WEBVTT - Keeping the Tags On with Atsuko Okatsuka 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:04.680 Hi, Catherine. Oh hate Chelsea. I was with my sister 0:00:04.720 --> 0:00:06.920 in San Francisco, caretaking for her because she had that 0:00:06.920 --> 0:00:10.560 surgical procedure. Oh my god. I was such a good nurse. 0:00:10.640 --> 0:00:13.080 I was like, okay, yeah, she has this huge scar 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:15.200 down her back which was really gnarly, and I was 0:00:15.240 --> 0:00:17.720 like listen. I was up there for ten days over Thanksgiving, 0:00:18.200 --> 0:00:20.159 in between my tour dates, and I was able to 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:23.040 like be there for her, which was very meaningful. But 0:00:23.360 --> 0:00:25.720 right away I was like, let's get into some physical therapy. 0:00:25.880 --> 0:00:28.520 Like I brought bands, I had my like pilates ring, 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:31.280 I had like very light weights. She's like, Chelsea. They 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:33.360 told me not to do anything for six to eight weeks, 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:35.440 like you're not a doctor. I'm like, bitch, I am 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:38.479 a fucking doctor. And until the physical therapist, because we 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:40.880 had to wait to find a pt that could come. 0:00:41.080 --> 0:00:43.040 She was gonna wait a month to go to physical therapy. 0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:46.000 Finally I found, you know, through my assistant. She found 0:00:46.000 --> 0:00:48.240 somebody to come over to her apartment. Right away gave 0:00:48.280 --> 0:00:51.720 her every single exercise that I gave her. The physical 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:53.600 therapist is like, now you do, and she's looking at me. 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:56.320 She goes, oh my god, you are a doctor, And 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:58.280 I was like, I am a doctor, Simone, Okay, you 0:00:58.320 --> 0:00:59.880 need to follow my lead. You need to keep your 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:02.200 at moving at all times. That's how you gain strength. 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:04.760 That's why they make you like get up after you know, 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:07.920 six hours after the worst, most gnarly surgeries. They make 0:01:07.959 --> 0:01:09.679 you You've got to get up right away. It's not 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:11.440 like forty years ago, you know what I mean, Like, 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:13.199 you have to build strength. And we'd go for walks 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:15.880 each day. We would add a thousand steps and by 0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:17.800 the time I left, we walked over the Golden Gate 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:21.360 Bridge together and Shoppy, oh my god. Yeah, she was 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:23.720 in great shape. She's like, wow, you really know what 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:26.920 you're talking about. I was like, yeah, I do. She's 0:01:26.959 --> 0:01:29.560 a medical professional everyone, and I know you have a 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:32.160 cold this week. But we actually recorded most of this 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:34.560 episode with Otsko a few weeks ago when we were 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:38.039 all in the throes of midterm elections. Uh, Chelsea, I 0:01:38.080 --> 0:01:41.160 have a time sensitive question that I wanted to get 0:01:41.200 --> 0:01:46.520 your opinion on. So Karen sent us an email. She's 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:49.840 thirty four, she says, Dear Chelsea, I'm the youngest child 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:53.400 of a mildly dysfunctional family and have two older sisters 0:01:53.560 --> 0:01:57.840 forty and forty five, respectively, and an older brother. All 0:01:57.880 --> 0:02:00.480 my siblings are married with children, and I'm the KIANTI 0:02:00.600 --> 0:02:03.400 to eight nieces and nephews ranging an age from eighteen 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:06.640 down to two. I'm in need of your perspective and advice. 0:02:06.920 --> 0:02:08.960 My brother and sister in law just sent out an 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:12.520 email to myself and my two sisters stating how that 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:15.640 now that their oldest is eighteen, they don't want us 0:02:15.680 --> 0:02:19.320 giving presents to her for Christmas or birthdays. They said, 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:21.960 we have to stop giving gifts at some point. I 0:02:22.080 --> 0:02:25.200 disagree and replied, stating that I think gift giving is 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:27.520 the voluntary choice of the giver, and so if they 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:29.799 don't want to give anything, don't. But you can't tell 0:02:29.840 --> 0:02:32.680 me not to, especially about giving a gift to another adult, 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:35.440 even if they are your child. It's been over a 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:38.680 week and it's radio silence on the group email, no replies, 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:41.880 but I know that she has since started side messages 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:44.760 with each of my sisters. I've come to terms with 0:02:44.800 --> 0:02:46.600 my place in the family and the fact that I'm 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:50.040 given less credibility because I'm unmarried with no children, even 0:02:50.080 --> 0:02:53.120 though I'm an independently successful woman in a high powered career, 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:56.440 my own mortgage, retirement savings, and have traveled the world. 