WEBVTT - I don't want to lose her! 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.080 My greatest fear is losing my wife. When I was single, 0:00:04.200 --> 0:00:07.000 I didn't have any fear. I just do anything crazy, 0:00:07.040 --> 0:00:09.479 why I'll be out there. But ever since she came 0:00:09.520 --> 0:00:11.800 into my life, she's made me a better man and 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:14.400 she brings out the best of me. She's a shining 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:17.239 light in this dark world. I always said I don't 0:00:17.280 --> 0:00:19.760 need anybody, and then she came into my life and 0:00:19.800 --> 0:00:22.479 I couldn't have been more wrong. She means everything to me. 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:24.960 A lot of people say that they couldn't live without 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:27.639 their significant other, but the truth is we can't. However, 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:31.120 I can't imagine. I don't want to imagine life without her. 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:47.040 Very special occasion on the podcast to have my wife, 0:00:47.520 --> 0:00:50.559 my favorite guest, my favorite returning guest. You haven't been 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:52.400 on the podcast in a long time. I have not. 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:57.000 It's good to be back. Do I sound different when 0:00:57.000 --> 0:00:58.720 I'm talking on a podcast than I do when I'm 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:03.240 talking to you? No? Okay, good, no proof right here? 0:01:03.800 --> 0:01:05.959 What you hear from me on this podcast is the 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:08.840 way I talk. This is true. Okay. We're going to 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:13.880 answer some questions with Amber Smith Amber Emily Smith on Instagram, 0:01:15.120 --> 0:01:17.479 more famous than I am and every meet and greet 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:20.000 I do. People are like, I came to see Amber 0:01:20.080 --> 0:01:24.080 is Amber here? And I usually say no, I know, 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:25.360 and I didn't get to I didn't get to hug 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:27.479 a lot of people last week, but I was there. 0:01:27.640 --> 0:01:29.920 We've been torn like crazy. In fact, when this podcast 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:35.119 comes out, we will have just gotten back from Illinois, Ohio, 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:38.840 and Michigan for the first time since the pandemic. Getting 0:01:38.840 --> 0:01:41.880 back to those three states. Yeah, and I feel like 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:43.600 going to those states is going to be like kicking 0:01:43.600 --> 0:01:46.640 over an ant pile where they're just ready. Yeah, they've 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:50.080 been contained for too long. Yeah, I know, I know that. Yeah, 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.400 they're just gonna be insane. And then after that we're 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:55.560 it's just touring has been crazy, So you're going to 0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:58.440 be super busy through the fall. Yeah, yeah, which is 0:01:58.680 --> 0:02:02.160 which is exciting and something that we missed and we 0:02:02.200 --> 0:02:04.480 need to get back out and do. And I was 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:06.280 telling I was gonna tell you, and I'll tell you 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:10.280 on this podcast. I want to set up a daily 0:02:10.440 --> 0:02:13.240 FaceTime because we FaceTime a lot with the kids when 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:15.799 I'm gone, but I want to set up a time. Okay, 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:19.240 so it's like four fifteen we FaceTime every day. That 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:22.800 way we always know like, oh, it's on the schedule. Yeah, 0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:24.920 we need to put in the calendar. Sometimes we'll call 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:27.639 and we'll miss each other, you know, so yeah, let's 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:31.880 do that. Okay, perfect. So we're answering questions. I'm going 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:33.799 to take off my bracelets right because I think they're 0:02:33.800 --> 0:02:36.960 making noise. We're going to answer questions from you guys. 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:41.040 If you have anything at all, email Granger Smith Podcast 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:44.280 at gmail dot com. Could be about any subject, and 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:46.400 it could be for any of my guests. For you 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:50.240 regular listeners, thank you, and you've heard many many of 0:02:50.280 --> 0:02:53.079 the repeat guests come through here, like Bernie and Chad 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:57.040 and Amber's one of them, Christians one of them, Parker's 0:02:57.120 --> 0:03:00.520 one of them, Tyler, And if you like one guest 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:03.080 more than another, it helps me. If you comment below, 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:05.720 I like them all, and you're my favorite, You're my favorite? 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:09.480 Who's your favorite? Besides you? Can you even say that's 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:11.960 like you're going to really? No? I really love you 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:14.400 and Bernie together, Yeah, And I think it's just the 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:16.399 history that I'll have and the rapport that you guys 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:19.200 have together. I really enjoy you and Chad together, So 0:03:19.360 --> 0:03:21.640 I think, but then how do you how do I 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:24.160 say not my brother in laws. Like I just I 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:25.920 love all the guests, but I love the dynamic that 0:03:28.600 --> 0:03:32.480 I love the dynamic that you and Bernie bring together. 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:34.560 Am I the first female? Am I the only female? 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:37.840 First and only? Yeah? Maybe we should have some more 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:42.080 females for you. Yeah, maybe so, maybe so so. Email 0:03:42.120 --> 0:03:44.560 Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. We're going to dive 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:49.680 into that here. Almost a race one. No, don't race it, okay. 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:54.280 So I'm gonna start kind of easy, okay, and then 0:03:54.280 --> 0:03:56.200 we'll get hard. And I have no idea what any 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:57.800 of these say. No. By the way, none of my 0:03:57.800 --> 0:04:00.760 guests are ever prepared for these. We don't. I keep notes. 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:04.040 This is like we're sitting around a campfire and there's 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:06.240 a third person and you say, Hey, I have a 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:09.000 question something that's been going on. Kind to ask you, 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:11.800 and it could be about any subject. I usually start 0:04:11.800 --> 0:04:14.520 with the little soft ones. I've read these maybe once 0:04:14.720 --> 0:04:17.039 just to put them into a category, but I haven't 0:04:17.040 --> 0:04:21.800 studied or anything else. This one's called Beard, says hey, 0:04:21.920 --> 0:04:24.360 Granger and Amber. My name is Kaylee. I think that's 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:28.200 it's k A. L. E Y Kaylee. I'm from Magnolia, 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:31.360 Texas and a member of the Fight in Texas. AUGI, 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:35.479 class of twenty seventeen, says, I love your music and 0:04:35.480 --> 0:04:37.880 your family as a Christian. I love y'all being so 0:04:37.920 --> 0:04:41.560 open with your faith and having discussions so regularly about Christianity. 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:45.760 Digging the new album by Boy Baseball is my current favorite. 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:49.200 Lincoln too, Yeah, so, Kaylee says, So my question is, 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:52.400 has Granger ever had a beard? And have you ever 0:04:52.440 --> 0:04:54.479 tried to grow on amber? How would you feel about 0:04:54.520 --> 0:04:56.760 Granger with a beard? With all of your brothers so 0:04:56.880 --> 0:04:59.720 clean shaven, I feel like it's it might be really interesting. 0:04:59.720 --> 0:05:02.599 Maybe photoshop one to get an idea. Thanks for the 0:05:02.600 --> 0:05:06.640 time to read my question. Blessings peace, Kaylee. Thanks Kaylee. 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:09.159 I don't think I've ever seen you with an actual 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:11.159 beard beard. I mean you used to do that no 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:13.440 shave November and that would be the longest that it 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:16.480 ever got. But it's still never been like a beard. 0:05:16.839 --> 0:05:18.880 I just can't I can't grow a really thick beard. 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:22.640 And now when I grow anything, there's like patches of 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:24.719 gray in there. Yeah, so I like the then it 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:28.320 just looks like more patches. So Tyler has the least 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:30.920 facial hair. He has the most Native American in him. 0:05:30.960 --> 0:05:32.840 At least that's what my grandmother would tell us, is 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:35.320 if you had the more patches you have, the more 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:38.720 Native American blood you have, and she's a quarter of Cherokee. 0:05:39.560 --> 0:05:41.680 Comment below. If that's a myth, I think it is. 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.760 You just look at Native American heritage and culture and 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:48.320 their genetics. They don't have beard. They don't, and so 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:52.359 some of the Scandinavian genetics have heavy beards, and so 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:55.599 it's whatever, whatever gene pool you get, yeah, you know, 0:05:56.080 --> 0:05:59.480 and Americans were all of such a mix. Yeah, I 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:01.440 don't think it bother me if you had a beard. 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:03.919 I just I don't think I can envision you with 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:07.839 a beard. There's that in between little stubble that hurts, 0:06:08.279 --> 0:06:10.240 you know. It's like it's either super short or it's 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:12.120 a little bit longer. But that in between stubble is 0:06:12.160 --> 0:06:14.320 what hurts. And it bothers the kids, like he's always 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:16.400 loving on them and kissing on their cheeks and stuff, 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:18.599 and it always leaves little red marks, yeah, on their face. 