WEBVTT - Craving Change, Even When Life’s Fine

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<v Speaker 1>Good.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, break it down.

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<v Speaker 3>If you ever have feelings that you just fonts Amy

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<v Speaker 3>and Cat gotcha covincking No, brother, ladies and folks, do you.

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<v Speaker 2>Just follow an the spirit where it's on the front

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<v Speaker 2>and real stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>To the chill stuff and the m but Swayne, sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>the best thing you can do it just stop you

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<v Speaker 3>feel things. This is feeling things with Amy and Kat.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and I'm Kat.

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<v Speaker 2>And today for our feeling of the day, well, Kat

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<v Speaker 2>and I both have one, and I feel like our

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<v Speaker 2>feeling is going to be similar or even the same.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just want to count to three and after

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<v Speaker 2>three we just say our feeling and we see if

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<v Speaker 2>it's the same. Okay, Okay, Am I gonna go one?

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<v Speaker 2>Two three or three?

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<v Speaker 3>Two?

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<v Speaker 2>One? Should we count up or down?

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<v Speaker 3>Does it matter? Okay?

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<v Speaker 4>Up?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? One two three? Gosh, I mean that's similar.

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<v Speaker 3>Because wait, make sure that they heard what you said.

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<v Speaker 2>I said accomplished and I am feeling in awe of

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<v Speaker 2>myself right and I know based on what we both

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<v Speaker 2>got done and accomplished in our lives recently and how

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<v Speaker 2>proud we are of ourselves. That's why I thought we

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<v Speaker 2>may have the same word, and I was going back

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<v Speaker 2>and forth between proud and accomplished and just all around

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<v Speaker 2>awesome but a tiny bit confused because it's like I've

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<v Speaker 2>asked myself a lot the last few days. Why am

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<v Speaker 2>I this way? Why am I this way?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, okay, back up, why do you feel you're not

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<v Speaker 3>feeling in all of yourself? That's me? Why are you

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<v Speaker 3>feeling accomplished?

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<v Speaker 2>Well? Kat and I have been living a very similar life.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like we're synced up in more ways than one,

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<v Speaker 3>and we.

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<v Speaker 2>Keep learning all these different ways. We're like, oh, it's

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<v Speaker 2>another thing where we're the same, and it likely is

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<v Speaker 2>just how our brains operate. Kat has been thinking about

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<v Speaker 2>moving and some of that has been underway, which is great.

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<v Speaker 2>But when things get you know, down to the wire

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<v Speaker 2>and stuff is starting to get real. I mean the motivation,

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<v Speaker 2>like the dopamine.

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<v Speaker 3>The pressure. It's the pressure, but it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Also exciting and I can't explain it. It's like there's

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<v Speaker 2>rush and things that I know you've been putting off

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<v Speaker 2>for a long time you finally were able to do.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not really moving, but for a few days I

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<v Speaker 2>acted like I was because I found this house that

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<v Speaker 2>came on the market. That is me.

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<v Speaker 3>Were you looking on Zillo Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>As a hobby, Yeah, it's really fun. And then this

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<v Speaker 2>house popped up and it spoke to me and I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, this is so great. Yeah, everything about it

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<v Speaker 2>is so perfect. And I did just move sort of recently.

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<v Speaker 2>Me moving now does not make sense, but I was

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<v Speaker 2>making it make sense, you know, Yeah, you just nag,

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<v Speaker 2>nagel that, and I'm like, it'll be fine and this

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<v Speaker 2>will be a good investment. And I was convincing myself.

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<v Speaker 1>Well.

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<v Speaker 2>Come to find out, during the week that I thought

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<v Speaker 2>I was moving, I got so much done. But now

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not moving. But the trick that I played on

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<v Speaker 2>my brain during that week was epic.

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<v Speaker 3>So anytime you need to get something done, you have

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<v Speaker 3>to be like, I'm moving next week.

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<v Speaker 2>But here's the thing, like, I think it has to

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<v Speaker 2>be kind of real. It feels now like it was

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<v Speaker 2>a trick on my brain because of how it ended up,

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<v Speaker 2>which ultimately came down to the wire because the house

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<v Speaker 2>got another offer from somebody else. So then now it's

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<v Speaker 2>like pressure's on. I need to put an offer in

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<v Speaker 2>if like I'm for real, for real, And suddenly everything

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<v Speaker 2>that was so perfect that I was seeing. I started

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<v Speaker 2>to see flaws in the and started to see how

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<v Speaker 2>this doesn't really make sense, and you know, silly things

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<v Speaker 2>like capital gains, like who cares if I haven't owned

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<v Speaker 2>my house for a year. And then it's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>let's be responsible and not ridiculous. Although I do think

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<v Speaker 2>what I were to if this is what I convinced myself,

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<v Speaker 2>what I was going to lose in capital gains, i'd

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<v Speaker 2>make back because this is such a perfect investment. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you told me that it may take five to ten years,

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<v Speaker 2>but it would be worth it.

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<v Speaker 3>I had to stay in that house for that long, correct,

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<v Speaker 3>So when you sent me because I was on vacation

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<v Speaker 3>and you sent me that list of things you had

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<v Speaker 3>to do, the punch list, Yes, And I never thought

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<v Speaker 3>like in my head, I was like, wow, it's so random.

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<v Speaker 3>Time for her to finally be putting knobs on her refrigerator.

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<v Speaker 3>But good for her. I never thought like, she's probably

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<v Speaker 3>trying to move because you literally moved a year ago

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<v Speaker 3>and your house is like perfectly you like, maybe not perfect,

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<v Speaker 3>but like you've updated it to make it your style.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I was thinking moving is the worst. Why

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<v Speaker 3>would you want to do that?

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<v Speaker 2>Moving is awful, It's totally awful, Like, I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>if I was just craving chaos. In fact, I texted

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<v Speaker 2>my friend Claire and she just replied back, is it

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<v Speaker 2>possible your brain is craving the dopamine hit of all

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<v Speaker 2>of this?

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<v Speaker 3>Lol?

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, interesting, trying nice about it. It's

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<v Speaker 2>craving the dopamine hit or it's craving chaos, which you

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<v Speaker 2>know I used to see chaos in relationship. Well, now

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<v Speaker 2>if I don't have that, because my relationship is healthy too,

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<v Speaker 2>am I seeking chaos? Just like create make life more

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<v Speaker 2>complicated than it needs to be. But he took the

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<v Speaker 2>kids to look at the house and they were like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>this is it was really cool great, took the boyfriend

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<v Speaker 2>to look at it. He of course picked out small

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<v Speaker 2>little details like things that bother like. He's like, look

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<v Speaker 2>at this trim work, and I'm like, trimwork, trimwork.

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<v Speaker 3>It's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, why are the outlets this way? And I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, I would never hopel that.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, we'll get new plate covers like that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why He's like, well, but you have to look

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<v Speaker 2>like if this is what you're spending, this is what

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<v Speaker 2>you should be getting, and you want to pay attention

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<v Speaker 2>to these things. He's like, I'm not saying this stuff

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<v Speaker 2>is a is a no go or a no brainer.

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<v Speaker 2>But he's just way more analytical and I'm more of like,

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<v Speaker 2>but how about.

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<v Speaker 3>The vibe, Like this wallpaper is really cool?

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<v Speaker 2>Like what's the feeling you have right now? Because in

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<v Speaker 2>the backyard, I was like, feeling.

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<v Speaker 3>I have is the crown molding is off. It's like

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<v Speaker 3>cheaply done, very really very Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, this is basically some two by four is

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<v Speaker 2>just thrown up here and painted black to look chic,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, well, it's giving, it's giving chic.

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<v Speaker 2>It's giving chic and I like it. And the backyard

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<v Speaker 2>was so zen.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, in the backyard, I was like, was this an airbnb?

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<v Speaker 3>It felt like I said, to you, this looks like

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<v Speaker 3>a resort.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but it was quaint. It wasn't anything big or overwhelming.

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<v Speaker 2>In fact, there was no real yard to take care of.

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<v Speaker 2>Even though the yard was zen.

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<v Speaker 3>It was like it was a zen garden. Yeah, Like

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<v Speaker 3>there was some.

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<v Speaker 2>Plants that need to stay alive, but they had a

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<v Speaker 2>little sprinkler system.

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<v Speaker 3>Attached to that, so I was like, this is do

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<v Speaker 3>aball person. Ye, well, would you have missed your backyard?

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<v Speaker 5>No?

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<v Speaker 2>I think I would have really enjoyed that space. But

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<v Speaker 2>congrats to whomever put in the offer that then made

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<v Speaker 2>me decide I'm not willing to be in a competition

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<v Speaker 2>for this house because it's really not for me. However,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very thankful for the week that I was gonna

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<v Speaker 2>maybe do it, because yes, have I needed to pick

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<v Speaker 2>out knobs and pulls from my kitchen drawers and cabinets

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<v Speaker 2>for nine to twelve months, Absolutely, And have I had

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<v Speaker 2>any urgency to do so, No, But then you make

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<v Speaker 2>me make decisions and I can order curtains. I can.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, obviously some of the things I had to

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<v Speaker 2>hire people to do, but it's like the thought of

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<v Speaker 2>spending that money was now like, it's okay, we just

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<v Speaker 2>need to get this done. Although I will say I

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<v Speaker 2>got a quote to paint my laundry room and it

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<v Speaker 2>was ridiculous, So Sashira and I painted the laundry room myself,

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<v Speaker 2>so that also felt good.

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<v Speaker 3>You're in process of painting the launder room.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but it's by the time this airs it will

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<v Speaker 2>be being painted. Yeah, thanks for that.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just trying to keep you on it.

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<v Speaker 2>But you started it, I did, Yeah, and it will

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<v Speaker 2>be finished. Yeah, future me, it's finished.

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<v Speaker 3>That's so funny that Alex said that when you brought

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<v Speaker 3>him to the house, because when I brought my dad,

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<v Speaker 3>not Patrick, because Patrick's brain's kind of like me. He's like,

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<v Speaker 3>this is the best thing ever. I brought my dad

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<v Speaker 3>to one of the houses we were looking at. I

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<v Speaker 3>knew within thirty seconds. I was like, you hate this house,

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<v Speaker 3>don't you. He's like, I don't hate it. My mom

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<v Speaker 3>was like, just let him do his thing. He's like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>you need a new water heater and he was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna go into the crawl space. He's like do

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<v Speaker 3>you have a flashlight? And I'm like, you have one

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<v Speaker 3>on your phone and like just say that you hate

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<v Speaker 3>the house. And he was like, I don't hate the house.

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<v Speaker 3>You just need to do this. You need to do this,

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<v Speaker 3>You need to do this, you need do this. It's

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<v Speaker 3>gonna be a lot of work and the floor sucks

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<v Speaker 3>and blah blah blah blah. And I was like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>you hate the house. However, when I went to see

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<v Speaker 3>that house for the second time, there's a dead bunny

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<v Speaker 3>in the yard.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that a sign?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes? I said that to Patrick, I said, we can

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<v Speaker 3>get this house, so dead bunny in the backyard. What

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<v Speaker 3>if the.

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<v Speaker 2>Dead bunny is good luck?

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<v Speaker 3>Because would that be a sign of good luck?

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<v Speaker 2>Because when I first bought this house, there was a

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<v Speaker 2>dead blue jay a couple months after I moved here.

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<v Speaker 2>And my dad is a blue jay. I know this

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<v Speaker 2>is gonna sound psychotic, but you know how my mom

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<v Speaker 2>is a cardin all, my dad is a blue jay. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>then there was a dead blue jay right outside my

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<v Speaker 2>back porch, like under this beautiful tree.

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<v Speaker 3>Alive blue jay.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure you would think. But then I googled the meaning

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<v Speaker 2>behind it or what it could mean, and it was

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<v Speaker 2>about new beginnings.

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<v Speaker 3>Dead rabbit.

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<v Speaker 2>Me. Well, we just need to look it up. You

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<v Speaker 2>can make anything mean what you want it to mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll figure it out.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't worry. We didn't get that house, so I hope

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<v Speaker 3>it doesn't mean that house.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I thought that that was the one that was.

