Speaker 1: Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camil Luddington,
Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Well, Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 3: Hello Call It crew, and welcome to another episode of.
Speaker 2: Call It What It Is?
Speaker 3: What It Is. Jessica, Yes, before we got on here,
Speaker 3: you said something to me that was shocking because usually
Speaker 3: you start a podcast and you're a perky, perky worky.
Speaker 2: Ready to know.
Speaker 3: And I'm by the way, I'm in bed right now,
Speaker 3: because I was like, that's where I'm at. I just
Speaker 3: want to lounge, blah blah blah. But you did not
Speaker 3: sound very perky worky.
Speaker 1: No, oddly enough, I actually sounded perky while saying that
Speaker 1: I woke up angry.
Speaker 2: Let's talk about it.
Speaker 3: Because this is not Jessica Capshaw does not wake up
Speaker 3: angry or I mean, maybe we shouldn't say that, and
Speaker 3: you never do, but it's not a regular occurrence for you.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, definitely not. I woke up angry. I
Speaker 1: woke up kind of like worth mentioning is that it's
Speaker 1: it's proper winter here, it's properly cold. I feel like
Speaker 1: the English have a saying for it involves like it's
Speaker 1: tits cold or it's tits out. Cold, or it's tits in.
Speaker 3: I never said my tits are in.
Speaker 2: It's so cold, my tits are out.
Speaker 3: It's a cold, my tits are out.
Speaker 1: It's my titties.
Speaker 3: Yeah, colder than yes, see, it's cold.
Speaker 1: That's what I said, you know what this morning I
Speaker 1: would have said, Yeah, that's what I said.
Speaker 3: That's going on the merch people, that's going on the merch.
Speaker 1: And then I would do like a head Bobby Snake weave. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I do that. I do that.
Speaker 3: I feel like I feel like it's so you know,
Speaker 3: the cold is like so cute and it's like Christmas time,
Speaker 3: and the second it turns like December twenty six, you're.
Speaker 1: Like no, yeah, no, yeah, yeah yeah. And when it's
Speaker 1: you know, it's properly cold and there's no decorations to
Speaker 1: distract me. So anyways, it's cold, and I just I
Speaker 1: don't know the outweighed by pros this morning, and I
Speaker 1: just I think, you know what it actually was. My
Speaker 1: mindset is usually very The force is strong with me
Speaker 1: when it comes to my mindset, and I can usually
Speaker 1: just clear with the force. I can oh yeah, swish away.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: The negativity, the cons, the uphills, the mean people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the people who do things I don't like, all that
Speaker 1: can usually just move them away. And for some reason
Speaker 1: this morning I was like, you know what, I wonder
Speaker 1: if there isn't some value in me getting a little mad.
Speaker 3: I love it it. I have encouraged this in you.
Speaker 3: Thank you to embrace your your your leo, your your
Speaker 3: lie in anger.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I gotta yeah. And it wasn't by the way,
Speaker 1: you know, it didn't hurt anyone. I don't know if
Speaker 1: this happens to you, but I will tell you whenever
Speaker 1: I whenever these little these these these moments happened to
Speaker 1: me because my patience is actually zero. It's like metal
Speaker 1: hitting metal, sparks flying, the amount of patients that almost
Speaker 1: everything goes wrong right, like you drop your coffee, you
Speaker 1: can't find your.
Speaker 3: Keys one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: It's like the like you're already feeling emotionally, like you're
Speaker 1: at rock bottom and the universe just throws you some
Speaker 1: Maybe it actually maybe maybe the universe wants you to
Speaker 1: get more mad.
Speaker 3: Maybe maybe the negative is inviting a little negative. But
Speaker 3: I don't know if I believe that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, I don't know. Well, I I
Speaker 1: I ended up going to I went to go work out,
Speaker 1: which was actually exactly what I should have done. And
Speaker 1: you know that annoying people that are always like you're
Speaker 1: just one You're just one workout away from a good mood.
Speaker 1: Oh you know those people.
Speaker 3: I mean, Matt does a little you know those people.
Speaker 3: I mean, he can do a little of that. It's like,
Speaker 3: do you want to just work? Do you want to
Speaker 3: come work out with me? I'm like, you want my
Speaker 3: day to be worse? You wand of wars today because
Speaker 3: I can call so many, that's all.
Speaker 1: If he had said something like that to me this morning,
Speaker 1: it would have actually been how you described me during
Speaker 1: burger Gate.
Speaker 3: I would have been like, yeah, you would have found
Speaker 3: your roar. Yeah, yeah, a little WORKYOUTI Jesse.
Speaker 1: Oh no no no, no no no no.
Speaker 2: The fire no fire.
Speaker 1: No yeah, the fire would have been strong.
Speaker 3: Would have been I just woke up tired. But I've
Speaker 3: been waking up tired a lot, and it makes me
Speaker 3: feel like I just had a friend go get their
Speaker 3: hormones checked and they had like negative five hundred testosterone. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and so I think it might be time I'm forty
Speaker 3: one to like to see the hormone I mean, yeah,
Speaker 3: fresh fresh forty one in a fraction a teeny tiny
Speaker 3: and uh but I'm thinking like, oh crap, like this
Speaker 3: is the decade where you gotta see. I mean, we've
Speaker 3: talked about this before, but I feel my energy levels.
Speaker 3: I mean, listen, I do think there's something to say
Speaker 3: for there's.
Speaker 1: So much workout can't.
Speaker 3: Fix a little lunky lnky no and then bad. I
Speaker 3: do think there's something to say for the world right now,
Speaker 3: which maybe adding to your anger feels like a sucubus.
Speaker 3: It feels like it's like literally like draining right now,
Speaker 3: and I can't find my rally. I will at some
Speaker 3: point today because I have young children and I have
Speaker 3: to well.
Speaker 1: I always wonder about this piece. I wonder that, like
Speaker 1: I think, I don't I wonder, I wonder. I don't
Speaker 1: know the answer to this, Like is there more unhappiness
Speaker 1: or sadness or terribleness or insert the bad word now
Speaker 1: than there ever has been? Or is there just now
Speaker 1: a camera and a microphone in everywhere so that the
Speaker 1: sadness and the terribleness and the awfulness is just you're
Speaker 1: able to see it, and so it's not like you
Speaker 1: just are feeling your own or seeing your own or
Speaker 1: processing your own, you're actually processing yours and whatever specific
Speaker 1: to you and might directly affect you. You're also processing
Speaker 1: so many other people's and I think that's a lot.
Speaker 1: And I also think everyone has a different like you know,
Speaker 1: sensitivity or receptivity to it. And I'm not trying to
Speaker 1: say that someone who feels more is better or worse
Speaker 1: at all. I think there's really like there's good and
Speaker 1: bad things to all of it. But I would say
Speaker 1: that I feel like, oh, I'm gonna be that obnoxious
Speaker 1: person that's.
Speaker 3: Like I feel things deeply. You're an mpath? Is that
Speaker 3: what they call it?
Speaker 1: An EmPATH?
Speaker 2: Yes? I can see that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's just only so many pictures and videos.
Speaker 3: Of weeping people that I can Yeah, because I remember
Speaker 3: my mom when I was a kid. We would get
Speaker 3: the newspaper delivered to the house in England, so she
Speaker 3: would be reading the news and then we would maybe
Speaker 3: catch the news at like you know, five am, and
Speaker 3: then that was what she was consuming for the day. Yeah,
Speaker 3: And so if there was a terrible story like that
Speaker 3: was it. But we can go, we can we have
Speaker 3: access to thousands upon thous millions of terrible stories, right,
Speaker 3: and if you're doing the doom scrolling you are. You
Speaker 3: can see so many and consuming so much in just
Speaker 3: even a minute. So I think that, yeah, if it all,
Speaker 3: it all feels. I feel a little drained today. This
Speaker 3: is a bad This is a bad podcast for me.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: I like to always think about like there's the weight,
Speaker 1: and then there's the counterweight, the counterweight to that I
Speaker 1: have I have, I have found, I have found to
Speaker 1: be in the same the same place that can be
Speaker 1: the well spring of the sad when I'm feeling that,
Speaker 1: like when I'm seeing so much news about the things
Speaker 1: that are happening and I can't do anything about and
Speaker 1: that are tragic and this, that and the other. The
Speaker 1: other thing that I can do is I flip onto
Speaker 1: my my Instagram reels knows that I actually like a
Speaker 1: good time and that I like to see videos of
Speaker 1: people pranking each other, oh or farting. That does and
Speaker 1: then and then I can get myself right out of it.
Speaker 3: See my Instagram reels knows I love animal rescues, and
Speaker 3: so it's like in the arms of oh the Sarah MacLachlan,
Speaker 3: and it's like it's like then I'm crying about the
Speaker 3: puppy that was found under the car. I mean, it's like,
Speaker 3: that's what I so, I can't there's no there's no
Speaker 3: safe space for me to be scrolling.
Speaker 1: Okay, well you need to borrow my algorithm for a second.
Speaker 1: Get onto my I'll give you my passwords. You get
Speaker 1: onto my account and you'll be laughing. The kids and
Speaker 1: I will look at them and I evidently maybe I
Speaker 1: don't know, it might not be good for you, right,
Speaker 1: it might like hack your dopamine receptors or something. But
Speaker 1: sometimes I'm like, I'm here for it. Hack them, hack them,
Speaker 1: and give me some happiness. Yeah, just like people go
Speaker 1: in for that big huge slam dunk and flying past
Speaker 1: the net onto their faces.
Speaker 3: You love it in high school gyms, but like.
Speaker 2: Put to music, Yes, yeah, yeah, god yeah, Oh you
Speaker 2: love it? Oh God, yes, I love it.
Speaker 1: Do you like when people prank you?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: I hate a prank, and I have brothers, so that
Speaker 3: the combo is not great.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 3: No, I don't like a prank. I'm trying to think
Speaker 3: of the last time I was truly pranked. I can't
Speaker 3: think of it. A long time ago.
Speaker 1: Probably my kids did it to me two weekends ago,
Speaker 1: and they have it on film?
Speaker 3: Would they do? Oh god, that was a snort.
Speaker 1: They saw something about how to prank someone where they
Speaker 1: Poppy was in the front seat. I was driving. She
Speaker 1: gets in the front seat and she'd set up my
Speaker 1: phone because I don't touch my phone when I'm driving,
Speaker 1: She'd set it up so it was facing us, and
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know why she's facing us,
Speaker 1: but whatever. And then she's talking and then all of
Speaker 1: a sudden, she starts talking to someone else named Amanda,
Speaker 1: and her head keeps jerking and she's like Amanda, I said,
Speaker 1: stop it, And I was like, what is happening?
Speaker 3: What is she doing? Oh, she's like pretending like imaginary friend,
Speaker 3: like possessed altery.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but then Amanda is grabbing her by the back
Speaker 1: of the head and she's being like twisted and contorted
Speaker 1: in the back seat. And ah, turns out I'm actually
Speaker 1: good in these circumstances, because I was like, honey, what's
Speaker 1: going on?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's really I would freak out because
Speaker 3: you know me, I would believe it.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Have you seen the ones where like the couples, when
Speaker 1: one pretends to be afraid of something and like swatting
Speaker 1: at the air and then the other one start doing it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, there's one I did try and
Speaker 3: prank my Some my nieces were in town last year,
Speaker 3: and I found this YouTube that you can put on
Speaker 3: because they don't know the news here really very well, right,
Speaker 3: like they're not familiar with like who's who's an actor
Speaker 3: and who's not. And you can play this YouTube video
Speaker 3: where it says, oh, breaking news, sorry, we've just and
Speaker 3: it's basically saying that there has been an alien invasion.
Speaker 3: And so we called her down and we timed the
Speaker 3: YouTube video to where we were talking, and it was
Speaker 3: like eh, eh, and it did them and we're like,
Speaker 3: oh my god, what is going on here? I'm like,
Speaker 3: oh yeah, And I think she believed it for about
Speaker 3: thirty seconds until some of us and our family are
Speaker 3: not so good actor as I found out, and we're laughing.
Speaker 3: I was fully in. I was committed to the to
Speaker 3: the bit.
Speaker 1: Of course you were, you're crushing it, but they were.
Speaker 3: I was crushing it.
Speaker 2: I was crying.
Speaker 3: I was sobbing on the floor.
Speaker 1: Did you have an earbud in your in your ear?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I was like, what it's going on? Yes,
Speaker 3: but no, I do I love a good prank? I
Speaker 3: too love a good prank. That maybe that's what I
Speaker 3: need to be doing. Maybe that would get me out
Speaker 3: of bed right now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like a fake piece of poop on a toilet's teat.
Speaker 3: It's so stupid, Like, oh wow, have you seen no? God? No,
Speaker 3: but that's like I would probably really laugh at that though.
Speaker 3: That is so have you seen a video where someone's
Speaker 3: put a face like some fake poop on something? Oh?
Speaker 3: My god, you know all the good ones.
Speaker 1: I mean, it has to be a really realistic one,
Speaker 1: but really in your bathroom you justn't tell that.
Speaker 3: That would be so disgusting. But I wonder what he
Speaker 3: would do. I would worry, honestly that even after the prank,
Speaker 3: that he would be a little turned off for life,
Speaker 3: Like even if he knew it was a prank, in
Speaker 3: the end, I'd like ruin some some of the spark
Speaker 3: forever with a fake poop. Then I'd have to blee
Speaker 3: in therapy.
Speaker 1: And like Jess tap Shaw told me a fake mes poop,
Speaker 1: But now we don't have sex anymore? What did you
Speaker 1: put it in one of the kids rooms?
Speaker 3: The kids room is good. The kidroom is so believable.
Speaker 3: It can't be by poop. I need to keep the
Speaker 3: spark alive a little bit. I really do think that
Speaker 3: could kill it. Oh yes, because we're totally off We're
Speaker 3: completely off subject. Okay, okay, we have something to tease today.
Speaker 3: I love a tease.
Speaker 2: Oh god, it's good.
Speaker 3: It's been in the works for a long time. And
Speaker 3: we even had to go we had to go to
Speaker 3: ABC and we had to get the all clear. And
Speaker 3: we've been waiting to tell you guys because.
Speaker 1: We didn't want to say we could do something that
Speaker 1: we couldn't do, because that's how seriously we take our responsibility.
Speaker 3: Here exactly right. So, Jessica, what is what is it?
Speaker 3: Because we're going to be doing this whole episode's gonna
Speaker 3: be what's in and what's out for twenty twenty Well,
Speaker 3: there is something that is now in. Recall it what
Speaker 3: it is in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1: Just I feel like this is going to be an
Speaker 1: outbreak where we ask you to guess what do you
Speaker 1: think is going to be in for twenty twenty five?
Speaker 1: What is going to be in for twenty twenty five
Speaker 1: is called a Little Tiny Danny rewatch, a rewatch of
Speaker 1: Grease and not of it, but only the episodes that
Speaker 1: you tell us that you want to rewatch. We're gonna
Speaker 1: just take all of your responses to the ones that
Speaker 1: are the most important to you or that you want
Speaker 1: to hear us talk about the most, and then we're
Speaker 1: going to figure them out and all the call it
Speaker 1: what it is. Fairies are gonna go do some magic
Speaker 1: and they're going to tally them all up, and then
Speaker 1: we're gonna go We're gonna respond to the people. It's
Speaker 1: gonna be a popular vote.
Speaker 3: So and I going to take our little trip down
Speaker 3: memory lane. We're going to go back and we're gonna
Speaker 3: sit and watch these episodes as homework. We're going to
Speaker 3: take notes. I it's okay if one of us is
Speaker 3: not in one of the episodes. We are fans of
Speaker 3: the show, and I will ask my own fan questions
Speaker 3: and as I'm watching and or as she's watching. And
Speaker 3: we are just pumped, you guys, to add some of
Speaker 3: this rewatch magic into our own podcasts, and so we yes,
Speaker 3: our first one is going to be airing February second, Sunday,
Speaker 3: February second is when the podcast will be out, our
Speaker 3: first week Rewatch. So you guys like Jessica said, this
Speaker 3: is including you. We want to hear from you. What
Speaker 3: are the episodes that you're desperate for us to watch again?
Speaker 3: Talk all about get into it. You can email us
Speaker 3: dm us go on call it what it is. You
Speaker 3: can call the hotline, you guys, call us, leave a
Speaker 3: message exactly, let us know because we will be doing
Speaker 3: this in twenty twenty five. It is in for us
Speaker 3: in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1: I love it. And by the way, guess what, it's
Speaker 1: already February. Just saying that made me think, well, well,
Speaker 1: January's over now.
Speaker 3: Well I wish it was.
Speaker 1: It's almost over. No, we're gonna live in the moment.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna wake up tomorrow morning feeling different.
Speaker 3: We're gonna live in the moment. But for love months,
Speaker 3: we're giving you a love gift.
Speaker 1: Oh I know. It's the love a tiny early Valentine's
Speaker 1: Day gift. Okay, So here's the things. What we're talking
Speaker 1: about today is ins and outs. What is in and
Speaker 1: what is out? What do we want to bring in, call.
Speaker 2: In and.
Speaker 1: Do in twenty twenty five and what are we ready
Speaker 1: to say thank you for your service, goodbye, you're out?
Speaker 3: I think for me doom scrolling is out. Yes, I agree,
Speaker 3: we got to stop the doom scrolling.
Speaker 1: I might just stop watching the news and jokes.
Speaker 3: I might just stop knowing what's going on at all.
Speaker 1: I might live in a bubble.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the bubbles are in.
Speaker 3: Yeah, a little Glinda, a little Glinda.
Speaker 1: But I would say in partnership with living in a
Speaker 1: bubble or making myself feel better about uh, that choice
Speaker 1: or idea in some way is be great in your bubble,
Speaker 1: be your best self, be your kindest self, affect people
Speaker 1: in a positive way, Like you really only can affect
Speaker 1: the people that you see on the daily, and you
Speaker 1: contact and touch you know on the daily. So so
Speaker 1: be your best, not like you got to like, you know,
Speaker 1: be great all the time, but just be your best
Speaker 1: and be your gindest.
Speaker 3: I think it's just also knowing how much you your
Speaker 3: brain can consume. Like we feel full right when we
Speaker 3: eat a lot, but I feel like our brain like
Speaker 3: we need to know when when we're done or we're
Speaker 3: done consuming. So the doom is scrolling because I can way
Speaker 3: over consume my brain.
Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot.
Speaker 3: Of stuff that's out for me, what's out for you?
Speaker 1: I think out would be well Okay, I've been talking
Speaker 1: to you about this a lot, but I'm pretty pretty
Speaker 1: deep in with this whole Mel Robbins and the let
Speaker 1: them theory, which should we'll talk about. I'm probably never
Speaker 1: going to stop talking about it, but just I think
Speaker 1: what's out for me is this idea that I am
Speaker 1: in any way, shape or form convincing myself and or
Speaker 1: thinking that I am in control of anyone or any
Speaker 1: anyone but me.
Speaker 3: Oh that's hard.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think there's a really sweet reward for
Speaker 1: understanding that you're not going to change anyone, and that
Speaker 1: being in relationship with anyone that you feel like you
Speaker 1: need to change is maybe not a great relationship, and
Speaker 1: that person likely doesn't want to get changed by you
Speaker 1: if that person likely thinks that they're great. So maybe
Speaker 1: in letting go of this idea that you have to
Speaker 1: have everything, you know fill in the blank, but just
Speaker 1: not not controlling, letting letting it go, letting people be
Speaker 1: who they are, and and and by the way, that
Speaker 1: does no way, shape or form means being apathetic or
Speaker 1: or or like surrendering to like just things happening to you.
Speaker 1: It's it's actually I think very empowering to sort of go. Wow,
Speaker 1: I don't control it all, and I shouldn't actually want to,
Speaker 1: and and a lot of people need to go and
Speaker 1: do and be what they are, and I get a
Speaker 1: choice as to whether or not I'm you know, with them.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, In for me?
Speaker 3: In for me is I think I need to trust
Speaker 3: the universe a little more. I think that, Yes, I
Speaker 3: think I need to put a little more trust out
Speaker 3: into the into the powers that be whatever they are.
Speaker 1: Can I add something that makes that easier for me?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Really believing that the universe is on your side? Man,
Speaker 1: that's hard.
Speaker 3: That's hard. I know it's hard, because yeah, I think
Speaker 3: it's hard to hear because when really not great things
Speaker 3: about happened to people, you're like, how the fun were you?
Speaker 3: On my side?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's different than everything happens for a reason that
Speaker 1: one I have I find more.
Speaker 3: I really don't like that either yet.
Speaker 2: I don't love that, but I do love that.
Speaker 1: But I do believe the universe is on our side.
Speaker 1: I don't believe that everything goes our way or yeah,
Speaker 1: happen And obviously there's horrible, horrific tragedies on and I'm
Speaker 1: not in any way shape or form insinuating that you
Speaker 1: know that the universe wanted those horrible, terrible tragedies to happen.
Speaker 1: But I think it's just the goodwill part of it,
Speaker 1: which is that I do think ultimately goodwill out weighs bad.
Speaker 3: I think I agree that with that. I gotta sit
Speaker 3: with that. Let me think on it. I'm going to
Speaker 3: digest that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I'm going to go superficial and tell you
Speaker 1: that for me, in is after a really long period
Speaker 1: of overhearing them being played, sometimes having them thrown to
Speaker 1: me on my feed, but the whole get ready with
Speaker 1: me stuff, just like all the different ways that I
Speaker 1: can fucking highlight, low light, yeah, shadow not shadow, change
Speaker 1: the shape of my something or my other. That's that's
Speaker 1: out for me, and in for me is really like
Speaker 1: I love all this super minimal makeup, like a lot
Speaker 1: of makeup that just actually involves like some kind of
Speaker 1: tinted moisturizer, like a little beautiful little lip balm. I'm loving,
Speaker 1: Like I love all the Gucci Westman stuff, I love
Speaker 1: all the Say stuff. I love like I like these
Speaker 1: like me too, very simple makeup brands that don't want
Speaker 1: to like dratically change. I mean listen, I like, I
Speaker 1: like a smoky eye for a night out, but just
Speaker 1: like not trying to change everything. Yeah, my face, the.
Speaker 3: Clean, the clean, the clean makeup look I think will continue.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think I need a contour, you know,
Speaker 3: a new like a new head. No, no, that's out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think in it is sort of going
Speaker 1: all right, I'm gonna take what I got. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: make it moisturized.
Speaker 2: Moisturized, glowy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, wait, you know what I think it's in.
Speaker 3: That's a vanity thing too. In color analysis, can't stop,
Speaker 3: won't stop watching those videos, say more, you don't know
Speaker 3: what this is. Oh my god, Jessa Capshaw. This is
Speaker 3: where someone comes and they literally put like different color
Speaker 3: fabrics up against your skin tone, and they can tell
Speaker 3: you what season you are, so you're like a cool
Speaker 3: summer or a warm autumn, and then they tell you
Speaker 3: what jewelry best suits you and which hair color. And
Speaker 3: people are doing these color analysis realizing like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: I have my whole wardrobes a hot mess. I shouldn't
Speaker 3: be wearing these colors and my hair color does not
Speaker 3: help me. And then they're doing little mini makeovers on
Speaker 3: themselves and they look amazing.
Speaker 1: Someone comes to your house with fabrics, watches.
Speaker 3: They can come to you, you can go to them. Yep, wow,
Speaker 3: color analysis. Yeah, huh, all right, someone, I'm here to
Speaker 3: talk about it. Okay, okay, we asked you guys, what's
Speaker 3: it on out?
Speaker 1: I think it's also just so we've got our own personals.
Speaker 1: But there's actually because Google answers everything these days.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: The in trends for twenty twenty five, according to the
Speaker 1: Google is also in person book clubs, a shift from
Speaker 1: solely consuming book content online to discussing books face to face.
Speaker 1: I've heard of this. I've heard of these book groups.
Speaker 2: I would love a book club.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do one.
Speaker 3: I know, but I want you here. I want you here.
Speaker 1: And that's community. The other number. The other one was
Speaker 1: religious practice revival, increased engagement with religious customs and community gatherings.
Speaker 1: Sustainable fashion prioritizing eco friendly and ethically sourced clothing. I
Speaker 1: think that's a big one. I can't tell you, especially
Speaker 1: with being a mother of teenagers, there's all these brands
Speaker 1: that are just so it's it's very irresponsible. What's happening
Speaker 1: in the clothing market. Local business support I'm always a
Speaker 1: huge fan of this, actively seeking out and patronizing nearby
Speaker 1: businesses as opposed to online and then bright equals. I've
Speaker 1: never heard this bright equals cultivating relationships with people who
Speaker 1: equally motivate and challenge you.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 3: Oh, I love a bright equal.
Speaker 1: Yes, Oh, this is going to be a b e.
Speaker 3: What's the opposite of it? Like a dull saggy sock.
Speaker 3: I don't know what is the opposite of a bright equal? Oh,
Speaker 3: I love it equal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it'd be a dim inferior, inferior.
Speaker 3: Key out trends for twenty twenty five excessive political correctness
Speaker 3: and move towards more open and nuanced conversations. Interesting oversharing
Speaker 3: on social media, I do, Yeah, being more mindful about
Speaker 3: what information is shared online. You guys know my RX
Speaker 3: at CVS uh solely distance running. Wait what incorporating more
Speaker 3: diverse workout routines like resistance training. Yeah, we've talked about this.
Speaker 3: I gotta get the most.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm on board. That's what changed my mood this morning.
Speaker 3: Yeah, what can I do from the bed is what
Speaker 3: I'm wondering. Constant phone usage, being more intentional about phone
Speaker 3: usage and prioritizing present moments. Yes, I'm all for that.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: The crew has let us know what's in and out
Speaker 3: for them, Whitney said in staying politically active and demanding
Speaker 3: more from our representatives, agreed out staying uninformed. Oh, we
Speaker 3: talked about our bubble.
Speaker 2: Just said the bubble.
Speaker 3: Listen. I think the bubble is the what I was saying,
Speaker 3: where it's like you're the bubble is more of a
Speaker 3: protection from over consuming. You can stay yes, yes, and
Speaker 3: not have over consumption of news. Yeah, ye, handling well yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: we're not complete morons in the bubble.
Speaker 1: No, And I do I do. You do need to
Speaker 1: stay active. It's a really important part of all this.
Speaker 1: But I guess so I'm just gonna go down on
Speaker 1: a limb here. That's the thing, you know, we always
Speaker 1: it's hard because especially when you're talking and you know
Speaker 1: some of you are out there are listening, and some
Speaker 1: of you might be like, well, Camilla thinks this or
Speaker 1: Jessica thinks that, and yeah, sometimes you know, we do
Speaker 1: because we have opinions and some of them are very strong.
Speaker 2: Yep.
Speaker 1: And I always think about the times where a little
Speaker 1: later in life I realized that two things can be
Speaker 1: true at the same time, right, Like I can want
Speaker 1: to be really active and fight for what I want
Speaker 1: and what I need and the world that I want
Speaker 1: to live in, and I can also want to hide
Speaker 1: and see nothing and say nothing and do nothing. Like
Speaker 1: those two things can be true at the same time.
Speaker 1: And that's a constant negotiation, I think, because you run
Speaker 1: towards doing something and seeing all the things and feeling
Speaker 1: all the things, and I think you hit a certain
Speaker 1: threshold moment where you're like, Okay, I ran ran, ran,
Speaker 1: ran ran, and now I need to stop, and I
Speaker 1: need to kind of take a break and do the opposite.
Speaker 1: And I still have this passion for this thing that
Speaker 1: I've been fighting for at the same time that I
Speaker 1: need to rest.
Speaker 3: I don't think. I think that you keep the passion
Speaker 3: and then you don't sabotage your own mental health. It
Speaker 3: really affects my mental health, It affects everyone's mental health.
Speaker 3: And you do that so it's like preserving yourself so
Speaker 3: that you're good for the fight. You're kind of useless
Speaker 3: if you're burned out on all of it, you know. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's a careful balance.
Speaker 1: Yea, all right, Okay, Rachel said, in is staying in
Speaker 1: better touch with friends and family. Love that out is
Speaker 1: listening to what people think I should do with my life. Well,
Speaker 1: if you're gonna stay in better touch with your.
Speaker 5: Friends and family, you're likely gonna hear what they should
Speaker 5: they think you should do with your life.
Speaker 1: But then we do.
Speaker 3: This is the balance of this is your true Yeah,
Speaker 3: the suggestion box Aaron in putting myself first, out worrying
Speaker 3: about things out of my control. Aaron, I feel you.
Speaker 3: That's out for me too. I'm done. Yeah, it's tough.
Speaker 5: Though, let them Rebecca in taking luxurious beds and upping
Speaker 5: my bathtip game out rushing my getting ready and beauty routine.
Speaker 3: I love the bathtub because I think it's just like
Speaker 3: I do and I don't. I used to take them
Speaker 3: all the time, and then I had kids, and now
Speaker 3: it's like, you know, I don't do it, and I
Speaker 3: don't know why. It's this very simple way to just
Speaker 3: prioritize yourself at night.
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people as adults who do
Speaker 1: like nice long baths before bed, like every night.
Speaker 3: Really yeah, wow, I know, I think that would be great.
Speaker 3: Maybe I'm gonna start doing a right now.
Speaker 1: I actually really did think.
Speaker 3: I also was like, hmm, Jesse, shopping in my own
Speaker 3: closet is in buying crap I don't need is out.
Speaker 1: Yes, and this would be in line with sustainable clothing.
Speaker 1: Shop your own closet and that you know what, there's
Speaker 1: a ton of Instagram accounts that are dedicated to this.
Speaker 3: What do you mean, Like how are they dedicated?
Speaker 2: Like what do they do?
Speaker 1: Like they'll take in a fashion inspo because I don't
Speaker 1: know if you've noticed this lately, but it seems like
Speaker 1: there's quite a few looks that I see out and
Speaker 1: about that are comprised of fairly simple variables.
Speaker 3: It's like, ye, sometimes a white T shirt and a
Speaker 3: pair of great.
Speaker 1: Fitting jeans and then and then there's like the sweater
Speaker 1: just so over your shoulders, or like the cute little
Speaker 1: purse or the loafer or the mules or the whatever,
Speaker 1: like is the thing that makes it. But it's like not,
Speaker 1: it's not heavy lifting, it's not complicated. You know, we're
Speaker 1: not dealing with like crazy high fashion in the mainstream
Speaker 1: right now. We're not like, it's not like crazy hemlines
Speaker 1: and you know, really structured clothing.
Speaker 3: It's funny because the girls in La. The teens in La.
Speaker 3: I don't know what it's like for the rest of
Speaker 3: the country. They're wearing the same stuff that I was
Speaker 3: wearing in Austin, Texas in ninety eight. It's like the baggy,
Speaker 3: the baggy or jeans, right, the loose fitting jeans, the
Speaker 3: spaghetty drop top. It's pretty like and I know that's
Speaker 3: so cute. It's so cute, and it's not. It's not
Speaker 3: anything bougie and crazy. And that's Los Angeles.
Speaker 1: Where are the jeans right now? Is it a low rise?
Speaker 2: Right now?
Speaker 3: It's a low rise. Oh, it's a low rise.
Speaker 1: Four children makes low rises just different than they were
Speaker 1: in my twenties.
Speaker 3: I can do a little baggy, a little barrel, I can't.
Speaker 1: Do a low rise. Okay, So I guess it was
Speaker 1: the nineties. Maybe it was the early two thousands. There
Speaker 1: was there was this gene brand called Frankie b is
Speaker 1: that what it's called yef? And the it was so low,
Speaker 1: it was the lowest. It was so low that like
Speaker 1: they could have replaced like a button fly, like one
Speaker 1: button fly for a zipper. Like that's that's the only
Speaker 1: that's that.
Speaker 3: That's how yehall you needed a bikini wax to wear
Speaker 3: those That's where I was gonna go with this, And
Speaker 3: I love you for saying it first and for.
Speaker 1: Just knowing that that's the case. A special kind of
Speaker 1: bikini wax to wear, the kind of low that that
Speaker 1: gene went.
Speaker 3: Yeah should I'm sure it was called the I have
Speaker 3: I need the Frankie b wax mm hmmmm hmmm. And
Speaker 3: they're like, we know those genes we're going in.
Speaker 1: I don't know why my brain just went to this.
Speaker 1: But if you did the Playboy stickers for yourself tanned,
Speaker 1: did you ever do like decorative bikini waxes?
Speaker 3: No? I never bedazzled my vagina the jazzled. I never
Speaker 3: did of a dazzle. But like, did you ever do like?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: I never did. I never did like the give me
Speaker 3: a you know, give me a palm tree on the
Speaker 3: I didn't. I mean, maybe I was missed out. Did
Speaker 3: you ever do one? Or you're like, I'd like a
Speaker 3: moon and a star because it's gonna be a full
Speaker 3: moon this week and you know I'm a I'm a
Speaker 3: little lion, a.
Speaker 1: Little lion's man.
Speaker 2: Did you ever do it?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: As I asked the question, I was actually wondering if
Speaker 1: that's even a thing.
Speaker 3: No, but now I think it is shapes.
Speaker 1: Right, but really there was it wasn't a shape different
Speaker 1: than a triangle? Really you could?
Speaker 3: I mean, yea can.
Speaker 1: Get like a circle, I mean.
Speaker 2: A circle a Picasso.
Speaker 3: You're like, I'd like the it's like you get. So
Speaker 3: I'm sure there were artists out there that were doing something.
Speaker 4: I think it'd be more like, yeah, yeah, we're so off,
Speaker 4: like I don't even know where we are today, Lively
Speaker 4: in reputation TV.
Speaker 3: Are we Are we all stupid? For? Like, are we
Speaker 3: all so stupid? Is it ever coming? Oh?
Speaker 2: God?
Speaker 3: Out the pressure to have a metaphorse.
Speaker 1: I once was told by a teenager that side parts
Speaker 1: were disgusting.
Speaker 3: That is so not over extreme. That's just it is extreme.
Speaker 3: It's coming back, It's going to come back.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Cam says that in is more cats and out is
Speaker 1: living your life for men.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, that's out.
Speaker 3: Oh oh Jason in being politically aware and educated, out
Speaker 3: being racist, sexist or homophobic.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, Jason, Yes, it's even it's sad that you
Speaker 1: have to write that. Yeah, I know, okay, Page, Hi,
Speaker 1: I love you both, We love you.
Speaker 2: Page.
Speaker 1: My inn is valuing myself and my out is procrastinating.
Speaker 3: Love that procrastinating is hard.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I this took me a while.
Speaker 1: My journey to this truth was a winding one. But
Speaker 1: I actually realized that I need to be grateful to
Speaker 1: my procrastination sometimes because my procrastinating like pushes me to
Speaker 1: the edge of comfort. And then that's where sometimes my
Speaker 1: well spring, if you can call it. That might be
Speaker 1: lofty of me to say, but the well spring of
Speaker 1: my creativity or my you know, spontaneity, that's where that lives.
Speaker 1: You got to push me to the edge, though it
Speaker 1: revs the endine alat Yeah, yeah, yeah, puts a little heat,
Speaker 1: throws a little gasoline on my fire.
Speaker 2: Ooh, I like it.
Speaker 3: Sydney in low rise jeans. No, Sydney, No, no, we
Speaker 3: can't do it, Sids, Oh out high rise skinnies, Sydney.
Speaker 1: Can I keep my high rises if they're not skinny?
Speaker 3: I don't want them to be skinnies.
Speaker 1: I don't even have them anymore.
Speaker 3: But like Sids, we gotta talk about this, Sydney.
Speaker 1: Hey, how about this? How about this? Two things going
Speaker 1: to be true? They can both be in If you
Speaker 1: love low rise jeans. They make you happy and you
Speaker 1: feel great in them, then you wear them. And if
Speaker 1: you like high raise jeans, then you look good and
Speaker 1: you feel good in them, then wear them.
Speaker 3: I like them up to the armpits, as do I.
Speaker 1: Uh well, I think this would basically be called overalls.
Speaker 1: I like, so I don't. I was like high rise
Speaker 1: like overalls.
Speaker 3: That's what I wore yesterday, all right?
Speaker 1: Uh Roxanne says in is moving to the countryside with acreage,
Speaker 1: rock sand. You speak my love language.
Speaker 3: Out is traffic, no rock sand, and traffic sucks. Lord
Speaker 3: Mary jay in respectful guys out dickheads.
Speaker 2: Yeah, love that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we don't need dickheads anymore.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know they used to. Do you think it's
Speaker 1: an actual period of your time or like neurobiologically you
Speaker 1: like crave a dickhead and like you like you all
Speaker 1: mature out of it, like you always like it's just
Speaker 1: a stage and an age.
Speaker 3: Did you ever crave a dickhead? I didn't ever craved
Speaker 3: a dickhead, but I craved people that maybe warn't it
Speaker 3: into me.
Speaker 1: Which I was excited and drawn into people who were
Speaker 1: like a little naughty, naughty or dickhead Tomato Tomato a
Speaker 1: naughty dickhead, but naughtyada dickhead. I get it all right,
Speaker 1: I tell you, Feara says in a Sustainable Self care
Speaker 1: solo travel, thrifting and meditating out is cancel culture, diet culture,
Speaker 1: and workaholic praise.
Speaker 3: Ooh, that's a great one. Solo travel, I gotta say,
Speaker 3: is the most unappealing thing for me. And I'm jealous
Speaker 3: of people that are like I took myself to wherever
Speaker 3: because I'd wake up in the morning like, well, am
Speaker 3: I gonna know? Like I just want to? I would
Speaker 3: be a nervous nelly.
Speaker 1: I did solo travel one time right after I had
Speaker 1: I had after I had Poppy, because I'm Poppy and
Speaker 1: Eve twenty months apart, and I think I literally was
Speaker 1: just like I got it out. Yeah, I gotta get
Speaker 1: out from it, and I got out from it. But anyways,
Speaker 1: where'd you go?
Speaker 2: Though you're like target.
Speaker 3: Like rehab, it would make sense, tomade.
Speaker 2: Up, Tomato.
Speaker 1: I went to, uh, well not retreat than rehab. Quite frankly,
Speaker 1: I went.
Speaker 3: To you get a retreat situation?
Speaker 1: I did like a retreat situation where I didn't know anyone,
Speaker 1: and uh, did you like it? I truly actually think
Speaker 1: that I needed.
Speaker 2: It and.
Speaker 1: Then I liked it? Is maybe besides the point.
Speaker 3: Yeah that's true.
Speaker 1: You know, like I mean, did I when I look back,
Speaker 1: was it nice? And did I like? Was it a
Speaker 1: great experience? Yeah? For sure? I needed to.
Speaker 3: I needed to.
Speaker 1: I was I was setting myself on fire to keep
Speaker 1: everybody else warm, and I needed a place where they
Speaker 1: were gonna throw some water on me.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, I understand that. That makes sense. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I could maybe do that by myself. I couldn't do
Speaker 3: like a random flying to a city by myself.
Speaker 1: No, I'm not going to like Madrid alone. Yeah, but I'm.
Speaker 3: Jealous of people that I love that Yeah, oh yes
Speaker 3: for sure. Okay, Victoria in losing weight for health out
Speaker 3: losing weight for others?
Speaker 2: Agreed?
Speaker 1: I agree, Camery in is positive self talk out talking
Speaker 1: bad about yourself or others?
Speaker 3: Heck yeah, Audrey in finding out the baby's gender at
Speaker 3: birth or in private out gender reveal parties, how do
Speaker 3: you feel about this one? This is a controversy.
Speaker 1: I never had one.
Speaker 3: I never had a gender reveal party either.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: Oh god, I'm really giving Instagram a lot of love today.
Speaker 1: But have you seen those really funny ones where they're
Speaker 1: like they juxtapose like a cop and Malibu that reveal
Speaker 1: like you know this, this giant Barbie pink g wagon
Speaker 1: comes like crashing, Oh my.
Speaker 3: God, we're like a big white white canvas or something.
Speaker 1: And then they cut to like a family gathered around
Speaker 1: a toilet bowl and when they flush it, it turns.
Speaker 3: Pink and they're all little no, no no. But also
Speaker 3: the truth is, and this is gonna be like a
Speaker 3: little Camillaism where people are like, oh, Debbie Downer, I
Speaker 3: don't think that people give that much of a shit
Speaker 3: about the gender of your baby as you do. Of
Speaker 3: course you're excited. That's why I think a little private
Speaker 3: gender reveal is good. Maybe a little family, but like,
Speaker 3: there doesn't need to be a crowd of people, and
Speaker 3: there doesn't need to be top gun jets flying by.
Speaker 1: Okay ken I rode in. In is having your own style,
Speaker 1: and out is leopard print and Camo h in. It's
Speaker 1: always in to have your own style. So yes, here, here, out,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna keep my lepid print. I'd like to for
Speaker 1: Camo to never return. Camo can go a.
Speaker 3: Style and embracing are not my natural curls I love
Speaker 3: that out destroying my hair with heat damage. I'm so
Speaker 3: bad at the heat stuff. I see everyone like springing
Speaker 3: on the heat, protecting. I like, I like it almost
Speaker 3: to be steaming on fire. I like to see the
Speaker 3: flames and the damage.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Sarah says, in is guilt free rest days, and
Speaker 1: out is anxiety induced over activity.
Speaker 2: I'm with you, love that.
Speaker 3: That's why I'm in bad.
Speaker 2: It's in.
Speaker 3: It's baby. That's hard for me. It is hard for you.
Speaker 3: It's much easier for me. I'm just kind of like
Speaker 3: a slug. Okay, call it crew, all right, this we've
Speaker 3: just we've even all over the place this episode. That's
Speaker 3: that's our energy for the day. But we did our
Speaker 3: ins and outs, and we loved hearing all of yours.
Speaker 3: We agreed with most of them. Some we debated on.
Speaker 3: We had to debate on it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but we're open minds. Two things can be true
Speaker 1: is what we got from this episode, exactly right.
Speaker 3: And we want to hear from you rewatch episode.
Speaker 1: Yes, please, Oh my gosh, this is gonna be fun because,
Speaker 1: oh wait, can you even imagine me and my memory?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say some wacky shit people.
Speaker 3: We're gonna be like Arizona got married.
Speaker 2: We're gonna be like, yeah, it was a I.
Speaker 1: Wore a long sleeve dress. I wore a long sleeve
Speaker 1: mini dress. No I didn't, No, you didn't I didn't.
Speaker 1: Thank you for hanging out with us. Uh, We're going
Speaker 1: into We're going into the new year with lots of
Speaker 1: with lots of Faya and Desiah for all sorts of things.
Speaker 1: Some of them make sense and some of them don't.
Speaker 1: And I feel like that's been the theme of this episode.
Speaker 1: But thank you for hanging out with us and know
Speaker 1: that we are always here for you.
Speaker 3: Let's call it the end of the episode.