my dreams are coming true. Thank you

1840
01:32:03,240 --> 01:32:10,439
Speaker 3: very much, Savannaigs. So we've left it at Sarah came

1841
01:32:10,520 --> 01:32:16,160
Speaker 3: visited for two years. Right fiance cheated on op with

1842
01:32:16,400 --> 01:32:20,200
Speaker 3: Sarah right before she left, and she.

1843
01:32:20,280 --> 01:32:22,280
Speaker 2: Found out by Snoopin' nasty.

1844
01:32:22,880 --> 01:32:28,040
Speaker 3: I was devastated. I cut contact with Sarah, immediately demanded

1845
01:32:28,280 --> 01:32:31,120
Speaker 3: he do the same, and almost broke up with him.

1846
01:32:31,640 --> 01:32:34,599
Speaker 3: We were separated for two months. It was rough because

1847
01:32:34,640 --> 01:32:37,799
Speaker 3: at that time I had no access to therapy or counseling,

1848
01:32:37,880 --> 01:32:40,200
Speaker 3: and I was really far away from home. But my

1849
01:32:40,320 --> 01:32:45,799
Speaker 3: friends were kick butt and supported me emotionally that whole time.

1850
01:32:46,360 --> 01:32:48,960
Speaker 3: After these two months and a lot of soul searching,

1851
01:32:49,120 --> 01:32:51,479
Speaker 3: we took the first tentative steps to be together again.

1852
01:32:51,760 --> 01:32:53,519
Speaker 3: It took me a long time to forgive him and

1853
01:32:53,600 --> 01:32:56,559
Speaker 3: to recover my trust on him. But little by little

1854
01:32:56,800 --> 01:32:59,439
Speaker 3: we healed and we made it work again. This was

1855
01:32:59,479 --> 01:33:03,280
Speaker 3: two years ago and things are now really good. Ben

1856
01:33:03,640 --> 01:33:06,360
Speaker 3: did not take the news of their separation too kindly,

1857
01:33:06,920 --> 01:33:10,960
Speaker 3: and he has been passive aggressive to Oliver about him

1858
01:33:10,960 --> 01:33:16,080
Speaker 3: not talking to Sarah. Ben butt out, dude, this is

1859
01:33:16,160 --> 01:33:19,120
Speaker 3: not your business, Ben, which you do in partner other country?

1860
01:33:19,120 --> 01:33:24,799
Speaker 3: Ben Uh. Oliver has reacted well and has been adamant

1861
01:33:24,880 --> 01:33:31,280
Speaker 3: about not contacting him again. Okay, so now Oliver has

1862
01:33:31,320 --> 01:33:35,000
Speaker 3: cut off both Ben and Sarah in this story. Okay.

1863
01:33:35,400 --> 01:33:42,080
Speaker 3: Two weeks ago Ben told my fiance wait, Ben told fiance,

1864
01:33:42,320 --> 01:33:45,080
Speaker 3: which I guess is Oliver right, that he had given

1865
01:33:45,120 --> 01:33:48,639
Speaker 3: our new address to Sarah because she wanted to send

1866
01:33:48,880 --> 01:33:54,240
Speaker 3: us a package with stuff belonging to Oliver. He says

1867
01:33:54,600 --> 01:33:59,360
Speaker 3: that she has nothing of him, that she thinks nothing

1868
01:33:59,400 --> 01:34:01,519
Speaker 3: of him, and I believe it. They have never lived

1869
01:34:01,520 --> 01:34:03,600
Speaker 3: together most of their friendship, they have been living in

1870
01:34:03,600 --> 01:34:04,280
Speaker 3: different places.

1871
01:34:05,000 --> 01:34:09,160
Speaker 2: He has been really anxious about all of this and

1872
01:34:09,200 --> 01:34:11,040
Speaker 2: he does not want any contact with her.

1873
01:34:11,800 --> 01:34:15,519
Speaker 3: I personally do not care about her, but he is

1874
01:34:15,720 --> 01:34:18,759
Speaker 3: dreading the day that the package arrives. If it comes

1875
01:34:18,760 --> 01:34:21,360
Speaker 3: when I'm in the house, I'm just gonna throw it away,

1876
01:34:21,680 --> 01:34:23,680
Speaker 3: but I don't want him to receive it and just

1877
01:34:23,800 --> 01:34:25,040
Speaker 3: get an anxiety attack.

1878
01:34:25,880 --> 01:34:29,439
Speaker 2: So are slash relationships? What is your advice?

1879
01:34:30,080 --> 01:34:33,000
Speaker 3: I know I do not have to protect my fiance

1880
01:34:33,120 --> 01:34:36,000
Speaker 3: from this stuff, but he is hurting and I do

1881
01:34:36,080 --> 01:34:38,519
Speaker 3: want to support him. I do not think it is

1882
01:34:38,600 --> 01:34:42,679
Speaker 3: compromising material, because I mean I already found the compromising material.

1883
01:34:43,240 --> 01:34:45,880
Speaker 3: I think it's a passive, aggressive way of reminding us

1884
01:34:45,880 --> 01:34:50,360
Speaker 3: of her existence. And what shall we do with this? Friend?

1885
01:34:51,080 --> 01:34:55,360
Speaker 3: Ben mm okay, OPI has added more info in the comments.

1886
01:34:56,680 --> 01:34:59,520
Speaker 3: Let's go ahead and just dig right into that. Hi, everybody,

1887
01:34:59,560 --> 01:35:01,439
Speaker 3: oh my, this blew up. Thank you for all the

1888
01:35:01,439 --> 01:35:03,880
Speaker 3: good advice. It has been really helpful to clear my thoughts.

