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Speaker 1: My boyfriend disappears every weekend and he won't tell me.

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Speaker 2: Why should I stay or should I go?

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Speaker 1: This is OKOP where we read the craziest true stories

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Speaker 1: on Earth. I'm John and Sam. Should op stay or

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Speaker 1: should they go?

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Speaker 2: I mean if every weekend they disappear every weekend, that's

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Speaker 2: date night, Saturday. Saturday night is date night.

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Speaker 1: Why can't I leave and just not tell you my

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Speaker 1: whereabouts every weekend of the year?

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Speaker 2: Why not? That's why they have find my iPhone so

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Speaker 2: you can track your significant others and ensure that they're

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Speaker 2: loyal to you.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you just need like like all the GPS trackers.

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Speaker 2: Known to me. Maybe what you need GPS trackers plus

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Speaker 2: live Twitch streaming of your partner that you know what

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Speaker 2: great solution. Put one of those little like like head

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Speaker 2: things on with a GoPro all you can always see

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Speaker 2: what they're done.

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Speaker 1: That should do it? But Sam, there's only one way

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Speaker 1: to find out spill that d so throw RABF disappear, says.

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Speaker 1: My boyfriend twenty seven male and I twenty four female

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Speaker 1: have been together for three years. We don't live together,

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Speaker 1: but are close enough to spend a lot of time together. However,

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Speaker 1: it is very rare for us to spend a whole

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Speaker 1: day together. When we have, it's been a weekday where

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Speaker 1: our schedules have just happened to line up.

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Speaker 2: Wait, you've been dating for three years and you haven't

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Speaker 2: spent a whole day.

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Speaker 1: I'm so busy. You're they're so busy, Sam.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, busy people doing busy things come on

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Speaker 2: like cheating on each other.

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Speaker 1: He works as a research assistant while getting his PhD.

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Speaker 1: Every single weekend for the three years we've been together.

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Speaker 1: He insists he has to work every weekend three years.

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Speaker 2: It has to work. I mean, I guess he has

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Speaker 2: a PhD. That's probably hard.

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Speaker 1: Not harder than some other things. He has another PhD. Yep,

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Speaker 1: pretty huge doctor. I realize how stupid I've been now,

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Speaker 1: but foolishly I trusted him. I trusted that he had

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Speaker 1: work every single weekend for three years.

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Speaker 2: That was until today, every even Christmas, every single weekend

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Speaker 2: if it's on a weekend, I have to work, oh man. Also, like,

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Speaker 2: if you're cheating, do you not try to give like

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Speaker 2: one weekend just to wait? Red flag alive flag red

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Speaker 2: flag for sure? Like to the fact that he's gone

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Speaker 2: every single weekend. I mean like one weekend, two weekends,

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Speaker 2: maybe three weekends in a row, a little sass. Four weekends.

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Speaker 2: He definitely has a girl, a girlfriend for sure. Five weekends.

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Speaker 2: He has a family. If he's gone five weekends in

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Speaker 2: a row, he has a family, and another state, possibly

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Speaker 2: another country. Here's the problem saying he's been gone for

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Speaker 2: over one hundred and sixty weekends. Bro Man has an

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Speaker 2: empire that he hasn't told you about.

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Speaker 1: One hundred and sixty six weekend.

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Speaker 2: His gang is conning around. He has just five family

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Speaker 2: He has five families.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, for sure, Lee, I've been studying for

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Speaker 1: finals and it's the tough it's it's ever been. So

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Speaker 1: I've been craving some time with him, just a day

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Speaker 1: where we could kick back and relax with each other.

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Speaker 1: You want one whole day to kick back and relax.

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Speaker 1: You have some fucking gone wown't you? The audacity?

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Speaker 2: The audacity the whole day twenty four hours unacceptable? What's

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Speaker 2: sixty times twenty four times twenty four that's four hundred

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Speaker 2: four thousand, eight hundred.

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Speaker 1: Minutes, fourteen fourteen forty.

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Speaker 2: And four hundred and forty minutes. What's one thousand more

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Speaker 2: times sixty one thousand, twenty five hundred, six hundred eighty

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Speaker 2: six thousand, four hundred seconds. When you put it like that,

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Speaker 2: it's a lot, bro, No way, not a chance. Time

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Speaker 2: is money is time. That is true. That's a lot

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Speaker 2: of seconds to spend that money on my other families exactly.

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Speaker 2: Come on.

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Speaker 1: Of course, he says he can't because he's working, and

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Speaker 1: I shut up about it. So today I'm getting antsy anyway,

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Speaker 1: and I'm hoping that we could at least spend the

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Speaker 1: evening together. I end up texting him asking when he

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Speaker 1: thinks he'll be back and we can spend the night together.

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Speaker 1: I've done this plenty of times before, and he always

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Speaker 1: responds fairly quickly. This time, I'm waiting for a while.

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Speaker 1: After two hours, I decide to text a work front

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Speaker 1: of his who's also a research.

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Speaker 2: Assistant with him. Uh oh, but.

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Speaker 1: I see you in the comments. If you know it's

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Speaker 1: about to go down, wouldn't you know? It turns out

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Speaker 1: they don't even have work today.

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Speaker 2: That I can't believe he would create a lie and

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Speaker 2: had work on the weekend. Easy mark for three years, though?

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Speaker 2: Do you care to him? Bro? Bro. Really get a

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Speaker 2: nice game. But really, sorry, I don't play that game.

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Speaker 2: Just the Samy realized.

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Speaker 1: Sam loves Op's boyfriend.

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Speaker 3: He's doing.

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Speaker 2: Sam thinks he's doing a great job. He's not doing

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Speaker 2: a great well he is. I mean Sam, he's doing

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Speaker 2: a great job for three years. He's very good at it.

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Speaker 2: Sam admires him.

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Speaker 1: Eighty six thousand seconds that that's what we're talking about, right,

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Speaker 1: I mean, damn near ten thousand hours at this, I

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Speaker 1: think so, my god. In fact, he the coworker informs

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Speaker 1: me in that same text that they rarely ever have

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Speaker 1: work on the weekends.

