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Speaker 2: But before that, we have a quick two minute break

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Speaker 2: from our sponsors that keep the show alive. I told

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Speaker 2: my girlfriend we should go on a break, but what

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Speaker 2: I meant was a vacation.

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Speaker 1: That's awkward.

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Speaker 2: My girlfriend twenty four female and I twenty five mail

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Speaker 2: have had a great relationship for the past year where

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Speaker 2: we have always been able to talk about the things

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Speaker 2: on our minds or the things we need to improve

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Speaker 2: on as a couple. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 2: me to go on a break, and if you want

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Speaker 2: to spit your own stories, go to the r slash

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime severed it.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm.

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Speaker 3: Riley, I'm Vincent, and we're here.

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Speaker 2: To give good advice Coofley, but we don't have all

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Speaker 2: the answers me on. You know what we'd do, so

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Speaker 2: let us not what you would do in the comments

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Speaker 2: and Op says over the past few months, she has

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Speaker 2: been stressed with an increasing workload and has probably at

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Speaker 2: times been burning the candle at both ends. I have

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Speaker 2: been working hard and I picked up an additional job,

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Speaker 2: to fund a holiday, to spoil us both a little.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't know about this. She came to my flat

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Speaker 2: yesterday after work, exhausted and was slightly upset that I

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Speaker 2: hadn't done certain things yet, nothing major. I wanted her

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Speaker 2: a break. It didn't immediately click for me the way

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Speaker 2: was slightly confused by the look of hurt in her eyes.

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Speaker 2: Before I could explain what I actually meant, she had

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Speaker 2: run out of the flat and drove away with me,

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Speaker 2: chasing her card down the street. She hasn't answered my

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Speaker 2: calls or reply to my messages all night. Help. I'm

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Speaker 2: an idiot in love and we've got comments.

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Speaker 1: Oh dude, boy, who do you call in this situation?

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Speaker 2: I think you just keep texting her. I meant vacation.

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Speaker 2: I meant break as in vacation, and then you text

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Speaker 2: her mom. You said I meant break as in vacation.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's what. Yeah, do you text the mom or

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Speaker 1: the friend first?

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Speaker 2: I'm texting everyone I know. I meant break as in vacation.

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Speaker 2: Please tell her. I meant break as in vacation.

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Speaker 1: Hmmm, yeah, friend, I feel like the best friend move

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Speaker 1: because I know this. Yeah, where she's driving to either

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Speaker 1: her sisters or best friends, who.

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Speaker 2: Knows, something like that. But we've got comments. Go back

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Speaker 2: to her place and if she's not home, leave a

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Speaker 2: dinosaurs still roomed. Opie says, good plan. So far. I

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Speaker 2: have contacted her work, told her parents the truth. They

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Speaker 2: Reached out to her best friend on Facebook. Still waiting

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Speaker 2: to hear back. I'll drop by her place and leave

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Speaker 2: the suggested note as well. Aside from all the above,

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's now just a waiting game. William

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Speaker 2: before you could say, no, I met a holiday? Were

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Speaker 2: this either. In the seconds that followed, instead of explaining

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Speaker 1: Dudude, I love your emotional intelligence on this one.

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Speaker 2: Man, it's so low. It's so low. I win the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we all win them. Sometimes we all win them.

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Speaker 1: We all win them cobably, dude.

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Speaker 2: We've got a small update though, So what do you

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Speaker 1: It's honestly a coin flipped at this point. Yeah, they've

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Speaker 2: You think she's gonna break up with him if she left.

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Speaker 1: That quickly after a misunderstanding, and he also probably didn't

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Speaker 2: This is it for them?

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Speaker 3: I am. I'm kind of with Riley here, Todan if

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Speaker 3: like that, this reaction and like this early on, like

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Speaker 2: Well, let's find out smaller update, says she messaged me,

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Speaker 1: A guy that got that text right before they broke

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Speaker 2: Yeah, would you prefer we need to talk text or

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Speaker 1: Just a breakup? Don't give me tension. I hate thrillers

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd prefer the tension update too. So Jess came

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Speaker 2: we're going on a break the good guy. Last night,

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Speaker 2: She was mad at me for approximately twelve hours until

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Speaker 2: I speak, what a what a good ending? What?

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Speaker 3: Are you thinking what I'm thinking? Right?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? What are you thinking?

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Speaker 3: Uh, who's the friend? Is it a guy friend?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, twelve hours. I personally would not have reacted this way. However,

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Speaker 1: It's just so it's just weird that he's like, I

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Speaker 1: I don't think this is a situation where you should

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Speaker 1: potentially going on vacation. Came off wrong. This was weird. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I gotta make sure I say the right words first.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I do wonder running away immediately is a sign

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Speaker 3: It's very foreboding.

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Speaker 2: But there's a little bit left to the story. So

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Speaker 2: I'm so freaking jealous. I want to go to Iceland

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Speaker 1: Which one would you rather have really nice dinners or

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Speaker 1: Oh well, he's gonna have to sacrifice a lot of

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Speaker 1: really nice dinners, so then he could take off time

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Speaker 1: Wow, good, she's okay with that sacrifice.

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Speaker 2: Multiple fifty fifty dinners.

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Speaker 3: Fifty dinners that I would just cook at home like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, what do you mean, like what he's not

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Speaker 2: He's not. Can I cook for him?

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Speaker 1: Where do I sacrificing time to save up to go

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Speaker 2: Oh I can't out with him for fifty dinners. Well

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Speaker 2: you worded it poorly, but her reaction to one statement

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Speaker 2: we have disagreed with something, in the past, we roleplay

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Speaker 2: the other person's part to help to see each other's

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Speaker 2: Instead of being comforted, she was met with something very

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Speaker 2: improved our communication. Anne has been an important lesson. Nobody's

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Speaker 2: perfect and it's very difficult to change immediate reaction to something.

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Speaker 2: But what you can work on is the aftermath and

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Speaker 2: the way you approach talking about things after something like this,

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Speaker 2: And you can also work on avoiding misunderstandings in the

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Speaker 2: first place. To a delited comment, no, I didn't have

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Speaker 2: to apologize, I wanted to. I was in fact met

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Speaker 4: Wow, and that's the end of the story. We're gonna

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Speaker 4: read the next one.

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Speaker 2: I dumped my girlfriend for freedom, only to realize it

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Speaker 2: wasn't what I thought it would be.

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Speaker 1: The Golden handcuffs.

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Speaker 2: I'm mail twenty four. Was with Brittany female twenty for

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Speaker 2: two and a half years. I liked many things about her.

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Speaker 2: She had a good sense of humor. We liked the

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Speaker 2: same music and all of the same video games. She's hot,

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Speaker 2: she gave me cool gifts. She was always there for me.

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Speaker 2: By the way this comes from, I regret it. Throwaway

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Speaker 2: and if you want to spit your own stories, go

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Speaker 1: This is Bruno Mars, I was about to say, seeing

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Speaker 1: This is great. Don't do that for relationships. What are

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Speaker 2: She always thought I moved on too soon for my

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Speaker 2: Yet she does the same crap, like everything we built

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Speaker 1: Vincent would agree with this. Go to the gym. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the Jim Church of Jim Jim.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this feels like that meme of the guy who's

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Speaker 1: Can't believe who's who did this? Out?

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Speaker 1: No I get I get the illustration.

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Speaker 2: No, I see it. I see it, and it's true.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I listen.

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Speaker 2: No, yeah, no sympathy for you.

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Speaker 1: Listen to some like early two thousands, Maroon five, Coldplay,

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Speaker 1: Get it all out, go to the gym, then go

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Like, stop talking to us though, move on, this is entertaining.

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Speaker 1: I kind of like it.

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Speaker 3: Stop talking to us because we don't want to hear it.

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Speaker 2: Update. Almost two years later, I ended up leaving her alone.

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Speaker 2: It decided to fix myself. I knew the way I

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Speaker 1: He went to the gym, hopefully, and now he can

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Speaker 3: Thank you're looking for two twenty five.

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Speaker 1: Now he can pitch two twenty five and hopefully on

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Speaker 2: But he still can't figure out his emotions.

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Speaker 3: He still can't lift his spirits.

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Speaker 2: Oh, bars, We should have like an animation that just

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Speaker 2: says bars. Whenever we say something really.

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Speaker 1: Good, we can make that happen.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and it's and it's and it's a it's a

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Speaker 3: It's a worm lifting, like lifting a bar bell with

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it says bars. Six months after I posted,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I told you he's not over alone.

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Speaker 2: We're back in the building.

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Speaker 1: This brains people again.

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Speaker 2: I suppose that's true. She was very wary on hanging

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Speaker 2: I don't hold things in anymore. We both hang out

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Speaker 2: many things I never noticed about her. She's very sweet, beautiful, funny,

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Speaker 1: Oh now she's smart.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she'd gained all this in two years.

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Speaker 3: Before she was just hot. Now she's like smart and.

