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Speaker 1: Thank you my good friend junior. Subject how did he

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Speaker 1: know where to put it? Okay, Dear Stephen, Shirley. I've

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Speaker 1: been married for six years and all was well in

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Speaker 1: my side of town. She's divorced, and she bought a

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Speaker 1: new home closer to where we live. When she and

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Speaker 1: her husband started to have problems, my husband stopped talking

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Speaker 1: to him because he didn't like the way her husband

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Speaker 1: understand why my husband cared so much. I don't get

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Speaker 1: because she find fault with everything. When my close friend

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Speaker 1: eye on her. She didn't like my husband having kind

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Speaker 1: words for my friend at all. I took it with

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Speaker 1: a grain of salt because Granny is so negative most

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Speaker 1: of the time. But I did stop my friend from

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Speaker 1: popping up at our house before she went out so

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Speaker 1: I could see her dressed up nicely. Granny said it

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Speaker 1: was more for my husband than for me. It did

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Speaker 1: raise a red flag, but I didn't let Granny know.

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Speaker 1: Then my friend had a housewarming party and she needed

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Speaker 1: wood for her fireplace, so I told her we'd bring some.

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Speaker 1: My husband came in a few minutes after us, and

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Speaker 1: I asked him if he was going to get the wood.

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Speaker 1: He said he already put it out back. My friend

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Speaker 1: he assumed it went on the patio. Granny then asked

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Speaker 1: he said, he assumed it was out back. My friend

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Speaker 1: and my husband looked uncomfortable, and Granny looked at me

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Speaker 1: and whispered, don't be stupid, Tam. Is she just being granny?

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Speaker 1: Or am I being stupid? What is going on? All right?

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Speaker 1: It's a little bit of both, meaning that granny was right,

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Speaker 1: and yes, you were stupid for ignoring that feeling you

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Speaker 1: call them, red flags pop up for a reason. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's why they're called red flags. And when you know

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Speaker 1: and when has anyone's granny been wrong about this kind

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Speaker 1: It's called they've lived long enough to have seen just

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Speaker 1: about everything in life, and they certainly know when a

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Speaker 1: woman is trying to get at another woman's man. It's

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Speaker 1: just something that granny's have, okay, older women. But the

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Speaker 1: really stupid one here is your husband. Your husband who

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Speaker 1: couldn't even play off the fact that he knew exactly

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Speaker 1: where everything was at your friend's house because why because

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Speaker 1: could it be that he's been there before? Sounds like it.

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Speaker 1: It looked very suspicious when all you guys were inside

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Speaker 1: and he took the firewood and put it in the

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Speaker 1: very place it was supposed to go. He didn't come

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Speaker 1: in and ask your friend any questions about where it

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Speaker 1: should go. He didn't bring it inside and put it

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Speaker 1: down somewhere anywhere, Nope, he put it where he always

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Speaker 1: puts it when he comes over. And that's when Granny

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Speaker 1: her questions. And Granny's right, you know that. Don't be stupid, Tim, No,

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Speaker 1: you didn't catch them together, and you don't have any

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Speaker 1: to the granny in this letter, and for all the

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Speaker 1: grannies out there, Steve. It is so hard to follow

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Speaker 1: display of respect for the elder. I usually want to

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Speaker 1: the respect A relation, admiration critic, because she's just gave

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Speaker 1: stuff in this letter, so yea, I go. How did

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Speaker 1: he know where to put it? You've been married for

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Speaker 1: six years and everything was going good until you One

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Speaker 1: She got divorce and she bought a new house closer

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Speaker 1: obviously he had some information y'all didn't have because they

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Speaker 1: that's like real stink. Damn, he didn't stop, so that's natural.

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Speaker 1: My grannie lives with us. See right there, right down,

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Speaker 1: My grannie lives with us. Let's talk about the decisions

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Speaker 1: live with your grand not your children, Oh damn grandkids.

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Speaker 1: Your mama and your danny didn't want her staying with

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Speaker 1: so now granny staying with you. Who Some people know

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Speaker 1: some stuff about Granny that you don't know. And she

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Speaker 1: didn't understand why your husband cares so much. I don't

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Speaker 1: at your house. That's why she ain't at your mama's

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Speaker 1: house or your daddy's house. She know she didn't broke

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Speaker 1: up a lot of families. I bet you hold that thought. Steve,

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Speaker 1: hold that thought. We'll have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter subject how did he know where to put it?

