1 00:00:01,400 --> 00:00:05,120 Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating Her Space, we were 2 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: a family of seven living in a one bedroom shelter 3 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:09,400 Speaker 1: with one bathroom, and I would go to that bathroom 4 00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:12,559 Speaker 1: and pretend like this was a luxury space that I 5 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: was in with a little lamp on, and I'd be 6 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 1: in that tub with my headphones on, and I would 7 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:18,639 Speaker 1: just go to another place. And so I think that 8 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: it's so important for us to again focus on what 9 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:24,440 Speaker 1: we can control and figure out how we can do 10 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:26,319 Speaker 1: the best we can with what we have in this 11 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:29,800 Speaker 1: season and cultivate joy because Lady, you deserve it. 12 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:35,320 Speaker 2: Hey, lady, have you ever felt like the world just 13 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 2: doesn't get you? Well, we do. 14 00:00:40,240 --> 00:00:43,960 Speaker 1: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, the podcast dedicated to uplifting 15 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 1: and empowering women like you. 16 00:00:46,760 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 2: We're your hosts, doctor Dominique Brussard and educator and psychologists. 17 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: And Terry Lomax, a techie and transformational speaker. 18 00:00:55,720 --> 00:01:00,160 Speaker 2: Join us every week for authentic conversations about everything from 19 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 2: fibroids to fake friends as we create space for black 20 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 2: women to just be. 21 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 1: Before we dive in, make sure you hit that follow 22 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: button and leave us a quick five star review. 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Lady, don't miss this chance 37 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: to build a road map that fits your life and 38 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 1: set you up for success. I hope to see you there. 39 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:17,400 Speaker 2: Our quote of the day I embrace joy as my birthright. 40 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 2: I'm gonna say that one more time, so lady, you 41 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 2: can close your eyes and let this affirmation sit in 42 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 2: your spirit. I embrace joy as my birthright. That quote 43 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:38,359 Speaker 2: comes to us from Tanya Denise Fields. All right, so tee, 44 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:42,440 Speaker 2: when you hear that, and you know our topic for today, 45 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 2: what comes to. 46 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:49,760 Speaker 1: Mind when I hear this quote, What it makes me 47 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:53,320 Speaker 1: think about is the fact that joy is not something 48 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:55,240 Speaker 1: that we have to earn. It is something that we 49 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 1: are inherently worthy of, no matter what people around us 50 00:02:58,800 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: might say. 51 00:02:59,560 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 2: Right. 52 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:02,960 Speaker 1: It's reminder that we don't have to prove ourselves or 53 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:06,640 Speaker 1: be perfect, or wait for external permission or another person 54 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 1: to offer us joy. We can create ourselves. That's what 55 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 1: I think of when I heard this quote, Tom, what 56 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 1: about you? 57 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 2: I love that. I love that not waiting for permission 58 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:21,280 Speaker 2: from other people. I think. For me, what comes to 59 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:26,639 Speaker 2: mind is what it means to cultivate joy as black 60 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 2: people historically, and just thinking about the things that our 61 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 2: ancestors have been through and how they still found joy, 62 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 2: how joy was a necessity for their survival. And so 63 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 2: when I hear this that joy is my birthright, like yeah, 64 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:55,200 Speaker 2: it makes me think about my ancestors and think about 65 00:03:56,200 --> 00:04:05,680 Speaker 2: we need joy again, it is essential for our survival. 66 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: Amen to that. I love it. Well, lady. We are 67 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 1: so excited for today's conversation, and one thing to keep 68 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:14,320 Speaker 1: in mind, especially as we navigate the times that we're 69 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:18,039 Speaker 1: in is that joy doesn't always come naturally. As we 70 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 1: can see right if you turn on the news, if 71 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:21,279 Speaker 1: you see what's going on in the world, sometimes it's 72 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:24,279 Speaker 1: just like wow, that's what's going on, right, And sometimes 73 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 1: we have to be intentional about choosing joy. So what 74 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 1: we're gonna share today are some feel good tips. But 75 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:32,680 Speaker 1: they aren't just feel good tips, okay. These are tools 76 00:04:32,680 --> 00:04:35,000 Speaker 1: that Dom and I have used to reconnect with our bodies, 77 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 1: our people, and our peace. So get ready to get ready, lady. 78 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: And I do want to share this with you, don 79 00:04:40,720 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 1: because I think this is something that we may have 80 00:04:42,120 --> 00:04:44,599 Speaker 1: talked about on a previous episode, but I'm shure to 81 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: it with you too, lady. So while back, I would say, 82 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:49,080 Speaker 1: around the time when I was planning for this year, 83 00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: I created a happiness list, and I usually do this 84 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:54,760 Speaker 1: maybe annually or so or I check in on that 85 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: list and we'll call it a joy list for the 86 00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:59,599 Speaker 1: sake of this conversation. So it's literally a list of 87 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: things that genuinely light me up, like y'all, don't judge me, 88 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:07,559 Speaker 1: but I love me a good prank video, okay, things 89 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 1: like quality time with the family or I don't know 90 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:13,359 Speaker 1: if y'all have checked out Nate Jackson's CrowdWork joints on YouTube, 91 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 1: but sometimes at night I'll watch those because it has 92 00:05:16,040 --> 00:05:18,120 Speaker 1: me cracking up on the couch. So go watch that 93 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:20,120 Speaker 1: if you need a good laugh to see. That's your 94 00:05:20,279 --> 00:05:22,560 Speaker 1: humor style. But I made a list of these items 95 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 1: when I was in a good mood so that during 96 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 1: heavier times or even when I was planning out my week, 97 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:30,120 Speaker 1: I could add some of those moments to my schedule. 