WEBVTT - Pod Meets Twirl'd: Married at First Sight 2001 0:00:11.160 --> 0:00:14.360 Welcome to Pod meets Tworld, a podcast that began with 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:18.240 Dancing with the Stars, wandered through castles, survived beaches, and 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:21.680 spent an entire season debating the social hierarchy of cocktail parties, 0:00:22.160 --> 0:00:24.360 and along the way, Will and I riffed on what 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:29.840 I thought was an entirely hypothetical observation, maybe arranged marriage 0:00:29.880 --> 0:00:33.440 isn't the worst idea. Well, apparently our producers were listening. 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:37.000 So now we're watching Married at First Sight season twenty, 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:39.720 a show where complete strangers meet at the altar, say 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:42.400 I do, and only then begin the awkward process of 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:46.680 discovering whether they have anything whatsoever in common. We are Wilfredell, 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:50.320 who loves love and believes marriage should be about the marriage, 0:00:50.520 --> 0:00:53.720 not the wedding, and Rather Strong, who also loves love 0:00:53.880 --> 0:00:56.760 and made one observation about arranged marriage and is now 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:59.440 being forced to defend it for an entire television season. 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:03.120 Join us as experts, therapists, family members, and complete strangers 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:07.640 all attempt the oldest social experiment in human history with confessionals. 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:09.520 This is Pod meets Twirled. 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:13.640 All or Nothing. How's it going, Will. 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:15.240 I'm good rider? How are you doing? 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:17.479 You're excited? To be moving out of the city. 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:20.880 Oh my god, I have my bags packed and I 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:23.679 will jump right into an arranged marriage to. 0:01:23.680 --> 0:01:24.760 Get the hell out of the city. 0:01:26.120 --> 0:01:28.479 I yeah, I had no idea that when we riffed 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:30.720 on this and we said, like, wish there should be 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:33.160 a thing where there's a panel of people that pay 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:35.840 this exists, and this show exists. You have watched the 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:38.160 show before. I have never even heard of this show. 0:01:38.280 --> 0:01:40.560 It makes sense that the show exists. I am so 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:42.800 on board with it. But tell me your history. 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:44.959 What's your history with Merit at first sight? 0:01:45.200 --> 0:01:47.520 I started as Sue and I think found it during 0:01:47.560 --> 0:01:49.720 the pandemic maybe or how young. 0:01:49.680 --> 0:01:51.520 Has it been? So twenty seasons? 0:01:51.600 --> 0:01:53.440 Like I think so, but you know they do two 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:55.680 or three a year. It's only been around for four 0:01:55.760 --> 0:01:58.120 or five years. I think, oh, okay, okay, as my guess, 0:01:58.240 --> 0:02:00.000 and this came out. I started watching at the beginning. 0:02:00.360 --> 0:02:01.960 So this came out around the same time as Love 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:03.160 is Blind on Netflix. 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:04.120 This was first. 0:02:04.400 --> 0:02:06.240 This was first. This was first because I have seen 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:06.880 Love is Blind. 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:09.360 For whatever reason, my son got really into it last 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:12.320 year and right around the time that one guy quoted 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:14.520 to Panga without giving I mean quoted Corey into Panga 0:02:14.520 --> 0:02:15.440 without giving them credit. 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:18.680 Yeah, whatever, that that we were watching it around that. 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:20.840 Andy got really into it, and I didn't really like 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:23.200 that show that much. It seems like a better version. 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:25.880 Way better than Love Is Blind. This is way way 0:02:25.880 --> 0:02:26.600 better to me than. 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:28.359 Okay, so you and your wife started watching it. 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:31.600 I was buying television in the US for twelve years. 0:02:31.639 --> 0:02:33.880 Married at First Sight has been on okay, So yeah, 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:36.040 but I believe we didn't start right at the beginning. 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:36.639 Maybe we did. 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:39.280 We again, I haven't seen them all. We weren't one 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:41.160 of those people where it's like, ooh, Married at First Sight. 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:43.680 But we've definitely done probably five or six seasons of 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:48.280 this show. Yeah, and there's some of them where I think, like, legit, 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:50.920 the people are still together and have kids and every 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:51.320 other thing. 