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Speaker 1: A Big Bank DJ scream bring you Big Facts.

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Speaker 2: In the line for Revose Studios.

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Speaker 3: In the Atl's time for Big Facts, Big Bank DJ scream.

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Speaker 2: Gender Wars Part two featuring amand the League, Big Kayla

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Speaker 2: and Wealthy Lauren.

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Speaker 4: Yes, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome.

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Speaker 2: Everybody doing, everybody good man.

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Speaker 3: So we did Gender Wars a little while ago back

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Speaker 3: by Popular the Man. Everybody wanted us to come and

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Speaker 3: continue the conversation. I personally think that this is a

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Speaker 3: conversation that never ends. I don't think that it's just

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Speaker 3: not gonna end. But we're gonna try to make sense

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Speaker 3: of some stuff today. So where do we start? We

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Speaker 3: start with the question we always start with, why is

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Speaker 3: it that black men and black women being a consistent beef?

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Speaker 3: Why is it the narrative of these niggas ain't shit,

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Speaker 3: these bitches ain't shit, And it goes on and on

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Speaker 3: and on and on and on. Let's start there. Who

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Speaker 3: want to pop it off?

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Speaker 5: I think it's it's the experience that's been cultivated.

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Speaker 6: I think society has set it up so that men

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Speaker 6: have had a lot of reasons to be angry and

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Speaker 6: women have had a.

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Speaker 1: Lot of reasons to be a survival mode and a

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Speaker 1: tuto mix.

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Speaker 2: Is it society or experiences?

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Speaker 6: Experiences in society, you know, you got black men are already.

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Speaker 5: Set up to you know, you fuck up. Once you

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Speaker 5: go to jail or something.

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Speaker 6: It's harder for you to get a job, to get

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Speaker 6: out of the thing that probably sent you to jail.

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 6: Then the black women have to hold it down while

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Speaker 6: you're going through that experience, and then when you get out,

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Speaker 6: they're supposed to be led to support you while you're

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Speaker 6: having difficulty finding a job and resources and things of

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Speaker 6: that nature. Granted, we live in the era now where

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Speaker 6: it's more you know, socially acceptable for you to be

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Speaker 6: an entrepreneur. But you got to think even when you

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Speaker 6: go like I work in business FUNDM, Like when you

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Speaker 6: go into banks and you try to get Linden and stuff,

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Speaker 6: that's a question they asked you. Are you a feeling,

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Speaker 6: So you know, I just feel like the way that

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Speaker 6: things are sent up systemically, they kind of prevent you

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Speaker 6: from overcoming certain parts of your life, you know, where

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Speaker 6: you may not have done shit all the right way,

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Speaker 6: and so then it takes clear cut, concise communication for

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Speaker 6: you to be able to be in you know, kind

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Speaker 6: of profound understanding with one another, you know, and then

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Speaker 6: people be in survival mode, like you know, you're trying

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Speaker 6: to pay bills society, Like inflation is crazy, gas is

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Speaker 6: five six dollars a gallon, Like people really be struggling,

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Speaker 6: you know. And I think that we have not been

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Speaker 6: taught to have the most fruitful conversations when it comes

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Speaker 6: to like overcoming things as a unit. We're taught that

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Speaker 6: we're supposed to be in survival mode individually, and I

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Speaker 6: think that's kind of where a lot of the conflict

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Speaker 6: derives from.

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Speaker 7: For real.

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Speaker 8: Shain, I think, I think society in general is just

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Speaker 8: built on the vision, you know, and I think that

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Speaker 8: they really pushed that and they really capitalize on that.

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Speaker 8: So you know, I think you see that anything a

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Speaker 8: Republican versus democrat, black versus white, men versus women, you know,

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Speaker 8: and I think that's what most of our systems in

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Speaker 8: society are built on, you know, And that's the reason why

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Speaker 8: I think it's really important. And I think it's really

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Speaker 8: cool that social media is such a thing because it's

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Speaker 8: like people can and really use their platforms to change

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Speaker 8: that narrative.

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Speaker 7: You know.

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Speaker 8: It's like a lot of people we're starting to be

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Speaker 8: put in a position where we can build new networks

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Speaker 8: that are built more on unity and collaboration versus this

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Speaker 8: versus this, because life really should be this and that,

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Speaker 8: you know, And that's what a lot of like my

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Speaker 7: This is right, this is wrong, this is good, this

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Speaker 7: or bad.

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Speaker 8: It's like, let's take it, even if it is unpreferred,

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Speaker 8: you know what I'm saying. Or perceiving a negative light,

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Speaker 8: it can always be turned into something.

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Speaker 7: That's positive, you know.

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Speaker 4: I like that it should be like that.

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Speaker 8: And it's like any negative thing that you have, you

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Speaker 8: can turn it into a positive, Like if you used

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Speaker 8: to steal drugs, Now you can go out here and

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Speaker 8: sell programs that help people shift their mindset, like it's

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Speaker 8: alchemizing anything and turn it into something more constructive.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 7: I think that's super important.

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Speaker 1: I'm still say that we are conditioned to fight against

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Speaker 1: each other now, so it's not even it's not even

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Speaker 1: almost not even black and white versus each other anymore.

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Speaker 1: It's like it's black and black versus each other. They're

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Speaker 1: giving us the tools to divide each other. They're giving

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Speaker 1: us the tools to destroy our families. So now we're

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Speaker 1: so mad at each other because the rest of the

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Speaker 1: world is they're letting us fight. They're watching us fight,

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Speaker 1: and they like us fighting, like we're the only ones

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Speaker 1: who will not unify. So we're fighting with black men

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Speaker 1: and black women are fighting for each other. Because the

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Speaker 1: black men is trying, some of them have to bow

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Speaker 1: down to the white man so they can be successful.

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Speaker 1: And then the white I mean the black woman is

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Speaker 1: being dependent on the systems they put in place to

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Speaker 1: like I always say, keep us divided. So we're gonna

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Speaker 1: stay at war with each other until we can understand

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Speaker 1: that we are almost puppets in the world.

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Speaker 7: Right now.

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Speaker 1: You don't see any other cultures fighting life. We're fighting.

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Speaker 1: They're not doing it.

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Speaker 3: They don't get it. I don't get it. No other

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Speaker 3: like men and women be having a thing, but.

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Speaker 1: Black they love to watch our families fall apart and

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Speaker 1: keep our families away from each other, like they encourage it.

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Speaker 1: They're giving us the tools. Hey, y'all need to separate,

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Speaker 1: hold on.

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Speaker 3: Do theyden courage it? But do we also celebrated and

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Speaker 3: encourage it. And I don't want to not like reality.

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Speaker 6: Shows, and I think we've normalized it, if any thing,

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Speaker 6: I think like instead of it being a situation where

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Speaker 6: she said like we're we're.

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Speaker 5: Alchemizing and we're turning around to.

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Speaker 6: Be like a different outlook, I think we've normalized it

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Speaker 6: so much so that we celebrated, you know, we celebrated

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Speaker 1: They're paying us to do.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Even think about social media, bro, like we can't wait

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Speaker 6: to pull our phone out and see somebody getting arrested.

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Speaker 6: Got there, don't fight and you know, like some type

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Speaker 6: outside sources. So I think we're we're definitely complicit in

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Speaker 6: the suffer honestly for.

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Speaker 4: Sure, because right past some positive shit come on.

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Speaker 2: Positive.

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Speaker 6: I was like, okay, you know talking about some get

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Speaker 6: them on fucking world star fight.

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Speaker 1: Click click click, click click scroll. Let me look at

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Speaker 1: the corporations that are running, like the reality TV shows

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Speaker 1: and the music. The white people they love to they

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Speaker 1: love to see it. They're gonna fund us to act.

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Speaker 4: And ask what do you share the most?

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Speaker 5: I ain't gonna lie. I'll be sharing like quotes.

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Speaker 1: I'm an quote.

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Speaker 6: I'm a quote woman for sure. I know I don't

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Speaker 6: follow nothing, of the blogs, though I stopped. I stopped

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Speaker 6: following the blog probably like three years ago because I

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Speaker 6: realized how much I was unknowingly allowing it into my algorithm,

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Speaker 6: you know what I mean, because you might see just

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Speaker 6: like damn that bitch to knocked the head off, but

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Speaker 6: it's like I'm not really interested.

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Speaker 5: And they just caught my teacher.

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Speaker 6: But it's like, nah, I'll stay away from it because

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Speaker 6: then you see full five stick.

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Speaker 5: Now you down a rabbit hole down your timeline.

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Speaker 6: But ever since I started sharing like more podcast stuff,

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Speaker 6: I share like y'all stuff, you know what I mean, Beato,

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Speaker 6: you know what I mean, Kresha, when I see it

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Speaker 6: on network and stuff, you share more of that type

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Speaker 6: of stuff and repost. Even the fact that I repost

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Speaker 6: a lot of this done, I notice my algorithm changed.

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Speaker 5: So the things that I succumb.

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Speaker 6: To, Like it's gotta be some Messa shit, it gotta

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Speaker 6: come from somebody else timeline, it's not gonna come.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I post black love even if the spin that

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Speaker 1: all that turney though I don't even post that because

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Speaker 1: it can be fun. But I don't want all women

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Speaker 1: to be city girls. But I want a man. I

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Speaker 1: want to I want you to come home. My candles.

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Speaker 1: The candles are let, dinner is ready, all that raw

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Speaker 1: raw hooty. You want to be single and it I

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Speaker 1: don't want that, So I'm not gonna show y'all that

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Speaker 1: I'm sure to put your me and a man at

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Speaker 1: bathtub and Aruba. Hello, no face.

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Speaker 4: Do y'all think people won't love attention attention?

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Speaker 7: I think unhealed people want attention in fact.

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Speaker 8: But I do feel like I'm optimistic as fuck, So

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Speaker 8: I really do feel like there's a new wave of

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Speaker 8: like I've seen a shift, and I think it goes

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Speaker 7: Gravitating more towards positive shit.

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Speaker 8: Now, some people, I feel like they always going to

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Speaker 8: be trapped with the negativity, the toxicity, you know what

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Speaker 8: I'm saying, And that's that's where they operate from. But

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Speaker 8: I don't know, Like the people that I engage with

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Speaker 8: and shit on social media, they all kind of on

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Speaker 8: the same like like y'all were saying, most people interact

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Speaker 8: with like my crazy stories. But I kind of find

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Speaker 8: a balance where whenever I talk shit, but I'm saying

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Speaker 7: Make it funny and I'm cussing the shit. It's more relatable.

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Speaker 7: Like some people get on social media, they're like, okay,

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Speaker 8: Nobody wants to But if you like Timmy Watser, like,

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Speaker 8: I'll start with something crazy, like I'll hit the whole

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Speaker 8: ship and I'm like, all right, let me tell you

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Speaker 7: So it kind of like it's like a look and scene.

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Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 7: So then I got them where I want them.

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Speaker 8: So it's like you gotta kind of balance it because

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Speaker 8: nobody want to hear somebody like just like Hurst and

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Speaker 8: cleaning it up and ship.

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Speaker 7: That's not relatable. That's not what people want to hear.

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Speaker 6: They feel like, you ain't got no story behind it.

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Speaker 6: When you come up with a certain type of song.

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Speaker 8: It's like a therapist and shitting down. It's like, Okay,

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Speaker 8: how does that make you feel? And they ain't never

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Speaker 8: their parents always supported them, and they yeah, everything you're

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Speaker 8: teaching me what people taught to you, but not what

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Speaker 7: And there's a difference between that, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 8: So I feel like that's the reason why it's important

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Speaker 8: because whenever you don't do that, it's like people like

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Speaker 8: you're not really qualified to speak on search.

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Speaker 3: Do you think like changing like as far as like

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Speaker 4: So is that not backwards? No, for sure, I think.

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Speaker 6: Come on, it's easy to listen to that she didn't

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Speaker 6: You know before I made you my girlfriend, and a

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Speaker 4: Why why should we have a conversation when you know

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Speaker 6: But niggas love the fun girl. Now they love the

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Speaker 6: But as a man, tuto. But you also have to

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Speaker 6: You can do everything else you're doing it, but just

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Speaker 4: You was willing, So so why date me and involve

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Speaker 6: Do to reciprocate that behavior because while you're providing, I'm

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Speaker 6: my time, my prayers, like well, now you're come on,

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Speaker 6: But the reality is is I don't have the time

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Speaker 4: I'm cooking your meals all day.

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Speaker 6: I'm making sure your kids ask you.

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Speaker 1: But you can, Betty, But you want to have some fun,

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Speaker 4: What I'm saying is but we all know me and

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Speaker 4: I'm right wrong most as it should be, That's what

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Speaker 8: And I also feel like women are really guilty about

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Speaker 6: I think because conversations too though that right, you communicate

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Speaker 6: aliveing it, go out, go out. But it's like once,

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Speaker 6: it's difference when you coming from two separate household than

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Speaker 4: Why not continue to do what's been working, is the question.

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Speaker 4: Why not continue to do what's been working? Okay, if

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Speaker 4: it's been working for us to you stay there, I

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Speaker 2: The biggest thing I think is comfort. People just get comfortable,

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Speaker 3: A man can just be like, all right, I can

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Speaker 4: When I first when I first met you, you jump up

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Speaker 7: You do all that, you.

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Speaker 4: We speaking in general, well then they need to.

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Speaker 1: It's included.

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Speaker 6: And so I think there's a laxed nature that comes

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Speaker 5: It spiced up to where it's like what are we

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 6: So I think mutually exclusive though, like you said, even

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Speaker 1: And now like we might be where we dropped the ball.

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Speaker 1: We're going to Riverview Grill. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 7: I have going to Riverview Grill.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 5: Be ready at this time? Boom, I got the kids

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Speaker 6: I think people get so caught up and like, oh,

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Speaker 5: But it's like you have to be consistent in that too.

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Speaker 3: So basically saying so what we're saying is get comfortable.

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Speaker 3: You should be comfortable in a relationship, but don't get

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Speaker 4: I don't smother each other.

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Speaker 4: are routine, some people are not.

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Speaker 6: I said you said something. I think I'm like a

444
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Speaker 6: routine tribe woman. I like structure, but I think it's

445
00:17:49,240 --> 00:17:51,760
Speaker 6: because I'm a single mom. I think that I like

446
00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:55,240
Speaker 6: the Yeah, the structure is safety. I've existed in chaos

447
00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:58,080
Speaker 6: and survival mode for so long. I appreciate the structure

448
00:17:58,119 --> 00:18:00,320
Speaker 6: of knowing that I can do the same thing instead

449
00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:03,399
Speaker 6: of having to constantly change my mindset my settings on

450
00:18:03,480 --> 00:18:07,000
Speaker 6: my circumstance to navigate survival mode type shit. Where it's

451
00:18:07,040 --> 00:18:10,119
Speaker 6: like comfortability to me is being able to be like, okay, boom,

452
00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:12,879
Speaker 6: I'm gonna go to work between it these hours or whatever,

453
00:18:13,000 --> 00:18:14,920
Speaker 6: or I got this on my Like usually my week

454
00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:17,320
Speaker 6: is pretty planned out. I got this podcast, I gotta record,

455
00:18:17,359 --> 00:18:19,360
Speaker 6: I gotta do this, I gotta do it. So around it,

456
00:18:19,400 --> 00:18:21,439
Speaker 6: I'm navigating how am I gonna be a mom? How

457
00:18:21,440 --> 00:18:23,600
Speaker 6: I'm gonna make sure I get to my daughter's sporting events,

458
00:18:23,600 --> 00:18:25,680
Speaker 6: make sure she gets on and from if it's drop

459
00:18:25,720 --> 00:18:27,960
Speaker 6: off weekend. I gotta think about this. So I think

460
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Speaker 6: it's the mentality of the person that you're dealing with too.

461
00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:32,160
Speaker 6: Like for me, when I'm dealing with people who don't

462
00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,520
Speaker 6: have who have minimal responsibility, it's hard for them to

463
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Speaker 6: understand the way that I think because my time is limited,

464
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Speaker 6: you know.

465
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Speaker 5: And so when I have those times etched out in

466
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Speaker 5: my mind.

467
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Speaker 6: Where it's like, okay, boom, we can do a day here,

468
00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:44,760
Speaker 6: we can go on the trip here, we can do this, Like,

469
00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:46,440
Speaker 6: you gotta just know your person too.

470
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Speaker 1: So I think even when.

471
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Speaker 5: You say that, it's like that, why a nigga make Because.

472
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Speaker 1: I'm clingy, persy.

473
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Speaker 6: I could deal with one person for the rest of

474
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Speaker 6: my life and be happy and content. I won't look

475
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Speaker 6: into another nigga way as it could be a million

476
00:18:56,440 --> 00:18:58,560
Speaker 6: niggas in my DM and I won't even think about them.

477
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Speaker 6: They won't even make me sweat because that's the type

478
00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:03,040
Speaker 6: of individual in But everybody's not like that.

479
00:19:03,119 --> 00:19:05,440
Speaker 4: But you gotta pick another clinging person that's clinging to you.

480
00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:08,320
Speaker 4: You can't pick the cleaning nigga that. I can't pick

481
00:19:08,359 --> 00:19:09,840
Speaker 4: a nigga that that want space.

482
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know if to cleaning people could sustain

483
00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:19,840
Speaker 1: for a long time. I ain't gonna lie. We gotta

484
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Speaker 1: understand how the balance. I get what you're saying. I'm

485
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Speaker 1: just I'm thinking I would I don't. I want my

486
00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:28,520
Speaker 1: man to want me, but I don't know if I

487
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Speaker 1: want him to be clean to go to work.

488
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Speaker 6: Yeah, Like I don't want to see you all the time,

489
00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:35,560
Speaker 6: but like I want to you know what it is.

490
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Speaker 5: You don't have to physically be there, but I like

491
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Speaker 5: to be involved in people's days.

492
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Speaker 4: Yes, you want to hit the switch. You want to

493
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Speaker 4: be able to hit the switch. Come on, do this? That

494
00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,040
Speaker 4: the switch on it, but you can't turn off.

495
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Speaker 8: But I feel like that, like a lot of people,

496
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Speaker 8: they're just not honest about who they with you thinking

497
00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:56,919
Speaker 8: about in a perfect world, yes, if they was this,

498
00:19:57,200 --> 00:19:59,119
Speaker 8: if they had that, if they moved like this that

499
00:19:59,119 --> 00:20:01,240
Speaker 8: would be the perfect for me. So people hold on

500
00:20:01,320 --> 00:20:03,359
Speaker 8: to that and they stay around. But this person is

501
00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:07,280
Speaker 8: showing you this is this is not what I want.

502
00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:09,160
Speaker 8: This is not what I'm willing to give you. I'm

503
00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:11,879
Speaker 8: doing everything but blankly say that. All my actions are

504
00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:13,600
Speaker 8: showing you that this is not what it is. But

505
00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:15,840
Speaker 8: it's like, especially women, we got that bad. Like I

506
00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,840
Speaker 8: used to resent how giving I was in certain aspects,

507
00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:21,520
Speaker 8: but I realized, to the right person, that's not a curse.

508
00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:23,520
Speaker 8: But if you're giving it to the wrong person, it

509
00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:24,440
Speaker 8: don't feel like a gift.

510
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Speaker 7: It does feel like a curse.

511
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Speaker 8: Now you resent them because it's like, I'm giving all

512
00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:29,440
Speaker 8: this shit to you, But is that really a reflection

513
00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,280
Speaker 8: on them or is that a reflection on you not

514
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Speaker 8: being able to you know what I'm saying kind of like,

515
00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:35,159
Speaker 8: read that and set those boundaries and move accordingly to that,

516
00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:37,760
Speaker 8: because now you're gonna feel empty, like, damn, I'm giving

517
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Speaker 8: you all this I'm giving and you ain't giving me

518
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Speaker 8: nothing giving.

519
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Speaker 1: It nobody has to They don't have to receive it,

520
00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:45,720
Speaker 1: like and that sucks. And whether even if you think

521
00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:47,560
Speaker 1: that they say they want it, like you can give

522
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Speaker 1: everything they don't have to be appreciative. They don't have

523
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Speaker 1: to say thank you. They don't even have to give it.

524
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Speaker 1: Nobody has to give that. If somebody wants to give

525
00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:56,320
Speaker 1: you all of that, you don't have to receive it.

526
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Speaker 1: You feel like I didn't ask you to.

527
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Speaker 8: Ye, a powerful thing is gonna do that. That's gonna

528
00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:03,840
Speaker 8: be like, no, pour into me, give me everything you got.

529
00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:06,359
Speaker 8: And energy vampires is a real thing. Narcissism is a

530
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:08,760
Speaker 8: real thing. So a lot of times if you, especially

531
00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 8: as a woman, we're very impacted. So we're gonna track light,

532
00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:13,920
Speaker 8: attract dark. So you're gonna attract more fuckers that ain't

533
00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:16,320
Speaker 8: really got their own energy, so you they battery so

534
00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:18,440
Speaker 8: they keep coming to you right. Well, then they also

535
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:20,520
Speaker 8: fulfilling the need for you too though, because you want

536
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Speaker 8: to feel like you need it. So it's like you

537
00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:24,439
Speaker 8: almost picked men that do need you to do this,

538
00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:26,880
Speaker 8: that and this, and you know what I'm saying, I've

539
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:29,919
Speaker 8: done that before world mofucker didn't have ship, didn't have

540
00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:32,000
Speaker 8: a car, didn't have a job, and I loved it

541
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Speaker 8: because guess what, this motherfucker needs me?

542
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Speaker 1: Because then it is.

543
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Speaker 4: I think, I think, I think when a woman deal

544
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Speaker 4: with a man that know, like, if you walk out

545
00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:44,240
Speaker 4: my life right now, there's nothing I'm missing that that

546
00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:45,400
Speaker 4: creates insecurity in.

547
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Speaker 1: On them, oh for sure. But then we clean the

548
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,080
Speaker 1: hold on and try to handle our business because, like

549
00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:51,440
Speaker 1: you said, the man who he need me, I'm probably

550
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:53,960
Speaker 1: really gonna do you any kind of way because because

551
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:55,800
Speaker 1: you're dependent on me, like you're not. If the man

552
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:57,840
Speaker 1: ain't working, he stay at home playing video games all day,

553
00:21:58,080 --> 00:22:00,400
Speaker 1: he needs me, So really he more than likely it's

554
00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:02,199
Speaker 1: gonna do what I tell him to do. Dealing with

555
00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:04,080
Speaker 1: a man, I dealt with a man who didn't need me.

556
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:07,960
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do, and it's crazy.

557
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:11,439
Speaker 4: It's crazy that most women, right, I think relationship for

558
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:13,320
Speaker 4: women and I could be wrong. That's why we're all

559
00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:19,200
Speaker 4: here to correct. I think it's a puzzle and figuring

560
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:22,240
Speaker 4: it out. The puzzle is the excitement part. Once they

561
00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:25,679
Speaker 4: figure out you did. Once I figured out you like

562
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:27,480
Speaker 4: you say you like routine. Once I figure out that

563
00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:29,520
Speaker 4: your routine, I know everything you're gonna do. Now you

564
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:32,679
Speaker 4: become bored. It's just some bottom girl. Now it becomes

565
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:34,840
Speaker 4: something about this nigga. Because he borrowing, I know what

566
00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 4: he gonna do. But this nigga that you might not

567
00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:40,400
Speaker 4: know what he do, you love that nigga that I draw.

568
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:42,480
Speaker 8: But I think that go back to like a lot

569
00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:44,800
Speaker 8: of our a lot of us are so disregulated, and

570
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:47,160
Speaker 8: like our nervous system is so fucked up that we

571
00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:50,960
Speaker 8: used to people who are not predictable. We're used to inconsistency.

572
00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:52,680
Speaker 8: We're used to hot and cold and pushing pull, and

573
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:54,760
Speaker 8: a lot of people are addicted to that, so they

574
00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:57,280
Speaker 8: keep meeting partners because it's like life's trying to show you,

575
00:22:57,400 --> 00:23:00,720
Speaker 8: like until you change something within you, you gonna keep attracting

576
00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:03,840
Speaker 8: the same shit without you.

577
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:05,080
Speaker 5: I ain't gonna lie. I think that even with me,

578
00:23:05,200 --> 00:23:06,119
Speaker 5: it's much structure.

579
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:09,199
Speaker 6: Like I've had the best mental health fire of my

580
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 6: life last year, Like I've been had the most structure financially,

581
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:16,360
Speaker 6: Like I've been the most consistent in my purpose this year.

582
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:20,040
Speaker 6: But all I think I've created enormously with the type

583
00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:21,720
Speaker 6: of men that I did with that be all over

584
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:23,800
Speaker 6: the place, because in survival mode, those are the type

585
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 6: of men that I attracted because I was in survival

586
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:29,000
Speaker 6: mode too. But then when you get into where you're

587
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:33,959
Speaker 6: emotionally regulated, and I can clearly cut and cnsite understand myself,

588
00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:36,159
Speaker 6: my pros, my cons the things that I need to

589
00:23:36,160 --> 00:23:38,320
Speaker 6: work on, the things that I do very well. Like

590
00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 6: to a man who is used to being Chao, he

591
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 6: can't really.

592
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 1: Fit in that.

593
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:44,400
Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying, And it's nothing against them.

594
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:46,840
Speaker 6: But I also am a soul that attracts a lot

595
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,280
Speaker 6: of people that need healing. So I have to even

596
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:53,000
Speaker 6: create more boundaries and like more stability within myself to understand, like,

597
00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:56,240
Speaker 6: you gotta have limitations on this interaction you do. Like

598
00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 6: normally you probably could get with that and you just

599
00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:01,240
Speaker 6: wouldn't sit stick out like a because you was all

600
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:01,840
Speaker 6: over the place.

601
00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 1: But now that you got some more structure, this ship

602
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 1: shot out.

603
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:05,840
Speaker 5: It sticks out like a sore thumb.

604
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:09,280
Speaker 4: He let me ask you something.

605
00:24:10,640 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 1: Every time?

606
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:23,760
Speaker 4: Go ahead, No know when do intuition kick in? I

607
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,920
Speaker 4: always asked that when do intuition kick in? Like most

608
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,119
Speaker 4: of the time you ask a woman what is it

609
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 4: that they want? They all want the same thing, But

610
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:34,360
Speaker 4: do women really know what they want from a man?

611
00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 2: That's the truth.

612
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 5: I think that we get distracted emotions.

613
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:41,600
Speaker 4: If I ask you right now, what do you want?

614
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 4: I want to be with you? What you want.

615
00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:45,000
Speaker 1: I want you to take care of me. I want

616
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 1: you to figure out.

617
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:53,760
Speaker 4: Okay, so while I'm figuring it out, right, I'm figuring

618
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:55,680
Speaker 4: it out. So when you know you're figuring things out,

619
00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 4: there's trial and error. So how am I blamed for

620
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:00,880
Speaker 4: the trial and error when I'm figuring ou what you want?

621
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:01,080
Speaker 2: Oh?

622
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: Hardly? The only thing I really need from a from

623
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:05,920
Speaker 1: a manhole. I just want a man to be nice

624
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 1: to me and treat me like a girl, like a

625
00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 1: woman I can handle.

626
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 4: No, no, I agree, let me finish to be nice,

627
00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 4: to treat you like a girl.

628
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 2: Right.

629
00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:18,920
Speaker 1: I want to be taught, I want to be led,

630
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:20,520
Speaker 1: but I don't need you to treat me like a

631
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:23,119
Speaker 1: no limit soldier. I want you to treat me like

632
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 1: a woman.

633
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:27,920
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, okay. If me treating you like a woman, okay.

634
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:29,120
Speaker 7: That's me and my standards.

635
00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 4: Okay, that's that's your standards by me, and you're okay,

636
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:33,200
Speaker 4: all right, let me ask you all this for everybody.

637
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 4: If I'm treating you like a woman, everything that's dealing

638
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 4: with me and you on our time is perfect. But

639
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:41,840
Speaker 4: then when you go to digging into my life, that's

640
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 4: the thing you don't like. You don't like the things

641
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 4: that I do within my life has nothing to do

642
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:46,720
Speaker 4: with you.

643
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:51,359
Speaker 1: If I'm taking care of that becomes the issue. No,

644
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 1: I don't give a damn what you do.

645
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 2: I don't know.

646
00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 4: That's she's speaking for herself.

647
00:25:56,600 --> 00:26:02,280
Speaker 1: I understand, and like, if you're if you're going to

648
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: be Most men are cheaters or whatever. We all cheating,

649
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:07,920
Speaker 1: whatever the case may be, at least be a nice one.

650
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 1: I don't want to I don't want to go to

651
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 1: work and right don't be there. Yeah, if I know, okay,

652
00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 1: you like a man, I just you, just knowing you.

653
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 1: I just got to get cold. I don't want to work,

654
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,840
Speaker 1: and I want you to be nice. To go be

655
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:23,439
Speaker 1: with that bitch if that's what you want to do,

656
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 1: But be nice to me so I can my so

657
00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:27,239
Speaker 1: I can be regular and I can be cool if

658
00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: I'm having everything I need. Cheating is not a deal

659
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:36,000
Speaker 1: breaker to me. Around the cheating is the deal breaker

660
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:40,359
Speaker 1: once you start being disrespectful and start it's what goes

661
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:43,159
Speaker 1: around it. It's not the cheating people. I don't agree.

662
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily like it, but that's not the deal breaker.

663
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:45,840
Speaker 1: Be kind to me.

664
00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:48,639
Speaker 3: So if that person is kind to you and.

665
00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 1: What am I gonna do? Go just I leave you

666
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 1: because you cheat me.

667
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:54,080
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go get with But are you?

668
00:26:57,080 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 1: I don't need if I have what I need, I

669
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:02,199
Speaker 1: don't need. I don't. I'm I don't. I'm trying not

670
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 1: to cut. I don't like to say the d world.

671
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:06,280
Speaker 1: I don't just need Dick, Like I don't need to

672
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 1: go cheat back because I need to Dick.

673
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:08,239
Speaker 7: We have that.

674
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,560
Speaker 3: I just when you pick up the phone and call

675
00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 3: another man, man is with another one, she's saying.

676
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:15,879
Speaker 4: She's saying, basically, bro, if you covering all my knees,

677
00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:18,919
Speaker 4: my mental mind, you take care of me. Woo woo, Bro,

678
00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 4: don't give what you do long is when I come

679
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 4: in the house, I don't feel the energy my knees

680
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,640
Speaker 4: are meet my needs, That's what she's saying.

681
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,200
Speaker 1: And also, don't let the miss come to our front though, don't.

682
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 1: I don't want to be no wait, wait, wait, let's

683
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 1: be clear. Cheated on. Guess what I left a man

684
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: who cheated on me and I got cheated on by

685
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 1: the next nigga. Like, it's not the cheating, it's not

686
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 1: how I need to be treated. Give me what I want.

687
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:47,440
Speaker 6: It's not something that I would like to be regular

688
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:50,040
Speaker 6: in a relationship. What I'm saying is is that it's

689
00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 6: something that can be worked past with change behavior and mindset.

690
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 6: I'm not saying it's like you can't take me through there,

691
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 6: Like don't nobody I want a motherfucker.

692
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,800
Speaker 5: Going to be lost me. But sometimes loyalty is learned.

693
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:04,320
Speaker 6: Sometimes people aren't used to a person like you, Like

694
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 6: I've really had to learn that in dealing with men,

695
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:08,679
Speaker 6: Like they're not used to a person who's like me.

696
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:11,080
Speaker 1: You look like you look like you look you.

697
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:14,200
Speaker 6: Got what you got going on, and you loyal in Atlanta,

698
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 6: like these girls be looking for a nigga with a

699
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 6: whole bunch of money. They won't they want them to

700
00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 6: take care of them monetarily and spiritually be fucked up.

701
00:28:21,119 --> 00:28:23,840
Speaker 6: That's not my essence as a woman. Like as a woman,

702
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:24,680
Speaker 6: I want the men to come.

703
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,680
Speaker 4: Let me say this, it's so crazy, right, and I've

704
00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:30,679
Speaker 4: witnessed this, Like you got a nigga that might be

705
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 4: in a relationship, me and you, and in a relationship,

706
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 4: I may cheat with one or two girls over No. No,

707
00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 4: this is the truth over the span of eight years, right,

708
00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 4: but you leave me in those eight years. You're gonna

709
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:46,080
Speaker 4: be trying. You're gonna be the fucked six niggas a

710
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 4: year trying to replace me. I'm just keeping a break.

711
00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 4: That's what we see. I see this happens. I see

712
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 4: this happen. But let me finished finish. You don't fuck

713
00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 4: six niggas a year. I've only dealt with three and eight,

714
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 4: so six times eight is what who losing? I see

715
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 4: it all the time. I'm not dealing with this, nigga.

716
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 4: But you're gonna fuck with this nigga. Find out here.

717
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 4: Fuck niggas. I'm not dealing with this. This is what

718
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 4: I'm saying you now, you ran through. Now you just

719
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 4: bitter because nobody wants you. Because I know you. You've been

720
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:19,680
Speaker 4: come on, you've been doing.

721
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 1: Tell each one of the new dudes what you did

722
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 1: to me. He gonna put on the show for a

723
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:27,160
Speaker 1: little while, pretend like and be sides.

724
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:28,840
Speaker 4: You gotta pick your pauson, man.

725
00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 6: But you know what, That's why I said loalty though,

726
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 6: because what Lord looks like for me, loyalty stands to

727
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 6: test the time like you're not just for so for instance.

728
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:42,920
Speaker 4: You in the relationship me, you loyal to the.

729
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 6: Person I'm growing to be. You love to the person

730
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 6: that I am right now, you lord to the person

731
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:48,120
Speaker 6: that I'm going to grow to be. That means that

732
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 6: the good, the bad, the ugly, and either one of

733
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:51,960
Speaker 6: us we can find a common ground no matter what

734
00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 6: the surface says.

735
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 4: What is Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

736
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 5: I think people desire loyalty. They don't really have been there.

737
00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 4: What I don't think you can see loyal and listen

738
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:08,400
Speaker 4: I'm you said yes because I feel like unfaithful and

739
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:11,920
Speaker 4: lords is two different things. Un faithful.

740
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 6: That you might be loyal to this why I say

741
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:19,440
Speaker 6: people don't They stay loyalty, but they don't really break

742
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 6: down what that means. So for me loyal to be Like,

743
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 6: if I'm loyal to the person that you are and

744
00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 6: we're in a relationship right and you aren't faithful to me,

745
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 6: I'm more loyal to the man that you're growing in

746
00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 6: to be, so that we can work through that.

747
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 5: Com that you know that that exchange.

748
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:34,600
Speaker 2: So you be loyal and lie to someone.

749
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, loyalty and lying are different. Loyalty and different.

750
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 5: Lawyer and I don't know about lay and lie, but

751
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 5: you're loyalty.

752
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 1: I agree with the difference in it. I'm just if

753
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 1: you're with somebody for twenty years and you don't think

754
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 1: they ever told you a lie, your delusion.

755
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 4: You're talk. Yeah, I agree with that, but they don't

756
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 4: mean they because they don't want they. I feel like

757
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:59,400
Speaker 4: lords to unlawyer person is the person that will put

758
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 4: you in a situation that you shouldn't be.

759
00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 7: In right now.

760
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 1: If you cheat on me, don't bring me back nothing.

761
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 1: Don't be talking bad about me to this little girl.

762
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 1: Don't be getting nobody pregnant. And if I say get

763
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 1: rid of her, she gotta go. That's loyalty.

764
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:11,000
Speaker 4: Yeah.

765
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 1: Switching up on me with her and laughing about me

766
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,720
Speaker 1: and disrespecting me and giving her before you continuing with

767
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:17,720
Speaker 1: that's the disloyal part.

768
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:19,920
Speaker 6: That's why I said, it's like, man, you gotta see

769
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:22,480
Speaker 6: people do the test of time, because like sometimes people

770
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 6: are like, people are gonna cheat, you know that, But

771
00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 6: it's about what do you do that. What's the change

772
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 6: behavior look like?

773
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 1: Afterwards?

774
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 6: Do you continue to keep dealing with her this whole

775
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 6: calle she calling my phone, or you find out she

776
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 6: carrying something and you gotta go take some temporary medicine,

777
00:31:35,000 --> 00:31:36,440
Speaker 6: get rid of that ship, and we gotta take it.

778
00:31:36,920 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 1: You don't lie to the girl now, she.

779
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 6: Don't keep in a bad situation to where we're at

780
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 6: a point where.

781
00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 2: You can be lost to somebody and potentially have cheated.

782
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 4: Lied.

783
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 3: Still they steal from you something about your purse.

784
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 4: We have to define what they're saying. On the side

785
00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 4: over that, we have to define what lords is between

786
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 4: each person, like what what person are you dealing with?

787
00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:11,200
Speaker 4: We can't have this all these generic answers inside of a.

788
00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:13,400
Speaker 1: Relation the conversation.

789
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:19,720
Speaker 4: I ain't moving the goal because if I meet you,

790
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,840
Speaker 4: I could be lawyers to our our agreement. I ain't

791
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 4: gotta be lawyer to what she lloyd too, because most

792
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 4: of the time women don't give a fuck until they

793
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:30,520
Speaker 4: tell the next person like she really don't even give

794
00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 4: a fuck, she really want to forgive you. But I

795
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 4: gotta act this way because a man of un told Kayler.

796
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:37,240
Speaker 4: Now I gotta feel like this when I see him,

797
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 4: because I don't want to look stupid like you embarrass me.

798
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 4: So now I gotta act like I don't really give

799
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:44,720
Speaker 4: a fuck around her. Really, you really don't even care

800
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:47,000
Speaker 4: about what I did, but you told her, so now

801
00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 4: you gotta care.

802
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 6: I had to start learning, Like when people find your

803
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:52,960
Speaker 6: business out, bro, It's like, as a person, you have

804
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:55,320
Speaker 6: to determine what the fuck you give a fuck about,

805
00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 6: like do I care that you win?

806
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 1: And did this?

807
00:32:57,520 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 6: And can I move past to at the end of

808
00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:01,920
Speaker 6: the day. People, I have had so many opinions about

809
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 6: the people who I've chosen to have relationship. They come

810
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 6: they tell you I would have did them like this

811
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 6: any time I ever tried to somebody else's way and

812
00:33:09,080 --> 00:33:12,600
Speaker 6: being emotionally like not there. It never worked out for

813
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 6: me anyways. And then you have to also engage the audience,

814
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 6: like who's telling you this? Are these people in the relationship?

815
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:20,960
Speaker 6: Are they married? Have they ever been in fruitful exchanges

816
00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 6: like at all? Or are they just giving you a

817
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:25,720
Speaker 6: pinion because they seen somebody say something on social media

818
00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 6: or because somebody told them this was right wrong?

819
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:29,000
Speaker 1: Like I agree with that you.

820
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 4: Live on exactly. It's like, if.

821
00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:35,719
Speaker 1: You don't got no money, you can't tell me how

822
00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:37,680
Speaker 1: to get money. If you've never been married, don't tell

823
00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 1: me how to act like a white gu Have you

824
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 1: never been married? Don't tell me when I should leave,

825
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 1: when I should stay with, what I should do. I

826
00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:43,480
Speaker 1: don't you can't help me.

827
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 4: You remember if women is don't embarrass me?

828
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 2: Right?

829
00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:49,600
Speaker 4: Okay, I get it, Okay, I get it. But how

830
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 4: the fuck am I embarrassed you? When I ain't telling

831
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:52,120
Speaker 4: nobody nothing.

832
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 6: You choosing to deal with their davy the one tell

833
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:59,120
Speaker 6: me no, yes, mess up?

834
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 1: But I had one do. Tell me, oh, I messed with?

835
00:34:00,920 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 1: I mess with the type of women that don't nobody

836
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 1: know the fact.

837
00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:04,920
Speaker 4: That we are.

838
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:07,360
Speaker 1: We are master investigators. Because now I'm in the group

839
00:34:07,440 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 1: chat between her and homegirl because she found out you lie?

840
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 4: Okay, he's a liar. How you embarrassed what he did

841
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 4: to you?

842
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:18,600
Speaker 1: You just I'm on the internet telling women, Hey, y'all

843
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:20,680
Speaker 1: need to be more feminist, Stop being so masculine, stop

844
00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 1: being so hyper independent. Respect your man, and then I

845
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 1: will deal with a man who's in everybody dams. You're

846
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:31,240
Speaker 1: tearing down my platform.

847
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 4: I'm gonna tell you why. I'm gonna tell you why

848
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,799
Speaker 4: because you saying be more feminine. I gotta get this

849
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 4: man time to grow. Add that to your message, ladies,

850
00:34:45,600 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 4: when you're going through this. I'm not embarrassed by this, Ladies, I.

851
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 1: Have said that man does not mean you're gonna be

852
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:55,319
Speaker 1: a good man, but continue to be a good woman.

853
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:56,839
Speaker 1: Just because you are a good woman and you are

854
00:34:56,840 --> 00:34:58,759
Speaker 1: Feeline does not mean you're gonna get a man who

855
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 1: treats you right. Keep your you're right, but still stop

856
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 1: embarrassing me.

857
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,279
Speaker 4: Listen, listen. I don't feel as if though I can

858
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 4: be embarrassed by my mate, I can just be disappointed.

859
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 4: You don't get.

860
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:12,720
Speaker 7: Other people.

861
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 4: Whatever you do embarrasses you, not me. That's how niggas

862
00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 4: I hate when they be like, bro, I'll be fucking

863
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:22,399
Speaker 4: that nigga bitch, that niggag ship. You fucking the bitch,

864
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:22,839
Speaker 4: not him.

865
00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 1: Right, I don't have nothing to do with You're a

866
00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 1: you're a successful black man. Nobody can nobody can touch

867
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 1: you or what you got. We are. We're not in

868
00:35:32,600 --> 00:35:34,720
Speaker 1: the same realm as y'all. We are the weaker vessel.

869
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 4: No, you can't say that though. You gotta put yourself

870
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:39,520
Speaker 4: in the vessel who you are. You can't be embarrassed

871
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 4: off somebody else's actions. Yeah, how can somebody.

872
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:47,200
Speaker 1: You're talking to my song with that?

873
00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 6: That's real ship though, because I ain't gonna lie. I've

874
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:54,359
Speaker 6: definitely been in it of that conversation. You can that's

875
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 6: that's when your get.

876
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 4: Out there right now and do some bullship. I'm like, damn,

877
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 4: you did that, not me. I can't be embarrassed by

878
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 4: somebody else situation.

879
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 6: Bro, I think you made me even change my choice

880
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 6: a word and too, just like even in having this conversation,

881
00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:13,839
Speaker 6: which is obviously why we do it, Like, I don't

882
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:16,399
Speaker 6: be embarrassed. I be disappointed because I wanted to. Did

883
00:36:16,440 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 6: you like like a nigga that took me through there?

884
00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 6: And you won't hear I didn't fuck none of the

885
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 6: homeboy Big Home is nothing. It won't do it because

886
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:27,360
Speaker 6: of my character and the way that I choose to

887
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:29,640
Speaker 6: hold myself. But that's why my number one prayer I

888
00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:31,799
Speaker 6: told you this on the podcast, is God, please don't

889
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:32,840
Speaker 6: change my heart.

890
00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 1: Because I just don't want.

891
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:36,680
Speaker 6: I've seen and experienced so many men and women that

892
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,480
Speaker 6: have grown so bitter. And that's going back to your

893
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:41,719
Speaker 6: initial question about the conflict.

894
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:42,720
Speaker 1: We're bitter.

895
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 6: We have experienced life with people who have disappointed us,

896
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:49,640
Speaker 6: and we don't know how to properly articulate that emotional disappointment,

897
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:51,879
Speaker 6: and so we choose to attack each other and hold

898
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:55,320
Speaker 6: somebody else accountable for something that a person three times

899
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 6: ago than did you know?

900
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 1: We carry weight?

901
00:36:57,600 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 6: Like I always tell people, even like when we're walking

902
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:03,600
Speaker 6: through healing and understanding and emotional maturity, like you gotta

903
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 6: unpack your baggage at the door for you walking and

904
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:07,919
Speaker 6: move into the next house, because if you carrying them.

905
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 1: Full suitcase, you don't have room for nothing else.

906
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:13,239
Speaker 6: So you might do something that resonates with something I

907
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 6: dealt before, and I don't even have the emotional capacity

908
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 6: to understand you, or to forgive you or.

909
00:37:18,360 --> 00:37:20,200
Speaker 1: To move past it. I'm holding you in contempt to

910
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:21,399
Speaker 1: what three other niggas did.

911
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:23,560
Speaker 6: And so at that point too, I even learned you

912
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:26,600
Speaker 6: got to check yourself because it's what you're allowing, it's

913
00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:28,799
Speaker 6: what you're giving off. Sometimes it's like I feel like

914
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 6: with anything, any relationship, family member, relationship, friendship.

915
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:35,840
Speaker 1: Bro that shit starts with you. That's why I go

916
00:37:35,880 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 1: to therapy, because you.

917
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:39,400
Speaker 6: Have to start to understand, like what are your emotional

918
00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:41,520
Speaker 6: triggers for people? Sometimes it's the shit that you put

919
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:43,640
Speaker 6: off that makes people feel like that you allow certain shit,

920
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 6: Are you gonna go for certain shit?

921
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:45,279
Speaker 7: No?

922
00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 4: In fact, most women get into a relationship, a new

923
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 4: relationship and turn a new guy into a journal, that's

924
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:51,800
Speaker 4: your first mistake.

925
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 8: But I feel like a lot of people don't take

926
00:37:53,520 --> 00:37:55,719
Speaker 8: that period. I don't know many people that sit with

927
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:58,640
Speaker 8: themselves very long at all, because there's so many different

928
00:37:58,680 --> 00:37:59,480
Speaker 8: forms of escapism.

929
00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:01,640
Speaker 7: People drink every day, they smoke every day. They addicted

930
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:02,280
Speaker 7: to sex.

931
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,279
Speaker 8: Or porn or food or like, you know what I'm saying.

932
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:06,239
Speaker 8: So people are constantly putting it into their body where

933
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 8: they don't. They're not sitting with themselves in the dark room,

934
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 8: you know what I'm saying. So that's where you're gonna

935
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:12,280
Speaker 8: keep attracted. If you say all people are all people

936
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 8: are being to me, all people do this, well your reality,

937
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:15,400
Speaker 8: you're gonna manifest that.

938
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 7: You know you're gonna attract that.

939
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 1: But manifest dude manifested him cheating on me.

940
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:22,879
Speaker 7: But but people do though.

941
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 1: But people do though so subconsciously I understand it. There

942
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:27,040
Speaker 1: was a book that I already talks about this, like

943
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:29,279
Speaker 1: sometimes you can self satisfye. We women do it a lot.

944
00:38:29,320 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 1: We substanitize ourselves because of the we don't express what

945
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 1: we really mean. We don't say what we mean. We

946
00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 1: expect you to to guess. So if I say, oh,

947
00:38:36,760 --> 00:38:38,480
Speaker 1: you're cheating on your cheating them, and I'm cheating, I'm

948
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:40,279
Speaker 1: treating you like that all the time, and I'm being

949
00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 1: mean to you. Every man says I might as well.

950
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 1: If you're going to make me feel like it, then

951
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:47,399
Speaker 1: what is different than me actually doing it?

952
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:50,879
Speaker 4: Thank you? What's the difference with it? But no, that's true.

953
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:52,960
Speaker 4: What is the difference? That's the question? What's the difference?

954
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:58,640
Speaker 4: Like if I'm if I'm already convicted of something to do,

955
00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 4: why not do it? If you already feel like I'm

956
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:01,800
Speaker 4: doing it?

957
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 6: Here, I feel like there's a balance suit because I

958
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 6: was navigating a similar situation.

959
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:07,680
Speaker 4: No, you're thinking what you're thinking is gonna become a

960
00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:10,480
Speaker 4: weighted I'm gonna show you that I'm not right. It's

961
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:16,160
Speaker 4: impossible because I can't prove to you something that I'm

962
00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 4: not doing if I'm not doing.

963
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:22,920
Speaker 1: But if your behavior is demonstrating that and be real.

964
00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:26,360
Speaker 4: Behavior demonstrating, how does how does behavior dimstration?

965
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:28,799
Speaker 1: If you popping out? If you popping out, this thing

966
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 1: is taking me out. If you popping out every night

967
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:34,600
Speaker 1: I call you, you can't pick up the phone. You you

968
00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:37,879
Speaker 1: nasty at the house, You're just moving like you turn

969
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:39,720
Speaker 1: your brightness down when you send a text message.

970
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:45,319
Speaker 4: Who I'm tasking? You don't know. You don't know who

971
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 4: I'm tasting. I could be doing, but I could be

972
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:49,160
Speaker 4: looking at Instagram. I don't know what I'm doing.

973
00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:52,400
Speaker 6: What it is is that once you show somebody that

974
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 6: your behavior, it's like simple math, one for one equal

975
00:39:56,360 --> 00:40:00,200
Speaker 6: suit me that this is what you do when you're

976
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:03,640
Speaker 6: doing this, and then equated out to your big dislow you.

977
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,800
Speaker 6: You're talking to other women, you're going out with other women. Now,

978
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:10,359
Speaker 6: to regulate that situation, it's going to take some form

979
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 6: of reassurance.

980
00:40:11,719 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 4: Who's finna go through reassurance? What's my I ain't no reinsurance? Consequence?

981
00:40:16,520 --> 00:40:16,840
Speaker 5: Correct?

982
00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 4: What the fuck I'm gonnainsurance? You for? You need to

983
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:19,720
Speaker 4: give me consequences?

984
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:23,440
Speaker 1: Sokay, so let me ask you. But you I can

985
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:27,839
Speaker 1: walk home. You don't need me. I'm leaving back right now.

986
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 1: He keeps cheating on me.

987
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:29,200
Speaker 7: I'm done with it.

988
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 2: You like.

989
00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:35,480
Speaker 4: Get what I might be sad for a minute, but

990
00:40:35,640 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 4: you showed me you ain't with that.

991
00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:40,360
Speaker 1: But how is me giving you consequences?

992
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:41,360
Speaker 4: That's the motive.

993
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:43,520
Speaker 1: But you're telling me that you're gonna be with.

994
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 4: Me unhappy knowing that you don't. You're not with what

995
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:47,920
Speaker 4: I'm with. You're gonna be with me unhappy? So how

996
00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 4: do I trust you at this point?

997
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 1: Damn?

998
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:53,279
Speaker 7: Now that's some I want you to make.

999
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:56,479
Speaker 4: You need to do that, baby, this is who I am.

1000
00:40:56,800 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 1: I'm not finishing You're like, okay, this is what I'm

1001
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 1: gonna do. That's one thing. This is if you but

1002
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 1: if you're done.

1003
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 6: Promising and get mad when you hold them accountable to

1004
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:11,840
Speaker 6: the new standard, right, that's where the fucked up part be. Motherfucker,

1005
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:15,480
Speaker 6: come around you, you get your baby. We invoke the consequences.

1006
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:17,440
Speaker 6: Now we every because we have a conversation.

1007
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 1: How we're gonna move.

1008
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 4: This is come on.

1009
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 7: Gathering.

1010
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:28,240
Speaker 4: What I'm gathering from this is basically, you ain't leaving

1011
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:32,640
Speaker 4: because you're comfortable. For one, that's what I'm gathering. For Two,

1012
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:37,399
Speaker 4: you're gonna make me. You showed me that there's no consequences,

1013
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:39,160
Speaker 4: so why would I stop my actions?

1014
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:42,319
Speaker 1: So you're not gonna stop. And if I give you consequences,

1015
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 1: you're gonna leave. So I ain't gonna lose lose situations.

1016
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:45,840
Speaker 7: So why is it a loss?

1017
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:46,080
Speaker 4: Though?

1018
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 7: If it's.

1019
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 1: Like I said, the fact that the matter is that

1020
00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: I won't leave you and what you say, go hit

1021
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:57,839
Speaker 1: six niggas and then But that's the whole thing, though,

1022
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:00,399
Speaker 1: Why do we have to do Why can't people see

1023
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 1: what they self they should?

1024
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:04,640
Speaker 8: You know what I'm saying. And I've been guilt to

1025
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:06,719
Speaker 8: this too. Where my feeling I'm feeling some type of way. Well,

1026
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 8: now I'm gonna go out here and fuck my life

1027
00:42:08,280 --> 00:42:11,280
Speaker 8: up because I don't want to. You know, I'm gonna drugs,

1028
00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,160
Speaker 8: I'm gonna drink, I'm gonna find something at the bar,

1029
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:15,759
Speaker 8: you know, real shit, Like I've done it too. But

1030
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:18,000
Speaker 8: like I've been celibate for six months and now it's

1031
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:19,960
Speaker 8: like when people come around me, I'm like, bro, I

1032
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 8: just will fuck with myself before I know. We don't

1033
00:42:22,680 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 8: have to be in a situation that I don't want

1034
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:26,120
Speaker 8: to be in. So it's like whenever I see people,

1035
00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:28,279
Speaker 8: I don't try to change people. I don't try. And

1036
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 8: that's something that I'm so thankful I've learned to be

1037
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,359
Speaker 8: twenty seven years old. I don't have to put up

1038
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:34,359
Speaker 8: with that shit. A lot of motherfuckers got way more

1039
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:36,400
Speaker 8: shit going on. They come with kids and baby mamas.

1040
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:38,440
Speaker 8: I don't have kids. I don't have all this shit.

1041
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 7: You get what I'm saying, So you can do all that,

1042
00:42:40,520 --> 00:42:42,200
Speaker 7: and that's not a loss for me, Like because I

1043
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:43,960
Speaker 7: don't move like that. I don't operate out of those

1044
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:45,920
Speaker 7: same You know, I'm not an insecure person, so I'm

1045
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 7: not gonna be going through your phone and shit. But

1046
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 7: when I start getting the inclination that I need to,

1047
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 7: I'm just not going to be here anymore. Like I

1048
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 7: don't have to be here.

