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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. We're so

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Speaker 1: excited to be back, Susan. Another day, another episode.

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Speaker 2: How are you doing?

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Speaker 4: We've been having so much fun answering everybody's questions, so

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Speaker 4: dot com slash Golden Hour. We have some really good

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Speaker 4: questions today that we're going to get to with our

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Speaker 4: special guests today.

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Speaker 1: We are going to have so much fun. From Joey's

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Speaker 1: season of the Bachelor. We have Leah, Hey, Leah, how

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Speaker 1: are you?

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Speaker 3: I'm good? How are you?

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Speaker 2: Guys?

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Speaker 3: It's so good to be here.

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Speaker 2: You look beautiful. I know, right, we were just going

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Speaker 2: to say the same thing. Guitar. Oh, I was just

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Speaker 3: I do play music, mainly play piano though, but I

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Speaker 3: do a little bit of guitar and there, Yeah, nice?

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Speaker 2: Did you grow play piano like comedy?

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Speaker 3: I did, Susan you guys remember I did that. I

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Speaker 3: played piano for you guys at the talent show.

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Speaker 2: No, no, you did it.

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Speaker 3: I was there, like I have short to remember less,

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Speaker 3: but I did. I did play a little song for

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Speaker 3: you guys. So how are you? What have you been

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Speaker 3: up to? What's going on?

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Speaker 1: Good?

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Speaker 3: I've been so good. Anybody knew in your life? You

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Speaker 3: know how it is?

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Speaker 2: Do I we're gonna we are going to get there.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna get there. What we heard that you on

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Speaker 2: your TikTok.

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Speaker 1: I want you to school me because you want details

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Speaker 1: that we heard about the grocery store man.

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Speaker 2: What first?

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Speaker 1: Give us the updates, and for those people who didn't

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Speaker 2: Tell us what went on.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So basically I was at the grocery store and

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Speaker 3: then I was looking at flowers because you know, I

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Speaker 3: my flowers. And this man comes up to me and

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Speaker 3: he's like, you shouldn't be buying your own flowers, like

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Speaker 2: Very the sky.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I would say he was like thirty,

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Speaker 3: which like I love that age. I love me a

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Speaker 3: like in LA they're just not ready till a little

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Speaker 3: bit later, like about eighty, about eighty, about like eighty

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Speaker 3: to the grave is probably when they're ready. But okay,

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Speaker 3: you guys get this. This is the tea. So I was,

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Speaker 3: you know, thinking about, Okay, maybe I'll go get dinner

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Speaker 3: with him. But then he called me like, I'm not

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Speaker 3: not even giving you like thirteen times, and I was

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Speaker 1: And Leah, I'm going to just insert red flag here.

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Speaker 3: Red flag. So wow, I don't know. That was just

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Speaker 1: I think, have you said you've been hanging out with

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Speaker 1: the girls, You've been hanging out with Rachel?

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Speaker 2: Who are you hanging out with?

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Speaker 3: I actually saw Rachel and Daisy yesterday. Love them. They're like, no,

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Speaker 3: I love those girls. Oh, They're just amazing and they

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Speaker 1: Wow, So you you you I'm still intrigued by those guitars.

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Speaker 1: I see, have you ever played in a band?

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Speaker 3: I haven't played in like a traditional band, but I

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Speaker 3: I did sing in my worship band in college, and

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Speaker 1: I'm very don't they do they not of a singles

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Speaker 3: You know they don't. But maybe she's what that suggestion box.

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Speaker 4: So tell me what you know. I love my Rachel. Right, Yes,

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Speaker 4: you guys hang out a lot? Are we do hang

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Speaker 3: She's She's a gem. She is a gem.

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Speaker 5: She is what is beautiful as the next I'm telling you.

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Speaker 1: All right, well, I all the all this girl talking

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Speaker 1: you beautiful women here.

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Speaker 2: I have a question for you.

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Speaker 1: How do you feel? How do you know and how

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Speaker 1: you once you know it? How do you feel once

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Speaker 1: how do you know you're ready to move on? And

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Speaker 1: then how does it feel?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? I think that you know you've truly moved on

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Speaker 4: And realize that everybody comes into your life for a reason.

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Speaker 4: Exactly a season, but definitely for a reason.

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Speaker 3: It's a learning thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So you are grateful for every relationship you've ever had.

