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Speaker 2: My sister is furious that I refuse to be her surrogate,

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Speaker 2: I thirty seven female and fiance thirty seven male, are

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Speaker 2: trying for another baby. I normally share everything with my

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Speaker 2: family about my life, as I don't like holding onto

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Speaker 2: secrets from my family. The other month, my sister spoke

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Speaker 2: to me and mentioned how it was so nice that

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Speaker 2: no one in her family was trying or pregnant, as

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Speaker 2: every time someone said they were either one of those,

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Speaker 2: she felt deflated because she doesn't have children. And then

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Speaker 2: she proceeded to tell me why she couldn't have children,

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Speaker 2: which she has told me repeatedly since finding out she

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Speaker 2: can't have children. Then she asked the question that I

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Speaker 2: knew she was going to ask me. By the way,

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime Separate It. She asked if maybe I could

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Speaker 2: possibly help her and be a surrogate for her, as

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Speaker 2: I have come I leave my family. She said, my

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Speaker 2: children are from a previous relationship, and my fiance had

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Speaker 2: always dreamed of having a child, even though he counts

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Speaker 2: my two children as his. I was so shocked by

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Speaker 2: what she'd asked that I asked if she had asked

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Speaker 2: others before asking me, and she said they're younger and

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Speaker 2: she didn't ask them. I just looked shocked, and she said, well,

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Speaker 2: it's not like you're using it, is it. I looked

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Speaker 2: at her, dumbfounded that she was asking me this. It

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Speaker 2: gets worse. She made an appointment with her doctor and

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Speaker 2: it was the following day. It was like she was

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Speaker 2: ordering me to go. I went home and told my

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Speaker 2: fiance and he said, we can hold off on our

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Speaker 2: baby if you want to help your sister haveb a baby.

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Speaker 2: That is like w husband, W husband. It does not

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Speaker 2: seem like that's what op he wants, But like dou

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Speaker 2: w husband for being like, you know what, whatever you want.

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Speaker 2: If this is what you want, I'll support you.

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Speaker 3: That's a great husband. Esquestionally again, since he is not

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Speaker 3: the father of your two children.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and we already know that he wants to have

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Speaker 2: more kids.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's like, you know what, I'm on your side.

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Speaker 3: I don't like the sister sister like, I made a

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you're having my baby, you gotta have to go.

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Speaker 2: It's not the fact I don't want to help her,

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Speaker 2: but there's other ways of doing surrogacy. It doesn't have

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Speaker 2: to be a family member. I told him I wasn't

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Speaker 2: happy about doing it, and that neither would my other

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Speaker 2: sisters and two sister in laws, So why was it

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Speaker 2: different for her to expect i'd do it. My mom

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Speaker 2: texted me asking if I was okay because she got

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Speaker 2: a weird text for my sister sister who wants me

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Speaker 2: to be surrogate for her stating that I had a

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Speaker 2: cold heart because I didn't react the way she thought

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Speaker 2: I would about being her surrogate. I explained to my

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Speaker 2: mom that it just didn't sit with me, the attitude

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Speaker 2: demanding that I become her surrogate, and that she had

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Speaker 2: an appointment booked for the following day. What my mom

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Speaker 2: livid by what the plan was. The appointment was to

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Speaker 2: talk about the nonation of my eggs. To my sister,

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Speaker 2: then put back inside me, so in other words, I

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Speaker 2: be her new boyfriend. I got off the phone and

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Speaker 2: looked at my fiance and I burst into tears. My

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Speaker 2: parents knew he had heard everything because I had put

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Speaker 2: up by my fiance saying that my phone hasn't stopped ringing.

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Speaker 2: You had been declining if it were any of my

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Speaker 2: because it's said the following hospital pointment as at one

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Speaker 2: a PM, will pick you up at nine am and

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Speaker 2: you're to spend the day with us. You will do this?

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Speaker 3: What you will do this?

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Speaker 2: This is insane, So I replied back, saying do what

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Speaker 2: just be your surrogate? Or Am I to donate my

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Speaker 2: eggs to you and carry my biological child for you?

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Speaker 2: Because that's what the baby will be if I donate

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Speaker 2: my eggs to you, won't it? She replied back, saying

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Speaker 2: DNA idiot. Be ready now, we'll pick you up and

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Speaker 2: you can stay at our house so we know where

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Speaker 2: you are. Are they trying to kidnap o Bee?

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Speaker 3: It looks like Opie has a zero zero choice here.

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Speaker 2: I knew she was going to say this, and with

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Speaker 2: this died down. I've been at my future in laws

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Speaker 2: for a month. Basically, we all moved into theirs. He's

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Speaker 4: Fit us all.

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Speaker 2: But it shouldn't be like this, hiding away from my sister,

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Speaker 2: who clearly just wants my womb. She hasn't stopped texting

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Speaker 2: me telling me that I'm an a hole and ruining

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Speaker 2: her life. But am I I need to clarify. I

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Speaker 2: of them what she wanted me to do, and she

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Speaker 2: blew up. And there is an update, but pausing really

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Speaker 2: quick before we jump into it. No, you're not the

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Speaker 2: a hole. Your sister's crazy.

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Speaker 3: You're a hole.

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Speaker 2: Your sister is insane. Anyone who demands your womb and

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Speaker 2: regardless of their relation to you, is crazy.

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Speaker 3: No, it's your womb, literally, your womb, your choice, and

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Speaker 3: the fact that she's demanding it in like.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, saying like we're gonna come pick you up now,

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Speaker 2: be ready.

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Speaker 3: You have no choice in this. Your womb is ours.

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Speaker 2: Like what Today, my dad and my brothers with their

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Speaker 2: My other two sisters have decided to choose a side

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Speaker 2: and will be coming up with their husbands. This is

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Speaker 2: crazy sister and her possible mental state. My dad was

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Speaker 2: talking to her new boyfriend was shortened to envy. They

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Speaker 2: have dated just under a year and he's standing my

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Speaker 2: me for a surrogate and to use my eggs as well.

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Speaker 2: He thought they had discussed looking into egg donation and

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Speaker 2: that crazy sister would be carrying the baby. He was

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Speaker 2: told I was going to an appointment to support sister,

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Speaker 2: a girly night where I kidnapped my sister. They moved

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Speaker 2: in recently together after six months of dating, and Crazy

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Speaker 2: she was part of the situation and still is by

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Speaker 3: Girls, I don't get that.

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Speaker 2: I don't get that. Crazy Sister will be offered again

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Speaker 2: therapy and this will be paid for by my dad.

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Speaker 2: She will be told not to contact me until after

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Speaker 2: she's completed her therapy. If she declines again, then my

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Speaker 2: that don't want her in their presence anymore.

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Speaker 4: If she takes therapy.

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Speaker 2: Treatment my dad is offering, it's on the ground she

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Speaker 2: doesn't communicate with my sisters and especially me regarding babies.

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Speaker 2: I am putting in this agreement that until further notice.

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Speaker 2: She is not to communicate with me about anything, as

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Speaker 2: I won't be texting her. She's also banned from attending

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Speaker 2: my wedding in eighteen months. Regardless if she has treatment

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Speaker 2: or not. She is not invited. She is not welcome

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Speaker 2: to celebrate a day of happiness with me in my fiance.

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Speaker 2: I think she would absolutely make it about herself.

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Speaker 3: Oh, or like just attack you. Yes, Oh you're the

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Speaker 3: a hole because I didn't get to use your woe.

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Speaker 2: I object because I need you to be my sarrogate. Op.

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Speaker 2: He continues. The reason why my other two sisters did

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Speaker 2: radio silence is the fact that crazy sister did act

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Speaker 2: asked them to be surrogates. So she did go to

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Speaker 2: other people before obe and they said no. But that

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Speaker 2: crazy sister carried on texting them both while lying to

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Speaker 2: me saying she hadn't asked them. The only difference was

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Speaker 2: they had each other's backs. You're probably thinking, did she

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Speaker 2: ask my two sister in laws? From what I know,

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Speaker 2: kids were in this situation. They were with their dad.

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Speaker 2: We have fifty to fifty custody my children and teens.

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Speaker 2: Their dad remarried a wonderful woman. I'm still friends with

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Speaker 2: the realization to why she came out of nowhere asking

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Speaker 2: So me and my fiance are thinking she wanted what

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Speaker 2: we have with my brothers, but with the sisters, I

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Speaker 2: need to point out we never exclude her from these

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Speaker 2: get togethers. There is an open invitation for the siblings,

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Speaker 2: but it's mainly me and my brothers and our families

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Speaker 2: that go to one another's house once a week. Father

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Speaker 2: in laws must think we're a crazy family, but in

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Speaker 2: all fairness, I think they adopted my brothers and dad

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Speaker 2: into the family the moment they met them.

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Speaker 3: Belive this is so healthy, so sweet. How is the

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Speaker 2: This is really funny because there is like half of

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Speaker 2: this story is insane's sister asking insane things to OPI,

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Speaker 2: and the other app is like, and we're super chill

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Speaker 2: with my ex and my father, like my in laws

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Speaker 3: Each other like everyone's family. Literally.

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Speaker 2: My future mother in law doesn't like the way my

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Speaker 2: mom deals with things and has on many occasions disagree

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Speaker 2: with my mom on her treatment towards me. But she

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Speaker 2: I need to clarify I did tell crazy sister I

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Speaker 2: Of course she did, but she doesn't need to blow

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Speaker 3: Soya. I made sure there weren't any photos of my

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Speaker 2: Wipe her from existence.

