Speaker 1: Hey, y'all, it's Erica. Listen this episode. I'm so excited
Speaker 1: for you guys to hear me and Mila really got
Speaker 1: to dig deep ask each other some questions that as friends,
Speaker 1: I don't think we've ever asked or even thought to
Speaker 1: ask one another. This game that we play is pretty
Speaker 1: amazing and I'm really excited for you guys to tune
Speaker 1: in and listen to all the gems and things that
Speaker 1: come up during the episode. But I did want to
Speaker 1: give you a little heads up. We did have some
Speaker 1: audio issues for the first ten minutes of the episode.
Speaker 1: Nothing major, but hey, it's podcasting, we're listening. I want
Speaker 1: you to know that we did get it together after
Speaker 1: about ten minutes, so just bear with us, and I
Speaker 1: hope you guys enjoy this episode. Make sure you click
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Speaker 2: Welcome back to Good Mom's Dad Choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 2: I'm Lula and it's Wednesday. Happy Wednesday, Happy Wednesday.
Speaker 1: Honey. Hi, how are you?
Speaker 3: I'm pretty good?
Speaker 2: How are you?
Speaker 3: You're the only person in the world that I love.
Speaker 2: Call me honey? Why I don't like it? Did you
Speaker 2: like when woman call you honey?
Speaker 3: But I don't.
Speaker 2: I think you know I'm not saying it and it's condescending.
Speaker 1: No, I know.
Speaker 2: But do you do you like woman call you honey?
Speaker 2: If it's condescending?
Speaker 1: No, even in general, you're like, well, you don't mind
Speaker 1: when people call you honey.
Speaker 4: I feel like I'm not sugared by it, unless it
Speaker 4: feels like that you're getting smart. But when I say honey,
Speaker 4: I i's genuinely. I know, I know, I'm just I
Speaker 4: just asked that because I know, like a lot of
Speaker 4: people will.
Speaker 3: Be like that is call me honey. Do not call
Speaker 3: me honey.
Speaker 1: I am nobody's motherfucking honey too. Like if I have
Speaker 1: a book, yes, honey.
Speaker 4: It's like if it's like a bitch that I don't know,
Speaker 4: I'm like, thanks, honey, Like that's different.
Speaker 2: But I'm not that type of bitch. I don't talk
Speaker 2: like that in general, So tell me, honey, let me
Speaker 2: see that sounds. Hey, honey, how are you?
Speaker 1: How are you doing?
Speaker 3: Honey? You got I'm good. I feel like everyone thinks
Speaker 3: some condescending soythe I was.
Speaker 2: Gonna say everything I said, that's for you. We used
Speaker 2: to call my great grandmother honey. Really mm hm that
Speaker 2: was herding. That's not her name as a a Caulder.
Speaker 3: So I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know what you mean, though, I want me
Speaker 2: to think of something. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: I was just it just came to my mind because
Speaker 1: I know that you say that often, and I often
Speaker 1: wondered how you felt about people calling you honey, because
Speaker 1: I know you're particular about certain things, and I know
Speaker 1: that women are particular about sweety honey, sweetie.
Speaker 2: I don't like don't call me sweete. I don't like that,
Speaker 2: no matter if it's condescending or not. If it's not condescending,
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna be triggered by it. But I feel
Speaker 2: like sweetie is.
Speaker 4: Like from someone you don't know, it's generally condescending or
Speaker 4: this is a very prime example of bitches are crazy.
Speaker 4: It not honey, but sweety Now, what the fuck does
Speaker 4: that mean?
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 4: Anyway, Well, but you know what, I think my kindness, like,
Speaker 4: I'm very nice mostly. I think some people, like New
Speaker 4: Yorker New York women, I think people take it as disingenuous,
Speaker 4: but it's just my personality.
Speaker 2: I know, you're a genuine asked bitch.
Speaker 4: Anyway, if you see me in the streets and I
Speaker 4: call you honey, I'm not being disingenuous.
Speaker 2: Love Erica. On the other end, maybe I might.
Speaker 1: I mean I probably won't, but you know, people always
Speaker 1: get the wrong question, so you know, there's that.
Speaker 2: Anyway, how'd you weake anything new going on?
Speaker 1: I went to the beach yesterday, which was nice with
Speaker 1: Nearlyn and our girls, and I just chilled.
Speaker 2: It was a really nice day. I needed to just
Speaker 2: I haven't had a break from motherhood and like.
Speaker 3: Since we got back in Costa Rica pretty much.
Speaker 1: So it's been like almost three and a half weeks
Speaker 1: that I've had like I've had every every single day.
Speaker 2: I thought she didn't go over there at all with
Speaker 2: that father. No, the father is gone for like one day,
Speaker 2: two days. He like pickture up from school and dropped
Speaker 2: her back often.
Speaker 1: Wow, with that father, No no, he's he's on tour,
Speaker 1: and so you know, and my mom is also on tour,
Speaker 1: and my dad is also on tour.
Speaker 2: Her dad's on tour.
Speaker 1: Wow, I don't have the typical grandparents that are sitting
Speaker 1: the ass down waiting to take their grandchildren in.
Speaker 4: I am so grateful for those typical motherfucking grandparents that I.
Speaker 2: Have, like none on my side. But on the other side.
Speaker 1: Oooh.
Speaker 2: One thing I've chose, right, is I chose the good grandparents.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, I I oh need, I need a break and
Speaker 1: I wasn't gonna I know, I wasn't gonna get one.
Speaker 1: So I was like, hey, Maryland, you want to go
Speaker 1: to the beach and our kids can babysit each other. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And that's what happened. I went shopping.
Speaker 2: I thought a really cute ass toe ring that I'm
Speaker 2: not wearing right now.
Speaker 3: I think toe rings are my new jam.
Speaker 2: I love toe rings that they hurt.
Speaker 1: Side, I think I don't have it on because in
Speaker 1: the middle of the night, I got fed up and
Speaker 1: I fucking ripped it off.
Speaker 2: It's like they hurt. I want anyone that's comfortable.
Speaker 4: Also, like, I think I make my ankles too tight
Speaker 4: because I always end up popping.
Speaker 2: But I love body jewelry. Yeah, I think I'm gonna
Speaker 2: stuck up my toes.
Speaker 3: They'll be cute.
Speaker 2: I want some toe rings. I want to get my
Speaker 2: nipples pierced again.
Speaker 4: But I'm scared because I know I'm not having no
Speaker 4: babies for like ever or long ass time.
Speaker 2: I took my mind out when I was when I
Speaker 2: was like nine months parted it like sex. You know,
Speaker 2: I don't like to wear bras. Ooh, I don't know.
Speaker 1: My ariolas are fucking huge, so I don't think. I
Speaker 1: feel like nipple piercings.
Speaker 3: Are just not gonna.
Speaker 4: I mean, this is literally literally the most painful thing
Speaker 4: you could ever do.
Speaker 2: I don't even know why I said that. I'm totally like.
Speaker 1: I remember when I got my tongue pierced. I was, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was on mushrooms. Actually, piercing your tongue doesn't hurt.
Speaker 1: It really does not hurt. It's the aftermath that hurts.
Speaker 1: It's the well I was also on mushrooms.
Speaker 2: Was that? But why don't you do it on mushrooms?
Speaker 2: Because why not? When you're eighteen in New York City.
Speaker 3: And you're on mushrooms, why not get your tongue paires
Speaker 3: and all. My friend got her nipples Paris on mushrooms.
Speaker 2: Oh I thought that shit hurt like a muzz Yeah
Speaker 2: I did. And that's why I was like, I watched
Speaker 2: it happened. I was like, oh, hell no.
Speaker 3: I am doing that ship. The mushrooms did not do
Speaker 3: shit for her.
Speaker 2: The only that'll do shit.
