Speaker 1: Hi, Catherine. Oh hate Chelsea. I was with my sister
Speaker 1: in San Francisco, caretaking for her because she had that
Speaker 1: surgical procedure. Oh my god. I was such a good nurse.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, yeah, she has this huge scar
Speaker 1: down her back which was really gnarly, and I was
Speaker 1: like listen. I was up there for ten days over Thanksgiving,
Speaker 1: in between my tour dates, and I was able to
Speaker 1: like be there for her, which was very meaningful. But
Speaker 1: right away I was like, let's get into some physical therapy.
Speaker 1: Like I brought bands, I had my like pilates ring,
Speaker 1: I had like very light weights. She's like, Chelsea. They
Speaker 1: told me not to do anything for six to eight weeks,
Speaker 1: like you're not a doctor. I'm like, bitch, I am
Speaker 1: a fucking doctor. And until the physical therapist, because we
Speaker 1: had to wait to find a pt that could come.
Speaker 1: She was gonna wait a month to go to physical therapy.
Speaker 1: Finally I found, you know, through my assistant. She found
Speaker 1: somebody to come over to her apartment. Right away gave
Speaker 1: her every single exercise that I gave her. The physical
Speaker 1: therapist is like, now you do, and she's looking at me.
Speaker 1: She goes, oh my god, you are a doctor, And
Speaker 1: I was like, I am a doctor, Simone, Okay, you
Speaker 1: need to follow my lead. You need to keep your
Speaker 1: at moving at all times. That's how you gain strength.
Speaker 1: That's why they make you like get up after you know,
Speaker 1: six hours after the worst, most gnarly surgeries. They make
Speaker 1: you You've got to get up right away. It's not
Speaker 1: like forty years ago, you know what I mean, Like,
Speaker 1: you have to build strength. And we'd go for walks
Speaker 1: each day. We would add a thousand steps and by
Speaker 1: the time I left, we walked over the Golden Gate
Speaker 1: Bridge together and Shoppy, oh my god. Yeah, she was
Speaker 1: in great shape. She's like, wow, you really know what
Speaker 1: you're talking about. I was like, yeah, I do. She's
Speaker 1: a medical professional everyone, and I know you have a
Speaker 1: cold this week. But we actually recorded most of this
Speaker 1: episode with Otsko a few weeks ago when we were
Speaker 1: all in the throes of midterm elections. Uh, Chelsea, I
Speaker 1: have a time sensitive question that I wanted to get
Speaker 1: your opinion on. So Karen sent us an email. She's
Speaker 1: thirty four, she says, Dear Chelsea, I'm the youngest child
Speaker 1: of a mildly dysfunctional family and have two older sisters
Speaker 1: forty and forty five, respectively, and an older brother. All
Speaker 1: my siblings are married with children, and I'm the KIANTI
Speaker 1: to eight nieces and nephews ranging an age from eighteen
Speaker 1: down to two. I'm in need of your perspective and advice.
Speaker 1: My brother and sister in law just sent out an
Speaker 1: email to myself and my two sisters stating how that
Speaker 1: now that their oldest is eighteen, they don't want us
Speaker 1: giving presents to her for Christmas or birthdays. They said,
Speaker 1: we have to stop giving gifts at some point. I
Speaker 1: disagree and replied, stating that I think gift giving is
Speaker 1: the voluntary choice of the giver, and so if they
Speaker 1: don't want to give anything, don't. But you can't tell
Speaker 1: me not to, especially about giving a gift to another adult,
Speaker 1: even if they are your child. It's been over a
Speaker 1: week and it's radio silence on the group email, no replies,
Speaker 1: but I know that she has since started side messages
Speaker 1: with each of my sisters. I've come to terms with
Speaker 1: my place in the family and the fact that I'm
Speaker 1: given less credibility because I'm unmarried with no children, even
Speaker 1: though I'm an independently successful woman in a high powered career,
Speaker 1: my own mortgage, retirement savings, and have traveled the world.
Speaker 1: But what do I know? I'm not sure how to
Speaker 1: go forward with Christmas? This here. I love giving a
Speaker 1: good gift and seeing the joy on someone's face when
Speaker 1: you nail it. I don't want it to feel like
Speaker 1: I'm punishing my brother's kids by not giving a gift
Speaker 1: to them either, since that would only be fair. What
Speaker 1: should I do, though? Do I give nothing to everyone?
Speaker 1: Do I leave one out or three out? Do I
Speaker 1: give extra presents to spite my sister in law? Do
Speaker 1: I make a donation in their name or buy them
Speaker 1: therapy sessions to unpack their childhood? Help? As a fellow youngest?
Speaker 1: What do I do? I'm at a loss. Karen, Oh, Karen,
Speaker 1: do your thing, Get your gifts for all of your
Speaker 1: nieces and nephews. Don't overdo it. Just do what you
Speaker 1: would normally do. Nobody can control whether or not you
Speaker 1: give a gift to somebody else. That's their prerogative. If
Speaker 1: they don't want to give the gift to their eighteen
Speaker 1: year old kid, you're that You're an aunt, that's your specialty.
Speaker 1: That's what we're here for, is gift giving, so keep
Speaker 1: continuing to do that. I co sign exactly give those gifts. Amen.
Speaker 1: But anyway, this episode is exciting. We take this episode earlier,
Speaker 1: you guys. It's with one of my favorite Comedianssko Okotska,
Speaker 1: who's special is now available to stream on HBO called
Speaker 1: the Instruder, and she's our guest today and she's fucking funny.
Speaker 1: So get ready Otsko Okotska, everybody say it three times,
Speaker 1: Katsko cut Scott, thank you, Chesse. You know what it is.
Speaker 1: It's actually Chelsea, It's it isn't my yarka. Do you
Speaker 1: all remember it is? It's Chelsea. That's that's like they
Speaker 1: always have to add like a little flare right. Well,
Speaker 1: my my German grandmother used to call me Chelsei and
Speaker 1: I fucking hated that pronunciation. I mean she sounded like
Speaker 1: such a Nazi every time she said it. Nine yeah,
Speaker 1: nine is no in German. How's the Spanish going? Thank
Speaker 1: you for asking? Actually, yeah, pay attention, and you know
Speaker 1: what it is. When you know Otsko Kotska, it's just
Speaker 1: like so different than than Spanish. And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: maybe she's got Spanish brain. Well that's a great use,
Speaker 1: but no, I mean, I've been taking Spanish lessons again.
Speaker 1: My Spanish is getting very good, actually not very good,
Speaker 1: but like my Bell now speaks to me only in
Speaker 1: Spanish and I understand of what she's saying rather than
Speaker 1: it used to be. And now I can speak in
Speaker 1: the past tense, which I learned through my tutor. So
Speaker 1: it's developing, and I'm just going to keep my practice
Speaker 1: in my books every day like a little girl. Well
Speaker 1: not every day, but like once a week I do
Speaker 1: my workbook for my homework for my Spanish class. So
Speaker 1: it feels good. Like I like to learn, you know,
Speaker 1: and I'm so into language, so it's perfect. And my
Speaker 1: Bell is like I was talking to her about like
Speaker 1: pronunciations and she was like, oh, you know, you don't
Speaker 1: say that in Mexico and I'm like, well, no offense,
Speaker 1: but like I'm using this for Spain and she's like, well,
Speaker 1: I just only know it in slang, and I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: no offense either, but I'm not trying to learn slang.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to learn proper Spanish that I could speak regionally,
Speaker 1: and I had different sorts of regions. She's trying to
Speaker 1: make you relatable to the streets yeah, yeah, well, exactly
Speaker 1: how many languages do you speak out? I speak three,
Speaker 1: but I feel like all of them not that well,
Speaker 1: and one of them is the one I'm talking to
Speaker 1: you in. You know, it's really just like a lot
Speaker 1: of its improvisation. What are the languages that you speak?
Speaker 1: I speak Mandarin, Japanese and English and oh oh no, no,
Speaker 1: she's been moisten. O god, and it's fruit punch flavored
Speaker 1: electrolytes because I'm eight. Oh, it's okay. Why does that stain? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's okay. I'm just gonna have a stained shirt. No, No,
Speaker 1: it's okay, don't worry. There's nothing that's gonna help it.
Speaker 1: I'm drinking during this podcast too, so hopefully I also
Speaker 1: have a spill. I'm so shy. She's just like that
Speaker 1: a maxim is that a Maxi shield? I have Maxi
Speaker 1: shields before you though, okay, I give them to every
Speaker 1: guest before Maxi shield it's for you put in your
Speaker 1: Pikachu when you have your period and your underwear. It's
Speaker 1: like a little padne. But I like the word shield, yeah,
Speaker 1: because it sounds ridiculous. You know, I was like, I
Speaker 1: need to know that this new invention I don't use
Speaker 1: that because I'm getting what they call an ablazeon next
Speaker 1: month before Christmas as my Christmas gift to myself, which
Speaker 1: means they go inside your uterus and scorch it, blanche
Speaker 1: it with steaming hot water so that you don't bleed anymore,
Speaker 1: because I'm so sick of getting my period, like I'm
Speaker 1: over it. So it just gets so hot that your
Speaker 1: uterus just goes like no more. It's just you're killing it.
