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Speaker 3: We're black, We're brown and buschie yaw hey mango?
Speaker 4: Hi, happy minday face?
Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing.
Speaker 3: Before we start, I just want to apologize because I
Speaker 3: told you guys we were doing video and we are.
Speaker 2: Like I can see Mandy. I know you can't, but
Speaker 2: I can. She looks really cute.
Speaker 3: Her curls aren't popping, they're bad. We don't have our
Speaker 3: cameras just yet, so we'll let you know when. Like,
Speaker 3: this is the episode that will actually be available to
Speaker 3: watch via video.
Speaker 2: But I can't say that me and Mandy. You know,
Speaker 2: skin is popping, right.
Speaker 1: Take the picture right, Tiffany's got a lovely poka dot.
Speaker 1: Like I see a little horseshoe necklace. I see a
Speaker 1: pork poka dot blouse. The dreads are freshly twisted or
Speaker 1: are they?
Speaker 4: They're looking very good.
Speaker 2: Got a good eye.
Speaker 4: I can tell they are laid. They are so nice.
Speaker 1: I have I have endured four hours in a chair
Speaker 1: with a very disgruntled teenage girl who did cared nothing
Speaker 1: for my time or hers while she was removing my
Speaker 1: braids with all of the enthusiasm of like a very
Speaker 1: drunk snail.
Speaker 3: Is what I will.
Speaker 4: Say this girl.
Speaker 1: Last time I went to get my when I got
Speaker 1: the braids put in, it was this amazing African braiding
Speaker 1: the salon, and she was like, I'm going to Senegal.
Speaker 1: This is my niece. I'm training her. You know she'll
Speaker 1: be here, she'll take your braids out. And I could
Speaker 1: just tell. I was like, I should probably not expect
Speaker 1: this to take the two hours I was promised.
Speaker 4: She's just like and talking to her AirPods like, oh,
Speaker 4: play a little.
Speaker 1: Baby, play, a little baby play pop smoke, just tapping
Speaker 1: her face, Oh my god. And I'm just like, thank god,
Speaker 1: I brought my laptop so I can get some work done.
Speaker 4: But dang, I took forever. I don't want to do
Speaker 4: braids again.
Speaker 3: Girl, at least you had regular sized braids when I
Speaker 3: should get the micro braids?
Speaker 2: You like, I live here now with the braids for now?
Speaker 2: What I live here now?
Speaker 3: I eat with his family, I hold her baby. I
Speaker 3: just you can offer that as an option. Just get
Speaker 3: a get a micro braid wig?
Speaker 4: Is how I feel? Like?
Speaker 1: Why my cousin's like, you know, they sell braided wigs.
Speaker 1: I was like, as I was, Zenda, probably are you going.
Speaker 2: To save this your article for the boost or can
Speaker 2: we chat about it? Oh?
Speaker 4: Let's chat, let's talk. Let's gee.
Speaker 3: I got my bone been blowing up this red that
Speaker 3: Mandy had on. First of all, I want to paint
Speaker 3: the scene. Okay, what's the what's the publication? Again?
Speaker 4: This is grow by Acorns and CNBC, right.
Speaker 2: So CNBC, paint the scene.
Speaker 3: Mandy, picture this in this vibrant red top sweater. I
Speaker 3: think you know, but like you know, one of them
Speaker 3: light sweaters, little v neck like fitted red pants. I said, oh,
Speaker 3: red on red, that's how we do with that curls popping.
Speaker 3: I was like, first of all, who took these pictures?
Speaker 3: Who authorized? Just like Manny looked beautiful, and you're like,
Speaker 3: oh wait, it's an article I must read what The
Speaker 3: title of the article was something like how I went
Speaker 3: from seventy thousand to seven hundred thousand. As far as
Speaker 3: her network, She's ten x her networth in five years.
Speaker 3: It is excelente. And it's just like, first of all,
Speaker 3: the picture is giving wealth. It's giving wealth, it's giving happiness,
Speaker 3: it's giving wholeness. It's giving you know, we'll be a
Speaker 3: millionaire giving photoshop.
Speaker 4: It's giving stylists. It's giving hair.
Speaker 1: It's giving Stacey my hair is giving it's giving Maria
Speaker 1: my makeup artist.
Speaker 2: That's what it's giving.
Speaker 3: No, honestly, yeah, you looked beautiful, honestly, Mandy. And it
Speaker 3: was just a really great article because you know, at
Speaker 3: the end of the day, you know your manager, a
Speaker 3: regular Degla Mandra who has been able to, you know,
Speaker 3: do something that's extraordinary but something that other people can can.
Speaker 2: Do as well. So I'm just like it was, yeah,
Speaker 2: just well.
Speaker 4: Done, thank you.
Speaker 1: It was such a work in progress. This was an article.