Speaker 4: I think the only way I do it again is
Speaker 4: if I had two piercers at the same time, Cerson
Speaker 4: at the same time, because that second one, when you
Speaker 4: know what that first one feels.
Speaker 3: Like, bitch, It's like that's like the eyebrow waxing or
Speaker 3: like or like Cucci wax.
Speaker 2: Oh, that Kuchi wax is hard. Wouldn't do a lot
Speaker 2: of ship. I think I would have waxed my coushie
Speaker 2: it has been.
Speaker 1: I can wax it for you, bitch. You waxed my
Speaker 1: mustache was and you were so aggressive. I'm you were
Speaker 1: moving so mean to me.
Speaker 2: You were so mean. I was like, treat your quiet now.
Speaker 1: But like first one, we're standing in the kitchen and
Speaker 1: you're like backing up like bit time.
Speaker 2: I'm I supposed to watch you.
Speaker 1: I'm not Cuccie will be backing up for you, okay,
Speaker 1: like I need to do. I just like sugar waxing
Speaker 1: once and that was like the least is that what
Speaker 1: it is?
Speaker 2: Sugar?
Speaker 1: It was the least painful of experience I've had. But
Speaker 1: I haven't waxed in probably like five years.
Speaker 2: Because he's allergic to waxing. I usually shaved. But I'm like,
Speaker 2: I'm very like, I'm I'm like a nature woman right now,
Speaker 2: I'm so hairy.
Speaker 4: I was like this, this is so.
Speaker 2: I was like, I might as well as wax it
Speaker 2: like funck shaving.
Speaker 1: I've grown it to the point of waxing, and I
Speaker 1: don't want it to come back for at least three weeks,
Speaker 1: So yup.
Speaker 3: If they want to do it. Anyway, Enough about my kuchi.
Speaker 2: And your forest are my mushroom tongue ring experience. Do
Speaker 2: we have a car to die? Oh? Of course we do.
Speaker 2: We're pulling a lot of pentacles latelace. Oh. A lot
Speaker 2: of money happening because we're rich bitches. Today's card you've
Speaker 2: pulled is the seven of Pentacles, and I don't know
Speaker 2: my ten and the seven of Pentacles.
Speaker 4: First of all, I've learned that my picking every Wednesday
Speaker 4: is that pinnacles usually have to do a fine answers.
Speaker 4: The seven of Pednacles shows you understand the value of
Speaker 4: putting in time and energy now for longer term rewards
Speaker 4: and have strong desire to invest in sustainable results. You
Speaker 4: are not looking for quick wins. You also want to
Speaker 4: make sure you're putting your attention on the right areas
Speaker 4: instead of wasting time and effort on tasks that will
Speaker 4: not deliver any value. When this card appears in a
Speaker 4: tail reading, when it is an invitation to step back
Speaker 4: from the day to day operations and look at the
Speaker 4: bigger picture.
Speaker 2: Celebrate what you have created and assess your progress so far.
Speaker 2: Are you on track? Are you focused on the right
Speaker 2: task and for your goal?
Speaker 4: Similarly, if you're planning for the future, the seven of
Speaker 4: Pinnacles encourages you to take a long term view and
Speaker 4: assess where you can best invest your time and energy
Speaker 4: for the maximum output. You do not want to keep
Speaker 4: putting your heart install into something if you won't read
Speaker 4: the rewards for your work. And you have undoubtedly seen
Speaker 4: that some areas in your life are just energy suppers.
Speaker 2: Wow, it could go for a lot of things, not
Speaker 2: just finances.
Speaker 4: If you're working hard and putting an extra effort into
Speaker 4: something challenging and important for the last few months.
Speaker 2: Then depper's or project is near it's culmination. Rest assured
Speaker 2: your work will pay off.
Speaker 4: You're likely to see financial or other intangible rewards for
Speaker 4: all of your hard work.
Speaker 3: I've been manifesting this.
Speaker 1: This has been under my candle every every moon, just
Speaker 1: like basically all my.
Speaker 3: Efforts being fruitful, all the things that.
Speaker 1: I've been putting in and removing the things that I'm
Speaker 1: putting energy into.
Speaker 3: That are not breathing, that are not fruitful.
Speaker 2: Lest like create space. Yeah, I feel that. I feel
Speaker 2: that deeply.
Speaker 4: You know, I'm quint of putting much my efforts into
Speaker 4: places that may not be fruitful.
Speaker 2: But like that's more like people not necessarily.
Speaker 4: Financially or something I don't like do a lot of
Speaker 4: pyramid schemes or anything like that.
Speaker 2: Yet not I don't.
Speaker 4: That's not my thing, not cham But you know, i'd
Speaker 4: be loving on people and been like, are.
Speaker 2: You my husband? Probably that, but I still love you,
Speaker 2: stick stay forever. You're not my husband, No, but just
Speaker 2: stay with me. Because then I went.
Speaker 4: I think women do that in general, though, but I
Speaker 4: do feel like we've been working very, very very hard
Speaker 4: in our business and in our brand. And I keep
Speaker 4: saying this like to you and to my friends, is like,
Speaker 4: I know.
Speaker 2: We're really close.
Speaker 4: I'm like, there's like I we're clear about what it
Speaker 4: is that we're trying to achieve, but there's just like
Speaker 4: this like this little gap of like, oh well, it's
Speaker 4: just we're not rich yet.
Speaker 2: So there's the part that we're not rich, so we'll
Speaker 2: be it rich. It's gonna go crazy over here. We
Speaker 2: are rich.
Speaker 3: We are rich in mind, body, and sphere.
Speaker 2: This is true of our kids are healthy.
Speaker 3: Our bodies are healthy.
Speaker 2: We woke up this morning, everything works properly.
Speaker 3: Thank god. You know it's we are rich.
Speaker 1: We're rich in so many other more important ways, and
Speaker 1: all that shit will come because we have stuff thinking
Speaker 1: we have to.
Speaker 3: Not have a what is it?
Speaker 2: What was what did she call it? The wealth?
Speaker 1: Which I guess it was like a deficit in our
Speaker 1: I don't know, scarcity. That's scarcity complex and like in
Speaker 1: money and finances, and it.
Speaker 4: Just it bleeds into all areas of life. So not
Speaker 4: having enough, Yeah, I don't know when does this come out.
Speaker 2: I'll tell you what. I'll tell you off I haven't
Speaker 2: told any of those stories, so I'm just gonna tell
Speaker 2: you anyway. Do you have an affirmation for us today?
Speaker 2: Today's affirmation is I am rich than in more ways
Speaker 2: than one. I am rich in more ways than one.
Speaker 2: I am rich in more ways than one. Did you
Speaker 2: have one?
Speaker 3: I just know that was great.
Speaker 2: You know whatever inspires you.
Speaker 3: We're rich. We're rich, bitches. I am that.
Speaker 2: Bitch, and I'm not gonna take your ship.
Speaker 1: I am going to get that bag. Wait, okay whatever
Speaker 1: insert song here. Yeah, yeah, we're.
Speaker 2: Rich in love and friendship and wealth were loved. I'm
Speaker 2: not like complaining at all, So you're right. Well, I'm
Speaker 2: excited because we have been like.
Speaker 1: Sort of playing this game, but not really fully playing
Speaker 1: this game. And I think it's time to finally play
Speaker 1: this game. And if you guys haven't heard of We're
Speaker 1: not really strangers.
Speaker 2: It's a card game.
Speaker 1: It's a purpose driven card game, and it's basically supposed
Speaker 1: to kind of peel back the layers of perception, connection
Speaker 1: and reflection amongst friends and lovers and lovers.
Speaker 2: And you're my best friend, and I feel like we
Speaker 2: know each other really well.
Speaker 3: But there's always more. There's always you know.
Speaker 2: Things that maybe have are unseat or need to be said.
