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Speaker 1: Time for ask the CLO Chief Love Officer Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: in the building, ready for your questions. Courtney and iHeart

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Speaker 1: A listener says, I'm thirty and dating a man that's

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Speaker 1: thirty one, and he tells me all the time that

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Speaker 1: I'm his soulmate. He's all into me in every way.

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Speaker 1: He gives me baths and pedicures, and he even will

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Speaker 1: polish my toenails if I ask him to. He irons

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Speaker 1: my clothes for me daily, and he cleans up the

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Speaker 1: kitchen if I cook. We never argue, and if we

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Speaker 1: ever disagree, we settle it quickly.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's just letterful.

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Speaker 1: Listen, He's so different than any other guy I've dated.

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Speaker 1: My daddy says he's soft and won't make a good husband.

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Speaker 1: How can my daddy make such a negative assumption.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's better to be soft and feel soft. Well,

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Speaker 2: none says that the man is soft, just soft to

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Speaker 2: his daddy.

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Speaker 3: Maybe her father's hard and made may and he's a

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Speaker 3: good husband. So he thinking, because this dude a hard,

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Speaker 3: he must be soft. I got lady, If you have

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Speaker 3: no complaints, don't let your father create one.

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Speaker 1: This guy's a dream.

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Speaker 2: There you go, ash, Well, I can't say that, all right?

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Speaker 2: What I can't say.

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Speaker 3: That because somebody I was gonna say, maybe you should

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Speaker 3: ask your mom how happy she's been with and how

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Speaker 3: she would feel with some treatment like that.

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Speaker 2: Because your daddy he ain't gonna do none of that.

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Speaker 2: He owes to that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, all right? Moving on Kenetra in Memphis Rights. I'm

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Speaker 1: a forty two year old divorced woman and I fell

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Speaker 1: in love with the perfect guy, but I ran him

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Speaker 1: away by being paranoid. I had a rough marriage and

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Speaker 1: my husband cheated, so I developed bad habits, like checking

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Speaker 1: his phone and popping up at places he was hanging out.

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Speaker 1: I carried this behavior into my new relationship and was

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Speaker 1: always accusing my new guy of messing around. I want

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Speaker 1: a second chance with him, and I want him to

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Speaker 1: know that I changed. How do I start the conversation

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Speaker 1: with him?

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Speaker 2: Luggage? You know what? You know what?

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Speaker 3: What? Boy?

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Speaker 2: I was tripping?

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Speaker 3: You know, you know it's so crazy, cause you know,

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Speaker 3: I know you're a good man, but I'm so stupid.

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Speaker 3: I'd be just checking your phone and you know you

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Speaker 3: ain't even know. I'd be outside the bar waiting on you.

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Speaker 3: I'll be in your house that crazy and I just

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Speaker 3: you know, I've just been you know, but it was

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Speaker 3: my ex.

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Speaker 2: He just made me his way.

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Speaker 3: But and you know what, I'm not gonna do that

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Speaker 3: anymore because I think I found what I'm looking for.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it might work, but I doubt it all right, So,

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Speaker 1: Tony in the Bay Area says, I'm a thirty three

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Speaker 1: year old married man raising my two daughters while my

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Speaker 1: wife is in jail for sixteen months. She committed credit

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Speaker 1: card fraud, and I was clue list when she got arrested.

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Speaker 1: The problem I'm having now is that she only calls

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Speaker 1: us once a week if then she calls her mom daily,

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Speaker 1: and it ticks me off. Her mom said, she's still

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Speaker 1: ashamed to talk to me. But I don't believe that

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Speaker 1: she had a whole side hustle that I didn't know about.

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Speaker 1: So do you think she has a side due too?

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Speaker 1: Am I being a fool for waiting for her? Wow?

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Speaker 2: Whoa a side?

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Speaker 4: Do?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: He wants to know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well you don't know what. Yeah, but bruh, listen

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Speaker 3: to me. Credit card There ain't got nothing to do

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Speaker 3: with a side, dude. She might be, you know, honestly,

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Speaker 3: just embarrassed. The mom could be right. I don't know

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Speaker 3: where you got the other.