Speaker 1: As soon as I launched my business, I sat down
Speaker 1: with my planner, as I talk about on the article,
Speaker 1: oh Helen and my husband and I and I was like,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm I'm starting a new chapter. I just
Speaker 1: want to know, like what happens next, what do I
Speaker 1: have to do? Am I prepared? How long can this last?
Speaker 1: How long do I have to get this bootstrap business
Speaker 1: off the ground? And Helen, You know, it's one thing.
Speaker 1: You know, someone commented and they're like, how do you
Speaker 1: not know what your net worth is? I always know
Speaker 1: what my net worth is. I have my app where
Speaker 1: I track it, and we've talked about net worth and
Speaker 1: why it's so important. It's like it's what you actually
Speaker 1: have after your liabilities versus your assets all of that.
Speaker 1: But I hadn't really appreciated fully how far I had come.
Speaker 1: And I think that's just having to do with a
Speaker 1: lot of life has happened in the last five years,
Speaker 1: and a lot of decisions, stressful fraud decisions were made,
Speaker 1: Tears were shed, you know, vaginas were rampaged by tiny humans,
Speaker 1: like ravaged, body was ravaged, a plague was cast upon
Speaker 1: the world.
Speaker 3: Can talk about a like how do you not know
Speaker 3: your network? It's like how do you even know your
Speaker 3: first name?
Speaker 2: Okay? Right?
Speaker 1: And I sort of had the philosophy of, like I
Speaker 1: try not to be too obsessed with checking my accounts
Speaker 1: because you know, you check your account the wrong time
Speaker 1: of day, and it can be down, you know, astronomically,
Speaker 1: and you may stress out for no reason because give
Speaker 1: it a week and it'll bounce back. So anyway, she's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: let's look back to when you started working with me
Speaker 1: in twenty sixteen, right when you became my client. It
Speaker 1: was seventy k net worth and this was right before
Speaker 1: my husband and I were getting married. And then she
Speaker 1: showed it now and it was seven hundred and I said, WHOA, Okay,
Speaker 1: Like something insane has happened in these five years.
Speaker 4: Let me unpack it. What has been going on? And
Speaker 4: I mean, I knew that my.
Speaker 1: Job hopping, which I think is kind of a negative term,
Speaker 1: but the fact that I switched jobs not infrequently my
Speaker 1: first decade in my career had a lot to do
Speaker 1: with it. But as I sat down, I poured out
Speaker 1: like five thousand, six thousand words and I sent it
Speaker 1: to this editor at CNBC and I was like, when
Speaker 1: you want this, you want this, let me help me
Speaker 1: help me pair this down. And so shout out to
Speaker 1: my editor Nina at CNBC for helping me.
Speaker 4: But I really did.
Speaker 1: I didn't want it to be a story that made
Speaker 1: people feel like they couldn't achieve their financial goals. It's
Speaker 1: not about hitting seven hundred K. I never set out
Speaker 1: five years ago and said I want to have seven
Speaker 1: hundred K net worth in five years. I just set
Speaker 1: out five years ago and said I want to keep
Speaker 1: continuing to stand by these like very basic principles and
Speaker 1: strategy that I believe will help me be financially secure
Speaker 1: and choosing myself when it came to my career, being
Speaker 1: willing to take big leaps to get those big raises
Speaker 1: and then asking for equity, you know, and shout out
Speaker 1: to my little brother who finally got his due. He
Speaker 1: finally got his little shout out for being the one
Speaker 1: to push me to ask for equity when I joined
Speaker 1: a startup four or five years ago. So I hope
Speaker 1: you all enjoy it. We'll post a link in the
Speaker 1: show notes. But it felt really good to get it
Speaker 1: out there. Yeah, I'm just really proud Lashtrve cracking.
Speaker 3: Yes, because honestly, you know, now you're on this like
Speaker 3: you know, we had like our like Mandy says, we
Speaker 3: had our you know, we've been having BRBA talks with
Speaker 3: the side of t which Mandy has been delighting in
Speaker 3: and so like I'll be taking like one of my
Speaker 3: three mile walks and it will just be talking. But
Speaker 3: then we're also just like you know, just girlfriend check
Speaker 3: and just like I told you on Saturday, to remember
Speaker 3: this is for anyone who's listening who might be making
Speaker 3: the transition from corporate to business or whatever. You know,
Speaker 3: you put in a lot of work already that on
Speaker 3: the surface it looks.
Speaker 2: Like, oh man, it's a new entrepreneur, but not really.
Speaker 3: You have ten years worth of work in this space
Speaker 3: as a journalist and an editor and personal finance and media.
Speaker 3: So this is just kind of like a different iteration
Speaker 3: of what you've been doing. You've got your ten thousand hours,
Speaker 3: so you know, to remember that when you're feeling like,
Speaker 3: oh I no, no, I don't know if I can
Speaker 3: do it, it's like you've been doing it.
Speaker 2: It just looks different.
