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Speaker 1: but this one and this is Can you please play

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Speaker 1: I'm about to play Kevin Gates? What's Kevin? Oh my god?

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Speaker 1: It's so good though. Okay, well he just got released

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Speaker 1: don't play that ship not what I'm here. Um. I

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Speaker 1: I play my favorite? You can play songs short, I

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Speaker 1: Marvin Steve. This is my mama's ship. Believe ever did before?

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Speaker 1: Come out? Come on, Come on, y'all candy, Let up girl,

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Speaker 1: just goes like Luther Vandel's as my mom from a

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Speaker 1: gold member to member. Hi, guys, welcome to yet another episode. Um,

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Speaker 1: you dance, like so what happened? Sorry to Ron, sorry

423
00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 1: to shout out rock City who wrote a song. So

424
00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:39,280
Speaker 1: but the problem is when you have a uh four

425
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,160
Speaker 1: year old in ballet classes and is hearing a song

426
00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:45,720
Speaker 1: about dance, you have to understand whord association is deep,

427
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:51,000
Speaker 1: Like you hear a song on the economic level, Hello,

428
00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:53,960
Speaker 1: so so you know I read I mean this was

429
00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,040
Speaker 1: a couple of years ago, there was an incredible UM

430
00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:59,359
Speaker 1: mom who wrote an open letter to like usher Like

431
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:01,639
Speaker 1: my daughter in the car asked me if she was

432
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:04,919
Speaker 1: going to be that kind of dancer, and she's four. Uh,

433
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 1: I don't mind if you dance on a pole. Right,

434
00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:13,880
Speaker 1: So this little girl is four years old and she's

435
00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 1: going to dance my mom my sister. Her favorite song

436
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:23,119
Speaker 1: is six was my neck my bad? Well, my favorite

437
00:24:23,920 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 1: and I might date myself on this, but my favorite

438
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:29,440
Speaker 1: song was UM. When I think of you, I touch

439
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 1: myself that that shows you how white we are and

440
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:39,600
Speaker 1: how you've never heard when I think sounds like some

441
00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:46,040
Speaker 1: poladene sar. That's the other Paula, paul Poladine. What the

442
00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 1: polosh from American idol? Paula? All right, so when it

443
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:55,640
Speaker 1: comes to UM sex education, I'm sorry, let me go back.

444
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 1: So when it comes to sex education UM, as of

445
00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:02,520
Speaker 1: March one, four states in the District of Columbia required

446
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:06,160
Speaker 1: public schools to teach sex said yes, okay, but here's

447
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 1: the problem. It's not when you think we have fifty states, uh.

448
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 1: At thirty three states and the districts of Columbia require

449
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:18,480
Speaker 1: students to receive instruction and information about HIV twenty require

450
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:22,920
Speaker 1: that if provided, sex and or HIV must be medically

451
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 1: and factually and technically accurate. So when you think about

452
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 1: fifty wait, hold on, there's fifty states, but only twenty

453
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:36,200
Speaker 1: states require medically accurate sex because oftentimes they leave it

454
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:38,919
Speaker 1: up to school districts to decide, all right, and then

455
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 1: you have states like Texas where it's absentence only and

456
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:46,200
Speaker 1: medically accurate versus like another way, like what's I have seen?

457
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,480
Speaker 1: Because I'm sure they won't say something fake, No, they do.

458
00:25:49,240 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 1: I have seen sex and text books that that put pictures.

459
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 1: So they had photographs of what a boy and a

460
00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:58,679
Speaker 1: girl looked like, and the boy was in a football

461
00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 1: uniform and the girl was a cheerleader uniform. Does that

462
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 1: describe every girl? Does that describe every boy? There is

463
00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:09,879
Speaker 1: very limited education that would gear information towards our l

464
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,440
Speaker 1: g B T qu It's funny this is and so

465
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 1: we talked about this and this this is specifically why

466
00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:17,720
Speaker 1: I led us into this question. Um, so instead of

467
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:20,119
Speaker 1: like the icebreaker, she just has so much information. I

468
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 1: wanted to bring this up, especially for our listeners, especially

469
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 1: for us. So I came across an article actually that

470
00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 1: Ella um retweeted on Twitter, and it says that sex

471
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:33,159
Speaker 1: education for lesbian and bisexual girls doesn't give them the

472
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 1: information that they need and it has a major impact

473
00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 1: on their health. So it actually in the article it

474
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:43,440
Speaker 1: says that a lot of UM that there's been a

475
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: spike in the amount of STDs and um s, t

476
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:51,640
Speaker 1: I s that have been contributed from girl on girl

477
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 1: action and a lot of that is due to the

478
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:57,720
Speaker 1: UM lack of education that we that we receive on

479
00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 1: same sex sex. UM. And so I know that you

480
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 1: and I both deal with girls, and so it just

481
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:07,880
Speaker 1: talks about how all three of us deal with girls.

482
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 1: We'd be looking at every room. Yeah, UM. But but

483
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:15,160
Speaker 1: it actually says and I think when I read the article,

484
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 1: I had to go back because you don't really think

485
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 1: of how to protect yourself from another time wrong, Like,

486
00:27:20,080 --> 00:27:22,680
Speaker 1: of course you don't know about dental damn. But who

487
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:25,520
Speaker 1: has ever used a dental damn? Any of us? What

488
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 1: is that? I feel like? What is that? Um? A

489
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:33,959
Speaker 1: dental damn is a thin latex sheath. It's like a square.

490
00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 1: I did not bring one tonight. I apologize. UM. It's

491
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:40,440
Speaker 1: a thin latex sheath that you would put over the

492
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 1: anus or the volva before. Actually, I thought your so

493
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:48,920
Speaker 1: you put it on you look you're looking classic. Yeah,

494
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: but that's the same suran wrap is something to use.

495
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 1: I think actually ran rap actually would be what we

496
00:27:56,359 --> 00:27:59,640
Speaker 1: would call a safer sex practice or a risk reduction

497
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:02,719
Speaker 1: practice is now it's like what you can use if

498
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:04,880
Speaker 1: you don't have a dental damn. You can also break

499
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 1: down a condom to do the same thing as a

500
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:10,280
Speaker 1: dental damn. But it's one time used and I think

501
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:12,200
Speaker 1: that the reason people don't use it is because we're

502
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,200
Speaker 1: not teaching them to use it. Now. When it comes

503
00:28:14,320 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 1: to UM sex said programming in schools, oftentimes it revolves

504
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 1: around UM pregnancy prevention and HIV risk reduction. So but

505
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,520
Speaker 1: what if I'm girl on girl, I'm not paying even

506
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 1: paying attention to pregnancy prevention because I ain't get nobody pregnant.

507
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 1: But I think that we need to be more holistic.

508
00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 1: So for me, what I focused on is being a

509
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:39,040
Speaker 1: holistic sex educator, a pleasure positive sex educator, and somebody

510
00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 1: who teaches um about sexuality across the lifespan. Because my

511
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 1: statement always is from the womb to the tomb, honey,

512
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 1: sexuality is a part of your life because I know

513
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 1: I'm getting Definitely I'm probably gonna actually I'm probably gonna

514
00:28:55,920 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 1: die while having that would be I'm gonna die regardless.

515
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 1: So would I like it to be from cancer or sex,

516
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 1: but not anything that comes from sex, Like I want

517
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 1: to die while actually being penetrated. Yeah, natural death. Natural.

518
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 1: I haven't lived that much life. But if I've done

519
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:19,720
Speaker 1: like that in my art, absolutely, and our listeners would

520
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 1: be proud. But here's the interesting thing. So if you

521
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 1: look at a A r P statistics, we have seen

522
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 1: in like the last um ten years a huge spike

523
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 1: in s t I s U among people who are

524
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:38,160
Speaker 1: of the A r P community because because there's a

525
00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: huge spike in HIV and s t I um rates

526
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 1: in that community. Because one, the women have already gone

527
00:29:44,480 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 1: through menopause, so they're like, oh, I can't get pregnant.

528
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 1: I don't need no calm, give listeners airph gap just

529
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 1: say you're looking at I'm thinking post menopausal, so probably

530
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: like fifty and up. And then additionally, with the introduction

531
00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 1: of things like Fiagra, men can still get are trying

532
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:05,720
Speaker 1: to fight, right, I don't know. And the thing is

533
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 1: is this ship is spreading rampidly at your grandma's nurse

534
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:11,040
Speaker 1: at home. So you need to talk to your grandma

535
00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:14,880
Speaker 1: and her nails down from the nurse last night. And

536
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 1: I want to be like, wait, what else? Right, But

537
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 1: I'd be like, why are you getting your nails done? Grandma?

