Speaker 1: I won't let my body out, out everything that I'm made.
Speaker 1: Won't spend my life trying to change. I'm learning to
Speaker 1: love who I am. I get I'm strong, I feel free,
Speaker 1: I know who every part of me. It's beautiful. And
Speaker 1: then will always out with if you feel it, with joy.
Speaker 1: There she's love to the boom. That, let's say, a
Speaker 1: good day, and did June and die out. All right,
Speaker 1: we are back with our resident expert guest, Anne Marie.
Speaker 1: She shared more of her story, her back story, last Saturday,
Speaker 1: so if you miss that you can go listen to it.
Speaker 1: But she's the founder and creator of my fit city
Speaker 1: world and she has a certified personal trainer and she's
Speaker 1: very passionate about not only helping her clients and their
Speaker 1: goals and mostly clients and recovery. She shared last week
Speaker 1: that the universe just sort of handed her that and
Speaker 1: as someone in recovery, it makes sense for her. But
Speaker 1: today we're going to talk about how to inspire and
Speaker 1: motivate our kids to lead balanced and healthy relationships with
Speaker 1: exercise from a young age. And I don't think I
Speaker 1: had any guidance amory when it came to exercise when
Speaker 1: I was a kid. I just started going to the
Speaker 1: gym somehow and running a lot. Remember running around my
Speaker 1: neighborhood holding a CD pack like I would have to
Speaker 1: put the CD have the full headphones and if I
Speaker 1: would run or, you know, trip, it would skip the CD.
Speaker 1: So but I would go for miles and miles in
Speaker 1: my neighborhood. I don't even know really why and how
Speaker 1: that started, but I remember it got a little out
Speaker 1: of control and when I was in high school was
Speaker 1: when my eating disorder picked up and running was definitely
Speaker 1: something that I used parallel to my food issues. So
Speaker 1: how do we help motivate our kids to want to
Speaker 1: move their bodies but not trigger them or mess them
Speaker 1: up in any way? Yeah, I was seeing to a
Speaker 1: podcast he did recently and it's you're talking about kids
Speaker 1: and went to be in tune if they have issues
Speaker 1: that come up. I think the opposite spectrum that I
Speaker 1: come from is how do we even motivate our kids
Speaker 1: to move in the first place? In the eating disorder
Speaker 1: recovery world we get definitely a tunnel vision to just
Speaker 1: the extreme of restriction and doing too much. What I
Speaker 1: tend to see that we also need to be a
Speaker 1: conversation is that there's a lot of kids who are
Speaker 1: not doing enough and how do we find that balance
Speaker 1: of kids who are not doing enough and kids are
Speaker 1: doing too much and merge it altogether? And it started
Speaker 1: off with my experience growing up and I just did
Speaker 1: the regular, actual quickly activities. I was a dancer, I
Speaker 1: was a swimmer. When I thought of working out, it
Speaker 1: wasn't necessarily the act of like take an hour day
Speaker 1: and move your body this way. It was just like
Speaker 1: you just were active as a kid. And then when
Speaker 1: I didn't have those activities as a part of my
Speaker 1: life that I had to go to after high school,
Speaker 1: when I went to college and didn't do any of that,
Speaker 1: that's when I really started to get out of shape
Speaker 1: and and I've done a lot of reflecting and now
Speaker 1: I actually go around with the titans to elementary middle
Speaker 1: schools all around Middle Tennessee and we talk about exercise
Speaker 1: and we talked about eating healthy and what I'm finding
Speaker 1: is a lot of kids actually don't understand what even
Speaker 1: means to even just move your body in a healthy
Speaker 1: way period, what it means that it's okay like dancing
Speaker 1: for twenty minutes, especially in the world of tiktok videos.
