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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya ret An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in.

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Speaker 1: We are scrubbing in. It is a Monday. And you know,

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Speaker 1: I told Becca I had a very frantic morning, and

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Speaker 1: I decided that I'm gonna switch it around today right now,

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Speaker 1: and it's not gonna be frantic. It's gonna be pleasant,

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna have fun on the podcast.

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Speaker 2: That's right, that's right, that's right.

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Speaker 3: You know what they say, you know what they say,

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Speaker 3: what goes down must come up?

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Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, and you may have heard in your life

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Speaker 2: what goes up must come down. But Tanya says, today

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Speaker 2: today what is down must come up correct, And that

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Speaker 2: has many different connotations depending on where your mind is

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Speaker 2: that today.

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Speaker 3: Oh you mean like a wiener.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, when it goes down, it can always come back up.

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Speaker 4: God.

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Speaker 2: Willing Mark is in a what looks to be a

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Speaker 2: garage or basement. It's hard to say.

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Speaker 4: It's a basement. It's my father in law's work bench.

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Speaker 4: I am in Franklin, Wisconsin with the famine me. They're

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Speaker 4: up in the Wisconsin. Dell's at a water park, the

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Speaker 4: biggest water park in North America. It's called Noah's Ark.

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Speaker 2: Wait is it really called Noah's Ark?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Is it? Is it religious based or yes.

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Speaker 5: It's what happened if we didn't escape on the arc,

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Speaker 5: like you endure the flood at this water park?

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Speaker 2: Water parks I have Like when I was young, water

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Speaker 2: park was like the ultimate destination. I couldn't think of

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Speaker 2: anything I'd rather do than go to a water park.

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Speaker 2: But as an adult, I have I have changed from that.

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Speaker 2: Did you like, are you kidding me?

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Speaker 3: I thrived at water parks.

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Speaker 1: I would like count my lucky stars if I got

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Speaker 1: I loved water parks.

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Speaker 2: Were you just like trapsing around like flirting with boys? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: flopping around to do like fake a drowning or something.

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Speaker 3: Now, but like the wave pools, like where everything went down?

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Speaker 2: Do you all picture Tanya kind of like in the

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Speaker 2: sandlot the guy who like sees the lifeguard and tries

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Speaker 2: to get her attention, Like Tanya doing that with a

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Speaker 2: cute lifeguard boy.

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Speaker 4: This is like when Glenn Powell was on the Morning

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Speaker 4: Show and we had a whole scheme concocted that one

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Speaker 4: will pretend her microphone doesn't work so she has to

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Speaker 4: share his or his didn't work, so she had this

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Speaker 4: whatever to try to get them both on the same microphone.

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Speaker 4: It's the same concept.

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Speaker 2: It's a damsel in distress.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: We we went and we saw Top Gun Maverick and

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Speaker 1: I was telling Robbie about how I'm friends with Glenn.

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Speaker 3: He's like, how are you friends with this guy? And

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Speaker 3: I was like, funny you ask because it all started.

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Speaker 1: Out with the listeners thinking he'd be a good match

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Speaker 1: for me. So I told him the whole story and

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Speaker 1: he was like, you faked that your microphone. I was like,

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Speaker 1: Tubs was involved with it. Everybody was like involved with this.

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Speaker 1: So we had to share a chair with me. It

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Speaker 1: didn't work out, but we are. We became fast friends.

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Speaker 4: He's great and Top gun Man he's really good.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: You remind me of Matthew McConaughey in that movie.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. But I'm like, we're trying to get him on

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Speaker 3: the podcast because I.

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Speaker 4: Just love him. He'd be good.

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Speaker 2: We're trying.

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Speaker 1: We're trying, but you know what, we will wait for

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Speaker 1: Glenn Powell, because you know, things come to those who wait.

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Speaker 4: That's so true.

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Speaker 2: Good things are a little higher.

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Speaker 4: I have mixed emotions about the water park because I

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Speaker 4: missed my family and they're all having a great time

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Speaker 4: and it be fun to be with them. But also,

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Speaker 4: water parks are kind of gross. That's kind of where

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Speaker 4: I'm I think they are. There's not it's a feat

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Speaker 4: thing for me. It's a lot of bare feet sharing

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Speaker 4: the same areas.

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Speaker 2: There's also something about like like the not knowing if

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Speaker 2: these people have showered recently.

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Speaker 3: But then but they're already in the water, so it's fine.

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Speaker 2: No, their germs, they're no, there are just scattering amongst us.

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Speaker 3: This makes no sense because the oceans are just as dirty.

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Speaker 2: This is Tanya. I'm gonna warn you before we get

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Speaker 2: into this debate that you're not gonna win this one.

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Speaker 3: They're just as dirty. And there's no chlorine in the oceans.

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Speaker 2: It's salt. It's so acidic with salt, and it's like cleansing.

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Speaker 2: And the ocean's never standing still, it's not stagnate, it's

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Speaker 2: always moving, so they're always getting into new water.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what they're doing at the water parks too,

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Speaker 1: like they're flushing it out like a giant toilet.

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Speaker 2: I don't think there's a whole lot of flushing out.

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Speaker 2: I think they're repurposing it.

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Speaker 1: But I also think that water parks are being frowned

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Speaker 1: upon now because I think they're a waste of water.

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Speaker 4: Well, certainly in southern California. I don't know how you

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Speaker 4: justify having a water park unless they have some sort

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Speaker 4: of plan for, you know, using reclaimed water or something.

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Speaker 4: But here they have no problem with water.

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Speaker 2: In Wisconsin, yeah, there's no water shortage in Wisconsin.