0:02:56.600 --> 0:02:59.000 But what do I know? I'm not sure how to 0:02:59.000 --> 0:03:01.880 go forward with Christmas? This here. I love giving a 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:04.400 good gift and seeing the joy on someone's face when 0:03:04.400 --> 0:03:06.440 you nail it. I don't want it to feel like 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:08.920 I'm punishing my brother's kids by not giving a gift 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:11.600 to them either, since that would only be fair. What 0:03:11.680 --> 0:03:14.079 should I do, though? Do I give nothing to everyone? 0:03:14.280 --> 0:03:16.760 Do I leave one out or three out? Do I 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:19.640 give extra presents to spite my sister in law? Do 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:21.600 I make a donation in their name or buy them 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:25.600 therapy sessions to unpack their childhood? Help? As a fellow youngest? 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:29.000 What do I do? I'm at a loss. Karen, Oh, Karen, 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:30.960 do your thing, Get your gifts for all of your 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:33.440 nieces and nephews. Don't overdo it. Just do what you 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:36.720 would normally do. Nobody can control whether or not you 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:39.560 give a gift to somebody else. That's their prerogative. If 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:41.160 they don't want to give the gift to their eighteen 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:44.360 year old kid, you're that You're an aunt, that's your specialty. 0:03:44.400 --> 0:03:46.560 That's what we're here for, is gift giving, so keep 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:51.800 continuing to do that. I co sign exactly give those gifts. Amen. 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:57.280 But anyway, this episode is exciting. We take this episode earlier, 0:03:57.320 --> 0:04:01.280 you guys. It's with one of my favorite Comedianssko Okotska, 0:04:01.360 --> 0:04:04.760 who's special is now available to stream on HBO called 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:10.520 the Instruder, and she's our guest today and she's fucking funny. 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:13.880 So get ready Otsko Okotska, everybody say it three times, 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:20.440 Katsko cut Scott, thank you, Chesse. You know what it is. 0:04:20.480 --> 0:04:26.480 It's actually Chelsea, It's it isn't my yarka. Do you 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:29.840 all remember it is? It's Chelsea. That's that's like they 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:32.080 always have to add like a little flare right. Well, 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:35.760 my my German grandmother used to call me Chelsei and 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:39.400 I fucking hated that pronunciation. I mean she sounded like 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:45.240 such a Nazi every time she said it. Nine yeah, 0:04:45.640 --> 0:04:48.960 nine is no in German. How's the Spanish going? Thank 0:04:49.000 --> 0:04:51.839 you for asking? Actually, yeah, pay attention, and you know 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:54.159 what it is. When you know Otsko Kotska, it's just 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:57.200 like so different than than Spanish. And I'm like, oh, 0:04:57.240 --> 0:05:00.360 maybe she's got Spanish brain. Well that's a great use, 0:05:00.560 --> 0:05:03.640 but no, I mean, I've been taking Spanish lessons again. 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:06.559 My Spanish is getting very good, actually not very good, 0:05:06.560 --> 0:05:08.800 but like my Bell now speaks to me only in 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:12.640 Spanish and I understand of what she's saying rather than 0:05:13.560 --> 0:05:16.080 it used to be. And now I can speak in 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:18.880 the past tense, which I learned through my tutor. So 0:05:19.160 --> 0:05:21.640 it's developing, and I'm just going to keep my practice 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:23.840 in my books every day like a little girl. Well 0:05:23.880 --> 0:05:25.440 not every day, but like once a week I do 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:28.200 my workbook for my homework for my Spanish class. So 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:30.200 it feels good. Like I like to learn, you know, 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:32.520 and I'm so into language, so it's perfect. And my 0:05:32.600 --> 0:05:34.320 Bell is like I was talking to her about like 0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:37.200 pronunciations and she was like, oh, you know, you don't 0:05:37.200 --> 0:05:39.200 say that in Mexico and I'm like, well, no offense, 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:41.960 but like I'm using this for Spain and she's like, well, 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:43.800 I just only know it in slang, and I'm like, well, 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:45.599 no offense either, but I'm not trying to learn slang. 