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Speaker 3: One because you know, if I didn't, you know, get

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Speaker 1: I don't think friendships too like, girl, have you ever

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Speaker 3: Yeah? And I just don't think it's it's very necessary

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I wasn't suggesting hate. I've just had some

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Speaker 2: That's why I was curious when you.

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Speaker 4: Said, okay, okay, do you think like after the show

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Speaker 4: the way you date it changed, Like I'm sure you

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Speaker 4: date it prior to the show, but what changed for you?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: I think that I really realized one like my worth

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Speaker 3: and what what I'm looking for and what I want.

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Speaker 3: And I think something that's nice about the show is

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Speaker 3: it taught me to not take things so serious. I mean,

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Speaker 4: Like, I'm sure you're young, you're gorgeous, your emails and

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Speaker 2: Well, she just said she's not dating anymore.

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Speaker 3: So funny I have I have dated in La I

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Speaker 3: Everywhere it's it's so crazy. There's just you know, there's

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Speaker 1: Because what's you're you're set on getting married and having kids,

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Speaker 3: One hundred one. I want little, a little family to raise,

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Speaker 3: and I just want to be in love. I love

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Speaker 1: To I think I think I'm going to be sick

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Speaker 3: Hopeless romantic.

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Speaker 1: By stock in Hallmark and send your card to day. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I just want to say I believe in love and

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Speaker 1: I believe it will happen for all of us. But

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Speaker 1: you know, I think some of these phrases have become hackneyed.

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Speaker 2: When you say, you know.

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Speaker 1: I believe in love's love and I don't know, I

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Speaker 3: It's nothing wrong with that. It's a statement.

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Speaker 2: It's a fact.

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Speaker 3: You don't love when you're in love?

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Speaker 2: You do?

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Speaker 3: Come on, think do you love when you're in love?

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Speaker 1: Terminology? Look, it's just for me, it's the terminology, you know. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I there's all of the kinds of words I would use.

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Speaker 1: But did I love my husband?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: It's the I know, it's the repair. I love being

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Speaker 1: in love. You know whatever.

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Speaker 4: I want to know you making fun of us, because

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Speaker 4: we're going to attack.

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Speaker 3: You right now. We are being in love as we do, Susane.

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Speaker 3: We sometimes love isn't always romantic. Sometimes I love being

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Speaker 2: What I'm saying is the use of the word. We

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Speaker 2: could beat this one to death. Hair.

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Speaker 1: I'm grateful for my friends. I'm grateful for the marriage

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Speaker 1: I had. I love my husband. But you know, pro

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Speaker 1: I want to I want to put on like a

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Speaker 3: My Okay to your opinion?

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Speaker 1: So what would you say, I'm always interested in you,

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Speaker 3: Oh gosh, I could write a whole novel on this.

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Speaker 4: So and for me, it empowered me be my authentic self.

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Speaker 4: As I see hear you say that you were so

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Speaker 5: It enlightens you and you got to know who you were?

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Speaker 4: And what if you guess to be on Paradise? How

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Speaker 3: I would pray a lot about it. Would you do it?

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Speaker 4: Where is there anybody that you would hope that would

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Speaker 3: Gary's so sweetie. I think he is a little bit

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Speaker 2: What is next for you? Lea?

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Speaker 1: we make jokes about this, but you know you are young.

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Speaker 3: I think the bigger picture, the biggest picture is I

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Speaker 4: Sounds like you have a whole lot going on, yeah,

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Speaker 3: Yes exactly exactly, and I think if it's the right person,

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Speaker 3: Can I can I like do a TikTok and like

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Speaker 2: I just want to do speak for yourself. I'll take

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Speaker 4: So we have listeners that writing and they ask us

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Speaker 3: Amazing? Let's do it all right, Cathy, you want to

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Speaker 1: She's twenty four years old and she asks Hi, Kathy

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Speaker 3: Okay, So here's what I think. I think that as

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I think women, I don't know about in your generation,

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Speaker 1: When he said yeah, to meet up? I'll text you.

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Speaker 1: He did exactly what he said, so and forward like that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, they don't think outside the box like we do.

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Speaker 1: Like you said season, what time are you picking me up?

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Speaker 3: So she might still like this guy.

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Speaker 4: So I'm glad she said yes, give him a chance

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Speaker 1: And then then if you see a real red flag flag,

446
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Speaker 1: you know.

447
00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:04,600
Speaker 3: Nothing, that's a whole bong game. Yeah, yeah, all.

448
00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:09,879
Speaker 1: Right, and send him and send him to Leah's, the

449
00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:10,680
Speaker 1: local bar to me.