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Speaker 2: Rarely ever. So where is he? V Sauce music put that?

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Speaker 1: So, now I'm sitting here wondering what the f is

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Speaker 1: going on? I have no idea how to confront him

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Speaker 1: about this. I mean, this has been going on for

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Speaker 1: three years. If he's cheating on me, he basically has

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Speaker 1: a second family.

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Speaker 2: It's that's what I said, he called it.

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Speaker 1: But obviously that's where my mind goes, and I have

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Speaker 1: no clue where else it could be possible.

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Speaker 2: Maybe he's just volunteering at the homeless shelter. What if?

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Speaker 2: Or he's volunteering at the animal shelter, which really means

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Speaker 2: you're putting dogs down.

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Speaker 1: Often, Yeah, you're putting dogs down. And also like, do

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Speaker 1: you love dogs that much?

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Speaker 2: Like, Bro, you're about to You're about to get some

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Speaker 2: fights right now, are about to call you out? Do

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Speaker 2: you love dogs? That? Dogs are great? John's cat person

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Speaker 2: or dog Personohn has a cat? Bro, where's your dog?

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Speaker 2: I had dogs? I see no dogs. I see no

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Speaker 2: dogs a cat. That's one dog here, Riley. It still

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Speaker 2: thinks women like barking. It's okay, it's okay.

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Speaker 1: I we we took care of a bare minimum twenty

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Speaker 1: dogs growing up. Not an exaggeration, because we fostered, dog fostered.

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Speaker 1: That's how hard we love dogs.

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Speaker 2: I love dogs so, I love.

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Speaker 1: Dogs so much, so hard, Bro, I love my dogs hard.

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Speaker 2: I really appreciate that that we thank you. I appreciate

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Speaker 2: it too. I don't want to see picks at some point,

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Speaker 2: but we can bring those. The picks will come. The

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Speaker 1: But back to the story, is there any possible explanation

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Speaker 1: for this besides cheating? How in the world do I

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Speaker 1: confront him about something he's been doing for three years?

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Speaker 1: Since he's doing whatever it is he's doing, tomorrow. Do

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Speaker 1: I just drive over to his place in the morning

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Speaker 1: and wait and then follow him. Has anyone had anything

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Speaker 1: like this happened to him before? And we have one

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Speaker 1: relevant comment before a juicy update, Sonny Go says, I

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Speaker 1: would just ask him first. Hey, I texted your work

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Speaker 1: friend while I was waiting for you to reply, and

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Speaker 1: he said, you never work on the weekends, quote unquote.

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Speaker 1: Even if he's not cheating, he's lying, don't stock him,

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Speaker 1: don't play games, to which OPI replied, but what's stopping

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Speaker 1: him from just lying?

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Speaker 2: Again?

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Speaker 1: Like, even if I confront him, he could just insist

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Speaker 1: that he's working or come up with an excuse. The

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Speaker 1: only proof I have is the text from his coworker.

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Speaker 1: I feel like that might not be enough to get

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Speaker 1: him to tell the truth. I don't know, Sam, we

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Speaker 1: have a juicy update coming up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but what should OPI do? Okay, So that last

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Speaker 2: sentence is a red flag boom because if you are thinking,

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Speaker 2: you like, catching him in a lie is not enough

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Speaker 2: for him to tell the truth, then you don't have

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Speaker 2: any trust in the relationship. That last like said, is

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Speaker 2: so telling. Yeah, she doesn't trust him already, so the

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Speaker 2: relationship is somewhat eroding right now. So, but but in

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Speaker 2: terms of what are some possible explanations, I actually rescind

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Speaker 2: what I said before about the other families. I just think, oh,

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Speaker 2: p is not just being cheated on. I think actually

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Speaker 2: she is the one who is being used to cheat

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Speaker 2: on the family, and so I think it's almost almost

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Speaker 2: certainly she is a side piece.

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Speaker 1: Well, hm, that is an interesting vary and producer Riley,

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Speaker 1: am I reading into it right that it seems like

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Speaker 1: he does spend time with you? Do we know how

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Speaker 1: much time he's spending during the weekday never a full

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Speaker 1: day job, never a full day a bro, I'm trying

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Speaker 1: to math the math right now.

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Speaker 2: When does he spend time with her?

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Speaker 1: Because he's obviously working during the weekdays holy after after

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Speaker 1: work a couple like some days some days after work

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Speaker 1: for a few hours. So it's like, how like what

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Speaker 2: I mean, bro, like, oh, hey, uh, wife, I got

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Speaker 2: a job. It sucks, I have to go to another city.

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Speaker 2: I have to live there for five days, but I'll

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Speaker 2: be back on the weekends. I'll spend time with the kids. Wow.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's a good Is this this is a a conspiracy?

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Speaker 2: Uh? Is the conspiracy theory, tin hat. This is I'm

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Speaker 2: putting on my tinfoil hat.

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Speaker 3: Do it.

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Speaker 2: This is my conspiracy theory. She's a side piece. And

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Speaker 2: he has a family in his home city, which is

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Speaker 2: not where they are right now, I mean very interesting.

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Speaker 1: So basically like he has a whole second place to

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Speaker 1: where he will go while he's working during the week

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Speaker 1: and be there, and then on the weekend he tells wifey, Hey,

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Speaker 1: who's not hopee to be clear, Hey, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: go home. I'm going to spend the whole there. There's

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Speaker 1: nothing that will ever ye And that happens all the time.

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Speaker 1: Happens all the time, every day.

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Speaker 2: I think.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm on board with your conspiracy. Put in

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Speaker 1: the comments below. If you're on board with Sam's conspiracy

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Speaker 1: foil hats, join me. But we have a major T

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Speaker 1: alert coming up with a juicy update. Five days later,

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Speaker 1: so I logged into this account for the first time

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Speaker 1: since making the original post, and I found that there

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Speaker 1: were a lot of messages. I haven't read them all,

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Speaker 1: but I will. The recent ones all ask for an update.

