WEBVTT - What If You Could've Had A Healthy Relationship With Exercise From A Young Age? Future Generations Can! (Outweigh)

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body out, out everything that I'm made.

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<v Speaker 1>Won't spend my life trying to change. I'm learning to

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<v Speaker 1>love who I am. I get I'm strong, I feel free,

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<v Speaker 1>I know who every part of me. It's beautiful. And

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<v Speaker 1>then will always out with if you feel it, with joy.

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<v Speaker 1>There she's love to the boom. That, let's say, a

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<v Speaker 1>good day, and did June and die out. All right,

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<v Speaker 1>we are back with our resident expert guest, Anne Marie.

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<v Speaker 1>She shared more of her story, her back story, last Saturday,

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<v Speaker 1>so if you miss that you can go listen to it.

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<v Speaker 1>But she's the founder and creator of my fit city

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<v Speaker 1>world and she has a certified personal trainer and she's

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<v Speaker 1>very passionate about not only helping her clients and their

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<v Speaker 1>goals and mostly clients and recovery. She shared last week

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<v Speaker 1>that the universe just sort of handed her that and

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<v Speaker 1>as someone in recovery, it makes sense for her. But

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<v Speaker 1>today we're going to talk about how to inspire and

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<v Speaker 1>motivate our kids to lead balanced and healthy relationships with

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<v Speaker 1>exercise from a young age. And I don't think I

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<v Speaker 1>had any guidance amory when it came to exercise when

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<v Speaker 1>I was a kid. I just started going to the

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<v Speaker 1>gym somehow and running a lot. Remember running around my

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<v Speaker 1>neighborhood holding a CD pack like I would have to

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<v Speaker 1>put the CD have the full headphones and if I

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<v Speaker 1>would run or, you know, trip, it would skip the CD.

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<v Speaker 1>So but I would go for miles and miles in

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<v Speaker 1>my neighborhood. I don't even know really why and how

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<v Speaker 1>that started, but I remember it got a little out

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<v Speaker 1>of control and when I was in high school was

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<v Speaker 1>when my eating disorder picked up and running was definitely

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<v Speaker 1>something that I used parallel to my food issues. So

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<v Speaker 1>how do we help motivate our kids to want to

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<v Speaker 1>move their bodies but not trigger them or mess them

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<v Speaker 1>up in any way? Yeah, I was seeing to a

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<v Speaker 1>podcast he did recently and it's you're talking about kids

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<v Speaker 1>and went to be in tune if they have issues

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<v Speaker 1>that come up. I think the opposite spectrum that I

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<v Speaker 1>come from is how do we even motivate our kids

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<v Speaker 1>to move in the first place? In the eating disorder

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<v Speaker 1>recovery world we get definitely a tunnel vision to just

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<v Speaker 1>the extreme of restriction and doing too much. What I

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<v Speaker 1>tend to see that we also need to be a

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<v Speaker 1>conversation is that there's a lot of kids who are

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<v Speaker 1>not doing enough and how do we find that balance

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<v Speaker 1>of kids who are not doing enough and kids are

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<v Speaker 1>doing too much and merge it altogether? And it started

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<v Speaker 1>off with my experience growing up and I just did

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<v Speaker 1>the regular, actual quickly activities. I was a dancer, I

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<v Speaker 1>was a swimmer. When I thought of working out, it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't necessarily the act of like take an hour day

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<v Speaker 1>and move your body this way. It was just like

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<v Speaker 1>you just were active as a kid. And then when

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't have those activities as a part of my

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<v Speaker 1>life that I had to go to after high school,

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<v Speaker 1>when I went to college and didn't do any of that,

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<v Speaker 1>that's when I really started to get out of shape

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<v Speaker 1>and and I've done a lot of reflecting and now

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<v Speaker 1>I actually go around with the titans to elementary middle

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<v Speaker 1>schools all around Middle Tennessee and we talk about exercise

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<v Speaker 1>and we talked about eating healthy and what I'm finding

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<v Speaker 1>is a lot of kids actually don't understand what even

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<v Speaker 1>means to even just move your body in a healthy

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<v Speaker 1>way period, what it means that it's okay like dancing

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<v Speaker 1>for twenty minutes, especially in the world of tiktok videos.