538
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 1: What you? Who are you trying to impress? I don't

539
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 1: know her nails to look nice while she gives a

540
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:27,360
Speaker 1: nice blow job to stop time. I'm not your grand

541
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: gives head now she might listen, listen, never tell how

542
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 1: I was about to say so much. But she'd be

543
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:41,239
Speaker 1: liked but not but not her grandma was an I'm

544
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: sure exist it's a generation, and I'm sure that their

545
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: head is better than ours. There's no teeth most of

546
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 1: the time, right, I can't okay once anyway, But I

547
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 1: think that the point is that I think the point

548
00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 1: is is that we never stop being sexual beings, right

549
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 1: and and as a society, we sometimes shame people for

550
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,680
Speaker 1: wanting to continue to be sexual beings beyond a certain age,

551
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:11,280
Speaker 1: like we think that sex is only allowed during your

552
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 1: pro creation or teenage age. You know, I tell a

553
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 1: lot of my young people, I'm like, yo, y'all out here,

554
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 1: catch your bodies but really, y'all just bumping uglies because

555
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,320
Speaker 1: you know sex is not gonna be as good as

556
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 1: it is when you're my age and you've lived a

557
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 1: little and you have your own space and you're comfortable

558
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:30,920
Speaker 1: with your body because you know, I have a long

559
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 1: history of working with adolescents that won't look at their genitals,

560
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: and I'm like, if you're not looking at it, why

561
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 1: you put things in it that don't make no sense

562
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 1: to me? The youngest age that people can experience, like

563
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 1: I mean because you're saying like the womb, because there

564
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:47,880
Speaker 1: you can actually see young boys masturbating in the womb.

565
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 1: But to those interesting okay, listen, wait, don't act like

566
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 1: you ain never been on a playground and see not

567
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:58,280
Speaker 1: seeing the little girl standing above the low water fountain,

568
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 1: I don't see a little boy side storming a teddy

569
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 1: bear when but here's the thing, but in the in

570
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 1: the womb bit because what it is is it feels good.

571
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 1: They don't know it's sexual. We turn it into sexual. Sexual.

572
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:17,480
Speaker 1: All they know is if they touch that space, it

573
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:20,600
Speaker 1: feels good. It's not sexual to little babies. That's why

574
00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:22,800
Speaker 1: if you are a parent and your child is masturbating,

575
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 1: do not shame them because you put them at risk

576
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 1: because if you shame them, they then think that what

577
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 1: they're doing is bad, and then it's a little bit

578
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 1: easier for a predator to come along and be like, oh,

579
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:35,840
Speaker 1: that feels good when you get touched there. Okay, let's

580
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:38,640
Speaker 1: not tell mommy and daddy. I'll keep your secret. So

581
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 1: if you just explain to them, you know what, you

582
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 1: can't do that at daycare. But if you're in your

583
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 1: room and you'll buy yourself, I understand that feels good

584
00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 1: and that's okay, but nobody else should touch you there,

585
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 1: and if someone does, you need to come and tell

586
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 1: mommy or dad. So one of my friends funny stories

587
00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 1: she has been talking about to me. Her daughter's on

588
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 1: the age of like ten or eleven, and she's like, girl,

589
00:32:59,640 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 1: she can home and like, I accidentally called her masturbating

590
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:03,520
Speaker 1: and I'm so embarrassed, but I told her, like, hey,

591
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 1: it's okay, Tom, she said, And she said that. I

592
00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:07,840
Speaker 1: asked her where did it come from? Blah bla, and

593
00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 1: she was like, I don't know. It just feels like

594
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 1: a release. So she says, you know what, you can

595
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 1: be open and honest with me. She calls me a

596
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 1: few weeks later and she goes, bitch, but you know

597
00:33:15,120 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 1: what the little motherfucker said. I said, what'd she say?

598
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 1: She said her and I got an argument. She goes,

599
00:33:18,960 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 1: I need to go and lock my door because I

600
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:24,959
Speaker 1: need a release. Well that is, she said, I need

601
00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 1: a time out. I need to rub one out because

602
00:33:26,640 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 1: you get on my damn nerve mom. But the thing is,

603
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 1: that's such a beautiful thing that her daughter thinks she

604
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:35,320
Speaker 1: can tell her that because and the thing is is

605
00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 1: that that is a young woman, because there are studies

606
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:43,240
Speaker 1: that show if young people masturbate, it can prolong abstinence.

607
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 1: Why go out and get it somewhere else when you

608
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 1: can get your release speak yourself. People feel like if

609
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's just a myth, maybe that

610
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 1: if you start masturbating then you're super ready for sex. No,

611
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 1: it's not. No, the research shows us hold out because

612
00:33:57,840 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 1: I knew I was gonna like it too much. Yeah,

613
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 1: but you can do it on your own, held out

614
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,960
Speaker 1: for six do it on your own at your house,

615
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 1: by yourself. You're right, You're right, You're right on. Like,

616
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,759
Speaker 1: I love masturbating with when I'm with someone, when I'm

617
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:12,760
Speaker 1: not with someone, but like sometimes I just think to myself,

618
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 1: I don't me use a vibrator? Or do you want

619
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 1: to get on that train? What do I want to do?

620
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 1: And sometimes sex can be a lot of work. I

621
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,440
Speaker 1: love masturbating, masturbate every single night. We had an episode

622
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 1: you probably would have appreciated if you actually was on

623
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:26,280
Speaker 1: our bonus episode or Kink of the Week was mutual

624
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 1: masturbation and I love it. And we talked about using

625
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 1: that as a way of having safe sex, like if

626
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:32,839
Speaker 1: there's a fondom available, things like that and how hot

627
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 1: it can be. Can you maybe, because this was on

628
00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:37,719
Speaker 1: a episode that was paid for it for people, can

629
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:39,560
Speaker 1: you maybe talk about the different ways that people can

630
00:34:39,600 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 1: do that to prevent Well, now, I think what they

631
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 1: should do is become a patron and go here what

632
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 1: we talked about. Because I haven't your money, I have

633
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 1: a whole thing for Kink of the Week. So guys,

634
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 1: if you want to hear that episode, you would like

635
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Speaker 1: I wanted to bring up UM. We've talked about foot

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Speaker 1: so to fucking. For those of you who don't know, um,

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651
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Speaker 1: aroused by feet. In this particular instance, it is shoving

652
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Speaker 1: normally the big toe into for a female the vagina

653
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Speaker 1: and and for the male. You don't remember we talked

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657
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Speaker 1: Toby there. So we talked about this on Instagram. Right

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Speaker 1: when we talk about to fucking, my toes are in

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Speaker 1: want to stick a toe well on the st and

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Speaker 1: you well, don't stick in my vagina. I know, don't

662
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Speaker 1: put the toe up here, but I just can usually

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Speaker 1: just take a picture. Okay, Well, I mean I just

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Speaker 1: want let's just try. Look you're gonna put it up.

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Speaker 1: I just want to like show maybe since we have video,

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Speaker 1: I want to show you guys the position I'm just

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Speaker 1: gonna I'm waiting to put my foot as we started

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Speaker 1: the ships. But basically, guys, for you guys watching in

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Speaker 1: out and you would just mount the toe. Yeah, I've

671
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Speaker 1: seen that. So I see that we're like the girls,

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Speaker 1: the girl where she's I'm so mad right now, but

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Speaker 1: it happens normally. I cannot get on your knees. Okay,

674
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Speaker 1: I'm on my knees. Why why why? Because of sexual education?

675
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Speaker 1: You're here. I knew it was going to have been

676
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Speaker 1: looking at your nipple all day. Listen, cameraman, why we

677
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Speaker 1: don't do cameras talking about I want to see this

678
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Speaker 1: position just one more time. The idea of writing a toe, well,

679
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Speaker 1: see how it can happen. Let's say that you're not

680
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Speaker 1: asking for a toe to be up your ass. You

681
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Speaker 1: have to ask because can say is key like I'm

682
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Speaker 1: gonna saying, let's not say that you're not like you

683
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Speaker 1: don't literally agree to put in a toe up my ass. Well, listen,

684
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Speaker 1: it's just like someone someone maybe puts their tongue closer

685
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Speaker 1: to your asshole. Maybe we don't agree to it, but

686
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Speaker 1: if I lean my ass more open, then you know

687
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Speaker 1: you need to ask for a consent if you feel

688
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Speaker 1: to put a toe in my ass. I mean I'm

689
00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 1: not big on feet. Hell no, all right, but what

690
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Speaker 1: about yours? I don't even like toes. Okay, we're not

691
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Speaker 1: kink shaming, by the way, guys, we're not. I literally

692
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Speaker 1: just I hate you so much. I literally just wanted

693
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Speaker 1: to to share this because I was watching, um you

694
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Speaker 1: guys know, I watched a porn and so I was

695
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Speaker 1: watching a porn and that's what he did. He literally

696
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Speaker 1: while the guy was laid out on the bed. Yeah,

697
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Speaker 1: he went to the thing. He went to the end

698
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Speaker 1: of the bed and started riding the niggas toe And

699
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Speaker 1: I was like, fast forward, just said I'm not interested

700
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Speaker 1: in in toe fucking, but I think that's well. Well,

701
00:38:24,040 --> 00:38:27,320
Speaker 1: then it came to me like which who's aroused by it?

702
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 1: Is it the one riding the toe or is it

703
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:33,720
Speaker 1: the guy looking at someone ride his toe? What? Psychologically?

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Speaker 1: Which one was more around what? You know? We asked

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Speaker 1: the people was really wanted to see that they were

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Speaker 1: really interested in the the person with the toe in

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Speaker 1: their ass or the person to toe. Yeah, we go.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with the tower the toe, the one

709
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Speaker 1: who who I think my ass and I feel the

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Speaker 1: stimulation and it's probably me who's getting on or I'm

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Speaker 1: So a couple of things about this right here. UM. One,

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Speaker 1: I want one with a ponytail. That definitely that is

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845
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Speaker 1: before we get onto these other toys. Let's talk about

846
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 1: maybe UM, if it's a bad thing to use these

847
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 1: toys too much. UM and like you mentioned, is it

848
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:25,400
Speaker 1: um could it? Could your clip become desensitized from the vibrators.

849
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:28,279
Speaker 1: It's not about your clip becoming desensitized. It's similar to

850
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:31,760
Speaker 1: the porn addiction situation. So what we have to remember

851
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:35,399
Speaker 1: is that UM. You know, orgasm starts in the brain,

852
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 1: like it starts and ends in the brain, So the

853
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 1: anticipation of pleasure starts in the brain, the actual orgasm

854
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:43,520
Speaker 1: ends in the brain. Now, if you are using a

855
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:46,960
Speaker 1: vibrator daily and you're starting to notice that while you're

856
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:49,920
Speaker 1: having intercourse with your partner, you're not able to achieve

857
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:53,480
Speaker 1: orgasm without a vibrator, you might want to take a

858
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:56,600
Speaker 1: break from your vibrator. What happens there, well, what it

859
00:46:56,760 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 1: is is your brain gets used to the vibration sensation

860
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 1: to get you to climax. And it's similarly to porn.

861
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 1: There are a lot of men out there who experience

862
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:12,160
Speaker 1: premature like premature or not premature ejaculation, but premature erectile dysfunction.

863
00:47:12,239 --> 00:47:17,040
Speaker 1: We usually see erectile dysfunction dysfunction in older men. However,

864
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:20,360
Speaker 1: because of the excessive porn that people have access to.

865
00:47:21,239 --> 00:47:25,040
Speaker 1: We are starting to see e D present in younger

866
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:29,040
Speaker 1: and younger men. And the reason, um why is because

867
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:32,480
Speaker 1: it is the porn that is again it's starting in

868
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:35,239
Speaker 1: the brain, so they have to get more kind of

869
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:39,240
Speaker 1: wild porn and more kind of do the outlier type

870
00:47:39,280 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 1: porn off crazy porn. So I would say, sit, sit back,

871
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:47,560
Speaker 1: sit down for thirty days an experience where for the

872
00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 1: first time in a year, I was able to come

873
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:55,640
Speaker 1: without porn. I was so well, you don't set it now.

874
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: My mom gives me a Tanning Bed gift card, right,

875
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:00,160
Speaker 1: and I'm like, what then is this for shoul? Like

876
00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:02,239
Speaker 1: I just feel like, ever since the Winter's Game, you're

877
00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:04,880
Speaker 1: getting real white and you know, all of us happen.

878
00:48:06,320 --> 00:48:08,480
Speaker 1: So I'm in the fucking Tanning boot bed. I've never

879
00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 1: really been in one, and I just had all this

880
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 1: alone time naked, and I'm like, there's a timer above

881
00:48:13,600 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 1: me and I'm looking at it. I'm like three minutes.

882
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, let's play this game with myself and

883
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: see if I can do it. And it was so

884
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:21,880
Speaker 1: fun to get off without porn because porn is a

885
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 1: normal vibrator. Yes, and like, you know, I have my

886
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:26,759
Speaker 1: phone right there, so of course I'm gonna click on things.

887
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:28,320
Speaker 1: And sometimes I click on my own porns that I

888
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:30,520
Speaker 1: make because I relived that moment. But it was fun

889
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:32,840
Speaker 1: to just let my thoughts go and I felt sexy,

890
00:48:33,080 --> 00:48:35,200
Speaker 1: like I was looking at my own body a lot.

891
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 1: It was weird. Um, God, that sounds so conceited. It's

892
00:48:38,320 --> 00:48:41,239
Speaker 1: not conceded. That's what that's called self love and and

893
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 1: that's that revolves around your body image and that's only

894
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:46,239
Speaker 1: going to help your sex with your partner. So to

895
00:48:46,320 --> 00:48:49,360
Speaker 1: this person who's asking, if you feel like when you

896
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:54,920
Speaker 1: are having intercourse you're struggling to achieve orgasm without a vibrator,

897
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:58,400
Speaker 1: lay off the vibrator for about thirty days, Like like,

898
00:48:58,640 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 1: just go thirty days and no vibrator and go back

899
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:08,400
Speaker 1: to the original vibrators. But honestly, though, I have a

900
00:49:08,680 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 1: who has a joke your fingers, Oh I missed it.

901
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:14,600
Speaker 1: I was like, like, I haven't used a vibrator since,

902
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:18,400
Speaker 1: and it's been like I've been achieving stronger orgasms. I

903
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 1: think I'm coming not as quick. But it's also like

904
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:22,760
Speaker 1: like it's that's what they were. It's a good orgasm.

905
00:49:22,960 --> 00:49:24,760
Speaker 1: So that would be my advice, Like, if you're feeling

906
00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 1: like you are struggling to reach orgasm um with a partner,

907
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 1: but you're having no problem with a vibrator, lay off

908
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:33,839
Speaker 1: the vibrator. Okay. And so I guess what I wanted

909
00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:36,239
Speaker 1: to get into too, because I see after reading the

910
00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 1: instructions this one is clearse for men. This is for men.

911
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 1: And so I wanted to talk briefly about the EO

912
00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:44,520
Speaker 1: slip bomb. I know, right, but it's for the EO

913
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:47,960
Speaker 1: egg for Yo Dick. It's a it's a pocket. It's

914
00:49:47,960 --> 00:49:52,200
Speaker 1: a it's a disposable pocket pussy. And yeah, and the line,

915
00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:56,080
Speaker 1: why do we need a disposable pocket pussy for men? Well, well,

916
00:49:56,160 --> 00:49:58,520
Speaker 1: it's convenient and it's convenient and the same way that

917
00:49:58,600 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 1: we have the lipstick vibrator. I don't want to, but

918
00:50:02,760 --> 00:50:07,160
Speaker 1: I will. I don't want there's one use. Yeah, it's

919
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:09,239
Speaker 1: one use. It's how much is it? Um? Okay? So

920
00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:12,600
Speaker 1: that's by Tanga and I am not sponsored by Tanga,

921
00:50:12,680 --> 00:50:15,200
Speaker 1: but Tanga, if you're listening, feel free to send me

922
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 1: more because they you can buy them they're about seven

923
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:20,719
Speaker 1: fifty a piece, or you can buy them in an

924
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:24,200
Speaker 1: egg carton of a half a dozen and each it's

925
00:50:24,239 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 1: great because see the lines on the outside, that's the ribbing.

926
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:30,560
Speaker 1: So each egg will have a different ribbing. And I

927
00:50:30,719 --> 00:50:33,000
Speaker 1: got so these lines is what the ribbing is. There's

928
00:50:33,200 --> 00:50:36,400
Speaker 1: there's there's grooves and yes, yes, and so it actually

929
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:41,280
Speaker 1: says it's super stretched sensations for men, silky silky, smooth,

930
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:44,719
Speaker 1: satisfaction and lubricant is included. Yes, it's all one, it's

931
00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:48,719
Speaker 1: all does with you. Um. I totally used that as

932
00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:51,560
Speaker 1: mutual masturbation. I used it on a partner. I busted

933
00:50:51,680 --> 00:50:54,359
Speaker 1: straight through this little thing. I did just went right

934
00:50:54,400 --> 00:51:00,400
Speaker 1: through away there like Mary Pop. It was sorry, um tanga,

935
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:02,839
Speaker 1: I love the product, um, please send me more. Um.