Speaker 2: What better place to do it than in front of everyone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you a love to just feel back our layers
Speaker 1: right here.
Speaker 4: You have no idea how often Erica and I have
Speaker 4: addressed things between us.
Speaker 2: For the first time on.
Speaker 4: The mic, true, like, I have something to tell you
Speaker 4: right now, not twenty minutes ago before we started shot.
Speaker 2: I gonna take something right right this fucking moment.
Speaker 4: Okay, so we're gonna we're getting into it.
Speaker 2: We're not really strangers. Okay, so I'm gonna.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read the instructions just this first part because
Speaker 1: I thought it was funny the way they worded it,
Speaker 1: and also we have.
Speaker 3: To do it.
Speaker 4: So okay, wait, First of all, we planned this last
Speaker 4: night and this morning.
Speaker 2: I forgot so on the way over. When I thought
Speaker 2: about it because she forgot the cards, I wouldn't go
Speaker 2: pick them up. I'm like, do I feel like getting
Speaker 2: deep in shit this morning? But no choice.
Speaker 4: It would be this like sense tovesk that she was
Speaker 4: concerned about getting deep in the morning.
Speaker 2: In the meanwhile, the one who's like, don't ask me anything, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 4: I don't want to ask any much I'll give you
Speaker 4: all my advice, tell me all your tell me all
Speaker 4: your secrets.
Speaker 2: I'll tell you exactly what you need to do. Don't
Speaker 2: ask me shit.
Speaker 1: Okay, So sit facing one another with level one cards
Speaker 1: facing down.
Speaker 2: Now, stare deeply into each other's eyes. Seriously, stare deep
Speaker 2: into each other's eyes. The first two. Blake draws first. Okay, sorry, ready,
Speaker 2: he's fased down. I don't yes, because you can't see them. Think,
Speaker 2: how are they all? I think I don't know they're all.
Speaker 3: I don't know him.
Speaker 2: I took them out of the wrapping a main rope
Speaker 2: flip flopped.
Speaker 3: So apparently that's how it supposed to be. Okay, So
Speaker 3: staring competition right my eyes already arding.
Speaker 2: It was really weak.
Speaker 4: It wasn't wait like twice Bishop, I'm like, I'm looking
Speaker 4: at you, Blake.
Speaker 3: Okay, so I have to pick first?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Level one last.
Speaker 3: The Level one is perception. Who do you think my
Speaker 3: celebrity crushes?
Speaker 2: Yah yah?
Speaker 4: That guy? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Okay? True? Why true? Do you know who ya ya is? Guys?
Speaker 3: Hes fuck and actually trap.
Speaker 2: Yoga Bay went to school with him. I can't wait
Speaker 2: to me, I look, we gotta hang out with her.
Speaker 2: We gotta run into him. So then she like, I'm
Speaker 2: not gonna put task together or you'd be like hey,
Speaker 2: And actually I pulled open my trunk.
Speaker 3: Why did I?
Speaker 1: I don't don't don't ever buy vacazines, but I must
Speaker 1: have bought his cover of like Essence magazine.
Speaker 2: It was in my trunk and I opened it yesterday
Speaker 2: and I was like, should I throw it away? Do
Speaker 2: you think I threw that away? Throw away? Got it?
Speaker 2: Just if anyone can hear and knows you Didna, that's
Speaker 2: mine makes a link. Put us in a DM together
Speaker 2: or something. Yeah. Okay, did your say wildcard? Is that wildcard?
Speaker 2: It says wildcard?
Speaker 3: Yeah. That means you have to pick it.
Speaker 2: You have to just make some shut up ask and
Speaker 2: answer the next question in a different accent. Hell this
Speaker 2: next question? Oh okay, sorry, so this is the wildcard.
Speaker 2: I have to do it in an accent. Okay, that's
Speaker 2: so funny.
Speaker 4: Little just asked me if I can do an English
Speaker 4: accent and it was like, not that good, but we
Speaker 4: could practice.
Speaker 2: Do I remind you of anyone? No, bitch, because I'm
Speaker 2: one of the fucking kind.
Speaker 3: No, you don't, you don't.
Speaker 2: You don't remind me of anyone, because you have one
Speaker 2: of the kind. I never met a creature like you, bitch?
Speaker 2: Why thank you, dear? Not to be not to be
Speaker 2: confused with honey, my dear. I feel like English people
Speaker 2: say yes, Dan, thank you, moll Ti.
Speaker 4: I get English and Australian fucked up that I'm in
Speaker 4: the crocodile dune it quickly, Okay, what character would I
Speaker 4: play in moving?
Speaker 2: Any character? Because you're an actress, I have this still. Okay,
Speaker 2: that's good, Yeah, finish the sentence. Just by looking at you,
Speaker 2: just by looking at you, I.
Speaker 3: Think you're a witch.
Speaker 2: Okay, what do you think I'm most likely to splore?
Speaker 2: John like traveling you.
Speaker 3: Are my bitch, that's my bitch.
Speaker 2: I was like, if we're rich, that's okay. I'm gonna
Speaker 2: just go for right now. Do I seem like someone
Speaker 2: who would get a name tattooed on myself? Why?
Speaker 1: Why not?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 3: You fucking love love.
Speaker 1: I'm surprised you don't have all your niggas tatted all
Speaker 1: over your fucking body.
Speaker 4: One of my niggers just asked me recently, like my
Speaker 4: name tattooed? And I was like, Eric would kill me?
Speaker 2: In English?
Speaker 4: What you mean?
Speaker 3: It's the same shit at any language pitch.
Speaker 2: I was like, where, of course to say over your pussy,
Speaker 2: and no, it was like on my collar bone. And
Speaker 2: I was like, all, so, okay, that's a bit much, right.
Speaker 2: That's the fact that I even asked, fact, the fact
Speaker 2: that I considered Eric would be so mad aware but language,
Speaker 2: you're right? Fuck you know me? I have my maybe
Speaker 2: NAT's name tattooed on me for like two like for
Speaker 2: like a month. You did, yeah when that dragon is?
Speaker 4: And then my dad found the receipt in the office
Speaker 4: because I'm dumb, But what tattoo artists writes a receipt
Speaker 4: lower back?
Speaker 2: Bobby? It literally said Bobby quotes. Oh my god, we're
Speaker 2: gonna have to.
Speaker 1: Quote at this point. I don't think we've never okay,
Speaker 1: learned out. I'm sure I don't have timestamps.
Speaker 2: Is what time is that?
Speaker 1: Whatever? We don't have if we don't have our podcast
Speaker 1: our podcast producers.
Speaker 2: In here today, so we have no we have no
Speaker 2: not for being taken. Okay, it'll be fine. How many
Speaker 2: speeding tickets do you think I've gotten in my life too? None, bitch,
Speaker 2: I've gotten to never.
Speaker 1: Everyone is always complaining about my driving, Yet I have
Speaker 1: never gotten a speeding ticket.
Speaker 2: I've only gotten a cell phone ticket, and any car.
Speaker 3: Accient I've ever been and has not been my fault.
Speaker 2: That's not okay, it's totally not true. It's true. That's
Speaker 2: fad wild card. Close your eyes. What color is my shirt? Me?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Great?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: It do. I seem like more of a creative or
Speaker 2: analytical type. Explain creative.
Speaker 3: You're a little analytical.
Speaker 2: You're more analytical than me, but you're more definitely work
Speaker 2: to explain why. It's just how you were born, sweetie.
Speaker 1: It's just who you are this way.
Speaker 2: I don't know why God makes you this way.
Speaker 4: You like to create shit, photo shoots, podcasts, four hundred
Speaker 4: businesses fare What was your first impression of me?
Speaker 1: Lucky?
