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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com. Hailey is on the phone

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Speaker 1: today for a first date follow up and she's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a dude named Nate. She has no idea why,

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Speaker 1: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 1: ask him why he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 1: But before we do that, Hailey, how long has it

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Speaker 1: been since you heard from Nate?

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Speaker 2: That's been four days?

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, not too long. Yeah, are you sure you're

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted?

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Speaker 2: Not like a hundred percent sure, but I'm pretty sure.

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Speaker 3: Why do you think so?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 5: Like, but they went really well, but I worry that

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Speaker 5: I I don't know, Like, so we went on a

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Speaker 5: picnic and it was really nice and we even like

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Speaker 5: got to slow dance a little on the picnic blanket, and.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was really sweet, and I was like, I

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Speaker 2: don't know, he was just really attentive.

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Speaker 5: But I just worry, like I can't dance, and I

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Speaker 5: kept stepping on his feet, and so I'm like, maybe he.

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Speaker 2: Just didn't like that I can't dance.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I've been like hyper fixating on it. But I'm just

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Speaker 2: like I really was bad, but I was like nervous

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Speaker 2: and stuff, so I can dance a little better than

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Speaker 2: I did.

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Speaker 4: But yeah, it was pretty good.

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Speaker 3: Okay, did he say anything about your dance skills?

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Speaker 6: No?

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Speaker 5: I mean we both laughed at off, but like you know,

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Speaker 5: sometimes people pretend things are funny or okay and it's not.

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Speaker 5: And I don't know, it's the only thing that I

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Speaker 5: really feel like.

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Speaker 2: I did wrong.

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Speaker 1: So tell us about the date though, Like, how were

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Speaker 1: things with him? Did you guys get along?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we had a lot in common, so like I

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Speaker 5: brought the wine, he brought the food.

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Speaker 2: We met up at the park and we had a

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Speaker 2: picnic and it was just really chill and we got.

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Speaker 5: To talk a lot, so like we got to know

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Speaker 5: each other a little bit, and I really liked it.

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Speaker 2: It was just a nice, peaceful date.

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Speaker 5: You know, I've been dating a little and like nothing

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Speaker 5: really exciting, so this was kind of to me, this one.

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Speaker 2: This really stood out and it felt really special. So

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Speaker 2: like it went really well.

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Speaker 5: We even like got to make out a little bit,

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Speaker 5: so like I thought he really liked me, But I

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Speaker 5: don't know, it was just I'm really concerned because I

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Speaker 5: would have hoped that like the next day or maybe

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Speaker 5: even a couple of days later. I mean, I know

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Speaker 5: people have jobs, but I just haven't heard a thing.

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Speaker 3: Was he supposed to reach out to you? Like, did

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Speaker 3: you try to contact him at all?

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Speaker 5: I haven't, But he said he would like text or call,

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Speaker 5: and then I just hadn't heard anything.

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Speaker 3: Okay. I feel like after a date like that, I

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Speaker 3: would also want to hear back, like the next day

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Speaker 3: or two, because it ended so well, Like why wouldn't

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Speaker 3: he be messaging back?

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Speaker 5: Well, like he said he would reach back the next day,

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Speaker 5: but I texted him when I got home and said

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Speaker 5: thanks for such a great date. And he didn't text

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Speaker 5: back that night, and he didn't text or call the.

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Speaker 2: Next day like he had said he would.

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Speaker 8: Oh good after that, So I'm like, I don't know,

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Speaker 8: So what was your communication like leading up to the date.

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Speaker 8: Is he just kind of one of those guys that

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Speaker 8: takes a few days or was he more attentive?

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Speaker 5: Well, we have a mutual friend who set us up,

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Speaker 5: so like we didn't really talk much before the date. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 5: we just like we texted a little bit so like

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Speaker 8: But that was really it, So do we know that

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Speaker 8: he's not sick? Like, did you do some investigating with

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Speaker 8: a mutual friend? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I did, Okay, so yeah I asked her because she

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Speaker 5: works with him, and she was like, no, he's fine,

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Speaker 5: he's at work. Oh yeah, So like because I wanted

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Speaker 5: to give him the benefit of the doubt, like I've

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Speaker 5: definitely been six after a date and then haven't.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, no, he's fine.

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Speaker 1: What I heard watch me pull.

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Speaker 3: Up real quick.

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Speaker 2: Well that is a little bit weird.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it is all right. Well we'll see if

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Speaker 1: we can figure it out for you. Then we'll play

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Speaker 1: a song come Back, and then call him and ask

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Speaker 1: him why is ghosting you? And maybe get you another date? Okay,

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Speaker 1: thanks guys, all right, we'll play song come Back, get

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Speaker 1: your first date, follow up next. Right in the middle

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Speaker 1: of the first date follow up, and if you're just

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Speaker 1: joining us, Haley is on the phone. She's getting ghosted

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Speaker 1: by a guy named Nate. So in a second we're

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Speaker 1: gonna call him see if it tells why is ghosting her?

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Speaker 1: Maybe get her another date? But first, Hayley, why don't

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Speaker 1: you catch everybody up on your situation?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? So basically we went on this really nice picnic

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Speaker 2: date at the park.

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Speaker 5: It was, in my opinion, pretty romantic, and I thought

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Speaker 5: it went really well.

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Speaker 2: We had a lot of fun.

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Speaker 5: We slow danced, we drank wine, we ate naxt what

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Speaker 5: more did the girl wants?