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<v Speaker 1>That's exercise, that's moving your body and as parents, and

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<v Speaker 1>I can speak to what I've done with my kid,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's my oldest, is just three and I set

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<v Speaker 1>this pattern of exercises as having dance parties in the

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<v Speaker 1>garage together and doing it activities that we can do together,

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<v Speaker 1>because I know there's going to come a point when

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<v Speaker 1>you have teenagers and they don't want to do anything

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<v Speaker 1>with you. But I want her from an early age

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<v Speaker 1>and I've I've recommended this to a lot of my

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<v Speaker 1>clients and I've talked a lot of other parents about

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<v Speaker 1>the more you can do with your child from an

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<v Speaker 1>early age, the better it sets. Now there's the circumstances

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<v Speaker 1>of you, as an adult, maybe don't even move your

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<v Speaker 1>body that much and you're like hey, let's just go

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<v Speaker 1>and walks together. It's all about the togetherness factor or,

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't do it together, is about them seeing

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<v Speaker 1>you do it yourself. So the patterns you set yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>which leads into making sure adults have the healthy patterns themselves,

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<v Speaker 1>which is a whole another conversation. But I know my dad,

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<v Speaker 1>I think, swam laps growing up, but my mom did

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<v Speaker 1>not work out. It was just not a not a

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<v Speaker 1>thing that they did. And so for me, when I

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<v Speaker 1>got around to developing good, healthy habits with working out,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know what that looks like because all I

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<v Speaker 1>knew was the extreme of working out in the gym

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<v Speaker 1>two hours a day, that eating restrictive. I didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>what a healthy, balanced work out looks like, and that

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<v Speaker 1>looks like just moving your body in whatever way motivates

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<v Speaker 1>you on a daily basis, but having a you know,

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<v Speaker 1>having your kids see you do it, because actions do

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<v Speaker 1>speak louder than words. Always, always, always. We're talking about

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<v Speaker 1>kids right now, but anybody listening could apply this to

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<v Speaker 1>their life, whether you're a parent or just an adult

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<v Speaker 1>and you have no kids and you're still listening to

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<v Speaker 1>this right now, because this information really can be applied

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<v Speaker 1>to anybody. It's like, maybe for you it is fifteen

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<v Speaker 1>minutes of dancing or riding a bike. Like I used

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<v Speaker 1>to think with my son, if he wanted to go

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<v Speaker 1>ride ride his bike and he wanted me to come

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<v Speaker 1>with him, that I had to complete some other workout before,

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<v Speaker 1>at a different point in the day for myself, and

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<v Speaker 1>then I could enjoy an activity with him, whether it's

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<v Speaker 1>he was riding his bike and I walked the dog

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<v Speaker 1>alongside him, or I get on my bike, which riding

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<v Speaker 1>a bike is not my preferred thing, but it's something

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<v Speaker 1>he really enjoys doing and loves when I do it

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<v Speaker 1>with him. And so I tell this story is a

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<v Speaker 1>story of hope and encouragement that, once you let go

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<v Speaker 1>of the shackles of your workout, has to be X

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<v Speaker 1>Y Z. Now I enjoy bike rides with my son

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<v Speaker 1>and I kind of check that box as well. I

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<v Speaker 1>moved my body today too, and I did it with

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<v Speaker 1>him and it was a win win, because we got

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<v Speaker 1>quality time. He moved, I moved, and then I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have any other stress in my brain of Oh but

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<v Speaker 1>I just took this hour to ride bikes with him

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<v Speaker 1>and now I got to find an hour to do

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<v Speaker 1>something else for myself. That falls into my box of workouts,

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<v Speaker 1>which was way more intense. Do you feel like if

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<v Speaker 1>you would have loved riding a bike, that would have

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<v Speaker 1>classified it into your check box, or was it more,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, maybe my thing with riding bikes, as I

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<v Speaker 1>when I was pretty unhealthy, uh, with movement, I did

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<v Speaker 1>things like triathlons. With triathlons are not bad. Maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>enjoyed them. I did not. I did them with the

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<v Speaker 1>intent of I'm going to sign up for a triathlon

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm gonna be training so much that I am

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<v Speaker 1>going to lose so much weight and it's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be amazing. And the problem is I never did because

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<v Speaker 1>I was also training so much that I was always

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<v Speaker 1>so hungry and I had zero control around food, so

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<v Speaker 1>I ate way too much, and so I never ended

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<v Speaker 1>up losing any weight doing a tryathlon. I was probably because,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it doesn't matter, I don't care the size

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<v Speaker 1>of my body, but for me, the way my body

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<v Speaker 1>was built, like the triathlons were putting size on me

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<v Speaker 1>because of the different exercises I was doing and how

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<v Speaker 1>it was building me up. And so then it was like,

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<v Speaker 1>Dang it, this is counterintuitive to what I was doing.

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<v Speaker 1>And so then I think I gave it all up.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, okay, forget swimming, forget running, forget biking, and

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<v Speaker 1>so maybe that was where my why I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>to ride bikes, but now I do, but it took

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<v Speaker 1>me going through the recovery journey to get there. And then,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I think my daughter is probably the more

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<v Speaker 1>difficult one to get moving. I mean my son does

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<v Speaker 1>Jiu Jitsu, he's playing football, he loves to ride his bike.

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<v Speaker 1>My daughter would sit inside and watch anime all day

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<v Speaker 1>every day. I have to make deals to get her

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<v Speaker 1>to go to the park to just be with the trees,

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<v Speaker 1>just to breathe in the fresh air. And I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it's funny shot like that. It will be on our schedule.

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<v Speaker 1>She'll be like, how about on Saturday in two weeks,

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<v Speaker 1>and there we all these things and I'll beca okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's our park date. But I do need to think

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<v Speaker 1>of things for her specifically, because I am worried about

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<v Speaker 1>just her, but I mean it's what we need. She

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<v Speaker 1>needs to move. She can't just do school and then

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<v Speaker 1>sit around. And I would say all this to her face,

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<v Speaker 1>by the way. I'm not saying anything like behind her back.

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<v Speaker 1>I find, too, that a lot of my middle schoolers

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<v Speaker 1>and high schoolers that I work with who are very

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<v Speaker 1>more screen heavy, and I'm somebody who's like, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>anti screen when it comes to wanting to watch stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>but there's actually a lot of fun programs that exist

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<v Speaker 1>that you can watch them do any kind of like

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<v Speaker 1>dancing or stretching or just basic movements. I have one

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<v Speaker 1>client who she loves watching movies and so I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>if you she likes the act of just sitting down

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<v Speaker 1>staring at a screen so she doesn't have to think

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<v Speaker 1>about anything else. That's what it roots from. So I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, okay, well, we're gonna just watch this video together,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was a movement video and it was just

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<v Speaker 1>like a basic stretching kind of on the meditative site.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, I don't have to take you out

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<v Speaker 1>of your environment, we're gonna sit here in your room

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<v Speaker 1>and we're gonna do this together, and that's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>how I introduced her to just movement. And it didn't

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<v Speaker 1>look like all right, now I'm gonna pull you away

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<v Speaker 1>from your safe space, whether it be your room, whether

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<v Speaker 1>it be your family room, and go somewhere else. They

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<v Speaker 1>slowly eased her into we're gonna do movement outside of

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<v Speaker 1>your room, but we're not going to do it right now,

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<v Speaker 1>and it is. It is a struggle, I know with

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<v Speaker 1>you can't necessarily ideas you instill kids from the younger age.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like that myself. You can't necessarily say they're

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<v Speaker 1>going to be there for their entire life, but they're

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<v Speaker 1>going to think back at some point of your life.

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<v Speaker 1>But like I remember when my mom went on walks

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<v Speaker 1>with me, I remember when my mom went bike riding

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<v Speaker 1>with me, I remember that my mom went to work out.

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<v Speaker 1>Like they're gonna remember these things no matter what. They're

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<v Speaker 1>going to stick in their head. I have a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of clients who they have one parent who worked out,

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<v Speaker 1>one parent who did it, and that was the Dnni

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<v Speaker 1>m growing up, and so they don't know what that

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<v Speaker 1>healthy in between balance looks like and it looks like

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<v Speaker 1>just moving your body with a family. So that doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>even feel like exercise. It doesn't even feel like a chore.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like we're just going to do this as a family.

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<v Speaker 1>And I know the family dynamic, the family unit, looks

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<v Speaker 1>different for everybody, whatever that looks like, but it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>just do it, even if they hate it, just do

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<v Speaker 1>it because they're gonna remember it years down the road

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<v Speaker 1>as they're trying to develop healthy habits as an adult

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<v Speaker 1>or healthy habits if they have their own family. What have?

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<v Speaker 1>Your kids are going to remember these things and it's

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<v Speaker 1>already it proves that they will over time, even though

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<v Speaker 1>they might hate it in the moment. What advice do

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<v Speaker 1>you have? If you have clients that are you're working

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<v Speaker 1>with song, it's like, Oh, you know, I'm starting to

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<v Speaker 1>already see some disordered exercise behavior developing in my child.

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<v Speaker 1>How can I help her or him scale it back

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<v Speaker 1>without getting them angry? I'm probably speaking about teenagers and

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<v Speaker 1>specifically because you know they like to do everything the

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<v Speaker 1>opposite of what the parents say. So how can you

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<v Speaker 1>just help sort of guide them, like Hey, you don't,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have to go run four miles again today? Yeah, well,

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<v Speaker 1>especially too, because when the more you push it, the

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<v Speaker 1>more they sometimes tend to hide it, to the hide

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<v Speaker 1>and they'll start to do workouts, you know, where you

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<v Speaker 1>can't see it, or they'll start to run in areas,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, where you just don't know what's going on.

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<v Speaker 1>The healthiest thing is they even mentioned that you do

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<v Speaker 1>know this, something is up and they're gonna push back,

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<v Speaker 1>but deep down inside they do know, yes, I am

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<v Speaker 1>developing these patterns, but approaching it in a way that

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<v Speaker 1>is coming from a place of not accusing them of anything.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like, oh, Hey, I I see you're going

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<v Speaker 1>on this. You know, two hour run what is it

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<v Speaker 1>about this two hour run that makes you happy to

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<v Speaker 1>do it? Just kind of talk to them more about

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<v Speaker 1>the route, the emotional causes about it. They're not going

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<v Speaker 1>to understand the psychology that you're trying to go about

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<v Speaker 1>them from a psychology route with it, and I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>a psychologist psychiatrist by any standards, but by my physical

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<v Speaker 1>health standard, trying to approach it about what is it

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<v Speaker 1>that they've liked about this? And you know there's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be the five times in a row where they say, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I just like it, but they're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>eventually start to open up to you. I have found

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<v Speaker 1>in my experience the more you come at them from

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<v Speaker 1>an inquisitive standpoint of why are you doing this, like

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<v Speaker 1>I maybe want to do this with you. What is

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<v Speaker 1>it about where you going? And first break into their

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<v Speaker 1>shell that way. So once you're in their comfort zone

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<v Speaker 1>of that, start to be like well, I have found

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<v Speaker 1>that doing the you know, running for thirty minutes is

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<v Speaker 1>healthier on your body than two hours. To start to

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<v Speaker 1>kind of drop little notes in there about what is

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<v Speaker 1>healthier and why it might be healthier for their body,

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<v Speaker 1>but then also at the same time have active conversations

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<v Speaker 1>with people, like if they are an activity, if say

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<v Speaker 1>they are in sports and they're doing this stuff outside

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<v Speaker 1>of the sports spectrum, start to talk to their coaches

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<v Speaker 1>behind the scenes, start to talk to teachers they may have,

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<v Speaker 1>start to talk to their doctor about this and you

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<v Speaker 1>can have other people tune in on it so it

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't have the whole weight of this issue, doesn't have

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<v Speaker 1>to be on your shoulders and you don't have to

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<v Speaker 1>feel like you're going behind their back because at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the day they're still under eighteen, they're still

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<v Speaker 1>your you know, your legal responsibility to take care of them.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you can approach it from a more loving

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<v Speaker 1>emotional standpoint, but then have the people on the outside

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<v Speaker 1>kind of look in with those more, I guess in

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<v Speaker 1>tune to is this getting to be more obsessive behavior,

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<v Speaker 1>so that there's a force working with you and it's

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<v Speaker 1>not all on your shoulders, that's going to be a

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<v Speaker 1>world's different. I love that and I love that you

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<v Speaker 1>said being inquisitive. Curiosity is everything with my kids and yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they might seem annoyed at times, but the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>you're asking questions, it will pay off in the long runness.

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<v Speaker 1>So curiosity is huge and it just leads to more

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<v Speaker 1>conversation and something that in some of my work with

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<v Speaker 1>my kids, I have found, and I know this has

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<v Speaker 1>worked for other people, to sometimes having conversations in the

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<v Speaker 1>car where they don't have to make eye contact with

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<v Speaker 1>you because you're driving more than likely, and it allows

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<v Speaker 1>for more conversation. So maybe, if you do have to

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<v Speaker 1>have a chat about something, by doing it in the car. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, a Marie, for talking about the workout exercise

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<v Speaker 1>side of things when it comes to kids, and next

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<v Speaker 1>Saturday we're gonna talk about helping our kids lead a

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<v Speaker 1>more balanced lifestyle when it comes to their relationship with

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<v Speaker 1>food and how to inspire and motivate that. So, a Marie,

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<v Speaker 1>in the meantime, where can they find you on instagram?

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<v Speaker 1>Go instagram is fit city Pearl. So it's fit city,

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<v Speaker 1>last word Pearl. Awesome. Thank you so much. We'll see

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<v Speaker 1>you next week. Thank you,