Speaker 4: Why? Uh? Because I was skinny?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Wow, Well because you were skinny. I remember specifically
Speaker 1: in the pool when because you came over and we
Speaker 1: went swimming that first day and you were breastfeeding Luna
Speaker 1: like in the pool, and I was really jealous. I
Speaker 1: was because I was like I had at that point
Speaker 1: kind of given up on breastfeeding. I've kind of felt
Speaker 1: like a failure and I kind of felt like I
Speaker 1: wasn't a good mom. Because I couldn't do it, and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, look at her. She's
Speaker 1: just like effortlessly milk flowing from her titties. Meanwhile, I'm like,
Speaker 1: let me go get the bottle the nutrich and where
Speaker 1: the fuck I was feeding my daughter?
Speaker 4: Oh no, babe, And.
Speaker 1: I think you were. Yeah, you're still with your baby daddy.
Speaker 1: At the time, I felt like you had it more
Speaker 1: together than I did.
Speaker 4: I don't know why the fuck you thought that I
Speaker 4: was not. Well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but actually the first time I was this was
Speaker 1: Sawyer met you.
Speaker 4: Just your first impression of me.
Speaker 1: My fresh Okay, so actually my first Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: lucky because the first impression was actually not even when
Speaker 1: I met you. It was on Instagram and I was like,
Speaker 1: how the fuck is this bitch so cute? Pregnant? The
Speaker 1: fuck she's like skinny with just a bump and then
Speaker 1: had this baby and still looks the same. Like I'm
Speaker 1: literally felt like a slob. I was like, how the
Speaker 1: fuck who is this bitch? I need to know her?
Speaker 1: Fuck her.
Speaker 4: I want to be your friend. Oh babe, I thought
Speaker 4: you were lucky too, because you got engaged and it
Speaker 4: was a fat ass ring. I'm like they're probably doing
Speaker 4: great over there, and I was drowning and.
Speaker 1: I should have said, I was literally thinking about that
Speaker 1: on the freeway the other day, that I should have
Speaker 1: never given that ring back.
Speaker 4: You should have never told you, ladies, listen up.
Speaker 1: If you are about to break up with your fiance husband,
Speaker 1: don't you fucking dare give that ring back?
Speaker 4: Shu Lee. If that motherfucker fucked up, it is yours forever.
Speaker 4: You should have thought about that shit before you fucked
Speaker 4: it up and fucked up the contract.
Speaker 1: I just knew, you know what it was. I was
Speaker 1: so angry when all of our shit went down the
Speaker 1: way it did and hurt, and I knew that he
Speaker 1: had worked so hard to give me that ring because
Speaker 1: it was fat, it was a big ass diamond that
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want this shit, so I
Speaker 1: just threw it at him. And I'm sure that fucking
Speaker 1: ring is like three chains right now. For sure, he's
Speaker 1: got like three fucking diamond chains off that shit.
Speaker 4: He could have that shit because I'll buy you a ring.
Speaker 1: And I was thinking, damn, I could have bought my
Speaker 1: titties with that ring like my mom did.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna buy you a ring, my mom.
Speaker 1: Bought her titties with my dad's engagement rings. You could
Speaker 1: have just been a repeating history essentially, That's what I'm doing. Anyway.
Speaker 4: You could be like me and get nothing but a baby.
Speaker 4: So no boobs, no ring, just sorrow, sadness, sorrow, sorrow,
Speaker 4: time wasted. Okay, what do you think is the hardest
Speaker 4: part of what I do for a living? Everything, all
Speaker 4: of it. It's hard, juggling, balancing. I think balancing is
Speaker 4: the hardest part. Amen, What about me intrigues you?
Speaker 1: I feel like you are really are much better at
Speaker 1: like even though like your people person and you're an oversharer,
Speaker 1: I feel like you are more of a less of
Speaker 1: an open book than I am in ways, and I
Speaker 1: think people, yeah, because you have your own little secret
Speaker 1: life over there, you do, you'd be doing weird shit
Speaker 1: on the weekends and I have no idea about it.
Speaker 1: I just feel like you have a lot of different
Speaker 1: things about like that you do. I don't know which
Speaker 1: is fine, because you should do that. But I feel
Speaker 1: like I'm a more of an open book with my friends,
Speaker 1: Like I'm going to tell you, like what's happening all
Speaker 1: the time. The status is of my dating relationships, like
Speaker 1: what should I do? Whereas like I think that you
Speaker 1: keep things a little more close to the belt. And
Speaker 1: I think most people would be shocked by that because
Speaker 1: you probably share more on the podcast than I do.
Speaker 1: But in our personal life and just knowing you, I
Speaker 1: think that intrigues me.
Speaker 4: I do do some shit on the weekends.
Speaker 1: It's that Gemini.
Speaker 4: It's like, let me tell you what I did two
Speaker 4: weeks ago, to tell you.
Speaker 1: It's the Gemini in you. And that's why I think
Speaker 1: I'm very attracted to Geminis because you're hard to figure out.
Speaker 4: That's crazy, because I think I'm the most too openness bitch.
Speaker 4: Can you please shut the fuck up? Sometimes? Ask book girl?
Speaker 4: Close the book? Okay, nobody needs to read it? Fuck
Speaker 4: too honest, Like, sometimes you need to shut the fuck up, Jamilla.
Speaker 1: Damn. What about me is the most strange or unfamiliar
Speaker 1: to you?
Speaker 4: What's the most strange or unfamiliar unfamiliar? I don't know
Speaker 4: at this point. Everything's very familiar, strange, maybe doing some
Speaker 4: strange shit. Ah, this is difficult. What is the most
Speaker 4: strange or unfamiliar? I'm trying to think of, like the
Speaker 4: strangest thing I've seen you do. I really hate that
Speaker 4: you keep putting almond butter in every fucking smoothie. Jesus Christ.
Speaker 4: It's the most fucking cardboard additive to a.
Speaker 1: Smooth as protein. Not strange, you know, it's really range
Speaker 1: is your flexitarian diet.
Speaker 4: And then you're spashing me publicly, bitch eakes pork fucking
Speaker 4: tacos only in Mexico and shit, and they're like, you
Speaker 4: eat terribly. I'm like, bitch, the fuck I know you?
Speaker 4: You know that, right?
Speaker 1: Whatever?
Speaker 4: What do my shoes tell you about me? Your shoes
Speaker 4: of them that I'm a stripper, that you are.
Speaker 1: A stripper, and that you love I feel like you're
Speaker 1: stuck in the two thousands. Sometimes you're stuck in the
Speaker 1: early two thousands. A certain shoe looks good on me,
Speaker 1: like the late ninety nines, early two thousands, spice girls.
Speaker 4: I'm sure.
Speaker 1: I like everything with a platform.
Speaker 4: I like big.
Speaker 1: The fact that you shoes went like, went crazy to
Speaker 1: find these specific shoes, guys, Look, we're holding it up
Speaker 1: to the camera. You see these. She was like googling
Speaker 1: for her life, trying to find cork platformed, clear shoes.
Speaker 4: With clear platform six inch platforms. Yes, that's true.
Speaker 1: I haven't seen someone wear those since fran Dresher.
Speaker 4: You know how long it took me to find them?
Speaker 1: I know because you were looking for weeks.
Speaker 4: I don't like the new school shoes. These are the
Speaker 4: ones that look good on me, and those really weren't
Speaker 4: the ones that I wanted. There was another one that
Speaker 4: Steve Madden used to make, but that's oh.
Speaker 1: They're out of style. They're not.
Speaker 4: They're not like the wooden bottoms, like, what are they clogs?
Speaker 4: No number can.
Speaker 1: Basically I know, and I'm let you had it right.
Speaker 1: Do you think I've ever checked an ex's phone for evidence?
Speaker 4: For sure?