Speaker 1: That's exercise, that's moving your body and as parents, and
Speaker 1: I can speak to what I've done with my kid,
Speaker 1: and she's my oldest, is just three and I set
Speaker 1: this pattern of exercises as having dance parties in the
Speaker 1: garage together and doing it activities that we can do together,
Speaker 1: because I know there's going to come a point when
Speaker 1: you have teenagers and they don't want to do anything
Speaker 1: with you. But I want her from an early age
Speaker 1: and I've I've recommended this to a lot of my
Speaker 1: clients and I've talked a lot of other parents about
Speaker 1: the more you can do with your child from an
Speaker 1: early age, the better it sets. Now there's the circumstances
Speaker 1: of you, as an adult, maybe don't even move your
Speaker 1: body that much and you're like hey, let's just go
Speaker 1: and walks together. It's all about the togetherness factor or,
Speaker 1: if you don't do it together, is about them seeing
Speaker 1: you do it yourself. So the patterns you set yourself,
Speaker 1: which leads into making sure adults have the healthy patterns themselves,
Speaker 1: which is a whole another conversation. But I know my dad,
Speaker 1: I think, swam laps growing up, but my mom did
Speaker 1: not work out. It was just not a not a
Speaker 1: thing that they did. And so for me, when I
Speaker 1: got around to developing good, healthy habits with working out,
Speaker 1: I didn't know what that looks like because all I
Speaker 1: knew was the extreme of working out in the gym
Speaker 1: two hours a day, that eating restrictive. I didn't know
Speaker 1: what a healthy, balanced work out looks like, and that
Speaker 1: looks like just moving your body in whatever way motivates
Speaker 1: you on a daily basis, but having a you know,
Speaker 1: having your kids see you do it, because actions do
Speaker 1: speak louder than words. Always, always, always. We're talking about
Speaker 1: kids right now, but anybody listening could apply this to
Speaker 1: their life, whether you're a parent or just an adult
Speaker 1: and you have no kids and you're still listening to
Speaker 1: this right now, because this information really can be applied
Speaker 1: to anybody. It's like, maybe for you it is fifteen
Speaker 1: minutes of dancing or riding a bike. Like I used
Speaker 1: to think with my son, if he wanted to go
Speaker 1: ride ride his bike and he wanted me to come
Speaker 1: with him, that I had to complete some other workout before,
Speaker 1: at a different point in the day for myself, and
Speaker 1: then I could enjoy an activity with him, whether it's
Speaker 1: he was riding his bike and I walked the dog
Speaker 1: alongside him, or I get on my bike, which riding
Speaker 1: a bike is not my preferred thing, but it's something
Speaker 1: he really enjoys doing and loves when I do it
Speaker 1: with him. And so I tell this story is a
Speaker 1: story of hope and encouragement that, once you let go
Speaker 1: of the shackles of your workout, has to be X
Speaker 1: Y Z. Now I enjoy bike rides with my son
Speaker 1: and I kind of check that box as well. I
Speaker 1: moved my body today too, and I did it with
Speaker 1: him and it was a win win, because we got
Speaker 1: quality time. He moved, I moved, and then I didn't
Speaker 1: have any other stress in my brain of Oh but
Speaker 1: I just took this hour to ride bikes with him
Speaker 1: and now I got to find an hour to do
Speaker 1: something else for myself. That falls into my box of workouts,
Speaker 1: which was way more intense. Do you feel like if
Speaker 1: you would have loved riding a bike, that would have
Speaker 1: classified it into your check box, or was it more,
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe my thing with riding bikes, as I
Speaker 1: when I was pretty unhealthy, uh, with movement, I did
Speaker 1: things like triathlons. With triathlons are not bad. Maybe you
Speaker 1: enjoyed them. I did not. I did them with the
Speaker 1: intent of I'm going to sign up for a triathlon
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna be training so much that I am
Speaker 1: going to lose so much weight and it's going to
Speaker 1: be amazing. And the problem is I never did because
Speaker 1: I was also training so much that I was always
Speaker 1: so hungry and I had zero control around food, so
Speaker 1: I ate way too much, and so I never ended
Speaker 1: up losing any weight doing a tryathlon. I was probably because,
Speaker 1: I mean, it doesn't matter, I don't care the size
Speaker 1: of my body, but for me, the way my body
Speaker 1: was built, like the triathlons were putting size on me
Speaker 1: because of the different exercises I was doing and how
Speaker 1: it was building me up. And so then it was like,
Speaker 1: Dang it, this is counterintuitive to what I was doing.
Speaker 1: And so then I think I gave it all up.
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, forget swimming, forget running, forget biking, and
Speaker 1: so maybe that was where my why I don't like
Speaker 1: to ride bikes, but now I do, but it took
Speaker 1: me going through the recovery journey to get there. And then,
Speaker 1: you know, I think my daughter is probably the more
Speaker 1: difficult one to get moving. I mean my son does
Speaker 1: Jiu Jitsu, he's playing football, he loves to ride his bike.