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Speaker 3: She sounds like the best person in the world.

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Speaker 3: See I'm talking about her, so she's probably happy.

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Speaker 2: It's probably like wow, Wow, all news is good news.

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Speaker 3: Isn't he a dream bo By the way, this comes

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Speaker 3: but I blame my grandparents. As she was the firstborn,

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Speaker 5: Damn.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, as a parent, I'm not buying my children their

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Speaker 3: Any car, like a used car. Maybe then the used car.

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Speaker 2: Maybe, I'm like, my mom just gave me. She had

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Speaker 2: that's how it usually works, Which I think that's how

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Speaker 3: And you're spoiling them way too much. But that's that's

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Speaker 3: When she was eighteen plus, she would drink nearly every

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Speaker 2: To hear in her family's house.

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Speaker 3: She's thirty two and she's still at home.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, but regardless of I mean, like, it's

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Speaker 2: I have some respect, some respect for yourself and you know,

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Speaker 3: Through the years, my other sisters started to dislike how

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Speaker 3: we don't trust her Slash. She can't see eye to

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Speaker 3: When it came to her thirtieth birthday, she decided to

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Speaker 2: What are your birthdays close?

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Speaker 3: I was gonna say, I need a context.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I need to know.

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Speaker 2: How close your birthdays because if your birthday's in like

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Speaker 2: I just think it's best if.

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Speaker 3: It's a birthday year, not a birthday month. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I just I just think it's better if we celebrate

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I was so upset and angry as I planned

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Speaker 2: Why did anyone accept that? Why did anybody accept that invitation?

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Speaker 2: And they knew who your birthday is?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, those are your real family members right there? Like,

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Speaker 3: who accepted this? I was so shocked how everyone was

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Speaker 3: Was it? Okay? I need to again, I need more context?

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Speaker 3: It was it the day of, was it like the

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Speaker 2: It sounds like this day off like.

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Speaker 3: What the actual f was going through her mind. If

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Speaker 3: was like hack No. My husband, a lovely man, surprised

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Speaker 3: I couldn't. It would be weird celebrate my sister's birthday

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Speaker 2: Oh, it's your wedding, your wedding, your wedding, your rules.

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Speaker 2: If she's allowed to make her birthday on your birthday,

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Speaker 2: then you don't have to invite her, you know, be

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Speaker 3: Guess what she's going to make it about her.

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Speaker 2: She's just gonna steal it. She's just going to walk

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Speaker 2: I can see.

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Speaker 3: That one hundreds.

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Speaker 2: It's my wedding now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Especially if she's doing it, it seems like she's doing

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Speaker 3: I just didn't want my time slash milestone to be

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Speaker 3: As we were having the wedding at my dad's the patio,

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Speaker 2: Okay, so basically she just self centered. The Yeah, the

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Speaker 3: But you know what, you get shots of of us

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Speaker 2: I don't think you've done anything wrong.

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Speaker 3: The fact that she was invited, Yeah, and she has

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Speaker 3: mm hmm.

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Speaker 2: I mean the fact, yeah, the fact that she got

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Speaker 3: I mean the fact that you told the videographers and photographers, hey, limit,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I do feel like she might, but I think

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Speaker 2: it's a I don't think that they ai for doing it.

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Speaker 3: When we were looking through the wedding photos with family,

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Speaker 3: This went on for thirty minutes, which made me snap

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Speaker 3: and said, who cares. It wasn't your wedding, wasn't your day?

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Speaker 3: And at the end of the day did you enjoy yourself?

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Speaker 3: Did you get dressed up and have fun? Why does

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Speaker 3: it matter about photos? Why does it matter that you're

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Speaker 3: not in the spotlight. You'll get your moment one day,

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Speaker 3: just not now. Get used to it.

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Speaker 2: Yes, nice, snapped back, let's.

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Speaker 3: Go love that. The room went silent. My sister cried

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Speaker 3: And also I believe she is a narcissist. You believe

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Speaker 3: Also I believe she is a narcissist from the behavior

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Speaker 3: So am I the a hole for doing that? I

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Speaker 2: if you have something to say, you don't have to

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00:18:28,880 --> 00:18:31,240
Speaker 2: necessarily do it in public in front of everyone, just

440
00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:33,760
Speaker 2: to have a conversation with that person. But she kind

441
00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:34,639
Speaker 2: of she's really annoying.

442
00:18:34,680 --> 00:18:35,359
Speaker 3: Where's dad in this?

443
00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:37,679
Speaker 2: I don't know, because we know the mom's on on

444
00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:39,240
Speaker 2: the daughter's side, But uh.

445
00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:41,040
Speaker 3: I don't think you're the a whole? Just where's the

446
00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:44,000
Speaker 3: where's everybody else? They know she's self centered, they know

447
00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:46,160
Speaker 3: she's a narcissistic. It seems like no one is really

448
00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:48,080
Speaker 3: supporting you other than your husband.

449
00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:50,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, which kind of sacks. It's like, maybe we have

450
00:18:50,119 --> 00:18:52,240
Speaker 2: to limit contact with family members if they're going to

451
00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:54,320
Speaker 2: keep making you feel bad about.

452
00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:57,520
Speaker 3: This, if she's just so draining by And that's the

453
00:18:57,640 --> 00:18:58,120
Speaker 3: end of that story.

454
00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:00,879
Speaker 2: Seeing that story, So we'll see you next time. See,

455
00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:03,719
Speaker 2: my brother and his wife treated me like garbage at

456
00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:06,480
Speaker 2: their wedding because they thought my boyfriend.

457
00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:08,240
Speaker 3: Would propose wyat their wedding.

458
00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:10,960
Speaker 2: So let me preface this by saying that my oldest brother,

459
00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:12,840
Speaker 2: him and his wife are five years older than me

460
00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:16,240
Speaker 2: female twenty three, and I never had a close relationship

461
00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:19,280
Speaker 2: and usually are at odds. By the way, this comes

462
00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:22,480
Speaker 2: from drive reputation seventy eight seventy five on the Okay

463
00:19:22,520 --> 00:19:26,040
Speaker 2: Storytime subriddite. So we do get along better now that

464
00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:29,080
Speaker 2: we're older and don't live together, But almost every time

465
00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:31,600
Speaker 2: I see him, he says some stupid, out of pocket

466
00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:34,240
Speaker 2: crap because he can't read a room to save his life.

467
00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:36,879
Speaker 2: For instance, at my cousin's grad party, he made an

468
00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:39,439
Speaker 2: announcement that he didn't clap for my cousin's ex out

469
00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:42,520
Speaker 2: of respect for him and his girlfriend, including his girlfriend,

470
00:19:42,600 --> 00:19:45,800
Speaker 2: who looked awkward as heck about it. No one knew

471
00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:47,760
Speaker 2: what to say. They had a messy breakup due to

472
00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:51,760
Speaker 2: her cheating after two years, until my cousin awkwardly thanked

473
00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:54,840
Speaker 2: him and we changed the subject. That's just an example

474
00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:58,280
Speaker 2: of him being a grown butt man doing dumb crap. Sorry,

475
00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:00,760
Speaker 2: I do be talking crap about him when he makes

476
00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:03,240
Speaker 2: me mad. Sorry for the cussing at advance. I'm working

477
00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,359
Speaker 2: on my potty mouth, but I'm sick typing this so

478
00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:07,960
Speaker 2: I might slip up. His wedding was in late September,

479
00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:10,720
Speaker 2: and it's been bugging me ever since, and I finally

480
00:20:10,760 --> 00:20:13,639
Speaker 2: decided I wanted to post online and get other people's

481
00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:16,200
Speaker 2: views on the situation. He has been dating his girlfriend

482
00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:19,200
Speaker 2: for many years, and when they finally announced their engagement,

483
00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:21,880
Speaker 2: I was thrilled for them. I told my brother, let's

484
00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:24,040
Speaker 2: call him Diego to let me know if they needed

485
00:20:24,080 --> 00:20:27,000
Speaker 2: any help. He replied, well, I could ask if Stacy

486
00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:29,480
Speaker 2: has room and her bridal party, but she's got a

487
00:20:29,480 --> 00:20:32,400
Speaker 2: lot of bridesmoths already. I said, that's fine. I didn't

488
00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:34,080
Speaker 2: expect to be in the bridal party. I was just

489
00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:36,600
Speaker 2: offering my help if you needed it, and he replied,

490
00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:38,960
Speaker 2: I'll see what I can squeeze you into the ceremony,

491
00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:41,720
Speaker 2: but I'm not sure. And I replied, that's fine. I

492
00:20:41,760 --> 00:20:43,960
Speaker 2: don't want to be in your ceremony. I was just

493
00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:46,920
Speaker 2: offering help if you guys needed anything. I had no

494
00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:50,199
Speaker 2: idea how he misinterpreted my words, but apparently he was

495
00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:52,760
Speaker 2: talking to my mom later about me being too pushy

496
00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:55,600
Speaker 2: about being included. I didn't say anything about it because

497
00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:58,520
Speaker 2: my mom explained to him for me. Thank god. I

498
00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:01,119
Speaker 2: hate confrontation, and so while I get into fights with

499
00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:05,240
Speaker 2: him often, situations like this always make me feel awkward. Anyways,

500
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:08,840
Speaker 2: a few months later, his fiance Stacy invited me to

501
00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:11,240
Speaker 2: her bachelorette. I thanked her, but let her know that

502
00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:13,280
Speaker 2: i'd have to see since it is out of state

503
00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:16,040
Speaker 2: and my finances are a little tight since I'm currently

504
00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 2: paying for school out of pocket, I do not recommend this.

