Speaker 1: Liliana, I'm so tired.
Speaker 2: I think my eyes are like crossed. I've been in
Speaker 2: the library all afternoon.
Speaker 1: Come on, what is that you have? Now? A crush
Speaker 1: on some librarian. That's the only way I can see
Speaker 1: you there.
Speaker 2: Honestly, it's a pretty solid guest. But actually I've been studying,
Speaker 2: thank you very much.
Speaker 1: I'm a scholar, oh lordy, a scholar of what the stars,
Speaker 1: attachment theory, flirtation.
Speaker 3: These are all great guesses, but actually I'm a scholar
Speaker 3: of love.
Speaker 1: Of course, well too, Veico. That's our job. That's why
Speaker 1: we make such a good pick. That is true.
Speaker 3: Welcome listeners. This is date my ho wi ead that first.
Speaker 3: I am your host, Vico or this joined by my
Speaker 3: beautiful partner in crime, Ail lil mon Soon i'll introduce
Speaker 3: our main dater, and once we have met them, Lilana
Speaker 3: will sort through three promising contestants before choosing who will
Speaker 3: go on a one on one date with our main
Speaker 3: dater and who will be heading back to the apps.
Speaker 1: Listen, this is a tough job, but that's why the
Speaker 1: two of us are here so we can get this done.
Speaker 2: Let's do it, and I am so glad to be here.
Speaker 2: With Yolia doing this tough job. All right, So our
Speaker 2: main dater this week is Giovanni.
Speaker 3: Giovanni is a current PhD candidate for educational policy and
Speaker 3: has a passion for youth education, claiming that nothing will
Speaker 3: make you a better person than working with young people.
Speaker 1: So true.
Speaker 3: He was raised by a lot of strong women who
Speaker 3: installed a love of family and him from a very
Speaker 3: young age. He believes in healthy masculinity hells yeah, and
Speaker 3: wants to foster more communities than inspire that. He defines
Speaker 3: himself as a hopeful romantic, not a hope less romantic,
Speaker 3: and wants to flirt with a wife his whole life
Speaker 3: honestly same. He boths being a great but shut dance
Speaker 3: I love that and and even better, reye, don't dance.
Speaker 3: I'm excited about that.
Speaker 2: Do you like to dance with a lover?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: Any which way possible? Vertically, horizontally, perpendicular, across all uh yeah,
Speaker 1: just let's just get it done.
Speaker 2: A lot of angles right there, it's.
Speaker 1: Dancing, dancing dancing.
Speaker 2: I'm a dance machine, all right? Define gravity?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Shall we bring in Giovanni please, let's meet him. Welcome Giovanni.
Speaker 5: Hello, Hello, Hey everyone, how's everyone doing. Thank you so
Speaker 5: much for having me.
Speaker 3: So so good Giovanni, it is such a pleasure to
Speaker 3: have you join us on date my Alida. First, let's
Speaker 3: start off with some basics. What is it that we
Speaker 3: need to know about Giovanni.
Speaker 6: Yes, I'm thirty two years old. I'm a PhD in
Speaker 6: education policy. Really passionate about your development and helping people
Speaker 6: reach their full potential.
Speaker 5: Passionate. I'm very studious and dedicated.
Speaker 2: That noted.
Speaker 1: Okay, you have always been these studios and concerned about others.
Speaker 5: I was a big nerd when I was growing up.
Speaker 6: I love to read, and there was something that really
Speaker 6: sparked a passion in me just seeing people be able
Speaker 6: to be their best selves and there's anything.
Speaker 5: Better than the community.
Speaker 1: What is your background?
Speaker 5: I am Latino, Mexican.
Speaker 1: America, Mexican American, and you speak Spanish.
Speaker 6: You have grandmothers with.
Speaker 1: More power to both of those beautiful women in your life,
Speaker 1: absolutely being raised, but such powerful women. What have you
Speaker 1: learned in order to you know, proceed in your life
Speaker 1: and find love and a good steady relationship. How have
Speaker 1: they influenced your decisions and your life.
Speaker 5: It's a very interesting question.
Speaker 6: I think more than anything, it's about breaking down general
Speaker 6: rules and stare types and anything that could potentially box
Speaker 6: us in.
Speaker 5: My mom had to be both mother and father, and
Speaker 5: so seeing.
Speaker 6: Her, you know, work hard and make sure that we
Speaker 6: had every opportunity available even with the limited resources we.
Speaker 5: Had, was a big influence on me.
Speaker 6: You got to be scrappy, you got to play the
Speaker 6: hand in your a DoPT but as long as you
Speaker 6: work hard, anything as possible.
Speaker 1: So are you an only child? I have a brother, okay,
Speaker 1: older or younger than you.
Speaker 5: She is the younger brother.
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh so does he look up to you?
Speaker 5: You know? It's interesting because we never knew our dad.
Speaker 6: So I feel like I had to be the example,
Speaker 6: kind of like the man of the house quote unquote.
Speaker 5: But we definitely work together to get through some hard times.
Speaker 3: Do you feel like you normally gravitate towards being a
Speaker 3: caretaker and relationships?
Speaker 5: Man, you're really asking the hard questions right now, you know.
Speaker 2: I think the song we're out here, we have to
Speaker 2: know it's.
Speaker 5: A partnership, you know, and we support each other.
Speaker 6: So it's not so much about being a caretaker and
Speaker 6: being fixed in that role.
Speaker 5: I think it's more about being dynamic and being supportive.
Speaker 1: What do you want to.
Speaker 5: Be honest, I want to fall in love.