Speaker 1: My daughter would sit inside and watch anime all day
Speaker 1: every day. I have to make deals to get her
Speaker 1: to go to the park to just be with the trees,
Speaker 1: just to breathe in the fresh air. And I mean
Speaker 1: it's funny shot like that. It will be on our schedule.
Speaker 1: She'll be like, how about on Saturday in two weeks,
Speaker 1: and there we all these things and I'll beca okay,
Speaker 1: it's our park date. But I do need to think
Speaker 1: of things for her specifically, because I am worried about
Speaker 1: just her, but I mean it's what we need. She
Speaker 1: needs to move. She can't just do school and then
Speaker 1: sit around. And I would say all this to her face,
Speaker 1: by the way. I'm not saying anything like behind her back.
Speaker 1: I find, too, that a lot of my middle schoolers
Speaker 1: and high schoolers that I work with who are very
Speaker 1: more screen heavy, and I'm somebody who's like, I'm not
Speaker 1: anti screen when it comes to wanting to watch stuff,
Speaker 1: but there's actually a lot of fun programs that exist
Speaker 1: that you can watch them do any kind of like
Speaker 1: dancing or stretching or just basic movements. I have one
Speaker 1: client who she loves watching movies and so I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: if you she likes the act of just sitting down
Speaker 1: staring at a screen so she doesn't have to think
Speaker 1: about anything else. That's what it roots from. So I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, well, we're gonna just watch this video together,
Speaker 1: and it was a movement video and it was just
Speaker 1: like a basic stretching kind of on the meditative site.
Speaker 1: So I'm like, I don't have to take you out
Speaker 1: of your environment, we're gonna sit here in your room
Speaker 1: and we're gonna do this together, and that's kind of
Speaker 1: how I introduced her to just movement. And it didn't
Speaker 1: look like all right, now I'm gonna pull you away
Speaker 1: from your safe space, whether it be your room, whether
Speaker 1: it be your family room, and go somewhere else. They
Speaker 1: slowly eased her into we're gonna do movement outside of
Speaker 1: your room, but we're not going to do it right now,
Speaker 1: and it is. It is a struggle, I know with
Speaker 1: you can't necessarily ideas you instill kids from the younger age.
Speaker 1: I was like that myself. You can't necessarily say they're
Speaker 1: going to be there for their entire life, but they're
Speaker 1: going to think back at some point of your life.
Speaker 1: But like I remember when my mom went on walks
Speaker 1: with me, I remember when my mom went bike riding
Speaker 1: with me, I remember that my mom went to work out.
Speaker 1: Like they're gonna remember these things no matter what. They're
Speaker 1: going to stick in their head. I have a lot
Speaker 1: of clients who they have one parent who worked out,
Speaker 1: one parent who did it, and that was the Dnni
Speaker 1: m growing up, and so they don't know what that
Speaker 1: healthy in between balance looks like and it looks like
Speaker 1: just moving your body with a family. So that doesn't
Speaker 1: even feel like exercise. It doesn't even feel like a chore.
Speaker 1: It's like we're just going to do this as a family.
Speaker 1: And I know the family dynamic, the family unit, looks
Speaker 1: different for everybody, whatever that looks like, but it's like,
Speaker 1: just do it, even if they hate it, just do
Speaker 1: it because they're gonna remember it years down the road
Speaker 1: as they're trying to develop healthy habits as an adult
Speaker 1: or healthy habits if they have their own family. What have?
Speaker 1: Your kids are going to remember these things and it's
Speaker 1: already it proves that they will over time, even though
Speaker 1: they might hate it in the moment. What advice do
Speaker 1: you have? If you have clients that are you're working
Speaker 1: with song, it's like, Oh, you know, I'm starting to
Speaker 1: already see some disordered exercise behavior developing in my child.