1889
01:35:04,200 --> 01:35:06,080
Speaker 3: I left out some details that might be relevant, so

1890
01:35:06,120 --> 01:35:08,400
Speaker 3: here they are. I do not think that the package

1891
01:35:08,439 --> 01:35:11,160
Speaker 3: contains proof or details that I still do not know

1892
01:35:11,800 --> 01:35:14,080
Speaker 3: when she was living in the same country as of

1893
01:35:14,439 --> 01:35:19,040
Speaker 3: as she was still six hundred kilometers but away.

1894
01:35:19,200 --> 01:35:22,479
Speaker 2: Sorry, I hate the metric system.

1895
01:35:21,840 --> 01:35:26,679
Speaker 3: Because I'm a because I'm an American, so random, I'm sorry,

1896
01:35:26,720 --> 01:35:28,560
Speaker 3: I had to I'm sorry, Okay, I don't hate the

1897
01:35:28,600 --> 01:35:32,680
Speaker 3: metric system. I love your up. So uh, she was

1898
01:35:32,720 --> 01:35:35,559
Speaker 3: six hundred kilometers away, so there was not really any

1899
01:35:35,680 --> 01:35:39,160
Speaker 3: chances to meet without me knowing. I mean, I know

1900
01:35:39,240 --> 01:35:41,880
Speaker 3: when it happened. Later she moved to a whole other

1901
01:35:41,920 --> 01:35:45,960
Speaker 3: continent at the time. I demanded that he give me

1902
01:35:46,120 --> 01:35:49,000
Speaker 3: access to all of his accounts. He complied, and that

1903
01:35:49,080 --> 01:35:51,960
Speaker 3: he block her on everything, which he did. And I

1904
01:35:52,000 --> 01:35:54,240
Speaker 3: believe him because when she actually tried to contact us

1905
01:35:54,320 --> 01:35:58,519
Speaker 3: later about Ben, which that comes later, she had to

1906
01:35:58,520 --> 01:36:02,720
Speaker 3: do it through common frint. His anxious reaction does not

1907
01:36:02,800 --> 01:36:05,400
Speaker 3: surprise me. He used to have very serious issues with

1908
01:36:05,439 --> 01:36:08,120
Speaker 3: social anxiety, to the point of being paralyzed about any

1909
01:36:08,200 --> 01:36:11,920
Speaker 3: kind of unpleasant interaction. He has. He has been working

1910
01:36:11,960 --> 01:36:14,479
Speaker 3: on his mental issues, gotten therapy and meds, et cetera,

1911
01:36:14,560 --> 01:36:17,400
Speaker 3: and is now much better. He reacted maturely to the

1912
01:36:17,439 --> 01:36:20,559
Speaker 3: last developments, and he told me immediately and understands that

1913
01:36:20,680 --> 01:36:24,559
Speaker 3: it is his mess to clean up. But he is suffering,

1914
01:36:25,320 --> 01:36:28,559
Speaker 3: or he suffered. Today. I picked up a huge package

1915
01:36:28,560 --> 01:36:31,479
Speaker 3: taller than a person from a neighbor, and when he

1916
01:36:31,520 --> 01:36:33,920
Speaker 3: went through to the door and saw it, he really

1917
01:36:33,960 --> 01:36:37,280
Speaker 3: tensed up, and she got Okay, that was kind of funny.

1918
01:36:37,280 --> 01:36:40,880
Speaker 3: In a messed up way. I mean, dude, like he

1919
01:36:40,960 --> 01:36:43,160
Speaker 3: cheated on you. It's like, yeah, it's you. You're allowed

1920
01:36:43,160 --> 01:36:45,439
Speaker 3: to think that him being scared of the giant human

1921
01:36:45,479 --> 01:36:46,599
Speaker 3: sized package is funny.

1922
01:36:46,840 --> 01:36:50,439
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think so a person that you cheated with.

1923
01:36:50,880 --> 01:36:53,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just like a life like sized wax figure

1924
01:36:53,880 --> 01:37:01,280
Speaker 3: in Sarah that she sent. Okay, and bullet point this

1925
01:37:01,360 --> 01:37:03,680
Speaker 3: might be pretty relevant too, but I kind of understand

1926
01:37:03,920 --> 01:37:09,280
Speaker 3: Ben understated Ben's reaction. He did not take well at

1927
01:37:09,280 --> 01:37:12,920
Speaker 3: all to his two best friends not talking anymore. Okay,

1928
01:37:12,920 --> 01:37:15,120
Speaker 3: now that makes it a little more sense from his perspective.

1929
01:37:15,640 --> 01:37:17,639
Speaker 3: As I said, the three of them were a very

1930
01:37:17,680 --> 01:37:21,160
Speaker 3: close knit group, but he in particular had a magical

1931
01:37:21,240 --> 01:37:24,439
Speaker 3: vision of the trio being best friends forever. He was

1932
01:37:24,560 --> 01:37:27,479
Speaker 3: into Sarah a lot and spent hours talking to my

1933
01:37:27,479 --> 01:37:30,840
Speaker 3: fiance about how much he loved her. I have the

1934
01:37:30,840 --> 01:37:34,679
Speaker 3: feeling that Ben is into my fiance as well. Oh,

1935
01:37:34,760 --> 01:37:37,599
Speaker 3: so Ben's trying to get a little thrupple action going, dude,

1936
01:37:37,760 --> 01:37:40,600
Speaker 3: what is going on? Ben's Ben's the wild card in

1937
01:37:40,680 --> 01:37:41,680
Speaker 3: this for sure. Bro.

1938
01:37:42,320 --> 01:37:45,880
Speaker 1: So literally everyone is basically like likes or hooking up

1939
01:37:45,880 --> 01:37:47,120
Speaker 1: with each other except for Op.

1940
01:37:47,160 --> 01:37:48,559
Speaker 5: He's just like standing here on an island.