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Speaker 2: She's she's like she's got brains or something. I really

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Speaker 2: I won't mess it up. So far, it's been almost

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Speaker 2: I'm going to keep working on myself to be the

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Speaker 1: Folks, I poured my heart into my boyfriend friend's anniversary gift,

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Speaker 1: the way, this comes from yogurt two. If you want

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Speaker 1: to smear own stories, you know where to go. I'm Riley,

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Benson, and right here just to read

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Speaker 1: some stories, goofully. If you'd like to calm down below,

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Speaker 1: which is where our relationship actually started. They were so

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Speaker 1: supportive ever since, they even paid for the reservation and

441
00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:30,359
Speaker 1: food to make this special for us. It was in

442
00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:32,840
Speaker 1: the middle of lunch when this happened. His other friend

443
00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:37,960
Speaker 1: cleared his throat and looked at Mike meaningfully. He then

444
00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:41,000
Speaker 1: reached for something underneath the table and gave me a

445
00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:45,080
Speaker 1: small box containing a dainty gold necklace with a diamond

446
00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:48,880
Speaker 1: hart Pendulin in the middle that I've been eyeing since

447
00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,280
Speaker 1: I saw it at the mall last time we were

448
00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:54,879
Speaker 1: out shopping together. I was so happy that I hugged

449
00:20:54,920 --> 00:20:58,840
Speaker 1: him and kissed him so tight because of how thoughtful

450
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Speaker 1: he was and howful the necklace was. I was literally

451
00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:06,480
Speaker 1: shocked and giddy. I felt so happy by then that

452
00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:09,600
Speaker 1: I then told him that he was not the only

453
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Speaker 1: one with the gift. I grabbed the book I wrote

454
00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:16,920
Speaker 1: and book binded for him for our anniversary. Earlier last year,

455
00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:20,119
Speaker 1: I started composing a book inspired by our story. I

456
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:22,520
Speaker 1: planned to give it to him on our second year

457
00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:27,119
Speaker 1: anniversary as a way of remembering and cherishing our bizarre

458
00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:32,120
Speaker 1: rom com love story and some few poetries in there,

459
00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:36,480
Speaker 1: focusing on the things in our relationship that only us

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00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:42,440
Speaker 1: knows about, like our inside jokes, experiences, challenges, and how

461
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:46,800
Speaker 1: much I love and adore him as a person. This

462
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:50,400
Speaker 1: was all dedicated to him. I handed him the gifts

463
00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:53,399
Speaker 1: and told him how much I loved him, and our

464
00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:56,440
Speaker 1: table was so noisy from all the squealing and cheers

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Speaker 1: from our friends. I was so excited to give him

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Speaker 1: this to show him because I was so proud of

467
00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 1: my work, and I poured my heart out into this

468
00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:09,080
Speaker 1: gift because I genuinely loved him and everything about him.

469
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:12,119
Speaker 1: I spent my time proof reading and rewriting each page

470
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Speaker 1: to make it perfect. All he did was to look

471
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Speaker 1: at my gift with a what df is that? He

472
00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 1: then proceeded to ask me how much my gift is

473
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Speaker 1: and brag that he bought the necklace from a very

474
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Speaker 1: expensive brand. He told me that he was disappointed at

475
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Speaker 1: my gift and that I am embarrassing myself. Holy cow,

476
00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:38,280
Speaker 1: you you you you called that. No, I did not

477
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Speaker 1: think that this was gonna be the reason.

478
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Speaker 2: This is so disappointing. I'm disappointed in this man if

479
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Speaker 2: time out.

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00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:50,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, she did spend a lot on this time. Yeah,

481
00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:53,320
Speaker 1: if you really want to get into you know that

482
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Speaker 1: that equation? How much? You know, what would you say

483
00:22:56,560 --> 00:22:58,080
Speaker 1: working on a project like this? How much would you

484
00:22:58,119 --> 00:22:59,440
Speaker 1: charge per hour? And you two vincent?

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Speaker 2: What for a bining project, a book project including binding?

486
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Speaker 2: I don't even know.

487
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:06,680
Speaker 1: Twenty bucks an hour? Twenty bucks an hour?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like that, what about you?

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Speaker 1: Vincent?

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Speaker 3: Thirteen?

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Speaker 1: Charge?

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00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:11,640
Speaker 3: If I was doing this for someone, I would charge

493
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Speaker 3: per page, and especially if I was binding the thing.

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00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:17,159
Speaker 2: Exactly materials for the binding.

495
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:20,159
Speaker 3: Like charge per page plus hourly for the binding and

496
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Speaker 3: working like it'd be a good chunk of change.

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Speaker 1: How much? Give me a number for seventy hundred pages?

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Speaker 3: Hundred pages, hunder pages? Give a number to say, at

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Speaker 3: least knowing how I write, give me a number, I'd

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00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:38,680
Speaker 3: say like three bucks a page, and then an extra

501
00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:41,520
Speaker 3: one hundred to two hundred to buying five hundred bucks

502
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Speaker 3: five hundre bucks.

503
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Speaker 2: I was going to say five hundred two.

504
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 1: He proceeded to criticize the books interior and exterior design,

505
00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:51,440
Speaker 1: saying how it looks wonky, and then I shouldn't force

506
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:54,280
Speaker 1: myself to do things I clearly have no talent for

507
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 1: He then bragged about his gift to our friends, which

508
00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:01,080
Speaker 1: made me feel so sick in a shame my gift,

509
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:06,800
Speaker 1: and also shocked because my boyfriend seemed like another person

510
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 1: back there. He was always the soft spoken one, and

511
00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:14,560
Speaker 1: seeing and hearing him insult my love for him crushed me.

512
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 1: They all stayed silent and watched him as he yapped

513
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:22,119
Speaker 1: and yapped about my book that I just ended up

514
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 1: grabbing my book and started walking out of the restaurant

515
00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 1: straight to my apartment. Hot take, hot take right here.

516
00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:32,400
Speaker 1: I think this guy's a host.

517
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Speaker 2: Hot take.

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00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:40,359
Speaker 1: What No, he wants to look good. He got you

519
00:24:40,440 --> 00:24:43,120
Speaker 1: something really expensive. He wanted his gift to be way

520
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:45,720
Speaker 1: better than whatever you brought, and he didn't get the

521
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:50,720
Speaker 1: reaction that your friends gave you whenever you gifted the gift. Yeah,

522
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:52,120
Speaker 1: so I think you're embarrassed.

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00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:56,119
Speaker 3: I also wonder, if they're at this lunch, if this

524
00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 3: guy is under the influence of adult beverages.

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00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:02,480
Speaker 2: Good point. A good point could be showing the real

526
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 2: hymn Yeah with a little liquid courage.

527
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 1: So he and a friends has been texting me and

528
00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:11,840
Speaker 1: I haven't answered anyone yet. One of his texts said

529
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:14,679
Speaker 1: that he was just looking out for me and didn't

530
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:17,440
Speaker 1: want me to embarrass myself in front of our friends.

531
00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 1: I just felt so small and stupid for making handmade

532
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:24,560
Speaker 1: gifts when I know that I'm not an artsy person.

533
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 1: I felt embarrassed and sad about how he humiliated me

534
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:32,440
Speaker 1: back there. I mean, the book didn't have a fancy exterior.

535
00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 1: That's true, dude, don't start like ripping your project apart opie.

536
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 2: No, yeah, now, ope, he's insecure about our book.

537
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 1: Well, what hurts more is the fact he insulted it

538
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 1: immediately without even looking at what I wrote in their first.

539
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 2: Guys, send this man to the brig.

540
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 1: Type one for breakup, type two for the brig. There's

541
00:25:57,880 --> 00:25:59,880
Speaker 1: no way this is going to get back together right

542
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 1: from this break break, break, breag.

543
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 2: Send him to the pit pit, Yes, what's in the pit? Gladiators,

544
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:13,280
Speaker 2: ladas the cast of the pit.

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00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna break up with him today. I followed one

546
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:19,640
Speaker 1: of the comments and send him the necklace back. He

547
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 1: called me and he was crying, asking me if I'm

548
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:26,479
Speaker 1: throwing out his love for me. I almost broke out

549
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:29,399
Speaker 1: of the phone to face. I was so angry he

550
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,160
Speaker 1: did that to me, and now he's tasted his own

551
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 1: medicine and he's gonna be mad about it. He said

552
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:37,040
Speaker 1: that I can't break up with him over the phone,

553
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:39,920
Speaker 1: and I think he's going to force himself into my apartment.

554
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 1: So I tried calling some of our friends for help.

555
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 1: When they arrived, they hugged me and sat down with me.

556
00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:48,919
Speaker 1: Apparently our friends aren't contacting him and told him to

557
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 1: get lost and that they were never friends. After that,

558
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 1: they also came over with some of my favorite foods

559
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 1: and all comfort me, saying they thought he was great

560
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 1: because he used to be such a green flag.

561
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 2: Honestly, I don't want to hear that. I don't want

562
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,280
Speaker 2: all my friends to come over and say, sorry, we

563
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 2: set you up with him. We thought he was really great.

564
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:09,880
Speaker 2: I don't want to hear that.

565
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 1: Really, don't know.

566
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 2: I just want them to be like, he freaking sucks.

567
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sucks.

568
00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 1: What I mean, the friends probably feel bad because they

569
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 1: set them up.

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00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's like, I feel like that's kind of

571
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 2: a selfish thing of Oh, I want to cover my butt,

572
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 2: and in that moment, I think, Op, he just needs

573
00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 2: to hear that guy sucks.

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00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 1: Oh really, that's weird. I mean, I think it would

575
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:32,160
Speaker 1: be like, dude, I am so sorry that I got

576
00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 1: you guys together. I feel like I caused this. This

577
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:35,199
Speaker 1: is on me.

578
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:37,600
Speaker 2: I think you could say that that's what I think.

579
00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:40,040
Speaker 2: That's I thought he was so great. I don't want

580
00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 2: to hear that.

581
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:43,359
Speaker 1: They also told me that I have nothing to be

582
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 1: embarrassed about because all he did back there was humiliate himself,

583
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:48,879
Speaker 1: not myself.

584
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 2: True. True, so true.

585
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 1: They will still be staying with me throughout the night

586
00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 1: to keep me safe from him and if he tries

587
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 1: anything weird and aggressive. I know a lot of your friends,

588
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna be okay. Thank you everyone for your

589
00:28:02,000 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 1: help and time to read this. I'm so thankful for

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00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:05,680
Speaker 1: all of you.

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00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:07,680
Speaker 4: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna read

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00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 4: the next one.

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00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 1: Hey, this is Riley the host. I can't really read that. Well.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories, but here's three

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596
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Speaker 2: My sweet girlfriend becomes a different person at the gym

597
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 2: and I've had enough.

598
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 3: She's hawking out trigger warning.

