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Speaker 1: All right, it is time now for today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: and if you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: going to read this one right now.

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Speaker 2: Well, buckle up and hold on tight. We got it

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Speaker 2: for you.

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Speaker 3: Here.

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Speaker 2: It is Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: All right, subject, get the funk out my face. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, I've been dating a guy for close to

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Speaker 1: three years and I need some advice on a major

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Speaker 1: issue I'm having with him. I love this man and

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Speaker 1: he is a great guy. He loves me too, and

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Speaker 1: we have been talking about marriage. But here's my issue.

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Speaker 1: I cannot stand going to his house because it is

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Speaker 1: always a mess. When we spend quality time together. We're

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Speaker 1: always at my house and I have to encourage him

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Speaker 1: to pick up after himself and not eat all over

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Speaker 1: my house. He and his teenage son live like slobs,

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Speaker 1: and I have told him that I don't feel comfortable

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Speaker 1: at his house. There are clothes and shoes all over

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Speaker 1: the place, old food containers in the kitchen and living room,

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Speaker 1: empty bottles and mail throwne everywhere, and I won't even

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Speaker 1: mention the bathroom.

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Speaker 2: It's okay.

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Speaker 1: As you can imagine, there is also a very bad,

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Speaker 1: stuffy odor in the house too. When we first met,

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Speaker 1: I asked him if he needed me to help him

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Speaker 1: hire a cleaning service to come in and help out.

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Speaker 1: He said he was ashamed and he would do it himself.

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Speaker 1: But over time nothing's changed and it's gotten worse, not better.

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Speaker 1: Now the worst part is that he's starting to smell

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Speaker 1: like his house.

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Speaker 2: Don't get me.

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Speaker 1: Wrong, He's never had an issue with hygiene, but his

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Speaker 1: clothes have started looking dirty and smelling funky, just like

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Speaker 1: his house. I've been making up excuses to avoid intimacy

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Speaker 1: with him because I'm totally turned off by the smell.

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Speaker 1: Intimacy is a big part of any great relationship. So

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Speaker 1: how can I get How can I get this man

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Speaker 1: to see that his filth and funk are pushing me away?

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Speaker 4: Please help? This is a bad situation.

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Speaker 1: This is a funky, nasty situation to be and yeah,

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Speaker 1: low down deal right hygiene, I mean this is a

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Speaker 1: big deal breaker, and any relationship this is a big

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Speaker 1: deal breaker. Getting past this, I mean going to someone's

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Speaker 1: house that's messy. Maybe have you know, a few clothes

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Speaker 1: thrown around or something like that.

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Speaker 4: Messy and nasty or two different things.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you can pick up some clothes and hang those up,

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Speaker 1: and you know your house is still clean and everything,

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Speaker 1: but being nasty with food containers in the bathrooms being

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Speaker 1: a mess and it having an odor, and then you

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Speaker 1: having an odor because you live there.

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Speaker 4: That is a mess. And you make him sound.

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Speaker 1: Like he's just a couple of you know, a couple

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Speaker 1: of boxes or something away from being a hoarder. That's

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Speaker 1: kind of what you make it sound like. And if

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Speaker 1: you watch that show Hoarders, they say that hoarding is mental,

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Speaker 1: it's a mental condition. I say, you, on your own,

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Speaker 1: do what you suggested to him, get him some help

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Speaker 1: to clean up his house. That's one thing I mean,

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Speaker 1: this is a message you don't want to be a

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Speaker 1: part of it. And I understand that you guys are

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Speaker 1: talking marriage. If he's like this, now, you guys aren't married,

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Speaker 1: you go to his house. Can you only imagine if

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Speaker 1: you marry this guy and he starts doing this in

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Speaker 1: your house, you guys will be divorced very quickly. I'm sure,

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Speaker 1: so he needs help. His son is needs some help

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Speaker 1: because he's a slob, like you say, he needs someone

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Speaker 1: to come in on a consistent basis and keep this

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Speaker 1: doing the same with himself with his personal hygiene. All right,

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Speaker 1: If that doesn't help the situation, you're gonna have to

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Speaker 1: say thing and say something, and you're probably gonna have

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Speaker 1: to leave because this is this is a deal breaker.

