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Speaker 1: And we just thought, you know, y'all seem to like
Speaker 1: relationship drama. We're kind of experts on it, and we
Speaker 1: do a lot of other segments, including this one awkward
Speaker 1: Tuesday phone call. Yes, love, Yes, seriously, it's not necessarily
Speaker 1: always a romantic relationship with these.
Speaker 2: It was always awkward and tricky.
Speaker 1: So sit back and enjoy your awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 1: on Sunday. Totally. It starts right now.
Speaker 2: Is it ever okay to give someone's gift back?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: That depends, but most of.
Speaker 3: The time no, I'm not just asking because I saw
Speaker 3: Brook's holiday shopping list. Okay, nobody wants to quote road
Speaker 3: kill shovel, Brooks.
Speaker 1: You don't know how u be.
Speaker 2: I didn't even know they made them specifically for them.
Speaker 1: I don't kill possums all the time like you do
Speaker 1: a ger No.
Speaker 3: Thank you, though, but it would take a pretty extreme
Speaker 3: situation where you would have to tell a friend, hey, thanks,
Speaker 3: but no thanks, I.
Speaker 2: Don't need your gift.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Well that's exactly where one listener finds herself today, and
Speaker 3: the gift that she received from a coworker is actually
Speaker 3: jeopardizing her upcoming wedding. You're gonna hear what it is
Speaker 3: in your brand new awkward Tuesday phone call coming up next.
Speaker 2: It's awkward, it's Tuesday.
Speaker 4: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3: Getting somebody a gift off their wedding registry is something
Speaker 3: they'll remember forever. Yeah, especially when you keep bringing it
Speaker 3: up to them years later.
Speaker 2: Like Brook, remember when I got you for your wedding?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got me a green blunder and you got
Speaker 1: me a wine decanter.
Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty nice of me.
Speaker 1: And I use them both all the time.
Speaker 2: That's right.
Speaker 3: Whenever Brook drinks wine, which is every night in most mornings,
Speaker 3: she has to think of me.
Speaker 2: It's my way of cursing.
Speaker 1: Her for usually doesn't make it into the decanter. It
Speaker 1: usually makes it straight into.
Speaker 3: My mouth.
Speaker 1: Every but it's pretty Yeah.
Speaker 3: And for one of our listeners, though, her wedding registry
Speaker 3: has actually caused drama in her relationship and now she.
Speaker 2: Needs our help. So Shilah, welcome to the show.
Speaker 3: Hi.
Speaker 5: How are you guys feeling?
Speaker 1: I can't believe that whoever you're marry and even cares
Speaker 1: about the wedding registry. Of course, yeah, was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: whatever you needn't.
Speaker 2: Charlotte tell us what's going on in your relationship?
Speaker 5: Okay. So I have a wedding website, okay, and on it,
Speaker 5: I have my registry linked, and you know, I have
Speaker 5: like regular stuff like dishes and towels and stuff, but
Speaker 5: we also have like thing you can donate to, like
Speaker 5: our honeymoon fun. And then the one that has my
Speaker 5: fiance upset is I had added an impromptu bachelorette trip
Speaker 5: to Vegas, thinking people would probably just donate like one
Speaker 5: hundred bucks fifty bucks from there, just like spending money
Speaker 5: kind of the thing.
Speaker 2: Okay, gambling money.
Speaker 1: Oh, you put your bachelorette party on the I mean
Speaker 1: that's nice because the bridesmaids don't have to pick up
Speaker 1: the town.
Speaker 5: No no, no, no.
Speaker 3: You said it was a problem for your fiance. Why
Speaker 3: is that an issue?
Speaker 5: It wasn't really a problem at first. But my fiance
Speaker 5: was on there the other day to see if anyone
Speaker 5: bought anything, and he noticed that my coworker, my male coworker,
Speaker 5: had donated to the bachelorette trip.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's so nice, really nice.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's wrong with that?
Speaker 5: Yeah, he donated two thousand dollars.
Speaker 1: Whoa, whoa, Oh.
Speaker 5: My coworkers take note, fom Now that's awesome.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's really cool. Do you guys work in
Speaker 1: like a really well paid job, you.
Speaker 5: Know, like he could definitely, I guess afford it. I mean,
Speaker 5: I don't know. I don't assume anyone's finances.
Speaker 1: But yeah, that's so sweet. I still, what's the issue.
Speaker 5: My fiance feels like the reason that he gave that
Speaker 5: much is because he's hoping that something will happen between
Speaker 5: the two of us, like that, he's got an all
Speaker 5: perior motive.