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:49.240 I'm trying to learn proper Spanish that I could speak regionally, 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:53.719 and I had different sorts of regions. She's trying to 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:57.440 make you relatable to the streets yeah, yeah, well, exactly 0:05:57.880 --> 0:06:00.560 how many languages do you speak out? I speak three, 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:02.520 but I feel like all of them not that well, 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:04.120 and one of them is the one I'm talking to 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:07.920 you in. You know, it's really just like a lot 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:11.000 of its improvisation. What are the languages that you speak? 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:16.359 I speak Mandarin, Japanese and English and oh oh no, no, 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:20.480 she's been moisten. O god, and it's fruit punch flavored 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:26.640 electrolytes because I'm eight. Oh, it's okay. Why does that stain? Yeah, 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:28.599 that's okay. I'm just gonna have a stained shirt. No, No, 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:30.960 it's okay, don't worry. There's nothing that's gonna help it. 0:06:31.040 --> 0:06:33.840 I'm drinking during this podcast too, so hopefully I also 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:39.240 have a spill. I'm so shy. She's just like that 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:43.440 a maxim is that a Maxi shield? I have Maxi 0:06:43.480 --> 0:06:45.360 shields before you though, okay, I give them to every 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:48.479 guest before Maxi shield it's for you put in your 0:06:48.520 --> 0:06:51.040 Pikachu when you have your period and your underwear. It's 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:56.719 like a little padne. But I like the word shield, yeah, 0:06:56.800 --> 0:06:59.320 because it sounds ridiculous. You know, I was like, I 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:01.640 need to know that this new invention I don't use 0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:05.039 that because I'm getting what they call an ablazeon next 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:08.000 month before Christmas as my Christmas gift to myself, which 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:11.400 means they go inside your uterus and scorch it, blanche 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:14.520 it with steaming hot water so that you don't bleed anymore, 0:07:14.880 --> 0:07:17.600 because I'm so sick of getting my period, like I'm 0:07:17.640 --> 0:07:19.560 over it. So it just gets so hot that your 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:23.760 uterus just goes like no more. It's just you're killing it. 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:26.720 You're killing the blood, so the blood. Like one percent 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:28.800 of people have a period again after they do this, 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:31.640 But my sister did it because my periods just like 0:07:31.800 --> 0:07:33.120 you know, I don't I don't want to deal with 0:07:33.160 --> 0:07:35.480 this anymore. And you know I have too much other 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:37.560 ship to deal with. I don't want to deal with it. Yeah, 0:07:37.600 --> 0:07:40.520 every three weeks, it's like again again again it's supposed 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:42.080 to be every four weeks. Are you getting your period 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:46.080 every three weeks? Because I'm a guy to cologist? Oh 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:49.160 isn't that every Oh it's oh my gosh. You know 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:53.240 mine comes at different times. We're very different people. You're 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:55.520 on it, you know, I see your videos about like 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:57.640 this is how you pronounced this word. I'm the type 0:07:57.680 --> 0:07:59.800 of person that's like, look, you know what I meant, 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:05.840 you know, and you just imagine what I meant. But honestly, 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:07.800 I thought it was every three weeks, because then a 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:10.040 week is when I have the period. Can you make 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:12.400 sure the cameras on? Because her price tag is still 0:08:12.400 --> 0:08:15.960 on her clothing. That's what I'm saying by we're different people. 