98 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 1: So literally, when I plan my week on Sundays, I'll 99 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 1: add moments on my calendar, and I'm like, do this 100 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:37,480 Speaker 1: thing because I know what brings me joy, and it 101 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: just gives you that one little thing to look forward to. 102 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:42,119 Speaker 1: So that could be an action step that you can take. Lady. 103 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 1: It's one moment to soften the edges of life, because 104 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:47,200 Speaker 1: we know that life can be our these days. And 105 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:48,680 Speaker 1: the last thing I want to say before we get 106 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:51,719 Speaker 1: into our reflection questions is that this is not a 107 00:05:51,800 --> 00:05:55,359 Speaker 1: dress for hersel It's not I'm gonna say that one. 108 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:56,760 Speaker 1: We're talking for people in the back, y'all. This is 109 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 1: not a dress for her, So this is not for 110 00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:02,160 Speaker 1: play play. We are living the life. We are living 111 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:04,160 Speaker 1: the life right now, like this is it. So whatever 112 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 1: dreams and goals, you have opportunities to create joy, this 113 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 1: is the moment to do it. We're not waiting on 114 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:12,279 Speaker 1: this one accomplishment or this one thing to happen. We 115 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 1: need to be doing this now. And yes there's a 116 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:17,719 Speaker 1: lot that's out of our control. Yes, life gets heavy, 117 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:20,120 Speaker 1: but we are still the authors of our experience and 118 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:23,039 Speaker 1: we get to co create joy with the divine even 119 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:25,159 Speaker 1: in the midst of chaos. So in these moments that 120 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:27,920 Speaker 1: we're in, think about what you can control, and that's 121 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: what we're going to be using to fuel this joy. 122 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I love that, And I think you know, 123 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:40,320 Speaker 2: as you were saying that, it made me think about 124 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:44,119 Speaker 2: a list that I an article that I had read 125 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 2: years ago, and I want to say it was yeah, 126 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:55,279 Speaker 2: it was twenty seventeen, and one of the things that 127 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 2: the article was about was like it was like a happy, 128 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 2: healthy list, like things that you do to show that 129 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:10,760 Speaker 2: you are to cultivate happiness, right, And so I remember 130 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 2: that there was a point when like I had bookmarked it, 131 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 2: and then there was a point where I was looking 132 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 2: at it every week like, I set a reminder in 133 00:07:23,640 --> 00:07:27,040 Speaker 2: my phone to look at it every week, right, And 134 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 2: what's interesting is that I never cut off the reminder. 135 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:39,520 Speaker 2: So from twenty seventeen to today, I still get that reminder. 136 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 2: Right now. Do I actually go and look at that 137 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 2: list every Sunday when I get that reminder? No? But 138 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 2: but what I will say that it does. What it 139 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:58,000 Speaker 2: does for me is it's a It is a literal 140 00:07:58,040 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 2: reminder for me to pause and reflect when I see it. Okay, 141 00:08:03,040 --> 00:08:08,000 Speaker 2: have I been doing the things that make me happy? 142 00:08:08,440 --> 00:08:14,320 Speaker 2: Am I happy and joyful in this moment? And so? 143 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 2: And there have been times where I have I've totally 144 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:25,440 Speaker 2: like not been in the space and completely ignored the reminder, 145 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:27,080 Speaker 2: like I ain't got time for that right. 146 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 1: Now, right. 147 00:08:29,680 --> 00:08:34,760 Speaker 2: And usually it's in those times where I'm like, oh, no, 148 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:38,240 Speaker 2: you might want to go take a moment and look 149 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 2: at this list. You might want to take a moment 150 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:44,319 Speaker 2: and go check in with yourself, because if you're intentionally 151 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:49,360 Speaker 2: ignoring it, what's going on in your world? And this 152 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:53,480 Speaker 2: is probably even more of a reason for you to 153 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:56,319 Speaker 2: go and look at that list and reassess what you're 154 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:58,920 Speaker 2: doing to bring joy and happiness into your life. 155 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:02,600 Speaker 1: I love it. I love it all right, ladies. So 156 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:05,520 Speaker 1: we have a couple reflection questions that we want you 157 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 1: to just think about as you listen to the episode. 158 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:10,240 Speaker 1: This is a great time to take out your journal, 159 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:12,520 Speaker 1: and of course you know we have cultivating her Space 160 00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:14,640 Speaker 1: podcast journals you can check out at her space podcast 161 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:17,360 Speaker 1: dot com. Okay, but our first question for you is 162 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 1: when was the last time you truly felt joy? And 163 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:23,640 Speaker 1: what were you doing in that moment? So think about 164 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:26,760 Speaker 1: that and don't judge yourself either. It's just information, right, 165 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:29,959 Speaker 1: It's information, and once you have the information, you can decide, Okay, 166 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 1: what can I do to change it? If you feel 167 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 1: like you're in a season and space to change it? Right. 168 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:37,680 Speaker 1: The next question is what's something small that used to 169 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 1: bring you joy that you haven't done in a while. 170 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 1: I love this question, okay. And then our final question 171 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:50,199 Speaker 1: is do you believe you deserve to feel joy even 172 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: when life is heavy? Why? Or why not? Now? If 173 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 1: you need a reminder, go back to our quote of 174 00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 1: the day and what we shared. But that is a 175 00:09:57,640 --> 00:10:00,560 Speaker 1: great reflection question to just understand where are you at 176 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: right now in your life and just understand your feelings 177 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 1: around worthiness right can reveal additional information for you as well. 178 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 2: Yes, all right, so lady, let's just dive right in, 179 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 2: right do it? We have, as the title of this 180 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 2: episode suggests, twelve practices to spark joy. Now, this list 181 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 2: isn't exhaustive. There are things that didn't make the cut. 182 00:10:26,480 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 2: And I also want to emphasize that this list is 183 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:35,520 Speaker 2: a mix of things that you can do on a 184 00:10:35,600 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 2: daily basis, a weekly basis, a monthly basis, quarterly or annually. 185 00:10:42,880 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 2: But also we wanted to find things that were easily 186 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:55,600 Speaker 2: accessible as well, that finding joy is not limited to 187 00:10:56,679 --> 00:11:01,080 Speaker 2: how much money you have in your bank account, what 188 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 2: job you clock in at, where you or where you live. 189 00:11:08,440 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 2: That we all, as our quote of the day suggests, 190 00:11:14,559 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 2: deserve joy. It is our birthright. And so this list 191 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 2: truly is something that we hope you are able to 192 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:28,280 Speaker 2: find something identify a few things that you can engage 193 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:31,959 Speaker 2: in if you're not already doing it, to spark some joy. 194 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:39,360 Speaker 2: All right, So our first item super accessible actually no 195 00:11:39,440 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 2: matter where you live, being outside. Now, I will be 196 00:11:47,520 --> 00:11:51,240 Speaker 2: very specific in terms of how this sparks joy for myself. 