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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space, if.

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Speaker 2: You're thinking about the things that you might not want

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Speaker 2: to take into next year, just to like put them

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Speaker 2: whatever you do. It might be a belief that you

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Speaker 2: want to release, or maybe a belief that hasn't been

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Speaker 2: like some habits that we've talked about already. It could

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Speaker 2: be a version of hustle you're done with. It could

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Speaker 2: be a relationship pattern you're closing oof that one. And

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Speaker 2: it could also be a fear that you just want

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Speaker 2: to name and call out. Give it a name, release it,

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Speaker 3: Hey, lady, have you ever felt like the world just

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Speaker 2: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, the podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 3: Our quote of the day, what the new year brings

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Speaker 3: to you will depend a great deal on what you

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Speaker 3: bring to the new year. Right, So I'm going to

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Speaker 3: read that one more time for the folks in the back.

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Speaker 3: What the new year brings to you will depend a

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Speaker 3: great deal on what you bring to the new year.

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Speaker 3: That quote comes to us from Vern McKellen. All right,

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Speaker 3: when you hear what comes.

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Speaker 2: Up for you girl, This quote is so good because

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Speaker 2: I feel like it is such a great indicator and

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Speaker 2: reminder that we are the writers of our story. Like

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Speaker 2: be like, Okay, here is all the you know, here

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Speaker 2: are all the resolutions, here all the things you desire.

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Speaker 2: It's like, we have to be an active participant in

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Speaker 2: the story of our lives in this chapter, no matter

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Speaker 2: what the season is asking of us, right, or what

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Speaker 2: the season is like, what you're doing, like what is

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Speaker 1: Right? So yeah, that's that's what comes up for me.

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Speaker 1: What comes up for you when you're.

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Speaker 3: Here, Yeah, I think it's similar to what was coming

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Speaker 3: up for you, is that like, what you're bringing to

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Speaker 3: right That there may be a lot of things that

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Speaker 3: experienced is based on how you're responding what you're bringing

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Speaker 2: I think that we've all been in that ship storm

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Speaker 2: that you're speaking completely like life. I don't know if

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Speaker 2: to do. And so, Lady, today, we're just going to

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'm here for it.

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Speaker 2: Let's talk about why closure matters, energetic and practical closure. Now,

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Speaker 2: And so it's like closing the things that need to

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Speaker 3: And I think sometimes too with that emotional carryover with

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Speaker 3: But sometimes there are important things that we need from

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Speaker 3: And so that's part of the closure, right, is determining

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Speaker 2: That is so good. Okay, dome over here. I appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: In December, I see you now, come on, that's a

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Speaker 1: And there are some people who are unreasonable, some people

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Speaker 2: To have an adult conversation with to have them hear

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Speaker 1: Like I thought about it after.

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Speaker 2: I was like, damn, I didn't even like walk with

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Speaker 2: the time that I needed to do it. I did it,

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Speaker 3: Yes, I like that. I think that that's a valid

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Speaker 3: but finding a method that works for you other methods.

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00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:06,960
Speaker 3: It's of simple like releasing can feel can be a shower.

438
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Speaker 3: So it's right as it's getting close to midnight, you're

439
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:18,480
Speaker 3: taking a shower to wash up, symbolically, wash off the

440
00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:23,400
Speaker 3: old year and stepping into the new year, clean and fresh.

441
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Speaker 3: See what about you when you think of some of

442
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Speaker 3: the releases, and what about some of the spiritual.

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Speaker 2: Releases, Yes, girl, those are some great. I love the

444
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Speaker 2: ones that you shared as well, and I use those two.