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:53.480 So it's fascinating, man, I'm so sure. 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:55.720 I'm so excited to see it because it's like, you know, 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:59.680 coming from the Bravo verse, from coming from in the City, 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:04.079 which was you know, the sense like the judgment, right, 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:06.400 Like the process of judging, which we talked about, is 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:09.200 like part of the fun, right, You're getting into the gossip, 0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:11.560 you're kind of judging you're comparing yourself to the people 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:16.359 on screen. It was all sort of, you know, intentionally superficial. 0:03:16.400 --> 0:03:18.440 Like the point is like it's not really that big 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:19.960 of a deal. The drama, the stakes are. 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:21.240 Low in this case. 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:25.280 It's fascinating, Like, I am so curious how because you know, 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:28.080 not only are the people themselves weighing in on like 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:29.880 what they're looking for in a partner, what they think 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:33.320 about love, and we're getting to see that play out 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:36.120 whether what they're saying matches their actions and their behavior, 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:39.080 we also have this like these experts weighing in and 0:03:39.120 --> 0:03:43.160 making the match making decisions, and like, I'm really curious 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:45.280 about some of their choices, Like I don't know if 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:46.240 I agree with them. 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:49.040 Is it always these same two people or well, no, 0:03:49.120 --> 0:03:51.160 these so they might have been on for a few seasons, 0:03:51.200 --> 0:03:52.240 these were not the ones I knew. 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:54.000 The ones that I knew. There was literally a woman 0:03:54.040 --> 0:03:54.520 her name. 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:57.120 Was doctor Pepper, so that's not even a joke. Doctor 0:03:57.160 --> 0:03:58.760 Pepper was on for a long time. And then there 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:01.600 was a pastor who was the other one, so there's 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:03.720 like a spiritual side to it as well, and actually 0:04:03.800 --> 0:04:05.400 sat next to him on a plane once. 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:06.560 No way, I didn't. 0:04:06.560 --> 0:04:07.920 I didn't want to times like I don't want to 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:09.520 bother him on the plane, but I literally sat next 0:04:09.560 --> 0:04:10.960 to him on a flight once, the guy the guy 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:14.960 from But no, there, it's it's super interesting. I'd love 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:16.600 to know all the criteria. They go over it a 0:04:16.640 --> 0:04:18.960 little bit, but I'm sure they go very much in depth. 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:22.240 But I have to imagine from everything I've heard about 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:26.000 the dating culture nowadays, of everything everybody meeting online, they're 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:28.520 all dating apps. People are lying. It's terrible. I bet 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:30.360 you there's a ton of people that are like. 0:04:30.560 --> 0:04:31.800 I don't want I don't want to deal with it. 0:04:31.839 --> 0:04:33.840 I would love to have a tribunal if people go 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:36.640 pick myself. Yeah, I mean I imagine that's that to 0:04:36.680 --> 0:04:40.040 me is no weirder than all the dating that got 0:04:40.240 --> 0:04:41.080 with the apps and everything. 0:04:41.200 --> 0:04:41.360 Yeah. 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:44.240 Well, I think the problem with the apps is that 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:49.719 like it, they operate on this assumption that you can 0:04:49.839 --> 0:04:54.479 like explicate your likes and dislikes, and and that those 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:57.320 that aligning with another person, like oh, we listened to 0:04:57.360 --> 0:04:59.320 the same music, we watch the same TV shows, we 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:03.080 do the same active that that is like what makes 0:05:03.080 --> 0:05:05.560 a good relationship or makes love? And I think it 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:08.839 can but I definitely do not think it's that's true. 0:05:08.880 --> 0:05:11.400 Like I actually I'm on the line now. I'm like 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:15.000 the speed dating model, which again is opposite of this show. 0:05:15.279 --> 0:05:18.000 I think you know within thirty seconds whether you will 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:21.000 ever ever be able to kiss a person have a 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:23.920 relationship with them. And I think it's way more instinctual. 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:24.520 Than we want to believe. 