197 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 2: Getting outside in nature. For me, I feel the most 198 00:11:57,559 --> 00:12:00,839 Speaker 2: joyful when I'm so can of the sun in some 199 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:05,720 Speaker 2: tropical destination. So you know, at least once a year 200 00:12:06,920 --> 00:12:12,600 Speaker 2: I try to be on somebody's island soaking up the sun. 201 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 1: That sounds so amazing, gub. I feel like I need 202 00:12:14,640 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 1: that in my life right now. So that's number one. 203 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:20,200 Speaker 1: Now number two for me, it's going to be the gym. 204 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:23,680 Speaker 1: So I just want to say that when I so, 205 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:26,040 Speaker 1: I've always kind of been, you know, interested in the gym, 206 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:28,120 Speaker 1: but I wasn't very consistent. And so I would say 207 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:31,800 Speaker 1: after I had my daughter about four years ago, and 208 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:34,720 Speaker 1: my body changed so much, and I gained weight in 209 00:12:34,760 --> 00:12:37,200 Speaker 1: all the right places, but then I gained it in 210 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:38,480 Speaker 1: some places where I was like, we're gonna have to 211 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:39,920 Speaker 1: get rid of this, and I didn't know how to 212 00:12:39,960 --> 00:12:41,720 Speaker 1: do it, and I didn't I wasn't liking what I 213 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:44,160 Speaker 1: saw in the mirror, and so I was also struggling 214 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:46,120 Speaker 1: to do workouts by myself, and so I ended up 215 00:12:46,120 --> 00:12:48,600 Speaker 1: getting a trainer and I started this journey of like 216 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:50,920 Speaker 1: building my body the way I wanted it to be. 217 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:53,600 Speaker 1: And so it's been about two two and a half 218 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:56,800 Speaker 1: years of being in the gym, and I went from 219 00:12:56,840 --> 00:12:58,679 Speaker 1: going three days a week with my trainer to then 220 00:12:58,720 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 1: scaling back to one day week and I do two 221 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:03,559 Speaker 1: days a week by myself now and then one with 222 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:06,320 Speaker 1: my trainer on Friday. And I love those Friday six 223 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:08,640 Speaker 1: am sessions because it gives me something to look forward to. 224 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:10,719 Speaker 1: I know that sounds crazy, like you're looking forward to 225 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:13,960 Speaker 1: a Friday six am. I am. It's so fun and 226 00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 1: so on Mondays, I'm like, okay, cool, I'm getting excited 227 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:18,880 Speaker 1: about our session on Friday because we built this for port. 228 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:21,360 Speaker 1: We have like our little routine and it's great. And 229 00:13:21,400 --> 00:13:24,160 Speaker 1: for me, it's not just about the weight, it's about 230 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:27,160 Speaker 1: how it's about discipline. I find that when I'm disciplined 231 00:13:27,200 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 1: in the gym and I push myself in the gym, 232 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: I can also do that mentally in my daily life 233 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:33,440 Speaker 1: and it's a great stressful liever. Like after the gym, 234 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:37,679 Speaker 1: I feel so amazing and then y'all the results they 235 00:13:37,800 --> 00:13:40,680 Speaker 1: be resulting. I texted Dow, I'm a picture today like 236 00:13:40,760 --> 00:13:45,920 Speaker 1: dom look at my booty. I don't know, y'all, I 237 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:49,320 Speaker 1: didn't got some BBL allegations and I'm so flattered, and 238 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:50,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, this is off from the gym. So for me, 239 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:53,440 Speaker 1: the gym is a place where I spark joy for 240 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:58,200 Speaker 1: various reasons. But I love the consistency, I love the pride, 241 00:13:58,240 --> 00:14:00,800 Speaker 1: and I love the just the discipline and I've been 242 00:14:00,840 --> 00:14:03,080 Speaker 1: able to have and showing up for myself. 243 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:08,200 Speaker 2: Yes. And you know, lady, as you're listening, some of 244 00:14:08,200 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 2: these things that we list might not be the thing 245 00:14:10,520 --> 00:14:14,120 Speaker 2: that sparks joy for you. And that's okay. That the 246 00:14:14,240 --> 00:14:19,480 Speaker 2: key is finding what truly lights you up, even when 247 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:23,200 Speaker 2: it's things that other people might not find enjoyable. So 248 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:28,560 Speaker 2: it's about you what what works for you. So Number 249 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:36,680 Speaker 2: three fresh sheets and morning sunlight. So as you can tell, 250 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:44,400 Speaker 2: I love the sun, and so for me waking up 251 00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:50,800 Speaker 2: in the morning with wrapped in fresh sheets to like 252 00:14:51,640 --> 00:14:57,120 Speaker 2: think about laundry day and you have pulled those sheets 253 00:14:57,120 --> 00:15:00,840 Speaker 2: out the dryer and they're nice and warm, and you 254 00:15:00,880 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 2: put them on your bed and they just feel so 255 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:04,720 Speaker 2: crisp and fresh and soft. 256 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:08,440 Speaker 1: They smell like don oh. 257 00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:14,360 Speaker 2: Sometimes they smell like lavender. Sometimes they might smell like vanilla. 258 00:15:16,360 --> 00:15:20,000 Speaker 2: Sometimes they might smell like whatever perfume I'm wearing at 259 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:25,480 Speaker 2: the time. And to wake up in fresh sheets, freshly 260 00:15:25,640 --> 00:15:32,680 Speaker 2: cleaned sheets with the sun peeking in, it just feels 261 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:34,960 Speaker 2: like I'm just automatically about to have a great day, 262 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:41,560 Speaker 2: and particularly on those winter mornings where winter has been 263 00:15:43,520 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 2: kind of a beast with the gray, overcast skies, waking 264 00:15:48,880 --> 00:15:52,960 Speaker 2: up on a winter morning, snuggled up in the warmth 265 00:15:53,000 --> 00:15:57,480 Speaker 2: of the sheets with the sun peeking in again that 266 00:15:58,200 --> 00:16:03,280 Speaker 2: it's little things like that that can spark joy. 267 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:05,000 Speaker 1: I love that one, Doma. I do want to say, 268 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:06,560 Speaker 1: maybe we can talk about this another day, or you 269 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 1: can just text me after. But we've talked about being bougie. 270 00:16:09,640 --> 00:16:13,040 Speaker 1: We both have bougie. You know, we blatch it right, boogie, 271 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 1: classy ratchet. I need to know what threadcount you have, 272 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:18,480 Speaker 1: what type of comfort, because I can only imagine it 273 00:16:18,480 --> 00:16:21,160 Speaker 1: probably feels like clouds, And I just need to know 274 00:16:21,160 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 1: because I'm not really into sheets like that. My bed 275 00:16:23,640 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 1: is comfortable, but I know you be on a whole 276 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:28,000 Speaker 1: another level when it comes to sheets. So you want 277 00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:29,920 Speaker 1: to let us know right now? Or should we circle back? 278 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:32,240 Speaker 1: We're gonna circle back. Okay, we're gonna go back. 279 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:33,320 Speaker 2: Okay, we're gonna talk about it. 280 00:16:33,320 --> 00:16:35,680 Speaker 1: I gotta wait, Oh there we go. Okay, we're gonna 281 00:16:35,680 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 1: talk about it after show. Let me write that down. 282 00:16:37,320 --> 00:16:40,640 Speaker 1: So I don't forget all right, y'all. Number four is 283 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:44,160 Speaker 1: going to be music that makes me move. Okay. I 284 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 1: have some albums that I'm listening to right now, and y'all, 285 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 1: the music I listen to is literally the best illustration 286 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 1: of a multifaceted woman and a blatchet queen. Okay, because 