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<v Speaker 3>The first house you're excited about. And also my dad

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<v Speaker 3>does know a lot about houses. He builds houses, so

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, dad hates it. Like I need to

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<v Speaker 3>think about this again, and then yeah, you start to

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<v Speaker 3>see things You're like, why isn't there any trim around anything?

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<v Speaker 3>Or why is this this way? Or this bathroom would

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<v Speaker 3>be a lot of work, and then you're putting together

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<v Speaker 3>all the money you would pay to fix the things,

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<v Speaker 3>and then you're like, why could just get a nicer house.

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<v Speaker 3>So then we found another house and my dad liked

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<v Speaker 3>it a lot better. But it was just funny that

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, it's perfect. My Dad's like, no, it's not.

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<v Speaker 3>But that's another thing that was actually very helpful in

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<v Speaker 3>this process of looking at houses, because I get so

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<v Speaker 3>excited and I'm like, yeah, let's just sign the contract now.

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<v Speaker 3>And then my brother was helping me look at houses,

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<v Speaker 3>and he was like, not everything is perfect about this house.

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<v Speaker 3>There are some great things about it, but it's not perfect.

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<v Speaker 3>And so it helped me take some of the emotion

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<v Speaker 3>out of it so I could make a wise decision

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<v Speaker 3>and not just like be excited about the idea of moving,

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<v Speaker 3>because I had to actually spend a whole session of

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<v Speaker 3>my own therapy trying to figure out am I wanting

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<v Speaker 3>to do this because the dopamine hit and I want

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<v Speaker 3>something exciting and I want to be able to control

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<v Speaker 3>something because a lot of my life is out of

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<v Speaker 3>control and I can't plan a trip right now, or

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<v Speaker 3>is this the right thing for me to do right

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<v Speaker 3>now in my life? And it's the right thing.

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<v Speaker 2>So it turns out that it is the right thing.

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<v Speaker 2>That I think it's good that you took the time

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<v Speaker 2>to process that. Whenever decisions we have going on, I

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<v Speaker 2>think sometimes we can move too quickly with the emotion.

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<v Speaker 2>Thankfully I had the other people that were swooping into

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<v Speaker 2>buy the house because it allowed me to pause, because

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<v Speaker 2>otherwise I was riding those emotions and they were rad

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<v Speaker 2>and high.

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<v Speaker 3>And then you would get this house and you'd be

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<v Speaker 3>like shoot, and.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like hop on, everybody, buckle up or buying

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<v Speaker 2>a house, and most people were like, huh, this is weird,

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<v Speaker 2>this is weird, But okay. I could also appreciate those

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<v Speaker 2>that were being really supportive and excited too, because we

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<v Speaker 2>could make it make sense. But you and I both

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<v Speaker 2>are just thankful for the motivation and the dope mean

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<v Speaker 2>that we got out of our situations. Because Kat has

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<v Speaker 2>been selling things on Facebook marketplace left and right, and

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<v Speaker 2>I want you to go over your list of things

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<v Speaker 2>that you've been able to sell, because if people walk

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<v Speaker 2>away from this episode with anything, it is that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>in kisage right now from Facebook from a buyer from

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<v Speaker 2>a buyer. She's been wheeling and dealing the whole time

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<v Speaker 2>she's been at my house, and it's like, you can

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<v Speaker 2>be a money magnet. You likely have things all over

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<v Speaker 2>your house that you could sell and make an extra

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<v Speaker 2>Oh shoo, hundred three hundred, or in Cat's case, she's

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<v Speaker 2>made seven hundred dollars in the last week. What are

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<v Speaker 2>you oh shooting?

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<v Speaker 3>I was distracted and I'm being bad at Facebook Marketplace

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<v Speaker 3>because I told somebody they could come get this furniture,

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<v Speaker 3>but I already sold that set.

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<v Speaker 2>Your rating's going down.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh shoot, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Well we're doing a podcast, ight now.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me read you Okay. I will say. If I've

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<v Speaker 3>learned anything through this move, it's that I can make

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<v Speaker 3>a buck fast by going through all my classes. And

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<v Speaker 3>they had four sets of patio furniture in my backyard

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<v Speaker 3>that I never sat in.

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<v Speaker 2>Your backyard isn't even big.

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<v Speaker 3>Where was this stuff? I have a nice size s

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<v Speaker 3>backyard for where I live. It was all in the

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<v Speaker 3>corner of my backyard, collecting dust.

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't like Dissy, your backyard sucks, no God, but

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just clarifying for people. It sounds like you had

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<v Speaker 2>four different patio sets, like how does al.

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<v Speaker 3>Was piled together? It didn't look nice? Oh okay, yeah yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>And I actually didn't buy any of them. They're all

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<v Speaker 3>like patio furniture that my mom got new patio furniture

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<v Speaker 3>and kept giving me her old stuff. So I really

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<v Speaker 3>made a lot of money because I'm selling things that

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<v Speaker 3>people gave to me for free.

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<v Speaker 2>Smaller.

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<v Speaker 3>But my friend told me, she said, write down everything

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<v Speaker 3>you sell, because when you sell something for like five dollars,

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<v Speaker 3>it feels like, oh, this is a waste of time.

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<v Speaker 3>But then when you look at it, all I've made like,

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<v Speaker 3>well if that if I would have told that person

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<v Speaker 3>the right thing, I would have made like eight hundred dollars.

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<v Speaker 3>We're in the seven hundreds. Do you want to know

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<v Speaker 3>what I sold?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, guys, you can sell anything. I sold a opened

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<v Speaker 3>pack of bubbles for my wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>I sold it like bottles with bubblic.

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<v Speaker 3>Individual little We didn't use them because it rained.

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<v Speaker 2>Did they say like Cat and Patrick Forever?

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<v Speaker 3>No, they have like little hearts on the end of them.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know where the why some of them were

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<v Speaker 3>taken because we didn't use them, but anyway, somebody bought those.

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<v Speaker 3>I sold a digital camera that I bought when I

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<v Speaker 3>was gonna start recording episodes of You Need Therapy, and

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<v Speaker 3>then I was like, this is too hard, so that

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<v Speaker 3>I sold an umbrella that I found in my storage bin.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't even know I had it. I never opened it.

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<v Speaker 2>An umbrella like a I'm sorry, a patio brea.

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<v Speaker 3>I could have sold umbrella. I sold patio furniture, rain boots,

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<v Speaker 3>a clothing rack, disco ball planters, drink dispensers from my wedding,

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<v Speaker 3>a sparkle backdrop wall and easel to hold a sign,

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<v Speaker 3>my second option of shoes from my wedding that I

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<v Speaker 3>never wore, two dresses from Anthropology, two alo sports bras,

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<v Speaker 3>a purse, and sound panels well packing.

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<v Speaker 2>That clothes were on there. I mean, I guess I've

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<v Speaker 2>always thought poshmark for clothes and furniture and house goods

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<v Speaker 2>for Facebook Marketplace or you know, bicycles or yeahs even

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<v Speaker 2>but I didn't know dresses. So that's good information because

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<v Speaker 2>then you don't have to pay the cut to Poshmark.

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<v Speaker 3>No, but I will say I sold them for low dollar.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I could have sold them for more on Poshmark, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>and then lost that. I just wanted them gone gone.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you were in You're in the mood, you're wheeling

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<v Speaker 2>in dealing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, And now I'm like, oh, I can get something

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<v Speaker 3>nice for my new house and it will feel like

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<v Speaker 3>it was free exactly girl the math.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, oh guess what I feel like because I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>get that house. I have way more money.

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<v Speaker 3>So I get that too. Like I was like, I've

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<v Speaker 3>just made so much fun.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, so sure, do you want to go

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<v Speaker 2>shopping because like, I just feel well, it was tax

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<v Speaker 2>free weekends. So I also wanted to get her back

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<v Speaker 2>to school things. But I felt like I shopped more

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<v Speaker 2>for her with ease because I thought, look, all is funny.

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<v Speaker 2>I just saved not moving. I didn't lose capital gains.

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<v Speaker 2>This is amazing. What else do we need? I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't make sense at all. I get that it

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<v Speaker 2>does for a second, It just like the feeling is different.

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<v Speaker 2>And when I was at Target though, because I was

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<v Speaker 2>trying to declutter my house, I was like not allowing

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<v Speaker 2>myself to buy anything except for this one lamp that

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<v Speaker 2>is going to look so cute in my living room.

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<v Speaker 2>But then also my ADHD brain, which is why I

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<v Speaker 2>am the way I am about the knobs and the polls,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I don't want it's overwhelming to make a decision

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<v Speaker 2>on which knobs, but I'm under pressure. I'll just make

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<v Speaker 2>a decision about the knobs, which I was able to do,

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<v Speaker 2>which is why I feel accomplished well with the lamp.

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to feel accomplished as well with that. So

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<v Speaker 2>I get home and I bust open the box and

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<v Speaker 2>it's a complicated situation. It's not there's three parts, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's like one of those overhangs, like it's going to

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<v Speaker 2>stretch over the couch and hang there with like three

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<v Speaker 2>little and there is like shades. So I start putting

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<v Speaker 2>it together, just assembling it willing only I'm like, oh

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<v Speaker 2>this stan's okay, mm hm, just this way. I put

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<v Speaker 2>it in the position where it's going to be behind

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<v Speaker 2>the couch, and I start building it from the bottom up,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I sort of get to the top and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm stuck, and I think, okay, well that's fine, I'll

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<v Speaker 2>go look at the instructions. Now that I'm to this point,

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<v Speaker 2>so I look at the instructions and at the top

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<v Speaker 2>it says in all letters, this is a two person assembly.

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<v Speaker 2>Please do it on the floor, like a carpeted area

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<v Speaker 2>on the floor near where you want it. I had

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<v Speaker 2>it exactly where I wanted, standing straight up.

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<v Speaker 3>But this is like on the hard way.

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<v Speaker 2>They want you to lay it down on the carpet

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<v Speaker 2>assemble it from the top down. So I had already

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<v Speaker 2>done it all wrong and backwards, so all my hard

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<v Speaker 2>work is undone, and then I'm over it at that point,

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<v Speaker 2>so the lamp is just like that, not finished out

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<v Speaker 2>there by the couch, and now I'm not selling my house,

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<v Speaker 2>so I don't have the motivation to finish it, and

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<v Speaker 2>I lost all my energy to do it. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>an idiot and didn't look at the instructions, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>why am I this way? So then I got hyper

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<v Speaker 2>fixated on the position of my couch and for the

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<v Speaker 2>next hour I kept inching it like you know, a

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<v Speaker 2>quarter of an inch, half an inch, an inch to

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<v Speaker 2>the left of the right front back until I got

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<v Speaker 2>it in the right position, which if I dedicated that

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<v Speaker 2>hour to breading the instructions and doing the lamp. The

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<v Speaker 2>lamp would be done, but something about hyperfixating on the

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<v Speaker 2>couch like felt better to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, also, you want to the feeling of getting it done,

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<v Speaker 3>like I think I got addicted to Facebook marketplace because

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<v Speaker 3>like the feeling of making a sale. Yeah, it's like

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<v Speaker 3>you know, yes, and so like the feeling of getting

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<v Speaker 3>the couch where you want it, like that can happen

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<v Speaker 3>faster than you having to redo the lamp, Like I

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<v Speaker 3>want another easy task, but I know to.

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<v Speaker 2>Read the instructions. I know this, but instructions are boring

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<v Speaker 2>to me, and I'd rather do trial and error, which

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<v Speaker 2>is what I'm in the middle of. And another reasons

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<v Speaker 2>are overwhelming.

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<v Speaker 3>Rather, you create chaos in your life by not reading

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<v Speaker 3>the instructions of putting together your lamp than you moving.

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<v Speaker 3>So if you need a little chaos, just go buy

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<v Speaker 3>something that needs to be assembled and do it without

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<v Speaker 3>the instructions.

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<v Speaker 2>And then give up on it halfway and then it

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<v Speaker 2>just leave it there, yeah, until Shannon helps me or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Speaking of Shannon, she found the symbolism.

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<v Speaker 3>Of a dead bunny. Oh am, I gonna like it.