450
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Speaker 7: Now, no, I'm not no, ma'am no, but thank you

451
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:17,320
Speaker 7: for asking, and do let us know if you like

452
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:18,720
Speaker 7: him after this next day.

453
00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:22,720
Speaker 3: But do share how you felt about it, be honest.

454
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Speaker 6: That's all we want. We want to hear for sure,

455
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Speaker 6: all right.

456
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Speaker 4: The next one's an anonymous. Hi, Kathy Ensusan. Please don't

457
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Speaker 4: judge me, but I'm a huge mess and I need

458
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Speaker 4: your help. My best friend was with her ex for

459
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:48,119
Speaker 4: about a year a year and a half.

460
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Speaker 3: I'll wait.

461
00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:52,959
Speaker 4: My best friend was with her ex for about a

462
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Speaker 4: year and have been broken up for a little over

463
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Speaker 4: six months. I always thought he was a great guy,

464
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Speaker 4: but I feel like she felt he wasn't obsessed with

465
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,760
Speaker 4: her enough. He's really sweet and always went out with

466
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:09,639
Speaker 4: her and paid for things and so on, but the

467
00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:12,520
Speaker 4: only thing she ever seemed to care about was that

468
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 4: he didn't buy her flowers or didn't give her a

469
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 4: card on her birthday, things like that. But she's my

470
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:23,040
Speaker 4: best friend and I support her either way. The other night,

471
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Speaker 4: while we were at the bar together with some other friends,

472
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Speaker 4: we ran into her ex, Tom. Tom was really sweet

473
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Speaker 4: and said hi to all of us, He offered to

474
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Speaker 4: bias around the drinks, but my friend wanted to go

475
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Speaker 4: over to a guy's table, so she declined. I felt

476
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Speaker 4: really bummed about the whole interaction, but went with my

477
00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:47,639
Speaker 4: friends well. I got pretty drunk and in the morning

478
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Speaker 4: realized that I ended up texting Tom around four am.

479
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Speaker 4: I thanked him for his offer on drinks hopfully and

480
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Speaker 4: said that it was good to see him, all things

481
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Speaker 4: that my friend would not mind at all. He became

482
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Speaker 4: really close to our friend group while they were together.

483
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Speaker 4: But I also told him that he was way too

484
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Speaker 4: good for my friend and that I'd be lucky to

485
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Speaker 4: date someone as sweet as him. And I also said

486
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Speaker 4: I just can't believe you're this great and super hot.

487
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Speaker 3: It's insane.

488
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Speaker 4: I immediately had a panic attack after reading what I said.

489
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Speaker 4: He just responded the next day saying good to see

490
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Speaker 4: you too, thanks.

491
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Speaker 3: And my name. I am mortified.

492
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 4: My friend would be devastated if she knew I did this,

493
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Speaker 4: but I feel horrible keeping it from her.

494
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Speaker 5: What do I do? Please help? I love you both, all.

495
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Speaker 2: Right, go first layer, because boy, I got I got

496
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Speaker 2: a mouthful.

497
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Speaker 3: I would love to actually I would for me. This

498
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,679
Speaker 3: is so insane and this would I don't know. I

499
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Speaker 3: feel terrible. I don't know. I would love to hear

500
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Speaker 3: your guys' advice because I just would never put myself

501
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Speaker 3: in this situation. It just sounds like you're drunk, but

502
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Speaker 3: you know what you're doing.

503
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Speaker 1: Don't no, no, no, no no no no, Susan, I disagree.

504
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:09,399
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people this girl sounds like

505
00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:14,720
Speaker 1: she was blackout drunk. I think she isn't dating. I

506
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:17,719
Speaker 1: don't think this other girl is her friend. I think

507
00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 1: she needs to put away the phone. Young people text

508
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: drunk all the time and then they wake up and go,

509
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:28,199
Speaker 1: oh shit, what did I do. I'll tell you what

510
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Speaker 1: to do the next time, Anonymous. Put your phone down

511
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:35,560
Speaker 1: when you get drunk. And if you're not dating anyone

512
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Speaker 1: and you want to date this guy, I would have

513
00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:42,320
Speaker 1: handled it a whole lot differently than what you did. However,

514
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,919
Speaker 1: this would you say, I want to tell my friend.

515
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:49,199
Speaker 1: You probably need to reread your text here, because you

516
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 1: said I told him he was too good for my friend.

517
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 1: So I don't think she's I don't think she's your friend.