287 00:16:57,760 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 1: let me tell y'all, have you heard Coco Jones album? Yes, 288 00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:04,440 Speaker 1: I have, girl? What did you think about it? 289 00:17:05,760 --> 00:17:11,600 Speaker 2: She's in a grown woman era and I love it. 290 00:17:11,600 --> 00:17:13,880 Speaker 1: It's been on repeat, y'all. If you haven't checked it out, 291 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:16,679 Speaker 1: go take a listen. See if it's your vibe. Coco 292 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:19,040 Speaker 1: Jones also Carrie Hill since just dropped the album. I've 293 00:17:19,040 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 1: been listening to her album. It's really good. But then, y'all, 294 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:23,800 Speaker 1: I got my Ta Grizzly, Okay, I got my gangster shit. 295 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:28,359 Speaker 1: I got Tea Grizzly and then go to two thousands 296 00:17:28,680 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 1: nineties and two thousands R and B. That's my playlist 297 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:33,239 Speaker 1: I always listen to, and that right there, it just 298 00:17:33,359 --> 00:17:36,600 Speaker 1: gets me in the mood. I'm singing Mariah Carey, we 299 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:40,280 Speaker 1: Belong Together. I'm singing neo sexy love. I mean, I'm 300 00:17:40,280 --> 00:17:42,719 Speaker 1: singing all the vibes from the two thousands that I 301 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:45,639 Speaker 1: just love. And then finally, especially when I pick up 302 00:17:45,640 --> 00:17:47,639 Speaker 1: my baby girl, I gotta put on my gospel. So 303 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:50,800 Speaker 1: we got nineties and two thousands, like Kirk Franklin, Fred Hamman, 304 00:17:50,880 --> 00:17:54,119 Speaker 1: I'm teaching you. Gotta hear baby z sing do you 305 00:17:54,119 --> 00:17:57,399 Speaker 1: want a Revolution? She knows that that's my song, and 306 00:17:57,440 --> 00:17:59,399 Speaker 1: so I taught her. We've been listening to it and 307 00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:01,960 Speaker 1: she's singing that and down by the riverside. So I 308 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:04,960 Speaker 1: say all that to say, y'all, che'er rate a playlist 309 00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 1: based on your energy, right, I love to have uplifting, 310 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:11,760 Speaker 1: grounding souls. Well, I have various playlists for various moods. 311 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:14,960 Speaker 1: When we're in the gym, it's the most ratchetest. Yes, 312 00:18:15,240 --> 00:18:18,240 Speaker 1: it's disgusting. Yeah, it's like all of the net, like gangster. 313 00:18:18,640 --> 00:18:21,600 Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, me and B smooth. But then when 314 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:23,240 Speaker 1: I'm at home chilling, it might be some R and 315 00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:26,080 Speaker 1: B I'm stretching. It might be meditation music. So find 316 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:28,119 Speaker 1: a playlist and create the playlist that bring you the 317 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:30,159 Speaker 1: vibes that you want, because music can definitely bring you 318 00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:30,760 Speaker 1: a lot of joy. 319 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:34,879 Speaker 2: Oh yes, I love a good playlist, and my Morning Playlist. 320 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:38,199 Speaker 2: M it's a mix of all the things. It's a 321 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:40,760 Speaker 2: mix of all the things. It is very it is 322 00:18:40,800 --> 00:18:44,679 Speaker 2: a very blatchet list. Yes, I will say that, a 323 00:18:44,800 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 2: very blatche list. So then that takes us to number five. 324 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:55,120 Speaker 2: I don't know about y'all, but I like to eat. 325 00:18:56,359 --> 00:19:01,080 Speaker 2: I like a good meal, and so for me, one 326 00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:04,160 Speaker 2: of the things in life that truly brings me joy 327 00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:10,960 Speaker 2: is a really delicious meal. Now, granted, we got to 328 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:14,560 Speaker 2: eat every day, right to sustain ourselves as something part 329 00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:22,160 Speaker 2: of your basic needs. But how often do you have 330 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:27,880 Speaker 2: a meal that feels orgasmic? 331 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:29,880 Speaker 1: Right? 332 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:30,760 Speaker 2: Right? 333 00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:31,840 Speaker 1: Like? 334 00:19:33,720 --> 00:19:39,199 Speaker 2: How often do you have a meal that feels like 335 00:19:39,640 --> 00:19:48,479 Speaker 2: that warm hug on a cold day? For me, that 336 00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:55,119 Speaker 2: doesn't happen like every day, right, because that's usually a 337 00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:59,439 Speaker 2: special meal, and that special meal doesn't necessarily mean that 338 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:04,120 Speaker 2: it costs a lot of money or that it occurred 339 00:20:04,119 --> 00:20:11,439 Speaker 2: on a particular significant day. For me, a delicious meal 340 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:14,600 Speaker 2: can be brunched that I cooked for myself on a 341 00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:19,840 Speaker 2: Sunday morning, and when I sit back and that flavor 342 00:20:19,960 --> 00:20:24,680 Speaker 2: profile hits, oh, it just does something to me. Makes 343 00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 2: me a little do a little shoulder dance, okay, And 344 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:30,280 Speaker 2: y'all know. Y'all have seen the videos. Y'all know exactly 345 00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:35,000 Speaker 2: what type of meal I'm talking about. So, yes, a good, 346 00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:37,600 Speaker 2: delicious meal can spark joy. 347 00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:42,119 Speaker 1: Sounds amazing Now I'm hungry. I love it, I agree. 348 00:20:43,359 --> 00:20:47,959 Speaker 2: So then that moves us to the next thing that 349 00:20:48,000 --> 00:20:56,399 Speaker 2: can spark joy, and for me, that is pleasure with 350 00:20:56,480 --> 00:21:01,400 Speaker 2: a partner. Now, I know y'all are automatically thinking as 351 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:05,879 Speaker 2: soon as I say pleasure with a partner, y'all are 352 00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:12,640 Speaker 2: automatically assuming that I mean sex. And yes, sex might 353 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:18,720 Speaker 2: be one of those things. However, for me, what can 354 00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:25,960 Speaker 2: truly bring me joy is that connection with a romantic partner. 355 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:34,560 Speaker 2: So whether it is us having sex, or it's a 356 00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:44,399 Speaker 2: conversation that sparks my intellectual curiosity or a conversation that 357 00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:52,840 Speaker 2: leaves me like in stitches with laughter, it's that. Or 358 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:58,680 Speaker 2: it could be those quiet moments where we are simply 359 00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:05,840 Speaker 2: in each other's presence. For me, romantic connection, when it 360 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:10,760 Speaker 2: is deep and intimate, that brings joy. 361 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:14,119 Speaker 1: That is so beautiful. I just wanted to say, Now 362 00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:16,320 Speaker 1: I'm you painting a very nice picture. I'm just yeah, 363 00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:21,440 Speaker 1: that's beautiful. So safe, soul stirring, sensual connection the great 364 00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:25,480 Speaker 1: conversation also getting your backblone out. That could be one 365 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:26,400 Speaker 1: all the. 366 00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:29,840 Speaker 2: Things I love, all the things I love, all the things. Yes, yes, yes, 367 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:32,880 Speaker 2: And I know, I know. I just talked about it, 368 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:39,680 Speaker 2: like specifically from the perspective of being with a romantic partner. 369 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:47,160 Speaker 2: But romantic sensual connections aren't the only types of connections 370 00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:48,680 Speaker 2: that can bring us joy. 371 00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:52,359 Speaker 1: Yes, I love that you said that down Because I 372 00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:57,439 Speaker 1: recently started using this app. Okay, I created a Field 373 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:00,640 Speaker 1: account to build my community as a newly single woman 374 00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:04,000 Speaker 1: who's been dating but also looking to create enjoyable connections. Right. 