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<v Speaker 2>A dead rabbit can signify a loss, a need to

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<v Speaker 2>let go of something, or transition in life like a relationship,

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<v Speaker 2>a phase of life, or even a particular mindset. So

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<v Speaker 2>I needed to let go of that house. Well, you

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<v Speaker 2>needed to let go of some maybe that house. But

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<v Speaker 2>also I felt like, in your house buying.

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<v Speaker 3>Process, you can tell me your feedback.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I have feedback here. I started to think. Halfway

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<v Speaker 2>through my thought, I was like, I don't want this

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<v Speaker 2>to come out rude. Yeah, because like I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>you're I'm not trying to tell you.

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<v Speaker 3>What to do.

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<v Speaker 5>But you did have a little bit of a lack mindset.

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<v Speaker 5>You did have a little bit of a lack mindset, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>And I wanted you to think with more abundance.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just kept texting you. You're a money magnet,

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<v Speaker 2>You're a house magnet. You make money, Circulating money brings

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<v Speaker 2>you joy, which obviously these are just playful things. It's

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<v Speaker 2>not totally real, but in case it is real, and

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<v Speaker 2>keep saying it.

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<v Speaker 3>I did have a black mindset because I didn't want

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<v Speaker 3>to get myself. I'm doing a lot of things right

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<v Speaker 3>now that are costing me a lot of money. Well,

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<v Speaker 3>that costs a lot of money. So I also know

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<v Speaker 3>myself and.

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<v Speaker 2>They're important things.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, yes, yes, But I also am somebody who

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<v Speaker 3>like I talked about. I don't know if it was

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<v Speaker 3>last week or the week before, but I do things

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<v Speaker 3>without thinking, and that usually works very well for me.

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<v Speaker 3>But I don't do big financial risks without so I

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<v Speaker 3>had to think about this stuff. And I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>that I have like money trauma. I think I just

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<v Speaker 3>like having money in the bank versus like But then

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<v Speaker 3>my financial advisor even said, he said, what's the point

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<v Speaker 3>of having money if you're not spending it? Like, what's

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<v Speaker 3>the point of making money in your life and working

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<v Speaker 3>really hard and then just like letting it sit there forever?

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<v Speaker 2>You can't go to heaven with trailer hitch.

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<v Speaker 3>That's what they say. That's what financial advisor was saying. That.

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<v Speaker 2>Then who's the guy from Sugarland? The guy Christian? I

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<v Speaker 2>was gonna say Christian Bale, but that's Batman, Christian Johnson,

0:21:36.400 --> 0:21:41.000
<v Speaker 2>Christian Christian from Sugarland. I think he has a song

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<v Speaker 2>like that. He had sugar Land the band, and then

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<v Speaker 2>he had his own Christian Bush. Yes, that's it. I

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<v Speaker 2>think he has a song literally called.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay came to Heaven with the trailer, Hitch.

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<v Speaker 2>Houston's probably gonna cut that out. Houston told us. Our

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<v Speaker 2>producer told us the other day that for the podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes Kat and I will start singing and he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>just say, y'all know, I've been editing some of that

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<v Speaker 2>out because we give him. We give him full control.

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<v Speaker 3>And you said, wait what yes, editing out our jingles

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<v Speaker 3>that go on for far too long? How dare you? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>which is probably.

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<v Speaker 2>Why we're no longer like a feeling of.

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<v Speaker 3>The day, because I think it was quite annoying.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, in Houston let us know because he does have

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<v Speaker 2>full control for that, and we trust him and we

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<v Speaker 2>don't go back and listen, and so we had no idea.

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<v Speaker 2>He's like, hey, just so y'all know, I've been making

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<v Speaker 2>the executive decision to cut out some of your singing.

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<v Speaker 2>And we're like, oh, I literally did reply, Wait.

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<v Speaker 3>What's on YouTube's still on YouTube? Yeah, because Kat diden

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<v Speaker 3>edited out of there.

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<v Speaker 2>But so yeah, if you want the singing YouTube.

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<v Speaker 3>Subscribe to her YouTube channel. If we want to hear us, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>we want the musical version subscribed to for our YouTube channel, like.

0:23:00.960 --> 0:23:05.639
<v Speaker 2>And subscribe, which Cryocat's in here she does our video,

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<v Speaker 2>and she was the one that helped me move my

0:23:07.520 --> 0:23:09.520
<v Speaker 2>furniture to begin with. Like I was able to move

0:23:09.560 --> 0:23:12.720
<v Speaker 2>it inch by inch by myself, like just rear, but

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<v Speaker 2>to rearrange how I rearrange because I flipped it and

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<v Speaker 2>put the couch on the other side in the chairs.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait, I'm just putting this together. You guys did that

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<v Speaker 3>by yourself. Just couch is so big?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, me and cat, but I would say cat mostly,

0:23:25.320 --> 0:23:26.439
<v Speaker 2>or it's not, it's not.

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<v Speaker 3>Cats, like she just watched me.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, what had happened was I have golfer's elbow, Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>which is that's what they call pain in the inner

0:23:39.520 --> 0:23:42.159
<v Speaker 2>part of your elbow. And it's not necessarily from golf.

0:23:42.840 --> 0:23:46.600
<v Speaker 2>It's just like tennis elbow is the outside like a

0:23:46.680 --> 0:23:50.840
<v Speaker 2>dull pain, like a throbbing pain. And like even right

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<v Speaker 2>now when I press it, it's tender. Someone said it's

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<v Speaker 2>brought on by perimenopause. This is when I was painting

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<v Speaker 2>the laundry.

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<v Speaker 3>Everything I feel like perrimonte. Pause. Now what if it's

0:24:02.119 --> 0:24:04.760
<v Speaker 3>just like you that motion hurt your arm for it?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it could be, but also yes, I do

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<v Speaker 2>agree with you that everything feels like perimenopause or ADHD.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, in my life. So maybe this was just like

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<v Speaker 3>because you were working.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you wait till you're forty four and then hit

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<v Speaker 2>me out when you when you're mid forties, and it.

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<v Speaker 3>I can still paint.

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<v Speaker 2>Like for example, I was with my boyfriend on I

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<v Speaker 2>guess this was this last weekend. So it was on

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<v Speaker 2>a Saturday. Had it been a great day, great Saturday,

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<v Speaker 2>you know the kind of Saturday we'd all held for

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<v Speaker 2>and we had plans to just like go hang out.

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<v Speaker 2>We were going to maybe go to the driving range,

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<v Speaker 2>hit some golf balls, and then go grab a bite

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<v Speaker 2>to eat, real low key way to wind down.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you even with your golfer A yeah, wow, Well.

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<v Speaker 2>I hadn't it. I we didn't, so you didn't know.

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<v Speaker 2>We didn't go telling say you could hit golf balls,

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<v Speaker 2>but you can't move the couch. Now, I haven't hit

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<v Speaker 2>a golf ball, because I'll tell you what happened. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>All of a sudden, out of nowhere, like thirty minutes

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<v Speaker 2>before we're about to go, I start to just get

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<v Speaker 2>really uncomfortable. Everything is uncomfortable, and I am physically just fit.

0:25:11.240 --> 0:25:15.720
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, can't explain it. I'm annoyed, I'm uncomfortable,

0:25:16.080 --> 0:25:18.960
<v Speaker 2>and I'm aware. I'm like, what is happening. This does

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<v Speaker 2>not feel right and we were just having a good day.

0:25:22.160 --> 0:25:24.440
<v Speaker 2>I have nothing to be annoyed at. Then all of

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<v Speaker 2>a sudden, I get sad, and then I really start

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<v Speaker 2>to worry because I have nothing to be sad about.

0:25:29.640 --> 0:25:31.640
<v Speaker 2>I even look at him and I just said, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>uncomfortable and I feel sad and this is freaking me

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<v Speaker 2>out because We've had a great day and life is good.

0:25:37.359 --> 0:25:41.600
<v Speaker 2>I have nothing to be sad about. And then he's like, okay,

0:25:41.640 --> 0:25:43.760
<v Speaker 2>so he starts kind of rubbing my shoulder like he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>just take a few deep breaths, and I'm like and

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<v Speaker 2>then all of a sudden, tears just start flooding down

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<v Speaker 2>my face, like I can't stop them, and I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>sitting there and I was like, I don't even know

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<v Speaker 2>what's happening. I'm not sad right now, Like I don't

0:25:57.119 --> 0:26:01.399
<v Speaker 2>feel sad, but I have to cry and I'm crying

0:26:01.440 --> 0:26:04.719
<v Speaker 2>and I can't explain it. That's very menopausal.

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<v Speaker 3>You can't tell me otherwise.

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<v Speaker 2>So then he's like, well, maybe we need to just

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<v Speaker 2>like what would feel good for you right now. And

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<v Speaker 2>so I sat there, I cried as much as I could,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you know, crying released his chemicals that helped

0:26:16.480 --> 0:26:18.600
<v Speaker 2>you feel better. So I felt a little better, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, maybe we should just go for a walk.

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<v Speaker 2>So when we were at his house, so we just

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<v Speaker 2>walked outside, went for a walk, and then his son

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<v Speaker 2>was home and we were gonna end up if we

0:26:28.119 --> 0:26:29.879
<v Speaker 2>hit golf balls. We were just going to eat by ourselves.

0:26:29.880 --> 0:26:31.600
<v Speaker 2>And then his son was like going to figure something out,

0:26:31.640 --> 0:26:33.800
<v Speaker 2>so we were like, let's just go, Let's take him,

0:26:33.920 --> 0:26:36.239
<v Speaker 2>take him out to eat. He'd probably love that. And

0:26:36.320 --> 0:26:40.199
<v Speaker 2>so we ended up doing a little mini family dinner

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<v Speaker 2>with one of our five kids. And it was a

0:26:43.160 --> 0:26:45.479
<v Speaker 2>totally different night than what we had planned, like our

0:26:45.520 --> 0:26:49.679
<v Speaker 2>cute little date night got hijacked by my hormones. But

0:26:50.640 --> 0:26:52.439
<v Speaker 2>it ended up being better was what I needed. But

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<v Speaker 2>I have no idea why. I just started crying, and

0:26:54.359 --> 0:26:58.919
<v Speaker 2>I was thinking, he's never experienced whatever that was, Like

0:26:58.960 --> 0:27:01.560
<v Speaker 2>he's experienced me so nap a little bit at times.

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<v Speaker 2>Not whatever that was was really weird, and he handled

0:27:04.720 --> 0:27:07.040
<v Speaker 2>it like a champ. I must say, you've cried in

0:27:07.080 --> 0:27:10.320
<v Speaker 2>front of him, yes, but there was a legit reason.

0:27:10.400 --> 0:27:12.159
<v Speaker 2>If I've cried in front of him, it's been like,

0:27:13.520 --> 0:27:16.360
<v Speaker 2>you know, going on like yeah, yeah, are kids ever

0:27:16.400 --> 0:27:18.800
<v Speaker 2>going to get along? Or I'm going to meet your

0:27:19.200 --> 0:27:22.119
<v Speaker 2>wife that passed away and spend the weekend with her family,

0:27:22.160 --> 0:27:25.720
<v Speaker 2>and I'm overwhelmed by that, Like those are when I like,

0:27:25.840 --> 0:27:28.360
<v Speaker 2>that's valid tears. This was unexplainable.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's different than like I was painting all day

0:27:31.720 --> 0:27:34.719
<v Speaker 3>and then I got this injury, but it couldn't be

0:27:34.720 --> 0:27:37.480
<v Speaker 3>from the painting. In that motion, it's probably from Perry,

0:27:37.520 --> 0:27:38.240
<v Speaker 3>but that's different.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well I was saying like that's explainable, but also

0:27:41.359 --> 0:27:42.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, I'm.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe I could also be wrong. I'm not I know

0:27:44.640 --> 0:27:45.760
<v Speaker 3>nothing about Perrymuntahause.

0:27:46.080 --> 0:27:47.760
<v Speaker 2>Well, there's just fun things like that to look forward to,

0:27:48.119 --> 0:27:50.320
<v Speaker 2>Like when do you and Patrick You're forty four and

0:27:50.320 --> 0:27:51.800
<v Speaker 2>you and Patrick are going to be having the great

0:27:51.840 --> 0:27:53.440
<v Speaker 2>day and you're about to go hit some golf balls

0:27:53.440 --> 0:27:54.640
<v Speaker 2>and then all of a sudden you're like.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I had my week two what was it two

0:27:57.280 --> 0:27:59.639
<v Speaker 3>weeks ago when I just was like crying, But you

0:27:59.800 --> 0:28:00.760
<v Speaker 3>know why that's happening.