505
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:19,800
Speaker 3: Now.

506
00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 2: This part is partially my fault because I procrastinated getting

507
00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:26,960
Speaker 2: back to her since I would be really stretching it

508
00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:28,960
Speaker 2: to go. My dad did offer to pay if I

509
00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:30,960
Speaker 2: couldn't gather the funds since he thought it would be

510
00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:32,879
Speaker 2: good bonding for the two of us. But I hate

511
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:36,320
Speaker 2: asking for money and I hate being in socially draining situations.

512
00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:39,080
Speaker 2: And a long weekend with her and her sorority sisters,

513
00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,760
Speaker 2: who I've never met and doubted they had similar quiet

514
00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,960
Speaker 2: personalities as me sounded as fun as waxing your butt.

515
00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:47,520
Speaker 2: No offense to them, but I'm not a social butterfly

516
00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 2: and usually get overwhelmed with social anxiety even meeting one

517
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:53,800
Speaker 2: person for the first time. The minimum I need to

518
00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:55,800
Speaker 2: have to pay for the flights and my share of

519
00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:58,640
Speaker 2: the air bimb was five hundred dollars, which to grown

520
00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:01,240
Speaker 2: people who don't make fifteen dollars an hour and aren't

521
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,840
Speaker 2: paying for school isn't much, but to me that was

522
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 2: a lot of money. I had the funds, though, but

523
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:08,440
Speaker 2: I hated the thought of spending it on a trip

524
00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,959
Speaker 2: I didn't think i'd enjoy, and I was thinking there

525
00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:15,200
Speaker 2: would definitely be other costs like gas, alcohol, food, et cetera.

526
00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:18,119
Speaker 2: And the bill was rapidly getting bigger in my head.

527
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:21,119
Speaker 2: So I procrastinated on getting back to her because I

528
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 2: didn't want to commit, and I didn't have enough backbone

529
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:25,399
Speaker 2: to say no. But when making a trip to my

530
00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:28,199
Speaker 2: younger cousin's high school graduation, she asked me if I

531
00:22:28,240 --> 00:22:29,960
Speaker 2: wanted to do a road trip with her as a

532
00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 2: grad present, we would budget five hundred total for a

533
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:35,040
Speaker 2: little over a week. I talked to my dad and

534
00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:37,239
Speaker 2: he again offered to pay for the batch party if

535
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:39,439
Speaker 2: I wanted to just pay for the trip with my cousin.

536
00:22:39,520 --> 00:22:42,239
Speaker 2: I agreed because the road trip sounded so fun and

537
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:44,280
Speaker 2: I really wanted to do that as a present for

538
00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:47,680
Speaker 2: her graduation. This is where I fed up. I didn't

539
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:50,280
Speaker 2: tell Stacy. I got too wrapped up in work and

540
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:52,880
Speaker 2: figuring out the logistics of the road trip. It wasn't

541
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:55,000
Speaker 2: until I was on the trip with my cousin that

542
00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:57,680
Speaker 2: she reached out to me, asking me to please confirm

543
00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:00,080
Speaker 2: whether I was going or not. I texted her her

544
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 2: quick apology and let her know that my dad agreed

545
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 2: to give me the money for it so I would

546
00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:05,800
Speaker 2: be going. She thanked me, and I sent a quick

547
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:08,320
Speaker 2: text to my dad about cheap plates. That's when he

548
00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 2: decided to let me know that he was no longer

549
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:13,400
Speaker 2: going to be able to pay for the trip. Some

550
00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:16,040
Speaker 2: financial things came up and he didn't have the extra

551
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,600
Speaker 2: money to cover my costs, and since I was already

552
00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:20,719
Speaker 2: on the trip with my cousin, I no longer had

553
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:23,359
Speaker 2: the money to cover even the minimum five hundred dollars

554
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:26,400
Speaker 2: it would cost me for the flight and Airbnb. I

555
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:29,760
Speaker 2: immediately texted Sacey back, apologizing and telling her that my

556
00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:32,560
Speaker 2: dad couldn't pay my way, so I'd have to decline.

557
00:23:32,600 --> 00:23:35,199
Speaker 2: She was not happy, mind you, this was one to

558
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:37,600
Speaker 2: one and a half months out, not like the week

559
00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 2: before or anything, but I still felt bad for saying

560
00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:42,840
Speaker 2: yes and then immediately know after she asked me to

561
00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:45,160
Speaker 2: pay my share of the airbnb, since I was canceling

562
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:47,680
Speaker 2: and she had split the cost evenly and was counting

563
00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:49,000
Speaker 2: on my share to fifty.

564
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:51,280
Speaker 4: I felt so bad. I agreed without.

565
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:52,960
Speaker 2: Thinking, and she said she understood that I was a

566
00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:55,639
Speaker 2: working student and that I could pay her back in segments.

567
00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:58,640
Speaker 2: I didn't want to stir the pot anymore and just agreed,

568
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:00,840
Speaker 2: even though I was immediately strung about how I was

569
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 2: going to have to budget for that on top of

570
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 2: my school payments. But I told my dad what happened

571
00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,119
Speaker 2: and that I would just pay her my share for

572
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 2: the Airbnb. Luckily for me, he immediately told me no,

573
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 2: and that I was unfair at her grown age to

574
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,919
Speaker 2: be asking someone younger than her to pay for something

575
00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 2: she never agreed to. He said a lot of other

576
00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:19,639
Speaker 2: not nice stuff, but I'll try to summarize. He asked

577
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 2: how many people were going, and then did the math

578
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:24,359
Speaker 2: and told me she'd have to ask for like thirty

579
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:27,159
Speaker 2: two more dollars from everyone else who are older and

580
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 2: graduated with jobs.

581
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 3: That's not that's not a big guess. Come on, it

582
00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:34,639
Speaker 3: was like three hundred and twenty and with the tight budget, yes, yeah, thirty.

583
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:36,680
Speaker 2: Two thirty two bucks from older people.

584
00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:36,879
Speaker 5: Now.

585
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:37,320
Speaker 3: No.

586
00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,680
Speaker 2: He said that it was his decision that I wasn't going,

587
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:41,439
Speaker 2: since he told me that he would pay for me,

588
00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:43,600
Speaker 2: and if she had a problem with it, she could

589
00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 2: talk to him directly since he was contributing several thousand

590
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 2: to their wedding. He told me that he was probably

591
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 2: just asking for me to pay out of principle for canceling.

592
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:54,399
Speaker 2: I then had to turn around and tell her, which

593
00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:57,680
Speaker 2: I did in the nicest way possible. I tried telling

594
00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 2: her that with school expenses, every penny can and I

595
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:04,359
Speaker 2: couldn't pay for my share of the airbnb, and apologized again.

596
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:07,199
Speaker 2: And mentioned that the expenses should only go up by

597
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:09,880
Speaker 2: a little over thirty dollars per person if she asked

598
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 2: everyone else to chip in a little more. She responded,

599
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 2: and I crap you not. It's really the principle of

600
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 2: you canceling last minute, and it's not fair to me

601
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:20,120
Speaker 2: to have to go back and ask others to chip

602
00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:22,240
Speaker 2: in more because you can't pay, and then said it

603
00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 2: was fine and she'd cover my share since I can't.

604
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 2: I felt so bad about it for so long until

605
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:30,159
Speaker 2: I talked to my wonderful boyfriend and he asked me

606
00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 2: what I do in her situation if I was the

607
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 2: bridesmaid and it was his little sister. I immediately said

608
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 2: I would never ask her to pay, and that's when

609
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 2: it clicked that I wasn't a horrible person. He reassured

610
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:42,199
Speaker 2: me that I wasn't in the wrong since it was

611
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 2: over a month in advance, and that she was just

612
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 2: being a demanding pooh head he didn't say poop, and

613
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 2: that if she couldn't ask her friends for thirty bucks

614
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:51,040
Speaker 2: a month in advance, why was she friends with them?

615
00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:53,320
Speaker 2: I loved that man, because I didn't think about it

616
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 2: like that at all. But yeah, Honestly, it wasn't like

617
00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 2: fifty plus that she had to ask for. We didn't

618
00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:00,720
Speaker 2: talk much after the incident, and I tried to keep

619
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 2: up friendly but distant relations After that. I was glad

620
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:07,359
Speaker 2: I didn't go on the trip since based off the bics,

621
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,879
Speaker 2: I would have had to get coordinating outfits and it

622
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:13,159
Speaker 2: looked abougie. Now, the last thing that bugged me was

623
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:15,800
Speaker 2: people told me what they were saying before and after

624
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:17,680
Speaker 2: their wedding. My other brother, who was one of the

625
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,439
Speaker 2: groomsmen and helped set up the day before, told me

626
00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 2: after the event that the two of them were talking

627
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 2: about how they thought my boyfriend was going to propose

628
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,160
Speaker 2: to me and ruin their wedding.

629
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 3: What what Yeah.

630
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:30,920
Speaker 2: This is But the bride and Op's brother were like, oh,

631
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:34,200
Speaker 2: Pie's boyfriend's definitely gonna propose at our wedding, just based

632
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:34,760
Speaker 2: off nothing.