375 00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:05,679 Speaker 1: That's so important to me right now, So let me 376 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:08,119 Speaker 1: tell y'all. Let me tell y'all about Field Okay. It 377 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,560 Speaker 1: is not just a dating app, y'all. It's a space 378 00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:15,800 Speaker 1: where you can explore your desires, whether that's open relationships, polyamory, cuddling, 379 00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:20,040 Speaker 1: or just finding people who share your vibe. Think brunch dates, 380 00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:23,800 Speaker 1: which I know Dom loves. Okay, wine tasting, sign me 381 00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:26,440 Speaker 1: up for wine tasting, or even a pottery class crew 382 00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:30,200 Speaker 1: or a twerk class crew, whatever you're looking for, right, Listen, 383 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:30,600 Speaker 1: got you. 384 00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:34,679 Speaker 2: Listen, sign me up because you know I love a 385 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:37,760 Speaker 2: good brunch date, and you know how much I love 386 00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:42,440 Speaker 2: wine tasting mm hm, And so to me, like like yeah, 387 00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:46,560 Speaker 2: like that that feels like a whole vibe. It feels 388 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:52,080 Speaker 2: like joy would definitely be sparked. So how is feel 389 00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:57,800 Speaker 2: different than a dating app? A traditional what we think 390 00:23:57,840 --> 00:23:59,399 Speaker 2: of when we think of dating apps. 391 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:03,879 Speaker 1: Okay, so first of all the algorithm nonsense. You're in 392 00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:05,600 Speaker 1: full control of your experience, so you don't have to 393 00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:09,000 Speaker 1: worry about that. There's no pressure to swipe, and you 394 00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,440 Speaker 1: know what else I really love to You can actually 395 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:14,120 Speaker 1: go back if you change your mind about someone, which 396 00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:17,360 Speaker 1: is really neat. And they also have this constellation feature 397 00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:20,280 Speaker 1: that lets you link up with your friends or partners, 398 00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:23,600 Speaker 1: so you're meeting people with your community already in mind, 399 00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:26,199 Speaker 1: which I think is amazing. And the last thing for 400 00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:30,560 Speaker 1: me is the transparency. People are very transparent. Transparency is key. 401 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:33,080 Speaker 1: This is a space where people are upfront about their 402 00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:37,480 Speaker 1: relationship styles and what they're looking for, so there's no 403 00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:40,040 Speaker 1: guessing games, which I just really appreciate. 404 00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:44,560 Speaker 2: Listen, you don't understand how much I appreciate that too, 405 00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:50,119 Speaker 2: Like hmm, okay, So there's no weird swiping and people 406 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:53,399 Speaker 2: are actually communicating. I don't think people, I don't think 407 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:57,040 Speaker 2: you realize how refreshing that that actually, that truly is 408 00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:58,680 Speaker 2: out in these dating streets. 409 00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:03,480 Speaker 1: Yes, girl, swiping games, okay, exactly. The other thing too, 410 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:05,879 Speaker 1: that I love about it is it's not just about dating. 411 00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:09,200 Speaker 1: You can use Field to find friendships, travel buddies, or 412 00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:11,000 Speaker 1: even collab collaborators. 413 00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:11,159 Speaker 3: Right. 414 00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:14,199 Speaker 1: Let's say you have a creative project that you're working on. 415 00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:15,840 Speaker 1: You're like, oh, I need to find some people who 416 00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:19,040 Speaker 1: are like minded. You can find creative collaborators there as well, 417 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:23,160 Speaker 1: and so if your desires or identity evolved. The other 418 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:26,200 Speaker 1: cool thing is it's no big deal. Sixty two percent 419 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:29,480 Speaker 1: of members actually shift their interest in their first year 420 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:30,040 Speaker 1: on the app. 421 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:38,200 Speaker 2: Wow. Wow, Okay, so this sounds like an app where 422 00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:43,560 Speaker 2: I could meet like minded people get involved in some 423 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:47,520 Speaker 2: of these activities that bring me joy. So all right, 424 00:25:47,720 --> 00:25:48,640 Speaker 2: how do I sign up? 425 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:55,000 Speaker 1: All right, y'all go download Field spelled fee ld on 426 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:57,840 Speaker 1: the App Store or Google Play and get into it. 427 00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:00,080 Speaker 1: And y'all, I'm on there. So if you see me, 428 00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:02,680 Speaker 1: send me a message, dopy, I say hello, because I'm 429 00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:05,720 Speaker 1: building my community and building more joy in my life. 430 00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:09,879 Speaker 2: All right, y'all, definitely go check it out and be 431 00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:11,879 Speaker 2: sure to hit us up and let us know what 432 00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 2: you think. 433 00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:18,520 Speaker 1: And now, speaking of community, number seven here is community 434 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:21,720 Speaker 1: and conversation, and this is something that I have definitely 435 00:26:21,760 --> 00:26:24,119 Speaker 1: been cultivating to bring more joy in my life. And 436 00:26:24,119 --> 00:26:28,399 Speaker 1: what that looks like for me is FaceTime calls with 437 00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:32,399 Speaker 1: friends and family. Sometimes that includes voice notes. Instead of 438 00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,280 Speaker 1: just texting, We're sending voice notes as well, so you 439 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:37,159 Speaker 1: can kind of get that warm feeling dinner with friends. 440 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:38,880 Speaker 1: Dom and I have a dinner plan for next week 441 00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:40,520 Speaker 1: because you're gonna be in the area, so we're gonna 442 00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:43,800 Speaker 1: go to dinner. And yeah, I think I don't know. 443 00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:45,480 Speaker 1: When I think about those connections. To me, it's like 444 00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:49,359 Speaker 1: joy lifelines, right, Sometimes having a rich conversation with a 445 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,520 Speaker 1: friend can just really spark so much joy. For instance, 446 00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:55,439 Speaker 1: Dom and I are supposed to be recording tonight, and 447 00:26:55,520 --> 00:26:58,560 Speaker 1: before we hit record, we suppose we were talking catching 448 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:00,600 Speaker 1: up for an hour and I'm like, damn, we low 449 00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,320 Speaker 1: key should have recorded this because it was a whole 450 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,320 Speaker 1: vibe in conversation and gave us energy that we needed 451 00:27:05,359 --> 00:27:08,000 Speaker 1: after a long day. And so group chats full of 452 00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,679 Speaker 1: laughter and check ins, right, it doesn't always have to 453 00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,879 Speaker 1: be advice or something bad has happened, you can just 454 00:27:13,920 --> 00:27:16,560 Speaker 1: connect for joy, like connect and talk about the things 455 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:18,080 Speaker 1: that are bringing you joy or ways that you all 456 00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:20,960 Speaker 1: can add more joy to each other's lives. So yeah, 457 00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,720 Speaker 1: community reminds me that I'm held and I think that's 458 00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:27,120 Speaker 1: a good tip that we should add to our list. Oh, 459 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:27,679 Speaker 1: I love that. 460 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:32,639 Speaker 2: I love that, and I agree. Community is so important 461 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:38,840 Speaker 2: and it kind of lends itself into another thing that 462 00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 2: I think cultivates joy in my life, and that's quality time, right. 