Speaker 1: You're killing the blood, so the blood. Like one percent
Speaker 1: of people have a period again after they do this,
Speaker 1: But my sister did it because my periods just like
Speaker 1: you know, I don't I don't want to deal with
Speaker 1: this anymore. And you know I have too much other
Speaker 1: ship to deal with. I don't want to deal with it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: every three weeks, it's like again again again it's supposed
Speaker 1: to be every four weeks. Are you getting your period
Speaker 1: every three weeks? Because I'm a guy to cologist? Oh
Speaker 1: isn't that every Oh it's oh my gosh. You know
Speaker 1: mine comes at different times. We're very different people. You're
Speaker 1: on it, you know, I see your videos about like
Speaker 1: this is how you pronounced this word. I'm the type
Speaker 1: of person that's like, look, you know what I meant,
Speaker 1: you know, and you just imagine what I meant. But honestly,
Speaker 1: I thought it was every three weeks, because then a
Speaker 1: week is when I have the period. Can you make
Speaker 1: sure the cameras on? Because her price tag is still
Speaker 1: on her clothing. That's what I'm saying by we're different people.
Speaker 1: I used to do this everyone I worked. Your price
Speaker 1: tags are still on your clothes and you gotta return
Speaker 1: this or should I take? Can you tell me how
Speaker 1: much it was before? I'm okay put it back in
Speaker 1: because I'm still thinking about I thought, for some reason,
Speaker 1: this was like a sale one. Anyway, Otsko always wears
Speaker 1: the same outfit when I see her, and so I'm
Speaker 1: convinced that she went and got this outfit just to
Speaker 1: be like I have different outfits because she's like I listen,
Speaker 1: you've seen all my outfits already. Oh girl, I'm going
Speaker 1: to free people right after this. Yeah, I'll be like,
Speaker 1: do you take returns after I've been near a spill?
Speaker 1: Maybe you should try and return this as an extra challenge.
Speaker 1: You've already dried up, just like your pussy is gonna do.
Speaker 1: I'm so excited for you, just like my pussy is
Speaker 1: gonna dry up right after that ablation. There's really nothing
Speaker 1: grosser than dry pussy. Like even when any anyone says
Speaker 1: anything like that, it's such a disgusting thought. I know,
Speaker 1: I know that's not what I meant. You know. What
Speaker 1: I meant was I'm so stoked for you that that
Speaker 1: that you're never going to get your period again. It's
Speaker 1: all I dream about, it's all that's what I'm doing
Speaker 1: it for you, and I can't. You know, I don't
Speaker 1: use tampons because not that it's like, oh I'm so
Speaker 1: small down there, but it always falls out. Yeah that
Speaker 1: means you're actually big if so that is a problem.
Speaker 1: Oh right, yeah either way. Yeah, So I hate using pads.
Speaker 1: I just feel like a baby once a month. I don't, like,
Speaker 1: I've never used a pad, even the first time I
Speaker 1: got my period, I think it was thirteen, and my
Speaker 1: sister came into the bathroom and she was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: you can use this or this, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna not gonna walk around with blood floating between
Speaker 1: my legs in like open areas, Like that's gross. It's
Speaker 1: so gross. But I guess some people really don't tampons.
Speaker 1: I swear to God a tampa. I do not know
Speaker 1: how to keep it in. That would be the advice
Speaker 1: I ask you about later. I mean, we could to
Speaker 1: keep a tamp on it, and I'll show you we
Speaker 1: can do some kegels. But had to wrap this episode
Speaker 1: up when where I swear it's not because I'm too big.
Speaker 1: I think it's because I'm too small, Like I literally,
Speaker 1: are you putting it in the front? Are you putting
Speaker 1: in the back? I'm putting it what like, Okay, this
Speaker 1: is a trick question, but what do you mean back?
Speaker 1: You know that when you get your period, you're supposed
Speaker 1: to put your fut in your asshole, and they put
Speaker 1: it in my PV hole. What do you think I'm not?
Speaker 1: I'm not bird brained. I have Yeah, obviously I'm putting
Speaker 1: it in where you're getting scorched. That's why I'm putting
Speaker 1: where you're putting your tampon it and it falls out
Speaker 1: no matter what size you use, yes, like yeah, it's
Speaker 1: it's just always halfway hanging out. You know what, I
Speaker 1: don't understand about tampons. And this sounds really stupid at
Speaker 1: my age, but I am stupid about a lot of things.
Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna say it because my old assistant
Speaker 1: Karen Whacker, told me, She's like, you know, your tampon
Speaker 1: isn't going into your p hole. It's going into your
Speaker 1: your vagina hole where you have sex out of. And
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, but then why when I pe,
Speaker 1: does the tampon get get wet? Yeah? I do have
Speaker 1: that question too, maybe because it's like falling out a
Speaker 1: little bit already, Like especially if it's already a little
Speaker 1: bit soaked, it can fall out a little bit and
Speaker 1: then you're like, oh, no, this is it's got p
Speaker 1: on it. It shouldn't be getting that. It does, though,
Speaker 1: it does every time I take a tampon out, even
Speaker 1: if it hasn't come out a little and I've paid
Speaker 1: with it in like if you because for me, I'm
Speaker 1: always like, oh, I just thought you always had to
Speaker 1: take your tampon out when you pee because it was
Speaker 1: coming out of the same hole. And this was until
Speaker 1: I was in my thirties and someone explained to me
Speaker 1: it's a different hole, and I was like, oh, ship
Speaker 1: shitsky doodle again, wait way to come late to the party.
Speaker 1: And then I was like, but wait, why does it
Speaker 1: always get wet and it comes out a little when
Speaker 1: you pee, sometimes the tampon can come out. That's that's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Maybe because you're bearing down, are you
Speaker 1: bearing down a little bit? I mean I'm always bearing
Speaker 1: down at all time. There's always some thing in there,
Speaker 1: and I have to hold on to whatever is in there.
Speaker 1: Even when I'm driving. Sometimes this is stick shift. Sometimes
Speaker 1: it's just like, don't come out right. That's why I'm
Speaker 1: a pad girl. That's why I walk around like a
Speaker 1: baby every month, and one day soon I will do
Speaker 1: the ablation to ablizion ablation. Yeah, ots go is another
Speaker 1: person that isn't looking to have children, so you could
Speaker 1: get an oblation. Right? Are you still there? Do you
Speaker 1: still feel that we're still there? I don't think that's
Speaker 1: going to change. People would say, oh, you know that
Speaker 1: clock it's gonna hit right, and I'm like, what what clock?
Speaker 1: I know that much about myself where I don't think
Speaker 1: I'll change. I know, I know it's so annoying people
Speaker 1: still ask me that I'm forty seven years old. I'm like,
Speaker 1: when are you going to get the fucking message that
Speaker 1: I can't have a baby anymore? Yeah? Like little things change,
Speaker 1: like maybe my favorite color, but like you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, Like, I'm not gonna a whole life change. Okays,
Speaker 1: talk a little bit. Tell everybody about your history and
Speaker 1: how you moved over here, the circumstances about how you
Speaker 1: moved over to the United States, because it's a fascinating story. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I came to the States when I was ten.
Speaker 1: My uma said we were coming for a two months vacation,
Speaker 1: and then she had us oversteered towards visas, and then
Speaker 1: we became undocumented, and then we were stuck here, and
Speaker 1: then I made the best of it by doing stand
Speaker 1: up comedy. You lived in a garage, right right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I lived in my uncle's garage with your mother and
Speaker 1: your grandmother, with my mother and grandmother. It's like if
Speaker 1: you've seen great gardens, it's kind of like that, but
Speaker 1: let's less room to move around probably, but yeah, great gardens,
Speaker 1: but poor and one more person. If you follow Otso
Speaker 1: on social media, she posted videos all the time of
Speaker 1: her and her grandmother, who is adorable, and our grandmother
Speaker 1: gets down to business. So tell us about that experience, though.
Speaker 1: What was that like going to school when you I mean,
Speaker 1: you had to learn the language when you got here, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: and so it's kind of like immersion. What my bell
Speaker 1: is doing to you right now, it's part time emersion
Speaker 1: was doing too you Yeah, part time you know pretty much. Yeah,
Speaker 1: where you know, everyone's speaking that language, and that is
Speaker 1: really the quickest way to learn a language is uh,
Speaker 1: no forgiveness, you know what I mean, no room for
Speaker 1: you know, explaining what's going on. No, just this is
Speaker 1: how I talked to you. Yeah, it was. It was
Speaker 1: tough because also like you're a kid and you want
Speaker 1: to really fit in, and I feel like yeah. And
Speaker 1: then I was also embarrassed about our circumstances. So I
Speaker 1: didn't invite friends back to my place because you know,
Speaker 1: even for birthdays or something. If it was my birthday,
Speaker 1: you know, I would just not have a party because
Speaker 1: I didn't want them being like, oh, you live here,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Yeah, And my mom and grandma,
Speaker 1: they're just like elbow to elbow. A garage is it's
Speaker 1: a lot to hold three generations of people, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, and our whole as personalities and baggage.
Speaker 1: It's not enough space for My mom has schizophrenia. And
Speaker 1: then I developed an eating disorder too, And I remember
Speaker 1: like thinking back, being like, God, a garage is not
Speaker 1: enough space for and eating disorder, and you need a
Speaker 1: lot of space. Well, you need privacy for an eating disorder,
Speaker 1: you do. Yeah, And so we were just so on
Speaker 1: top of each other, and so I'm kind of you know,
Speaker 1: I joked that I'm sort of delayed and stunted as
Speaker 1: an adult because I feel like it wasn't until I
Speaker 1: got out of that situation that I was able to
Speaker 1: finally have like the confidence to be like, hey, you know,
Speaker 1: do you want to hang out? Do you want to
Speaker 1: be friends? So I'm kind of late in the game
Speaker 1: with socializing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I met Otsco at Largo, Yes, yeah, Largo?
