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Speaker 1: another five oh one C three organization out of Nashville,

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Speaker 1: so it's really hard to find the River Kelly Fund

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Speaker 1: set up that way. So it's housed under the Community

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Speaker 1: Foundation of Middle Tennessee. So you might be able to

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Speaker 1: search that on Amazon Smile. You have to search that

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Speaker 1: and then you would have to put in River Kelly

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Speaker 1: Fund is where the funds would go. So I don't

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Speaker 1: really know if that would be said if we could

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Speaker 1: do that through Amazon at this time, I can look

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Speaker 1: into it. But you can do that through Facebook through

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Speaker 1: the Facebook donations if you search Community Foundation of Middle

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Speaker 1: Tennessee and then just make sure whenever you write it

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Speaker 1: in the summary that it's for the River Kelly Fund. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and Brad, thank you for your service. If I can't,

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Speaker 1: I can't remember if you are a firefighter, or your

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Speaker 1: dad is or your buddies are but or you just

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Speaker 1: donate to them. But regardless, I think you are so

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Speaker 1: thank you for your service. We have because that was

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Speaker 1: so quick, we have time for one more thing. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: do you want to try Mitch Carriage and Family. How

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Speaker 1: much time I got time? Okay? Ten minutes? Okay? Hey Grangeer.

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Speaker 1: My name is Alyssa. I'm from Minnesota. Thank you for

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Speaker 1: all you do. I'm a fan of yours since they

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Speaker 1: were there video came out. I've been binge listening to

448
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Speaker 1: your podcast for a couple months now and it's helped

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Speaker 1: me through a miscarriage. My husband and I have a

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Speaker 1: three year old son, and this would have been let

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Speaker 1: me read that again. My husband and I had an

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Speaker 1: almost three year old son. This would have been our

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Speaker 1: second child. Your podcast, particularly a couple episodes went amber

454
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Speaker 1: your life experience and your faith in God have helped

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Speaker 1: me through and shape my perspective on the situation. My

456
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Speaker 1: question is how do you make sure my husband? How

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Speaker 1: do I make sure my husband is okay during this

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Speaker 1: emotional time? How do I check in with him about

459
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Speaker 1: the miscarriage without nagging him? And do we try again?

460
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Speaker 1: I'm scared to death of this emotional pain, and I

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Speaker 1: don't know if I could handle another pregnancy ending this way.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for taking my question. I wish you and

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Speaker 1: Amber the best, Alissa, thank you, Alyssa. And first let

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Speaker 1: me just say I'm sorry that you guys had to

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Speaker 1: go through that. I know we know firsthand what that

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Speaker 1: feels like. I feel like you could probably answer better

467
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Speaker 1: about how how the man would how you handled it,

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Speaker 1: or how how she could help her husband through that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's interesting because we you know, we lost River, our son,

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Speaker 1: and then we had a miscarriage, and we don't talk

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Speaker 1: about the miscarriage too often, and so we can't we

472
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Speaker 1: can't overlook that pain and a lot of people experience this.

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Speaker 1: What's the odds, Well, I think twenty three one in three,

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Speaker 1: But I think because we went through such a tragedy before,

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Speaker 1: and we grew so much in our faith before, we

476
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Speaker 1: were much more prepared for another loss, and so we

477
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Speaker 1: just looked at it differently. But a lot of times

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Speaker 1: this is this is people's first first time going through this,

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Speaker 1: so it's much heavier. And not saying that ours was

480
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Speaker 1: light at all, we just had a very a different

481
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Speaker 1: perspective after losing riv healing our faith, so we just

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Speaker 1: have it have we just had a different outlook on it.

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Speaker 1: I think of God's sovereignty and his will and and

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Speaker 1: you're right, and Alyssa mentions here your faith in God. Well,

485
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Speaker 1: through that faith, I have learned personally that Alyssa, I

486
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Speaker 1: wouldn't I wouldn't call this baby hang on a second.

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Speaker 1: That was I'm just not figuring out this story. My husband,

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Speaker 1: I had an almost three year old son, and this

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Speaker 1: would have been okay, so the miscarriage would have been

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Speaker 1: the second child, okay, good, good, good good. I didn't.

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Speaker 1: I was more worried about you through the miscarriage. So

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know, Alyssa, about your husband. I

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Speaker 1: don't know exactly how to speak to him through this

494
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Speaker 1: because you go back to the faith in God. Amber

495
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Speaker 1: and I Amber and I just we both totally believe

496
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Speaker 1: in the sovereignty of God and that everything that happens, everything,

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Speaker 1: I mean, we even talked about we talked about the

498
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Speaker 1: roly police in our barn. There's hundreds of roly polies

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Speaker 1: and they're all crawling around, and the sovereignty of God

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Speaker 1: controls the roly police. Something even is minute as that.

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Speaker 1: It's like the old song He's got the whole wide

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Speaker 1: world in his hands, the whole wide world in his hands.

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Speaker 1: He just does. There's a pastor that we listen to

504
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Speaker 1: that talks about the fizz and a diet coke, and

505
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Speaker 1: every bubble pops and rises to the top according to

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Speaker 1: the sovereignty of God. So of course that includes miscarriages.

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Speaker 1: And Amber and I are just such faithful believers in

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Speaker 1: the sovereignty of God that when the miscarriage happened. Now

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Speaker 1: we haven't always been like this, but recently, through a

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Speaker 1: lot of prayer and a lot of growth, a lot

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Speaker 1: of study, when the miscarriage happened, we just we praise God.

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Speaker 1: We did. We just said thank you God, because You're

513
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Speaker 1: in control. Yeah, and this baby was not supposed to

514
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Speaker 1: be born. We don't know why he does it. Maybe

515
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:21,359
Speaker 1: it was something wrong with the baby, or maybe we

516
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:26,639
Speaker 1: weren't ready. He knew that, or maybe it was so

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Speaker 1: that we could speak into this podcast and talk to Alyssa. Yeah. Well,

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Speaker 1: I don't know the reason. I'm not even gonna guess,

519
00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:34,760
Speaker 1: but I do know that he was in control of it,

520
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:38,920
Speaker 1: and I know that he was in control of yours.

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Speaker 1: Such peace, thinking that it's so so that there's such

522
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Speaker 1: a peace of mind just going I'm not in control. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what if nothing that you did or could have done

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Speaker 1: or And that that also gave us so much peace

525
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:56,080
Speaker 1: is that it wasn't my fault. It's not your fault.

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Speaker 1: There's there's things in life this side of heaven we

527
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 1: will not ever understand. And that doesn't take away the pain.

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Speaker 1: I know it hurts, it's difficult, it's hard, it's devastating.

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Speaker 1: But towards the end, you say that you're scared. So

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Speaker 1: now you speak to her. Yeah, you say that you're

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Speaker 1: scared to try again. If I can encourage you in

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Speaker 1: any way, don't live in fear of trying again and

533
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:25,920
Speaker 1: put it in your head that it may happen again.

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00:28:26,080 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 1: You know, we tried again, and we just said, you know,

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Speaker 1: if it's not in God's plan, if it's not in

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00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 1: God's will, we will accept that. But don't be afraid

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Speaker 1: to try again. If I'm scared to death to this

538
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Speaker 1: emotional pain, I don't know if I could handle another

539
00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:42,960
Speaker 1: pregnancy ending this way. Yeah. Also, I've also read though

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Speaker 1: you're much more fertile after a miscarriage, So there's that

541
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 1: to to try to try again and I pray and pray,

542
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 1: you know, pray, pray, pray to God, but not just

543
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:57,200
Speaker 1: for that baby. Pray for peace, pray for comfort, pray

544
00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 1: for strength, and pray for God's will to help you

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Speaker 1: through anything that does happen. As far as your husband,

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00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:07,480
Speaker 1: I know you said, how do I'm curious? Okay, yeah,

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00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 1: I don't know how he's grieving, so maybe he's maybe

548
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:12,280
Speaker 1: he's taking it a lot harder than you imagined or

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00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: or something. But just short short of just open lines

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00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 1: of communication, right, just asking him, just asking him and guys,

551
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:20,640
Speaker 1: are babe, how are you doing? How are you doing?

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00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 1: How are you doing? And he might be like, fine,

553
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:26,880
Speaker 1: I'm fine. That opens up the conversation to do and

554
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:30,400
Speaker 1: try again. And if it was me and this was

555
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 1: me and you talking, I would want to know are

556
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 1: you ready to try? Because I'm ready, you know, So

557
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:41,720
Speaker 1: maybe he is, But yeah, Alyssa, don't. The time is now.

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00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 1: The time to make that next baby is now. And

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00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 1: if you have another miscarriage, which you might, then that

560
00:29:51,560 --> 00:29:53,680
Speaker 1: wasn't in your control either, and that wasn't in your cards.

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Speaker 1: But you don't want to miss the dance. As Garth

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00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 1: Brooks would say, You'll live your whole life wondering, you know,

563
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 1: what if what could have? What could have been? Our

564
00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 1: lives are better left the chance. Yeah, could have missed

565
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 1: the pain, but I'd have to miss the dance. The

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Speaker 1: time is now, The time is now to try it.

567
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Speaker 1: The the positive you can get out of it as

568
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:18,240
Speaker 1: a baby, you know, the negative you can get is

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Speaker 1: is painful. It's very You don't want to ever discount

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Speaker 1: the pain of a miscarriage. It's very painful. But the

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Speaker 1: odds of getting a baby, though, are so much greater.

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00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 1: There's so much greater. Yeah, it's worth that risk. It's

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00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 1: worth the pain for a chance of missing the dance. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: when people come up and they're like, I've listened to

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Speaker 1: your podcast. Yeah that's so it's like a different level.

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Speaker 1: I love Old Abeles Junior, that's that's great. But the

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Speaker 1: people that say I love your podcast, I look them

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Speaker 1: in the eye and it's like, oh, okay, yeah, we

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00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 1: understand each other, like we've been if you listen to

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Speaker 1: this podcast, we've been down some journeys. Like we've been

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Speaker 1: down some valleys with me and Jad and Bernie and

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00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 1: Jaleb and Parker and you. I mean we have we

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Speaker 1: have been on a journey. So we understand each other

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Speaker 1: at a deeper level. When you say you're a podcast

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00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:02,880
Speaker 1: listener at a meet and greet, you want to get

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Speaker 1: into another question. I do we have a what should

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Speaker 1: I do? We have dating as an adult? Please read

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Speaker 1: me Granger needs some advice. Podcast question My Greatest Fear,

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Speaker 1: mental health question for the podcast and question on the

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Speaker 1: River Kelly Fund. Let's do my greatest fear. My greatest fear,

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Speaker 1: says Hey Granger. My greatest fear is losing my wife.

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Speaker 1: When I was single, I didn't have any fear. I

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Speaker 1: just do anything crazy, why I'll be out there. But

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Speaker 1: ever since she came into my life, she has made

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Speaker 1: me a better man, and she brings out the best

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Speaker 1: of me. She's a shining light in this dark world.

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Speaker 1: I always said I don't need anybody, and then she

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Speaker 1: came into my life and I couldn't have been more wrong.

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Speaker 1: She means everything to me. A lot of people say

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Speaker 1: that they couldn't live without their significant other, but the

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Speaker 1: truth is we can't. However, I can't imagine. I don't

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Speaker 1: want to imagine life without her. Thank you. Brandon from Decatur, Alabama.

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Speaker 1: Brandon is thirty four. Brandon thirty four years old to Cater, Alabama.

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Speaker 1: Shout out to Alabama, Roll Tide or war Eagle, whatever

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Speaker 1: you prefer. Where do you want to start? What the

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Speaker 1: what is could be? I can totally understand a fear

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Speaker 1: all ask humans have that fear. We all don't want

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Speaker 1: to lose somebody that we love. But let me just

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Speaker 1: tell you, and I hate to be blunt, but whatever

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Speaker 1: is going to happen in this life is already written.

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Speaker 1: It's already in the cards, and we don't know what

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Speaker 1: that's going to be. We don't know when any of

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Speaker 1: us are going to go home. And I can just

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Speaker 1: tell you going through our loss, I didn't want to

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Speaker 1: lose my precious Sun. I didn't have any control over that.

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Speaker 1: And I can tell you that even if something I

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Speaker 1: pray it doesn't, but if that does happen, you will

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Speaker 1: be okay. You can make it through any of that stuff.

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Speaker 1: Don't live your life worrying every day about something happening

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Speaker 1: to your wife. You know. I feel like I kind

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Speaker 1: of did that with my kids. And you know, you worry,

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Speaker 1: you're running behind them every you know you're two seconds

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Speaker 1: behind them. And I still didn't have any control over

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Speaker 1: my son going home. So pleased, I just if I

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Speaker 1: can encourage you, don't live your life and fear. And

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Speaker 1: then another thing that I felt whenever you're reading that is,

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Speaker 1: you know, the Bible speaks of idols, and I was

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Speaker 1: really convicted of this with River. And we can make

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Speaker 1: people our idols. Ye, you can make your husband or

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Speaker 1: your wife an idol and place them above above the Lord.

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Speaker 1: And I felt after our loss with Riv that I

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Speaker 1: was kind of making River an idol of mine. And

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Speaker 1: the Lord convicted me about that, Like you need to

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Speaker 1: be seeking Me above all else, seek me above your wife,

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Speaker 1: seek me above your children, and that will give you

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Speaker 1: peace and rest through any sort of fear. And if

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Speaker 1: you're I hope you're not living in like debilitating fear

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Speaker 1: of something happening to her every day. But seek the

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Speaker 1: Lord and pray. But then you just have to You

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Speaker 1: just have to live. It's like Granger said in the

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Speaker 1: last question, you don't want to miss the dance. Enjoy,

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Speaker 1: enjoy the moment, Enjoy the moments in front of you

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Speaker 1: right now, be present every moment because all you have

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Speaker 1: is today. So stop worring about tomorrow, because tomorrow has

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Speaker 1: enough worry for itself. If I've missed anything sufficient for

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Speaker 1: the day. So this question is these are kind of

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Speaker 1: like really threading each other between this one and Ethan

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Speaker 1: trying to find somebody at fifteen, and Alyssa after a miscarriage,

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Speaker 1: wondering if she should haven't try for another baby or

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Speaker 1: have that kind of hurt. And then we got Brandon,

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Speaker 1: who's just desperately worried he's going to lose the love

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Speaker 1: of his life. So you could thread these three questions

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Speaker 1: so similar and just say, guys, for all three of you,

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Speaker 1: we only have today. Because Brandon, right now, you have

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Speaker 1: her today, you have her so lover like, you only

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Speaker 1: have her for today. What kind of life would that

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Speaker 1: look like if you have her for fifty more years

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Speaker 1: you're thirty four, imagine going all the way to eighty

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Speaker 1: five years old and loving her every day like it's

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Speaker 1: the last. Not in a fear. Yeah, but I'm going

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Speaker 1: to make the most of this and gratefulness, this gratefulness,

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Speaker 1: this thankfulness knowing that I could. You could, dude, you

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Speaker 1: could lose her. Yeah, you could lose her tomorrow to

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Speaker 1: a car accident on her way home from work. I

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Speaker 1: know people that this has happened to, and you do too,

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Speaker 1: obviously that's why you're writing it. We're humans. Yeah, but

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Speaker 1: you probably won't. The odds are you won't. Yeah, A

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Speaker 1: lot of times we worry about. Ninety percent of the

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Speaker 1: stuff we worry about never happens. Yeah, and I would

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Speaker 1: And then to double up on Amber said, I would

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Speaker 1: seek the Lord. I would dive into the Bible. People

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Speaker 1: will go, what do you mean? What do you mean

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Speaker 1: I'm talking about? For me in the mornings before everyone

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Speaker 1: gets up, it's just me and the Bible. If you

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Speaker 1: haven't done that before, I open up to like John

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Speaker 1: John Chapter one, and I just go, God, I'm gonna,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna soak in your word here, I'm gonna I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna open up your inspired word. I'm gonna fall in

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Speaker 1: love with this. And this is the truth that I

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Speaker 1: need to hear this morning. Let me see that truth.

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Speaker 1: Let me be hungry for this truth. And you read

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Speaker 1: it and then the kids get up and your wife

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00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:22,520
Speaker 1: gets up, and then you go about your day. But

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Speaker 1: you've built this foundation of truth where God says, I've

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Speaker 1: made a promise to you that you might not see

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Speaker 1: perfect days the rest of your life, but you will

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Speaker 1: have peace in believing that promise that one day everything

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Speaker 1: will be fulfilled. And that's what the Bible said, it's

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Speaker 1: not my words, that's what the text says. And this

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Speaker 1: kind of that thought will free you of this desperate

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Speaker 1: fear of losing your wife. Instead, you just go, like

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Speaker 1: we've said three times on this podcast, you just go. God,

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Speaker 1: the days are up to you. You got the whole

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Speaker 1: wide world in your hands, not my hand. Yeah, not

814
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Speaker 1: in her hands, not in the drunk driver's hands. It's

815
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Speaker 1: coming head on into her, not in the hurricane's hands.

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Speaker 1: It's in your hands. You control all of that. And

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Speaker 1: then then you can breathe, yeah, and pray and pray

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Speaker 1: for him to take that fear away from you. A

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Speaker 1: lot of times that's the enemy just creeping into your mind.

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Speaker 1: And you know, we talked a lot. We talk a

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Speaker 1: lot about renewing your mind every day. Pray for the Lord. Lord.

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm nervous about this, take this fear away from me.

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Speaker 1: Give me your peace. Yeah, yeah, thank you, Brandon. Thanks

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Speaker 1: real tired war Eagle. Sorry, I I don't know which

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Speaker 1: one you are. Back to the drawing board here we

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Speaker 1: have what should I do? We have? Dating as an adult?

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Speaker 1: Read me please? I need some advice, podcast question, mental

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Speaker 1: health question for the podcast, and a question for River

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Speaker 1: Kelly Fund Okay, you keep your inflection keeps changing on

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Speaker 1: read me, please, so let's do that one. I don't

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Speaker 1: know why it's actually in all lowercase. Okay, it says

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Speaker 1: Hey Granger. I've always known you who you are, but

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Speaker 1: I've recently watched all of your podcasts and videos and

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Speaker 1: listen to all your songs all the time. My favorite

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Speaker 1: is by Boy Baseball. Shout out for that song. Today,

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Speaker 1: I drive so a lot of the time I have

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Speaker 1: to put on a video and just listen for hours.

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Speaker 1: I'm twenty three years old. Everything's going great for me.

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Speaker 1: My fiance and I are about to get married in April.

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Speaker 1: We bought a house last year. I just bought a

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Speaker 1: brand new Silverado. It sounds like everything is going great,

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Speaker 1: and it is. But I just have a little bit

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Speaker 1: of a drinking problem. Every day when I get off

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Speaker 1: I start drinking, and on the weekends I really like

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Speaker 1: to pound them. I'm scared because I want to be

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00:45:38,239 --> 00:45:40,400
Speaker 1: a good, good example to my kids. We don't have

847
00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:43,760
Speaker 1: any yet, and not a disappointment to my future wife.

848
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 1: My parents are real alcoholics and we don't speak at

849
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 1: all because they were pretty terrible parents. So what do

850
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:52,480
Speaker 1: you think so you would think I would have learned.

851
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:56,080
Speaker 1: I've never asked for help with anything. But you're a

852
00:45:56,160 --> 00:45:58,840
Speaker 1: real inspiring guy and your music really speaks to me.

853
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:02,040
Speaker 1: And you seem to be so down to earth. By

854
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 1: the way, when the virus is over, you should come

855
00:46:04,719 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 1: to South Georgia, Tallahassee. Please keep me anonymous, so I

856
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:13,760
Speaker 1: won't give out his name, but he is from Georgia

857
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 1: and shout out to Georgia. We would just we just

858
00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:22,280
Speaker 1: moved one state over from Alabama. This email came in February,

859
00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 1: so that's why he mentioned the virus. So they're already married.

860
00:46:28,520 --> 00:46:30,479
Speaker 1: So they are married, so we're kind of speaking into

861
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:33,680
Speaker 1: an existing deal here. Maybe he's made changes so far,

862
00:46:33,760 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 1: we will know. Here's the thing, buddy, I can't say

863
00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:41,560
Speaker 1: your name. Here's the thing. And I see this sometimes

864
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 1: on these podcast questions, and I appreciate you guys being

865
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:47,640
Speaker 1: so open. You sound like such an awesome dude. You

866
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:49,839
Speaker 1: sound like a guy I would love to hang out with.

867
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:53,480
Speaker 1: But when I see these kind of questions come in

868
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 1: the podcast and they answered them himselves, I don't even

869
00:46:57,680 --> 00:47:01,839
Speaker 1: have to see everyone listening and me, I don't have

870
00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:04,680
Speaker 1: to answer this because you already said, here's the deal,

871
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:08,200
Speaker 1: everything's great. You don't want to lose anything, Like here

872
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 1: we go threadn this podcast with these other questions. Again

873
00:47:10,760 --> 00:47:15,400
Speaker 1: here you are a guy that has everything going like

874
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 1: you got the wife. You don't want a loser. Okay,

875
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:22,480
Speaker 1: just like the last question. So everything's going good, but

876
00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:25,320
Speaker 1: you have a drinking problem. Why is that bad? Because

877
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:28,239
Speaker 1: your parents are alcoholics and you don't speak to them

878
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:33,200
Speaker 1: and their terrible parents. Sounds like you shouldn't drink bruh, Well,

879
00:47:33,480 --> 00:47:36,040
Speaker 1: and don't they always say the first step is admitting

880
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:38,440
Speaker 1: that you have a problem. I mean, you directly admit it.

881
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 1: I have a drinking problem. For a lot of people,

882
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:43,040
Speaker 1: they deny it, they hide it, they don't admit it.

883
00:47:43,040 --> 00:47:44,640
Speaker 1: And I know you want to remain anonymous, but you're

884
00:47:44,640 --> 00:47:47,319
Speaker 1: admitting it, at least to yourself and to us. And

885
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:50,760
Speaker 1: you already know in your mind what needs to happen.

886
00:47:50,760 --> 00:47:54,200
Speaker 1: I think you're just you don't know how to do it. Yeah,

887
00:47:54,239 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 1: so many times so you say whenever I get off work,

888
00:47:56,560 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 1: I start drinking on the weekends or really pound them. Man,

889
00:48:01,960 --> 00:48:04,719
Speaker 1: you can't. You sound like a guy that can't have

890
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:06,839
Speaker 1: any right. You have to just cold turkey. You got

891
00:48:06,880 --> 00:48:09,560
Speaker 1: a cold turkey. You're not even a cold beer with

892
00:48:09,600 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 1: your buddies. One beer and that's it. You're not that guy.

893
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 1: You're a zero. And that is not a bad thing.

894
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:20,040
Speaker 1: That's just your personality. Some people could have a few

895
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:24,400
Speaker 1: and if you're my brother Tyler, you can't stop. So

896
00:48:25,080 --> 00:48:29,719
Speaker 1: certain people are like that. So here's my deal. You

897
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:33,920
Speaker 1: have to replace this. You have a habit of getting

898
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:35,680
Speaker 1: off work and drinking, and I have it on the weekend.

899
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:40,239
Speaker 1: You have to replace that with something else. So I

900
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 1: don't know. I would say let's introduce coke zero. But

901
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 1: you're going to get you need to go. You need

902
00:48:47,280 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 1: to go through your whole routine of you probably on me.

903
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:52,719
Speaker 1: Imagine you're going home from work and you stop at

904
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:55,359
Speaker 1: the gas station and you get a six pack, so

905
00:48:55,719 --> 00:48:58,719
Speaker 1: go grab some of that rain energy drink that I've

906
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:01,799
Speaker 1: been drinking lately instead. So you're still going in, You're

907
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:03,960
Speaker 1: still stopping at the same guys station and the same

908
00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:06,560
Speaker 1: guys working the counter. You're going at the same fridges,

909
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:09,000
Speaker 1: but instead of going for the bud light, you're going

910
00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 1: over there and you're getting a pack of energy drinks.

911
00:49:12,880 --> 00:49:15,400
Speaker 1: And so your mind, you're like tricking your mind and

912
00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:18,960
Speaker 1: fulfilling this this habit, but you're breaking the loop of

913
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 1: the actual alcohol well, and we don't know to what

914
00:49:22,640 --> 00:49:27,239
Speaker 1: extent your alcohol, what it's doing to you and your girl,

915
00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:29,359
Speaker 1: your fiance, or your wife at this time. I don't

916
00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:32,799
Speaker 1: know if you have any anger issues or anything like that.

917
00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:35,120
Speaker 1: You never said anything about that. I don't even know

918
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:38,160
Speaker 1: what you consider pounding on. I don't know if for

919
00:49:38,239 --> 00:49:40,240
Speaker 1: you that's for it, or if for you that's a case.

920
00:49:40,360 --> 00:49:42,239
Speaker 1: I do because I know you u nation and I

921
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:48,200
Speaker 1: have dealt with dudes like this most of my life,

922
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:51,480
Speaker 1: and they're in my band and they're around me, and

923
00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:55,640
Speaker 1: they're friends and their fans. So I know this. I

924
00:49:55,719 --> 00:49:59,879
Speaker 1: know who you are, and I know you're a great guy.

925
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 1: Know you've got a great heart, and you're you're sensitive

926
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:07,520
Speaker 1: enough to write this long email, thoughtful email at twenty

927
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:11,520
Speaker 1: three years old. And so I think you also go

928
00:50:11,640 --> 00:50:13,520
Speaker 1: public to your buddies. I was going to say, public

929
00:50:13,520 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 1: to your buddies, and if your wife doesn't know, you

930
00:50:16,160 --> 00:50:18,399
Speaker 1: need someone to hold you accountable. I was going to say,

931
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 1: even maybe find a sponsor to start going to meetings.

932
00:50:22,680 --> 00:50:24,719
Speaker 1: You know, if when you get off work you tend

933
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:26,480
Speaker 1: to go to the gas station. Go pull into a

934
00:50:26,520 --> 00:50:30,120
Speaker 1: meeting instead and do that every day. And it's going

935
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:31,759
Speaker 1: to be hard. It's not going to be easy. No,

936
00:50:31,960 --> 00:50:33,759
Speaker 1: it's right hard. You need, like Ranger said, you need

937
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:36,200
Speaker 1: to replace it. And if it's not going to get

938
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:39,279
Speaker 1: lacroix or something from the gas station, go pull into

939
00:50:39,280 --> 00:50:41,359
Speaker 1: a meeting and sit in a meeting and admit it.

940
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:44,600
Speaker 1: Admit you're already saying, you know, you think you need

941
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: a little bit of help. So I would go to

942
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:49,399
Speaker 1: some kind of meeting, try to find a sponsor. Call

943
00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:51,440
Speaker 1: your wife on your if you're married, now call your

944
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,839
Speaker 1: wife on your way home and say, Babe, I'm really

945
00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:56,120
Speaker 1: wanting to stop. Have her try to convince you to

946
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:58,440
Speaker 1: come straight home. Don't have any alcohol in your house.

947
00:50:58,640 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 1: Don't buy wine or beer any think you're in your

948
00:51:00,680 --> 00:51:03,200
Speaker 1: home because it's just like sugary food or snacks. If

949
00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:05,880
Speaker 1: it's there, you're gonna drink it. So tell all of

950
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 1: your friends, say, hey, guys, I got to tell y'all something.

951
00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 1: Shoot them a text, shoot them a group text to say,

952
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:15,800
Speaker 1: I gotta tell y'all something. I'm getting married and I'm

953
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 1: trying to make the best of my life as y'all

954
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:22,160
Speaker 1: probably know my parents are alcoholics and they're jerks, and

955
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 1: guess what, I don't want to become that. So I'm

956
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:27,520
Speaker 1: taking a step. And this sounds crazy, and you guys

957
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:29,960
Speaker 1: might think I'm an idiot, but I'm gonna stop drinking.

958
00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 1: I'm still going to hang out. I'm still gonna be

959
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 1: with y'all. But please challenge me. Watch me challenge me

960
00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:40,960
Speaker 1: to say, hey, dude, don't don't touch that. Yeah, and

961
00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:43,279
Speaker 1: then I'll take on that challenge. But you guys all

962
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:46,880
Speaker 1: help me. Don't encourage me to drink with you. And

963
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 1: if they do that, you need new friends to take

964
00:51:49,120 --> 00:51:52,239
Speaker 1: a break from those friends. Yea. Your friends should be like, absolutely, bro,

965
00:51:52,320 --> 00:51:55,680
Speaker 1: we got you. We'll be looking after you. You're the

966
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 1: new designated driver. Yeah yeah, Actually you shouldn't even be

967
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:01,560
Speaker 1: going to bars if you if you can't be around it,

968
00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 1: I would just not go anywhere near it. If you

969
00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:05,600
Speaker 1: like to pound them on the weekends, don't buy it.

970
00:52:05,680 --> 00:52:07,719
Speaker 1: Don't go to bars you just have. It's one of

971
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:10,919
Speaker 1: those things. You have to stop cold Turkey And I'm

972
00:52:10,920 --> 00:52:12,760
Speaker 1: going to go back to We're going to lead everything

973
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 1: back to the to the Lord and the word. You

974
00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:17,879
Speaker 1: can't do this alone. You can't. We can't fight any

975
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 1: battles alone, especially this, because it's in your blood. And

976
00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:23,839
Speaker 1: you know it's the lust of the eyes, the lust

977
00:52:23,880 --> 00:52:26,680
Speaker 1: of the flesh, the pride of life. You know, we

978
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 1: we want things to satisfy us, and we have to

979
00:52:29,239 --> 00:52:36,040
Speaker 1: replace those things, those addictions, with the Lord. So appreciate you, man.

980
00:52:36,080 --> 00:52:38,160
Speaker 1: I won't read your name on here, but thanks for

981
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:41,120
Speaker 1: writing it. And I know your story just got heard

982
00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:42,840
Speaker 1: by a lot of people on this podcast that are

983
00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:46,560
Speaker 1: probably going through something similar at Yee Nation. So thanks

984
00:52:46,640 --> 00:52:49,479
Speaker 1: for right, Thanks for being the brave one man, thanks

985
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 1: for bringing brave enough to bring this up. Because you're

986
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:55,920
Speaker 1: no less of a man for not having a beer. Yeah,

987
00:52:55,960 --> 00:52:58,160
Speaker 1: and this world wants to tell you you ain't a

988
00:52:58,200 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 1: man unless you could sit around and have a beer

989
00:53:00,320 --> 00:53:03,120
Speaker 1: with your buddies. That's not true. That is a lie.

990
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 1: Thank you for being a big enough of a man

991
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 1: to admit that and say, I don't care what the

992
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:10,719
Speaker 1: world says. I don't care what the world tells me

993
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:12,840
Speaker 1: that I need to be a man. I'm going to

994
00:53:12,920 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 1: email this podcast and say how do I fix it?

995
00:53:17,239 --> 00:53:19,360
Speaker 1: That's a man of integrity? Yeah, I love that, And

996
00:53:19,400 --> 00:53:21,440
Speaker 1: please email us back because I know you're probably married now.

997
00:53:21,480 --> 00:53:24,200
Speaker 1: I would love to hear if you've made changes since

998
00:53:24,200 --> 00:53:26,360
Speaker 1: you wrote this email and how it's going for you.

999
00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:29,759
Speaker 1: So all right, we have back to the drawing board.

1000
00:53:29,800 --> 00:53:32,080
Speaker 1: We have what should I do dating as an adult?

1001
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:36,760
Speaker 1: I need some advice? Podcast question mental health question for podcast.

1002
00:53:38,400 --> 00:53:41,720
Speaker 1: I think we have time for a couple more questions. Okay,

1003
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:49,239
Speaker 1: dating as an adult? Roger that Hey Granger and guest, Hey,

1004
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:53,720
Speaker 1: hang on a second, I'm I read this one last week. Okay,

1005
00:53:53,760 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 1: near mind, just kidding, Okay, thank you. Chad answered that

1006
00:53:57,120 --> 00:54:00,160
Speaker 1: one last podcast. Okay, one day I'll get it to

1007
00:54:00,200 --> 00:54:01,880
Speaker 1: get it, going to get a producer for this to

1008
00:54:01,920 --> 00:54:07,919
Speaker 1: help me. Okay, you call it mental health? Mental health

1009
00:54:08,360 --> 00:54:13,040
Speaker 1: coming up right now, it says, Hey Granger, Louise from

1010
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:15,759
Speaker 1: Kent and the UK. Here. I've been a fan of

1011
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:18,319
Speaker 1: yours for years and loving the new album. I can't

1012
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 1: wait till you come over the pond and see us.

1013
00:54:20,640 --> 00:54:24,719
Speaker 1: How do you say Louis in British? What does it

1014
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:30,440
Speaker 1: look like, Louise Louise? It's Louise, right, Louise Louise, like

1015
00:54:30,440 --> 00:54:34,799
Speaker 1: with Z Louise because like you know, if it was

1016
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:38,600
Speaker 1: hispanic could be Louise. Yeah, okay, that's l U my bad.

1017
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:42,720
Speaker 1: See that's why I have heard she helps me. Louise says,

1018
00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:45,480
Speaker 1: I was wondering if you could give me any tips

1019
00:54:45,680 --> 00:54:49,160
Speaker 1: on mental health in the current climate. We had two

1020
00:54:49,280 --> 00:54:53,279
Speaker 1: national lockdowns in the UK and we had been put

1021
00:54:53,320 --> 00:54:56,600
Speaker 1: on Tier four, which is the highest level of regional restrictions,

1022
00:54:57,280 --> 00:55:00,840
Speaker 1: meaning we had to spend Christmas and New Year's alone

1023
00:55:00,960 --> 00:55:03,160
Speaker 1: and we couldn't see any friends or families for that

1024
00:55:03,200 --> 00:55:07,439
Speaker 1: whole period. It's been a long time and I still

1025
00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:10,920
Speaker 1: haven't recovered currently feeling like everything is on top of

1026
00:55:10,960 --> 00:55:15,200
Speaker 1: us and feeling very overwhelmed. At the same time, I

1027
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:17,520
Speaker 1: feel very guilty for even feeling like this because I

1028
00:55:17,520 --> 00:55:19,839
Speaker 1: have an amazing husband who I live with, and I

1029
00:55:19,880 --> 00:55:21,760
Speaker 1: know that there are a lot of people completely alone

1030
00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:25,720
Speaker 1: and have dealt with many worse things in their life,

1031
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:29,719
Speaker 1: and how this suffering can't compare to those people and

1032
00:55:29,800 --> 00:55:32,640
Speaker 1: what you guys have gone through. I'm in a constant

1033
00:55:32,680 --> 00:55:34,799
Speaker 1: awe of your attitude to life and how you and

1034
00:55:34,840 --> 00:55:37,319
Speaker 1: Amber face your demons and any obstacles in life with

1035
00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:42,000
Speaker 1: such determination and strength. Please let me know how we

1036
00:55:42,000 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 1: could feed off of this and make the best of

1037
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:48,800
Speaker 1: our current situation. Hugs to all of you and your family.

1038
00:55:49,840 --> 00:55:54,200
Speaker 1: Thank you. When that December. Oh gosh, so they're probably

1039
00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:56,839
Speaker 1: not in lockdown anymore, right, Yeah, but we can still

1040
00:55:56,840 --> 00:56:01,400
Speaker 1: speak to it. Yeah, let's speak to this for Louise,

1041
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:08,960
Speaker 1: Let's speak to she says at the end. How can

1042
00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:11,719
Speaker 1: we feed off of this? She says, you guys have

1043
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:14,800
Speaker 1: learned how to face your demons and obstacles with the

1044
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:18,319
Speaker 1: termination and strength. How could we feed off this and

1045
00:56:18,360 --> 00:56:22,480
Speaker 1: to make the best of the current situation. We're threatening

1046
00:56:22,480 --> 00:56:25,560
Speaker 1: the needle threading all these emails and we're going to

1047
00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:29,120
Speaker 1: go back to stay present. Stay present. And I think

1048
00:56:29,280 --> 00:56:31,799
Speaker 1: I think I'm just validating your feelings here. I think

1049
00:56:31,880 --> 00:56:35,680
Speaker 1: I think it's totally normal. You're human. Any this whole

1050
00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:39,280
Speaker 1: pandemic thing really took a toll on people's mental health,

1051
00:56:39,760 --> 00:56:45,520
Speaker 1: and don't feel bad about that. That's natural. And we

1052
00:56:45,560 --> 00:56:48,200
Speaker 1: could said, as Texans, we didn't experience what you did

1053
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:51,480
Speaker 1: in the UK, so you had it a lot worse. Yeah,

1054
00:56:51,560 --> 00:56:55,319
Speaker 1: and that would make any any human kind of lose

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Speaker 1: it a little bit. But one word that came to

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Speaker 1: my mind when you were reading that is how to

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00:56:59,080 --> 00:57:03,080
Speaker 1: flip That is just gratefulness if you're living your life

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Speaker 1: every day in gratitude of something, even the smallest thing.

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00:57:06,239 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 1: I mean that just waking up in the morning, you know,

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Speaker 1: or having your husband there. And you already did say

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Speaker 1: a sad So here's what we could do. And this

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00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:16,080
Speaker 1: is perfect that you said that, because this is how

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Speaker 1: you said. At the same time, I feel very guilty

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Speaker 1: for feeling like this because I have an amazing husband

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Speaker 1: who I live with, and I know that there are

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Speaker 1: a lot of people completely alone. So flip your guilt

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Speaker 1: into gratitude. Yeah, yeah, And I've never thought about that.

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Speaker 1: I've never thought of that term until you started saying

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Speaker 1: that you should have gratitude. But she feels guilt, so

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00:57:39,320 --> 00:57:43,640
Speaker 1: you could change your guilt for gratitude. So watch this.

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Speaker 1: So watch this. Let me read this paragraph and change

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Speaker 1: the one word. Currently, feeling like everyone is getting on

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Speaker 1: top of this, and I'm feeling very overwhelmed and it

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00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:54,760
Speaker 1: seems like there's no end in sight to all of

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00:57:54,800 --> 00:57:58,800
Speaker 1: this madness. At the same time, I feel very grateful

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Speaker 1: that I have an amazing husband who I live with,

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Speaker 1: and I know there are a lot of people completely

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00:58:03,120 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 1: alone and have dealt with worse things. It changes the

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00:58:08,240 --> 00:58:11,560
Speaker 1: whole feeling or the entire email. By changing guilt to

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Speaker 1: gratitude gratefulness instead of guilt, it takes the same amount.

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Speaker 1: It takes a lot more energy probably to enact guilt.

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Speaker 1: So stop saying you feel guilty for being having an

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00:58:24,840 --> 00:58:29,840
Speaker 1: amazing husband, Stop saying that, say you feel grateful, and

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00:58:29,880 --> 00:58:31,720
Speaker 1: that just to change in that word is going to

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00:58:31,840 --> 00:58:35,479
Speaker 1: change your attitude in your mind. And then you answer

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00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:38,240
Speaker 1: your entire question and go, how do I get through

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Speaker 1: this with my amazing husband next to me, living one

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00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:44,680
Speaker 1: day at a time, Yeah, and loving him, knowing that

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00:58:44,720 --> 00:58:48,320
Speaker 1: there's people like Ethan that don't have anybody. And it

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00:58:48,400 --> 00:58:51,080
Speaker 1: sounds cheesy, but start writing down three things that you're

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Speaker 1: grateful for every day you're like, oh my gosh, you're

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00:58:53,480 --> 00:58:55,880
Speaker 1: probably not living in that lockdown anymore. But if it

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00:58:55,880 --> 00:58:58,240
Speaker 1: ever goes back to that or something, wake up and say, okay,

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00:58:58,400 --> 00:59:01,080
Speaker 1: I can't change this, and to be grateful for what

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00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:02,840
Speaker 1: I have through it, Write down three things that you're

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00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:05,920
Speaker 1: grateful for tomorrow, write down three more and go back

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00:59:05,920 --> 00:59:08,160
Speaker 1: and read them. And it really is a renewing of

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Speaker 1: your mind. And sometimes it is a choice. A lot

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00:59:11,240 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 1: of times it's a choice. You know that you have

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00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:14,880
Speaker 1: to just say I'm not going to feel this way.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to focus on the good be in the

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00:59:16,720 --> 00:59:20,440
Speaker 1: present moment, and that will will begin to flip kind

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00:59:20,440 --> 00:59:25,080
Speaker 1: of your attitude about that situation. So here's the thing, Louise.

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00:59:25,880 --> 00:59:29,000
Speaker 1: Go to your mirror in your bathroom and get a

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00:59:29,040 --> 00:59:33,400
Speaker 1: dry erase marker, and I want you to write, gratefulness

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00:59:34,840 --> 00:59:38,640
Speaker 1: is better than guilt and make the you know, the

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00:59:38,800 --> 00:59:43,320
Speaker 1: alligator sign greater than symbol. Yeah, that's what it's called.

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Speaker 1: Greater than symbol. Gratefulness greater than symbol guilt. Yeah, and

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00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:54,360
Speaker 1: just live by that right now, Okay, And then go

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Speaker 1: in there and drop everything, drop your cell phone, drop

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Speaker 1: your computer, put everything down, and go grab your husband

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Speaker 1: around the neck and just squeeze him and say I

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Speaker 1: am so grateful for you. Yeah. There you go, Louise.

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Speaker 1: We have time, Yeah, we got let's do Let's talk

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Speaker 1: out one more okay, and then we'll give everybody a break.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for listening, everybody. I know we got some

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Speaker 1: over the road truckers listening. Love you guys, Love y'all

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Speaker 1: for listening. Man. So many people listening on their commutes,

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01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:25,760
Speaker 1: and so many people listening while they're working from home

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Speaker 1: or or a lot of people on the tractor listening

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01:00:29,240 --> 01:00:32,520
Speaker 1: to this podcast. Just I feel guilty that so many

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01:00:32,560 --> 01:00:35,520
Speaker 1: people are listening to this podcast. I feel guilty because

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Speaker 1: there's other better podcasts out there, and I feel guilty

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Speaker 1: that you're listening to this one. Just kidding. I feel

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Speaker 1: grateful that you're listening to this podcast. I feel so grateful. Okay,

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01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:47,960
Speaker 1: what should I do? Okay? I need some advice? Podcast

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01:00:48,080 --> 01:00:51,520
Speaker 1: question question for podcast podcast question. That's how the last three.

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Speaker 1: That's how the last three go. Now if when Chad's

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Speaker 1: with me or Bernie, both of those guys will like

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01:00:57,680 --> 01:00:59,720
Speaker 1: they like to pick the boring titles, just to make

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01:00:59,720 --> 01:01:03,959
Speaker 1: sure people don't just try to create interesting titles get

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Speaker 1: clicked on. I'm just to say number four. I don't

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Speaker 1: even remember what that one was. You got it? Okay?

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Speaker 1: Number four says, how do you suggest finding someone to

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Speaker 1: marry that is a Christian and a culture that tells

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Speaker 1: us just to hook up and not care who it is.

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Speaker 1: I live in a small town with not many Christian

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Speaker 1: guys my age at my church. I'm twenty five years old.

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Speaker 1: I feel discouraged and I've had a few failed relationships.

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Speaker 1: I know it was because they were not believers. I

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Speaker 1: know God doesn't promise us love or marriage, just like Ethan,

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Speaker 1: but I have always longed to find it. Maybe He's

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Speaker 1: called me to be single too. Maybe I have a flaw.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for your input on this. I love your family.

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01:01:54,080 --> 01:01:55,880
Speaker 1: It just does not have a name, so I'm not

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Speaker 1: going to read it. I'm not going to read the

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01:01:57,160 --> 01:02:02,880
Speaker 1: name of the email. Thank you. That's a legit question,

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01:02:02,920 --> 01:02:04,920
Speaker 1: and it's similar to Ethan. That's why threw his names

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01:02:04,960 --> 01:02:09,000
Speaker 1: in here. We have threaded this entire podcast with questions,

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01:02:09,080 --> 01:02:11,720
Speaker 1: not intentionally to kind of all relate to each other.

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Speaker 1: Before we get into it, though, I want to knock

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Speaker 1: out one thing. I was going to say the same thing.

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Speaker 1: Probably you're talking about flaws. Yeah, okay, what did we

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01:02:20,520 --> 01:02:24,640
Speaker 1: all have flaws? Yeah, that's where I was going. Yeah, yeah,

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01:02:24,800 --> 01:02:27,600
Speaker 1: you said you said maybe I have maybe a flaw. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: And I want to say another thing. I don't think

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Speaker 1: you're called to singleness. This is a sheet by the way.

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Speaker 1: I don't think you're called to singleness. You're twenty five.

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Speaker 1: You're twenty five, it's too early to call that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: get back to me when you're sixty and single, and

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Speaker 1: we'll call you that. You're called the singleness. But now

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Speaker 1: I don't I don't think that that's the case. You're

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Speaker 1: twenty five, you're ten years older than Ethan, but it's

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01:02:53,280 --> 01:02:55,600
Speaker 1: the same situation. Yeah, I want to go to where

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Speaker 1: you said, in a culture that tells us just to

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Speaker 1: hook up and not care. You know, as a Christian,

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Speaker 1: we are not meant to follow the culture. We are

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Speaker 1: meant to not be of this world. We are called

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Speaker 1: to die to ourselves every day. And so you already

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Speaker 1: know that in your heart. So that should that shouldn't be.

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01:03:14,240 --> 01:03:16,520
Speaker 1: You shouldn't even listen to that to what the world

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01:03:16,560 --> 01:03:19,240
Speaker 1: is telling you to do, because you already know who

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Speaker 1: to look to. You look to your father to tell

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01:03:20,960 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 1: you what to do, your heavenly Father. I know it

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01:03:25,000 --> 01:03:26,479
Speaker 1: can be hard if you live in a small town

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01:03:26,520 --> 01:03:30,520
Speaker 1: and there's not many Christian guys your age. I think

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Speaker 1: just continuing to be patient in the waiting and and praying,

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Speaker 1: obviously still praying for for somebody. You know, we're asked,

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Speaker 1: we're called to pray and just be patient in that

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01:03:43,680 --> 01:03:47,080
Speaker 1: waiting that he's maybe he's preparing you for that man

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01:03:47,280 --> 01:03:50,440
Speaker 1: coming to maybe maybe that man's not ready yet. Maybe

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01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:53,400
Speaker 1: he's he's he's growing you in some way. Just be

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01:03:53,480 --> 01:03:59,040
Speaker 1: patient in that waiting and don't give up. Yeah yeah,

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01:03:59,040 --> 01:04:02,120
Speaker 1: sort of feeling discourage. I'm going to encourage you feel

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Speaker 1: encouraged that you're still twenty five and you haven't gotten

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01:04:05,440 --> 01:04:08,439
Speaker 1: into a bad relationship that's going to lead to a divorce. Right,

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01:04:08,520 --> 01:04:10,600
Speaker 1: there's something to be grateful for in that, or something

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01:04:10,640 --> 01:04:14,480
Speaker 1: to be encouraged thinking, I still have a clean slate.

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Speaker 1: I'm twenty five, which is still very young. You're still

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Speaker 1: very young, and you have a clean slate. Like how

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Speaker 1: many people get to thirty and they go, man, I've

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Speaker 1: been married eight years and I'm not happy or she's

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01:04:28,400 --> 01:04:32,320
Speaker 1: not happy. This is not working. And you don't have

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Speaker 1: any of those burdens right now. So you have a

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01:04:34,480 --> 01:04:37,800
Speaker 1: clean slate and you know what you're looking for. So

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Speaker 1: you have a lot going for you. Yeah, you know

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01:04:40,720 --> 01:04:42,120
Speaker 1: what you want, you know what you're looking for. You

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Speaker 1: It kind of sounds like that's a deal breaker for you.