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Speaker 4: Plenty of it.

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Speaker 2: I Yeah, the feet thing really resonates with me, Mark,

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Speaker 2: I really appreciate you bringing that up, because.

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Speaker 4: It's like a rubber matt and that guy over there

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Speaker 4: had his bear feet on it, and now I have

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Speaker 4: my bear feet on it and it's all bad.

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Speaker 2: And also like other parts of the body. I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, a big potential for swimming in urine at the

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Speaker 5: what I think about.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely haven't swim in a little urine.

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Speaker 5: Does Tanya have a raging waters endorsement? We don't know if.

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Speaker 2: Tanya has a deal with Hurricane Harbor.

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Speaker 3: Exactly.

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Speaker 2: All right, So Tanya, maybe maybe you and Robbie and

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Speaker 2: the kids can go to a water.

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Speaker 1: Reports a summer bucket list, but I think we could

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Speaker 2: When was the last time you went to a water

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Speaker 2: park long time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, long time, So I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'd also because it's the same feeling for me as

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Speaker 2: getting in a pool in Vegas. I'm just not doing it. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And I've been really hot and drunk and had to

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Speaker 2: like stumble. I like, I hate, I hate to even

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Speaker 2: I like slithered into the pool.

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Speaker 3: Speaking of drinking.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh, you're never doing anything. We've heard this before.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I can't do it anymore. My body is shutting down

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Speaker 1: on me. I just had a rager of a week.

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Speaker 1: I feel like it was I just had birthday after

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Speaker 1: I realized I need to detox. So I quitting drinking.

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Speaker 1: How long do you think I'm gonna last?

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Speaker 2: I bet Friday you'll drink again. Okay, yeah, I'll give

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Speaker 2: you till Friday. All right, I'm sorry, I'll give you

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Speaker 2: till Thursday.

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Speaker 3: I was gonna say taco Tuesdays tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: But you said you weren't going to drink that. I

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Speaker 2: think you can last at least a day and a half. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I'm giving you enough credit that I think you can

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Speaker 2: this week, where I drank Tuesday through I didn't drink

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Speaker 2: last night. Tuesday through Saturday. I went out to like

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Speaker 2: if I I also ate so much carbs this week

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Speaker 2: that maybe I was just like really balancing it out.

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Speaker 3: I was like, man, oh, I feel the opposite. I

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Speaker 3: feel like a slug. I feel.

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Speaker 1: Uh, you know, like uh, I can't really describe the

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Speaker 2: I've never worn them, but I know what it's like

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Speaker 2: to feel like I was like.

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Speaker 3: A layer of like film.

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Speaker 1: I feel like there's like a layer of like film,

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Speaker 1: not in my actual eyes, but just like in my

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Speaker 1: like life right now because of the hungoveress.

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Speaker 4: So as a non drinker, this may be a silly suggestion,

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Speaker 4: but wouldn't it make more sense rather than going cold

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Speaker 1: So it's not that what I really like, I don't have.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't I can go a day

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Speaker 1: without drinking. It's when i'm social. And it's so interesting.

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Speaker 1: I was talking to this woman who was pregnant over

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Speaker 1: the weekend and she was like, I didn't realize how

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Speaker 1: much I drank until I got pregnant, because she's like,

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Speaker 1: you just do it at social function, so like you

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Speaker 1: can have a glass of wine, then another glass of wine.

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Speaker 1: They started six o'clock beer out till ten, Like it

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Speaker 1: just adds up. You don't like, you know, intentionally getting

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Speaker 1: like wasted. I except on Saturday night, I got really wasted.

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Speaker 4: Why not just be intentionally moderate about it. Yeah, I'll

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Speaker 4: have a glass of wine and then stop.

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Speaker 2: Right. Yeah, I think that's what I did. I think

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Speaker 2: I kept I never felt Saturday was the only night

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Speaker 2: But every other night I just like felt good, I

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Speaker 1: But even one two glasses of wine makes me feel

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Speaker 2: Well that's a tolerance issue.

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Speaker 1: It's not like aside from Saturday. It wasn't like I

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Speaker 2: Yeah I would. I just what I've gathered about myself

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Speaker 2: is I'd much rather take an edible than drink. It's

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Speaker 2: I don't feel bad at all the next day.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe I'll try that someday.

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Speaker 2: Please let me be with you. I gotta check.

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Speaker 1: I gotta figure yeah, I gotta figure something out because

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Speaker 1: I'm just a little a little sluggish.

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Speaker 3: But I will say so on uh.

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Speaker 2: What day?

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Speaker 1: Uh so whatever, I guess it's a Saturday. Saturday was

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Speaker 1: Selena's thirtieth birthday party, and I haven't seen some of

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Speaker 1: these people in like pre pandemic, so you.

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Speaker 3: Know me, no Tanya like in her Tanya mode.

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Speaker 1: I was just having this like serle reaction. Yes, and

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Speaker 1: poor Robbie do no. But I mean he knew, like

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Speaker 1: obviously our close friends that were there. But I was

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Speaker 1: just like having this. I was having like a you know,

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Speaker 1: you're so excited and you're like so high on life

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Speaker 1: I just was so wanting to keep going and going

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Speaker 2: You know, Robbie's really good for you in that way

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Speaker 2: that like he can hold his own liked, because when

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Speaker 2: you get excited and you see people, you don't forget

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Speaker 2: about the people you're with, but you put so much.

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Speaker 2: I would also, you know who else? And I've only

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Speaker 1: But we got to talk to these Emmys people. I

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Speaker 1: Devastated that my emotional attachment to this Chelsea Handler.