463 00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:46,120 Speaker 2: And so for me, and we've talked about it before 464 00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:48,760 Speaker 2: about how quality time is one of my love languages. 465 00:27:49,359 --> 00:27:57,200 Speaker 2: That spending time with friends and family, deepening our connections, 466 00:27:57,880 --> 00:28:02,159 Speaker 2: that brings me so much joy. So yeah, our little 467 00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:06,160 Speaker 2: moment that we had, our long conversation that we didn't 468 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:08,880 Speaker 2: even think was gonna last an hour, for me, that's 469 00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:13,440 Speaker 2: quality time, right, And those are the things that bring 470 00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:19,040 Speaker 2: me joy and get me energized. So spending time with 471 00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:22,200 Speaker 2: the people that I love, that I care about like 472 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:27,080 Speaker 2: that is something that always brings me joy. 473 00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,440 Speaker 1: I love that one. That was a great little transition, 474 00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:34,199 Speaker 1: And the next one, I'm gonna say number nine for 475 00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:37,600 Speaker 1: me is I'm just gonna say movement in general, just 476 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:40,480 Speaker 1: moving my body, and what that looks like for me 477 00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:44,200 Speaker 1: these days is dancing. Sometimes I want to go out dancing, 478 00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:46,200 Speaker 1: but sometimes it's just so cold in the Bay Area 479 00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:48,680 Speaker 1: in the evenings, and I'm like, but I don't feel 480 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:50,640 Speaker 1: like because nobody want to dance in a sweater. I 481 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:52,920 Speaker 1: ain't trying to dance in a sweater dress or nothing 482 00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:54,360 Speaker 1: like that. I want to look cute when I'm going out. 483 00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:56,240 Speaker 1: So sometimes I don't feel like going out. I'll have 484 00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,920 Speaker 1: a dance party right in my crib and it's amazing. 485 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,640 Speaker 1: I went on Alo hike not too long ago, and 486 00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:04,960 Speaker 1: that was so it was so great. It was so 487 00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:07,040 Speaker 1: amazing time. So maybe we can do I don't know, 488 00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:08,920 Speaker 1: maybe we do a hiked you come, but the hype 489 00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 1: was really great. Yes, girl, stretching as well or just 490 00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,120 Speaker 1: like swaying to the beat, moving to the beat, like 491 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:17,440 Speaker 1: just move my body in whatever way it feels right. 492 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:20,360 Speaker 1: That has also brought me a lot of joy as well. Fuck. 493 00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:23,560 Speaker 1: It also releases can help you release, you know, things 494 00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:24,760 Speaker 1: that need to be released as well. 495 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,960 Speaker 2: Yes, it definitely does. And I think as you were 496 00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:32,960 Speaker 2: talking about that, I was like, huh, Yes, I'm I 497 00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:36,000 Speaker 2: don't consider myself to be the best dancer, but yes, 498 00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:42,440 Speaker 2: I will find myself having spontaneous dance parties in in 499 00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,440 Speaker 2: here by myself, just like oh wait, oh my song 500 00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:46,880 Speaker 2: is on. Wait, let me get it. 501 00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:48,880 Speaker 1: That's right, and then. 502 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:52,360 Speaker 2: Realizing, oh wait, I feel I feel good. So like 503 00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:56,280 Speaker 2: if my mood might have been kind of meant, then 504 00:29:56,440 --> 00:30:02,240 Speaker 2: by the time I finished, you know, twerking whatever I feel, 505 00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:04,960 Speaker 2: I feel better, like there is some joy that has 506 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,920 Speaker 2: been sparked from that. So I love that the movement, 507 00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:13,960 Speaker 2: the idea of movement can bring joy. Now, this next 508 00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:18,280 Speaker 2: one probably one of my favorites in terms of things 509 00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:22,920 Speaker 2: that can spark joy. Getting lost in a good book. 510 00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 2: So for me, I read nightly. That's part of my 511 00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:37,600 Speaker 2: nighttime wind down routine, like I will almost every night 512 00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:43,880 Speaker 2: I am fallinglessleep reading and so for me that piece 513 00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:46,840 Speaker 2: in and of itself is part of like my relaxation. 514 00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:52,560 Speaker 2: But every now and then I will have a day 515 00:30:53,320 --> 00:31:01,400 Speaker 2: where I have it's random day. I have a book 516 00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:06,200 Speaker 2: and I just allow myself to get lost in completely 517 00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:11,560 Speaker 2: immersed in reading that book. Now I won't be clear 518 00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:18,320 Speaker 2: for me personally, it's black romance novels that's what works 519 00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:24,200 Speaker 2: for me in terms of zoning out and sparking some joy. 520 00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:30,040 Speaker 2: Now I read other things, but because I'm all, I'm 521 00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:33,880 Speaker 2: here for a good memoir, but a black romance novel 522 00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:38,760 Speaker 2: getting lost and immersed in that instant joy. 523 00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:41,520 Speaker 1: I was going to ask you about that, don because 524 00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:43,360 Speaker 1: I wanted to know what do you read at night, 525 00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:45,959 Speaker 1: because I've been reading at night, but I'm reading books 526 00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:49,080 Speaker 1: that we I'm reading the books of the guests that 527 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:51,560 Speaker 1: we have coming on the podcast. So usually they're like 528 00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:53,680 Speaker 1: more self help or sometimes it might be a bit 529 00:31:53,720 --> 00:31:56,480 Speaker 1: of a heavier topic, or like a memoir. So I'm 530 00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,360 Speaker 1: gonna get I have to get some recommendations from you, 531 00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:01,000 Speaker 1: because I think that's a great idea because the times 532 00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:03,080 Speaker 1: in the past when I did get lost in books, 533 00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:06,360 Speaker 1: they were usually black romance novels. It was like a 534 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:08,520 Speaker 1: movie in my head and it was the best experience. 535 00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:11,600 Speaker 1: I loved it so much, and I found myself for 536 00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:16,080 Speaker 1: hours just reading. And I prefer to do I do 537 00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:18,320 Speaker 1: audio books because it's busy, but I prefer to be 538 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,120 Speaker 1: able to open it up and like read it myself. 