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Speaker 2: Unconcluded. I twenty eight male, and my girlfriend, twenty five female,

600
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 2: have been together for four years. I admit I've never

601
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 2: been a muscular man, and during our time together she

602
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 2: has gotten more kurvashif, which I love. She's been working

603
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 2: on her fitness for about six months, and I try

604
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 2: to be as supportive as I can. By the way,

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00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:45,960
Speaker 2: this comes from Lithium bore it And if you want

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Speaker 2: to smit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay,

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00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:52,040
Speaker 2: storytime severed it. I'm Sophia, I'm Vincent, and we're here

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00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 2: to give good advice. Goofy, but we don't have all

609
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 2: the answers. We only know what we do, so let

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00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:58,160
Speaker 2: us know what you would do in the comments, and

611
00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:01,960
Speaker 2: Opie says, but she's a tote totally different person. At

612
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:05,920
Speaker 2: the gym, she's usually amazing, but after breaking a sweat,

613
00:29:05,960 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 2: it's like she's possessed. She yells at anybody who interrupts her,

614
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 2: whether that's trainers, managers, or people asking if she's done

615
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:16,520
Speaker 2: using a machine, and she'll be rude to the staff

616
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 2: to the point where she has two strikes because of

617
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:23,080
Speaker 2: complaints about her. I know this because her membership has

618
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 2: a guest pass and I sometimes go to provide support

619
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,720
Speaker 2: and use the sauna, so I've seen her behavior first hand.

620
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 2: And we've talked about it. When she gets home after

621
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 2: the gym, it's the same story. She gets annoyed at everything,

622
00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 2: the TV, what's for dinner, even though she usually chooses

623
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 2: the meal before going, and even the way the furniture

624
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 2: is arranged. As much as I love her, it's emotionally exhausting,

625
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,120
Speaker 2: to the point where I dread the days she goes

626
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:52,960
Speaker 2: to the gym. She's super apologetic the next day and

627
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 2: acknowledges that her behavior is unacceptable and promises she'll work

628
00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 2: on it and control herself. I've asked her what causes this,

629
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 2: and she says that she gets too hot and sweaty

630
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 2: and dislikes the sensation to the point it makes her angry.

631
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 2: Sounds like she's getting overstimulated.

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00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, Also, like that's kind of what happens when you

633
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 3: work out. Also, if you're too hot, can't you get

634
00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:17,600
Speaker 3: a few fans?

635
00:30:18,280 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, she's working out, so she's getting too hot.

636
00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 3: I mean, like if like when she gets home after Yeah,

637
00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 3: so that way she doesn't have to live in that

638
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:27,600
Speaker 3: state of uncomfortableness.

639
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like she's overstimulated. I will say I

640
00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:34,480
Speaker 2: also get over stimulated when I get hot. Uh, you

641
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 2: just gotta figure out a way that it works for you.

642
00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:42,200
Speaker 2: Maybe you can't do the gym. I've suggested fans or

643
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 2: water sports like swimming to balance that out, but she

644
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 2: says it's not the same level or type of exercise.

645
00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:51,160
Speaker 2: Yesterday I went with her to the gym to use

646
00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 2: the sauna, and honestly, as much as I love her,

647
00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 2: I felt a little disgusted with how she was treating people.

648
00:30:57,200 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 2: She's usually so sweet and nice, but she was bereat

649
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:02,800
Speaker 2: being a custodian for mopping a spill near her, and

650
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:05,040
Speaker 2: she just blew up at him and Adam in tears.

651
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 2: I grabbed her and told her we were leaving. I

652
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 2: apologized to the man on her behalf, and she was

653
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 2: yelling at me for interrupting her workout, defending the man

654
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:16,760
Speaker 2: and taking her home. She continued yelling all the way home,

655
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:19,239
Speaker 2: and I admit I had had it. I told her

656
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 2: this wasn't the woman I knew, and that if this

657
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 2: is truly who she was, then I wanted nothing to

658
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 2: do with her. She yelled some more, calling me irrational

659
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 2: and saying I wasn't having her back. I told her

660
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:31,680
Speaker 2: the only way I saw to fix this was for

661
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 2: her to go back and apologize to the whole staff

662
00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 2: and stop going to the gym because I couldn't stand

663
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 2: the person she became after working out. She said I

664
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:44,200
Speaker 2: was sabotaging her progress and that I wanted her to

665
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 2: stay fat, her words, so I could feel better about myself.

666
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:51,280
Speaker 2: She called me an absolute ahole for dictating what she

667
00:31:51,400 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 2: can and can't do, and told me I could go

668
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 2: f myself and my moral high ground. I would break

669
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 2: up with her.

670
00:31:57,280 --> 00:32:00,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have. It sounds like she has some deeper

671
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:02,960
Speaker 3: self image stuff that's connected to the gym going on.

672
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:06,400
Speaker 3: But also a question for you, do you think that

673
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:11,280
Speaker 3: raised voices have any place in a relationship? Mm mmmmmm

674
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 3: that's my biggest red flag. Yeah, you agree, never raise

675
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 3: your voice at your partner. No ever like that.

676
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 2: I think if you ever get into a fight where

677
00:32:21,040 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 2: you are yelling at your partner, that is a moment

678
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:25,440
Speaker 2: for you to be like what happens, so that can

679
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 2: never happen again. Yeah, or it's like a moment where

680
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:28,880
Speaker 2: you break up.

681
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 3: But mm hmmm, Like I get like being impassioned about

682
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 3: something or venting, but never directed at exactly. Yeah.

683
00:32:38,120 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 2: I dropped her off at home and went to stay

684
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 2: at my brothers for the night. We haven't spoken today,

685
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 2: but usually after a good night's sleep, she's always back

686
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 2: to her normal sweet self. I honestly can't stand it anymore, though,

687
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 2: And I'm firm that if she continues going to the gym,

688
00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 2: we're over. Am I the able and we've got a

689
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 2: little edit. But what do you think? I don't.

690
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 3: I don't think the gym is the problem. I think

691
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 3: it's a little bit like ultimatomy to say, like, you

692
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 3: can never go to the gym again because she might

693
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:13,480
Speaker 3: need that for mental health. Like I know, if I

694
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 3: don't work out like a few days in a few

695
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 3: days in a row, I feel not great about myself. Yeah,

696
00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 3: I think it's more of a we need to address

697
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 3: the behavior that comes with you going at the gym

698
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:29,600
Speaker 3: and see how we can address it. And if you

699
00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:32,240
Speaker 3: don't do that seriously, then I'm gone, I think.

700
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think I similarly, I think you tell her

701
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 2: if I ever see that behavior again, I'm like, I

702
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 2: just can't accept that, you know, And and maybe for

703
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 2: her that means she can't go back to an in

704
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 2: person gym, maybe that means switching sports. But I think

705
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 2: you just say that is unacceptable. Edit says it's been

706
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 2: asked a few times, so I'll add it here. She

707
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 2: does take a protein shake that our trainer recommended. He's

708
00:33:57,120 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 2: a certified dietitian or nutritionist, so I I think that

709
00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:02,680
Speaker 2: wouldn't be the issue. After work, I'll call and verify

710
00:34:02,720 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 2: his credentials and check the protein shake she's taking, just

711
00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 2: to be safe. I also don't think and hope she's

712
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 2: on steroids at it too. I have to go back

713
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:13,600
Speaker 2: to work, but thank you all for your help. I

714
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 2: will go back tonight and sit down with her and

715
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:18,719
Speaker 2: have a talk. I'll ask her directly if she's taking

716
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 2: any substances or medications that I don't know about, and

717
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:24,880
Speaker 2: see what she says or how she reacts. I'll also

718
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:28,240
Speaker 2: suggest she goes to a GP or a therapist, depending

719
00:34:28,239 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 2: on how she reacts to the first part telling her

720
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:32,800
Speaker 2: that I love her, but I'm concerned about her well being.

721
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:34,799
Speaker 2: There were a few comments that I'd like to show

722
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:37,319
Speaker 2: her if she's open to it, and hopefully we can

723
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:39,880
Speaker 2: get to the bottom of this. I'm also calling the

724
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,800
Speaker 2: gym to double check the trainer and his credentials. I

725
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,120
Speaker 2: wouldn't like to think so but I'd rather be safe

726
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:47,800
Speaker 2: and not assume that it's him putting something in her shakes,

727
00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 2: since he's the one who gives them to her when

728
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:52,560
Speaker 2: she gets there. She has a container of it at home,

729
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 2: but he's the one that sells it to her. I

730
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:56,920
Speaker 2: don't know if this will deserve an update or not,

731
00:34:57,080 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 2: considering the tiny chance that she really might just be nail,

732
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:04,439
Speaker 2: but I really hope that's not it anyway, Thanks for everything.

733
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:06,799
Speaker 3: You know what I just thought of. Yeah, does she

734
00:35:06,880 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 3: take pre workout? I don't know, because pre workout again

735
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 3: another gym thing. It has a lot of caffeine that

736
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:16,319
Speaker 3: can spike anxiety. It has beta alanine, which gives you

737
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 3: that like it opens up your capillaries and it gives

738
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:24,400
Speaker 3: you that itchy feeling, and it makes you your skin warmer,

739
00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:28,040
Speaker 3: and it makes you sweat more profusely. Yeah, I wonder

740
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:30,320
Speaker 3: if that is being involved.

741
00:35:30,640 --> 00:35:33,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, she could be having like a kind of heat

742
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:34,840
Speaker 2: stroke in a way.

743
00:35:34,640 --> 00:35:40,080
Speaker 3: Or like a heat reaction. Yeah, but I doubt she's

744
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 3: on a performance I don't know. I don't know. I

745
00:35:43,239 --> 00:35:48,240
Speaker 3: don't know enough, but like performance enhancing compounds, that would

746
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:50,719
Speaker 3: you would be able to tell if a woman was

747
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:56,240
Speaker 3: taking androgenic. Oh yeah, because it literally makes women andro

748
00:35:56,400 --> 00:36:00,359
Speaker 3: means man and genic means looking. So it literally makes

749
00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:04,040
Speaker 3: woman more Q Yeah, I mean masculine, and.