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:19.680 I used to do this everyone I worked. Your price 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:21.880 tags are still on your clothes and you gotta return 0:08:21.920 --> 0:08:23.360 this or should I take? Can you tell me how 0:08:23.440 --> 0:08:27.760 much it was before? I'm okay put it back in 0:08:27.800 --> 0:08:31.880 because I'm still thinking about I thought, for some reason, 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:35.880 this was like a sale one. Anyway, Otsko always wears 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:38.720 the same outfit when I see her, and so I'm 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:40.840 convinced that she went and got this outfit just to 0:08:40.840 --> 0:08:42.800 be like I have different outfits because she's like I listen, 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:44.959 you've seen all my outfits already. Oh girl, I'm going 0:08:45.000 --> 0:08:47.560 to free people right after this. Yeah, I'll be like, 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:50.720 do you take returns after I've been near a spill? 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:55.319 Maybe you should try and return this as an extra challenge. 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:59.320 You've already dried up, just like your pussy is gonna do. 0:09:00.920 --> 0:09:03.280 I'm so excited for you, just like my pussy is 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:06.240 gonna dry up right after that ablation. There's really nothing 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:09.480 grosser than dry pussy. Like even when any anyone says 0:09:09.520 --> 0:09:12.040 anything like that, it's such a disgusting thought. I know, 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:13.959 I know that's not what I meant. You know. What 0:09:14.000 --> 0:09:17.280 I meant was I'm so stoked for you that that 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:19.079 that you're never going to get your period again. It's 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:21.959 all I dream about, it's all that's what I'm doing 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:24.120 it for you, and I can't. You know, I don't 0:09:24.280 --> 0:09:26.880 use tampons because not that it's like, oh I'm so 0:09:27.000 --> 0:09:30.720 small down there, but it always falls out. Yeah that 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:36.280 means you're actually big if so that is a problem. 0:09:36.280 --> 0:09:39.200 Oh right, yeah either way. Yeah, So I hate using pads. 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:41.720 I just feel like a baby once a month. I don't, like, 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:43.679 I've never used a pad, even the first time I 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:45.560 got my period, I think it was thirteen, and my 0:09:45.880 --> 0:09:48.040 sister came into the bathroom and she was like, Okay, 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:49.679 you can use this or this, and I was like, 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:52.760 I'm gonna not gonna walk around with blood floating between 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:57.320 my legs in like open areas, Like that's gross. It's 0:09:57.400 --> 0:10:00.719 so gross. But I guess some people really don't tampons. 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:03.840 I swear to God a tampa. I do not know 0:10:03.880 --> 0:10:05.600 how to keep it in. That would be the advice 0:10:05.640 --> 0:10:07.520 I ask you about later. I mean, we could to 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:09.360 keep a tamp on it, and I'll show you we 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:11.560 can do some kegels. But had to wrap this episode 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:13.840 up when where I swear it's not because I'm too big. 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:17.200 I think it's because I'm too small, Like I literally, 0:10:17.320 --> 0:10:19.160 are you putting it in the front? Are you putting 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:21.760 in the back? I'm putting it what like, Okay, this 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:24.000 is a trick question, but what do you mean back? 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:25.760 You know that when you get your period, you're supposed 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:28.000 to put your fut in your asshole, and they put 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:30.960 it in my PV hole. What do you think I'm not? 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:35.240 I'm not bird brained. I have Yeah, obviously I'm putting 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:38.640 it in where you're getting scorched. That's why I'm putting 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:40.720 where you're putting your tampon it and it falls out 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:44.040 no matter what size you use, yes, like yeah, it's 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:46.480 it's just always halfway hanging out. You know what, I 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:50.000 don't understand about tampons. And this sounds really stupid at 0:10:50.000 --> 0:10:52.440 my age, but I am stupid about a lot of things. 