Speaker 4: So yeah, and listen. I love corporate de bear.
Speaker 1: I still work through my consulting business, which is what
Speaker 1: I've been launching. I work for companies, helly, I do,
Speaker 1: But the difference is that I decide what I do
Speaker 1: and I only do the things that I enjoy doing,
Speaker 1: and that is such a huge. Yeah, it's a huge
Speaker 1: it's a huge mind shift for me.
Speaker 2: But this is like a little random turn.
Speaker 3: But lately a lot of my friends have been having
Speaker 3: like friendship breakups, like and I feel like it's been
Speaker 3: more devastating, like hearing them than like breaking up with
Speaker 3: like their boyfriend, you know, not like divorce like you know,
Speaker 3: but certainly like just as devastating and sometimes even more
Speaker 3: devastating than you know, breaking up with like a love interest.
Speaker 3: But I don't know if it's because, like, you know,
Speaker 3: I'm forty one, and maybe there's like a transitional in
Speaker 3: that forty like age range. But a bunch of my
Speaker 3: friends are like, oh yeah, Like I would say at
Speaker 3: least four of them are having like with people that
Speaker 3: they were fairly close with, you know, not just some
Speaker 3: periphial like we don't talk to her no more and
Speaker 3: having a hard time managing. And so I wanted to
Speaker 3: talk about that today, like what that looks like, because
Speaker 3: I've had, you know, my share of girlfriend breakups of
Speaker 3: people I was really close to and being like, wow,
Speaker 3: I want to say this, probably in my lifetime, there's
Speaker 3: really been two major ones where I was like, this
Speaker 3: is like my closest friend, and you know what am
Speaker 3: I gonna do? You know, sometimes it's just you've either
Speaker 3: outgrown each other, or maybe there's something that you kind
Speaker 3: of overlooked and you've grown and you realize I don't
Speaker 3: know if that behavior is so conducive to like how
Speaker 3: I want to be treated anymore. And then people don't
Speaker 3: know how to shift because they're like, I've always treated
Speaker 3: you like this. I'm like, yeah, it's me, So I
Speaker 3: don't know.
Speaker 2: I just want to talk about that. Have you ever
Speaker 2: had like friendship.
Speaker 3: Breakup where you're like, Wow, didn't think i'd ever break
Speaker 3: up with this person.
Speaker 1: I mean, in the third grade, my best friend and
Speaker 1: Yell and I we had a falling out. I ruined
Speaker 1: her quilt that she quilted in our third grade class
Speaker 1: by accident.
Speaker 4: It was an accident anyway.
Speaker 1: No, No, seriously, I'm naturally an introvert, and my relationships
Speaker 1: have always been I'm like a few friends. I have associates,
Speaker 1: and I love having friends at work because they make
Speaker 1: you get through the day. It makes it so much
Speaker 1: easier to get through the day when you have people
Speaker 1: to ki key with that work. I'm not so good
Speaker 1: at maintaining casual acquaintances. It's a lot of work and
Speaker 1: it gets harder to do. So there's friends in my
Speaker 1: life like former roommates or former work colleagues.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm kind of like I understand and I get that
Speaker 1: there's seasons and then you have friends who come and go.
Speaker 1: But the core core group that I have, I haven't
Speaker 1: had a bad breakup.
Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 1: I have had big like you don't know if we're
Speaker 1: going to be friends again? Fights okay, twice painful, very painful,
Speaker 1: And I'm happy to say that those two relationships were
Speaker 1: mended with years, with time.
Speaker 4: Okay, it's tough, it's really tough.
Speaker 1: And I think in twenty twenty and this year or
Speaker 1: two when everything is still virtual, like if you didn't
Speaker 1: already have a really good, strong foundation with your friends.
Speaker 1: And I used to also be a kind of a
Speaker 1: needy friend.
Speaker 4: I was a friend do you want to hang out
Speaker 4: with me?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 4: Oh, you're do? Not't texting me back? Like come on?
Speaker 4: Can you tell? I never had a boyfriend?
Speaker 1: And honestly, I had to, and I would put a
Speaker 1: lot of pressure like like you're hanging out with so
Speaker 1: and so but not me, and da da da dah
Speaker 1: It was almost like dating. I had to learn how
Speaker 1: to be my own friend and just like and also
Speaker 1: recognize that my friends can't be everything to me. They
Speaker 1: need to go have their own friends and their own
Speaker 1: lives and everything. And as I've gotten more used to that,
Speaker 1: and yeah, you know, I'm definitely used to it now,
Speaker 1: it's easier for me to to not to not feel
Speaker 1: a certain type of way if I haven't heard from
Speaker 1: someone in a month or if they miss a certain occasion,
Speaker 1: I'm not putting so much pressure on them because the
Speaker 1: truth is all of us are overwhelmed and busy, and.