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Speaker 1: So here it is. When I logged off, things seem

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Speaker 1: to be pretty split on what to do. Most people

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Speaker 1: just decided to call him a cheater or say that

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Speaker 1: I was the side chick.

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Speaker 2: That's what we said. I feel like I'm about to

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Speaker 2: be dunked on though. Yeah, yeah, this feels like a

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Speaker 2: set Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Frankly, I wasn't sure I could wait another day to

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Speaker 1: No games, no stocking or anything, which irrespectable. I feel

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Speaker 1: like that's that's a good move. Go be direct. Hey,

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Speaker 1: what's going on here? I don't understand anyway. I had

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Speaker 2: I like that Renaissance fair LARPing. I love LARPing. Larping's fun,

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Speaker 1: Well, doing this every weekend. Sin's coming here for his PhD,

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Speaker 1: I could not comprehend what he was saying like he

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what the fuck? That's the worst lie ever. It

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, let me think of a better lie. Also Saturday, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: where are you? Why aren't you at the homeless shelter?

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Speaker 2: Why aren't you at the homeless shelter? And he could

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Speaker 2: And he can instead show me that he isn't lying

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Speaker 2: by taking me to volunteer. Yeah, let me do some

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Speaker 2: quick research on which homeless shelter I always go to? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: no worries, Maybe click volunteer arrest dot com. Please.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what I was really thinking. I think

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: Of course my mind races all night and I tossed

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Speaker 2: I mean, like, it wasn't lying about you'd take you

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Speaker 2: to the home shelter. I'm sure he did that. But

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Speaker 2: if he wasn't lying period, what if what if the

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Speaker 1: That would be a plot to him pod to us,

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Speaker 1: this is let's see, this is a big conspiracy. He

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Speaker 2: Great, she can't ask any questions, perfect right, Yeah, you're brilliant.

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Speaker 1: And they were really nice, but of course the whole

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Speaker 2: Why are you embarrassed about volunteer? That's like the classic,

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Speaker 2: like tinder hinge bio. It's like, oh, like, what do

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Speaker 2: cooking with my grandma. And then it's like damn hatch

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Speaker 2: and then he's actually he's actually doing it, or he's

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Speaker 2: Michael Jackson supermarket. Wow, that you know what it could be?

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Speaker 1: Because I mean again, every weekend for three years, he's embarrassed.

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Speaker 2: Oh I think I know, I think I know why

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's the reason. And then he and then he

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Speaker 1: I say, of course, duh. And you and Oper to

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Speaker 1: He sighs, and then he tells me that he doesn't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, at this point, Producer Riley, what do you think

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Speaker 2: All powerful? Also, I realize I can see Riley's face

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Speaker 1: Hopefully I'm not the only one that finds this so

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Speaker 1: Yeah right, I mean that doesn't bode well, and that

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Speaker 1: couple does, so he just lied to hide it at first,

438
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 1: but he knows I wouldn't do that now, but kept

439
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:17,920
Speaker 1: the lie going because he thought it would be too

440
00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,719
Speaker 1: weird to suddenly say that he's been volunteering at a

441
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:24,080
Speaker 1: homeless shelter. So kind of like sunken cost a little

442
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 1: bit is his line of thinking.

443
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,840
Speaker 2: I do not buy it for a second.

444
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 1: I feel like I've come to the conclusion that he's

445
00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:37,439
Speaker 1: just really, really weird. His way of thinking has always

446
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 1: been odd, but this in particular is just so weird.

447
00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 1: Like he seems to understand the situation and where I'm

448
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 1: coming from, but didn't think to tell me the truth

449
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 1: on his own. We started going in circles, so I

450
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:52,600
Speaker 1: ended the conversation and had him drive home in silence.

451
00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:55,200
Speaker 1: Since then, he sent a number of texts and has

452
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 1: tried to call me a few times. I didn't pick

453
00:23:57,359 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 1: up on Monday or Tuesday because I felt like I

454
00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:02,520
Speaker 1: needed time to think. But I finally picked up today

455
00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,080
Speaker 1: and we had a talk in which we both reiterated

456
00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 1: what we had said.

457
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:08,399
Speaker 2: I know that a lot.

458
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:11,120
Speaker 1: Of people, literally all of them at this time, were

459
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 1: telling me to break up with him, but I'm still

460
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:17,439
Speaker 1: thinking things through. I'm going to try and get him

461
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:20,760
Speaker 1: to hang out this weekend and make my decision after

462
00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:21,720
Speaker 1: I think some more.

463
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:25,880
Speaker 2: Imagine he's like, Babe, no, I have pleague out there.

464
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:30,639
Speaker 1: This whole thing has been so weird. I'm sorry that

465
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:32,920
Speaker 1: I've repeated that so much, but my brain is still

466
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 1: rather scrambled though it's it's insane, It's truly insane. I

467
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:40,320
Speaker 1: don't think that there will be any more updates to this,

468
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:45,360
Speaker 1: because shit, because we either stay together or break up.

469
00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:48,680
Speaker 1: But if there are, they won't be posted here. And

470
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,639
Speaker 1: there's a quick edit. Reading through a lot of the

471
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 1: comments of the previous post now to answer some of

472
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 1: the most common questions. I haven't met his parents, but

473
00:24:57,080 --> 00:24:59,159
Speaker 1: I have met a few of his friends. He doesn't

474
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 1: have social media. Yeah, he's met my family since I'm

475
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 1: local and we do spend holidays together if they aren't

476
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:07,400
Speaker 1: on weekends.

477
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 2: Not having social media not necessarily a red flag, but

478
00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:12,920
Speaker 2: it makes it much easier to cheat.

479
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 1: Yes, And it's like it's just all of the things

480
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 1: combined look so suspicious.