633
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 3: I don't understand this couple. Were they just like it's just.

634
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're just read they read things wrong.

635
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think the brother is definitely the one that

636
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 3: planted that scene.

637
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:46,920
Speaker 2: Yeah. Now, out of everyone in my nuclear family, they

638
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:49,440
Speaker 2: know the least about my relationship with my boyfriend. Why

639
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:52,119
Speaker 2: they thought that I have no idea. Well, yes, my

640
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:54,880
Speaker 2: boyfriend and I have privately talked about marriage since we've

641
00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 2: been dating for four years now. It's not something we've

642
00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:59,480
Speaker 2: ever brought up with family. I have talked to my

643
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 2: mom about it because we are super close, but I

644
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,440
Speaker 2: know she hasn't talked about it with anyone other than me,

645
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 2: and she knows we're waiting to get engaged until we're graduated.

646
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 2: So even if she did tell them, they still would

647
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:12,439
Speaker 2: have no reason to think he was planning to do

648
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:15,200
Speaker 2: it at a wedding. That's an ick and an immediate no.

649
00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:18,040
Speaker 2: We both have better taste than that. Well, apparently they

650
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 2: were telling my brother all this, and she said if

651
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:24,480
Speaker 2: he did, she'd make a pregnancy announcement at my wedding,

652
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,040
Speaker 2: and that she doubted mine would be as good as hers.

653
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:28,640
Speaker 2: What the f right?

654
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 4: My thoughts exactly.

655
00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:33,120
Speaker 2: My brother told them that he highly doubted that anything

656
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,800
Speaker 2: even close to that would happen at all, and suggested

657
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:38,399
Speaker 2: they talk to him if they were concerned. But they didn't,

658
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 2: and the two of us had a great time drinking

659
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:43,240
Speaker 2: and dancing and had no idea they thought he'd try

660
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 2: to ruin their night. Then, the day after, I got

661
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 2: a call from my cousin. She told me that when

662
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Speaker 2: she was helping them clean up the next morning, they

663
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:52,680
Speaker 2: were still talking about how they really thought he'd propose

664
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Speaker 2: during the wedding. Dude, what it didn't happen, And my

665
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 2: cousin also told them that she never thought that would

666
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Speaker 2: ever happen at all. Where that little thought came from

667
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:03,439
Speaker 2: in their dark little heads, I'll never know, but I

668
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:06,119
Speaker 2: was honestly embarrassed to hear that they were gossiping about me.

669
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:09,120
Speaker 2: My cousin really seemed to think that they'd probably been

670
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:12,080
Speaker 2: talking about it with their wedding parties too. I hate

671
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 2: being gossiped about, and especially after I heard from my

672
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 2: brother later about before the wedding, I just felt embarrassed

673
00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:21,680
Speaker 2: and humiliated for some reason. I know it was groundless,

674
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 2: and no one in my family believed them, at least

675
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 2: the ones who told me, and they probably mostly kept

676
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:28,920
Speaker 2: it to their wedding party. I just hate being gossiped

677
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,520
Speaker 2: about behind my back. I felt like her bridesmaids all

678
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:34,120
Speaker 2: kind of ignored me, and I just didn't mind them.

679
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:37,440
Speaker 2: But I hate the thought of anyone talking crap about me. Well,

680
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 2: I'm cluelessly being all friendly and nice and I hated

681
00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 2: that they thought such rude things about my boyfriend and

682
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:45,440
Speaker 2: thought that either of us would want to ruin their wedding.

683
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,920
Speaker 2: I haven't really reached out to them, and they haven't

684
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 2: to me, but I kind of want an apology. I

685
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:52,440
Speaker 2: should have said something as soon as I was told,

686
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 2: but honestly, I didn't want to stir the pot or

687
00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:57,600
Speaker 2: make drama. What's done is done, and if they were

688
00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 2: to apologize, I'd want an apology to my boy boyfriend

689
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 2: more than me. Still, I didn't want to ruin their

690
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:05,720
Speaker 2: day after or honeymoon, and I'm supposed to be getting

691
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 2: better at having more patients with their BS, but I

692
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 2: wish i'd said something back then. I swear I've recovered

693
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 2: so much from being a doormat to my abusive friends

694
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 2: in high school, but it's still hard to speak up

695
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 2: sometimes and confront anyone. I'm just going to have a

696
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 2: much better wedding than them for one Thursday cost, and

697
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 2: my boyfriend wants security if they do anything dumb. I

698
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,160
Speaker 2: really think that's a little extra, though, but you know

699
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,880
Speaker 2: it's never extra. Joining us live every weekday at three

700
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,400
Speaker 2: pm PSD on YouTube just top a profile.

701
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Speaker 3: I'm afraid that with everything said and done, and OPI

702
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:37,720
Speaker 3: does you know, have a conversation, try and clear the air.

703
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:39,640
Speaker 3: They're still good at your.

704
00:29:39,960 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 2: Poet wedding, the pregnancy announcement.

705
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 3: They're going to do a pregnancy announcement anyway.

706
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's my story.

707
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 2: I was a bit tempted to bring it up when

708
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:49,120
Speaker 2: they visited for Thanksgiving and ask for an apology, but

709
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 2: I'm not sure if that's a good idea since it

710
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 2: was all the way in September and I haven't brought

711
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 2: it up since. Am I'm making a mountain out of

712
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:59,200
Speaker 2: molehill for feeling so put off by it though my

713
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 2: brother just told me I mean to let it go

714
00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:03,520
Speaker 2: and shrug it off because he does stupid crap all

715
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 2: the time. But I feel like at his grown age

716
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 2: he shouldn't be talking about his little sister like that.

717
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 2: I'm sure this is long and rambling, and thank you

718
00:30:10,920 --> 00:30:12,800
Speaker 2: if you have the patience to read this. I try

719
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:14,720
Speaker 2: my best, but I feel like I have the bubonic

720
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 2: plague right now that I need to sleep. There is

721
00:30:16,680 --> 00:30:18,840
Speaker 2: a little bit of communication errors and stuff.

722
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 3: I think that's also Op calling herself out too. Yeah, likes,

723
00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 3: I'm really bad, Like I'm a dormat, but I'm gonna

724
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:26,120
Speaker 3: try and step up and not be a doormat. And

725
00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 3: that's good for you, OPI.

726
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story.

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Speaker 2: My mother in law hates my daughter's name, so I

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Speaker 2: kicked her out of my house. There you go, And

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Speaker 2: and my husband, thirty male, are from Latin America. We

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Speaker 2: moved to the UK shortly after we had our eldest,

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Speaker 2: five male. Our daughter, who turns one in April, was

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Speaker 2: born here. My mother in law sixties, and my husband's

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00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 2: older brother, thirty seven male, neither of whom I've ever

739
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 2: met my daughter before, are flying over for her birthday.

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Speaker 2: Brother in law wanted to get a hotel room for himself,

741
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 2: and mother in law doesn't speak any English, so we

742
00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 2: decided to have her stay at our place instead of

743
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 2: leaving her alone in a foreign country. By the way,

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Speaker 2: the Okay storytime suburd It So years ago, when I

746
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 2: was pregnant with my son, my husband and I made

747
00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 2: the mistake of revealing his name to our families. My

748
00:31:24,800 --> 00:31:27,160
Speaker 2: mother in law spent the next months complaining about it.

749
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 2: She send us lists of name suggestions, look up bad

750
00:31:30,240 --> 00:31:33,000
Speaker 2: historical figures with the same name as the one we've chosen,

751
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 2: and just generally say it was awful.

752
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 4: I want to know the name.

753
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, really bad, Peter, She like.

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Speaker 5: Ah.

755
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Speaker 2: She didn't stop until our son was born and the

756
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 2: name was on his birth certificate. So for my second pregnancy,

757
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 2: we decided to keep our daughter's name a secret until

758
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 2: after her birth. We figured that not knowing her name

759
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:53,200
Speaker 2: until it was unchangeable would stop mother in law from

760
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 2: complaining we were wrong. Our daughter's name is Cecilia. That's

761
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:57,600
Speaker 2: a beautiful name.

762
00:31:57,680 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 4: That's gorgeous.

763
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 2: Minutes after she was born, my mother in law called

764
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 2: my husband and asked, you know cecilia means blind?

765
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 6: Right?

766
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:10,239
Speaker 2: Okay. Almost a year later, she hasn't stopped complaining. If

767
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,880
Speaker 2: it's not because of the meaning, it's because it's ugly

768
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 2: long or an old lady name.

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00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:15,719
Speaker 4: Oh my goodness.

770
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 2: There have been occasions in which my husband sent pictures

771
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,160
Speaker 2: of her to his family group chat, and his mom

772
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 2: replied with stuff.

773
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 5: Like how cute?

774
00:32:23,480 --> 00:32:26,840
Speaker 2: Too bad a name's Cecilia? Oh my are bullying child?

775
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 3: Now?

776
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 4: Please dude stop?

777
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 2: It genuinely feels like my daughter is being bullied. Here

778
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 2: you go whenever we talk to my mother in law,

779
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 2: which has been happening less and less lately, for this

780
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:38,840
Speaker 2: exact reason, she has a new complaint. Up until now,

781
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 2: the main reason I was able to kind of tune

782
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 2: and out was because she hadn't complained to us in

783
00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:46,040
Speaker 2: person or in front of our children. But she'll be

784
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 2: here in less than two weeks, and I'm absolutely certain

785
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:52,120
Speaker 2: she'll continue her crusade at our home. I don't want

786
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 2: to hear it. I don't want my son to hear it,

787
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 2: and I don't want my baby's first birthday to be

788
00:32:56,760 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 2: ruined by grandma's being so a couple months months ago,

789
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 2: my husband and I called his mom. We told her

790
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,000
Speaker 2: she could no longer stay with us and to ask

791
00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 2: brother in law to help her get a hotel room.