Speaker 1: It's a fact. I haven't checked many though, because I've
Speaker 1: always felt so violated. I've always dated such like possessive
Speaker 1: men that I really made an effort to not look.
Speaker 1: And I really genuinely think if you look, you're gonna
Speaker 1: find some shit that you're not gonna like like. And
Speaker 1: sometimes I like to live in the space of like,
Speaker 1: I don't know what's happening, because inevitably, I trust the
Speaker 1: universe is always gonna give me the information, and she
Speaker 1: always does. So I don't really go through people's phones,
Speaker 1: but I have. I definitely check my baby daddy's phone.
Speaker 1: And I can count on my on one hand how
Speaker 1: many times. Probably three times.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've done it. My babydady was a liar, though
Speaker 4: most niggas are liars. I'll do it like howsually, I'll
Speaker 4: look over, especially if you if you slip and it's
Speaker 4: just next to me and it's open. But I feel
Speaker 4: the same way. If you look, you shall find some shit.
Speaker 4: One time I was so determined to like get a
Speaker 4: good look at it, my baby daddy fell asleep. I
Speaker 4: don't know if I put the phone by his face,
Speaker 4: so I recognized. Then I left the house, got into
Speaker 4: the car, locked the door. This nigga must have woke
Speaker 4: up realized his phone was missing. Scheme. What I was like,
Speaker 4: fuck you through the window, was begging, like trying to
Speaker 4: drive off your cycle.
Speaker 1: Wows are crazy?
Speaker 4: Okay, what's the first thing you noticed about me?
Speaker 1: You're small physique.
Speaker 4: I'm very small, you guys, not very small. I'm thaker
Speaker 4: than a snicker. But for some reason, and people see me,
Speaker 4: they're always like, oh my god, you're so small. There's
Speaker 4: so much older than Erica. I am like six inches
Speaker 4: shorter than Erica five six. Yeah, I'm six inches short.
Speaker 4: I don't feel that way though I don't either.
Speaker 1: Whenever we do take pictures, I'm like, Wow, I am
Speaker 1: bigger than you.
Speaker 4: It's because I'm big in spirit.
Speaker 1: Do I seem like a coffee or tea person? Sweetened
Speaker 1: or unsweetened coffee?
Speaker 4: One yellow splenda? That is it? Almond milk?
Speaker 1: Accurate?
Speaker 4: Wow? We go together? Why do I get I'm a
Speaker 4: wild girl at all? The wild cards? Draw a picture together?
Speaker 4: For thirty seconds?
Speaker 1: We need to draw one together. I don't have a pencil.
Speaker 4: I'm a better drawer anyway. What you should that pick? Okay,
Speaker 4: I'll show you much pictures. What do you think my
Speaker 4: go to karaoke song is?
Speaker 1: Wait?
Speaker 4: I just went before you say this. I just want
Speaker 4: you to know. I have a notes in my phone
Speaker 4: and it just says karaoke. I'm not a frequenter of karaoke.
Speaker 4: I haven't gone in years, but just in case, they're
Speaker 4: in my phone.
Speaker 1: There's two officially missing you to me.
Speaker 4: My request.
Speaker 1: Okay, I saw your request it so I know it's fact.
Speaker 4: Another one is silly of me to thing that you
Speaker 4: could have ever really want me too? Okay, I like
Speaker 4: that one until my phone I forgot I know that song.
Speaker 1: I just thought maybe you know. Wait, let's see how
Speaker 1: you have one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight nine. Okay,
Speaker 1: we have six more rounds guys before we move on
Speaker 1: to connection. If you were to buy me a present
Speaker 1: knowing nothing about me other than what I look.
Speaker 4: Like, what would it be good?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Because I like gold, but the bitch is my presence.
Speaker 4: Okay, but I don't if I don't know you gold.
Speaker 4: Everybody looks jewelry. I would buy something expensive. Look like
Speaker 4: a rich bitch.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah like that, I'm a rich bitch.
Speaker 4: Not yeah like that?
Speaker 2: Like that?
Speaker 4: What is my phone? Wallpaper? Tell you about me?
Speaker 1: Six years?
Speaker 4: All paper tell you about me? Boy? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Uh that you haven't updated it in six years.
Speaker 4: Wait, First of all, it's me and Luna when she
Speaker 4: was like two. But let me tell you how I
Speaker 4: got here. One time, my best friend made a comment
Speaker 4: about another mom that the child wasn't on her wallpaper,
Speaker 4: and I was like, am I bad mom? Because I
Speaker 4: get my wallpaper and I changed it. I never changed
Speaker 4: it back. I literally don't look at like I just
Speaker 4: I don't look at it. But you know what tip
Speaker 4: quick tip that I did do before I got pregnant.
Speaker 4: You should make a collage and make it your wallpaper,
Speaker 4: but you should put it all the things that you're
Speaker 4: aspiring to get. You should make your wallpaper a vision board.
Speaker 4: Cousin Chris told me that, and I had it briefly,
Speaker 4: and actually a little girl was on there because I
Speaker 4: really wanted to have a girl and I got a girl.
Speaker 1: So there you go. She works wild card. Write down
Speaker 1: something others would never guess about you just by looking
Speaker 1: at you. Both players compare.
Speaker 4: I've had at least six wet dreams about Eminem. Eminem.
Speaker 4: It's better than fucking Howard Stern and six though that's
Speaker 4: like you came. Yeah, I'm grossed out. I don't even
Speaker 4: know if we're actually friends. I'm shocked.
Speaker 1: It started when I was like stop, just take my
Speaker 1: first one. I was around age fifteen, okay, and then
Speaker 1: it's carry on through adulthood.
Speaker 4: I don't know what if anyone knows Eminem. He this
Speaker 4: is my second time kind of hearing you say that.
Speaker 4: I'm always trying to act like I didn't hear it.
Speaker 1: Mela, I'm a sub and a dom. I'm pretty sure
Speaker 1: people know this too. Okay, Well, I look innocent, though,
Speaker 1: do you, I think, so this is the dumbo. Do
Speaker 1: I look kind?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 1: Explain you just have an inviting demeanor about you, which
Speaker 1: is why you are. I've always told you like you
Speaker 1: are a light, like literally like the light in the
Speaker 1: house that all the bugs like fucking just like anywhere
Speaker 1: we go, Mila will make a friend. If you ever
Speaker 1: want to go to an event and you just need
Speaker 1: that friend who is going to be able to hold
Speaker 1: her own, call Mela like she's that friend. You don't
Speaker 1: got to worry. She goes and probably leave you and
Speaker 1: go somewhere else with some other people.
Speaker 4: It's true. If you think the night is over and
Speaker 4: I met friends that are doing something else, I'm probably
Speaker 4: gonna stay with them. Oh you're just going home. I'm
Speaker 4: gonna just stay with George and Jill over here. Don't worry,
Speaker 4: I'll be fine.
Speaker 1: This is exactly what happened in Nashville. I was like,
Speaker 1: where are you going?
Speaker 4: And I always I'm like, why didn't you let me go?
Speaker 4: The next day, like why didn't you just make me leave?
Speaker 4: You know, I need to be told. There's been so
Speaker 4: many times in my mind I'm like, bitch, you've got
Speaker 4: I don't know, I've literally reflected like you didn't do
Speaker 4: nothing that time. It's literally your face, like, why are
Speaker 4: we talking to this person? Twenty minutes later, still you're
Speaker 4: walking down the street. You have shit to do.
Speaker 1: Okay, this is the last one. Do you think I
Speaker 1: fall in love easily? Why? Or why not?
Speaker 4: I don't think you fall in love easily. I think
Speaker 4: you fall in love more easy than you think though
Speaker 4: you think, well, bitch, I just heard about the romantic
Speaker 4: gift you just gave a guy.