Speaker 1: How can I help her or him scale it back
Speaker 1: without getting them angry? I'm probably speaking about teenagers and
Speaker 1: specifically because you know they like to do everything the
Speaker 1: opposite of what the parents say. So how can you
Speaker 1: just help sort of guide them, like Hey, you don't,
Speaker 1: you don't have to go run four miles again today? Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: especially too, because when the more you push it, the
Speaker 1: more they sometimes tend to hide it, to the hide
Speaker 1: and they'll start to do workouts, you know, where you
Speaker 1: can't see it, or they'll start to run in areas,
Speaker 1: you know, where you just don't know what's going on.
Speaker 1: The healthiest thing is they even mentioned that you do
Speaker 1: know this, something is up and they're gonna push back,
Speaker 1: but deep down inside they do know, yes, I am
Speaker 1: developing these patterns, but approaching it in a way that
Speaker 1: is coming from a place of not accusing them of anything.
Speaker 1: It's just like, oh, Hey, I I see you're going
Speaker 1: on this. You know, two hour run what is it
Speaker 1: about this two hour run that makes you happy to
Speaker 1: do it? Just kind of talk to them more about
Speaker 1: the route, the emotional causes about it. They're not going
Speaker 1: to understand the psychology that you're trying to go about
Speaker 1: them from a psychology route with it, and I'm not
Speaker 1: a psychologist psychiatrist by any standards, but by my physical
Speaker 1: health standard, trying to approach it about what is it
Speaker 1: that they've liked about this? And you know there's gonna
Speaker 1: be the five times in a row where they say, Oh,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I just like it, but they're gonna
Speaker 1: eventually start to open up to you. I have found
Speaker 1: in my experience the more you come at them from
Speaker 1: an inquisitive standpoint of why are you doing this, like
Speaker 1: I maybe want to do this with you. What is
Speaker 1: it about where you going? And first break into their
Speaker 1: shell that way. So once you're in their comfort zone
Speaker 1: of that, start to be like well, I have found
Speaker 1: that doing the you know, running for thirty minutes is
Speaker 1: healthier on your body than two hours. To start to
Speaker 1: kind of drop little notes in there about what is
Speaker 1: healthier and why it might be healthier for their body,
Speaker 1: but then also at the same time have active conversations
Speaker 1: with people, like if they are an activity, if say
Speaker 1: they are in sports and they're doing this stuff outside
Speaker 1: of the sports spectrum, start to talk to their coaches
Speaker 1: behind the scenes, start to talk to teachers they may have,
Speaker 1: start to talk to their doctor about this and you
Speaker 1: can have other people tune in on it so it
Speaker 1: doesn't have the whole weight of this issue, doesn't have
Speaker 1: to be on your shoulders and you don't have to
Speaker 1: feel like you're going behind their back because at the
Speaker 1: end of the day they're still under eighteen, they're still
Speaker 1: your you know, your legal responsibility to take care of them.
Speaker 1: But if you can approach it from a more loving
Speaker 1: emotional standpoint, but then have the people on the outside
Speaker 1: kind of look in with those more, I guess in
Speaker 1: tune to is this getting to be more obsessive behavior,
Speaker 1: so that there's a force working with you and it's
Speaker 1: not all on your shoulders, that's going to be a
Speaker 1: world's different. I love that and I love that you
Speaker 1: said being inquisitive. Curiosity is everything with my kids and yeah,
Speaker 1: they might seem annoyed at times, but the fact that
Speaker 1: you're asking questions, it will pay off in the long runness.
Speaker 1: So curiosity is huge and it just leads to more
Speaker 1: conversation and something that in some of my work with
Speaker 1: my kids, I have found, and I know this has
Speaker 1: worked for other people, to sometimes having conversations in the
Speaker 1: car where they don't have to make eye contact with
Speaker 1: you because you're driving more than likely, and it allows
Speaker 1: for more conversation. So maybe, if you do have to
Speaker 1: have a chat about something, by doing it in the car. Yeah,
Speaker 1: thank you, a Marie, for talking about the workout exercise
Speaker 1: side of things when it comes to kids, and next
Speaker 1: Saturday we're gonna talk about helping our kids lead a
Speaker 1: more balanced lifestyle when it comes to their relationship with
Speaker 1: food and how to inspire and motivate that. So, a Marie,
Speaker 1: in the meantime, where can they find you on instagram?
Speaker 1: Go instagram is fit city Pearl. So it's fit city,
Speaker 1: last word Pearl. Awesome. Thank you so much. We'll see
Speaker 1: you next week. Thank you,