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Speaker 1: what's up, y'all. Welcome to the Best Bits. It's Morgan here.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to the interview side of the Bits podcast.

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Speaker 1: If you want to listen to the Best Bits just

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Speaker 1: the Bits, make sure you check out part two. But

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Speaker 1: this weekend, I'm bringing on Amy and I'm so excited

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Speaker 1: to talk to her. We got lots to talk about

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Speaker 1: after the show this week. I know, I love doing

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Speaker 1: this with you. I'm glad it worked out. Yes, it's

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Speaker 1: gonna be fun and we're just gonna go ahead and

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Speaker 1: like get into this. This week on the show, coming

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Speaker 1: in at number seven, the guys discuss some things about

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Speaker 1: their marriages, what they're good at it, maybe what they're

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Speaker 1: not good at in their marriages too. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: You'll have to listen to that bit to see what

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Speaker 1: you think. But Amy, I want to know from you,

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Speaker 1: someone who is also married, and you were you were

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Speaker 1: in on this conversation, but like the guys were having

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Speaker 1: their Guide Talk kind of thing going on. Yeah, because

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Speaker 1: I think it was an article specifically geared at men. Yes, yeah, so,

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Speaker 1: but I want to know from you, what do you

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Speaker 1: think like you're really good at in your marriage, and

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Speaker 1: what do you think you're maybe not so good at. Well.

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Speaker 1: I think I've evolved over the years, because I've been

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Speaker 1: married over fifteen years, and I think, you know, if

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Speaker 1: then that's never a good place. The same amy fifteen

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Speaker 1: I'll just speak to who I am now, and I

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Speaker 1: think I am a more understanding, compassionate person. I think

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Speaker 1: that I can be that way with strangers any day,

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Speaker 1: all day long. But then when you're sharing a life

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Speaker 1: you start to like lose that piece of like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: and the meaning of grace and meeting someone where they

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Speaker 1: are and really hearing their experience and how they've experienced

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Speaker 1: me they being my husband, but this really could apply

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Speaker 1: to any relationship. But really listening and then being able

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Speaker 1: to I think I thought I listened, but then sometimes

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Speaker 1: if I were to repeat back, which is now a

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Speaker 1: tool that we have, And if you're in any kind

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Speaker 1: so your partner says something and then you say back, Okay,

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Speaker 1: and you know, last year or so, as I'm learning

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Speaker 1: to like just a nice little humble plug on your

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Speaker 1: podcast network, the therapy podcast. Yes. Kat Defada is a

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Speaker 1: and she performed her new song Halo's and Horned, which

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Speaker 1: was so awesome. Her performance was amazing. Yeah, yes you

430
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Speaker 1: can watch that Bobby Bones dot com. I want to

431
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Speaker 1: give you a few food World see how you're excited

432
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Speaker 1: about these. Okay, So Seinfeld fans, did you watch Seinfeld?

433
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:03,080
Speaker 1: I no one talked about it, some not as much

434
00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:07,560
Speaker 1: as Friends, but I did still dabble in it today.

435
00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:09,920
Speaker 1: Did you like it? Like? Yeah, okay, I like it,

436
00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:12,879
Speaker 1: not as much as Seinfeld Fans can now order shows

437
00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:16,080
Speaker 1: like official coffees. They have four different blends, So from

438
00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 1: like the four main characters, you got Jerry's Diner Blend,

439
00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:23,320
Speaker 1: Cramer's giddy Up, George's Serenity Now, and Elaine's Little Kicks.

440
00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:26,600
Speaker 1: So if you're interested in coffee, they're available now at

441
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Speaker 1: sanbox dot com. Yeah, those are like some fun ones.

442
00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:31,800
Speaker 1: So if you're a Seinfeld fan, I know, like every

443
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Speaker 1: time these shows put out things, especially like Friends or

444
00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,439
Speaker 1: Gilmore Girls and stuff, people get really excited about the

445
00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:39,000
Speaker 1: yeah items that go with it, and they'd be a

446
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:41,920
Speaker 1: good gift. Yeah, so if you have a major Seinfeld fan,

447
00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:44,080
Speaker 1: But will you be trying any of the Seinfeld coffee?

448
00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:49,480
Speaker 1: Probably not? If Friends maybe put out with something from

449
00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:52,359
Speaker 1: like um, you know, Central Perk, the coffee shop, they

450
00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:54,439
Speaker 1: would hang out in. But I'm kind of loyal to

451
00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:59,159
Speaker 1: my sister's coffee shop. I do other coffee, and of

452
00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:02,000
Speaker 1: course we've endorsed Sparis Coffees on the show, like for

453
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,479
Speaker 1: and we truly use it here at the studio. But

454
00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:08,159
Speaker 1: my sister mails me Roothouse Coke coffee and I get

455
00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:09,480
Speaker 1: it in the mail for free, and I'm like, okay,

456
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:11,320
Speaker 1: thank you. I feel like that's it. That's all I

457
00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:13,679
Speaker 1: need root Hoouse for life, you know. And I had

458
00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:17,000
Speaker 1: posted a reel that was controversial, saying like the things

459
00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 1: that I'm not like that I just don't like, or

460
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,159
Speaker 1: that I don't eat or whatever, and one of the

461
00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:23,080
Speaker 1: things is coffee. And I think I blew so many

462
00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,199
Speaker 1: people's minds because of how early we get up, and

463
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Speaker 1: I just have never liked the taste of coffee. Do

464
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Speaker 1: you do any kind of caffeine in the morning. No,

465
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Speaker 1: I don't see halfee gummies though that I'll eat like

466
00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:33,880
Speaker 1: sometimes in the afternoon if I need like a real

467
00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:35,720
Speaker 1: big pick me up for a long day or something.

468
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:37,960
Speaker 1: But I remember when I first started the show, I

469
00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:40,080
Speaker 1: tried to drink coffee. I put like a bunch of

470
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Speaker 1: creamer and I tried different kinds, and I did it

471
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Speaker 1: for like a straight week. I was like, this is

472
00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 1: not helping me. This taste awful. I can't do it.

473
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Speaker 1: So that was my one like jump into the coffee rool.

474
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Speaker 1: Then then I just have never tried again. I love it.

475
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Speaker 1: I look forward to my coffee every morning. I know.

476
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Speaker 1: It was a very controversial opinion. Kellogg's they dropped a

477
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Speaker 1: new rice crispy tree. It's homestyle cinnamon sugar. Would you

478
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Speaker 1: like that? Would you like? Do you like rice crispee treats?

479
00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 1: I love rice crispeech. You are good, right? This would

480
00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 1: be like a kind of like French toast tasting or

481
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:15,640
Speaker 1: cinnamon cinnamon toast. Yeah, yeah, I would eat it. Well,

482
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:19,520
Speaker 1: there they are at your grocery store now for like

483
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Speaker 1: a box of six or twelve. So if you have kids.

484
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Speaker 1: I remember when my parents used to make my lunches

485
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Speaker 1: for me growing up, when I'd go to school, and

486
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Speaker 1: I'd always take lunches because I was a vegetarian. Right,

487
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:30,119
Speaker 1: so there's not a lot of things that I can

488
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Speaker 1: eat at the school cafeteria besides pizza day. I loved

489
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Speaker 1: that day. That was my favorite. Um they would put

490
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Speaker 1: rice Crispee treats in there. Often that was like one

491
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Speaker 1: of the treats I'd get, and they'd sometimes write notes

492
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Speaker 1: on the little thing that was on the front of it. Yeah,

493
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:45,719
Speaker 1: and so I have like such a nostalgic thing with

494
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 1: rice Crispee treats, but making homestyle rice Crispee treats are

495
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:51,359
Speaker 1: where it's at. Yeah, So like as much as like

496
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Speaker 1: the blue little wrapped rice crispeetreats are amazing homestyle wins

497
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Speaker 1: every time, for sure. I like to add peanut butter

498
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Speaker 1: two or chocolate chips or something. Yes, add a little

499
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,440
Speaker 1: twist to it. I like it. And then the last one.

500
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Speaker 1: Some students at John Hopkins created edible tape. Why would

501
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,359
Speaker 1: you think people would make edible tape. Honestly, I have

502
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 1: no idea to tape their mouth shut, Nope, to tape

503
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Speaker 1: to hold their tortilla together if they had a burrito.

504
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:22,320
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, okay, it's like tasty tape so you could

505
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Speaker 1: eat it. They're right now they're applying for a patent

506
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:27,120
Speaker 1: so we could see edible tape at the grocery stores.

507
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:30,359
Speaker 1: So it's amazing, just genius, right, what a clever idea

508
00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:32,920
Speaker 1: for like college students Hey, shout out. I think John

509
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Speaker 1: Hopkins's college, right university? Yeah, yeah, so yeah, shout out

510
00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:38,840
Speaker 1: to I think it's a hospital too. But yeah, like

511
00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:41,440
Speaker 1: all the things about right, I don't know. That's another

512
00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:43,360
Speaker 1: thing I could talk about all day is food. So

513
00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:46,600
Speaker 1: we're moving on to the next thing on the show

514
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:50,040
Speaker 1: this week. Coming in at number five, someone was stealing

515
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:52,159
Speaker 1: money from Eddie's kids, and we finally figured out what

516
00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:54,720
Speaker 1: happened after it's been in Pick of It forever, the

517
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 1: whole forever, the whole drama of the Pick of It.

518
00:24:57,480 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 1: We still don't also know what happened with a lunchbox

519
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,360
Speaker 1: in the news because that just hasn't been chosen yet,

520
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 1: so that one stays on the docket for a pick

521
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Speaker 1: a bit. It reminds me for any of our loyal

522
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Speaker 1: well not, I mean, you can still be loyal and news,

523
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:12,200
Speaker 1: so I'll say any of our old school loyal listeners.

524
00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 1: Naked Baby, yes you know what that means, and it

525
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 1: stayed on the Bobby Bone Show schedule forever and it

526
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:20,480
Speaker 1: was hilarious. This may be the new Naked Baby. Yeah,

527
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,240
Speaker 1: I have a feeling. But what's been going on with

528
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 1: your kids lately? What's any updates on them. Stevenson is

529
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 1: still hardcore jiu jitsu, which is amazing. We go six

530
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:32,119
Speaker 1: days a week. I think I update on the show

531
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Speaker 1: that he's been invited to be part of a leadership team,

532
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 1: so now twice a week he teaches like five year

533
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Speaker 1: olds and so. And we did talk about this like

534
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:44,560
Speaker 1: interesting enough. So like way back when I guess like

535
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:47,520
Speaker 1: a year or so ago, my boyfriend had trained Stevenson

536
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Speaker 1: like just one day to see if he liked it,

537
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 1: and then after that he was like, I'm I'm all

538
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,920
Speaker 1: in going to jiu jitsu. Yeah, Charlie after like, I'm

539
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:57,239
Speaker 1: so thankful that your boyfriend was able to do that

540
00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:00,520
Speaker 1: because it introduced him to it. And then we found

541
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Speaker 1: a place that you know, had classes. Yeah, and they

542
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:05,960
Speaker 1: go to the state Now, oh he goes to that

543
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:09,080
Speaker 1: one too. Yeah, they're okay. Obviously different age groups, different

544
00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:13,440
Speaker 1: categories and things. And like my we're supposed to be

545
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 1: going to Memphis in June because my boyfriend is competing

546
00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:20,040
Speaker 1: professionally now in jiu jitsu, so is a big He's

547
00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:22,639
Speaker 1: on a card and everything. Maybe what's happening Stevenson and

548
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:24,840
Speaker 1: I might need to come watch. Yeah, it's in Memphis.

549
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:26,639
Speaker 1: So yeah, I'll give you all the details on that

550
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,200
Speaker 1: if you guys want to. But yeah, that gym that

551
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:31,879
Speaker 1: Stevenson goes too is where my boyfriend also attends. So

552
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,439
Speaker 1: oh it's pretty cool. Yeah, that's right. I love that.

553
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:38,720
Speaker 1: And uh, we're just about to embark on summer, so

554
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 1: trying to figure out, oh activities, yes, what to do

555
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 1: to keep them busy, and we're looking at different camps

556
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:48,000
Speaker 1: and then how to continue the whole education thing throughout

557
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:52,639
Speaker 1: the summer without it really being education, yes, because I

558
00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:55,880
Speaker 1: mean my kids still even though you know, Stevenson's he'll

559
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 1: be twelve this summer and then's to share just from fifteen,

560
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:01,320
Speaker 1: and it seems like they've been here forever, but they've

561
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,879
Speaker 1: only been in America four years. And you know, so

562
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:07,439
Speaker 1: she's fifteen, but she learned English at ten, almost eleven,

563
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:10,119
Speaker 1: and not even what like she probably started really speaking

564
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:11,800
Speaker 1: English well. And even this morning we were trying to

565
00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:13,119
Speaker 1: talk about something and she was like, I don't know

566
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,520
Speaker 1: that I have the words for it, which is totally okay.

567
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 1: Sometimes I don't even have the words, and I've been

568
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:20,919
Speaker 1: speaking English, you know, forever, but you know, I just

569
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 1: it's important to keep it keep the momentum going because

570
00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 1: we're just still trying to play catch up. Yeah, our

571
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 1: summer camp is still a thing, like to that church camp.

572
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:35,879
Speaker 1: And I'm looking at a baking camps to share, like

573
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 1: to bake, and I think she's going to do a

574
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 1: dance thing. How long are they for now? Like I remember,

575
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 1: like there'll be camps that were like a week long.

576
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:45,679
Speaker 1: Do they still do that? Are they only a few days? Weren't?

577
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 1: I'm sure those options are available where you can go

578
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 1: to camp for two weeks, three weeks, four weeks or something,

579
00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:55,080
Speaker 1: but ours are four days. Okay, So nothing to crazy,

580
00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:58,160
Speaker 1: but I mean camps are expensive, and you know, when

581
00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 1: you think about it, there's a lot that goes into it,

582
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 1: and you know, the food and the staff and the lodging,

583
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 1: like so I get it. But it was kind of

584
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:08,560
Speaker 1: like we had to, Okay, let's pick and choose which

585
00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:11,520
Speaker 1: ones do we really want to do? And then also

586
00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:15,600
Speaker 1: we're gonna have to weave in some some some reading

587
00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:19,040
Speaker 1: and some rite are reading books, yeah, and some math.