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Speaker 1: We'll come back with part two of Steve's response right

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Speaker 1: after this. You're listening Steve Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter, the subject how did he

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Speaker 1: know where to put it? Yeah, you've been married for while,

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Speaker 1: your closest friend got divorce, bought a house over there. Boy,

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Speaker 1: you and your husband, your husband started having problems. And

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Speaker 1: when they started having problems, your husband stopped talking to

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Speaker 1: her husband because he said he didn't like where he

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Speaker 1: treated her. Your grandmama live with y'all, and she didn't

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Speaker 1: understand why my husband kids so much. Because your grandmama

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Speaker 1: knows it. I don't get into discussions about my husband

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Speaker 1: and marriage with my grandmother because she finds fault with everything.

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Speaker 1: Why is your grandmama staying with y'all? Why is the

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Speaker 1: grandmama not staying with her daughter or her son. Why

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Speaker 1: she got to skip over and stay with her grandkids

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Speaker 1: because she didn't already broke up your mom and daddy's home,

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Speaker 1: so they wasn't gonna have it. So now she over here,

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Speaker 1: and now guess what she fit to break yours up?

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Speaker 1: Because she find fault with everything. Everybody don't know, won't

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Speaker 1: living getive ass granny living with them, but you don't

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Speaker 1: know no better. When my close friend would stop by

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Speaker 1: didn't like my husband having kind words for my friend

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Speaker 1: Your grandmama done nothing. This old bitter ass old lady

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Speaker 1: by herself, that's what she is. Old bitter ass old

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Speaker 1: She got a skipper generation because she then broke up

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Speaker 1: too many houses. And everybody know about your grandmama, said y'all,

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Speaker 1: because you still remember her giving you candy, But she

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Speaker 1: got different kind of candy. Now it's called poising. What, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she got a different kind of candy. Nine it's called

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Speaker 1: poising because my granny is so negative most of the time.

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Speaker 1: That's all the time. What is your old ass done

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Speaker 1: that has caused you to have to live with your

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Speaker 1: grand kids because she negative. Granny don't like no damn body.

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Speaker 1: And I got news for you. Don't nobody like Granny,

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Speaker 1: but I but I did stop my friend from popping

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Speaker 1: I could see her all dressed up nicely, Granny said

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Speaker 1: that was more for my husband, that's for me. Granny

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Speaker 1: just keeps staying the pot up. See, Granny ain't got

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Speaker 1: no man. Granted had a man in a long time.

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Speaker 1: Granny man left pull. Now she mad about everybody man. Now, now,

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Speaker 1: ain't nobody got a good man? Because so Granny all

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Speaker 1: me and his dogs, yours, your mama's, your dad? Is everybody?

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Speaker 1: Granny walking ass home record love Granny. Then my friend

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Speaker 1: had a housewoman party. Now this is what through me.

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Speaker 1: Then my friend had a housewoman party and she needed

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Speaker 1: wood for her five place. What who's the party? And say, hey,

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Speaker 1: man Franks and wood. I bring some drake, bring from

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Speaker 1: tat salad, bring cups, bring play, bring a little meat

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Speaker 1: us some damn firewood. That was just hard to me.

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Speaker 1: I ain't out there with a lot of parties. I

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Speaker 1: ever walked in with some logs on the barm. I

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Speaker 1: He said, he already put it out back. Now. My

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Speaker 1: Why it's Granny at the damn part. Grammy knows the

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Speaker 1: ass over to the party, Granted asked. My friend thanked him,

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Speaker 1: and Granted asked how he knew where to put it?

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Speaker 1: A hush fell over the rule. How he know where

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Speaker 1: double connotation statement, well, how you know where to put it?

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Speaker 1: Now everybody got to figure out what is her old

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Speaker 1: ass talking about? Put where? Put the wood? Where? Because

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Speaker 1: we're talking two things now. So then the hush fellow rule,

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Speaker 1: he said, he assumed it went on the patio. Granted,

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Speaker 1: then asked how he knew where the patio was. Where

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Speaker 1: all hell, all patioles is in the back. If it

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Speaker 1: if it ain't in the back, it ain't a patio.

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Speaker 1: If it's in the front, it's a poach. See that

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Speaker 1: old ass statement right there. How he know where the

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Speaker 1: Kind of ignorant? Is that? Because she a home record,

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Speaker 1: he said, He assumed it was out back. I have

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Speaker 1: told her, hey, old hell for all patios is in

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Speaker 1: the back. My friend and my husband looked uncomfortable, and

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Speaker 1: Granny looked at me and whispered, don't be stupid, yo, man,

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Speaker 1: why would I want to see you one? I don't

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Speaker 1: got rid of your mommy and daddy's relationship. That's why

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Speaker 1: I'm staying in your house. She just being granny? Or

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Speaker 1: am I being stupid? What's going on? Your grandma's a hater? Background?

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