792
00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:09,640
Speaker 2: We also told her the reasons behind her decision. Mother

793
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:11,720
Speaker 2: in law cried on the phone and has called us

794
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:16,120
Speaker 2: several times since she always either apologizes, calls us dramatic,

795
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:19,920
Speaker 2: or accuses us of alienating her from her grandkids. Throughout

796
00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 2: all this, she continues to insist she has the right

797
00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:25,320
Speaker 2: to dislike our daughter's name, and still hasn't booked a

798
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 2: hotel room. My brother in law agree she's being a wiener,

799
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 2: but is upset we told her she can no longer

800
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 2: stay at our place. He's accusing us of forcing an

801
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 2: elderly woman to stay alone in a foreign country, even

802
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,440
Speaker 2: though we're perfectly capable of housing her. Well, maybe she

803
00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:41,440
Speaker 2: she's perfectly capable of keeping her mouth shut. That's right.

804
00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 2: So if she wanted to stay with you, then she

805
00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:46,160
Speaker 2: should have done that exactly. So just did you reapply

806
00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 2: your life?

807
00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 3: How did you do it?

808
00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:51,960
Speaker 2: He's also mad that after promising for months that mother

809
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 2: in law could stay at her house, we're retracting our offer.

810
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 2: This whole situation has been exhausting, and I'm starting to

811
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 2: worry I might be overreacting. Am I the a hole?

812
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 2: And there are some relevant comments? But what do you think?

813
00:34:04,520 --> 00:34:07,640
Speaker 4: No, Like, why does she have to make them? It's

814
00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 4: a name. It's a name, even if it was a

815
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,239
Speaker 4: bad name, Like, deal with it? Deal with it.

816
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,320
Speaker 2: You don't get to talk about it after the child

817
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:18,440
Speaker 2: has been named that name, right, and then this is also.

818
00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:20,920
Speaker 5: Just like a beautiful name though too, I still want

819
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 5: to know what the son's name is. Ye, me too,

820
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,800
Speaker 5: because at first part of me was like, like this

821
00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 5: might be a bad joke, you might have to take

822
00:34:27,200 --> 00:34:28,920
Speaker 5: it out, but like, can you imagine it if like

823
00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 5: they revealed the name and it's like it's like, I

824
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:34,440
Speaker 5: just want to name my kid Stalin, Like I just want.

825
00:34:34,320 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 2: To name my kid ad All.

826
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:37,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, that what's wrong with that?

827
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:41,880
Speaker 2: Beally funny?

828
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:45,120
Speaker 4: But I'm sure it's a normal name. Yau Celia is

829
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 4: very normal, very beautiful, exactly.

830
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:50,320
Speaker 2: But there are some relevant comments on OPI's relationship with

831
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:52,520
Speaker 2: her mother in law. Besides this problem, we have an

832
00:34:52,520 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 2: okay relationship with her. Could be better, but it's way

833
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,359
Speaker 2: less awful than many of my friend's mother in laws.

834
00:34:57,520 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 2: That said, she's always had the tendency to complain. Even

835
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:03,799
Speaker 2: before we had kids, we knew she'd complained about whatever

836
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 2: names we picked. We just didn't know how bad it

837
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 2: would be. The commoner says, not the ale. She made

838
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,520
Speaker 2: the decisions that led to this. You're not making her

839
00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 2: do anything and it's not like the UK as a

840
00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:16,280
Speaker 2: war zone. Her safety is not at risk. I agree

841
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 2: that safety wouldn't be much of a concern, but I

842
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 2: also agree that being left alone in a foreign country

843
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:24,760
Speaker 2: you'd never visited without knowing the language can be effing terrifying.

844
00:35:24,840 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 4: Who is paying for the trip?

845
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:28,239
Speaker 2: Mother in law's paying for her plane ticket, brother in

846
00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:31,160
Speaker 2: law's paying for his. He's also helping her cover some expenses,

847
00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 2: but she's paying for most of her stuff, not the

848
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 2: alesays another commenter. And now I'm curious about your son's

849
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 2: name if she takes offense to Cecilia.

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Speaker 4: I freaking knew it was good.

851
00:35:41,600 --> 00:35:43,480
Speaker 2: Okay, I know I didn't say it, but I was like,

852
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:46,400
Speaker 2: it's Peter or Henry, I freaking call I called it

853
00:35:46,480 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 2: in my head. I didn't say it outside.

854
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:48,719
Speaker 4: I really do believe.

855
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:50,839
Speaker 2: I was like, is it Peter or Henry? You literally

856
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 2: called it? I literally called it, guys, But it doesn't matter.

857
00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 2: We could name our kids after her and she'd still complain.

858
00:35:56,800 --> 00:35:58,960
Speaker 2: And there is an update. But man, oh man, yeah,

859
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:01,759
Speaker 2: I think she should have kept her mouth shut if

860
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 2: you wanted to stay with.

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00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:06,920
Speaker 4: You as Yeah, like, I don't know, this is the

862
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:09,399
Speaker 4: cards you've dealt in this little cards you've dealt.

863
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 2: Maybe one thing you could do is like say, hey,

864
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 2: if you you know, if you want to stay with us,

865
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 2: you have to stop talking and if we hear these comments,

866
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:20,560
Speaker 2: you have believe you have to stop talking forever. You

867
00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 2: have to stop talking period.

868
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:23,319
Speaker 4: You can't talk near around us.

869
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 2: Literally, I don't want to hear a word coming out

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Speaker 2: of your Hey everyone, it's been a while since I posted,

871
00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:30,879
Speaker 2: so I wanted to give you an update. I'll try

872
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:33,279
Speaker 2: to be brief for the next couple of weeks. After

873
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 2: my first post, mother in law continued her attempts to

874
00:36:36,080 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 2: convince us to let her stay with us, but still

875
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:40,360
Speaker 2: refuse to book a hotel room. My husband and I

876
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 2: decided to speak with brother in law again. He told

877
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 2: us that the main reason why he wanted to get

878
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 2: a hotel room for himself was to explore the city

879
00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:49,399
Speaker 2: on his own, but could understand why we didn't want

880
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 2: mother in law to stay with us anymore. Eventually, he

881
00:36:52,040 --> 00:36:53,800
Speaker 2: agreed to help her get a different room at the

882
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:56,200
Speaker 2: hotel he'd stay in. From what I gather, he also

883
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 2: spent the weeks leading up to the visit telling his

884
00:36:58,400 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 2: mother that if she tried complaining about Cecilia's name. At

885
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 2: any point he would call a taxi to send her

886
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:05,960
Speaker 2: back to the hotel, so they did warn her.

887
00:37:06,560 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, they're being fair, They're being fair.

888
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:12,120
Speaker 2: Cecilia's birthday went off without a hitch, except for the

889
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 2: fact that mother in law immediately tried to give her

890
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 2: a nickname. For a few hours, she kept calling her Lilah.

891
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,800
Speaker 2: She was doing so behind her backs, and my husband

892
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 2: and I didn't realize until her son came to ask

893
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:25,319
Speaker 2: us if Grandma knew Ceci's name. My brother in law

894
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:27,840
Speaker 2: offered to call the taxi, but we decided to brush

895
00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:30,480
Speaker 2: it off. Later, my husband pulled mother in law aside

896
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:32,719
Speaker 2: and said and said that if she ever tried to

897
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 2: complain about either of our children again, she wouldn't get

898
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 2: to visit us anymore. She behaved herself until she and

899
00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 2: brother in law flew back home, and we haven't heard

900
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 2: any complaints from mer since. I'm very satisfied with this outcome,

901
00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:45,919
Speaker 2: though I'm still worried she'll complain about my kids again

902
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 2: in the future. I now know that we have my

903
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 2: husband's brother by her side, which will greatly help us

904
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:53,800
Speaker 2: navigate our relationship with their mother, and you can navigate

905
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:56,440
Speaker 2: your relationship with us by joining us live every Weekdad

906
00:37:56,520 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 2: three PMPST just tap our profile, tapp it. There's a

907
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 2: little bit left to this, But what are your thoughts.

908
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:05,719
Speaker 2: I mean, I think I think it all worked out.

909
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 6: I think it all worked out.

910
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:08,800
Speaker 5: I think the mother in law is being crazy. I

911
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:11,759
Speaker 5: think that's so funny that that that that kid was like, uh,

912
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:15,360
Speaker 5: does she know her name? Because it's not saying it,

913
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 5: not saying the right name.

914
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:19,480
Speaker 4: And it's like, Yeah, that's that's what I was thinking.

915
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 4: That's a good question. But yeah, I think they're they're

916
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 4: handling it just fine.

917
00:38:24,239 --> 00:38:24,880
Speaker 2: I would say, so.

918
00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:25,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

919
00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 2: Also, kudos to those who brought up Simon and Garfunkles

920
00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 2: Cecilia though I love that one. Our girl was actually

921
00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:34,400
Speaker 2: named after a song by Brazilian singer Chico Bark. I

922
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:36,880
Speaker 2: couldn't find a video with English subtitles. Thank you for

923
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:39,600
Speaker 2: reshuring me I wasn't overacting. I wish you all well.