1049
00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 4: No, that's correct. I like that. Hit the bell on that.

1050
00:42:58,640 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 4: I'm gonna make sure the audience know I'm not speaking

1051
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:02,840
Speaker 4: for all men because you be having men and to

1052
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 4: come in like you know, some of these dude pick

1053
00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:06,960
Speaker 4: me dudes, be like bank tripping. I'm not speaking for them.

1054
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 4: I'm speaking for Martin, the Martin, the men that I know.

1055
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 4: I ain't gonna say Martin men the men that I know.

1056
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 1: Okay, I would say the men that can because a

1057
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 1: lot of men can't. And that's why they call you

1058
00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:16,799
Speaker 1: what you is. You don't have to deal with them

1059
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 1: because the position you're in. So those men, if they

1060
00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 1: put themselves in a better position in us women too,

1061
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 1: then you don't have to deal with that.

1062
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:24,919
Speaker 4: So okay, let's speak for the other guys right, Why

1063
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:27,719
Speaker 4: do those guys get overlooked? The guy that that that

1064
00:43:27,840 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 4: women say they want? Why there was? Why do those

1065
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 4: guys can't get the women that they want?

1066
00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:33,720
Speaker 1: Which guys?

1067
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 7: The nice guy?

1068
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:44,000
Speaker 4: The nice guys? So basic? You trying to take a

1069
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:47,520
Speaker 4: nigga out of his natural habitat and put him in

1070
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:50,839
Speaker 4: another habitat when this guy is right here, he want

1071
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:52,319
Speaker 4: to be this. I want to be all of this

1072
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:58,680
Speaker 4: for you, beautiful. That gets on your nerve. You really

1073
00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 4: want a needga wake up, like tell you what that

1074
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:02,600
Speaker 4: mile doing? The more that what you want a nigga

1075
00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 4: text your instead of grand You really want the nigga

1076
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:11,000
Speaker 4: to pull up and like send you a picture. That's

1077
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 4: what you want. But you'd be like, why would you

1078
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:15,320
Speaker 4: do that? You want to do that, but with a

1079
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:21,759
Speaker 4: nigga conyas nigga send you that, Hey, beautiful, let me

1080
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:22,799
Speaker 4: know what you're getting from lunch.

1081
00:44:22,760 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 8: With my nerves around though, I think that there's a

1082
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:26,919
Speaker 8: middle ground. I would like to think there's a little

1083
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 8: groun because they're difference in nice and fucking corny. If

1084
00:44:29,080 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 8: you a fucking ball, I ain't got shipped for you

1085
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 8: because I'm gonna take you through there because I'm sucked

1086
00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 8: up in some ways too.

1087
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 4: If your knife you bought the line carnball.

1088
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 1: No, no, you're gonna be corny.

1089
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 7: You went to prison, but you went legit. You know

1090
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:48,840
Speaker 7: what I'm saying. You move, you operate a little different,

1091
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 7: but you carry the principles over, you know. Yeah, don't

1092
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:54,719
Speaker 7: be too soft a good dude.

1093
00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 4: I know some good dudes that just cannot get.

1094
00:44:57,520 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 7: With, but a lot of nice dudes they also do

1095
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:01,399
Speaker 7: like that. You know what I'm saying.

1096
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:05,799
Speaker 6: Women for women, and you.

1097
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:09,880
Speaker 1: Can't be a good dude and want like a baddie

1098
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 1: because she comes with a particular type of lifestyle.

1099
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:14,520
Speaker 4: Know I'm saying, So that's the woman. What you gotta

1100
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:16,799
Speaker 4: think even it no matter even how a woman look.

1101
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:21,320
Speaker 4: Every woman not everyone, I'm sorry. Most women have different

1102
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:25,000
Speaker 4: have the same mentality. They want a guy that when

1103
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:27,879
Speaker 4: he comes around, everybody look at him as that guy.

1104
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:29,960
Speaker 4: If I take him to the family function, if I

1105
00:45:29,960 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 4: take him around my friends, he that guy. They don't.

1106
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:37,400
Speaker 4: They're gonna hide that dork. You know what, Then I

1107
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:40,439
Speaker 4: can't bring here right like girl, you trying, you're free,

1108
00:45:40,480 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 4: you try something like I can't pray, but I gotta

1109
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:51,359
Speaker 4: brains the motion. Yeah, the other ship don't work. It's

1110
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 4: fucked up, bro. But these guys out here really are trumping.

1111
00:45:55,239 --> 00:45:57,399
Speaker 4: And you got some guys that wasn't miss the motion

1112
00:45:57,440 --> 00:45:59,600
Speaker 4: that will turned them miss the motion now that look

1113
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 4: at that ship like fucko, Yeah, yeah, can you blame him?

1114
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:08,320
Speaker 6: I think I think there's an accountability that has to

1115
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:11,239
Speaker 6: be had too, because as women, you know, we do

1116
00:46:11,680 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 6: set standards for a man on what it is we're

1117
00:46:14,160 --> 00:46:15,920
Speaker 6: looking for, and a man will come around and you

1118
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 6: be so damaged by the one who wasn't that you

1119
00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:20,080
Speaker 6: can't tell the one who is. So I think that's

1120
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 6: the point that you're getting across too, is like everything

1121
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 6: that we're telling, you know, the nigga who ain't got

1122
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:28,400
Speaker 6: his shit together and he's still out cheating. Got you

1123
00:46:28,440 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 6: know what I'm saying, how many baby Mama was in

1124
00:46:30,760 --> 00:46:31,640
Speaker 6: the street all day.

1125
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:32,360
Speaker 1: You know, he's.

1126
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 6: Normalized his chaos. He's not gonna come and conform to

1127
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:38,279
Speaker 6: that same standard. So I think a lot of it

1128
00:46:38,360 --> 00:46:40,200
Speaker 6: is just knowing who you are and what you want

1129
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:42,279
Speaker 6: to being, and going back to the communication about what

1130
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:44,840
Speaker 6: kids of realistic expectation, going back to even what you

1131
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 6: said about okay, a niggas say he's not this sometimes,

1132
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 6: like you have to gauge people's willingness to change and

1133
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 6: transform because I'm not who I used to be. I'm

1134
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:55,839
Speaker 6: not the same caliber of woman that I was ten

1135
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 6: years ago. Like, I probably don't attract the same man.

1136
00:46:58,239 --> 00:47:00,839
Speaker 6: I don't even articulate myself this same way. I don't

1137
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 6: pray the same way. I don't even walk the same way.

1138
00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 6: I don't even wear the same shit. Everybody has the

1139
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:07,280
Speaker 6: capacity to change, but you have to understand where people

1140
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 6: are at and transition. So when you got the man

1141
00:47:09,520 --> 00:47:11,400
Speaker 6: who didn't cheat it on you and he comes to you,

1142
00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 6: and you got two different types of niggas, one's going

1143
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:15,600
Speaker 6: to tell you. He's gonna say, this is exactly who

1144
00:47:15,640 --> 00:47:17,319
Speaker 6: I am, and this is what you can expect. You

1145
00:47:17,400 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 6: have to honor that. That's where you're coming with delusion.

1146
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 6: But when you have a man who promises changed and

1147
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:26,279
Speaker 6: he shows you the effort change, listen, he tells you look,

1148
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 6: he accepts accountability.

1149
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:30,880
Speaker 1: Boom. I was disloved to you. I need it. I

1150
00:47:30,880 --> 00:47:33,359
Speaker 1: would never fall in love with anybody's potential. I don't

1151
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:34,719
Speaker 1: care what you say out your mouth, but.

1152
00:47:37,520 --> 00:47:38,440
Speaker 4: It's not potential.

1153
00:47:38,520 --> 00:47:40,920
Speaker 1: If a person demonstrates their effort.

1154
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:44,400
Speaker 4: That's that's that's preliminary. That's like probation. You do that

1155
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:47,000
Speaker 4: when you're on probation. You have to act like Pean

1156
00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:50,759
Speaker 4: the cup, like reprobation. Don't you gonna go back to

1157
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:51,760
Speaker 4: the traffic.

1158
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:55,480
Speaker 1: People for who they are at that moment, and if

1159
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:57,440
Speaker 1: they change, that is amazing. But if they don't, you

1160
00:47:57,520 --> 00:48:00,359
Speaker 1: have to say, Okay, I knew potentially this is who

1161
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 1: this person was. I can't I can't love you with

1162
00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:04,880
Speaker 1: this is how I feel like I would get into

1163
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:06,799
Speaker 1: do you can't love somebody based on you thinking and

1164
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:09,319
Speaker 1: wishing they're gonna change? Yeah, because they might not.

1165
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:13,200
Speaker 4: I think most women that's in relationships. And it's gonna

1166
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:16,440
Speaker 4: sound ignorant, like when they catch a nigga cheating because

1167
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 4: he gotta go through that period. Listen, listen, bro, listen

1168
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 4: to what I'm saying, bro, because he gotta go through

1169
00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:24,719
Speaker 4: that period of proving hisself.

1170
00:48:24,800 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 7: What is he trying to.

1171
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 1: Prove a lot?

1172
00:48:28,320 --> 00:48:32,360
Speaker 4: Yes, he gotta listen, bro, listen, Please hear me out.

1173
00:48:33,640 --> 00:48:36,200
Speaker 4: If she catch me cheating, right, what she just said

1174
00:48:36,239 --> 00:48:38,880
Speaker 4: to her point, she catch me cheating? Now you know

1175
00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 4: what I'm finna do because I.

1176
00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:41,680
Speaker 2: Know she hurt you in the dog house, so you

1177
00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 2: got it.

1178
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 4: I'm finna make sure Boo where we at the night, Boo,

1179
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:45,800
Speaker 4: where we eat Boo. I'm gonna do this shit for

1180
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 4: about three months now. Today I'm locked in because I'm

1181
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:50,000
Speaker 4: trying to prove that I'm different, because I don't want

1182
00:48:50,040 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 4: to lose her. They like that.

1183
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:54,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want you to cheat on me and

1184
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:55,880
Speaker 1: to say fuck me like exactly.

1185
00:48:56,520 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 4: But but but that is the nigga y'all saying, be honest,

1186
00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:01,480
Speaker 4: that's to be like this, This is who I am?

1187
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:04,400
Speaker 4: Which one do you want? Do you want a nigga

1188
00:49:04,760 --> 00:49:07,800
Speaker 4: to me to say who I am?

1189
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:14,960
Speaker 6: If you're going to be a cheater, be a cheater.

1190
00:49:15,120 --> 00:49:17,319
Speaker 6: If you're a nigga who's promising that you're gonna do

1191
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 6: something different, I'm gonna give you Thomas the only thing.

1192
00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:21,840
Speaker 1: That can ever show you.

1193
00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:23,960
Speaker 6: You gotta get people time, So you have to ask yourself,

1194
00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 6: what's my capacity?

1195
00:49:24,960 --> 00:49:25,680
Speaker 1: Do I even have this?

1196
00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:29,040
Speaker 4: If a nigga cheat on you today, you believe he's

1197
00:49:29,080 --> 00:49:34,880
Speaker 4: gonna stop being a cheater anybody anything.

1198
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:36,880
Speaker 1: You're not allowed to do that. If you cheat on me,

1199
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:38,600
Speaker 1: I can't believe. I can't.

1200
00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:40,440
Speaker 6: I would like I always know you have them, you

1201
00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 6: have them cheater now like so.

1202
00:49:43,480 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 4: Much, knowing that I gotta the makers of a cheater?

1203
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 4: How is your intendors? Everything is watched now, So I

1204
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,080
Speaker 4: have already proved the point that I will that you

1205
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:57,279
Speaker 4: will so once I did that.

1206
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:03,360
Speaker 7: Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. People accept who people

1207
00:50:03,400 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 7: are for who they are.

1208
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:09,719
Speaker 4: Will love you enough to lie to your feelings because

1209
00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:12,359
Speaker 4: niggas some niggas do. Man, I ain't doing that. God

1210
00:50:12,400 --> 00:50:17,919
Speaker 4: delivered me for a nigga walks, let's go to let's pray.

1211
00:50:19,160 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 4: Niggas will do all that. But in your heart and

1212
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:24,839
Speaker 4: in your mind, bro, you is want you that type

1213
00:50:24,880 --> 00:50:27,320
Speaker 4: of nigga. That's just who you are. And a woman

1214
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 4: knows that by her knowing that, she's gonna still have

1215
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:33,200
Speaker 4: a third or fourth hour fifth watching you, and you're

1216
00:50:33,239 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 4: gonna feel that energy. So by you feeling the energy,

1217
00:50:36,200 --> 00:50:38,120
Speaker 4: how can I trust you?

1218
00:50:38,400 --> 00:50:40,120
Speaker 1: I told you, if I'm gonna know you, she am

1219
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:41,759
Speaker 1: I taking care of them. We're gonna have to throw

1220
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:48,200
Speaker 1: you out.

1221
00:50:48,280 --> 00:50:50,160
Speaker 4: I'm being under Okay. I know you don't want to

1222
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:54,880
Speaker 4: cheat her. Yeah, I know. I love you. Thank you.

1223
00:50:54,920 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 4: I gotta let.

1224
00:50:55,520 --> 00:50:57,200
Speaker 1: You go, you.

1225
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:02,200
Speaker 4: Know, I got to let you go because yes, do you.

1226
00:51:02,120 --> 00:51:04,160
Speaker 5: Think do you think that a man could not let

1227
00:51:04,200 --> 00:51:05,319
Speaker 5: me ask your opinion on this?

1228
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:06,760
Speaker 4: Because because summer.

1229
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:12,840
Speaker 6: But listen, if a man or a woman, if they cheat,

1230
00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 6: right and you moved past it, you know you two

1231
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:18,520
Speaker 6: years down the line, ain't no infidelity. The bitch had

1232
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:21,239
Speaker 6: her or the nigga had her, they third eye open

1233
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:24,680
Speaker 6: the whole time. Is that an actual demonstration to change?

1234
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:26,200
Speaker 6: But however, or do you feel like that person will

1235
00:51:26,239 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 6: stay there? Because what if a person.

1236
00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:33,439
Speaker 4: That is what it is? Because damage is damage, Trump

1237
00:51:33,560 --> 00:51:35,520
Speaker 4: is trauma. That's just like me right now. I wouldn't

1238
00:51:35,520 --> 00:51:37,520
Speaker 4: want to know if my person cheat on me, ever,

1239
00:51:38,400 --> 00:51:41,680
Speaker 4: because you take it to your take it to your

1240
00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:43,680
Speaker 4: because once I find out, now you look like a

1241
00:51:43,760 --> 00:51:46,239
Speaker 4: dick to me when I see you, like dick face.

1242
00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,680
Speaker 4: Look at dick face. Man, Hold go on, I ain't

1243
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:49,920
Speaker 4: gonna pay it to come back from that.

1244
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:52,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I ain't gonna.

1245
00:51:52,719 --> 00:51:54,680
Speaker 4: Think about it. Damn, she's finna go do dick. She

1246
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 4: probably finna go to uh see Jesus, I don't know,

1247
00:51:58,520 --> 00:52:00,720
Speaker 4: but you're finna go do dick. That on my mind,

1248
00:52:01,040 --> 00:52:04,439
Speaker 4: so I gotta let you go. Yeah, so baby, take

1249
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:06,879
Speaker 4: that to your brave lie to me. If I asked you,

1250
00:52:06,960 --> 00:52:07,799
Speaker 4: have you lie?

1251
00:52:07,880 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 7: I think a lot of men would feel like that. Yeah,

1252
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:10,319
Speaker 7: I don't think.

1253
00:52:12,640 --> 00:52:13,279
Speaker 4: That you free.

1254
00:52:13,400 --> 00:52:18,040
Speaker 8: Yeah, men would definitely say and that's why.

1255
00:52:19,000 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, you're gonna never catch one cheat unless she don't

1256
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:22,399
Speaker 4: care about you no more.

1257
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:23,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's facts. That's facts.

1258
00:52:24,320 --> 00:52:25,359
Speaker 4: Even know that.

1259
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:27,319
Speaker 8: That's why women be looking for ship with men too,

1260
00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 8: because a lot of times they deflected.

1261
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:29,799
Speaker 7: They're like, shit, let me find someone that.

1262
00:52:30,920 --> 00:52:33,239
Speaker 1: I was that to dude, he walked outside and was

1263
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:34,600
Speaker 1: on the phone, he got on his ear pods, went

1264
00:52:34,640 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 1: for a walk. I'm like, damn, that's crazy. And I

1265
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:39,000
Speaker 1: only the insecure he recognition too though, I was like,

1266
00:52:39,120 --> 00:52:41,160
Speaker 1: I remember I was talking to another nigga. Why Miles

1267
00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:45,759
Speaker 1: was in a shower, So when he went outside, was done.

1268
00:52:46,600 --> 00:52:51,759
Speaker 1: Know I'm saying, no judgment, right, So when he went

1269
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:53,720
Speaker 1: outside and talked on the phone, now I'm in secure.

1270
00:52:53,760 --> 00:52:55,520
Speaker 1: Now I'm tripping. So that's a real thing. I think

1271
00:52:55,560 --> 00:52:57,080
Speaker 1: a lot of us will put that he cheating on

1272
00:52:57,080 --> 00:52:58,680
Speaker 1: me because I know what kind of woman I have

1273
00:52:58,800 --> 00:53:00,799
Speaker 1: been before. And you don't get to pick when you

1274
00:53:00,800 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 1: get your.

1275
00:53:01,520 --> 00:53:03,640
Speaker 8: Yeah, because I was a side beach back and when

1276
00:53:03,680 --> 00:53:05,560
Speaker 8: I was younger, I was a side bitch, you know,

1277
00:53:05,600 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 8: and I would get fluid out or something and the

1278
00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:08,840
Speaker 8: man's like talking to his wife and shipp you know,

1279
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 8: I'm just just you know so now, So then I

1280
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 8: was like, should I got because at least I know

1281
00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 8: what's going on. But then it's like now you all

1282
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:18,799
Speaker 8: of a sudden, now you want to beat the bitch

1283
00:53:18,840 --> 00:53:19,360
Speaker 8: on the phone.

1284
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:20,840
Speaker 7: Now it's like you wonder.

1285
00:53:23,840 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 4: In the world. But I think that's what damaged niggas.

1286
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:29,000
Speaker 4: Like on the other side, if a nigga have ever

1287
00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:30,879
Speaker 4: been aside nigga is over?

1288
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:35,680
Speaker 1: For which one would? I feel like each guy has

1289
00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: prolled the corn, Like would you rather do you rather

1290
00:53:37,560 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 1: be the main or do you rather be knowing a

1291
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:40,319
Speaker 1: lot more?

1292
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:45,960
Speaker 6: Ship ain't come at little places, you know what I'm saying. Expectations,

1293
00:53:46,239 --> 00:53:47,000
Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying.

1294
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:50,759
Speaker 1: You get the main now you borring. Depends on how

1295
00:53:50,800 --> 00:53:52,439
Speaker 1: he treats each Like if you got a side chicken,

1296
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 1: he ain't giving her no money, we're safe. If you

1297
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:58,920
Speaker 1: ain't spend no money out of cool, But you should

1298
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 1: get a big guy. You know. I don't like it,

1299
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:02,600
Speaker 1: but whatever, just don't give it no money. My bills

1300
00:54:02,600 --> 00:54:04,120
Speaker 1: are paid and we take care of and I can

1301
00:54:04,160 --> 00:54:06,800
Speaker 1: live my life.

1302
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:08,760
Speaker 4: If he got enough he give her money.

1303
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:11,440
Speaker 1: He can't. He can't give her no money. No, she's

1304
00:54:11,480 --> 00:54:13,759
Speaker 1: a side chick. She's there for the d get the deal.

1305
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:17,560
Speaker 6: Some niggas ain't doing that no more because they do.

1306
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:19,360
Speaker 1: They want you to pay them for they signed. Know

1307
00:54:19,440 --> 00:54:19,919
Speaker 1: that you got.

1308
00:54:20,160 --> 00:54:24,239
Speaker 6: Ain't no sign the move. They don't want to.

1309
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:29,400
Speaker 4: It's a group effort. Baby, It's not just like this

1310
00:54:29,480 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 4: is a corporation. This is a corporation. Certain niggas. Listen. Listen, man,

1311
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:38,360
Speaker 4: women be thinking and I ain't advocating for cheetahs or

1312
00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 4: none of that. You should stay single, stay single to

1313
00:54:40,800 --> 00:54:43,000
Speaker 4: every every woman what it is man, and that's what

1314
00:54:43,160 --> 00:54:45,040
Speaker 4: that's that's the biggest advice I can give a man.

1315
00:54:45,040 --> 00:54:47,439
Speaker 4: Because they you got some that will go. They're gonna

1316
00:54:47,440 --> 00:54:50,320
Speaker 4: act like an't with that at first until they be like, okay, gone.

1317
00:54:50,680 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, Just build your corporation, bro,

1318
00:54:53,760 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 4: because everyone one woman can't do everything for certain type

1319
00:54:57,000 --> 00:55:00,040
Speaker 4: of men. That's just impossible. For certain niggas, Like I

1320
00:55:00,040 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 4: would run you crazy, and I said this over and

1321
00:55:01,600 --> 00:55:03,360
Speaker 4: over again. I would run you crazy trying to be

1322
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:06,719
Speaker 4: my everything because I'm thinking that ship every day, all

1323
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:07,840
Speaker 4: day for a motherfucker to do.

1324
00:55:09,440 --> 00:55:11,920
Speaker 6: So, let me ask you this. This is a this

1325
00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:14,720
Speaker 6: is a question. This is a question a lot of people.

1326
00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:17,719
Speaker 5: So which woman does a man love more?

1327
00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:19,399
Speaker 1: The one he lies toward? Tells the truth?

1328
00:55:19,440 --> 00:55:20,400
Speaker 4: You love all them different?

1329
00:55:25,320 --> 00:55:26,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're a different way.

1330
00:55:27,680 --> 00:55:31,200
Speaker 2: What was Homie? What was that? Sopranos? What was his main?

1331
00:55:31,360 --> 00:55:31,760
Speaker 2: His wife?

1332
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:37,760
Speaker 3: The wife and Sopranos. I'm trying to create a picture here. Basically,

1333
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:40,040
Speaker 3: what I'm saying is that he ended up cheating on.

1334
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:42,759
Speaker 2: What's her name? Not Ginger, you don't watch Sopranos.

1335
00:55:43,120 --> 00:55:48,360
Speaker 3: But but but but should shouldn't there be.

1336
00:55:48,239 --> 00:55:52,360
Speaker 2: A down top like the top one? Shouldn't that be

1337
00:55:52,400 --> 00:55:52,840
Speaker 2: the one that.

1338
00:55:55,680 --> 00:55:58,920
Speaker 4: Was gonna be like a bitch, I'll beat you up

1339
00:55:58,920 --> 00:56:00,000
Speaker 4: about That's what I'm saying.

1340
00:56:00,440 --> 00:56:03,520
Speaker 2: You know what, we'll jump on right, That's what I'm saying.

1341
00:56:03,560 --> 00:56:07,120
Speaker 4: He's always gonna be that one, especially if they But

1342
00:56:07,360 --> 00:56:09,759
Speaker 4: I'm gonna be regretting beating you up though, because I

1343
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:14,640
Speaker 4: like you too, but bit you out of line, that's what.

1344
00:56:19,640 --> 00:56:19,880
Speaker 3: You know?

1345
00:56:19,960 --> 00:56:20,440
Speaker 4: You know what?

1346
00:56:20,480 --> 00:56:21,480
Speaker 1: Though I ain't gonna lie.

1347
00:56:21,600 --> 00:56:23,759
Speaker 6: I think this like from our ego to that's what

1348
00:56:23,840 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 6: a lot of women want to see.

1349
00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:27,560
Speaker 1: Which wish you more law to?

1350
00:56:28,120 --> 00:56:30,239
Speaker 6: That's where all that stopped talking to that hole and

1351
00:56:30,560 --> 00:56:31,879
Speaker 6: don't give it no money come from?

1352
00:56:31,920 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 1: Because which bit you more law?

1353
00:56:33,360 --> 00:56:33,440
Speaker 2: To?

1354
00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:35,720
Speaker 4: Which bitch can't be seen?

1355
00:56:37,400 --> 00:56:38,439
Speaker 1: What you can't be seen?

1356
00:56:39,480 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 4: Which bitch on my page? I'm just saying, like which

1357
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:47,680
Speaker 4: bitch am I putting on front Street? So that's that's

1358
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:48,120
Speaker 4: the one.

1359
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:50,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, well you know what it should be.

1360
00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:53,879
Speaker 2: Is the other one wants to be the one.

1361
00:56:54,040 --> 00:56:56,879
Speaker 4: It don't matter. Hey, hey baby, I get it. I'm

1362
00:56:56,920 --> 00:56:58,359
Speaker 4: the one, so you should want to be the one.

1363
00:56:58,719 --> 00:57:01,719
Speaker 4: But I get it, I get it. But it's levels,

1364
00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:08,160
Speaker 4: baby's level. Kobe Bryant already had a star player.

1365
00:57:08,520 --> 00:57:10,439
Speaker 3: You don't think that as long as you leave the

1366
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:13,520
Speaker 3: door partially open for them to be the one, that

1367
00:57:13,640 --> 00:57:16,480
Speaker 3: is gonna how is the door open screen? Because they

1368
00:57:16,480 --> 00:57:17,680
Speaker 3: are around and they feel.

1369
00:57:17,400 --> 00:57:19,520
Speaker 1: Like if you if a man is married and you

1370
00:57:19,560 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 1: think he leaving his wife, if you think this man

1371
00:57:21,840 --> 00:57:23,880
Speaker 1: leaving chantagne, you come around, you out of your mind

1372
00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:25,720
Speaker 1: and you dumb as hell he's married.

1373
00:57:26,280 --> 00:57:31,920
Speaker 3: You know you they're out of their mind.

1374
00:57:35,600 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 6: That nigga mouth beach moving up. Boy, he'll have a

1375
00:57:38,200 --> 00:57:38,960
Speaker 6: bitch in the corner.

1376
00:57:39,120 --> 00:57:41,920
Speaker 4: But you got it in for you to say, what

1377
00:57:41,920 --> 00:57:44,000
Speaker 4: are y'all talking about? That's nothing for me to say.

1378
00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:45,760
Speaker 4: If you met me, you know I got a wife.

1379
00:57:45,760 --> 00:57:47,240
Speaker 4: What the fuck do I gotta say to you?

1380
00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:49,000
Speaker 1: And why would you in your right mind believe that

1381
00:57:49,040 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 1: you can even have that position. And when you get

1382
00:57:50,600 --> 00:57:51,480
Speaker 1: that position to not know.

1383
00:57:52,360 --> 00:57:55,200
Speaker 3: Because somebody else did it, because you did it, because

1384
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:56,320
Speaker 3: it happened somewhere else.