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:56.160 So I'm just gonna say it because my old assistant 0:10:56.200 --> 0:10:59.600 Karen Whacker, told me, She's like, you know, your tampon 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:02.160 isn't going into your p hole. It's going into your 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:04.439 your vagina hole where you have sex out of. And 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:06.679 I was like, okay, but then why when I pe, 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:10.319 does the tampon get get wet? Yeah? I do have 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:13.000 that question too, maybe because it's like falling out a 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:16.000 little bit already, Like especially if it's already a little 0:11:16.000 --> 0:11:17.599 bit soaked, it can fall out a little bit and 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:19.439 then you're like, oh, no, this is it's got p 0:11:19.600 --> 0:11:22.720 on it. It shouldn't be getting that. It does, though, 0:11:22.800 --> 0:11:25.160 it does every time I take a tampon out, even 0:11:25.160 --> 0:11:27.400 if it hasn't come out a little and I've paid 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:29.839 with it in like if you because for me, I'm 0:11:29.840 --> 0:11:31.400 always like, oh, I just thought you always had to 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:33.880 take your tampon out when you pee because it was 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:36.240 coming out of the same hole. And this was until 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:37.960 I was in my thirties and someone explained to me 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:40.040 it's a different hole, and I was like, oh, ship 0:11:40.200 --> 0:11:43.520 shitsky doodle again, wait way to come late to the party. 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:45.720 And then I was like, but wait, why does it 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:47.840 always get wet and it comes out a little when 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:51.200 you pee, sometimes the tampon can come out. That's that's 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:54.160 what I'm saying. Maybe because you're bearing down, are you 0:11:54.240 --> 0:11:57.120 bearing down a little bit? I mean I'm always bearing 0:11:57.160 --> 0:12:00.480 down at all time. There's always some thing in there, 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:02.360 and I have to hold on to whatever is in there. 0:12:02.440 --> 0:12:04.880 Even when I'm driving. Sometimes this is stick shift. Sometimes 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:07.800 it's just like, don't come out right. That's why I'm 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:09.800 a pad girl. That's why I walk around like a 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:12.720 baby every month, and one day soon I will do 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:17.720 the ablation to ablizion ablation. Yeah, ots go is another 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:19.679 person that isn't looking to have children, so you could 0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:21.679 get an oblation. Right? Are you still there? Do you 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:23.520 still feel that we're still there? I don't think that's 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:25.320 going to change. People would say, oh, you know that 0:12:25.360 --> 0:12:28.400 clock it's gonna hit right, and I'm like, what what clock? 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:31.360 I know that much about myself where I don't think 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:33.320 I'll change. I know, I know it's so annoying people 0:12:33.360 --> 0:12:35.320 still ask me that I'm forty seven years old. I'm like, 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:37.400 when are you going to get the fucking message that 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:40.640 I can't have a baby anymore? Yeah? Like little things change, 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:43.280 like maybe my favorite color, but like you know what 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:47.319 I mean, Like, I'm not gonna a whole life change. Okays, 0:12:47.520 --> 0:12:50.600 talk a little bit. Tell everybody about your history and 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.720 how you moved over here, the circumstances about how you 0:12:53.760 --> 0:12:57.199 moved over to the United States, because it's a fascinating story. Yeah. 0:12:57.400 --> 0:12:59.480 So I came to the States when I was ten. 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:02.920 My uma said we were coming for a two months vacation, 0:13:03.640 --> 0:13:07.600 and then she had us oversteered towards visas, and then 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:11.280 we became undocumented, and then we were stuck here, and 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:14.600 then I made the best of it by doing stand 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:19.880 up comedy. You lived in a garage, right right, Yeah, 0:13:19.920 --> 0:13:23.320 I lived in my uncle's garage with your mother and 0:13:23.360 --> 0:13:26.319 your grandmother, with my mother and grandmother. It's like if 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:28.880 you've seen great gardens, it's kind of like that, but 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:32.880 let's less room to move around probably, but yeah, great gardens, 0:13:32.920 --> 0:13:37.520 but poor and one more person. If you follow Otso 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:40.400 on social media, she posted videos all the time of 0:13:40.440 --> 0:13:43.559 her and her grandmother, who is adorable, and our grandmother 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:47.080 gets down to business. So tell us about that experience, though. 