481
00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:24,159
Speaker 2: It's so sus It's like he's literally giving the classic

482
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 2: lie that you give. That's so like, it's it's the

483
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:30,920
Speaker 2: epitome of the lie that you give when you know

484
00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 2: you're lying and everyone else knows you're lying, but you're

485
00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:36,200
Speaker 2: trying to act like you're doing the right thing. Yeah,

486
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:40,359
Speaker 2: it's it's, it's it's it's a joke of a a lie.

487
00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:42,400
Speaker 2: It's like, it's a joke. It's a joke. It's a joke.

488
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:46,320
Speaker 1: But let's put the tinfoil hat back on. What do

489
00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 1: we conspirarize the reason? And this dude's cheating. I think

490
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:56,359
Speaker 1: he's cheating, still cheating still, but I'm specifically curious about

491
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:58,920
Speaker 1: like what is this his situation with the homeless shelter

492
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:00,679
Speaker 1: and everything, Like, is he is he using it as

493
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:03,880
Speaker 1: a I kind of think he's like doing it on purpose,

494
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:07,199
Speaker 1: so he's like, Okay, I'm going to uh do it

495
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 1: this every week and have this as an alibi. After

496
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:13,600
Speaker 1: the six hours, maybe I go and spend time with

497
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:19,560
Speaker 1: a prostitute, somebody, his wife, another girl, like anybody that's.

498
00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 2: Not op Yeah, I think paid actors, paid actors or

499
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 2: like friends, drug dealer friends, drug dealer friends. I like,

500
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:33,119
Speaker 2: I just like it's hard to explain, right because he

501
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,040
Speaker 2: doesn't make any sense. I'm trying to think of a

502
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 2: reason that you would do this, and it doesn't make

503
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:38,560
Speaker 2: any sense.

504
00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 1: Well, like, okay, so if what about my theory? So

505
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 1: like if if he does go, if he basically planned

506
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:47,359
Speaker 1: it all as an alibi, which is just like crazy,

507
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:52,560
Speaker 1: evil genius insanity. But he's like, I will actually volunteer here.

508
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe he's like, hey, I need to counteract the

509
00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 1: bad I'm doing and have an alibi. I go here

510
00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 1: for six hours every Saturday, every Sunday. I then go

511
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,359
Speaker 1: in time with my wife and kids after that day

512
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:08,399
Speaker 1: is over. It's still it's like a little less I

513
00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 1: liked your original theory of like, oh, he has a

514
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 1: secret family that he spent or like I guess the

515
00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 1: main family that he spends the whole weekend with it

516
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 1: does doesn't quite fit in there, but it's the most

517
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 1: reasonable thing I could possibly think of.

518
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:23,080
Speaker 2: I'm very curious to see where we end up.

519
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 1: Well, we do have some relevant comments. A commenter asked

520
00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:31,000
Speaker 1: op about the possible volunteering services being mandated by the

521
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,680
Speaker 1: courts if the boyfriend has done something illegally.

522
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:40,880
Speaker 2: Boo and oh that sounds so on point. Hey where

523
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:44,879
Speaker 2: were you, commenter when we were doing the tinfoil dude? Fuck,

524
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 2: that's pretty good. I need to understand more about the

525
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 2: criminal justice system. That's I would never have known about that. Yeah,

526
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 2: it's a great a great theory in question. Yeah, yep, Yeah,

527
00:27:56,600 --> 00:28:00,440
Speaker 2: I bet he's a flasher. A flasher yep, but he's

528
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:03,560
Speaker 2: a flasher. I bet that's how I had the community

529
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 2: service that he is also a flasher. Yeah, flasher going

530
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:09,840
Speaker 2: two for two on flash, two for two each testicle.

531
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, one for each crime. Baby, if you.

532
00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:16,440
Speaker 2: Flash a single testicle, do you think it's as bad

533
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,440
Speaker 2: as flashing both? If you're like, if you're like, oh shit,

534
00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 2: it's my nuts.

535
00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:23,840
Speaker 1: Easier to not catch the case because it's just so

536
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 1: little flesh being revealed that someone might notice. I mean,

537
00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:32,440
Speaker 1: still for yourself, that's fastball. If you let your nuts hang,

538
00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: then that that could work big protein.

539
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:37,359
Speaker 4: I think it's like kind of disappointing because, like you know,

540
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 4: if you like, if you actually get flashed, but you

541
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:40,960
Speaker 4: only see one boob, it's like, well, I want to

542
00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:41,560
Speaker 4: see the other one.

543
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 3: Now. It's sort of like that with nuts for whoever's.

544
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 2: Washing women of the podcast. If you do mirror Riley sentiment,

545
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:54,920
Speaker 2: if you saw one nut, you would want to see

546
00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:59,080
Speaker 2: the other one. Also on that tip, I have a

547
00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:02,920
Speaker 2: okay story time for the end of this story.

548
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 1: Okay, story time coming up.

549
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:07,760
Speaker 2: Flashing John flashing his nuts.

550
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, you have to wait till the okay story time.

551
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:11,280
Speaker 2: That's how it works.

552
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 1: So, and then continuing the question from the commenter, they

553
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:20,240
Speaker 1: asked if the volunteers also lied for him on his whereabouts,

554
00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:23,600
Speaker 1: Op responds, there have been quite a few comments about

555
00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 1: it possibly being court ordered. I don't want to identify

556
00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:30,600
Speaker 1: his field completely or anything, because it's pretty niche. But

557
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:33,640
Speaker 1: if he had a criminal record, it would be incredibly

558
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 1: difficult to work in his field. So I don't think

559
00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 1: that he has one. I haven't looked at his messages

560
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:41,720
Speaker 1: or anything of the sort. Maybe people are going to

561
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:45,160
Speaker 1: call you naive for this, But getting every single volunteer

562
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 1: I talked to you over that six hour period, Yeah,

563
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 1: that seems too hard. That seems like a bad thing.

564
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 2: That's difficult to do.

565
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 1: Which is why I feel like my theory like he

566
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:57,000
Speaker 1: does legitimately do it but uses it as his owlbox.

567
00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 1: But getting every single volunteer I talk to over that

568
00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 1: six hour period, in addition to some people who are

569
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 1: making use of the services to lie for him, seems

570
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 1: really unlikely. So he's he literally seeing the people coming

571
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:12,080
Speaker 1: in for the services. Everyone is saying definitely, I feel

572
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:14,600
Speaker 1: like he's definitely working there for sure. I don't think

573
00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 1: he's having people lie for him. I think I think

574
00:30:17,360 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 1: the it's potentially court ordered. Yeah, it's a good theory.

575
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:24,720
Speaker 1: I think I underplay the seriousness with which he explained

576
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 1: the conflict with his classmates. I didn't follow it completely,

577
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:30,600
Speaker 1: but he did seem to be really affected by the

578
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:33,760
Speaker 1: whole thing. Maybe he's acting, but it doesn't look that

579
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 1: way to me. We have a juicy update coming up,

580
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 1: but are we still standing strong in the theory that

581
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 1: the commentary hire.

582
00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 2: Liar liar pants on fire sitting on a telephone wire.

583
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: Oh, I never heard telephone wire.

584
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 2: There were heard telephone wire. New bars pants on fire,

585
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 2: sitting on a telephone wire. He does he doth perspire

586
00:30:55,360 --> 00:31:00,680
Speaker 2: from the fire, but lies lies of his ugly desire. Hmm,

587
00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 2: that caused me, iire, and with which we will inquire. Yes, Sire,

588
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 2: Major T alerts onto the juicy updates.

589
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 1: So I asked him to come over so we could talk,

590
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 1: and he did. I then asked him some of the

591
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 1: questions people had on here that I had written down.

592
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 1: Volunteering for six hours but still not having time for me.

593
00:31:21,640 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 1: He said that he would get there a little early

594
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,880
Speaker 1: and leave late, but would then spend the remaining hours

595
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 1: running errands and actually working on his PhD and assistant stuff.

596
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 1: I asked if he could give me details. He gave

597
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: some details about his academic articles that I don't quite remember.

598
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 1: I asked why he couldn't spend more weekend evenings with

599
00:31:40,840 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 1: me if this was the case. He said that he

600
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: was really busy with work and that I would distract

601
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 1: him out. Out of all the things said, I think

602
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 1: this is the one that bothers me the most. I

603
00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: asked him if the volunteering was court ordered. He laughed

604
00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:00,200
Speaker 1: at that and was clearly confused by the question, but

605
00:32:00,480 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 1: answered that given the special population he works with doing

606
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 1: his PhD, he doubts he'd be able to work with

607
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,960
Speaker 1: them if he had a record that required so many hours,

608
00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:13,320
Speaker 1: which I mean, I guess he answered it, but also,

609
00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:15,440
Speaker 1: that's kind of a skaty answer.

610
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 2: I don't know. To me a little bit, yes, but

611
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 2: it sounds it sounds like he's saying now.

612
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 1: Yes, which also kind of aligns what Op already said

613
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 1: to the commentary before. I asked if he was ever

614
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 1: going to tell me about the volunteering. He initially says

615
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: he doesn't know, and then he replies that he probably

616
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:38,920
Speaker 1: wouldn't have. Babe, we can't have the winning on the weekend.

617
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:43,480
Speaker 1: That's when I'm gone. Never never, he says, he probably

618
00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: wouldn't have ever, So you just.

619
00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:47,920
Speaker 2: Would have never seen each other on weekends for as

620
00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 2: long as you both shall live. Yeah, that's ridiculous. Simple,

621
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 2: Why take care of my kids? I have to go

622
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 2: to the homeless shelter. I have to take care of

623
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 2: the kids that need it most. My kids have a home,

624
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 2: the homeless children. Why would I take care kids that

625
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:03,480
Speaker 2: air conditioning? These kids barely have soup come on, if

626
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 2: I wasn't there, they wouldn't have soup. So I gotta

627
00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 2: be there. I got there, got to be there.

628
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 1: He apologized for lying, but then said that whether he

629
00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:13,760
Speaker 1: was working or volunteering doesn't make much of a difference

630
00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 1: to how much time he spent with me.

631
00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:19,720
Speaker 2: Yes, it does. What do you mean he's gone for

632
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 2: the whole day on Saturday and Sunday. That is prime

633
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 2: time for relationship noodling.

634
00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:29,960
Speaker 1: Obviously, I pushed back on this, and he got defensive,

635
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 1: and we had an argument that basically reiterated how I

636
00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 1: felt like, and then I couldn't trust him because he

637
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 1: was lying about this. While he just kept apologizing for

638
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 1: the lying and making me feel that way, but that

639
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 1: it wouldn't have changed how we spent time together.

640
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 2: But he's like, whether or not I was out the homeless,

641
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:50,240
Speaker 2: yell there. I don't want to spend weekends with you.

642
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:50,680
Speaker 2: I'm not.

643
00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 1: Why would I be with you on the weekend when

644
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 1: we both don't have work?

645
00:33:55,320 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 2: Disgusting.

646
00:33:56,240 --> 00:33:59,320
Speaker 1: Ultimately, I asked him to explain to me again why

647
00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 1: he hit it in the first place. Like he said previously,

648
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 1: he used to talk to professors doing undergrad about extensions

649
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:10,000
Speaker 1: and questions others had behind closed doors, and then to

650
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:12,960
Speaker 1: make sure things were stated to the rest of the class.

651
00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 1: He did the same thing in his master's program, so

652
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,320
Speaker 1: basically where he helped a bunch of people out and

653
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 1: then people got mad. Right, this is where I got

654
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:22,839
Speaker 1: lost before. One of his professors was a hard ass,

655
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:25,560
Speaker 1: and some of his classmates were scared to talk to

656
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 1: him about their grades. So he thought that he could

657
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 1: show them that he was willing to discuss grades, and

658
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:34,400
Speaker 1: he made a joke about his own grade in class.