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Speaker 4: Hygiene, nastiness, This is a deal breaker as far as

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Speaker 4: I'm concerned, Steve.

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Speaker 5: This letter is real simple as cutting drive not probably

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Speaker 5: not gonna have to take two breaks to do this.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, keep it funk.

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Speaker 5: Now here's a deal. Shirley mentioned hoarding and how it's mental.

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Speaker 5: This is not a mental problem. This is a physical problem.

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Speaker 5: Stink is not mental. Stink is physical, and stink produces

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Speaker 5: physical reactions. WHOA Lord, that ain't mental? That's physical? You

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Speaker 5: got the wrong? Whoa you gotta do it? Whoa lord?

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Speaker 4: Really?

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Speaker 6: Tall man?

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Speaker 2: Hell?

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Speaker 5: What's happening in him? That's not mental? This is a

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Speaker 5: physical problem you have it. Smell is physical. You had

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Speaker 5: to inhale, your nostrils, got to start burning. That's physical.

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Speaker 5: I water it. It's physical things that happen when you

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Speaker 5: run into a smell, sharpness of breath. That's physical. So

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Speaker 5: we're not gonna sit up and act like him and

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Speaker 5: his nast ass son has gotten mental problems. It's physical.

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Speaker 5: Now he's starting to smell like his house. I had

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Speaker 5: a part in the smell just like his house. You

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Speaker 5: know his house smell like.

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Speaker 1: Oh can we say it on the radio.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, yeah, okay, because it didn't stink. It was

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Speaker 5: just strange his house smell like. And he smelled like

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Speaker 5: hot dog water. You know, hot dog water don't stink,

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Speaker 5: but it's just straight.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a distinct odor.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how he smelled like hot dog water.

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Speaker 5: I want to bring and and you know his house

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Speaker 5: smell like when we went over there, we was always saying,

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Speaker 5: man is y'all born and hot dog? And there never was,

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Speaker 5: and then never was. They walk sat time we walk in, man,

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Speaker 5: man man, as we finished, hell hot dog? Well, no,

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Speaker 5: we have no hot dog matter. What was that I smell?

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Speaker 5: We ain't cooking? Well, somebody has some hot dogs in here.

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Speaker 5: Just be in his house?

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Speaker 1: All all right, we'll have part two of Steve's response

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three after the hour subject, get

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Speaker 1: the funk out my face.

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Speaker 4: Right after this, you're listening.

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Speaker 1: Morning show?

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Speaker 4: All right, Steve let threecap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 5: This is real simple, ain't no read? Your house stink?

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Speaker 5: She with a man who house steink her teenage son,

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Speaker 5: he stink. They starting to smell like the house. Now

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Speaker 5: I want the fellas to join in here and right down.

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Speaker 5: Your house smell like filling the blank. Now I kicked

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Speaker 5: it off with hot dog water. What other smells does

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Speaker 5: a house smell?

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Speaker 6: Your house smell like gorilla butt, Julia, how.

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Speaker 4: Do you follow that?

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Speaker 2: Your house smell like under all. Oh that's your house

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Speaker 2: smell like two skunks in the summer. That's hot. See

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Speaker 2: that's hot funk right there.

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Speaker 5: Your house smell like hot garbage, garbage when it's high.

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Speaker 3: God, your house smell like wet feet that's been hiking.

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Speaker 5: Wait a minute, feet that's been.

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Speaker 7: I don't want to say this, but your house smelled

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Speaker 7: like it's some four milk somewhere.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, your house smelled like y'all didn't put the garbage

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Speaker 2: at three weeks straight.

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Speaker 5: That's what it smelled.

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Speaker 2: We already forgot to do that. Before three weeks, not three.