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:22.120 But no, he's never had a beard. Pastor Chad just 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:23.960 texted me he must know that I'm sitting here talking 0:06:24.000 --> 0:06:27.200 only getting jealous. Thank you, Kaylee, Thanks for the question. 0:06:27.279 --> 0:06:30.000 I'm going to dig into another softball for you. How 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:33.080 many podcasts Amber have you done besides me? Oh gosh, 0:06:33.760 --> 0:06:38.080 that's not a question. I'm asking you that question. Maybe ten? 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:42.120 How many podcasts have you done where you have to 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:46.520 talk about your river story? All of them except every 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:49.760 single one? Yeah? Yeah, I think maybe ten to ten 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:53.080 or eleven I think I've done with other people. Yeah. Yeah, 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:55.120 we're going to try to turn your Rise with Amber 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:57.280 on YouTube. I'm going to turn that into a podcast. 0:06:57.800 --> 0:07:01.240 I'm at episode like sixty two or something. That's crazy. 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:04.479 That's crazy. Yeah, here's another one that since subject line 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:08.160 is kids chores, at what age did your kids start 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:10.240 doing chores? And what was it? I grew up and 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:12.720 still live on a dairy farm in central Iowa, So 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:15.360 chores started at a young age. For me, chores started 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:18.800 at age four hatching chicks, and shortly after that it 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.960 was bottle feeding calves, and that led to milking cows. 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:26.200 This is from Love Dairy Cows. Oh okay, I know, 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:31.280 Love dairy couse. Yeah, so our kids do chores, but 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:35.120 we don't have It's not as regimented as we needed 0:07:35.160 --> 0:07:36.800 to be. We were just talking about that today we 0:07:36.840 --> 0:07:38.840 actually London and I just made their chore listing in 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:42.760 today because we kind of get sidetracked. They do chor chores, yes, 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:46.000 but the problem is, as you know, those of you 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:48.520 that are parents, it becomes a chore for the parent 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:51.520 to come up with a choor list because they're not 0:07:51.800 --> 0:07:57.240 really helping out the homestead. Yeah, they can't a little bit, 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:01.120 but they're not really really contributing to the survival of 0:08:01.160 --> 0:08:03.760 the homestead. They're just doing meaningless things because we know 0:08:03.800 --> 0:08:05.400 that they need to have chores and they need to 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:08.200 be busy. Yeah, so so far we have We're living 0:08:08.200 --> 0:08:09.400 in the RV in the barn, so we have a 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:12.120 lot of condensation that drips from the RV, so Lincoln 0:08:12.120 --> 0:08:14.720 when Lincoln Stores is dumping the buckets of condensation that 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:17.160 fill up. They have just five gallon buckets for a 0:08:17.200 --> 0:08:19.600 seven year old. Those are heavy. We have them feed 0:08:19.600 --> 0:08:23.640 all the animals that's the cat all dogs, chickens, goats, 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:32.280 chicken water, dog water, catwater. They do laundry most of 0:08:32.280 --> 0:08:33.679 the time. I'll fold it and then they have to 0:08:33.720 --> 0:08:35.439 go put it all away. If we need them to 0:08:35.440 --> 0:08:37.400 add an extra chore, then they have to actually do 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:39.440 the laundry, to fold it all themselves, put it all 0:08:39.440 --> 0:08:44.120 away themselves. Lincoln likes to clean the toilet, which is weird, 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:47.120 but we get those little scrubbers that turn blue, so 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:51.400 he enjoys that. So I'm like, okay, we used to 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:52.839 have him take out the trash in the ARV. We've 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:54.480 kind of slacked on that, but we wrote that down 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:56.319 again today. We'll get that when we move into the house. 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:58.040 We'll get into taking off the trash. They help me 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:01.440 in the garden, vacuum the RV. They do a lot 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:05.000 of things. And so when they're in school, we have 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:08.080 a thirty minute deal. Yeah, so it has to be 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:11.280 a solid thirty minutes of work four screen. Some of 0:09:11.320 --> 0:09:12.960 you might hear that and be like, that's not very long. 0:09:13.280 --> 0:09:16.760 But for a kid, solid working, there's no breaks, there's 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:19.280 no taking a rest, there's no I got to go 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:21.840 get a drink of water. It's like we'll start the 0:09:21.880 --> 0:09:25.040 clock and you have to work hard for thirty minutes straight. 0:09:25.880 --> 0:09:28.320 And that's on top of the normal all the stuff 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:30.320 you said dump in the buckets, that's on top of 0:09:30.360 --> 0:09:33.360 all that. But the thirty minute chore is on top 0:09:33.400 --> 0:09:35.520 of all the house George it's something we think of 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:38.679 that day, and that's what you're talking about. That's harder 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:41.040 to think of. Yeah, like it was during the whole 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:43.360 ice storm and stuff, we had them stacking firewood and 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:46.600 stacking firewood was every day for you know, because we 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:50.800 had so much firewood, or pulling brush piles, pulling brush piles, 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:56.360 trim and think trim and trees. Yeah. So yeah, that's 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:58.959 a long way to answer that. It's a work in progress. 0:09:58.960 --> 0:10:01.280 But our kids do chores every single day. At what 0:10:01.360 --> 0:10:07.320 age did they start this email? Ask? Maybe five? Five? 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:10.160 Five years old? And then as they get older, the 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:13.600 chores will get heavier and longer and they could both 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:16.840 drive the ranger now. And that's on top of little 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:18.680 things like making their bed and cleaning their cleaning up 0:10:18.720 --> 0:10:20.719 their area and stuff like that. Yeah, that's stuff like 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:22.800 that brush your teeth. That just has that has to 0:10:22.840 --> 0:10:26.920 happen anyway. Yeah, now, Amber, I'm gonna throw it to you. 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:30.320 I'm gonna throw you some of these subject lines. We 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:33.079 have What should I do? We have dating as an adult? 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:37.080 I have personal problem? Please read me. We have we 0:10:37.160 --> 0:10:41.079 have Hey, I need some advice, we have write a book, 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:45.520 question mark podcast, question my greatest fear A question for 0:10:45.679 --> 0:10:48.400 amber they need to stick out to you. I gotta 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:50.200 do that one. But the one that stood out to 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:53.120 me just a second ago was no, you can't remember 0:10:53.920 --> 0:10:59.880 good down A personal problem. Personal problem exclamation point, yeah, 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.360 it says, Hey, mister Smith. My name is Ethan Vargo. 0:11:02.440 --> 0:11:05.600 I'm fifteen years old. I live in Ninevah, Indiana. I 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:08.200 love your music. I love listening to your podcast. I 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:12.280 have listened to every single one multiple times. Wow. I 0:11:12.280 --> 0:11:15.120 don't watch YouTube, so unfortunately I can't watch your channels, 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:19.480 but I bet they are great. Thanks buddy. I turn 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:21.720 up your music on the radio when I'm working and 0:11:21.800 --> 0:11:23.880 all of my guy friends love it too. My question 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:27.480 is about my personal life. I've been looking for the 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:30.520 right girl for me for years now. At first, I 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:33.400 liked being single because it gave me a little more freedom, 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:37.040 but it's become unbearably lonely. The thing is, I don't 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:38.880 want to end up settling down with someone that I 0:11:38.920 --> 0:11:41.319 don't really love, and I can't seem to find someone. 0:11:41.960 --> 0:11:44.400 I've done my best to stay optimistic about the future, 0:11:44.520 --> 0:11:47.480 but now I'm doubting if there's someone out there at all. 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:51.679 Let alone actually meant for me, how could I remain faithful, 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:54.640 how could I stay hopeful? And how can I maximize 0:11:54.640 --> 0:11:57.400 my chances of finding someone I really love. I hear 0:11:57.440 --> 0:12:00.600 all the time about people finding their wife their true 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:02.960 love at a really young age, and it's hard for 0:12:03.000 --> 0:12:05.440 me to stay optimistic about my future with all of 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:07.920 that happening around me. I know it's a hard question 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:10.640 to answered, but you always know what to say, and 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:12.680 you have great wisdom and knowledge about life. I feel 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:15.160 like this question is super important to me to be answered, 0:12:15.400 --> 0:12:17.720 especially by you. I also want to be clear that 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:20.680 I'm not saying my life is bad, and I know 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:24.280 that compared to some this is very minuscule. I would 0:12:24.280 --> 0:12:25.880 be honored if you help me with this. Thank you 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:29.080 so much for your time. Ye yee, Ethan, it's hard 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:31.680 to be a fifteen year old. Fifteen year old riding that. 