659
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:37,480
Speaker 1: The professor didn't find it funny and then went on

660
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 1: a ti rad about respect and showing him up, and

661
00:34:40,360 --> 00:34:44,720
Speaker 1: apparently the class ended shortly thereafter because it was so tense.

662
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 1: He said that some of the other students felt like

663
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 1: they needed to cut ties to show the professor they

664
00:34:51,040 --> 00:34:53,359
Speaker 1: weren't in on the joke, and that a few of

665
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:56,680
Speaker 1: them made a show of hating him on that point forward.

666
00:34:57,160 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 1: Hearing it more in depth, at least makes a little

667
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 1: more sense to me. I stated again that helping homeless

668
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 1: and helping classmates seemed like entirely different things altogether.

669
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 2: He said that they felt like they were.

670
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 1: The same thing to him, but I was probably right,

671
00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:15,360
Speaker 1: and he was wrong so really quick, Producer Riley, Basically,

672
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:17,920
Speaker 1: what I'm picking up from what he's saying here is

673
00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 1: that like almost seemed like a traumatic experience for him

674
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 1: when he was like helping people behind closed doors. Well,

675
00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:26,440
Speaker 1: I mean he got ostracized by his entire class. Yeah,

676
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:30,279
Speaker 1: So it's like he's basically like, Okay, you know what,

677
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: you guys flamed me in like three hundred people and

678
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,360
Speaker 1: an auditorium flamed me. So I'll just never tell anyone

679
00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:39,839
Speaker 1: ever again. Does that make us kind of believe it more?

680
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 3: No, I'm a boyd.

681
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:43,919
Speaker 1: I think it might be true, but I still think

682
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 1: he's like cheating or doing something nefarious.

683
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:49,840
Speaker 2: I just think is bullshit. I Like, it's just there's

684
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:51,279
Speaker 2: I don't believe it is he.

685
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 3: Is he what I thought he was, like neuro divergent

686
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:56,879
Speaker 3: in some way, like.

687
00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:59,239
Speaker 1: He had made a disclaimer of some sort on that,

688
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:02,400
Speaker 1: which I mean, we've we've had that before with with

689
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 1: some of these episodes where people later in the story

690
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:08,759
Speaker 1: of oh, I'm neurodivergent in this way. So but as

691
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 1: far as we look at.

692
00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:11,560
Speaker 2: The very least, he may not be neurodivergent. But he's

693
00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 2: just weird.

694
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:15,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, like not telling about this whole thing. Yeah,

695
00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:19,760
Speaker 1: it's it's it's it's very atypical, very odd. I asked

696
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 1: him why he said that he's a bad person. Great question,

697
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:26,080
Speaker 1: he replied, asking if he had said that, and I

698
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 1: said yes. He said that he didn't want the volunteering

699
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:31,799
Speaker 1: to make him seem like a good person because he's not.

700
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 1: I asked what he meant, and he replied that I

701
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:39,800
Speaker 1: know him. I said, I'm not sure I do. He said, damn,

702
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:43,240
Speaker 1: he said that I know what he means. I don't

703
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 1: you do, et cetera, et cetera. This goes on in circles. Personally,

704
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 1: I think he has low self esteem, but this is

705
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:52,799
Speaker 1: a weird way to express it. I'm not sure what

706
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:56,360
Speaker 1: else it could be, because he's literally not answering the

707
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:57,560
Speaker 1: question like, oh, I'm a bad person.

708
00:36:57,719 --> 00:37:00,480
Speaker 2: Oh you know why? Why? Because you know, you know,

709
00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:03,279
Speaker 2: you've been questioning about cheating this whole time, so you

710
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:06,120
Speaker 2: really know, Come on, you trust yourself, not me?

711
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:09,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, come on, believe the lies I tell you, but

712
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:10,320
Speaker 1: don't come on seriously.

713
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.

714
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:14,240
Speaker 1: I told him I wasn't sure I wanted to continue

715
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 1: the relationship because of the line Wow. He seemed hurt,

716
00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:20,719
Speaker 1: but then just said, okay, and that's my decision. I

717
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 1: told him that he should at least get therapy for

718
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,600
Speaker 1: the classmate thing, because it's clearly affected him negatively. He

719
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:30,319
Speaker 1: replied that he probably should, but he won't. After that,

720
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:32,799
Speaker 1: I gave him an ultimatum.

721
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:36,920
Speaker 2: We love ultimatum. Part of a relationship.

722
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:41,320
Speaker 1: Could be a segment, the ultimate ultimatum, the ultimate ultimatum,

723
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 1: something like that.

724
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:44,719
Speaker 2: What should the ultimatum be that saves this relationship?

725
00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 1: Ooh, that's a hard one, big protest.

726
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:49,879
Speaker 3: You got one?

727
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:53,520
Speaker 2: Anyways, stop fucking the homeless, fucking me instead, you got one.

728
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:55,239
Speaker 3: What's the big ultimatum?

729
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, the ultimatum that will save this relationship?

730
00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:01,600
Speaker 1: I think I want to say, like you, you have

731
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 1: to be honest and we have to spend weekends together

732
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 1: and stuff like that, But I just I just have

733
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:08,800
Speaker 1: this snagging suspicion that he's still not being one hundred

734
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 1: percent honest, which is why it's hard for me to

735
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 1: even propose a possible ultimating.

736
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 2: I would love to, I mean, we have a little

737
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:16,920
Speaker 2: bit more of the story left, but I would love

738
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 2: to ask you guys, like, do you believe him at

739
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:24,040
Speaker 2: this point, because, at least for me, I still don't

740
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 2: say I don't believe in the comments. If you don't believe, and.

741
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 1: Let us know why. But let's get into the ultimatum.

742
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 1: Either spend more time with me on weekends and go

743
00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:37,759
Speaker 1: to therapy, or we break up. I told him to

744
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:41,000
Speaker 1: think about it, and that he has until Saturday. He

745
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:44,200
Speaker 1: said he would, and he went on his way.