0:28:00.840 --> 0:28:02.200
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's hormones too.

0:28:02.440 --> 0:28:08.159
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that was weird. I felt sad though this was

0:28:08.480 --> 0:28:10.080
<v Speaker 3>it was so weird because I was like, I'm not

0:28:10.240 --> 0:28:13.840
<v Speaker 3>sad right now, golf balls. I don't need any a

0:28:13.920 --> 0:28:18.200
<v Speaker 3>kid who's like overtired, who's like I want to go by. Yeah,

0:28:18.200 --> 0:28:18.600
<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

0:28:18.680 --> 0:28:20.680
<v Speaker 2>I think if it was more was it like whiney.

0:28:20.800 --> 0:28:22.080
<v Speaker 2>I was just more like purplay.

0:28:22.160 --> 0:28:23.760
<v Speaker 3>Like I was like, you want to go do something,

0:28:23.760 --> 0:28:25.720
<v Speaker 3>but then like you're feeling this way at the same time.

0:28:25.800 --> 0:28:27.080
<v Speaker 3>That don't make sense.

0:28:27.200 --> 0:28:29.720
<v Speaker 2>We're speaking a cry. Okay, we were talking about the

0:28:29.720 --> 0:28:31.879
<v Speaker 2>golferslf on moving the furniture or whatever. But I was

0:28:31.880 --> 0:28:33.119
<v Speaker 2>on the phone with her before I did that. She

0:28:33.160 --> 0:28:34.280
<v Speaker 2>was like, what are you doing? And I was like, well,

0:28:34.280 --> 0:28:36.120
<v Speaker 2>I think, Alex, I'm gonna go hit golf balls or whatever.

0:28:36.119 --> 0:28:38.719
<v Speaker 2>And she was like do you like doing that? Like

0:28:39.000 --> 0:28:40.560
<v Speaker 2>she goes, is this something you want to do? And

0:28:40.600 --> 0:28:43.840
<v Speaker 2>I was like yeah, I went weird. Yeah, I guess

0:28:43.880 --> 0:28:46.040
<v Speaker 2>if you're just like you're with the right person, great

0:28:46.160 --> 0:28:47.040
<v Speaker 2>interest change.

0:28:47.120 --> 0:28:51.600
<v Speaker 3>So I had a roommate. She's still one of my

0:28:51.640 --> 0:28:55.560
<v Speaker 3>best friends, Kira. You've met her. She lived with me

0:28:55.600 --> 0:28:58.120
<v Speaker 3>for like a year and she was dating her now

0:28:58.200 --> 0:29:01.160
<v Speaker 3>husband and he's a big golf. For This was pre

0:29:01.360 --> 0:29:04.360
<v Speaker 3>Patrick too, so I never had golfed in my life,

0:29:04.920 --> 0:29:06.640
<v Speaker 3>and she would always like get dressed and I was like,

0:29:06.680 --> 0:29:09.120
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna go to the golf course with Jay whatever.

0:29:10.080 --> 0:29:13.680
<v Speaker 3>And I remember multiple times being like that sucks. Like

0:29:14.640 --> 0:29:16.960
<v Speaker 3>I remember being like, oh, you've just found your day

0:29:17.000 --> 0:29:19.000
<v Speaker 3>at the golf course, and she's like, it's actually kind

0:29:19.000 --> 0:29:24.120
<v Speaker 3>of fun. And then I met Patrick and I was like, Kyra,

0:29:24.920 --> 0:29:28.480
<v Speaker 3>low key, I love golf. I mean, I don't want

0:29:28.480 --> 0:29:30.920
<v Speaker 3>to do eighteen holes. You went and bought clubs. Okay,

0:29:30.920 --> 0:29:33.360
<v Speaker 3>first of all, I did not buy clubs. Patrick bought

0:29:33.360 --> 0:29:35.800
<v Speaker 3>me clubs, but that was a gift for him. It

0:29:35.840 --> 0:29:37.600
<v Speaker 3>wasn't a gift for me. He wanted me to have

0:29:37.600 --> 0:29:39.200
<v Speaker 3>my own clubs. You would like them, but I didn't

0:29:39.240 --> 0:29:41.400
<v Speaker 3>like them. But they're purple, and I like going to

0:29:41.440 --> 0:29:43.480
<v Speaker 3>do like nine holes. I really would love if they

0:29:43.480 --> 0:29:46.280
<v Speaker 3>did like six holes. That would be sweet. This is

0:29:46.280 --> 0:29:49.560
<v Speaker 3>where I lose interest. But when I gave a speech

0:29:49.560 --> 0:29:51.600
<v Speaker 3>at Kira's wedding and one of the things I like

0:29:51.880 --> 0:29:53.560
<v Speaker 3>had a list of things that had like learned from

0:29:53.600 --> 0:29:56.440
<v Speaker 3>her and Jay, and one of them was about golf.

0:29:56.520 --> 0:29:59.760
<v Speaker 3>And I said, I said, what you just said, it

0:30:00.000 --> 0:30:02.000
<v Speaker 3>doesn't matter as much what you're doing but the person

0:30:02.040 --> 0:30:05.200
<v Speaker 3>that you're doing it with, because I now love golfing

0:30:05.280 --> 0:30:07.160
<v Speaker 3>with Patrick. And it's not that I now love the

0:30:07.200 --> 0:30:10.920
<v Speaker 3>game of golf, it's when you're doing something with somebody else,

0:30:11.040 --> 0:30:13.320
<v Speaker 3>and I also get to see the joy Patrick has.

0:30:13.920 --> 0:30:16.080
<v Speaker 3>And then I'm like, oh, I can kind of enjoy this,

0:30:16.200 --> 0:30:18.800
<v Speaker 3>but I think I more so just like being with him.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's exactly what it is. And you get

0:30:23.480 --> 0:30:25.640
<v Speaker 2>to wear a cute outfit. Yes, And I was about

0:30:25.680 --> 0:30:29.000
<v Speaker 2>to say, speaking of the outfits, I found some cute

0:30:29.000 --> 0:30:30.680
<v Speaker 2>ones on Amazon. I'll have to send you the link.

0:30:30.760 --> 0:30:32.400
<v Speaker 3>Oh, you're gonna say, Facebook Marketplace.

0:30:33.840 --> 0:30:35.520
<v Speaker 2>I didn't know to look for clothes on there, but

0:30:35.560 --> 0:30:38.240
<v Speaker 2>maybe I'll check it out because I look for other

0:30:38.280 --> 0:30:41.720
<v Speaker 2>things on Facebook Marketplace, like I sell and I shop there, like,

0:30:41.800 --> 0:30:44.200
<v Speaker 2>yeah all the time, like trying to look for things.

0:30:44.240 --> 0:30:49.240
<v Speaker 2>I don't have a lot of luck, but I have sometimes. Yeah,

0:30:49.280 --> 0:30:52.440
<v Speaker 2>Like there's a few things that I've missed. Oh like

0:30:52.440 --> 0:30:54.400
<v Speaker 2>my dining room table and my chairs.

0:30:54.440 --> 0:30:57.160
<v Speaker 3>That was clutch. That was a really goodbye, really good

0:30:57.280 --> 0:30:58.160
<v Speaker 3>ye CEB two.

0:30:58.560 --> 0:31:01.959
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and they're pretty much brand new. Speaking of cry,

0:31:02.400 --> 0:31:04.000
<v Speaker 2>she went and carried that pick Oh.

0:31:03.960 --> 0:31:11.960
<v Speaker 3>Really the truck too. Yeah, she picks up a mattress

0:31:11.960 --> 0:31:12.440
<v Speaker 3>for you.

0:31:12.560 --> 0:31:12.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:31:13.000 --> 0:31:20.480
<v Speaker 2>I think she's my strong friend, strong friend. Oh yeah,

0:31:20.520 --> 0:31:22.520
<v Speaker 2>I think it was forbidden because she's friends been too.

0:31:23.000 --> 0:31:24.560
<v Speaker 2>So we were moving stuff.

0:31:24.560 --> 0:31:29.600
<v Speaker 3>Hey I'm moving soon. You got cryokat.

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<v Speaker 2>So you were on vacation, yes, which was really exciting,

0:31:36.520 --> 0:31:38.480
<v Speaker 2>But I was on vacation.

0:31:38.800 --> 0:31:40.000
<v Speaker 3>I was on real vacation.

0:31:43.600 --> 0:31:45.560
<v Speaker 2>And you said you read a book there that you

0:31:45.640 --> 0:31:48.240
<v Speaker 2>want to recommend because you have a book and I

0:31:48.240 --> 0:31:48.720
<v Speaker 2>have a show.

0:31:49.040 --> 0:31:52.880
<v Speaker 3>So I don't know about you, but I really get

0:31:52.960 --> 0:31:55.200
<v Speaker 3>my like reading bug when I'm on vacation, and then

0:31:55.200 --> 0:31:57.920
<v Speaker 3>I want to read every book after that and I can't.

0:31:58.000 --> 0:32:02.720
<v Speaker 3>I've learned that this book has a sequel, Perfect Marriage.

0:32:02.960 --> 0:32:06.840
<v Speaker 3>It was so good and well, I don't want to

0:32:06.840 --> 0:32:09.520
<v Speaker 3>say anything. I don't want to say anything, but you give.

0:32:09.400 --> 0:32:13.320
<v Speaker 2>It like five I'm not marriages out of five.

0:32:14.160 --> 0:32:16.800
<v Speaker 3>I would give it a four point five out of five.

0:32:16.960 --> 0:32:19.680
<v Speaker 3>That's good. And there's a sequel, so like, that's exciting.

0:32:19.800 --> 0:32:21.760
<v Speaker 3>It doesn't have to be over yet. I read it

0:32:21.880 --> 0:32:25.160
<v Speaker 3>so fast. I read it and like because the first

0:32:25.240 --> 0:32:27.000
<v Speaker 3>maybe three or four days of vacation, I didn't read

0:32:27.000 --> 0:32:29.960
<v Speaker 3>it all because I was playing you know, I.

0:32:29.960 --> 0:32:31.560
<v Speaker 2>Go with your nieces and.

0:32:32.440 --> 0:32:35.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, so my nieces and nephews. It was really cute

0:32:35.560 --> 0:32:38.120
<v Speaker 3>to watch them on the beach and like jump in

0:32:38.160 --> 0:32:41.240
<v Speaker 3>the water with them. But then once people got their

0:32:41.320 --> 0:32:44.719
<v Speaker 3>like playing jitters out, then I read three days finished

0:32:44.720 --> 0:32:48.160
<v Speaker 3>it and I gasped at the end. I was sitting

0:32:48.200 --> 0:32:50.880
<v Speaker 3>next to Patrick and I go ah, and he was like, well,

0:32:50.920 --> 0:32:52.080
<v Speaker 3>now you have to tell me what happened.

0:32:52.280 --> 0:32:54.520
<v Speaker 2>Well, that's how I feel about We Were Liars, because

0:32:54.520 --> 0:32:57.240
<v Speaker 2>you're watching that right now, and when that ending happened.

0:32:57.880 --> 0:32:58.360
<v Speaker 2>I guess.

0:32:58.520 --> 0:33:01.600
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm trying to figure out because I'm on I'm

0:33:01.600 --> 0:33:03.880
<v Speaker 3>in the middle of the seventh episode and there's eight episodes,

0:33:04.400 --> 0:33:07.080
<v Speaker 3>and I know something crazy happens, so I know it's

0:33:07.120 --> 0:33:08.320
<v Speaker 3>not going to be what I think it is.

0:33:09.320 --> 0:33:11.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm not saying anything because I don't want to run

0:33:11.080 --> 0:33:12.920
<v Speaker 2>the rest of spoiling anything at all other than I

0:33:12.960 --> 0:33:16.040
<v Speaker 2>also gassed. So You've Got the Perfect Marriage is a

0:33:16.080 --> 0:33:18.560
<v Speaker 2>book that'll make you gasp, We Were Liars, which is

0:33:18.600 --> 0:33:19.200
<v Speaker 2>on Amazon.