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Speaker 1: Just trust Yeah, trust you say you said that you're

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Speaker 1: a Christian. You're looking for another Christian. Just trust in God.

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Speaker 1: You don't think he's big enough to get a guy

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01:04:53,720 --> 01:04:56,760
Speaker 1: into your small town. You don't think God is big

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01:04:56,840 --> 01:05:00,440
Speaker 1: enough to get you a guy in your town, or

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01:05:00,720 --> 01:05:03,840
Speaker 1: your God is too small, or God will get you

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01:05:03,880 --> 01:05:05,680
Speaker 1: out of your town, or God will get you into

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01:05:05,680 --> 01:05:09,200
Speaker 1: a new town, and be open to that. Pray for

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01:05:09,240 --> 01:05:12,600
Speaker 1: any opportunities that may come your way and be obedient

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01:05:12,640 --> 01:05:15,360
Speaker 1: to those. If God is calling you somewhere to travel

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01:05:15,560 --> 01:05:18,200
Speaker 1: or to speak to somebody out of your comfort zone,

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01:05:18,240 --> 01:05:21,680
Speaker 1: be open to that. To go to a Granger Smith concerts, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I have so many people go to my concerts by

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Speaker 1: themselves and they have met people and become friends. So

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Speaker 1: and we've seen this, but like in Iowa, remember there's

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Speaker 1: a big get together in Iowa where there was probably

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Speaker 1: like eight or nine people from ye Nation that flew

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Speaker 1: in from all over the country and all met in Iowa.

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Speaker 1: And that's also happened in Texas, happened in Dallas one time.

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01:05:48,440 --> 01:05:51,440
Speaker 1: So people will fly in and meet each other. And

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01:05:51,840 --> 01:05:55,400
Speaker 1: it's an amazing thing to think that these people came

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01:05:55,480 --> 01:05:58,000
Speaker 1: started coming to concerts, a lot of them by themselves,

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01:05:58,440 --> 01:06:00,680
Speaker 1: and then went to the front row and noticed that

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01:06:00,720 --> 01:06:02,920
Speaker 1: the person next to him was singing this their favorite

1223
01:06:02,920 --> 01:06:05,240
Speaker 1: song and had it on the shirt that they were

1224
01:06:05,240 --> 01:06:07,919
Speaker 1: wearing and they're like, hey, did we just become best

1225
01:06:07,920 --> 01:06:11,600
Speaker 1: friends and it ended up getting married. But then we've

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01:06:11,600 --> 01:06:15,240
Speaker 1: had so many people say they got engaged, they met

1227
01:06:15,240 --> 01:06:17,720
Speaker 1: at my show, they got engaged at my show, and

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01:06:17,760 --> 01:06:21,520
Speaker 1: then they come with holding a baby. Yeah it's really cool. Yeah,

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01:06:21,560 --> 01:06:25,360
Speaker 1: it's a really good family. Yeah yeah, hang in there.

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01:06:27,440 --> 01:06:30,080
Speaker 1: A lot of these emails were similar. I hope if

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01:06:30,120 --> 01:06:32,600
Speaker 1: your email didn't get answered this time, go ahead and

1232
01:06:32,640 --> 01:06:36,479
Speaker 1: send one at Granger Smith at podcast at gmail dot com.

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01:06:36,520 --> 01:06:40,200
Speaker 1: But don't send me another one of the same ones. Yeah, right,

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01:06:40,280 --> 01:06:43,120
Speaker 1: because that's not going to help your cause. But also,

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01:06:43,320 --> 01:06:45,240
Speaker 1: I just hope that some of these emails could have

1236
01:06:45,240 --> 01:06:47,400
Speaker 1: related to you also, and I hope you could apply

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01:06:48,120 --> 01:06:49,640
Speaker 1: some of these and change up some of the words

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01:06:49,640 --> 01:06:51,880
Speaker 1: and change some of the names and the timeframes, and

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01:06:51,920 --> 01:06:54,280
Speaker 1: it could also apply to your life. Thank you, Amber

1240
01:06:54,360 --> 01:06:56,960
Speaker 1: for being here, Thanks for having me back. I'll see

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01:06:56,960 --> 01:06:59,240
Speaker 1: you later tonight. Okay, about five minutes. I'm going to

1242
01:06:59,280 --> 01:07:01,920
Speaker 1: read the ads for this podcast right now, and then

1243
01:07:02,240 --> 01:07:04,720
Speaker 1: I have ant Man coming over. He's gonna meet here

1244
01:07:04,760 --> 01:07:08,120
Speaker 1: at five at the farm. Okay, we have something really special.

1245
01:07:08,440 --> 01:07:11,080
Speaker 1: We're shooting with Earl Dibbles Junior at five o'clock. So,

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01:07:11,120 --> 01:07:12,400
Speaker 1: if you made it all the way to the end

1247
01:07:12,440 --> 01:07:16,960
Speaker 1: of this podcast, you just found a tiny nugget. And

1248
01:07:17,080 --> 01:07:19,160
Speaker 1: let me tell you, I'll give you the clue. You

1249
01:07:19,320 --> 01:07:22,480
Speaker 1: listened all the way through, you deserve to get a clue.

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01:07:22,720 --> 01:07:25,880
Speaker 1: Ant Man's coming over here and Brian Kimball, our videographer

1251
01:07:25,880 --> 01:07:27,760
Speaker 1: at eg Peril. We're gonna go out there with Earl

1252
01:07:27,800 --> 01:07:31,520
Speaker 1: Dibblis Junior and we're gonna film something and it involves

1253
01:07:32,240 --> 01:07:39,640
Speaker 1: with Earl and an antenna. It's really exciting, yep. And

1254
01:07:39,680 --> 01:07:41,720
Speaker 1: you will find out if you're listening to this podcast

1255
01:07:41,760 --> 01:07:43,640
Speaker 1: on Monday morning when it's going down, you're gonna find

1256
01:07:43,680 --> 01:07:47,480
Speaker 1: out exactly what I'm talking about. Wednesday, the twenty third.

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Speaker 1: Love you guys, Bye, thanks for joining me on the

1258
01:07:50,520 --> 01:07:53,720
Speaker 1: granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all of you guys. You

1259
01:07:53,720 --> 01:07:56,560
Speaker 1: could help me out by rating this podcast on iTunes.

1260
01:07:56,880 --> 01:07:59,880
Speaker 1: If you're on YouTube, subscribe to this channel. Hit that

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Speaker 1: like button and the notification spell so that you never

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Speaker 1: miss anytime I upload a video. If you have a

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Speaker 1: question for me that you would like me to answer,

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Speaker 1: email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. Yig