936
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 1: But yeah, and I think like I think it's like

937
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:09,440
Speaker 1: forty dollars for a six pack. Um. But again for

938
00:51:09,560 --> 00:51:11,560
Speaker 1: me working in sex, said, I'm not allowed to give

939
00:51:11,600 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 1: these out in school, but if I could, I would,

940
00:51:13,719 --> 00:51:15,879
Speaker 1: because that's another part of the problem with sex. Said,

941
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:17,600
Speaker 1: you know, I have a lot of young people who

942
00:51:17,640 --> 00:51:20,520
Speaker 1: are sexually active. I want to encourage them to be masturbating,

943
00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:23,279
Speaker 1: but how do I get them products? Like how do

944
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:25,879
Speaker 1: you get because legally you can't go into a sex

945
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:29,080
Speaker 1: toy shop under eighteen, which I understand because sometimes they

946
00:51:29,080 --> 00:51:31,319
Speaker 1: are creepy people in there. I get it. And I'm

947
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:34,120
Speaker 1: not saying people who go to uh sex toy shops

948
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:36,279
Speaker 1: are creepy because I go to them, But I'm saying, like,

949
00:51:36,360 --> 00:51:39,879
Speaker 1: it's not an environment that I would but I would

950
00:51:40,000 --> 00:51:42,799
Speaker 1: love a way to get young people like my first

951
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:46,399
Speaker 1: vibrator or my first masturbation kit, because I think it's

952
00:51:46,440 --> 00:51:51,560
Speaker 1: important and it's healthy, um, not just mentally but also physically.

953
00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:54,080
Speaker 1: It reduces risks of s t I S and you

954
00:51:54,120 --> 00:51:56,960
Speaker 1: can really get in touch with your body and relief stress,

955
00:51:57,600 --> 00:51:59,839
Speaker 1: relief stress, sleep better at night. I mean, there's all

956
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 1: minds of benefits. So that's tanga what I have in

957
00:52:02,680 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 1: my hand, and I just want to be one of

958
00:52:04,520 --> 00:52:06,640
Speaker 1: the last ones I want to talk. I'm very curious.

959
00:52:07,640 --> 00:52:10,360
Speaker 1: That's definitely you have fl suction or something, because I

960
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:12,240
Speaker 1: know this is one of the most expensive and talked

961
00:52:12,239 --> 00:52:15,719
Speaker 1: about and raved about vibrators. My friend, I didn't say it,

962
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:17,720
Speaker 1: use it. You just asked me what has been inside

963
00:52:17,800 --> 00:52:20,800
Speaker 1: me that goes on the outside. Yeah, you can started on.

964
00:52:21,040 --> 00:52:23,080
Speaker 1: I'm excited. Have you ever seen one of these? I've

965
00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 1: seen them I've got friends, but I never have had

966
00:52:27,120 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 1: one myself. It's dead as nails. Um, but I know

967
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:31,680
Speaker 1: that my ex girlfriend stopped working with me because of it.

968
00:52:31,880 --> 00:52:34,839
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, So the Womanizer again? Is it called

969
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:37,080
Speaker 1: the Womanizers? Yes? I am not sponsored by them. I

970
00:52:37,120 --> 00:52:39,160
Speaker 1: almost started singing it. Have you never heard about it?

971
00:52:39,480 --> 00:52:44,759
Speaker 1: I never, like minutes first time I tried the time.

972
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:48,560
Speaker 1: It kind of looks like take this off and claim

973
00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:50,319
Speaker 1: to watch this, and it comes with like two extra

974
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:53,359
Speaker 1: but it's expensive. It's like two. But they have made

975
00:52:53,400 --> 00:52:55,920
Speaker 1: some cheaper one. They've have made some more. For now

976
00:52:56,080 --> 00:52:58,799
Speaker 1: people are starting to make suction cup vibrators like, oh god,

977
00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:00,840
Speaker 1: the rip off, the rip off of the Womaniser, But

978
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:03,080
Speaker 1: thank you Womaniser for creating this. So what this uses

979
00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:06,160
Speaker 1: is an air pulse technology, so it sucks and blows

980
00:53:06,400 --> 00:53:08,759
Speaker 1: very quickly. And so what you do is you kind

981
00:53:08,800 --> 00:53:11,239
Speaker 1: of put your clip in the little hole. And if

982
00:53:11,280 --> 00:53:15,880
Speaker 1: you're pierced, this might not be the best for you. Um,

983
00:53:16,400 --> 00:53:19,600
Speaker 1: you know it's it's not. It can be a problem

984
00:53:19,680 --> 00:53:21,920
Speaker 1: if you're pierced. So you need to read the instructions.

985
00:53:22,160 --> 00:53:29,080
Speaker 1: But who reads vibrated whip it out? I read the

986
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:30,200
Speaker 1: ones that were sent to. I didn't know how to

987
00:53:30,239 --> 00:53:32,880
Speaker 1: turn it off. Yeah, that's like, let me be honest

988
00:53:32,920 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 1: with you. I love all these new sex toys, but

989
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: even and I love you. I love Lilo. This is

990
00:53:37,520 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 1: a Lilo product, but there's so many goddamn settings and

991
00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 1: different vibes. It's like, I can't this is way too

992
00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:46,160
Speaker 1: I hate that I have to click. I don't remember

993
00:53:46,239 --> 00:53:48,520
Speaker 1: which one. I don't know how to turn it off.

994
00:53:48,760 --> 00:53:51,719
Speaker 1: Here's another one from Lilo that I really like. Um,

995
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:56,759
Speaker 1: this one are very prettiescause I don't I have not

996
00:53:56,880 --> 00:54:00,120
Speaker 1: bought these. I've been blessed. I got bitch with What

997
00:54:00,280 --> 00:54:03,440
Speaker 1: are we doing? We can I'll give you some numbers.

998
00:54:04,719 --> 00:54:06,719
Speaker 1: Oh this is my favorite. Look at this one. Oh

999
00:54:06,920 --> 00:54:10,960
Speaker 1: my god, Oh that looks wait we need we need.

1000
00:54:11,360 --> 00:54:13,680
Speaker 1: So the thing is with this one, if you notice,

1001
00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:16,160
Speaker 1: when I take my hand off, it lightens because it's

1002
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 1: it's a pressure sensitive. So the more you put it

1003
00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:23,840
Speaker 1: on your skin, the more. Oh it's ergonomically correct for

1004
00:54:23,960 --> 00:54:28,319
Speaker 1: us bitches with arthritis and I have I mean I'm

1005
00:54:28,360 --> 00:54:31,640
Speaker 1: not young, but and I do have some like arthritis problems,

1006
00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:35,839
Speaker 1: and so you don't have to like move your hand.

1007
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:41,759
Speaker 1: Kind of weird, but yeah, that gets pretty strong, see,

1008
00:54:41,800 --> 00:54:43,920
Speaker 1: and I'm scared of how strong a lot of these vibrations.

1009
00:54:44,160 --> 00:54:46,719
Speaker 1: I didn't even bring my strongest vibrator. I did not

1010
00:54:47,480 --> 00:54:49,440
Speaker 1: into the wall. Actually I had that one and then

1011
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:51,239
Speaker 1: it exploded in my bed and I set my hair

1012
00:54:51,320 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 1: on fire. So how much are you rich? Now? Right?

1013
00:54:55,719 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 1: The right taught me three thousand y'all that ship and

1014
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:04,320
Speaker 1: it blew a fused in my apartment. That's that. I

1015
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:07,200
Speaker 1: taught you three thousand blue a fuse and I wasn't

1016
00:55:07,200 --> 00:55:09,440
Speaker 1: even using it, but my vibr to sleep under my pillow,

1017
00:55:09,840 --> 00:55:16,359
Speaker 1: and um, you know the vibert ladies, ladies men, These

1018
00:55:16,400 --> 00:55:18,399
Speaker 1: are like some of the things that you guys can

1019
00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:21,839
Speaker 1: use again, um you know. And they range from all

1020
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:24,520
Speaker 1: different price points, all the way from seven dollars. Yeah,

1021
00:55:24,560 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 1: the flogging we talked about that with. Are now this

1022
00:55:26,880 --> 00:55:28,680
Speaker 1: Japanese style rope I have. I haven't been able to

1023
00:55:28,760 --> 00:55:30,920
Speaker 1: use it because anybody handed to you can't figure out

1024
00:55:30,920 --> 00:55:32,799
Speaker 1: how to Oh my god. Yeah, so this is the thing.

1025
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:36,680
Speaker 1: So I subscribe to a lot of this, right, it's

1026
00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:42,759
Speaker 1: so strong, turn it off, that's the one, um, I think. Oh,

1027
00:55:43,160 --> 00:55:46,160
Speaker 1: so the thing is I subscribed to sex toy boxes

1028
00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:51,080
Speaker 1: which you know, I'm working on creating my own. Oh

1029
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:52,879
Speaker 1: I'm not. I didn't you know. I didn't say their name.