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:26.880 Like you know, I would love to intellectualize and say, 0:05:26.920 --> 0:05:28.680 like I love my wife for X Y D and 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:31.000 I do, right, But I don't think that's like the 0:05:31.040 --> 0:05:33.760 real reason, like the real reason for whatever reason my 0:05:33.880 --> 0:05:35.960 wife and I at some point we just connect it 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:38.200 and we rationalize the parts. 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:39.880 That don't work, do you know what I mean. I 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:41.360 mean we all are so delusional. 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:44.320 I think humans are so delusional, like fundamentally, and we 0:05:44.360 --> 0:05:47.039 want to convince ourselves we're in control when we're really not. 0:05:47.240 --> 0:05:49.240 Like I think we're just animals, and I think it's 0:05:49.279 --> 0:05:53.560 so instinctual, and I think we rationalize whatever decision we 0:05:53.680 --> 0:05:54.600 kind of like make. 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:56.800 Well, we also lie to ourselves all the time so 0:05:56.920 --> 0:05:58.680 much so it's the problem is that you're on a 0:05:58.760 --> 0:06:01.800 dating side or whatever, you might think you're being honest 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:03.359 with what you want or you might think you know 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:05.800 yourself well enough, but at the end of the day, 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:07.960 a bunch of other people looking at you going like, Okay, 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:09.640 it's interesting you said that to me, but I don't 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:12.719 believe that for a second is probably going to be 0:06:12.839 --> 0:06:17.960 more beneficial than you trying to self actualize what you're 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:19.720 looking for in a partner. 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:21.960 And so there is something too. 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:24.599 I mean, I always it's a weird correlation, but my 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:28.080 voiceover auditions. I if I am left to my own 0:06:28.120 --> 0:06:30.760 devices and I do a voiceover audition in my booth 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:32.679 by myself, I do two takes and I'm. 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:34.760 Like, I'm the man, and I walk out so good. 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:35.800 I'm great at this. 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:38.280 Whereas when I have a booth director and somebody knows 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:40.400 what they're doing, they'll be like, what the hell was 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:40.800 that take? 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:42.000 And they're right. 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:42.560 And so it is. 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:44.560 It's one of those things where occasionally you need somebody 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:47.200 just going you're not as awesome as you think. You're 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:50.360 also maybe not as crappy as you think, and so 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:53.160 you need somebody there kind of going, no, this is 0:06:53.440 --> 0:06:55.160 maybe we need to look at this, or maybe you did, 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:57.560 or maybe it seems like what you said was was this, 0:06:57.680 --> 0:07:00.800 but it sounds like you really look looking for this, 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:03.520 and we're going to try this because obviously you're now 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:05.800 thirty five, you've never had a steady relationship, so what 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:09.200 you're doing isn't working, So let me give it a 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:13.000 shot and see what happens it. Part of me is like, brilliant, brilliant, man, 0:07:13.120 --> 0:07:14.160 I get out of my hands. 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:15.360 Yeah, I mean I would. 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:18.200 I would totally love that advice too, I think. But 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:19.320 I don't know if it's good. 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:22.640 I just don't know if it works, Like, I don't 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:23.480 know if it matters. 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:25.920 But even after this one episode, we've only done seen 0:07:25.960 --> 0:07:28.280 three couples, and I think it's a complete roll of 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:28.800 the dice. 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:31.239 Honestly, there's well there's some of them where I think 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:32.880 I don't think it's a roll of the dice at all. 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:36.400 I think it's doomed. I think it's doomed from the start. 0:07:36.720 --> 0:07:38.160 Yeah, so I'm so curious. 0:07:38.240 --> 0:07:40.840 Yeah all right, well, okay, so the show begins with 0:07:40.920 --> 0:07:42.280 a preview of the entire season. 0:07:42.560 --> 0:07:44.840 I skipped this. I did not want to watch this, Okay. 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:47.520 I don't want spoilers, man, I also don't want to 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:49.360 be teased with like mister X. 0:07:49.640 --> 0:07:50.480 I hate trailers. 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:50.800 I hate. 