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Speaker 2: Really I'm like, who are you who hardened your heart?

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Speaker 1: To be honest, I wasn't like a big stam of

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Speaker 2: Well, I don't know. I just know them as like

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Speaker 3: I didn't feel that.

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Speaker 2: No, you felt like she was. It was a one

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Speaker 3: No, not one sided. I think they obviously both were

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Speaker 1: But like, all I'm saying is they just felt like

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Speaker 5: I don't.

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Speaker 5: You know what I mean, because he's younger.

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Speaker 2: Need a little clarity because he's not a partner. But

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Speaker 2: he's not. He's a partner, but he's not a partner. No.

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Speaker 1: Like I'm saying, because you said that you didn't feel

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Speaker 4: You can say it as slowly and deliberately as you want,

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Speaker 1: No, because I don't think you need to be on

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Speaker 5: For some reason, I thought he was younger than her.

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Speaker 5: He is like five years older than Chelsea, So I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I was like, I don't I don't know

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Speaker 2: see if she agrees, Like what.

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Speaker 2: Probably know that he didn't do these things, but I

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Speaker 3: I just had a feeling. I know the girl.

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Speaker 2: So we're basic, this whole breakup and you having like

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Speaker 1: That's what celebrity culture is. None of us know any

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Speaker 4: I've always had strong opinions, like, look, I was teamed

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Speaker 1: You guys were wondering. I just was never Yeah, it

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Speaker 2: I just know. I just know one hundred percent that

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Speaker 3: Maybe I didn't know enough. Maybe I didn't know enough

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Speaker 2: I tried. I trust Easton in this one's the partner.

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Speaker 2: little bit. But I was like, Jennifer Anderson, is there

441
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Speaker 2: a movie? So jealous? My whole point of the jeniferres

442
00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:12,359
Speaker 2: the thing was to bring up how bleeping good Brad

443
00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:15,360
Speaker 2: Pitt looked on the press tour for his new movie.

444
00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:16,600
Speaker 2: I think it's called Bullet Train.

445
00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:18,800
Speaker 4: Looks really good.

446
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Speaker 2: Have you seen the pics?

447
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Speaker 3: Uh No?

448
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:28,720
Speaker 2: The man has aged like the finest of wines.

449
00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,280
Speaker 3: But you like him. I love him, even though he

450
00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:32,480
Speaker 3: screwed gen for over.

451
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:36,440
Speaker 2: It's complicated. I think they've healed their relationships, so I

452
00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:38,200
Speaker 2: think I get to feel this way again.

453
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Speaker 3: All right, yeah, but do you like Angelina Jolie? Oh fine, okay, alright,

454
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Speaker 3: alright forever.

455
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Speaker 1: I hate that because I feel like a lot of

456
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Speaker 1: people were like, I hate Angelina Jolie, and I'm like,

457
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Speaker 1: but you still like Brad Pitt.

458
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Speaker 2: Oh No, I actually like all three of them. Jen's

459
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Speaker 2: my girl, gat, Brad's my god, and then I mean

460
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Speaker 2: not my god, but like, my god, he's so hot.

461
00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,800
Speaker 2: I was not really forgot confusing, and then Angelina is

462
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Speaker 2: just like a stunning human and seems to be a

463
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Speaker 2: good person.

464
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So Jennifer was not at the party.

466
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Speaker 1: No, Jennifer was not there, but I did spend a

467
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Speaker 1: lot of time with Becky g who is just the

468
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:18,359
Speaker 1: cutes literally the nicest thing ever.

469
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Speaker 2: She is really sweet.

470
00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:23,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she's the cutest thing.

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Speaker 2: There were some big names there. I'm not saying like

472
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Speaker 2: it wasn't star studded. It's just the people who I

473
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Speaker 2: felt jealous.

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Speaker 1: Over, the Jennifer Andison's of the world exactly. Yeah, she

475
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Speaker 1: was not there, but I am trying to get her

476
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Speaker 1: manager on the podcast because I'm obsessed with her.

477
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:40,320
Speaker 2: I would love that.

478
00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 1: She's like so so badass. She's literally like modern woman energy.

479
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:50,960
Speaker 1: I heard her speech Selena did something for International Women's

480
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:53,320
Speaker 1: Day for her Rare Beauty did like an event and

481
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Speaker 1: Eleen was her manager, spoke at it, and I literally

482
00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:59,080
Speaker 1: pulled out my phone and was taking notes because she

483
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Speaker 1: was just so inspiring and like not trying to be inspiring,

484
00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 1: just like telling stories about being a woman in the industry.

485
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Speaker 3: And it was so moving and so powerful, do you

486
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Speaker 3: know what I mean?

487
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:12,159
Speaker 1: Like you know some people, you know, like they're getting

488
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:14,399
Speaker 1: to like a crescendo and they're making a point and

489
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:16,639
Speaker 1: they you know, that was not her. She was just

490
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 1: literally like talking about stories and sharing her insights, and

491
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Speaker 1: I was just like, I'm obsessed with you.

492
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Speaker 2: The memory I have of Eileen Eileen, Eleen Eleen. Tanya

493
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 2: was following her around the whole party, being like, Eleen,

494
00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 2: we have to get a photo together, and she's like, Tanya,

495
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Speaker 2: I really don't feel like we'll do it another time.

496
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Speaker 2: I don't feel like cute. I don't want to do it, Tanya.

497
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Speaker 2: Multiple times I heard Tanya trying to convince her to

498
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Speaker 2: take a photo. I was like, Tanya, she doesn't want

499
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Speaker 2: to take a photo.