750
00:36:04,280 --> 00:36:06,800
Speaker 2: You grow start growing hair on your face and stuff.

751
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 2: It usually affects.

752
00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:11,280
Speaker 3: Your skin gets rougher. Yeah, it's not as yeah.

753
00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 2: Update. I received a few messages in comments asking for

754
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:17,919
Speaker 2: an update. I honestly figured i'd update once we had

755
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 2: actual answers, but you've all been pretty nice about asking.

756
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 2: So that day I went back home after work to

757
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 2: find my girlfriend crying in the living room. I panicked

758
00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 2: and asked what was the matter, and she broke down,

759
00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:31,600
Speaker 2: saying that she didn't know what was wrong with her,

760
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,320
Speaker 2: that she truly had been trying to stop her behavior,

761
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:37,480
Speaker 2: but that she didn't feel like herself when she worked out.

762
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 2: She said it felt like something was wrong with her

763
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:41,719
Speaker 2: because she was supposed to be happy when she was

764
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:44,560
Speaker 2: working out, the same way she had been when she

765
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:47,319
Speaker 2: was younger. She told me she'd been to the gym

766
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 2: that day to apologize to the staff even if I

767
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 2: still broke up with her, because it was something she

768
00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 2: felt she had to do. She also canceled her membership

769
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 2: and the manager voided the contract and said that he

770
00:36:57,360 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 2: also thought it was for the best. My girlfriend asked

771
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 2: me not to break up with her and said she'd

772
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 2: stop working out forever. But I told her that wasn't

773
00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:08,960
Speaker 2: what I wanted either. I wanted her to be happy,

774
00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 2: healthy and well, but that I was concerned because there

775
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:16,480
Speaker 2: might be some underlying issues we weren't seeing, or something

776
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:20,800
Speaker 2: that was affecting her. So we went step by step

777
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:23,160
Speaker 2: over things that could be wrong. As you guys had

778
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:28,279
Speaker 2: provided many suggestions steroids and substances. She said no and

779
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:31,799
Speaker 2: looked really sad that I'd even suggest it, but I

780
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:33,840
Speaker 2: told her I was just trying to rule things out.

781
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:37,160
Speaker 2: She also said she's not taking any medication other than

782
00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:41,880
Speaker 2: her birth control. That could be it, Yes, that could

783
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 2: be it. How long has she been on that? Because

784
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 2: that is a huge emotion change, which she's been on

785
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 2: for years. Protein shake and trainer. She said the trainer

786
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 2: is a certified dietician, which I verified, and that he

787
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 2: makes her shakes because she kept forgetting to bring them.

788
00:37:57,680 --> 00:37:59,760
Speaker 2: We went in and talked it over with the gym manager,

789
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 2: and the trainer said that he was also concerned about

790
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 2: her behavior because she was nice when she came in

791
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:07,960
Speaker 2: and during warm ups. He pointed out that her moodshifts

792
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 2: started when her heart rate got above a certain point

793
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 2: and stayed that way even after she cooled down, and

794
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:17,880
Speaker 2: he recommended she see an endochronologist, which some of you

795
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:20,160
Speaker 2: had also suggested, so we made an appointment for that.

796
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:24,520
Speaker 2: The trainer also pointed out a somewhat clear timeline of

797
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:27,400
Speaker 2: when her behavior started, because it was in his notes.

798
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:29,960
Speaker 2: She started going to the gym in July, but only

799
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 2: started having your episodes, as he called them, in September.

800
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 2: He pointed out that he also thought it could be

801
00:38:36,480 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 2: something in the sheakes and had recommended switching them twice

802
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:42,759
Speaker 2: with no change, and told me that there were days

803
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:45,560
Speaker 2: where she wouldn't take them at all and it still happened.

804
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 2: All of this is on her record sensory issues and neurodivergence.

805
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:52,200
Speaker 2: She thought about it for a bit and said that

806
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:55,879
Speaker 2: if it rang somewhat familiar, she didn't think that was it,

807
00:38:56,360 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 2: but that she wasn't ruling it out either. She said

808
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 2: that during the summer at the beach or in the sauna,

809
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 2: she also got incredibly hot and sweaty, but wasn't truly

810
00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 2: bothered by it, so it could be a combo of

811
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:08,800
Speaker 2: heart rate and heat.

812
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like this. Sounds like the heart rate

813
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 3: is a big part of it.

814
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:15,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that it was only during physical activities, which

815
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 2: brings me to my next point.

816
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:20,839
Speaker 3: Uh No, this is actually a really interesting sort of

817
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:24,480
Speaker 3: breakdown of yeah, symptoms and diagnosis. I love that the

818
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:27,000
Speaker 3: trainer has been like, yeah, she started here, but like

819
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:30,520
Speaker 3: has such detailed notes about like this is the protein

820
00:39:30,600 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 3: we switched it. Yeah, didn't like this behavior didn't start

821
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 3: until like this time. I'm really like curious now, just

822
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:41,400
Speaker 3: like the pathology of whatever. I don't know if pathology

823
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,480
Speaker 3: is the right word, but yeah, but what's going on?

824
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's find out if we have an answer, which

825
00:39:46,200 --> 00:39:48,640
Speaker 2: we don't because we had a trigger warning for inconcluded

826
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 2: physical activities. When she said that, I thought about the

827
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 2: other types of physical activities wink wink, because she also

828
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 2: gets hot and sweaty, and her blood pressure also goes

829
00:39:58,120 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 2: up during that type of exercise. I might just be

830
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 2: really dense because I never made the connection. But the

831
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:05,440
Speaker 2: last few months, the longer we go at it, the

832
00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 2: more aggressive she gets. I just thought it was enthusiasm,

833
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:12,359
Speaker 2: but I guess not, And she usually falls asleep immediately after,

834
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 2: so I didn't think anything of it. So on all,

835
00:40:15,320 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 2: she did stop going to the gym for the moment,

836
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:20,400
Speaker 2: and we have an appointment with the endocrinologist next week.

837
00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:22,880
Speaker 2: She says her weight loss journey was merely to be

838
00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:25,120
Speaker 2: less pudgy, as she put it, but that she wasn't

839
00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:27,400
Speaker 2: too bothered by it since I love her no matter what.

840
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:30,640
Speaker 2: She also said thanks to those who showed concern for

841
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 2: her well being, and also said to tell you that

842
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:34,959
Speaker 2: I make her out to be too nice and she's

843
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:38,319
Speaker 2: definitely an ale sometimes, but I love her ale or not,

844
00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 2: and I just hope that these episodes are something that

845
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:46,400
Speaker 2: can be painlessly and easily fixed. And I hope that too. Yeah, shame,

846
00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:49,439
Speaker 2: but that's the end of that story. Folks. My best

847
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:53,879
Speaker 2: friend cheated on her boyfriend over the weekend, never engaged. Well,

848
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 2: that was fast. I twenty four female, introduced one of

849
00:40:57,239 --> 00:41:00,000
Speaker 2: my best friends let's call her Keana twenty five female

850
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:02,879
Speaker 2: to one of my good friends, Mason twenty six mail,

851
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 2: three years ago. They instantly hit it off and were

852
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 2: an item in no time. To me, it always seemed

853
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 2: like they had a good relationship. They started getting serious,

854
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:15,239
Speaker 2: bought a condo together and just adopted a dog from

855
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:17,759
Speaker 2: the local shelter last month. By the way, this comes

856
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:20,400
Speaker 2: from VALLAA throwaway to A one And if you want

857
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:22,400
Speaker 2: to smit your own stories, go to the arsash Okay

858
00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:25,719
Speaker 2: storytime severed it. I'm Sophia and I'm Savannah and we're

859
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 2: here to give good advice goofy, But we don't have

860
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 2: all the answers. We only know what we do, so

861
00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:31,799
Speaker 2: let us know what you would do in the comments,

862
00:41:31,840 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 2: and opiece says on Saturday, Kiana and I went out

863
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:38,880
Speaker 2: dancing with some of my colleagues from work. We were

864
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:42,200
Speaker 2: all protective there and Keana said she had to go

865
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 2: to the bathroom, so I went to the bar to

866
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 2: get us some drinks. After about ten minutes, my colleague asked,

867
00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 2: where's Kiana. I scanned the bar to find her talking

868
00:41:52,680 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 2: to this guy. Keana is pretty flirtatious when she drinks,

869
00:41:57,120 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 2: but as I was walking towards her, I saw her

870
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:04,719
Speaker 2: lean closer to the guy and start making out with them. No,

871
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 2: uh uh, that's like Kiyana right there, and I'm like,

872
00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 2: come on. I stood there in shock, but after regaining

873
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,799
Speaker 2: my composure, I made it over to her. And said

874
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:19,839
Speaker 2: we needed to talk. I asked what she was doing

875
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:22,240
Speaker 2: and she said it was nothing, just heat of the moment.

876
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:26,160
Speaker 2: Don't tell meson you know I'm gonna tell Mason immediately.

877
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:28,759
Speaker 2: I was pretty pissed and told her that was a

878
00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:31,239
Speaker 2: crappy position she put me in. She said she had

879
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 2: to go to the bathroom, then asked if he could

880
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 2: go home. Right after, I went over to say bye

881
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:38,880
Speaker 2: to my other friends, when I noticed her leaving the

882
00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:43,880
Speaker 2: bathroom line and walking over to that same guy again. Okay,

883
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:47,120
Speaker 2: girl has a problem, Yeah, you got an issue. They

884
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 2: were on the other side of the bar, so I

885
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 2: started making my way over again. When they left, I

886
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:54,520
Speaker 2: began calling her phone and she ignored me, and just

887
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 2: as I got outside, she was getting into a cab

888
00:42:57,400 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 2: with this guy. I was seething. I tried calling her

889
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:04,480
Speaker 2: again and left her a couple of texts and voicemails,

890
00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:06,840
Speaker 2: asking her to call me as soon as she could

891
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:09,800
Speaker 2: so I know she was safe. That was my first priority,

892
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:12,319
Speaker 2: to make sure she wasn't going home with some creep.