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah yeah. I think that was the first
Speaker 1: time we met, that's true. Yeah, yeah, because I was
Speaker 1: following her on social media and she's so funny. And
Speaker 1: she also did that drop down challenge where everybody, what's
Speaker 1: that song called again? Yeah? Beyonce's partition, give me something? Yeah,
Speaker 1: and then you dropped your ass down, which is basically
Speaker 1: the only dance move I can do, and I can't
Speaker 1: even really nail that one. It's so slow motion that
Speaker 1: I thought maybe this is for me. That's what you're like,
Speaker 1: one of the most athletic people I know, well athletic,
Speaker 1: but I don't have rhythm. But it's like a squad.
Speaker 1: That's why I could do it. And then Odsco slid
Speaker 1: into my d MS asking if she could open me,
Speaker 1: open for me, open me. She wanted to open me,
Speaker 1: and I said, sure, open for me on a couple
Speaker 1: of stand up dates, and I was like, yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 1: I love that you asked me. And then I met
Speaker 1: your husband, who's also just a sweetheart, and you just
Speaker 1: taped your HBO special which is going to come out
Speaker 1: in December. I did, which you gave me so much
Speaker 1: advice about, and so I super appreciate it because I
Speaker 1: called you to be like, I had this opportunity to
Speaker 1: maybe do it all Broadway first, which would mean more
Speaker 1: dates running it, you know, maybe a hundred more times
Speaker 1: more than that before taping it, and you're like, you know,
Speaker 1: just tape it because and that's how I worked too,
Speaker 1: and so that was really great advice. And that's why
Speaker 1: it's coming out already. You know, that's exciting. Do you
Speaker 1: know the date it's coming out yet? December tenth is
Speaker 1: exciting going for Yeah, December. T Your special comes out
Speaker 1: December ten. My special comes out December hers this on
Speaker 1: HBO minus on Netflix amazing, Yes, yeah, baby, December is
Speaker 1: a good time. People are at home, they want to
Speaker 1: watch stuff with family. Maybe they're sad. Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 1: Oh how nice? Is that? Awesome? And how did the
Speaker 1: taping go? Tell us the taping went? Well, it was
Speaker 1: in New York. I kind of wish I did it
Speaker 1: in l A now, but everyone's always like, don't do
Speaker 1: it in l A. L A. People are jaded with cameras,
Speaker 1: so they're not gonna show it as much excitement, you know.
Speaker 1: But I'm an l A baby. I've been here since
Speaker 1: I was ten, and so it's just one thing I
Speaker 1: would for my next for your next special. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: a good experience. Nonetheless, I mean for your next special,
Speaker 1: we'll take that in l A. Yeah. And so New
Speaker 1: York was great, Brot. Grandma flew Grandma first you guys,
Speaker 1: I saw you posting her on for her in first class.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, she was. She she was like this
Speaker 1: lays down flat, you know. Oh. And I could just
Speaker 1: keep bugging the people for food and snacks. And I
Speaker 1: found Chelsea that when I was in first class because
Speaker 1: I had never flown first class too. I could not
Speaker 1: sleep because I was like, oh, I think I need
Speaker 1: to be a little uncomfortable to be able to sleep,
Speaker 1: because that's what I'm used to. Well, no, it's not sad,
Speaker 1: but it's like I can see that being true. Yeah,
Speaker 1: where it's like, oh, like you know, I need too comfortable.
Speaker 1: I need to be sitting up straight and my neck
Speaker 1: cricket and I need to have a kink in my
Speaker 1: neck when I wake up. Truly be comfortable. It's so wild. Yeah, anyway,
Speaker 1: be totally exhausted, feeling awful. That's how you fall asleep
Speaker 1: on a plane. You don't ever win. It's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: It's yeah, the grass is always greener, and then even
Speaker 1: when you get there, the grasses and stopped being green
Speaker 1: and it turns yellow. Oh yeah, we got to Well,
Speaker 1: somebody urinated on it or had their period who didn't
Speaker 1: have an oblation in that order. Everybody, if you're having
Speaker 1: trouble following this conversation, you're not alone. Yeah, go back
Speaker 1: listen to what we just talked about. Catch yourself up
Speaker 1: and talk about how you met your husband. We met
Speaker 1: through a mutual friend, and you know, we had gosh,
Speaker 1: like third day in we were at this patio. You know,
Speaker 1: it was a nice, nice day in l A. And
Speaker 1: there was somebody who was sort of talking to themselves
Speaker 1: and people at the restaurant were sort of afraid and
Speaker 1: didn't know what to do. And Ryan, my husband, knew
Speaker 1: how to handle the person and sort of calmed them down.
Speaker 1: And it kind of surprised me because I was like, wait,
Speaker 1: how do you know to do that? Because it was
Speaker 1: like signs of schizophrenia, which is one my mom has.
Speaker 1: So I recognized it and I was like, how do
Speaker 1: you know how to deal with someone with that? And
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, my mom has it too, and so
Speaker 1: that was yeah. So it was kind of cool where
Speaker 1: I was like, well, I was already feeling you and
Speaker 1: liking you a lot, but this really like turn yeah
Speaker 1: a connection, yeah, a connection and the empathy. You know,
Speaker 1: everyone was scared to deal with this unhoused person who
Speaker 1: was talking to themselves. But this guy that I was
Speaker 1: ready to funk, but I was like, yeah, well funck
Speaker 1: now you know right where he was like so kind
Speaker 1: to this person and knew how to calm them down,
Speaker 1: you know, So that's it's always surprising when men surprise
Speaker 1: us with just regular things that women would do, and
Speaker 1: we're like, that's so hot and so sexy. When men
Speaker 1: show empathy, Yeah, that's why. That's why there's waves of
Speaker 1: like women, I don't think we'll have the fandom of
Speaker 1: like Kianu Reeves or you know, oh his Mystery. You
Speaker 1: know he's worked with mostly women directors, and that's supposed
Speaker 1: to be mind blowing, you know, like where I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, he is so hot God, and he's
Speaker 1: just you know, he just lives in hotels and you know,
Speaker 1: he works with mostly women directors and it's like you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like when women do that, it's
Speaker 1: like not as much of an allure I think. So
Speaker 1: it's not hot, it's more like, oh, they're starting a movement,
Speaker 1: you know what. I'm going to Disney that after this
Speaker 1: actually psychotic. Actually, Katherine just came from Disney, you did.
Speaker 1: I just went this weekend. Oh my gosh. Yes, I
Speaker 1: got a Mickey tumbler. I bought all the Christmas merch.
Speaker 1: I haven't even told my husband about it yet. I
Speaker 1: got bowls with Christmas Mickey. I got a platter with
Speaker 1: Christmas Mickey. It was too much. It's too much. Katherine
Speaker 1: and I have nothing in common. No, I mean I
Speaker 1: was gonna. I mentioned this because I was like, I mean,
Speaker 1: how does it feel to have too Disney adult friends
Speaker 1: great right next to you on election day? When our
Speaker 1: bodies are at stack? You guys are changing on a
Speaker 1: roller coaster. Because that's how I deal with chaos. You're
Speaker 1: gonna go to Disneyland. Have you done this before during
Speaker 1: a chaotic day? No? But this year it felt right.
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, if I find out what
Speaker 1: happens with the elections, I want to at least be
Speaker 1: upside down on the roller coaster screaming. You know, I know,
Speaker 1: I don't even know if we're going to find out everything.
Speaker 1: Today people are like already filing lawsuits for things that
Speaker 1: haven't even happened yet. It's just like, oh, great, this
Speaker 1: could carry on for weeks. I hope not. I mean,
Speaker 1: I hope most of them get called. But yeah, I'm
Speaker 1: not that optimistic. I hope we have some surprises, but
Speaker 1: I just I'm so sick and tired of this nonsense.
Speaker 1: You know, for sure, Yeah for this you can always
Speaker 1: move to Spain. Yeah I can I can move to Spain,
Speaker 1: or I can move to Canada. Yeah that's closer. But
Speaker 1: you're learning Spanish, you know, But I'm also learning Canadian.
Speaker 1: It's so cool. What have you learned? I'll talk to
Speaker 1: you about that later. Okay. All you have to learn
Speaker 1: in Canada has had to skim. Has never been skiing though, right, No,
Speaker 1: I'm not like a outdoors athletics person. Like the extreme sports.
Speaker 1: I don't I like to watch. Yeah, I got it.
Speaker 1: Do you like to watch it? Though? Like if my
Speaker 1: friend is doing it, I'll stand there and watch. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's very horny energy, Like would you like to watch
Speaker 1: the Olympics when that happens? Oh? Not really? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I watched the I watched the performance. Oh the Spice
Speaker 1: girls are back together, you know that kind of thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well that's the super Bowl the Olympics. That Icce girls
Speaker 1: don't fucking perform, so they did one time in London
Speaker 1: a long time for the Olympics. Yeah, yes, I was
Speaker 1: at the Olympics that those Olympics. Yeah, I went to
Speaker 1: the London Olympic competing. Yes, I actually was. I was
Speaker 1: doing the curl. It's called curling, but I call it
Speaker 1: the curl and it's men's I was competing with the
Speaker 1: men's team. So on this podcast, we give advice, life
Speaker 1: advice to people. So I just molested you. Um, we
Speaker 1: give life advice. We have real people calling, in writing,
Speaker 1: in calling Katherine, you can break down for us what
Speaker 1: we have in store for today. Yes, we actually have
Speaker 1: a couple of really big questions. And you're so open
Speaker 1: about so much of the stuff that you've been through.