Speaker 3: I'm like opposite, I'm like that I work on time
Speaker 3: to be a better friend because I'm like the light
Speaker 3: you know, like light type friend, like kaya later and
Speaker 3: then fall asleep. I'm like maybe I'll come over, and
Speaker 3: you're like, Timmy's not here, I'm like, oh, my bad girl.
Speaker 2: I was home watching like YouTube videos.
Speaker 3: No, but yeah, it's only happened like twice and and
Speaker 3: and in one my college like best friend.
Speaker 4: It was.
Speaker 3: It was bad just because even I think she even realized, like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I think I probably was pretty bullying intativity because remember
Speaker 3: I told you I had that really bad habit of
Speaker 3: having like the bully friend, where like I, you know,
Speaker 3: was vulnerable to the to but in a way that
Speaker 3: was basically like hey, you can run all over me.
Speaker 3: I'm available for you to walk on over me and
Speaker 3: like a sign on. And so I had to learn
Speaker 3: to be like, huh, that's okay. But now I have
Speaker 3: to look and I look at my friendships now, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, whoof literally everyone in my inner circle, and
Speaker 3: even like like like you know, there's like inner inner
Speaker 3: then like a little bit around, a little bit of
Speaker 3: like literally I can look at you know, like five
Speaker 3: circles out and it's not because of the person, you know,
Speaker 3: it's really because I have decided, like no, it's if
Speaker 3: you are deserving of people not mistreating you, and like
Speaker 3: you know, you're deserving of like not being run all over,
Speaker 3: you know. And also too, I know how to speak
Speaker 3: up when someone does something wrong, because sometimes what's happened
Speaker 3: is not even I can't say it's it's not ever
Speaker 3: all one person's fault. When a friendship breaks up, I
Speaker 3: can look back and say, you never said anything, and
Speaker 3: now that it's twenty thousand years later, you're saying something.
Speaker 3: But it's a blow up. But it's not someone's responsibility
Speaker 3: to know that that's something that you don't like. And
Speaker 3: so now they're carrying the weight of like ten years
Speaker 3: of silence, and you're like, so, you know, so I
Speaker 3: could take ownership and be like okay. So as a result,
Speaker 3: now my friendships are better. Not because these people are better,
Speaker 3: it's also because I am better at showing up and
Speaker 3: being like, hey, you know, I didn't like that, or
Speaker 3: that hurt my feelings or I didn't appreciate that. So
Speaker 3: making a way for friends to adjust and be like,
Speaker 3: oh okay, girl, my bad. Won't you know, won't do
Speaker 3: that again? Giving people the opportunity to grow and so
Speaker 3: that feels like, you know better, But yeah, that just
Speaker 3: came up lately. I was like, what is something in
Speaker 3: the water? Like friends call me like, yeah, girl, we
Speaker 3: broke up. I'm like you and him no, my friend,
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, what happened?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 3: And so I'm like, you know, I don't know if
Speaker 3: it's just like this kind of like transition to the
Speaker 3: next level of growness, you know, every every decade, you know,
Speaker 3: like I'm forty, that's like maybe, like you know, and
Speaker 3: maybe so to your point, I mean, I.
Speaker 1: Think relationships come and go. Yes, I'm very like fruit fruit,
Speaker 1: I don't know hippie about it, like thank you for
Speaker 1: your friendship. I'm grateful to you, bye bye.
Speaker 3: But I am super duper excited because I like, I'm
Speaker 3: going to tell you guys as much as I can
Speaker 3: without obviously spilling all the beans. But you know, I've
Speaker 3: been working on a new project that's different than anything
Speaker 3: I've ever done before. It's really disruptive to the financial industry,
Speaker 3: like totally. It helps to solve some major friction points
Speaker 3: that I've seen in the industry that we've all you know,
Speaker 3: have with the financial industry. And I was thinking kind
Speaker 3: of small about like the project at first, and then
Speaker 3: speaking with my my business code Zion, and he was like, yeah, no,
Speaker 3: if uber can solve the cab issue, if you can
Speaker 3: solve for this issue in finance, how much more important
Speaker 3: is finance and the cab And look how big Uber
Speaker 3: has become is that I need you to expand your
Speaker 3: capacity of what you're capable of and not think that
Speaker 3: you have to do everything. And I was like, Okay.
Speaker 3: Then I had a chat with a potential investor and
Speaker 3: the way she just jumped out the window, was like,
Speaker 3: you need investing, you need angel investing, you want venture
Speaker 3: capital funds, you want this one. I was like, wait
Speaker 3: what She's like, Tippany, I think this is amazing. I
Speaker 3: think you are amazing. I see what you've done the far,
Speaker 3: and so you let me know. And she's already set
Speaker 3: up some calls for me to talk to like some
Speaker 3: next level of folks. And we have a joint friend
Speaker 3: who sold his company for a significant amount of money.