1385
00:57:56,400 --> 00:58:01,080
Speaker 4: They listen, listener. If I take you for bid, just

1386
00:58:01,120 --> 00:58:03,720
Speaker 4: say okay, I'm done with you and leave because I

1387
00:58:03,720 --> 00:58:06,480
Speaker 4: had a side bitch. I'm not finna bump upto that

1388
00:58:07,960 --> 00:58:09,880
Speaker 4: gonna stay right here. Somebody else finna go right there.

1389
00:58:10,120 --> 00:58:13,600
Speaker 2: Everything, everything you're saying is Everything you're saying is rational.

1390
00:58:14,920 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 4: Why do the fuck up what we got? Baby? Got

1391
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:18,680
Speaker 4: something with this?

1392
00:58:18,840 --> 00:58:21,240
Speaker 2: You're making sense. I'm saying, you're making sense. What we're

1393
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:22,000
Speaker 2: saying makes sense.

1394
00:58:22,040 --> 00:58:24,040
Speaker 3: What I'm saying is when you go in that type

1395
00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:28,840
Speaker 3: of woman and their emotions and the movie they'ved you.

1396
00:58:28,760 --> 00:58:31,200
Speaker 4: Know how many people just going to join the fuck

1397
00:58:31,280 --> 00:58:33,600
Speaker 4: bank campaign because it's a lot of niggas saying fuck Bank,

1398
00:58:33,680 --> 00:58:35,960
Speaker 4: so gone over there with them and join the campaign

1399
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:39,000
Speaker 4: because I can't go against what we already agreed on.

1400
00:58:39,920 --> 00:58:43,400
Speaker 4: We've already agreed upon that we're gonna do big facts together. Okay,

1401
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:45,160
Speaker 4: now you start feeling like, well, bank, man, I feel

1402
00:58:45,200 --> 00:58:47,600
Speaker 4: like I need to be on perspective the screen. You

1403
00:58:47,640 --> 00:58:50,640
Speaker 4: just want to say, fun fact, yes, ain't going on perspective.

1404
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:52,600
Speaker 4: I ain't going a screen show. He ain't going on perspective.

1405
00:58:52,640 --> 00:58:55,040
Speaker 4: How this ship gonna work? Bro, that's the same thing.

1406
00:58:55,560 --> 00:59:04,080
Speaker 4: We have an agreement, baby.

1407
00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:02,560
Speaker 1: Trying to move what you say last time? You you

1408
00:59:02,680 --> 00:59:04,880
Speaker 1: got to accept where you are. We're now made up

1409
00:59:04,880 --> 00:59:08,120
Speaker 1: in my head with I know I've made that up.

1410
00:59:08,880 --> 00:59:09,680
Speaker 2: That's all I'm saying.

1411
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:16,760
Speaker 4: Action, My actions are going to show you different.

1412
00:59:16,840 --> 00:59:19,400
Speaker 1: Do you know how many women ignore men's actions because

1413
00:59:19,400 --> 00:59:21,040
Speaker 1: of what she has created in her head?

1414
00:59:24,560 --> 00:59:26,040
Speaker 8: But everything I ain't gotta have a title on the

1415
00:59:26,080 --> 00:59:27,800
Speaker 8: throw Like a lot of things are like because I

1416
00:59:27,800 --> 00:59:29,880
Speaker 8: don't think I would even legally get married, because I'm like,

1417
00:59:29,920 --> 00:59:31,720
Speaker 8: why does everything have to be like we always want

1418
00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:32,160
Speaker 8: to possess?

1419
00:59:32,360 --> 00:59:33,240
Speaker 4: I would never get married.

1420
00:59:33,560 --> 00:59:35,439
Speaker 7: I don't think that I would because it's like why

1421
00:59:35,440 --> 00:59:35,760
Speaker 7: can't you?

1422
00:59:35,800 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 8: Maybe you're only supposed to be with somebody a few

1423
00:59:37,360 --> 00:59:38,880
Speaker 8: years and then it's like, okay, y'all kind of that

1424
00:59:38,960 --> 00:59:40,720
Speaker 8: was y'all season together. And then you move on and

1425
00:59:41,240 --> 00:59:43,640
Speaker 8: now some people And I'm a monogamous person. So once

1426
00:59:43,680 --> 00:59:45,600
Speaker 8: you take it there and you cheating and you doing this,

1427
00:59:45,640 --> 00:59:47,480
Speaker 8: that and the third, it ain't no conversation to be

1428
00:59:47,520 --> 00:59:49,760
Speaker 8: had with me, Like I can't speak on nobody else

1429
00:59:49,800 --> 00:59:52,920
Speaker 8: for nobody else, But it ain't no list negotiates. You

1430
00:59:53,920 --> 00:59:55,480
Speaker 8: need to stand on that so you feel like you

1431
00:59:55,520 --> 00:59:56,880
Speaker 8: want to be outside, you want to be over there,

1432
00:59:57,000 --> 00:59:57,439
Speaker 8: that's cool.

1433
00:59:57,960 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 7: How are we gonna do this? You know what I'm saying?

1434
00:59:59,520 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 7: We lived together?

1435
01:00:00,120 --> 01:00:02,120
Speaker 8: Okay, well where you're going to wear like? It's not

1436
01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:05,000
Speaker 8: a I'm not negotiating it well moving forward?

1437
01:00:05,040 --> 01:00:05,920
Speaker 7: No, there's no moving.

1438
01:00:06,360 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 1: Business is involved, like when you start to grow and

1439
01:00:09,200 --> 01:00:11,720
Speaker 1: you get long term relationships, married or just long term relationship.

1440
01:00:11,760 --> 01:00:14,280
Speaker 1: Once you start having assets and businesses together, you're you're

1441
01:00:14,320 --> 01:00:16,160
Speaker 1: on a risk benefit type of type of thing, like

1442
01:00:16,200 --> 01:00:18,720
Speaker 1: do we separate these kids? Do we sell these twelve

1443
01:00:18,880 --> 01:00:21,800
Speaker 1: fifteen houses we got together? Then it's like, okay, you cheated?

1444
01:00:21,800 --> 01:00:24,960
Speaker 1: Am I gonna destroy a business?

1445
01:00:25,040 --> 01:00:27,440
Speaker 4: Found? You should a motherfucker.

1446
01:00:27,760 --> 01:00:28,440
Speaker 1: But you don't know.

1447
01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:30,080
Speaker 4: No, no, let me say this, You shouldn't marry a

1448
01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:32,760
Speaker 4: motherfucker that if you fuck up, you wouldn't mind giving

1449
01:00:32,760 --> 01:00:36,440
Speaker 4: everything to That's how I feel, motherfucker. Have all this

1450
01:00:36,480 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 4: ship gone because I know how to redo this though. Yeah,

1451
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:40,720
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying. It's just what it is,

1452
01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:43,680
Speaker 4: like you think based on them, get over the materials,

1453
01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:48,320
Speaker 4: give or whatever she wants, because I don't want to

1454
01:00:48,320 --> 01:00:50,360
Speaker 4: see you fucked up nowhere, because I think.

1455
01:00:50,440 --> 01:00:52,320
Speaker 6: I think a lot of that be ego and then

1456
01:00:52,360 --> 01:00:54,520
Speaker 6: too because then when I say ego, is the time

1457
01:00:54,560 --> 01:00:56,280
Speaker 6: that's been invested. You know a lot of people are

1458
01:00:56,400 --> 01:00:58,400
Speaker 6: tested to the time, not the quality of it, right,

1459
01:00:58,440 --> 01:01:00,560
Speaker 6: you know. And so it's like I do agree with

1460
01:01:00,600 --> 01:01:02,960
Speaker 6: this sament. It's like, boy, you over here getting me. Hell,

1461
01:01:03,040 --> 01:01:04,320
Speaker 6: you can have all this shit.

1462
01:01:04,360 --> 01:01:05,320
Speaker 1: We'll rebuild it again.

1463
01:01:05,360 --> 01:01:07,120
Speaker 6: You might laugh at me for a few years while

1464
01:01:07,120 --> 01:01:09,760
Speaker 6: I'm rebuilding what we already did. But the thing is

1465
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:11,440
Speaker 6: is I'm going to get there. And it's about your

1466
01:01:11,440 --> 01:01:14,560
Speaker 6: resilience after the fact when you're attached to Oh I

1467
01:01:14,600 --> 01:01:17,200
Speaker 6: didn't get I just spent six years doing this shit.

1468
01:01:17,280 --> 01:01:19,640
Speaker 6: We done have seventeen, baby, I'm gonna have thirty four

1469
01:01:19,680 --> 01:01:20,520
Speaker 6: properties after this.

1470
01:01:20,600 --> 01:01:21,400
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

1471
01:01:21,400 --> 01:01:23,640
Speaker 6: But it's just it's just the resilience part of like

1472
01:01:23,720 --> 01:01:25,000
Speaker 6: recovering from a relationship.

1473
01:01:25,000 --> 01:01:25,840
Speaker 1: I don't even with nothing.

1474
01:01:26,520 --> 01:01:29,520
Speaker 4: Get it all, baby, Go ahead, take that shit? Who cares?

1475
01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:32,320
Speaker 4: Who cares? Because at the end of the day, most

1476
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:35,760
Speaker 4: of the time, like back to your point earlier, that's

1477
01:01:35,800 --> 01:01:38,200
Speaker 4: what you're here for. If you if you in a

1478
01:01:38,240 --> 01:01:40,760
Speaker 4: relationship with me and you don't like the person that

1479
01:01:40,800 --> 01:01:42,680
Speaker 4: I am in a relationship, you really don't like me.

1480
01:01:43,680 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 4: You just like what come with me? So if I

1481
01:01:46,560 --> 01:01:49,200
Speaker 4: know that shit, I don't give a fuck how you feel.

1482
01:01:50,960 --> 01:01:53,600
Speaker 4: Am I right? Wrong? So if relationships are all fucked up,

1483
01:01:54,240 --> 01:01:56,880
Speaker 4: it's like, once I'm fucked up in a relationship, right,

1484
01:01:57,480 --> 01:01:59,440
Speaker 4: how am I gonna believe that you one hundred percent

1485
01:01:59,520 --> 01:02:01,840
Speaker 4: with me? If I know everything that I do gets

1486
01:02:01,880 --> 01:02:02,960
Speaker 4: on your nerve because.

1487
01:02:02,760 --> 01:02:05,440
Speaker 1: Of what I've done, they will never be you again.

1488
01:02:06,920 --> 01:02:08,560
Speaker 4: Thank you. That's what I'm trying to tell you. So

1489
01:02:09,360 --> 01:02:11,640
Speaker 4: back to the point, who the fuck finna be sent

1490
01:02:11,720 --> 01:02:15,160
Speaker 4: around losing money, losing everything trying to prove to you

1491
01:02:15,200 --> 01:02:17,960
Speaker 4: that I'm something that I am to prove to you

1492
01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:20,320
Speaker 4: that I'm not something that I am. That's a that's

1493
01:02:20,320 --> 01:02:23,720
Speaker 4: a Now that would nigga become a fuck nigga to me? Okay, bro,

1494
01:02:23,840 --> 01:02:26,480
Speaker 4: you know you lie to.

1495
01:02:27,360 --> 01:02:28,880
Speaker 6: This is what you want to be to say that

1496
01:02:28,920 --> 01:02:31,200
Speaker 6: For me, it be like why even waste words?

1497
01:02:31,240 --> 01:02:33,280
Speaker 1: Like Bro, just going on and that's what you want

1498
01:02:33,280 --> 01:02:36,800
Speaker 1: to do. But you know, a lot of delusion, but

1499
01:02:37,000 --> 01:02:38,240
Speaker 1: a lot of niggas to though.

1500
01:02:38,480 --> 01:02:40,720
Speaker 6: They want to continue to have the access to you,

1501
01:02:40,760 --> 01:02:41,960
Speaker 6: so they'll tell you whatever.

1502
01:02:42,280 --> 01:02:48,040
Speaker 4: But you know, but niggas, ye niggas knowing she ain't

1503
01:02:48,160 --> 01:02:51,200
Speaker 4: you ain't going nowhere. If you ain't going away, you

1504
01:02:51,200 --> 01:02:54,240
Speaker 4: ain't gonna if you're going somewhell go. Niggas know that too,

1505
01:02:54,600 --> 01:02:57,200
Speaker 4: Like if you entertaining, like like I know women that

1506
01:02:57,920 --> 01:03:00,600
Speaker 4: you do one thing like raise your voice to them.

1507
01:03:00,400 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 4: I met a woman like this before you raise your

1508
01:03:02,160 --> 01:03:04,120
Speaker 4: board to like I can't believe this bit to answer

1509
01:03:04,120 --> 01:03:09,280
Speaker 4: phone no more? Yeah she don't like Now that's your ego?

1510
01:03:09,400 --> 01:03:10,360
Speaker 7: Yeah?

1511
01:03:10,560 --> 01:03:12,880
Speaker 4: Like are that you entertaining me? Answer? Two days now?

1512
01:03:12,920 --> 01:03:14,640
Speaker 4: You now I called your mama, you called it back?

1513
01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:18,400
Speaker 4: What but oh she folled, Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

1514
01:03:18,400 --> 01:03:20,560
Speaker 4: She don't fold. I got her. But that one that

1515
01:03:20,680 --> 01:03:22,360
Speaker 4: get away if you got something out here that to

1516
01:03:22,400 --> 01:03:26,720
Speaker 4: get away, like fuck you, Yeah, that ship shadows your ego.

1517
01:03:27,120 --> 01:03:29,600
Speaker 7: Yeah, but that's the power of silence.

1518
01:03:29,640 --> 01:03:32,840
Speaker 8: Is a motherfucker like silence because whenever you're going back

1519
01:03:32,880 --> 01:03:35,680
Speaker 8: and forth and you and you do, then it's like, Okay,

1520
01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:37,280
Speaker 8: this motherfucker still giving, you know.

1521
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:39,120
Speaker 7: But when they calling and you.

1522
01:03:39,200 --> 01:03:42,720
Speaker 8: Like and you move on, like that ship is like

1523
01:03:42,800 --> 01:03:44,800
Speaker 8: that silence and having to sit with what they did,

1524
01:03:44,800 --> 01:03:46,560
Speaker 8: like she ain't even gonna give me like an opportunity

1525
01:03:46,600 --> 01:03:49,920
Speaker 8: and explanation like that ship fucks motherfuckers because the motherfucker

1526
01:03:49,920 --> 01:03:50,640
Speaker 8: don't did me like that?

1527
01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:53,280
Speaker 4: And I feel like any woman that want to hear explanation.

1528
01:03:52,920 --> 01:03:55,439
Speaker 7: Like to hear lies, Yeah, because what what can you say?

1529
01:03:56,760 --> 01:04:05,120
Speaker 1: The same bone feed apologies boone to tell me something

1530
01:04:01,520 --> 01:04:08,160
Speaker 1: that you know what you.

1531
01:04:10,080 --> 01:04:10,360
Speaker 4: Tell me.

1532
01:04:13,880 --> 01:04:14,440
Speaker 7: It's a lot of.

1533
01:04:16,400 --> 01:04:18,640
Speaker 1: What they want to do, they want to want to

1534
01:04:19,280 --> 01:04:19,880
Speaker 1: they want to.

1535
01:04:19,880 --> 01:04:22,480
Speaker 3: Be like so damn that means so that it's so

1536
01:04:22,720 --> 01:04:24,400
Speaker 3: they're still so confused.

1537
01:04:25,560 --> 01:04:30,320
Speaker 4: A great comfort. That's how as long as this sound

1538
01:04:30,400 --> 01:04:37,840
Speaker 4: good and looks good, passed the moment that like and

1539
01:04:37,920 --> 01:04:44,320
Speaker 4: passed the moment. If it's like a band aid over cut.

1540
01:04:42,800 --> 01:04:47,400
Speaker 4: You can pass the moment up for now. The fire

1541
01:04:47,840 --> 01:04:50,200
Speaker 4: it's a passifier. Okay. Now that you you said you

1542
01:04:50,240 --> 01:04:52,040
Speaker 4: saw her and made up something. Now you got to

1543
01:04:52,080 --> 01:04:55,000
Speaker 4: act on that. Sorry, you gotta do certain.

1544
01:04:54,760 --> 01:04:59,600
Speaker 1: Things like damn, she took it. Now he's mad because

1545
01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:01,200
Speaker 1: were still there when he really wanted me to leave,

1546
01:05:01,480 --> 01:05:07,120
Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, go ahead, tell me and I

1547
01:05:07,200 --> 01:05:08,560
Speaker 1: want to go to.

1548
01:05:08,640 --> 01:05:14,680
Speaker 3: The pull up where you go when you saw the

1549
01:05:14,680 --> 01:05:18,240
Speaker 3: next day after all this toxic ship when y'all out together,

1550
01:05:18,360 --> 01:05:20,560
Speaker 3: like I just want to stand like, what what is

1551
01:05:20,600 --> 01:05:22,200
Speaker 3: the woman thinking? And we'll tell you probably what the

1552
01:05:22,200 --> 01:05:23,919
Speaker 3: man thinking, But what is the woman thinking the next

1553
01:05:23,960 --> 01:05:25,360
Speaker 3: day after all this toxic ship?

1554
01:05:25,360 --> 01:05:26,720
Speaker 1: I don't know if it goes the next day like

1555
01:05:26,720 --> 01:05:28,240
Speaker 1: you're cool until you're triggered again?

1556
01:05:28,360 --> 01:05:31,240
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, so what so what is your action?

1557
01:05:31,360 --> 01:05:38,840
Speaker 1: Don't add up to the line until like he said, and.

1558
01:05:36,880 --> 01:05:38,320
Speaker 2: The next day when you now.

1559
01:05:38,360 --> 01:05:40,680
Speaker 1: They might be cool, but if you if I three

1560
01:05:40,760 --> 01:05:42,480
Speaker 1: days later you go on, you don't pick up now

1561
01:05:42,560 --> 01:05:48,360
Speaker 1: damn not my heart, It's just okay, why you mad?

1562
01:05:48,440 --> 01:05:50,479
Speaker 1: I'm like, now I'm triggered, so we're starting all over again.

1563
01:05:50,520 --> 01:05:54,440
Speaker 4: Ye ye, man, you know what it is you created

1564
01:05:54,480 --> 01:05:57,680
Speaker 4: trauma within this woman. So by you doing that, it's

1565
01:05:57,760 --> 01:06:01,520
Speaker 4: like either you gonna it by being somebody that you're

1566
01:06:01,560 --> 01:06:03,720
Speaker 4: not or changed to somebody that that she wants you

1567
01:06:03,800 --> 01:06:06,120
Speaker 4: to be, or you're gonna have to walk on thin ice.

1568
01:06:06,560 --> 01:06:09,040
Speaker 1: And that's especially for a six man. I had a

1569
01:06:09,080 --> 01:06:10,720
Speaker 1: man tell me he's like, I don't have what is

1570
01:06:10,800 --> 01:06:14,080
Speaker 1: gonna take for for me to make with him, because

1571
01:06:14,120 --> 01:06:16,400
Speaker 1: it's gonna turn me into somebody I'm not. I'm gonna

1572
01:06:16,440 --> 01:06:18,160
Speaker 1: have to turn I'm going to walk into eggshell. I'm

1573
01:06:18,160 --> 01:06:19,640
Speaker 1: gonna have to turn to it. I'm gonna be able

1574
01:06:19,640 --> 01:06:21,560
Speaker 1: to go out with my homeboys, and that's gonna make

1575
01:06:21,680 --> 01:06:24,840
Speaker 1: me miserable. So now he's suffering from my happiness and

1576
01:06:24,840 --> 01:06:27,160
Speaker 1: I'm still really not happy because I'm still hurt.

1577
01:06:28,520 --> 01:06:31,800
Speaker 6: That's imp and I respect that type of conversation too,

1578
01:06:31,840 --> 01:06:35,120
Speaker 6: because that's honesty. You're laying it out there like, hey,

1579
01:06:35,160 --> 01:06:37,040
Speaker 6: I don't even have the capacity for the change.

1580
01:06:38,400 --> 01:06:40,880
Speaker 4: You still got women that so that still still feels like.

1581
01:06:40,960 --> 01:06:43,760
Speaker 4: Then they go into the entitlement part of it. Then

1582
01:06:43,960 --> 01:06:46,720
Speaker 4: entitlement kicks in. Okay, I tell you that my real too,

1583
01:06:46,800 --> 01:06:49,720
Speaker 4: Like look here now now instance now I don't care

1584
01:06:49,720 --> 01:06:50,440
Speaker 4: about your feelings.

1585
01:06:51,200 --> 01:06:52,880
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, well, why don't you want to fight for me?

1586
01:06:53,160 --> 01:06:53,440
Speaker 4: Yes?

1587
01:06:53,640 --> 01:06:57,360
Speaker 1: And now I feel that what happens isn't Now I'm

1588
01:06:57,360 --> 01:06:59,800
Speaker 1: an insecure woman when I know I got honists going on,

1589
01:06:59,840 --> 01:07:01,880
Speaker 1: but this man, basically I never had a nigga walk

1590
01:07:01,880 --> 01:07:04,160
Speaker 1: away from me on I'm like, oh, this's not gonna

1591
01:07:04,160 --> 01:07:06,080
Speaker 1: work for me. Like now, I feel the.

1592
01:07:06,080 --> 01:07:10,680
Speaker 4: Way I don't always no, But I'm saying, if like

1593
01:07:10,720 --> 01:07:12,720
Speaker 4: you said, me and you a relationship and you asked me,

1594
01:07:12,840 --> 01:07:14,520
Speaker 4: and I'll be like, what's ship at the end of

1595
01:07:14,520 --> 01:07:16,360
Speaker 4: the day, I did it? What's what's your next move?

1596
01:07:16,480 --> 01:07:17,880
Speaker 4: Because I ain't finna be your puppet.

1597
01:07:18,440 --> 01:07:22,960
Speaker 1: You be like and I'm so confused, like you don't care.

1598
01:07:24,080 --> 01:07:25,680
Speaker 1: I've had somebody to me that before. I think it's

1599
01:07:25,680 --> 01:07:27,240
Speaker 1: a hard pill to swallow, but I respect it.

1600
01:07:27,320 --> 01:07:30,120
Speaker 6: I respect it, respect it because there's so many lives

1601
01:07:30,120 --> 01:07:32,040
Speaker 6: that get told. I think it depends on where you're at.

1602
01:07:32,120 --> 01:07:34,240
Speaker 4: You respect it after after in the long run, you

1603
01:07:34,280 --> 01:07:36,560
Speaker 4: respect it when you see niggas are the same way

1604
01:07:36,600 --> 01:07:37,920
Speaker 4: when you go run to another.

1605
01:07:37,720 --> 01:07:40,040
Speaker 8: Niggas if you but if you change something within you,

1606
01:07:40,120 --> 01:07:41,920
Speaker 8: I don't feel like you will keep repeating that cycle.

1607
01:07:41,960 --> 01:07:44,320
Speaker 7: I feel like again our beliefs manifest.

1608
01:07:44,400 --> 01:07:46,280
Speaker 8: So you keep ending up in that same cycle because

1609
01:07:46,320 --> 01:07:48,560
Speaker 8: it's like you didn't heal from the last situation. Correct,

1610
01:07:48,600 --> 01:07:51,320
Speaker 8: So you're gonna keep attracting partners until you heal that wound.

1611
01:07:51,520 --> 01:07:54,280
Speaker 8: Your mama left you, your daddy didn't hug you, nobody validated,

1612
01:07:54,360 --> 01:07:56,720
Speaker 8: nobody heard you. You're gonna keep fucking with partners that

1613
01:07:56,800 --> 01:07:59,960
Speaker 8: mirror that back to you until once you start healing that,

1614
01:08:00,080 --> 01:08:01,800
Speaker 8: you're not going to track the same type of part but.

1615
01:08:01,800 --> 01:08:04,360
Speaker 4: You can heal and attract the nigga that like he

1616
01:08:04,360 --> 01:08:06,200
Speaker 4: ain't that same type of nigga end up being that.

1617
01:08:06,400 --> 01:08:08,680
Speaker 7: If you're gonna put up that boundary sooner like you're

1618
01:08:08,680 --> 01:08:13,440
Speaker 7: not stay in it and be like okay, okay, but.

1619
01:08:13,400 --> 01:08:18,679
Speaker 4: How many nigga that gonna take it might take self reflection.

1620
01:08:20,320 --> 01:08:23,320
Speaker 8: You know, don't be popping, don't don't be popping pussy

1621
01:08:23,360 --> 01:08:23,760
Speaker 8: too quick.

1622
01:08:23,800 --> 01:08:31,840
Speaker 4: But the thing about it is, I doing been on ice.

1623
01:08:31,880 --> 01:08:33,320
Speaker 4: You meet a nigga, you got your knee and that

1624
01:08:33,400 --> 01:08:35,519
Speaker 4: thing I've been on ice. You know what, he seems

1625
01:08:35,680 --> 01:08:38,680
Speaker 4: like he did it and you be donna went not

1626
01:08:38,800 --> 01:08:41,000
Speaker 4: that's so fair. Before you get a chance to even

1627
01:08:41,040 --> 01:08:43,240
Speaker 4: see if this that, dude, I.

1628
01:08:43,200 --> 01:08:46,040
Speaker 6: Think it's the boundaries of like knowing yourself. That's why

1629
01:08:46,080 --> 01:08:48,240
Speaker 6: I think even going back to Laurence, like you gotta

1630
01:08:48,240 --> 01:08:50,240
Speaker 6: take the time to really sit with yourself so you

1631
01:08:50,280 --> 01:08:52,800
Speaker 6: can understand, like what are my tendencies? Like for me,

1632
01:08:53,120 --> 01:08:55,960
Speaker 6: I had to learn, like, bro, I am a full

1633
01:08:56,120 --> 01:08:59,240
Speaker 6: romantic Okay, I'm not the type of girl who's out

1634
01:08:59,280 --> 01:09:01,559
Speaker 6: here like spinning that she spend that ship. No, I'm

1635
01:09:01,560 --> 01:09:03,599
Speaker 6: trying to grow and be it. I don't want a family,

1636
01:09:03,640 --> 01:09:06,120
Speaker 6: I want a marriage. Like that is my ideology.

1637
01:09:06,800 --> 01:09:09,519
Speaker 4: Women. I feel like women they just they go to

1638
01:09:09,520 --> 01:09:13,880
Speaker 4: their grade delusion, really ship, because my mama is I

1639
01:09:13,920 --> 01:09:16,040
Speaker 4: think she's sixty nine, about to be seventy years old.

1640
01:09:16,280 --> 01:09:19,200
Speaker 4: She just divorced her husband. Like why the fuck would

1641
01:09:19,240 --> 01:09:23,439
Speaker 4: you just voce this nigga at seventy.

1642
01:09:22,120 --> 01:09:26,360
Speaker 1: I got a patient the hospital didn't understand this way home?

1643
01:09:26,720 --> 01:09:28,519
Speaker 7: So what she think she should have just stayed in there?