1941
01:37:48,680 --> 01:37:50,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, OPI is trying to be like I have a

1942
01:37:50,200 --> 01:37:53,759
Speaker 3: husband and I guess he was in a secret love triangle, dude,

1943
01:37:54,479 --> 01:38:01,639
Speaker 3: that is now turning into a love betrayal because uh no, no,

1944
01:38:02,320 --> 01:38:09,640
Speaker 3: not doing it, no.

1945
01:38:07,800 --> 01:38:10,479
Speaker 1: MESSI Gal says, I mean a giant package will make

1946
01:38:10,560 --> 01:38:12,519
Speaker 1: me tense up to shreuk.

1947
01:38:14,120 --> 01:38:14,519
Speaker 3: Whoo.

1948
01:38:17,080 --> 01:38:19,400
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Grandma who may be watching this show.

1949
01:38:20,560 --> 01:38:25,640
Speaker 1: I ain't sorry, Grandma, this is what you signed up for, Grandma.

1950
01:38:26,720 --> 01:38:30,960
Speaker 3: Okay. So when my fiance told him that he and

1951
01:38:31,000 --> 01:38:34,160
Speaker 3: Sarah did not talk anymore and why, Ben seemed to

1952
01:38:34,200 --> 01:38:37,320
Speaker 3: take it okay. But two weeks later he contacted her

1953
01:38:37,360 --> 01:38:40,479
Speaker 3: to say he was about about to self harm. That's

1954
01:38:40,479 --> 01:38:43,599
Speaker 3: why he contacted us. So we contacted Ben's family. He

1955
01:38:43,680 --> 01:38:46,559
Speaker 3: was okay. Beyonce set up boundaries with him, but did

1956
01:38:46,560 --> 01:38:49,519
Speaker 3: not cut him off completely. I am starting to think

1957
01:38:49,520 --> 01:38:52,080
Speaker 3: that Ben's reason to give her our address in this

1958
01:38:52,160 --> 01:38:57,240
Speaker 3: particular way of is his particular way of punishing my

1959
01:38:57,400 --> 01:39:01,919
Speaker 3: fiance for leaving the Magical Trio. Uh my personal feelings.

1960
01:39:02,200 --> 01:39:05,120
Speaker 3: All this drama has been annoying a f The general

1961
01:39:05,160 --> 01:39:08,759
Speaker 3: advice of relationships our relationship seems to be to cut

1962
01:39:08,800 --> 01:39:11,600
Speaker 3: off Ben and I think that is spot on. I

1963
01:39:11,600 --> 01:39:13,920
Speaker 3: will tell Oliver that I think it is the best idea.

1964
01:39:14,120 --> 01:39:23,680
Speaker 3: He's on the fence about it, right, Ah, yes, classic good.

1965
01:39:25,240 --> 01:39:26,080
Speaker 4: It's an art piece.

1966
01:39:26,680 --> 01:39:27,320
Speaker 2: It's an art piece.

1967
01:39:27,360 --> 01:39:29,879
Speaker 4: It goes in the corner. It goes in the corner.

1968
01:39:31,400 --> 01:39:37,360
Speaker 4: It's our come on, come on about the cursed package.

1969
01:39:37,960 --> 01:39:43,080
Speaker 3: Good timing. Personally, I lean towards throwing it away without

1970
01:39:43,080 --> 01:39:44,960
Speaker 3: opening it. I do not want to have anything to

1971
01:39:45,000 --> 01:39:48,040
Speaker 3: do with that dweeb. However, you are right, it is

1972
01:39:48,080 --> 01:39:50,599
Speaker 3: not my decision to make. If and when it comes,

1973
01:39:50,720 --> 01:39:52,920
Speaker 3: I will offer him the choice either to throw it

1974
01:39:52,960 --> 01:39:56,400
Speaker 3: away or to go through the contents together and probably

1975
01:39:56,400 --> 01:39:59,720
Speaker 3: toss them. Anyways, thank you, And we.

1976
01:39:59,680 --> 01:40:02,880
Speaker 2: Do have an update. But so where where are we thinking?

1977
01:40:02,960 --> 01:40:03,360
Speaker 5: So far?

1978
01:40:03,439 --> 01:40:07,400
Speaker 4: It's like it's so fed up, you know, like whenever

1979
01:40:07,439 --> 01:40:08,880
Speaker 4: you get in trouble and your dad's like when I

1980
01:40:08,920 --> 01:40:11,160
Speaker 4: get home, you're getting a spanking, and then you have

1981
01:40:11,200 --> 01:40:14,160
Speaker 4: to wait until they get home. This is what it

1982
01:40:14,200 --> 01:40:17,679
Speaker 4: feels like for a whole year or whatever long however

1983
01:40:17,720 --> 01:40:21,200
Speaker 4: long it is for uh, for OP or for the

1984
01:40:21,320 --> 01:40:27,280
Speaker 4: package the fiance Op's partner waiting on this package.

1985
01:40:27,160 --> 01:40:29,439
Speaker 3: Yeah, waiting for it, waiting for it to happen. It's

1986
01:40:29,439 --> 01:40:31,000
Speaker 3: like it didn't happen to Okay, so now is it?

1987
01:40:31,040 --> 01:40:31,639
Speaker 3: Is it happening?

1988
01:40:31,880 --> 01:40:33,160
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1989
01:40:33,200 --> 01:40:34,519
Speaker 3: When's it? When's it gonna show up?

1990
01:40:34,640 --> 01:40:38,560
Speaker 1: That is that is such a mischievous like that's like

1991
01:40:38,680 --> 01:40:42,560
Speaker 1: Kendrick Lamar level, like planned playing manipulation.

1992
01:40:42,800 --> 01:40:48,920
Speaker 4: I'd move ya move, dude, that's so funny.