1030
00:55:53,160 --> 00:55:56,120
Speaker 1: But I've been subscribing to sex toy boxes to see

1031
00:55:56,400 --> 00:56:00,160
Speaker 1: what's missing in the market for um us. What do

1032
00:56:00,239 --> 00:56:02,320
Speaker 1: you feel Is there anything that you feel currently is

1033
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:08,080
Speaker 1: missing for Yeah, I definitely do. I We'll get there

1034
00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 1: because I get them monthly, and like you know, I'm

1035
00:56:12,000 --> 00:56:14,200
Speaker 1: getting toys on a on a in a rate that

1036
00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:16,239
Speaker 1: I'm like, bhitch, I can't even use all this like

1037
00:56:16,719 --> 00:56:19,600
Speaker 1: and furthermore, who am I using this with? So let

1038
00:56:19,680 --> 00:56:21,600
Speaker 1: me ask you speaking of that, UM as far as

1039
00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:24,359
Speaker 1: who are you using it with? For our listeners who

1040
00:56:24,440 --> 00:56:26,880
Speaker 1: want to maybe introduce these things into the bedroom, do

1041
00:56:26,920 --> 00:56:28,400
Speaker 1: you have a way of maybe they could talk to

1042
00:56:28,440 --> 00:56:31,120
Speaker 1: their partner because a lot of men do feel insecure

1043
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:33,960
Speaker 1: wings into the bedroom, and we have a lot of

1044
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:36,600
Speaker 1: male listeners. So is there a psyche that you can

1045
00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:38,360
Speaker 1: let them know that this is okay, It's not that

1046
00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 1: their dick is inadequate. How can how can you bring this?

1047
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:44,040
Speaker 1: You know, what would you suggest as far as a

1048
00:56:44,080 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 1: way for men and women um to bring these to

1049
00:56:47,800 --> 00:56:50,239
Speaker 1: use these things together? So I think what men need

1050
00:56:50,280 --> 00:56:55,200
Speaker 1: to understand is the anatomy of a woman. Right, So, um,

1051
00:56:55,760 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 1: when it comes to the anatomy of a woman, what

1052
00:56:57,719 --> 00:57:00,120
Speaker 1: you have to understand is that all of the as

1053
00:57:00,160 --> 00:57:02,919
Speaker 1: your sensors is in the clip taurus. And I get

1054
00:57:03,040 --> 00:57:07,719
Speaker 1: so sick of men saying out, well, I ain't got

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00:57:07,800 --> 00:57:11,759
Speaker 1: no fucking pleasure sensors back there. It's just my back

1056
00:57:13,760 --> 00:57:17,560
Speaker 1: I mean youth orgasm that's from the pain though, right,

1057
00:57:17,680 --> 00:57:20,480
Speaker 1: it's I mean, you can't have a cervical orgasm, but

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00:57:20,840 --> 00:57:22,920
Speaker 1: the majority of your orgasms are going to come from

1059
00:57:22,960 --> 00:57:26,240
Speaker 1: your cliptaorus. So when you think about that, what you

1060
00:57:26,320 --> 00:57:30,600
Speaker 1: have to remember is is that the cliptaurus needs stimulation,

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00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:36,000
Speaker 1: and most women will will not orgasm without cliptorial stimulation.

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00:57:36,320 --> 00:57:38,920
Speaker 1: So we love the d you know, or we love

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00:57:39,000 --> 00:57:42,000
Speaker 1: your fingers. If you're not having penis vagina sex, you're

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00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:45,640
Speaker 1: having dildo whatever. We really enjoy the penetration, but we're

1065
00:57:45,720 --> 00:57:51,840
Speaker 1: really going to get off with penetration in combination clip.

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00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:55,600
Speaker 1: All of three seconds that you do, it isn't exactly

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00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:58,840
Speaker 1: and you ain't got no and the worst party they'd

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00:57:58,880 --> 00:58:00,880
Speaker 1: be revenute. You'd be like, this is not in no

1069
00:58:01,080 --> 00:58:06,360
Speaker 1: kind of order. I like telling women to do it

1070
00:58:06,480 --> 00:58:08,680
Speaker 1: themselves if they need to get off. I love it.

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00:58:08,800 --> 00:58:12,160
Speaker 1: I think it's great, but I understand like I have

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00:58:12,360 --> 00:58:14,960
Speaker 1: been with men who are like, oh, well, you only

1073
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:17,800
Speaker 1: got off because of the vibrator, and it's like, God, no,

1074
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 1: I got off because you're a hot, sexy person and

1075
00:58:20,800 --> 00:58:24,800
Speaker 1: the vibrator just heightened that or intensified that or made

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00:58:24,840 --> 00:58:27,320
Speaker 1: that happen quicker. You know, I think that we need

1077
00:58:27,400 --> 00:58:30,440
Speaker 1: to be more open in communities of color. We do

1078
00:58:30,560 --> 00:58:37,080
Speaker 1: not explore kink enough on a socio economic level. The

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00:58:37,200 --> 00:58:40,120
Speaker 1: funny enough that you would say that, because when it

1080
00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:44,920
Speaker 1: comes to opportunities to explore kink, it can be a

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00:58:45,360 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 1: very um intimidating and also kind of I don't want

1082
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:54,800
Speaker 1: nobody saying they made you sick. But like I have,

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00:58:55,040 --> 00:58:57,880
Speaker 1: I have explored sex parties. I've been to sex parties

1084
00:58:58,000 --> 00:59:03,880
Speaker 1: and kind of the hottest the hottest sex parties are not. Yes,

1085
00:59:04,160 --> 00:59:06,680
Speaker 1: and then when you so I got lucky my first

1086
00:59:06,720 --> 00:59:09,920
Speaker 1: time great, And then when you show up I've never

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00:59:09,960 --> 00:59:12,960
Speaker 1: even been invited to. I been invited to like someone

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00:59:13,040 --> 00:59:15,400
Speaker 1: that was throwing something that I knew was black. It

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00:59:15,480 --> 00:59:18,040
Speaker 1: might be the more black people there, but no, I

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00:59:18,080 --> 00:59:19,800
Speaker 1: mean I went to one called Chemistry, which is like

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00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:22,400
Speaker 1: the so like the None, and talked about one all

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00:59:22,440 --> 00:59:25,480
Speaker 1: over New York. But I saw two black girls there

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00:59:25,520 --> 00:59:27,440
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, hey, hey girl, Hey. I

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00:59:27,520 --> 00:59:29,720
Speaker 1: mean I went to one in l A a few

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00:59:29,840 --> 00:59:33,920
Speaker 1: years back, and I went because um, a friend of

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00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 1: mine had gotten tickets and was like, I can't go

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00:59:36,120 --> 00:59:39,440
Speaker 1: without a girl of a lot of community. Will you

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00:59:39,520 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 1: be my day? And I went and there was like

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00:59:42,880 --> 00:59:45,160
Speaker 1: five black people total, and it was a weekend event,

1100
00:59:45,400 --> 00:59:48,880
Speaker 1: so it was a huge event. They'd rented a Florida hotel.

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00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:51,680
Speaker 1: Black people on being invited because people would love to

1102
00:59:51,720 --> 00:59:54,919
Speaker 1: do well socio economically, we are priced out of that ship.

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00:59:55,640 --> 00:59:59,560
Speaker 1: And so take that socio economic bullshit and apply it

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00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:02,360
Speaker 1: to se parties. Okay, how I went to one of

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01:00:02,400 --> 01:00:08,920
Speaker 1: Dollars for girls. Okay, probably not the sex party that

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01:00:09,040 --> 01:00:15,040
Speaker 1: was like that. Okay, so it was like ee pepe.

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01:00:15,920 --> 01:00:18,280
Speaker 1: But the thing is, and this was at like the

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01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:21,560
Speaker 1: Beverly Hills Hotel. It was at the SLS. They'd rented

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01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:24,080
Speaker 1: out a floor. It was a weekend event. They had

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01:00:24,200 --> 01:00:27,000
Speaker 1: multiple events going on. But what was interesting was was

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01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:30,800
Speaker 1: my friends and I that had gotten these tickets because

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01:00:30,840 --> 01:00:33,080
Speaker 1: it was two guys, and I brought a friend and

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01:00:33,240 --> 01:00:35,640
Speaker 1: we were not We really actually had no sex. We

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01:00:35,760 --> 01:00:39,040
Speaker 1: just were going because my the male the male counterparts

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01:00:39,080 --> 01:00:41,400
Speaker 1: had never been to one and they were like, Yo,

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01:00:41,520 --> 01:00:43,320
Speaker 1: we can't get in without a girl, will you go?