Speaker 1: He's not going on the trip, like what.
Speaker 5: I'm not married. My fiance feels like because of the
Speaker 5: amount that he gave, but he he'll find some reason
Speaker 5: to be down there and will want to meet up
Speaker 5: or try to hook up or whatever.
Speaker 1: He's not like that, and you can say no, you're happy,
Speaker 1: like your fiance doesn't trust you to handle that if
Speaker 1: that actually happened, which seems like a stretch.
Speaker 5: If he just thinks it's really inappropriate, he's like, I
Speaker 5: know how.
Speaker 1: Guys are tell me he's not making you give the
Speaker 1: money back.
Speaker 5: Terrible, So that is actually why I'm calling, because he
Speaker 5: wants me to give the money back, and they like, think.
Speaker 2: You can't just take the money and use it on
Speaker 2: something else.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and just lie to both of men.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 5: I mean, I want to start off our life together, like, right,
Speaker 5: I don't. I never want him to feel insecure.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I'm just trying to think from his perspective, right, Like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: if a woman gave him two thousand dollars to use
Speaker 1: on a personal trip, it would feel a little.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because it'd be one thing if he gave you
Speaker 3: the two thousand dollars to donate towards your honeymoon together
Speaker 3: or towards building your future home. But the fact that
Speaker 3: it's a trip specifically for you. I could see why
Speaker 3: he would think he's trying to set himself up in
Speaker 3: a way to make himself look good. Yeah, okay, can
Speaker 3: we ask what's your relationship like with your coworker friend guy?
Speaker 1: Like you just say coworker Jeff.
Speaker 3: Well, I don't know, I don't know how how like
Speaker 3: do you know him really well?
Speaker 2: Does your fiance know him?
Speaker 5: I mean, my fiance's met him before, and like he's
Speaker 5: my group of friends at work. But not you know,
Speaker 5: we're not not good enough to get.
Speaker 2: A two thousand dollars donation.
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like if you're getting a two
Speaker 1: thousand dollars donation, it'd be like from your work husband,
Speaker 1: you know, like the person who works that you go
Speaker 1: to lunch with, that you hang out with all the
Speaker 1: time with.
Speaker 2: Yeah, your friend friends.
Speaker 3: So your fiance wants you to give that back. What
Speaker 3: are you looking for from us today?
Speaker 5: This is such an awkward phone call. I don't know
Speaker 5: how to approach this. I don't know how to say it.
Speaker 1: Who are we calling?
Speaker 5: We're gonna call my coworker to give the money back.
Speaker 1: Because you want to keep a good friendship with him.
Speaker 1: You don't want to insult him because it is a
Speaker 1: generous gift. Are you open to having him transfer the
Speaker 1: money into a different area or do you think that would.
Speaker 2: Still like to do some money laundering on the radio?
Speaker 1: I mean, like these dishes were really nice. Like would
Speaker 1: your fiance be more comfortable if the money got shifted
Speaker 1: to the honeymoon fund?
Speaker 5: I mean I think so, But I think he's still
Speaker 5: got like a bad taste of about the whole thing.
Speaker 3: I'm accepting two thousand dollars in general is making him
Speaker 3: uncomfortable no matter what the situation.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is like a family member or a best friend.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just like, all right, you're just trying to flex
Speaker 2: on my future wife.
Speaker 3: It is weird to get that amount of money from
Speaker 3: a total not toll stranger, but someone that's doesn't know
Speaker 3: you that well. But if anybody wants to donate two
Speaker 3: thousand dollars to us.
Speaker 2: Like, yeah, don't let that stop you, free, We're gonna
Speaker 2: we're gonna try and.
Speaker 3: Come up with some advice for you here though, Shilah,
Speaker 3: We're gonna help you tell your coworker we can't accept
Speaker 3: your generous two thousand dollars donation.
Speaker 1: Okay, does anybody in this room have experienced denying money.
Speaker 2: No, I can.
Speaker 6: Two thousand dollars.
Speaker 3: This is going to be a challenge, So we're going
Speaker 3: to do our best with your awkward Tuesday phone call
Speaker 3: right after this.
Speaker 2: It's awkward, It's Tuesday.
Speaker 4: It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3: If you're just joining us for our awkward Tuesday call.
Speaker 3: We've got an interesting situation that happened to one of
Speaker 3: our listeners named Shila. She's less than a month away
Speaker 3: from getting married, and a male coworker of hers just
Speaker 3: donated two thousand.
Speaker 2: Dollars towards her bachelorette party.
Speaker 1: That's a that's a wedding gift, generous.