500
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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, but I was trying to get her on

501
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Speaker 1: the podcast, which I think she will.

502
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Speaker 4: Well, you know what's sad is that these days, like

503
00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:00,840
Speaker 4: your GIP, they're giving a speech and the audience is watching.

504
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:04,120
Speaker 4: There's no difference in while this speech is so inspiring,

505
00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:06,880
Speaker 4: I have to take notes in my phone and I'm

506
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:09,680
Speaker 4: so bored, I'm texting my friends, like the speaker has

507
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,240
Speaker 4: no idea if people are so into it or if

508
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:13,639
Speaker 4: they're just bored. Because if I were up there on

509
00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:15,320
Speaker 4: stage and I saw people on their phones, I'd be like, well,

510
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:15,920
Speaker 4: I lost them.

511
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Speaker 1: You know what's interesting, I think she knew because I

512
00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 1: was raising my hand and like asking questions.

513
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:22,760
Speaker 3: So it wasn't like, you know, sure.

514
00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:27,640
Speaker 2: Raising your hand and asking questions. No you war? Yes

515
00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 2: I was, Yes, I was. I'm with you, Mark. I

516
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:35,640
Speaker 2: never thought about that. I would also think the same thing.

517
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Speaker 2: But also, I guess you have to get people. Yeah,

518
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Speaker 2: but Church like everyone, I mean, I guess.

519
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:44,320
Speaker 4: Well, Church is another good example. I think people would

520
00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:46,760
Speaker 4: be annoyed by someone texting, or so they.

521
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:49,040
Speaker 1: Think, But now you have the Bible app on your phone,

522
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:50,520
Speaker 1: like I use it often.

523
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Speaker 5: If you see someone with like a notepad going like this, oh,

524
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 5: like oh they're taking notes, but they could just be

525
00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:57,720
Speaker 5: doing a mad liver.

526
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Speaker 2: That true. I used to do a lot lot of

527
00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:02,920
Speaker 2: doodling on my in my church days, in my youth,

528
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:11,560
Speaker 2: on the envelopes for the offering. But I was gonna

529
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Speaker 2: say something about, Oh I saw an it was an

530
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 2: old concert and it was the Goo Goo Dolls, and

531
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Speaker 2: it was like this really cool mind the one in

532
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:21,040
Speaker 2: the rain of them singing iris.

533
00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 1: I was obsessed with the Goo Goo Dolls.

534
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, they were like aicnic. It was a TikTok and

535
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:33,200
Speaker 2: it was like at just go and watch old concerts.

536
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:34,359
Speaker 3: They were performing.

537
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,600
Speaker 1: The Google Dolls performed on Live with Kelly and Ryan

538
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:38,199
Speaker 1: one day when I was there, and I was like,

539
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Speaker 1: it's taking everything in me not to go up to

540
00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: this guy and say that I'm like wildly obsessed with you.

541
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Speaker 2: But the video it's pouring rain, they're on stage singing

542
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:53,520
Speaker 2: iris and it pans to the crowd and not I

543
00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:55,280
Speaker 2: mean there were no phone there were no cell phones,

544
00:25:55,320 --> 00:26:00,040
Speaker 2: and everyone's just like zoned in, dancing, passionately singing, and

545
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:04,719
Speaker 2: I was like, man, I know that like having a phone,

546
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 2: there's a great a lot of great things, but wow,

547
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:12,640
Speaker 2: like we were were so desensitized to just being black balloon.

548
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:15,280
Speaker 2: It is black balloon.

549
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:16,160
Speaker 3: Makes her fly.

550
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 1: It was like, in my opinion, yes, well not underrated.

551
00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 1: I think they had their time.

552
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 2: I don't think they had the time they deserved.

553
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, they had a song on the chart like two

554
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:31,399
Speaker 5: years ago, the.

555
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:34,440
Speaker 4: Cold Play and Trade and.

556
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Speaker 1: Some of the yeah man goo dolls were my Oh man, have.

557
00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:41,400
Speaker 2: You ever been to a cold Play concert? Yes, that's

558
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:42,240
Speaker 2: on my bucket list.

559
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:46,399
Speaker 4: Many envy, there's the envy again, envy.

560
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Speaker 3: They did a really intimate iHeart performance when you're oh.

561
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Speaker 2: No, I want like a stadium where I can see

562
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Speaker 2: all the phone like.

563
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 3: And they did.

564
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Speaker 1: I remember it was they did the Rose Bowl and

565
00:26:57,080 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 1: it was Alessia Carl was opening for them, and I

566
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 1: went with like a Lessio Kara's team, so I'd have

567
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:05,240
Speaker 1: to go backstage and I was watching like Chris Martin

568
00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:08,120
Speaker 1: playing like Hacky Sack back there and like just being

569
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:11,280
Speaker 1: so cool with every person I was working backstage.

570
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Speaker 3: I was just like this.

571
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 2: Guy, Tanya doesn't even know what she's.

572
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, no, I knew that.

573
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 1: I was like, did Chris Martin just he's just like

574
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:22,920
Speaker 1: kicking it with people right now backstage it's like early,

575
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 1: like he probably don't even need to be at the

576
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Speaker 1: venue at that point.

577
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 2: Wow. He got emotional recently at a concert, like they

578
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 2: were seeing sky full of Stars and he had to

579
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:32,880
Speaker 2: stop singing, or like he just let the crowd sing

580
00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 2: because he got emotional.

581
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:36,119
Speaker 3: God, I love him so much.