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:33.520 It's hard. I was reading that thinking, Wow, this is 0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:36.880 very in depth for a fifty teens. Yeah, thinking that 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:39.960 is so many in their like early thirties, late late twenties, 0:12:40.000 --> 0:12:43.000 early thirties, who's really searching? So I'm Ethan, I'm going 0:12:43.080 --> 0:12:45.679 to take it. Yeah, I'm gonna say, I'm gonna I'm 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:50.360 gonna You're gonna be nice to him, aren't you. I mean, 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:52.839 I'm not gonna be rude, but I'll be honest. Okay, Well, 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:55.160 I'm gonna start at the end and just kind of 0:12:55.200 --> 0:13:01.480 sum up that he said. He said to me, He said, 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:02.840 I know this is a hard question to answer, but 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:04.640 you always know what to say, and you have great 0:13:04.640 --> 0:13:09.400 wisdom and knowledge about life. Thank you in some subjects maybe, 0:13:09.679 --> 0:13:11.320 but he said, I would be honored if you help me. 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:13.600 So I'm going to take that. I'm going to take 0:13:13.640 --> 0:13:16.640 that that you that you set me up for this, 0:13:16.880 --> 0:13:23.480 and I'm just gonna say, Ethan, chill out, chill out, dude. Yeah, Bro, 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:29.040 you're fifteen. That is really old for a kid. It's 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:31.560 really young for an adult. Right, You're just in that 0:13:31.640 --> 0:13:36.360 in between age. You're really really old mature, very smart 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:41.600 kid and a very young, immature adult. You're right in between. 0:13:42.520 --> 0:13:46.400 And because of that, buddy, you say, there's people around 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:50.320 you finding their true love very young. I don't know them. 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:53.360 I don't know anybody that met their true love when 0:13:53.360 --> 0:13:56.079 they're fifteen. No. I know I know one guy and 0:13:56.200 --> 0:13:58.600 went to college with him and he's now divorced. Yes, 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:00.280 And I know a couple people who might have they 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:02.520 might have met who they're now married to at a 0:14:02.559 --> 0:14:05.760 super young age, but they went through heck and back 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:08.640 and they're still going through ups and downs. So while 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:11.840 you could possibly find your true love at fifteen, you 0:14:11.880 --> 0:14:14.560 guys are going to change and grow so much over 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:17.760 the next five, ten, fifteen years that you're going to 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:20.040 have to go through a lot of battles together. And 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:22.800 you don't. I mean, I know you probably feel like 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:25.400 you know who you are right now, but you're still 0:14:25.400 --> 0:14:28.600 developing into into who you're meant to be, and you're 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:30.320 going to change so much. And I get the feeling 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:32.520 of feeling lonely or wanting like a companionship, or wanting 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:34.120 just to go to the movies with somebody or something 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:36.040 like that. But I don't feel like you should be 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:38.800 searching for your one true love right now. There's so 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:40.920 much that you need to do for you as a 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:45.560 fifteen year old. Yeah, you say, you say that you're 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:49.360 unbearably lonely, and you say you've been looking for the 0:14:49.440 --> 0:14:53.640 right girl for years, which you're fifteen. I can't imagine 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:57.000 if you're twelve doing this. Maybe you're just a true 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:59.520 romantic at heart. And I love that. But that's and 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:02.240 I'm trying not to be rude. I'm trying to Ethan 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:04.680 here's the deal. I'm speaking to you like I would 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:08.840 speak to me at fifteen, and I remember, yeah, or 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:12.320 my children, and you know, I remember being fifteen. And 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:15.000 it's kind of like you have horse blinders on and 0:15:15.120 --> 0:15:17.120 you can't look right or left. You only see right 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:20.520 there what's in front of you, and everything seems, in 0:15:20.560 --> 0:15:25.200 your words, unbearably lonely. And so you're asking to maximize 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:29.160 your chances. Are fine, if you were forty, this would 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:33.880 be this would be a legit email. But you need 0:15:33.880 --> 0:15:36.880 a double down on your guy friends, double down on 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:40.840 maybe playing a sport or some kind of really in 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:46.160 depth hobby. Did he say anything about hobbies besides working 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:53.680 and turning up the radio. Yeah. I think I think 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:56.320 you're missing something. I think there's something in your life 0:15:56.920 --> 0:15:59.400 that you don't have right now, and you're taking it 0:15:59.440 --> 0:16:01.600 out on the idea that you're just missing your love 0:16:01.600 --> 0:16:04.320 of your life. The odds of you finding the love 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:07.480 of your life now are like point zero zero zero 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:11.480 zero zero one percent. You're not going to find her. 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:14.280 You're not going to find her at fifteen, and if 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:19.920 you do, it's a rocky road ahead. Imagine you find 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:24.160 the love of your life now, and imagine where you're 0:16:24.200 --> 0:16:27.120 going to be in seven years and you're twenty two 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:29.720 and you're with the same girl, and you guys, have 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:33.640 been through this journey, and then you're still just twenty two. 0:16:34.240 --> 0:16:36.760 I just I don't see the good in this. I 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:39.120 don't see the good in this desire. And I see 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:43.440 that you are missing something else. Yeah, like you said, 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:45.640 double down on your friends. I mean, I think it's 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:50.000 a feeling of wanting friendship and companionship and someone to 0:16:50.040 --> 0:16:52.440 do things with or experience certain things of life with. 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:56.000 So I think that may be where we should focus. Yep, 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:59.760 don't don't look for a girlfriend. You will find God 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:01.600 will put someone in your life. You will find who 0:17:01.640 --> 0:17:02.840 you are meant to be with. It doesn't have to 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:04.760 be at fifteen years old. So give yourself some time 0:17:04.880 --> 0:17:07.320 and just like like Granger said, just chill out a 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:09.600 little bit, pump the brakes a little bit. And we're 0:17:09.640 --> 0:17:12.320 totally not trying to be rude by any means, But 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:15.200 you have so much life ahead of you. Thank you, Ethan, 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:17.280 and thank you for writing that's been in my cue 0:17:17.280 --> 0:17:20.760 list for a long time that email, and Chad and 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:23.240 Bernie and those guys didn't pick it. So I'm glad 0:17:23.240 --> 0:17:25.520 we got it today because I've been wanting to read that. 0:17:25.560 --> 0:17:27.600 I've been wanting to tell you that, Ethan's ever since 0:17:27.640 --> 0:17:30.600 you sent it. So anyone else that's around that age, 0:17:30.640 --> 0:17:32.240 I get a lot of those kind of emails that 0:17:32.320 --> 0:17:35.480 same age, thinking the same thing. So anyone else please 0:17:35.520 --> 0:17:38.120 apply that to you. You just don't need to find 0:17:38.119 --> 0:17:41.320 a love of your life, and there's more bad that 0:17:41.359 --> 0:17:45.160 can come out of it right now than good. Yeah. 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:47.520 How about the one that says write a book? Okay, 0:17:48.760 --> 0:17:50.840 it says, have you and your wife ever thought about 0:17:50.880 --> 0:17:53.760 writing a book together about your life, your take on 0:17:53.840 --> 0:17:56.399 at the kids, struggles you've dealt with and you're dealing 0:17:56.400 --> 0:17:58.840 with since the loss of your son, God, et cetera. 0:17:59.160 --> 0:18:01.360 It'd be really inspired story, and I believe it would 0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:04.399 touch a lot of hearts and people. I would definitely 0:18:04.400 --> 0:18:07.600 read it because I love hearing people's stories, the raw, unfiltered, 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:10.600 just honest and genuine life stories. I haven't dugged too 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:13.359 far into your podcast yet, just starting to listen to 0:18:13.400 --> 0:18:16.480 them as I drive to school. Maybe you've already been 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:19.359 asked this, I don't know, but hopefully you'll eventually write 0:18:19.359 --> 0:18:22.359 one thank you. It doesn't have a name on here, 0:18:22.400 --> 0:18:24.600 so I won't read the name of the email, but 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:27.119 thank you so much for writing thank you for the question. 0:18:28.040 --> 0:18:30.719 It's definitely a thought we've thought about. Shall we get 0:18:30.760 --> 0:18:32.960 asked this quite a bit? Yeah, I don't know if 0:18:33.240 --> 0:18:37.240 I've ever answered it specifically on this podcast. I've definitely 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:40.520 thought about writing book and have dabbled in starting it, 0:18:40.640 --> 0:18:43.199 and then then I start thinking of other things and 0:18:43.240 --> 0:18:47.600 write other things. But it's definitely in my future. What 0:18:47.680 --> 0:18:53.760 about you. Absolutely I love the idea of writing our 0:18:53.800 --> 0:18:56.080 stories both coming from my own our own perspective. So 0:18:56.080 --> 0:18:58.160 I've read a couple of books where the wife will 0:18:58.160 --> 0:19:00.000 have one chapter, then the husband is in the next chapter, 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:02.560 and it's just really cool to see their different perspectives 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:05.800 and their different moments in time and read it from 0:19:05.880 --> 0:19:07.760 their eyes. I guess so I think that would be 0:19:07.800 --> 0:19:09.920 something cool, But I just don't know how we would 0:19:10.000 --> 0:19:11.760 mesh that together with our whole lives, or if it 0:19:11.760 --> 0:19:14.960 would just be our marriage and what we've gone through 0:19:15.640 --> 0:19:18.080 and our faith. We've even talked about like doing a 0:19:18.119 --> 0:19:21.760 devotional before, like you and I doing a devotional or something. 0:19:21.800 --> 0:19:25.160 But and that just reminded me for some reason. Ethan, 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:27.320 if you're still listening, if you didn't get mad and 0:19:27.359 --> 0:19:30.679 delete the podcast yet. I met Amber at thirty and 0:19:30.720 --> 0:19:33.240 you were twenty eight. Twenty eight, so I was double 0:19:33.280 --> 0:19:36.800 your age. Yeah, and we both went through a lot 0:19:36.880 --> 0:19:42.399 of stuff before that, So just be patient and relationship wise, 0:19:42.440 --> 0:19:47.440 before Amber, none of it was good. So, yeah, were 0:19:47.440 --> 0:19:50.320 you going to talk about your book now though? I can? Yeah, 0:19:50.359 --> 0:19:52.600 do it. I don't think you've ever brought that up. Yeah, 0:19:52.600 --> 0:19:54.800 I haven't haven't released this info yet, So this is 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:58.720 kind of good intel. After we LOSTRIV, I had a 0:19:58.760 --> 0:20:00.439 really good friend of mine who I met years and 0:20:00.480 --> 0:20:03.760 years ago at a mom's club here in Texas. She 0:20:04.960 --> 0:20:07.399 is a writer, and she wrote this really beautiful poem 0:20:07.720 --> 0:20:10.679 about RIV and about heaven, and I just read it 0:20:10.760 --> 0:20:13.680 and I just had all these visions of pictures coming 0:20:13.720 --> 0:20:16.399 to life. And so she and I joined forces. We 0:20:16.480 --> 0:20:19.159 kind of tweaked some things, and we turned this poem 0:20:19.200 --> 0:20:22.560 into a children's book, and so we've We've got this amazing, 0:20:22.640 --> 0:20:28.000 incredible artist and she's she's done all these all the 0:20:28.040 --> 0:20:30.520 spreads it's almost completely done. I'm in the phase of 0:20:30.680 --> 0:20:34.480 needing to purchase it now. I haven't even released the title. 0:20:34.600 --> 0:20:36.920 Should we release the title or no? We could say 0:20:36.920 --> 0:20:40.960 that it's it's it's based on something that River said 0:20:40.960 --> 0:20:45.760 one time, but it's it's for children. It's beautiful and 0:20:45.800 --> 0:20:49.760 I'm excited to release that this year. We're almost completely ready. 0:20:49.880 --> 0:20:53.359 So it's just a poem turned into a book. So 0:20:53.960 --> 0:20:58.879 that well, that fully answers this question. Then yeah, is 0:20:58.920 --> 0:21:00.640 there another one that start? We have time for one 0:21:00.640 --> 0:21:03.720 more before break? Yes, you say we have. Here's miscarriage 0:21:03.720 --> 0:21:07.200 and family mental health, a question for Amber. I like 0:21:07.280 --> 0:21:09.919 the question for Amber, and then maybe miscarrigon family's two 0:21:10.040 --> 0:21:12.560 question for Amber right now before the break, will take 0:21:12.600 --> 0:21:17.040 a break and do some more. Says hello, y'all, I'm 0:21:17.080 --> 0:21:20.159 Brad Big Jay Johnson from Land or Texas. Shout out 0:21:20.200 --> 0:21:22.320 to Land or right down the road for us. My 0:21:22.440 --> 0:21:25.240 question is for Amber. Is there any way to get 0:21:25.240 --> 0:21:29.040 the River Kelly Fund on Amazon's smile. I give the 0:21:29.080 --> 0:21:32.680 Texas Firewalkers now, but I would change if I could 0:21:32.720 --> 0:21:36.800 do the River Kelly Fund. Ps to Granger. I met 0:21:36.800 --> 0:21:38.560 you at the Dixie Chicken. I can't remember what year, 0:21:38.600 --> 0:21:41.040 but I was with my dad and other firefighters. My 0:21:41.119 --> 0:21:46.560 dad teaches at the Text Fire School tee X Fire School, 0:21:46.960 --> 0:21:49.080 So we get a lot of questions about this. People 0:21:49.160 --> 0:21:52.240 want to give to the River Fund through Amazon Smile, 0:21:52.280 --> 0:21:57.800 through the Facebook, like you can do fundraisers through Facebook, 0:21:57.920 --> 0:22:00.359 and we are The River Kelly Fund is housed under 0:22:00.480 --> 0:22:03.360 another five oh one C three organization out of Nashville, 0:22:03.760 --> 0:22:05.920 so it's really hard to find the River Kelly Fund 0:22:06.640 --> 0:22:10.159 set up that way. So it's housed under the Community 0:22:10.960 --> 0:22:13.840 Foundation of Middle Tennessee. So you might be able to 0:22:13.840 --> 0:22:16.320 search that on Amazon Smile. You have to search that 0:22:16.560 --> 0:22:18.560 and then you would have to put in River Kelly 0:22:18.560 --> 0:22:20.240 Fund is where the funds would go. So I don't 0:22:20.240 --> 0:22:21.760 really know if that would be said if we could 0:22:21.800 --> 0:22:24.320 do that through Amazon at this time, I can look 0:22:24.359 --> 0:22:27.640 into it. But you can do that through Facebook through 0:22:27.640 --> 0:22:31.000 the Facebook donations if you search Community Foundation of Middle 0:22:31.000 --> 0:22:33.879 Tennessee and then just make sure whenever you write it 0:22:33.880 --> 0:22:36.720 in the summary that it's for the River Kelly Fund. Yeah. Yeah, 0:22:36.760 --> 0:22:39.920 and Brad, thank you for your service. If I can't, 0:22:39.960 --> 0:22:41.959 I can't remember if you are a firefighter, or your 0:22:42.000 --> 0:22:45.000 dad is or your buddies are but or you just 0:22:45.000 --> 0:22:47.080 donate to them. But regardless, I think you are so 0:22:47.080 --> 0:22:49.840 thank you for your service. We have because that was 0:22:49.880 --> 0:22:51.240 so quick, we have time for one more thing. Yeah, 0:22:51.440 --> 0:22:53.119 do you want to try Mitch Carriage and Family. How 0:22:53.200 --> 0:22:58.800 much time I got time? Okay? Ten minutes? Okay? Hey Grangeer. 0:22:58.840 --> 0:23:01.000 My name is Alyssa. I'm from Minnesota. Thank you for 0:23:01.040 --> 0:23:03.680 all you do. I'm a fan of yours since they 0:23:03.680 --> 0:23:06.639 were there video came out. I've been binge listening to 0:23:06.680 --> 0:23:09.520 your podcast for a couple months now and it's helped 0:23:09.560 --> 0:23:13.879 me through a miscarriage. My husband and I have a 0:23:13.920 --> 0:23:18.359 three year old son, and this would have been let 0:23:18.359 --> 0:23:19.920 me read that again. My husband and I had an 0:23:19.960 --> 0:23:22.520 almost three year old son. This would have been our 0:23:22.560 --> 0:23:26.600 second child. Your podcast, particularly a couple episodes went amber 0:23:27.000 --> 0:23:29.720 your life experience and your faith in God have helped 0:23:29.720 --> 0:23:32.320 me through and shape my perspective on the situation. My 0:23:32.440 --> 0:23:35.919 question is how do you make sure my husband? How 0:23:35.960 --> 0:23:38.600 do I make sure my husband is okay during this 0:23:38.680 --> 0:23:41.120 emotional time? How do I check in with him about 0:23:41.119 --> 0:23:44.840 the miscarriage without nagging him? And do we try again? 0:23:44.880 --> 0:23:47.159 I'm scared to death of this emotional pain, and I 0:23:47.160 --> 0:23:50.320 don't know if I could handle another pregnancy ending this way. 0:23:50.640 --> 0:23:53.080 Thank you for taking my question. I wish you and 0:23:53.119 --> 0:23:59.159 Amber the best, Alissa, thank you, Alyssa. And first let 0:23:59.200 --> 0:24:01.679 me just say I'm sorry that you guys had to 0:24:01.680 --> 0:24:04.080 go through that. I know we know firsthand what that 0:24:04.119 --> 0:24:07.040 feels like. I feel like you could probably answer better 0:24:07.040 --> 0:24:09.960 about how how the man would how you handled it, 0:24:10.080 --> 0:24:13.800 or how how she could help her husband through that. Yeah, 0:24:13.840 --> 0:24:18.480 it's interesting because we you know, we lost River, our son, 0:24:18.760 --> 0:24:21.840 and then we had a miscarriage, and we don't talk 0:24:21.840 --> 0:24:27.879 about the miscarriage too often, and so we can't we 0:24:27.920 --> 0:24:31.639 can't overlook that pain and a lot of people experience this. 0:24:32.240 --> 0:24:35.280 What's the odds, Well, I think twenty three one in three, 0:24:35.320 --> 0:24:42.240 But I think because we went through such a tragedy before, 0:24:43.320 --> 0:24:45.760 and we grew so much in our faith before, we 0:24:45.760 --> 0:24:51.439 were much more prepared for another loss, and so we 0:24:51.520 --> 0:24:53.040 just looked at it differently. But a lot of times 0:24:53.080 --> 0:24:56.280 this is this is people's first first time going through this, 0:24:56.359 --> 0:24:58.399 so it's much heavier. And not saying that ours was 0:24:58.440 --> 0:25:00.399 light at all, we just had a very a different 0:25:00.440 --> 0:25:07.280 perspective after losing riv healing our faith, so we just 0:25:07.280 --> 0:25:08.840 have it have we just had a different outlook on it. 0:25:08.880 --> 0:25:12.800 I think of God's sovereignty and his will and and 0:25:13.000 --> 0:25:16.320 you're right, and Alyssa mentions here your faith in God. Well, 0:25:17.240 --> 0:25:22.119 through that faith, I have learned personally that Alyssa, I 0:25:22.160 --> 0:25:32.960 wouldn't I wouldn't call this baby hang on a second. 0:25:33.040 --> 0:25:37.080 That was I'm just not figuring out this story. My husband, 0:25:37.080 --> 0:25:38.639 I had an almost three year old son, and this 0:25:38.680 --> 0:25:40.280 would have been okay, so the miscarriage would have been 0:25:40.280 --> 0:25:46.040 the second child, okay, good, good, good good. I didn't. 0:25:47.480 --> 0:25:50.199 I was more worried about you through the miscarriage. So 0:25:50.320 --> 0:25:54.480 I don't. I don't know, Alyssa, about your husband. I 0:25:54.480 --> 0:25:57.520 don't know exactly how to speak to him through this 0:25:57.760 --> 0:26:02.440 because you go back to the faith in God. Amber 0:26:02.480 --> 0:26:07.040 and I Amber and I just we both totally believe 0:26:07.080 --> 0:26:11.280 in the sovereignty of God and that everything that happens, everything, 0:26:12.119 --> 0:26:14.840 I mean, we even talked about we talked about the 0:26:14.880 --> 0:26:17.840 roly police in our barn. There's hundreds of roly polies 0:26:17.880 --> 0:26:20.920 and they're all crawling around, and the sovereignty of God 0:26:20.960 --> 0:26:25.560 controls the roly police. Something even is minute as that. 0:26:26.240 --> 0:26:28.080 It's like the old song He's got the whole wide 0:26:28.080 --> 0:26:31.760 world in his hands, the whole wide world in his hands. 0:26:32.040 --> 0:26:35.240 He just does. There's a pastor that we listen to 0:26:35.320 --> 0:26:37.280 that talks about the fizz and a diet coke, and 0:26:37.400 --> 0:26:41.320 every bubble pops and rises to the top according to 0:26:41.359 --> 0:26:45.560 the sovereignty of God. So of course that includes miscarriages. 0:26:46.160 --> 0:26:50.840 And Amber and I are just such faithful believers in 0:26:50.880 --> 0:26:54.440 the sovereignty of God that when the miscarriage happened. Now 0:26:54.480 --> 0:26:58.479 we haven't always been like this, but recently, through a 0:26:58.520 --> 0:27:00.280 lot of prayer and a lot of growth, a lot 0:27:00.280 --> 0:27:03.960 of study, when the miscarriage happened, we just we praise God. 0:27:04.359 --> 0:27:08.080 We did. We just said thank you God, because You're 0:27:08.119 --> 0:27:11.520 in control. Yeah, and this baby was not supposed to 0:27:11.720 --> 0:27:17.760 be born. We don't know why he does it. Maybe 0:27:17.840 --> 0:27:21.359 it was something wrong with the baby, or maybe we 0:27:21.359 --> 0:27:26.639 weren't ready. He knew that, or maybe it was so 0:27:26.680 --> 0:27:29.959 that we could speak into this podcast and talk to Alyssa. Yeah. Well, 0:27:30.080 --> 0:27:32.000 I don't know the reason. I'm not even gonna guess, 0:27:32.480 --> 0:27:34.760 but I do know that he was in control of it, 0:27:35.160 --> 0:27:38.920 and I know that he was in control of yours. 0:27:38.920 --> 0:27:43.080 Such peace, thinking that it's so so that there's such 0:27:43.080 --> 0:27:45.960 a peace of mind just going I'm not in control. Yeah, 0:27:47.280 --> 0:27:49.920 what if nothing that you did or could have done 0:27:50.160 --> 0:27:52.560 or And that that also gave us so much peace 0:27:52.840 --> 0:27:56.080 is that it wasn't my fault. It's not your fault. 0:27:56.359 --> 0:27:59.760 There's there's things in life this side of heaven we 0:27:59.760 --> 0:28:02.000 will not ever understand. And that doesn't take away the pain. 0:28:02.080 --> 0:28:05.400 I know it hurts, it's difficult, it's hard, it's devastating. 0:28:05.840 --> 0:28:08.760 But towards the end, you say that you're scared. So 0:28:08.840 --> 0:28:10.879 now you speak to her. Yeah, you say that you're 0:28:10.920 --> 0:28:16.040 scared to try again. If I can encourage you in 0:28:16.200 --> 0:28:23.440 any way, don't live in fear of trying again and 0:28:24.119 --> 0:28:25.920 put it in your head that it may happen again. 0:28:26.080 --> 0:28:29.000 You know, we tried again, and we just said, you know, 0:28:29.040 --> 0:28:30.679 if it's not in God's plan, if it's not in 0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:34.560 God's will, we will accept that. But don't be afraid 0:28:34.600 --> 0:28:36.960 to try again. If I'm scared to death to this 0:28:37.000 --> 0:28:38.800 emotional pain, I don't know if I could handle another 0:28:38.840 --> 0:28:42.960 pregnancy ending this way. Yeah. Also, I've also read though 0:28:42.960 --> 0:28:45.760 you're much more fertile after a miscarriage, So there's that 0:28:45.840 --> 0:28:50.960 to to try to try again and I pray and pray, 0:28:51.240 --> 0:28:54.280 you know, pray, pray, pray to God, but not just 0:28:54.320 --> 0:28:57.200 for that baby. Pray for peace, pray for comfort, pray 0:28:57.240 --> 0:28:59.840 for strength, and pray for God's will to help you 0:29:00.000 --> 0:29:03.720 through anything that does happen. As far as your husband, 0:29:03.760 --> 0:29:07.480 I know you said, how do I'm curious? Okay, yeah, 0:29:07.480 --> 0:29:09.960 I don't know how he's grieving, so maybe he's maybe 0:29:10.000 --> 0:29:12.280 he's taking it a lot harder than you imagined or 0:29:12.520 --> 0:29:16.280 or something. But just short short of just open lines 0:29:16.280 --> 0:29:19.080 of communication, right, just asking him, just asking him and guys, 0:29:19.080 --> 0:29:20.640 are babe, how are you doing? How are you doing? 0:29:20.960 --> 0:29:23.120 How are you doing? And he might be like, fine, 0:29:23.160 --> 0:29:26.880 I'm fine. That opens up the conversation to do and 0:29:26.920 --> 0:29:30.400 try again. And if it was me and this was 0:29:30.520 --> 0:29:33.000 me and you talking, I would want to know are 0:29:33.040 --> 0:29:36.440 you ready to try? Because I'm ready, you know, So 0:29:36.680 --> 0:29:41.720 maybe he is, But yeah, Alyssa, don't. The time is now. 0:29:42.320 --> 0:29:46.320 The time to make that next baby is now. And 0:29:46.360 --> 0:29:51.520 if you have another miscarriage, which you might, then that 0:29:51.560 --> 0:29:53.680 wasn't in your control either, and that wasn't in your cards. 0:29:54.360 --> 0:29:56.400 But you don't want to miss the dance. As Garth 0:29:56.480 --> 0:29:59.440 Brooks would say, You'll live your whole life wondering, you know, 0:29:59.480 --> 0:30:02.080 what if what could have? What could have been? Our 0:30:02.120 --> 0:30:04.520 lives are better left the chance. Yeah, could have missed 0:30:04.520 --> 0:30:07.040 the pain, but I'd have to miss the dance. The 0:30:07.120 --> 0:30:10.400 time is now, The time is now to try it. 0:30:10.520 --> 0:30:13.640 The the positive you can get out of it as 0:30:13.680 --> 0:30:18.240 a baby, you know, the negative you can get is 0:30:18.240 --> 0:30:20.920 is painful. It's very You don't want to ever discount 0:30:20.960 --> 0:30:25.080 the pain of a miscarriage. It's very painful. But the 0:30:25.120 --> 0:30:27.920 odds of getting a baby, though, are so much greater. 0:30:28.640 --> 0:30:33.040 There's so much greater. Yeah, it's worth that risk. It's 0:30:33.120 --> 0:30:36.600 worth the pain for a chance of missing the dance. Yeah, 0:30:36.720 --> 0:30:39.400 that's it. Yeah, I agree. Yeah, We're gon't take a break, 0:30:39.440 --> 0:30:47.320 be right back. Podcast today is brought to you guys 0:30:47.320 --> 0:30:51.520 by Athletic Greens. 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Like we've been 0:37:47.480 --> 0:37:50.440 down some valleys with me and Jad and Bernie and 0:37:50.560 --> 0:37:53.160 Jaleb and Parker and you. I mean we have we 0:37:53.239 --> 0:37:57.319 have been on a journey. So we understand each other 0:37:57.360 --> 0:38:00.000 at a deeper level. When you say you're a podcast 0:38:00.120 --> 0:38:02.880 listener at a meet and greet, you want to get 0:38:02.880 --> 0:38:06.000 into another question. I do we have a what should 0:38:06.040 --> 0:38:09.000 I do? We have dating as an adult? Please read 0:38:09.080 --> 0:38:12.920 me Granger needs some advice. Podcast question My Greatest Fear, 0:38:13.080 --> 0:38:16.960 mental health question for the podcast and question on the 0:38:17.040 --> 0:38:25.000 River Kelly Fund. Let's do my greatest fear. My greatest fear, 0:38:25.040 --> 0:38:28.560 says Hey Granger. My greatest fear is losing my wife. 0:38:28.960 --> 0:38:31.480 When I was single, I didn't have any fear. I 0:38:31.640 --> 0:38:34.480 just do anything crazy, why I'll be out there. But 0:38:34.520 --> 0:38:36.680 ever since she came into my life, she has made 0:38:36.719 --> 0:38:38.439 me a better man, and she brings out the best 0:38:38.440 --> 0:38:41.600 of me. She's a shining light in this dark world. 0:38:42.080 --> 0:38:44.239 I always said I don't need anybody, and then she 0:38:44.320 --> 0:38:46.600 came into my life and I couldn't have been more wrong. 0:38:47.040 --> 0:38:49.480 She means everything to me. A lot of people say 0:38:49.800 --> 0:38:51.880 that they couldn't live without their significant other, but the 0:38:51.880 --> 0:38:55.399 truth is we can't. However, I can't imagine. I don't 0:38:55.400 --> 0:38:59.960 want to imagine life without her. Thank you. Brandon from Decatur, Alabama. 0:39:00.600 --> 0:39:04.759 Brandon is thirty four. Brandon thirty four years old to Cater, Alabama. 0:39:04.840 --> 0:39:09.280 Shout out to Alabama, Roll Tide or war Eagle, whatever 0:39:09.320 --> 0:39:12.840 you prefer. Where do you want to start? What the 0:39:13.120 --> 0:39:16.720 what is could be? I can totally understand a fear 0:39:16.760 --> 0:39:18.680 of losing someone you love. I mean, I think we 0:39:18.719 --> 0:39:22.359 all ask humans have that fear. We all don't want 0:39:22.360 --> 0:39:25.799 to lose somebody that we love. But let me just 0:39:25.800 --> 0:39:29.000 tell you, and I hate to be blunt, but whatever 0:39:29.120 --> 0:39:31.439 is going to happen in this life is already written. 0:39:31.680 --> 0:39:33.799 It's already in the cards, and we don't know what 0:39:33.840 --> 0:39:35.239 that's going to be. We don't know when any of 0:39:35.320 --> 0:39:37.279 us are going to go home. And I can just 0:39:37.320 --> 0:39:40.000 tell you going through our loss, I didn't want to 0:39:40.000 --> 0:39:43.719 lose my precious Sun. I didn't have any control over that. 0:39:44.360 --> 0:39:48.640 And I can tell you that even if something I 0:39:48.680 --> 0:39:52.560 pray it doesn't, but if that does happen, you will 0:39:52.600 --> 0:39:56.080 be okay. You can make it through any of that stuff. 0:39:56.760 --> 0:40:01.200 Don't live your life worrying every day about something happening 0:40:01.200 --> 0:40:04.319 to your wife. You know. I feel like I kind 0:40:04.320 --> 0:40:06.120 of did that with my kids. And you know, you worry, 0:40:06.120 --> 0:40:08.920 you're running behind them every you know you're two seconds 0:40:08.960 --> 0:40:12.320 behind them. And I still didn't have any control over 0:40:12.719 --> 0:40:14.960 my son going home. So pleased, I just if I 0:40:15.000 --> 0:40:16.799 can encourage you, don't live your life and fear. And 0:40:16.840 --> 0:40:19.160 then another thing that I felt whenever you're reading that is, 0:40:19.640 --> 0:40:22.960 you know, the Bible speaks of idols, and I was 0:40:23.000 --> 0:40:26.080 really convicted of this with River. And we can make 0:40:26.120 --> 0:40:28.680 people our idols. Ye, you can make your husband or 0:40:28.680 --> 0:40:32.080 your wife an idol and place them above above the Lord. 0:40:32.600 --> 0:40:34.799 And I felt after our loss with Riv that I 0:40:34.920 --> 0:40:37.200 was kind of making River an idol of mine. And 0:40:37.280 --> 0:40:40.320 the Lord convicted me about that, Like you need to 0:40:40.360 --> 0:40:44.000 be seeking Me above all else, seek me above your wife, 0:40:44.080 --> 0:40:46.880 seek me above your children, and that will give you 0:40:46.920 --> 0:40:49.960 peace and rest through any sort of fear. And if 0:40:49.960 --> 0:40:51.960 you're I hope you're not living in like debilitating fear 0:40:52.000 --> 0:40:55.799 of something happening to her every day. But seek the 0:40:55.800 --> 0:40:59.279 Lord and pray. But then you just have to You 0:40:59.320 --> 0:41:00.600 just have to live. It's like Granger said in the 0:41:00.640 --> 0:41:03.160 last question, you don't want to miss the dance. Enjoy, 0:41:03.400 --> 0:41:06.120 enjoy the moment, Enjoy the moments in front of you 0:41:06.239 --> 0:41:08.560 right now, be present every moment because all you have 0:41:08.640 --> 0:41:12.080 is today. So stop worring about tomorrow, because tomorrow has 0:41:12.200 --> 0:41:16.680 enough worry for itself. If I've missed anything sufficient for 0:41:16.719 --> 0:41:20.400 the day. So this question is these are kind of 0:41:20.440 --> 0:41:24.880 like really threading each other between this one and Ethan 0:41:25.000 --> 0:41:29.120 trying to find somebody at fifteen, and Alyssa after a miscarriage, 0:41:29.200 --> 0:41:31.719 wondering if she should haven't try for another baby or 0:41:32.080 --> 0:41:34.320 have that kind of hurt. And then we got Brandon, 0:41:34.640 --> 0:41:37.000 who's just desperately worried he's going to lose the love 0:41:37.000 --> 0:41:40.320 of his life. So you could thread these three questions 0:41:40.360 --> 0:41:43.719 so similar and just say, guys, for all three of you, 0:41:44.120 --> 0:41:48.719 we only have today. Because Brandon, right now, you have 0:41:48.800 --> 0:41:53.280 her today, you have her so lover like, you only 0:41:53.320 --> 0:41:55.480 have her for today. What kind of life would that 0:41:55.520 --> 0:41:57.840 look like if you have her for fifty more years 0:41:58.080 --> 0:42:01.080 you're thirty four, imagine going all the way to eighty 0:42:01.120 --> 0:42:04.200 five years old and loving her every day like it's 0:42:04.200 --> 0:42:06.880 the last. Not in a fear. Yeah, but I'm going 0:42:06.960 --> 0:42:10.359 to make the most of this and gratefulness, this gratefulness, 0:42:10.400 --> 0:42:14.120 this thankfulness knowing that I could. You could, dude, you 0:42:14.120 --> 0:42:17.239 could lose her. Yeah, you could lose her tomorrow to 0:42:17.400 --> 0:42:20.280 a car accident on her way home from work. I 0:42:20.400 --> 0:42:22.960 know people that this has happened to, and you do too, 0:42:23.200 --> 0:42:27.400 obviously that's why you're writing it. We're humans. Yeah, but 0:42:29.080 --> 0:42:31.800 you probably won't. The odds are you won't. Yeah, A 0:42:31.840 --> 0:42:33.920 lot of times we worry about. Ninety percent of the 0:42:33.920 --> 0:42:38.160 stuff we worry about never happens. Yeah, and I would 0:42:38.200 --> 0:42:42.200 love her like there is no tomorrow, you only have today. 