Speaker 3: To say the least, and that amount of money made
Speaker 3: her fiance suspicious, Like there's got to be strange motives
Speaker 3: behind this gift.
Speaker 1: Remember, she did put her bachelorette party up on her
Speaker 1: wedding registry, so it's not like he was coming out
Speaker 1: of nowhere.
Speaker 2: Yeah he didn't just like Venmo.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but nobody expected two thousand dollars towards it. So
Speaker 3: long story short, she needs our advice I saw on
Speaker 3: how to decline his generous gift and send the money back.
Speaker 2: Three two thousand dollars to flirt with him. You can
Speaker 2: do this a little bit.
Speaker 3: But Hila, you said your fiance noticed that donation a
Speaker 3: few days ago. Since then have you spoken with your
Speaker 3: coworker or seen him around, Like, has he mentioned anything?
Speaker 5: That's actually funny that you say that, because he actually
Speaker 5: was sick yesterday, But he did say that he doesn't
Speaker 5: talked to me and to give him a call.
Speaker 2: After the donation.
Speaker 1: Well, maybe, I mean it's a gift, right, so maybe
Speaker 1: he just wanted to confirm that's a lot of money.
Speaker 1: You want to confirm it went to where it was
Speaker 1: supposed to be.
Speaker 3: He wants to confirm your flight numbers so you can
Speaker 3: join and land with the girls.
Speaker 2: Share hotel room numbers. Like, who knows what he wants
Speaker 2: to do.
Speaker 1: This guy sounds so innocent. It sounds like he's never
Speaker 1: even hit on you one am I right?
Speaker 5: Like we haven't. He's not like that.
Speaker 3: Okay, you know before we call him, we're supposed to
Speaker 3: give you a little bit of advice too.
Speaker 2: So Brooke, what do you think that she needs to
Speaker 2: keep in mind with this car?
Speaker 1: I think this is really simple. I think that you
Speaker 1: need to first thank him for being so generous and kind.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you just.
Speaker 1: Need to explain that it makes you uncomfortable, like it's
Speaker 1: just too much. And also, don't bring your fiance into
Speaker 1: it at all. Yeah, I don't know, like if they
Speaker 1: ever wanted to be friends or something like, it just
Speaker 1: wouldn't happen. Let's not blame other people. I don't know.
Speaker 2: That's first time I've ever heard you say that. So Jose,
Speaker 2: what do you think? Well, I think your strat is
Speaker 2: r n C. That is, reject then compliment.
Speaker 1: No compliment, then reject. That's my method.
Speaker 2: No, you have to leave him feeling good at the end.
Speaker 3: I like that strategy too, where it's like bad news
Speaker 3: first end on the good news. Yes, it's like, look,
Speaker 3: I can't take the money, but you, I mean get kind.
Speaker 5: Happy if someone told me to take a gift back.
Speaker 2: How do you feel about that, Shila?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I think that's probably what's going to work.
Speaker 5: The best is like be straightforward but also complimentary.
Speaker 3: Yeah, totally said it way better than any of us did,
Speaker 3: so quicker.
Speaker 2: Maybe you should be in radio.
Speaker 1: It sounds like a really nice guy. I can't imagine
Speaker 1: he's got to like blow up on the phone or something.
Speaker 3: Let's find out I'm gonna dial his number right now.
Speaker 3: We're gonna step away and let you make this call.
Speaker 2: Will be We're on your side. We're gonna jump in.
Speaker 2: I don't know what I'm saying. We're gonna jump.
Speaker 3: We are here just in case you need us, and
Speaker 3: you're there, all right, all right, you got this?
Speaker 2: Okay, here we go.
Speaker 5: Hello, Hey, Joseph is Shila.
Speaker 4: Oh hey, yo, you didn't call me back. I was
Speaker 4: trying to reach you yesterday with stuff.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I'm sorry about that, you know, just like
Speaker 5: wedding stuff. I got caught up. But yeah, I wanted
Speaker 5: to give you a call now.
Speaker 4: That's good, you know, because I want to talk to
Speaker 4: you too. Like I got a few things I got
Speaker 4: to say to you.
Speaker 5: Okay, well, let me go first, because I just need
Speaker 5: to say this.
Speaker 4: What's wrong to talk to me?
Speaker 5: I just wanted to thank you so much for your
Speaker 5: generous donation. It was seriously, like so nice. I never
Speaker 5: would have expected that. I was so kind of you.
Speaker 4: Don't worry about that.
Speaker 5: It's just it's such a huge amount of money. I
Speaker 5: just really can't accept it. I really appreciate it though.