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01:00:43,960 --> 01:00:46,760
Speaker 1: And do you know these motherfucker's tried to not let

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Speaker 1: us in the room. We was knocking on the hotel

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01:00:48,800 --> 01:00:50,320
Speaker 1: door that the after party was out, and they were like,

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Speaker 1: it's closed. It was like, no, no, no, here's our

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Speaker 1: fucking wrist bands. Yes, really, I'm trying to tell you, like,

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Speaker 1: and I have been so I have in my work. UM,

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Speaker 1: I've organized some star trainings, which a star training is

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Speaker 1: UM sexual attitudes reassignment or reassessment kind of thing, and

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Speaker 1: it's like a very intense thirty hour training for you

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01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:17,400
Speaker 1: to like go through to like really remove all your

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01:01:17,560 --> 01:01:22,400
Speaker 1: questions and like your implicit biased around sex and sexuality

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Speaker 1: and sexual activity. And so there was a panel of

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Speaker 1: speakers of like sex um party promoters and like people

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01:01:30,640 --> 01:01:33,160
Speaker 1: who are polly and people who do this. The whole

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01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:38,080
Speaker 1: panel was Caucasian, and you know, it got brought up

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01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:43,640
Speaker 1: that those spaces are not always accessible to people of

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01:01:43,720 --> 01:01:46,160
Speaker 1: color or inclusive because usually it's a hundred and fifty

1134
01:01:46,240 --> 01:01:48,680
Speaker 1: dollars to get in. And then if you have kids,

1135
01:01:48,760 --> 01:01:53,360
Speaker 1: like you have to pay for babysitting. And like I mean,

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01:01:54,520 --> 01:01:56,800
Speaker 1: well even with the white um, I don't want to

1137
01:01:56,800 --> 01:02:01,200
Speaker 1: say to white people, but um uh even when I

1138
01:02:01,280 --> 01:02:04,600
Speaker 1: try to watch can I say white porner Caucasian porn?

1139
01:02:04,680 --> 01:02:08,120
Speaker 1: I don't want to don't white part of me? But

1140
01:02:08,200 --> 01:02:10,760
Speaker 1: see white porn of me is so funny. It's completely

1141
01:02:11,240 --> 01:02:13,880
Speaker 1: it's different. Their strokes aren't the same on there. It's

1142
01:02:13,960 --> 01:02:17,480
Speaker 1: different than black. But the reason why you have to

1143
01:02:17,560 --> 01:02:20,840
Speaker 1: there was an amazing There's a guy named Bobby what

1144
01:02:21,080 --> 01:02:23,400
Speaker 1: is his name? He writes for Playboy. He's out of

1145
01:02:23,520 --> 01:02:28,520
Speaker 1: Canada and it's like Bobby something, but um, I just

1146
01:02:28,680 --> 01:02:32,080
Speaker 1: want to say that he does. And he did this

1147
01:02:32,280 --> 01:02:37,640
Speaker 1: whole expose on uh Twitter about and wrote for Playboy

1148
01:02:37,960 --> 01:02:44,760
Speaker 1: about the racism and the um oppression in porn. And

1149
01:02:45,160 --> 01:02:49,000
Speaker 1: you have to understand black people are treated badly in

1150
01:02:49,200 --> 01:02:53,280
Speaker 1: porn porn, Like when I've watched ghetto gaggers, I've been

1151
01:02:53,480 --> 01:02:58,760
Speaker 1: what the fuck is ghetto gags? Like if I want

1152
01:02:58,800 --> 01:03:01,959
Speaker 1: to look up like um, hardcore blow jobs or something

1153
01:03:02,040 --> 01:03:06,520
Speaker 1: like that. They had Latina abuse and ghetto baggers, and

1154
01:03:07,240 --> 01:03:09,800
Speaker 1: I can't get It's literally like the girls are crying,

1155
01:03:10,800 --> 01:03:15,400
Speaker 1: like the first thing black horror, Like yeah, it's really, really,

1156
01:03:15,480 --> 01:03:18,520
Speaker 1: really intense. I was okay with horror. She didn't have

1157
01:03:18,560 --> 01:03:21,360
Speaker 1: to be a black one. Honestly, it makes me feel weird.

1158
01:03:21,480 --> 01:03:23,520
Speaker 1: I actually get kind of weird out when I watch

1159
01:03:23,800 --> 01:03:26,680
Speaker 1: um cock holding porn and it's very hard to find

1160
01:03:26,760 --> 01:03:29,760
Speaker 1: without um a black guy fucking someone's way, and then

1161
01:03:29,800 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 1: when they say it, it's like I can't. That's why

1162
01:03:31,920 --> 01:03:35,160
Speaker 1: when you say BBC, I love BBC, I cannot hear

1163
01:03:35,240 --> 01:03:39,720
Speaker 1: someone say black and BBC. It doesn't have to do

1164
01:03:39,840 --> 01:03:47,440
Speaker 1: with black hearing the word doing sex cock cock. I

1165
01:03:47,480 --> 01:03:51,200
Speaker 1: don't say, oh my god, give me see during set

1166
01:03:51,680 --> 01:03:55,360
Speaker 1: people you're black cock. Well you have to hold on.

1167
01:03:55,600 --> 01:03:57,880
Speaker 1: I just need to stop this whole conversation. I need

1168
01:03:57,920 --> 01:04:00,240
Speaker 1: to shut this down real quick, and I need to

1169
01:04:00,280 --> 01:04:04,800
Speaker 1: fucking school all your host So what we have to

1170
01:04:04,880 --> 01:04:09,000
Speaker 1: come to understand is the hyper sexualization of black men

1171
01:04:09,320 --> 01:04:12,800
Speaker 1: is so fucking real and the white supremacy that that

1172
01:04:13,040 --> 01:04:17,200
Speaker 1: is rooted in. We have fucking bamboozled ourselves into believing

1173
01:04:17,320 --> 01:04:19,760
Speaker 1: that that is a fucking badge of honor, that black

1174
01:04:19,840 --> 01:04:22,640
Speaker 1: men should wear. Let me tell you something, black men

1175
01:04:22,760 --> 01:04:26,720
Speaker 1: that are listening, when bites try to come to you like,

1176
01:04:26,920 --> 01:04:29,160
Speaker 1: oh baby, I want to fuck, they're trying to fund

1177
01:04:29,160 --> 01:04:31,920
Speaker 1: because they think you have a fucking man, dingo. That

1178
01:04:32,880 --> 01:04:36,280
Speaker 1: where cock holding comes from. It is an oppressive act

1179
01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:39,760
Speaker 1: that comes from slavery. I don't give a ship who

1180
01:04:39,880 --> 01:04:42,640
Speaker 1: you are as a black man. When bitches of other

1181
01:04:42,800 --> 01:04:45,200
Speaker 1: races are trying to fuck, they think that's because you

1182
01:04:45,280 --> 01:04:49,080
Speaker 1: have a man dingo dick not to mention, I could

1183
01:04:49,120 --> 01:04:51,760
Speaker 1: really get on an Angela David's tip right now. Come on, now,

1184
01:04:52,480 --> 01:05:00,320
Speaker 1: come on, y'all need to read the icest papers. The

1185
01:05:00,400 --> 01:05:03,680
Speaker 1: Eyes of Papers is by Dr Francis Crest Welding. She's

1186
01:05:03,720 --> 01:05:09,840
Speaker 1: incredibly because you know great. So one of the things

1187
01:05:09,920 --> 01:05:12,080
Speaker 1: in her book she points out is, and I've taught

1188
01:05:12,120 --> 01:05:15,400
Speaker 1: this to my students, think about what the gun looks like.

1189
01:05:17,440 --> 01:05:24,200
Speaker 1: Think about it. It's a phallic object. Literally literally, I'm

1190
01:05:24,280 --> 01:05:28,160
Speaker 1: not drinking. Think about the trigger and think about hold on, no,

1191
01:05:28,640 --> 01:05:31,280
Speaker 1: and what color is most guns? And what does it

1192
01:05:31,320 --> 01:05:36,520
Speaker 1: shoot out bullets that kill? So think about this, what

1193
01:05:36,680 --> 01:05:39,959
Speaker 1: do black penises shoot out bullets that can create life?

1194
01:05:41,360 --> 01:05:43,720
Speaker 1: Yet black men are giving guns all the time to

1195
01:05:44,000 --> 01:05:49,160
Speaker 1: kill each other because white men are super super they

1196
01:05:49,320 --> 01:05:53,480
Speaker 1: super fetishized black dick. Because if black men start shooting

1197
01:05:53,560 --> 01:05:57,640
Speaker 1: sperm into all races of women, we continue to expand

1198
01:05:57,720 --> 01:06:05,840
Speaker 1: the black race, and that threatened white supremacy. Ship I

1199
01:06:06,000 --> 01:06:10,160
Speaker 1: feel okay, So I guess I'm saying all that to

1200
01:06:10,320 --> 01:06:13,560
Speaker 1: say no, But like I am a I am a

1201
01:06:14,320 --> 01:06:21,080
Speaker 1: unapologetic radical sexologists who yeah, who wants people to really

1202
01:06:22,280 --> 01:06:26,440
Speaker 1: you guys whole listening. But the idea is that we

1203
01:06:26,600 --> 01:06:32,360
Speaker 1: need to start really recognizing how we are being hyper sexualized.