1993
01:40:50,080 --> 01:40:54,360
Speaker 3: So guys, we do have an update. Oh, we do

1994
01:40:54,439 --> 01:40:55,000
Speaker 3: have an update.

1995
01:40:55,800 --> 01:40:59,200
Speaker 2: I mean I personally, I think I opened the package

1996
01:40:59,640 --> 01:41:00,160
Speaker 2: to get there.

1997
01:41:00,680 --> 01:41:03,680
Speaker 1: I think open fascinating, open the package together, like just

1998
01:41:03,800 --> 01:41:07,679
Speaker 1: pure curiosity, open the package together, and then yeah, probably

1999
01:41:07,800 --> 01:41:10,760
Speaker 1: we don't know what the contents are, right, Yeah, it.

2000
01:41:10,720 --> 01:41:16,000
Speaker 3: Could be a it could be anything. Like some of

2001
01:41:16,000 --> 01:41:24,720
Speaker 3: our comments have suggested wonderful things. One of those I

2002
01:41:24,720 --> 01:41:27,800
Speaker 3: mean I wouldn't I wouldn't expect it to be anything dangerous.

2003
01:41:27,840 --> 01:41:31,080
Speaker 3: Like you know, they were like best friends. It's not like,

2004
01:41:31,160 --> 01:41:32,880
Speaker 3: I mean, they're not gonna win at that level. It

2005
01:41:32,920 --> 01:41:37,360
Speaker 3: could get dangerous. I also think that the point of

2006
01:41:37,400 --> 01:41:40,920
Speaker 3: like cutting off that bend guy to prevent whatever was

2007
01:41:40,960 --> 01:41:41,479
Speaker 3: about to come.

2008
01:41:41,840 --> 01:41:47,000
Speaker 7: Yeah, you know like earlier said earlier, Yeah, but your

2009
01:41:47,120 --> 01:41:49,800
Speaker 7: your suggestion for our sponsor to be and how to

2010
01:41:50,000 --> 01:41:54,360
Speaker 7: pressure them into really that's a sponsorship rights of those.

2011
01:41:54,400 --> 01:41:54,880
Speaker 4: It could be a.

2012
01:41:54,840 --> 01:41:58,519
Speaker 3: Table, would be a table, it could be.

2013
01:42:01,439 --> 01:42:04,160
Speaker 2: Okay, so let's I guess, let's get into the update.

2014
01:42:04,400 --> 01:42:04,960
Speaker 4: Let's do it.

2015
01:42:07,240 --> 01:42:12,000
Speaker 3: All right. One year update. Oh so, I know this

2016
01:42:12,040 --> 01:42:14,080
Speaker 3: is ancient history, but we got an update, and I

2017
01:42:14,120 --> 01:42:16,599
Speaker 3: have several private messages asking me for an update if

2018
01:42:16,640 --> 01:42:20,679
Speaker 3: something happened. So yes, we got the package last week

2019
01:42:21,040 --> 01:42:24,080
Speaker 3: and it did not disappoint. After reading the advice here,

2020
01:42:24,120 --> 01:42:26,000
Speaker 3: I sat down with him and we decided we did

2021
01:42:26,040 --> 01:42:28,519
Speaker 3: not want the effing thing. So he wrote a message

2022
01:42:28,520 --> 01:42:31,880
Speaker 3: to Ben saying, tell Sarah we want nothing from her,

2023
01:42:32,200 --> 01:42:33,599
Speaker 3: and then he blocked him.

2024
01:42:34,479 --> 01:42:36,600
Speaker 5: Chuch, that's good.

2025
01:42:36,640 --> 01:42:41,160
Speaker 3: We like that. We like that this all happened. I

2026
01:42:41,280 --> 01:42:45,599
Speaker 3: was segueing back in the story. He was smooth, Okay,

2027
01:42:46,280 --> 01:42:51,600
Speaker 3: this all happened last year. Meanwhile, life went on. He

2028
01:42:51,720 --> 01:42:55,840
Speaker 3: changed jobs, he's still in academy, and now he is

2029
01:42:55,920 --> 01:42:58,839
Speaker 3: way more happy and relaxed. My job is well paid

2030
01:42:58,920 --> 01:43:01,600
Speaker 3: and interesting, and I can keep some other projects on

2031
01:43:01,640 --> 01:43:04,519
Speaker 3: the side. We got married this summer, and our wedding

2032
01:43:04,640 --> 01:43:09,559
Speaker 3: was perfect for us, lively, bombastic, lots of food and alcohol,

2033
01:43:09,960 --> 01:43:13,600
Speaker 3: and our friends and family together. It was expensive, but

2034
01:43:13,760 --> 01:43:18,880
Speaker 3: we don't care. I don't believe it. I believe everything's

2035
01:43:19,320 --> 01:43:21,400
Speaker 3: something's very wrong, something is very wrong.

2036
01:43:21,600 --> 01:43:24,240
Speaker 5: I kind of like what Riley was saying, like, I

2037
01:43:24,240 --> 01:43:24,680
Speaker 5: feel like.

2038
01:43:26,240 --> 01:43:29,280
Speaker 1: Daddy Fate is going to come and spank both of them,

2039
01:43:29,880 --> 01:43:30,880
Speaker 1: and something's gonna happen.

2040
01:43:30,960 --> 01:43:33,599
Speaker 3: Well, let's find out. Let's find out if Daddy brought

2041
01:43:34,200 --> 01:43:40,280
Speaker 3: brought the spankings. This month, my husband is on a

2042
01:43:40,320 --> 01:43:43,360
Speaker 3: conference trip in another continent, so I'm home alone. I

2043
01:43:43,400 --> 01:43:45,559
Speaker 3: hope it's not on the continent that Sarah lives on.