539 00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:22,960 Speaker 1: It's just h I see why you do that. It's amazing. Yeah, 540 00:32:23,000 --> 00:32:26,160 Speaker 1: it kind of helps you fall asleep too. Yeah, definitely, 541 00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:30,400 Speaker 1: I love that. Okay, y'all. So number eleven is restorative 542 00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:32,920 Speaker 1: body work. I love. I was gonna say, I love 543 00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:35,160 Speaker 1: to be touched, not like that, but like I don't 544 00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:38,440 Speaker 1: like everybody just touching me. But I love massages. Okay. 545 00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,640 Speaker 1: I just had I feel like we've been calling out 546 00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:44,000 Speaker 1: I've been calling out a couple of names on the podcast, 547 00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:46,720 Speaker 1: and this is not yeah, this is I'm not promoting 548 00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:48,560 Speaker 1: this app per se, but there are there are apps. 549 00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:50,760 Speaker 1: Let's just say this. There are apps where you can 550 00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:55,280 Speaker 1: get an in home massage. And what happened was I 551 00:32:55,280 --> 00:32:57,120 Speaker 1: think this was it was close to a holiday and 552 00:32:57,240 --> 00:32:59,479 Speaker 1: every every place I called around the area, they were 553 00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:01,760 Speaker 1: all booked massages, and I was like, I'm gonna get 554 00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:04,440 Speaker 1: rubbed on. I want my massage. And so I ended 555 00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:06,640 Speaker 1: up using one of the apps and had this woman 556 00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:09,000 Speaker 1: come to my home and give me a massage. So 557 00:33:09,040 --> 00:33:12,280 Speaker 1: I set up my place. The environment was like super peaceful, 558 00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:14,360 Speaker 1: like I made it just you know, the vibes you 559 00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:18,520 Speaker 1: already know, candles, incense, the meditation music and the cool 560 00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:20,360 Speaker 1: thing about it that I loved, even though it's a 561 00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:24,320 Speaker 1: bit pricier than the you know, going into the massage facility. 562 00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:26,840 Speaker 1: Is that she was able to bring her table, give 563 00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,480 Speaker 1: me the massage, and I was able to chill afterward. 564 00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:30,920 Speaker 1: I didn't have to go anywhere, So that was the 565 00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:33,160 Speaker 1: amazing part and it was such a great massage. So 566 00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:35,600 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be booking her again. But I love that. Right. 567 00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:40,560 Speaker 1: So you can do reiki, acupuncture, chiropractor like whatever it 568 00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:42,680 Speaker 1: might be. Try the things that work best for you. 569 00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:47,040 Speaker 1: But restorative bodywork can be so healing and also relaxing 570 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:49,800 Speaker 1: and bring more joy into your life. Anything you want 571 00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:50,840 Speaker 1: to add to that one, don. 572 00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:54,880 Speaker 2: As you were saying that, I was like, oh, that's 573 00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:56,840 Speaker 2: probably one of the things that I need to add 574 00:33:56,880 --> 00:34:00,640 Speaker 2: to my to up leveling my rich auntie life is 575 00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:05,920 Speaker 2: the in home massage. Because yes, as you described that, 576 00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:09,560 Speaker 2: I was like, wait, I don't have to drive anywhere. 577 00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:17,839 Speaker 2: I can play the music that I want to listen to, right, 578 00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:24,879 Speaker 2: I can have the light set to what works for me. Yeah, okay, okay, Yeah, 579 00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:26,680 Speaker 2: We're gonna have to circle back and I'm gonna have 580 00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:29,400 Speaker 2: to get some details on how to make this happen. Yes, 581 00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:33,600 Speaker 2: I love that and and the other types of restorative 582 00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:39,080 Speaker 2: bodywork that you mentioned that doing that type of body 583 00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,560 Speaker 2: work allows you to release tension, allows you to release 584 00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:46,560 Speaker 2: the toxins out of your body, and when your body 585 00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:49,920 Speaker 2: is free of all those things, it's easier for you 586 00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:52,600 Speaker 2: to access natural feelings of joy. 587 00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:55,759 Speaker 1: Oh girl, that was a that was a whole word 588 00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:58,640 Speaker 1: right there when you said when you release those things, 589 00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:03,080 Speaker 1: that allows you to access natural level of joy. I 590 00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:04,640 Speaker 1: love that so much when you said that, it makes 591 00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:06,959 Speaker 1: me think about creativity too. If you have a creative block, 592 00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:09,560 Speaker 1: I think getting some of this stuff done and infusing 593 00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:12,960 Speaker 1: some of these thing these practices that spark joy, it 594 00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:15,120 Speaker 1: can also unlock that creative flow as well. That's what 595 00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:17,279 Speaker 1: I've noticed with myself for me, So I love that. 596 00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:19,719 Speaker 1: All right, lady, Before we do our recap and then 597 00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:22,840 Speaker 1: jump into the after show number twelve, it's gonna be 598 00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:25,520 Speaker 1: the spy day for me. Okay, the spy day for me. 599 00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:31,520 Speaker 1: I love going to the spa and spending time in 600 00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:35,840 Speaker 1: the steam room, the sauna. I mean they have like 601 00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:38,880 Speaker 1: a clay room. They have all AsSalt room, all these 602 00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:40,920 Speaker 1: different rooms and I will stay there for hours. I'll 603 00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:43,359 Speaker 1: bring a good book and I'll read the book when 604 00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:45,560 Speaker 1: I come out, maybe get a massage there, like it's 605 00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:47,840 Speaker 1: a massage day, I'll get a massage there. But I 606 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,280 Speaker 1: found that it's just I don't know, it's just so relaxing, 607 00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:53,799 Speaker 1: and it again brings me joy. And when I care 608 00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:56,880 Speaker 1: for myself in that way, too, dom it does. It 609 00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:58,920 Speaker 1: does something for me when I see when I witness 610 00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:01,800 Speaker 1: myself caring for myself, I feel like it just continues 611 00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:06,520 Speaker 1: to fill my cup. And it's like an illustration of 612 00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:08,200 Speaker 1: the self love that I have for myself because I'm 613 00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:11,440 Speaker 1: valuing myself, I'm putting myself first, and I'm prioritizing my needs. 614 00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:13,279 Speaker 1: And so I think that just kind of circles back 615 00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:16,200 Speaker 1: to everything we talked about today and those practices of 616 00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:17,479 Speaker 1: adding more joy to your life. 617 00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:23,480 Speaker 2: Yes, and I think it's important to also emphasize that 618 00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:32,920 Speaker 2: even when and probably especially when you are navigating difficult times, 619 00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:40,560 Speaker 2: it is so important to make space for and allow 620 00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:46,600 Speaker 2: and give you your self permission to experience joy. I 621 00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:52,239 Speaker 2: think about specifically, you know I those of you who 622 00:36:52,320 --> 00:36:56,440 Speaker 2: know me know me know that I take students on 623 00:36:56,480 --> 00:37:03,960 Speaker 2: an immersion trip through the Deep South, and on that trip, 624 00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:08,080 Speaker 2: we are visiting a lot of black sacred spaces, but 625 00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:10,959 Speaker 2: a lot of the things that we are encountering are 626 00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:17,759 Speaker 2: incredibly heavy, like emotionally taxing, but we also have and 627 00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:24,600 Speaker 2: I'm especially reflecting on this most recent trip, so many 628 00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:31,920 Speaker 2: moments of joy. There were moments where we had joy 629 00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:34,839 Speaker 2: from the food that we were eating, which is why 630 00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:42,640 Speaker 2: it's called soul food, right. We had joy in make 631 00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:47,200 Speaker 2: laughing at inside jokes between us that we that were 632 00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:51,720 Speaker 2: formed within this group, bonding, and we were still able 633 00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:58,600 Speaker 2: to be fully present in the heavy spaces. But it 634 00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:05,960 Speaker 2: was easier, not easy, but easier to navigate all of 635 00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:10,719 Speaker 2: the heaviness of that trip because lots of joy was 636 00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:11,920 Speaker 2: infused within that. 637 00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:14,440 Speaker 1: I love that so much, Joam, and I love the 638 00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:17,359 Speaker 1: intentionality there. And as you were sharing that, it made 639 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:20,000 Speaker 1: me think about something that you talked about earlier, where 640 00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:23,880 Speaker 1: you said making these practices approachable. And so when I 641 00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:26,359 Speaker 1: think about the spy day, I've done at home spat 642 00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:29,719 Speaker 1: days as well. And so the interesting thing about it 643 00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:31,279 Speaker 1: is when I was thinking about doing a home spot 644 00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:33,440 Speaker 1: day for me that looks like me having like a 645 00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:36,680 Speaker 1: spiritual bathroom, candles, EPs and salt and all that, and 646 00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:39,840 Speaker 1: having my musical on and relaxing. Sometimes I'll even do 647 00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:41,920 Speaker 1: my own Manny and Petty. I used to always like 648 00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:43,600 Speaker 1: do that back in the day, and I was thinking 649 00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:45,800 Speaker 1: about the fact that I'm I did those in home 650 00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:48,880 Speaker 1: spa days when I was living in luxury apartments. And 651 00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:51,440 Speaker 1: I also did that when my family was homeless, living 652 00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:53,480 Speaker 1: in a shelter. That was my escape. We were a 653 00:38:53,560 --> 00:38:55,560 Speaker 1: family of seven living in a one bedroom shelter was 654 00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:58,200 Speaker 1: one bathroom, and I would go to that bathroom and 655 00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:01,000 Speaker 1: pretend like this was a luxury space that I was 656 00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:03,520 Speaker 1: in with a little lamp on, and I'd be in 657 00:39:03,520 --> 00:39:05,400 Speaker 1: that tub with my headphones on, and I would just 658 00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:07,440 Speaker 1: go to another place. And so I think that it's 659 00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:09,440 Speaker 1: so important for us to again focus on what we 660 00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:12,960 Speaker 1: can control and figure out how we can do the 661 00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:15,160 Speaker 1: best we can with what we have in this season 662 00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:18,799 Speaker 1: and cultivate joy because, lady, you deserve it. Like Don 663 00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:21,359 Speaker 1: said in the beginning, it is essential for our survival 664 00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:24,000 Speaker 1: and you're worthy of it. 665 00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:30,520 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, So as we run through these review these 666 00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:34,440 Speaker 2: twelve practices again, remember that these are things that actually, 667 00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:38,640 Speaker 2: as I'm thinking about this list that we created, actually 668 00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:42,520 Speaker 2: all of these things you can do without having to 669 00:39:42,560 --> 00:39:53,040 Speaker 2: really spend money. So number one being outside literally step outside, 670 00:39:53,040 --> 00:39:55,480 Speaker 2: your front door or your back door, your side door, 671 00:39:55,480 --> 00:40:03,680 Speaker 2: whatever door it is. Step outside. Number two the gym. 672 00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:06,840 Speaker 2: You don't have to be paying for a personal trainer. 673 00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:10,239 Speaker 2: You can create a gym in your own home with 674 00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:16,160 Speaker 2: literally your own body. Number three fresh sheets and the 675 00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:19,160 Speaker 2: morning sunlight. Now granted we can't control the sunlight and 676 00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:22,440 Speaker 2: when it appears, but when it does, appreciate it. And 677 00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:25,680 Speaker 2: those fresh sheets. If you don't have a washroom dryer 678 00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:28,359 Speaker 2: in your home, you can hand wash those sheets. That's 679 00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:30,080 Speaker 2: what they did back in the day. You can do 680 00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:37,440 Speaker 2: it too. Number four Music that moves you. You can 681 00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:46,400 Speaker 2: access music freely or create your own. Number five delicious meals. 682 00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:50,520 Speaker 2: Making food does. Having food good food does cost money, 683 00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,480 Speaker 2: but it doesn't have to cost a lot. You figure 684 00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:59,600 Speaker 2: out what works for your flavor palette. Number six intimate 685 00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:04,560 Speaker 2: romantic pleasure. I spoke about it from the perspective of 686 00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:09,400 Speaker 2: connection with someone else. You can get pleasure intimate pleasure 687 00:41:10,200 --> 00:41:17,560 Speaker 2: within yourself. Number seven Community and conversation. Connecting with friends 688 00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:22,640 Speaker 2: and family in that way, or connecting with community does 689 00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:28,560 Speaker 2: not have to cost you money. Eight Quality time in 690 00:41:28,600 --> 00:41:31,000 Speaker 2: whatever shape or form that might look like for you. 691 00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:36,240 Speaker 2: And again, it doesn't have to cost you money. Number 692 00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:44,000 Speaker 2: nine soul for movement, literally moving your fingers, shimmying your waist, 693 00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:49,520 Speaker 2: all of that is free. Number ten getting lost in 694 00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:56,279 Speaker 2: a good book. There are discount book apps, and the 695 00:41:56,320 --> 00:42:01,040 Speaker 2: library still exists in the library is free. Number eleven 696 00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:07,560 Speaker 2: restorative bodywork. You can tie that in with intimate pleasure 697 00:42:07,560 --> 00:42:09,799 Speaker 2: and you and your partner can give each other restorative 698 00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:18,440 Speaker 2: bodywork free. And number twelve spy day. As Terry already mentioned, 699 00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:20,200 Speaker 2: there are ways in which you can create a spa 700 00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:24,120 Speaker 2: day in your home without having to add additional costs. 701 00:42:25,400 --> 00:42:27,719 Speaker 1: Thank you for that recap done, We're going to jump 702 00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:28,520 Speaker 1: into the aftershow. 703 00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:28,799 Speaker 2: Lady. 704 00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,000 Speaker 1: You can visit her space podcast dot com and click 705 00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:34,240 Speaker 1: anywhere you see Patreon to tune into the after show 706 00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:37,240 Speaker 1: see us on video, see the full episode on video, 707 00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:38,799 Speaker 1: and then also, Lady, I don't know if you noticed this, 708 00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:40,799 Speaker 1: but if you've listen to us on Apple Podcasts, there 709 00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:43,080 Speaker 1: is a way that you can listen to our podcast 710 00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:46,120 Speaker 1: ad free that also supports the podcast. 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