582
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:37,679
Speaker 5: I love it.

583
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:40,199
Speaker 4: He comes in and he's so nice to everybody that

584
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:42,479
Speaker 4: you feel like, is it almost an act? But then

585
00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 4: it's clear it's not.

586
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 2: It's not.

587
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,040
Speaker 3: I just just and it's like so genuine.

588
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 2: That's that's amazing because at his level he could be

589
00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 2: he honestly could be horrible.

590
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:55,040
Speaker 5: He guess hast an American Top forty last year, and

591
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:57,679
Speaker 5: he like was so nice, and then halfway through he stopped.

592
00:27:57,720 --> 00:27:59,960
Speaker 5: He's like, Eastern, I just want you to know this script,

593
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 5: which is brilliant. This is these jokes are so funny.

594
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:05,879
Speaker 5: And I was like, ooh, oh my god. I listened

595
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:09,160
Speaker 5: to that clip over and over for myself. He's the best.

596
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:12,880
Speaker 2: If you ever need a boost, a morale boost, oh yeah.

597
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 4: Frequent speaking of the holding up your phone light, I

598
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:18,359
Speaker 4: got to explain to my kids the other day what

599
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:20,400
Speaker 4: we used to do before we had phones and everyone

600
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 4: the lighters out there. They were very surprised that that

601
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:27,200
Speaker 4: many people had lighters at a concert, Like, why, well,

602
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:29,520
Speaker 4: there's plenty of smoking back then, and that's the only

603
00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:30,359
Speaker 4: reason I can think of.

604
00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:35,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is fascinating though, like that that many people smoked.

605
00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, if you had a twenty thousand people concert, there

606
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 4: were twenty thousand lighters out there, which seems.

607
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 2: Dangerous, I was gonna say. And also that they were

608
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:45,640
Speaker 2: just allowed. Is that Can you still bring lighters into

609
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 2: a venue now?

610
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 4: I think so?

611
00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 2: I don't know whoa crazy? Okay, I don't think we've

612
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 2: taken a single break.

613
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 1: So we're gonna take a break, and you know, just

614
00:28:56,200 --> 00:28:57,800
Speaker 1: like when the flow's flow and you just got to

615
00:28:57,840 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 1: go with the flow.

616
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:17,280
Speaker 2: All right, we're back and we have some emails, so Mark,

617
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 2: take it away from the basement.

618
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 4: All right, Becka, thank you very much. Apologies for the

619
00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 4: hum in the background. That's a water heater. Here we

620
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 4: go from Anonymous. I have a cousin that I'm super

621
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:30,080
Speaker 4: close with. He has a girlfriend and he has had

622
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Speaker 4: her since January. And this girlfriend has a five year

623
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 4: old son. We see them every single time we go

624
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 4: over there. She's very sweet. He's really into her, and

625
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 4: he told me he wants to ask her and her

626
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 4: son to move in with him. Here's the dilemma. I

627
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 4: also recently found out from a friend who bartends that

628
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:48,280
Speaker 4: he knows her and that she has an OnlyFans account.

629
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 4: He showed me your page and said he knows people

630
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 4: that subscribe to it. She's been doing it for about

631
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:55,840
Speaker 4: a year, very active on the account, uses a fake name,

632
00:29:56,080 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 4: and films herself having sex with other men OnlyFans. I

633
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 4: know for a fact what I know for a fact,

634
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,840
Speaker 4: my cousin would not be okay with this. He has

635
00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 4: no clue and wants to ask her to move in.

636
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 4: I'm looking for advice. I can't bring myself to tell him.

637
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 4: I even have a friendship with her and sometimes we

638
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 4: text and make plans to hang out. How do I

639
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 4: look at her now? I'm so uncomfortable. Help give me

640
00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 4: some guidance. Thank you.

641
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 3: She has to tell the girl that she saw her

642
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 3: account and that I think.

643
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 2: I think that's the way to do it, too.

644
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think you take her aside and say, look,

645
00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 4: I do you know this bartender Gus. Yeah, I met

646
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 4: Gus and he showed me your account, and I know

647
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 4: that cousin is not going to be happy with this.

648
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 4: I think you got to tell him because if you.

649
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:44,320
Speaker 1: Don't, I will, Yeah, but then what does she do

650
00:30:44,400 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 1: If she doesn't tell him, then you.

651
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 4: Got to tell your cousin. You can't let him walk

652
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 4: into this trap.

653
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 2: Like it's like you do you girl, like, get get

654
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 2: the money, do what you gotta do. But you gotta

655
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 2: be upfront about what you're doing. Because there's someone like

656
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 2: someone that I love and and I just know that

657
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 2: knowing him, we're really close. I know he wouldn't be

658
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 2: okay with this, So I wanted to come to you first.

659
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 2: Make it seem like you're just like like you're not

660
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,280
Speaker 2: trying to go against her, You're just you're you're looking

661
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 2: out for your cousin who you love.

662
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that is still cheating on him. If

663
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 4: you're having sex with other men, even if it's not

664
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 4: only fans, that is cheating and dangerous.

665
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:26,920
Speaker 2: You're right. I sorry, in my mind, I was thinking

666
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:32,280
Speaker 2: only fans being more like photos, she's cheating on himself.

667
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:37,320
Speaker 5: I think it's like there's not many jobs where like

668
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 5: you can get chlamydia from another person.

669
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 4: At a water park.

670
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:44,920
Speaker 5: Hey, exactly, if you kept that a secret, that would

671
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 5: be a bad sign.