Speaker 1: I was able to pull some really great questions for
Speaker 1: you that are right in your wheelhouse. So oh great,
Speaker 1: even better, the stakes are high. Yeah, we can take
Speaker 1: a quick break and then we'll be right back for callers. Okay,
Speaker 1: we're gonna take a quick break and we're back. We're back,
Speaker 1: and we're back. We're back. So our first question comes
Speaker 1: from Kalina. She's in Romania. I was just gonna say
Speaker 1: where the fund is Kalina from, because I have never
Speaker 1: heard that Lena Romania, Romania. Dear Chelsea, my name is Kalina.
Speaker 1: I'm a thirty year old girl from Romania. I really
Speaker 1: enjoy your podcast. It opens my mind while making me laugh.
Speaker 1: Great combo. I struggle with anxiety, with depression, sprinkles. I'm
Speaker 1: also neurodivergent, which makes life even more interesting. I'm an
Speaker 1: only child and the only family I have close by
Speaker 1: are my parents, so all my life I relied on
Speaker 1: making strong connections with friends, which come easy. I'm currently
Speaker 1: going to therapy, but it's a long process. As you know,
Speaker 1: based on your experience as a human on this planet,
Speaker 1: I would love your input. I tend to rely on
Speaker 1: other people to feel safe, to feel loved, and to
Speaker 1: feel worthy, which is funny because I really enjoy being alone,
Speaker 1: but I just need to know that there's someone there
Speaker 1: just in case. Because of this, I sacrifice my knees
Speaker 1: and self sabotage, sometimes spending time with people who don't
Speaker 1: treat me well because of that fear of being alone,
Speaker 1: even though I'm well aware that what people do is
Speaker 1: out of my control. My question is how do I
Speaker 1: become enough for myself? How do I become secure enough
Speaker 1: to make decisions and be clear about what I want?
Speaker 1: How do I feel worthy? Thank you for sharing your joy, Kalina. Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry to hear that, Kalina. I think that one
Speaker 1: of the ways in which you can make yourself feel
Speaker 1: more full without relying on somebody to fill you up,
Speaker 1: because that's not really a great recipe, you know, Like
Speaker 1: I mean, you can get that from a spouse or
Speaker 1: a partner in the best, most ideal situation, but ideally
Speaker 1: for you even to find that person or best friend,
Speaker 1: you really have to be full on your own because
Speaker 1: you kind of attract what you are. So if you
Speaker 1: are healthy and you are alone and you're happy doing that,
Speaker 1: which is an exercise, not everybody feels comfortable being alone.
Speaker 1: And there was a long period of time in my
Speaker 1: life where I was never alone. I always had a
Speaker 1: group of people around me. I always had lots of
Speaker 1: you know, action, chaos. Even when I grew up, I
Speaker 1: was in a family of six kids, so there was
Speaker 1: always commotion and there was always action and I took
Speaker 1: that through my adulthood because I thought that's the way
Speaker 1: things were supposed to be. And it wasn't until I
Speaker 1: went to therapy where I learned how to be by
Speaker 1: myself and through therapy, and this is something that I
Speaker 1: learned even before therapy, is like what do you do
Speaker 1: when you are alone? What are the things and the
Speaker 1: activities that fill you up? Like for me, it's reading
Speaker 1: books and watching TV and exercising, Like I love to
Speaker 1: do all of those three things, and I do that
Speaker 1: always alone. I don't like to exercise with other people.
Speaker 1: I obviously don't like to read books with other people
Speaker 1: because that doesn't make any sense. And I like watching
Speaker 1: TV with people, but it's like my alone activities. So
Speaker 1: what I would say, on a very basic, fundamental level,
Speaker 1: is to pick three things that you really love to do,
Speaker 1: and then start doing that in your alone time by yourself,
Speaker 1: to just kind of recharge and regenerate your own relationship
Speaker 1: with yourself, because that's really all that is ever going
Speaker 1: to matter in your life. When you can depend on you,
Speaker 1: that is going to get you through every difficult time
Speaker 1: and every happy time. And the more secure you become,
Speaker 1: the more secure that the people you attract in your
Speaker 1: life are going to be. What do you think, Wow,
Speaker 1: that was really you know, as a person who's never alone,
Speaker 1: I'm so opposite, you know, because I'm like, gosh, I'm
Speaker 1: just always with at least my husband. And so I
Speaker 1: will say I was working out to somebody, and I
Speaker 1: that is a time I do it myself. Besides, you know,
Speaker 1: I like to work out by myself too. The workout
Speaker 1: teacher said, you know, she had gone through a divorce.
Speaker 1: I get very heavily invested in my fitness instructors. But
Speaker 1: she just went through divorce, and she was saying, you know,
Speaker 1: it was hard to get through the divorce and having
Speaker 1: to wake up alone because she hadn't been alone in
Speaker 1: a long time. But once he was gone, you know
Speaker 1: from her life, she was instead of waking up and
Speaker 1: loving someone else, she was forced to love herself. And
Speaker 1: I was like, oh wow, that's so true. And so
Speaker 1: you know, it's just that switch of a mindset where
Speaker 1: it's like when people aren't around, take that as an
Speaker 1: opportunity to be like, oh, I can invest in me
Speaker 1: right now. What am I thinking? What am I my feelings?
Speaker 1: I love myself instead of being like what do you
Speaker 1: need right now? What do you need to know? What
Speaker 1: do I need right now? And so I think it's
Speaker 1: just a switch of a mindset kind of like instead
Speaker 1: of I'm nervous to go on stage, it's I'm excited
Speaker 1: to go on stage kind of yes, or nerves me
Speaker 1: and I'm excited, you know. Or nerves are a good thing.
Speaker 1: That's what I remember someone telling me, Like, when you're nervous,
Speaker 1: it means you care. I'm like, Okay, Now, if I
Speaker 1: can think about it that way, this means I care,
Speaker 1: which is much better than not caring at all. And
Speaker 1: I think one of the things that you said that
Speaker 1: stood out, Kalina, is it, Kalina, Yeah, am I saying
Speaker 1: that right? Okay? Great? Is that your friends are like
Speaker 1: sometimes you're not hanging around with the best people that
Speaker 1: you could choose to hang out with, and that's a
Speaker 1: telltale sign that you have work to do on yourself,
Speaker 1: because a healthy person just doesn't need that in their lives.
Speaker 1: So don't settle just for whoever you can hang out with.
Speaker 1: Actually be discerning about the people you choose to hang
Speaker 1: out with, and I think that will yield a much
Speaker 1: better quality of person. Mm hmm. These questions are the
Speaker 1: big questions in life, like how do I make myself
Speaker 1: feel worthy and feel like I am enough by myself?
Speaker 1: And while those are huge questions that we can't necessarily
Speaker 1: answer on this show, I think those specific things are
Speaker 1: also where things like affirmations can come in. Just like
Speaker 1: Osco said, our brains are very malleable. Just reframing what
Speaker 1: you're thinking, spending time with yourself telling yourself how great
Speaker 1: you are. You know, that you're smart, whatever your qualities
Speaker 1: that you love the most. Finding some affirmations that really
Speaker 1: feel good to you can help reframe just the thoughts
Speaker 1: come up in your brain on a routine basis. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, we mentioned Laura Lynn Jackson earlier, that famous
Speaker 1: Long Island medium. She's not the Long Island medium because
Speaker 1: there's another Long Island medium. But anyway, Laura Lynn Jackson,
Speaker 1: who's a good friend of mine, I go, I just
Speaker 1: want to be positive towards everybody, even the people that
Speaker 1: I don't like. I want to have good vibes. I
Speaker 1: want to throw good vibes at them. I want them
Speaker 1: to succeed. I don't want to wish for anyone to
Speaker 1: have bad luck or bad fortune or whatever. And she
Speaker 1: gave me this exercise where you get up every morning
Speaker 1: and you write, you know, for one minute, the first
Speaker 1: thing before you do anything, before you even brush your teeth,
Speaker 1: you write down for one minute, just everything you're grateful for.