893
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:14,680
Speaker 2: Then I would talk to her about cheating on Mason.

894
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:17,600
Speaker 2: She finally got back to me at around five am

895
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 2: Sunday morning, texting me that she was safe and she

896
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 2: needed to talk to me. I received that text when

897
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 2: I woke up around nine and told Keana to come

898
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:28,560
Speaker 2: to my apartment. She was over in about half an hour.

899
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:31,000
Speaker 2: Asked if she could borrow a change of clothes, and

900
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 2: she started crying. She said she slept with that guy

901
00:43:34,040 --> 00:43:38,880
Speaker 2: last night and instantly regrets it. Shut up, Yeah, no

902
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:42,800
Speaker 2: you don't. Oh, Pee tried to stop you like two times,

903
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 2: so don't even say. Oh, you know, I didn't know

904
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:48,279
Speaker 2: what I was doing. I didn't think about it. No,

905
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:51,760
Speaker 2: you did because your friend came up to you. Keana

906
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:54,279
Speaker 2: said that she missed having other men attracted to her,

907
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:59,120
Speaker 2: so she gave into the temptation. Shot up. I told

908
00:43:59,160 --> 00:44:01,799
Speaker 2: her that even so it was hard, she needed to

909
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 2: tell Mason. She said she would and thanked me for

910
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:07,279
Speaker 2: not judging her too harshly. I said what she did

911
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:09,880
Speaker 2: was wrong and it was unfair to make me two sides,

912
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 2: but Mason is also my friend and most importantly, her boyfriend,

913
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:17,680
Speaker 2: so he deserves the truth. A few days passed without

914
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:21,840
Speaker 2: word from Keana. Yesterday evening she texted me saying Mason

915
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:27,000
Speaker 2: proposed I said yes, and then I text back Okay,

916
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:30,680
Speaker 2: so I'm telling Mason now. Yeah, I'd be like, so,

917
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:34,839
Speaker 2: did you tell him then or what? I sat and

918
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:37,600
Speaker 2: stared at the text for a few minutes. Then she

919
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,759
Speaker 2: calls me, squealing with excitement, and gave me the details

920
00:44:40,800 --> 00:44:43,439
Speaker 2: of the proposal. I then asked her if she told

921
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:46,360
Speaker 2: Mason about what happened last weekend. She said she didn't

922
00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:50,879
Speaker 2: and couldn't now or it would ruin their engagement. Oh wow,

923
00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:53,840
Speaker 2: this girl's nah, she's full of it. Yeah. I wouldn't

924
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:56,279
Speaker 2: want to be with your friend anymore, girl, Yeah, I'd

925
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:59,080
Speaker 2: be like, too many bad decisions like that. You pissed

926
00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:01,839
Speaker 2: me off now. She then said her mom was calling her,

927
00:45:01,880 --> 00:45:03,960
Speaker 2: so she hung up. I haven't heard from her since

928
00:45:04,040 --> 00:45:06,879
Speaker 2: yesterday evening, but she's already posting her ring all over

929
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:11,400
Speaker 2: social media. I love Keana so much, we've been friends

930
00:45:11,440 --> 00:45:13,759
Speaker 2: for over ten years, but I can't help but be

931
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 2: angry at her for not only cheating on Mason, who

932
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 2: is literally the sweetest, kindest man, but for hiding it

933
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 2: from him and accepting a proposal. I get the sense

934
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:26,880
Speaker 2: that she is insecure, which is why she sought validation

935
00:45:27,000 --> 00:45:29,080
Speaker 2: from some random dude at the bar instead of her

936
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 2: boyfriend now fiance. She put me in such an awkward position.

937
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:35,879
Speaker 2: A part of me says I need to stay out

938
00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:38,239
Speaker 2: of it. Don't listen to that part, not ruin my

939
00:45:38,280 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 2: friendship with her, as this is none of my business,

940
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 2: but I can't get the image of her kissing that

941
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 2: guy and leaving in a cab with him. Mason deserves

942
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:49,920
Speaker 2: the truth too. I've also been cheated on before, so

943
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:52,920
Speaker 2: I know how it feels. I don't want to ruin anything,

944
00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:56,360
Speaker 2: but the weight of the situation is unaliving me. Considering

945
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:59,040
Speaker 2: I'm the only one who knows what happened? What do

946
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 2: I do? And op made a small update in the comments.

947
00:46:03,239 --> 00:46:05,319
Speaker 2: I knew right after I posted that I needed to

948
00:46:05,360 --> 00:46:09,560
Speaker 2: tell Mason regardless of my relationship with Kana. Kana texted

949
00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:11,359
Speaker 2: me while I was on my lunch asking me what

950
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:13,719
Speaker 2: the weight limit is for a carry on because she

951
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 2: thinks she needs to empty some stuff. I completely forgot

952
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 2: that she was flying out for a conference this evening.

953
00:46:19,560 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 2: I gave her a short response, then called Mason, who

954
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:24,920
Speaker 2: picked up. I told him I needed to talk to

955
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:27,439
Speaker 2: him tonight and he said he would meet me after work.

956
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 2: He works a block away from me and we're gonna

957
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:35,839
Speaker 2: pause really quick. Do you have any thoughts? I mean, Op,

958
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:39,399
Speaker 2: you gotta just you gotta let it out. I think

959
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:41,520
Speaker 2: you're doing I think you're doing the right thing. I

960
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 2: also agree that you're doing the right thing. I'm meeting

961
00:46:44,080 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 2: him in about half an hour, and I'm planning on

962
00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 2: telling him anyways. It's crappy timing considering Kiana won't be

963
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:53,440
Speaker 2: home until Saturday afternoon, but the clock is ticking and

964
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 2: I need to be honest right away. I'll update in

965
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:59,200
Speaker 2: a few days, and we've got a second update. Let's

966
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:02,320
Speaker 2: see what she did. Five days later, I called Mason

967
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:04,160
Speaker 2: and he picked up and asked him if we could

968
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 2: see each other that night. He said we could meet

969
00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:08,840
Speaker 2: at a pub in between both of our offices after

970
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:11,160
Speaker 2: work that day. When I got off work and walked

971
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:13,480
Speaker 2: over to the pub, but my stomach was in knots

972
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 2: and my heart wouldn't stop beating because I was so

973
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:19,960
Speaker 2: nervous to break the news. I walked in and Mason

974
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:22,239
Speaker 2: was already waiting for me. He gave me a big

975
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:26,800
Speaker 2: hug and looked so happy, which made me feel even worse.

976
00:47:28,440 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 2: The fact that Op is doing this and not the

977
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 2: fiance ridiculous. Yeah, and like the fact that like she

978
00:47:37,360 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 2: has to be the bad one, which she did nothing

979
00:47:40,920 --> 00:47:44,600
Speaker 2: she tried to stop the situation. Actually, yeah, but I'm sure.

980
00:47:44,719 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 2: I'm sure it'll like you know, come around and she'll

981
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 2: or not Kean, but OPI will end up being the

982
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 2: bad guy even Yeah, I mean, Kean is gonna make

983
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:55,520
Speaker 2: care of the bad guy.

984
00:47:55,680 --> 00:47:56,080
Speaker 4: Yeah.

985
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:59,319
Speaker 2: Mason asked me about my day. I asked about his

986
00:47:59,400 --> 00:48:02,360
Speaker 2: et cetera. He then asked if Keana mentioned anything about

987
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:04,520
Speaker 2: the ring, if she liked it, if she was happy.

988
00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:07,400
Speaker 2: He must have saw the look on my face because

989
00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:10,600
Speaker 2: he asked me what was wrong. I started by saying

990
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:12,800
Speaker 2: that what I'm about to tell him will change either

991
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:17,640
Speaker 2: his relationship with Keana, his friendship with me, Keana's friendship

992
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:20,319
Speaker 2: with me, or all of the above. Okay, well now,

993
00:48:20,640 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 2: like okait night, just guys it. Yeah, why are doing

994
00:48:23,600 --> 00:48:26,279
Speaker 2: all this lead up? Mason looked confused, so I went

995
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 2: on and told him about what happened Saturday. I didn't

996
00:48:29,719 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 2: call Keana any names. I didn't focus too much on

997
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:35,520
Speaker 2: her side or my side of the story. I just

998
00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 2: gave out an attempted objective narrative of what happened right

999
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 2: up until when she called me about the engagement. I

1000
00:48:43,080 --> 00:48:44,719
Speaker 2: asked if she was going to tell him, and she

1001
00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:48,640
Speaker 2: said no. Mason went pale for a moment, and I

1002
00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:51,400
Speaker 2: asked him if he needed a minute. Mason told me

1003
00:48:51,440 --> 00:48:54,239
Speaker 2: that Keana said she got really wasted and slept at

1004
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:57,239
Speaker 2: my place Saturday night, which is why she didn't come

1005
00:48:57,280 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 2: home to him. Oh girl girl. He asked to see

1006
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:06,399
Speaker 2: the text I center, so I showed him the text

1007
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 2: thread and all the place calls I made to see

1008
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:12,480
Speaker 2: if she was okay. She left so much evidence on

1009
00:49:12,520 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 2: Op's phone. Yeah, it's just well because I think she

1010
00:49:15,719 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 2: thinks that Ope, he's not gonna say anything. I mean, Op,

1011
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 2: he already told you that she wanted you to tell

1012
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:23,480
Speaker 2: your boyfriend. So I told him that if I were

1013
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 2: in his position, I would want to know, and because

1014
00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:28,560
Speaker 2: I care for him, I didn't want him to find out.

