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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I'm the subject from one of your recent letters.

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Speaker 1: I was the wife that found out at a birthday

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Speaker 1: cook out that my husband cheated on me with his

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Speaker 1: best friend's daughter. Remember that letter? Yeah, all right. That

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Speaker 1: day will stand out in my mind forever. We had

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Speaker 1: It came from a demonstration he had done at the expo.

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Speaker 1: After that night. After that night, my husband told me

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Speaker 1: all worth it. Our divorce is almost final, and I'm

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Speaker 1: after being tied down for twenty five years. But everyone

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Speaker 1: How do I move on? Please help? Can I just say?

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Speaker 1: Can I just say from my heart to yours? I

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Speaker 1: applaude you? Applause you? I applaude you do Yes? Do

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Speaker 1: faithful wife to your unfaithful, lying husband twenty five years,

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Speaker 1: a really long time. You said you worked through his

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Speaker 1: infidelity in the past. Well, you don't have to deal

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Speaker 1: You ask, Well, I just you know, have to say,

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Speaker 1: It's not going to be easy, but you will get

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Speaker 1: at a time, you know, And you can ignore those

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Speaker 1: haters that think they know your business. You don't owe

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Speaker 1: them anything. You don't have to explain anything to them

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Speaker 1: about what happened with your marriage. If they know everything,

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Speaker 1: then they already know. So you just go on about

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Speaker 1: unless you want to go. It's your town too. Things happen,

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Speaker 1: they have issues, all right. You can stay there and

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Speaker 1: build a new life for yourself. Now, if you want

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Speaker 1: I applaud you. I applaud you for getting rid of him. Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: your lawyer says, oh, what is you burning the clothes

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Speaker 1: of fault? Why does his clothes have to be burned? Well,

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Speaker 1: That's how he got the rug burd Now let's talk

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Speaker 1: Last week I got to let about the man that

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Speaker 1: railer or that TV. Huh okay, So what happened got on?

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Speaker 1: So what I think we should do is Shirley, because

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Speaker 1: how he was when he came from the expo, the

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Speaker 1: so surely, yes, I'm home you mad and you asking

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Speaker 1: But this is how he gonna explain it at the house.

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's go all right, And what about all

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Speaker 1: these scratches you had on your back? What is that about? Scratches? Yeah, scratches,

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Speaker 1: scratches on my back. They're right there, They're right there.

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Speaker 1: Hell no, they ain't help me up. And that's how

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Speaker 1: Then burns like that, and I don't. What about the

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Speaker 1: see that big, big, big you sounded like your nephew.

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Speaker 1: What about the big wealth on your back? You didn't

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Speaker 1: don't see no where on my back. Turn around, now,

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Speaker 1: turn around, Jesse, I am turning around. I still don't

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Speaker 1: see no, no my back. What is you tripping for? Oh,

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Speaker 1: I'm not trip. Bake up your mind? Is day scratches

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Speaker 1: it's a scratch and your knees have rug burns. And

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Speaker 1: I don't believe I'm cheating. Remember back in the day

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, Wait a minute, I didn't have no scratches,

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Speaker 1: because that's how cheat. I cheat without all it marks.

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Speaker 1: Now you're talking about the marks. It can't be because

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Speaker 1: when I cheat, I don't do marks. No no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: no no no no. I was working me. Listen to me,

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Speaker 1: by my name Alice, Alice. That Alice, Alice said, Alice, Alice, listen,

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Speaker 1: ain't high. Cheat. You didn't have to, Jesse, earl. I

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Speaker 1: everything in the garbage can thank you very much, Alice.

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