Speaker 6: I think it's the right time in my life and
Speaker 6: I'm ready to explore now.
Speaker 3: When we're reading the bio, you mentioned something around healthy masculinity,
Speaker 3: and one of our producers mentioned that you have an
Speaker 3: idea around a retreat for all the toxic gum men
Speaker 3: out there.
Speaker 2: I want to hear.
Speaker 3: More about that because also I love what you say
Speaker 3: about your family. You witnessed a challenge around gender roles
Speaker 3: and I'm just really curious about how that has been
Speaker 3: for you, and also being an example to your little
Speaker 3: brother as well.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Absolutely so. I been youth organizing since I was fourteen fifteen.
Speaker 6: Started off with my church. It was in the inner
Speaker 6: city of San Diego. I love being around people. I'm
Speaker 6: super extroverted. I love being in community, and so that's
Speaker 6: where it really started. When I started seeing how by
Speaker 6: being an example to others, by just vibing with people,
Speaker 6: you can really experience a collective joy. Then I started
Speaker 6: getting involved with other programs. Helped start a program that
Speaker 6: helps kids get to college at our firsttrand like me
Speaker 6: and so for me, it was just realizing.
Speaker 5: These are the examples that we've all had.
Speaker 6: You know, a lot of my cousins were in gangs
Speaker 6: when I was growing up, and so that was a
Speaker 6: big influence on me. And I started seeing the impact
Speaker 6: of this kind of culture within the friends in my
Speaker 6: friend group, and then soon enough, I started to realize
Speaker 6: there's a really big gap that needs to be filled,
Speaker 6: specifically for men of color, and so I really want
Speaker 6: to understand how we can develop a healthy masculinity, and
Speaker 6: not just those around us, but in the next generation.
Speaker 6: And since I've worked with Yeah, I've been working with
Speaker 6: youth for ten years, and I've always seen my young
Speaker 6: men even be too tough to smile in a photo,
Speaker 6: or not being able to express their feelings. And when
Speaker 6: we don't express what we're feeling, the body experiences. I
Speaker 6: don't know if you've all read Body Keeps a Score, a.
Speaker 5: Really popular book.
Speaker 2: Not read it, but I know about the concept.
Speaker 1: And Yeah, you mentioned that the warmth of the family
Speaker 1: belongs to the gram others. What is that about.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think it's about inheritance and respecting our elders,
Speaker 6: realizing where we come from. It's almost like the flower
Speaker 6: realizing the soil that they come from and honoring that
Speaker 6: connection and relationship. And so for me, it's really about
Speaker 6: honoring those who come before you.
Speaker 1: You said the one where the rules my life respect
Speaker 1: any which way, any any person, any place, anytime. Without that,
Speaker 1: it just doesn't flow. But speaking of flow, you want
Speaker 1: to dance, But.
Speaker 5: I love I love dancing.
Speaker 1: It's a very sexy dance.
Speaker 6: It's a pure expression and being able to express itself
Speaker 6: it is important.
Speaker 1: So you dance.
Speaker 4: This.
Speaker 5: To be honest, I can't help it. The beat is on.
Speaker 5: I just do what comes naturally.
Speaker 3: You know you can't hold that moertoricans I was like,
Speaker 3: what's up?
Speaker 2: Come through, Giovanni.
Speaker 3: It was amazing getting to chat with you and getting
Speaker 3: to know you. I think at this point will now
Speaker 3: bring in the three contestants who will ring for your
Speaker 3: love by vying for Awalita's love first will be your
Speaker 3: right back. Welcome back today, Mayawani the first. Hello, Welcome
Speaker 3: to our amazing contestants. Let's start up with Christine and
Speaker 3: Christine is a twenty eight year old who says gabin
Speaker 3: and yappin are some of her favorite pastimes.
Speaker 1: I hear you, Christine, I'm so bad.
Speaker 3: And Christine enjoys the pursuit of learning so much so
Speaker 3: that over the pandemic, Christine taught herself about.
Speaker 2: One quantum physics. I'm into it.
Speaker 3: She has many different gigs including hand modeling, video production manager,
Speaker 3: brand ambassador, bartender, and atmosphere modeling. Maybe we will have
Speaker 3: a chance to ask about what that means, because I'm interested.
Speaker 2: Welcome Christine.
Speaker 4: Hello, and you love to gab, and I love to
Speaker 4: yap and I am happy to be here, Gavin and
Speaker 4: yappen with you guys, Hels.
Speaker 2: Yes, Next we have Jess.
Speaker 3: Jess is a thirty four year old real estate owner, kendlmaker,
Speaker 3: and project manager at.
Speaker 2: A private school.
Speaker 3: Her friends would describe her as a sensitive firecracker that
Speaker 3: doesn't take shit and works hard because she likes expensive things.
Speaker 1: Ay men, fuck yes.
Speaker 3: She's deeply family oriented and interested in building towards long
Speaker 3: term goals that create a.
Speaker 2: Strong, happy life.
Speaker 3: She's the youngest of five and claims that having four
Speaker 3: siblings means she got to learn from all of their mistakes.
Speaker 3: Welcome Jess, happy to be here, every life.
Speaker 2: Yes, and finally Anusha.
Speaker 3: Anusha is a twenty six year old actor and personal
Speaker 3: trainer who brings light and life wherever she goes. She
Speaker 3: is from India and grew up in Singapore. Ooh, she
Speaker 3: wants a partner who feels like a buddy, who can
Speaker 3: match her and be an addition to her very full life.
Speaker 1: Oh lisitos to each and every one of you. Welcome.
Speaker 3: Why don't we find out some more about these contestants?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, let's do it.
Speaker 3: Our main dater this week is getting a PhD in
Speaker 3: education policy.
Speaker 2: I see y'all are like, wow, hot into it.
Speaker 3: So in this game of lawful loving, we are asking
Speaker 3: you to tell us you're dating policies. So we'll give
Speaker 3: you a topic and you'll state what policies.
Speaker 2: You might have under that law.
Speaker 3: For example, if I said we'd be talking about types
Speaker 3: of men you might date, you might say date Maya Wilita.
Speaker 1: First Proclamation two the reauthorization of do not marry a
Speaker 1: man just because he serenades you on the guitar see
Speaker 1: year two thousand and five.
Speaker 3: For the first round, let's hear what laws you might
Speaker 3: enact around moving a relationship from casual too serious? The
Speaker 3: proclamation of d t R so dating to relationship.
Speaker 1: Christina's ray Christine, go for it.
Speaker 4: The first of the policies. I hereby proclaim that you
Speaker 4: need to be friends with my friends. My female friendships
Speaker 4: are incredibly important to me. They are the most fulfilling,
Speaker 4: loving relationships in my life and they mean the world
Speaker 4: to me. And if you're going to be a part
Speaker 4: of my life, you have to actively want to be
Speaker 4: involved in our lives collectively. Like you have to get
Speaker 4: along with my friends. We had a paint and sip.
Speaker 4: Why not. My best friend just like became official with
Speaker 4: a boy like two days ago, and he got us
Speaker 4: all flowers for Valentine's Day because he was like, these
Speaker 4: girls are important to you, so they're important to me,
Speaker 4: And that's the standard.
Speaker 1: Does this guy have a father or grandfather, an uncle
Speaker 1: or anyone available? Single breathing and uh And you know,
Speaker 1: as a few years.
Speaker 4: Left, Wilita, I will check and I will get back
Speaker 4: to you.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Continue you love this policy?
Speaker 1: A new show?
Speaker 2: What is your policy.
Speaker 7: In order to enact the DTR conversation? I feel like
Speaker 7: open and honest communication is a requisite in any relationship.
Speaker 1: Boom prop them my words. I need.
Speaker 2: I feel like I need to have like one of those.
Speaker 3: Like gl a gavel, just like cut a requisite Coco.
Speaker 1: Hour.
Speaker 2: Yes, what's your answer? What's your policy?
Speaker 8: So Section one four to three point two Dash eight
Speaker 8: stipulates that if a future is looking to pursue a
Speaker 8: long term, committed relationship, then the brother has to show
Speaker 8: me that he is consistent both in words, effort and action.
Speaker 1: Oh day, elected.
Speaker 3: Nice the gavel king, King? That was that was excellent.
Speaker 3: Well let's go ahead and move on to the next round.
Speaker 3: The next one is the BDE Act of Sex and Intimacy.
Speaker 3: Let's hear what laws you might enact around sex and intimacy?
Speaker 2: The bd E Act? What does that stand for?
Speaker 7: Big take energy?
Speaker 4: I was mouthing it, but I was on me. I know,
Speaker 4: I didn't know it's it is big dake energy.
Speaker 3: Well, lovely, thank you for informing me what BD means. Clearly,
Speaker 3: I don't have any big, durable and enforced Okay, okay,
Speaker 3: So what is the BD Act of Sex and Intimacy?
Speaker 2: Christine?
Speaker 1: See you?
Speaker 4: What's my proclamation? My agreement? I don't know, like keeping
Speaker 4: the excitement alive, especially like in a long term relationship.
Speaker 4: I don't want it to ever devolve into just like
Speaker 4: well it's Wednesday, and you know what that means, Like
Speaker 4: that's not the relationship that I want.
Speaker 3: Keeping things fresh, keeping things new. I'm into that, Jess,
Speaker 3: what's your proclamation? What's your policy?
Speaker 9: Well, the requirement is that he prioritizes my orgasm because
Speaker 9: he's gonna get his no matter what. But I need
Speaker 9: to make sure that he's making moves, licking things, doing
Speaker 9: all the things I love to make sure I'm pleased.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yeah, girls, very here for this policy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a new show. What is yours?
Speaker 7: Be clean? Like, I'm sorry, nothing's gonna happen if you're gross.
Speaker 2: No, it was prior to commencement.
Speaker 4: Right, there's no commencement that's gonna happen.
Speaker 7: If I know that you're in a room because I
Speaker 7: smelled you, I.
Speaker 3: Movie, yes, it's true, and I honor this policy. Okay,
Speaker 3: for our final law, what laws would you enact around
Speaker 3: DM law number sixty nine? How would you legislate surrounding
Speaker 3: dms from an interested partner?
Speaker 1: Wow?
Speaker 3: So it's like you're getting dms from people who are
Speaker 3: interested in being your partner and.
Speaker 7: You're with someone at this time whilst this is happening.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm into it.
Speaker 7: Oh no, because I'm like, if I'm seeing someone and
Speaker 7: i'm getting dms, we share giggle. What Like, if I'm
Speaker 7: getting a DM and I'm seeing someone, I show them
Speaker 7: the DM from this random other person and we look
Speaker 7: at it together and giggle.
Speaker 2: Okay, Cue, that's a policy. There we go, Christine, go
Speaker 2: for it.
Speaker 4: I do want to giggle. I want to be in kahoots.
Speaker 4: That's like, that's the whole thing. I want to be
Speaker 4: in kahoots. So like, ideally the pickup lines and the
Speaker 4: DM will be really bad and then we can laugh
Speaker 4: at it together and then riff and make better ones
Speaker 4: and turn that into a bit.
Speaker 2: I love a bit.
Speaker 3: I love a bed here here Okay, So we have right,
Speaker 3: we have a collaboration policy between Anusha and Christine Jess.
Speaker 3: Do you have an added policy to this or do
Speaker 3: you want to like come in and be like, this
Speaker 3: is a collaboration policy and all these three lawyers signed
Speaker 3: and petitioned.
Speaker 5: No.
Speaker 9: I love the collaboration. However, I like to work in tears.
Speaker 9: So if it's someone you don't know and they're just
Speaker 9: shooting their shot, I would prefer to ignore it. If
Speaker 9: it's somebody that you maybe have some sort of rapport
Speaker 9: with the there has been some flirting previously, but now
Speaker 9: you're do you don't want to engage in it? Double
Speaker 9: tapping the message great, But if it's to the point
Speaker 9: where somebody is intent I'm trying to get my and
Speaker 9: I'm with someone at this time, then I like to
Speaker 9: set up boundary and say, hey, I'm not interested, no,
Speaker 9: thank you, something.
Speaker 4: To that effect.
Speaker 3: All right, thank you all so much for playing this
Speaker 3: first round. So it's time to play another game. Before
Speaker 3: Alita sends one of our lovely contestants home, our main
Speaker 3: dater says, nothing will make you a better person than
Speaker 3: working with young people. In this game. I know, I
Speaker 3: know everyone is assuming. Listen, in this game of Baby Decoder,
Speaker 3: we'll give you a real life quote from a real
Speaker 3: life young person, and you'll need to tell us how
Speaker 3: would you respond. Let's start off with something simple. Let's
Speaker 3: say little little Liana came up to you and.
Speaker 10: Said, Mitra, I have a little bit rat. Rusco is
Speaker 10: his name, and he's really nice and I'm in love
Speaker 10: with him. But I also love you. I want to
Speaker 10: love you, but I already love my little rat. I
Speaker 10: don't know what to do.
Speaker 2: Oh no, Leana is crying.
Speaker 3: Christina, you want to respond to littlely Leana out here
Speaker 3: having a canandrum over a little rat who she loves
Speaker 3: and also loves you, but she loves the rat before.
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do.
Speaker 4: Oh, Liliana, it's okay. The best thing about love is
Speaker 4: that there is enough love for everyone. You can love
Speaker 4: me and the rat, and you can love us in
Speaker 4: different ways.
Speaker 3: Beautiful Jess, how do you respond to little Ileana over here?
Speaker 9: The thing about love, Leanna is I'm gonna echo what
Speaker 9: Christine says. There's no living on it, so you can
Speaker 9: love Roscoe all you want and you can still love
Speaker 9: me too.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Anusha.
Speaker 1: What do you think?
Speaker 3: How do you respond to little Leana loving Roscoe and another.
Speaker 7: I would say, okay, munch chin, there is big, big
Speaker 7: love in the world, and when we're feeling big, big emotions, we.
Speaker 4: Have space for a lot of people.
Speaker 7: And then I would tell her that I have a
Speaker 7: friend who has two pet rats and they apparently really
Speaker 7: like whole wheat spaghetti and tomato sauce. And then we
Speaker 7: would go make it.
Speaker 1: I am going to sprouts tonight.
Speaker 2: Oh it's a fancy rat. That was amazing, Wow, incredible.
Speaker 10: Okay, Now, kid wisdom number two? How would you respond it,
Speaker 10: little vehicle came up to you, and same.
Speaker 11: Love is a thing that comes from your insights. And
Speaker 11: when you have love, you you can do that thing
Speaker 11: to them. And I want to be in love, so
Speaker 11: I can do that thing to them too.
Speaker 1: Me telling me too, Anush.
Speaker 7: Well, I feel like there's always a time and a
Speaker 7: place to do that thing when you're a little older.
Speaker 7: I don't think right now is a great time. But
Speaker 7: also when you do get a little older and you
Speaker 7: really love someone or really like someone, you can obviously
Speaker 7: do that thing as long as both of you or
Speaker 7: all of you want to. And you need to make
Speaker 7: sure that everyone who's participating also wants the same thing
Speaker 7: that you do, and you need to make for you
Speaker 7: ask right, Okay, wow.
Speaker 1: I didn't know you could do it with more than
Speaker 1: one person.
Speaker 4: That's a question for your mommy and daddy.
Speaker 7: Actually, I get paid twenty dollars an hour to babysit.
Speaker 10: You, so, sister, good Jessica, what do you think of
Speaker 10: a little Vico and that that thing little Vico?
Speaker 9: Oh, so that that thing that you want to do?
Speaker 9: You know, we can express it in different ways. I
Speaker 9: think as a kid right now, we should limit the
Speaker 9: expression of love.
Speaker 4: To listen, we could do hugs. How does a hug feel?
Speaker 4: Hug feels good?
Speaker 2: But I really want to do the thing, you know.
Speaker 9: So the thing about growing up is that you get
Speaker 9: to experiment as you get older. So let's wait to
Speaker 9: your teenage years that we can revisit this conversation.
Speaker 3: I don't want to be I'm grown up now, Christine,
Speaker 3: how do your respond to little Vigo.
Speaker 4: Really want to do little Vico? Well, I totally understand
Speaker 4: that you want to express that you are in love,
Speaker 4: and I get it, and that is a wonderful thing.
Speaker 4: What you're talking about. Specifically, that's an adult way to
Speaker 4: express law, and we're you're not an adult yet, and
Speaker 4: I know that can be really, really frustrating. But the
Speaker 4: good news is that there are so many other ways
Speaker 4: that you can still show other people that you love them.
Speaker 4: You can get them a gift with ice cream, like
Speaker 4: an ice cream that's exactly right. Or you can find
Speaker 4: a really pretty rock outside that reminds you of them.
Speaker 1: And throw it at them.
Speaker 4: You well, that's different.
Speaker 2: Literally, Leanna's a little different from little Vegan.
Speaker 4: That's a little different.
Speaker 1: I want to catch their attention.
Speaker 4: I would maybe advise against throwing rocks at our friends.
Speaker 4: You can also, like Jess said, you can absolutely show
Speaker 4: your friends that you love them by giving them hugs
Speaker 4: as long as you're okay with giving a hug and
Speaker 4: they're okay with receiving a hug. Remember, we have to ask,
Speaker 4: and I understand that you want to have that experience,
Speaker 4: and you'll get there. You'll get there later, but right now,
Speaker 4: there are other ways that you can show people that
Speaker 4: you love them.
Speaker 3: Okay, very good, nice, I think, I think, yeah, okay, this.
Speaker 2: These are great.
Speaker 3: My god, I can't believe they're actual quotes from like kids,
Speaker 3: but it makes sense. Thank you, Thank you three so
Speaker 3: much for participating on these amazing games. This is always
Speaker 3: a really hard thing to do, it is, and because
Speaker 3: it is so hard to do, we have chosen to
Speaker 3: not do the hard thing and keep all of you
Speaker 3: for the next round.
Speaker 2: So what's gonna.
Speaker 3: Happen now is that each of you is going to
Speaker 3: have a one on one where it's just gonna be
Speaker 3: a one on one with you and Liliana.
Speaker 2: So let's start with the Anusha.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go ahead and hand you over to Lila
Speaker 3: was to enjoy.
Speaker 1: How are you Anusha, I'm doing well, thank you?
Speaker 5: How are you?
Speaker 1: I am doing amazing. I want to know more about you.
Speaker 1: I want to know when it comes to your past
Speaker 1: love relationships, what have you learned from them and what
Speaker 1: is it you're looking for for the new one.
Speaker 7: I think the biggest thing I've learned is you can
Speaker 7: still be your own independent person when you were with someone.
Speaker 7: I think growing up, I thought you had to do
Speaker 7: something with them all the time, you would always be
Speaker 7: around this person. But it's so much more enriching to
Speaker 7: be able to have your own lives and come together
Speaker 7: to celebrate your own lives. And I think that's something
Speaker 7: that I'm really looking forward to now because I want
Speaker 7: someone to be their whole, full self and I can
Speaker 7: be my full self.
Speaker 4: Well, we can be our full selves together.
Speaker 1: What else are you looking for in that person besides
Speaker 1: that togetherness.
Speaker 7: I'm very outgoing and I really like to do things.
Speaker 7: But I feel like if I'm with someone who doesn't
Speaker 7: like to do things, I can get into that pattern
Speaker 7: as well. So I really want someone who's like active
Speaker 7: and wants to go out and I want to say out.
Speaker 7: I mean, like, oh, it's a Sunday morning, let's go
Speaker 7: to the farmer's market, or hey, like, there's this brewery
Speaker 7: down the street. We should go for a jog to
Speaker 7: the brewery and then get a beer in the afternoon.
Speaker 7: Just like stuff that gets us out of the house
Speaker 7: and gets us meeting people and being with community. That's
Speaker 7: the biggest thing.
Speaker 1: You like to have fun adventures? Well you're young, of course, everybody,
Speaker 1: even me at this age, I still like to have adventures.
Speaker 1: So what are your biggest red flags and what is
Speaker 1: something you do not want on that next relationship.
Speaker 7: I was thinking about this yesterday, and my biggest red flag,
Speaker 7: I think is if I'm seeing someone and they describe
Speaker 7: every single person that they have seen in the past
Speaker 7: as crazy or psychotic, I don't want to be around
Speaker 7: them because if every single person you've ever dated is
Speaker 7: crazy and or psychotic, the only common denominator and here
Speaker 7: is you. And so that's the biggest red flag for me.
Speaker 1: Are you looking for love, marriage and children eventually?
Speaker 7: Yes, But my career is really important to me and
Speaker 7: I really like to work. I love to work. I
Speaker 7: will say, like long hours and long days do come
Speaker 7: with a territory, but also so not long days and
Speaker 7: not long.
Speaker 4: Hours as well.
Speaker 7: Having someone that also understands that, like if I'm going
Speaker 7: to be somewhere for twelve to fourteen hours and I
Speaker 7: can't really speak to you, like, respecting that is really
Speaker 7: important to me because I would respect that.
Speaker 4: For you with the caveat of.
Speaker 7: Like I'm good at communicating, like, hey, I won't be
Speaker 7: able to talk to you for X y Z time
Speaker 7: mm hmmm, because I don't feel like it's not polite
Speaker 7: to like not tell someone you're not going to speak to.
Speaker 1: Them absolutely, you know what I mean.
Speaker 7: So I like I will be like, hey, I'm not
Speaker 7: going to be here from the stay to this day
Speaker 7: because I'm working on something, but at this time I
Speaker 7: buy be free or in the night I might be free.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I don't think I answer your question, but that's you did.
Speaker 1: You did. Thank you so much, my love.
Speaker 3: Yes, thank you so so much. Let's bring in Jess.
Speaker 3: Welcome back, Jess. Hello, Hello, I am handing you over
Speaker 3: for a little guffe Alida, take it away.
Speaker 1: How are you?
Speaker 9: Jess amazing?
Speaker 1: You know that's my little sister's name, Jessica, and since
Speaker 1: I was seventeen when she was born, and I've always
Speaker 1: called her jess my muniekuita, So you'll be my munaquita
Speaker 1: right now. Now tell me about your life. You're a
Speaker 1: very busy woman. You have a career, a couple of
Speaker 1: jobs that you do. Do you have time and place
Speaker 1: for a relationship?
Speaker 4: I do?
Speaker 9: You know, you make a time for the things that
Speaker 9: you want to invest in. And although I am a
Speaker 9: busy gal, I do a side time for meeting new
Speaker 9: people and investing with somebody that I do feel since
Speaker 9: you're connection with a lot of that is usually in
Speaker 9: the evenings and weekends due to my work schedule, but
Speaker 9: around make it happen.
Speaker 1: When was your last relationship?
Speaker 9: My last relationship was three years ago?
Speaker 1: And what happened there?
Speaker 9: Can you tell us he and I were together for
Speaker 9: eight years?
Speaker 1: Wow, that's a long time.
Speaker 8: It was a long term relationship.
Speaker 9: We got together in our mid twenties, and you know,
Speaker 9: anybody that's grown up will tell you that so much
Speaker 9: changes from your mid twenties to your early thirties. I
Speaker 9: think there's a lot of self discovery that comes into
Speaker 9: the picture. And we realized that we just wanted different
Speaker 9: things out of life, and so we're growing in two
Speaker 9: separate directions and as painful as it was the right
Speaker 9: thing to do was to end the relationship.
Speaker 1: But you have been dating since no for two years.
Speaker 9: I was in hermit mode and just trying to kind
Speaker 9: of reel from that heartbreak. It was a little different,
Speaker 9: you know, completely in love with the guy, so it
Speaker 9: wasn't like there was some sort of transgression. It was
Speaker 9: just an honest conversation of where we were and what
Speaker 9: we wanted. And in that time, I kind of came
Speaker 9: back home to myself, as they say, started to learn
Speaker 9: just a few different things about who I am now.
Speaker 9: And last years when I started venturing off into dating Alita,
Speaker 9: it's a mess out there.
Speaker 1: You're telling me I've been single for fourteen years that
Speaker 1: I have a very very important question for you. Oh
Speaker 1: tell me you like to dance, Saisa.
Speaker 8: Regaton for sure.
Speaker 1: That's where it's at. Okay, okay? And you love to
Speaker 1: cook or do you want somebody to cook for you?
Speaker 8: Somebody has to cook for me.
Speaker 9: I am a magical cleaner, Okay, I will pick up
Speaker 9: that kitchen. You spick and Spanish, but somebody needs to
Speaker 9: actually chop the ingredients and put it all together.
Speaker 1: And you speak Spanish, I do, Okay, Well, what is
Speaker 1: that one big green flag you are looking forward to
Speaker 1: seeing in that new relationship.
Speaker 4: If we can.
Speaker 9: Laugh together, that's a huge green flag. I don't really
Speaker 9: go for like the mysterious serious kind. No, I need
Speaker 9: them to be laid back, crack a little joky joke.
Speaker 9: Laughter is the best medicine.
Speaker 1: It truly is. And on that note, thank you so much, my.
Speaker 2: Love, Thank you so much, Jess.
Speaker 3: Let's bring Christine hell Loo, Christine. I'm gonna hand you
Speaker 3: over for our little guffesh Alita they get away.
Speaker 1: Yes, Oh are you, my love?
Speaker 4: Oh I'm good.
Speaker 8: How are you?
Speaker 1: I am doing amazing. I'm just ready to ask you
Speaker 1: a lot of personal questions.
Speaker 4: I'm excited. Let's get into it.
Speaker 1: Let's talk about love. Yeah, that's something you're looking for.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, it is. I am such an absolute,
Speaker 4: hopeless romantic and have realized recently that I've never been
Speaker 4: in a relationship where it's equally fulfilling for me as
Speaker 4: it is for the other person. I've like been with
Speaker 4: men where it's like I'm their girlfriend, but I'm also
Speaker 4: their therapist and their life coach and their mom in
Speaker 4: a way, and pouring so much into somebody and then
Speaker 4: not receiving the same amount back, and that's why I've
Speaker 4: been single for like the last few years. But I
Speaker 4: remember thinking like, is this what the rest of my
Speaker 4: life is gonna look like?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 4: Is this it?
Speaker 1: There's so much more.
Speaker 4: I know, and I know that it exists and I've
Speaker 4: seen it. I know it's out there.
Speaker 1: I heard someone say once I am not a hopeless romantic.
Speaker 1: I'm a hopeful romantic. What do you think of that?
Speaker 4: I love that so much more.
Speaker 8: I love that so much more.
Speaker 4: That's so sweet. That is a much better to put it.
Speaker 4: I am. I am a hopeful romantic. I'm gonna start
Speaker 4: saying that.
Speaker 1: You are ready for love and a relationship and to
Speaker 1: build on that and work on that and eventually maybe
Speaker 1: mary have children down the road.
Speaker 4: The kid's thing is definitely a conversation that would need
Speaker 4: to be had because there's a lot of factors that
Speaker 4: go into it. And if I decide that's what I want,
Speaker 4: I want to make sure that I do that right
Speaker 4: and that I'm in a place in my life where
Speaker 4: I don't ever have to worry about making ends meet
Speaker 4: to be able to give that kid what it needs. Like,
Speaker 4: I think I'm very aware of what it takes to
Speaker 4: raise a child in a way where they grow up
Speaker 4: to be a person that like I'd be proud of raising,
Speaker 4: and like they have all the everything that they would
Speaker 4: need to have a good life, and that's non negotiable.
Speaker 1: Well, you're an amazing young lady, and I can see
Speaker 1: that happening. However, as the years progress, like when I
Speaker 1: was young until now, and you all of you who
Speaker 1: are young in this world, unfortunately we have to put
Speaker 1: up with the world changing and not becoming the best
Speaker 1: that it could be. But on the contrary, so it
Speaker 1: all starts at home, and it all starts with date Maya, Wilita,
Speaker 1: let's see what we can do for you.
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, it does.
Speaker 2: Amazing. Thank you so so much.
Speaker 3: Y'all have been so amazing and candid and honest and earnest.
Speaker 1: And beautiful all around wonderful.
Speaker 3: And we haven't we're adorable.
Speaker 2: We are not.
Speaker 3: We have been keeping a little secret because that's just
Speaker 3: what we do here. So our secret is that our
Speaker 3: main data has been undercovered this whole time, listening since
Speaker 3: the beginning, I know, gasp, mouth.
Speaker 1: Agape, they're all dropping to the floor right now.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we deserve the Chuang clap for this one, because
Speaker 3: they have been so honest with us, and we've been we've.
Speaker 1: Been pushing them, and it's like, here's the thing.
Speaker 3: Though, Awalita might have an idea of who she likes
Speaker 3: for him, but we're gonna have you step out for
Speaker 3: a second to see we.
Speaker 2: Have a unanimous decision.
Speaker 3: In the meantime, Muchisima's gracias to the both of you,
Speaker 3: besos aurasos. Truly, it's been so much fun. Thank you
Speaker 3: so much for playing. We'll deliberate and then we'll bring
Speaker 3: it back in and the damn thing will be your
Speaker 3: right back. Welcome back today, may Alili the first. Okay, Awalita,
Speaker 3: what do you think after all these caffesitos, all these.
Speaker 1: Games, all three of them are pretty smart and beautiful
Speaker 1: and I think they would have an amazing time with Giovanni,
Speaker 1: there is one that has stood out the whole time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think we both are in tuned in a
Speaker 3: line that Christine has been a standout. I will say
Speaker 3: that having a caffeito with Jess definitely, and.
Speaker 1: She opened up a lot during that cafecito. I like
Speaker 1: them both New champ she's beautiful, she's young, she's got
Speaker 1: all this energy, but I think there's a little more
Speaker 1: structure to the other two ladies, and I think a
Speaker 1: stronger base.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think Giovanni would get along with that,
Speaker 3: but I feel like Christine is definitely the one.
Speaker 2: Giovanni, what are your thoughts.
Speaker 6: I still think that there's still so much more to
Speaker 6: learn about a person, but at least so far, it
Speaker 6: would be really interesting to geek out about quantum physics
Speaker 6: and the intellectual approach to everything we've been talking about.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, yes, okay, cor on the same books.
Speaker 3: It's happening, So I guess it's time.
Speaker 1: Let's go for it. Beauties in the House.
Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, What a joy it has been to get
Speaker 2: to know you all in this episode.
Speaker 3: Truly, it's just been so great to see you from
Speaker 3: the very start all the way to hear I know
Speaker 3: it's quick, but at the same time, we've gotten to.
Speaker 2: Know so much about y'all.
Speaker 3: And so with that said, Awlita, do you want to
Speaker 3: take it away?
Speaker 1: Listen, beautiful women, you are each talented, powerful, powerful in
Speaker 1: your way of thinking on how you approach your life
Speaker 1: and the things that you are committed to, and I
Speaker 1: know that each of you will have an amazing and
Speaker 1: successful life. When it comes to this show, though, we
Speaker 1: have to keep in consideration what our main data would
Speaker 1: like and how one of you matches a little bit
Speaker 1: more with him. So, without going any further, the one
Speaker 1: person that will be dating our special main data is.
Speaker 3: Christine, Jess and Anusha.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for being here today.
Speaker 3: Please stay in touch because we've absolutely adored you.
Speaker 4: Thank you, good luck on your date. Thank you.
Speaker 2: Amazing.
Speaker 1: Wow, here's the moment. How are you feeling, Christine?
Speaker 4: I'm so excited.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I wasn't expecting that. I'm like, I like, he's been
Speaker 4: like listening to the whole conversation. I'm like, oh, I
Speaker 4: don't know.
Speaker 3: Well, without further Ado, Giovanni, do you want to turn
Speaker 3: on your camera and on mute yourself?
Speaker 5: Wellah, hi, how are you?
Speaker 1: I'm good?
Speaker 6: How are you doing good? It's been an interesting experience
Speaker 6: to say the least.
Speaker 5: Right.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, you've been like lurking in the background underknown,
Speaker 4: which is crazy.
Speaker 2: Doomanni, what are your first impressions on Christine?
Speaker 6: I really appreciate it. How smart you were. You were
Speaker 6: an intellectual, very powerful speaker as well. I forget the
Speaker 6: two words you use, Gibb, and those are yeah right,
Speaker 6: you know, And I think conversation is more than anything
Speaker 6: because it's really a relationship is just an ongoing conversation
Speaker 6: about love.
Speaker 5: And so maybe we can start off as friends and
Speaker 5: then see where the conversation takes us.
Speaker 4: Love.
Speaker 1: That that's interesting.
Speaker 4: I think the best relationships come out of deep friendships,
Speaker 4: and that's the foundation anyway, Right, we have to be
Speaker 4: best friends first.
Speaker 3: I love I was gonna ask Christine like her first impressions,
Speaker 3: but I guess like that's uh, I still yeah, what
Speaker 3: do you think?
Speaker 4: Your voice is what surprised me the most, that like
Speaker 4: you have this it's like I, I don't know what
Speaker 4: I was expecting you to, but like with your look,
Speaker 4: it's like I wasn't expecting this very like methodical kind
Speaker 4: of way of speaking, but like musical and like a
Speaker 4: low tambur it's beautiful voice.
Speaker 2: Amazing.
Speaker 3: So now we're going to send our contestants away for
Speaker 3: a little virtual day.
Speaker 1: I love you guys. Oh my goodness, you're a beautiful match.
Speaker 1: And don't forget that. Okay.
Speaker 4: I think the one thing that I know about you
Speaker 4: is that you're getting your PhD.
Speaker 6: Yes in what I'm doing it at policy and human development,
Speaker 6: So looking at the ways that students learn math, looking
Speaker 6: at conceptualization and wellness. How do people care for themselves
Speaker 6: in the contexts of schools? How do schools influence our
Speaker 6: conceptualization of wellness?
Speaker 4: WHOA, that is such a cool thing to be studying
Speaker 4: and moving into the world with.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and you're a writer. I really respect that. Do
Speaker 6: you ever write poetry anything?
Speaker 5: Like? Creative?
Speaker 4: Mainly poetry?
Speaker 5: Actually mainly poetry. Okay, let me hear poetry.
Speaker 4: The job that I have, it's like I started off
Speaker 4: as like creative director and producer and then they were like, actually,
Speaker 4: just kidding, we're pivoting and we want you to host
Speaker 4: the show. And I was like, okay, yeah, it's I mean,
Speaker 4: it's kind of just everything like I can't do like
Speaker 4: the monotony of like the same exact job every single day.
Speaker 4: Like having the ebb and flow of like being able
Speaker 4: to be creative in different ways is exciting to me.
Speaker 4: Are you like a spiritual person? Like you seem very
Speaker 4: grounded and collected.
Speaker 6: It's taken a long time to get there, to be honest,
Speaker 6: but I'm very spiritual yet, and I don't know if
Speaker 6: you believe in the horsecopes thing.
Speaker 5: But I'm an aries. I'm a fire sign.
Speaker 4: I love aries, and I do I'm very into it.
Speaker 5: Have you read an me Joe Despencer?
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, no, I have one of his books.
Speaker 4: I haven't gotten around to it yet. But which one.
Speaker 5: Bringing the Habit of being yourself?
Speaker 4: Breaking the habit of being I don't think it's that one,
Speaker 4: but I'm going to write it down.
Speaker 5: He probably has a bunch.
Speaker 6: But when he talks about quantum physics, about us being energy, frequency.
Speaker 4: Vibration, that is my love language.
Speaker 5: I love language for sure.
Speaker 4: I love those quantum particles.
Speaker 2: I love that love.
Speaker 4: I love the they're valuable. I love that they change
Speaker 4: when we observe them.
Speaker 8: Oh my god, no.
Speaker 4: I love that. That's something that like, you're into and
Speaker 4: you're excited about.
Speaker 5: So what makes you curious about that?
Speaker 4: I have just always been really enamored with the universe
Speaker 4: and deeply intimated. I don't I don't know. I don't
Speaker 4: even know where. Actually I think it was the Stargate documents.
Speaker 4: Do you know what I'm talking about?
Speaker 6: I'm so excited that I can learn from you.
Speaker 4: Because you're asking me so many questions, which is lovely
Speaker 4: and I love that, but.
Speaker 5: Also yeah, that's right. I mean I feel like.
Speaker 4: I will just like Gab and gab and Gab like
Speaker 4: I will just keep.
Speaker 5: Talking to you know.
Speaker 6: And it's funny because you mentioned, well, I asked about
Speaker 6: the curiosity about the universe, so for you to be
Speaker 6: curious about it, to move into that space consciousness, et cetera.
Speaker 6: I respect that and it tells me a lot more
Speaker 6: about you than anything else could.
Speaker 4: I'm so excited that we're like so aligned.
Speaker 1: Well wow, wow, wow.
Speaker 2: I hope those sweeties hit it off.
Speaker 3: Find us back here next week as Leanna and I
Speaker 3: make some more matches.
Speaker 1: Good work today, Ali, Oh, we did good. I like
Speaker 1: what I'm looking at.
Speaker 2: Date Maaori.
Speaker 3: The First is a production from w V Sound and
Speaker 3: I Heart Media as my Utura podcast network, hosted by
Speaker 3: me Vico Ortiz, joined by the Fabulous Lenna Montenegro Bait
Speaker 3: ma Auri. The First is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel,
Speaker 3: and Sophie Spencer Zavos. Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama,
Speaker 3: Leo Clem, and Nico Raguel w V Sound. This episode
Speaker 3: was edited by Sean Tracy and additional help from producer
Speaker 3: Danielle Koneg and features original music.
Speaker 2: By Alva Morello and Gabe Lopez. Special things also to
Speaker 2: our hopeful romantics.
Speaker 3: This week, Giovanni, Anusia, Christine and Jess.
Speaker 2: Additional thanks to Salt and Line Media.
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Speaker 2: See you next week and in the meantime, don't do
Speaker 2: anything Awalita wouldn't do.
Speaker 1: Just do it better. Besitos