518
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Speaker 1: I think you need to reevaluate Anonymous.

519
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 3: Well.

520
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Speaker 4: I also think she's got a secret crush on this guy,

521
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:07,800
Speaker 4: and he did not respond the way she wanted him

522
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Speaker 4: to respond. I think he responded the way she was

523
00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 4: putting it out there. They would be going out right now,

524
00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 4: and that'd be a whole nother story. So you have

525
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Speaker 4: to take a look inside at yourself, drunk or not.

526
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:25,440
Speaker 4: You know, I've always thought that people that have been

527
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 4: drinking too much open their mouth, but they say what

528
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 4: they really feel. Yeah, that's what this is about. She's

529
00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 4: got a crush, she wants him.

530
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,359
Speaker 2: But do you did you think she's friends? What do

531
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Speaker 2: you think? Do you think that this is really good

532
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:40,159
Speaker 2: friends with this?

533
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Speaker 3: I don't know because I don't. I don't think those

534
00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 3: are those are aligned with like a really good, loyal,

535
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 3: strong friendship. And I think if if that's something that

536
00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:50,920
Speaker 3: you'd be willing to do and like in your heart,

537
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:54,199
Speaker 3: then maybe, yeah, take a look at your friendships and like,

538
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 3: is this really someone you value and care about? Because

539
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Speaker 3: I think if you cared about someone so deeply, you'd

540
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Speaker 3: never put yourself in this situation drunk or not. So yeah,

541
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:07,960
Speaker 3: I don't know this one. Keith is buttoned up and

542
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 3: pray he never tells her tell.

543
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:11,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't.

544
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: I don't think I would tell her I don't think

545
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,479
Speaker 1: they're broken up anyway, So what does it matter? It

546
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 1: really doesn't matter. But I will say I give great,

547
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:24,480
Speaker 1: uh great props to the guy who I think took

548
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 1: the high road and said thank you, you know, Anonymous

549
00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 1: whatever her name was, and it was good to see you.

550
00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 1: He took the high road. He probably knew she was drunk.

551
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: So whoever you are, sir, I hope you're listening.

552
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:40,560
Speaker 7: And her, you know, yeah, obviously. So there's so many

553
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 7: fish in the sea. There are so many. There's four

554
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 7: billion men. I'm sure you can find another one that's alone.

555
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:53,439
Speaker 1: And I updated three billion, nine thousand. Really, all right, Leah,

556
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: we are of a certain age, so you know, here's

557
00:27:56,800 --> 00:27:57,520
Speaker 1: your opportunity.

558
00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 2: Do you have any questions for us before we let you?

559
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 6: Oh?

560
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 3: I do, I do? Okay, Well, I just want to hear, like,

561
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Speaker 3: what is your guys, advice to someone who's in their

562
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:14,520
Speaker 3: twenties who's you know, trying to navigate life. Okay, advice

563
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 3: on life in general, and then advice for like dating

564
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 3: and love.

565
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 2: Ohs ism good go? Which wenty?

566
00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:23,919
Speaker 3: What first?

567
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:27,640
Speaker 4: I think you're doing the exact thing you should be doing,

568
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:31,880
Speaker 4: focusing on what you want to accomplish and the rest

569
00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:37,359
Speaker 4: will follow. Do you be educated, do your dream reach

570
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 4: your goals, aim for your goals. I get it about

571
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,360
Speaker 4: finding love. If you were telling me this when I

572
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:46,840
Speaker 4: was your age, I probably would have ignored me. But

573
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:50,400
Speaker 4: it isn't that you can't hunt it down. It has

574
00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 4: to happen.

575
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would, I would. I would add a little

576
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Speaker 1: bit to it. I think that a lot of your

577
00:28:57,600 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 1: beautiful AI. You obviously have a lot of a perspective

578
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 1: on life, and you have a lot of dreams and

579
00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 1: things that you want to accomplish. But I also think

580
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 1: that you have to take a strategic Everyone does a

581
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 1: strategic approach, not just to your career, but to finding

582
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:19,959
Speaker 1: that love that you want. And I've said this many times.

583
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: I think you need to put yourself in situations, not

584
00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:27,040
Speaker 1: at bars at one in the morning like we were

585
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:29,800
Speaker 1: just in that last question. I think that if you

586
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 1: put yourself in situations doing the things in life that

587
00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: you love to do, whatever that is, hiking, voting, whatever

588
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:43,880
Speaker 1: it is, put yourself in situations where you will be

589
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:48,120
Speaker 1: thrown literally together with people of like mind, that you

590
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 1: will that is that's that gives you the opportunity to

591
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 1: meet people where you already have common interests, and so

592
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 1: that's how some of the good people come into your life.