2044
01:43:46,800 --> 01:43:49,519
Speaker 3: When I arrived home in the evening, there was a

2045
01:43:49,560 --> 01:43:51,920
Speaker 3: package addressed to him in the mailbox, with a stamp

2046
01:43:51,920 --> 01:43:56,320
Speaker 3: from a place where I know she lived and a

2047
01:43:56,439 --> 01:44:01,000
Speaker 3: sender we don't know, So this is a mysterio Sarah Pagett.

2048
01:44:02,680 --> 01:44:06,240
Speaker 3: I thought for a moment, oh my, oh my, this

2049
01:44:06,360 --> 01:44:08,920
Speaker 3: may be her, but then I thought that it would

2050
01:44:08,960 --> 01:44:12,200
Speaker 3: be pretty crazy for her to send it. Now. That night,

2051
01:44:12,360 --> 01:44:14,519
Speaker 3: I was skyping with my husband and made a comment

2052
01:44:14,560 --> 01:44:17,360
Speaker 3: about the parcel. I mentioned the name of the sender,

2053
01:44:17,439 --> 01:44:19,599
Speaker 3: and he did not know the name. So I proposed

2054
01:44:19,600 --> 01:44:24,360
Speaker 3: that I opened it with him on camera, and well,

2055
01:44:24,840 --> 01:44:27,400
Speaker 3: turns out I was right on the money. It contained

2056
01:44:27,439 --> 01:44:30,479
Speaker 3: several postcards wishing him happy birthdays and Merry Christmas. Is

2057
01:44:30,520 --> 01:44:31,520
Speaker 3: all unsigned.

2058
01:44:32,000 --> 01:44:35,439
Speaker 1: Also little notes such as dance in the rain, look

2059
01:44:35,439 --> 01:44:40,080
Speaker 1: at the clouds, walk barefoot, and all those kind of platitudes.

2060
01:44:41,640 --> 01:44:45,439
Speaker 3: What this girl's a door?

2061
01:44:45,760 --> 01:44:49,080
Speaker 4: What is was like a nature door.

2062
01:44:49,280 --> 01:44:50,880
Speaker 3: I just want to make sure you're dancing in the

2063
01:44:50,960 --> 01:44:53,400
Speaker 3: rain without me. Keep dancing in the rain with your

2064
01:44:53,520 --> 01:44:54,879
Speaker 3: wife rain therapy.

2065
01:44:55,080 --> 01:44:59,040
Speaker 1: Honestly, it's more giving to me cutting out the letters

2066
01:44:59,040 --> 01:45:02,720
Speaker 1: in the magazine. And it's just like durin, just like

2067
01:45:03,200 --> 01:45:04,120
Speaker 1: dance in the rains.

2068
01:45:04,840 --> 01:45:10,920
Speaker 3: Cute platitudes like it's a hostage lesson. Yes, yes, it

2069
01:45:11,000 --> 01:45:16,559
Speaker 3: had a book, a young adult romance book. I remember

2070
01:45:16,640 --> 01:45:20,800
Speaker 3: saying aloud, oh, for f's sake when I saw it. Meanwhile,

2071
01:45:20,960 --> 01:45:22,800
Speaker 3: my husband had a face on like he had just

2072
01:45:22,800 --> 01:45:26,639
Speaker 3: seen a cockroach in his sandwich with malicious. My face

2073
01:45:26,680 --> 01:45:35,719
Speaker 3: would be that would really scare me. Protein extra protein,

2074
01:45:36,080 --> 01:45:38,840
Speaker 3: Oh be, those are some big gains in my sandwich.

2075
01:45:41,640 --> 01:45:44,880
Speaker 3: This is all in parentheses. The title is of the novel.

2076
01:45:46,640 --> 01:45:48,640
Speaker 3: The title of the novel is Star Girl. It is

2077
01:45:48,680 --> 01:45:51,680
Speaker 3: about a guy rather a girl who arrives to a

2078
01:45:51,720 --> 01:45:54,360
Speaker 3: high school and she is very quirky and magical and

2079
01:45:54,400 --> 01:45:56,880
Speaker 3: she dances in the rain and plays the ukulele, and

2080
01:45:56,920 --> 01:46:00,639
Speaker 3: she is very misunderstood by the normis. The reader dates

2081
01:46:00,640 --> 01:46:03,040
Speaker 3: her but realizes that he cannot be with her because

2082
01:46:03,080 --> 01:46:05,240
Speaker 3: deep down he's afraid of not fitting in, so he

2083
01:46:05,320 --> 01:46:08,080
Speaker 3: dumps her and then regrets it forever. It is not

2084
01:46:08,120 --> 01:46:10,839
Speaker 3: a super bad book. I like the pros, but despite

2085
01:46:10,840 --> 01:46:13,200
Speaker 3: the intentions of the author, the heroin is too much

2086
01:46:13,240 --> 01:46:16,120
Speaker 3: of a special snowflake, and her behavior often delves into

2087
01:46:16,120 --> 01:46:19,080
Speaker 3: creepy territory and parentheses.

2088
01:46:19,800 --> 01:46:23,080
Speaker 1: I would be like, that's way too like, uh, not forgiving,

2089
01:46:23,160 --> 01:46:27,040
Speaker 1: but like i'd be like, f you you send this book.

2090
01:46:27,360 --> 01:46:28,679
Speaker 4: Yeah, I kind of enjoyed.

2091
01:46:28,439 --> 01:46:30,800
Speaker 3: It she read it, or I mean, like I feel

2092
01:46:30,800 --> 01:46:33,439
Speaker 3: like the fact that this is like a year later,

2093
01:46:33,560 --> 01:46:37,400
Speaker 3: it's like, you know, I'd be like, this is just

2094
01:46:37,439 --> 01:46:39,760
Speaker 3: such a cartoon moment, Like who does this girl think

2095
01:46:39,840 --> 01:46:42,320
Speaker 3: she is? Like, Yeah, you were the girl who like

2096
01:46:42,479 --> 01:46:45,599
Speaker 3: almost ruined our relationship. Now you're the nobody who nobody

2097
01:46:45,640 --> 01:46:46,439
Speaker 3: talks to anymore.