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean I love him. No, No, I don't
Speaker 1: think you fall No. I definitely fall in love easy
Speaker 1: er than Erica. I think I used to fall in
Speaker 1: love really eazy. I always had boyfriends, like back to
Speaker 1: back to back boyfriends. Oh yeah, I think that I Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think he retired. I have a boundary. I have
Speaker 1: a boundary up, which is like I get scared sometimes,
Speaker 1: like am I capable of loving someone like how I
Speaker 1: used to love before? Like selfish, like like totally selflessly?
Speaker 1: Maybe not, because I don't know if that's healthy for me.
Speaker 4: But yeah, okay, round too, Round two, Level too, Level two.
Speaker 4: Have you ever told someone I love you but didn't
Speaker 4: mean it?
Speaker 1: If so, why yes? During sex?
Speaker 4: Because they kept saying it because.
Speaker 1: I did feel like I loved them during sex fair,
Speaker 1: I love you, I love this dick, and then when
Speaker 1: we were done, I was like, I don't love you
Speaker 1: and I love the dick. And now you think I
Speaker 1: loved you because I fucked you like I loved you,
Speaker 1: and now I'm fucked.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, literally and figuratively.
Speaker 2: Yes.
Speaker 1: What is the last thing you lied to your mother about, Jamila?
Speaker 4: I know you're not talking. I don't know. Probably like
Speaker 4: paying a parking ticket. I love. My parents are very
Speaker 4: annoying to me. They're always bitching, so I'm probably lying
Speaker 4: a lot. Shut up. Yeah, it's done. Yeah I did
Speaker 4: do that. They still think I live in the back room.
Speaker 4: Wild Card. Admit something.
Speaker 1: I admit something. I am scared of success, full success,
Speaker 1: because I don't know how I'll maintain it. I feel you, girl, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm scared of being successful in ways because I don't
Speaker 1: know how I'll maintain it. It's like one of my
Speaker 1: biggest fears of like, Okay, work so hard, I get
Speaker 1: all the shit and then it's here and then I'm like,
Speaker 1: how do I keep this shit?
Speaker 4: Yeah? That's scary. Like, as you grow in anything, you're like, damn,
Speaker 4: I got this apartment, how this fucking rent? Oh damn
Speaker 4: I got this car? Oh damn? Like I got this
Speaker 4: business and now we have employees and people. Fuck shit,
Speaker 4: must keep going.
Speaker 1: It's scary girl. So the other night I was masturbating
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Speaker 1: open up my door. You know I'm have the Queen
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Speaker 4: Wild card. Call someone you admire and tell them why
Speaker 4: you appreciate them. Put on speakerphone. Okay, are you gonna call?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna call Nisha.
Speaker 4: Hopefully she answers she had two kids.
Speaker 1: Nope, she ain't gonna answer. Who's next? Okay, next person
Speaker 1: is going to be Ashley. Oh and she's answering. Hello, Hey, hey, bo,
Speaker 1: how are you? Hey?
Speaker 4: I'm just untacking.
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm good, I'm good. I just wanted to tell
Speaker 1: you that I really admire you. I think that you
Speaker 1: are an amazing woman. And yeah, and that you I'm
Speaker 1: impressed by you because everything that you do, you just
Speaker 1: fucking do it. You are willing to work through everything.
Speaker 1: You're so creative, and I know that sometimes you don't
Speaker 1: have it all together. And somehow you fucking look like
Speaker 1: you do even when I'm around and even anywhere, and
Speaker 1: that I think that you are going to be really
Speaker 1: successful and whatever you put your full attention to.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 1: What is It's part of like a like a like
Speaker 1: a five steps kind of I'm playing this card game
Speaker 1: and I got a wild card game. A wild card.
Speaker 1: It told me to call someone I admire and tell
Speaker 1: them why, Oh thanks girl. Yeah, I love you.
Speaker 3: Thank you.
Speaker 2: That means a lot to me, especially coming from you.
Speaker 1: I love you, I love you, I really mean all
Speaker 1: those things. Oh I love you too. Who are you
Speaker 1: playing this game with Mela? Hi? Mila and the podcast?
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm over here like crying out.
Speaker 1: Oh I love you. You really are. You're so amazing.
Speaker 1: And I saw your YouTube's like you are the ship.
Speaker 1: You're really shit.
Speaker 4: You everything great.
Speaker 1: I've seen you start so many different businesses and do
Speaker 1: every single one like super well, like not half asked,
Speaker 1: and thank you are incredible and you're a good ass. Mom.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much. That means so much. Thank you.
Speaker 1: You're welcome.
Speaker 2: All right, Well, now I can continue doing laundry.
Speaker 4: Okay, I love you, love you.
Speaker 1: Give the baby the kiss for me. Bye, I'm gonna cry.
Speaker 1: I love my friend. Oh I love her, I really do. Okay, Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: we aren't really strangers.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, is it my turn?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I guess Okay, sorry. How can you become a
Speaker 1: better person?
Speaker 4: How can I become a better person? I could become
Speaker 4: a better person, probably by giving less of myself to
Speaker 4: some things. I could probably prioritize myself and the things
Speaker 4: that are my priorities better. I think that would make
Speaker 4: me a better person. Also, I could go to therapy. Okay,
Speaker 4: stop avoiding the work. Cool, it's my turn.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 4: And what question are you trying to answer most in
Speaker 4: your life right now? Okay? Level two?
Speaker 1: How do I make all of my efforts fruitful? Back
Speaker 1: to the affirmation of today, Like, how do I make
Speaker 1: everything that I'm doing worth it all? Because sometimes I
Speaker 1: feel disconnected from my m from the work that I'm doing.
Speaker 1: Because sometimes I feel like I get in these weird
Speaker 1: modes where I'm like, what am I working so hard for?
Speaker 1: Just go live in the jungle. This is pointless. There's
Speaker 1: your find wealth and health and so much more there.
Speaker 1: And then I'm like, no, but I really fucking like
Speaker 1: what I do. And I like working hard, and I
Speaker 1: like creating, and I like collaborating, and I like the
Speaker 1: accolades of my success. I like unlocking, you know, things
Speaker 1: that I thought I couldn't do, manifesting things with you
Speaker 1: and seeing how they fucking just boom happen. You know, well,
Speaker 1: that's the answer.
Speaker 4: Oh what question are you trying to answer most in
Speaker 4: your life?
Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, how do I? Yeah? How do I make
Speaker 1: all those things happen? Finish the sentences. Strangers would describe
Speaker 1: me as blank. Only I know that I am blank.
Speaker 4: Strangers would describe me as I'm pretty. I think I'm
Speaker 4: an open book. I was gonna say, oh, an extrovert.
Speaker 4: Only I would know that I am have stage fright.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true. I mean, I don't really think you
Speaker 1: have stage fright, but I know that you think you do.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: I think that you actually perform really well under pressure.
Speaker 4: But I think that it's not that I don't have
Speaker 4: stage fright, it's that I push past it to engage.
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm so scared and anyway, reminder, be more
Speaker 4: interested in understanding others than being understood.
Speaker 1: Be more interested in understanding others than being understood.
Speaker 4: At this point in my life, I feel like expect
Speaker 4: to be misunderstood and be okay with it.
Speaker 2: M h.
Speaker 4: Not only that, like expect to be misunderstood and be
Speaker 4: at peace with it.
Speaker 1: You know what. I had this dream last night and
Speaker 1: I told my mom about it because it was she
Speaker 1: was in it, and I felt so real because it
Speaker 1: is like a feeling that I have had to work
Speaker 1: through with her and feeling like whatever I'm doing is
Speaker 1: not impressive or it's not enough for your mom. And
Speaker 1: in the dream, I had this dream that like she
Speaker 1: called me or she texts me. And there's this girl
Speaker 1: that I know who I've known her since middle school.