Speaker 1: And there is scientific data that proves that after twenty
Speaker 1: one days, you're changing your energetic field, which is the
Speaker 1: field of energy that you give off. And so I
Speaker 1: already shared that with like two of my girlfriends because
Speaker 1: my girlfriend said to me. Three days later, she said
Speaker 1: the same thing to me. She goes, I am so
Speaker 1: fucking mad at this woman. I'm so pissed. I hate her.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, you don't hate her, don't even put
Speaker 1: your energy towards that. And I gave her the exercise
Speaker 1: that I have been doing. It's been like nine or
Speaker 1: ten days since I've been doing it, and it's so
Speaker 1: easy to wake up and just write all down, the
Speaker 1: write down all the things that you're grateful for. It
Speaker 1: could be your dogs, it could be your bed, it
Speaker 1: could be your job, it could be the weather, it
Speaker 1: could be someone you know, your mother's health, all of
Speaker 1: those things, and you can change your vibe. And I
Speaker 1: think by having a higher vibration, which is a definite
Speaker 1: scientific thing. It's not woo woo talk, it's true, like
Speaker 1: are you a positive or you a negative? Everyone knows
Speaker 1: a negative. And I'm sure I'm not saying that you
Speaker 1: are clean up. But I think that would be a
Speaker 1: great exercise for you to do. You do it for
Speaker 1: twenty one days and you will feel it immediately. I
Speaker 1: promise you. I love that. Well. Our next color is
Speaker 1: Ryan and um just as what I do, my wife
Speaker 1: has always going to Disneyland. I hope not, because this
Speaker 1: one's about a breakup. So, okay, can you imagine if
Speaker 1: he broke up with you? On my podcast, God talk
Speaker 1: about a gratitude. So he's twenty three years old, he says,
Speaker 1: Dear Chelsea, he's gay, Right, he's gay. He is gay. Indeed,
Speaker 1: we don't have straight man call in, got it? We
Speaker 1: have a block. Maybe that's why he's leaving you. I'm
Speaker 1: currently in a long term relationship and desperate to get out.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend and I have been together for four years,
Speaker 1: and last year I decided it was time to move
Speaker 1: in together. I had just graduated college and he was
Speaker 1: planning on transferring to a school in the big city.
Speaker 1: Things were going great for a while. I landed my
Speaker 1: dream job and love life in the city. The issue is,
Speaker 1: I've realized we're each in very different places in our lives,
Speaker 1: and I don't know that we're still compatible As a result.
Speaker 1: My entire life, I've been told that I was very
Speaker 1: mature for my age, and I could feel this was
Speaker 1: true for myself. I feel that I'm at a threshold
Speaker 1: of an exciting new chapter in life. The transition into
Speaker 1: adulthood is when I've waited my entire life for and
Speaker 1: for the first time ever, I feel as if I
Speaker 1: have all my ducks in a row. My boyfriend, however,
Speaker 1: seems to be feeling the opposite. As twenty something in college,
Speaker 1: he exhibits all of the behavior as one would expect,
Speaker 1: and I don't blame him for any of this. I
Speaker 1: want him to do all the fun things that you're
Speaker 1: supposed to do at that time, but I can't help
Speaker 1: but feel as though we're holding each other back. I've
Speaker 1: essentially made up my mind about leaving him, but there
Speaker 1: are two major issues. The first is that he is
Speaker 1: completely financially dependent on me. When we moved to the city,
Speaker 1: I was the one with the big boy job, so
Speaker 1: it was clear that I would be the one paying
Speaker 1: for our new lives. He lives with me here and
Speaker 1: if we were to break up, he wouldn't have anywhere
Speaker 1: to go. The other issue is that I know he's
Speaker 1: still head over heels in love with me, and if
Speaker 1: I were to end things, I know it would destroy him,
Speaker 1: and I don't know that I have the heart to
Speaker 1: do it. I have so much love and respect for him,
Speaker 1: but just feel that we're operating in different phases of life.
Speaker 1: In the recent episodes of the podcast, I've listened to
Speaker 1: you talk so much about showing up for yourself, and
Speaker 1: I think in order to show up for myself, I
Speaker 1: need to exit this relationship. I just don't know how.
Speaker 1: Thanks for your help. Ryan, Hi, Ryan, Hi, Hi Hi.
Speaker 1: This is our special guest Otsco. Nice to meet you. Wow,
Speaker 1: just like so heartfelt and honest, honest words. I'm glad
Speaker 1: you're so self aware to note that you need to
Speaker 1: exit though. Thank you. Yeah. In the Chelsea's episode with
Speaker 1: Ross Matthews, she said it's undignified to pretend that things
Speaker 1: are okay when they're not. And I've never heard somebody
Speaker 1: phrase it like that, and it is so undignified. And
Speaker 1: I don't consider myself an undignified person, which has brought
Speaker 1: me to this decision. The thing is, I made the decision,
Speaker 1: and now I just don't know how to execute it. Okay,
Speaker 1: So how long have you guys lived together? Only a
Speaker 1: couple of months? About six months? Okay, Well that's great
Speaker 1: news because it hasn't been like, you know, years, So
Speaker 1: that's to unravel the relationship. I know you've been dating
Speaker 1: for longer than six months, but you've been living together
Speaker 1: for six months, right, correct? And does he work? Yes,
Speaker 1: he does, and he pays a fraction of the rent, but,
Speaker 1: as I said in the letter, is completely financially dependent
Speaker 1: on me. Okay, well, that's also not your problem, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. You can unravel this relationship in
Speaker 1: a nice, dignified way by just setting up a boundary like, Okay, listen,
Speaker 1: I know this is hard. I mean, obviously you're gonna
Speaker 1: have to break up with him, you know that already.
Speaker 1: So however you want to manage that. The financial aspect
Speaker 1: and the codependent aspect is something that you can just
Speaker 1: show grace in. You know, you can say, hey, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna help you. I'm gonna give you three more months.
Speaker 1: Why don't you start saving your money so you don't
Speaker 1: have to pay me rent? I want to you know
Speaker 1: you're gonna live alone anyway, right, you can afford to
Speaker 1: pay your rent for yourself, correct, Right, and give him
Speaker 1: three months or whatever time frame feels right to you.
Speaker 1: Don't let it go though, six more months. That's really unhealthy. Yeah.
Speaker 1: That one other caveat that I forgot to mention in
Speaker 1: the letter is he's about to go on this giant
Speaker 1: vacation for the holidays to Germany, And I don't know
Speaker 1: if I should do it before that and potentially ruin
Speaker 1: his big trip, or wait until after er and just
Speaker 1: prolong this pretending that's tricky, that is hard. I I
Speaker 1: my instinct would say to wait until he gets back.
Speaker 1: I don't know what do you girls think about that?
Speaker 1: How long is he in Germany for? He's gonna go
Speaker 1: for a couple of weeks. He'll leave around the nineteenth
Speaker 1: of December, and he'll get back around New Year's Okay,
Speaker 1: so that's still like about five six weeks away before
Speaker 1: he leaves. I think if you have a month before
Speaker 1: he goes, If you have that much time before he goes,
Speaker 1: I think you should because that could be an opportunity
Speaker 1: for him to actually grow a little bit and be
Speaker 1: out and about in the world, knowing that his relationship
Speaker 1: isn't there when he gets back. It's not him going
Speaker 1: on the assumption that he's coming back to you. If
Speaker 1: you have that amount of time, I would say, definitely
Speaker 1: do it before. Do it as soon as possible, and
Speaker 1: you know that you want to do this before he
Speaker 1: goes on that trip, so you know he's going to
Speaker 1: have some time to think about things, and you definitely
Speaker 1: don't want to ruin anything, but you just can't be
Speaker 1: this dishonest with each other at this point. You're being
Speaker 1: sawnest with yourself and him. Yeah, yeah, agreed. I think
Speaker 1: you can't do it like the week before he leaves,
Speaker 1: like do it, do it this week, so he's got
Speaker 1: a month to adjust and then I'll have a few
Speaker 1: weeks where you can go like have fun. But you
Speaker 1: also don't have to be playing the game of like
Speaker 1: miss you sweetie on the phone and you know that
Speaker 1: sort of thing. Yeah, And has he left the country
Speaker 1: like this before on a trip like this? No? Not really. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I think giving him the space to acclimate to
Speaker 1: the idea before he goes away. I think major things
Speaker 1: happen when people go on their first trips overseas, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. It's a major wake up call
Speaker 1: and it's a major growth spurt. So I think the timing,
Speaker 1: if you can do it sooner than later, give him
Speaker 1: some you know, room to like, you know, you don't
Speaker 1: want him to cancel the trip, obviously, and if you
Speaker 1: did it right before, there's a chance he could do that.
Speaker 1: But you want to give him some space to think
Speaker 1: about it, and some space when he's away from you,
Speaker 1: when there's distance ince time, that's the best time to
Speaker 1: contemplate and reflect on things. And by the time he
Speaker 1: comes back, you know what I mean, you're almost kind
Speaker 1: of like if you say, from now, I'll get of
Speaker 1: you two months or three months, don't pay rent to
Speaker 1: me anymore. I want you to start saving your money.
Speaker 1: I'm going to pay the rent whatever is comfortable for
Speaker 1: you financially. Obviously, don't bend over backwards because he's not
Speaker 1: your responsibility. You can be generous, but you don't have
Speaker 1: to be his you know, sugar Daddy, that's just not
Speaker 1: necessary for anyone when you're breaking up. That's just the
Speaker 1: way it goes. And just remember people break up all
Speaker 1: the time, like people get heartbroken a lot. It's you're
Speaker 1: not the first person to break his heart. And I
Speaker 1: know that would be difficult for you, But what will
Speaker 1: be more difficult is living like a lie. Yeah, I agree,
Speaker 1: and I think you're definitely right. I think that giving
Speaker 1: him some time to go on this trip and heal himself,
Speaker 1: I think is the better is the better option. And
Speaker 1: like I talked to my best friend about this, and
Speaker 1: she had said that I had like involuntarily taken on
Speaker 1: this sort of caretaker role, not even in the There
Speaker 1: is the financial aspect, but there's also, like I said,
Speaker 1: the biggest thing for me is the emotional aspect that
Speaker 1: I just wasn't really prepared for before all of this.
