WEBVTT - Big Trickin' 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.159 Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:16.640 and The Black Effect. And just like that, we're back 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:19.600 with yet another carefully reckless episode with your Girl. Just hilarious. 0:00:19.720 --> 0:00:22.680 Listen y'all what I'll be doing, I'll be fixing mess. Unfortunately, 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:25.639 my baby sits sterr is not here today, but she 0:00:25.720 --> 0:00:27.800 will be here next week and she will be helping 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:30.040 me read stories. So y'all got to bed with me today. 0:00:30.240 --> 0:00:33.000 Nobody sent the boys snow, so which is okay? I 0:00:33.040 --> 0:00:35.520 need to practice reading anyway for breakfast club. Let y'all 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:37.400 tell it. A bitch can I read? But I can, 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:40.200 and don't play with me, so we're gonna jump straight in. 0:00:40.600 --> 0:00:43.080 And I love that this message is from a guy 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:47.199 your so oh no, Damn's from a girl. Not that 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:49.239 I have any problem with girls sending me messages, but 0:00:49.320 --> 0:00:52.520 I love women, I should say, but I love when 0:00:52.560 --> 0:00:54.319 men can open up as well, because we know our 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:56.920 men do not like this howiday business, honey. They do 0:00:57.000 --> 0:01:00.639 not like to expose stories about them else they don't 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:03.760 feel vulnerable enough in spaces where they can feel safe 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:06.959 enough to tell their business. So I love, always, love, love, 0:01:07.040 --> 0:01:10.080 love when men send in their mess for me to 0:01:10.160 --> 0:01:12.480 give advice on. But here we got another one of 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:14.760 my girls. So here we go. I can't call into 0:01:14.800 --> 0:01:17.080 the show because of my work schedule, but if you 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:22.600 can help with this, Lord Jesus, this is what been 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:25.759 with me all all right? She said, I can't call 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:28.240 into the show because of my work schedule, but if 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:31.199 you can help with this, I'd appreciate it. Just don't 0:01:31.280 --> 0:01:33.160 use my name, please, girl. When the last time you 0:01:33.240 --> 0:01:36.200 heard me see somebody name, y'all are anonymous. Y'all will 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:39.840 remain anonymous. Even if y'all give me y'all names, some 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:41.760 people will be giving me their name, and I still 0:01:41.760 --> 0:01:44.319 don't say it all the time. All right. My man 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:47.039 and I have been together for about four years. We 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:49.080 were forced to be with each other because we fell 0:01:49.160 --> 0:01:51.680 on hard times after a month of knowing each other 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:55.760 and stuck it out. It's been crazy ever since. My 0:01:55.800 --> 0:01:58.800 biggest dilemma is he is a security guard for celebrities. 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:02.840 He usually he does security for gay celebrities. Okay, and 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:06.440 there's a famous transgender celebrity he works with often. Now, 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:08.840 I saw he liked two of her posts on ig 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:13.679 of her in Lingerie. He said he didn't realize he 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:17.240 was just clicking and scrolling, then said it's just business 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:20.040 to keep her happy. Here's what things started getting weird. 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:22.680 He has the only fans Twitter page with him nude 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:25.600 and everything, and he follows her and her gay male 0:02:25.639 --> 0:02:28.800 friend on this page. He follows both of them, but 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:32.000 only the boy follows back. Am I wrong for questioning 0:02:32.000 --> 0:02:35.800 his sexuality and not being attracted to him anymore? Well, 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:37.960 if that's the way you're feeling, nobody can tell you 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:40.120 that you're wrong about the way you feel. Now. This 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:42.120 is your man, you know, as you put in quotes 0:02:42.840 --> 0:02:45.680 and in all caps, this is your man. Okay, Like, 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:48.040 look at the screen, at look at the screen. This 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:52.960 is your man, your man. Okay. These are your feelings, honey, 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:56.760 and they're valid whatever they may be. You understand what 0:02:56.760 --> 0:02:59.080 I'm saying now. I can't ignore what you said in 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:00.880 the beginning. You said that you were forced to be 0:03:00.960 --> 0:03:04.120 together after a month. I don't know what that means. 0:03:04.160 --> 0:03:07.400 Who forced? Y'all? Were y'all talking at first, and you 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:09.120 know you'll fell upon hard time, so you had to 0:03:09.160 --> 0:03:12.000 move together? Like what I don't I don't understand what 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:14.920 you mean, y'all. This sounds like an arranged marriage. If 0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:16.320 you asked me, like, what are you talking about, you 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:18.680 were forced. Nobody is ever forced to be with somebody 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:23.399 unless it is like cultural usually usually that's a cultural thing. 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:25.600 Now I don't know your culture. I don't know. You 0:03:25.639 --> 0:03:30.720 didn't provide that information. But either way, moving along, he 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:33.800 is a security guard for gay celebrities, like you said, 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:39.200 and he's main security for this transgender celebrity who he follows, 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:41.760 and he liked to of her pictures one time, and 0:03:41.800 --> 0:03:44.200 you must have said something about it because you said that. 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:47.160 He first said, oh, he just be liking the scroland. 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:50.160 Why are you following your talent first of all on 0:03:50.200 --> 0:03:52.000 social media? I mean, I don't know if you if 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:53.560 you just work for this person, all right, cool, and 0:03:53.560 --> 0:03:55.480 then most of the time, like you shouldn't have to 0:03:55.480 --> 0:03:57.760 follow him because most of the time, if they're out, 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:00.480 then you're with them. I assume you know what I'm saying. 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:03.480 As security, I've had security. I know celebrities that have security, 0:04:03.640 --> 0:04:06.000 and I know celebrities that have main security, and they 0:04:06.320 --> 0:04:09.520 for the most part keep the same main security unless 0:04:09.520 --> 0:04:12.560 someone aspire, unless they hire a company and they rotate 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:15.680 security guards. I don't understand why you will be following 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:19.160 her and then liking her explicit pictures on social media. Now, 0:04:19.320 --> 0:04:21.239 you also said your man got an only fans page 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:25.000 okay on Twitter and only the gay male friend follows 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:29.840 back okay. So I can see why there is speculation 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:33.520 there why you're curious of what he likes and curious 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:36.719 of his references. Now, but did you sit down and 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:39.279 have a conversation with him about that any further than 0:04:39.360 --> 0:04:43.680 you just bringing up him liking his clients' pictures on 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:46.400 Instagram from the first time, Because I don't understand how 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.039 you go from liking to scroll into oh, I do 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:49.800 this and make her happy. You don't need to do 0:04:49.839 --> 0:04:53.240 anything but secure her to make her happy and safe. 0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:55.080 It's not even about you making her happy. It's about 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.440 you making her feel safe. That's the only thing that 0:04:57.520 --> 0:04:59.599 you owe to her if you're her security guard, and 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:02.640 that is all make her feel safe, not make her 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:05.520 feel wanted. You shouldn't feel wanted by a damn bodyguard 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:09.360 unless you are fucking with your bodyguard. Okay. I guess 0:05:09.400 --> 0:05:12.320 y'all ain't watched the movie The Bodyguard, you know what 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:14.719 I'm saying. Unless it's a situation like that, all you 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:18.560 need to be doing is securing safely, securing the talent, 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:21.920 that is it. But I feel like you're well within 0:05:21.960 --> 0:05:24.039 your right to question him, and I think you should 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:25.719 sit down and talk to him about it. If you 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:28.640 feel this way strongly in your mind, then your decision 0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:31.080 has already been made because you already said you're not 0:05:31.320 --> 0:05:33.880 feeling him anymore, you're not attracted to him anymore, and 0:05:33.960 --> 0:05:36.120 are you wrong about it? I'm telling you you're not wrong. 0:05:36.200 --> 0:05:38.120 So what are your next steps? Because I don't want 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:40.560 you to sit there and let this roll off your 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:44.039 back and then a year later you're still trying to 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:46.560 be with this man because you don't want to hurt 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:50.200 his feelings and feel like you're exposing him. No, sit 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:52.480 down to have a conversation with him, don't put him 0:05:52.480 --> 0:05:54.599 on blast, don't do none of that. No, we ain't 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:56.320 got to do all of that. What you do, like 0:05:56.360 --> 0:05:58.240 I said, you tell him you feel some type of 0:05:58.240 --> 0:06:01.800 way because you feel like he has tendencies, and you 0:06:01.880 --> 0:06:05.080 feel like I already feel some type of way about 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:10.200 you being a security guard for LGBTQ celebrities, you know, 0:06:10.360 --> 0:06:13.000 and then I caught you liking this, and then you 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:16.359 would and then you went from oh I was just 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:19.000 scroll and there was a simple mistake to you know, 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:21.120 I do this to make her happy? Well, what the 0:06:21.120 --> 0:06:22.680 fuck you doing to make me happy? You ain't in 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:25.159 a relationship with her, you know what I'm saying to you, 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:28.040 Following the OnlyFans pages and all that type of shit 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:31.480 and the gay nigga following you back, and shit, No, 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:33.599 it's too much. It's too much, And I don't think 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:35.880 you're thinking too deep into it at all. Don't let 0:06:35.960 --> 0:06:37.800 nobody tell you that that's how you feel before you 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:39.680 go to sleep at night and when you wake up 0:06:39.720 --> 0:06:41.480 in the morning, that is what it is. Trust your 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:44.560 women's intuition, honey, and keep me updated. Get out of 0:06:44.600 --> 0:06:47.279 that situation, Get rid of him and let him be 0:06:47.800 --> 0:06:50.360 what he wants to be. Let him go over to 0:06:50.400 --> 0:06:52.359 the side that he wants to go over on, or 0:06:52.400 --> 0:06:56.200 maybe he wants to be bisexual. Shit, he like playing 0:06:56.880 --> 0:06:59.480 both sides. So I'm gonna call him by give him 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:01.479 what he wanted to walk away from it. Because while 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:04.640 some women are okay with that, some women or not, 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:08.400 and you seem like one that's not. So keep me updated. 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:10.000 I'm serious. I want to know what's going on. And 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:12.400 I want you to keep it a hundone with him 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:16.720 and thank you for sharing. Honey, if you love me, 0:07:16.840 --> 0:07:19.360 you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back. 0:07:21.600 --> 0:07:24.960 All right, here's someone else sending from my business profile 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:28.360 because my messages from my personal won't allow me to 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:31.280 write more, and waiting for the invites we'll be accepted. 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:32.840 I got to figure out how to take that shit 0:07:32.920 --> 0:07:35.360 off of there. Okay, Hey, Jass, I've been a long 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:37.600 time follower of Jess Hilarious and even went to a 0:07:37.640 --> 0:07:40.480 show in Vegas once. But girl, I just started listening 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:42.720 to the podcast and I have been binging. Oh I 0:07:42.720 --> 0:07:45.480 know that's right, girl. Thank you. Just almost dropped a 0:07:45.520 --> 0:07:47.760 found dumbbell on my foot listening to you in the gym. 0:07:47.880 --> 0:07:50.320 All right, Well, you guys to be care money. I 0:07:50.360 --> 0:07:53.280 was cracking up because you said something stupid funny. Anyway, 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:56.320 here's my mess I've been with my husband for four years, 0:07:56.480 --> 0:07:59.120 dated for two and a half, and married for one 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:01.920 and a half. Okay, while we were dating, we struggled 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:05.920 with communication issues both of us. However, the blame would 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:08.800 generally fall on me for being the one who was 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:12.640 really bad with communication. Okay, I took the blame willingly 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:17.880 and worked on it through therapy, my Christian faith and journaling. Okay, 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:22.440 that's it. Congratulations, What the fuck you want me to say? Girl? Shit, 0:08:22.560 --> 0:08:25.480 I'm it's no advice. That's it now. I don't know 0:08:25.480 --> 0:08:27.320 if you couldn't send another message because you said you 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:30.000 were writing me from your business profile, because when you 0:08:30.000 --> 0:08:32.520 wrote me from your personal profile it wouldn't let you. 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:35.800 But you seem to have gotten through here. I mean, 0:08:35.840 --> 0:08:37.080 did you just want to give me an update on 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:41.160 your life? Girl? All right? Well, whatever you wanted to do, 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:44.000 I appreciate you telling me that boom, but if you 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:49.319 can finish your message, all right, let's move on. Okay. 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:51.480 This person says, oh, this is a guy. You all 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:53.400 we got a man in a house, all right. I 0:08:53.600 --> 0:08:56.360 like to remain anonymous, but hey, Jess, I have a situation. 0:08:56.800 --> 0:08:58.920 I've tried calling the breakfast club to speak to you 0:08:58.960 --> 0:09:01.160 directly or get it off my chest, but never can 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:04.199 get through. So here's what's going on. Okay, I'm sorry 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:06.440 about that. A lot of people are calling up that 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:09.000 early in the morning. You may not think so, but 0:09:09.040 --> 0:09:12.240 there are millions of listeners across the country. Guys, So 0:09:12.960 --> 0:09:15.880 more power to you if you actually get through, Lord, 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:20.000 And you see how excited people actually are when we 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:21.920 answer the phone, like they even forget what they were 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:23.400 trying to get off their chest, so they forget what 0:09:23.400 --> 0:09:25.000 they even want to ask me because they're like, oh 0:09:25.000 --> 0:09:27.000 my god, I finally got through. You know what I'm saying, 0:09:27.040 --> 0:09:30.680 So okay, I'm gonna start. A year ago, I moved 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:34.400 from Waldorf, Maryland. Okay, Waldorf, Maryland so Atlanta with my 0:09:34.480 --> 0:09:36.959 daughter and girlfriend of three years. I thought everything was 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:39.640 going fine. It was her idea to move to Atlanta. 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:42.280 Oh Lord, I went with it to make her happy. 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:44.720 But on Valentine's Day this year, while I was at 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:47.400 work and my daughter was at school, she cheated on me. 0:09:47.720 --> 0:09:49.880 And the only reason I found out is because her 0:09:50.320 --> 0:09:52.960 and the guy she cheated with burned my house down 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:57.080 trying to be romantic with candles and shit. And turns 0:09:57.120 --> 0:09:59.760 out she knew the guy for years. He was an 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:02.240 ext and that's why she wanted to move to Atlanta 0:10:02.400 --> 0:10:05.320 so bad. Oh my god. And now me and my 0:10:05.400 --> 0:10:08.160 daughter have been homeless, living in my car in rooms 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:10.800 when we can afford. She is only eight, and we 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:12.520 are trying to get back on our feet. My ex 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:15.280 stole money from our account and lives with her ex. 0:10:15.360 --> 0:10:17.920 I don't know if there is anything to fix anymore. 0:10:18.360 --> 0:10:21.280 What first of all you got damn right, ain't nothing 0:10:21.280 --> 0:10:23.160 to fix anymore? Why the fuck are you even thinking 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:26.400 about fixing anything with her? You are now stuck with 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:28.040 the child. Now, if this is all true, and I'm 0:10:28.040 --> 0:10:31.400 not saying I do not believe you, but what in 0:10:31.520 --> 0:10:34.160 the fuck is going on? You moved down there, you 0:10:34.200 --> 0:10:36.959 got a job. Did you lose your job? How did 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:39.640 you end up homeless? Like? What happened? Did you move 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:41.880 down there with no job? Did you not ever find 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:44.040 a job? She moved down there to be closer to 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:47.480 her ex. Okay, cool, forget her, but the fact that 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:50.480 she wouldn't take her child is crazy. Now, how did 0:10:50.480 --> 0:10:52.160 that happen? How did you end up with your baby? 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:54.840 Not saying that you shouldn't have your baby because you 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:58.880 are her father? For sure? Now a child has two parents. 0:11:00.120 --> 0:11:02.480 But if she knows that you are homeless, why not 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:04.400 take the child until you can get on your feet. 0:11:04.559 --> 0:11:08.040 I want to know more about that situation, damn. And 0:11:08.040 --> 0:11:11.199 then that eight year old baby, she's well aware enough 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:14.320 to see you know the conditions that her and dad 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:17.880 has to live in. Shit. You also didn't provide any 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:20.840 type of GoFundMe, any type of cash app either, brother, Like, 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:23.640 come on, I need to I need to know. And 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:25.840 then I feel like you did get through. I feel 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:27.440 like you got through because I feel like I talked 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:30.720 to you on Breakfast Club just Monday morning. I feel 0:11:30.720 --> 0:11:34.280 like you did. Jesus Christ. Shit, I do not know 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:36.840 what to tell you about being out in Atlanta. I 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:39.080 know you need to be fucking careful because that's the 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.000 most dangerous place to be. Sleeping in your car with 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:43.440 your eight year old daughter. How do y'all shower? What 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:45.960 do y'all eat? Like what? She's a little girl, you know, 0:11:46.040 --> 0:11:48.720 So I know you're more than scared out of your mind. 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:51.280 I mean, people break in cars, people steal cars down there, 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:54.840 people like just fuck with you, you know what I'm saying. 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:56.920 And this can happen anywhere, by the way, but it 0:11:57.360 --> 0:12:00.800 happens so much more frequently, and it's it's more expected 0:12:00.840 --> 0:12:02.600 in Atlanta, you know what I'm saying. That's like one 0:12:02.640 --> 0:12:05.960 of the most common crimes there carjacking and shit, Like 0:12:06.480 --> 0:12:09.400 God damn, I want to know what type of fucking mother. 0:12:09.880 --> 0:12:13.720 This little girl got ain't no goddamn way did you 0:12:13.760 --> 0:12:16.440 see any signs? Like how the hell didn't you see 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:20.600 signs of this? Lord? She need to be a motherfucking 0:12:20.679 --> 0:12:25.079 jail for having her daughter. You know what, how did 0:12:25.120 --> 0:12:27.360 you lose your job? Let's get off the mom. How 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:30.400 did you lose your fucking job? That's what I need 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:33.800 to know. Was it because when the house burned down, 0:12:34.760 --> 0:12:36.760 you know, you had to take several days off? Or 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:39.800 like what the fuck was it? Was she remorseful to 0:12:39.840 --> 0:12:43.840 say the least? Like was she remorseful at all? Was like, 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:46.320 you don't have any family that you can bring your 0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:49.079 ass back up to Waldorf from Maryland and stay with 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:51.360 and get on your feet for a while, Like I 0:12:51.400 --> 0:12:53.920 know how it is moving a plane ride away, not 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:56.839 even only hours moving? Like, well, you got to catch 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:59.640 a plane too, And if you do have a car, 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:02.640 drive your ass back up to Maryland. That's only what 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:06.520 an eight hour drive? Gas that bitch up and drive 0:13:06.600 --> 0:13:08.480 back up to Maryland. You are now you should not 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:11.880 be being homeless, Okay, not with your baby girl. It's 0:13:11.920 --> 0:13:14.040 too much mistake, too much going on. I don't care 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:16.199 what you gotta do. Get your ass back up to 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:19.280 Waldorf and figure it out for your baby. Fuck that girl, 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:21.920 because that's what it just, that's what it's giving. If 0:13:21.920 --> 0:13:23.920 she don't give a fuck about your daughter, Your daughter 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:26.320 only got you and that's it. You ain't got a 0:13:26.360 --> 0:13:28.320 bad mouth tome mom. You ain't gotta you know, if 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:30.040 you haven't already, you ain't gotta do none of that. 0:13:30.240 --> 0:13:32.480 You can just show her all right, my dad made 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:35.520 a fucking way. Drive your ass back up to Maryland. 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:38.760 That's better than being homeless day in and day out, 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:41.320 sleeping in your car and shit, you get what I'm saying. 0:13:42.200 --> 0:13:45.680 That's better than that. Quit whatever fucking job that is done, 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:48.560 and take your ass home where you have stability, more 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:51.560 stability or whatever, like where's your family? Shit like that. 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:55.320 Somebody will help you, honey, and we'll be right back 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:59.520 after this. Jess, congratulations on everything. Thank you girl. You're 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:03.840 too doving of this happiness. I am messaging because I 0:14:03.880 --> 0:14:07.640 hate having sex with my husband. Damn it's bad sex, girl, 0:14:07.720 --> 0:14:09.560 And now he wants a girlfriend. What should I do? 0:14:10.559 --> 0:14:12.319 Leave that? Nigga? What the fuck wrong with you? You 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:15.400 leave him? He already ain't fucking you right, and he 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:18.000 want a girlfriend. If you got bad dick for one bitch, 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:19.560 what the fuck make you think you gonna do with 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:22.960 two bitches? What the fuck is wrong with you? I 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:25.840 can't stand for a nigga like that. Now listen, if 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:28.280 you want to look a little further, what is going 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:31.280 on with you? Do you not get him hard? Or like? 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:33.720 How long y'all been married? Because this is a short 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:36.640 ass message. Beautiful fucking woman, I ain't gonna take nothing 0:14:36.680 --> 0:14:38.720 from you. Now, you a bad mama jam. But that's 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:41.000 what the fuck I'm looking at right here. But I 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.840 can see that you are seasoned, you are older. You 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:45.800 ain't no young little whooper snap of what you don't 0:14:45.800 --> 0:14:49.000 need to be. But it's he into younger women? Does 0:14:49.040 --> 0:14:50.560 he want when he say he wants a girlfriend, does 0:14:50.600 --> 0:14:52.880 he want somebody younger? Have you called him with somebody younger? 0:14:52.920 --> 0:14:55.240 Has he ever talked about younger women? Have y'all ever 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:58.800 had this conversation that prompted him to want a girlfriend? 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:00.800 Have you ever told him you get give them a threesome? 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:03.520 You know? Like, are you into women as well? I 0:15:03.600 --> 0:15:05.280 need it for you to tell me some shit, all right, 0:15:05.280 --> 0:15:06.920 because it sounds like you're hiding a lot from me. 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:08.560 And I don't like it, you know what I mean? 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:10.840 But I think you leave. You know what I'm saying. 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:12.560 If the sex is bad and he wants another girlfriend 0:15:12.680 --> 0:15:15.880 and you're not open to that, yeah you leave? What 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:19.120 the fuck? I don't how long y'all been married? You know? 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:22.000 Do I have kids together? What is? I need some 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:24.960 more meat on the bone booth. I'm telling you, don't 0:15:25.000 --> 0:15:27.480 be giving me these little as stories and expecting for 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:29.840 me to fix y'all mess and y'all leaving shit out now, 0:15:30.080 --> 0:15:33.120 But thank you for congratulating me. Keep me updated. She's 0:15:33.160 --> 0:15:35.960 so pretty. She's really really pretty. Sometimes I wish y'all 0:15:35.960 --> 0:15:38.040 could see some of these people that send me these messages. Man, 0:15:38.080 --> 0:15:39.760 I'll be like, how the fuck did you end up 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:43.360 in this mess? Woman? You're too fucking gorgeous? What's going on? 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:48.240 Leave these niggas? Okay, it's the last story, y'all. Hey girl, Hey, 0:15:48.400 --> 0:15:50.360 I love you and I love your show. Thank you girl, 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:53.880 Hey girl, Hey, I g be sketchy with DMS. So 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:57.120 that's probably why these stories be incomplete. They call it 0:15:57.160 --> 0:15:59.560 an invite text, okay, so blah blah blah blah blah. 0:15:59.600 --> 0:16:03.840 I know it's stink ass behavior. Yes, I hate it. 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:06.920 Trust me. I will find a way to fix it, y'all, 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:10.640 but bear with me until I do so. I really 0:16:10.640 --> 0:16:12.840 don't have a mess per se, but I guess you 0:16:12.880 --> 0:16:15.440 can let me know. I have my own businesses and 0:16:15.480 --> 0:16:17.640 I make good money doing it. I have grown to 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:19.520 accept that I will not find a man that make 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:22.440 as much as me, or even more than me. I'm 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:24.760 literally okay with this, but I don't want to feel 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:27.880 like I'm settling for a bum ass nigga. I understand, girl, 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:30.080 Been there, done that, and I will never do it again. 