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:53.520 I used to love trailers when I was a kid. Now, 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:56.240 if I hear about a movie that is good, I 0:07:56.640 --> 0:07:58.480 don't watch the trailer. I do not want to know 0:07:58.520 --> 0:08:00.880 the trailer. It's like, oh, if I'm a and I 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:03.000 know that, that means I might not like. But I 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:06.000 I basically get my movie taste from people's recommendations, you know, 0:08:06.160 --> 0:08:07.920 like I do not want to see because if I 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:10.240 see a trailer, I remember every minute, and then when 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:12.400 I'm watching the movie, I'm like, oh, I don't got 0:08:12.480 --> 0:08:15.280 to the park where this happens, So I didn't want to. 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:17.200 Even worse, when they show something in the trailer that's 0:08:17.240 --> 0:08:19.200 not in the movie and then wait a minute, man. 0:08:20.360 --> 0:08:21.920 Thing that's by death. 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:25.920 They used to do that all the time the nineties, 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:27.680 do you remember, because they would just be like, well, 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:29.840 that would joke work, but we're not going I'd be 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:30.600 so pissed off. 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:31.840 Yep, Oh my god. 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:34.000 Yeah, it's an extra footage that they just decided to 0:08:34.040 --> 0:08:36.160 put in. It's like, come on, yeah. 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:36.600 All right. 0:08:36.640 --> 0:08:41.440 So our show opens. We meet Marissa. She loves love, 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:43.199 been to six weddings. 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:47.560 And she says eight later, so she's already. 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:49.000 Don't trust her, I don't trust. 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:52.520 We meet Felippe, who says he's been a goo most 0:08:52.520 --> 0:08:52.959 of his life. 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:55.280 I've never heard this phrase. Have you heard this? Sure? 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:56.199 I'll go sure. 0:08:56.280 --> 0:09:01.439 Maybe it's just us us who have heard of it. 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:04.120 This guy's funny, man. 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:06.720 He talks about how he's attractive now because he's worked 0:09:06.720 --> 0:09:09.839 out and he's getting hit on NonStop because women are 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:11.319 just a superficiless man. 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:14.679 I'm like, yeah, it's also just. 0:09:14.640 --> 0:09:15.640 It's thought about your looks. 0:09:15.640 --> 0:09:17.960 He's This guy's funny, he's got a great personality. 0:09:18.080 --> 0:09:21.000 But do you also notice that he cannot stay still? 0:09:21.400 --> 0:09:24.400 No, I mean he's like moving the whole time and 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:26.600 shaking around. I mean, I don't know if he's ADHD 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:29.200 or whatever, but this guy cannot sit still. 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:31.640 He's he's a he's a mover and a shaker. 0:09:31.800 --> 0:09:34.080 Yeah yeah, and he's definitely like found his call in 0:09:34.120 --> 0:09:34.760 with a restaurant. 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:36.040 I think it's so like he. 0:09:36.480 --> 0:09:37.720 Seems to be right and right. 0:09:38.080 --> 0:09:40.079 And then we meet Adam, who we will find out 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:43.840 later as a tech guy. There's Mecca who cleans porta 0:09:43.920 --> 0:09:46.400 potties right out of the gate. I'm like, what's going 0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:50.280 on there, Devin. We only meet for a second. He's 0:09:50.280 --> 0:09:52.640 a professional rugby player. I guess we'll get back to him. 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:55.360 Rugby is a sport, by the way, Yeah that's just 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:57.800 that's Is there rugby in America? 0:09:58.040 --> 0:09:58.280 Yeah? 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:04.120 Sure, it's a not hugely involved in it, but watching it. Yeah, 0:10:04.200 --> 0:10:06.160 I mean he's technically probably cricket in America, but we 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:06.600 don't remember. 0:10:06.800 --> 0:10:10.680 We find out Felipe runs an Italian restaurant that he 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:14.880 brings dates to his own restaurant, and they have this 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:17.360 conversation where Felipe talks about forgetting. 0:10:16.920 --> 0:10:19.880 That he cheated. It's just the weirdest thing. I was like, 0:10:20.080 --> 0:10:21.880 so you just drank too much and then. 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:24.160 Yeah, like I didn't even know about it till years later. 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:26.360 How do you not know you cheated on somebody? 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:28.840 I guess maybe he's like he just lied to himself 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:30.760 and like believed his own lie after a while. 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:32.880 Maybe, Okay, weird? 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:33.560 All right? 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:37.880 We meet Bella Jolie who wants to be a leading 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:40.400 lady Courtney who used to be a bodybuilder. 