0:42:42.560 --> 0:42:46.279 And then to double up on Amber said, I would 0:42:46.320 --> 0:42:49.919 seek the Lord. I would dive into the Bible. People 0:42:49.920 --> 0:42:51.399 will go, what do you mean? What do you mean 0:42:51.719 --> 0:42:55.680 I'm talking about? For me in the mornings before everyone 0:42:55.760 --> 0:42:58.440 gets up, it's just me and the Bible. If you 0:42:58.480 --> 0:43:00.840 haven't done that before, I open up to like John 0:43:01.719 --> 0:43:04.240 John Chapter one, and I just go, God, I'm gonna, 0:43:04.400 --> 0:43:06.440 I'm gonna soak in your word here, I'm gonna I'm 0:43:06.480 --> 0:43:09.719 gonna open up your inspired word. I'm gonna fall in 0:43:09.719 --> 0:43:12.200 love with this. And this is the truth that I 0:43:12.239 --> 0:43:14.160 need to hear this morning. Let me see that truth. 0:43:14.239 --> 0:43:17.480 Let me be hungry for this truth. And you read 0:43:17.520 --> 0:43:19.520 it and then the kids get up and your wife 0:43:19.520 --> 0:43:22.520 gets up, and then you go about your day. But 0:43:22.560 --> 0:43:26.680 you've built this foundation of truth where God says, I've 0:43:26.719 --> 0:43:30.880 made a promise to you that you might not see 0:43:31.160 --> 0:43:33.839 perfect days the rest of your life, but you will 0:43:33.880 --> 0:43:37.760 have peace in believing that promise that one day everything 0:43:37.760 --> 0:43:40.680 will be fulfilled. And that's what the Bible said, it's 0:43:40.719 --> 0:43:43.879 not my words, that's what the text says. And this 0:43:44.000 --> 0:43:48.239 kind of that thought will free you of this desperate 0:43:48.360 --> 0:43:51.719 fear of losing your wife. Instead, you just go, like 0:43:51.800 --> 0:43:54.320 we've said three times on this podcast, you just go. God, 0:43:55.360 --> 0:43:57.080 the days are up to you. You got the whole 0:43:57.120 --> 0:44:00.560 wide world in your hands, not my hand. Yeah, not 0:44:00.640 --> 0:44:03.000 in her hands, not in the drunk driver's hands. It's 0:44:03.040 --> 0:44:05.920 coming head on into her, not in the hurricane's hands. 0:44:06.120 --> 0:44:08.560 It's in your hands. You control all of that. And 0:44:08.600 --> 0:44:12.000 then then you can breathe, yeah, and pray and pray 0:44:12.040 --> 0:44:13.600 for him to take that fear away from you. A 0:44:13.600 --> 0:44:16.000 lot of times that's the enemy just creeping into your mind. 0:44:16.040 --> 0:44:17.800 And you know, we talked a lot. We talk a 0:44:17.800 --> 0:44:20.279 lot about renewing your mind every day. Pray for the Lord. Lord. 0:44:20.360 --> 0:44:23.160 I'm I'm nervous about this, take this fear away from me. 0:44:23.200 --> 0:44:27.120 Give me your peace. Yeah, yeah, thank you, Brandon. Thanks 0:44:27.120 --> 0:44:29.719 real tired war Eagle. Sorry, I I don't know which 0:44:29.719 --> 0:44:33.400 one you are. Back to the drawing board here we 0:44:33.520 --> 0:44:36.280 have what should I do? We have? Dating as an adult? 0:44:36.920 --> 0:44:40.840 Read me please? I need some advice, podcast question, mental 0:44:40.880 --> 0:44:43.839 health question for the podcast, and a question for River 0:44:43.960 --> 0:44:47.880 Kelly Fund Okay, you keep your inflection keeps changing on 0:44:47.960 --> 0:44:51.080 read me, please, so let's do that one. I don't 0:44:51.080 --> 0:44:56.080 know why it's actually in all lowercase. Okay, it says 0:44:57.200 --> 0:45:00.680 Hey Granger. I've always known you who you are, but 0:45:00.719 --> 0:45:03.880 I've recently watched all of your podcasts and videos and 0:45:03.960 --> 0:45:05.920 listen to all your songs all the time. My favorite 0:45:06.000 --> 0:45:09.520 is by Boy Baseball. Shout out for that song. Today, 0:45:10.600 --> 0:45:12.840 I drive so a lot of the time I have 0:45:12.840 --> 0:45:14.479 to put on a video and just listen for hours. 0:45:14.520 --> 0:45:16.960 I'm twenty three years old. Everything's going great for me. 0:45:17.640 --> 0:45:20.880 My fiance and I are about to get married in April. 0:45:20.920 --> 0:45:23.120 We bought a house last year. I just bought a 0:45:23.160 --> 0:45:26.520 brand new Silverado. It sounds like everything is going great, 0:45:27.320 --> 0:45:29.279 and it is. But I just have a little bit 0:45:29.280 --> 0:45:32.839 of a drinking problem. Every day when I get off 0:45:32.880 --> 0:45:35.360 I start drinking, and on the weekends I really like 0:45:35.400 --> 0:45:38.239 to pound them. I'm scared because I want to be 0:45:38.239 --> 0:45:40.400 a good, good example to my kids. We don't have 0:45:40.400 --> 0:45:43.760 any yet, and not a disappointment to my future wife. 0:45:44.000 --> 0:45:46.840 My parents are real alcoholics and we don't speak at 0:45:46.880 --> 0:45:49.560 all because they were pretty terrible parents. So what do 0:45:49.640 --> 0:45:52.480 you think so you would think I would have learned. 0:45:52.840 --> 0:45:56.080 I've never asked for help with anything. But you're a 0:45:56.160 --> 0:45:58.840 real inspiring guy and your music really speaks to me. 0:45:59.160 --> 0:46:02.040 And you seem to be so down to earth. By 0:46:02.080 --> 0:46:04.680 the way, when the virus is over, you should come 0:46:04.719 --> 0:46:10.160 to South Georgia, Tallahassee. Please keep me anonymous, so I 0:46:10.200 --> 0:46:13.760 won't give out his name, but he is from Georgia 0:46:14.400 --> 0:46:17.719 and shout out to Georgia. We would just we just 0:46:17.880 --> 0:46:22.280 moved one state over from Alabama. This email came in February, 0:46:22.280 --> 0:46:25.000 so that's why he mentioned the virus. So they're already married. 0:46:28.520 --> 0:46:30.479 So they are married, so we're kind of speaking into 0:46:30.520 --> 0:46:33.680 an existing deal here. Maybe he's made changes so far, 0:46:33.760 --> 0:46:38.560 we will know. Here's the thing, buddy, I can't say 0:46:38.560 --> 0:46:41.560 your name. Here's the thing. And I see this sometimes 0:46:41.560 --> 0:46:45.000 on these podcast questions, and I appreciate you guys being 0:46:45.040 --> 0:46:47.640 so open. You sound like such an awesome dude. You 0:46:47.680 --> 0:46:49.839 sound like a guy I would love to hang out with. 0:46:51.200 --> 0:46:53.480 But when I see these kind of questions come in 0:46:53.520 --> 0:46:57.680 the podcast and they answered them himselves, I don't even 0:46:57.680 --> 0:47:01.839 have to see everyone listening and me, I don't have 0:47:01.920 --> 0:47:04.680 to answer this because you already said, here's the deal, 0:47:05.360 --> 0:47:08.200 everything's great. You don't want to lose anything, Like here 0:47:08.200 --> 0:47:10.719 we go threadn this podcast with these other questions. Again 0:47:10.760 --> 0:47:15.400 here you are a guy that has everything going like 0:47:15.440 --> 0:47:18.960 you got the wife. You don't want a loser. Okay, 0:47:19.080 --> 0:47:22.480 just like the last question. So everything's going good, but 0:47:22.680 --> 0:47:25.320 you have a drinking problem. Why is that bad? Because 0:47:25.320 --> 0:47:28.239 your parents are alcoholics and you don't speak to them 0:47:28.480 --> 0:47:33.200 and their terrible parents. Sounds like you shouldn't drink bruh, Well, 0:47:33.480 --> 0:47:36.040 and don't they always say the first step is admitting 0:47:36.080 --> 0:47:38.440 that you have a problem. I mean, you directly admit it. 0:47:38.480 --> 0:47:40.520 I have a drinking problem. For a lot of people, 0:47:41.000 --> 0:47:43.040 they deny it, they hide it, they don't admit it. 0:47:43.040 --> 0:47:44.640 And I know you want to remain anonymous, but you're 0:47:44.640 --> 0:47:47.319 admitting it, at least to yourself and to us. And 0:47:48.480 --> 0:47:50.760 you already know in your mind what needs to happen. 0:47:50.760 --> 0:47:54.200 I think you're just you don't know how to do it. Yeah, 0:47:54.239 --> 0:47:56.560 so many times so you say whenever I get off work, 0:47:56.560 --> 0:48:00.640 I start drinking on the weekends or really pound them. Man, 0:48:01.960 --> 0:48:04.719 you can't. You sound like a guy that can't have 0:48:04.760 --> 0:48:06.839 any right. You have to just cold turkey. You got 0:48:06.880 --> 0:48:09.560 a cold turkey. You're not even a cold beer with 0:48:09.600 --> 0:48:12.560 your buddies. One beer and that's it. You're not that guy. 0:48:12.880 --> 0:48:16.600 You're a zero. And that is not a bad thing. 0:48:16.640 --> 0:48:20.040 That's just your personality. Some people could have a few 0:48:20.680 --> 0:48:24.400 and if you're my brother Tyler, you can't stop. So 0:48:25.080 --> 0:48:29.719 certain people are like that. So here's my deal. You 0:48:29.800 --> 0:48:33.920 have to replace this. You have a habit of getting 0:48:33.920 --> 0:48:35.680 off work and drinking, and I have it on the weekend. 0:48:35.840 --> 0:48:40.239 You have to replace that with something else. So I 0:48:40.280 --> 0:48:45.279 don't know. I would say let's introduce coke zero. But 0:48:45.480 --> 0:48:47.239 you're going to get you need to go. You need 0:48:47.280 --> 0:48:50.400 to go through your whole routine of you probably on me. 0:48:50.440 --> 0:48:52.719 Imagine you're going home from work and you stop at 0:48:52.719 --> 0:48:55.359 the gas station and you get a six pack, so 0:48:55.719 --> 0:48:58.719 go grab some of that rain energy drink that I've 0:48:58.719 --> 0:49:01.799 been drinking lately instead. So you're still going in, You're 0:49:01.840 --> 0:49:03.960 still stopping at the same guys station and the same 0:49:03.960 --> 0:49:06.560 guys working the counter. You're going at the same fridges, 0:49:06.880 --> 0:49:09.000 but instead of going for the bud light, you're going 0:49:09.000 --> 0:49:12.040 over there and you're getting a pack of energy drinks. 0:49:12.880 --> 0:49:15.400 And so your mind, you're like tricking your mind and 0:49:15.400 --> 0:49:18.960 fulfilling this this habit, but you're breaking the loop of 0:49:18.960 --> 0:49:22.520 the actual alcohol well, and we don't know to what 0:49:22.640 --> 0:49:27.239 extent your alcohol, what it's doing to you and your girl, 0:49:27.360 --> 0:49:29.359 your fiance, or your wife at this time. I don't 0:49:29.400 --> 0:49:32.799 know if you have any anger issues or anything like that. 0:49:32.840 --> 0:49:35.120 You never said anything about that. I don't even know 0:49:35.160 --> 0:49:38.160 what you consider pounding on. I don't know if for 0:49:38.239 --> 0:49:40.240 you that's for it, or if for you that's a case. 0:49:40.360 --> 0:49:42.239 I do because I know you u nation and I 0:49:43.520 --> 0:49:48.200 have dealt with dudes like this most of my life, 0:49:48.480 --> 0:49:51.480 and they're in my band and they're around me, and 0:49:51.480 --> 0:49:55.640 they're friends and their fans. So I know this. I 0:49:55.719 --> 0:49:59.879 know who you are, and I know you're a great guy. 0:50:00.160 --> 0:50:04.120 Know you've got a great heart, and you're you're sensitive 0:50:04.200 --> 0:50:07.520 enough to write this long email, thoughtful email at twenty 0:50:07.560 --> 0:50:11.520 three years old. And so I think you also go 0:50:11.640 --> 0:50:13.520 public to your buddies. I was going to say, public 0:50:13.520 --> 0:50:16.040 to your buddies, and if your wife doesn't know, you 0:50:16.160 --> 0:50:18.399 need someone to hold you accountable. I was going to say, 0:50:18.400 --> 0:50:22.640 even maybe find a sponsor to start going to meetings. 