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Speaker 1: Dude from because she kept that from him, you know,

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Speaker 1: she she more, she keeps secrets.

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Speaker 3: So he's okay, Well, well, well okay, okay, Then go

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Speaker 3: with that theory, you know, go with that theory and

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Speaker 3: see how that work out for you. Sometimes being paranoid

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Speaker 3: about stuff that you have no facts on it, it's

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Speaker 3: a waste of time. It's like, why are you're tripping

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Speaker 3: yourself out about something that you don't even have the facts.

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Speaker 4: But uncle, if she lied about that, what he thinking

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Speaker 4: is she probably has some most skeletons, That's what it is.

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Speaker 2: Well, excuse me, but nephew, turning.

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Speaker 3: Because you lie about one thing, don't mean that you

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Speaker 3: lie about everything.

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Speaker 2: Well nothing when I lie, well, nor when I lie? No,

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Speaker 2: surely no, because.

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Speaker 1: This you usually have, you know, when you tell one

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Speaker 1: tell another line another life.

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Speaker 2: But you I mean, I'm just saying this.

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Speaker 3: Because you lie about one thing, don't mean you'll lie

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Speaker 3: about all things.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 3: If you want to accept the paranoialal and act on it,

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Speaker 3: then go ahead. But the woman might not have nothing

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Speaker 3: to do with no other dude. She called once a week,

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Speaker 3: she and bad she called her mama daily. How close

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Speaker 3: once y'all before she went in Wady, not as close

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Speaker 3: as he thought they were. Why was you doing all

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Speaker 3: this anyway? I mean, why was she doing all this anyway?

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Speaker 3: Something else is going on, bro, And now you're thinking

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Speaker 3: it's another dude in the picture. When she went to

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Speaker 3: jail for credit card fraud, she didn't go to jail

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Speaker 3: with an accomplish.

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Speaker 4: That was a dude. She went by herself. Maybe we

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Speaker 4: need to see what she was buying with the credit card.

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Speaker 4: I mean we got hotels on it and a whole

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Speaker 4: bunch of other stuff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah see, you know, why don't we just letting mister

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Speaker 3: negativity here?

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Speaker 1: He's a person's raised raising daughters.

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Speaker 2: I'm talking about. I don't know how I became negativity.

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Speaker 2: I'm negativity.

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Speaker 3: She just letting him ask all the little negative asked

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Speaker 3: questions so he can break up this family.

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Speaker 2: All right, we're moving We're moving on. I know you

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Speaker 2: agree with him, Jay, because you you ignorant, So stands me.

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Speaker 1: Let's get to this one. Ken and Huntsville says, I'm

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Speaker 1: fifty two and I recently met a fifty five year

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Speaker 1: old man on an online dating site. He has never

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Speaker 1: been married and he is one adult child. I am

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Speaker 1: divorced and I have one child in college. I bought

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Speaker 1: a small house after my divorce, and he's living in

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Speaker 1: a one bedroom apartment. We both are teachers, and we're

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Speaker 1: both Baptists. Other than that, we don't seem to be

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Speaker 1: on the same page. To be honest, I had hoped

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Speaker 1: to meet a man that didn't still live in an apartment.

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Speaker 1: Am I focused on the wrong thing? Should I get

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Speaker 1: to know him anyway?

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Speaker 2: CLO?

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Speaker 3: I mean, you got every right to focus on what

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Speaker 3: you want to focus day your priorities. If you want

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Speaker 3: a man that's a home owner fifty two, then maybe

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Speaker 3: that's one of your qualifications.

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Speaker 2: And you can pass up on a good man. If

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Speaker 2: he ain't never been married, maybe he ain't never had

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Speaker 2: a reason by the house. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Oh he couldn't live with somebody. He just said he

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Speaker 3: ain't been married. You know, he ain't living with nobody.

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Speaker 1: You know, mh All right, well, thank you, so allon

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Speaker 1: once again.

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Speaker 3: You can ask mister negativity what he wanted to do

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Speaker 3: about it. Let everybody off, you know, let everybody just

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Speaker 3: break up.

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Speaker 1: You're listening hard Morning Show