1204
01:06:32,360 --> 01:06:34,320
Speaker 1: So how do you feel about that term then BBC?

1205
01:06:34,640 --> 01:06:37,480
Speaker 1: Because the reason that that is a term that was

1206
01:06:37,760 --> 01:06:42,320
Speaker 1: probably created by a white man and white supremacy. Big

1207
01:06:42,440 --> 01:06:46,080
Speaker 1: black cock. Let's be real. Let's be real, there's big.

1208
01:06:46,720 --> 01:06:49,240
Speaker 1: I've had a lot of I mean, who looks at

1209
01:06:49,320 --> 01:06:52,360
Speaker 1: b WC though they're just a lot of there, but no,

1210
01:06:52,560 --> 01:06:55,040
Speaker 1: I mean I've had a lot of my friends tell

1211
01:06:55,080 --> 01:06:57,920
Speaker 1: me how uncomfortable with the black gay ones, especially when

1212
01:06:58,280 --> 01:06:59,880
Speaker 1: they're found by some men that are on the D

1213
01:07:00,560 --> 01:07:02,280
Speaker 1: and right and then like want they want that big

1214
01:07:02,320 --> 01:07:05,360
Speaker 1: black cock and black cock. Then he told me once

1215
01:07:05,400 --> 01:07:07,640
Speaker 1: he's like, bitch, I went straight saw fucking this white

1216
01:07:07,680 --> 01:07:09,560
Speaker 1: man because he said some dumb ship like he's like

1217
01:07:09,640 --> 01:07:11,200
Speaker 1: he told talking about my big black hot and I

1218
01:07:11,240 --> 01:07:12,960
Speaker 1: was like, okay, I know it's big. Bit I just

1219
01:07:13,440 --> 01:07:16,840
Speaker 1: hate but say all of us. But don't get me wrong,

1220
01:07:17,040 --> 01:07:19,080
Speaker 1: it makes sense. And I feel like I went off

1221
01:07:19,120 --> 01:07:21,680
Speaker 1: on a tangent and it's like so diverted from like me.

1222
01:07:23,520 --> 01:07:28,200
Speaker 1: But the thing two point oh the thing is. And

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Speaker 1: I also just say one other funny fact. We normally

1224
01:07:30,920 --> 01:07:33,040
Speaker 1: record out of other studios where black people recording. I

1225
01:07:33,080 --> 01:07:36,200
Speaker 1: feel so bad because there's normally not someone right here.

1226
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Speaker 1: But you know, in New York you've got tattoos. It's

1227
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Speaker 1: like but so, I guess to wrap up the show,

1228
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Speaker 1: I wanted to read off one of our homemail's. Um,

1229
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Speaker 1: we got so many actually in the last month. I'm

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Speaker 1: so sorry. We're gonna have to know what but I

1231
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Speaker 1: just want to pull us again. No, I'm not schooling you,

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Speaker 1: but you guys do know that I do oh dot School,

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Speaker 1: It's really good. You just logs on whatever so you

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Speaker 1: can send me all your home questions and I can

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01:08:18,520 --> 01:08:24,080
Speaker 1: start answering them and then I'll just tag you guys,

1240
01:08:24,200 --> 01:08:26,320
Speaker 1: and you know, I'll promote you, guys. Look at this

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Speaker 1: little cross from what can we turn? Okay, so guys,

1242
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Speaker 1: um again, if you guys want to send us your homemail,

1243
01:08:32,080 --> 01:08:35,720
Speaker 1: you can email us at Horrible Decisions at gmail dot

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Speaker 1: com or Instagram. Finally made a little feature where we

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Speaker 1: could start your d M s So you're more than

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01:08:41,680 --> 01:08:43,519
Speaker 1: welcome to go ahead. And Phil, yeah, I just noticed

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Speaker 1: it today, so you're more than welcome to go ahead

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Speaker 1: and continue sending your homemail as well to our d

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Speaker 1: M s. Um, So I'm gonna read this off. This

1250
01:08:50,960 --> 01:08:52,519
Speaker 1: is the only one we're gonna get off today, but

1251
01:08:52,840 --> 01:08:55,799
Speaker 1: I think that it's super good. Mind you. She uses

1252
01:08:55,920 --> 01:08:58,120
Speaker 1: the term virgin in quotes every time, so I assume

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01:08:58,200 --> 01:09:01,040
Speaker 1: she's not really one. Um as literally love you both

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01:09:01,120 --> 01:09:04,920
Speaker 1: together individually with guests without love. I am twenty four

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01:09:05,080 --> 01:09:09,320
Speaker 1: years old virgin who listens to the pod. I'm also

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Speaker 1: a siss straight I think black woman who has never

1257
01:09:12,960 --> 01:09:17,280
Speaker 1: had penetrative intercourse, neither vaginal nor anal. Okay, so maybe

1258
01:09:17,280 --> 01:09:20,599
Speaker 1: she'd just be sucking dick. That's why she's not virgin. Um.

1259
01:09:20,800 --> 01:09:22,960
Speaker 1: But I have messed around with a handful of guys.

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Speaker 1: Literally I can count the number on one hand. Despite

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Speaker 1: my lack of experience, I have found myself interested in

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Speaker 1: and exploring kink, specifically B D s M and more

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Speaker 1: specifically d D l G or daddy dom slash little girl.

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Speaker 1: I like that power play. This is not incests play,

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Speaker 1: nor is it pedophilia. But I know you both are

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Speaker 1: the last people I need to say to this. I

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Speaker 1: consider myself a middle so I enjoyed taking on the role,

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Speaker 1: she said, Yeah, I enjoyed taking on the role of

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Speaker 1: a brady teen slash schoolgirl in the presence of a

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Speaker 1: caregiver or daddy dom. Your interview with Lisa's slips in

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Speaker 1: was perfectly time oh hilarious, because I recently made a

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Speaker 1: fet life account to try and interact more with the

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Speaker 1: d d l G community and figure out if I

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Speaker 1: really want to pursue it. I was wondering what your

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Speaker 1: opinions were on a virgin exploring her sexuality through kink

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Speaker 1: instead of starting more vanilla. When did you guys start

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Speaker 1: exploring outside of vanilla sex and do you have any

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Speaker 1: knowledge on C C L g um. First off, thank

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Speaker 1: you for yes, and thank you also for being so

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Speaker 1: honest and open and allowing yourself to disclose that you're

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Speaker 1: into that. Again, I don't think that as black people

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Speaker 1: we feel as free to talk about kink and desire.

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Speaker 1: And I want to tell everybody out there that's listening,

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Speaker 1: it's totally normal, right, Like I work in a space

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Speaker 1: where yeah, I am at school, um, but I am

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Speaker 1: still a sexual being and I still look at sex

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Speaker 1: and sexuality a cross this spectrum of what it is.

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Speaker 1: And I think that it's healthy to have desire. I

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Speaker 1: think it's healthy to have fantasy. I think it's healthy

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Speaker 1: to have fetish play, whatever that is, whether it's towing,

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Speaker 1: whether it's a switch, whether it's even race play, whether

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Speaker 1: it's now you have to be okay with that. Race

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Speaker 1: play is huge, but it's scent. You have to know

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Speaker 1: what you're getting into because you don't want it to

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Speaker 1: trigger something. Right, So when it comes to being a switch,

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Speaker 1: I think as long as you're happy with where you

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Speaker 1: are and you're disclosing to your partners what you want. Like,

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Speaker 1: let's face it, all things are great things and sex,

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Speaker 1: and I believe Kinsey Um himself said the only abnormal

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Speaker 1: sex act is that which you cannot humanly perform. Um.

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Speaker 1: I'm paraphrasing, but I think that's as close as it is.

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Speaker 1: So I don't give a fuck what you do in

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Speaker 1: your bedroom because it's not going to socio economically impact

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Speaker 1: my life. Sex to us now, she did ask also,

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Speaker 1: she said, what if I'm not having sex? Well, well,

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Speaker 1: that's she's a mergen. She has not she by spanking,

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01:12:08,920 --> 01:12:12,320
Speaker 1: she can get off, says she doesn't have sex because

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Speaker 1: it's remember what I said, it starts in the brain.

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Speaker 1: It's the brain power. It's not about the actual penetration.

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Speaker 1: It's power, it's control, it's submissiveness. It's like I think

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Speaker 1: she can Actually I want to also say, you mentioned

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Speaker 1: the brain. We had a transman on and one of

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Speaker 1: the questions Mandy asked him A lot of people got

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Speaker 1: offended by, but I feel like it was a valid

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Speaker 1: question because sometimes we can't understand. She said, if you

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Speaker 1: don't get penetrated, how do you come? How do you come?