Speaker 1: So I think you're definitely right, and I think I
Speaker 1: need to do it sooner around than later. And these
Speaker 1: are also really honest conversations that you can have. While
Speaker 1: they may seem challenging, you're going to give him tools
Speaker 1: for his movement forward by being honest with him that
Speaker 1: it's too much for it's too much of an emotional
Speaker 1: burden for you, and and that you know you didn't
Speaker 1: expect this, and and and your feelings have changed so
Speaker 1: that when he goes into his next relationship, he has
Speaker 1: a different dynamic instead of him repeating the same patterns.
Speaker 1: You know, he may do that anyway, but at least
Speaker 1: if you're truthful with somebody as hurtful as it, maybe
Speaker 1: there's always a softer way to say everything. And if
Speaker 1: you're truthful with somebody, then they can really take that
Speaker 1: information and do something different in their next relationship. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I totally agree. Do you think there's a way to
Speaker 1: offer that, like financial support for a moment of like
Speaker 1: you can live here for a couple more months, you can,
Speaker 1: I'll pay you don't have to pay me rent. That
Speaker 1: doesn't come off as condescending. It sounds like you have
Speaker 1: a lot of respect and love for this person, but
Speaker 1: it's it is not working out anymore. So I would
Speaker 1: just say, you know, I want to be there for
Speaker 1: you as this transition happens, and you know we'll continue
Speaker 1: to have the situation where I'm paying for the rent
Speaker 1: for the next however much time. You think that he
Speaker 1: needs to get on his feet, but like, let's aim
Speaker 1: for this date for you to be finding somewhere else
Speaker 1: to be. And I don't think you offering to pay
Speaker 1: the rent is condescending, you know, like it's not like
Speaker 1: you I mean, only if you said in a really
Speaker 1: condescending way. The act of it is very generous and
Speaker 1: it's sweet, and you love him, you know as a person,
Speaker 1: you're just not in love with him anymore, and it's
Speaker 1: not an arguable thing. You know, giving him plenty of
Speaker 1: time before his trip is generous, giving him plenty of leeway,
Speaker 1: and when he moves out is also generous. Then you
Speaker 1: can feel good about this down the road. I mean
Speaker 1: he's going to have a whole roller coaster of emotions
Speaker 1: about this, definitely. Yeah, I agree. That was my biggest
Speaker 1: fear coming into this is that you guys would say,
Speaker 1: you know, you just have to do it. But I
Speaker 1: think you know when that's I think you just know
Speaker 1: that that that's what's right. If that's what's you know, okay,
Speaker 1: I'll be the devil's advocate. You how can you stay
Speaker 1: with him? No, it's the loving thing I think to
Speaker 1: to leave before it turns into resentment and then it's
Speaker 1: gonna be worse for eat both of you. Yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 1: I agree. And there's also a dynamic that can start
Speaker 1: when someone doesn't leave when they know they're ready to leave,
Speaker 1: which is that you're wasting his time to go and
Speaker 1: find out what's next for him, Meet somebody else, make
Speaker 1: out with a German on his trip, you know, whatever,
Speaker 1: whatever it might be. Don't say that to him. Don't
Speaker 1: tell him to make out with a German on his trip.
Speaker 1: Nobody likes that when they're being broken up with, go
Speaker 1: find somebody in Germany. Totally let it be his idea. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I completely agree, and just act with dignity like that
Speaker 1: sentence struck you remember that, be dignified, you know, to
Speaker 1: be dignified with your generosity, Be dignified with your attention
Speaker 1: that he needs while you're breaking up. But don't sell yourself.
Speaker 1: Don't say Okay, fine, I'll stay in the relationship because
Speaker 1: you're so upset. Being dignified means like you have to
Speaker 1: give people bad news. Absolutely, and that's why I mean
Speaker 1: that was part of my decision to write into this podcast.
Speaker 1: I think you being so candid about all of this
Speaker 1: has helped me be a more candid and honest person.
Speaker 1: And the candid, honest person that listens to Dear Chelsea
Speaker 1: would be honest in this relationship, say that it's time
Speaker 1: for things to end, and doing it, like you said,
Speaker 1: in a dignified way. Yeah, definitely. So you put on
Speaker 1: that seatbelt, turn that car on, and go straight to
Speaker 1: talk to him right now now. I'm just kidding, honestly,
Speaker 1: might just do that? Okay, Well, great, keep us posted.
Speaker 1: Will you like check in with us in a few
Speaker 1: weeks and let us know what happened. I will thank you, Okay,
Speaker 1: thanks so much? Ryan, call us back when ots goes
Speaker 1: not here. Okay, I'm bad at this. I'm bad at this.
Speaker 1: You are good, though you. There's so much love for
Speaker 1: him there and you could see it, and that's why
Speaker 1: this is the decision you're making. Thank you. I appreciate
Speaker 1: that guy. Thanks for your help. Okay, bye Ryan, Ryan, Bye, bye,
Speaker 1: am I fired. Can you imagine if that was Ryan
Speaker 1: wearing a disguise and he was really talking about you,
Speaker 1: can you imagine that's a that's our round four, that's
Speaker 1: our suv reason right now. He shows up to the studio,
Speaker 1: He's like, hey, so I bought you to have ticket
Speaker 1: to go to Germany. He's like, I know that one
Speaker 1: if you knew this, but you're going to Germany. Look
Speaker 1: there's a lot of men out there in Germany. You
Speaker 1: can make out with the German. Catherine said, so well.
Speaker 1: Our next collar is Anna. The subject line is Shame,
Speaker 1: Regret and dental bills. Dear Chelsea, I'm a thirty four
Speaker 1: year old woman who's fought hard for the life I
Speaker 1: lived today. As a young teen, living in a trauma
Speaker 1: filled household, I developed an eating disorder that followed me
Speaker 1: through many eras of my life. At one point in
Speaker 1: my twenty is I was hospitalized multiple times for major
Speaker 1: dehydration and electrolyte imbalance due to bolimia. After a final
Speaker 1: near death experience, I finally decided that recovery was my
Speaker 1: only option. Since then, a lot has happened, a divorce,
Speaker 1: graduate school, major career changes, lots of self discovery. Now
Speaker 1: I'm healthy, happy, and proud of the person I am today.
Speaker 1: I have a job that allows me to be creative
Speaker 1: while helping others, a wonderful partner of four years, a
Speaker 1: dog i'm obsessed with, and a life of adventures big
Speaker 1: and small. For the last several years, I've worked primarily
Speaker 1: low paying jobs in education and the nonprofit space. While
Speaker 1: I don't make much, I've worked hard to save a
Speaker 1: humble amount of money, and I'm in a better place
Speaker 1: than ever financially. My new job has afforded me with
Speaker 1: dental insurance, and this summer I went to a dentist
Speaker 1: for the first time in a couple of years, since
Speaker 1: I didn't have dental insurance prior to that. But because
Speaker 1: of my years of bolimia, my teeth are very damaged.
Speaker 1: After a thorough exam with my new dentist, I learned
Speaker 1: that dental work I had done years ago needed to
Speaker 1: be replaced a SAP to avoid losing multiple teeth. The
Speaker 1: total cost of the essential procedures is well over ten
Speaker 1: thousand dollars. There are also additional things that would be
Speaker 1: really good for me to have done to avoid problems
Speaker 1: down the line, but those total and additional eighteen thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: My dental insurance will only pay for a thousand dollars
Speaker 1: worth of work annually, so the rest of that tab
Speaker 1: is on me. When my dentist went over this information
Speaker 1: with me, I couldn't help but crumble into tears. The overwhelm,
Speaker 1: the shame, and hopelessness took over. My dentist was lovely
Speaker 1: and kind and explained how we could break the treatment
Speaker 1: into chunks to lessen the financial blow. Still, I currently
Speaker 1: work for a nonprofit making forty dollars a year, and
Speaker 1: I have two side hustles that pull in about five
Speaker 1: thousand dollars a year. I have student debts, rent a
Speaker 1: car payment, and I still managed to put a little
Speaker 1: into savings every month, but it would take me years
Speaker 1: to pay this off. I've looked into personal medical dental loans,
Speaker 1: but the interest rates on those are astronomical, so that
Speaker 1: option is off the table. I've booked the first set
Speaker 1: of procedures with my dentist totally, and I'll be using
Speaker 1: that savings money to pay for that. But I know
Speaker 1: I need a plan for how to get the rest
Speaker 1: of the care I need. Moreover, this experience has thrust
Speaker 1: me into a familiar spiral of shame, self disgust, and sadness,
Speaker 1: similar to what I dealt with early in my recovery
Speaker 1: from trying to heal from health issues resulting from my
Speaker 1: eating disorder. I worked so hard to overcome those issues
Speaker 1: while also trying to heal from the trauma that caused
Speaker 1: by eating disorder. I know that I need to think creatively,
Speaker 1: ask for help, maybe start a Go fund me campaign,
Speaker 1: but the shame and feelings of self disgusted have me
Speaker 1: frozen in that regard. How can I find a creative
Speaker 1: solution to this problem, which at its heart is just
Speaker 1: a financial issue, but feels so much bigger than that.
Speaker 1: How can I view myself with kindness despite the shame
Speaker 1: and regret I feel overharming myself so many years ago.
Speaker 1: I know your ingenuity and positivity can illuminate resolutions I
Speaker 1: may not be able to see right now. Thank you, Anna, Hianna, Yanna. Hi,
Speaker 1: how are y'all? This is Otsko Okotska. Hi, nice to meet.