445
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Speaker 2: I would say as far as the spiritual prayer, meditation,

446
00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:43,920
Speaker 2: breath work right also, I don't know, I don't know

447
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 2: if it's considered spiritual, but visualization and mental rehearsal, just

448
00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:51,400
Speaker 2: envisioning what you're releasing. I love to do a good

449
00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 2: letter writing session, so whether it's writing a letter to people,

450
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:59,480
Speaker 2: writing a letter to emotions and letting them go, like

451
00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:02,359
Speaker 2: I think this, it's so much power and feeling the

452
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:05,440
Speaker 2: things like letting yourself holding space for you to feel

453
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:07,359
Speaker 2: all the things that you feel, write it out so

454
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,440
Speaker 2: you can get it out of yourself. I think even

455
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,760
Speaker 2: moving your body, you could do either some like gentle

456
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 2: stretching or some type of workout and setting attention. I

457
00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:18,440
Speaker 2: think it's all about not necessarily what you do, but

458
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Speaker 2: the intention behind it. So you could literally I was

459
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Speaker 2: gonna say, you can eat some cereal and be like

460
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 2: my intention is I mean, honestly, it really is. Whatever

461
00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:29,719
Speaker 2: whatever works for you, lady, just set your attention right.

462
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Speaker 2: So it could be walking in silence. I love a

463
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Speaker 2: good solo hike. It could be fasting from social media

464
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Speaker 2: for a couple of days. Okay, we know how social

465
00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 2: media can be can prompt us to doom scroll. So

466
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Speaker 2: I think those are some of the ways that we

467
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:45,040
Speaker 2: can have our own virtuals of release. There is no

468
00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 2: right or wrong way. It's what works for you, what

469
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,760
Speaker 2: feels good and your body and your spirit, and what

470
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:51,400
Speaker 2: feels like it's going to be useful.

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Speaker 1: So those are some of the things that I like

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Speaker 1: to do. Okay, where should we go now, lady.

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Speaker 3: Well, I think about.

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Speaker 1: Rest. Oh, yes, your favorite part.

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Speaker 3: Yes, listen. I you know I have come a long

476
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Speaker 3: way because I used to struggle with getting rest, and

477
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Speaker 3: now I'm a huge proponent of it, Like let's make

478
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Speaker 3: it happen, let's figure out how to do it, and

479
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:33,360
Speaker 3: and naming it as a necessity right, that that resting

480
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 3: is not lazy when you are constantly doing things anyway, right,

481
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Speaker 3: I think that I want to, you know, I want

482
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Speaker 3: to acknowledge that there are there are people that have

483
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 3: that are lazy, that literally just do nothing all day

484
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:57,880
Speaker 3: every day, and that's you know, that's that's them. Okay,

485
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Speaker 3: But for the majority prey of us, rest when we

486
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Speaker 3: are resting, that is not laziness. Because when we think

487
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 3: about all of the things that we tend to do

488
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Speaker 3: in a twenty four hour time period, okay, resting is

489
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Speaker 3: a necessity. And so you know, I think the thing

490
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Speaker 3: that we we tend to do, we tend to look

491
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Speaker 3: at rest as like a reward, like, oh, I've done

492
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Speaker 3: ten things today, I deserve some rest. Well, how about

493
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:37,360
Speaker 3: we reframe that as if I'm doing ten things today,

494
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:46,440
Speaker 3: I have to incorporate rest or it doesn't matter how

495
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:53,120
Speaker 3: many things I'm doing today. If my body says sit

496
00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 3: your ass down, then sit your ass down, girl, like

497
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:04,160
Speaker 3: you got your self that opportunity to truly chill.

498
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Speaker 2: And if you need some tips on how to do that,

499
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 2: we do have an episode season twenty four, episode six

500
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Speaker 2: called Fall into Wellness. Seven Ways to Rest and Recharge

501
00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:18,120
Speaker 2: before the New year. You could check that out because

502
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:20,560
Speaker 2: we got some tips for you there. And even if

503
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,840
Speaker 2: you talked about rest, I'm just thinking about how my

504
00:28:22,960 --> 00:28:25,479
Speaker 2: relationship with rest has changed to over the years because

505
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 2: we're just like grind grind grind women. And oh, I

506
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:30,520
Speaker 2: don't want to be lazy. I don't know what to

507
00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 2: do when I rest, but girl, I want a vacation.