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Speaker 5: Your house smelled like a bag of warm dog food,

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Speaker 5: not hot. Just won't you know when you open up

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Speaker 5: that bag of dog food and it don't really smell

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Speaker 5: good to you, but your dog over there be going crazy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, I had one and we've all experienced it.

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Speaker 3: Come on, you go lay down on the counch and

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Speaker 3: your grandmama been sitting there for a long time and

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Speaker 3: you have to jump up because it's long.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, your house smelled like three weeks spoiled.

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Speaker 2: Call it green. That's thanky right there.

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Speaker 5: He hockey, I got the worst.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how about this here? Your house smell like y'all

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Speaker 2: just took some hockey and put it in the mic. Away,

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Speaker 2: put that on thirty that's you know. Oh you know

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Speaker 2: what hockey? Turned it on? Turn it on thirty seconds.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, got it hot.

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Speaker 4: Oh I'm like, bar what come on?

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Speaker 2: See?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, no, house smelled like an empty chitling bucket.

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Speaker 1: That's I have a week jumping is.

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Speaker 3: Because I'm the only one that knows what to smell like.

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Speaker 3: Because I have to shave. This is mama's back hair,

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Speaker 3: that's what it smell.

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Speaker 1: Well, George Waller is gonna jump on you one day

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Speaker 1: when you least expected.

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Speaker 7: Oh, come on, No, house smell like a huge baby

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Speaker 7: diaper left in a hot car.

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Speaker 2: When you open that door.

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Speaker 5: A man, when the twins was little, I did that

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Speaker 5: one time. God though, God, Man, you left the diaper

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Speaker 5: in the car. See, I thought I thought my little

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Speaker 5: girls was mean, said man, I haven't had made twin

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Speaker 5: girls back then. It is grown ass from me with

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Speaker 5: a little bunnet so far just to see I didn't

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Speaker 5: have daughters. I have two men in back.

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Speaker 2: Wrong, that's wrong.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's wrong.

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Speaker 2: It is hot too. This house smell like gorilla toe jam.

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Speaker 5: Yeah that right there, smell it. Call us smell it.

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Speaker 1: No, Sureley and I our face has just been frown Yeah.

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Speaker 2: No, I have a week stime.

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Speaker 5: Your mama house, Your mama house smelled like they can

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Speaker 5: the fish grease on the spell the whole house.

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Speaker 2: How did his mama get in it?

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Speaker 5: I don't know, Miss George Wallace. I just said your

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Speaker 5: mama house.

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Speaker 6: You say, George Wallers, just you know I didn't do that.

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Speaker 3: Your house, I mean, your house smell like an empty

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Speaker 3: sardine can that you forgot and it's back behind the

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Speaker 3: trash can in the.

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Speaker 4: Thing and that thing that is substanct.

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Speaker 6: You can't and you can't find it.

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Speaker 2: You can't.

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Speaker 6: Where is that coming from?

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Speaker 2: Coming from?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: I walked to the house before what time I walked in?

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Speaker 7: I said, hey man, this house smelled like hot sex.

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Speaker 7: I'm not like somebody. Then where are they doing it?

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Speaker 5: What that funk?

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Speaker 6: That little twins?

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Speaker 2: This house smelled like goat cheese and monkey ass? What

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Speaker 2: is that? Hey man? House?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's nasty.

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Speaker 2: That'sn't making me sick.

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Speaker 6: Time yet?

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Speaker 5: No, we got more.

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Speaker 4: You got about a minute.

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Speaker 5: Come on, let's go y'all's house. Y'all's house smells just

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Speaker 5: like y'all's breath. That's wrong. That's why I don't nobody

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Speaker 5: y'all when they talking to.

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Speaker 2: Hey, I came in here. This house smelled like some

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Speaker 2: small pudding scaring me. You scaring me.

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Speaker 6: I don't be proud on you.

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Speaker 5: I went over and I came back.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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