924
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 2: And that is the end of that story, beautiful. I

925
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 2: think that all wrapped up really well. I agree, Yeah,

926
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:48,239
Speaker 2: but that's the end of that story. So we'll see

927
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:49,239
Speaker 2: you next time.

928
00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:51,560
Speaker 3: Hey, it's Sam. We'll get back to the stories. But

929
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:53,400
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00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:57,279
Speaker 5: I forbid my mother in law from gifting my daughter

931
00:38:57,400 --> 00:38:58,879
Speaker 5: clothes they never fit.

932
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 4: And this is a direct Okay storytime post. This is

933
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:04,200
Speaker 4: one of ours, one of our own.

934
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:04,719
Speaker 2: Man.

935
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:07,959
Speaker 6: Maybe maybe she maybe just throw it in the dryer

936
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 6: and shrink it down. There you go, that's our clothes work.

937
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 5: My mother in law sixty five female and me thirty

938
00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:16,640
Speaker 5: four female, were fairly close at the beginning.

939
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 2: I first met her.

940
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:20,359
Speaker 5: Son now forty two male, when I was twenty three.

941
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,520
Speaker 5: We started dating when I was twenty four, and later

942
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 5: married when I was twenty five.

943
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 6: Mother moodfast Wickman.

944
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 4: Mother in law is generally fine. For the first few years.

945
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,560
Speaker 5: We would often go to see her roughly weekly and

946
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 5: would message regularly. My husband was married previously and has

947
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 5: another daughter in law now fourteen female from that marriage.

948
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:41,920
Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from beneficial exam eight one

949
00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:45,160
Speaker 5: one five on the r slash Okay Storytime Sepreddit. So

950
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:47,320
Speaker 5: I started to notice that mother in law seemed to

951
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 5: be more and more comfortable talking about her son's ex

952
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 5: wife and giving me and him details of her contacts

953
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:57,200
Speaker 5: with her and current happenings in ex wife's life, which

954
00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 5: naturally gave me the ick. However, I understood that my

955
00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:03,600
Speaker 5: husband had a child with the ex wife, and therefore

956
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:05,400
Speaker 5: she would always be a part of our lives. It

957
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 5: was unpleasant and awkward to listen, and I admit I

958
00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 5: often dismissed conversation about the ex wife when asked to

959
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 5: provide an opinion. When I was twenty nine, we felt

960
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:15,600
Speaker 5: pregnant with my daughter now three female.

961
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:16,960
Speaker 4: All congratulations.

962
00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:19,239
Speaker 5: After the twelve week scan, we went to mother in

963
00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:22,360
Speaker 5: law to let her know we were expecting. She appeared

964
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 5: extremely happy and cried hearing our news.

965
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 6: Sweet wr W mother in law.

966
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 5: At this time she already had five grandchildren. We also

967
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:35,240
Speaker 5: told my mother fifty four female, who was equally as happy,

968
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 5: and this would be her first and only grandchild.

969
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:39,319
Speaker 4: Unfortunately, my daughter does not.

970
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:43,400
Speaker 5: Have a maternal or paternal grandfather's. All continued as usual

971
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:46,080
Speaker 5: with mother in law. Husband's ex wife had had a

972
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 5: second child, six male, with her partner. Mother in law

973
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:52,880
Speaker 5: was regularly every couple of weeks seeing this child, and

974
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:55,799
Speaker 5: ex wife's son came to call mother in law nan

975
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 5: despite not being related, likely because his sister my husband

976
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 5: stopped was calling her Nan.

977
00:41:01,520 --> 00:41:03,600
Speaker 6: So this kid isn't related to the mother in law,

978
00:41:03,640 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 6: but he's still calling her Nan.

979
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 3: Yes.

980
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:07,840
Speaker 4: My daughter was born in twenty twenty one.

981
00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:10,600
Speaker 5: Pregnancy was difficult due to the pandemic, and we hadn't

982
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 5: been able to see mother in law as we once had,

983
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:15,400
Speaker 5: but she would regularly message to check in.

984
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 4: Once my daughter was born, we took her to meet

985
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 4: mother in law and all seemed well.

986
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 5: My mother traveled two hundred and fifty plus miles from

987
00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:24,919
Speaker 5: her home to meet my daughter and spend some time

988
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:26,799
Speaker 5: helping us to look after her in.

989
00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 4: The early days. My mother still lives two hundred.

990
00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:31,800
Speaker 5: And fifty plus miles away and travels at least twice

991
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 5: a year to spend two weeks with my daughter Wow,

992
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:36,600
Speaker 5: taking her to various places.

993
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 4: And generally making memories.

994
00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:40,399
Speaker 5: We saw mother in law four to five times during

995
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 5: my daughter's first year of life. By the way, mother

996
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 5: in law lives about forty five minutes away, roughly fifteen miles.

997
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 5: Life got busy and it was difficult to spend so

998
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:51,960
Speaker 5: much physical time together, let alone coming out of the pandemic.

999
00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:54,200
Speaker 5: We had a party for my daughter's first birthday, which

1000
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:57,160
Speaker 5: mother in law attended, which mother in law attended. After that,

1001
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 5: we didn't see mother in law for another two months,

1002
00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:01,759
Speaker 5: and out that my husband took out daughter to see

1003
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:03,680
Speaker 5: mother in law a few months later. Mother in law's

1004
00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:06,400
Speaker 5: messages were few and far between them. I wish her

1005
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 5: Happy Christmas, Happy New Year, Happy Birthday, Mother's Day. There

1006
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:13,160
Speaker 5: was always an acknowledgment, but never conversation.

1007
00:42:12,960 --> 00:42:15,760
Speaker 6: Oh okay, happy, heavy heavy, Yeah, ok.

1008
00:42:15,880 --> 00:42:19,720
Speaker 4: So it's just their whole text message. God, that's upsetting.

1009
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 5: Have you ever had those conversations where it's like, you

1010
00:42:22,120 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 5: send someone happy birthday and like the last text that

1011
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 5: someone said was happy birthday, like the year before or

1012
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:28,000
Speaker 5: something like that.

1013
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:29,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's like great.

1014
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 5: Christmas twenty twenty two and my daughter's second birthday came

1015
00:42:32,080 --> 00:42:33,800
Speaker 5: and went without a word from mother in law. She

1016
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 5: eventually asked to come over and see her to give

1017
00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:39,400
Speaker 5: her a Christmas and birthday presents. Six months after Christmas

1018
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 5: and four months after her birthday. She kindly bought her

1019
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:45,359
Speaker 5: many mini gifts. Mother in law commented that my daughter

1020
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 5: treated her as a stranger and was having to take

1021
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 5: pictures of her from my Facebook as otherwise she would

1022
00:42:51,560 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 5: not see her. I wonder why after this, mother in

1023
00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:58,120
Speaker 5: law saw daughter once more that year, bringing the total

1024
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:00,719
Speaker 5: to two times in twenty twenty three. Twenty twenty three,

1025
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:03,640
Speaker 5: Christmas and third Birthday came and went. I reached out

1026
00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 5: to mother in law in March this year and we

1027
00:43:05,760 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 5: arranged for her to come and see her granddaughter that

1028
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:10,200
Speaker 5: month to give her a Christmas and Birthday presents, of

1029
00:43:10,320 --> 00:43:12,359
Speaker 5: which there was generously a lot.

1030
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 4: As usual.

1031
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 5: Mother in law excused not being around as a result

1032
00:43:17,120 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 5: of life, and that she assumed the family were well

1033
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:21,839
Speaker 5: and happy if she hadn't heard from them.

1034
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:24,480
Speaker 4: I don't quite understand what this means, and I didn't ask.

1035
00:43:24,680 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 5: Amongst the gifts on this occasion was a beautiful jumper

1036
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:29,920
Speaker 5: size two to three years would.

1037
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:31,280
Speaker 4: Likely be on the smaller size.

1038
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:33,400
Speaker 5: My daughter is very tall for her age and she

1039
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:37,320
Speaker 5: has just had her third birthday, but usually children's clothes

1040
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:38,000
Speaker 5: have some stress.

1041
00:43:38,080 --> 00:43:40,360
Speaker 4: Unfortunately, this jumper was not forgiving.

1042
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:43,960
Speaker 5: It had no give, and simply my daughter had outgrown

1043
00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:46,560
Speaker 5: it before mother in law had even arranged to meet

1044
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:48,240
Speaker 5: to give her the gifts.

1045
00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a good point.

1046
00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 6: Grow fast, Yeah.

1047
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:51,720
Speaker 4: Especially at that age.

1048
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:55,440
Speaker 5: Like there's different sizes for like two three months, you know,

1049
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:59,360
Speaker 5: and so if you're if there's a third birthday party

1050
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,479
Speaker 5: and we don't give it present to her till four

1051
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 5: months after.

1052
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:04,560
Speaker 4: She's gonna be different size.

1053
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:07,640
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, this is the second time my daughter has

1054
00:44:07,719 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 5: been gifted clothes by mother in law and has got

1055
00:44:10,600 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 5: next to nowhere out of them, simply because mother in

1056
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:16,399
Speaker 5: law has not seemingly been interested in arranging a get

1057
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 5: together to present the gifts.

1058
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 4: Mother in law, you just gotta get gifts for like

1059
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:21,799
Speaker 4: the next age, and then you're good. Problem solve.