0:33:19.360 --> 0:33:20.320
<v Speaker 3>Can I your gasp?

0:33:20.920 --> 0:33:21.120
<v Speaker 2>No?

0:33:21.240 --> 0:33:22.360
<v Speaker 3>No, I can't even guess.

0:33:22.200 --> 0:33:23.360
<v Speaker 2>Because then other people.

0:33:23.600 --> 0:33:26.400
<v Speaker 3>Okay, I'm going to write it down after this and

0:33:26.480 --> 0:33:29.200
<v Speaker 3>once we've had enough time, Oh.

0:33:29.160 --> 0:33:30.920
<v Speaker 2>You could say it to me off Mike. I just

0:33:30.920 --> 0:33:32.320
<v Speaker 2>don't want to ruin it everybody else.

0:33:32.360 --> 0:33:34.239
<v Speaker 3>You know, I'm going to write it down so then

0:33:34.280 --> 0:33:35.800
<v Speaker 3>I can read it on Mike and be like, see

0:33:35.880 --> 0:33:36.600
<v Speaker 3>I guessed it right.

0:33:37.400 --> 0:33:42.360
<v Speaker 2>Okay, Well, We Were Liars is something you're watching. I've

0:33:42.400 --> 0:33:44.120
<v Speaker 2>already finished, but that's not what I was going to recommend.

0:33:44.120 --> 0:33:45.920
<v Speaker 2>I thought I was bringing something new to the table

0:33:45.960 --> 0:33:47.560
<v Speaker 2>because this is also on Amazon.

0:33:47.720 --> 0:33:47.760
<v Speaker 3>Is.

0:33:47.800 --> 0:33:50.600
<v Speaker 2>When I finished We Were Liars, it rolled into like

0:33:50.640 --> 0:33:54.200
<v Speaker 2>a different series, which is Shiny Happy People about the

0:33:54.280 --> 0:34:01.280
<v Speaker 2>Dugger Family, a documentary. Yeah, and I mind blown, like

0:34:01.840 --> 0:34:05.480
<v Speaker 2>things that I learned and saw. It was like unbelievable

0:34:05.520 --> 0:34:08.239
<v Speaker 2>stuff that I've forgotten about their family. And it's just

0:34:08.320 --> 0:34:12.160
<v Speaker 2>crazy that that the dad thought like I'm gonna put

0:34:12.160 --> 0:34:14.560
<v Speaker 2>my family on TV and like this sort of stuff

0:34:14.640 --> 0:34:16.440
<v Speaker 2>is going to be happening, and this is how I'm

0:34:16.440 --> 0:34:18.359
<v Speaker 2>going to handle it. It's just sort of like that

0:34:18.840 --> 0:34:21.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm the head of the house. Probably mentality of.

0:34:21.040 --> 0:34:23.759
<v Speaker 3>Like, well, what I'm not going to occasion it's like

0:34:23.800 --> 0:34:25.480
<v Speaker 3>a no, it's that weird.

0:34:25.480 --> 0:34:28.640
<v Speaker 2>I can't remember. Maybe Shannon can look at the exact

0:34:28.640 --> 0:34:29.640
<v Speaker 2>because I don't want to get that.

0:34:29.640 --> 0:34:30.719
<v Speaker 3>It's very obedient.

0:34:30.880 --> 0:34:32.080
<v Speaker 2>It's like a fundamentalist.

0:34:32.160 --> 0:34:35.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, So you were telling me that and I

0:34:35.080 --> 0:34:36.680
<v Speaker 3>was like, I think i've I watched it when it

0:34:36.680 --> 0:34:37.040
<v Speaker 3>came out.

0:34:37.160 --> 0:34:39.160
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it's not new. Come to find out. You were like,

0:34:39.160 --> 0:34:40.480
<v Speaker 2>I feel like this's been out for a while. So

0:34:40.520 --> 0:34:42.080
<v Speaker 2>I just googled it and it came out in twenty

0:34:42.120 --> 0:34:44.080
<v Speaker 2>twenty three, so it's been out a couple of years.

0:34:44.360 --> 0:34:46.960
<v Speaker 3>But I have I don't remember a lot of like

0:34:47.040 --> 0:34:48.640
<v Speaker 3>you're saying all this and I'm like, what was shocking?

0:34:48.640 --> 0:34:50.839
<v Speaker 2>And I forget, Oh, well, it's okay, so one thing,

0:34:50.840 --> 0:34:56.759
<v Speaker 2>and this isn't spoiling anything. But the adult daughter, she

0:34:57.480 --> 0:35:00.560
<v Speaker 2>is prominently in it, and then one of his nieces

0:35:00.680 --> 0:35:02.960
<v Speaker 2>is talking about it. But the adult daughter and her cousin,

0:35:03.160 --> 0:35:04.840
<v Speaker 2>I mean, they were kids when the show started, but

0:35:04.960 --> 0:35:07.160
<v Speaker 2>as they matured and got older and they even got married,

0:35:07.520 --> 0:35:09.399
<v Speaker 2>and then they were used on the show. They never

0:35:09.440 --> 0:35:12.319
<v Speaker 2>got paid because he was the one that TLC had

0:35:12.320 --> 0:35:15.120
<v Speaker 2>in the contract. They paid the dad and then I

0:35:15.120 --> 0:35:18.000
<v Speaker 2>guess he could disperse. And there was a time where

0:35:18.040 --> 0:35:20.600
<v Speaker 2>she was having a birthing episode where she was pregnant,

0:35:20.600 --> 0:35:22.920
<v Speaker 2>specially giving birth and she was like I'm not I

0:35:22.920 --> 0:35:26.440
<v Speaker 2>don't want cameras in there. Or her dad like the

0:35:26.520 --> 0:35:29.400
<v Speaker 2>day before her wedding or something, he just casually like

0:35:29.520 --> 0:35:31.439
<v Speaker 2>had the contract down on the table, was like, hey, babe,

0:35:31.480 --> 0:35:32.840
<v Speaker 2>I need you to sign this, and she kind of

0:35:32.920 --> 0:35:34.520
<v Speaker 2>ran by. And obviously she's a lot going on. She's

0:35:34.520 --> 0:35:36.400
<v Speaker 2>getting married the next day, so she didn't pay attention

0:35:36.440 --> 0:35:39.120
<v Speaker 2>to every detail and she signed it. Well, it was like,

0:35:39.800 --> 0:35:41.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm making this up, but like say, it was a

0:35:41.480 --> 0:35:45.160
<v Speaker 2>five year deal, well after her marriage, when she's pregnant

0:35:45.160 --> 0:35:47.360
<v Speaker 2>with her first child, that's within that five year window.

0:35:48.480 --> 0:35:51.720
<v Speaker 2>And then she's like, oh, well, we don't want cameras

0:35:51.800 --> 0:35:54.799
<v Speaker 2>in but part of the contract was well you don't

0:35:54.800 --> 0:35:56.000
<v Speaker 2>have a choice, and.

0:35:56.200 --> 0:35:57.520
<v Speaker 3>She wasn't getting paid.

0:35:57.440 --> 0:35:59.879
<v Speaker 2>And then she was like, well TLC, can y'all give

0:35:59.920 --> 0:36:02.920
<v Speaker 2>up us money for this because and they're like, oh, well,

0:36:03.080 --> 0:36:05.960
<v Speaker 2>our deal is with your dad and we're paying him handsomely.

0:36:06.040 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 2>So then they went to the dad and said we

0:36:09.040 --> 0:36:10.440
<v Speaker 2>would like payment, and he said I can pay you

0:36:10.520 --> 0:36:14.520
<v Speaker 2>ten dollars an hour. Oh isn't that into Okay?

0:36:14.600 --> 0:36:17.440
<v Speaker 3>Maybe I didn't finish it because I don't remember that. Yeah,

0:36:17.480 --> 0:36:20.000
<v Speaker 3>just crazy stuff like that that feels very I llegal,

0:36:20.040 --> 0:36:22.200
<v Speaker 3>especially with the kids. I think now I don't know.

0:36:22.200 --> 0:36:24.239
<v Speaker 2>What the laws are, but they were adult that's why.

0:36:24.719 --> 0:36:28.400
<v Speaker 3>Right. But in California there there's some law that's changed

0:36:28.440 --> 0:36:31.400
<v Speaker 3>about like influencers and stuff where if you're using your

0:36:31.440 --> 0:36:34.560
<v Speaker 3>kids as part of whatever, you have to pay them.

0:36:34.760 --> 0:36:36.279
<v Speaker 3>So that's why a lot of people are moving out

0:36:36.280 --> 0:36:38.640
<v Speaker 3>of California. I feel like, I don't know that they

0:36:38.680 --> 0:36:40.759
<v Speaker 3>can like so they don't have to do because they

0:36:40.800 --> 0:36:44.319
<v Speaker 3>lose money. There's some weird law that like you are

0:36:44.360 --> 0:36:45.160
<v Speaker 3>losing people.

0:36:44.920 --> 0:36:48.160
<v Speaker 2>That like you are losing money protect children, right, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, No,

0:36:48.280 --> 0:36:49.080
<v Speaker 2>I mean that's weird.

0:36:49.200 --> 0:36:51.799
<v Speaker 3>I'm not condoning it. I'm just saying I think there's

0:36:51.840 --> 0:36:52.839
<v Speaker 3>something like that going on.

0:36:53.640 --> 0:36:58.680
<v Speaker 2>It's okay, let's see Dugger religion independent Fundamentalist Baptists affiliated

0:36:58.680 --> 0:37:02.920
<v Speaker 2>with the Institute and basically Principles. That's well IBLP, Yes, IBLP,

0:37:03.040 --> 0:37:07.000
<v Speaker 2>a conservative Chritian organization. And then there's that one guy.

0:37:07.360 --> 0:37:08.799
<v Speaker 2>I feel like the church I grew up too. They

0:37:08.800 --> 0:37:10.400
<v Speaker 2>would listen to stuff by him, but there was a

0:37:10.440 --> 0:37:12.319
<v Speaker 2>lot of his seminars that he would do and they

0:37:12.360 --> 0:37:15.799
<v Speaker 2>were very much in alignment with his stuff. And that

0:37:15.840 --> 0:37:18.040
<v Speaker 2>guy was just like spreading his.

0:37:18.239 --> 0:37:19.640
<v Speaker 3>But it's like a kind of cult.

0:37:20.760 --> 0:37:23.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he feels a little a little weird.

0:37:23.960 --> 0:37:25.440
<v Speaker 3>Okay, well, maybe I'll watch this again, even though it's

0:37:25.440 --> 0:37:26.000
<v Speaker 3>an old wreck.

0:37:26.320 --> 0:37:30.160
<v Speaker 2>Apparently there's a season two of something that season one.

0:37:31.520 --> 0:37:32.880
<v Speaker 3>But is it about a different family.

0:37:32.920 --> 0:37:35.400
<v Speaker 2>Potentially it could be about something completely different.

0:37:35.440 --> 0:37:39.160
<v Speaker 3>Well that makes me sad, though, because I watched was

0:37:39.160 --> 0:37:41.440
<v Speaker 3>it nineteen Kids in Counting? Yeah, where they kept changing

0:37:41.440 --> 0:37:44.000
<v Speaker 3>that or actually I watched that and I was like, oh,

0:37:44.080 --> 0:37:45.480
<v Speaker 3>this family seems so nice.

0:37:45.560 --> 0:37:50.520
<v Speaker 2>No, no, it's a mess. I remember the brother he

0:37:50.719 --> 0:37:54.040
<v Speaker 2>like did inappropriate things with the sisters. And then the

0:37:54.120 --> 0:37:58.239
<v Speaker 2>one of the sisters that it had happened to, she's

0:37:58.320 --> 0:38:00.120
<v Speaker 2>the one that is now part of the documentary, and

0:38:00.200 --> 0:38:02.000
<v Speaker 2>was saying, oh, yeah, I never got paid like she's

0:38:02.480 --> 0:38:08.000
<v Speaker 2>she even oh she did. I would maybe find that interesting.