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:42.959 I guess we'll find out more about her in another episode, and. 0:10:42.960 --> 0:10:46.920 We get Adam's backstory about being a tech bro lives 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:50.560 in a cabin jet Skis this guy's a lot of money. 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:51.040 Apparently. 0:10:51.880 --> 0:10:55.200 No, he doesn't jet ski. He rips the jet skis. 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:57.360 We just ripped. We just ripped jet skis man. 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:01.160 So he said sourking about how he used to want 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:04.440 to he was always serious and got tired of girls 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.400 who parted, and that he's really into discipline. 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:09.720 This comes up a lot. 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:12.400 And then he sits down to play piano. First's gonna 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:15.880 warm his fingers up. We at the fire, and then 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:18.280 he breaks into the Moonlight Sonata, and then we get 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:24.000 this guy Nick, who was like, you're really good at 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:27.319 thet but that's a long song, and he's like, I'll 0:11:27.320 --> 0:11:28.120 just play one more. 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:30.600 Just I don't think Adam. 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:32.960 I don't think Adam needs a spouse because he's so 0:11:33.120 --> 0:11:36.640 in love with himself. With him, Oh, this guy is 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:40.960 one giant, literal six foot five giant walking red flag. 0:11:41.280 --> 0:11:44.680 I mean, there was so easy to see some of 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:48.280 the comments this dude makes. You're just like, are you 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:50.319 kidding me? With some of the ship you're saying. 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:50.880 Yeah, yeah, no. 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:53.400 It's it's so funny because the way the episode starts, 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:55.600 when they start presenting him, you're like, why hasn't this 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:58.199 guy been able to find somebody he's a catch, and 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:03.200 then you're like, dang, yeah, this is why. 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:04.960 Yeah, yeah, it's yeah. 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:06.360 Pretty it's not the. 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:09.000 Biggest one for me. Yeah, it's where I was like, dude, 0:12:09.040 --> 0:12:09.600 you've got it. 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:12.199 I know it's a little it's a bummer. Yeah, because 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:14.240 it was. It was a downfall. I was like, oh, 0:12:14.520 --> 0:12:16.360 it was interesting, like he's really figured out a lot 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:16.840 of his life. 0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:19.200 And I was like, oh, no, you don't want to 0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:22.240 be around anybody else, Like you don't want anybody else's. 0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:24.280 Yeah, especially if you're not going to rip jet skis man. 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:25.359 Yeah. 0:12:25.000 --> 0:12:25.120 Uh. 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:26.960 We get the ladies doing. 0:12:26.760 --> 0:12:30.080 Shots, shots, shots, shot shots. 0:12:29.760 --> 0:12:31.600 But I love that. Who is it is it? Marissa? 0:12:31.640 --> 0:12:34.400 That's like everyone hates them, everyone hates them. If you 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:39.600 can do It's like, I haven't done a shot shots anymore. 0:12:39.720 --> 0:12:40.560 I was disgusted. 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:44.000 I used to fake doing shots. I was just like yeah, 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:45.640 and then you throw it over your shoulder. 0:12:46.120 --> 0:12:48.760 But I do shots when I was twenty two. No, 0:12:48.960 --> 0:12:49.880 I mean again, it. 0:12:50.000 --> 0:12:52.000 Was like, dude, it's the dumbest thing in the world. 0:12:52.080 --> 0:12:54.160 You're still doing shots in your thirties. You need to 0:12:54.160 --> 0:12:55.000 look at yourself. 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:55.160 A little bit. 0:12:55.200 --> 0:12:57.120 It's just my big agree man, it's not a not 0:12:57.160 --> 0:12:59.360 a great, great lifestyle choice. 0:12:59.559 --> 0:12:59.760 No. 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:02.720 All right, then we get our first matchmaking session with 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:06.760 Paul and doctor Lisa. I would like to know a 0:13:06.760 --> 0:13:08.439 little bit more about these people in the show is 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:10.560 giving me. I mean, they just agreed, but I guess 0:13:10.640 --> 0:13:12.480 maybe they've been hosting for a while, so. 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:16.520 But I kind of I don't know, Like I wanted 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:18.079 to know a little bit more about, like where they 0:13:18.080 --> 0:13:18.560 come from. 0:13:18.600 --> 0:13:20.800 What they said the same thing because he said I 0:13:20.960 --> 0:13:25.520 was a matchmaker on the UK version, Okay, and it's like, 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.599 all right, but are you a professional matchmaker? 