1060
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:22,839
Speaker 2: Although we have a very.

1061
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:25,840
Speaker 5: Small family and social circle, those in it are aware

1062
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:27,719
Speaker 5: that my daughter does better with clothes and the next

1063
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 5: size up due to her being impossibly long.

1064
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 4: That's funny.

1065
00:44:31,400 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 5: This is particularly needed in tops and less so in trousers,

1066
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:38,319
Speaker 5: as otherwise they do not fit around her middle. As

1067
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 5: I write this post, me and my daughter have not

1068
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 5: seen or heard from mother in law since March. My

1069
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:48,120
Speaker 5: husband has had the odd message, but otherwise not much.

1070
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 5: Mother in law continues to have regular contact with my

1071
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:54,239
Speaker 5: husband's other daughter and his ex wife's son.

1072
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:55,240
Speaker 2: No relationship.

1073
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:58,040
Speaker 6: Oh, they don't have a relation. Interesting, so.

1074
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:02,200
Speaker 4: Opie's husband's ex wife's.

1075
00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 6: Son probably from another person, from another man.

1076
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:07,560
Speaker 4: Probably yes, So that's why it has no relation. So

1077
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 4: that's who was calling her.

1078
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:12,400
Speaker 5: Mother in law now has eight grandchildren in total, my

1079
00:45:12,680 --> 00:45:15,279
Speaker 5: daughter being the only one from me. Three of her

1080
00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:19,240
Speaker 5: other grandchildren she also sees weekly. They are also living

1081
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,800
Speaker 5: roughly forty five minutes away from her in the opposite

1082
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:24,320
Speaker 5: direction to us, with mother in law living in between

1083
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 5: both locations.

1084
00:45:25,200 --> 00:45:27,799
Speaker 4: Wow, so it's not even like it's more convenient for law.

1085
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:29,799
Speaker 4: She's just seeing them every week.

1086
00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:33,960
Speaker 6: That is weird because there's no relation either, well some.

1087
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:36,239
Speaker 4: Of them there is relation, but there's one that isn't.

1088
00:45:36,360 --> 00:45:40,560
Speaker 5: Okay, Okay, yes, there's like I thinking everything else is relating.

1089
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 6: Would you say, OPI? Or what is she mad about? Op?

1090
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1091
00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:45,760
Speaker 2: What what is her beef?

1092
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 5: My mother has religiously continued to make the very long

1093
00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:51,880
Speaker 5: trip from her home to mine to spend time with

1094
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Speaker 5: my daughter at.

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Speaker 2: Least twice a year, and calls her weekly to speak

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Speaker 2: with her.

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Speaker 5: By the way, you can always spend time with us,

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Speaker 5: joining us live on YouTube every week, week day at

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Speaker 5: three PMPC just to have.

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Speaker 4: Her profile her profile easy and there is a little

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Speaker 4: bit more. But what are we thinking?

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Speaker 7: You may have slided your mother in law in some way,

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00:46:10,080 --> 00:46:13,480
Speaker 7: shape or form, because they were good beforehand, Yeah, they were.

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Speaker 5: Fine and she was seeing her quite a lot, I think,

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Speaker 5: and all of a sudden something change with this child.

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Speaker 7: I think it might have been between maybe the dad maybe,

1107
00:46:25,520 --> 00:46:27,319
Speaker 7: like maybe maybe your husband and mother in law.

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Speaker 5: With Christmas fast approaching my daughter's birthday only two months

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Speaker 5: after that, I have asked my husband to gently ask

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Speaker 5: mother in law to not buy her clothes as a gift,

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Speaker 5: as I know they will not fit, and I have

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Speaker 5: suggested she reduced the amount of gifts she purchases. In

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Speaker 5: my opinion, I would very much appreciate it if she

1114
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:47,279
Speaker 5: would make more of an effort to spend time with

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Speaker 5: our daughter instead of buying a lot of stuff.

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Speaker 4: But am I the a whole for asking mother in

1117
00:46:52,320 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 4: law to not buy my daughter clothes? And that's the

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Speaker 4: end of it.

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00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 6: She's not going to think ahead, don't waste your money.

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Speaker 4: I think that's so reasonable.

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Speaker 5: Like it's out that you're not asking her to spend

1122
00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:05,280
Speaker 5: time with you, which is a lot of Reddit stories

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Speaker 5: we have seen. Yeah, it's not like you are asking

1124
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:10,279
Speaker 5: her to just like I don't know, stop talking, don't

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00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 5: even bother. You're not making this into a fight. You're

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Speaker 5: just asking like, hey, just maybe buy her something else, Yeah,

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00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 5: because the clothes won't fit.

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Speaker 4: Yeah maybe yeah, Or I mean you could say, like

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Speaker 4: just buy it two sizes is bigger because.

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Speaker 6: And a conversation sounds like it's needed.

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00:47:24,800 --> 00:47:27,880
Speaker 4: For sure, for sure seems like it's being avoided somehow.

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Speaker 6: Yep, listen that story.

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Speaker 4: That's the end of that story. We'll see you next time.

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Speaker 2: My mother in law is driving me crazy while I'm

1135
00:47:35,960 --> 00:47:40,240
Speaker 2: thirty two weeks pregnant. No so, I twenty six female,

1136
00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 2: am currently thirty two weeks pregnant with mine and my

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Speaker 2: husband Felix's twenty seven male first child. Things have been

1138
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:48,360
Speaker 2: going well, and one of the great things is that

1139
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 2: Felix the builder, and so everything with the nursery went

1140
00:47:51,520 --> 00:47:54,200
Speaker 2: pretty smooth, pretty fast. We agreed at the start what

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Speaker 2: kind of vibe we wanted to go with, and it's

1142
00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:58,680
Speaker 2: pretty much already done. Figured that we get it sorted

1143
00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:01,239
Speaker 2: as soon as possible, so wasn't another thing to worry

1144
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 2: about later. By the way, this comes from Aggravating Scar

1145
00:48:04,440 --> 00:48:07,400
Speaker 2: seventy five eighteen on the Okay Storytime subridd it. So

1146
00:48:07,760 --> 00:48:09,400
Speaker 2: my mother in law has always been a bit of

1147
00:48:09,440 --> 00:48:11,800
Speaker 2: a nightmare, but has been better since the news that

1148
00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:15,680
Speaker 2: I'm pregnant, though not without issue. For example, she told

1149
00:48:15,719 --> 00:48:17,480
Speaker 2: me that I should lose some weight and that it

1150
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:19,880
Speaker 2: wasn't healthy for me or the baby. You mean the

1151
00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:23,000
Speaker 2: weight of a baby inside her belly.

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00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:25,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, the normal baby like you're pregnant.

1153
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 2: The weight of another human being inside of her.

1154
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:30,960
Speaker 4: Yes, it's actually not healthy. The baby can't wait.

1155
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:33,000
Speaker 2: Anything, so she's going to lose that weight in about

1156
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:33,439
Speaker 2: nine months.

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Speaker 3: Yep.

1158
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 2: She knows that I used to struggle with anorexia and

1159
00:48:37,120 --> 00:48:39,480
Speaker 2: I'm not any sort of unhealthy weight. In the past,

1160
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 2: I've kept my mouth shut and let Felix deal with her.

1161
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:45,400
Speaker 2: As the nursery has almost been completed, she suddenly decided

1162
00:48:45,440 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 2: to invite herself around more. I work from home currently,

1163
00:48:48,280 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 2: and she comes in on the regular, asks me when

1164
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:52,359
Speaker 2: I'm going to have lunch, and could you just pop

1165
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 2: me at something into and then we'll wander into the

1166
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:58,480
Speaker 2: nursery and start rearranging things. Girl, stop coming over. I

1167
00:48:58,600 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 2: know this sounds stupid, but she literally bought an ikea

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00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 2: bag full of stuff that she put in there. It

1169
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:07,319
Speaker 2: doesn't match, but I never said anything really beyond oh,

1170
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 2: thanks so much for the thought, et cetera. Yesterday when

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00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:13,279
Speaker 2: she came around uninvited. She looked me up and down

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00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:16,560
Speaker 2: and said, really, joggers, leave her alone? And is she

1173
00:49:16,600 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 2: supposed to wear a full suit? Yeah, pregnant or not?

1174
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:21,800
Speaker 2: What's wrong with joggers? Literally, what's wrong with joggers?

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Speaker 4: It's just clothes.

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00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:25,480
Speaker 2: Thank god Felix isn't here, And then walked into the

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Speaker 2: nursery and started asking me where the pillows she'd put

1178
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:29,920
Speaker 2: in the cribbet gone, why had taken out the fairy

1179
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:31,839
Speaker 2: lights hanging on the wall right by it, et cetera.

1180
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:34,360
Speaker 2: I explained that they were potential safety hausards to the

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Speaker 2: future baby, and that i'd taken them out. She started with, oh, well,

1182
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:40,200
Speaker 2: I've had three children, and I really think you should

1183
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:42,080
Speaker 2: take more of my advice, and then looked me in

1184
00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 2: the eyes and said, you're really not going to be

1185
00:49:44,080 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 2: a good mother at this rate. Ah, because she doesn't

1186
00:49:48,600 --> 00:49:50,919
Speaker 2: want fairy lights in the room.

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Speaker 3: You suck.