0:38:08.040 --> 0:38:10.200
<v Speaker 2>She seems like a really sweet person, and I'm glad

0:38:10.239 --> 0:38:13.160
<v Speaker 2>that her and her husband are kind of out of that.

0:38:13.320 --> 0:38:18.480
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, no, nothing about that seemed healthy. And they

0:38:18.520 --> 0:38:20.839
<v Speaker 2>interviewed other people that were watching the show that were

0:38:20.840 --> 0:38:24.680
<v Speaker 2>part of that religion and they or had grown up

0:38:24.680 --> 0:38:26.719
<v Speaker 2>in that religion, or at least were married to men

0:38:26.960 --> 0:38:29.400
<v Speaker 2>like that in the religion, and they felt very suppressed,

0:38:29.640 --> 0:38:31.680
<v Speaker 2>and they were like, no way TLC is putting this

0:38:31.800 --> 0:38:33.719
<v Speaker 2>on there because they know what life is like really

0:38:33.719 --> 0:38:38.040
<v Speaker 2>when the cameras aren't rolling, because they know how these

0:38:38.040 --> 0:38:40.680
<v Speaker 2>homes work, and so they're having to watch it and

0:38:40.719 --> 0:38:43.280
<v Speaker 2>being like, oh my gosh, like this is my life.

0:38:43.360 --> 0:38:47.120
<v Speaker 2>But in america's like eating this up and these people

0:38:47.080 --> 0:38:51.520
<v Speaker 2>are gaining fame. But when it's just not a healthy situation.

0:38:51.760 --> 0:38:54.240
<v Speaker 3>That's a lesson though that. I mean, it's hard because

0:38:54.520 --> 0:38:56.680
<v Speaker 3>if the content's interesting, we want to watch it. But

0:38:57.280 --> 0:38:59.279
<v Speaker 3>it's that John and Kate plus eight like that was

0:38:59.280 --> 0:39:03.200
<v Speaker 3>nothing what it seemed. Did you not watch that? Yeah?

0:39:03.239 --> 0:39:07.000
<v Speaker 3>I loved that show, but like I think, what.

0:39:07.000 --> 0:39:08.960
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, it's just interesting. You're like I loved

0:39:09.080 --> 0:39:11.759
<v Speaker 2>nineteen Kids Accounting and John in Place, John and Kate,

0:39:11.840 --> 0:39:12.320
<v Speaker 2>let's say.

0:39:12.160 --> 0:39:15.359
<v Speaker 3>And I love No Mom. I loved Breaking Amish too.

0:39:15.840 --> 0:39:16.520
<v Speaker 2>Oh I don't know.

0:39:17.120 --> 0:39:20.200
<v Speaker 3>Oh that one was cool. They I guess when you're

0:39:20.239 --> 0:39:25.719
<v Speaker 3>Amish you get to have like this experience, I mean,

0:39:26.120 --> 0:39:28.440
<v Speaker 3>says this show. I don't know if this is actually true,

0:39:28.440 --> 0:39:29.839
<v Speaker 3>but you could have this experience where you go into

0:39:29.840 --> 0:39:32.279
<v Speaker 3>the real world and then they have to make the

0:39:32.320 --> 0:39:34.440
<v Speaker 3>decision do I want to come back into my amish

0:39:34.440 --> 0:39:37.640
<v Speaker 3>world or do I want to live here? But if

0:39:37.680 --> 0:39:39.799
<v Speaker 3>I live out in the real world, I'm cut off

0:39:39.800 --> 0:39:43.080
<v Speaker 3>from everybody. So you're watching these teenagers or like young

0:39:43.120 --> 0:39:46.239
<v Speaker 3>adults go and experience things for the first time, like

0:39:46.400 --> 0:39:50.319
<v Speaker 3>going to a movie theater or drinking or just like

0:39:50.400 --> 0:39:52.880
<v Speaker 3>going to a mall. Stuff like that. Like with Freedom,

0:39:54.400 --> 0:39:56.160
<v Speaker 3>I bet a lot of it was not true now

0:39:56.160 --> 0:39:57.960
<v Speaker 3>that I'm talking about it.

0:39:57.960 --> 0:40:02.680
<v Speaker 2>Or maybe it was much like fuck, you'll believe anything.

0:40:02.960 --> 0:40:07.399
<v Speaker 3>Actually, Okay, Now I watched this in like middle school. Yeah,

0:40:07.440 --> 0:40:08.120
<v Speaker 3>because it's.

0:40:07.920 --> 0:40:10.560
<v Speaker 2>Like twelve fast forward to the you now, like you

0:40:10.800 --> 0:40:12.360
<v Speaker 2>are very skeptical.

0:40:12.000 --> 0:40:14.080
<v Speaker 3>Which is why I'm a skeptic, because breaking.

0:40:13.800 --> 0:40:16.680
<v Speaker 2>Homage, which is why you wanted to do our Mel

0:40:16.760 --> 0:40:18.080
<v Speaker 2>Robin's Deep Dive.

0:40:18.640 --> 0:40:19.359
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:40:19.400 --> 0:40:22.680
<v Speaker 2>So this is a good transition into the really cool

0:40:22.800 --> 0:40:37.080
<v Speaker 2>voicemail that we got. So this is a good transition

0:40:37.160 --> 0:40:42.680
<v Speaker 2>into the really cool voicemail that we got from a

0:40:42.800 --> 0:40:48.359
<v Speaker 2>fellow licensed therapist. She's a listener from Florida, and we're

0:40:48.360 --> 0:40:51.520
<v Speaker 2>gonna play her voicemail. No, and this is about the

0:40:51.760 --> 0:40:55.080
<v Speaker 2>Mel Robin's Deep Dive episode that we did about the

0:40:55.160 --> 0:40:57.120
<v Speaker 2>Leton theory.

0:40:57.920 --> 0:41:01.239
<v Speaker 1>I usually never called because I feel leaving voicemails, but

0:41:01.280 --> 0:41:02.920
<v Speaker 1>I think the greeting really put me at ease.

0:41:02.960 --> 0:41:05.239
<v Speaker 4>For one, but I'm listening to the Mill Robin seep

0:41:05.320 --> 0:41:07.560
<v Speaker 4>Dive and I'm not even all the way done, but

0:41:07.640 --> 0:41:10.200
<v Speaker 4>I felt so inclined that I had to pause it and.

0:41:10.200 --> 0:41:14.040
<v Speaker 1>Came because as a therapist, I, like some therapists in Florida,

0:41:14.080 --> 0:41:16.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm finding myself saying yes, oh my gosh, yes, I'm

0:41:16.920 --> 0:41:20.000
<v Speaker 1>putting my finger on exactly why I've been struggling with

0:41:20.440 --> 0:41:23.239
<v Speaker 1>the self help world, because at first I thought maybe

0:41:23.280 --> 0:41:27.120
<v Speaker 1>I was jealous that people are so successful in this

0:41:27.239 --> 0:41:30.680
<v Speaker 1>realm and maybe I'm not at that level, but I

0:41:30.719 --> 0:41:32.960
<v Speaker 1>really have a hard time finding a way to monetize

0:41:33.360 --> 0:41:35.920
<v Speaker 1>the help and the fact that therapy really isn't all

0:41:35.920 --> 0:41:39.839
<v Speaker 1>that sexy and it's a really slow process to create

0:41:39.960 --> 0:41:40.720
<v Speaker 1>lasting change.

0:41:40.760 --> 0:41:44.520
<v Speaker 4>So I just thank you for the conversation. I appreciate

0:41:44.560 --> 0:41:45.319
<v Speaker 4>it great things.

0:41:46.400 --> 0:41:49.080
<v Speaker 2>So that was nice and from someone that's in the

0:41:49.120 --> 0:41:53.680
<v Speaker 2>space that you're in that sometimes can be challenging.

0:41:53.440 --> 0:41:55.719
<v Speaker 3>And I like that she said. A part of her

0:41:55.760 --> 0:41:58.080
<v Speaker 3>was like, maybe I'm just jealous because this person's successful,

0:41:58.600 --> 0:42:01.759
<v Speaker 3>because I've had to ask myself that a lot of like, well,

0:42:01.800 --> 0:42:05.799
<v Speaker 3>is this just like a jealous not able to be

0:42:06.000 --> 0:42:10.360
<v Speaker 3>like happy for other people, or is this skeptical because

0:42:10.400 --> 0:42:13.560
<v Speaker 3>there feels like there's some manipulation or there's some false advertising.

0:42:14.160 --> 0:42:17.480
<v Speaker 3>So I feel that too sometimes, Well.

0:42:17.320 --> 0:42:18.920
<v Speaker 2>You did a great job with the Deep Dive, I

0:42:18.960 --> 0:42:21.920
<v Speaker 2>gotta say. I went back and watched it on YouTube,

0:42:22.000 --> 0:42:25.160
<v Speaker 2>and I was a little nervous, especially because I was

0:42:25.880 --> 0:42:30.000
<v Speaker 2>the Mel Robbins fan, and I think I've said five

0:42:30.080 --> 0:42:31.920
<v Speaker 2>hundred times I didn't want to feel like a bash

0:42:32.120 --> 0:42:36.120
<v Speaker 2>session because also we don't want to be mean grel

0:42:36.239 --> 0:42:38.800
<v Speaker 2>known for just like not having space for everybody or

0:42:38.840 --> 0:42:42.040
<v Speaker 2>putting people down. And also we can be a space

0:42:42.080 --> 0:42:45.440
<v Speaker 2>where research can be done and information can be shared.

0:42:45.440 --> 0:42:49.480
<v Speaker 2>And a lot of people didn't know about the plagiarism controversy,

0:42:49.520 --> 0:42:52.080
<v Speaker 2>and I just assumed because that's part of our algorithms,

0:42:52.120 --> 0:42:54.200
<v Speaker 2>and I fed that a lot that most people knew.

0:42:54.239 --> 0:42:57.120
<v Speaker 2>We got so many notes from people that had no idea,

0:42:57.560 --> 0:43:00.680
<v Speaker 2>and then a lot of the similar vibe to the

0:43:00.719 --> 0:43:03.240
<v Speaker 2>caller the voicemail of like I kind of just always

0:43:03.280 --> 0:43:04.879
<v Speaker 2>knew something was a little off, but I can quite

0:43:04.880 --> 0:43:06.640
<v Speaker 2>put my finger on it, so thank you for now

0:43:07.320 --> 0:43:10.360
<v Speaker 2>giving an explanation to like what was not sitting well

0:43:10.680 --> 0:43:13.439
<v Speaker 2>with me. I'll read an email that we got, which,

0:43:13.440 --> 0:43:14.480
<v Speaker 2>by the way, if you want to call and leave

0:43:14.480 --> 0:43:16.440
<v Speaker 2>a voicemail. And I love that she said at the beginning.

0:43:16.640 --> 0:43:19.440
<v Speaker 2>I usually never call because I feel weirdly being voicemails.

0:43:19.560 --> 0:43:21.440
<v Speaker 2>I think a lot of people feel that way, which

0:43:21.480 --> 0:43:25.240
<v Speaker 2>I thought a lot of people would like to call. Yeah,

0:43:25.280 --> 0:43:29.080
<v Speaker 2>but that's just we get more emails than voicemails. But

0:43:29.200 --> 0:43:33.239
<v Speaker 2>if you feel inclined, eight seven seven two o seven

0:43:33.280 --> 0:43:35.319
<v Speaker 2>two oh seven seven is the number, and then you

0:43:35.360 --> 0:43:41.080
<v Speaker 2>can email Hey, they're at Feeling Things podcast dot com,

0:43:41.120 --> 0:43:45.520
<v Speaker 2>like Beth did. Here's what Beth wrote in Hey Kat

0:43:45.560 --> 0:43:48.080
<v Speaker 2>and Amy. I'm a long time listener of Four Things,

0:43:48.120 --> 0:43:51.040
<v Speaker 2>like from the very first episode, as in I still

0:43:51.040 --> 0:43:53.200
<v Speaker 2>make my bed to this day because of Amy, and

0:43:53.239 --> 0:43:55.759
<v Speaker 2>it changed my life for good. I never knew how

0:43:55.800 --> 0:43:57.720
<v Speaker 2>to journal, and then I bought the Four Things Journal

0:43:57.719 --> 0:44:00.840
<v Speaker 2>because it felt accessible, and it slowly change my life,

0:44:00.960 --> 0:44:03.319
<v Speaker 2>as in I now journal a full page almost every day.

0:44:03.640 --> 0:44:06.240
<v Speaker 2>The transformation from Kat joining the show as a guest,

0:44:06.280 --> 0:44:08.760
<v Speaker 2>to her own podcasts and the Fifth Thing to Feeling

0:44:08.800 --> 0:44:10.960
<v Speaker 2>Things has been so cool to watch and cheer on.

0:44:11.400 --> 0:44:13.960
<v Speaker 2>It feels like watching two good friends find the very

0:44:14.000 --> 0:44:15.520
<v Speaker 2>best versions of themselves.

0:44:15.920 --> 0:44:17.160
<v Speaker 3>I had actually stopped.

0:44:16.880 --> 0:44:19.000
<v Speaker 2>Listening to four things and was only doing the fifth

0:44:19.000 --> 0:44:21.160
<v Speaker 2>thing due to time constraints, and the decision to become

0:44:21.200 --> 0:44:23.400
<v Speaker 2>feeling things has been such a gift to me, So

0:44:23.520 --> 0:44:26.640
<v Speaker 2>thank you, Amy. It's been such a joy and encouragement

0:44:26.680 --> 0:44:28.680
<v Speaker 2>of my own journey to watch you learn, grow and

0:44:28.760 --> 0:44:31.279
<v Speaker 2>change your mind. And I'm gonna insert myself here and

0:44:31.360 --> 0:44:33.799
<v Speaker 2>this is not the email any talking, but and that's

0:44:33.800 --> 0:44:37.000
<v Speaker 2>where I feel about Mel, because I did talk about

0:44:37.040 --> 0:44:39.920
<v Speaker 2>her so much, and that that was another thing, like

0:44:39.960 --> 0:44:42.800
<v Speaker 2>an Instagram dms that I was seeing from people, was

0:44:42.840 --> 0:44:45.160
<v Speaker 2>like I only started following Mel because of you, or

0:44:45.160 --> 0:44:48.280
<v Speaker 2>I learned about Mel from you, And then I felt like, oh, shoot,

0:44:49.520 --> 0:44:52.239
<v Speaker 2>you know it just it's a weird place to be

0:44:52.360 --> 0:44:55.920
<v Speaker 2>in when you've hyped someone up and then again that

0:44:56.040 --> 0:44:58.560
<v Speaker 2>veil is lifted and then you feel like, now you're

0:44:58.560 --> 0:45:01.480
<v Speaker 2>bringing this other information. But then when I got that

0:45:01.640 --> 0:45:05.120
<v Speaker 2>line from Beth, that was very encouraging to me because

0:45:05.760 --> 0:45:09.520
<v Speaker 2>I am allowed to learn, grow and change my mind

0:45:09.560 --> 0:45:11.960
<v Speaker 2>and she put change in all caps. So Beth, thank you.

0:45:12.000 --> 0:45:16.040
<v Speaker 2>So much for that specific line, and then she went

0:45:16.080 --> 0:45:18.680
<v Speaker 2>on to say some nice things about me blah blah blah,

0:45:18.680 --> 0:45:20.359
<v Speaker 2>and then she went on to which thank you Beth

0:45:20.440 --> 0:45:23.000
<v Speaker 2>for that words of affirmation or my love language, but

0:45:23.040 --> 0:45:25.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to read them for everybody else. And

0:45:25.520 --> 0:45:28.120
<v Speaker 2>then she said the Mel Robins episode, thank you for

0:45:28.200 --> 0:45:30.960
<v Speaker 2>the Deep Dive. I was introduced to her through you

0:45:31.160 --> 0:45:32.640
<v Speaker 2>and initially liked what she.

0:45:32.640 --> 0:45:33.200
<v Speaker 3>Had to say.

0:45:33.280 --> 0:45:35.839
<v Speaker 2>However, recently with the let them stuff, it just didn't

0:45:35.880 --> 0:45:38.160
<v Speaker 2>sit right with me. I didn't even know about the

0:45:38.160 --> 0:45:41.960
<v Speaker 2>plagiarism part. It went against everything I've been doing in

0:45:42.000 --> 0:45:44.880
<v Speaker 2>my healing and therapy journey. And while it wouldn't have

0:45:44.920 --> 0:45:47.600
<v Speaker 2>bothered me if you still followed or quoted her firm

0:45:47.600 --> 0:45:50.120
<v Speaker 2>believer that we all have different journeys, it did make

0:45:50.160 --> 0:45:54.400
<v Speaker 2>me feel connected and seen that you also felt disenfranchised

0:45:54.400 --> 0:45:57.840
<v Speaker 2>as well. So I truly appreciate y'all's Deep Dive episode.

0:45:57.880 --> 0:46:01.600
<v Speaker 2>It was so refreshingly transparent. Thanks for everything you both

0:46:01.600 --> 0:46:03.959
<v Speaker 2>have done for me in ways you'll never know. Hope

0:46:04.000 --> 0:46:06.640
<v Speaker 2>you have the day you need to have, Beth Duncan,

0:46:06.960 --> 0:46:08.880
<v Speaker 2>so thank you Beth for that, and thank you Kat

0:46:08.960 --> 0:46:12.319
<v Speaker 2>for the thoughtful deep dive because that was all you,

0:46:12.480 --> 0:46:18.799
<v Speaker 2>and you executed it beautifully, exceeded any expectations I had,

0:46:18.840 --> 0:46:21.640
<v Speaker 2>and I think I had a lot of expectations on

0:46:21.719 --> 0:46:24.839
<v Speaker 2>how I wanted it to play out, and you killed

0:46:24.880 --> 0:46:25.480
<v Speaker 2>it well.

0:46:25.520 --> 0:46:28.120
<v Speaker 3>Thanks. And I was thinking as you were reading that

0:46:28.680 --> 0:46:33.399
<v Speaker 3>you changing your mind in this area is brave too.

0:46:33.560 --> 0:46:37.239
<v Speaker 3>It's I think there's courage in that to say like, oh,

0:46:37.920 --> 0:46:40.440
<v Speaker 3>not that you were wrong, because it's that you learned

0:46:40.440 --> 0:46:44.520
<v Speaker 3>more information, but I think you putting yourself in that position,

0:46:44.640 --> 0:46:46.960
<v Speaker 3>you could have just been like, no, I love mel Well.

0:46:46.960 --> 0:46:49.919
<v Speaker 2>I still found myself struggling with like saying that I'm

0:46:50.000 --> 0:46:54.920
<v Speaker 2>not like exactly. I think there are things I still like.

0:46:55.160 --> 0:46:58.560
<v Speaker 2>And again I think I learned more from guests that

0:46:58.600 --> 0:47:03.680
<v Speaker 2>she has on now than her. But I did find myself,

0:47:03.880 --> 0:47:08.319
<v Speaker 2>even though I was I'm increasingly more just about her,

0:47:08.600 --> 0:47:10.120
<v Speaker 2>I still wanted to be like, I mean, it's not

0:47:10.160 --> 0:47:12.480
<v Speaker 2>that I'm not a fan, it's just like, this is information,

0:47:12.600 --> 0:47:14.280
<v Speaker 2>and do with it what you will, like am I probably?

0:47:14.280 --> 0:47:16.560
<v Speaker 2>Am I going to be like? I started to read

0:47:16.560 --> 0:47:18.880
<v Speaker 2>her last book and I couldn't finish it. If she

0:47:18.880 --> 0:47:21.720
<v Speaker 2>puts out another book, now, it's like the next phase

0:47:21.760 --> 0:47:23.920
<v Speaker 2>of my relationship with hers. I'm probably not even gonna

0:47:24.040 --> 0:47:26.760
<v Speaker 2>own that book or ask for it as a gift

0:47:26.840 --> 0:47:28.880
<v Speaker 2>because I told my sister, oh yeah, I would love it,

0:47:28.960 --> 0:47:31.120
<v Speaker 2>so she got it for me. I did see someone

0:47:31.600 --> 0:47:33.760
<v Speaker 2>left us a comment on Instagram. They're like, oh, shoot,

0:47:33.760 --> 0:47:35.560
<v Speaker 2>what do I do about my let them tattoo that

0:47:35.600 --> 0:47:37.600
<v Speaker 2>I got? And I was like, well, people were.

0:47:37.440 --> 0:47:40.080
<v Speaker 3>Getting those tattoos. There was a whole when I was

0:47:40.120 --> 0:47:43.000
<v Speaker 3>doing my research. Apparently there was a movement when that

0:47:43.640 --> 0:47:46.799
<v Speaker 3>poem came out that people were getting those tattoos.

0:47:47.040 --> 0:47:50.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because so Cassie Phillips had gotten tattoos, Bill wet them.

0:47:50.239 --> 0:47:55.120
<v Speaker 3>Tattoo can And I hope that this was clear. Let

0:47:55.160 --> 0:47:58.600
<v Speaker 3>them works in a certain context. It just isn't as

0:47:58.640 --> 0:48:01.960
<v Speaker 3>overarching life changing and works in every area of your

0:48:02.000 --> 0:48:05.279
<v Speaker 3>life like some of the stuff that has been coming

0:48:05.320 --> 0:48:09.080
<v Speaker 3>out lately about it. It has limitations, but it's just

0:48:09.120 --> 0:48:11.120
<v Speaker 3>like we talked about any of the other little things

0:48:11.120 --> 0:48:13.040
<v Speaker 3>we have, like the weight to worry and all that stuff,

0:48:13.400 --> 0:48:15.480
<v Speaker 3>those still can be meaningful to you.

0:48:16.320 --> 0:48:19.160
<v Speaker 2>So I replied to that person and I said just that,

0:48:19.239 --> 0:48:22.040
<v Speaker 2>like it wasn't like take the information we shared, but

0:48:22.080 --> 0:48:24.600
<v Speaker 2>your tattoo can still be special and be very fitting

0:48:24.680 --> 0:48:27.600
<v Speaker 2>in certain cases. But it made me think about our tattoos,

0:48:27.640 --> 0:48:29.439
<v Speaker 2>because we want to get some of ours lasered off.

0:48:29.480 --> 0:48:31.800
<v Speaker 2>Like I've got joy and a spat and they're bleeding

0:48:31.960 --> 0:48:34.759
<v Speaker 2>so bad. Like I want to get on lasered off,

0:48:34.760 --> 0:48:37.319
<v Speaker 2>but I have a summer tan, or you can't have

0:48:37.360 --> 0:48:38.160
<v Speaker 2>sun on your skin.

0:48:38.920 --> 0:48:41.279
<v Speaker 3>I don't think, oh when you get them, well, I

0:48:41.360 --> 0:48:44.160
<v Speaker 3>just don't want to pay for it right now, cause

0:48:44.239 --> 0:48:46.319
<v Speaker 3>am I having other things? I'm having one? Do you

0:48:46.320 --> 0:48:49.520
<v Speaker 3>say I have a limited you'ring lack? You have a

0:48:49.600 --> 0:48:52.080
<v Speaker 3>lack mindset. Maybe if I just start getting my tattoos

0:48:52.160 --> 0:48:53.960
<v Speaker 3>lasered off, I'll just be a money magnet and we'll

0:48:54.000 --> 0:48:54.440
<v Speaker 3>just come to me.

0:48:54.840 --> 0:48:57.319
<v Speaker 2>You already are like sell a fee things on Facebook

0:48:57.440 --> 0:48:59.080
<v Speaker 2>for your tattoo removal.

0:49:00.080 --> 0:49:02.400
<v Speaker 3>Please buy this patio furniture. I'd like to get my

0:49:02.480 --> 0:49:03.440
<v Speaker 3>dad tooo removed.

0:49:04.160 --> 0:49:06.279
<v Speaker 2>I mean, that's girl. Math sometimes is like, Okay, what

0:49:06.320 --> 0:49:08.400
<v Speaker 2>am I not using right now? What can I offload?

0:49:08.520 --> 0:49:11.399
<v Speaker 2>And then boom, well what do I.

0:49:11.400 --> 0:49:16.120
<v Speaker 3>Want more than? What do I want more? This couch

0:49:17.239 --> 0:49:18.160
<v Speaker 3>or my arm back?

0:49:18.400 --> 0:49:20.360
<v Speaker 2>Well, it depends, is it like the main couch you

0:49:20.400 --> 0:49:22.640
<v Speaker 2>sit on or is it when your mom gave you.

0:49:22.719 --> 0:49:23.680
<v Speaker 2>That's sitting in the corner.

0:49:24.840 --> 0:49:27.960
<v Speaker 3>I don't know. I might I could sit on the ground.

0:49:27.960 --> 0:49:30.080
<v Speaker 2>Like I have this rocker chair under my tree in

0:49:30.080 --> 0:49:30.640
<v Speaker 2>my backyard.

0:49:30.640 --> 0:49:31.000
<v Speaker 3>It's red.

0:49:31.000 --> 0:49:34.040
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if you've seen it. It's like a glider.

0:49:34.280 --> 0:49:36.480
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. And so do you sell it for you? Well,

0:49:36.520 --> 0:49:39.439
<v Speaker 3>I'll take you percent. Listen, Oh is it from your mom?

0:49:39.520 --> 0:49:40.360
<v Speaker 2>It was my mom's.

0:49:40.360 --> 0:49:41.560
<v Speaker 3>Oh, then you can't sell that.

0:49:41.680 --> 0:49:44.040
<v Speaker 2>But well, I was thinking about stuff your mom gave

0:49:44.080 --> 0:49:45.520
<v Speaker 2>you and how you're selling.

0:49:45.200 --> 0:49:47.480
<v Speaker 3>It, and oh, I know, wayfair.

0:49:50.080 --> 0:49:52.200
<v Speaker 2>I know this is totally different. I'm just telling you

0:49:52.239 --> 0:49:54.439
<v Speaker 2>the thought I had. You know how one thought leads

0:49:54.440 --> 0:49:55.080
<v Speaker 2>to another thought.

0:49:55.360 --> 0:49:57.960
<v Speaker 3>You know that. Yeah, I've heard that cyber too.

0:49:58.239 --> 0:50:00.120
<v Speaker 2>Okay, So when you're talking about that, I was like, oh,

0:50:00.320 --> 0:50:03.960
<v Speaker 2>thinking about my patio furniture from my mom, which I

0:50:04.000 --> 0:50:06.360
<v Speaker 2>don't love the color red, but my mom loved red.

0:50:06.680 --> 0:50:08.680
<v Speaker 2>So I've thought for a long long time I need

0:50:08.680 --> 0:50:11.160
<v Speaker 2>to paint it. So I really need some sort of

0:50:11.239 --> 0:50:15.560
<v Speaker 2>dopamine hit or motivation to get that painted. But also

0:50:15.800 --> 0:50:17.800
<v Speaker 2>I was seeing the other day, do I have to

0:50:17.840 --> 0:50:20.520
<v Speaker 2>hold onto this like I have some of her jewelry?

0:50:20.520 --> 0:50:21.880
<v Speaker 2>That means a lot to me that I wear all

0:50:21.920 --> 0:50:23.719
<v Speaker 2>the time. I don't even know that I really like

0:50:23.760 --> 0:50:26.360
<v Speaker 2>the glider. I just keep holding on to the dang glider.

0:50:26.600 --> 0:50:29.120
<v Speaker 2>It's sitting out underneath the tree facing a fence, like

0:50:29.160 --> 0:50:31.560
<v Speaker 2>if you were to sit in it. There's nothing enjoyful

0:50:32.000 --> 0:50:33.920
<v Speaker 2>like what you're gliding. And you're like, look at my

0:50:33.960 --> 0:50:35.360
<v Speaker 2>neighbor's fence and is it dirty?

0:50:35.440 --> 0:50:35.600
<v Speaker 1>Look?

0:50:35.960 --> 0:50:37.880
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it's dirty. The paint is peeling.

0:50:38.760 --> 0:50:43.440
<v Speaker 3>Okay. But but but you could repurpose that into a

0:50:43.520 --> 0:50:46.560
<v Speaker 3>beautiful piece of furniture. There are people that do that.

0:50:46.600 --> 0:50:48.680
<v Speaker 3>I watch them on TikTok all the time. They take

0:50:48.719 --> 0:50:51.400
<v Speaker 3>like a dresser they found on the side of the

0:50:51.520 --> 0:50:54.600
<v Speaker 3>road and they turn it into like this beautiful work

0:50:54.600 --> 0:50:58.640
<v Speaker 3>of art. So I think that could be a metaphor

0:50:58.840 --> 0:51:02.759
<v Speaker 3>of something refresh in your life. I couldn't be me,

0:51:02.760 --> 0:51:03.920
<v Speaker 3>because I would just spray paint it.

0:51:04.320 --> 0:51:06.640
<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's what I was gonna do with spray paint

0:51:06.680 --> 0:51:10.120
<v Speaker 2>it like dark brown or not black.

0:51:10.560 --> 0:51:14.040
<v Speaker 3>I think we can find you somebody who can like Okay, Well,

0:51:14.280 --> 0:51:15.960
<v Speaker 3>we then we have to sell some things to be

0:51:16.000 --> 0:51:18.200
<v Speaker 3>able to pay for the refurbished chair.

0:51:18.520 --> 0:51:20.279
<v Speaker 2>It's okay, I would invest in it if it like

0:51:20.360 --> 0:51:22.920
<v Speaker 2>makes my mom's peace special, Like, I'm okay with that.

0:51:23.840 --> 0:51:29.360
<v Speaker 2>Circulating money brings me joy. Anytime you divide anything, just

0:51:29.360 --> 0:51:32.839
<v Speaker 2>tell yourself that, because when you're paying money to somebody else,

0:51:32.880 --> 0:51:33.840
<v Speaker 2>it's like you're giving.

0:51:33.640 --> 0:51:36.719
<v Speaker 3>Your helping them exactly, helping them live the life that they.

0:51:36.600 --> 0:51:39.520
<v Speaker 2>Were, and then that brings you joy. So therefore it's

0:51:39.520 --> 0:51:41.440
<v Speaker 2>a it's the whole system.

0:51:41.760 --> 0:51:43.719
<v Speaker 3>Okay, Well, let's find somebody and if you're listening and

0:51:43.800 --> 0:51:45.400
<v Speaker 3>you're like, oh, I do that and you'll live in

0:51:45.400 --> 0:51:48.600
<v Speaker 3>the area, maybe they can come fix your chair. Yeah, yeah,

0:51:48.719 --> 0:51:54.360
<v Speaker 3>don't it. This was Wayfair furniture, not like a family

0:51:54.480 --> 0:51:55.880
<v Speaker 3>heirloom ordered it.

0:51:55.920 --> 0:51:57.960
<v Speaker 2>I mean I have pieces. This light in here that

0:51:58.000 --> 0:51:58.880
<v Speaker 2>I love is from Wayfair.

0:51:58.920 --> 0:52:01.200
<v Speaker 3>It's baller, I know. I think I might buy it.

0:52:02.600 --> 0:52:05.719
<v Speaker 2>I sent you the Wayfair. I think, yes, it's so cute.

0:52:05.920 --> 0:52:07.799
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I don't know the brand of it. My

0:52:07.800 --> 0:52:09.920
<v Speaker 2>moms could easily be from Wayfair. I have no idea.

0:52:09.960 --> 0:52:11.279
<v Speaker 2>It's not some like precious.

0:52:11.719 --> 0:52:13.200
<v Speaker 3>She isn't used to glide in it, and you would

0:52:13.200 --> 0:52:14.080
<v Speaker 3>watch her glide on.

0:52:14.040 --> 0:52:16.759
<v Speaker 2>Her back packet. That means I should sit in it.

0:52:17.040 --> 0:52:18.640
<v Speaker 3>My mom never sat in this. I don't think my

0:52:18.680 --> 0:52:19.960
<v Speaker 3>mom ever sat in this French shore. I don't have

0:52:20.040 --> 0:52:22.200
<v Speaker 3>like a memory, but there are things that I have.

0:52:22.520 --> 0:52:25.239
<v Speaker 3>As we're removing stuff, I kept being like, oh, I

0:52:25.320 --> 0:52:30.120
<v Speaker 3>have a box of rolled coins in a shoe box,

0:52:30.239 --> 0:52:34.279
<v Speaker 3>duct taped. It's so heavy. There's like two hundred dollars

0:52:34.320 --> 0:52:37.960
<v Speaker 3>of rolled coins in this box. I will never cash

0:52:37.960 --> 0:52:41.080
<v Speaker 3>it in because I found it in the closet of

0:52:41.120 --> 0:52:43.480
<v Speaker 3>my grandfather's house when we were cleaning their house out

0:52:43.600 --> 0:52:46.200
<v Speaker 3>after my grandma died. He had passed away before her,

0:52:46.800 --> 0:52:50.040
<v Speaker 3>and we have memories of rolling coins with our grandfather

0:52:50.880 --> 0:52:53.480
<v Speaker 3>when we were little, and so I took all of

0:52:53.560 --> 0:52:56.040
<v Speaker 3>the rolled coins and I divide them out between four

0:52:56.080 --> 0:52:59.480
<v Speaker 3>because I have three siblings, and which that was the

0:52:59.560 --> 0:53:02.880
<v Speaker 3>hill of money in his closet, because what is that

0:53:02.920 --> 0:53:06.000
<v Speaker 3>six hundred dollars And I will never we are moving it.

0:53:06.040 --> 0:53:07.839
<v Speaker 3>Patrick's like what is this? And I'm like, We're never

0:53:07.880 --> 0:53:10.520
<v Speaker 3>taking that to the bank. I will have that until

0:53:10.600 --> 0:53:14.239
<v Speaker 3>the day I die because it is a memory, you know.

0:53:14.360 --> 0:53:16.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there's to that.

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<v Speaker 3>If I just found rolled coins in my parents' kitchen,

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<v Speaker 3>I'd take them to the bank. I don't have a

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<v Speaker 3>memory with that, but.

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<v Speaker 2>Make your grandkids are for sure cashing that in.

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<v Speaker 3>No, do not take this to the bank. This is

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<v Speaker 3>a memory of your great great grandfather, your great grandfather.

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<v Speaker 2>I was featuring Stashia finding that, and she'd be like.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, grandfather's grandfather.

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<v Speaker 2>Feet don't fail me now, she'd catch that stuff in

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<v Speaker 2>so fast. Okay, well.

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<v Speaker 3>That's that.

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<v Speaker 2>This is our episode. There's a lot of feelings in

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<v Speaker 2>this episode. We have feelings of we were in awe,

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<v Speaker 2>we felt accomplished, we feel sentimental, yeah, proud, feel confused

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<v Speaker 2>by hormones and weird cries, and I feel pain in

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<v Speaker 2>my elbow. Lots of feelings and we hope that you

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<v Speaker 2>enjoyed the mail Robins Deep Dive and appreciate it again.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll say one more time, Cat, you did an excellent job.

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<v Speaker 2>We have requests for more deep dives, so we got

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<v Speaker 2>to figure out who if y'all would like to send

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<v Speaker 2>in your request. We've already gotten some, but you could

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<v Speaker 2>send in people you would like them on and we

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<v Speaker 2>can work on that.

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<v Speaker 3>Things can be things on a cult or some kind

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<v Speaker 3>of trend or something like that golfer's elbow. Ye deep,

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<v Speaker 3>I know that anybody would listen to that, but maybe

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<v Speaker 3>we could make it fun.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean A deep dive on perimenopause would be so helpful,

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<v Speaker 2>but I feel like we would need an expert. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>for sure, not that's beyond our scope. And speaking of

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<v Speaker 2>our ADHD showed up a lot in this episode too,

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<v Speaker 2>so I know that a deep dive on that would

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<v Speaker 2>be appreciated, but from an expert. So some of our

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<v Speaker 2>deep dives maybe from us, or we'd have to bring

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<v Speaker 2>in experts, but we're open to anything. So yes, send

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<v Speaker 2>in whatever topic she would like looked into with the microscope. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and uh yeah, we hope you have it.

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<v Speaker 1>We have, you have, I have.

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<v Speaker 3>We are having the day you need to have.

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<v Speaker 5>Bye.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye