WEBVTT - Giovanni: PhD Student Studies Love with Abuelita 0:00:06.040 --> 0:00:08.760 Liliana, I'm so tired. 0:00:09.119 --> 0:00:12.640 I think my eyes are like crossed. I've been in 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:14.000 the library all afternoon. 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:17.480 Come on, what is that you have? Now? A crush 0:00:17.560 --> 0:00:20.680 on some librarian. That's the only way I can see 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:21.000 you there. 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:24.720 Honestly, it's a pretty solid guest. But actually I've been studying, 0:00:25.079 --> 0:00:25.760 thank you very much. 0:00:25.800 --> 0:00:29.840 I'm a scholar, oh lordy, a scholar of what the stars, 0:00:30.360 --> 0:00:33.560 attachment theory, flirtation. 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:37.560 These are all great guesses, but actually I'm a scholar 0:00:37.600 --> 0:00:38.080 of love. 0:00:38.320 --> 0:00:42.559 Of course, well too, Veico. That's our job. That's why 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:45.120 we make such a good pick. That is true. 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:48.920 Welcome listeners. This is date my ho wi ead that first. 0:00:49.080 --> 0:00:52.400 I am your host, Vico or this joined by my 0:00:52.600 --> 0:00:58.840 beautiful partner in crime, Ail lil mon Soon i'll introduce 0:00:58.920 --> 0:01:01.800 our main dater, and once we have met them, Lilana 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:05.440 will sort through three promising contestants before choosing who will 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:07.679 go on a one on one date with our main 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:10.959 dater and who will be heading back to the apps. 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:13.480 Listen, this is a tough job, but that's why the 0:01:13.480 --> 0:01:15.640 two of us are here so we can get this done. 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:18.319 Let's do it, and I am so glad to be here. 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:23.880 With Yolia doing this tough job. All right, So our 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:26.119 main dater this week is Giovanni. 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:31.120 Giovanni is a current PhD candidate for educational policy and 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:36.440 has a passion for youth education, claiming that nothing will 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:39.399 make you a better person than working with young people. 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:40.399 So true. 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:43.320 He was raised by a lot of strong women who 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:46.320 installed a love of family and him from a very 0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:50.760 young age. He believes in healthy masculinity hells yeah, and 0:01:50.840 --> 0:01:54.440 wants to foster more communities than inspire that. He defines 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:58.560 himself as a hopeful romantic, not a hope less romantic, 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:01.520 and wants to flirt with a wife his whole life 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:06.840 honestly same. He boths being a great but shut dance 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:11.320 I love that and and even better, reye, don't dance. 0:02:11.840 --> 0:02:12.880 I'm excited about that. 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:14.959 Do you like to dance with a lover? 0:02:15.639 --> 0:02:15.760 Oh? 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:22.080 Any which way possible? Vertically, horizontally, perpendicular, across all uh yeah, 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:23.160 just let's just get it done. 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:26.120 A lot of angles right there, it's. 0:02:25.960 --> 0:02:27.959 Dancing, dancing dancing. 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:31.440 I'm a dance machine, all right? Define gravity? 0:02:31.520 --> 0:02:31.720 Yeah? 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:36.000 Shall we bring in Giovanni please, let's meet him. Welcome Giovanni. 0:02:36.160 --> 0:02:40.280 Hello, Hello, Hey everyone, how's everyone doing. Thank you so 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:41.239 much for having me. 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:43.320 So so good Giovanni, it is such a pleasure to 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:46.680 have you join us on date my Alida. First, let's 0:02:46.680 --> 0:02:49.520 start off with some basics. What is it that we 0:02:49.600 --> 0:02:51.480 need to know about Giovanni. 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:54.639 Yes, I'm thirty two years old. I'm a PhD in 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:58.320 education policy. Really passionate about your development and helping people 0:02:58.480 --> 0:02:59.520 reach their full potential. 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:02.640 Passionate. I'm very studious and dedicated. 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:03.880 That noted. 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:08.120 Okay, you have always been these studios and concerned about others. 0:03:08.520 --> 0:03:10.240 I was a big nerd when I was growing up. 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:13.040 I love to read, and there was something that really 0:03:13.040 --> 0:03:15.760 sparked a passion in me just seeing people be able 0:03:15.800 --> 0:03:18.040 to be their best selves and there's anything. 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:18.639 Better than the community. 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:20.120 What is your background? 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:22.920 I am Latino, Mexican. 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:25.520 America, Mexican American, and you speak Spanish. 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:37.839 You have grandmothers with. 0:03:37.400 --> 0:03:40.400 More power to both of those beautiful women in your life, 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:44.800 absolutely being raised, but such powerful women. What have you 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:47.720 learned in order to you know, proceed in your life 0:03:47.760 --> 0:03:51.440 and find love and a good steady relationship. How have 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:54.040 they influenced your decisions and your life. 0:03:54.720 --> 0:03:55.880 It's a very interesting question. 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:58.880 I think more than anything, it's about breaking down general 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:02.480 rules and stare types and anything that could potentially box 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:02.840 us in. 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:05.640 My mom had to be both mother and father, and 0:04:05.680 --> 0:04:06.520 so seeing. 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:08.680 Her, you know, work hard and make sure that we 0:04:08.720 --> 0:04:11.920 had every opportunity available even with the limited resources we. 0:04:11.880 --> 0:04:13.120 Had, was a big influence on me. 0:04:13.840 --> 0:04:15.480 You got to be scrappy, you got to play the 0:04:15.520 --> 0:04:17.279 hand in your a DoPT but as long as you 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:18.800 work hard, anything as possible. 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:23.240 So are you an only child? I have a brother, okay, 0:04:23.520 --> 0:04:24.760 older or younger than you. 0:04:25.320 --> 0:04:26.719 She is the younger brother. 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:30.279 Yeah, oh so does he look up to you? 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:34.000 You know? It's interesting because we never knew our dad. 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:36.520 So I feel like I had to be the example, 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:38.440 kind of like the man of the house quote unquote. 0:04:38.800 --> 0:04:41.839 But we definitely work together to get through some hard times. 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:44.599 Do you feel like you normally gravitate towards being a 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:46.000 caretaker and relationships? 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:48.599 Man, you're really asking the hard questions right now, you know. 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:51.080 I think the song we're out here, we have to 0:04:51.279 --> 0:04:52.880 know it's. 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:55.200 A partnership, you know, and we support each other. 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:57.920 So it's not so much about being a caretaker and 0:04:58.080 --> 0:04:59.240 being fixed in that role. 0:04:59.520 --> 0:05:01.720 I think it's more about being dynamic and being supportive. 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:03.720 What do you want to. 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:04.800 Be honest, I want to fall in love. 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:07.080 I think it's the right time in my life and 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:09.880 I'm ready to explore now. 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:13.240 When we're reading the bio, you mentioned something around healthy masculinity, 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:15.840 and one of our producers mentioned that you have an 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:18.160 idea around a retreat for all the toxic gum men 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:18.679 out there. 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:20.039 I want to hear. 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:22.520 More about that because also I love what you say 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:26.520 about your family. You witnessed a challenge around gender roles 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:29.279 and I'm just really curious about how that has been 0:05:29.440 --> 0:05:32.200 for you, and also being an example to your little 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:32.960 brother as well. 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:33.840 Yeah. 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:36.960 Absolutely so. I been youth organizing since I was fourteen fifteen. 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:39.160 Started off with my church. It was in the inner 0:05:39.160 --> 0:05:41.680 city of San Diego. I love being around people. I'm 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:45.440 super extroverted. I love being in community, and so that's 0:05:45.440 --> 0:05:47.800 where it really started. When I started seeing how by 0:05:47.839 --> 0:05:50.320 being an example to others, by just vibing with people, 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:53.960 you can really experience a collective joy. Then I started 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:57.440 getting involved with other programs. Helped start a program that 0:05:57.480 --> 0:05:59.880 helps kids get to college at our firsttrand like me 0:06:00.720 --> 0:06:04.640 and so for me, it was just realizing. 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:05.920 These are the examples that we've all had. 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:07.679 You know, a lot of my cousins were in gangs 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:08.920 when I was growing up, and so that was a 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:13.360 big influence on me. And I started seeing the impact 0:06:13.640 --> 0:06:16.599 of this kind of culture within the friends in my 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:19.200 friend group, and then soon enough, I started to realize 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:22.720 there's a really big gap that needs to be filled, 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:25.760 specifically for men of color, and so I really want 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:28.680 to understand how we can develop a healthy masculinity, and 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:30.880 not just those around us, but in the next generation. 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:33.640 And since I've worked with Yeah, I've been working with 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:36.000 youth for ten years, and I've always seen my young 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:39.480 men even be too tough to smile in a photo, 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:43.160 or not being able to express their feelings. And when 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:46.480 we don't express what we're feeling, the body experiences. I 0:06:46.480 --> 0:06:49.760 don't know if you've all read Body Keeps a Score, a. 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:50.559 Really popular book. 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:52.880 Not read it, but I know about the concept. 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:58.560 And Yeah, you mentioned that the warmth of the family 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:02.080 belongs to the gram others. What is that about. 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:08.280 Yeah, I think it's about inheritance and respecting our elders, 0:07:08.560 --> 0:07:10.960 realizing where we come from. It's almost like the flower 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:14.560 realizing the soil that they come from and honoring that 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:18.400 connection and relationship. And so for me, it's really about 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:21.480 honoring those who come before you. 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:25.240 You said the one where the rules my life respect 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:31.760 any which way, any any person, any place, anytime. Without that, 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:35.720 it just doesn't flow. But speaking of flow, you want 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:36.160 to dance, But. 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:40.200 I love I love dancing. 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:41.880 It's a very sexy dance. 0:07:42.320 --> 0:07:46.040 It's a pure expression and being able to express itself 0:07:46.040 --> 0:07:46.600 it is important. 0:07:46.760 --> 0:07:47.680 So you dance. 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:49.200 This. 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:51.680 To be honest, I can't help it. The beat is on. 0:07:53.560 --> 0:07:54.720 I just do what comes naturally. 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:58.200 You know you can't hold that moertoricans I was like, 0:07:58.240 --> 0:07:58.680 what's up? 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:02.800 Come through, Giovanni. 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:05.440 It was amazing getting to chat with you and getting 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:08.600 to know you. I think at this point will now 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:12.320 bring in the three contestants who will ring for your 0:08:12.400 --> 0:08:17.640 love by vying for Awalita's love first will be your 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:29.360 right back. Welcome back today, Mayawani the first. Hello, Welcome 0:08:29.760 --> 0:08:34.560 to our amazing contestants. Let's start up with Christine and 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:37.720 Christine is a twenty eight year old who says gabin 0:08:37.840 --> 0:08:40.760 and yappin are some of her favorite pastimes. 0:08:41.000 --> 0:08:43.000 I hear you, Christine, I'm so bad. 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:47.960 And Christine enjoys the pursuit of learning so much so 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:51.320 that over the pandemic, Christine taught herself about. 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:55.319 One quantum physics. I'm into it. 0:08:55.520 --> 0:08:59.680 She has many different gigs including hand modeling, video production manager, 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:05.200 brand ambassador, bartender, and atmosphere modeling. Maybe we will have 0:09:05.200 --> 0:09:07.800 a chance to ask about what that means, because I'm interested. 0:09:08.120 --> 0:09:09.400 Welcome Christine. 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:12.439 Hello, and you love to gab, and I love to 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:14.760 yap and I am happy to be here, Gavin and 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:16.520 yappen with you guys, Hels. 0:09:16.720 --> 0:09:18.880 Yes, Next we have Jess. 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:23.160 Jess is a thirty four year old real estate owner, kendlmaker, 0:09:23.320 --> 0:09:24.760 and project manager at. 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:25.960 A private school. 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:29.720 Her friends would describe her as a sensitive firecracker that 0:09:29.840 --> 0:09:33.880 doesn't take shit and works hard because she likes expensive things. 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:35.520 Ay men, fuck yes. 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:39.160 She's deeply family oriented and interested in building towards long 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:40.679 term goals that create a. 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:42.120 Strong, happy life. 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:46.320 She's the youngest of five and claims that having four 0:09:46.320 --> 0:09:49.439 siblings means she got to learn from all of their mistakes. 0:09:49.840 --> 0:09:54.320 Welcome Jess, happy to be here, every life. 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:57.600 Yes, and finally Anusha. 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:00.559 Anusha is a twenty six year old actor and personal 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:03.880 trainer who brings light and life wherever she goes. She 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:07.040 is from India and grew up in Singapore. Ooh, she 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:10.000 wants a partner who feels like a buddy, who can 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:13.240 match her and be an addition to her very full life. 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:17.240 Oh lisitos to each and every one of you. Welcome. 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:22.760 Why don't we find out some more about these contestants? 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:24.320 Yeah, yes, let's do it. 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:28.720 Our main dater this week is getting a PhD in 0:10:29.000 --> 0:10:30.360 education policy. 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:34.199 I see y'all are like, wow, hot into it. 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:40.360 So in this game of lawful loving, we are asking 0:10:40.400 --> 0:10:44.720 you to tell us you're dating policies. So we'll give 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:49.120 you a topic and you'll state what policies. 0:10:48.600 --> 0:10:51.360 You might have under that law. 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:55.920 For example, if I said we'd be talking about types 0:10:56.000 --> 0:11:01.200 of men you might date, you might say date Maya Wilita. 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:06.880 First Proclamation two the reauthorization of do not marry a 0:11:06.960 --> 0:11:11.760 man just because he serenades you on the guitar see 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:12.920 year two thousand and five. 0:11:14.679 --> 0:11:19.320 For the first round, let's hear what laws you might 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:24.800 enact around moving a relationship from casual too serious? The 0:11:24.840 --> 0:11:29.600 proclamation of d t R so dating to relationship. 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:31.640 Christina's ray Christine, go for it. 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:39.440 The first of the policies. I hereby proclaim that you 0:11:39.480 --> 0:11:42.640 need to be friends with my friends. My female friendships 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:46.400 are incredibly important to me. They are the most fulfilling, 0:11:46.760 --> 0:11:49.600 loving relationships in my life and they mean the world 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:51.000 to me. And if you're going to be a part 0:11:51.000 --> 0:11:54.480 of my life, you have to actively want to be 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:57.880 involved in our lives collectively. Like you have to get 0:11:57.880 --> 0:12:00.560 along with my friends. We had a paint and sip. 0:12:00.640 --> 0:12:02.840 Why not. My best friend just like became official with 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:05.439 a boy like two days ago, and he got us 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:09.800 all flowers for Valentine's Day because he was like, these 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:12.439 girls are important to you, so they're important to me, 0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:14.480 And that's the standard. 0:12:14.559 --> 0:12:18.960 Does this guy have a father or grandfather, an uncle 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:23.839 or anyone available? Single breathing and uh And you know, 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:25.280 as a few years. 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:27.439 Left, Wilita, I will check and I will get back 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:27.640 to you. 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:28.840 Thank you so much. 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.120 Continue you love this policy? 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:32.199 A new show? 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:33.760 What is your policy. 0:12:35.000 --> 0:12:39.960 In order to enact the DTR conversation? I feel like 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:45.800 open and honest communication is a requisite in any relationship. 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:47.880 Boom prop them my words. I need. 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:49.439 I feel like I need to have like one of those. 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:54.080 Like gl a gavel, just like cut a requisite Coco. 0:12:55.520 --> 0:12:55.760 Hour. 0:12:56.280 --> 0:12:58.400 Yes, what's your answer? What's your policy? 0:12:59.200 --> 0:13:03.840 So Section one four to three point two Dash eight 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:08.920 stipulates that if a future is looking to pursue a 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:12.959 long term, committed relationship, then the brother has to show 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:17.640 me that he is consistent both in words, effort and action. 0:13:18.640 --> 0:13:21.560 Oh day, elected. 0:13:21.880 --> 0:13:26.560 Nice the gavel king, King? That was that was excellent. 0:13:27.120 --> 0:13:29.760 Well let's go ahead and move on to the next round. 0:13:30.200 --> 0:13:36.280 The next one is the BDE Act of Sex and Intimacy. 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:43.880 Let's hear what laws you might enact around sex and intimacy? 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:47.520 The bd E Act? What does that stand for? 0:13:47.720 --> 0:13:48.520 Big take energy? 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:50.200 I was mouthing it, but I was on me. I know, 0:13:50.240 --> 0:13:52.040 I didn't know it's it is big dake energy. 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:56.679 Well, lovely, thank you for informing me what BD means. Clearly, 0:13:57.160 --> 0:14:03.320 I don't have any big, durable and enforced Okay, okay, 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:06.959 So what is the BD Act of Sex and Intimacy? 0:14:07.679 --> 0:14:08.079 Christine? 0:14:08.240 --> 0:14:08.559 See you? 0:14:09.800 --> 0:14:12.880 What's my proclamation? My agreement? I don't know, like keeping 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:16.000 the excitement alive, especially like in a long term relationship. 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:18.880 I don't want it to ever devolve into just like 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:21.720 well it's Wednesday, and you know what that means, Like 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:23.280 that's not the relationship that I want. 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:27.960 Keeping things fresh, keeping things new. I'm into that, Jess, 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:30.680 what's your proclamation? What's your policy? 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:36.960 Well, the requirement is that he prioritizes my orgasm because 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:40.040 he's gonna get his no matter what. But I need 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:44.000 to make sure that he's making moves, licking things, doing 0:14:44.160 --> 0:14:46.880 all the things I love to make sure I'm pleased. 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:52.880 Yes, yes, yeah, girls, very here for this policy. 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:54.680 Yeah, a new show. What is yours? 0:14:56.120 --> 0:15:02.960 Be clean? Like, I'm sorry, nothing's gonna happen if you're gross. 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:07.680 No, it was prior to commencement. 0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:09.840 Right, there's no commencement that's gonna happen. 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:12.520 If I know that you're in a room because I 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:13.800 smelled you, I. 0:15:15.000 --> 0:15:19.560 Movie, yes, it's true, and I honor this policy. Okay, 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:26.280 for our final law, what laws would you enact around 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:32.440 DM law number sixty nine? How would you legislate surrounding 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:35.320 dms from an interested partner? 0:15:36.440 --> 0:15:36.880 Wow? 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:38.840 So it's like you're getting dms from people who are 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:41.160 interested in being your partner and. 0:15:41.040 --> 0:15:43.760 You're with someone at this time whilst this is happening. 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:44.800 Yeah, I'm into it. 0:15:44.880 --> 0:15:47.920 Oh no, because I'm like, if I'm seeing someone and 0:15:47.960 --> 0:15:52.200 i'm getting dms, we share giggle. What Like, if I'm 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:54.200 getting a DM and I'm seeing someone, I show them 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:56.440 the DM from this random other person and we look 0:15:56.480 --> 0:15:57.560 at it together and giggle. 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:00.880 Okay, Cue, that's a policy. There we go, Christine, go 0:16:01.000 --> 0:16:01.320 for it. 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:04.000 I do want to giggle. I want to be in kahoots. 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:06.600 That's like, that's the whole thing. I want to be 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:10.600 in kahoots. So like, ideally the pickup lines and the 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:12.600 DM will be really bad and then we can laugh 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:14.880 at it together and then riff and make better ones 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:16.160 and turn that into a bit. 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:17.320 I love a bit. 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:20.600 I love a bed here here Okay, So we have right, 0:16:20.800 --> 0:16:25.120 we have a collaboration policy between Anusha and Christine Jess. 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:27.000 Do you have an added policy to this or do 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:28.520 you want to like come in and be like, this 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:32.720 is a collaboration policy and all these three lawyers signed 0:16:32.800 --> 0:16:33.600 and petitioned. 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:34.600 No. 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:38.400 I love the collaboration. However, I like to work in tears. 0:16:38.720 --> 0:16:40.680 So if it's someone you don't know and they're just 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:43.800 shooting their shot, I would prefer to ignore it. If 0:16:43.840 --> 0:16:46.440 it's somebody that you maybe have some sort of rapport 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:49.680 with the there has been some flirting previously, but now 0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:52.280 you're do you don't want to engage in it? Double 0:16:52.320 --> 0:16:56.360 tapping the message great, But if it's to the point 0:16:56.360 --> 0:17:00.720 where somebody is intent I'm trying to get my and 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:03.280 I'm with someone at this time, then I like to 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:06.359 set up boundary and say, hey, I'm not interested, no, 0:17:06.480 --> 0:17:08.440 thank you, something. 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:09.080 To that effect. 0:17:09.280 --> 0:17:11.480 All right, thank you all so much for playing this 0:17:11.560 --> 0:17:14.520 first round. So it's time to play another game. Before 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:18.560 Alita sends one of our lovely contestants home, our main 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:22.600 dater says, nothing will make you a better person than 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:26.760 working with young people. In this game. I know, I 0:17:26.880 --> 0:17:32.119 know everyone is assuming. Listen, in this game of Baby Decoder, 0:17:32.720 --> 0:17:36.560 we'll give you a real life quote from a real 0:17:36.600 --> 0:17:41.240 life young person, and you'll need to tell us how 0:17:41.560 --> 0:17:45.359 would you respond. Let's start off with something simple. Let's 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:49.359 say little little Liana came up to you and. 0:17:49.400 --> 0:17:54.679 Said, Mitra, I have a little bit rat. Rusco is 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:58.840 his name, and he's really nice and I'm in love 0:17:59.000 --> 0:18:04.520 with him. But I also love you. I want to 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:09.280 love you, but I already love my little rat. I 0:18:09.320 --> 0:18:11.000 don't know what to do. 0:18:10.920 --> 0:18:13.600 Oh no, Leana is crying. 0:18:16.359 --> 0:18:18.960 Christina, you want to respond to littlely Leana out here 0:18:19.000 --> 0:18:21.480 having a canandrum over a little rat who she loves 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:23.560 and also loves you, but she loves the rat before. 0:18:23.680 --> 0:18:25.000 I don't know what to do. 0:18:25.280 --> 0:18:30.080 Oh, Liliana, it's okay. The best thing about love is 0:18:30.080 --> 0:18:33.080 that there is enough love for everyone. You can love 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:35.040 me and the rat, and you can love us in 0:18:35.080 --> 0:18:35.840 different ways. 0:18:37.119 --> 0:18:41.720 Beautiful Jess, how do you respond to little Ileana over here? 0:18:42.480 --> 0:18:44.720 The thing about love, Leanna is I'm gonna echo what 0:18:44.840 --> 0:18:47.480 Christine says. There's no living on it, so you can 0:18:47.520 --> 0:18:50.680 love Roscoe all you want and you can still love 0:18:50.720 --> 0:18:51.120 me too. 0:18:52.040 --> 0:18:52.800 I love that. 0:18:53.520 --> 0:18:54.760 Thank you, Anusha. 0:18:54.840 --> 0:18:55.480 What do you think? 0:18:55.800 --> 0:19:00.080 How do you respond to little Leana loving Roscoe and another. 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:03.200 I would say, okay, munch chin, there is big, big 0:19:03.240 --> 0:19:06.560 love in the world, and when we're feeling big, big emotions, we. 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:07.959 Have space for a lot of people. 0:19:08.119 --> 0:19:10.600 And then I would tell her that I have a 0:19:10.640 --> 0:19:14.600 friend who has two pet rats and they apparently really 0:19:14.760 --> 0:19:17.359 like whole wheat spaghetti and tomato sauce. And then we 0:19:17.400 --> 0:19:18.119 would go make it. 0:19:18.440 --> 0:19:20.280 I am going to sprouts tonight. 0:19:20.480 --> 0:19:24.600 Oh it's a fancy rat. That was amazing, Wow, incredible. 0:19:24.720 --> 0:19:29.639 Okay, Now, kid wisdom number two? How would you respond it, 0:19:30.040 --> 0:19:33.280 little vehicle came up to you, and same. 0:19:35.320 --> 0:19:40.040 Love is a thing that comes from your insights. And 0:19:40.280 --> 0:19:44.080 when you have love, you you can do that thing 0:19:44.520 --> 0:19:47.119 to them. And I want to be in love, so 0:19:47.200 --> 0:19:50.520 I can do that thing to them too. 0:19:51.040 --> 0:19:54.120 Me telling me too, Anush. 0:19:54.400 --> 0:19:56.560 Well, I feel like there's always a time and a 0:19:56.640 --> 0:19:58.840 place to do that thing when you're a little older. 0:19:58.880 --> 0:20:01.320 I don't think right now is a great time. But 0:20:01.480 --> 0:20:04.320 also when you do get a little older and you 0:20:04.359 --> 0:20:10.040 really love someone or really like someone, you can obviously 0:20:10.080 --> 0:20:12.000 do that thing as long as both of you or 0:20:12.040 --> 0:20:14.680 all of you want to. And you need to make 0:20:14.720 --> 0:20:18.560 sure that everyone who's participating also wants the same thing 0:20:18.600 --> 0:20:20.080 that you do, and you need to make for you 0:20:20.280 --> 0:20:23.000 ask right, Okay, wow. 0:20:22.880 --> 0:20:24.560 I didn't know you could do it with more than 0:20:24.560 --> 0:20:25.320 one person. 0:20:25.960 --> 0:20:27.760 That's a question for your mommy and daddy. 0:20:27.800 --> 0:20:31.360 Actually, I get paid twenty dollars an hour to babysit. 0:20:30.920 --> 0:20:35.320 You, so, sister, good Jessica, what do you think of 0:20:35.440 --> 0:20:38.720 a little Vico and that that thing little Vico? 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:42.440 Oh, so that that thing that you want to do? 0:20:43.200 --> 0:20:47.880 You know, we can express it in different ways. I 0:20:47.920 --> 0:20:51.080 think as a kid right now, we should limit the 0:20:51.160 --> 0:20:52.320