0:13:47.200 --> 0:13:49.400 What was that like going to school when you I mean, 0:13:49.520 --> 0:13:52.439 you had to learn the language when you got here, right, Yeah, 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:55.160 and so it's kind of like immersion. What my bell 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:58.880 is doing to you right now, it's part time emersion 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:03.280 was doing too you Yeah, part time you know pretty much. Yeah, 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:05.960 where you know, everyone's speaking that language, and that is 0:14:06.040 --> 0:14:09.600 really the quickest way to learn a language is uh, 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:13.240 no forgiveness, you know what I mean, no room for 0:14:13.360 --> 0:14:16.160 you know, explaining what's going on. No, just this is 0:14:16.160 --> 0:14:18.200 how I talked to you. Yeah, it was. It was 0:14:18.280 --> 0:14:20.560 tough because also like you're a kid and you want 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:24.600 to really fit in, and I feel like yeah. And 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:27.800 then I was also embarrassed about our circumstances. So I 0:14:27.840 --> 0:14:31.200 didn't invite friends back to my place because you know, 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:34.120 even for birthdays or something. If it was my birthday, 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:36.480 you know, I would just not have a party because 0:14:36.720 --> 0:14:40.560 I didn't want them being like, oh, you live here, 0:14:41.160 --> 0:14:43.920 you know what I mean. Yeah, And my mom and grandma, 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:47.800 they're just like elbow to elbow. A garage is it's 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:50.600 a lot to hold three generations of people, you know 0:14:50.600 --> 0:14:53.560 what I mean, and our whole as personalities and baggage. 0:14:54.320 --> 0:14:58.160 It's not enough space for My mom has schizophrenia. And 0:14:58.200 --> 0:15:01.120 then I developed an eating disorder too, And I remember 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:04.040 like thinking back, being like, God, a garage is not 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:08.760 enough space for and eating disorder, and you need a 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:11.280 lot of space. Well, you need privacy for an eating disorder, 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:13.360 you do. Yeah, And so we were just so on 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:16.680 top of each other, and so I'm kind of you know, 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:19.280 I joked that I'm sort of delayed and stunted as 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:23.000 an adult because I feel like it wasn't until I 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:25.760 got out of that situation that I was able to 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:29.000 finally have like the confidence to be like, hey, you know, 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:30.600 do you want to hang out? Do you want to 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:33.200 be friends? So I'm kind of late in the game 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:39.680 with socializing. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I met Otsco at Largo, Yes, yeah, Largo? 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:41.440 Yeah yeah, yeah yeah. I think that was the first 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:43.600 time we met, that's true. Yeah, yeah, because I was 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:46.360 following her on social media and she's so funny. And 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:49.200 she also did that drop down challenge where everybody, what's 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:52.960 that song called again? Yeah? Beyonce's partition, give me something? Yeah, 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:54.800 and then you dropped your ass down, which is basically 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:56.400 the only dance move I can do, and I can't 0:15:56.400 --> 0:15:58.880 even really nail that one. It's so slow motion that 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:01.800 I thought maybe this is for me. That's what you're like, 0:16:01.840 --> 0:16:04.160 one of the most athletic people I know, well athletic, 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:07.320 but I don't have rhythm. But it's like a squad. 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:10.440 That's why I could do it. And then Odsco slid 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:12.360 into my d MS asking if she could open me, 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.960 open for me, open me. She wanted to open me, 0:16:15.560 --> 0:16:19.160 and I said, sure, open for me on a couple 0:16:19.160 --> 0:16:21.760 of stand up dates, and I was like, yeah, absolutely, 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:24.000 I love that you asked me. And then I met 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:27.760 your husband, who's also just a sweetheart, and you just 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:30.440 taped your HBO special which is going to come out 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:33.240 in December. I did, which you gave me so much 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:36.200 advice about, and so I super appreciate it because I 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:38.680 