1015
00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:31,839
Speaker 2: Later on, he looked at me with almost no expression

1016
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:34,720
Speaker 2: on his face and said, well, I guess I should

1017
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:38,400
Speaker 2: get tested. Huh. I felt so bad for him and

1018
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:41,160
Speaker 2: asked him if he needed anything. He told me he

1019
00:49:41,239 --> 00:49:43,760
Speaker 2: believed me, and we'll talk to Keana when she gets home.

1020
00:49:44,320 --> 00:49:47,319
Speaker 2: Mason said, our friendship won't change and He's grateful that

1021
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:49,880
Speaker 2: I told him before he ended up marrying her, but

1022
00:49:49,960 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 2: feels like crap that she accepted his proposal. Is flaunting

1023
00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:57,120
Speaker 2: the engagement to the world yet f someone four days prior.

1024
00:49:57,840 --> 00:49:59,880
Speaker 2: He said he wouldn't be surprised if this wasn't the

1025
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 2: first time something like this happened. I told him I

1026
00:50:03,120 --> 00:50:05,480
Speaker 2: had no idea if anything else had gone on, but

1027
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:08,520
Speaker 2: if he needed anything else, to let me know. He said,

1028
00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:10,760
Speaker 2: I'll talk to Keana when she gets back on Saturday.

1029
00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:13,160
Speaker 2: This is when he started to get a little teary

1030
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:15,200
Speaker 2: eyed and said he had to go. He gave me

1031
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:19,839
Speaker 2: a hug. Goodbye. Ah friend. Ope, I'm sorry you put

1032
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:22,160
Speaker 2: you were put in this situation. This is real tough.

1033
00:50:22,560 --> 00:50:26,719
Speaker 2: This is like horrible on orans. Yeah, Keana sucks. I

1034
00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:29,319
Speaker 2: didn't hear from either of them until Saturday night around

1035
00:50:29,360 --> 00:50:33,040
Speaker 2: eleven pm, when I got a call from Kana asking

1036
00:50:33,080 --> 00:50:35,799
Speaker 2: if she could come to my place. She showed up

1037
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:39,279
Speaker 2: fifteen minutes later and was a crying mess. She said

1038
00:50:39,280 --> 00:50:42,040
Speaker 2: that Mason broke off the engagement because he logged onto

1039
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:44,600
Speaker 2: her Facebook and found messages that she sent to some

1040
00:50:44,680 --> 00:50:50,239
Speaker 2: guys over the past year. So there were multiple people Wow.

1041
00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:52,800
Speaker 2: So she is a freaking liar. She didn't regret anything

1042
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:56,759
Speaker 2: because she was doing it multiple times. Wow, what a

1043
00:50:57,719 --> 00:51:01,440
Speaker 2: oh many words for this girl. Mason told her how

1044
00:51:01,480 --> 00:51:04,160
Speaker 2: I told him about last Saturday night, and she said

1045
00:51:04,160 --> 00:51:05,960
Speaker 2: she was too afraid to tell him because it was

1046
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:08,880
Speaker 2: a mistake. Kiana then asked why I told him, and

1047
00:51:08,920 --> 00:51:11,040
Speaker 2: I said if it happened to her, I would do

1048
00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:14,480
Speaker 2: the same thing, and if it were me in Mason's position,

1049
00:51:14,640 --> 00:51:17,760
Speaker 2: I would want to know too. Her face started turning red,

1050
00:51:17,800 --> 00:51:20,560
Speaker 2: and then she dropped a bomb on me. In my

1051
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:24,160
Speaker 2: last post, I said that I knew how Mason felt

1052
00:51:25,280 --> 00:51:29,560
Speaker 2: because I was cheated on before. I see you, Oh boy,

1053
00:51:29,680 --> 00:51:32,359
Speaker 2: I see you. Put some ICUs in the chat if

1054
00:51:32,440 --> 00:51:36,000
Speaker 2: you're watching this right now. My last boyfriend, Dominique, and

1055
00:51:36,080 --> 00:51:38,920
Speaker 2: I were together for three years before he came to

1056
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:43,120
Speaker 2: my place one drunken night out with spicy kisses on

1057
00:51:43,200 --> 00:51:47,520
Speaker 2: his neck. I knew they weren't from me and immediately

1058
00:51:47,560 --> 00:51:50,360
Speaker 2: broke it off with him. He said he doesn't remember

1059
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:54,600
Speaker 2: who they were from, which I knew was bs Keana

1060
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:58,160
Speaker 2: said that she was the one that Dominic cheated on

1061
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:00,840
Speaker 2: me with, which means that not all only did Dominic

1062
00:52:01,040 --> 00:52:03,560
Speaker 2: cheat on me with my best friend, but she cheated

1063
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:08,560
Speaker 2: on Mason with him too. This girl sucks so much.

1064
00:52:09,280 --> 00:52:11,480
Speaker 2: She's just all over the place.

1065
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:12,120
Speaker 4: Girl.

1066
00:52:12,440 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 2: You gotta get a hold of your life. What are

1067
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:18,239
Speaker 2: you doing? You gonna lose everyone in your life? Yeah? Like,

1068
00:52:18,840 --> 00:52:22,640
Speaker 2: oh my goh, she's ruining it for herself. Wow. I

1069
00:52:22,680 --> 00:52:24,799
Speaker 2: couldn't even look at her. I asked her to leave

1070
00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 2: and not to contact me again. I've been questioning our

1071
00:52:27,560 --> 00:52:30,439
Speaker 2: friendship ever since. Yeah, you don't got one. I got

1072
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:32,920
Speaker 2: some texts and missed calls from her asking me to

1073
00:52:33,000 --> 00:52:35,319
Speaker 2: hear her out. In what way would I need to

1074
00:52:35,400 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 2: hear anything you have to say out? Calling me a witch? Wow,

1075
00:52:40,080 --> 00:52:42,880
Speaker 2: then going back to kissing my butt. I blocked her

1076
00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:46,280
Speaker 2: number and her profiles on all social media accounts. Mutual

1077
00:52:46,320 --> 00:52:49,120
Speaker 2: friends of ours have asked what happened and say they're

1078
00:52:49,160 --> 00:52:52,000
Speaker 2: not surprised by her behavior. I heard from Mason on

1079
00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 2: Monday night. He texted me saying it's over, and I

1080
00:52:55,239 --> 00:52:58,080
Speaker 2: asked if he was okay. Mason told me he will

1081
00:52:58,120 --> 00:53:00,400
Speaker 2: be eventually and asked me to me him for a

1082
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:03,319
Speaker 2: coffee tonight when I'm done with work. Apparently, he took

1083
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 2: off a few days for personal reasons. So that's about it. Read.

1084
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 2: It turns out I was blind to her character this

1085
00:53:09,840 --> 00:53:13,160
Speaker 2: whole time. I'm incredibly hurt that my so called best

1086
00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:15,440
Speaker 2: friend has never really been a best friend to me

1087
00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:19,360
Speaker 2: at all. I can't be left wondering what else has happened,

1088
00:53:19,520 --> 00:53:21,600
Speaker 2: but to move on and spend time with my friends

1089
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:25,520
Speaker 2: who care about me and have proven so I might

1090
00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:27,600
Speaker 2: provide a mini update on a year off anything else

1091
00:53:27,680 --> 00:53:31,200
Speaker 2: happens after I talked to Mason tonight. I'm just still

1092
00:53:31,360 --> 00:53:34,680
Speaker 2: in shock by this whole ordeal. Makes me wonder if

1093
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:36,759
Speaker 2: any of this would have come to light had I

1094
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:41,240
Speaker 2: not said anything to Mason. And we've got a third update.

1095
00:53:41,840 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 2: I mean, you can never know, but I'm glad that

1096
00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:47,360
Speaker 2: it did come out, as much as it hurts. Yeah,

1097
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:49,960
Speaker 2: she needed to be exposed, Yeah, or else. I mean,

1098
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:52,920
Speaker 2: I'm sure, one hundred percent sure she's going to continue

1099
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 2: to do this with like the next person. Actually, but

1100
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:57,960
Speaker 2: she hasn't learned anything. Yeah, but like she's just feeling

1101
00:53:57,960 --> 00:54:01,000
Speaker 2: sorry for herself, not for her action. She doesn't care

1102
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:04,480
Speaker 2: one hundred percent. Update three next day, I met Mason

1103
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 2: att a cafe after work. He didn't look very good. Yeah,

1104
00:54:08,360 --> 00:54:12,400
Speaker 2: that you go figure right there, that makes sense, poor guy,

1105
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:14,880
Speaker 2: this is tough, kind of dishevel Then his eyes were

1106
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:18,200
Speaker 2: all puffy. I gave him a huge ug and he said, well,

1107
00:54:18,200 --> 00:54:21,800
Speaker 2: that's not how I expected that weekend to go. Aw soda,

1108
00:54:22,160 --> 00:54:24,640
Speaker 2: he said. He got Keana off from everything, kicked her

1109
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 2: out of his house, got the ring back, changing all

1110
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:31,160
Speaker 2: of his passwords and banking information. She tried contacting him too,

1111
00:54:31,239 --> 00:54:34,680
Speaker 2: but like me, he blocked her off of everything. He

1112
00:54:34,719 --> 00:54:36,840
Speaker 2: asked if I saw her, and I told him what

1113
00:54:36,880 --> 00:54:40,320
Speaker 2: happened on Saturday night. And I told him what happened.