1188
00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 4: She'd just suck worried about safety, You suck.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. I don't know if it was the

1190
00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 2: pregnancy hormones, but I just stared at her for a

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00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:01,240
Speaker 2: moment and then told her to get out of my house.

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00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:04,200
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, out out.

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00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:06,600
Speaker 2: I'd been up all night and had loads of work

1194
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:09,000
Speaker 2: and wasn't in the mood. She got very uptight about

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00:50:09,040 --> 00:50:11,040
Speaker 2: it and then left. Felix says he's going to talk

1196
00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:13,359
Speaker 2: to her and tell her that she shouldn't be reorganizing

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00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:15,800
Speaker 2: anything without our permission. But I don't know if it

1198
00:50:15,880 --> 00:50:18,160
Speaker 2: was just the hormones and I'm being unreasonable?

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Speaker 3: Am I the a hole?

1200
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:23,080
Speaker 2: And there is an update? No, No, she's going to

1201
00:50:23,160 --> 00:50:26,400
Speaker 2: talk smack and she should be aware that she's going

1202
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 2: to be kicked out of the house. Yeah, and she's

1203
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:29,480
Speaker 2: not even supposed to be there at all. She just

1204
00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:32,560
Speaker 2: shows up uninvited, right, So you're just falling through with

1205
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:34,240
Speaker 2: her uninvitedness.

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Speaker 5: Just the fact that, like she put up the lights, Yeah,

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00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:40,040
Speaker 5: and you were like get out, Or if you just

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00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:43,560
Speaker 5: like I don't know, or if she just said something

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00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:45,680
Speaker 5: about like, uh, but I have three kids and you

1210
00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 5: were like get out the no, that would be reasonable.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but she said that you're not going to be

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00:50:49,920 --> 00:50:54,560
Speaker 4: a good mother. Yeah, that's crazy, ridiculous, that's crazy. Yeah,

1213
00:50:54,560 --> 00:50:55,359
Speaker 4: I get her out of there.

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00:50:55,840 --> 00:50:58,719
Speaker 2: Up there real time, Felix and I sat down and

1215
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 2: had a conversation about how to manage his mother going forwards.

1216
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:03,880
Speaker 2: I told him everything that she had said to me,

1217
00:51:04,080 --> 00:51:05,839
Speaker 2: and he was adequately furious with her.

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00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:06,879
Speaker 4: Oh good, good.

1219
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:09,160
Speaker 2: He asked me what exactly I wanted done in the

1220
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:12,040
Speaker 2: future so that she'd understand where our boundaries are and

1221
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:14,359
Speaker 2: follow them. I told him that I'd rather him speak

1222
00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:16,960
Speaker 2: to her alone at first, so that I wasn't immediately

1223
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 2: made out to be the bad guy. I acted on advice,

1224
00:51:19,280 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 2: and locksmith has been called to change the locks on

1225
00:51:21,680 --> 00:51:24,320
Speaker 2: the house, and Felix has ordered us a ring doorbell

1226
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:27,399
Speaker 2: off Amazon, with the assurance I'll be able to put

1227
00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 2: it in. He hates doing the electrics, but.

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Speaker 3: You know it is.

1229
00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:32,879
Speaker 2: I'll leave him to it, loel And then he called

1230
00:51:32,960 --> 00:51:35,120
Speaker 2: up mother in law and organized a lunch date for

1231
00:51:35,239 --> 00:51:37,719
Speaker 2: today so they could have a talk between themselves. He

1232
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:40,279
Speaker 2: got back in the afternoon and as he walked into

1233
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:44,320
Speaker 2: the door, smiled at me and said shorted and characteristically

1234
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:46,080
Speaker 2: went to go and make himself a cup of tea.

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00:51:46,280 --> 00:51:48,200
Speaker 2: I got a message a few minutes later from her

1236
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:50,399
Speaker 2: saying she was very sorry for what she had said

1237
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 2: to me, that she was in the wrong, only going

1238
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:54,360
Speaker 2: to visit when invited, not going to go into the

1239
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 2: nursery anymore and was going to respect the rules and

1240
00:51:56,640 --> 00:51:59,080
Speaker 2: boundaries that he and I set for our home life

1241
00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 2: and for our child. What did he say to her?

1242
00:52:01,640 --> 00:52:01,839
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1243
00:52:02,000 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 2: What super effective magic, and after added that she was

1244
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:08,600
Speaker 2: sorry for the comments she'd made on my appearance. I'll

1245
00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 2: believe it when I see it, but at least it's

1246
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 2: a good start, and we've all agreed to go for

1247
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 2: dinner at some point to talk about future expectations when

1248
00:52:15,719 --> 00:52:18,040
Speaker 2: the baby comes. I talked to Felix and he said

1249
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 2: that she'd been offended at first, didn't believe she'd done

1250
00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 2: anything wrong, and he also specifically said she hit with

1251
00:52:23,280 --> 00:52:26,279
Speaker 2: the shpielav oh, I must be such an awful mother then,

1252
00:52:26,480 --> 00:52:28,400
Speaker 2: and he told me, He told her, it's not about that.

1253
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:32,879
Speaker 2: It's about you disrespecting my wife, our child, and our home.

1254
00:52:33,239 --> 00:52:35,520
Speaker 2: If you continue, you're not going to dream of being

1255
00:52:35,560 --> 00:52:39,320
Speaker 2: able to see your grandchild. She was apparently an unsurprisingly

1256
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 2: sulky and he told her to apologize, and she said

1257
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:44,799
Speaker 2: she would, and to her credit and she did. Thank

1258
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:46,879
Speaker 2: you all for your advice about how to handle things

1259
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:49,600
Speaker 2: going forward with the locks and everything. The amount of

1260
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:52,239
Speaker 2: support was crazy, but I can't thank you all enough.

1261
00:52:52,320 --> 00:52:54,719
Speaker 2: I feel so much calmer about the situation. I don't

1262
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:56,399
Speaker 2: know if she's going to stick to what she said

1263
00:52:56,440 --> 00:52:59,080
Speaker 2: going forwards, but at least boundaries have been set and

1264
00:52:59,200 --> 00:53:01,480
Speaker 2: I know that feeling has my back. By the way,

1265
00:53:01,920 --> 00:53:04,319
Speaker 2: we will always have your back if you join us

1266
00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 2: live every weekdad through PMPST on YouTube. Just have our profile,

1267
00:53:07,600 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 2: have it and there is a little bit left. But

1268
00:53:09,800 --> 00:53:12,440
Speaker 2: what what say you about the story?

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00:53:12,760 --> 00:53:16,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm I'm so glad that the husband is on board.

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00:53:16,719 --> 00:53:19,919
Speaker 5: I feel like so many stories have people like my mom. Yeah,

1271
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:22,640
Speaker 5: it's like, oh, she just means like this, but he's like, no,

1272
00:53:22,760 --> 00:53:25,520
Speaker 5: that's unreasonable and it's crazy. I'm gonna go sort things out.

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00:53:25,719 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then and then he does and it worked,

1274
00:53:28,880 --> 00:53:33,200
Speaker 2: so well, Yeah, that is that, and let's fish the story.

1275
00:53:33,400 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 2: Let's do it on a lighter note. To end, I

1276
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:38,120
Speaker 2: asked if he had anything he wanted to say to

1277
00:53:38,239 --> 00:53:40,520
Speaker 2: the people who had commented, and he said, can you

1278
00:53:40,560 --> 00:53:43,719
Speaker 2: have that photo of me and Florida Felix? That's not

1279
00:53:43,800 --> 00:53:47,480
Speaker 2: even slightly relevant, is what she said? Shame, what do

1280
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:48,120
Speaker 2: you want for Tea?

1281
00:53:48,280 --> 00:53:49,600
Speaker 4: And that's that story?

1282
00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 2: A positive story, so lehearted.

1283
00:53:53,040 --> 00:53:54,279
Speaker 4: Yeah, this guy's just like you.

1284
00:53:54,320 --> 00:53:54,480
Speaker 3: Know what.

1285
00:53:55,280 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 2: My mom's been talking smack about you.

1286
00:53:57,560 --> 00:53:59,280
Speaker 4: Yep, that's my wife.

1287
00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:02,800
Speaker 2: That's my freaky wife. He went on, you know what

1288
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:03,120
Speaker 2: he did.

1289
00:54:03,239 --> 00:54:05,279
Speaker 4: This is what I bet he said. He said keep

1290
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:09,239
Speaker 4: Oh wait, he said, he said, keep my wife's name

1291
00:54:09,760 --> 00:54:10,879
Speaker 4: out of his mouth.

1292
00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:13,279
Speaker 2: And he went over and smacked her. Yeah, except he

1293
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:16,399
Speaker 2: said he didn't smack her because his mom is his mom. Yeah,

1294
00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 2: but like yeah metaphorically yes, with words.

1295
00:54:19,239 --> 00:54:21,520
Speaker 4: And then it was fixed and everything was fine, and

1296
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:22,440
Speaker 4: it was fine.

1297
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:25,560
Speaker 5: And they never asked him back to the Academy Awards

1298
00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:29,920
Speaker 5: and then what aboutitive story? Yeah, I'm very pleased. That's

1299
00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 5: the end of the story.

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00:54:30,600 --> 00:54:34,279
Speaker 4: And it's also the end of the episode. So would

1301
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:35,320
Speaker 4: you like to do it or shall I?

1302
00:54:35,560 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 5: You may do it if you love us, make sure

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00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:41,360
Speaker 5: to subscribe We love you and see it tomorrow.