0:50:22.680 --> 0:50:24.719 You know, if when you get off work you tend 0:50:24.719 --> 0:50:26.480 to go to the gas station. Go pull into a 0:50:26.520 --> 0:50:30.120 meeting instead and do that every day. And it's going 0:50:30.200 --> 0:50:31.759 to be hard. It's not going to be easy. No, 0:50:31.960 --> 0:50:33.759 it's right hard. You need, like Ranger said, you need 0:50:33.800 --> 0:50:36.200 to replace it. And if it's not going to get 0:50:36.800 --> 0:50:39.279 lacroix or something from the gas station, go pull into 0:50:39.280 --> 0:50:41.359 a meeting and sit in a meeting and admit it. 0:50:42.400 --> 0:50:44.600 Admit you're already saying, you know, you think you need 0:50:44.640 --> 0:50:47.040 a little bit of help. So I would go to 0:50:47.080 --> 0:50:49.399 some kind of meeting, try to find a sponsor. Call 0:50:49.480 --> 0:50:51.440 your wife on your if you're married, now call your 0:50:51.440 --> 0:50:53.839 wife on your way home and say, Babe, I'm really 0:50:53.840 --> 0:50:56.120 wanting to stop. Have her try to convince you to 0:50:56.120 --> 0:50:58.440 come straight home. Don't have any alcohol in your house. 0:50:58.640 --> 0:51:00.680 Don't buy wine or beer any think you're in your 0:51:00.680 --> 0:51:03.200 home because it's just like sugary food or snacks. If 0:51:03.200 --> 0:51:05.880 it's there, you're gonna drink it. So tell all of 0:51:05.920 --> 0:51:09.120 your friends, say, hey, guys, I got to tell y'all something. 0:51:09.120 --> 0:51:11.520 Shoot them a text, shoot them a group text to say, 0:51:11.560 --> 0:51:15.800 I gotta tell y'all something. I'm getting married and I'm 0:51:15.800 --> 0:51:18.160 trying to make the best of my life as y'all 0:51:18.200 --> 0:51:22.160 probably know my parents are alcoholics and they're jerks, and 0:51:22.239 --> 0:51:24.640 guess what, I don't want to become that. So I'm 0:51:24.680 --> 0:51:27.520 taking a step. And this sounds crazy, and you guys 0:51:27.560 --> 0:51:29.960 might think I'm an idiot, but I'm gonna stop drinking. 0:51:30.920 --> 0:51:32.920 I'm still going to hang out. I'm still gonna be 0:51:32.920 --> 0:51:36.880 with y'all. But please challenge me. Watch me challenge me 0:51:37.320 --> 0:51:40.960 to say, hey, dude, don't don't touch that. Yeah, and 0:51:41.000 --> 0:51:43.279 then I'll take on that challenge. But you guys all 0:51:43.280 --> 0:51:46.880 help me. Don't encourage me to drink with you. And 0:51:46.920 --> 0:51:49.120 if they do that, you need new friends to take 0:51:49.120 --> 0:51:52.239 a break from those friends. Yea. Your friends should be like, absolutely, bro, 0:51:52.320 --> 0:51:55.680 we got you. We'll be looking after you. You're the 0:51:55.719 --> 0:51:59.160 new designated driver. Yeah yeah, Actually you shouldn't even be 0:51:59.200 --> 0:52:01.560 going to bars if you if you can't be around it, 0:52:01.600 --> 0:52:04.040 I would just not go anywhere near it. If you 0:52:04.080 --> 0:52:05.600 like to pound them on the weekends, don't buy it. 0:52:05.680 --> 0:52:07.719 Don't go to bars you just have. It's one of 0:52:07.760 --> 0:52:10.919 those things. You have to stop cold Turkey And I'm 0:52:10.920 --> 0:52:12.760 going to go back to We're going to lead everything 0:52:12.760 --> 0:52:14.960 back to the to the Lord and the word. You 0:52:15.000 --> 0:52:17.879 can't do this alone. You can't. We can't fight any 0:52:17.920 --> 0:52:20.560 battles alone, especially this, because it's in your blood. And 0:52:20.960 --> 0:52:23.839 you know it's the lust of the eyes, the lust 0:52:23.880 --> 0:52:26.680 of the flesh, the pride of life. You know, we 0:52:26.680 --> 0:52:29.200 we want things to satisfy us, and we have to 0:52:29.239 --> 0:52:36.040 replace those things, those addictions, with the Lord. So appreciate you, man. 0:52:36.080 --> 0:52:38.160 I won't read your name on here, but thanks for 0:52:38.200 --> 0:52:41.120 writing it. And I know your story just got heard 0:52:41.200 --> 0:52:42.840 by a lot of people on this podcast that are 0:52:42.880 --> 0:52:46.560 probably going through something similar at Yee Nation. So thanks 0:52:46.640 --> 0:52:49.479 for right, Thanks for being the brave one man, thanks 0:52:49.480 --> 0:52:52.680 for bringing brave enough to bring this up. Because you're 0:52:52.760 --> 0:52:55.920 no less of a man for not having a beer. Yeah, 0:52:55.960 --> 0:52:58.160 and this world wants to tell you you ain't a 0:52:58.200 --> 0:53:00.279 man unless you could sit around and have a beer 0:53:00.320 --> 0:53:03.120 with your buddies. That's not true. That is a lie. 0:53:03.360 --> 0:53:05.440 Thank you for being a big enough of a man 0:53:05.640 --> 0:53:08.440 to admit that and say, I don't care what the 0:53:08.480 --> 0:53:10.719 world says. I don't care what the world tells me 0:53:10.719 --> 0:53:12.840 that I need to be a man. I'm going to 0:53:12.920 --> 0:53:16.200 email this podcast and say how do I fix it? 0:53:17.239 --> 0:53:19.360 That's a man of integrity? Yeah, I love that, And 0:53:19.400 --> 0:53:21.440 please email us back because I know you're probably married now. 0:53:21.480 --> 0:53:24.200 I would love to hear if you've made changes since 0:53:24.200 --> 0:53:26.360 you wrote this email and how it's going for you. 0:53:26.520 --> 0:53:29.759 So all right, we have back to the drawing board. 0:53:29.800 --> 0:53:32.080 We have what should I do dating as an adult? 0:53:32.320 --> 0:53:36.760 I need some advice? Podcast question mental health question for podcast. 0:53:38.400 --> 0:53:41.720 I think we have time for a couple more questions. Okay, 0:53:41.840 --> 0:53:49.239 dating as an adult? Roger that Hey Granger and guest, Hey, 0:53:50.120 --> 0:53:53.720 hang on a second, I'm I read this one last week. Okay, 0:53:53.760 --> 0:53:57.120 near mind, just kidding, Okay, thank you. Chad answered that 0:53:57.120 --> 0:54:00.160 one last podcast. Okay, one day I'll get it to 0:54:00.200 --> 0:54:01.880 get it, going to get a producer for this to 0:54:01.920 --> 0:54:07.919 help me. Okay, you call it mental health? Mental health 0:54:08.360 --> 0:54:13.040 coming up right now, it says, Hey Granger, Louise from 0:54:13.200 --> 0:54:15.759 Kent and the UK. Here. I've been a fan of 0:54:15.760 --> 0:54:18.319 yours for years and loving the new album. I can't 0:54:18.320 --> 0:54:20.040 wait till you come over the pond and see us. 0:54:20.640 --> 0:54:24.719 How do you say Louis in British? What does it 0:54:24.719 --> 0:54:30.440 look like, Louise Louise? It's Louise, right, Louise Louise, like 0:54:30.440 --> 0:54:34.799 with Z Louise because like you know, if it was 0:54:34.880 --> 0:54:38.600 hispanic could be Louise. Yeah, okay, that's l U my bad. 0:54:39.040 --> 0:54:42.720 See that's why I have heard she helps me. Louise says, 0:54:42.960 --> 0:54:45.480 I was wondering if you could give me any tips 0:54:45.680 --> 0:54:49.160 on mental health in the current climate. We had two 0:54:49.280 --> 0:54:53.279 national lockdowns in the UK and we had been put 0:54:53.320 --> 0:54:56.600 on Tier four, which is the highest level of regional restrictions, 0:54:57.280 --> 0:55:00.840 meaning we had to spend Christmas and New Year's alone 0:55:00.960 --> 0:55:03.160 and we couldn't see any friends or families for that 0:55:03.200 --> 0:55:07.439 whole period. It's been a long time and I still 0:55:07.440 --> 0:55:10.920 haven't recovered currently feeling like everything is on top of 0:55:10.960 --> 0:55:15.200 us and feeling very overwhelmed. At the same time, I 0:55:15.200 --> 0:55:17.520 feel very guilty for even feeling like this because I 0:55:17.520 --> 0:55:19.839 have an amazing husband who I live with, and I 0:55:19.880 --> 0:55:21.760 know that there are a lot of people completely alone 0:55:21.800 --> 0:55:25.720 and have dealt with many worse things in their life, 0:55:25.840 --> 0:55:29.719 and how this suffering can't compare to those people and 0:55:29.800 --> 0:55:32.640 what you guys have gone through. I'm in a constant 0:55:32.680 --> 0:55:34.799 awe of your attitude to life and how you and 0:55:34.840 --> 0:55:37.319 Amber face your demons and any obstacles in life with 0:55:37.360 --> 0:55:42.000 such determination and strength. Please let me know how we 0:55:42.000 --> 0:55:44.640 could feed off of this and make the best of 0:55:44.680 --> 0:55:48.800 our current situation. Hugs to all of you and your family. 0:55:49.840 --> 0:55:54.200 Thank you. When that December. Oh gosh, so they're probably 0:55:54.440 --> 0:55:56.839 not in lockdown anymore, right, Yeah, but we can still 0:55:56.840 --> 0:56:01.400 speak to it. Yeah, let's speak to this for Louise, 0:56:03.000 --> 0:56:08.960 Let's speak to she says at the end. How can 0:56:09.000 --> 0:56:11.719 we feed off of this? She says, you guys have 0:56:12.120 --> 0:56:14.800 learned how to face your demons and obstacles with the 0:56:14.880 --> 0:56:18.319 termination and strength. How could we feed off this and 0:56:18.360 --> 0:56:22.480 to make the best of the current situation. We're threatening 0:56:22.480 --> 0:56:25.560 the needle threading all these emails and we're going to 0:56:25.760 --> 0:56:29.120 go back to stay present. Stay present. And I think 0:56:29.280 --> 0:56:31.799 I think I'm just validating your feelings here. I think 0:56:31.880 --> 0:56:35.680 I think it's totally normal. You're human. Any this whole 0:56:35.719 --> 0:56:39.280 pandemic thing really took a toll on people's mental health, 0:56:39.760 --> 0:56:45.520 and don't feel bad about that. That's natural. And we 0:56:45.560 --> 0:56:48.200 could said, as Texans, we didn't experience what you did 0:56:48.200 --> 0:56:51.480 in the UK, so you had it a lot worse. Yeah, 0:56:51.560 --> 0:56:55.319 and that would make any any human kind of lose 0:56:55.360 --> 0:56:57.120 it a little bit. But one word that came to 0:56:57.120 --> 0:56:58.880 my mind when you were reading that is how to 0:56:59.080 --> 0:57:03.080 flip That is just gratefulness if you're living your life 0:57:03.120 --> 0:57:06.200 every day in gratitude of something, even the smallest thing. 0:57:06.239 --> 0:57:09.560 I mean that just waking up in the morning, you know, 0:57:09.800 --> 0:57:11.920 or having your husband there. And you already did say 0:57:11.920 --> 0:57:13.600 a sad So here's what we could do. And this 0:57:13.680 --> 0:57:16.080 is perfect that you said that, because this is how 0:57:16.920 --> 0:57:20.160 you said. At the same time, I feel very guilty 0:57:20.200 --> 0:57:23.360 for feeling like this because I have an amazing husband 0:57:23.360 --> 0:57:25.320 who I live with, and I know that there are 0:57:25.320 --> 0:57:28.920 a lot of people completely alone. So flip your guilt 0:57:29.200 --> 0:57:32.960 into gratitude. Yeah, yeah, And I've never thought about that. 0:57:33.000 --> 0:57:35.200 I've never thought of that term until you started saying 0:57:35.960 --> 0:57:39.000 that you should have gratitude. But she feels guilt, so 0:57:39.320 --> 0:57:43.640 you could change your guilt for gratitude. So watch this. 0:57:44.680 --> 0:57:47.480 So watch this. Let me read this paragraph and change 0:57:47.480 --> 0:57:50.560 the one word. Currently, feeling like everyone is getting on 0:57:50.600 --> 0:57:52.840 top of this, and I'm feeling very overwhelmed and it 0:57:52.880 --> 0:57:54.760 seems like there's no end in sight to all of 0:57:54.800 --> 0:57:58.800 this madness. At the same time, I feel very grateful 0:57:59.080 --> 0:58:01.040 that I have an amazing husband who I live with, 0:58:01.440 --> 0:58:03.040 and I know there are a lot of people completely 0:58:03.120 --> 0:58:08.200 alone and have dealt with worse things. It changes the 0:58:08.240 --> 0:58:11.560 whole feeling or the entire email. By changing guilt to 0:58:11.680 --> 0:58:16.360 gratitude gratefulness instead of guilt, it takes the same amount. 0:58:16.400 --> 0:58:20.360 It takes a lot more energy probably to enact guilt. 