called you to be like, I had this opportunity to 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:41.120 maybe do it all Broadway first, which would mean more 0:16:41.240 --> 0:16:44.920 dates running it, you know, maybe a hundred more times 0:16:45.360 --> 0:16:47.920 more than that before taping it, and you're like, you know, 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:51.040 just tape it because and that's how I worked too, 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:54.320 and so that was really great advice. And that's why 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:56.800 it's coming out already. You know, that's exciting. Do you 0:16:56.800 --> 0:16:59.440 know the date it's coming out yet? December tenth is 0:17:00.360 --> 0:17:03.080 exciting going for Yeah, December. T Your special comes out 0:17:03.080 --> 0:17:06.840 December ten. My special comes out December hers this on 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:13.480 HBO minus on Netflix amazing, Yes, yeah, baby, December is 0:17:13.520 --> 0:17:15.399 a good time. People are at home, they want to 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:20.040 watch stuff with family. Maybe they're sad. Yeah, I love that. 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:23.879 Oh how nice? Is that? Awesome? And how did the 0:17:23.880 --> 0:17:26.879 taping go? Tell us the taping went? Well, it was 0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:28.639 in New York. I kind of wish I did it 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:31.119 in l A now, but everyone's always like, don't do 0:17:31.160 --> 0:17:34.240 it in l A. L A. People are jaded with cameras, 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:37.000 so they're not gonna show it as much excitement, you know. 0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:39.360 But I'm an l A baby. I've been here since 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:42.240 I was ten, and so it's just one thing I 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:45.200 would for my next for your next special. Yeah, it's 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:47.600 a good experience. Nonetheless, I mean for your next special, 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:49.639 we'll take that in l A. Yeah. And so New 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:53.200 York was great, Brot. Grandma flew Grandma first you guys, 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:55.760 I saw you posting her on for her in first class. 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:58.280 Oh my gosh, she was. She she was like this 0:17:58.359 --> 0:18:01.600 lays down flat, you know. Oh. And I could just 0:18:01.720 --> 0:18:05.960 keep bugging the people for food and snacks. And I 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:09.359 found Chelsea that when I was in first class because 0:18:09.400 --> 0:18:11.760 I had never flown first class too. I could not 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:13.720 sleep because I was like, oh, I think I need 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:16.280 to be a little uncomfortable to be able to sleep, 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:22.000 because that's what I'm used to. Well, no, it's not sad, 0:18:22.040 --> 0:18:24.160 but it's like I can see that being true. Yeah, 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:27.320 where it's like, oh, like you know, I need too comfortable. 0:18:27.400 --> 0:18:29.600 I need to be sitting up straight and my neck 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:31.359 cricket and I need to have a kink in my 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:36.720 neck when I wake up. Truly be comfortable. It's so wild. Yeah, anyway, 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:40.639 be totally exhausted, feeling awful. That's how you fall asleep 0:18:40.640 --> 0:18:43.240 on a plane. You don't ever win. It's what I'm saying. 0:18:43.320 --> 0:18:45.360 It's yeah, the grass is always greener, and then even 0:18:45.359 --> 0:18:47.240 when you get there, the grasses and stopped being green 0:18:47.280 --> 0:18:49.640 and it turns yellow. Oh yeah, we got to Well, 0:18:49.840 --> 0:18:52.200 somebody urinated on it or had their period who didn't 0:18:52.200 --> 0:18:57.560 have an oblation in that order. Everybody, if you're having 0:18:57.560 --> 0:19:00.800 trouble following this conversation, you're not alone. Yeah, go back 0:19:01.040 --> 0:19:03.919 listen to what we just talked about. Catch yourself up 0:19:05.680 --> 0:19:08.800 and talk about how you met your husband. We met 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:13.040 through a mutual friend, and you know, we had gosh, 0:19:13.119 --> 0:19:16.840 like third day in we were at this patio. You know, 0:19:16.920 --> 0:19:20.200 it was a nice, nice day in l A. And 0:19:20.600 --> 0:19:23.080 there was somebody who was sort of talking to themselves 0:19:23.440 --> 0:19:25.879 and people at the restaurant were sort of afraid and 0:19:25.880 --> 0:19:30.080 didn't know what to do. And Ryan, my husband, knew 0:19:30.320 --> 0:19:33.120 how to handle the person and sort of calmed them down. 0:19:33.400 --> 0:19:36.560 And it kind of surprised me because I was like, wait, 0:19:36.640 --> 0:19:39.199 how do you know to do that? Because it was 0:19:39.240 --> 0:19:41.239 like signs of schizophrenia, which is one my mom has. 0:19:41.320 --> 0:19:43.159 So I recognized it and I was like, how do 0:19:43.200 --> 0:19:45.520 you know how to deal with someone with that? And 0:19:45.520 --> 0:19:48.320 he's like, oh, my mom has it too, and so 0:19:48.480 --> 0:19:50.640