672
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:49,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I think I agree, though, I think going

673
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:51,680
Speaker 2: to her first and giving her the chance, and then

674
00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 2: if she doesn't, then I do. I mean, I would

675
00:31:55,680 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 2: look out for your cousin because it's already it's already

676
00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 2: not great that this is happening and he doesn't know,

677
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:05,640
Speaker 2: so I would do it as soon as possible.

678
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, the having like having an OnlyFans account

679
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 1: would not bother me, honestly.

680
00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 4: But he still should know about that.

681
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 2: So you wouldn't care if Robbie hood of OnlyFans account, well.

682
00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, if yeah, I would care, but I would less

683
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:25,480
Speaker 1: care if he was not having sex with people.

684
00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,720
Speaker 2: I think you would care around, but.

685
00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 3: I don't know.

686
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:32,720
Speaker 1: The sex really throws it to another level because you're cheating, right.

687
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 4: I didn't know only fans with that graphic.

688
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 2: I also didn't I didn't know that either.

689
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 4: So if Robbie had an only fans and all he

690
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 4: was doing was kind of a puppet show with his genitalia,

691
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 4: that's it.

692
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 6: A puppet show, like just like making sushi or something,

693
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 6: And so matter from any sort of reality that like,

694
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 6: I can't even put myself on the situation.

695
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 4: That's good though, he's cutting fish nude.

696
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, as someone who knows what triggers your jealousy, I

697
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 2: can guarantee you not be okay with them. You would

698
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:08,239
Speaker 2: not be okay with any of it.

699
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:12,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, it would stress me out for sure. But I'm

700
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:15,360
Speaker 1: saying I probably wouldn't like break up with them over it.

701
00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 1: But then again, if it's been years and I didn't know,

702
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:19,040
Speaker 1: that's like super sect.

703
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, if he didn't tell you, that's the betrayal

704
00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:21,880
Speaker 4: that ste Yeah.

705
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, man, that's tough.

706
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 4: This is from Shaney. Shaney says, my wife and I

707
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 4: have been married for six years and together for eight.

708
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,640
Speaker 4: We spent a healthy amount of time apart trip with friends,

709
00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:36,760
Speaker 4: work retreats, so forth. However, I may be traveling for

710
00:33:36,840 --> 00:33:39,920
Speaker 4: work starting next year in Israel or Ireland. I live

711
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 4: in Portland, Oregon for up to a year. I'll be

712
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 4: able to come home every once in a while, and

713
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:46,920
Speaker 4: she'll be able to visit me. But I know Becca

714
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:49,640
Speaker 4: has experience in long distance and time apart from Haley

715
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:52,680
Speaker 4: when she's on tour. I'm very secure in my relationship

716
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 4: and there are no trust issues or anything like that.

717
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 4: I'm just worried about being homesick and being about being homesick, sorry, homesick,

718
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 4: and being away from her and the dogs for so long.

719
00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:05,120
Speaker 4: We have two huskies named Elbus and Fox. And do

720
00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 4: you have any advice on what I can do to

721
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 4: make it a little easier? Those are both Harry Potter references.

722
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:10,480
Speaker 4: By the way, those dogs.

723
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 2: Oh, I've never seen or read Harry Potter, but no,

724
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:18,480
Speaker 2: that's a red flag for Haley and for me, honestly.

725
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:24,879
Speaker 2: I actually so when Haley and I first started dating,

726
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,759
Speaker 2: she basically immediately went on tour. So that was their

727
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 2: first year of our relationship basically, and we didn't know

728
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:35,799
Speaker 2: anything else. So that first year was pretty I mean,

729
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 2: it was hard, but we just adjusted to it because

730
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:40,279
Speaker 2: there was no other option, and I would go out

731
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,800
Speaker 2: and visit when I could. But Haley's actually about to

732
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 2: leave on tour again in August for eight weeks. It's

733
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:51,200
Speaker 2: gonna be so different because like we had the whole

734
00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:54,440
Speaker 2: pandemic together, We've spent so much time together and she's

735
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 2: gonna be gone and I, obviously I'm the same way.

736
00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 2: I'm very secure in our relationship. I trust it's more

737
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 2: about me feeling alone, you know, and being by myself

738
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 2: and her not being there, and like our normal routine.

739
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 2: But we've like just mad made it clear of like

740
00:35:11,960 --> 00:35:14,120
Speaker 2: making sure that we have a time at some point

741
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 2: to at least FaceTime or talk on the phone at

742
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 2: some point during the day. I mean being in a

743
00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:22,359
Speaker 2: different country makes it way harder because I remember when

744
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,880
Speaker 2: she was in Europe, like that was really challenging finding

745
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 2: times that worked for both of us to talk. But

746
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 2: that was the one thing, was like making sure we

747
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:32,279
Speaker 2: have time to like catch up on our day that

748
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:35,279
Speaker 2: feels like something that we'd normally do, and then like

749
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 2: once a week checking in, like you know, like something

750
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 2: we appreciate about each other, you know, just like validating

751
00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 2: and making sure that both feelings are heard and needs

752
00:35:46,520 --> 00:35:49,920
Speaker 2: are heard. Because even I'm like I always sell Haley

753
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 2: like I don't need a ton of attention in the

754
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 2: sense of like phone calls and face times, but just

755
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:57,319
Speaker 2: like a text here and there, like hey, thinking about you,

756
00:35:57,400 --> 00:36:00,360
Speaker 2: just so in the middle of her routine and like

757
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 2: work schedule, knowing that she's thinking about me. Because we've

758
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 2: been together for four years, so it'll be different compared

759
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 2: to like our first year together. Crazy, but like our