0:58:21.080 --> 0:58:24.920 So stop saying you feel guilty for being having an 0:58:24.840 --> 0:58:29.840 amazing husband, Stop saying that, say you feel grateful, and 0:58:29.880 --> 0:58:31.720 that just to change in that word is going to 0:58:31.840 --> 0:58:35.479 change your attitude in your mind. And then you answer 0:58:35.560 --> 0:58:38.240 your entire question and go, how do I get through 0:58:38.280 --> 0:58:41.720 this with my amazing husband next to me, living one 0:58:41.760 --> 0:58:44.680 day at a time, Yeah, and loving him, knowing that 0:58:44.720 --> 0:58:48.320 there's people like Ethan that don't have anybody. And it 0:58:48.400 --> 0:58:51.080 sounds cheesy, but start writing down three things that you're 0:58:51.080 --> 0:58:53.480 grateful for every day you're like, oh my gosh, you're 0:58:53.480 --> 0:58:55.880 probably not living in that lockdown anymore. But if it 0:58:55.880 --> 0:58:58.240 ever goes back to that or something, wake up and say, okay, 0:58:58.400 --> 0:59:01.080 I can't change this, and to be grateful for what 0:59:01.120 --> 0:59:02.840 I have through it, Write down three things that you're 0:59:02.840 --> 0:59:05.920 grateful for tomorrow, write down three more and go back 0:59:05.920 --> 0:59:08.160 and read them. And it really is a renewing of 0:59:08.200 --> 0:59:11.200 your mind. And sometimes it is a choice. A lot 0:59:11.240 --> 0:59:12.880 of times it's a choice. You know that you have 0:59:12.920 --> 0:59:14.880 to just say I'm not going to feel this way. 0:59:14.920 --> 0:59:16.680 I'm going to focus on the good be in the 0:59:16.720 --> 0:59:20.440 present moment, and that will will begin to flip kind 0:59:20.440 --> 0:59:25.080 of your attitude about that situation. So here's the thing, Louise. 0:59:25.880 --> 0:59:29.000 Go to your mirror in your bathroom and get a 0:59:29.040 --> 0:59:33.400 dry erase marker, and I want you to write, gratefulness 0:59:34.840 --> 0:59:38.640 is better than guilt and make the you know, the 0:59:38.800 --> 0:59:43.320 alligator sign greater than symbol. Yeah, that's what it's called. 0:59:43.360 --> 0:59:50.400 Greater than symbol. Gratefulness greater than symbol guilt. Yeah, and 0:59:50.560 --> 0:59:54.360 just live by that right now, Okay, And then go 0:59:54.440 --> 0:59:57.400 in there and drop everything, drop your cell phone, drop 0:59:57.440 --> 1:00:00.560 your computer, put everything down, and go grab your husband 1:00:00.680 --> 1:00:03.480 around the neck and just squeeze him and say I 1:00:03.480 --> 1:00:07.240 am so grateful for you. Yeah. There you go, Louise. 1:00:08.640 --> 1:00:10.560 We have time, Yeah, we got let's do Let's talk 1:00:10.600 --> 1:00:13.800 out one more okay, and then we'll give everybody a break. 1:00:13.880 --> 1:00:16.080 Thank you for listening, everybody. I know we got some 1:00:16.200 --> 1:00:19.680 over the road truckers listening. Love you guys, Love y'all 1:00:19.680 --> 1:00:23.240 for listening. Man. So many people listening on their commutes, 1:00:23.280 --> 1:00:25.760 and so many people listening while they're working from home 1:00:25.960 --> 1:00:29.240 or or a lot of people on the tractor listening 1:00:29.240 --> 1:00:32.520 to this podcast. Just I feel guilty that so many 1:00:32.560 --> 1:00:35.520 people are listening to this podcast. I feel guilty because 1:00:35.920 --> 1:00:38.200 there's other better podcasts out there, and I feel guilty 1:00:38.240 --> 1:00:40.080 that you're listening to this one. Just kidding. I feel 1:00:40.120 --> 1:00:44.880 grateful that you're listening to this podcast. I feel so grateful. Okay, 1:00:44.960 --> 1:00:47.960 what should I do? Okay? I need some advice? Podcast 1:00:48.080 --> 1:00:51.520 question question for podcast podcast question. That's how the last three. 1:00:52.240 --> 1:00:55.320 That's how the last three go. Now if when Chad's 1:00:55.320 --> 1:00:57.480 with me or Bernie, both of those guys will like 1:00:57.680 --> 1:00:59.720 they like to pick the boring titles, just to make 1:00:59.720 --> 1:01:03.959 sure people don't just try to create interesting titles get 1:01:03.960 --> 1:01:05.840 clicked on. I'm just to say number four. I don't 1:01:05.840 --> 1:01:08.400 even remember what that one was. You got it? Okay? 1:01:10.880 --> 1:01:15.960 Number four says, how do you suggest finding someone to 1:01:16.080 --> 1:01:18.959 marry that is a Christian and a culture that tells 1:01:19.040 --> 1:01:21.640 us just to hook up and not care who it is. 1:01:22.760 --> 1:01:26.120 I live in a small town with not many Christian 1:01:26.160 --> 1:01:29.240 guys my age at my church. I'm twenty five years old. 1:01:29.520 --> 1:01:33.600 I feel discouraged and I've had a few failed relationships. 1:01:34.880 --> 1:01:38.560 I know it was because they were not believers. I 1:01:38.600 --> 1:01:43.080 know God doesn't promise us love or marriage, just like Ethan, 1:01:44.080 --> 1:01:46.640 but I have always longed to find it. Maybe He's 1:01:46.640 --> 1:01:50.880 called me to be single too. Maybe I have a flaw. 1:01:51.280 --> 1:01:53.560 Thank you for your input on this. I love your family. 1:01:54.080 --> 1:01:55.880 It just does not have a name, so I'm not 1:01:55.920 --> 1:01:57.120 going to read it. I'm not going to read the 1:01:57.160 --> 1:02:02.880 name of the email. Thank you. That's a legit question, 1:02:02.920 --> 1:02:04.920 and it's similar to Ethan. That's why threw his names 1:02:04.960 --> 1:02:09.000 in here. We have threaded this entire podcast with questions, 1:02:09.080 --> 1:02:11.720 not intentionally to kind of all relate to each other. 1:02:12.720 --> 1:02:14.360 Before we get into it, though, I want to knock 1:02:14.360 --> 1:02:16.560 out one thing. I was going to say the same thing. 1:02:16.560 --> 1:02:20.480 Probably you're talking about flaws. Yeah, okay, what did we 1:02:20.520 --> 1:02:24.640 all have flaws? Yeah, that's where I was going. Yeah, yeah, 1:02:24.800 --> 1:02:27.600 you said you said maybe I have maybe a flaw. Yeah, 1:02:27.640 --> 1:02:30.120 And I want to say another thing. I don't think 1:02:30.120 --> 1:02:34.040 you're called to singleness. This is a sheet by the way. 1:02:34.440 --> 1:02:37.040 I don't think you're called to singleness. You're twenty five. 1:02:37.240 --> 1:02:41.560 You're twenty five, it's too early to call that. Yeah, 1:02:41.680 --> 1:02:44.320 get back to me when you're sixty and single, and 1:02:44.360 --> 1:02:46.640 we'll call you that. You're called the singleness. But now 1:02:46.640 --> 1:02:49.720 I don't I don't think that that's the case. You're 1:02:49.760 --> 1:02:53.280 twenty five, you're ten years older than Ethan, but it's 1:02:53.280 --> 1:02:55.600 the same situation. Yeah, I want to go to where 1:02:55.600 --> 1:02:57.240 you said, in a culture that tells us just to 1:02:57.240 --> 1:02:59.680 hook up and not care. You know, as a Christian, 1:03:00.160 --> 1:03:02.360 we are not meant to follow the culture. We are 1:03:02.400 --> 1:03:07.120 meant to not be of this world. We are called 1:03:07.120 --> 1:03:11.480 to die to ourselves every day. And so you already 1:03:11.520 --> 1:03:13.800 know that in your heart. So that should that shouldn't be. 1:03:14.240 --> 1:03:16.520 You shouldn't even listen to that to what the world 1:03:16.560 --> 1:03:19.240 is telling you to do, because you already know who 1:03:19.280 --> 1:03:20.920 to look to. You look to your father to tell 1:03:20.960 --> 1:03:24.960 you what to do, your heavenly Father. I know it 1:03:25.000 --> 1:03:26.479 can be hard if you live in a small town 1:03:26.520 --> 1:03:30.520 and there's not many Christian guys your age. I think 1:03:31.280 --> 1:03:36.080 just continuing to be patient in the waiting and and praying, 1:03:36.560 --> 1:03:39.440 obviously still praying for for somebody. You know, we're asked, 1:03:39.480 --> 1:03:43.640 we're called to pray and just be patient in that 1:03:43.680 --> 1:03:47.080 waiting that he's maybe he's preparing you for that man 1:03:47.280 --> 1:03:50.440 coming to maybe maybe that man's not ready yet. Maybe 1:03:50.720 --> 1:03:53.400 he's he's he's growing you in some way. Just be 1:03:53.480 --> 1:03:59.040 patient in that waiting and don't give up. Yeah yeah, 1:03:59.040 --> 1:04:02.120 sort of feeling discourage. I'm going to encourage you feel 1:04:02.240 --> 1:04:05.400 encouraged that you're still twenty five and you haven't gotten 1:04:05.440 --> 1:04:08.439 into a bad relationship that's going to lead to a divorce. Right, 1:04:08.520 --> 1:04:10.600 there's something to be grateful for in that, or something 1:04:10.640 --> 1:04:14.480 to be encouraged thinking, I still have a clean slate. 1:04:15.320 --> 1:04:18.360 I'm twenty five, which is still very young. You're still 1:04:18.440 --> 1:04:22.800 very young, and you have a clean slate. Like how 1:04:22.840 --> 1:04:25.800 many people get to thirty and they go, man, I've 1:04:25.840 --> 1:04:28.360 been married eight years and I'm not happy or she's 1:04:28.400 --> 1:04:32.320 not happy. This is not working. And you don't have 1:04:32.440 --> 1:04:34.440 any of those burdens right now. So you have a 1:04:34.480 --> 1:04:37.800 clean slate and you know what you're looking for. So 1:04:37.880 --> 1:04:40.680 you have a lot going for you. Yeah, you know 1:04:40.720 --> 1:04:42.120 what you want, you know what you're looking for. You 1:04:42.200 --> 1:04:44.000 It kind of sounds like that's a deal breaker for you. 1:04:44.840 --> 1:04:48.520 Just trust Yeah, trust you say you said that you're 1:04:48.520 --> 1:04:52.000 a Christian. You're looking for another Christian. Just trust in God. 1:04:52.120 --> 1:04:53.680 You don't think he's big enough to get a guy 1:04:53.720 --> 1:04:56.760 into your small town. You don't think God is big 1:04:56.840 --> 1:05:00.440 enough to get you a guy in your town, or 1:05:00.720 --> 1:05:03.840 your God is too small, or God will get you 1:05:03.880 --> 1:05:05.680 out of your town, or God will get you into 1:05:05.680 --> 1:05:09.200 a new town, and be open to that. Pray for 1:05:09.240 --> 1:05:12.600 any opportunities that may come your way and be obedient 1:05:12.640 --> 1:05:15.360 to those. If God is calling you somewhere to travel 1:05:15.560 --> 1:05:18.200 or to speak to somebody out of your comfort zone, 1:05:18.240 --> 1:05:21.680 be open to that. To go to a Granger Smith concerts, Yeah, 1:05:21.920 --> 1:05:24.480 I have so many people go to my concerts by 1:05:24.520 --> 1:05:29.680 themselves and they have met people and become friends. So 1:05:30.840 --> 1:05:33.560 and we've seen this, but like in Iowa, remember there's 1:05:33.560 --> 1:05:36.800 a big get together in Iowa where there was probably 1:05:36.840 --> 1:05:40.200 like eight or nine people from ye Nation that flew 1:05:40.240 --> 1:05:44.400 in from all over the country and all met in Iowa. 1:05:44.720 --> 1:05:48.080 And that's also happened in Texas, happened in Dallas one time. 1:05:48.440 --> 1:05:51.440 So people will fly in and meet each other. And 1:05:51.840 --> 1:05:55.400 it's an amazing thing to think that these people came 1:05:55.480 --> 1:05:58.000 started coming to concerts, a lot of them by themselves, 1:05:58.440 --> 1:06:00.680 and then went to the front row and noticed that 1:06:00.720 --> 1:06:02.920 the person next to him was singing this their favorite 1:06:02.920 --> 1:06:05.240 song and had it on the shirt that they were 1:06:05.240 --> 1:06:07.919 wearing and they're like, hey, did we just become best 1:06:07.920 --> 1:06:11.600 friends and it ended up getting married. But then we've 1:06:11.600 --> 1:06:15.240 had so many people say they got engaged, they met 1:06:15.240 --> 1:06:17.720 at my show, they got engaged at my show, and 1:06:17.760 --> 1:06:21.520 then they come with holding a baby. Yeah it's really cool. Yeah, 1:06:21.560 --> 1:06:25.360 it's a really good family. Yeah yeah, hang in there. 1:06:27.440 --> 1:06:30.080 A lot of these emails were similar. I hope if 1:06:30.120 --> 1:06:32.600 your email didn't get answered this time, go ahead and 1:06:32.640 --> 1:06:36.479 send one at Granger Smith at podcast at gmail dot com. 1:06:36.520 --> 1:06:40.200 But don't send me another one of the same ones. Yeah, right, 1:06:40.280 --> 1:06:43.120 because that's not going to help your cause. But also, 1:06:43.320 --> 1:06:45.240 I just hope that some of these emails could have 1:06:45.240 --> 1:06:47.400 related to you also, and I hope you could apply 1:06:48.120 --> 1:06:49.640 some of these and change up some of the words 1:06:49.640 --> 1:06:51.880 and change some of the names and the timeframes, and 1:06:51.920 --> 1:06:54.280 it could also apply to your life. Thank you, Amber 1:06:54.360 --> 1:06:56.960 for being here, Thanks for having me back. I'll see 1:06:56.960 --> 1:06:59.240 you later tonight. Okay, about five minutes. 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