Speaker 2: Then I'm going to be chatting with soon Mandy and
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 3: And I'm just excited because it's like, not for the money,
Speaker 3: because honestly, if I didn't want to work anymore, I
Speaker 3: mean I wouldn't be making a million dollars a year,
Speaker 3: but my lifestyle would say the same. I mean, I'll
Speaker 3: be wearing the same target. I think I got this
Speaker 3: some Marshals, so I think I'm extra style and like.
Speaker 2: Am you see me? Me and my Marshal shirt.
Speaker 3: I would be wearing the same clothes, be living in
Speaker 3: the same house, and honestly, I like my car, so
Speaker 3: it wouldn't nothing would change externally. But what I'm more
Speaker 3: excited about, I'll be able to do more as far
Speaker 3: as philanthropy is concerned. And so I'm excited also too,
Speaker 3: because I'm ambitious.
Speaker 2: I like to see.
Speaker 3: Am I able to do a thing like that excites
Speaker 3: me more than anything, you know. And so to just
Speaker 3: know that what I conservatively thought was like, you know,
Speaker 3: maybe this is a fifty million dollar business, not fifty
Speaker 3: millis that I was a year, but meaning like that's
Speaker 3: what it would be valued at. She's like, yeah, girl,
Speaker 3: try two hundred million. I was like, wait, what This
Speaker 3: is a venture capitalist who told me this, And I
Speaker 3: was just like, what are you sure?
Speaker 2: She's like yes. And so I'm excited.
Speaker 3: Like I said, as things roll out and I'm able
Speaker 3: to share more, I will.
Speaker 2: It's super super.
Speaker 3: Early, early early, but if you know, this will be
Speaker 3: my fifth or sixth business. So I'm not new in
Speaker 3: the business game. The biggest lesson I've been learning lately
Speaker 3: is to expand my capacity. Expand my capacity because you
Speaker 3: think one way, you know, when I think about how
Speaker 3: hard it was to get to six figures a year,
Speaker 3: I think it was like five years in before I
Speaker 3: crossed the six figure mark, and that was so hard.
Speaker 2: And then to go.
Speaker 3: From six figures, you know, the one hundred fifty thousand
Speaker 3: to one million took about three years instead of five years.
Speaker 2: But still that was so hard.
Speaker 3: But it was really a mindset shift because one hundred
Speaker 3: and fifty thousand I had to do most of the
Speaker 3: work myself. A million, I had to do some of
Speaker 3: the work, but I had to hire some help. And
Speaker 3: then one million dollars a year in business to the
Speaker 3: now ten million where we are a year in business.
Speaker 3: I had to learn that I had to do, not
Speaker 3: do most of the work. So that was a mental shift,
Speaker 3: like I have to do just a small percentage of
Speaker 3: the work and really come with the vision and the mission,
Speaker 3: you know, and allow the team to do what they're
Speaker 3: supposed to do because I can't physically make as tiffany
Speaker 3: ten million dollars a year with you know, with what
Speaker 3: I do. And so like learning to go from ten
Speaker 3: million to like well not to make two hundred million,
Speaker 3: but to have a company that could be valued at that,
Speaker 3: what does that look like? So that's a capacity shift
Speaker 3: and a men a mindset shift that I'm still learning
Speaker 3: because they're parts of me. Who wants to go back
Speaker 3: to Okay, I got to get my hands diarted. What
Speaker 3: do I need to do. It's like, Sis, you don't.
Speaker 3: And so I'm just excited. And as I learned more
Speaker 3: and as I grow, and as things get mapped out
Speaker 3: and things I can share more, I'll share more with
Speaker 3: y'all because I think that many women, not just women
Speaker 3: but people in general. But I find especially women sometimes
Speaker 3: have a capacity and confidence issue, not a capability issue.
Speaker 3: And if we can push past that, we can accomplish anything.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, And it's also just getting used to saying your
Speaker 1: ideas out loud and not feeling like you. Part of
Speaker 1: the thing that I struggle with is sometimes like all
Speaker 1: the big ideas, I'm like, where do I have the time?
Speaker 4: How do I do it?
Speaker 1: And the point is that you can't do it all yourself.
Speaker 1: And then it's like finding the right team and building
Speaker 1: it up around you. So you have the eye I
Speaker 1: mean you have like I mean think of Steve Jobs.
Speaker 1: He was a visionary for Apple, but he certainly didn't
Speaker 1: do it all on his own. Yeah, I'm excited for you.
Speaker 2: I'm excited too.
Speaker 1: I want to be flying around on the budget needs
Speaker 1: to jet.
Speaker 3: I was like, my sister asked me, would you have
Speaker 3: to get a private jet?
Speaker 4: I'm like, no, I mean more environmentally.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is being more environmentally friendly because you know,
Speaker 1: climate change.
Speaker 4: I'm actually like terrified, but.
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm sweating now, girl, I'm having my face down
Speaker 3: with a mask.
Speaker 1: Okay, are any are any of my fellow cable cord
Speaker 1: cutters struggling with not being able to watch the Olympics
Speaker 1: because I'm just kind of seeing clips on the Gram
Speaker 1: and it's mostly Simone Simone doing her flips and me
Speaker 1: pretending like I know exactly how difficult they are. They
Speaker 1: look real difficult, but I'm like, yeah, yeah, flip flip flip,
Speaker 1: pretty fuch. But she did I guess she didn't do
Speaker 1: Simone Biles them America's you know, talent, most talented gymnast
Speaker 1: in history, iconic and like twenty all of twenty four
Speaker 1: years old. I think the New York Times had written,
Speaker 1: I think she didn't do so great or up to
Speaker 1: her standards anyway in the pre Olympic round, the first
Speaker 1: round of her flipping and stuff, and she said on
Speaker 1: Instagram she came out and she said, you know, and
Speaker 1: I was actually surprised that she even just let us
Speaker 1: peek into her mindset at the Olympic Games, knowing that
Speaker 1: your first time out wasn't as great, and she was like,
Speaker 1: I hide it well, but it does feel like I
Speaker 1: have the weight of the world on my shoulders and
Speaker 1: it wasn't my best effort. But I'll come back stronger.
Speaker 1: And to be so young and have so much pressure,
Speaker 1: I'm such a tiny little body.
Speaker 3: She's like, have you seen the pictures of like that her,
Speaker 3: like standing next to like the Yugoslavia like basketball player
Speaker 3: you love.
Speaker 2: It's like seven six, she's like four or five. Yeah, yeah, no,
Speaker 2: it is.
Speaker 3: And I think what I hope is that more people
Speaker 3: kind of show what happens behind the curtain, because so
Speaker 3: many of us, you know, you're just starting out and
Speaker 3: you struggle, and you think to yourself, you know, I
Speaker 3: must be doing something wrong because it's not working instantly.
Speaker 3: And if you only just knew that, your fab also
Speaker 3: has a hard time. Even at the height of their success.
Speaker 3: They're unsure sometimes or they know they didn't do as well,
Speaker 3: or they struggle. You know, you want to keep your
Speaker 3: game face for certain things because obviously you want to
Speaker 3: walk in confidently, you know. But I think it's nice
Speaker 3: to see some of that because what it does is
Speaker 3: it allows us to be like, oh, okay, I know
Speaker 3: I'm just starting out, but someone who was super successful
Speaker 3: also has the same feelings that I have. I'm not crazy,
Speaker 3: I'm not lazy. I'm not going to not make it
Speaker 3: just because I'm feeling a little worried and scared.
Speaker 2: So that feels really good too to see.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and the idea that anybody can build something that's
Speaker 1: not that doesn't come with challenges, like that's not There
Speaker 1: is no utopia. There is no place you reach a
Speaker 1: mountaintop and everything is finally easy. I feel like challenges growth.
Speaker 1: If you're struggling, then it means that you are growing.
Speaker 1: It means that you're leveling up. It's just I don't know.
Speaker 1: I kind of just accept that there will always be challenges.
Speaker 1: You'll never have it all figured out, doesn't.
Speaker 4: It kind of suck?
Speaker 1: And yet here we are just like doing our best.
Speaker 3: Well, you know what I look at it as like,
Speaker 3: because my sister asked me and her new Tracy, she
Speaker 3: just celebrated her first year in business. You know, she
Speaker 3: made her six figures. I say, lucky you, because it
Speaker 3: took me five years to get six figures. You're lucky
Speaker 3: I coached you.
Speaker 2: But no, but.
Speaker 3: She's doing great. And then she was just like, oh
Speaker 3: my gosh, I could just feel so hard. Does it
Speaker 3: get an easier? I was like, no, you're thirteen. It
Speaker 3: doesn't get easier, but you get better. That's what I've
Speaker 3: recognized that the issues and the things and the challenges
Speaker 3: I deal with now they are more complex. But quite honestly,
Speaker 3: except for like, you know, some extraordinary circumstances, I'm not
Speaker 3: as stressed because I am better equipped. I've got years
Speaker 3: of like, oh, that happened in twenty fifteen, you know what,
Speaker 3: Let me pull out that trick from out Oh this
Speaker 3: is from twenty seventeen. No, no, no, no, I recognize this turn.
Speaker 3: So you get better, and because you've experienced so much,
Speaker 3: you get more confident in your ability to manage what comes.
Speaker 3: There's this article about the difference between millionaires and billionaires,
Speaker 3: and they found that their ability to manage failure was
Speaker 3: a huge component of how someone makes that.
Speaker 2: Leap from you know, millions and millions and millions.
Speaker 3: Of dollars to billions, because you have to almost be
Speaker 3: either fear less or be someone who feared does not
Speaker 3: hinder you even if you are free, because you cannot
Speaker 3: jump to that level of like outward financial success, you know, Timid,
Speaker 3: It's just it's just no way.
