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Speaker 1: In times of uncertainty, we are frequently reminded of the

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Speaker 1: things that we have no control over. But the way

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Speaker 1: It may mean that you take a moment and figure

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Speaker 1: Our quote of the day, What consumes your mind is

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Speaker 1: what controls your life? By anonymous. What consumes your mind

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Speaker 1: is what controls your life. I don't know about you, TV,

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Speaker 1: but when I hear that, I think about Okay, so

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Speaker 1: I think to some degree that makes a lot of sense, right,

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Speaker 1: And I think it makes sense, but then it leads

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Speaker 1: As of this moment that we're recording, things are changing

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Speaker 2: Yes, and Lady. Next week, we have a very fun

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