2098
01:46:46,479 --> 01:46:50,040
Speaker 1: But I think I think she's just crazy enough that

2099
01:46:50,120 --> 01:46:52,920
Speaker 1: it just might work. Like I don't know, there's something

2100
01:46:53,560 --> 01:46:56,360
Speaker 1: she has, some sort of like evil wizardry going on.

2101
01:46:56,520 --> 01:46:59,320
Speaker 4: No no, no, voodoo horse girl vibes.

2102
01:46:59,640 --> 01:47:05,439
Speaker 3: Oh girl, that's what it is. Oh wait jinx angel

2103
01:47:05,479 --> 01:47:08,320
Speaker 3: one on ones, got it, got it right on the money.

2104
01:47:08,640 --> 01:47:09,719
Speaker 5: I'm not like the other girls.

2105
01:47:10,160 --> 01:47:14,000
Speaker 3: Like the other girls just like well, get built up

2106
01:47:14,000 --> 01:47:19,960
Speaker 3: from that one sentence. It's me. I make sure I

2107
01:47:20,040 --> 01:47:25,120
Speaker 3: dance in the rain. The book itself had a sad

2108
01:47:25,160 --> 01:47:27,559
Speaker 3: face in the dedication page and a small note saying,

2109
01:47:27,600 --> 01:47:29,480
Speaker 3: read the sequel you will understand.

2110
01:47:31,240 --> 01:47:37,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was crazy.

2111
01:47:37,600 --> 01:47:42,160
Speaker 3: She wrote notes. She wrote like spark notes in small script,

2112
01:47:42,439 --> 01:47:45,559
Speaker 3: and sometimes the letters have been traced several times. Over

2113
01:47:46,000 --> 01:47:48,720
Speaker 3: All of the notes were very idealized descriptions of the

2114
01:47:48,800 --> 01:47:52,000
Speaker 3: heroine and about how magical and beautiful she was, about

2115
01:47:52,000 --> 01:47:54,400
Speaker 3: the things that she did. Uh. Some of the notes

2116
01:47:54,439 --> 01:47:57,439
Speaker 3: were also about the main character, agonizing about staying with

2117
01:47:57,479 --> 01:48:00,679
Speaker 3: her or leaving her to fit in, or descripts about

2118
01:48:00,760 --> 01:48:05,960
Speaker 3: how they made out yuck, yuck. There were also drawings

2119
01:48:06,080 --> 01:48:10,760
Speaker 3: of the heroine, who looked like an idealized version of

2120
01:48:10,880 --> 01:48:15,599
Speaker 3: Sarah MD. I'm not gonna lie. I laughed my butt

2121
01:48:15,640 --> 01:48:19,760
Speaker 3: off at this effing mannic pixie dream wanna be. My

2122
01:48:19,960 --> 01:48:23,240
Speaker 3: husband was less amused and more creeped out. Yeah, he

2123
01:48:23,280 --> 01:48:25,439
Speaker 3: said that she was psycho and that he did not

2124
01:48:25,880 --> 01:48:29,400
Speaker 3: want this in our home. Okay, uh yeah, I kind

2125
01:48:29,400 --> 01:48:32,040
Speaker 3: of agreed, Like if the fact that it's all unsigned,

2126
01:48:32,160 --> 01:48:34,880
Speaker 3: like it's like a mystery, Like it's like I don't know,

2127
01:48:35,640 --> 01:48:40,400
Speaker 3: and a year after it's like clearly like holding on

2128
01:48:40,439 --> 01:48:44,439
Speaker 3: for dear life. Yeah, I'm with the husband on this one.

2129
01:48:44,479 --> 01:48:47,599
Speaker 1: I'm like and probably he knows, he knows how crazy

2130
01:48:47,640 --> 01:48:49,000
Speaker 1: she is because he was messing around with it.

2131
01:48:49,120 --> 01:48:50,000
Speaker 4: Right, So it's like.

2132
01:48:50,280 --> 01:48:53,040
Speaker 3: It starts with a package with like weird notes and

2133
01:48:53,120 --> 01:48:56,639
Speaker 3: like cringey books in it, but like does it end there?

2134
01:48:57,720 --> 01:48:59,880
Speaker 2: Tim the move babe, we gotta get out.

2135
01:48:59,800 --> 01:49:01,160
Speaker 3: Of the suppostal code.

2136
01:49:01,200 --> 01:49:03,439
Speaker 5: Then she sends them like a cut piece of cloth

2137
01:49:03,479 --> 01:49:04,599
Speaker 5: and it's like this was.

2138
01:49:04,560 --> 01:49:06,600
Speaker 4: The pillow you first laid your head on when we

2139
01:49:06,840 --> 01:49:08,479
Speaker 4: did it. That's where we're going.

2140
01:49:08,640 --> 01:49:09,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're headed down.

2141
01:49:10,200 --> 01:49:14,040
Speaker 4: Do we think this sender knew he was gonna be

2142
01:49:14,040 --> 01:49:14,880
Speaker 4: out of town.

2143
01:49:18,120 --> 01:49:20,240
Speaker 5: That he knew that like op was going to be

2144
01:49:20,240 --> 01:49:20,719
Speaker 5: out of town?

2145
01:49:20,880 --> 01:49:24,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, because if this sender knows Op very well, Op's

2146
01:49:24,360 --> 01:49:27,400
Speaker 4: partner very well. Oh, does this sender know that Opie's

2147
01:49:27,400 --> 01:49:29,639
Speaker 4: partner is out of town? Because if this sender knows

2148
01:49:29,640 --> 01:49:32,520
Speaker 4: Op very well, they know that they can't handle anxiety,

2149
01:49:33,479 --> 01:49:33,920
Speaker 4: and then they.