Speaker 2: And so yeah, I think that to.
Speaker 3: Your point, like you cannot, you cannot achieve great success
Speaker 3: without great challenges.
Speaker 2: It's just part of it. That's how you learn.
Speaker 1: It's if it's not hard, then you're not doing it right.
Speaker 2: Right, you're for more than one thing.
Speaker 3: But yeah, Lord, muting for the kids.
Speaker 2: Muting for the kids. You don't have to explain.
Speaker 1: Oh, I just knocked over my candle on the zen.
Speaker 1: Then let me take another sip of this vodkatonic. I'm
Speaker 1: trying not to. I'm trying not to let you guys
Speaker 1: hear the clinking around.
Speaker 2: I'm like, but you know, she's being very environmentally friendly.
Speaker 3: She's got her, she's got Yes, I see that.
Speaker 1: It was a hard Monday and as hot as hadies.
Speaker 1: I just needed a cocktail and I'm trying to be
Speaker 1: low carb.
Speaker 3: Okay, are you ready to do a boosty or breakie?
Speaker 1: I need a break, I need a fan. I need
Speaker 1: to get one of those fans you got going on
Speaker 1: over that hot.
Speaker 2: So it's time to boost a break. Are you gonna boost?
Speaker 2: Are you gonna break? Mandy?
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do a boost for my cute little one
Speaker 1: hundred and ninety seven dollars check from the government for
Speaker 1: my I didn't know I was going to get a
Speaker 1: child tax credit check, but I got it.
Speaker 4: Oh got it. I have a child to have one
Speaker 4: of those.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So the check started to be issued, and I
Speaker 1: was surprised it was an actual physical check, like it's
Speaker 1: very official. It's like tinted colors and stuff. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, I was shocked that we got a check
Speaker 1: in the mail and not like a direct deposit. But
Speaker 1: for those of y'all wondering where your child tax credit is,
Speaker 1: I really want to post this link. The White House
Speaker 1: actually has something useful on their website. Now, I know,
Speaker 1: we've got me getting some questions from listeners about you know,
Speaker 1: what does this.
Speaker 4: Mean for me? How do I get one? YadA, YadA.
Speaker 1: I'm not a certified public accountant or a tax expert,
Speaker 1: and even the CPAs who are working, they're still trying
Speaker 1: to get caught up on like all these different tax things.
Speaker 1: But my understanding is that it's basically in advance on
Speaker 1: a tax refund essentially, So every month till the end
Speaker 1: of twenty twenty one, you should be getting a check
Speaker 1: of a certain amount. It depends on your income, it
Speaker 1: depends how many kids you have, my age, age of
Speaker 1: the kids. Yes, there's all these different factors, you know.
Speaker 1: I think it's up to thirty six hundred dollars per
Speaker 1: child that you could be getting or something crazy like that,
Speaker 1: or not crazy but helpful, helpful like that. And this
Speaker 1: is supposed to be cutting child poverty in a huge way.
Speaker 1: So if there's one, you know, silver lining of this
Speaker 1: pandemic is that, you know, we'll actually be getting some
Speaker 1: kind of social financial safety net for families who need it.
Speaker 4: AnyWho. So we'll post a link check it out. Let
Speaker 4: us know.
Speaker 1: Are you guys getting your child text credits? What are
Speaker 1: you doing with it? I think we just put ours
Speaker 1: into Rio's brokerage account and we're just going to let
Speaker 1: it rock. But there was an interesting you know, personally,
Speaker 1: I felt a little bit guilty about getting a check.
Speaker 1: We're fine financially, but I was listening to a podcast
Speaker 1: I forget it was. I think it was The Indicator.
Speaker 1: I love that podcast from Planet Money. It's like a
Speaker 1: nine ten minute daily podcast about some kind of economic indicator.
Speaker 1: But anyway, they talked about the child tax credit and
Speaker 1: why high income families are even getting a credit at all.
Speaker 1: They made the point that unfortunately or fortunately in this country,
Speaker 1: in order for the poorest people to need it most
Speaker 1: to get benefits, you need to get upper middle class
Speaker 1: and high net worth people also interested in that benefit
Speaker 1: or feeling like they're benefiting it. Because when you have
Speaker 1: more people benefiting, then when you try and take it away,
Speaker 1: you know, the wealthier people will.
Speaker 2: Get boxed off and say no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: Yes, because we all know who holds the power to America.
Speaker 1: It's they're rich people. So that's the you know, I
Speaker 1: guess that's the argument behind why. Anyway, that's that's my break.
Speaker 3: Okay, Well I'm gonna do a little bit of a boost.
Speaker 3: So you might have heard of a little it's a
Speaker 3: black owned well it's a husband wife couple. It's a
Speaker 3: bookstore in Washington, d C. And it's called Mahogany Books.