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:33.160 I don't need a man for money, but they seem 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:36.880 to like the bitches that want the money hmm that 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:39.800 they don't have. Haha. I like that. Well, let me 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:43.240 read that one over. That's a word. I let me see. 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:45.640 I don't need a man for money, but they seem 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:47.760 to like the bitches that want the money that they 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:51.000 don't have. Ha ha. I love it. It's weird as 0:16:51.000 --> 0:16:53.520 fuck out here, girl. It is like, maybe I sound 0:16:53.600 --> 0:16:55.920 goofy as fuck for it, but I accept it. If 0:16:55.920 --> 0:16:58.360 I like a nigga, I'm a whole trick. I buy 0:16:58.400 --> 0:17:01.960 gifts and do trips. I'm big dog laughing like shit, 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:05.199 but I feel like it intimidates these men having a 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:07.960 woman that don't need them like real live mo. I'll 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:10.560 be feeling wild as fuck for thinking like this. Amn. 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:12.439 First of all, I know you from DC. Don't ever 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:16.399 call me MO. All right, don't ever call me MO dummy. 0:17:16.440 --> 0:17:19.119 I'm from Baltimore. We don't do that. Sagnaw. I'm fucking 0:17:19.160 --> 0:17:21.440 with you, girl, that you living in your true DC 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:23.480 self though, I see that, So DMV in the house. 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:24.920 First of all, I love you girl, love you, girl, 0:17:26.320 --> 0:17:29.680 but you don't gotta feel wild as fuck for thinking 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:31.840 like that. I mean, that is obviously all that you 0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:34.080 have been shown I mean, or most of what you 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:36.879 have seen in the dating pool obviously. And then I 0:17:36.920 --> 0:17:39.800 know we tend to let social media play on our 0:17:39.800 --> 0:17:42.400 minds when it comes to dating as well, and all 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:45.440 the validation that is needed from both men and women 0:17:45.520 --> 0:17:48.320 these days, so let's not ignore that shit. But if 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:50.720 you take away from all of that, listen, girl, there 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:54.520 are men out here that you can get that make 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:57.280 more than you, or make just as much as you, 0:17:57.560 --> 0:18:01.400 that are ambitious and will not allow you to let 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:05.240 them use you. They will not allow you to woo them. 0:18:05.280 --> 0:18:08.320 They will not like I'm telling you a man when 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:10.600 you meet a motherfucker man. I'm talking about a man 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:12.360 that I got right now that I didn't think even 0:18:12.400 --> 0:18:19.120 fucking existed. Okay, seriously, I'm telling you they are out there, 0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:22.680 these men that own these companies that these men that 0:18:22.720 --> 0:18:25.840 do that work them. I'm talking about a man man. Now. 0:18:25.880 --> 0:18:27.919 Most of them ain't on social media. You ain't gonna 0:18:27.960 --> 0:18:31.480 find them on social media. And if you do find 0:18:31.520 --> 0:18:34.360 that they got a page, it ain't nothing knowing that motherfucker. Okay. 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:36.639 They just get on that and be nosy when you 0:18:36.720 --> 0:18:38.520 tell them about something, and they get on that when 0:18:38.560 --> 0:18:42.399 they're bored. Literally, there are men like that. I'm sorry 0:18:42.440 --> 0:18:44.560 your experience has been a little fucked up. You know. 0:18:44.640 --> 0:18:49.040 I've had some fucked up ones myself. But first of all, 0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:51.320 more power to you for having your own businesses, making 0:18:51.359 --> 0:18:53.560 your good money and all of that. I ain't gonna 0:18:53.600 --> 0:18:55.760 keep letting you trick though you ain't ready tell me 0:18:55.840 --> 0:18:57.600 like you a whole trick. If you like a nigga, No, 0:18:57.680 --> 0:19:00.320 that's how you end up being taken advantage of. That 0:19:00.400 --> 0:19:03.160 is how you end up falling victim to this shit 0:19:03.160 --> 0:19:06.240 that you're telling me about. Yeah, and that little word 0:19:06.280 --> 0:19:07.880 that you gave me. You don't need a man for money. 0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:09.440