588
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:22,159
Speaker 1: And I want to go see my sister, so we

589
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 1: like to go to Colorado in this summer. My sister

590
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:27,440
Speaker 1: lives in Pagosa Springs and it's just a quaint little

591
00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:31,680
Speaker 1: mountain town with you know, hiking and the weather is

592
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:35,240
Speaker 1: amazing and your around family and so we're trying to

593
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 1: figure out there. Yeah, trip to Colorado and that's kind

594
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 1: of where where we are. And then to share a

595
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 1: starting high school in the fall, that's so crazy to me.

596
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:47,960
Speaker 1: That feels like Sponkors. I remember I was looking at

597
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:51,120
Speaker 1: my phone. I was going through photos and I saw

598
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,200
Speaker 1: pictures of when they it was like the first year

599
00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 1: they were here, and we went ice skating when they

600
00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 1: had first like gotten here. I went with you guys. Yeah,

601
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 1: and then Hamilton's, oh my gosh, they look so young.

602
00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:04,720
Speaker 1: I was like, there's no way they grow up so fast.

603
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 1: And I cannot believe she's going to digh school now. Yeah,

604
00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 1: does that feel weird that you're like, I'm about to

605
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 1: be a mom of a high schooler. Yes, I feel

606
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:15,080
Speaker 1: very daunted, very wild. And it just shows you too,

607
00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 1: like all that can you see how much they physically

608
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:22,600
Speaker 1: grow in four years, but then also how they've evolved emotionally.

609
00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 1: But then I look at how I've changed emotionally and

610
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 1: all that's happened with me in four years, And I

611
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 1: look back at those pictures, and not to derail or

612
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 1: the conversation entirely, but I look back and I see

613
00:29:33,920 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 1: how little they are. And I also see how that

614
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 1: was before I went into eating disorder recovery, and I

615
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 1: see it in my face and it's crazy, yes, because

616
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:44,120
Speaker 1: I was so stressed during that and I think it

617
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:46,080
Speaker 1: had returned. And I was the few years out from

618
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:49,239
Speaker 1: losing my mom or having lost my mom and my

619
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 1: dad the year the kids got here that my dad

620
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:54,239
Speaker 1: was diagnosed with cancer, and that's how I numbed and

621
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: I coped, and that was my mechanism. And I look

622
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,240
Speaker 1: back at those pictures and I see how little they are,

623
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 1: and then I see like the desperation and sadness in

624
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 1: my face, I mean, and the inflammation from my eating disorder,

625
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 1: which is it's wild because back on those two like

626
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 1: you're like, you want to look back on your kids,

627
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:16,240
Speaker 1: but do you feel like it's hard to look back

628
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 1: on those photos? Um? No, I think I see like,

629
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:21,880
Speaker 1: oh wow, look how little they are. And then I see, oh,

630
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 1: we'll look how far I've come. Like I'm more proud

631
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 1: of it then. And that's the only reason why I

632
00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 1: mentioned it now, because I mean, it just puffed into

633
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 1: my head and you know, that's what we do here

634
00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:33,560
Speaker 1: is just free flow. But it's just one of those

635
00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 1: things where it's so obvious to me and I don't

636
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 1: feel sorry for that person. I'm more am proud of

637
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:46,680
Speaker 1: where how far I've come, because any type of recovery

638
00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 1: is extremely difficult and you have to you know, it

639
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 1: takes work and I so mostly I'm just thankful for

640
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,480
Speaker 1: the people that have been in my life that are

641
00:30:57,480 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: a part of that recovery puzzle and that I found

642
00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: them when I did, because I was on the fast

643
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: track to like it was gonna it was about to

644
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 1: get bad. Yeah, and thankfully, you know, I had the

645
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 1: right you know whatever, you know, you never know what

646
00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 1: it is that's going to be the final thing that

647
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: it takes to be like, Okay, I'm done with this.

648
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 1: But I just kind of met the right people at

649
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 1: the right time and it worked well. I love that

650
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,800
Speaker 1: you can. It's hope, like I'm sharing it. I'm sharing

651
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 1: it as hope. Yeah, Like not as like oh want want,

652
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 1: It's more like I see the pictures and it's like, wow,

653
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 1: look how little they were, Look how sick I was,

654
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:41,760
Speaker 1: and then look where we all are now, so it's hope. Yeah,

655
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 1: and you guys are like, all of you guys are

656
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 1: in a really awesome place. And clearly somebody's going to

657
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 1: freaking high school. Like you can't even imagine that she's

658
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 1: gonna be driving a car soon too. Oh yeah, oh

659
00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 1: my Lanta, what about sports to stash airplane in the sports?

660
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 1: I know Stevenson's doing jiu jitsu, yeah and so and

661
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:01,240
Speaker 1: he might start football in the summer. We'll see about that.

662
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 1: We're talking about it. And then Stashira just finished track

663
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: at school. She likes to run. If she likes to run,

664
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 1: so she might do it in high school soccer. We're

665
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 1: kind of looking at what activities she might dabble try cheerleading, Um,

666
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: she tried basketball this last year. It kind of wasn't

667
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 1: her thing, and then she enjoyed volleyball. We'll see, we'll

668
00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:27,240
Speaker 1: see what at her high school, what the what the

669
00:32:27,280 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 1: academic demand is going to be like, and then where

670
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:31,640
Speaker 1: we can fall and what we can do. They love

671
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:33,719
Speaker 1: for people to participate where she's gonna be going. They

672
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 1: would love for them to participate in everything because it's

673
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 1: u but her theater. She's done that. Like what I

674
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:44,120
Speaker 1: admire about Stashira is she she'll try it all and

675
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 1: she'll see and she'll she'll stick with it. Basketball is

676
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:50,440
Speaker 1: the only one she didn't. And honestly, you know, if

677
00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: this is something that's come on the show a lot,

678
00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 1: like with Eddie and his kids, like do you let

679
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:56,480
Speaker 1: your kids quit? And I don't think we normally because

680
00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 1: we had invested in like basketball lessons and it was

681
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 1: this whole thing, and I don't think we would have

682
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: ride away and like, Okay, yeah, you can quit. But

683
00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 1: that basketball schedule was a lot, let me tell you.

684
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:08,400
Speaker 1: And there was a lot of games and a lot

685
00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 1: of traveling and hours and it was it was taxing

686
00:33:12,320 --> 00:33:15,240
Speaker 1: on our on our family at the time because of

687
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:17,560
Speaker 1: other things we had going on. And we were like,

688
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 1: I remember when she said she was going to quit basketball.

689
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:22,240
Speaker 1: In my mind, I was like, oh no. To her,

690
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, okay, let me think about how

691
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 1: I feel about this. But in my head, I'm like,

692
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 1: prays the Lord, prays the Lord. This is amazing. You

693
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:34,240
Speaker 1: had like no idea on the back end it was

694
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:38,400
Speaker 1: going to be so excited. I was like, Hallelujah, answered prayer.

695
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:43,200
Speaker 1: So basketball wasn't for us, Oh man, Yeah, I get Hey, listen,

696
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 1: I tried to play basketball in middle school and I

697
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: was always hugging people, so that didn't quite work out

698
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 1: for me either. But you can still end up being

699
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:52,719
Speaker 1: athletic doing all the other things I do know, like

700
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 1: the gymnastics gym I go to has like open gym

701
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 1: or like kids nights, So if they want to get

702
00:33:58,480 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 1: into anytime type of that, I can also hook you

703
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 1: up with that information because pretty cool. Yeah cool if

704
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 1: I like to like roll around, tumble and jump on

705
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:09,880
Speaker 1: bars and stuff. Okay, yeah, there's another one that maybe

706
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 1: that could be something for the summer for let's talk

707
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:13,279
Speaker 1: about that. Yeah, I'll just drop them off with you.

708
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:16,080
Speaker 1: You take all I can. I can take them for

709
00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 1: the day. They can come hang out with Morgan and

710
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:20,759
Speaker 1: Remy being on a hike could be great. Perfect. I

711
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:22,520
Speaker 1: got them too. In the summer, I'm here, I'm not

712
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 1: doing anything besides working. So that's the one thing too

713
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:28,760
Speaker 1: as adults that I'm like, dang, we really like didn't

714
00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:31,480
Speaker 1: take advantage of having our summers off when we were

715
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 1: a kid. You know, I look back on that and

716
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 1: I'm like, dang, I want to have summers off as

717
00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 1: an adult, i'd be really cool. Yeah. Ella Royo is

718
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 1: a Mexican restaurant in Austin that puts up funny signs

719
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 1: and we talk about their signs all the time. On

720
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 1: the fifth thing, so on that episode, Kat and I

721
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 1: always open episode with a quote and it'll either sometimes

722
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 1: be serious or an ell Roo sign, which they're normally

723
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 1: like a meme sort of but on a sign. And

724
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:56,359
Speaker 1: they have one that they've put on a coffee mug

725
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:59,640
Speaker 1: that they sell that says, dear Naps, I'm sorry. I

726
00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:03,200
Speaker 1: was such jerk to you as a kid. So many things.

727
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:04,879
Speaker 1: There's so many things that look back from my child.

728
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 1: I'm like, dang, I really did not like appreciate that

729
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:10,319
Speaker 1: for what it was when it was happening. Yeah, I

730
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 1: also want to ask you too. I was thinking about

731
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:15,880
Speaker 1: this because I was at my hairstylists the other day

732
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:18,239
Speaker 1: and I'm so tired and normally, I mean, you know, man,

733
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 1: I'm a pretty talkative person. I can talk to a

734
00:35:20,520 --> 00:35:23,400
Speaker 1: wall pretty easily. Yeah, but sometimes when you're just tired,

735
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 1: like you don't want to talk, right, which of these

736
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 1: situations do you feel like you have to talk to

737
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 1: an employee like the service member whoever you're interacting with,

738
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 1: and which sometimes you feel like, oh, it's okay, you

739
00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 1: don't have to okay getting your hair done. Do you

740
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 1: feel like you always have to talk? Okay? And I've

741
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:40,319
Speaker 1: been with my hair person for a long time. We'll

742
00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:42,239
Speaker 1: talk or either not talk. I have my computer. She

743
00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:44,319
Speaker 1: knows sometimes I need to work, or maybe I can.

744
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:46,720
Speaker 1: I could walk in and look at her and say, hey,

745
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 1: I can't I have this is where I'm at today,

746
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:51,840
Speaker 1: and she'd be like, oh my gosh, like let's not talk.

747
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 1: That's great, whatever you need. Or I can be like, hey,

748
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 1: can you talk to me about this? Or I might

749
00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:58,399
Speaker 1: be like, oh, I have this deadline, I have to work.

750
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 1: So I feel like I can do any of the

751
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:03,959
Speaker 1: above with her. I do feel like hairs sometimes double

752
00:36:04,000 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: as therapist in a way too, So I think that's true. Person. Yes,

753
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:09,879
Speaker 1: she's seen me laugh, cry and everything in between. Yes,

754
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 1: in the chair, all in the chair, all in the

755
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 1: chair that it's like a therapy chair in itself, especially

756
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:17,720
Speaker 1: when you're getting like the head massage and everything amazing.

757
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 1: Shout out Leah, that's my girl getting a spray. Chan.

758
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 1: I don't really talk. I want them to focus. Some

759
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:27,640
Speaker 1: of you open your mouth to eat, like sprayed with

760
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 1: right and her. So sometimes I find myself talking and

761
00:36:31,520 --> 00:36:33,040
Speaker 1: I'm like, why am I talking? Stopped talking? This is

762
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 1: my body and she's spraying it right now, and I'm

763
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,239
Speaker 1: going to emerge like I want hurt it, Like I

764
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: don't want her to get distracted by my words, and

765
00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:41,399
Speaker 1: like forget to do a leg right, You're like, I'm

766
00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: gonna end up with like one white leg right. Um.

767
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:48,560
Speaker 1: Getting your nails done both similar to my Yeah, no,

768
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:55,560
Speaker 1: I probably don't talk as much for whatever reason, but

769
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 1: you have like a nail person. I tend to like

770
00:36:57,680 --> 00:36:59,760
Speaker 1: sometimes I'll just walk into a place because I Also,

771
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 1: it was another thing I had mentioned. I don't like

772
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: paying for them because I can paint my own nails

773
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:05,799
Speaker 1: when I actually take the time to do it. I'm

774
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 1: really bad about that because I always mess up my nails.

775
00:37:08,080 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 1: So I hate paying for it because then like two

776
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 1: days later, I end up messing them up. Right, I'm

777
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:13,879
Speaker 1: like the worst about that. So I don't really have

778
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:16,000
Speaker 1: someone I go to regular and maybe that's why I

779
00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:17,960
Speaker 1: feel like it's awkward because I'll go into this random

780
00:37:18,000 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 1: stranger and I'm just sitting there quietly. Oh, they're like

781
00:37:21,000 --> 00:37:22,680
Speaker 1: working on my nails and you can't like get on

782
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:24,520
Speaker 1: your phone or do anything, like you're just sitting there,

783
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: like looking at your nails. My friend Kaya introduced me

784
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 1: to this girl, Kate that does nails in town and

785
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 1: she does like the nail art. Oh, it's so fun.

786
00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:35,640
Speaker 1: It's so similar to you. I go through phases or

787
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:37,360
Speaker 1: I'm like, why am I paying to have my nailstone?

788
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:39,080
Speaker 1: I can just paint them myself. So I'll go for

789
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 1: a little bit like that, and then if we have

790
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 1: a big work event or something come up, then I'll

791
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 1: get with Kate and like she'll do something fun, and

792
00:37:44,719 --> 00:37:46,680
Speaker 1: then I'll be like, oh, this is so Like I

793
00:37:46,719 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: just feel like a new person a night. This is

794
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:51,719
Speaker 1: so great. I love it. And then there's nothing that

795
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 1: makes you feel better right, Like this is a great

796
00:37:54,040 --> 00:37:55,839
Speaker 1: thing and I wish I could do it all the time,

797
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 1: but for whatever reason, I just can't say. I'm kind

798
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 1: of in and out and sometimes I'm so bad at

799
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:02,279
Speaker 1: so like I'll text Kane, I'll be like, can you

800
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 1: do my nails like tomorrow because I forget, And then

801
00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 1: she's obviously busy, and I don't want to disrespect the

802
00:38:07,520 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 1: fact that she has a lot going on, and so

803
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 1: I've tried to get better at that. Like looking at

804
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:14,919
Speaker 1: the calendar and if I have something where I would

805
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:17,000
Speaker 1: want fun nails, then I try to book it. If not,

806
00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: then I kind of just paint them myself. Yes, sometimes

807
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:21,920
Speaker 1: that last minute paint yourself. You're like, hey, I'm pretty

808
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:23,480
Speaker 1: proud of myself. I did that. I did a paint

809
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:26,920
Speaker 1: job on my Yeah. Sitting in an uber, do you

810
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:29,839
Speaker 1: talk to the not really? No? Yeah? Same, I tend

811
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:32,399
Speaker 1: to sit quietly in the back. Yeah, And I don't

812
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 1: have a bad rating, So I'm assuming most of them

813
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 1: might enjoy that. I'm not sure. I just never can tell.

814
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:40,880
Speaker 1: And I think I've had a couple of awkward experiences

815
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:44,200
Speaker 1: where I'm like, you know what, I'm just gonna sit

816
00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:47,880
Speaker 1: back and relax and enjoy the ride. I also don't know,

817
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 1: I don't know if you've ever done this. I think

818
00:38:49,480 --> 00:38:51,879
Speaker 1: I've maybe done it, like one time in my life

819
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,000
Speaker 1: when I'm like waiting for people, but like sitting up

820
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 1: at a bar by yourself, do you feel like you

821
00:38:55,719 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: have to talk to the bartender? And have you ever

822
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 1: done that? I don't feel like I have to talk

823
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:03,000
Speaker 1: to them and I'm not sure that I've ever done that. Yeah,

824
00:39:03,080 --> 00:39:06,239
Speaker 1: it depends on I can't. I haven't. I mean, I'm

825
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:09,120
Speaker 1: not opposed to going anywhere and sitting alone at a bar.

826
00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: But it's been a minute, it's I've done it. I know. Well,

827
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:13,799
Speaker 1: it doesn't happen very often because most of the time

828
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:15,439
Speaker 1: when you get out too, as you get older, you're

829
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 1: kind of engaging with the people in your life, like

830
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 1: those are the times that you get out right. So

831
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 1: I think it happened to me more often in college

832
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 1: when I'd be waiting for people and I'd just be

833
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:27,720
Speaker 1: sitting at the bar waiting. But I was like thinking

834
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:30,280
Speaker 1: about that and too. Working at like Buffalo Old Wings,

835
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 1: we always had so many regulars come in and just

836
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:34,319
Speaker 1: sit at the bar, and I'm like, dang, do they

837
00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 1: just like come to talk to the bartender or do

838
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:37,840
Speaker 1: they just come because they like the environment, Because I

839
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 1: was always so curious about that. I feel like something

840
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 1: of some people or creatures of habit and they like

841
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 1: the environment and it's comforting to them to know that

842
00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 1: every Wednesday they have this is what their plan is.

843
00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:50,120
Speaker 1: My dad was like that, and he talked to everybody.

844
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:52,360
Speaker 1: I mean, he had his grocery stores. He had his restaurants,

845
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 1: He had his people, and he made friends with everybody,

846
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:57,879
Speaker 1: and he would sit at the bar and he would talk.

847
00:39:57,920 --> 00:40:00,200
Speaker 1: But I mean when he would go through phases of

848
00:40:00,239 --> 00:40:02,359
Speaker 1: being hooked at certain restaurants, like he loved to go

849
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 1: and get that appetizer or that meal. But he was

850
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 1: a foodie, Like he was in the restaurant business for

851
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,480
Speaker 1: so many years that he had regular restaurants where it

852
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 1: was like, Yep, every Tuesday, there's cliff. I mean, he

853
00:40:12,520 --> 00:40:15,320
Speaker 1: would kind of rotate and move on and find different things.

854
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:18,839
Speaker 1: But he was very a creature of habit. When he

855
00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:22,319
Speaker 1: liked something, he liked it and not in an obsessive

856
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,520
Speaker 1: like OCD type way. Which if that's the case for

857
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:28,239
Speaker 1: you listening like that, that's your thing, that's totally fine too.

858
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 1: I'm not knocking that. But it was very He was

859
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 1: one of those people that probably would have been there

860
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:35,719
Speaker 1: Abovealo Wild Wings with you, I remember. I mean, my

861
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:37,960
Speaker 1: dad loved speaking of wings, he loved Hooters Wings though

862
00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 1: he always said they had the best. In high school,

863
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,000
Speaker 1: I was on a date with a guy and we

864
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:46,040
Speaker 1: were in Austin and there's a Hooters at the corner

865
00:40:46,080 --> 00:40:51,359
Speaker 1: of Barton Springs and Lamar or First Street maybe it's

866
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 1: part whatever whatever that intersection is. And there's a big

867
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:57,960
Speaker 1: glass window and like barstools like where you can like

868
00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 1: if you're sitting at those bar stools, you're facing the

869
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,759
Speaker 1: window and you can see the traffic. And I'm on

870
00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:05,879
Speaker 1: a date and we pull up to the red light

871
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:07,719
Speaker 1: and I look over in the window. I see my

872
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 1: dad and my stepmom at the time, and they were

873
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:13,400
Speaker 1: eating at Hooters. And I was like, oh, my gosh,

874
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:18,360
Speaker 1: there's my dad. That's hilarious. Did he see you? And

875
00:41:18,480 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 1: not that there's anything wrong with Hooters? But for me

876
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 1: in high school being a kid and your dad being

877
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:29,160
Speaker 1: at Hooters with his wife just you know, it's just

878
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 1: like all the high school guys they always want to

879
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 1: go to Hooters because what the girls were wearing. Yeah,

880
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 1: and then there's my dad. Did he see you? I

881
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:41,799
Speaker 1: mean yeah, we waved and then later I was like dad, honestly, Morgan,

882
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure his answer. He's like, well, you know,

883
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 1: we like to go to Hooters every Wednesday night or

884
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:47,880
Speaker 1: whatever it was. You know, have you ever been a

885
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: regular at a restaurant before? In Southern Pines when we

886
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:53,279
Speaker 1: lived in North Carolina. Okay, that season of life where

887
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: I was telling you, I think it was like the

888
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:57,439
Speaker 1: best years of our marriage. And that's because I think

889
00:41:57,760 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 1: we loved the little town we lived in. We lived

890
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 1: downtown Own. Now. My husband was stationed at Fort Bragg,

891
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 1: which is about thirty minutes away, but we didn't have

892
00:42:05,320 --> 00:42:07,840
Speaker 1: to live on base, so we opted to live in

893
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:12,920
Speaker 1: Southern Pines because it was this quaint horse golf community,

894
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:16,799
Speaker 1: a lot of retired people and military people. So so

895
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:21,600
Speaker 1: the military people were young. But our neighbors owned the

896
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:25,240
Speaker 1: nicest restaurant downtown and he was they the wife Mary

897
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 1: and she ran it, and the husband Warren. It was

898
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:33,319
Speaker 1: his restaurant. It was called Chef Warren's. And we went

899
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 1: there regularly. I mean, obviously we wanted to support them

900
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 1: and being the nicest restaurant in town. Sometimes we just

901
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 1: went from like got an appetizer and split it in

902
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:44,080
Speaker 1: like a drink and then that was it. Other times

903
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:46,439
Speaker 1: we would go for a full blown meal, but that's

904
00:42:46,520 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 1: we were there. We were regulars for sure, but it

905
00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:53,280
Speaker 1: was fun. It was like you know, like cheers wherever,

906
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:58,359
Speaker 1: but I know your name, good wish, Like more people

907
00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 1: had regular things I don't think it happens as often,

908
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:05,040
Speaker 1: Like the younger inneracial always glad you came. Like we

909
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:08,880
Speaker 1: would walk in and it would be like hugs, hey,

910
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:11,880
Speaker 1: yea create a community around food and having drinks and

911
00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:13,600
Speaker 1: that's a great time. Yeah, Like if I were to

912
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:15,319
Speaker 1: go back to Southern Pines right now and visit, I

913
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:17,279
Speaker 1: would go there and the exact same thing would happen

914
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:19,840
Speaker 1: and it would be like no time has passed, and

915
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: you know, that was a cool experience and people that

916
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 1: honestly ended up being like a huge part of Yeah,

917
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,359
Speaker 1: why we experienced the town the way that we did,

918
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:30,879
Speaker 1: and probably why that season of our life was such

919
00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 1: a blessing was because of the people that we met.

920
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 1: And like even my dad when we lived there, he

921
00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 1: was going through some hard stuff and he came to

922
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:39,719
Speaker 1: stay with us for a little bit. And because my

923
00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:42,160
Speaker 1: dad loved food and loved to cook, or Chef Warren

924
00:43:42,239 --> 00:43:44,440
Speaker 1: being like have your dad joined me in the kitchen

925
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:46,759
Speaker 1: and it was an open kitchen, open bars, like you

926
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:48,880
Speaker 1: could sit at the bar and you see the chefs working,

927
00:43:49,600 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 1: and it was cool, you know for us to go

928
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:53,560
Speaker 1: up there one night, my Dad's like in the kitchen

929
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:56,000
Speaker 1: with a towel over shoulder, like being his little suh

930
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 1: chef foreign and like that. But if we if we

931
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:02,280
Speaker 1: had invested in that relationship and we didn't go regularly,

932
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:04,880
Speaker 1: then I don't know that that would ever offered up

933
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:07,719
Speaker 1: that experience for my dad, which ended up being very therapeutic.

934
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 1: So you just never know what relationships will come from

935
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 1: something like that. Yeah, I think we need to at

936
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 1: least my like the younger side of the millennials, need

937
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:20,080
Speaker 1: to like make that a cool thing to go do

938
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:23,440
Speaker 1: and become a regular regulars. Yeah, a little restaurants. We

939
00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:26,479
Speaker 1: support restaurants in the community and then you like start

940
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 1: having new friends and stuff. I think that's fun. Yeah, well,

941
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 1: there you go. We started. We're trying to start a

942
00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 1: nutrient if it happens on TikTok Amy and I created

943
00:44:34,719 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 1: it credit at number four. This week we had the

944
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 1: Cadillac Threem, which was also an awesome performance. They performed

945
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:46,240
Speaker 1: two of their songs, one of them was White Lightning.

946
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 1: But they were talking about in the interview that they're

947
00:44:49,680 --> 00:44:51,839
Speaker 1: touring right now with Miranda Lambert in Little Big Town

948
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:54,359
Speaker 1: and some fun party stories that they're having a good

949
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 1: time on the road because how awesome would that be

950
00:44:56,760 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 1: to tour with them? Amy? If you were a when

951
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:03,400
Speaker 1: he enact, say you're a country artist, right, who would

952
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:05,360
Speaker 1: you want to tour with? Like? Who do you feel

953
00:45:05,360 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 1: like would be so epic to you? And you can

954
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 1: think about it, I'd be like, Okay, who would it

955
00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:11,719
Speaker 1: be like if you could choose two big artists, because

956
00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:14,000
Speaker 1: I think mine would be Eric Church and Kenney Chesney.

957
00:45:14,040 --> 00:45:15,959
Speaker 1: I feel like it would just be an epic good time,

958
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,680
Speaker 1: Like I'd be barefoot on a beach or like rolling

959
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,799
Speaker 1: in with my aviators and just having shots backstage with

960
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 1: both of them, and I feel like that would be

961
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:24,919
Speaker 1: so much fun all the time. Okay, well I'm going

962
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:28,040
Speaker 1: on tour with George straight in little big town right, Okay? Yeah,

963
00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 1: why would you choose them? Well? Because I feel like

964
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 1: with a little big town you get it's more the

965
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:35,400
Speaker 1: more the merrier. And I just adore Karen and Kimberly

966
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:37,799
Speaker 1: and I think that they would just be so much fun.

967
00:45:38,280 --> 00:45:40,799
Speaker 1: And then probably because I'm watching them on tour with

968
00:45:40,800 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: Miranda lay the Bandwagon tour that they're doing together, and

969
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:47,080
Speaker 1: like that just looks like so much fun. They always

970
00:45:47,160 --> 00:45:52,359
Speaker 1: end do love me some Miranda Lambert. Obviously, George is

971
00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:55,799
Speaker 1: my favorite artist of all time, and so if I

972
00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 1: could be on tour with him, obviously, do you think

973
00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:02,399
Speaker 1: he's like coming in tour, like performing and then going

974
00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:04,040
Speaker 1: off stage or do you think he's like hanging out

975
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:07,400
Speaker 1: backstage and stuff. Well, since this is all hypothetical and

976
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: a fantasy, he's hanging out okay, drinking tim tequila maybe, yeah,

977
00:46:11,680 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 1: but he's probably at a point in his career where

978
00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 1: he just like gets off stage, hands his guitar to

979
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:18,080
Speaker 1: someone and then gets in his car and goes Yes,

980
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:20,879
Speaker 1: So hypothetically it would be a really cool. Oh yeah,

981
00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 1: Hypothetically we're all hanging out, We're chilling, having a good time.

982
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 1: You're gonna be a George try in a little big town.

983
00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:26,879
Speaker 1: I'll be with Airic Church and Kenny Chesney and I'll

984
00:46:26,920 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 1: be great, so great. And then if the tour is collided,

985
00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:32,000
Speaker 1: that also would be awesome. Perfect in a stadium. Yeah,

986
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 1: we're all at the same festival. Yes, I hurt country festival.

987
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:38,919
Speaker 1: And do you have any jams right now that you're

988
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:42,160
Speaker 1: you're really getting to on music? Could be country, could

989
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:47,800
Speaker 1: be anything. Gosh, I'm old Dominion has a song right now.

990
00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:52,919
Speaker 1: I can't think of the name pulling it up. It's

991
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 1: so good? Is it from their recent album? Yes, it's new,

992
00:46:56,920 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 1: it's a new song. Oh no, no, Ota make it sweet.

993
00:47:01,680 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 1: That's old sailing band. Never be sorry. I don't know.

994
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:07,759
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be able to think of it of

995
00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:11,919
Speaker 1: course on the spot. I know, I know that we

996
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:16,439
Speaker 1: um are in radio and we're supposed to know like

997
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 1: all the things. But I've been not listening to too

998
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 1: much music lately at all. I also am a big

999
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:25,759
Speaker 1: fan of Morgan Wade, which I know Bobby loves, and

1000
00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:28,919
Speaker 1: I really love the song Wilder Days. Oh. I love

1001
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:32,879
Speaker 1: Ingrid Andrews's new song with Sam Hunt. Y have you

1002
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:36,080
Speaker 1: heard her new song? Um? I think it's called someone

1003
00:47:36,280 --> 00:47:39,480
Speaker 1: m hold on. That's an amazing one too. If you

1004
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 1: like Ingrid. Oh she is so seeing someone else new song. Okay,

1005
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 1: I'll have to check that one out. I probably have

1006
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:51,960
Speaker 1: heard it. But then it's just more like I music.

1007
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:54,799
Speaker 1: I need like hints and clues and they'll be oh yeah, yeah, yeah,

1008
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:57,160
Speaker 1: that's it. Like things just don't naturally, Like when we

1009
00:47:57,200 --> 00:48:00,800
Speaker 1: play music shows on the or music games on the show.

1010
00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:03,080
Speaker 1: I'm always like, shoot, But then the minute Bobby gives

1011
00:48:03,080 --> 00:48:04,799
Speaker 1: a hint or he plays a little clip, I'm like

1012
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:07,400
Speaker 1: it all comes flooding back to me. So I'm not

1013
00:48:07,440 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 1: the best person to be put on the spot with music.

1014
00:48:10,040 --> 00:48:13,719
Speaker 1: But if I had to just say right now, it's

1015
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:20,000
Speaker 1: whatever that old Dominion song, Morgan Wade's Ingrid Andress, and

1016
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 1: there's I mean Marion Morris circles around this town. I

1017
00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 1: really like anything maren Um does. I'm looking forward to

1018
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:31,479
Speaker 1: Ryan heard song pass It On like gaining momentum because

1019
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:34,600
Speaker 1: I feel like that song is so fun and so good.

1020
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:39,799
Speaker 1: When Marin and Hardy and h Ryan came and performed that,

1021
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:42,479
Speaker 1: I just was like, Okay, this song is so good.

1022
00:48:42,520 --> 00:48:45,080
Speaker 1: And then speaking of Hardy, I mean Dirk's and Brelan

1023
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:49,279
Speaker 1: and Hardy like beers. That song grew on me like

1024
00:48:49,440 --> 00:48:53,239
Speaker 1: no other. Listen if you're a Brilin fan, like I've

1025
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:55,600
Speaker 1: been on that ever since he like kind of started

1026
00:48:55,600 --> 00:48:58,239
Speaker 1: to really come up. There's so many songs in his

1027
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,919
Speaker 1: catalog that I'm obsessed with. Like, there's a funny song

1028
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:03,880
Speaker 1: like that just puts me in a good vibe. It's

1029
00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:06,719
Speaker 1: called Hot Sauce from Breland. If you just want like

1030
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:09,479
Speaker 1: a song to make you smile and like feel good.

1031
00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 1: Listen to Hot Sauce by Brelan, Okay, it's like if

1032
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:14,080
Speaker 1: you like the beers on me, you're gonna love that vibe.

1033
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:16,600
Speaker 1: Brylan's definitely a cool one coming up, for sure, But

1034
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:19,360
Speaker 1: those are some good ones Old Dominion, Marion Morris, Ingrid

1035
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:25,480
Speaker 1: and Ryan Heard. Yeah. I mean there's once I get rolling,

1036
00:49:25,520 --> 00:49:28,839
Speaker 1: I could probably start rattling off even more. Um. But

1037
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:31,080
Speaker 1: you know, for me, sometimes it goes in waves where

1038
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:33,319
Speaker 1: I'm like really feeling whatever's on the radio, and I'm

1039
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:35,719
Speaker 1: into it because that's my main I My main source

1040
00:49:35,800 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 1: of music is the radio. And I'm old school like guys.

1041
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:46,680
Speaker 1: I um but I again, because I've been listening to

1042
00:49:46,719 --> 00:49:51,799
Speaker 1: other things like parenting podcasts and stuff like that, I

1043
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 1: haven't been as dialed in. And of course on the

1044
00:49:53,280 --> 00:49:55,200
Speaker 1: Bobby Bones Show, when music is playing, that's when we

1045
00:49:55,239 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 1: get to use the bathroom. That's our break time, or

1046
00:49:57,719 --> 00:50:00,600
Speaker 1: that's when we're you know, recording things for other markets,

1047
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:02,880
Speaker 1: are doing things like we're constantly We're not just sitting

1048
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:04,919
Speaker 1: there like jamming out. Yeah, as much as we wish

1049
00:50:04,920 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 1: that's what we were doing, and zaba we're doing I'll

1050
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:09,319
Speaker 1: give you, I'll give you some of mine because I am.

1051
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:11,479
Speaker 1: I'm really good about listening to new music. I also

1052
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:14,799
Speaker 1: do like a first Listen Friday thing on iheartradios like

1053
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:18,920
Speaker 1: Twitter spaces, so I'm constantly listening to different genres of

1054
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:22,680
Speaker 1: new music too. And so someone who I've been obsessed

1055
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:24,360
Speaker 1: with for a while is Dermot Kennedy. He has a

1056
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:27,640
Speaker 1: song right now that's called something to Someone jam. Everything

1057
00:50:27,640 --> 00:50:29,480
Speaker 1: he puts out as a jam, but that one's really good.

1058
00:50:29,840 --> 00:50:33,080
Speaker 1: The Pitbull Zach Brown collab Can't Stop Us Now is

1059
00:50:33,120 --> 00:50:36,880
Speaker 1: also one of my jams. Didn't expect like I heard it,

1060
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, this is good. Did not expect

1061
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:40,000
Speaker 1: that I would love it the way that I do.

1062
00:50:40,120 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 1: I work out to it often nice, So if you

1063
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 1: need like a workout song like this, I have this

1064
00:50:44,920 --> 00:50:47,480
Speaker 1: whole playlist. It's like just good music that I listen to.

1065
00:50:47,560 --> 00:50:49,320
Speaker 1: It just puts me in like a good vibe. Anytime

1066
00:50:49,360 --> 00:50:52,640
Speaker 1: I put it on. It's like it's all happy songs

1067
00:50:52,760 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 1: or like relatable songs. It makes me feel really good.

1068
00:50:55,520 --> 00:50:57,359
Speaker 1: And that's where all of these are. And then there's

1069
00:50:57,400 --> 00:50:59,120
Speaker 1: something else. I was looking for it, but I can't

1070
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:00,960
Speaker 1: find it out While they're is on this by the way,

1071
00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 1: in Your Morning Song. But Patrick Drone is another one

1072
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:08,800
Speaker 1: of my really big favorites. And Andy Grammer, you guys,

1073
00:51:08,800 --> 00:51:10,400
Speaker 1: hem we talk about Andy Grammer before, but he has

1074
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:11,920
Speaker 1: a song called Joy. So if you just want a

1075
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:15,400
Speaker 1: song about Joy, great song. But yeah, then Patrick Drony.

1076
00:51:15,520 --> 00:51:17,279
Speaker 1: So we just gave you a playlist of at least

1077
00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:19,920
Speaker 1: ten different artists to put together for like good Vibes

1078
00:51:19,960 --> 00:51:22,560
Speaker 1: this weekend. Yeah, so I think those are some, but

1079
00:51:22,640 --> 00:51:24,600
Speaker 1: yeah you should. I think you would really like something

1080
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:27,680
Speaker 1: to someone by Dermot Kennedy. Okay, they're great, want that

1081
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:31,520
Speaker 1: one out. I am enjoying obviously fancy like still a jam,

1082
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:34,759
Speaker 1: but AA has screwed like that one gets in my

1083
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 1: head like and Walker is actually on my four Things

1084
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 1: podcast this week. Walker Hayes and we in our in

1085
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:44,000
Speaker 1: the episode in the interview at the and we do

1086
00:51:44,040 --> 00:51:45,920
Speaker 1: a little sing along with that. Oh I love that

1087
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 1: because there's a line in the song speaking of like

1088
00:51:48,640 --> 00:51:51,160
Speaker 1: playing songs on the radio. He's in writing songs forever,

1089
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:53,320
Speaker 1: and he's like just trying to rude a song that

1090
00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:57,239
Speaker 1: the local country station I'll play. I'm just trying to

1091
00:51:57,360 --> 00:52:01,520
Speaker 1: stay out of AA. And I hear that line. I

1092
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:03,960
Speaker 1: was telling him in our interview. I said, I get

1093
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:06,920
Speaker 1: goosebumps for him because I'm like, listen, you're singing about

1094
00:52:06,960 --> 00:52:08,839
Speaker 1: how you've been like grinded it out, trying to write

1095
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 1: songs that you'll just will anybody play? Well, the radio station,

1096
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:16,279
Speaker 1: please play it. And and I'm listening to it on

1097
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:19,240
Speaker 1: the local radio station here in Nashville and like, shout

1098
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:21,359
Speaker 1: out VIG ninety eight. And I get goosebumps for him

1099
00:52:21,400 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 1: because I'm like, and he's playing on local radio stations

1100
00:52:23,680 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 1: across the country, and so that line just gets me

1101
00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:29,160
Speaker 1: every time. And so we did a little sing along

1102
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:31,960
Speaker 1: on that. Oh man, Okay, definitely, I gotta check that out.

1103
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 1: Don't miss that. This one was not only fun to

1104
00:52:35,080 --> 00:52:37,600
Speaker 1: hear on the radio, but visually also super cool. So

1105
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:42,520
Speaker 1: I got a blindfolded smell test. We decided to see

1106
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:46,560
Speaker 1: where my nose actually sits post COVID from August, because

1107
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:49,279
Speaker 1: I haven't had my smell basically since August. I've been

1108
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:52,040
Speaker 1: getting whiffs of things, but we really tested it out.

1109
00:52:52,120 --> 00:52:54,480
Speaker 1: My hair almost caught on fire. It was the whole

1110
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:59,719
Speaker 1: thing that happened. But I'm really excited about something that

1111
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:01,640
Speaker 1: just happened because I do. Even though I don't have

1112
00:53:01,719 --> 00:53:05,359
Speaker 1: my smell amy, I have my taste for the most part.

1113
00:53:05,400 --> 00:53:07,319
Speaker 1: I think thanks could be tasting wrong and I would

1114
00:53:07,320 --> 00:53:11,759
Speaker 1: have no idea. But I'm so freaking excited. I ordered it.

1115
00:53:12,120 --> 00:53:15,440
Speaker 1: Mexican pizza. Taco Bella is back. Oh I love Mexican

1116
00:53:15,440 --> 00:53:18,520
Speaker 1: pizza from back and like on. So it came back

1117
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:21,840
Speaker 1: officially on Thursday, but somebody posted about it on Tuesday

1118
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:23,880
Speaker 1: and I found out that you could go on the

1119
00:53:23,920 --> 00:53:25,839
Speaker 1: app and order it early. I did it, like right away.

1120
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:27,799
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm getting this Mexican pizza. It was

1121
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:30,360
Speaker 1: the happiest day I think I've had in a hot minute.

1122
00:53:30,440 --> 00:53:32,919
Speaker 1: It made me that happy. Oh, it is so good.

1123
00:53:32,960 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 1: Fun fact, my mom worked for Taco bell growing up. Well,

1124
00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:38,760
Speaker 1: full story is, she worked at the main office for

1125
00:53:39,000 --> 00:53:42,279
Speaker 1: my sister's husband. She ended up marrying him, but at

1126
00:53:42,280 --> 00:53:44,080
Speaker 1: the time we were kids, so they were not married.

1127
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:47,440
Speaker 1: But all of our families were friends. And my sister's

1128
00:53:48,040 --> 00:53:52,520
Speaker 1: husband's dad owned seventy five Taco bells. Oh my god,

1129
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:57,160
Speaker 1: and my mom was his executive assistant. That's amazing. At

1130
00:53:57,160 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 1: their corporate office, like they're in Austin and there it

1131
00:54:01,239 --> 00:54:04,080
Speaker 1: was called ost Taco, and so my mom had this

1132
00:54:04,120 --> 00:54:06,799
Speaker 1: little ID card and we got fifty percent off Taco Bell.

1133
00:54:07,080 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 1: I'm so jealous of, Like a bean burrito was like

1134
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:11,080
Speaker 1: forty cents. All the things I give be jealous of

1135
00:54:11,640 --> 00:54:15,200
Speaker 1: the thing. I know. We had so much Taco Bell, Morgan,

1136
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:17,560
Speaker 1: you would have died. Oh my god, I love it. Listen.

1137
00:54:17,640 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 1: We always get asked you on the show. People are

1138
00:54:19,160 --> 00:54:20,560
Speaker 1: like if the show ends, like, what would you do?

1139
00:54:20,719 --> 00:54:23,479
Speaker 1: And I'm like, you know, I don't think I would

1140
00:54:23,480 --> 00:54:25,400
Speaker 1: put it against me to try and find a corporate

1141
00:54:25,440 --> 00:54:28,080
Speaker 1: job at Taco Bell, Like did some marketing digital media

1142
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:31,040
Speaker 1: for Bell, right the main I mean, because yeah he

1143
00:54:31,120 --> 00:54:33,920
Speaker 1: was a franchise z but the main PEPSI owns at

1144
00:54:33,960 --> 00:54:35,800
Speaker 1: least it at the time. But I think like Pepsi,

1145
00:54:35,880 --> 00:54:39,759
Speaker 1: they owned Pepsi, Taco Bell KPSI Yum, it's a yum brand. Yes,

1146
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:41,840
Speaker 1: I'm like I would totally go all in on that.

1147
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:45,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, yes, I could totally do the Tacoboll thing. Yeah,

1148
00:54:45,200 --> 00:54:47,239
Speaker 1: that would be my other job. But so it was

1149
00:54:47,280 --> 00:54:50,480
Speaker 1: just more of a also a public service announcement because

1150
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:53,040
Speaker 1: I know everybody's been waiting for this moment. But that's

1151
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 1: legit Mexican pizzas so good. Actually, now that I think

1152
00:54:57,200 --> 00:55:01,960
Speaker 1: about it, it's probably one. It's might be my favorite

1153
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:04,000
Speaker 1: Taco Bell item. But I don't know. Bean burrito, no

1154
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:06,360
Speaker 1: onions and sour cream pretty good? Oh that is that

1155
00:55:06,400 --> 00:55:08,560
Speaker 1: does sound pretty good? Does it have meat on it? No?

1156
00:55:08,840 --> 00:55:12,040
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, bean burritos. So it's beans, cheese, onions. But

1157
00:55:12,120 --> 00:55:13,520
Speaker 1: you have to ask for the sour cream, and then

1158
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:15,279
Speaker 1: you have to say no onions. Okay, so I don't

1159
00:55:15,280 --> 00:55:18,000
Speaker 1: want the onions are a little they're like square and cruntry.

1160
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:22,440
Speaker 1: But have you tried the cheesy Fiesta potatoes? Do you

1161
00:55:22,480 --> 00:55:25,440
Speaker 1: like potatoes? Did they have those in the nineties when

1162
00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:28,799
Speaker 1: I was eating there the most, Remember that's when I

1163
00:55:28,840 --> 00:55:31,920
Speaker 1: got it for half off. So well, if you go

1164
00:55:32,320 --> 00:55:34,560
Speaker 1: and you do get a Mexican pizza, then you also

1165
00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:36,920
Speaker 1: need to get some cheesy Fiesta potatoes. Okay, I'll have

1166
00:55:36,920 --> 00:55:39,080
Speaker 1: to try those. We you know, I go occasionally with

1167
00:55:39,120 --> 00:55:42,440
Speaker 1: the kids and I get um pintos and cheese like

1168
00:55:42,520 --> 00:55:45,319
Speaker 1: I love that. That's then you'll, yeah, you'll love cheesy there.

1169
00:55:45,360 --> 00:55:47,719
Speaker 1: They come in a little bowl. It's potatoes and their

1170
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:51,520
Speaker 1: cheese and sour cream. Oh and sour cream isn't a jam? Yes,

1171
00:55:51,800 --> 00:55:53,840
Speaker 1: Like that's low key a great like I don't know

1172
00:55:53,880 --> 00:55:55,840
Speaker 1: what you call that condo. You forget about it, and

1173
00:55:55,960 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 1: in fact, I forgot about it for years because I

1174
00:55:57,760 --> 00:56:00,239
Speaker 1: didn't allow dairy. And thank goodness the beauty about being

1175
00:56:00,239 --> 00:56:02,680
Speaker 1: an eating disort of recovery because I don't have a

1176
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 1: dairy intolerance. You can eat it. I can eat it,

1177
00:56:06,120 --> 00:56:10,200
Speaker 1: and it brings me joy. I love that you need

1178
00:56:10,320 --> 00:56:13,080
Speaker 1: these cheesy fiesta potatoes dan a Mexican pizza in your life.

1179
00:56:13,080 --> 00:56:15,040
Speaker 1: I eat them. I'm going to go so a little

1180
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:17,520
Speaker 1: little psa for all my other talk about because everybody's

1181
00:56:17,520 --> 00:56:19,440
Speaker 1: been tagging me in it too, because everybod that's so funny.

1182
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:22,120
Speaker 1: I love it. But too, I want to know, so

1183
00:56:23,239 --> 00:56:26,759
Speaker 1: you know, an inconvenience about yourself. This is like, in

1184
00:56:26,800 --> 00:56:29,040
Speaker 1: a way, just kind of looking at you for me,

1185
00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:32,359
Speaker 1: like being a vegetarian whenever I go somewhere, if it's

1186
00:56:32,400 --> 00:56:36,960
Speaker 1: a barbecue or a wedding, like, I feel inconveniencing to

1187
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:41,120
Speaker 1: myself because I always have to be accommodated, right, So

1188
00:56:41,520 --> 00:56:43,480
Speaker 1: I want to know what the thing for you is

1189
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:45,880
Speaker 1: like if you had to choose an inconvenience about yourself

1190
00:56:45,880 --> 00:56:48,120
Speaker 1: that you're like, I wish that could change, but I can't.

1191
00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:51,759
Speaker 1: Do you have one, gosh, I mean, it probably would

1192
00:56:51,800 --> 00:56:56,920
Speaker 1: have been my struggle with being ready on time. Like

1193
00:56:57,000 --> 00:56:59,719
Speaker 1: work wise, I'm not late. I show up obviously, if

1194
00:56:59,719 --> 00:57:01,719
Speaker 1: you're to the Bobby Punch show, you get sent home,

1195
00:57:02,360 --> 00:57:05,600
Speaker 1: so that is not a problem. But probably just getting

1196
00:57:05,600 --> 00:57:07,759
Speaker 1: ready on a personal level for things or like if

1197
00:57:07,760 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 1: I'm going to dinner like that, especially because my husband

1198
00:57:12,640 --> 00:57:18,720
Speaker 1: is such a stickler for time, that is annoying. I know.

1199
00:57:18,760 --> 00:57:20,840
Speaker 1: It's an interesting to like thing to look about yourself

1200
00:57:20,880 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 1: because I wouldn't change it. I love I love being vegetarian,

1201
00:57:23,680 --> 00:57:26,000
Speaker 1: and it's fine, but I just I never think about

1202
00:57:26,040 --> 00:57:28,440
Speaker 1: it until I'm in certain situations and I'm like, oh,

1203
00:57:28,440 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 1: it's kind of inconveniency, right, But I mean, I it

1204
00:57:31,160 --> 00:57:35,680
Speaker 1: is inconvenient that like I don't always really care about time, yeah,

1205
00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:39,760
Speaker 1: and that's not I can't get there when I get there, yeah,

1206
00:57:39,800 --> 00:57:43,439
Speaker 1: and that but that's something honestly I've been working on.

1207
00:57:44,880 --> 00:57:47,320
Speaker 1: But sometimes I don't want to get my hair wet,

1208
00:57:47,600 --> 00:57:49,760
Speaker 1: and that sounds weird, but like when you've got kids

1209
00:57:49,800 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 1: and they want to maybe swim or do something, or

1210
00:57:53,680 --> 00:57:56,400
Speaker 1: maybe there's a hike and I'm like, oh, got to

1211
00:57:56,440 --> 00:57:58,360
Speaker 1: think through like how sweaty is I gonna make my hair?

1212
00:57:58,360 --> 00:58:02,240
Speaker 1: And do I have dry shampoo? And because it's I can't.

1213
00:58:02,360 --> 00:58:05,640
Speaker 1: Some people, you know, can wash their hair and just

1214
00:58:05,720 --> 00:58:08,280
Speaker 1: air dry and like nothing like it's you know, or

1215
00:58:08,360 --> 00:58:10,360
Speaker 1: like guys they don't have to think about that. And

1216
00:58:10,400 --> 00:58:14,360
Speaker 1: then me, it's like, okay, so this sounds really ridiculous,

1217
00:58:14,480 --> 00:58:16,520
Speaker 1: but it's also something that's annoying that I have to

1218
00:58:16,520 --> 00:58:18,280
Speaker 1: think through and I'm trying not to love that waiting

1219
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:19,720
Speaker 1: where it's like, Okay, screw whatever. If I have to

1220
00:58:19,760 --> 00:58:22,160
Speaker 1: wash my hair, big deal. No. I sometimes I literally

1221
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:23,720
Speaker 1: make decisions based on whether or not I have to

1222
00:58:23,760 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 1: wash my hair. I think that's very fair, and I

1223
00:58:25,400 --> 00:58:26,960
Speaker 1: think there's a lot of women that relate to that.

1224
00:58:27,040 --> 00:58:28,920
Speaker 1: I know I do because I hate getting my hair

1225
00:58:28,960 --> 00:58:31,120
Speaker 1: wet or if I'm like, DAMG, I'm gonna have to

1226
00:58:31,120 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 1: wash my hair now, it does not make me happy,

1227
00:58:33,480 --> 00:58:36,240
Speaker 1: Like that's not something that makes me feel good. So

1228
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:38,960
Speaker 1: there you go. There's two for me. Hair and time.

1229
00:58:39,360 --> 00:58:41,960
Speaker 1: I love it, and I think that was a great one.

1230
00:58:42,080 --> 00:58:44,280
Speaker 1: So we got we got hair time and being vegetarian.

1231
00:58:44,320 --> 00:58:47,000
Speaker 1: That's what we got working with over year. But I

1232
00:58:47,040 --> 00:58:49,240
Speaker 1: do also too want to talk about because coming in

1233
00:58:49,320 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 1: at number two, Bobby received his honorary doctorate. It could

1234
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:56,080
Speaker 1: go at number one super easily too. But you guys

1235
00:58:56,120 --> 00:59:00,080
Speaker 1: also engaged with the number one, like hardcore online of

1236
00:59:00,240 --> 00:59:03,080
Speaker 1: that one, so they basically are at the same I

1237
00:59:03,120 --> 00:59:05,640
Speaker 1: know Lunchbox likes to take into account the numbers on

1238
00:59:05,680 --> 00:59:10,160
Speaker 1: this Best Bits podcast, but don't they're all great? Do

1239
00:59:10,200 --> 00:59:13,600
Speaker 1: you you have you know, Bobby had this super awesome moment.

1240
00:59:13,680 --> 00:59:16,000
Speaker 1: He's named it one of the top three coolest moments

1241
00:59:16,000 --> 00:59:17,560
Speaker 1: of his life. But do you have anything coming up

1242
00:59:17,560 --> 00:59:19,680
Speaker 1: that you're super excited for? Well, I mean I just

1243
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:22,360
Speaker 1: filmed that movie, yes, so when that comes out the

1244
00:59:22,400 --> 00:59:26,040
Speaker 1: holiday season, it's very exciting. It's a Christmas movie that's

1245
00:59:26,040 --> 00:59:28,520
Speaker 1: going to stream on HBO Max. And I would say

1246
00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:31,080
Speaker 1: filming it is one of the top coolest things I've

1247
00:59:31,120 --> 00:59:33,160
Speaker 1: ever done in my career. And I loved every second

1248
00:59:33,160 --> 00:59:35,640
Speaker 1: of it and it was so amazing. And I was

1249
00:59:35,680 --> 00:59:38,280
Speaker 1: on set for about fourteen hours, so it was anne

1250
00:59:39,000 --> 00:59:41,600
Speaker 1: you know, then had show prep for the Bobby Bones

1251
00:59:41,600 --> 00:59:43,320
Speaker 1: Show and was still doing the show from there, and

1252
00:59:43,360 --> 00:59:49,080
Speaker 1: so it was a wild day but amazing. Oh I'm

1253
00:59:49,160 --> 00:59:51,959
Speaker 1: so excited to see you in it. I'm very, very

1254
00:59:52,400 --> 00:59:55,960
Speaker 1: very excited. I'm not excited to watch myself because I

1255
00:59:55,960 --> 00:59:58,320
Speaker 1: feel like I'm just going to cringe. I don't have

1256
00:59:58,360 --> 01:00:01,240
Speaker 1: acting experience, so honestly, I don't even know how my

1257
01:00:01,280 --> 01:00:04,360
Speaker 1: scene translated. But I guess they were happy enough with

1258
01:00:04,360 --> 01:00:07,000
Speaker 1: it to where they're like, okay, scene. Well, that means

1259
01:00:07,040 --> 01:00:09,480
Speaker 1: that they probably thought to look genuine though, which is

1260
01:00:09,480 --> 01:00:12,000
Speaker 1: all you can ask for an act. I know. I

1261
01:00:12,040 --> 01:00:14,120
Speaker 1: think they were like, well, this is probably the best

1262
01:00:14,120 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 1: we're going to get out of the radio girl, but

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01:00:16,960 --> 01:00:20,240
Speaker 1: not true. I will see I think, you know. I

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01:00:20,280 --> 01:00:23,200
Speaker 1: was talking to my friend Gracie yesterday. We're on a

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01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:28,680
Speaker 1: walk and we're talking about, yeah, having like a you know,

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01:00:28,800 --> 01:00:32,760
Speaker 1: a viewing party or ye shall Yeah, we should absolutely

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01:00:32,760 --> 01:00:35,600
Speaker 1: do that. We should. But then I feel like it's

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01:00:35,600 --> 01:00:37,640
Speaker 1: time for my scene. I'm gonna need a blanket and

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01:00:37,680 --> 01:00:40,400
Speaker 1: I'm gonna want to crawl under it and just be like, oh, yes,

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01:00:40,480 --> 01:00:42,840
Speaker 1: but you can tell me itself, tell me when it's over.

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Speaker 1: You can do that. Everybody else can shure you on. Okay, Well,

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01:00:45,800 --> 01:00:48,120
Speaker 1: I appreciate it that the cheers because I feel like

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01:00:48,160 --> 01:00:50,880
Speaker 1: also too, friends might be like, oh gosh, oh gosh,

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01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:53,320
Speaker 1: oh gosh. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, no, I think the

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01:00:53,360 --> 01:00:55,360
Speaker 1: only person if anybody, ever does that. And this is

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01:00:55,360 --> 01:00:57,720
Speaker 1: what I've learned because you're very close to your sister too.

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01:00:57,720 --> 01:01:00,440
Speaker 1: I have three, all their sisters. One of them has

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01:01:00,440 --> 01:01:03,200
Speaker 1: always been great about always being honest with me about everything.

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01:01:03,240 --> 01:01:05,680
Speaker 1: She keeps me very humble, and I'm sure your sister

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01:01:05,760 --> 01:01:07,760
Speaker 1: does the same for you. Yeah, and you do that

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01:01:07,800 --> 01:01:09,720
Speaker 1: for each other and just like bringing you back down

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01:01:09,720 --> 01:01:12,760
Speaker 1: to earth, right. Yeah, my sister ben not go too

1283
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:16,800
Speaker 1: hard or I'll slam her for her building roots episodes,

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01:01:17,560 --> 01:01:20,120
Speaker 1: but I think she would give you an honest review.

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01:01:20,160 --> 01:01:23,160
Speaker 1: That's nice but honest. So I think you're gonna have

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01:01:23,200 --> 01:01:25,200
Speaker 1: that regardless if you have a while. We don't worry.

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01:01:25,240 --> 01:01:27,600
Speaker 1: My kids will keep it straight. Yeah, well they do

1288
01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:30,640
Speaker 1: not sugarcoat things at all whatsoever. But how cool would

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01:01:30,680 --> 01:01:32,479
Speaker 1: be if you're like kids. Your kids are gonna see

1290
01:01:32,480 --> 01:01:34,160
Speaker 1: this first of all, like Mom's going to be on

1291
01:01:34,240 --> 01:01:37,160
Speaker 1: TV in a moment. They don't care, but yeah, that's

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01:01:37,160 --> 01:01:39,040
Speaker 1: what you think. Until it happens, they're like Mom was

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01:01:39,080 --> 01:01:41,040
Speaker 1: on TV. And then what if they're like I can

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01:01:41,080 --> 01:01:43,000
Speaker 1: just hear them both being like, Mom, that was pretty good.

1295
01:01:43,840 --> 01:01:45,920
Speaker 1: How cool would that be? Okay, that'll be really special?

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01:01:45,960 --> 01:01:48,320
Speaker 1: Yeah right, yeah, okay, I'm picturing it now. I think

1297
01:01:48,480 --> 01:01:50,440
Speaker 1: you just got to manifest that. You gotta just like

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01:01:50,480 --> 01:01:52,320
Speaker 1: put that out right, which I manifest it being in

1299
01:01:52,320 --> 01:01:56,920
Speaker 1: the movie exactly, so now you have to manifest the reaction. Yeah,

1300
01:01:57,000 --> 01:02:01,720
Speaker 1: it is wild. So I'm but I that's probably a

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01:02:01,800 --> 01:02:04,520
Speaker 1: huge career high from this year, which came at the

1302
01:02:04,600 --> 01:02:07,560
Speaker 1: right time. Like I was, you know, talking about it

1303
01:02:07,600 --> 01:02:09,600
Speaker 1: with someone the other day about how if that role

1304
01:02:09,680 --> 01:02:12,280
Speaker 1: had been offered to me in May of last year,

1305
01:02:12,320 --> 01:02:14,080
Speaker 1: I would have had to say no, I couldn't do it.

1306
01:02:14,160 --> 01:02:18,080
Speaker 1: I didn't have the capacity. There's no way, absolutely zero

1307
01:02:18,120 --> 01:02:20,720
Speaker 1: percent chance I could have gone and done it. And

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01:02:21,280 --> 01:02:24,880
Speaker 1: I just was like, thank goodness they came in twenty

1309
01:02:24,920 --> 01:02:28,040
Speaker 1: twenty two because I was able to say yes, because

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01:02:28,200 --> 01:02:33,440
Speaker 1: it would have been devastating to say no. Yeah, but

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01:02:33,640 --> 01:02:35,800
Speaker 1: you know, but it didn't happen, It didn't have it.

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01:02:35,920 --> 01:02:38,040
Speaker 1: So I was just I was like, you know, a

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01:02:38,080 --> 01:02:41,080
Speaker 1: weird way to reverse the gratitude of like, oh well,

1314
01:02:41,160 --> 01:02:44,640
Speaker 1: thank god this came now of like having you know,

1315
01:02:44,720 --> 01:02:48,080
Speaker 1: because or like putting myself through you know, just scenarios.

1316
01:02:48,120 --> 01:02:51,160
Speaker 1: But also I shared that as like again back to

1317
01:02:51,360 --> 01:02:55,880
Speaker 1: hope and why sometimes we share what we do or

1318
01:02:56,120 --> 01:02:58,120
Speaker 1: bits and pieces that we do. Nobody's going to know

1319
01:02:58,200 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 1: our full story. Only certain people may have access to that,

1320
01:03:02,240 --> 01:03:03,880
Speaker 1: and then it's always up to you what you want

1321
01:03:03,880 --> 01:03:05,080
Speaker 1: to tell and when you want to tell it and

1322
01:03:05,080 --> 01:03:08,560
Speaker 1: how you want to tell it. But you know what

1323
01:03:08,600 --> 01:03:11,480
Speaker 1: we are able to share at times, and I think

1324
01:03:11,520 --> 01:03:15,200
Speaker 1: a lot of why we do you included, and a

1325
01:03:15,720 --> 01:03:18,040
Speaker 1: project you have coming up that you're working on, is

1326
01:03:18,080 --> 01:03:20,800
Speaker 1: like so that people don't feel alone, and then also

1327
01:03:21,480 --> 01:03:24,560
Speaker 1: to offer that hope of like, I don't know where

1328
01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:26,200
Speaker 1: you are right now, but like this is kind of

1329
01:03:26,200 --> 01:03:29,440
Speaker 1: where I was. And it was really difficult and hard,

1330
01:03:29,480 --> 01:03:31,520
Speaker 1: and it was this and I thought I was the

1331
01:03:31,560 --> 01:03:33,160
Speaker 1: only person, and I thought I was never going to

1332
01:03:33,240 --> 01:03:35,600
Speaker 1: get out of it, and it was scary and daunting

1333
01:03:35,680 --> 01:03:39,960
Speaker 1: and low. But I'm here to say now that I'm

1334
01:03:40,080 --> 01:03:45,640
Speaker 1: on the other side of it with work and you know,

1335
01:03:45,760 --> 01:03:50,120
Speaker 1: perseverance and support and all the things that like what

1336
01:03:50,240 --> 01:03:53,960
Speaker 1: a difference some time can be. Yeah, And you know,

1337
01:03:54,160 --> 01:03:56,600
Speaker 1: it's just just a reminder that if you're in the

1338
01:03:56,600 --> 01:03:58,120
Speaker 1: weeds of it right now, if you're in the thick

1339
01:03:58,120 --> 01:04:01,440
Speaker 1: of it, like you're just hope you know that there's

1340
01:04:01,480 --> 01:04:04,479
Speaker 1: there's something on the other side. Absolutely. I also can't

1341
01:04:04,520 --> 01:04:06,640
Speaker 1: hear when when people say in the thick of it,

1342
01:04:06,680 --> 01:04:08,600
Speaker 1: do you know the TikTok song, and they're like into

1343
01:04:08,640 --> 01:04:12,240
Speaker 1: the thick of it all? I can think of anytimes

1344
01:04:12,360 --> 01:04:15,680
Speaker 1: right now that's in my head too, of it. Yeah,

1345
01:04:15,680 --> 01:04:17,520
Speaker 1: I mean too, because what you just said it was

1346
01:04:17,520 --> 01:04:19,920
Speaker 1: really important and it is something people should hear too,

1347
01:04:20,040 --> 01:04:23,440
Speaker 1: just like keep kind of I hate saying keep pushing

1348
01:04:23,520 --> 01:04:26,680
Speaker 1: because like sometimes it sucks to push. Sometimes you just

1349
01:04:26,720 --> 01:04:28,480
Speaker 1: need to sit in it and not do anything. Yeah,

1350
01:04:28,480 --> 01:04:30,560
Speaker 1: that's what's it's one day at a time. It's what's

1351
01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:33,120
Speaker 1: the next right step. And sometimes one day the next

1352
01:04:33,160 --> 01:04:36,040
Speaker 1: right step might be sitting and doing nothing yes with

1353
01:04:36,080 --> 01:04:38,880
Speaker 1: it and maybe taking a day off from trying to

1354
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:41,640
Speaker 1: fix it or change it or work on it or

1355
01:04:41,680 --> 01:04:44,600
Speaker 1: grow um. But just know that there's light and there

1356
01:04:44,680 --> 01:04:46,680
Speaker 1: is another side to it. You just have to get

1357
01:04:46,720 --> 01:04:48,960
Speaker 1: there right and that's important however you get there for

1358
01:04:49,080 --> 01:04:53,080
Speaker 1: and eventually one day hopefully you can have the perspective

1359
01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:57,479
Speaker 1: and you don't have to But what I've learned through

1360
01:04:57,600 --> 01:05:00,880
Speaker 1: different experiences I've had, is once I'm able to cross

1361
01:05:00,960 --> 01:05:02,760
Speaker 1: that line and I can get on the other side

1362
01:05:02,760 --> 01:05:07,200
Speaker 1: of it, I have I'm up, I'm climbing up, so

1363
01:05:07,240 --> 01:05:11,040
Speaker 1: therefore I'm more at the top of something and I

1364
01:05:11,040 --> 01:05:14,480
Speaker 1: can look out and see the bigger picture and I

1365
01:05:14,520 --> 01:05:16,720
Speaker 1: can either be like, woe is me, I can't believe

1366
01:05:16,760 --> 01:05:18,440
Speaker 1: that still happened, and I can be stuck in it,

1367
01:05:18,560 --> 01:05:20,320
Speaker 1: or I can look at it and be like, oh, wow,

1368
01:05:21,560 --> 01:05:24,040
Speaker 1: look how that grew me in this area and that

1369
01:05:24,440 --> 01:05:26,800
Speaker 1: you know, challenged me here, but it built this character,

1370
01:05:26,920 --> 01:05:29,560
Speaker 1: and it built this quality, and it helped fine tune this,

1371
01:05:29,680 --> 01:05:32,640
Speaker 1: and it helped build this relationship, or it helped you know,

1372
01:05:34,440 --> 01:05:37,080
Speaker 1: you know, put a boundary up in this other relationship

1373
01:05:37,200 --> 01:05:41,000
Speaker 1: or whatever it is that you've needed to do for yourself.

1374
01:05:41,040 --> 01:05:43,280
Speaker 1: Hopefully you can look at those experiences and know that

1375
01:05:43,320 --> 01:05:47,120
Speaker 1: if they had not happened, you wouldn't be where you are,

1376
01:05:47,320 --> 01:05:50,600
Speaker 1: and that victim mentality if you can't get there and

1377
01:05:50,720 --> 01:05:54,920
Speaker 1: I speak from experience, or I've stayed in the victim

1378
01:05:55,160 --> 01:05:57,360
Speaker 1: spot too long, but that was me doing it to

1379
01:05:57,400 --> 01:06:01,720
Speaker 1: myself in difference scenarios, and it's like, oh, that's just

1380
01:06:01,800 --> 01:06:04,200
Speaker 1: such a tough spot to be in. But when you're

1381
01:06:04,200 --> 01:06:06,240
Speaker 1: in a cycle, sometimes it's hard to get out and

1382
01:06:06,320 --> 01:06:10,720
Speaker 1: you don't know. But just um. A great book that

1383
01:06:10,880 --> 01:06:15,640
Speaker 1: talks about a lot of that is Donald Miller's book

1384
01:06:17,400 --> 01:06:19,480
Speaker 1: What Is It? Why is It Not Coming right Now?

1385
01:06:20,080 --> 01:06:23,080
Speaker 1: Hero on a Mission? Got it? Okay? It's called It's

1386
01:06:23,160 --> 01:06:26,000
Speaker 1: like it'll come to me, Hero on a Mission? And

1387
01:06:26,080 --> 01:06:29,480
Speaker 1: he talks about our lives and our stories. And you know,

1388
01:06:29,760 --> 01:06:33,240
Speaker 1: in any good movie, there's four characters. There's the villain,

1389
01:06:33,600 --> 01:06:39,160
Speaker 1: the guide, the hero, and the victim. And so when

1390
01:06:39,200 --> 01:06:42,320
Speaker 1: you see those different characters play out in any good movie, Yeah,

1391
01:06:42,360 --> 01:06:44,040
Speaker 1: but then when you think about your own life, like

1392
01:06:44,120 --> 01:06:49,000
Speaker 1: when have you been the victim of something? Um? Rightfully so?

1393
01:06:49,240 --> 01:06:52,160
Speaker 1: But then are you stuck in victim mentality? When have

1394
01:06:52,240 --> 01:06:55,280
Speaker 1: you been the villain? When have you been able to

1395
01:06:55,400 --> 01:06:57,360
Speaker 1: rise up and be the hero? When have you gone

1396
01:06:57,400 --> 01:07:00,040
Speaker 1: through stuff and then been able to help those that

1397
01:07:01,640 --> 01:07:04,280
Speaker 1: are now in a similar position position and you get

1398
01:07:04,280 --> 01:07:08,360
Speaker 1: to walk alongside them, you're the guide? Like what what?

1399
01:07:08,680 --> 01:07:10,920
Speaker 1: What do you want your story to look like? That

1400
01:07:11,000 --> 01:07:13,840
Speaker 1: reminds me of of an audio too that I heard

1401
01:07:13,880 --> 01:07:16,920
Speaker 1: on Instagram. Reels are so out there and others, so

1402
01:07:16,960 --> 01:07:19,480
Speaker 1: many of them, but there's one that I've held that

1403
01:07:19,520 --> 01:07:24,120
Speaker 1: hopefully someday I can create like something too. But it's like, um,

1404
01:07:24,120 --> 01:07:27,840
Speaker 1: remember that you play a different character and everybody else's story. Like,

1405
01:07:28,160 --> 01:07:30,600
Speaker 1: you may play a villain to some people, you may

1406
01:07:30,600 --> 01:07:33,240
Speaker 1: play the great person, you may play a friend, you

1407
01:07:33,240 --> 01:07:37,200
Speaker 1: may play an X like. Your character changes across the board.

1408
01:07:37,240 --> 01:07:39,360
Speaker 1: So it's no different that you have your own characters

1409
01:07:39,360 --> 01:07:43,160
Speaker 1: in your own life too, absolutely, And it's I think

1410
01:07:43,200 --> 01:07:46,440
Speaker 1: the self awareness to know that and know that everyone's

1411
01:07:46,440 --> 01:07:50,360
Speaker 1: going to experience you differently. And some people have experienced

1412
01:07:50,400 --> 01:07:52,720
Speaker 1: me as the guide and some people have experienced me

1413
01:07:52,760 --> 01:07:55,320
Speaker 1: as the victim, and some people have experienced me as

1414
01:07:55,320 --> 01:08:01,600
Speaker 1: the villain. And that's that sucks. It's like, oh, shoot,

1415
01:08:02,200 --> 01:08:05,680
Speaker 1: you know, and sometimes I don't even see that till

1416
01:08:05,800 --> 01:08:08,840
Speaker 1: years later, or I see a few months later, or

1417
01:08:08,880 --> 01:08:12,520
Speaker 1: the next five minutes, you know, we you know, depending

1418
01:08:12,520 --> 01:08:14,680
Speaker 1: on what's going on or any given situation, and then

1419
01:08:14,680 --> 01:08:15,960
Speaker 1: it's like, okay, what do you want to do with

1420
01:08:16,000 --> 01:08:19,280
Speaker 1: it now that you have the awareness? Yeah, exactly, there's

1421
01:08:19,320 --> 01:08:21,639
Speaker 1: so many I mean, we're getting so many moments from

1422
01:08:21,640 --> 01:08:23,240
Speaker 1: maybe right now that I hope you guys are taking

1423
01:08:23,320 --> 01:08:26,200
Speaker 1: oh and I love it. Well, I'm just regurgitating, like

1424
01:08:26,240 --> 01:08:30,320
Speaker 1: that book was so I profound to me. I love

1425
01:08:30,400 --> 01:08:34,360
Speaker 1: Donald Miller anyway. But my sister is actually the one

1426
01:08:34,400 --> 01:08:37,479
Speaker 1: that told me about it. She was reading it. Her

1427
01:08:37,479 --> 01:08:38,840
Speaker 1: and her husband were reading at the same time, so

1428
01:08:38,880 --> 01:08:40,479
Speaker 1: they were fighting over it, and they were highlighting it,

1429
01:08:40,520 --> 01:08:42,240
Speaker 1: and they got pencils in the market, you know, writing

1430
01:08:42,240 --> 01:08:48,000
Speaker 1: in the margin. And then I downloaded it and got it.

1431
01:08:48,240 --> 01:08:51,040
Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm a big fan of like listening to

1432
01:08:51,040 --> 01:08:53,080
Speaker 1: a book but also having the physical copies so I

1433
01:08:53,080 --> 01:08:55,160
Speaker 1: can like do both. And sometimes I listen and read

1434
01:08:55,160 --> 01:08:59,639
Speaker 1: along just to help with absorption. There's another book called

1435
01:09:00,240 --> 01:09:04,920
Speaker 1: Limitless by Jim Quick, and it's a it's a brain book,

1436
01:09:05,479 --> 01:09:10,120
Speaker 1: and it talks about I'm pretty sure he said you

1437
01:09:10,160 --> 01:09:14,439
Speaker 1: shouldn't read for longer than like now, I can't remember

1438
01:09:14,439 --> 01:09:17,599
Speaker 1: the exact time, clearly didn't, but like twenty twenty five minutes.

1439
01:09:17,640 --> 01:09:19,040
Speaker 1: But sometimes we'renna be like, oh, I'm want to sit

1440
01:09:19,080 --> 01:09:20,240
Speaker 1: down with a book and I want to learn. I

1441
01:09:20,280 --> 01:09:23,040
Speaker 1: want to absorb this, and like especially someone for me

1442
01:09:23,080 --> 01:09:25,599
Speaker 1: where I'm working on my add and trying to focus

1443
01:09:25,600 --> 01:09:27,679
Speaker 1: and figure out different tips and tools and any tricks

1444
01:09:27,720 --> 01:09:31,040
Speaker 1: to just absorb information instead of it going in out.

1445
01:09:32,240 --> 01:09:37,120
Speaker 1: And so that was something that that I want to

1446
01:09:37,160 --> 01:09:39,200
Speaker 1: I need to go back and revisit, clearly, but that

1447
01:09:40,160 --> 01:09:41,960
Speaker 1: that was interesting to hear him say that. He's like,

1448
01:09:42,000 --> 01:09:44,559
Speaker 1: even about this book right here that you're listening to,

1449
01:09:44,840 --> 01:09:47,479
Speaker 1: I want you to set a timer or that you're reading,

1450
01:09:47,920 --> 01:09:52,320
Speaker 1: set a timer. Only read my book this long procession,

1451
01:09:52,800 --> 01:09:56,040
Speaker 1: because otherwise you're not going to take it all in.

1452
01:09:56,360 --> 01:09:57,960
Speaker 1: I love that though. I love that he's telling you that,

1453
01:09:57,960 --> 01:09:59,559
Speaker 1: and the thing like, hey, don't keep reading my book

1454
01:09:59,560 --> 01:10:02,840
Speaker 1: the host binge get it. Yeah, He's like, yeah, don't.

1455
01:10:03,200 --> 01:10:04,960
Speaker 1: I don't know if he said that specifically, don't binge

1456
01:10:04,960 --> 01:10:06,800
Speaker 1: in my book. No, but that's essentially what we do.

1457
01:10:06,960 --> 01:10:08,800
Speaker 1: We do it with most things, right, because you get

1458
01:10:08,840 --> 01:10:10,400
Speaker 1: so into it and you're like, oh, I want to

1459
01:10:10,400 --> 01:10:11,920
Speaker 1: know everything and I want to listen to it or

1460
01:10:11,920 --> 01:10:13,240
Speaker 1: I want to listen to it all the time. But

1461
01:10:13,280 --> 01:10:16,080
Speaker 1: it's like you should do it in increments, yes, and

1462
01:10:16,120 --> 01:10:18,559
Speaker 1: give yourself time with it. I will say another book too,

1463
01:10:18,600 --> 01:10:20,880
Speaker 1: that's not in the same vein of the ones Amy's

1464
01:10:20,920 --> 01:10:22,639
Speaker 1: talking about, but kind of what we talked about earlier

1465
01:10:22,640 --> 01:10:24,879
Speaker 1: about like kind of getting out of an echo chamber.

1466
01:10:25,200 --> 01:10:28,400
Speaker 1: Really great book called The World Is Blank. I can't

1467
01:10:28,400 --> 01:10:31,519
Speaker 1: say the word. A book about hope. It's by Mark Manson,

1468
01:10:31,640 --> 01:10:33,640
Speaker 1: and it like just gives you a different perspective on

1469
01:10:33,680 --> 01:10:35,960
Speaker 1: a lot of things, and it kind of sets aside

1470
01:10:35,960 --> 01:10:37,880
Speaker 1: a lot of things you might have grew up around,

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01:10:38,400 --> 01:10:40,800
Speaker 1: so it challenges you. He has another one that's like,

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01:10:41,080 --> 01:10:44,200
Speaker 1: um about something about smiling. Let me look them up

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01:10:44,240 --> 01:10:49,920
Speaker 1: while I'm doing this, But the books were so good.

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01:10:49,960 --> 01:10:52,040
Speaker 1: They he has one that's the subtle art of not

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01:10:52,120 --> 01:10:55,479
Speaker 1: giving a f The other one is Everything is a

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01:10:55,560 --> 01:10:59,000
Speaker 1: book about hope, and they're so good, Like I can't

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01:10:59,040 --> 01:11:01,839
Speaker 1: recommend the books, and I don't read all that often

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01:11:03,760 --> 01:11:06,880
Speaker 1: because I'm on my computer working way too much. But

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01:11:07,120 --> 01:11:09,760
Speaker 1: those two books are really good. So now you also

1480
01:11:09,800 --> 01:11:12,400
Speaker 1: have book suggestions too from this podcast, which I love.

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01:11:12,760 --> 01:11:15,639
Speaker 1: But I want to wrap up on this. Last one

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01:11:15,680 --> 01:11:18,320
Speaker 1: coming in at number one was when the show read

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01:11:18,880 --> 01:11:23,000
Speaker 1: their sleep stories to show you their callming voices that

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01:11:23,040 --> 01:11:26,240
Speaker 1: they had or soothing voices, which is hilarious. You guys

1485
01:11:26,240 --> 01:11:28,200
Speaker 1: all loved it, and if you like miss the video,

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01:11:28,360 --> 01:11:31,160
Speaker 1: it's up on YouTube and Bobbybones dot com and you

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01:11:31,200 --> 01:11:33,479
Speaker 1: can watch that. So I want to close out with

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01:11:33,600 --> 01:11:38,840
Speaker 1: just some odd things that have happened recently. Amy, you

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01:11:38,880 --> 01:11:42,120
Speaker 1: saw a man walking a raccoon, Yes, I did. And

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01:11:42,120 --> 01:11:44,600
Speaker 1: then Lunchbox had apparently seen the same guy with a

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01:11:44,720 --> 01:11:47,840
Speaker 1: raccoon at a restaurant, which I think is amazing. Also

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01:11:47,880 --> 01:11:51,639
Speaker 1: I did not, like, I know raccoons are decently friendly,

1493
01:11:52,120 --> 01:11:53,920
Speaker 1: but like I did not know you can. Well, I

1494
01:11:53,920 --> 01:11:58,280
Speaker 1: have some thought nobody's gonna believe me. And then Lunchbox

1495
01:11:58,400 --> 01:12:00,840
Speaker 1: is like, oh my gosh, us all the same guy.

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01:12:01,200 --> 01:12:03,400
Speaker 1: I want to know when the raccoon was walking, was

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01:12:03,400 --> 01:12:06,120
Speaker 1: he like being good on the leash? Yeah, it's like

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01:12:06,160 --> 01:12:09,640
Speaker 1: when I walk my cat. I don't know. I mean

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01:12:09,680 --> 01:12:11,679
Speaker 1: I was driving along, so it's not like I spent

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01:12:11,720 --> 01:12:13,080
Speaker 1: time at it, and I didn't have to mind the

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01:12:13,160 --> 01:12:14,720
Speaker 1: video or take a picture. And that's why I was like,

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01:12:15,120 --> 01:12:19,800
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, a raccoon. Did you do a double

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01:12:19,800 --> 01:12:21,280
Speaker 1: take two where you kind of like, did I actually

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01:12:21,280 --> 01:12:23,200
Speaker 1: just see that? Yeah? I mean it was almost like,

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01:12:23,240 --> 01:12:25,920
Speaker 1: but you know, I saw what It's all it was

1506
01:12:26,040 --> 01:12:28,760
Speaker 1: raccoon larious. I had to bring that up again because

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01:12:28,760 --> 01:12:30,040
Speaker 1: we talked about that a little bit on the show

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01:12:30,080 --> 01:12:33,280
Speaker 1: this week. Um, and to was something that that happened

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01:12:33,280 --> 01:12:35,479
Speaker 1: to me in a workout class. So I went took

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01:12:35,479 --> 01:12:37,280
Speaker 1: a workout class, and it was about thirty minutes in

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01:12:37,320 --> 01:12:40,320
Speaker 1: that I realized I was doing a boxing class and

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01:12:40,320 --> 01:12:43,639
Speaker 1: the guy next to me was live streaming his entire

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01:12:43,760 --> 01:12:47,400
Speaker 1: workout and I'm in the background of the video the

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01:12:47,479 --> 01:12:51,160
Speaker 1: whole time. That's not right, right, Yeah, I looked at it.

1515
01:12:51,240 --> 01:12:54,080
Speaker 1: I was like, how many strangers just watched me for

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01:12:54,160 --> 01:12:57,000
Speaker 1: thirty minutes hit a bag and do these dabs? Not

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01:12:57,080 --> 01:12:59,960
Speaker 1: only that? Amy, Okay. After I figured out this was happening,

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01:13:00,520 --> 01:13:03,160
Speaker 1: I proceeded to watch him. We have like a part

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01:13:03,200 --> 01:13:06,400
Speaker 1: of this class is doing ab exercise, right. I proceeded

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01:13:06,439 --> 01:13:08,080
Speaker 1: to watch him like put his feet in front of

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01:13:08,080 --> 01:13:10,759
Speaker 1: the camera, like do the ad exercises and like full

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01:13:10,840 --> 01:13:14,479
Speaker 1: on in front of the camera. Oh my, what what

1523
01:13:14,520 --> 01:13:16,120
Speaker 1: was his point? Though? I don't know, like is he

1524
01:13:16,280 --> 01:13:18,800
Speaker 1: leading like a I don't think that's it? Like he

1525
01:13:18,920 --> 01:13:22,040
Speaker 1: was an older gentleman. I just don't know if like

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01:13:22,240 --> 01:13:25,439
Speaker 1: I have seen like a lot of like older only fans.

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01:13:26,720 --> 01:13:30,719
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe I do not know what like random sile

1528
01:13:31,960 --> 01:13:36,720
Speaker 1: elderly only fans. I do seem like silver I do

1529
01:13:36,800 --> 01:13:39,800
Speaker 1: see the elderly, facetile like Facebook live a lot of

1530
01:13:39,840 --> 01:13:42,160
Speaker 1: things often. I don't know why. I don't know if

1531
01:13:42,160 --> 01:13:44,120
Speaker 1: it's like a generational thing and they just feel like

1532
01:13:44,160 --> 01:13:47,320
Speaker 1: that's how they can share things. Yeah, but I saw

1533
01:13:47,360 --> 01:13:49,479
Speaker 1: this happening. I was like, this one, this cannot be

1534
01:13:49,520 --> 01:13:53,759
Speaker 1: Like nobody's consented around us for this to happen in too,

1535
01:13:53,800 --> 01:13:56,160
Speaker 1: Like I just feel like it's so strange to share

1536
01:13:56,240 --> 01:14:00,719
Speaker 1: an entire forty five minute workout class on your Facebook

1537
01:14:00,760 --> 01:14:03,799
Speaker 1: like live stream and then not like have people around,

1538
01:14:03,840 --> 01:14:08,040
Speaker 1: you know, or a sign of release something. I was like, dang,

1539
01:14:08,080 --> 01:14:10,559
Speaker 1: I just did all these things like I'm probably just

1540
01:14:10,600 --> 01:14:13,200
Speaker 1: sit back here, like you know, mess up my hair

1541
01:14:13,280 --> 01:14:15,639
Speaker 1: and punching the bag, and all these strangers online apply

1542
01:14:15,720 --> 01:14:18,800
Speaker 1: commenting about things I'm doing. I didn't know what's happening, right,

1543
01:14:19,960 --> 01:14:22,160
Speaker 1: strange it is now I want to know what he

1544
01:14:22,240 --> 01:14:25,800
Speaker 1: was doing. I know, strange behavior of people. I think

1545
01:14:25,840 --> 01:14:28,840
Speaker 1: we're just in an interesting time where, um, you know,

1546
01:14:28,920 --> 01:14:31,240
Speaker 1: we're just seeing all all of it come out. Everybody's

1547
01:14:31,240 --> 01:14:35,879
Speaker 1: just letting in a whole house. And next time it happens,

1548
01:14:35,920 --> 01:14:37,880
Speaker 1: you might have to ask him if you see him again. Oh,

1549
01:14:37,920 --> 01:14:39,160
Speaker 1: I need to be like what what do you do

1550
01:14:39,200 --> 01:14:44,599
Speaker 1: with that video? You know? But I had to have us.

1551
01:14:44,720 --> 01:14:48,160
Speaker 1: We had some great conversations about so much, but I

1552
01:14:48,160 --> 01:14:50,200
Speaker 1: had to have us also wrap up on some funny

1553
01:14:50,200 --> 01:14:53,160
Speaker 1: things because you know life's also fun too, Yes, um,

1554
01:14:53,560 --> 01:14:56,200
Speaker 1: but Amy, give them one more reminder where they can

1555
01:14:56,240 --> 01:14:58,080
Speaker 1: find you, where they can hear you, all that good stuff.

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01:14:58,720 --> 01:15:02,919
Speaker 1: Radio Amy is my Instagram and Twitter, Amy Brown on Facebook.

1557
01:15:02,960 --> 01:15:07,040
Speaker 1: Speaking of that, if you're if you're over there, I

1558
01:15:07,120 --> 01:15:12,439
Speaker 1: watched my live stream live stream my workouts I have,

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01:15:12,920 --> 01:15:15,280
Speaker 1: Um well, we mentioned the podcast earlier, but my guest

1560
01:15:15,360 --> 01:15:17,439
Speaker 1: this week is Walker Hayes. So it's Four Things with

1561
01:15:17,479 --> 01:15:20,920
Speaker 1: Amy Brown, two episodes a week, every Tuesday, every Thursday.

1562
01:15:21,000 --> 01:15:26,320
Speaker 1: And then I have eating disorder recovery podcast called Outweigh,

1563
01:15:26,400 --> 01:15:32,200
Speaker 1: which loads every Saturday. And that's just one word Outweigh podcast.

1564
01:15:32,400 --> 01:15:36,240
Speaker 1: And I had a co host for that for the

1565
01:15:36,280 --> 01:15:39,240
Speaker 1: first two years that we had at Lisa Hame, and

1566
01:15:39,320 --> 01:15:43,360
Speaker 1: she recently departed but in the best way. She still

1567
01:15:43,360 --> 01:15:46,720
Speaker 1: had She has a podcast on my network called The

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01:15:46,760 --> 01:15:49,479
Speaker 1: Truthiest Life, and she really wanted to focus on that

1569
01:15:49,520 --> 01:15:51,599
Speaker 1: and she just became a mom. And so now I

1570
01:15:51,640 --> 01:15:57,400
Speaker 1: just have various registered dietitians in Nashville that focus on

1571
01:15:57,479 --> 01:16:02,479
Speaker 1: eating disorder recovery as my rotating guests, because again, I'm

1572
01:16:02,520 --> 01:16:06,080
Speaker 1: not trying to be the expert. I want to just

1573
01:16:06,160 --> 01:16:09,599
Speaker 1: be the voice of you know, sharing some of my

1574
01:16:09,680 --> 01:16:12,479
Speaker 1: story and then the story of recovery and hope in

1575
01:16:12,560 --> 01:16:15,599
Speaker 1: my experience, but I want to lean into the experts

1576
01:16:15,600 --> 01:16:18,120
Speaker 1: when it comes to stuff like that. And they're just

1577
01:16:19,280 --> 01:16:22,160
Speaker 1: fifteen twenty minute episodes every Saturday, and again it is

1578
01:16:22,200 --> 01:16:24,000
Speaker 1: just one of those other like a weekly dose of

1579
01:16:24,120 --> 01:16:27,040
Speaker 1: encouragement of like, you're not alone, you might You're not

1580
01:16:27,120 --> 01:16:29,479
Speaker 1: the only person in the world with these thoughts. You

1581
01:16:29,560 --> 01:16:32,799
Speaker 1: are not, but you know, we talk about everything from

1582
01:16:32,840 --> 01:16:38,880
Speaker 1: you know, restriction, binging, purging, exercise addiction, and exercise is

1583
01:16:38,880 --> 01:16:42,080
Speaker 1: a form of purging. Like sometimes people don't we we're

1584
01:16:42,120 --> 01:16:44,120
Speaker 1: talking about that. I think we might even on this

1585
01:16:44,160 --> 01:16:49,360
Speaker 1: Saturday's episode. I'm pretty sure, and that you don't realize

1586
01:16:49,360 --> 01:16:51,280
Speaker 1: it because society makes you feel like, oh, if you

1587
01:16:51,320 --> 01:16:53,680
Speaker 1: do all these workouts, like oh, that's acceptable, that's what

1588
01:16:53,680 --> 01:16:56,639
Speaker 1: you're supposed to do, that's healthy, and it's yeah, it's

1589
01:16:56,640 --> 01:16:58,599
Speaker 1: okay to go to the gym for three hours time,

1590
01:16:59,400 --> 01:17:01,920
Speaker 1: and it's like, wait, what if you're you know, are

1591
01:17:01,960 --> 01:17:03,880
Speaker 1: you training for something, or are you punishing yourself because

1592
01:17:03,920 --> 01:17:07,280
Speaker 1: you ate something, or are you preparing yourself to eat something?

1593
01:17:07,360 --> 01:17:09,360
Speaker 1: And that's when it gets blurry and you have to

1594
01:17:09,360 --> 01:17:11,639
Speaker 1: really step back and take a look at like why

1595
01:17:11,640 --> 01:17:14,960
Speaker 1: are you moving your body? And so that's what outweigh

1596
01:17:15,040 --> 01:17:16,760
Speaker 1: is all about, and it sounds like it's something that

1597
01:17:16,920 --> 01:17:20,759
Speaker 1: everyone could benefit from, not just people who have eating disorder. Yeah,

1598
01:17:20,800 --> 01:17:22,639
Speaker 1: I mean you could just because you might have someone

1599
01:17:22,680 --> 01:17:26,519
Speaker 1: in your life that is going through that, or you

1600
01:17:26,600 --> 01:17:28,800
Speaker 1: might not even know. I spent a lot of years

1601
01:17:28,840 --> 01:17:33,920
Speaker 1: even in what I called like pseudo recovery. Now, I

1602
01:17:33,920 --> 01:17:36,120
Speaker 1: mean I thought I was in recovery, but I still

1603
01:17:36,120 --> 01:17:39,120
Speaker 1: had very and then my eating sort of full blown returned.

1604
01:17:39,160 --> 01:17:42,120
Speaker 1: But I spent about ten years in what I thought

1605
01:17:42,320 --> 01:17:45,520
Speaker 1: was recovery, but still had a lot of disordered behaviors

1606
01:17:45,880 --> 01:17:50,400
Speaker 1: because they were acceptable by society standards. I thought, Okay,

1607
01:17:50,439 --> 01:17:53,559
Speaker 1: I can get by with juicing for three to five

1608
01:17:53,640 --> 01:17:56,920
Speaker 1: days because society says it's okay to juice. But I

1609
01:17:56,960 --> 01:17:59,439
Speaker 1: was restricting and I was doing it purposefully, and I

1610
01:17:59,520 --> 01:18:03,439
Speaker 1: was under the guise of health. And then when I

1611
01:18:03,439 --> 01:18:05,720
Speaker 1: would get off the juice cleans, it would lead to

1612
01:18:05,840 --> 01:18:08,519
Speaker 1: a binge and it was like this vicious cycle and

1613
01:18:08,560 --> 01:18:11,439
Speaker 1: I didn't know how to break it. But I didn't

1614
01:18:11,600 --> 01:18:13,879
Speaker 1: I didn't have the language for it, and then I

1615
01:18:13,880 --> 01:18:17,080
Speaker 1: didn't have the right support, so I just was stuck.

1616
01:18:17,280 --> 01:18:20,200
Speaker 1: And nope, you know, I just kept on with that

1617
01:18:20,280 --> 01:18:22,840
Speaker 1: character because that's what people expected of me. And then

1618
01:18:22,880 --> 01:18:26,559
Speaker 1: I would spread the propaganda on the Bobby Bone Show

1619
01:18:26,680 --> 01:18:29,960
Speaker 1: or um, you know, my four Things podcast and some

1620
01:18:30,040 --> 01:18:32,920
Speaker 1: wise listeners you know, who are very brave, sent me

1621
01:18:32,960 --> 01:18:35,760
Speaker 1: emails earlier on early on and they're like, I can't

1622
01:18:35,800 --> 01:18:37,960
Speaker 1: listen to your podcast. It's triggering. And I'm like, wait

1623
01:18:38,000 --> 01:18:41,320
Speaker 1: what I'm I'm trying to spread health and knowledge, and

1624
01:18:42,280 --> 01:18:44,559
Speaker 1: but I didn't know what I didn't know, and now

1625
01:18:44,600 --> 01:18:46,080
Speaker 1: that I'm on the other side of it, I get it,

1626
01:18:46,120 --> 01:18:48,439
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh, I was very triggering, and so

1627
01:18:48,520 --> 01:18:50,320
Speaker 1: we're learning. We're all learning, and so I think you

1628
01:18:50,360 --> 01:18:52,280
Speaker 1: could listen to it from that perspective too, of wanting

1629
01:18:52,320 --> 01:18:54,760
Speaker 1: to learn and understand why we shouldn't say certain things,

1630
01:18:54,760 --> 01:18:58,000
Speaker 1: why we should not comment on people's bodies no matter what.

1631
01:18:58,360 --> 01:19:01,080
Speaker 1: Ye even if they're like oh wow, they've lost weight,

1632
01:19:01,200 --> 01:19:03,760
Speaker 1: Like keep it to yourself. Who cares? Oh wow, they

1633
01:19:03,840 --> 01:19:05,599
Speaker 1: or if they've gained, or oh you look so healthy.

1634
01:19:05,600 --> 01:19:07,840
Speaker 1: Have you put on a few pounds? Don't you want

1635
01:19:07,840 --> 01:19:10,280
Speaker 1: to say anything? You say you look great? No period

1636
01:19:10,320 --> 01:19:13,320
Speaker 1: paragraph yeah, or you're you're glowing, Yeah you're radiant. I

1637
01:19:13,360 --> 01:19:18,040
Speaker 1: love something about their personality or yeah that's great. Um

1638
01:19:19,320 --> 01:19:21,920
Speaker 1: about say like you look great? Yeah, I mean you

1639
01:19:21,960 --> 01:19:24,240
Speaker 1: could just even in general. I mean, but you can

1640
01:19:24,280 --> 01:19:25,920
Speaker 1: even take it one step further and just take it

1641
01:19:26,000 --> 01:19:29,080
Speaker 1: make it not about it like look looking great, because

1642
01:19:29,080 --> 01:19:33,920
Speaker 1: even looking great might affirm to someone in the middle

1643
01:19:33,920 --> 01:19:35,840
Speaker 1: of an eating sort of was like, oh, because a

1644
01:19:35,920 --> 01:19:39,280
Speaker 1: compliment can be fuel to the fire. Interesting, so you

1645
01:19:39,479 --> 01:19:42,479
Speaker 1: look like if you say radiant or glowing, then it's

1646
01:19:42,479 --> 01:19:45,360
Speaker 1: like more about like this glow, this vibe about you,

1647
01:19:45,800 --> 01:19:49,880
Speaker 1: but you look great. While innocent could also be translated

1648
01:19:50,200 --> 01:19:56,360
Speaker 1: to um ooh yes, I they've noticed I have been

1649
01:19:56,439 --> 01:20:00,760
Speaker 1: restricting and it's working, So now I'm going to restrict more, right, Yeah,

1650
01:20:00,800 --> 01:20:04,760
Speaker 1: So if we're even learning right here, yeah, it's not

1651
01:20:05,240 --> 01:20:09,559
Speaker 1: people are so well intentioned. But then you learn that like, oh,

1652
01:20:09,600 --> 01:20:12,599
Speaker 1: it's actually okay for me to take time to think

1653
01:20:12,640 --> 01:20:15,599
Speaker 1: about how others might receive this compliment, and that we

1654
01:20:15,680 --> 01:20:20,679
Speaker 1: need to evolve past praising people for um, what their

1655
01:20:20,720 --> 01:20:23,759
Speaker 1: bodies look like, because you don't know what it's taken

1656
01:20:23,800 --> 01:20:25,760
Speaker 1: for them to get there, or you don't know if

1657
01:20:25,920 --> 01:20:29,320
Speaker 1: it's underlying depression. You don't know if they have cancer

1658
01:20:29,400 --> 01:20:31,280
Speaker 1: and they don't want to talk about it or I

1659
01:20:31,280 --> 01:20:33,960
Speaker 1: mean inserts any disease and they want to keep it private.

1660
01:20:34,000 --> 01:20:36,040
Speaker 1: And now you're commenting on how they've lost weight, and

1661
01:20:36,080 --> 01:20:37,840
Speaker 1: that's like the last they maybe they don't even want

1662
01:20:37,840 --> 01:20:40,920
Speaker 1: to lose weight and they're like, oh, I want to

1663
01:20:40,960 --> 01:20:43,599
Speaker 1: gain weight and now, but then and then, so you

1664
01:20:43,640 --> 01:20:46,720
Speaker 1: never know where it's going to send someone. So Outweigh

1665
01:20:46,840 --> 01:20:50,000
Speaker 1: has in my recovery and the different guests we've have

1666
01:20:50,280 --> 01:20:53,240
Speaker 1: had on and the topics has taught me so much

1667
01:20:54,640 --> 01:20:57,920
Speaker 1: so that those are the places you can find me. Yes,

1668
01:20:58,160 --> 01:21:00,759
Speaker 1: check them all out, all the things, all good growing

1669
01:21:01,200 --> 01:21:03,200
Speaker 1: factors for you to listen to make sure you also

1670
01:21:03,280 --> 01:21:05,960
Speaker 1: check out the Bobby Bones Show socials. There's videos of

1671
01:21:06,120 --> 01:21:08,360
Speaker 1: all kinds of things up there. We're doing more reels

1672
01:21:08,400 --> 01:21:11,040
Speaker 1: now so hopefully you guys enjoy those. And of course

1673
01:21:11,120 --> 01:21:15,120
Speaker 1: I'm at web girl Morgan on all the Things, TikTok, reels, Facebook,

1674
01:21:15,200 --> 01:21:17,880
Speaker 1: you name it. Y'all have a great weekend. Amy, thanks

1675
01:21:17,920 --> 01:21:22,280
Speaker 1: for joining me. Love y'all, thank you for having me. Bye.

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01:21:22,400 --> 01:21:26,160
Speaker 1: Listen it is a Bobby Bon Bobby Bones