Speaker 3: They are amazing. They actually hosted forever President Barack Obama
Speaker 3: when his book came out, and this is where I
Speaker 3: had my virtual book launch party. We had like it
Speaker 3: was so much fun. Thousands people showed up. So anyway, Ramanda,
Speaker 3: who's super awesome. She is the wife version of the
Speaker 3: component of the husband wife duo that owned Mahogney Books.
Speaker 3: They're actually reopening and they're doing that sellabation time. Come
Speaker 3: on and she said, Tiffany, we would love if you
Speaker 3: came and sign some books. So Jersey, it's about what
Speaker 3: did you say? Maybe like an hour and a half
Speaker 3: two hours drives from DC. It's not too long.
Speaker 4: Yeah, who you asking?
Speaker 2: I don't love Yeah?
Speaker 1: Two hours right, so fur from me to DC?
Speaker 2: I don't know, so it's not too long.
Speaker 3: So Saturday, August seventh, from three to four pm, I
Speaker 3: will be at Mahogney Books in Washington, d C. Signing
Speaker 3: Get Good with Monday, So come out support. If you
Speaker 3: already have your book bringing with you, I'll sign it.
Speaker 3: I have bracelets with me. Y'all know you'll be sweating
Speaker 3: for the bunch of these are bracelets. I'm actually gonna
Speaker 3: make like a weekend of it. I'm learning to lean
Speaker 3: in more to the fun things, you know, because normally
Speaker 3: I'd be like, I'll just dry down and sign books
Speaker 3: and come on back. But instead I've invited like a
Speaker 3: number of my friends and I was just like, hey,
Speaker 3: let's go to d C. We'll get a hotel, stay over,
Speaker 3: you know, have dinner I have on my team. I
Speaker 3: think Logan lives in the DMV area, the Delaware Virginia
Speaker 3: No Delaware, the DC Virginia Maryland area. I think Jatale
Speaker 3: lives in Philly. I don't know how close Philly is
Speaker 3: to DC. I feel like it's drivable. I love that name,
Speaker 3: je right, and there's a bunch of other So I'm like,
Speaker 3: you know, I'm gonna have Udicoins come out my team,
Speaker 3: and so I just want to make it, like, you know,
Speaker 3: make a cute weekend of it. So if you are
Speaker 3: in the DMV that's the d C Virginia Maryland area,
Speaker 3: or you don't mind the drive, I will physically be
Speaker 3: there in person at Mahogany Books. I'll be there signing
Speaker 3: books from three to four pm on Saturday, August seventh.
Speaker 4: Why don't you get a budget.
Speaker 1: Niece, a tour bus with your face all over?
Speaker 4: Why not?
Speaker 1: It can be electric that it would be amazing. We
Speaker 1: should get a brown ambition toward bus. That's fun. So
Speaker 1: that's why you're not coming to my birthday party.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's when you act already bookeday.
Speaker 4: Because talking to you.
Speaker 1: My SERI talks to me whenever she's she is so
Speaker 1: thirsty for attention. I off on my computer anything that
Speaker 1: sounds remotely like it.
Speaker 2: When is your actual birthday?
Speaker 1: Oh it's the sixth of August, and accepting gifts. I'm
Speaker 1: a Leo and I have two years of pent up
Speaker 1: energy just waiting for this birthday favor. Because last year's
Speaker 1: birthday was whack. I tried to be all cute and like, oh,
Speaker 1: it's okay, I want to get me anything. It's just
Speaker 1: a pandemic.
Speaker 4: I didn't do it.
Speaker 1: I'm still mad last year was so whack. I'm having
Speaker 1: a party. We got the deck shut, finally a party,
Speaker 1: and we're getting a barbecue caterer. Not gonna have a
Speaker 1: smoker because my dad can't come, so you know, keeping it,
Speaker 1: keeping it smoking in his favorite and the way he
Speaker 1: would want it, and have neighbors and friends and family,
Speaker 1: and you know.
Speaker 4: I'm excited.
Speaker 2: I'm excited.
Speaker 3: I want to do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, a little outfit. I always you have a birthday color.
Speaker 1: I always wear yellow on my brain.
Speaker 2: Oh you know what I should do that? I don't
Speaker 2: have a birthday color.
Speaker 4: Maybe because I'm I'm a Leo. So I have to
Speaker 4: have a birthday color you.
Speaker 3: Sound like because you know, Durell, my husband, his birthday
Speaker 3: is is on the third, so he said, he said, well,
Speaker 3: I can figure out my outfit's gonna because we're gonna
Speaker 3: have a little poority for him for his for his birthday,
Speaker 3: him and him and the twin.
Speaker 2: Yes, gotta be.
Speaker 4: Cute for that. That's fun.
Speaker 1: I forget where birthday twins almost. I see Leo big
Speaker 1: Leo energy.
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Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, you're right.
Speaker 1: See you all Friday for Sobiety and I loved it.
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