760
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 2: first year together, we were like so obsessed, like we

761
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:15,719
Speaker 2: were just like waiting for the text like any time

762
00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:18,239
Speaker 2: we could get it. And obviously I'll be more that

763
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:21,239
Speaker 2: way when she's gone, but I just told her like,

764
00:36:21,680 --> 00:36:24,600
Speaker 2: you know, I'll communicate what I need as I needed,

765
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:27,719
Speaker 2: but I'm not, like, I'm not unrealistic. So I think

766
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:29,839
Speaker 2: it's just figuring out times to talk and like catch

767
00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 2: up on your day and have face times and maybe

768
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 2: some like letters that's cute and roman or postcard nudes,

769
00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 2: nudes like whatever you need, but dud to make anybody's day,

770
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 2: you know they do. Yeah, And I'm going to travel

771
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 2: a lot. I think I'm just gonna like try and

772
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:57,279
Speaker 2: pack my schedule and I'm also going to go on

773
00:36:57,360 --> 00:36:58,800
Speaker 2: tour for like different stops.

774
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:01,279
Speaker 3: So it is weird thing I was actually having.

775
00:37:01,280 --> 00:37:02,759
Speaker 1: I don't know if I was having this conversation with you,

776
00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:04,839
Speaker 1: but I was having with one of my friends and

777
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 1: I was like when I was in my like singledom

778
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:11,319
Speaker 1: of those years of just like super single, I was

779
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:15,280
Speaker 1: sleeping home by myself every night, like thriving, like fine,

780
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:16,799
Speaker 1: you know, I don't need anybody to sleep with that

781
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:21,919
Speaker 1: my vibrator like chilling now that I'm in my relationship,

782
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 1: Like I don't want to spend a night away from him,

783
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 1: Like I don't ever, Like I don't can't tell you

784
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 1: the last time I spent the night without him, but

785
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:34,120
Speaker 1: I can't. I'm like people that are married for however

786
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 1: many years, Like that's such a crazy because you get

787
00:37:37,280 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 1: so used to it, Like I'm just so used to

788
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:42,080
Speaker 1: having him and I've never had that before, you know

789
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 1: what I mean. It's like a weird thing to think about.

790
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 1: That happened in a matter of like a year and

791
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:47,359
Speaker 1: a half.

792
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:47,719
Speaker 2: I think.

793
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:50,320
Speaker 4: I feel like you would struggle long distance Tanya.

794
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I'd struggle real bad.

795
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,359
Speaker 2: But wait, this is so funny because like, for a

796
00:37:55,440 --> 00:38:00,800
Speaker 2: long time, Tanya only sought out men that were like distance. Yes,

797
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 2: like there was like some sort of protection.

798
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:06,959
Speaker 3: Mechalist guy, another New York guy.

799
00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 2: But like thinking about your relationship with Robbie, like if

800
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 2: if you felt that way about any of these guys,

801
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:13,280
Speaker 2: it would have never worked.

802
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:14,919
Speaker 3: I know, but I think.

803
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 1: Okay, So when I was doing calling in the one,

804
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:19,480
Speaker 1: I realized that was my pattern, and I was going

805
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:23,200
Speaker 1: for men that were like either emotionally or physically unavailable,

806
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,759
Speaker 1: so I couldn't attach myself to them so that I

807
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 1: couldn't get hurt.

808
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 2: I get it. I mean I think a lot of

809
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 2: people probably do that without even realizing they do it.

810
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 3: It's very like psychologically messed up.

811
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 2: I also think there's podcast episodes where I talked about

812
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:40,920
Speaker 2: like wanting to have separate beds from the person I

813
00:38:41,040 --> 00:38:43,760
Speaker 2: ended up with. Like I was like, I love sleeping alone,

814
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 2: Like I can't imagine like always having someone, like like

815
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:49,719
Speaker 2: getting used to sleeping with someone in the bed with

816
00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:53,320
Speaker 2: me back, I was like, eh, oh, like another body

817
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 2: and things really change.

818
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:55,840
Speaker 4: I know.

819
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:59,239
Speaker 2: Well, we were saying before the podcast, like there's I

820
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:01,359
Speaker 2: was saying, how they're There was this guy that he's

821
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:03,799
Speaker 2: now married with a child, and he had DMed me

822
00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 2: like way before he met his wife. But I was

823
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:09,080
Speaker 2: and we were just laughing saying like how funny it

824
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:12,840
Speaker 2: is now he's married with a baby and all the

825
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 2: other things that have changed since that time.

826
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:16,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I was like, oh my gosh, probably half

827
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:21,720
Speaker 1: of Los Angeles has DMS for me, at.

828
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 2: Least at least half of La Tanyan Beck. I saw

829
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 2: hot guy in Trader Joe's. I only saw his profile,

830
00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 2: but I noticed he had an earring and he had

831
00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:32,719
Speaker 2: slight facial hair. He's probably about five ten. Let's try

832
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 2: and find him.

833
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 3: He had Nike's on I did, and then sometimes I

834
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:39,880
Speaker 3: found them.

835
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 2: We did. We Yeah, there was some good investigation.

836
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:43,920
Speaker 3: Yeah.

837
00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:46,360
Speaker 2: Well, did I give any good advice on that?

838
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 4: Yes, I think you did. I don't feel any dad

839
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 4: to it.

840
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:52,359
Speaker 1: I think I have nothing to add to it because

841
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 1: I would be horrible. Yeah.

842
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:57,759
Speaker 2: I hope you never have to go through that. Yeah,

843
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:02,240
Speaker 2: it sucks, It really does, and I will be honest.