Speaker 5: It was so like kind and thoughtful, and you're always
Speaker 5: so nice and generous, and I still I really appreciate it,
Speaker 5: but I just I don't think I'm going to be
Speaker 5: able to accept that large amount of money.
Speaker 6: Okay, Well, can you just give it back to me,
Speaker 6: like two weeks from this Thursday coming up? What, just
Speaker 6: hold on to it until then, I'll get it from
Speaker 6: you then.
Speaker 5: Okay? Why though?
Speaker 4: All right, check it.
Speaker 6: I'm gonna give you the all clear, and once I
Speaker 6: do that, then you can send it back.
Speaker 5: Okay, all clear? What Like? I don't understand.
Speaker 4: God, I don't know how to.
Speaker 6: Say this, but I'm going through some things right now,
Speaker 6: and I'm about to divorce my wife. I'm about to
Speaker 6: file for divorce, so I figured that I could start
Speaker 6: pushing my money in different places so she can't find it.
Speaker 1: Joe, It's not gonna be good news for you.
Speaker 2: Due not auditors.
Speaker 4: Don't worry. Speaker at a party.
Speaker 2: No, man, you're you're on a radio show right now.
Speaker 2: The radio we're brooking Jeffrey in the morning. We're like
Speaker 2: a morning party.
Speaker 1: Really sorry to hear about your divorce.
Speaker 4: Man, Yeah, you definitely don't know nothing about no damn divorce.
Speaker 4: You don't know Jack.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm fine with that.
Speaker 1: I know nothing doing with that too.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know what was going on there. We
Speaker 3: were just trying to help Shilah. She's a listener of
Speaker 3: our show, and she told us she's been in this
Speaker 3: kind of awkward situation with you giving her the money.
Speaker 3: She didn't know like why she got so much fun her.
Speaker 1: She thought it was a kind gift for her wedding,
Speaker 1: not a way to stole money away.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's kind of is laundering different.
Speaker 4: Laundering show? What the you do.
Speaker 6: Shilah?
Speaker 1: Did it?
Speaker 3: Know?
Speaker 4: Are you working with my wife and she's trying to
Speaker 4: divorce me? First?
Speaker 5: And then.
Speaker 1: My gosh, Shila.
Speaker 4: I.
Speaker 5: Had no idea. I just my fiance just thought it
Speaker 5: was weird that you did that, And.
Speaker 1: It turns out it was, well, it was not for
Speaker 1: the reasons that he thought. Her fiance thought that you
Speaker 1: were hitting on her, like like I don't know out.
Speaker 2: There, yes, and be like, oh I got money. We
Speaker 2: didn't know that you were happily married at the time, So.
Speaker 1: What was your plan. I don't get your plan?
Speaker 4: Why would I tell you?
Speaker 1: Okay, I just don't get how you would give the money.
Speaker 1: And then it's not our problem.
Speaker 3: He was going to get it back now, Brooks planning
Speaker 3: ahead for her impending relationship problems.
Speaker 2: How exactly does it? How do you execute the stealing?
Speaker 6: Let me tell you this, if you didn't give it back,
Speaker 6: it wouldn't have been a big deal.
Speaker 4: As long as my wife don't get a hands on it,
Speaker 4: that's cool. I will accept it happily.
Speaker 1: You have more money. You need to get rid of
Speaker 1: some of it.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I got something, y'all a whole lot.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know, know nothin it's money?
Speaker 1: Like, so can she tell her fiance what the money
Speaker 1: is really for? Can she keep it?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: So then you need the money back. You need to
Speaker 1: give the money back now.
Speaker 6: But you know that's why I just got to wait
Speaker 6: a couple of weeks to take care of some business.
Speaker 6: You can send it back to me. You can tell
Speaker 6: your fiance that you're giving it back to me. I'm
Speaker 6: accepting it.
Speaker 4: Okay. I got some things going on.
Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, that's happened. Does that feel good, Shila?
Speaker 5: None of this feel good?
Speaker 2: But you don't want.
Speaker 1: Divorce hidden money to fund your wedding. I don't get it.
Speaker 2: You're looking into her future.
Speaker 4: Feel money launder and that the whole world's gonna hear.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, just come after jose and not the
Speaker 1: rest of us.
Speaker 5: Okay, well, thanks guys, I guess bugs done.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're welcome, unless Brooke wants to ask for any
Speaker 3: more tips from Joseph on what she should do.
Speaker 1: I didn't want tips, Jeffrey, I just didn't understand.
Speaker 3: Okay, sure, we're going to check your browser history after
Speaker 3: this segment is done.
Speaker 5: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning,