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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is that you don't have to start from

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Speaker 1: a blank page in making self improvement plans. Instead, you

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Speaker 1: can copy and paste from someone else who has developed

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Speaker 1: a system that could work for you too. Today's tip,

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Speaker 1: like several recently, comes from Katie Milkman's book How to

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Speaker 1: Change the Science of Getting From Where You are to

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Speaker 1: where you Want to be. When there's a goal you

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Speaker 1: want to achieve, it's encouraging to know appear has achieved it.

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Speaker 1: As Milkman puts it, when we're unsure of ourselves, a

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Speaker 1: powerful way the people around us can help boost our

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Speaker 1: capacity and confidence is by showing us what's possible. Not

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Speaker 1: only compeers show what's possible. If you pay close attention,

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Speaker 1: they may be able to show you how to reach

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Speaker 1: the goal as well. You may be able to copy

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Speaker 1: and paste someone else's methods of pursuing the goal. For instance,

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Speaker 1: Milkman describes a person who learned to be a vegetarian

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Speaker 1: by emulating her vegetarian friends the foods they selected in

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Speaker 1: the dining hall. There are questions about restaurant menus, and

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Speaker 1: so forth. She realized what worked for them would probably

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Speaker 1: work for her too. Milkman points out that one student's

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Speaker 1: study habits may work for other students in the same class.

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Speaker 1: One person's exercise hacks may be relevant for others who

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Speaker 1: want to exercise more. We can learn a lot from

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Speaker 1: each other's approaches. So if there are aspects of your

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Speaker 1: life you'd like to improve, think about the people you know.

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Speaker 1: Has someone else done it? Can you copy and paste

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Speaker 1: his approach? If you want to exercise more, do you

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Speaker 1: have a fit friend with a similar job and family responsibilities.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you could copy and paste her exercise schedule into

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Speaker 1: your schedule. Maybe you're hosting your first Thanksgiving dinner this year.

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Speaker 1: You want to host a gathering that's full of easy

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Speaker 1: flowing conversation, laughter, and delicious food, just like all the

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Speaker 1: dinners your aunt and uncle hosted over the decades. Great,

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Speaker 1: why not call your aunt and uncle and ask them

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Speaker 1: how they did it. Ask them for their menu and recipes,

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Speaker 1: the grocery list when they prep and cook the various dishes,

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Speaker 1: how they organized the gathering, and so forth. They'll be

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Speaker 1: honored that you asked, and you will save yourself from

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Speaker 1: learning the hard way which dishes are reliable fan favorites

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Speaker 1: and which are more trouble than they're worth. Or maybe

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Speaker 1: you're starting an executive NBA program and need to figure

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Speaker 1: out how you'll manage time for your job, your coursework,

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Speaker 1: and your family. Reach out to that friend from work

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Speaker 1: who started an online NBA program last year and see

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Speaker 1: how she's scheduling her time and responsibilities. Then copy and

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Speaker 1: paste her schedule onto your schedule and make any tweaks

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Speaker 1: that are needed. Your colleague will feel flattered that you

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Speaker 1: reached out to her as a role model. You will

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Speaker 1: hit the ground running with a workable schedule thanks to

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Speaker 1: her good example. Whatever the area of life where you

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Speaker 1: want to succeed or improve, turn your attention to others

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Speaker 1: who are thriving. We don't have to figure out from

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Speaker 1: scratch how to implement our goals. Instead, we can model

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Speaker 1: our efforts on what someone else has done. We can

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Speaker 1: copy and paste and most likely achieved success in the meantime.

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Speaker 1: This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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Speaker 1: the most of our time. Hey, everybody, I'd love to

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