1114
00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:43,120
Speaker 2: He felt really bad for me that Dominic cheated on

1115
00:54:43,160 --> 00:54:46,080
Speaker 2: me with Keana, and I reminded him that she also

1116
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:49,319
Speaker 2: cheated on him when Dominic cheated on me, I don't

1117
00:54:49,320 --> 00:54:52,080
Speaker 2: think you needed to remind him of that. Yeah, he's

1118
00:54:52,160 --> 00:54:55,359
Speaker 2: he's he knows. He's like, eh, I'm so sorry about, like,

1119
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:57,840
Speaker 2: you know, her cheating with Dominic. And she's like, well,

1120
00:54:58,480 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 2: did you forget that? She alsoid she you did you

1121
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:03,880
Speaker 2: forget that? He's like, no, no, I no, I get that.

1122
00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:08,759
Speaker 2: Thanks appreciate that. Well, I appreciate his sympathy. He is

1123
00:55:08,800 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 2: the one who needs support right now. This is sad,

1124
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:15,440
Speaker 2: so sad, so sad like no one gets a happy

1125
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:20,560
Speaker 2: ending near no like because this girl, just this devil boldozer, Yeah,

1126
00:55:20,840 --> 00:55:26,640
Speaker 2: just like literally crashed into everyone's lives and just ruined everything,

1127
00:55:26,760 --> 00:55:29,720
Speaker 2: like who are you? And then to call other people

1128
00:55:29,760 --> 00:55:33,479
Speaker 2: and be like, you're so mean? Me me me, huh, girl,

1129
00:55:33,560 --> 00:55:36,840
Speaker 2: take a lug in the frickin' mirror, please do but

1130
00:55:37,080 --> 00:55:40,279
Speaker 2: op he finishes off. Then Mason brought up the fact

1131
00:55:40,280 --> 00:55:43,399
Speaker 2: that I also lost my best friend too. We talked

1132
00:55:43,400 --> 00:55:45,400
Speaker 2: about moving forward and he said he will take some

1133
00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:47,560
Speaker 2: of the engagement ring money after he sells it to

1134
00:55:47,600 --> 00:55:50,400
Speaker 2: go on a nice vacation. We just talked about random

1135
00:55:50,440 --> 00:55:52,720
Speaker 2: things and he thanked me for all of my support.

1136
00:55:53,280 --> 00:55:55,319
Speaker 2: Before we left, he gave me a big hug and

1137
00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:57,440
Speaker 2: said that telling him was a brave thing to do

1138
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:01,359
Speaker 2: and he appreciates that act and it means a lot

1139
00:56:01,360 --> 00:56:03,799
Speaker 2: to him. I said I will be there for him

1140
00:56:03,880 --> 00:56:07,480
Speaker 2: whenever he needs anything. Too many of you who are asking,

1141
00:56:07,600 --> 00:56:10,480
Speaker 2: I will not become friends with benefits with Mason or

1142
00:56:10,520 --> 00:56:15,279
Speaker 2: even dat him, not now least. Yes, I care for him, Yes,

1143
00:56:15,360 --> 00:56:23,040
Speaker 2: the attraction is there, what okay? Okay? Then and we

1144
00:56:23,120 --> 00:56:25,799
Speaker 2: get along great, But I knew how devastated I was

1145
00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:28,799
Speaker 2: after Dominic cheated on me. You lose all trust and

1146
00:56:28,880 --> 00:56:31,719
Speaker 2: dating again can be scary. It took me a long

1147
00:56:31,800 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 2: time to come to terms with the fact that not

1148
00:56:33,760 --> 00:56:36,640
Speaker 2: everyone out there is a liar or a cheater, and

1149
00:56:36,760 --> 00:56:38,560
Speaker 2: I had to do a lot of self reflecting and

1150
00:56:38,600 --> 00:56:42,080
Speaker 2: become confident in myself. I want Mason to have the

1151
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:46,280
Speaker 2: same opportunity. Jumping into something with him would not be wise,

1152
00:56:46,520 --> 00:56:49,520
Speaker 2: especially because he'll be feeling a lot of different emotions

1153
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:52,839
Speaker 2: over the next little while. Maybe it could happen one day,

1154
00:56:53,160 --> 00:56:55,560
Speaker 2: maybe not. But I'm just gonna do what I can

1155
00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:59,640
Speaker 2: to be the friend he needs right now. Yes, don't

1156
00:56:59,640 --> 00:57:02,799
Speaker 2: get into a relationship with the guy that just got

1157
00:57:02,920 --> 00:57:06,160
Speaker 2: cheated on by your best friend. You two are not

1158
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:10,520
Speaker 2: in the right stay. No, he also just proposed to someone.

1159
00:57:11,160 --> 00:57:13,919
Speaker 2: Let's cool it. Yeah, school our jets.

1160
00:57:14,880 --> 00:57:16,680
Speaker 4: And that's the end of the story. We're gonna read

1161
00:57:16,680 --> 00:57:17,280
Speaker 4: the next one.

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Speaker 2: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite Riley's girlfriend is here. We're

1163
00:57:22,040 --> 00:57:23,840
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1165
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Speaker 5: I spent thousands on my best friend's wedding, but she

1166
00:57:29,960 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 5: said it wasn't enough give me all of my money back.

1167
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:35,280
Speaker 5: So I've just been at my best friend's wedding as

1168
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:38,480
Speaker 5: a bridesmaid, and We've had the most amazing weekend apart

1169
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:40,919
Speaker 5: from this one hiccup at the end that's turned.

1170
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Speaker 2: Me off to be honest.

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1174
00:57:51,520 --> 00:57:54,200
Speaker 5: and we are here to give some good advice Gooflee.

1175
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:56,640
Speaker 2: But we do not have all of the answers. We

1176
00:57:56,760 --> 00:57:58,240
Speaker 2: only tell you what we would do in this situation.

1177
00:57:58,440 --> 00:58:01,040
Speaker 2: But but but bye, and let us know what you

1178
00:58:01,120 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 2: would do in the comments. As if, he says.

1179
00:58:05,120 --> 00:58:07,960
Speaker 5: Before the wedding, us bridesmaids got together to buy her

1180
00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:12,160
Speaker 5: a bracelet she'd been really wanting but was ridiculously expensive.

1181
00:58:12,760 --> 00:58:16,200
Speaker 5: We all put five hundred dollars in per person a

1182
00:58:16,920 --> 00:58:18,640
Speaker 5: gift for her.

1183
00:58:19,800 --> 00:58:26,400
Speaker 2: That's a lot. I would not I'd be like sorry, Like,

1184
00:58:26,960 --> 00:58:29,080
Speaker 2: as much as this gift is great, someone else can

1185
00:58:29,120 --> 00:58:33,400
Speaker 2: do this five hundred. Here's where the confusion is.

1186
00:58:33,800 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 5: Myself and two other bridesmaids assumed that would be all

1187
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 5: that was required from us as a gift. But last

1188
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:42,680
Speaker 5: night the bride told one of the other bridesmaids that

1189
00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:45,240
Speaker 5: she was so angry that the three of us didn't

1190
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:47,480
Speaker 5: put money in a card for her and her partner.

1191
00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:50,560
Speaker 5: She went on about how much money they spent on

1192
00:58:50,600 --> 00:58:53,040
Speaker 5: the wedding and it was insulting we didn't give them

1193
00:58:53,040 --> 00:58:53,480
Speaker 5: a gift.

1194
00:58:53,800 --> 00:58:56,240
Speaker 2: The five hundred dollars that we spent wasn't the gift.

1195
00:58:56,680 --> 00:59:00,480
Speaker 2: So this gift was fifteen hundred dollars and you wanted

1196
00:59:00,520 --> 00:59:04,040
Speaker 2: more gift? Girl, No, I was honestly shocked because I

1197
00:59:04,120 --> 00:59:06,440
Speaker 2: thought it was obvious the bracelet was the present, and

1198
00:59:06,520 --> 00:59:09,520
Speaker 2: I assumed that would be appreciated. I feel like it's

1199
00:59:09,560 --> 00:59:12,200
Speaker 2: really ungrateful and entitled that she's behaving this way, and

1200
00:59:12,240 --> 00:59:15,080
Speaker 2: it's made me feel really deflated. The other two bridesmaids

1201
00:59:15,160 --> 00:59:17,920
Speaker 2: that did put money in a card had their families invited,

1202
00:59:17,960 --> 00:59:20,800
Speaker 2: so they had a joint card from their families. They

1203
00:59:20,840 --> 00:59:23,440
Speaker 2: are on the bride's side, but I think it's unfair

1204
00:59:23,480 --> 00:59:25,880
Speaker 2: that they expect us to put more money in from

1205
00:59:25,920 --> 00:59:28,680
Speaker 2: our pocket when the parents were the ones who paid

1206
00:59:28,680 --> 00:59:32,400
Speaker 2: their cards for them. For extra context as well, with

1207
00:59:32,440 --> 00:59:34,800
Speaker 2: all the events and outfits and extra things we've done

1208
00:59:34,840 --> 00:59:37,400
Speaker 2: and bought for this wedding. I'm out of pocket around

1209
00:59:37,440 --> 00:59:39,280
Speaker 2: three point five k.

1210
00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:43,840
Speaker 5: Ah and have not once complained about it, even though

1211
00:59:43,840 --> 00:59:45,960
Speaker 5: it's put a massive financial strain on me.

1212
00:59:46,160 --> 00:59:48,440
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, that's a lot of money. M hm, so

1213
00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:49,200
Speaker 2: a lot.

1214
00:59:49,600 --> 00:59:52,840
Speaker 5: There's been like seven events, and I have been more

1215
00:59:52,840 --> 00:59:55,720
Speaker 5: than generous even though I can't afford it. I truly

1216
00:59:55,760 --> 00:59:58,360
Speaker 5: don't think I am, but need some honest opinions since

1217
00:59:58,360 --> 01:00:02,680
Speaker 5: the group is divided. That was an update, dude, that's no,

1218
01:00:03,280 --> 01:00:06,960
Speaker 5: that's so much money. Literally is so much and it's

1219
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:10,520
Speaker 5: mostly like you are spending so much money on this

1220
01:00:10,640 --> 01:00:14,360
Speaker 5: girl just to like appease her and make her happy.