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Speaker 1: If you don't get touched? And he was like I

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Speaker 1: can get off, Like trust me, I get mine And

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Speaker 1: a lot of people were like, oh, that's bullshit, blah

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Speaker 1: blah blah. But I really don't believe that the orgasm

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Speaker 1: is something that needs to be a physical thing, like

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like I mean, obviously it's physical,

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Speaker 1: but something that we experienced on a physical level. I've

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Speaker 1: came in my dreams and I wasn't touching myself. Not

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Speaker 1: only that, I think it's important for her to realize

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Speaker 1: so her her her specific question too was um, what

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Speaker 1: are what are our thoughts on starting off with kink

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Speaker 1: instead of going the vanilla route? And what's funny is

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Speaker 1: every guy that I speak to their definition of freaky

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Speaker 1: or kinky is it's different. So there's such a large

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Speaker 1: spectrum on where you could see kink or what's vanilla? Okay,

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Speaker 1: we know vanilla is what missionary and doggy style and

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Speaker 1: vanilla is what because to some people is vanilla right there?

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Speaker 1: Blood honestly and very vanilla. And so with that question,

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Speaker 1: I think she needs to realize that what she wants

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Speaker 1: is not not normal. And I think a lot of

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Speaker 1: our listeners have to realize too. If you want not

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Speaker 1: the average thing you might not hear people openly discuss

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Speaker 1: it like they do. Penetration or sucking dick or even

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01:13:53,520 --> 01:13:56,800
Speaker 1: looking at has come become kind of in the norm now.

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Speaker 1: And so I think that our listeners and people who

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01:13:59,360 --> 01:14:01,439
Speaker 1: are now toile listening to us need to realize that

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Speaker 1: this is what we're trying to do. We're trying to

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01:14:02,880 --> 01:14:06,040
Speaker 1: open um. I guess the gap a little bit more

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01:14:06,120 --> 01:14:07,840
Speaker 1: and let you guys know that none of this stuff

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01:14:07,880 --> 01:14:10,840
Speaker 1: is weird. Um. We do come off by different things,

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Speaker 1: and like you said, it's a psychological thing. Um. And

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Speaker 1: so yeah, I think that is kind of our advice

1349
01:14:16,760 --> 01:14:19,160
Speaker 1: to you is that you don't have to work about yourself.

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01:14:19,360 --> 01:14:23,800
Speaker 1: And I started we started scoring fairly early, but I

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01:14:23,880 --> 01:14:25,800
Speaker 1: think that had to do with porn and just dealing

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01:14:25,840 --> 01:14:29,040
Speaker 1: with older guys and again just kind of being comfortable

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Speaker 1: with ourselves. Um. And so yeah, I guess this is

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Speaker 1: gonna wrap up this great episode. I hope you guys

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Speaker 1: genuinely fucking enjoyed, Michelle, and I hope you bit just

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Speaker 1: bring me back listen. We're gonna bring you, hope, I

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Speaker 1: have some sort of regular on you. We're gonna, we're

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01:14:43,600 --> 01:14:45,960
Speaker 1: gonna set up, We're gonna. We've had two different sexport

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Speaker 1: experiences and it's right to different. So where can our

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Speaker 1: listeners find you, Michelle, And we're gonna put all this

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Speaker 1: information in the description of the episode absolutely, So you

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Speaker 1: guys can't find me on my website m or www

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Speaker 1: dot MH sexpert dot com. You can find me at

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Speaker 1: oh dot school every Tuesday and Friday night. That's the website.

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Speaker 1: That's the pleasure. It's a website, yes, and you can

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Speaker 1: totally like go there and learn a bunch about sex.

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Speaker 1: It's amazing. And then um on on social media at

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Speaker 1: m h S Expert and then you know again, I

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01:15:23,040 --> 01:15:28,759
Speaker 1: love these two horse and their decisions. Um, I really

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01:15:28,880 --> 01:15:32,080
Speaker 1: am here for the people like I'm here to educate

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01:15:33,600 --> 01:15:38,759
Speaker 1: and there's no socioeconomic standards to holler at me, although

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01:15:38,840 --> 01:15:44,439
Speaker 1: mama needs to get home because sex. But you can

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Speaker 1: follow me, you can find me, and I just uh,

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Speaker 1: that's oh yeah, graduated. We're gonna, we're gonna it's a

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Speaker 1: kid's book though, which is really not Yeah, but we're gonna.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna definitely let our listeners know this because for

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01:15:58,680 --> 01:16:00,880
Speaker 1: those who have um kids, it's the way you talked

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01:16:00,880 --> 01:16:02,719
Speaker 1: about earlier. How to talk about it with your children.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna make sure that we get that in there. UM.

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01:16:04,840 --> 01:16:07,280
Speaker 1: And also again, guys, if you have any questions that

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01:16:07,320 --> 01:16:09,479
Speaker 1: you feel we did not ask, please send them in

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01:16:09,640 --> 01:16:12,479
Speaker 1: because UM, Michelle and I we talked damn near every day,

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01:16:12,520 --> 01:16:14,120
Speaker 1: God damn now and I'm here for you. UM. And

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Speaker 1: did she tell you that I was a villain too? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Actually I didn't. UM. But yeah, if you guys have

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Speaker 1: any further questions, UM, me and weezy or not? Sex first,

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01:16:24,960 --> 01:16:26,720
Speaker 1: we just have a lot of sex, um, but we

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Speaker 1: now have a sexpert um that we're hoping we can

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Speaker 1: join on. You know, she's on deck, So go ahead

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Speaker 1: and send those questions in. UM. And if you wanted

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Speaker 1: to be specific to Michelle, UM, just go ahead and

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Speaker 1: write that in the message and I'll make sure I'll

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01:16:37,439 --> 01:16:40,000
Speaker 1: relay the message. UM. Again, follow us on all social

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Speaker 1: media accounts, UM. Oh, and become patrons. We said it

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Speaker 1: in the episode, but guys, if you guys want the

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Speaker 1: full video of this so you guys can see all

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Speaker 1: of the toys we played with, Yes, UM, please become

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Speaker 1: a patron at patreon dot com back slash Horrible Decisions,

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Speaker 1: I'll post it on the page. Also, guys, you're gonna

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Speaker 1: hear some voicemails that were less um that were left

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Speaker 1: off UM through our number. Um we now have a number, guys,

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Speaker 1: and I'm going to post that. We want you guys

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Speaker 1: to go ahead and drop us your homemail and um,

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Speaker 1: you know, just we go. We got set that up.

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Speaker 1: Not just to describe Patreon a little bit for you guys.

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Speaker 1: We have um two different tiers or three different tiers.

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Speaker 1: We have a two dollar tier where you can just

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Speaker 1: support us for five bucks. You get the video footage

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Speaker 1: and the extra episodes per month. Our last few episodes,

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Speaker 1: we had one about oh my god, where the guy

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Speaker 1: that we used to fuck, um we kind of just

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Speaker 1: looked up his Facebook and solid he's doing now. We

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Speaker 1: had another one with a game mail escort, and then

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Speaker 1: our Sugar Daddy episode where we kind of gave tips

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Speaker 1: where we've discussed our experiences and where we took live calls.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, remember that girl we took live calls. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so we're that's also something else we're gonna start to

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Speaker 1: um be implementing. But yeah, our phone number it is

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Speaker 1: eight four five four one nine three eight zero nine.

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Speaker 1: Again that's eight four, five, one nine, three eight zero nine,

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Speaker 1: and you can leave us a message UM with your

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Speaker 1: questions yes, um, or just tell us how much you

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Speaker 1: love us, tell us how much you hate us. We

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Speaker 1: want to definitely we're gonna be playing all of them.

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Speaker 1: So UM, thank you again, guys. This has been yet

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Speaker 1: another episode of horrible decisions. Thank you, Thank you guys. Bye.

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Speaker 1: Please leave a message after the tone. Hey guys, it's Kathie. UM.

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Speaker 1: I just wanted to say, and I've showed you guys

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Speaker 1: love on Instagram and all that, but I wanted to

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Speaker 1: formally stay with my own voice that you guys are awesome.

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Speaker 1: I don't know whatever way to put it. Um. I

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Speaker 1: listened to you guys episode yesterday. It saved me from

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Speaker 1: a long day at work, so thank you for that.

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Speaker 1: I learned so much and I was laughing at the

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Speaker 1: same time, which is kind of hard to do. So

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Speaker 1: that episode was extremely informative and a lot I think,

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Speaker 1: you know, a lot of people can learn from it.

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Speaker 1: And like I said, I just have a great old time.

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Speaker 1: So thank you guys so much. You know, keep doing

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Speaker 1: what you're doing, don't ever stop. We need more people

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Speaker 1: like you in this world. Think you