746
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 2: I'm thinking he's he's not gonna give it up. Dude. Yeah,

747
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 2: he lives the homeless too much. He loves the homeless

748
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:49,439
Speaker 2: too much.

749
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 1: I want to keep wanting to ask you, big protein,

750
00:38:51,640 --> 00:38:53,920
Speaker 1: why why why can't I ask you questions?

751
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 2: Why?

752
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:59,399
Speaker 3: I'm just because I know because you know? Yeah?

753
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:00,400
Speaker 2: Why not? I want to?

754
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:02,120
Speaker 1: I want to ask you all the questions. Can you

755
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 1: just delete the stories from your brain?

756
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 3: Actually, yeah, there are a few I don't know.

757
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:13,560
Speaker 1: Perfect Well, gentlemen, we have a juicy update, major T alert.

758
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 2: Come on, let's get into it. John, spill it.

759
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 1: I'll spill it all over you, big boys. This will

760
00:39:20,239 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 1: probably be my last post here. He said that last

761
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 1: time Saturday came and he asked me to compromise. He

762
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 1: would take one day off from volunteering if I volunteered

763
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:36,359
Speaker 1: with him the other day and he would not have

764
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 1: to go to therapy. I said, I still need to

765
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 1: think about it.

766
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 2: Wait. Wait, so she wanted him to stop going to

767
00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 2: at least one day of volunteering.

768
00:39:46,200 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 1: I think it was pretty much all of it. Yeah,

769
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 1: spend more time with me on the weekends. So basically

770
00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:54,320
Speaker 1: give me some weekends.

771
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 2: Right, So he's like, yes, we can spend time together

772
00:39:57,880 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 2: at the home shelter.

773
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 3: They're putting time together.

774
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:04,239
Speaker 1: God, he is just too dedicated, Doug.

775
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 2: I love how he didn't. He wouldn't even be like, oh,

776
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:08,359
Speaker 2: you can come to the home shoulder. They both days

777
00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 2: if you want. He's like, you know, one day is

778
00:40:10,000 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 2: for me.

779
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:13,040
Speaker 1: Well, because because he also is, he's giving her one

780
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 1: day of them two just together out volunteering and the homeless.

781
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 2: So he's taking a full day off of homeless, full

782
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:23,760
Speaker 2: day off, wow, vacation a vacation, and then the second

783
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,440
Speaker 2: day so they would technically be together the whole weekend.

784
00:40:26,719 --> 00:40:29,880
Speaker 2: I like, I cut, I'm focused on he refuses to

785
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 2: go to therapy.

786
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I I I'm like, why does he refuse

787
00:40:33,960 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 1: to go to therapy?

788
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:39,400
Speaker 2: I'm like, another weird thing that makes me suspicious of everything.

789
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:41,879
Speaker 2: I think he needs it, but you know, it's the best.

790
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:44,239
Speaker 2: Based on all this trauma that he said he went through,

791
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:45,359
Speaker 2: it seems like it would do him.

792
00:40:45,360 --> 00:40:47,759
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, that's what I'm saying. I'm like, I'm like,

793
00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:50,280
Speaker 1: at least explain yourself, which.

794
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 2: Maybe he does. Maybe he can't. Right, let's finish the story.

795
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 2: Let's seelet's let's hear.

796
00:40:54,320 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 1: I said I needed to think about it. I told

797
00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:59,400
Speaker 1: him later that night that i'd accept the compromise if

798
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:02,240
Speaker 1: he was willing to do one therapy session.

799
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:05,360
Speaker 2: Fair, that's fair. At least that's still fair.

800
00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 1: On Sunday morning, he told me that he would not

801
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 1: be willing to go to therapy and asked that we

802
00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 1: go to dinner. We went to a local diner and

803
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:20,720
Speaker 1: he basically talked about ending things for the relationship. Whoa

804
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:22,760
Speaker 1: switching it back around?

805
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:26,080
Speaker 2: He apologized for ending things this way and said that

806
00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 2: he knew he wasn't exactly being reasonable, but he's doing

807
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 2: what he feels like he needs to do. Wow.

808
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 1: I basically said, that's up to him. We wished each

809
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:39,120
Speaker 1: other the best. He gave me a parting hug, and

810
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 1: I went on my way.

811
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 3: Damn.

812
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 2: So yeah.

813
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 1: Three years of commitment for this kind of sucks.

814
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:51,840
Speaker 2: Have a good day. Damn that sucks. Dude, that sucks.

815
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:55,600
Speaker 2: I still don't believe him.

816
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:58,319
Speaker 1: I still don't believe him, Riley, I could finally ask

817
00:41:58,320 --> 00:41:59,480
Speaker 1: you about the story because it's over.

818
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:01,320
Speaker 2: What do you thing? Do you do? You believe? I

819
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 2: think rarely believes.

820
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:03,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, I believe it.

821
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 4: But like like Bro's gonna lock to work through with

822
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 4: Like he's like he keeps telling himself that he's a

823
00:42:08,719 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 4: bad person even though like he's helping a lot of

824
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 4: people and taking a significant amount of time on the

825
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:15,120
Speaker 4: weekends helping people.

826
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:18,760
Speaker 2: Like I think he's doing some shit on the side. Dude,

827
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:20,880
Speaker 2: he's doing something.

828
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, what if it also he could be doing something

829
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 1: on the side. What if he did something like really

830
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: really really terrible, Like I don't know, like you know.

831
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:34,280
Speaker 4: What's giving what it's giving Batman because Batman Bruce Wayne

832
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:35,440
Speaker 4: feels like he's a bad person.

833
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:37,920
Speaker 3: So his form of Batman is volunteering.

834
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:39,600
Speaker 2: Does Bruce Wayne feel like he's a bad person?

835
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 3: I mean he feels like he has the white of

836
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:42,359
Speaker 3: the sitting on the ship.

837
00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:44,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like he's he's different than I feeling

838
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 2: like you're a bad person. That's true.