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Speaker 2: And yeah, I was really hoping for a second date.

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Speaker 2: And I texted in that night, no response, And I

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Speaker 2: haven't heard of things.

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Speaker 1: Since so and you think it might be because if

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Speaker 1: your bad dancing?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I have no sense of rhythm. Okay, it's only

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Speaker 5: gotten worse than it has better.

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Speaker 1: All right, well see if that is it? Are you

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Speaker 1: ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, here we go. Okay, Hi, ma sweak to Nate

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Speaker 1: please Maison, Yes you can Nate. My name is Jewbel.

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Speaker 1: I host the radio show. It's called The Jewbel Show.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Hi, Nate, whole show's here on Nina. Hi, and

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Speaker 3: I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 1: How are you.

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Speaker 4: Doing all right? And I like win something or what's

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Speaker 4: going on here?

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Speaker 1: You might have I'm not really sure. Do you listen

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Speaker 1: to the show ever?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: Yeah? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Actually big fan?

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Speaker 1: Oh cool than you? Are you a big enough fan

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Speaker 1: to know what the first eight follow ups are?

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Speaker 4: Oh my god? Yeah, yeah I am.

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Speaker 1: You know why I'm bringing that up, Nate, I.

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Speaker 4: Might as tho what you tell me? Right, I'm already

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Speaker 4: on that. Lets go.

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Speaker 1: You're ghosting somebody, and they emailed us because they want

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Speaker 1: to know why they're getting ghosted. Do you have any

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Speaker 1: idea who would email us?

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Speaker 4: I'm imagining it was Haley Haley.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well yes, if I guess you forget that she forgot. Yes,

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Speaker 1: Haley is on the line name. She wants to know

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Speaker 1: why you're gusting her. I'll just let you guys talk

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Speaker 1: it out now.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, Hey, what's going on night?

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Speaker 2: You know, just telling so what what happened? I know

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Speaker 2: I can't dance, but like, I didn't think I was

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Speaker 7: No, actually I don't consider myself that good of a dancer.

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Speaker 4: There's no don't worry about that.

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Speaker 7: No, it was that's all good, Like I said, I mean,

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Speaker 7: I did have a good time.

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Speaker 4: But you know, I mean, honestly, the whole entire time

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Speaker 4: we were on the you know, on.

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Speaker 7: Our picnic, you just kept talking about your you know,

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Speaker 7: comparing comparing me to your X from well how long

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Speaker 7: ago that six seven years?

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Speaker 4: He said, I don't like every time you brought up

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Speaker 2: Okay, so it was six years ago, and I'm sorry,

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Speaker 2: I just knew that.

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Speaker 5: So you had mentioned that you've been through a recent breakup,

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Speaker 5: and I was not comparing you to him.

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Speaker 2: I was trying to like relate your situation to what

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Speaker 5: I wasn't like, I'm sorry if I brought up too much,

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Speaker 7: Yeah, So like there was there were times where you know,

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Speaker 7: I laughed at something that you said, you know, you're

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Speaker 7: you're like, oh my god, Jason laughs that way, And

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Speaker 7: I was like, this is are you even over him?

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Speaker 4: Like it's not even like is this something I need

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Speaker 7: I tried to brush it off every time, you know,

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Speaker 4: Like it just like I said, just every single thing

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Speaker 4: you brought up was oh, Jason did this, Jason did that,

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Speaker 4: And I'm like, I'm my name is not Jason, you know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm so first of all, really sorry, Like I

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Speaker 2: I think I was just really nervous and maybe I

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Speaker 2: I like your laugh and your laugh is not just

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Speaker 2: like Jason's. I was just like, I think I was

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Speaker 5: I'm really sorry, and like, okay, so like I was

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Speaker 2: So it was just like I was nervously.

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Speaker 5: Complimenting you, I guess, and like, but I love your

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Speaker 5: the past. I just I guess it has been a

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Speaker 5: kind of related it to a past experience and I

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Speaker 5: was sorry.

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Speaker 4: No, I mean, there's no need to apologize for it.

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Speaker 4: I mean, sometimes wine does talking for us, but you know, honestly, is.

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Speaker 7: There's something that I'm gonna have to be worrying about,

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Speaker 7: you know, day in day out, as.

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Speaker 4: She like, are you even over him? Like you haven't

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Speaker 4: even said anything about that, like whether you are over

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Speaker 6: And well, yeah, definitely over him. No we No, I

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Speaker 6: mean I'm definitely over him.

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Speaker 4: Yeah you said it.

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Speaker 7: Was just it was just a major, major red flag

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Speaker 7: and like, yeah, I don't know where you want.

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Speaker 1: To go from here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, really, Like I said, I'm sorry and I'm over him, And.

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Speaker 5: If you're willing to give me another shot, I will.

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Speaker 2: I promise that the word Jason will not come up.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, not one. I would hope not. But I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I mean I don't whether it'll give me.

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Speaker 7: A shoot your text tonight and see what you're doing

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Speaker 7: if you're free or maybe I.

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Speaker 4: Don't know, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: On another day with Hayley. We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 4: Uh yeah, I mean I'm down, but I just hope

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Speaker 4: that it's a Jason free night. I'm not trying to

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Speaker 4: remember my name is Nate.

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Speaker 2: Awesome. I'm super excited and I promise that it'll be

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Speaker 2: a fun time. Thank you so much for giving me

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Speaker 2: another shot.

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Speaker 1: Congratulations, Hailey, thank you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Thanks.

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