844
00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 2: When Haley went to she went to like Europe and

845
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:08,840
Speaker 2: Portugal recently, and I was not. It wasn't like my

846
00:40:08,960 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 2: best portrayal of myself, you know, because it was our

847
00:40:11,960 --> 00:40:15,359
Speaker 2: first time basically since before the pandemic, that we had

848
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 2: been long distance for that amount of time, and she

849
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 2: was the time difference was challenging for me.

850
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: Struggled because, like in the beginning of our relationship, I

851
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 1: only spent half of my nights with him because I

852
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: didn't meet the kids, you know, I didn't meet his

853
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 1: kids until a year in and so I was kind

854
00:40:34,120 --> 00:40:36,040
Speaker 1: of used to like the fifty to fifty of it,

855
00:40:36,120 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 1: like I didn't sleep with him every night. I slept

856
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:39,920
Speaker 1: with him some nights, and then once I met the

857
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 1: kids and was around when I was around them more,

858
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:46,439
Speaker 1: now I just am I always sleep there. But it's

859
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 1: so crazy, how like now I can't even I can't

860
00:40:49,560 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 1: imagine it.

861
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 2: I remember actually when you were fifty to fifty that

862
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:54,840
Speaker 2: you would say, like you still slept really well in

863
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:56,040
Speaker 2: your bed by yourself.

864
00:40:56,160 --> 00:40:58,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was like totally fine, And now if I

865
00:40:58,320 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 3: had I.

866
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:03,759
Speaker 2: Would be like, oh, it's like a full We gotta like,

867
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:05,840
Speaker 2: really take care of Tanya if she ever has to

868
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 2: sleep alone at her apartment. Tragic, tragic, truly, Okay, Tanya,

869
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:14,239
Speaker 2: we gotta address first of all, we gotta get you

870
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 2: back in the Facebook scrubbing, ya.

871
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:17,279
Speaker 1: I know, I just keep trying it, telling me to

872
00:41:17,320 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 1: double authenticate myself, and I'm.

873
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:20,880
Speaker 3: Just like, oh my gosh, I can't.

874
00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:24,840
Speaker 2: Anyways, hadn't share what a scrubber has done.

875
00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:26,759
Speaker 3: No problem, because a lot of people DMed it to me.

876
00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:27,839
Speaker 3: That that's how I saw it.

877
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:31,759
Speaker 1: But her name's Jenna, and we were talking about j

878
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Speaker 1: Loo's newsletter on the podcast last week, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: should I get a newsletter? She literally mocked up a

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Speaker 1: Tanya newsletter, real cute The Tanya Times, How to Start

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Speaker 1: Living Sonny woke Up, cute Butterfly sightings this week felt

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Speaker 1: be significant. I mean notable stories this week, how to

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Speaker 1: get hands, like Robbie getting through, getting through a phase

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Speaker 1: of songs, have your own Taco Tuesday.

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Speaker 2: I mean, this is a little what's her name. I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: hire her as a graphic designer.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so cute and like her drawing of Sonny

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Speaker 1: is like perfect, perfect, and I mean she's like a

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Speaker 1: model Jenna.

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Speaker 2: Is it door Dora on Dorion? I don't know, Doron Jenna.

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Speaker 2: I'm reaching out to you because you are so talented,

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Speaker 2: so talented.

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Speaker 1: It's so cute, and it made me kind of want

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Speaker 1: to do a newsletter, you know what.

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Speaker 2: It made me want for you to get back into

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Speaker 2: the scrubbing anger.

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Speaker 1: I know I'm gonna try because I think so I

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Speaker 1: had like scan something. I think if I have my

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Speaker 1: computer and my phone, I can figure it out.

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Speaker 3: Who gets kicked out of Facebook.

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Speaker 2: I was talking to Crystal and I was saying, like,

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Speaker 2: we I'm gonna start. I'm gonna make a scrubbing in

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Speaker 2: TikTok and like upload you know, the clips and stuff

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Speaker 2: that she puts together, and then also just like you know,

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Speaker 2: weird or funny things Tanya and I do. Once she

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Speaker 2: starts doing tiktoks with me soon and she was like,

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm so protective because TikTok, like it goes

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Speaker 2: out to so many people that aren't even maybe listeners

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Speaker 2: of the podcast or know our personalities are who we are.

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Speaker 2: And she's like, I just don't want them to be mean,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, yeah, I get that. I was like,

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Speaker 2: but at least if they're not listeners or they're like

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Speaker 2: stranger danger to us and don't know us, it doesn't

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Speaker 2: sting as bad as it does when someone who's like

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Speaker 2: a scrubber and like knows our personality says something you agree.

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Speaker 3: I don't know about that.

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Speaker 2: Do you fear negative?

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Speaker 1: No, but no I don't fear bring it on, bring

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Speaker 1: it on, the comments off, just leave it.

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Speaker 3: No, I have a shield. I have a force shield.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well she has a four shield, so I think thirty.

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Speaker 3: Five can't get past this. That's right.

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Speaker 2: And shout out to Allison, who had a birthday yesterday.

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Speaker 2: Happy birthday bird, Alison Allen. Such a cute alliteration name.

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Speaker 5: That's why she married me. She wanted the name. Yes,

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Speaker 5: says that, thank you very much. That will be very

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Speaker 5: special when she listens to this later.

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Speaker 4: In the month.

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Speaker 2: A yeah, all right, hope you all have a great week.

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Speaker 2: We'll be back Thursday with Carine Fox, so check that out.

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Speaker 2: And we love you, love you. Bye.