839
00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:49,160
Speaker 1: They they they're not the same thing, but they live

840
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 1: in they live in a similar arena. I feel like

841
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 1: where he's like, I am compelled to that that I

842
00:42:55,200 --> 00:42:57,800
Speaker 1: have to do this. Yeah, well it might and not maybe,

843
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 1: like guilt is probably the bark, like you need the

844
00:43:01,520 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 1: guilt or some people have guilt as a fire that proformed.

845
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:06,320
Speaker 2: Maybe it's like so, so Riley and I were watching

846
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 2: the Mister Rogers documentary together the other day and I

847
00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:14,520
Speaker 2: fell asleep like three times, but I did finish it eventually,

848
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 2: and Riley, I'm like, Riley, what happened? And He's like, well, yeah,

849
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 2: mister Rodgers kind of got mean like halfway through, and

850
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:24,320
Speaker 2: he's silly. Well he said what he's what he framed

851
00:43:24,360 --> 00:43:26,919
Speaker 2: it as like determined, Like he was like he saw

852
00:43:26,960 --> 00:43:29,120
Speaker 2: there was just so much wrong with the world and

853
00:43:29,160 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 2: he was way more determined to make sure the world

854
00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:36,759
Speaker 2: was good, and in trying to do that, he was

855
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 2: like a little bit more mean and gruff. Is that accurate, Riley?

856
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 3: Yeah?

857
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, So like he was trying to be stern to

858
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 1: like like I need to like make this happen, like

859
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:48,800
Speaker 1: I need to execute the mission.

860
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 2: And so that wow, because.

861
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 4: He was like more like unforgiving towards other programs and

862
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:56,239
Speaker 4: was like like we got to.

863
00:43:56,160 --> 00:43:59,400
Speaker 2: Get to Transformers. Shit, he hates Transformers.

864
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 1: Oh right, because that's not like that's just like, oh,

865
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 1: this is like violence quote unquote other things like this

866
00:44:06,360 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 1: isn't like we need to love each other, we need

867
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:09,040
Speaker 1: to understand each other.

868
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 2: Wow, he wants all of the programming to be kind

869
00:44:12,239 --> 00:44:14,080
Speaker 2: of around that kind of interesting.

870
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:15,640
Speaker 1: So and then he came to like became like a

871
00:44:15,640 --> 00:44:18,080
Speaker 1: low key, little little ruthless on that.

872
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:21,960
Speaker 2: Wow. Fascinating and so maybe that's kind of what he

873
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 2: is going to.

874
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think I'm gonna I'm gonna say

875
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:26,960
Speaker 1: I still think put down in the comments.

876
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you think he mean Batman is Opie?

877
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:33,360
Speaker 1: Batman is Opie still lying about something, probably cheating? Let

878
00:44:33,440 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 1: us know in the comments what you think below. I

879
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 1: think I think so I agree with you, It just.

880
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:43,160
Speaker 2: Doesn't Maybe he thinks so differently from us that it's

881
00:44:43,239 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 2: it makes sense in his brain, but none of what

882
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:47,959
Speaker 2: he did made sense to me. Yeah, So I would

883
00:44:47,960 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 2: love to know what you guys think. Put your answers

884
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:54,760
Speaker 2: in the comments. And Johnny Bahami, I got another story

885
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 2: for you.

886
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:58,640
Speaker 1: Uh, well, I have another story for you because it's

887
00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:03,360
Speaker 1: okay story shit boom, okay. So we were talking about,

888
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 1: you know, if if he had one of your gonads

889
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:08,840
Speaker 1: pop out, you know, is that is I've heard this.

890
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:10,879
Speaker 2: I know. I don't think Riley.

891
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:12,600
Speaker 1: Has, so I don't I don't think. I don't think

892
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 1: you know what this is. So one day I'm driving

893
00:45:16,560 --> 00:45:19,479
Speaker 1: with Matt, my my good friend, Matt, friend of friend

894
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 1: of the house, and it's me and my girlfriend Nima

895
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,319
Speaker 1: and Matt, and we're driving along.

896
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 2: All of a sudden, he goes and I'm like, what

897
00:45:29,760 --> 00:45:31,799
Speaker 2: is going on? I'm like asking, like, what's wrong? What's wrong?

898
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:33,920
Speaker 1: I I make a U turn so I can go,

899
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 1: like pull off to the side. I'm like, something is

900
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:38,680
Speaker 1: terrible long he's hurt. He just saw someone got hurt.

901
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: Like something is terribly wrong. He's still screaming. I make

902
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:44,799
Speaker 1: the U turn, I pull to the side. We come

903
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 1: to a stop. He's still screaming. And finally, after like

904
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:51,360
Speaker 1: another ten seconds of like being stopped and me turning around,

905
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:51,880
Speaker 1: me like what is it?

906
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 2: What is it? What is it?

907
00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:55,520
Speaker 5: He's like that girl in the corner, she just lifted

908
00:45:55,600 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 5: up her shirt and should her booby and I was like,

909
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:02,279
Speaker 5: I only gitimately thought you like broke your leg or

910
00:46:02,320 --> 00:46:03,479
Speaker 5: someone like got hurt.

911
00:46:03,560 --> 00:46:06,600
Speaker 2: Thought he was gonna like squash his nuts or something

912
00:46:06,640 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 2: on that, Yeah.

913
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 1: Something like that, Like, but no, he literally saw this

914
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:15,399
Speaker 1: girl just like boom flashed everyone on the street real

915
00:46:15,480 --> 00:46:18,359
Speaker 1: quick for like a second, and he just absolutely lost

916
00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:20,759
Speaker 1: his mind. Wow, And then we just died laughing for

917
00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:26,360
Speaker 1: more boobies that listen. He's just so enthusiastic, you know that.

918
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:29,320
Speaker 1: It's why I love him. He's just enthusiastic about everything,

919
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:33,840
Speaker 1: either positive or negative. But Sam, I think you have

920
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 1: another store for me, don't you.

921
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:37,120
Speaker 2: I do. Let's do it, Let's do it.