2150
01:49:33,880 --> 01:49:36,280
Speaker 3: Say no, no way, because they wouldn't have wanted to

2151
01:49:36,280 --> 01:49:38,439
Speaker 3: show up when he was out of town at all.

2152
01:49:39,200 --> 01:49:41,280
Speaker 2: Maybe the very this is a person who was like, this.

2153
01:49:41,160 --> 01:49:42,960
Speaker 3: Needs to be opened by my one true love, and

2154
01:49:43,000 --> 01:49:44,360
Speaker 3: if it doesn't get open by my one true love,

2155
01:49:44,479 --> 01:49:45,800
Speaker 3: then I'm never gonna be happy. And if my one

2156
01:49:45,800 --> 01:49:47,360
Speaker 3: true left doesn't open this, respond to it, and he

2157
01:49:47,400 --> 01:49:51,320
Speaker 3: doesn't know what it is like, she is fully like overheating,

2158
01:49:51,479 --> 01:49:55,160
Speaker 3: like doing computations in her brain about like what he's

2159
01:49:55,200 --> 01:49:57,599
Speaker 3: gonna how he's gonna react when he opens the box.

2160
01:49:57,680 --> 01:50:01,240
Speaker 4: I'm scared just watching your reenactment over here. Verify this

2161
01:50:01,280 --> 01:50:02,200
Speaker 4: goes in heat, dude.

2162
01:50:02,320 --> 01:50:06,559
Speaker 3: Yep. Okay, I forgot about the book and for the

2163
01:50:06,600 --> 01:50:10,479
Speaker 3: following days because my last week because last week was

2164
01:50:10,479 --> 01:50:15,479
Speaker 3: my week from h double hockey sticks and I had

2165
01:50:15,479 --> 01:50:19,680
Speaker 3: to work seventy hours I normally only worked thirty. Oh

2166
01:50:19,720 --> 01:50:23,280
Speaker 3: my goodness, because apart from my job, I took a

2167
01:50:23,280 --> 01:50:25,680
Speaker 3: two week project working in house for a company, and

2168
01:50:25,720 --> 01:50:29,360
Speaker 3: I organized an art exhibition on the weekend. Okay, well, yeah,

2169
01:50:29,360 --> 01:50:32,040
Speaker 3: you were pretty stacked. Also, I got a pretty bad

2170
01:50:32,080 --> 01:50:35,320
Speaker 3: health news from a close friend. Thinking curitable and degenerative.

2171
01:50:35,360 --> 01:50:37,679
Speaker 3: So the topic of Sarah was definitely out of my mind.

2172
01:50:38,320 --> 01:50:40,640
Speaker 3: Yesterday I finally had the time to think about it,

2173
01:50:40,680 --> 01:50:43,479
Speaker 3: and I got angry at that a hole. Yeah, they

2174
01:50:43,520 --> 01:50:46,760
Speaker 3: have not met in three years. Who the F does

2175
01:50:46,760 --> 01:50:51,240
Speaker 3: this dweeb think she is. I considered unblocking her briefly

2176
01:50:51,280 --> 01:50:53,240
Speaker 3: to tell her to stay the f away from us,

2177
01:50:53,520 --> 01:50:56,880
Speaker 3: but discarded the idea. Then I considered finding out her

2178
01:50:56,920 --> 01:51:00,680
Speaker 3: address and sending her a copy of Holes by Lewis Halls.

2179
01:51:04,800 --> 01:51:09,559
Speaker 3: Let's see Yeah, and twenty minimalist paypays printed printed between

2180
01:51:09,600 --> 01:51:11,840
Speaker 3: the pages with a note this is a riddle.

2181
01:51:12,080 --> 01:51:14,360
Speaker 2: If you solve it, I will leave my wife for you.

2182
01:51:14,720 --> 01:51:15,879
Speaker 3: Love Oliver.

2183
01:51:17,040 --> 01:51:20,080
Speaker 1: That's funny, that's funny.

2184
01:51:20,160 --> 01:51:22,720
Speaker 3: Oh. Then I realized I would rather ignore, so I

2185
01:51:22,840 --> 01:51:25,560
Speaker 3: threw the notes in the recycling bin and put the

2186
01:51:25,600 --> 01:51:28,360
Speaker 3: book in a free box so somebody can take it home.

2187
01:51:28,439 --> 01:51:30,120
Speaker 3: I'm going to go out a limb after hearing about

2188
01:51:30,120 --> 01:51:33,479
Speaker 3: the recycling. This person's in Germany. These people are from.

2189
01:51:33,360 --> 01:51:38,960
Speaker 1: Germany because they love recycling, like they are so about

2190
01:51:39,000 --> 01:51:40,160
Speaker 1: the recycling in Germany.

2191
01:51:40,240 --> 01:51:42,000
Speaker 4: I don't know, man, they not be from the valley,

2192
01:51:42,120 --> 01:51:44,240
Speaker 4: because everyone I met from the valley is all about

2193
01:51:44,960 --> 01:51:45,920
Speaker 4: you have to recycle.

2194
01:51:46,520 --> 01:51:49,840
Speaker 3: You have to recycle Riley. No no, no, Germany back

2195
01:51:49,880 --> 01:51:54,760
Speaker 3: me up chat Germany Chat. And by the way, you

2196
01:51:54,760 --> 01:51:56,840
Speaker 3: can also back us up every single weekday when we

2197
01:51:56,880 --> 01:51:58,920
Speaker 3: go live on YouTube at three pm. All you gotta

2198
01:51:58,960 --> 01:52:05,880
Speaker 3: do is tap our profile icon and uh oh packed up.