Speaker 1: She's our special guest. She's a very funny comedian who
Speaker 1: also had an eating disorder at one point. I've also
Speaker 1: had an eating disorder at one point, so I mean
Speaker 1: most women have, Katherine, did you ever have an eating disorder? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean eating disorders take a lot of different forms,
Speaker 1: but basically, as soon as I learned about calories growing up,
Speaker 1: I immediately developed an eating disorder. So yeah, so sorry
Speaker 1: that you feel such shame. I mean that's the first
Speaker 1: thing that you have to flip around. You know, you're
Speaker 1: healed now, you're better, and like that's something that's very positive.
Speaker 1: And to like sit there and and rate yourself and
Speaker 1: self immolate about something that's in the past is pointless.
Speaker 1: That's just pointless. So you can either start by like
Speaker 1: writing down daily affirmations for yourself. Meditation I think is
Speaker 1: a good way to start putting some more positivity back
Speaker 1: into you from you. The financial aspect of this, I'm
Speaker 1: really not worried about this. You can do is segmented,
Speaker 1: like you're gonna do your first treatment. Yeah, you could
Speaker 1: start a go fund me or you could get do
Speaker 1: you have time to get a waitressing job for a
Speaker 1: short period of time that you work like two shifts
Speaker 1: a week? Is that a possibility? I have three part
Speaker 1: time side hustles right now, So I'm definitely doing doing
Speaker 1: that kind of a thing. The financial aspect of it
Speaker 1: is obviously kind of the simpler thing in a lot
Speaker 1: of ways, right that it is just money. There's a
Speaker 1: little bit of a time crunch with a couple of
Speaker 1: the procedures because they are like, we need to do
Speaker 1: this yesterday, we need to do this last year. Basically
Speaker 1: I did just get the first set of things done.
Speaker 1: Actually had a crown put on for one of the
Speaker 1: procedures like two hours ago, so I just left. It's
Speaker 1: a little while ago, right, and so you know, the
Speaker 1: plan is of right now is to do it in segments.
Speaker 1: Like you were saying, the shame thing is something that
Speaker 1: I've had times where I'm like, I feel good, I
Speaker 1: feel confident in the person I am. I feel like
Speaker 1: the people who love me understand my story and accept me,
Speaker 1: and then things like this will happen where you're like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm such a funk up, like nobody
Speaker 1: get nobody's gonna get this, everyone's gonna judge me, and
Speaker 1: then and then it's just such a process to dig
Speaker 1: out from that, for sure. Yeah, but a real funk
Speaker 1: up would never be we're sitting where you are. That's
Speaker 1: not a funk up by the nature very nature of
Speaker 1: you addressing the issue and having recovered from your eating disorder.
Speaker 1: You've recovered from your eating disorder. So you're not a
Speaker 1: funk up. You're not. You're the opposite. You're somebody who's
Speaker 1: going and handling a situation. Do you know how many
Speaker 1: people would never want to deal with the truth of
Speaker 1: what they have to do and get the work done
Speaker 1: because they don't want to they're so scared of the cost,
Speaker 1: or they're scared of what the doctor's gonna or the
Speaker 1: dentist is gonna tell them. You've been brave. You are brave,
Speaker 1: and you're recovered. You are on your way. This is
Speaker 1: all positive and you're there's no reason to make it negative.
Speaker 1: So you need to have like some deep conversations with yourself,
Speaker 1: and you need to start meditating, and you need to
Speaker 1: start writing daily affirmations down every single morning. When you
Speaker 1: wake up going, I am brave, I am strong, I
Speaker 1: am handling my life independently. All of these amazing things
Speaker 1: that you're doing all by yourself, you have three side
Speaker 1: hustles going. That's fucking badass too. Yeah, it's it's so
Speaker 1: positive to be wanting to take care of something. You know.
Speaker 1: My husband just had ten dental procedures done because he
Speaker 1: was always afraid of it. He grew up with very
Speaker 1: little money and he was just always insecure about his teeth.
Speaker 1: And he was also ashamed that, like, oh god, I
Speaker 1: have so many cavities and these root canals that I
Speaker 1: never got to How could I get it to this point?
Speaker 1: You know? But it's the positive of like, no, okay,
Speaker 1: now I'm going to find a pathway forward to fixing it.
Speaker 1: Some of them were emergency, like we gotta do it today,
Speaker 1: and then the financials we figured out. But the shame
Speaker 1: of it is like all of us are really just
Speaker 1: trying our best, you know, like my mom, to be honest,
Speaker 1: just to go out there with it. My mom hasn't
Speaker 1: showered in twenty years because of mental health issues, and
Speaker 1: she has O c D. She's scared of soap and stuff,
Speaker 1: so talk to people who are supportive about it, because
Speaker 1: you know, when I talk to my mom, I'm never
Speaker 1: shaming her. It's not coming from a place of like reprimanding,
Speaker 1: how could you let this come this far? Whatever? Because
Speaker 1: her to nails are really long, there's infections and stuff,
Speaker 1: But it's really just about being like so proud, like
Speaker 1: so being so proud that you were like, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: start handling it, you know, because that's really a big
Speaker 1: first step. Honestly, it is a big first step. And
Speaker 1: you know what, you should find a support group online,
Speaker 1: like for people who are recovering. That's going to be free.
Speaker 1: There's tons of support groups for people who have eating
Speaker 1: disorders and are recovering from that. And I guarantee you're
Speaker 1: gonna find so many people that are in the same
Speaker 1: position that are going to help build you up and
Speaker 1: may also have ideas of how you can actually afford
Speaker 1: all of these treatments. You know, you're not the only
Speaker 1: person that this is happening to, so remember that you're
Speaker 1: not alone. And I think that would actually be really
Speaker 1: helpful to you because your shame spiral is just because
Speaker 1: you don't have anybody else who's going through the same
Speaker 1: thing sitting around you going, oh god, I did that.
Speaker 1: I did that, you know, and and that would be
Speaker 1: a good up for you to take as well. I
Speaker 1: think you're gonna be fine with paying this off in
Speaker 1: a slower way. I think that's totally reasonable, and you're
Speaker 1: gonna feel so empowered as soon as you start. I'm
Speaker 1: sure you already feel a little bit of that after
Speaker 1: going to the dentist, you know, getting your first crown
Speaker 1: put on. Yeah, the dentist that I've been seeing too
Speaker 1: is just so caring and thorough that I also just
Speaker 1: feel really happy and confident that I'm making the right investment.
Speaker 1: It's not kind of going to be another thing that's
Speaker 1: an issue in a few years, so so that helps also.
Speaker 1: But yeah, you guys are helping me kind of see
Speaker 1: too that I think that I have focused on the
Speaker 1: financial aspect of it, and that's really just been a
Speaker 1: little bit of a cover for this deeper feeling of
Speaker 1: overwhelm and shame. I years ago I had tried to
Speaker 1: kind of do the support group thing and just never
Speaker 1: invested in it. But one thing I do know about myself,
Speaker 1: which is probably evident from having all these side hustles
Speaker 1: and things like that, is that if I set an
Speaker 1: intention to really do something, I will do it. That's
Speaker 1: why I'm in recovery. And so, yeah, you took the
Speaker 1: step to recover from this, you're capable of everything that
Speaker 1: comes after. That was the hardest part. And I think
Speaker 1: what you're doing now seeing that as an extension of
Speaker 1: the self care that you've already done. You have taken
Speaker 1: the steps to you know, go to therapy, go to recovery,
Speaker 1: get yourself to the point where you no longer are
Speaker 1: in an active state of self harm. You're in a
Speaker 1: state of healing, and this is just the next step
Speaker 1: in your healing journey. But the other thing that I
Speaker 1: loved in your in your email was about asking for help.
Speaker 1: Anybody who hears this story is not going to feel like, man,
Speaker 1: she did that to herself. That's not what's going through
Speaker 1: anybody's mind. And so you know, you never know who
Speaker 1: in your life, and maybe you won't know it might
Speaker 1: be anonymous. If you do set up a go fund me,
Speaker 1: you don't know who is going to step up and
Speaker 1: you know, donate to the cause or help you out
Speaker 1: with that. But the first step there is is not
Speaker 1: being alone in this and not keeping it hidden, which
Speaker 1: is probably the scariest part. Right. Yeah. I really only
Speaker 1: talked to my two very closest friends who also have
Speaker 1: an eating disorder history, and my partner in detail about this,
Speaker 1: and there have all been so wonderful and supportive. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like maybe talking more openly to trusted people
Speaker 1: would would be healing in its own way. You live
Speaker 1: in the States, right, yeah. Yeah, for a system that
Speaker 1: works so hard to keep us down, you're crushing it.
Speaker 1: Like for a system where every American girl, the system
Speaker 1: is made so that we're all supposed to get eating disorders.
Speaker 1: I think that average Americans supposed to get a stroke
Speaker 1: at a heart, heart disease, maybe diabetes to these are
Speaker 1: things we're actually supposed to have get as America's you're
Speaker 1: crushing it. May an animals all messed up from the
Speaker 1: throwing up that I used to do too, and like
Speaker 1: and so when you set up something like you know,
Speaker 1: I'll go fund me. Other Americans will understand because it's
Speaker 1: a system that keeps us down, and so we you know,
Speaker 1: if anyone will understand, it's fellow people who have gone
Speaker 1: through it, you know. And yeah, yeah, and I would
Speaker 1: think I would also offer up to say, like, stop
Speaker 1: treating it as some big dark secret. You know, have
Speaker 1: a little levity about it. We all have had eating
Speaker 1: every four out of four of the women that are
Speaker 1: talking right now have had an eating disorder. Like it's
Speaker 1: it's better to be like, oh god, yeah I was.