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:31.080 Do you have any Do you just talk together like 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:34.120 a couple's coach too? I was like, is that a 0:13:34.440 --> 0:13:36.480 like how is that different than a couple's therapist? Do 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:39.319 you know what I mean? Like a coach? Yeah, she's 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:41.240 a doctor, a doctor of what, Like I don't know 0:13:41.760 --> 0:13:42.360 your first name. 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:47.319 Could have done research, seriously. 0:13:47.960 --> 0:13:52.800 I'll change my name legal the dr period exactly. Yeah, 0:13:52.840 --> 0:13:54.400 I mean, I'm sure we could have done research and 0:13:54.480 --> 0:13:56.600 been professional podcasters, but. 0:13:56.720 --> 0:13:58.800 That's no fun. We like to jump in naked. 0:13:58.880 --> 0:13:59.960 That's what's so Maddy to do. 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:02.520 She can tell us about it later, I'll say, so, 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:05.679 Paul Carrick Brunson from Merredith Firstite is certified. 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:08.920 He's a certified life coach. Okay, and trained under prominent 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:10.240 matchmaking experts. 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:11.440 Certified life coaches certified. 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:14.559 Is there a life coach organization out there? I need 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:15.680 to make my own life. 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:17.680 Coach organization and give out certificates. 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:20.560 You don't need to write her. You're now certified. Congratulations. 0:14:20.600 --> 0:14:22.040 I just certified you a life coach. 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:24.880 You're good to go if I just started the LLC 0:14:25.280 --> 0:14:27.680 Will's Life Coach Certification dot Com. 0:14:28.160 --> 0:14:31.200 Yeah, okay, all right, Uh so he's a life coach 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:31.840 and what else? 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:34.560 What is she do? We know what she does. Doctor 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:39.600 Lisa Paz is a relationship expert, board certified sex therapist, 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:43.440 and licensed marriage and family therapists based in Miami. 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:46.880 So she has some creds. Okay, so she's a sex 0:14:46.920 --> 0:14:49.440 therapist and okay, that's a yeah. 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:54.040 Yeah. I'm really curious about this whole process. I'm curious, 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:56.640 like I don't know, I'm dubious about I mean, I 0:14:56.920 --> 0:14:58.520 know I all have to see. I mean I know 0:14:58.560 --> 0:14:59.760 I have to see because. 0:15:00.240 --> 0:15:03.120 Therapist is Hopefully they don't start with the same question 0:15:03.160 --> 0:15:05.120 that Freud always did, which is tell me about your mother, 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:07.040 because I think that would be an entirely. 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:10.360 Different thing I'm talking about. But yeah, no, we again. 0:15:11.280 --> 0:15:14.120 All I can tell you from the previous episode of 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:16.160 previous seasons that I've watched is some of these couples 0:15:16.200 --> 0:15:18.400 have been are still together and have kids and have 0:15:18.440 --> 0:15:19.800 been together for years. 0:15:20.160 --> 0:15:23.200 Okay, yes, some of these couples have worked out. But 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:25.760 is it better than chance? That's my question. 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:27.800 It's a great question because I don't know. If you 0:15:27.840 --> 0:15:28.920 pick fifteen. 0:15:28.560 --> 0:15:31.120 Couples for a show or whatever and two of them 0:15:31.160 --> 0:15:32.440 stay together, isn't. 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:35.480 That just odds? Isn't that actually when you suck you do. 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:35.920 You know what? 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:38.200 I wonder, like, I wonder if somebody's done the and 0:15:38.320 --> 0:15:39.600 we don't have to do it now because I don't 0:15:39.640 --> 0:15:41.520 want to ruin the show, but I do think at 0:15:41.520 --> 0:15:44.160 some point we should see if somebody has written an 0:15:44.240 --> 0:15:46.640 article or done the stats and like said, how much 0:15:46.760 --> 0:15:48.360 this show has actually resulted. 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:51.680 I believe Susan and I looked it up once. I 0:15:51.720 --> 0:15:53.680 don't remember what it was, but we had that same 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:56.160 question because there was things where it's like, all right, 0:15:56.160 --> 0:15:58.880 you had ten couples on one of them is still together? 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:02.320 Do you need experts for that or can you just 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:02.960 throw darts? 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:03.560 Right? 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:07.080 You know, I don't remember, but you don't remember. I don't. 0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:09.240 I don't, I honestly don't. I don't remember what else. 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:12.240 If memory serves, they had it was, it was they 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:14.720 had a much bigger ratio of not working out than 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:15.600 they did working out. 0:16:15.600 --> 0:16:16.520 But I don't remember. 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:21.040 My instinct is it's chance. Like that's my sense of 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:23.880