2199
01:52:06,160 --> 01:52:07,320
Speaker 2: John's got a big box.

2200
01:52:08,560 --> 01:52:15,840
Speaker 3: That is all like the stream okay, and but funny

2201
01:52:15,920 --> 01:52:16,880
Speaker 3: enough is the next word?

2202
01:52:17,000 --> 01:52:17,200
Speaker 1: Is?

2203
01:52:17,360 --> 01:52:22,040
Speaker 3: That is all no threats, no pictures, no positive pregnancy tests.

2204
01:52:22,080 --> 01:52:25,520
Speaker 3: It was all anti climactic, but in honestly, in honesty,

2205
01:52:25,960 --> 01:52:28,920
Speaker 3: it was a welcome distraction in a heavy week. I

2206
01:52:28,920 --> 01:52:31,000
Speaker 3: don't like that she has our current address, but I

2207
01:52:31,040 --> 01:52:33,639
Speaker 3: do not think she will be sending more stuff. If

2208
01:52:33,640 --> 01:52:38,839
Speaker 3: she does, we will tell her to pee up a rope. Wow,

2209
01:52:39,800 --> 01:52:41,840
Speaker 3: can we get a check on if that's a German saying?

2210
01:52:43,840 --> 01:52:46,240
Speaker 3: Can we Yeah, we'll do that. Funny thing is I

2211
01:52:46,240 --> 01:52:48,479
Speaker 3: don't even hate her. She's just an ahole. But this

2212
01:52:48,640 --> 01:52:52,080
Speaker 3: is just too sad to hate to mock or to

2213
01:52:52,280 --> 01:52:55,599
Speaker 3: mock okay, but not to hate. We do have some

2214
01:52:55,640 --> 01:53:02,280
Speaker 3: relevant comments here from inquisitor nine. God I read Stargirl

2215
01:53:02,280 --> 01:53:04,559
Speaker 3: when I was like fourteen. I associated with her for

2216
01:53:04,600 --> 01:53:07,559
Speaker 3: all of a week before realizing that she was definitely

2217
01:53:07,600 --> 01:53:10,880
Speaker 3: a tryhard, manic pixie dream girl whose sole purpose in

2218
01:53:10,920 --> 01:53:15,519
Speaker 3: life was being more unique than anybody. Opie, I know, right,

2219
01:53:16,040 --> 01:53:18,240
Speaker 3: the cringe is real. I told my friends, and they

2220
01:53:18,280 --> 01:53:21,719
Speaker 3: all died laughing. They decided to name the whole affair

2221
01:53:21,880 --> 01:53:31,880
Speaker 3: the unboxing. Right there, folks, right there. I don't think

2222
01:53:31,920 --> 01:53:34,519
Speaker 3: they will ever forgive me for not recording myself while

2223
01:53:34,560 --> 01:53:38,160
Speaker 3: opening the parcel. What makes me wonder is that it's

2224
01:53:38,200 --> 01:53:42,320
Speaker 3: been so long, like almost three years. Come on, girl,

2225
01:53:42,439 --> 01:53:46,479
Speaker 3: it over it, get a life, move to Philly, buy aloft,

2226
01:53:46,800 --> 01:53:49,840
Speaker 3: start a noise band, get six or seven roommates, eat

2227
01:53:49,920 --> 01:53:53,840
Speaker 3: hummus with them, book some gigs, paint, smoke clothes. This

2228
01:53:53,840 --> 01:53:55,120
Speaker 3: person's definitely German.

2229
01:53:55,479 --> 01:53:59,120
Speaker 2: This person is so Germany. All they do over there

2230
01:53:59,160 --> 01:54:00,000
Speaker 2: is smoke clothes, cigaret.

2231
01:54:01,360 --> 01:54:02,200
Speaker 4: They do that in BALI.

2232
01:54:03,680 --> 01:54:07,960
Speaker 3: I'm so happy that I nailed that. I'm sorry. There's

2233
01:54:08,040 --> 01:54:10,760
Speaker 3: such a genuine reaction, so hyped that I got that.

2234
01:54:11,760 --> 01:54:12,519
Speaker 4: Oh my god.

2235
01:54:14,000 --> 01:54:17,120
Speaker 3: Uh start uh listen to Animal Collective, Start some type

2236
01:54:17,120 --> 01:54:20,960
Speaker 3: of salsa company. Stay the heck away from married people

2237
01:54:20,960 --> 01:54:23,519
Speaker 3: who do not want anything to do with you, and

2238
01:54:23,560 --> 01:54:25,639
Speaker 3: don't forget to dance of the rain and don't forget

2239
01:54:25,680 --> 01:54:34,720
Speaker 3: to dance in the rain. Stop stop they're Australian.

2240
01:54:35,200 --> 01:54:41,960
Speaker 1: No, no, they don't, they don't recycle. It was like, yes, god,

2241
01:54:43,640 --> 01:54:46,839
Speaker 1: oh man, well I mean it's still possible, still possible.

2242
01:54:47,080 --> 01:54:49,760
Speaker 3: Oh my god. Shout out my cousin, Logan Shipton, that's

2243
01:54:49,800 --> 01:54:50,320
Speaker 3: my cousin.

2244
01:54:52,320 --> 01:54:54,680
Speaker 4: I love you something from Walking Dead.

2245
01:54:54,800 --> 01:54:56,760
Speaker 2: Yes, that is because my cousin rocks.

2246
01:54:57,720 --> 01:54:59,480
Speaker 3: All right, Chuck.

2247
01:54:59,760 --> 01:55:02,160
Speaker 2: And is the end of that story. That is the end,

2248
01:55:02,920 --> 01:55:04,360
Speaker 2: That is the end.