1221
01:00:14,440 --> 01:00:16,800
Speaker 5: It's her day, you know whatever, blah blah blah, Like

1222
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:19,080
Speaker 5: try not to be like, oh no, I can't do it,

1223
01:00:19,480 --> 01:00:21,880
Speaker 5: like because of my financial struggles whatever, blah blah blah.

1224
01:00:21,920 --> 01:00:24,080
Speaker 2: And then for her to be like, so are you

1225
01:00:24,120 --> 01:00:27,160
Speaker 2: gonna give me money? Or what where's my money? Like

1226
01:00:27,240 --> 01:00:31,040
Speaker 2: you already got a bracelet, so you aren't grateful. The

1227
01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:35,640
Speaker 2: three point five k update, Okay, the update. As promised,

1228
01:00:36,320 --> 01:00:39,320
Speaker 2: we spoke. She actually beat me to it and called

1229
01:00:39,360 --> 01:00:41,800
Speaker 2: me this morning. She immediately asked if I was okay

1230
01:00:41,840 --> 01:00:44,120
Speaker 2: because I seemed off, and I said, truthfully, I was

1231
01:00:44,200 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 2: upset about something that happened after the wedding, so she

1232
01:00:46,720 --> 01:00:48,960
Speaker 2: agreed to meet me for coffee to talk about it.

1233
01:00:49,320 --> 01:00:52,320
Speaker 2: When we got there, she looked nervous. We started off pleasantly,

1234
01:00:52,320 --> 01:00:54,960
Speaker 2: and I asked how it was being a wife, normal conversation.

1235
01:00:55,560 --> 01:00:57,640
Speaker 2: Then it shifted because I addressed the elephant in the

1236
01:00:57,680 --> 01:00:59,640
Speaker 2: room and said I was upset as I had heard

1237
01:00:59,840 --> 01:01:02,680
Speaker 2: she had made a tone deaf comment that myself and

1238
01:01:02,720 --> 01:01:04,640
Speaker 2: some of the other girls in the bridal party didn't

1239
01:01:04,640 --> 01:01:08,320
Speaker 2: give her money for the wedding. She looked sheepish as

1240
01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:10,160
Speaker 2: soon as I brought it up, because I think she

1241
01:01:10,160 --> 01:01:11,840
Speaker 2: didn't expect for the rest of us to find out.

1242
01:01:11,880 --> 01:01:13,360
Speaker 2: She had been talking about it to the others in

1243
01:01:13,400 --> 01:01:17,080
Speaker 2: the group. She admitted she said it and said she

1244
01:01:17,200 --> 01:01:19,080
Speaker 2: was just surprised none of us gave them a gift,

1245
01:01:19,120 --> 01:01:21,960
Speaker 2: considering how much they spent on the day. I then

1246
01:01:22,080 --> 01:01:24,960
Speaker 2: mentioned we had given her the bracelet she really wanted.

1247
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:28,440
Speaker 2: I did also mention we definitely missed the mark with

1248
01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:31,040
Speaker 2: giving her an individual gift, as it should have been

1249
01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:34,480
Speaker 2: a gift for both of them. I totally see how

1250
01:01:34,520 --> 01:01:36,920
Speaker 2: this was the wrong move, but I doubled down and

1251
01:01:36,920 --> 01:01:39,720
Speaker 2: said regardless. It felt a bit entitled and rude that

1252
01:01:39,760 --> 01:01:41,920
Speaker 2: she would even complain, given how much all of us

1253
01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:45,040
Speaker 2: had done for both of them during the lead up.

1254
01:01:45,520 --> 01:01:48,200
Speaker 2: She argued initially and said that the gift was for

1255
01:01:48,240 --> 01:01:50,360
Speaker 2: her and the money was to cover our heads at

1256
01:01:50,360 --> 01:01:53,919
Speaker 2: the wedding, and I got really frustrated after them. I said,

1257
01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:55,959
Speaker 2: it absolutely isn't our job to pay for her wedding

1258
01:01:56,040 --> 01:01:59,040
Speaker 2: and cover the cost for them. Absolutely. Yeah, if you

1259
01:01:59,080 --> 01:02:01,800
Speaker 2: can't afford the wedding, that, don't have the wedding. Yeah,

1260
01:02:01,840 --> 01:02:04,920
Speaker 2: it's not on your guests to you know, pay for

1261
01:02:05,040 --> 01:02:08,560
Speaker 2: your event. Like you if you can't afford to go

1262
01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:11,400
Speaker 2: eat out at a restaurant, don't go to the restaurant. Oh,

1263
01:02:12,080 --> 01:02:15,000
Speaker 2: simple as that. Yeah. As someone said in the comments,

1264
01:02:15,000 --> 01:02:17,720
Speaker 2: a wedding is a financial risk and sometimes you lose

1265
01:02:17,760 --> 01:02:20,200
Speaker 2: from it. But that doesn't make it everyone else's problem

1266
01:02:20,240 --> 01:02:23,000
Speaker 2: to pay for you. Well said hm hmm.

1267
01:02:23,640 --> 01:02:25,720
Speaker 5: I said, it felt like she ignored all of the

1268
01:02:25,720 --> 01:02:28,439
Speaker 5: things we had done for her, planned for her, and

1269
01:02:28,600 --> 01:02:31,960
Speaker 5: paid for her, and decided to reduce us all to

1270
01:02:32,000 --> 01:02:34,800
Speaker 5: the money we gave her. On the day, I said

1271
01:02:34,800 --> 01:02:36,720
Speaker 5: that it is not how a friend should act or

1272
01:02:36,840 --> 01:02:40,280
Speaker 5: look at their other friends. Whilst it is a societal

1273
01:02:40,360 --> 01:02:43,040
Speaker 5: expectation to give a gift, that doesn't make it an

1274
01:02:43,160 --> 01:02:46,760
Speaker 5: entitlement and it's gross she behaved that way. A few

1275
01:02:46,760 --> 01:02:49,200
Speaker 5: people mentioned she may have been confused about it being

1276
01:02:49,240 --> 01:02:51,680
Speaker 5: the wedding gift, and it seems this was the case here.

1277
01:02:52,240 --> 01:02:55,040
Speaker 5: We did tell her, but I didn't think she comprehended

1278
01:02:55,080 --> 01:02:58,000
Speaker 5: it at the time. I understood she was confused and

1279
01:02:58,000 --> 01:03:02,360
Speaker 5: acknowledged that, but still made to her that complained about

1280
01:03:02,360 --> 01:03:04,640
Speaker 5: how much money you get from your friends is tacky.

1281
01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:07,480
Speaker 5: She needed to look at the whole picture of what

1282
01:03:07,520 --> 01:03:09,680
Speaker 5: we had done because it had put me off of

1283
01:03:09,720 --> 01:03:12,520
Speaker 5: our friendship, hearing she would measure me to the amount

1284
01:03:12,600 --> 01:03:15,120
Speaker 5: of cash I'd give her in a card. After that,

1285
01:03:15,200 --> 01:03:16,720
Speaker 5: she did apologize.

1286
01:03:16,160 --> 01:03:18,400
Speaker 2: And admit she was out of line and didn't realize

1287
01:03:18,400 --> 01:03:21,200
Speaker 2: the gift was the bracelet because it was only for

1288
01:03:21,280 --> 01:03:24,520
Speaker 2: her and not her partner. She also did agree she

1289
01:03:24,520 --> 01:03:27,680
Speaker 2: shouldn't have complained about it to someone else, as that

1290
01:03:27,840 --> 01:03:31,600
Speaker 2: is very bridezilla behavior and not how anyone should behave.

1291
01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:34,320
Speaker 2: I hope she's sincerely meant it and didn't just agree

1292
01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:37,120
Speaker 2: with me because she had been caught gossiping. But at

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Speaker 2: least that's a positive outcome. Honestly, this does kind of

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Speaker 2: seem positive. Yeah, like not the best case scenario, but

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Speaker 2: it does seem like they talked it out. They kind

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Speaker 2: of disagree, they're not exactly on the same page, but

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Speaker 2: they've expressed both of their concerns. She said, I'm sorry

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Speaker 2: that I did that, but this is how I felt.

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Speaker 2: Oh P said, I'm sorry I didn't get something that

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Speaker 2: was both of you, but this I felt. I feel

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Speaker 2: like that is a step in the right direction. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I think, yeah, just the conversation of being like, there's

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Speaker 2: a misunderstanding here, what can we do to fix that? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: And I think that you guys have kind of figured

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Speaker 2: it out. I think there's still a little bit more

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Speaker 2: to Hatshall absolutely, yeah, but let's see, we hugged it

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Speaker 2: out and all is in a better space with us now.

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Speaker 2: But I told her quite transparently that it's something I

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Speaker 2: won't forget. Oh damn O. He's like, hey, we're all good,

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Speaker 2: but also I'll never forget this.

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Speaker 5: I'm still quite taken back by it and feel like

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Speaker 5: she was lacking a lot of empathy for all of

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Speaker 5: our financial positions. Just because she has money doesn't mean

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Speaker 5: the rest of us do. And it's lacking self awareness

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Speaker 5: in saying that. This has also been a lesson for

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Speaker 5: me to not be generous to the point of idiocy.

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Speaker 5: This wedding put a financial strain on me and that

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Speaker 5: should never happen. I will do better with saying no

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Speaker 5: in the future.

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Speaker 2: And that's the end. There you have it, Yes, okay,

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Speaker 2: so forgive, don't forget. Forgive, but never forget given. Don't

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Speaker 2: forget it. I guess, yeah, but I don't know. I

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Speaker 2: think it is tacky to ask friends to like pay

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Speaker 2: for a lot of your stuff, like for a wedding,

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Speaker 2: Like you're the one who decided to get married. Why

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Speaker 2: am I paying for it? You know?

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Speaker 4: And that's the end of the story.