1644
01:09:29,680 --> 01:09:31,720
Speaker 7: That nigga broke, that's what she That was her.

1645
01:09:31,960 --> 01:09:34,240
Speaker 4: She like fuck him, Like I don't ready to live

1646
01:09:34,280 --> 01:09:37,400
Speaker 4: my life.

1647
01:09:36,200 --> 01:09:37,680
Speaker 7: Because you're at the end. So it's like.

1648
01:09:39,280 --> 01:09:41,880
Speaker 4: I did so so so so, so I don't rich

1649
01:09:41,960 --> 01:09:45,080
Speaker 4: my whole life to beat you, and they probably haven't

1650
01:09:45,080 --> 01:09:48,320
Speaker 4: been married by I think they hadn't been married for

1651
01:09:48,439 --> 01:09:50,120
Speaker 4: like ten years. I think ten or twelve years.

1652
01:09:50,120 --> 01:09:51,920
Speaker 7: But still I was so happy for the rest of

1653
01:09:51,920 --> 01:09:52,240
Speaker 7: the time.

1654
01:09:53,240 --> 01:09:55,200
Speaker 4: She don't she don't give a fuck now, she ain't

1655
01:09:55,240 --> 01:09:59,120
Speaker 4: regretting that she's chilling. But I just feel as though

1656
01:10:00,560 --> 01:10:03,040
Speaker 4: women just always feel like it's another option.

1657
01:10:04,920 --> 01:10:06,920
Speaker 1: Well, that goes to the whole point of when I

1658
01:10:06,960 --> 01:10:08,960
Speaker 1: was like, cheating ain't necessariity. I don't well, I don't

1659
01:10:08,960 --> 01:10:10,880
Speaker 1: want to get cheated on about a hundred different niggas.

1660
01:10:10,960 --> 01:10:12,080
Speaker 4: Just be nice to me.

1661
01:10:13,600 --> 01:10:18,640
Speaker 7: I feel like partner, who you?

1662
01:10:18,680 --> 01:10:18,880
Speaker 5: Who?

1663
01:10:18,880 --> 01:10:19,640
Speaker 4: You?

1664
01:10:19,680 --> 01:10:19,840
Speaker 2: What?

1665
01:10:20,080 --> 01:10:22,000
Speaker 4: Alright? All right, all right, this is a question. There's

1666
01:10:22,000 --> 01:10:24,400
Speaker 4: another question. What are you willing to deal with it?

1667
01:10:24,400 --> 01:10:27,160
Speaker 4: Don't have to be cheating? Okay, you can get the

1668
01:10:27,160 --> 01:10:29,200
Speaker 4: best man that can't provide for you. Both of y'all

1669
01:10:29,240 --> 01:10:32,040
Speaker 4: gotta do uber eats. Y'all got uber y'all gotta y'all

1670
01:10:32,040 --> 01:10:41,799
Speaker 4: got a tougher that. But he loves you.

1671
01:10:38,160 --> 01:10:39,960
Speaker 1: With men without money, And I've been with men with

1672
01:10:40,000 --> 01:10:42,360
Speaker 1: money and both of them cheated. No, I'm not I

1673
01:10:42,360 --> 01:10:43,360
Speaker 1: will go.

1674
01:10:45,680 --> 01:10:46,880
Speaker 4: I don't want the man to cheat.

1675
01:10:46,920 --> 01:10:48,720
Speaker 1: But I'm saying is once you have been through enough

1676
01:10:48,760 --> 01:10:51,960
Speaker 1: I'm thirty six years old. Once you've seen I've seen

1677
01:10:52,000 --> 01:10:54,000
Speaker 1: a lot of different circumstances. I don't think it's okay,

1678
01:10:54,040 --> 01:10:56,000
Speaker 1: am I. I believe. I believe in love like it's

1679
01:10:56,000 --> 01:10:57,960
Speaker 1: nobody who can hurt me enough to not not make

1680
01:10:58,000 --> 01:11:01,519
Speaker 1: me think love is real. But Israel, I don't want

1681
01:11:01,520 --> 01:11:03,439
Speaker 1: to drive oweries with you. We're going to die. I

1682
01:11:03,439 --> 01:11:05,400
Speaker 1: could die tomorrow. I want to go out of the country,

1683
01:11:05,600 --> 01:11:08,120
Speaker 1: Like I don't want to sit here and drive uber eats.

1684
01:11:08,160 --> 01:11:09,880
Speaker 1: I want to go out of town. I want to

1685
01:11:09,920 --> 01:11:15,240
Speaker 1: go get I don't want to No, I'm not driving oies. No,

1686
01:11:15,280 --> 01:11:16,120
Speaker 1: you got to think about it.

1687
01:11:16,479 --> 01:11:20,000
Speaker 6: Can we clarify from your point to your point? Because

1688
01:11:20,120 --> 01:11:24,880
Speaker 6: I can provide myself that without you, for sure, your

1689
01:11:24,880 --> 01:11:27,760
Speaker 6: standard's gonna be different. Now now to deal with a

1690
01:11:27,840 --> 01:11:31,080
Speaker 6: man who loved you and all that, it's all rainbows

1691
01:11:31,080 --> 01:11:32,840
Speaker 6: and butterflies. But if I got to pick up the

1692
01:11:32,840 --> 01:11:34,640
Speaker 6: slack to try to bring you up here, and I

1693
01:11:34,680 --> 01:11:37,000
Speaker 6: don't really know if because some people change when the

1694
01:11:37,000 --> 01:11:37,720
Speaker 6: money come though.

1695
01:11:37,960 --> 01:11:47,280
Speaker 1: Man, you might be driving when acting like the nigga

1696
01:11:47,280 --> 01:11:49,240
Speaker 1: with money and now you're cheating. So it's like I

1697
01:11:49,280 --> 01:11:51,200
Speaker 1: stay down for you to come and cheat on me

1698
01:11:51,280 --> 01:11:51,519
Speaker 1: for what.

1699
01:11:51,720 --> 01:11:55,000
Speaker 3: So there's tomorrows to this story. That whole eighty twenty

1700
01:11:55,040 --> 01:11:56,200
Speaker 3: shit is number one.

1701
01:11:56,479 --> 01:11:56,919
Speaker 1: Facts.

1702
01:11:57,400 --> 01:11:59,320
Speaker 2: Just go by eighty twenty. He's not gonna get one

1703
01:11:59,360 --> 01:11:59,880
Speaker 2: hundred percent.

1704
01:12:00,160 --> 01:12:00,320
Speaker 3: You do.

1705
01:12:00,360 --> 01:12:04,639
Speaker 2: You have to drive, okay, but okay, good, good, good question.

1706
01:12:05,560 --> 01:12:08,080
Speaker 4: Eighty twenty is a lot. But guess what. You could

1707
01:12:08,080 --> 01:12:10,360
Speaker 4: be eighted, you could be ninety, but that ten percent

1708
01:12:10,400 --> 01:12:11,600
Speaker 4: is the one gonna be dwelled on.

1709
01:12:12,200 --> 01:12:16,759
Speaker 1: That's what it is, exactly, Dole, Thank you.

1710
01:12:16,880 --> 01:12:20,519
Speaker 4: Yeah, that ten percent holds way more weight than eight.

1711
01:12:20,560 --> 01:12:22,920
Speaker 4: It like you got a motherfucker. You could do one

1712
01:12:22,960 --> 01:12:24,880
Speaker 4: thing to a motherfucker. You can do whatever, you can

1713
01:12:24,920 --> 01:12:27,719
Speaker 4: love them. You do one thing, tell a lot anything,

1714
01:12:27,760 --> 01:12:31,040
Speaker 4: some simple ship. You couldn't love me. God damn. So

1715
01:12:31,120 --> 01:12:32,760
Speaker 4: all that ship I've been doing just went out the

1716
01:12:32,760 --> 01:12:36,720
Speaker 4: way because of And people gotta understand a motherfucker be

1717
01:12:36,720 --> 01:12:38,880
Speaker 4: loving you with all they might, but cannot be loving

1718
01:12:38,880 --> 01:12:41,120
Speaker 4: you the way you want to be loved. Mean that

1719
01:12:41,160 --> 01:12:41,960
Speaker 4: person will love you.

1720
01:12:42,400 --> 01:12:44,200
Speaker 6: I think That's what I think. That's where the conversation

1721
01:12:44,280 --> 01:12:46,200
Speaker 6: because you gotta you gotta think. It's like speaking you

1722
01:12:46,280 --> 01:12:48,960
Speaker 6: speaking German and I'm speaking Spanish we can't never translate

1723
01:12:49,000 --> 01:12:50,479
Speaker 6: with each other, saying that's why you have to have

1724
01:12:50,560 --> 01:12:51,960
Speaker 6: clear cut, dencise communication.

1725
01:12:52,120 --> 01:12:54,040
Speaker 5: What's love to you? What's love to me? What's your

1726
01:12:54,120 --> 01:12:54,799
Speaker 5: love language?

1727
01:12:54,920 --> 01:12:55,719
Speaker 1: That changes?

1728
01:12:55,920 --> 01:12:55,960
Speaker 3: What?

1729
01:12:56,240 --> 01:12:56,479
Speaker 4: What?

1730
01:12:56,479 --> 01:12:57,320
Speaker 1: What is love to you?

1731
01:12:57,360 --> 01:12:57,519
Speaker 4: To you?

1732
01:12:57,600 --> 01:12:58,280
Speaker 1: What is love to you?

1733
01:12:58,360 --> 01:12:58,559
Speaker 4: To me?

1734
01:12:58,640 --> 01:12:59,240
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?

1735
01:12:59,280 --> 01:12:59,720
Speaker 4: What like?

1736
01:12:59,720 --> 01:13:02,880
Speaker 6: What your goals long term for yourself for this relationship

1737
01:13:02,920 --> 01:13:04,639
Speaker 6: as a partner. How do you want me to add

1738
01:13:04,720 --> 01:13:06,320
Speaker 6: value to what you have going on?

1739
01:13:06,400 --> 01:13:06,599
Speaker 7: You know?

1740
01:13:06,760 --> 01:13:09,160
Speaker 6: What's healthy communication to you? Do you like to sit

1741
01:13:09,240 --> 01:13:10,920
Speaker 6: on ship for a couple of days and then come

1742
01:13:10,960 --> 01:13:12,519
Speaker 6: back to the table. Do you like to talk about

1743
01:13:12,520 --> 01:13:15,640
Speaker 6: it immediately? What does re insurance look like? It's conversations

1744
01:13:15,640 --> 01:13:20,559
Speaker 6: and communication we deserve because otherwise you're constantly interpreting another language.

1745
01:13:20,720 --> 01:13:22,120
Speaker 6: Everybody who love languages different.

1746
01:13:22,120 --> 01:13:30,400
Speaker 4: But to me, most of the time women, most of

1747
01:13:30,479 --> 01:13:35,880
Speaker 4: the time, women whole grudges with smiles on their face.

1748
01:13:37,000 --> 01:13:38,000
Speaker 2: That's what I was saying.

1749
01:13:38,040 --> 01:13:41,280
Speaker 3: What what does this Saturday look like after the Friday

1750
01:13:41,479 --> 01:13:48,960
Speaker 3: toxic ship? You don't smiling, but sleeping with the enemy,

1751
01:13:49,520 --> 01:13:52,000
Speaker 3: you're smiling, but you really want to put me up.

1752
01:13:53,360 --> 01:13:56,200
Speaker 4: That's what you be. That's just like right now right

1753
01:13:57,560 --> 01:13:59,720
Speaker 4: you can have listen they don't blow up into the

1754
01:13:59,760 --> 01:14:03,000
Speaker 4: big trigger hit, right, Okay, So all those little small

1755
01:14:03,040 --> 01:14:06,479
Speaker 4: triggers just getting stored on the on the plate what

1756
01:14:06,560 --> 01:14:09,960
Speaker 4: you call hard dry, they just storing them. So the

1757
01:14:10,000 --> 01:14:12,760
Speaker 4: whole time I've been laying up still doing the fake

1758
01:14:12,760 --> 01:14:14,559
Speaker 4: ship for you, trying to stand up on my lives,

1759
01:14:15,120 --> 01:14:19,439
Speaker 4: all that ship, the bitch basically nothing because you already

1760
01:14:19,439 --> 01:14:21,479
Speaker 4: seen my phone turned down low, you already seen id

1761
01:14:21,479 --> 01:14:22,920
Speaker 4: the eel blood. But you ain't sad now about none

1762
01:14:22,920 --> 01:14:23,400
Speaker 4: of this ship.

1763
01:14:23,280 --> 01:14:25,640
Speaker 1: Because it's my job to try to not put.

1764
01:14:28,800 --> 01:14:33,559
Speaker 4: Please listen, please listen. Okay, cool, all right, So talk

1765
01:14:33,640 --> 01:14:36,480
Speaker 4: about the thing that that triggered you, only.

1766
01:14:36,320 --> 01:14:37,439
Speaker 1: No because you don't want to hear it.

1767
01:14:37,600 --> 01:14:42,760
Speaker 4: List is what I'm saying. I'm saying, Okay, this is

1768
01:14:42,840 --> 01:14:47,160
Speaker 4: the problem. Listen. If you get mad at me because

1769
01:14:47,200 --> 01:14:50,400
Speaker 4: I didn't come home, leave it about that. Don't go

1770
01:14:50,479 --> 01:14:52,360
Speaker 4: to talking to me about things that I've done when

1771
01:14:52,400 --> 01:14:55,040
Speaker 4: I thought we was okay, like and nigga last week

1772
01:14:55,080 --> 01:14:57,400
Speaker 4: when you did this, So damn bitch, you good face off.

1773
01:14:58,760 --> 01:15:01,040
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna lie, I ain't gonna I do do that.

1774
01:15:01,120 --> 01:15:03,439
Speaker 6: And I had to learn to stop doing that because

1775
01:15:03,479 --> 01:15:04,600
Speaker 6: that's exactly what it is.

1776
01:15:04,720 --> 01:15:08,840
Speaker 4: That's so when I'm thinking you happened in the back

1777
01:15:08,880 --> 01:15:10,479
Speaker 4: of my mind it bitch probably mad.

1778
01:15:10,760 --> 01:15:13,400
Speaker 2: She don't know about so there is no truth forgiveness.

1779
01:15:13,720 --> 01:15:18,559
Speaker 2: That's a that's another's.

1780
01:15:18,960 --> 01:15:19,839
Speaker 4: The right time.

1781
01:15:22,040 --> 01:15:25,760
Speaker 1: That I've done that, because sometimes I can't talk to

1782
01:15:25,920 --> 01:15:27,479
Speaker 1: talk to people are talking about when if we got

1783
01:15:27,479 --> 01:15:30,040
Speaker 1: that one up, you in a good moods I doing

1784
01:15:30,160 --> 01:15:30,880
Speaker 1: I gotta stop doing it.

1785
01:15:33,320 --> 01:15:33,439
Speaker 2: Up.

1786
01:15:33,479 --> 01:15:35,400
Speaker 1: But when I know I'm in a window where we

1787
01:15:35,400 --> 01:15:37,719
Speaker 1: can have a conversation and you done did something stupid,

1788
01:15:37,800 --> 01:15:39,240
Speaker 1: now I got to bring up everything I didn't talk

1789
01:15:39,240 --> 01:15:40,880
Speaker 1: about it before. You're right, that's wrong.

1790
01:15:40,920 --> 01:15:43,880
Speaker 2: That's conditional forgiveness. That's no, you didn't you know you didn't.

1791
01:15:43,880 --> 01:15:46,200
Speaker 4: You never forgave me. What you're doing is now you're

1792
01:15:46,200 --> 01:15:48,080
Speaker 4: trying to make me feel the lords I can feel

1793
01:15:48,120 --> 01:15:53,120
Speaker 4: in this moment, like you you're validating.

1794
01:15:50,920 --> 01:15:54,160
Speaker 7: Valid Yeah, your benefit to liverages exactly.

1795
01:15:54,200 --> 01:15:57,439
Speaker 4: You're leveraging the conversation Like now, I just feel awful.

1796
01:15:57,520 --> 01:15:59,320
Speaker 1: I'm trying to make you feel as bad as I can,

1797
01:15:59,760 --> 01:16:01,599
Speaker 1: so you can make me feel as good as I want.

1798
01:16:01,880 --> 01:16:03,880
Speaker 4: But but you don't understand what you're doing. You're letting

1799
01:16:03,920 --> 01:16:05,800
Speaker 4: me know that you're a manipulative you let me know

1800
01:16:05,880 --> 01:16:07,000
Speaker 4: that you can, you can.

1801
01:16:06,880 --> 01:16:09,200
Speaker 7: Be loyal or anything else.

1802
01:16:09,320 --> 01:16:10,439
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. You don't been around me.

1803
01:16:10,479 --> 01:16:11,840
Speaker 4: You've been laying in the bed with me. You could

1804
01:16:11,840 --> 01:16:14,120
Speaker 4: have paused me anything. Now I'm just thinking like that,

1805
01:16:14,160 --> 01:16:15,559
Speaker 4: like you've been laying in the bed with me. I

1806
01:16:15,560 --> 01:16:20,400
Speaker 4: did that two months ago to tell me this. I

1807
01:16:20,400 --> 01:16:21,080
Speaker 4: can't trust you.

1808
01:16:23,520 --> 01:16:24,439
Speaker 1: Man, he said, give me a list.

1809
01:16:25,160 --> 01:16:25,920
Speaker 4: What do you know.

1810
01:16:28,240 --> 01:16:33,640
Speaker 8: I'm not gonna say you're tripping, but you funny as fun.

1811
01:16:34,280 --> 01:16:36,439
Speaker 7: You circle back to now, I can't trust you. Like

1812
01:16:37,240 --> 01:16:37,680
Speaker 7: to ask me.

1813
01:16:39,560 --> 01:16:42,360
Speaker 4: Let me ask you something that you're right, but call

1814
01:16:42,439 --> 01:16:43,880
Speaker 4: me out on it. If a man, if you do

1815
01:16:43,960 --> 01:16:45,479
Speaker 4: something to a man, he's gonna say right then what

1816
01:16:45,600 --> 01:16:46,840
Speaker 4: it did right there? Hey, I don't like when I

1817
01:16:46,840 --> 01:16:47,360
Speaker 4: don't like that.

1818
01:16:47,720 --> 01:16:48,720
Speaker 5: Not every man is like that.

1819
01:16:49,040 --> 01:16:52,800
Speaker 4: I'm just saying, a man mantle a man. Man gonna

1820
01:16:52,800 --> 01:16:54,559
Speaker 4: tell you some niggas out here.

1821
01:16:54,479 --> 01:16:56,200
Speaker 1: Who try to build a case just like a phoebie.

1822
01:16:58,080 --> 01:17:01,920
Speaker 4: No, I'm gonna give you right now. Don't do that

1823
01:17:02,080 --> 01:17:05,280
Speaker 4: because that's gonna make me do this. Yes, right then

1824
01:17:05,360 --> 01:17:07,639
Speaker 4: and up. So I'm giving you blunt blank. So that's

1825
01:17:07,640 --> 01:17:09,760
Speaker 4: why women start saying niggas, SA's it because if you

1826
01:17:09,800 --> 01:17:11,479
Speaker 4: got a woman that you got to always say something

1827
01:17:11,520 --> 01:17:12,719
Speaker 4: to nigga saying in the moment.

1828
01:17:12,880 --> 01:17:15,000
Speaker 1: But I can't always say something because now I'm nagging.

1829
01:17:15,000 --> 01:17:17,160
Speaker 1: Now I'm the nagging ass damn girl, So I gotta

1830
01:17:17,200 --> 01:17:22,760
Speaker 1: keep it in something. It's like because that I get

1831
01:17:22,800 --> 01:17:24,439
Speaker 1: told it, like what's it?

1832
01:17:26,360 --> 01:17:33,200
Speaker 4: Text it? You got it out instead of allowing me

1833
01:17:33,280 --> 01:17:36,000
Speaker 4: to know, allow me to know that you can hold

1834
01:17:36,000 --> 01:17:36,519
Speaker 4: things in.

1835
01:17:36,560 --> 01:17:38,360
Speaker 1: But a grown man wants that that's true.

1836
01:17:38,439 --> 01:17:42,680
Speaker 4: Yes, because because because to say it to yees like

1837
01:17:42,720 --> 01:17:44,559
Speaker 4: baby this may not be nothing, or baby this this,

1838
01:17:44,640 --> 01:17:47,800
Speaker 4: but I feel this. Okay. May you always talking about

1839
01:17:47,800 --> 01:17:49,759
Speaker 4: ship that sh ain't like that whatever, let me say whatever.

1840
01:17:49,840 --> 01:17:51,320
Speaker 4: But I know you got it out. But if you

1841
01:17:51,320 --> 01:17:54,080
Speaker 4: can hold some ship, don't hold some ship in because

1842
01:17:54,760 --> 01:17:56,519
Speaker 4: you want to go on this trip next week. So

1843
01:17:56,520 --> 01:18:00,240
Speaker 4: I ain't finish saying on the trip triple and.

1844
01:18:03,160 --> 01:18:05,040
Speaker 1: I put the trip up. We got to talk about this.

1845
01:18:05,240 --> 01:18:07,200
Speaker 6: We need to have someone understand it, because it's like

1846
01:18:07,479 --> 01:18:10,160
Speaker 6: for me, it's like I prefer the reassurance over the

1847
01:18:10,240 --> 01:18:13,519
Speaker 6: lack of understanding. And now I'm just living in false

1848
01:18:13,560 --> 01:18:15,640
Speaker 6: pretenses like we all good when we get off this

1849
01:18:15,680 --> 01:18:17,719
Speaker 6: trip on my back on your ass again, Like, let's

1850
01:18:17,760 --> 01:18:20,000
Speaker 6: just nip it in the board now. So just to

1851
01:18:20,040 --> 01:18:23,639
Speaker 6: be clear, come on, because the energy gonna be off.

1852
01:18:23,640 --> 01:18:26,439
Speaker 4: So like you just said, women are good, they fake

1853
01:18:26,600 --> 01:18:27,080
Speaker 4: energy to.

1854
01:18:29,600 --> 01:18:32,040
Speaker 6: Women lagging for a woman to address something with you

1855
01:18:32,080 --> 01:18:33,360
Speaker 6: as in real time.

1856
01:18:33,439 --> 01:18:36,519
Speaker 4: And I would rather that. I'm gonna still feel To

1857
01:18:36,560 --> 01:18:39,800
Speaker 4: be clear, I don't feel like you crossed me. If

1858
01:18:39,800 --> 01:18:43,120
Speaker 4: you held it right, that's only to amer.

1859
01:18:44,200 --> 01:18:46,760
Speaker 1: I don't want you to shut up, like don't they

1860
01:18:46,760 --> 01:18:48,000
Speaker 1: don't want to hear nothing.

1861
01:18:49,880 --> 01:18:52,160
Speaker 4: Right. I want you to shut then up to but

1862
01:18:52,200 --> 01:18:54,720
Speaker 4: I still heard you. But what my reaction is you

1863
01:18:54,800 --> 01:18:56,520
Speaker 4: told your truth in that moment.

1864
01:18:56,479 --> 01:18:58,280
Speaker 7: Right, because why would you want to be with somebody

1865
01:18:58,320 --> 01:18:59,040
Speaker 7: that you can't.

1866
01:18:59,000 --> 01:19:00,920
Speaker 1: You can't be trial. I feel like everything I.

1867
01:19:00,840 --> 01:19:02,240
Speaker 8: Say something to you tell And I made a video

1868
01:19:02,240 --> 01:19:03,600
Speaker 8: about this where I was like, I'm not gonna be

1869
01:19:03,600 --> 01:19:05,960
Speaker 8: your first real bitch because everything I say to you,

1870
01:19:05,960 --> 01:19:07,040
Speaker 8: you feel like I'm attacking you.

1871
01:19:07,240 --> 01:19:10,720
Speaker 7: I'm communicating time.

1872
01:19:10,800 --> 01:19:13,479
Speaker 6: So if I'm tripping, unless address it then and if

1873
01:19:13,479 --> 01:19:15,320
Speaker 6: you can't address it right there, you can come back.

1874
01:19:15,360 --> 01:19:17,519
Speaker 1: At least I know I said the tone. Bro. That's

1875
01:19:17,520 --> 01:19:19,840
Speaker 1: how we're feeling this is what you did as well.

1876
01:19:20,040 --> 01:19:22,120
Speaker 4: I know why she acting like that. Yes, you know

1877
01:19:22,160 --> 01:19:23,680
Speaker 4: what I'm saying. I know why she acting like that.

1878
01:19:23,760 --> 01:19:26,439
Speaker 4: I know why. I know why, and she early she

1879
01:19:26,520 --> 01:19:28,400
Speaker 4: just said this. But now you don't ran down the

1880
01:19:28,520 --> 01:19:31,280
Speaker 4: whole listen ship from the last year that I ain't

1881
01:19:31,320 --> 01:19:33,240
Speaker 4: know nothing about. So what were you doing when you

1882
01:19:33,280 --> 01:19:35,000
Speaker 4: felt these ways about these things?

1883
01:19:35,280 --> 01:19:35,599
Speaker 1: Okay?

1884
01:19:35,680 --> 01:19:36,760
Speaker 5: Now I understand what you're saying.

1885
01:19:36,760 --> 01:19:37,439
Speaker 1: When you're saying it.

1886
01:19:37,880 --> 01:19:38,200
Speaker 2: When.

1887
01:19:39,640 --> 01:19:42,920
Speaker 4: What were you doing? What were you thinking? Now my

1888
01:19:43,000 --> 01:19:43,759
Speaker 4: mind got to wander.

1889
01:19:44,280 --> 01:19:52,439
Speaker 7: I can't trust you.

1890
01:19:51,160 --> 01:19:54,360
Speaker 4: You you trust me if I say, you know I

1891
01:19:54,400 --> 01:19:56,040
Speaker 4: went in your phone and saw you had a dick

1892
01:19:56,080 --> 01:19:57,400
Speaker 4: in your phone last year?

1893
01:19:57,960 --> 01:20:00,720
Speaker 1: Do you trust me because you say when you've seen it?

1894
01:20:01,200 --> 01:20:02,920
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. So what was my motive

1895
01:20:03,040 --> 01:20:05,640
Speaker 4: I'm saying, especially if like you said, you bringing me

1896
01:20:05,720 --> 01:20:06,760
Speaker 4: up now for bringing it up?

1897
01:20:06,760 --> 01:20:06,960
Speaker 2: Ship?

1898
01:20:07,040 --> 01:20:18,479
Speaker 4: My ship came through my settlement. That came through Hey, ship,

1899
01:20:18,520 --> 01:20:23,360
Speaker 4: I saw a nigga you all last year is a bushit?

1900
01:20:23,640 --> 01:20:25,600
Speaker 6: Yeah, but I feel like I feel like for me

1901
01:20:25,880 --> 01:20:28,320
Speaker 6: is emotionally unhealthy to do that, Like you know what

1902
01:20:28,320 --> 01:20:30,640
Speaker 6: I mean? Like you gotta be able to communicate to

1903
01:20:30,680 --> 01:20:33,160
Speaker 6: your partner, whether it's good or whether it's bad. And

1904
01:20:33,240 --> 01:20:35,920
Speaker 6: for me, it's like I've I've been on both sides

1905
01:20:35,920 --> 01:20:38,160
Speaker 6: where I feel like being in a relationship with man

1906
01:20:38,439 --> 01:20:41,240
Speaker 6: I silenced my feelings and my thoughts, and then I

1907
01:20:41,240 --> 01:20:44,360
Speaker 6: started to compartmentalize. I started telling myself that I'm not

1908
01:20:44,400 --> 01:20:46,040
Speaker 6: feeling this and this is my younger days.

1909
01:20:46,040 --> 01:20:47,240
Speaker 1: But as I've gotten older.

1910
01:20:47,040 --> 01:20:49,559
Speaker 6: It's like, look, I'd rather be perceived as a person

1911
01:20:49,560 --> 01:20:52,200
Speaker 6: who was nagging and living in the truth. So you

1912
01:20:52,280 --> 01:20:54,880
Speaker 6: know exactly where I stand, you know exactly what bothers me.

1913
01:20:54,920 --> 01:20:55,479
Speaker 1: That's why I.

1914
01:20:55,400 --> 01:20:58,240
Speaker 6: Love that you, even as a man, can't conceptualize that,

1915
01:20:58,400 --> 01:21:00,559
Speaker 6: like you might not like what I'm saying, even when

1916
01:21:00,600 --> 01:21:02,400
Speaker 6: you said with a man, hey, this is who I am,

1917
01:21:02,479 --> 01:21:03,920
Speaker 6: this is what it's gonna be. I don't have the

1918
01:21:03,920 --> 01:21:06,400
Speaker 6: capacity to be able to I respect your truth, but

1919
01:21:06,479 --> 01:21:09,360
Speaker 6: I think people get so comfortable in existing and lies,

1920
01:21:09,479 --> 01:21:10,880
Speaker 6: like for the trip, you.

1921
01:21:10,840 --> 01:21:12,519
Speaker 1: Know, for the money, for the settlement.

1922
01:21:12,600 --> 01:21:15,600
Speaker 6: It'd be like You're never really gonna find happiness like that,

1923
01:21:16,280 --> 01:21:18,519
Speaker 6: you know, Like I'd rather be able to just tell you, hey,

1924
01:21:18,600 --> 01:21:20,920
Speaker 6: ro want smelling that you had going on, you know,

1925
01:21:21,120 --> 01:21:23,599
Speaker 6: it did trigger me this way because for me. It's

1926
01:21:23,640 --> 01:21:27,080
Speaker 6: not just acknowledging it to you with the expectation to change, behave.

1927
01:21:27,240 --> 01:21:29,720
Speaker 6: It's more so for me. Let me acknowledge that this

1928
01:21:29,880 --> 01:21:32,080
Speaker 6: bothered me. So I'm not just carrying this dead weight

1929
01:21:32,120 --> 01:21:34,320
Speaker 6: all the time. You know, I'm adding up this, this

1930
01:21:34,320 --> 01:21:37,200
Speaker 6: this because sometimes that call that's what causes the delusion.

1931
01:21:37,360 --> 01:21:39,519
Speaker 6: I'd have been quiet for so long about so many

1932
01:21:39,560 --> 01:21:41,760
Speaker 6: different situations. Now I got a whole case built up,

1933
01:21:41,760 --> 01:21:42,639
Speaker 6: and I'm dead Aeron.

1934
01:21:42,840 --> 01:21:44,679
Speaker 4: I feel like you can't be a follow a wife

1935
01:21:44,760 --> 01:21:47,680
Speaker 4: or a follow a girl, follow a girlfriend, like you

1936
01:21:47,720 --> 01:21:49,920
Speaker 4: can't see something that somebody else doing or somebody else

1937
01:21:50,000 --> 01:21:52,920
Speaker 4: in want that you gotta what you want. For most

1938
01:21:52,920 --> 01:21:54,559
Speaker 4: of the time, motherfucker don't even know what they want

1939
01:21:54,560 --> 01:21:56,240
Speaker 4: till they see somebody with it and get mad that

1940
01:21:56,240 --> 01:21:58,880
Speaker 4: they ain't get it. Okay, like they got that that

1941
01:21:59,000 --> 01:22:02,000
Speaker 4: new ship that when you go watch the game at.

1942
01:22:03,160 --> 01:22:03,840
Speaker 1: It's like Cosm.

1943
01:22:04,000 --> 01:22:06,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, you see your friend at Cosm. They like, we

1944
01:22:06,280 --> 01:22:07,880
Speaker 4: need to go to Cosin and be like, shit, man's

1945
01:22:07,920 --> 01:22:09,280
Speaker 4: thinking about that ship. Now you're mad.

1946
01:22:10,240 --> 01:22:12,479
Speaker 7: People don't know what theyself, They don't know who they are.

1947
01:22:12,520 --> 01:22:14,400
Speaker 8: They know who they are in that relationship, they know

1948
01:22:14,400 --> 01:22:16,479
Speaker 8: who they are in that circumstance, they know they don't

1949
01:22:16,520 --> 01:22:17,880
Speaker 8: know who they are, so they don't even want to

1950
01:22:17,880 --> 01:22:19,920
Speaker 8: go through that uncomfortable period. So they would rather be

1951
01:22:20,120 --> 01:22:23,040
Speaker 8: miserable in the discomfort of the familiar situation, in the

1952
01:22:23,080 --> 01:22:27,000
Speaker 8: familiar relationship. Or who then sit with theyself or you know,

1953
01:22:27,120 --> 01:22:28,439
Speaker 8: risk getting back into that situation.

1954
01:22:28,479 --> 01:22:29,559
Speaker 7: People can't sit with themselves.

1955
01:22:29,560 --> 01:22:31,360
Speaker 4: You got to know what you want, man, That's all

1956
01:22:31,400 --> 01:22:34,880
Speaker 4: I'm saying. Like, so, like she said earlier, if you

1957
01:22:34,920 --> 01:22:36,760
Speaker 4: don't know what you want and I'm trying to figure

1958
01:22:36,760 --> 01:22:38,719
Speaker 4: out what you want, there's going to be trial and error.

1959
01:22:38,760 --> 01:22:41,200
Speaker 1: Correct, right, correct?

1960
01:22:41,560 --> 01:22:44,080
Speaker 4: So how am I faulted when needle one of us

1961
01:22:44,080 --> 01:22:44,719
Speaker 4: know what you want?

1962
01:22:45,479 --> 01:22:45,559
Speaker 3: Now?

1963
01:22:45,640 --> 01:22:46,120
Speaker 7: You can't be.

1964
01:22:46,600 --> 01:22:47,080
Speaker 1: You can't be.

1965
01:22:47,200 --> 01:22:49,320
Speaker 4: But do y'all fault a nigga for not knowing what

1966
01:22:49,360 --> 01:22:49,679
Speaker 4: you want?

1967
01:22:50,520 --> 01:22:53,080
Speaker 6: I don't because I know if I told you, I

1968
01:22:53,080 --> 01:22:55,280
Speaker 6: can only fault you for something that I communicated to

1969
01:22:55,400 --> 01:22:57,040
Speaker 6: you know what I mean, if we were we like

1970
01:22:57,040 --> 01:22:59,280
Speaker 6: you said, if we're in trial and errand like That's

1971
01:22:59,280 --> 01:23:01,559
Speaker 6: why I asked the questions now, because it's like I've

1972
01:23:01,600 --> 01:23:03,240
Speaker 6: been in situations where you're like, well.

1973
01:23:03,120 --> 01:23:04,920
Speaker 1: You should have known this, this this based on this

1974
01:23:05,000 --> 01:23:05,800
Speaker 1: type of person I am.

1975
01:23:05,960 --> 01:23:07,760
Speaker 6: No, we were getting to know each other, like when

1976
01:23:07,760 --> 01:23:10,439
Speaker 6: we're establishing that understanding, and so you can't be mad

1977
01:23:10,479 --> 01:23:11,479
Speaker 6: about what I don't know.

1978
01:23:11,720 --> 01:23:15,280
Speaker 4: It's a lot of baiting going on though, Like woman

1979
01:23:15,400 --> 01:23:18,479
Speaker 4: might be like, hey, my friend is having a party,

1980
01:23:18,720 --> 01:23:20,479
Speaker 4: but she might say, I'm going to this part of

1981
01:23:20,520 --> 01:23:24,599
Speaker 4: my friend, uh and her husband. Okay, yeah, it looks

1982
01:23:24,640 --> 01:23:28,400
Speaker 4: nice with it. Go ahead. No, you want me to

1983
01:23:28,439 --> 01:23:30,439
Speaker 4: be like her husband gonna be the I'm gonna go. No, bitch,

1984
01:23:30,479 --> 01:23:32,479
Speaker 4: ain't going. You didn't ask me to go in there.

1985
01:23:32,560 --> 01:23:36,840
Speaker 4: Now you mad because I didn't volunteer myself. You didn't

1986
01:23:36,840 --> 01:23:39,000
Speaker 4: ask me. You didn't say, babe, what you go with me?

1987
01:23:39,040 --> 01:23:41,360
Speaker 4: Everybody else? Husband's gonna be there, everybody else, boyfriend's gonna

1988
01:23:41,360 --> 01:23:44,040
Speaker 4: be there with you. Go and say yes or no.

1989
01:23:44,160 --> 01:23:46,880
Speaker 7: Yeah, but you know mine works different than women.

1990
01:23:47,560 --> 01:23:49,439
Speaker 4: But you knowing I'm a type of nigga don't want

1991
01:23:49,439 --> 01:23:50,040
Speaker 4: to go to that ship.

1992
01:23:50,760 --> 01:23:52,519
Speaker 6: So so at the end of the women be scared

1993
01:23:52,520 --> 01:23:54,240
Speaker 6: of the rejection too, you know what I mean, So

1994
01:23:54,280 --> 01:23:56,200
Speaker 6: they won't say it, They won't ask the direct question.

1995
01:23:58,560 --> 01:24:01,680
Speaker 8: You were somebody you shouldn't ask your man because if

1996
01:24:01,680 --> 01:24:03,760
Speaker 8: he asked you, you should you were probably gonna be like, yeah,

1997
01:24:04,120 --> 01:24:05,360
Speaker 8: you know, listen, I don't really want to go, but

1998
01:24:05,360 --> 01:24:05,960
Speaker 8: I'll go with you.

1999
01:24:06,240 --> 01:24:07,680
Speaker 7: Yeah, So why would you be with a partner that

2000
01:24:07,720 --> 01:24:08,479
Speaker 7: wouldn't do that too?

2001
01:24:08,560 --> 01:24:10,080
Speaker 8: Like, man, you know, I don't even like doing that ship,

2002
01:24:10,120 --> 01:24:12,920
Speaker 8: but I'm gonna go with you because yeah, yeah, but

2003
01:24:12,920 --> 01:24:14,920
Speaker 8: women don't say what they what they need or what

2004
01:24:14,920 --> 01:24:15,519
Speaker 8: they want with it.

2005
01:24:15,680 --> 01:24:17,720
Speaker 4: But now it's a whole argument. Now you're finna run

2006
01:24:17,800 --> 01:24:19,880
Speaker 4: down what I did for a month because I ain't

2007
01:24:19,920 --> 01:24:22,040
Speaker 4: go to that. You're finna run it down. You're gonna

2008
01:24:22,080 --> 01:24:24,000
Speaker 4: run Let let me run this down there now you're

2009
01:24:24,080 --> 01:24:24,360
Speaker 4: my heart.

2010
01:24:26,439 --> 01:24:29,840
Speaker 2: So is it just is it just less stressful to

2011
01:24:29,880 --> 01:24:31,240
Speaker 2: be single? Yes?

2012
01:24:32,400 --> 01:24:34,839
Speaker 7: As a single motherfucker, Yeah, I'll be hearing.

2013
01:24:37,320 --> 01:24:39,360
Speaker 4: You know you got you gotta be equipped to be

2014
01:24:39,400 --> 01:24:42,000
Speaker 4: in a relationship. Yeah, I won't give us the pastor

2015
01:24:42,000 --> 01:24:44,280
Speaker 4: in a relationship with the with the mother of the church.

2016
01:24:45,360 --> 01:24:47,400
Speaker 4: You gotta be equipped to be in a relationship because

2017
01:24:47,439 --> 01:24:50,559
Speaker 4: you're trying to you're trying to put a neggaive in

2018
01:24:50,560 --> 01:24:53,080
Speaker 4: a polity together, not to say somebody's nigga. Somebody's two

2019
01:24:53,120 --> 01:24:56,160
Speaker 4: different things. Yeah, you're trying to combine them. So it's

2020
01:24:56,240 --> 01:24:59,439
Speaker 4: that's that takes work, bro, That ship takes a lot

2021
01:24:59,479 --> 01:25:02,280
Speaker 4: of hard that sometimes you just get tired.

2022
01:25:02,720 --> 01:25:05,280
Speaker 2: But all the fucking people happy, like fuck it, I

2023
01:25:05,280 --> 01:25:06,040
Speaker 2: ain't never doing that.

2024
01:25:06,160 --> 01:25:10,680
Speaker 4: Yes they are, I think they are. I probably this

2025
01:25:10,760 --> 01:25:16,840
Speaker 4: single got all their health. He curlism, motherfucker good curl

2026
01:25:17,320 --> 01:25:19,840
Speaker 4: good Carill tell you niggas happen.

2027
01:25:20,160 --> 01:25:22,799
Speaker 8: But I think once you balance the energy within yourself again,

2028
01:25:23,200 --> 01:25:25,880
Speaker 8: once you've balanced that, it's easier to balance other people,

2029
01:25:25,880 --> 01:25:28,240
Speaker 8: and it's easier to attract people who are balanced, then

2030
01:25:28,280 --> 01:25:29,800
Speaker 8: you're gonna be able to pick up on people who

2031
01:25:29,800 --> 01:25:32,519
Speaker 8: are not balanced within themselves, or you gonna recognize when

2032
01:25:32,520 --> 01:25:33,240
Speaker 8: something's not a lot.

2033
01:25:33,640 --> 01:25:36,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, when you get in the marriage, you're a little younger,

2034
01:25:36,360 --> 01:25:39,080
Speaker 3: that that balance change from day to day. It ain't

2035
01:25:39,120 --> 01:25:42,200
Speaker 3: balanced every day. I'm telling you that's marriage. That is

2036
01:25:42,240 --> 01:25:45,679
Speaker 3: that's you went for something. Just saying over five, ten, fifteen,

2037
01:25:45,800 --> 01:25:50,320
Speaker 3: twenty years, people you change, we change. So how do

2038
01:25:50,360 --> 01:25:53,360
Speaker 3: you how are you supposed to I guess other than

2039
01:25:53,360 --> 01:25:55,960
Speaker 3: maybe the law to your love right, how do you

2040
01:25:56,040 --> 01:25:59,000
Speaker 3: navigate that? Because there would be they could be extreme change,

2041
01:25:59,080 --> 01:26:01,799
Speaker 3: Like bankers say, I want to go live in wherever

2042
01:26:01,880 --> 01:26:04,800
Speaker 3: the fuck? What is what is your partner supposed to do?

2043
01:26:05,080 --> 01:26:06,800
Speaker 1: If your partner, if.

2044
01:26:07,160 --> 01:26:10,759
Speaker 6: Your partners with somebody, I feel like like your loalty

2045
01:26:10,880 --> 01:26:13,439
Speaker 6: to the commitment and the agreement you made, as Bank said,

2046
01:26:13,439 --> 01:26:15,320
Speaker 6: it is standard testa time. And so what I mean

2047
01:26:15,360 --> 01:26:18,200
Speaker 6: by that is like, if you're changing, we should have

2048
01:26:18,280 --> 01:26:20,600
Speaker 6: enough of a partnership to where you can acknowledge that.

2049
01:26:20,640 --> 01:26:22,800
Speaker 6: Once you figure that out for yourself, or if I

2050
01:26:22,840 --> 01:26:24,920
Speaker 6: notice that there's a change in you, I can spark

2051
01:26:24,960 --> 01:26:27,120
Speaker 6: that conversation and say, hey, I've noticed such and such

2052
01:26:27,160 --> 01:26:30,800
Speaker 6: about you, Like what's going on? It's the communication, Like

2053
01:26:30,880 --> 01:26:33,439
Speaker 6: you have to start somewhere. The first step to any

2054
01:26:33,560 --> 01:26:36,160
Speaker 6: solving any problem is acknowledging it. And so we're not

2055
01:26:36,200 --> 01:26:38,799
Speaker 6: seeing eye to eye and scream if you like, boom,

2056
01:26:39,120 --> 01:26:41,360
Speaker 6: I've been I've been djaying all this time.

2057
01:26:41,400 --> 01:26:41,519
Speaker 7: Bro.

2058
01:26:41,680 --> 01:26:43,280
Speaker 6: Now I want to go live off in the in

2059
01:26:43,360 --> 01:26:45,800
Speaker 6: the rent somewhere, and I want to raise cows and

2060
01:26:46,120 --> 01:26:49,840
Speaker 6: chickens and shit. Right, and your wife, she she's used

2061
01:26:49,880 --> 01:26:52,080
Speaker 6: to a certain version of you. The first step is

2062
01:26:52,120 --> 01:26:54,479
Speaker 6: you have to establish that that's a desire that you have.

2063
01:26:54,680 --> 01:26:57,320
Speaker 6: Because a good woman or a good man is going

2064
01:26:57,360 --> 01:27:00,000
Speaker 6: to want to help you to navigate your happy space

2065
01:27:00,080 --> 01:27:00,439
Speaker 6: and grow.

2066
01:27:00,680 --> 01:27:01,320
Speaker 2: I agree with that.

2067
01:27:01,520 --> 01:27:02,920
Speaker 1: They gonna want to help you get there.

2068
01:27:02,960 --> 01:27:06,439
Speaker 6: You know, however, the patience has to be on both sides. Now,

2069
01:27:06,479 --> 01:27:08,879
Speaker 6: I have to be patient with this person that you're discovering,

2070
01:27:08,920 --> 01:27:11,160
Speaker 6: this version of yourself that you're You have to be

2071
01:27:11,200 --> 01:27:13,960
Speaker 6: patient with me adjusting to the fact that you're this person,

2072
01:27:14,000 --> 01:27:15,599
Speaker 6: because this is not the person who I'm married.

2073
01:27:15,640 --> 01:27:17,160
Speaker 4: Most of the time, women don't want to see you

2074
01:27:17,160 --> 01:27:19,120
Speaker 4: happenless day involved in your happiness.

2075
01:27:19,439 --> 01:27:20,760
Speaker 7: I agree with that.

2076
01:27:20,760 --> 01:27:22,600
Speaker 4: That's the truth. Like how the fuck you just so

2077
01:27:22,760 --> 01:27:25,840
Speaker 4: happy without me? If I'm not involved in it? Like

2078
01:27:26,080 --> 01:27:29,840
Speaker 4: you can hust your phone, I.

2079
01:27:33,400 --> 01:27:33,760
Speaker 2: Can't go.

2080
01:27:33,880 --> 01:27:36,720
Speaker 4: I can't go like, ain't that joy? When I'm a man?

2081
01:27:38,040 --> 01:27:38,639
Speaker 7: I can't go.

2082
01:27:38,680 --> 01:27:41,080
Speaker 2: Eat certain ship without my wife. I can't do it.

2083
01:27:41,320 --> 01:27:41,880
Speaker 1: You can't research.

2084
01:27:41,920 --> 01:27:44,000
Speaker 3: I can't go eat certain ship. I can't go be

2085
01:27:44,080 --> 01:27:46,160
Speaker 3: happy and go eat to something you plate. I can't

2086
01:27:46,200 --> 01:27:46,479
Speaker 3: do that.

2087
01:27:46,560 --> 01:27:48,400
Speaker 4: And that's that, you know what that's to a woman,

2088
01:27:48,479 --> 01:27:50,720
Speaker 4: that's dislawyer, Like if if you come, if you come,

2089
01:27:50,760 --> 01:28:00,080
Speaker 4: and now I gotta put a woman in who who

2090
01:28:00,120 --> 01:28:00,519
Speaker 4: you went with?

2091
01:28:01,240 --> 01:28:02,280
Speaker 2: You went by yourself?

2092
01:28:02,520 --> 01:28:05,599
Speaker 1: You ain't be like that about fool.

2093
01:28:06,280 --> 01:28:08,120
Speaker 7: That's what give.

2094
01:28:09,520 --> 01:28:11,880
Speaker 4: What you do, but that by you not giving a fuck.

2095
01:28:11,960 --> 01:28:13,439
Speaker 4: So you're not just gonna ask me who I'm with?

2096
01:28:13,600 --> 01:28:16,800
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, you're good.

2097
01:28:17,360 --> 01:28:24,479
Speaker 4: The God is with you, babies. I trust you you've.

2098
01:28:24,280 --> 01:28:26,880
Speaker 8: Been pr trained or something, because you just always just

2099
01:28:26,880 --> 01:28:27,800
Speaker 8: get around.

2100
01:28:27,439 --> 01:28:28,800
Speaker 4: Some what I got around you.

2101
01:28:28,920 --> 01:28:30,439
Speaker 7: I don't know that time you say something, you just

2102
01:28:30,439 --> 01:28:31,759
Speaker 7: always get the truth.

2103
01:28:31,800 --> 01:28:32,040
Speaker 4: Baby.

2104
01:28:32,040 --> 01:28:32,360
Speaker 7: You can't.

2105
01:28:32,400 --> 01:28:35,360
Speaker 4: You can't fight the truth. It's the truth. Man, It's

2106
01:28:35,400 --> 01:28:38,840
Speaker 4: like what baby, I love you, you love me. We are

2107
01:28:38,880 --> 01:28:42,320
Speaker 4: in this together. Why do I need to check up?

2108
01:28:42,400 --> 01:28:44,680
Speaker 4: It's us? Why do I need to? I don't want to.

2109
01:28:44,720 --> 01:28:46,120
Speaker 4: I don't want to.

2110
01:28:46,479 --> 01:28:50,080
Speaker 6: You are a very emotionally secure man, and and that's

2111
01:28:50,160 --> 01:28:52,040
Speaker 6: not that's not different.

2112
01:28:52,120 --> 01:28:53,519
Speaker 1: It's different. It's not normal.

2113
01:28:53,600 --> 01:28:56,080
Speaker 6: And like you speak about how different you are, but

2114
01:28:56,120 --> 01:28:58,519
Speaker 6: I don't think you understand the magnitude of how many

2115
01:28:58,520 --> 01:28:59,320
Speaker 6: men are not like that.

2116
01:28:59,640 --> 01:29:02,080
Speaker 4: No, it's aint I ain't. No, I'll be. I'll be

2117
01:29:02,120 --> 01:29:10,720
Speaker 4: tripping too, but I'm just it ain't got nothing due

2118
01:29:10,760 --> 01:29:12,960
Speaker 4: relationship in life. I know it is what it is

2119
01:29:13,479 --> 01:29:16,120
Speaker 4: and whatever it's gonna be, it's already that. So if

2120
01:29:16,160 --> 01:29:18,240
Speaker 4: you finish, go do dick. Baby, you finisah, go do Dick.

2121
01:29:18,280 --> 01:29:21,200
Speaker 4: I'm not being in stressed about that, but I find out,

2122
01:29:21,439 --> 01:29:22,840
Speaker 4: just know, it's consequences to it.

2123
01:29:24,320 --> 01:29:25,200
Speaker 1: What's the consequence?

2124
01:29:25,760 --> 01:29:28,559
Speaker 4: The consequence is now you look like one. I don't

2125
01:29:28,560 --> 01:29:30,040
Speaker 4: be around deck. I'm a man.

2126
01:29:31,960 --> 01:29:32,679
Speaker 7: That's all you see.

2127
01:29:32,760 --> 01:29:34,400
Speaker 4: When you see that, it's over.

2128
01:29:34,439 --> 01:29:37,000
Speaker 1: Honestly and truly that that's when you get to run

2129
01:29:37,000 --> 01:29:38,679
Speaker 1: your life a certain way because the type of person

2130
01:29:38,720 --> 01:29:38,880
Speaker 1: that you.

2131
01:29:39,080 --> 01:29:42,439
Speaker 4: Ain't the same nigga, No, twelve thirteen years old.

2132
01:29:42,560 --> 01:29:44,600
Speaker 1: But even from twelve thirteen years old to where you

2133
01:29:44,640 --> 01:29:46,840
Speaker 1: are now, the way you have built in the way

2134
01:29:46,920 --> 01:29:49,400
Speaker 1: and how you are is not the same as probably

2135
01:29:49,439 --> 01:29:51,040
Speaker 1: eighty percent of the population of men.

2136
01:29:51,160 --> 01:29:53,840
Speaker 4: Okay, so key. What the thing about it is where

2137
01:29:54,000 --> 01:30:00,360
Speaker 4: this twenty percent need to be treated special? No facts,

2138
01:30:00,360 --> 01:30:02,360
Speaker 4: trying to put niggas in the same barrel with the

2139
01:30:02,400 --> 01:30:05,320
Speaker 4: ad that this man deserves something different.

2140
01:30:05,439 --> 01:30:07,160
Speaker 1: Hey, but but it go vice versa.

2141
01:30:07,320 --> 01:30:09,360
Speaker 6: The ady need to stay where the eighty at until

2142
01:30:09,400 --> 01:30:11,280
Speaker 6: they can be on some twenty ship and the twenty

2143
01:30:11,320 --> 01:30:13,800
Speaker 6: need to stay where they at and don't be doing.

2144
01:30:13,280 --> 01:30:15,080
Speaker 1: Which goes back to the dudes. You talk, I can't

2145
01:30:15,080 --> 01:30:16,840
Speaker 1: get a woman, baby, you're doing something wrong.

2146
01:30:16,880 --> 01:30:18,400
Speaker 4: But the thing about it, if you if you if

2147
01:30:18,400 --> 01:30:20,479
Speaker 4: you meet him, if you if you meet a woman today,

2148
01:30:20,520 --> 01:30:22,519
Speaker 4: if you meet a man today, did you meet a

2149
01:30:22,520 --> 01:30:25,240
Speaker 4: man today and see he got that fold in him?

2150
01:30:25,680 --> 01:30:27,120
Speaker 4: Like he got that fold in him a lot, I

2151
01:30:27,120 --> 01:30:29,840
Speaker 4: can make him fall. That's gonna take some away from you.

2152
01:30:29,880 --> 01:30:31,599
Speaker 4: But do you meet a man to see he ain't

2153
01:30:31,600 --> 01:30:33,439
Speaker 4: got no fold in him? That's gonna take some away

2154
01:30:33,439 --> 01:30:33,840
Speaker 4: from you.

2155
01:30:33,960 --> 01:30:37,559
Speaker 1: I would no middle ground everything.

2156
01:30:36,800 --> 01:30:40,599
Speaker 4: You know. I'm just saying, if you, if you, if

2157
01:30:40,600 --> 01:30:42,280
Speaker 4: you could change my mind, and I've said there's plenty

2158
01:30:42,280 --> 01:30:43,760
Speaker 4: of time if you come in the house me and

2159
01:30:43,760 --> 01:30:45,640
Speaker 4: your relationship, you change my mind about something, you know

2160
01:30:45,680 --> 01:30:47,880
Speaker 4: what I'm passionate about. You're gonna count of slight lose

2161
01:30:47,920 --> 01:30:50,760
Speaker 4: some respect for me, regardless of what cause. That means.

2162
01:30:50,800 --> 01:30:52,440
Speaker 4: I choose you off my purpose.

2163
01:30:53,160 --> 01:30:55,280
Speaker 1: And now we're both falling exactly.

2164
01:30:54,920 --> 01:30:57,439
Speaker 4: So now you cannot trust me, Like bro, I don't

2165
01:30:57,439 --> 01:30:59,439
Speaker 4: know what that nigga. That nigga because once you you know,

2166
01:30:59,479 --> 01:31:01,120
Speaker 4: I'll do it for one female, I'll probably do it

2167
01:31:01,120 --> 01:31:01,920
Speaker 4: for another. I might do it.

2168
01:31:02,040 --> 01:31:04,280
Speaker 8: But there's certain things that could be negotiated on or

2169
01:31:04,479 --> 01:31:06,200
Speaker 8: or you can kind of gain a new perspective, but

2170
01:31:06,240 --> 01:31:08,560
Speaker 8: there's certain it's like, no this is you know what

2171
01:31:08,560 --> 01:31:08,920
Speaker 8: I'm saying?

2172
01:31:09,240 --> 01:31:11,720
Speaker 4: Cool? All right? Flips out of that. You did it

2173
01:31:11,720 --> 01:31:14,680
Speaker 4: with a nigga like me, like no negotiable, I'm a narcissist.

2174
01:31:16,280 --> 01:31:18,200
Speaker 4: Like no, I can't.

2175
01:31:21,760 --> 01:31:23,320
Speaker 1: Just as worse as the men saying they want peace

2176
01:31:23,320 --> 01:31:24,960
Speaker 1: when they over here cause chaos.

2177
01:31:26,960 --> 01:31:31,120
Speaker 6: Right now, Hello, be the most chaosic men not in

2178
01:31:31,200 --> 01:31:33,400
Speaker 6: their experience, be like why this is why?

2179
01:31:33,520 --> 01:31:33,720
Speaker 1: You know?

2180
01:31:33,760 --> 01:31:35,320
Speaker 6: When you I know y'all seen to me where it

2181
01:31:35,439 --> 01:31:37,000
Speaker 6: be like I try to give you what you never

2182
01:31:37,040 --> 01:31:38,519
Speaker 6: had and I found out why you never had it.

2183
01:31:38,800 --> 01:31:41,839
Speaker 1: You don't have peace because you are the orchestrator of chaos.

2184
01:31:42,000 --> 01:31:45,320
Speaker 6: If you want peace, you gotta learn how to be peace.

2185
01:31:45,640 --> 01:31:47,519
Speaker 6: If you can't be that ship, you're not gonna receive

2186
01:31:47,560 --> 01:31:48,880
Speaker 6: that ship. You're not gonna give it off.

2187
01:31:49,240 --> 01:31:52,360
Speaker 1: Period. Come on.

2188
01:31:53,040 --> 01:31:55,840
Speaker 4: Come on, I think, I think, I think, I think,

2189
01:31:56,960 --> 01:31:58,280
Speaker 4: and you know they be eating me up in the

2190
01:31:58,280 --> 01:32:03,000
Speaker 4: coming come on, come on. I think women is just

2191
01:32:03,080 --> 01:32:05,799
Speaker 4: not designed to be a Some are not not some

2192
01:32:05,800 --> 01:32:07,160
Speaker 4: some are, but mostly.

2193
01:32:13,880 --> 01:32:15,240
Speaker 2: I don't know they can be happy.

2194
01:32:16,080 --> 01:32:21,920
Speaker 4: Most women that I've encountered, friends, family members, sisters, cousins,

2195
01:32:22,760 --> 01:32:26,200
Speaker 4: all it's like when they're trying to talk to me

2196
01:32:26,200 --> 01:32:28,960
Speaker 4: about things, and I'll give them the honest truth like

2197
01:32:29,080 --> 01:32:31,240
Speaker 4: that what they gonna call me? Like my sister said

2198
01:32:31,280 --> 01:32:34,559
Speaker 4: one day, like she told my brother, my other brother,

2199
01:32:34,880 --> 01:32:36,720
Speaker 4: I ain't gonna call black cause he gonna be like

2200
01:32:37,000 --> 01:32:37,599
Speaker 4: what I do.

2201
01:32:38,200 --> 01:32:38,759
Speaker 1: M hyeah.

2202
01:32:40,800 --> 01:32:42,760
Speaker 4: She want to talk to the motherfucker who's only mad

2203
01:32:42,760 --> 01:32:45,120
Speaker 4: at the person who she said did something to her.

2204
01:32:45,600 --> 01:32:49,120
Speaker 4: That's the difference. Anytime somebody called me, or some something happened,

2205
01:32:49,120 --> 01:32:51,519
Speaker 4: even something happened in the street, I wonder what he

2206
01:32:51,560 --> 01:32:53,920
Speaker 4: did to somebody, Like somebody just get gut down, I

2207
01:32:53,960 --> 01:32:58,360
Speaker 4: wonder who who did something to because people ain't just regas.

2208
01:32:58,600 --> 01:33:01,400
Speaker 6: I think, it's always another side to the throat. I'm

2209
01:33:01,439 --> 01:33:03,840
Speaker 6: at a place in my life where I realized that

2210
01:33:04,240 --> 01:33:07,120
Speaker 6: the person who you describe where it's like you're constantly

2211
01:33:07,160 --> 01:33:09,880
Speaker 6: looking for a person who's going to validate your behavior

2212
01:33:09,960 --> 01:33:13,000
Speaker 6: but not actually ask, you know, clarifying questions to help

2213
01:33:13,000 --> 01:33:15,519
Speaker 6: you understand how you got the result you got. That

2214
01:33:15,680 --> 01:33:17,920
Speaker 6: leads you to be a person who can't be accountable.

2215
01:33:18,160 --> 01:33:20,120
Speaker 6: You can't stay it with yourself, you know. So I

2216
01:33:20,160 --> 01:33:23,040
Speaker 6: appreciate even though some time calling a nigga like you

2217
01:33:23,120 --> 01:33:25,120
Speaker 6: might hurt your feelings, I didn't call him a phone,

2218
01:33:25,200 --> 01:33:26,679
Speaker 6: been like, man, this shit ain't getting results.

2219
01:33:26,680 --> 01:33:28,920
Speaker 1: I want you putting the work in. You need them

2220
01:33:28,960 --> 01:33:30,480
Speaker 1: all like that sometimes.

2221
01:33:30,200 --> 01:33:38,720
Speaker 6: Cause that, But I appreciate that conversation more as I'm

2222
01:33:38,840 --> 01:33:41,360
Speaker 6: understanding what type of person I want to be. Some

2223
01:33:41,360 --> 01:33:43,360
Speaker 6: people want to be the victim in their story. They

2224
01:33:43,400 --> 01:33:46,040
Speaker 6: want people to feel sad. I've never I was a kid.

2225
01:33:46,080 --> 01:33:48,000
Speaker 6: Y'all won't know half the ship I've been through until

2226
01:33:48,000 --> 01:33:49,559
Speaker 6: I tell it on the podcast because it's gonna make

2227
01:33:49,600 --> 01:33:49,960
Speaker 6: some money.

2228
01:33:50,160 --> 01:33:51,439
Speaker 1: That's that's when y'all gonna find out.

2229
01:33:51,520 --> 01:33:52,240
Speaker 5: Because I don't.

2230
01:33:52,080 --> 01:33:53,280
Speaker 1: Want you to victimize me.

2231
01:33:53,280 --> 01:33:54,920
Speaker 6: I want you to feel sorry for me and all

2232
01:33:54,960 --> 01:33:56,960
Speaker 6: the ship that I've been through, or what I'm going through,

2233
01:33:57,080 --> 01:33:59,120
Speaker 6: or where I'm at right now, and how overcame all

2234
01:33:59,120 --> 01:34:00,800
Speaker 6: these eyes. I don't want you to glorify that. I

2235
01:34:00,840 --> 01:34:02,960
Speaker 6: want you to glorify the essence of who I am

2236
01:34:03,080 --> 01:34:06,120
Speaker 6: right now, who's talking to you, my perspective, my words,

2237
01:34:06,120 --> 01:34:06,680
Speaker 6: you know what I mean.

2238
01:34:06,680 --> 01:34:07,960
Speaker 1: I don't even want you to look at me like that.

2239
01:34:08,000 --> 01:34:08,559
Speaker 1: It's fine.

2240
01:34:08,720 --> 01:34:10,400
Speaker 6: I want you to hear me. I want you to

2241
01:34:10,439 --> 01:34:11,800
Speaker 6: feel me. I want you to grow with me. I

2242
01:34:11,840 --> 01:34:13,880
Speaker 6: want you to see dang Kaylen didn't always used to

2243
01:34:13,960 --> 01:34:16,000
Speaker 6: talk like that. Keylor used to be a little naive

2244
01:34:16,000 --> 01:34:18,000
Speaker 6: about niggas. But now Kyla's standing on benning be cause

2245
01:34:18,000 --> 01:34:20,400
Speaker 6: she understand who she is. I would rather have people

2246
01:34:20,479 --> 01:34:22,880
Speaker 6: experience that process than to be around them more for

2247
01:34:22,920 --> 01:34:23,320
Speaker 6: all the time.

2248
01:34:23,479 --> 01:34:25,840
Speaker 1: Like, damn, that nigga took you through the bit you okay?

2249
01:34:26,080 --> 01:34:26,200
Speaker 2: Right?

2250
01:34:26,320 --> 01:34:26,960
Speaker 1: Can you breathe?

2251
01:34:27,040 --> 01:34:27,120
Speaker 3: No?

2252
01:34:27,280 --> 01:34:28,320
Speaker 1: You allowed that, Kayla.

2253
01:34:28,640 --> 01:34:30,679
Speaker 6: You know you put yourself in the capacity of being

2254
01:34:30,720 --> 01:34:32,519
Speaker 6: that type of woman. That's why you attracted that type

2255
01:34:32,520 --> 01:34:35,120
Speaker 6: of man. And now the growth, the testimony and with

2256
01:34:35,280 --> 01:34:36,920
Speaker 6: you and God is the one I want you to

2257
01:34:37,000 --> 01:34:37,479
Speaker 6: learn from.

2258
01:34:37,840 --> 01:34:38,000
Speaker 2: Now.

2259
01:34:38,040 --> 01:34:39,960
Speaker 5: Hey, over time I learned how to not do that

2260
01:34:40,080 --> 01:34:40,439
Speaker 5: no more.

2261
01:34:40,680 --> 01:34:42,960
Speaker 4: But I think that makes you weak though, Like it

2262
01:34:43,000 --> 01:34:45,320
Speaker 4: makes you weak to have a friend that's always gonna

2263
01:34:45,360 --> 01:34:48,280
Speaker 4: pick your side. I don't want to remember that makes

2264
01:34:48,280 --> 01:34:50,360
Speaker 4: you weak that like I can't trust you. Like, bro,

2265
01:34:50,560 --> 01:34:52,280
Speaker 4: I call a nigga, asks some what does shit look

2266
01:34:52,320 --> 01:34:53,920
Speaker 4: like before you walk out with my clothes?

2267
01:34:54,120 --> 01:34:54,320
Speaker 7: Yeah?

2268
01:34:54,439 --> 01:34:56,000
Speaker 4: Like what does she look like? She look country? Called

2269
01:34:56,040 --> 01:34:59,680
Speaker 4: my son? Yeah that shit country take like? I call

2270
01:34:59,760 --> 01:35:02,680
Speaker 4: it yes because I want you sure, Like, Like how

2271
01:35:02,720 --> 01:35:04,120
Speaker 4: many times have I seen it? And it comes I'm

2272
01:35:04,200 --> 01:35:07,160
Speaker 4: tripping because I could be. I could be, So tell

2273
01:35:07,200 --> 01:35:08,880
Speaker 4: me I'm tripping. If you disagree, I don't agree with

2274
01:35:08,880 --> 01:35:11,320
Speaker 4: me because I'm tell you the truth. Let me look

2275
01:35:11,360 --> 01:35:12,320
Speaker 4: at it from another angle.

2276
01:35:13,000 --> 01:35:14,880
Speaker 7: And I think like people like as you like as

2277
01:35:14,920 --> 01:35:16,120
Speaker 7: people like you probably have a.

2278
01:35:16,120 --> 01:35:17,639
Speaker 8: Lot of well I'm not gonna say it like that,

2279
01:35:17,800 --> 01:35:19,559
Speaker 8: a lot of people who have Satizen stuff. I think

2280
01:35:19,560 --> 01:35:21,320
Speaker 8: a lot of people tend to be yes men for them,

2281
01:35:21,400 --> 01:35:23,559
Speaker 8: you know what I'm saying, because it's like they like

2282
01:35:23,600 --> 01:35:24,080
Speaker 8: the position.

2283
01:35:24,160 --> 01:35:25,400
Speaker 7: So it's like I'm telling them what they want to

2284
01:35:25,439 --> 01:35:25,680
Speaker 7: hear you.

2285
01:35:25,760 --> 01:35:26,280
Speaker 1: Then they keep me.

2286
01:35:26,600 --> 01:35:28,600
Speaker 8: Yeah, It's like, but that's not what people need. Like

2287
01:35:28,640 --> 01:35:30,880
Speaker 8: people like if you have an assistant, you shouldn't want

2288
01:35:30,880 --> 01:35:33,160
Speaker 8: want to just really just do everything because they seeing

2289
01:35:33,160 --> 01:35:35,000
Speaker 8: a different side of ship. So it's like, don't do

2290
01:35:35,040 --> 01:35:36,719
Speaker 8: it just how I say it, if you really because

2291
01:35:36,720 --> 01:35:37,679
Speaker 8: you don't want handling ship.

2292
01:35:37,720 --> 01:35:39,360
Speaker 4: So if you see but I play games, do I

2293
01:35:39,400 --> 01:35:40,880
Speaker 4: tell you the ship I know I don't agree with

2294
01:35:40,960 --> 01:35:50,400
Speaker 4: and see if you're I'm gonna take that love like

2295
01:35:52,200 --> 01:35:54,400
Speaker 4: love or respect? Which one? And why?

2296
01:35:56,479 --> 01:35:56,519
Speaker 3: You?

2297
01:35:57,960 --> 01:35:59,840
Speaker 1: For my man, I have to respect him more than

2298
01:35:59,840 --> 01:36:00,400
Speaker 1: I love him.

2299
01:36:01,439 --> 01:36:04,080
Speaker 4: I want love or respect in which one? And why?

2300
01:36:04,439 --> 01:36:05,040
Speaker 7: I want love?

2301
01:36:06,080 --> 01:36:08,479
Speaker 1: Why Because I like feeling like a girl.

2302
01:36:08,640 --> 01:36:09,040
Speaker 4: I don't know.

2303
01:36:09,640 --> 01:36:11,120
Speaker 1: I just want to feel like a girl the girl

2304
01:36:11,120 --> 01:36:13,560
Speaker 1: I want when I die. I want to die, know,

2305
01:36:13,680 --> 01:36:17,240
Speaker 1: and I've loved people, and I've been loved. I want love.

2306
01:36:17,439 --> 01:36:19,200
Speaker 1: I want to be filled with love.

2307
01:36:20,760 --> 01:36:23,800
Speaker 6: I say respect only because it's been people who say

2308
01:36:23,840 --> 01:36:25,479
Speaker 6: that they love you and then they do things that

2309
01:36:25,600 --> 01:36:28,479
Speaker 6: don't that indicate that they don't respect you. And for me,

2310
01:36:28,640 --> 01:36:30,880
Speaker 6: that's always been more of a short than another stick

2311
01:36:30,960 --> 01:36:33,479
Speaker 6: than love. Hast Like, I rather, mother fucker respect the

2312
01:36:33,640 --> 01:36:35,840
Speaker 6: essences of who I am and what I am and

2313
01:36:35,920 --> 01:36:38,160
Speaker 6: where I'm going, because I feel like that's going to.

2314
01:36:38,160 --> 01:36:41,280
Speaker 1: Propare me to be who I'm supposed to be. Can

2315
01:36:41,320 --> 01:36:43,960
Speaker 1: you Can you love somebody and not respect them? And

2316
01:36:44,000 --> 01:36:44,640
Speaker 1: can you respect them?

2317
01:36:44,680 --> 01:36:45,240
Speaker 7: And I love them?

2318
01:36:45,560 --> 01:36:48,000
Speaker 1: I think respect comes with love, you know, because because

2319
01:36:48,080 --> 01:36:51,559
Speaker 1: respect is I would I can.

2320
01:36:51,560 --> 01:36:54,479
Speaker 4: Respect you and not like you. Yeah, Like I got

2321
01:36:54,560 --> 01:36:56,679
Speaker 4: respect for a lot of people that I still.

2322
01:36:56,560 --> 01:36:58,560
Speaker 1: Feel like you love? Do you respect them? People that

2323
01:36:58,720 --> 01:37:01,360
Speaker 1: you love, wish that you really love? Do you have

2324
01:37:01,439 --> 01:37:01,800
Speaker 1: respect for?

2325
01:37:02,000 --> 01:37:03,639
Speaker 4: I got people that I love that I don't respect.

2326
01:37:04,240 --> 01:37:04,439
Speaker 2: Yeah.

2327
01:37:05,800 --> 01:37:07,439
Speaker 4: I got people that I love that I don't like

2328
01:37:07,560 --> 01:37:10,680
Speaker 4: at all. I can't stand on. So those are I

2329
01:37:10,760 --> 01:37:13,240
Speaker 4: think those are two different words. But if you love

2330
01:37:13,320 --> 01:37:16,679
Speaker 4: and respect somebody, now you got your yeah, go ahead.

2331
01:37:16,800 --> 01:37:18,760
Speaker 7: I would definitely say respect because it's like you have

2332
01:37:18,800 --> 01:37:21,000
Speaker 7: a trauma bond and little somebody all day. But y'all

2333
01:37:21,520 --> 01:37:25,360
Speaker 7: keep reflecting that negative dark your love. I want real.

2334
01:37:25,400 --> 01:37:27,320
Speaker 1: I want to be loved on with some real love.

2335
01:37:27,479 --> 01:37:32,519
Speaker 1: Love on me, were gonna die, love on me, love

2336
01:37:32,560 --> 01:37:34,160
Speaker 1: on me. I want all the love.

2337
01:37:34,360 --> 01:37:37,120
Speaker 7: But wouldn't that make you feel little?

2338
01:37:37,720 --> 01:37:39,519
Speaker 1: If they respect you? That's what I was saying, That

2339
01:37:39,960 --> 01:37:40,719
Speaker 1: make you feel.

2340
01:37:44,560 --> 01:37:46,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, considered it on me? You taking into you know

2341
01:37:47,040 --> 01:37:49,000
Speaker 7: how I feel into consideration? You're checking on me.

2342
01:37:49,640 --> 01:37:51,479
Speaker 4: We got to break down with respect you cause respect

2343
01:37:51,520 --> 01:37:53,840
Speaker 4: can be from a far, like I respect you and

2344
01:37:53,880 --> 01:37:54,439
Speaker 4: not consider you.

2345
01:37:55,040 --> 01:37:56,360
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. There's a lot of people that

2346
01:37:56,479 --> 01:37:57,439
Speaker 1: respect that I don't give to.

2347
01:37:58,240 --> 01:37:59,920
Speaker 4: Respect is like a salute from a far, Like, what's

2348
01:38:00,720 --> 01:38:01,240
Speaker 4: that's respect?

2349
01:38:01,320 --> 01:38:03,000
Speaker 1: Like I'm walking the room and not walk past you?

2350
01:38:03,080 --> 01:38:06,240
Speaker 1: Ignore you like you ain't nobody like I don't there to.

2351
01:38:07,240 --> 01:38:08,160
Speaker 4: That's a good that's a good question.

2352
01:38:08,200 --> 01:38:10,479
Speaker 2: What's a love action? What's the respect action to you? Like?

2353
01:38:10,680 --> 01:38:12,679
Speaker 2: What's a what's a gesture? Of love. What's a gesture

2354
01:38:12,720 --> 01:38:13,200
Speaker 2: of respect?

2355
01:38:13,320 --> 01:38:17,080
Speaker 1: A gesture of love to me is consideration. Okay, consider

2356
01:38:17,200 --> 01:38:18,960
Speaker 1: me in things, Go to the gas that you bring

2357
01:38:19,000 --> 01:38:20,720
Speaker 1: me a flower from the gas station. Two dollars. Yeah,

2358
01:38:21,160 --> 01:38:23,960
Speaker 1: take me to the airport. Let's let's watch the airplanes

2359
01:38:24,000 --> 01:38:25,040
Speaker 1: take off, like, consider me.

2360
01:38:25,360 --> 01:38:27,000
Speaker 2: So, what's a gesture of respect?

2361
01:38:27,920 --> 01:38:29,080
Speaker 1: Not calling me a bitch.

2362
01:38:31,640 --> 01:38:34,639
Speaker 4: That screen? What about you? Love?

2363
01:38:34,920 --> 01:38:36,240
Speaker 2: You know, I respect God?

2364
01:38:37,360 --> 01:38:38,800
Speaker 1: You mean as it should be?

2365
01:38:38,920 --> 01:38:39,080
Speaker 2: Yeah?

2366
01:38:39,160 --> 01:38:43,080
Speaker 3: Respect, I just I'm still I love my wife. I'm

2367
01:38:43,120 --> 01:38:45,760
Speaker 3: still understanding. The love thing is just I don't know.

2368
01:38:45,920 --> 01:38:48,880
Speaker 3: Love had no definition. Every time I ask people what's

2369
01:38:48,920 --> 01:38:51,000
Speaker 3: the definition, they can It's not a logical thing.

2370
01:38:51,240 --> 01:38:53,599
Speaker 4: I think love and hate is the same thing, though, Yeah,

2371
01:38:53,760 --> 01:38:56,599
Speaker 4: the same thing or the same same thing, the same feeling,

2372
01:38:56,680 --> 01:38:57,760
Speaker 4: because because the.

2373
01:38:57,720 --> 01:39:01,559
Speaker 2: Way you love them up hot and cold.

2374
01:39:02,040 --> 01:39:06,280
Speaker 4: It's the same ship. Because because because so as a

2375
01:39:06,320 --> 01:39:07,800
Speaker 4: motherfucker you in love. When you do something to the

2376
01:39:07,840 --> 01:39:08,320
Speaker 4: first thing.

2377
01:39:08,280 --> 01:39:11,759
Speaker 1: He says, I hate you, but you really love that much.

2378
01:39:11,760 --> 01:39:14,599
Speaker 2: You really love them that much to hate you can

2379
01:39:14,680 --> 01:39:15,120
Speaker 2: only hate.

2380
01:39:15,439 --> 01:39:20,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, money of chemistry, chemistry.

2381
01:39:21,080 --> 01:39:24,559
Speaker 5: I feel like chemistry and chemistry is just mind you y'all.

2382
01:39:24,600 --> 01:39:25,840
Speaker 5: I told you, I'm hope over.

2383
01:39:30,280 --> 01:39:32,720
Speaker 1: Because the thing about it is is because I just.

2384
01:39:32,840 --> 01:39:35,799
Speaker 6: See so many people who have money and lack chemistry,

2385
01:39:35,840 --> 01:39:37,680
Speaker 6: and for me, that's a turn off, Like I rather

2386
01:39:37,720 --> 01:39:40,320
Speaker 6: have chemera. I rather life is so short and I

2387
01:39:40,400 --> 01:39:42,679
Speaker 6: see so many people come and go with young ages

2388
01:39:42,720 --> 01:39:44,760
Speaker 6: that it's like I rather have the chemistry of Like

2389
01:39:44,880 --> 01:39:46,680
Speaker 6: my experience was quality with you?

2390
01:39:47,760 --> 01:39:48,280
Speaker 4: What about you.

2391
01:39:49,960 --> 01:39:52,160
Speaker 7: In a relationship or just in life in German relationship

2392
01:39:52,640 --> 01:39:58,640
Speaker 7: relationship probably money, yeah, but but not even because of

2393
01:39:58,680 --> 01:40:00,720
Speaker 7: the materials, not even because of the It's just in

2394
01:40:00,800 --> 01:40:02,800
Speaker 7: my head I attribute chemistry to like it's like a

2395
01:40:02,880 --> 01:40:05,280
Speaker 7: familiar like it's almost negative to me. I don't feel

2396
01:40:05,280 --> 01:40:05,719
Speaker 7: like chemistry.

2397
01:40:06,960 --> 01:40:08,960
Speaker 4: I feel like, let me let me we know you're

2398
01:40:08,960 --> 01:40:13,519
Speaker 4: saying money. I feel like, if you got the right chemistry,

2399
01:40:13,560 --> 01:40:14,599
Speaker 4: you can get the money together.

2400
01:40:15,120 --> 01:40:15,640
Speaker 7: See, I don't know.

2401
01:40:15,760 --> 01:40:17,799
Speaker 8: In my head there's like a negative connotation with chemistry

2402
01:40:17,800 --> 01:40:19,679
Speaker 8: because I feel like it's like a lot of times chemistry,

2403
01:40:19,760 --> 01:40:21,200
Speaker 8: especially instant chemistry.

2404
01:40:21,000 --> 01:40:24,920
Speaker 4: Is like a chemistry though the right chemistry, yeah, healthy

2405
01:40:25,520 --> 01:40:28,240
Speaker 4: healthy chemistry, like if because because the thing about it is,

2406
01:40:28,280 --> 01:40:29,840
Speaker 4: you're gonna be able to push me forward to be

2407
01:40:29,880 --> 01:40:31,360
Speaker 4: the best men, don't baby pushing for it to be

2408
01:40:31,400 --> 01:40:31,760
Speaker 4: the best you.

2409
01:40:32,800 --> 01:40:35,080
Speaker 5: I feel like chemistry can equate the money, but money

2410
01:40:35,080 --> 01:40:36,080
Speaker 5: can't equate the chemistry.

2411
01:40:36,960 --> 01:40:39,120
Speaker 1: Also, put money chemistry.

2412
01:40:38,720 --> 01:40:43,439
Speaker 4: And money, it can make a motherfucker fake you out.

2413
01:40:47,600 --> 01:40:49,600
Speaker 6: I'm going on what you said though healthy chemistry like

2414
01:40:49,640 --> 01:40:51,639
Speaker 6: I don't. I don't feel like money will equate money.

2415
01:40:54,840 --> 01:40:56,559
Speaker 1: I mean, chemistry and love go up and down. It's

2416
01:40:56,600 --> 01:40:59,240
Speaker 1: not consistent. I want it. You can be and we

2417
01:40:59,320 --> 01:41:02,040
Speaker 1: can have money, and sometimes we're gonna be cool, and

2418
01:41:02,160 --> 01:41:05,000
Speaker 1: sometimes we can we might not be cool, maybe we're

2419
01:41:05,000 --> 01:41:06,800
Speaker 1: gonna die. Get take me out of town.

2420
01:41:09,040 --> 01:41:13,200
Speaker 7: But one way or another, I'm.

2421
01:41:13,040 --> 01:41:13,840
Speaker 4: On cameral corns.

2422
01:41:14,280 --> 01:41:18,960
Speaker 2: Money gotta be somewhere here because.

2423
01:41:18,720 --> 01:41:20,639
Speaker 7: At the end of the day, y'all both ain't got shipped.

2424
01:41:21,200 --> 01:41:29,360
Speaker 7: How much chemistry you're not sexually attracted to a motherfucker,

2425
01:41:29,400 --> 01:41:30,240
Speaker 7: it ain't got shipped.

2426
01:41:30,320 --> 01:41:32,360
Speaker 4: Like no, I'm just I'm just looking at it like

2427
01:41:32,479 --> 01:41:34,760
Speaker 4: speaking from me because I know I'm gonna go get

2428
01:41:34,800 --> 01:41:36,559
Speaker 4: some money. Regard that's the easies ship in the world

2429
01:41:36,600 --> 01:41:38,280
Speaker 4: to get to me. You keep on putting you in

2430
01:41:38,640 --> 01:41:41,200
Speaker 4: talking chemistry and money. I feel like if I got

2431
01:41:41,240 --> 01:41:43,360
Speaker 4: to write chemistry with you, we can go get someone.

2432
01:41:44,400 --> 01:41:46,840
Speaker 7: Is off chemistry. Money come up in.

2433
01:41:48,560 --> 01:41:49,400
Speaker 4: Money, So keep the money.

2434
01:41:49,439 --> 01:41:50,880
Speaker 1: You know why the money got to be right here.

2435
01:41:51,000 --> 01:41:52,040
Speaker 1: We're gonna work this chemistry.

2436
01:41:54,720 --> 01:41:55,799
Speaker 4: Submission on leadership.

2437
01:41:56,920 --> 01:42:00,519
Speaker 1: I want to be submissive. Drag me from talk Tuesday

2438
01:42:00,600 --> 01:42:04,880
Speaker 1: to the als. Yeah, I definitely say submission.

2439
01:42:05,040 --> 01:42:06,559
Speaker 5: I feel like submission allows me to.

2440
01:42:06,560 --> 01:42:06,920
Speaker 1: Being my.

2441
01:42:09,800 --> 01:42:11,719
Speaker 2: When's submission? Go ahead, y'all finished?

2442
01:42:12,160 --> 01:42:15,000
Speaker 7: Submission to submission one of the women's.

2443
01:42:18,080 --> 01:42:19,840
Speaker 2: When do submission become the cool thing?

2444
01:42:20,080 --> 01:42:20,559
Speaker 1: I don't.

2445
01:42:22,920 --> 01:42:26,559
Speaker 6: Think a lot of women are because they've had improper leadership.

2446
01:42:26,640 --> 01:42:29,400
Speaker 6: But you're submitting. If you have proper brounders, you know

2447
01:42:29,439 --> 01:42:31,240
Speaker 6: who you are. You're gonna submit the right ship. And

2448
01:42:31,320 --> 01:42:33,400
Speaker 6: what we don't hold our count ourselves accountable for is

2449
01:42:33,439 --> 01:42:34,920
Speaker 6: when you submit to the wrong ship. You can't be

2450
01:42:35,000 --> 01:42:36,840
Speaker 6: mad with the results of myls don't want.

2451
01:42:36,720 --> 01:42:38,639
Speaker 4: To be okay, but you can't want to be can't

2452
01:42:40,720 --> 01:42:45,599
Speaker 4: and disagree, You can't not disagree. I'm gonna say disagree.

2453
01:42:45,680 --> 01:42:47,840
Speaker 4: You can't say you're submissive and be combative at the

2454
01:42:47,880 --> 01:42:48,240
Speaker 4: same time.

2455
01:42:48,400 --> 01:42:48,800
Speaker 1: You cannot.

2456
01:42:49,000 --> 01:42:49,800
Speaker 7: But you can have a voice.

2457
01:42:49,840 --> 01:42:49,960
Speaker 4: Though.

2458
01:42:50,040 --> 01:42:50,760
Speaker 7: You can have a voice.

2459
01:42:50,920 --> 01:42:53,639
Speaker 4: That's the goal post. You can have the goal post

2460
01:42:54,040 --> 01:42:57,640
Speaker 4: that's moving the goal post. Okay, if you're submissive right.

2461
01:42:58,200 --> 01:42:59,960
Speaker 4: You let like I've seen somebody say, you let an

2462
01:43:00,040 --> 01:43:02,840
Speaker 4: nigga be wrong to he become right. You show him

2463
01:43:02,840 --> 01:43:05,200
Speaker 4: how to be right this one, this won't you? Okay?

2464
01:43:06,080 --> 01:43:08,600
Speaker 4: If I submit to you, I'm not feeling I'm not

2465
01:43:08,720 --> 01:43:11,320
Speaker 4: finling as a woman. As a woman, I can't speak

2466
01:43:11,320 --> 01:43:13,880
Speaker 4: for women, but I think as a woman, if you're

2467
01:43:13,880 --> 01:43:17,240
Speaker 4: gonna submit to me, basically be like, you're not disagree

2468
01:43:17,280 --> 01:43:19,160
Speaker 4: with me, but you're asking me, are you sure? So

2469
01:43:19,280 --> 01:43:20,840
Speaker 4: I know if my wife asked me, am I sure?

2470
01:43:21,080 --> 01:43:23,400
Speaker 4: That means she don't agree, but she not just coming

2471
01:43:23,439 --> 01:43:26,920
Speaker 4: off as I'm having a I don't think you should.

2472
01:43:26,680 --> 01:43:27,760
Speaker 2: Do that to me.

2473
01:43:27,840 --> 01:43:29,519
Speaker 7: That's leadership, Yeah it is.

2474
01:43:30,360 --> 01:43:32,479
Speaker 4: But but but but but when you say that, when

2475
01:43:32,479 --> 01:43:35,320
Speaker 4: you be like, oh hell no, then it's like, oh,

2476
01:43:35,360 --> 01:43:36,200
Speaker 4: I can't have a voice.

2477
01:43:36,960 --> 01:43:40,000
Speaker 7: You know, there's a way to community, it's a way

2478
01:43:40,000 --> 01:43:40,559
Speaker 7: to communicate.

2479
01:43:40,640 --> 01:43:45,080
Speaker 4: But that a submission you could come at this same time,

2480
01:43:46,080 --> 01:43:48,400
Speaker 4: what is the normal? What do we see as normal?

2481
01:43:49,120 --> 01:43:50,280
Speaker 1: It is definitely combative.

2482
01:43:50,280 --> 01:43:52,320
Speaker 6: My pops told me with a man, he was like,

2483
01:43:52,400 --> 01:43:54,840
Speaker 6: look for the invitation, you know what I mean, Look

2484
01:43:54,880 --> 01:43:57,639
Speaker 6: for the invitation for your opinion, because sometimes a man

2485
01:43:57,760 --> 01:43:59,640
Speaker 6: is simply talking to you as his woman, because he

2486
01:43:59,720 --> 01:44:02,240
Speaker 6: wants communicate and get it off his chest. There's other

2487
01:44:02,320 --> 01:44:04,320
Speaker 6: times where a man is looking for your advice or

2488
01:44:04,360 --> 01:44:06,280
Speaker 6: your input. He wants you to come up with a

2489
01:44:06,320 --> 01:44:08,640
Speaker 6: solution because he might not have noe. He wants he

2490
01:44:08,760 --> 01:44:10,880
Speaker 6: wants to run solutions value to see which one you

2491
01:44:11,000 --> 01:44:12,960
Speaker 6: think is the most valuable. So I think you have

2492
01:44:13,040 --> 01:44:15,360
Speaker 6: to look for the infortation when you're being submissive, because

2493
01:44:15,360 --> 01:44:17,000
Speaker 6: you can still have a voice, but you have to

2494
01:44:17,000 --> 01:44:18,720
Speaker 6: see what it is that your partner's actually looking for.

2495
01:44:18,960 --> 01:44:20,760
Speaker 6: Sometimes he wants you to confirm, like.

2496
01:44:20,800 --> 01:44:22,120
Speaker 1: Hey, baby, this is a good idea.

2497
01:44:22,439 --> 01:44:24,040
Speaker 6: Sometimes he wants you to come in and be like,

2498
01:44:24,120 --> 01:44:26,639
Speaker 6: oh baby, I'm gonna certain the ABC. These are multiple

2499
01:44:26,720 --> 01:44:28,320
Speaker 6: choice options, like what's your thoughts?

2500
01:44:28,439 --> 01:44:28,600
Speaker 3: You know?

2501
01:44:28,920 --> 01:44:30,960
Speaker 1: And then he might even he might just want to

2502
01:44:31,160 --> 01:44:32,000
Speaker 1: just have as simple as that.

2503
01:44:32,120 --> 01:44:34,000
Speaker 6: Sometimes he might want to know the why now, why

2504
01:44:34,000 --> 01:44:37,160
Speaker 6: do you think that? Sometimes he might say, look, baby,

2505
01:44:37,200 --> 01:44:38,599
Speaker 6: I just seen this shit on Instagram.

2506
01:44:38,680 --> 01:44:40,360
Speaker 1: He folks is making money. Can you help me put

2507
01:44:40,400 --> 01:44:40,719
Speaker 1: this together?

2508
01:44:40,800 --> 01:44:40,920
Speaker 2: Now?

2509
01:44:40,960 --> 01:44:42,880
Speaker 1: He's asking for you to coordinate it coming over with

2510
01:44:43,040 --> 01:44:44,280
Speaker 1: So you have to know how to submit.

2511
01:44:44,560 --> 01:44:47,800
Speaker 4: Submission is to me, the best form of submission is

2512
01:44:48,720 --> 01:44:51,240
Speaker 4: coming up with a plan and making a nigga feel

2513
01:44:51,280 --> 01:44:51,920
Speaker 4: like he came up.

2514
01:44:51,880 --> 01:44:57,040
Speaker 1: With no for sure, definitely, definitely. It's a hero complex.

2515
01:44:59,080 --> 01:44:59,280
Speaker 3: Thing.

2516
01:44:59,400 --> 01:45:01,600
Speaker 1: Though you don't hang out. I can know how to

2517
01:45:01,640 --> 01:45:03,479
Speaker 1: hang up these blinds, but I'm like, baby, I can't

2518
01:45:03,560 --> 01:45:05,719
Speaker 1: reach up there. It's hard, Like, can you can you teach.

2519
01:45:05,600 --> 01:45:06,600
Speaker 7: Me how to do that? You need me?

2520
01:45:07,160 --> 01:45:09,240
Speaker 1: Yes, I need you. I'll let I'll let him tell

2521
01:45:09,320 --> 01:45:10,720
Speaker 1: me the story over and over again and act like

2522
01:45:10,760 --> 01:45:11,559
Speaker 1: I heard it the first time.

2523
01:45:11,560 --> 01:45:14,920
Speaker 7: The first time. God, I got to ask me a

2524
01:45:15,040 --> 01:45:16,840
Speaker 7: question the other day and they said women shouldn't have

2525
01:45:16,840 --> 01:45:18,519
Speaker 7: a program. What's y'all thinking about that program?

2526
01:45:18,640 --> 01:45:19,000
Speaker 4: What you mean?

2527
01:45:19,600 --> 01:45:21,360
Speaker 8: Like we were talking about something and I was like, shit,

2528
01:45:21,479 --> 01:45:23,680
Speaker 8: fucking with my program? Ship, you ain't doing how I

2529
01:45:23,720 --> 01:45:24,960
Speaker 8: feel like I need you to do. I'm just gonna

2530
01:45:25,000 --> 01:45:26,519
Speaker 8: leave it in no conversation we have. So that was

2531
01:45:26,560 --> 01:45:27,080
Speaker 8: the context.

2532
01:45:27,200 --> 01:45:28,960
Speaker 4: I think you have a program, but you just can't

2533
01:45:29,320 --> 01:45:31,599
Speaker 4: in a relationship where like you got a program because

2534
01:45:31,640 --> 01:45:35,160
Speaker 4: I'm a part of Yeah, like you got your own

2535
01:45:35,200 --> 01:45:37,000
Speaker 4: program here, you got your own emotion, But when you

2536
01:45:37,120 --> 01:45:39,960
Speaker 4: come around me, it's our I'm driving the car.

2537
01:45:40,040 --> 01:45:43,960
Speaker 1: Baby, the submissive is way more powerful drive too.

2538
01:45:44,080 --> 01:45:46,320
Speaker 4: She want to hand on stairs with her. You paid

2539
01:45:46,360 --> 01:45:47,519
Speaker 4: to gas, paid to gate break.

2540
01:45:48,240 --> 01:45:49,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's smooth.

2541
01:45:50,600 --> 01:45:53,920
Speaker 7: So you feel like the women can have but they

2542
01:45:54,160 --> 01:45:54,960
Speaker 7: is how they go about.

2543
01:45:55,800 --> 01:45:59,080
Speaker 4: Your program is for your life. My program is for

2544
01:45:59,200 --> 01:46:02,760
Speaker 4: our life. But your programming adds to our life.

2545
01:46:02,760 --> 01:46:04,519
Speaker 8: Because I felt like the way it was presented was

2546
01:46:04,560 --> 01:46:07,200
Speaker 8: like women ain't supposed to have no expectational like you know,

2547
01:46:07,280 --> 01:46:08,720
Speaker 8: it's just kind of like you just take what you

2548
01:46:08,760 --> 01:46:09,160
Speaker 8: get type.

2549
01:46:09,439 --> 01:46:12,160
Speaker 2: I'm like, that's like.

2550
01:46:17,080 --> 01:46:17,719
Speaker 4: It's ceiling.

2551
01:46:17,920 --> 01:46:23,439
Speaker 3: This is the independent Is the independent women overrated or

2552
01:46:23,479 --> 01:46:24,519
Speaker 3: the independent rated?

2553
01:46:24,600 --> 01:46:25,320
Speaker 4: Yeah? I don't like it.

2554
01:46:26,120 --> 01:46:28,040
Speaker 7: I don't like I don't want to be so.

2555
01:46:29,520 --> 01:46:33,679
Speaker 4: Most of the independent women independent woman, it's the woman

2556
01:46:33,760 --> 01:46:38,680
Speaker 4: who din't gave up, Like no nobody. You got a

2557
01:46:38,920 --> 01:46:40,800
Speaker 4: of woman respond Yeah, you got a lot of women

2558
01:46:40,840 --> 01:46:44,880
Speaker 4: that's responding in that way, like because they don't looked

2559
01:46:44,920 --> 01:46:46,920
Speaker 4: in the mirror, see like the niggas gonna be to

2560
01:46:46,920 --> 01:46:47,240
Speaker 4: deal with me.

2561
01:46:48,560 --> 01:46:50,960
Speaker 7: So they made the decision for themselves before anybody else could.

2562
01:46:51,200 --> 01:46:54,280
Speaker 4: Make That's what it is. They know, they knowing like

2563
01:46:54,680 --> 01:46:56,519
Speaker 4: it's eight to twenty. I can't get with the aid.

2564
01:46:56,720 --> 01:46:57,760
Speaker 4: I can't get with the twenty.

2565
01:46:57,840 --> 01:46:59,599
Speaker 7: It's really they're not willing to work on themselves.

2566
01:46:59,680 --> 01:47:01,280
Speaker 4: Like so it's like, no, not even that.

2567
01:47:01,920 --> 01:47:02,600
Speaker 1: I can't say that.

2568
01:47:02,720 --> 01:47:04,320
Speaker 4: I can't even say that. I can't even say that

2569
01:47:04,560 --> 01:47:06,960
Speaker 4: women are being independent because they're forced to be. It's like,

2570
01:47:07,320 --> 01:47:09,760
Speaker 4: there's no room for me in this world. It's like

2571
01:47:10,720 --> 01:47:12,840
Speaker 4: half of these niggas on the other side, half of

2572
01:47:12,840 --> 01:47:15,240
Speaker 4: these nigga narcissiest, half of these niggas ain't got enough

2573
01:47:16,080 --> 01:47:18,479
Speaker 4: for me. So it's like most of the niggas that's

2574
01:47:18,560 --> 01:47:20,519
Speaker 4: worth something, it's already somebody holding on to their leg

2575
01:47:20,600 --> 01:47:22,720
Speaker 4: ain't let them go. I ain't gonna be no side bitch.

2576
01:47:22,720 --> 01:47:24,040
Speaker 4: I ain't gonna do this. So I'm gonna be an

2577
01:47:24,080 --> 01:47:27,439
Speaker 4: independent woman, not by choice, by force, you get what

2578
01:47:27,520 --> 01:47:30,200
Speaker 4: I'm saying. But but they try to wear it as

2579
01:47:30,280 --> 01:47:31,599
Speaker 4: if though they proud.

2580
01:47:32,280 --> 01:47:34,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, they're not proud of that ship you got forced

2581
01:47:34,360 --> 01:47:35,080
Speaker 5: into this you.

2582
01:47:35,080 --> 01:47:37,200
Speaker 4: Got for you know, they ran through.

2583
01:47:40,680 --> 01:47:42,599
Speaker 6: I feel like a lot of independent women like they're

2584
01:47:42,600 --> 01:47:45,360
Speaker 6: in survival mode. Like they're in survival mode. It's like

2585
01:47:45,640 --> 01:47:47,720
Speaker 6: like you said, this ain't gonna work for me. That

2586
01:47:47,760 --> 01:47:49,439
Speaker 6: ain't gonna work for me, But I got it's really

2587
01:47:49,520 --> 01:47:49,680
Speaker 6: like a.

2588
01:47:49,680 --> 01:47:52,360
Speaker 7: Slight little girl like she wearing like a like a thing.

2589
01:47:52,479 --> 01:47:55,720
Speaker 4: But they it's like a group of them though, it's

2590
01:47:55,760 --> 01:47:57,320
Speaker 4: like they're running packs.

2591
01:47:59,120 --> 01:47:59,960
Speaker 7: Don't trust nobody to.

2592
01:48:02,160 --> 01:48:07,960
Speaker 4: They ego like all that fucking girl, like all that ship. Man,

2593
01:48:08,040 --> 01:48:11,479
Speaker 4: you don't feel like that, but you might do because

2594
01:48:11,479 --> 01:48:13,640
Speaker 4: you don't trick yourself to feel like that. It's like

2595
01:48:13,640 --> 01:48:16,240
Speaker 4: a nigga saying he don't need a woman. You don't

2596
01:48:16,280 --> 01:48:18,160
Speaker 4: need a woman for the things that you need, but

2597
01:48:18,240 --> 01:48:18,920
Speaker 4: you need a woman.

2598
01:48:18,960 --> 01:48:19,040
Speaker 3: Bro.

2599
01:48:19,520 --> 01:48:22,559
Speaker 4: Every man need a woman in some type of compacity,

2600
01:48:22,560 --> 01:48:26,080
Speaker 4: even a single man. Like at night time when it

2601
01:48:26,160 --> 01:48:28,599
Speaker 4: when like all my single but when when when? When?

2602
01:48:28,720 --> 01:48:28,840
Speaker 3: When?

2603
01:48:29,080 --> 01:48:31,439
Speaker 4: When the ship? The sun going down? You're trying to

2604
01:48:31,439 --> 01:48:33,880
Speaker 4: see who fin put that won by the next year.

2605
01:48:34,479 --> 01:48:35,960
Speaker 4: Even if it's just for that, I ain't even got

2606
01:48:36,040 --> 01:48:36,479
Speaker 4: to that.

2607
01:48:36,560 --> 01:48:37,280
Speaker 7: I just need that.

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01:48:37,600 --> 01:48:42,880
Speaker 4: It's like a blanket, it's like a it's comfort real ship.

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01:48:43,280 --> 01:48:47,519
Speaker 4: So it's like could we comfort women. So it's just

2610
01:48:47,720 --> 01:48:52,200
Speaker 4: like that nurturing factor of get anything.

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01:48:53,280 --> 01:48:54,479
Speaker 7: I mean, humans need connection.

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01:48:54,600 --> 01:48:56,800
Speaker 8: It's like as a society we've almost got away from that,

2613
01:48:56,880 --> 01:48:59,080
Speaker 8: you know what I'm saying, where it's like we prioritizing

2614
01:48:59,120 --> 01:49:02,120
Speaker 8: all this like products and go, go, go and achievementsing

2615
01:49:02,200 --> 01:49:05,559
Speaker 8: credentialism and you know, and consumerism and all these things. Well,

2616
01:49:05,600 --> 01:49:06,560
Speaker 8: then it's like, at the end of the day, I

2617
01:49:06,600 --> 01:49:09,280
Speaker 8: feel like that's the reason why our relationships are suffering,

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01:49:09,400 --> 01:49:10,799
Speaker 8: you know, going.

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01:49:10,680 --> 01:49:12,439
Speaker 6: Back to what you say, while we be in conflict

2620
01:49:12,479 --> 01:49:16,200
Speaker 6: because we're chasing the idea. Yes, And it'd be like,

2621
01:49:16,320 --> 01:49:19,559
Speaker 6: your natural instinct is to be codependent.

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01:49:19,160 --> 01:49:21,880
Speaker 8: And other people like a lot of people's success, well,

2623
01:49:22,000 --> 01:49:25,240
Speaker 8: happiness and piece and shit is dependent upon this, this

2624
01:49:25,360 --> 01:49:26,800
Speaker 8: and this, as long as the money is right, as

2625
01:49:26,880 --> 01:49:28,600
Speaker 8: long as he's doing this, as long as this. But

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01:49:28,680 --> 01:49:30,200
Speaker 8: it's like you really got to get to a point

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01:49:30,200 --> 01:49:32,320
Speaker 8: where it's like, regardless of what's going on outside of you.

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01:49:32,479 --> 01:49:35,720
Speaker 6: I think condition love has too many conditions in our

2629
01:49:35,800 --> 01:49:39,439
Speaker 6: society now versus it just being love and then letting

2630
01:49:39,600 --> 01:49:42,400
Speaker 6: people have boundaries of what kind of love they like,

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01:49:42,479 --> 01:49:45,120
Speaker 6: the coexistent and what love they don't like the coexisting.

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01:49:45,280 --> 01:49:48,040
Speaker 6: Like some people might be Okay, we're just being broke

2633
01:49:48,120 --> 01:49:50,840
Speaker 6: and driving over each in the car because they that's

2634
01:49:50,920 --> 01:49:51,800
Speaker 6: what love is to them.

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01:49:52,120 --> 01:49:57,800
Speaker 4: Like two people don't understand that. Bro We look at

2636
01:49:57,880 --> 01:50:00,519
Speaker 4: certain ship just because some people don't get money. You

2637
01:50:00,560 --> 01:50:02,439
Speaker 4: can turn everything to a hustle. Bro I know a

2638
01:50:02,520 --> 01:50:04,880
Speaker 4: girl that getting real money out that ubi. She got

2639
01:50:04,960 --> 01:50:08,120
Speaker 4: a plan. Yeah, don't jet all that. The girl said

2640
01:50:08,120 --> 01:50:11,200
Speaker 4: she's making like sixteen thousand dollars a month doing that ship.

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01:50:11,400 --> 01:50:12,400
Speaker 4: That's a lot of money.

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01:50:12,680 --> 01:50:13,000
Speaker 2: Just like you.

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01:50:13,320 --> 01:50:21,639
Speaker 7: If you're hustling something smaller.

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01:50:18,320 --> 01:50:24,000
Speaker 1: That's still a small small But it's all about the

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01:50:24,080 --> 01:50:25,400
Speaker 1: person who's doing anything.

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01:50:25,760 --> 01:50:26,240
Speaker 2: Man for.

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01:50:28,200 --> 01:50:31,880
Speaker 4: So gender words two three coming. What's the moral of

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01:50:31,960 --> 01:50:32,559
Speaker 4: the story, y'all?

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01:50:33,160 --> 01:50:33,880
Speaker 1: Security bag?

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01:50:36,080 --> 01:50:38,840
Speaker 7: I can't trust you, trust you.

2651
01:50:39,320 --> 01:50:41,759
Speaker 4: If I do something to you and you stay around,

2652
01:50:41,880 --> 01:50:46,160
Speaker 4: I can't trust you. The better for you to just leave, man.

2653
01:50:46,320 --> 01:50:47,240
Speaker 7: I guess I don't know.

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01:50:48,520 --> 01:50:48,960
Speaker 3: I don't know.

2655
01:50:49,320 --> 01:50:51,040
Speaker 4: More stories. What you gotta be.

2656
01:50:51,120 --> 01:50:54,360
Speaker 6: Honest with who you are and be more mindful and

2657
01:50:54,479 --> 01:50:56,720
Speaker 6: cognizant the type of person who you're looking for and

2658
01:50:56,800 --> 01:50:59,160
Speaker 6: then go off that and not give what anybody thinks.

2659
01:50:59,240 --> 01:51:02,640
Speaker 4: But anybody didn't know who they're actually looking for or

2660
01:51:02,720 --> 01:51:04,599
Speaker 4: do they have an idea who they want to they

2661
01:51:04,640 --> 01:51:07,040
Speaker 4: get that person that they're saying they're looking for. I think.

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01:51:10,000 --> 01:51:11,800
Speaker 1: People don't know what they want because they don't know

2663
01:51:11,800 --> 01:51:12,479
Speaker 1: who they are.

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01:51:13,920 --> 01:51:16,439
Speaker 4: Just like anything you get, bro, anything you get, you

2665
01:51:16,479 --> 01:51:19,439
Speaker 4: get tired of it immediately. Anything So you think you

2666
01:51:19,479 --> 01:51:21,320
Speaker 4: don't get tired of people. I get a call once

2667
01:51:21,400 --> 01:51:28,839
Speaker 4: everybody see their car and you you you, you instantly

2668
01:51:28,920 --> 01:51:32,720
Speaker 4: regretted after you take it off. It's like we were

2669
01:51:32,920 --> 01:51:34,440
Speaker 4: as people were never satisfied.

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01:51:34,880 --> 01:51:36,599
Speaker 1: Well, I think we get we go get a lot

2671
01:51:36,680 --> 01:51:39,280
Speaker 1: of things because what we want other people to see

2672
01:51:39,600 --> 01:51:41,759
Speaker 1: us have them more than we actually want facts.

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01:51:42,360 --> 01:51:44,800
Speaker 6: And so you're not actually doing what it takes to

2674
01:51:44,920 --> 01:51:47,680
Speaker 6: keep that ship because you only cared about people seeing that.

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01:51:49,240 --> 01:51:59,680
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