Speaker 1: I was just you know, a product of my culture.
Speaker 1: I was a product of society. Now I've taken my
Speaker 1: own life into my own hands and I'm driving the
Speaker 1: wheel and stead of letting somebody else drive the wheel
Speaker 1: for me, that's empowering. That is powerful. You're a powerful
Speaker 1: I can tell that by looking at you. You know,
Speaker 1: your teeth are just a reminder and you're never going
Speaker 1: to go back there. And now you are fixing the situation.
Speaker 1: And it might take a little bit longer than you
Speaker 1: would ideally like, but the actual pivot points, like if
Speaker 1: you're looking at a graph or a chart of where
Speaker 1: you are in your life, you're headed in the absolute
Speaker 1: right direction. Yeah, thank you well, And I think that
Speaker 1: it's it's interesting like I'm thirty four, I'll be thirty
Speaker 1: five and a couple of months, and when I was
Speaker 1: like seven was kind of when I was really newly
Speaker 1: in recovery, and I really embraced being very open about
Speaker 1: it and talking to it, almost to the point that
Speaker 1: it was like my whole identity, which is healing in
Speaker 1: its own way, like and I did connect with a
Speaker 1: lot of people, but I also felt like, probably around thirty,
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, I need to do some investing
Speaker 1: in like I don't want to just be like the
Speaker 1: recovered girl. I wanted to invest in the woman version
Speaker 1: of myself and that identity, and I have been doing that,
Speaker 1: and now I do need to do a little bit
Speaker 1: of this reconciliation in some way of Okay, you're a
Speaker 1: woman who's grown in all these different ways, and you're
Speaker 1: still a person in recovery, and there's still stuff that's
Speaker 1: going to come up, and some of it might be
Speaker 1: health problems, and so it's kind of this reintegration again,
Speaker 1: which will continue through through all of life. Absolutely. And
Speaker 1: here's the thing that I can totally relate to about
Speaker 1: what you said. I went to therapy and I made
Speaker 1: so many over corrections, Like I became so self aware
Speaker 1: that I was like, Okay, maybe you shouldn't talk at all,
Speaker 1: because you talk too much, you insert yourself too much,
Speaker 1: you have too many opinions. You're too you tell everybody
Speaker 1: too much of the truth, and I overcorrected, And there
Speaker 1: is a period of overcorrection that we do when we're
Speaker 1: recovering from something, and then we have to kind of
Speaker 1: balance it out and integrate what we've learned with the
Speaker 1: new person that we've become. So it's like, that's totally
Speaker 1: normal what you're describing. Also, like, yeah, that was became
Speaker 1: kind of your identity. Therapy became my identity for a
Speaker 1: period of time, you know, And now I get to
Speaker 1: talk to all these people that call in and help them.
Speaker 1: So that's also something that would really help you helping
Speaker 1: other people that have survived eating disorders and are in recovery.
Speaker 1: Instead of looking at it like you're getting the counseling,
Speaker 1: I think you get a lot of counseling out of
Speaker 1: counseling others. Yeah. Yeah, And another resource we've talked about
Speaker 1: quite a bit on this show that maybe a possibility
Speaker 1: for you as Pandemic of Love. They help people out
Speaker 1: with different situations that they run into, and they pair
Speaker 1: donors with somebody who has a financial issue in order
Speaker 1: to help get that solved. So I would say definitely
Speaker 1: reach out to them see if they can help with
Speaker 1: some of the financials. Yeah, thank you, but you're gonna
Speaker 1: be fine. Everything's going to be great. I appreciate you
Speaker 1: all so much this. You really have helped me kind
Speaker 1: of see things from a different perspective. And it's simple
Speaker 1: and complicated, but that's kind of everything, right Yeah, yeah, totally. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So proud of you taking the steps. Thank you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: all right, well follow up with us. Let let us
Speaker 1: know how everything goes, okay, Anna, absolutely, Yeah, thank you
Speaker 1: guys so much. Chelsea. I love you. This is so exciting.
Speaker 1: I've been breathing this whole time to be calm, but
Speaker 1: you're incredible. I'm excited for you. Thanks, take care, Chelsea.
Speaker 1: I did have one idea, so you know, I know
Speaker 1: Anna has talked about setting up a go fund me.
Speaker 1: What if we could have listeners of the show head
Speaker 1: over to her go fund me. I mean, we can
Speaker 1: put the name in right here and have people head
Speaker 1: over and help with some of those even if they
Speaker 1: have five bucks. Yeah. I think that's a great idea.
Speaker 1: Anyone who wants to help somebody who's recovering from an
Speaker 1: eating disorder, anyone who heard this and who wants to
Speaker 1: help another person. Yeah, I think that's a great idea, Katherine. Okay, great.
Speaker 1: If you'd like to donate to Anna's go fund me,
Speaker 1: take a look at the episode description, it'll be right
Speaker 1: there in the show notes. Good thinking. Well, let's head
Speaker 1: to a quick break and we'll be right back to
Speaker 1: wrap up with Osco and Chelsea. And we're back. Hi hi, hi. Oh.
Speaker 1: That was so deep and I learned so much and yeah,
Speaker 1: I got so emotional, and wow, what a day. That
Speaker 1: was uplifting. Even though those were sad things to be
Speaker 1: talking about, they're all uplifting because it's like seeing somebody
Speaker 1: on the other side of something is really empowering. And
Speaker 1: I'm sure there are plenty of people that are listening
Speaker 1: to this who are experiencing disorders at eating disorders at
Speaker 1: this moment, and plenty of people that are on the
Speaker 1: other side of eating disorders. So feel free to right
Speaker 1: in or call in about any of this stuff, you guys,
Speaker 1: Because everybody just needs somebody to just kind of be
Speaker 1: there for them, and we understand that. And there's something
Speaker 1: about hearing someone else's story, you know, while that's not
Speaker 1: exactly my story, I found it so moving and it's
Speaker 1: exciting to hear about her healing journey and it's tough.
Speaker 1: There's there's tough steps in the middle of that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was hoping that you know, one of you, you're
Speaker 1: more well traveled than I am, would know something about
Speaker 1: like Mexico. But I don't want to be like because
Speaker 1: maybe you could get dental work in Mexico, don't people,
Speaker 1: I don't think that's a good idea. Okay, dental work
Speaker 1: in Mexico. This is how I would do it. But
Speaker 1: I still have my tag on on my shirt. And
Speaker 1: my housekeeper went to Mexico for dental work and it
Speaker 1: was a ship show. Her teeth were not that every
Speaker 1: dentist in Mexico is bad, but wherever she was going,
Speaker 1: I was just too quick. We had to redirect her
Speaker 1: to U. Yeah, our doctor here. But yeah, so I
Speaker 1: wouldn't recommend that. I thought, if you could get dental
Speaker 1: work done in the United States, that's a used to
Speaker 1: do it good. We're good for something and it's good
Speaker 1: done to work. See even though it's cash. Wasn't it
Speaker 1: so good that I didn't bring it up? Though? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just I want a little prop here for not
Speaker 1: not being like Mexico. To you hold your tongue because
Speaker 1: that's totally yeah. I thought about it. Well, Otsco, did
Speaker 1: you have any advice that you'd like to ask from Chelsea?
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, I feel like again like I feel like
Speaker 1: you've already given me so much with you know, even
Speaker 1: figuring out the title to my special, which is called
Speaker 1: The Intruder. It's called the Intruder because there was another option,
Speaker 1: and she was like, intruder, go with your gut instinct.
Speaker 1: And that's such a great piece of advice. Intruder, which
Speaker 1: airs December ten on HBO. You guys, you're gonna fucking
Speaker 1: love this woman. She's so funny. You are going to
Speaker 1: love this special. I cannot wait to see it. Thank you, Chelsea,
Speaker 1: and December go check out Yo Girl, Chelsea h Okotska
Speaker 1: on Netflix on Netflix. That's right double duty. Jesse's like,
Speaker 1: how benevolent can I be to the one person? Over
Speaker 1: and over? She almost sent a person to Mexico and
Speaker 1: we're gonna go. We should give Mike Berbiglia show a
Speaker 1: shout out because we're about to go see that together.
Speaker 1: She and I are going to go see that in
Speaker 1: New York together, and I'm going to come to your
Speaker 1: show on Tuesday. What's the name The Old Man, The
Speaker 1: Old Man and the Pool. The Old Man and the
Speaker 1: Pool is Mike Berbiglia show which had just launched on
Speaker 1: Broadway and it's getting rave reviews, and if you get
Speaker 1: a chance to see it, you should definitely go. And
Speaker 1: we're gonna be there and Chelsea will probably have better
Speaker 1: seas than I will, but we will both see the
Speaker 1: same show. Fabulous. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Always
Speaker 1: check out Osco's new special The Intruder on HBO, And
Speaker 1: if you'd like to donate to Anna's dental work, take
Speaker 1: a look at the episode description. A link to her
Speaker 1: go fund me will be right are in the show notes.
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