508
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 2: Recently and I slept so much. I did not do work,

509
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 2: which was like a big thing that is huge for you, girl,

510
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:41,960
Speaker 2: and not opening the laptop. And so now I'm getting

511
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,840
Speaker 2: more comfortable with this what they call it the soft life.

512
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:48,240
Speaker 1: Get soft, like give you all the rest. Let's do

513
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: it for me.

514
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:52,800
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, that deep, that deep transformation that we that

515
00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,280
Speaker 2: many of us are looking for. It needs stillness. And

516
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:58,280
Speaker 2: the other thing I want to emphasize too is rest

517
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 2: may look different for you depending on what your in

518
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:03,280
Speaker 2: I was looking at a journal entry from a couple

519
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 2: years ago, and I was feeling very overwhelmed. I was

520
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:10,200
Speaker 2: still nursing with my breastfeeding journey, and I was like

521
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 2: stressed out with all the things I was managing, and

522
00:29:12,920 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 2: rest for me looked very different then than it does now.

523
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 2: And so just try to figure out what does rest

524
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Speaker 2: look like for you in this season, and we're going

525
00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 2: to aspire to get to a place where it supports

526
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Speaker 2: you even more in the future.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, Now Dom.

528
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Speaker 2: You started, you asked a question in the beginning of

529
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Speaker 2: the episode where you talked about what do you want

530
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 2: to take into the new year? So this will be

531
00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 2: a really great time to revisit the immerse of that question,

532
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 2: which is what are we not taking into next year.

533
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Speaker 2: That's one thing I haven't done yet is like wrote

534
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 2: a letter to what I'm leaving, but I think I

535
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 2: do want to do that, to just call it out

536
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 2: state it, let it know, like you not coming with

537
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,200
Speaker 2: me to the next year. And so I don't know,

538
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 2: what are some things that come up for you when

539
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 2: you think about what you are not going to take

540
00:29:57,760 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 2: into next year.

541
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Speaker 3: I don't know, Well, I need to spend some time

542
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 3: with that to really think about what I'm not taking

543
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 3: because I one of the things for me has been

544
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 3: focusing more on the positive side of things, and so

545
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 3: because it's easy to go, it's often easy for me

546
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 3: to think of like what I don't need to do,

547
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 3: what I have to stop doing, Like all of the

548
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:30,719
Speaker 3: like it's usually easy for me to do that. And

549
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 3: so what I've been trying to actually be more intentional

550
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 3: about is being like focusing on what do I want,

551
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:44,280
Speaker 3: what do I need to have, what do I currently have?

552
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 3: What am I doing? Like the positive side of it,

553
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:50,680
Speaker 3: And so I would have to put I would have

554
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 3: to put a lot more thought into the things that

555
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 3: I'm not going to take because I've been focused. Yeah,

556
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 3: I've really been focused on what are the good things

557
00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 3: that you've been doing that you want to bring in? So, yeah,

558
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 3: what about for you?

559
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 2: I would say one that comes up for me and lady,

560
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 2: we'll give you some prompts in case you are trying

561
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:08,200
Speaker 2: to think of, like what do I want to just

562
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 2: release and leave here? I would say one for me

563
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 2: is like this grind culture. I was really reflecting on

564
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 2: my journals in my life over the past, I would say,

565
00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 2: seventeen eighteen years, and I've just worked really hard for

566
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 2: a long time. And not to say I'm not going

567
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 2: to work hard, but I'm just going to lean more

568
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 2: into ease and flow versus like I gotta force all

569
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 2: these things that happen and like work so hard and

570
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 2: be up all night and do this I'm like, no,

571
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 2: I've done a lot, and so the things that are

572
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:39,120
Speaker 2: for me are going to come to me. So I'm

573
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 2: releasing that like grind culture. And lady, if you're thinking

574
00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:46,200
Speaker 2: about the things that you might not want to take

575
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 2: into next year just to like put them out there,

576
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 2: ore they want to burn it, rip it up, whatever

577
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 2: you do. It might be a belief that you want

578
00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 2: to release, or maybe a belief that hasn't been serving you.

579
00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:58,960
Speaker 2: It could be a habit that you're retiring, like some

580
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 2: habits that we've talked about already. It could be a

581
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 2: version of ustle you're done with. It could be a

582
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 2: relationship pattern you're clothing that one m And it could

583
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 2: also be a fear that you just want to name

584
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 2: and call out.

585
00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 1: Give it a name, release it, let it go, and

586
00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 1: leave it over there.

587
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Speaker 3: I think those are good. I like that, And so lady,

588
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:30,040
Speaker 3: let's let's think about it like this. Let's let's do

589
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 3: a quick recap right on what your closing the year

590
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 3: ritual can look like. Right, So, one, you want to

591
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 3: clear your physical space, right, then you want to reflect

592
00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:57,160
Speaker 3: before you move into planning for the new year. Then

593
00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 3: you want to release, Then you need to rest and

594
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 3: then you want to think about what you're not taking

595
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:11,800
Speaker 3: into the new year. And once you've done all of that,

596
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 3: then you can think about setting goals and intentions for

597
00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:22,920
Speaker 3: the new year. But truly, you know, as I think

598
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 3: about our list here, what comes up for me in

599
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:39,240
Speaker 3: thinking about this list is really just the clarity that

600
00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:43,800
Speaker 3: will hopefully come to you once you have done all

601
00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 3: of these things, right, Yeah.

602
00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:47,080
Speaker 2: That.

603
00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 3: When I've rested, when my space is like my physical

604
00:33:54,800 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 3: space is clear, yes, like when I've released previous things.

605
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:09,920
Speaker 3: The level of clarity that that comes from that is amazing.

606
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:14,439
Speaker 3: And I think that it's with that clarity that then

607
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:21,080
Speaker 3: you're able to set yourself up for what will hopefully

608
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,319
Speaker 3: be a great new year.

609
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:28,360
Speaker 2: That is so good and so true done because literally,

610
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 2: once I decluttered and I did my ritual, I was like, Okay,

611
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:33,759
Speaker 2: now I felt like I could breathe a bit more

612
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 2: deeply and I had space to focus on what's coming

613
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 2: what's what's coming up next? Right, because I was able

614
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 2: to let that stuff go. And also when you hold

615
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:45,799
Speaker 2: space for some of those things that need closure, they don't,

616
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 2: in my opinion and my experience, they don't come up

617
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 2: as much. Right, Like, once I do those closure rituals.

618
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:53,760
Speaker 2: It's like, Okay, we're done, we cut the cord. We're finished.

619
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Speaker 2: And another thing to keep in mind too when it

620
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:59,839
Speaker 2: comes to the new year and just manifesting or bringing

621
00:34:59,880 --> 00:35:04,760
Speaker 2: up whatever you desire is being mindful of your thoughts

622
00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 2: and like what you believe. Right, Like we're closing the

623
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:07,480
Speaker 2: gear out with.

624
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:08,359
Speaker 1: Intention, but.

625
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,279
Speaker 2: Just remember that what you believe to be true is

626
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:14,560
Speaker 2: going to be true for you. And so I think

627
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 2: a lot of things that I've I was talking to

628
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:19,719
Speaker 2: one of my one of my coaching clients recently, and

629
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 2: the conversation was we were talking about just a goal

630
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:26,880
Speaker 2: that they could achieve, and there was a lot of

631
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 2: negative self talk, which many of us have experienced, right,

632
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 2: Like I've been there as well. But I think it's

633
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:34,879
Speaker 2: important to just catch ourselves. So when you have these big,

634
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:37,359
Speaker 2: grand goals, whatever it might be for you for next year,

635
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 2: just remember that if you believe you can achieve it,

636
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 2: you really can. And then there's a plan that your

637
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 2: you know, idea was going to put in place to

638
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 2: achieve that, right, whether it's just more ease and flow

639
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:49,200
Speaker 2: or if you're in a grind season, because some of

640
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:51,799
Speaker 2: us we might be in a grind season, right, right,

641
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 2: So just being mindful of like what you're believing.

642
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:55,280
Speaker 1: I think that's super important.

643
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think, And then I think also too is

644
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:02,959
Speaker 3: we said this before, but I want to make sure

645
00:36:03,400 --> 00:36:09,600
Speaker 3: we everyone heard this that Like, even though traditionally January

646
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 3: first marks the start of a new year, lady, you

647
00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:17,680
Speaker 3: can listen to this episode at any point in the

648
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:21,320
Speaker 3: year when you are ready to have a new year

649
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:26,000
Speaker 3: for you, right, So, te you mentioned your birthday, right

650
00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 3: and then using December first as your demarcation of a

651
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 3: new year. For some people, they usually use their birthday

652
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:40,879
Speaker 3: as their start to a new year. And so yes,

653
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Speaker 3: we're this episode. You're listening to it. If you're listening

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Speaker 3: to it hot off the presss then it is right

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Speaker 3: before the start of twenty twenty six. But lady, you

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Speaker 3: can add on your birthday halfway through the year, at

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Speaker 3: the start of a new quarter, like whenever the start

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Speaker 3: of a new moon, whenever it works for you to

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Speaker 3: start fresh, when you're wanting to bring something to a

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Speaker 3: close and start anew you can come back and listen

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Speaker 3: to this episode and go through these steps to help

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Speaker 3: you have that proper closure to move into that new

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Speaker 3: start with intention.

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Speaker 1: I love that so much. Jib and Lady.

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Speaker 2: In a couple of minutes, we're going to happ into

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Speaker 2: the after show to just do some behind the scenes

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Speaker 2: and all that good stuff. But we just want to

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Speaker 2: share a couple more reflection questions. I was thinking of

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Speaker 2: some of the questions down that are in the year

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Speaker 2: and review, and one of them that I really liked

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Speaker 2: was who supported me this year? I think that's such

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Speaker 2: a great question because that had me thinking. When I

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Speaker 2: did my year review, I typically will look at my

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Speaker 2: calendar for each month just to see what things was

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Speaker 2: I doing throughout the year, because the beginning of the

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Speaker 2: gear feels like it was five years ago, like all

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Speaker 2: the things that have happened, right, Yes, So I'm looking

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Speaker 2: at the calendar, I'm looking at my planner, looking at

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Speaker 2: my ASNA to do list, and just kind of reflecting,

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Speaker 2: but thinking about who supported me. I think that's a

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Speaker 2: great question that we can ask ourselves so that we

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Speaker 2: can go back and think some of those people. Just

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Speaker 2: being reminded that even when you may feel alone at times,

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Speaker 2: it's like, oh wow, I do have support, Like someone

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Speaker 2: So I really like that question as well as I

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Speaker 2: don't know we have this on the list, but what

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Speaker 2: attributes or what attributes did I possess this year that

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Speaker 2: I really appreciate that I'm proud of. I think that's

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Speaker 2: another really good one to another opportunity to celebrate ourselves

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Speaker 2: and how we show up, because we often do a

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Speaker 2: lot more than we give ourselves credit for.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes we do. And so, lady, as you are

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Speaker 3: listening to this episode, we hope that whatever chapter it

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Speaker 3: is that you closing, so again, whether it's the officials

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Speaker 3: start of a new new year, or it's the closing

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Speaker 3: chapter of a relationship, a job, a home, whatever it

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Speaker 3: is that you're closing, that you close it with intention,

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Speaker 3: and do you give yourself that space to move into

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Speaker 3: the next thing with just as much positive intention?

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Speaker 2: All right, lady, we're going to go record the after show,

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Speaker 2: So visit herspacepodcast dot com, click anywhere you see Patreon,

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Speaker 1: All right, lady, would hope to see you there.

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