593
00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 1: And you know, friends or good friends, if they know you,

594
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:05,120
Speaker 1: they might work with someone. So it's it's sort of

595
00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:07,840
Speaker 1: like networking in a way, but you have to put

596
00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 1: forth the effort. I think a lot of people think

597
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 1: that prince charming or princess charming will float into their lives,

598
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 1: and it really is something that you have.

599
00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 4: To put sitting on they're going to knocking on the door.

600
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Speaker 1: I mean, I've said that a million times. You know,

601
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 1: you have to you have to actively engage in life,

602
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,440
Speaker 1: and I think you're doing that that I love that

603
00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 1: actively engage and I think you are actively engaging. But

604
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Speaker 1: I think if you want to meet a guy, you know,

605
00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:44,800
Speaker 1: you can go on on any of the dating sites,

606
00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 1: but really all they're looking at is you're you're beautiful,

607
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 1: and you are beautiful. But I don't think you are

608
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 1: looking for a man who just wants a beautiful piece

609
00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 1: of arm candy. And and so that's why one of

610
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 1: my shoes with dating apps. So I would encourage you to,

611
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:06,120
Speaker 1: you know, take some time for you, take some time

612
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 1: to do things and take up new hobbies, because that's

613
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: really how you will broaden your circle and meet new people,

614
00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 1: and hopefully something or someone in that in that adventure

615
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: will say, wow, I met this great girl while we

616
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 1: were whatever it is.

617
00:31:23,320 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 4: And believe it or not, the dating apps ort. I've

618
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 4: married so many couples that met on a dating Really.

619
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Speaker 3: It does happen.

620
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 4: The majority of the weddings that I perform have met

621
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:36,440
Speaker 4: on a dating app.

622
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 3: I mean it happens.

623
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not saying no.

624
00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 3: I never take breaks from it.

625
00:31:43,840 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 5: You get to see the same old people.

626
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:46,200
Speaker 3: You never know.

627
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 5: You don't just be open and stay happy within you.

628
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think LA is a hard place. I know.

629
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Speaker 1: My daughter lived in New York City and she said

630
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:57,479
Speaker 1: the same thing. She my daughter is as beautiful as

631
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,080
Speaker 1: you are. And she would say things say to me,

632
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 1: it's so hard, mom. I'm on a date with a

633
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 1: guy and we're having a great time, and then us

634
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 1: we're walking. I see him looking at another woman as

635
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 1: we're walking, and he believe me, my daughter's beautiful.

636
00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 2: She and happily married.

637
00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 1: But she would she would say, it's like they think

638
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 1: you're beautiful, that they think you're smart, they think you're great.

639
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 1: Oh wait, what else is out there?

640
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and that's she just found.

641
00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 2: Guys didn't want to commit too many choices.

642
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, especially you. I wish you all the best.

643
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:40,680
Speaker 4: And the next time we're out in LA I want

644
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 4: you and Rachel come hang out with us.

645
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 3: Yes, I would love nothing more. You guys are so awesome.

646
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 3: Thanks for to play golf. Yes, I love that.

647
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 1: I'll tell you, by the way, that's a great place

648
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 1: to meet single guys on the golf course. Yeah, it is,

649
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 1: so you know. Put so take a few golf and

650
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 1: see what comes your wife. But we really have loved

651
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 1: having you here. You are amazing. Thank you for joining

652
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 1: us and for everyone else, be sure to follow Bachelor

653
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Speaker 1: Happy Hour because we have guests like Leah. Leah, I

654
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Speaker 1: just mispronounced your name for the person time.

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Speaker 2: It happens.

656
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Speaker 1: No, but I'm very funny about names, so I apologize.

657
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Speaker 2: But we have.

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Speaker 1: Lots of great guests coming up and we know that

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Speaker 1: you won't want to miss it, so be sure to

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Speaker 1: tune in.

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Speaker 4: And that does it for this episode, so make sure

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Speaker 4: you submit those questions to us. You can go to

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Speaker 4: Bachelor nation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or hit us

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour.

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Speaker 1: On the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to podcasts.

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Speaker 2: Take care, We'll see you all next week.

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Speaker 1: Thanks again, Leah, Thanks guys, love y'all,