Speaker 1: She's a dermatologist, she's getting married, she's like super successful,
Speaker 1: she's like an aspen. It's really me. I'm looking at
Speaker 1: her life on Instagram and I'm like, wow, she's killing it.
Speaker 1: And my mom texted me, was like, Erica, why couldn't
Speaker 1: you have been more like And she's a doctor too.
Speaker 1: She's like doctor. I'm not gonna put her last name,
Speaker 1: but doctor blank. You know, maybe if you'd stayed at
Speaker 1: that school that you wanted to leave, like you'd be
Speaker 1: farther along in your career and like have a respectable career.
Speaker 1: That's literally was the dream. And I was like so
Speaker 1: distraught and hurt and angry and felt like but also
Speaker 1: felt this rush of like I'm going to prove you.
Speaker 1: I'm proving you wrong. I was doing I was like
Speaker 1: doing a project and I was like, this project has
Speaker 1: to be amazing because it's gonna just and I was,
Speaker 1: but I was also like very hurt. And I told
Speaker 1: my mom about it today because I was like, I
Speaker 1: had this dream and she's like, you know that I
Speaker 1: don't feel that way, right, Like, I'm so proud of you.
Speaker 4: I'm happy you told her that you had this random
Speaker 4: dream that's big.
Speaker 1: Yeah, She's like, I'm so proud of you. I'm so
Speaker 1: like you are amazing. Like and I was like, maybe
Speaker 1: that's the dream I needed to have because I needed
Speaker 1: to hear that right and then to hear that question
Speaker 1: or that reminder is affirming. So yeah, what was that again?
Speaker 4: Rate reading be more in interested in understanding others than
Speaker 4: being understood?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Does that NICEA I'd expect to be misunderstood, expect not
Speaker 4: to be under be understood and accept that and be
Speaker 4: okay with it.
Speaker 1: And you know, I've also been feeling like really empowered
Speaker 1: and where we are. But also there's times where I
Speaker 1: feel insecure about what we do when dating, Like I
Speaker 1: feel like not insecure, but I'm like, are you okay
Speaker 1: with this? Like I want to make sure you're okay
Speaker 1: with this? Like because whoever, like this person that I'm
Speaker 1: talking to, I'm like, feel I find myself cringing if
Speaker 1: he listens, And I'm like, why do I cringe? This
Speaker 1: is my like what I do, Like, yeah, listen to
Speaker 1: that shit, listen to me talk. I want you to
Speaker 1: be like, yes, my bitch, that's my bitch right now.
Speaker 1: But also there's part of me is like is it
Speaker 1: too much? Am I too much?
Speaker 4: Are you gonna ask me later to like tone down
Speaker 4: a little bit?
Speaker 1: Like yeah, so ooh your my stomach, jeez. I'm still
Speaker 1: working through insecurities guys.
Speaker 4: As we all are, Babe, we're're a human.
Speaker 1: When you're asked how are you? How often do you
Speaker 1: actually answer truthfully?
Speaker 4: Probably like twenty percent of the time. I'm answering honestly
Speaker 4: because I think I am programmed to be okay. I'm
Speaker 4: programmed to be good, like I don't. I'm programmed that
Speaker 4: everything is working out in it's best favor. And I'm
Speaker 4: also the type of person is like someone has it
Speaker 4: way worse than you, Like what you're complaining about is small,
Speaker 4: and like everything, I talk myself down a lot, like
Speaker 4: you are good, everything's fine, you're healthy. You know, like
Speaker 4: this is good. So I don't. I'm not the type
Speaker 4: of person who kind of acknowledges a lot of like
Speaker 4: background shit, because my focus is always that I'm good.
Speaker 1: I mean even today when I called you, I was like,
Speaker 1: are you okay? And she was like, yeah, I'm fine.
Speaker 1: I was like why are you lying? I was like
Speaker 1: why are you lying? And she was you were like no,
Speaker 1: I just and then you told me what happened, and
Speaker 1: I was like I could feel that there was like something,
Speaker 1: I know, but I just felt like there was something.
Speaker 1: But I was like, I'm sure you were good. I'm
Speaker 1: just saying like I know that there's been times where
Speaker 1: you've said you're gooding or not good, and I have
Speaker 1: to be like, bitch, are you good? Right?
Speaker 4: Be my psychic which friend like you're lying? And then
Speaker 4: I'm like, you're right. Fuck, I'm a mess. Should we
Speaker 4: do a couple? Level three? Since we're gonna wrap this up? Okay,
Speaker 4: let's just wow, because we are really strangers?
Speaker 1: Really works?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: So level three is what is it?
Speaker 4: Reflection?
Speaker 1: God?
Speaker 4: I don't think I really wanted to aviy to do this.
Speaker 4: That was better off in connection? Okay, reflection? How would
Speaker 4: you describe? Did we do this one? Or rather, how
Speaker 4: would you describe me to a stranger? M hmm okay,
Speaker 4: how would you describe me to a stranger?
Speaker 1: Uh? Fun, smart, nurturing, and uh wild?
Speaker 4: Okay, oh wait your turn?
Speaker 1: What about me surprised you the most?
Speaker 4: That you're a little wild too? I didn't know that
Speaker 4: about you at first.
Speaker 1: Why is it surprising?
Speaker 4: I don't know, I think honestly, I don't. It wasn't
Speaker 4: surprising really know you that well. But I think when
Speaker 4: we started this podcast, whatever point in that in your
Speaker 4: life that I think you did shift to be more open.
Speaker 4: And I don't think I've been told that from friends of.
Speaker 1: Yours that I shifted to be more open.
Speaker 4: Yeah, since like the beginning of the podags, Oh yeah,
Speaker 4: well for sure. Yeah, so maybe like even I was
Speaker 4: like surprised to hear that, or maybe that you have
Speaker 4: it all together. You know, like prior to me being
Speaker 4: your like close friend, I also thought that you were
Speaker 4: like getting married. Everything was perfect. You had like your
Speaker 4: rapper boyfriend fiance. You wanted to make it to get married.
Speaker 4: You know, like you were living out the dream like
Speaker 4: you had it all. You have a good, cool job,
Speaker 4: You're traveling the world, like you know, people we have
Speaker 4: these perceptions and like what we think people are going through,
Speaker 4: Like you have that doctor in your dream, and it's
Speaker 4: just like just because you know, does everybody's going through
Speaker 4: their own shit? No one really has it together.
Speaker 1: No, It's true. I think that. Like I feel like
Speaker 1: I was pretty wild most of my life. I think
Speaker 1: even in my relationship when I started dating my baby daddy,
Speaker 1: we still had a lot of fun, Like I mean,
Speaker 1: yeah he's a rapper, Like we were going to parties,
Speaker 1: were like, you know, having drunken nights. I guess I
Speaker 1: think I've just but I think within my limitations and
Speaker 1: then also I don't know. I guess to most of
Speaker 1: my friends, I feel like I was the wild friend
Speaker 1: of my group even though I'm not even I guess
Speaker 1: I'm not like as wild as maybe like maybe our
Speaker 1: levels of what on the spectrum you're like you'd far
Speaker 1: fall father. I don't know why this is true, because
Speaker 1: we do really similar shit, I know. But even like
Speaker 1: even when we started hanging out, like my friends who
Speaker 1: are like mostly my friends, of your friends didn't know me.
Speaker 1: That's the craziest part of all, because like one of
Speaker 1: your friends that I had like said something about like
Speaker 1: my I remember they said this really bad acting or
Speaker 1: some shit like that. I was like, what are they
Speaker 1: talking about. We're talking about the same person.
Speaker 4: They know none of my friends. Sometimes I would tell
Speaker 4: them like maybe things that we would do together, and like,
Speaker 4: really I wouldn't see Erica doing that. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 4: but I you see me doing it.
Speaker 1: Maybe that was just some some projecting onto you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean or perception perception, perception is crazy.
Speaker 1: I just maybe I didn't put I guess if you
Speaker 1: look at my Instagram, it looks like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: like what you would perceive, maybe differently now than then.
Speaker 1: But I'm just I just found that interesting because I've
Speaker 1: always felt like the wild friend. But that's interesting that
Speaker 1: you didn't think that I was.
Speaker 4: I mean, obviously that's why we started the podcast When
Speaker 4: you told me that story about the couple. What would
Speaker 4: be the perfect gift for me?
Speaker 1: Really delicious meal somewhere, my favorite date of fancy date,
Speaker 1: good food.
Speaker 4: I love dates.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're not really into like material things like that,
Speaker 1: so I feel like a vacation and an all expense
Speaker 1: paid trip.
Speaker 4: Yeah that's true. Yeah, that's all true.
Speaker 1: Yeah you would like that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you like that, it's true.
Speaker 1: Give your partner a hug, not the crappy kind a warm,
Speaker 1: fluffy one.
Speaker 4: M I love you so much. Me and Erica hug
Speaker 4: a lot. But I think we were hugging in the
Speaker 4: office one day and her stepdad was there, was like
Speaker 4: everything okay, We're like yeah, just hugging. It's like okay,
Speaker 4: like fucking lets mid day hugs. What do you admire
Speaker 4: most about me?
Speaker 3: Did you get that?
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. What do you admire most about you? I
Speaker 1: think we asked this on our friends on our podcast episode.
Speaker 4: With Oh Friends a Friend and Jane.
Speaker 1: I admire your capacity for love, like to love and
Speaker 1: care truly like I do, like you are and that
Speaker 1: and you are a light like and it's it's so admirable.
Speaker 1: And to see how people trust you and flock to
Speaker 1: you and like and how you have this balance of
Speaker 1: being able to nurture all of them where they all
Speaker 1: feel cared for. I'm like, I'm like, I don't know
Speaker 1: how you do it like and you do it well
Speaker 1: and somehow you still have energy.
Speaker 4: I'm a cancer.
Speaker 1: It's crazy.
Speaker 4: It's my motherly energy. But I can only have one child.
Speaker 4: I have so many children in life.
Speaker 1: Based on what you learned about me, what book would
Speaker 1: you recommend I read?
Speaker 4: Because I'm the fucking books Burt. Let me tell you
Speaker 4: from my life. If books, the book that would be
Speaker 4: best fitting for you, Erica is right here. I'll three
Speaker 4: with the store.
Speaker 1: I could pick another one.
Speaker 4: Okay, please don't have The Alchemist.
Speaker 1: That's like everyone's book.
Speaker 4: I love that book. Oh I also did you read
Speaker 4: uh the Celestine Prophecy? I want you to read that
Speaker 4: one too?
Speaker 1: Okay? So should I not read this?
Speaker 4: You and everyone else?
Speaker 1: What about me is hardest for you to understand?
Speaker 4: You'd be moody? You're moody. I don't think anyone understands
Speaker 4: the moody has been like not this week. But I'm moody.
Speaker 4: But I'm not that moody. And that's why everybody's moodyness?
Speaker 4: I might all have time for this today. I don't
Speaker 4: know what's wrong with you. You don't know me there.
Speaker 4: I don't understand it, and I'm like, people just be moody, Jamila,
Speaker 4: I'm like, you need to be mood So that's why
Speaker 4: I don't know what's wrong to be an attitude. I
Speaker 4: don't even know how to be I don't even know
Speaker 4: how to be moody appropriately. I don't know. I feel
Speaker 4: weird saying it. Should we do the final card?
Speaker 1: Should we do it? Okay?
Speaker 4: Okay, since we can wrap up for our next recording. Sure, okay,
Speaker 4: the final card that you pull, we are supposed to
Speaker 4: read it. Wait, I just want to ask one more,
Speaker 4: one more. We could both answer it.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 4: What am I most qualified to give advice about?
Speaker 1: Wow?
Speaker 4: I think everyone should know this.
Speaker 1: Well, what are you the most qualified advice?
Speaker 4: Yeah? Hmmm, I think you're the most qualified to give
Speaker 4: advice about balance, I mean the balance, boundaries, boundaries. You're
Speaker 4: good at boundaries.
Speaker 1: You are the most qualified to give advice about. I
Speaker 1: feel like understanding the societies basically what the podcast is about,
Speaker 1: like like unlearning societal norms. You have a beautiful way
Speaker 1: of like explaining why things should be looked at from
Speaker 1: both perspectives or from many different perspectives. And when I
Speaker 1: hear you talk about it, you talk about it always
Speaker 1: so eloquently, and it just like rolls off your time,
Speaker 1: Like did you study that? How did you know how
Speaker 1: to describe nature? And why people are attracted and all
Speaker 1: scientists mama's flowers and why the kids should all know
Speaker 1: what weed is? Yeah, I think that you're really you
Speaker 1: know how to just describe I guess like the I
Speaker 1: feel like the nuances and polarity of life itself. Well,
Speaker 1: thank you are a philosopher.
Speaker 4: It makes me feel very philosophers. You as Socrates, my
Speaker 4: love Socrates, I've changed my name.
Speaker 1: Okay, So the final card for this game, we are
Speaker 1: supposed to read and then write a note to one
Speaker 1: another about it and exchange the notes and then read
Speaker 1: them when we're not together.
Speaker 4: Okay, but since we're not gonna do that, we're gonna
Speaker 4: just say it. Okay, since we don't fallow directions, no way. Okay,
Speaker 4: this is exactly what you just said. It just says
Speaker 4: each player write a message to the other fold in
Speaker 4: exchange open only once you two have parted. We clearly
Speaker 4: played this game today.
Speaker 1: Okay, so we just have to write. Okay, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: we'll write the message and then we'll post it.
Speaker 4: Okay, we'll post it.
Speaker 1: We'll post it and you'll know what we're talking about.
Speaker 4: This is fun. This was fun. I was skeptical. I
Speaker 4: was like, oh god, let's go deep. But I had fun.
Speaker 4: This is I recommend this. This is not an ad.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is not an ad at all. We've just
Speaker 1: had May actually gave us these cards and we've been
Speaker 1: sitting on them for a while and I've reposted a
Speaker 1: lot of their memes on Instagram because they just be
Speaker 1: speaking to me.
Speaker 4: I know you guys have seen them. They're always on
Speaker 4: my feed of like two people looking at each other
Speaker 4: in a brick room, looks like they're in New York
Speaker 4: or something, and they're always getting real deep. So if
Speaker 4: you're in a relationship or with your friends, for sure,
Speaker 4: play this game.
Speaker 1: This is yeah.
Speaker 4: I want to. We might need to get junk and
Speaker 4: plays as all our friends.
Speaker 1: I know. Okay, I think this is check out. We're
Speaker 1: not really strangers. Well, guys, thank you for joining us.
Speaker 3: We love you.
Speaker 1: We hope that you are having a great week, and
Speaker 1: that you have rated and reviewed our podcast because we're.
Speaker 4: Not really strangers. Were strangers?
Speaker 1: Were your friends? Go leave your friends some reviews on
Speaker 1: Apple Podcasts. Hit that five star rating, baby, and uh
Speaker 1: what else?
Speaker 4: That's it? You know? Email us we need.
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Speaker 4: We'd love that we answer advice questions because we're expert
Speaker 4: advice givers. We'll read your hories, even anonymously, your hories
Speaker 4: or your horror stories. And yeah, engage with us. We've
Speaker 4: be run and re be running out of ideas, so
Speaker 4: help a bitch out.
Speaker 1: All right, we'll see you guys next week.
Speaker 2: Bye bye, Ella solo recorder La. Let's us say us
Speaker 3: Runs