WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: Back to College

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<v Speaker 1>Brooking jewels second day. The good thing about today's second

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<v Speaker 1>dater is that he knows he's not good at dating. Well, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>the bad thing he's not good at dating. We've got

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<v Speaker 1>Clint on the phone with us. Clint, how are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I guess I'm all right. How are you? Guys? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>good now. Your email said you know that you're not

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<v Speaker 1>good at going out with girls. That's okay, it's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>We deal with that a lot. What do you think

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<v Speaker 1>the issue is? My biggest problem is like, once I'm

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<v Speaker 1>on a second or a third date and I've gotten

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<v Speaker 1>to know them really well, I come out of my show.

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<v Speaker 1>But my first date, I'm always the quiet guy, or

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like the super awkward guy who would drink like

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<v Speaker 1>fourteen glasses of water at dinner? Right? And how many

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<v Speaker 1>cups of coffee have you had this morning? Right? Because

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<v Speaker 1>you don't seem like the super quiet guy. I'm on

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<v Speaker 1>pop number two right now? Okay, okay, Now you emailed

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<v Speaker 1>us about a girl named Chloe and you took her

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<v Speaker 1>to your college. Well, so I was reading in this

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<v Speaker 1>magazine that if you have a date that you know

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<v Speaker 1>really familiar place where you have a path or where

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<v Speaker 1>you have a big connection to it that it's easy

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<v Speaker 1>to come out of your show because you just already

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<v Speaker 1>have this wealth of things to talk about. Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>guess I could kind of see that too. If it's

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<v Speaker 1>a familiar place, you're kind of relaxed or whatever, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know it so you're not too uncomfortable. It's also

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<v Speaker 1>not a lot of people's relaxed places school. Yeah. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>but also I think for me too, is like my

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<v Speaker 1>college has like this eco center and this like large

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<v Speaker 1>outdoor garden and like these nature paths, and it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>what a great way to spend like a nice Saturday

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<v Speaker 1>afternoon outdoors in the thought, how did you get How

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<v Speaker 1>did you propose that to her? Like you said, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to come show you my college. Well no, I

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, hey, it's such a pretty date. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you want to spend some time outside? And she's like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh sure then, and the mind I already knew we

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<v Speaker 1>were coming there. I mean, I guess from this she

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<v Speaker 1>said no, but thankfully she didn't. Right. I think about

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<v Speaker 1>that till now. I think that's a great idea, Clint.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm partial to educational dates. Plus you get to be outside.

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<v Speaker 1>Did she seem like she was into it the entire time.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it went really well for one, Like, I

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<v Speaker 1>thought the conversation was really easy, and I felt like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm the person that I kind of think of myself

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<v Speaker 1>as on second, third, and fourth days, but on a

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<v Speaker 1>first date scenario. So it worked for you. You felt

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<v Speaker 1>more relaxed. Yeah, yes, Also, okay, that's good. Your email

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<v Speaker 1>mentioned a rose trick? What was that? What's that all about?

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<v Speaker 1>Same thing in this magazine. It was like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just people sharing romantic things that happened to them, and

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<v Speaker 1>one of them was, Oh, I went to the dates beforehand,

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<v Speaker 1>hit a rose in a place where I knew we

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<v Speaker 1>would end up, and then when I got back there,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh what is this? And then you

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<v Speaker 1>give her the rose? Okay, do you feel like maybe, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>Lydia's shaking your head? Is that too cheesy? Lydia, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I think the idea behind it is very sweet. But

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<v Speaker 1>were you trying to pass it off like, hey, I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know this would be here. Yeah. So we walked

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<v Speaker 1>into the room in the rose and there was like, oh, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>what is this? And they give it to her and

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<v Speaker 1>then she kind of doesn't like, did you put this there,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just kind of played though, like, oh, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>never know, kind of coy card. Okay, all right, And

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<v Speaker 1>how many times have you try to get ahold of

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<v Speaker 1>her since your date? Uh? Maybe four times? Okay, that's

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<v Speaker 1>that's not too bad. Now it's been two weeks and

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, Okay, I'm pretty sure that I've done something wrong. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you want to what. I think that maybe the date

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<v Speaker 1>is just kind of strange and the rose trick a

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<v Speaker 1>little too cheesy. Yeah, but there's so many good intentions

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<v Speaker 1>behind it. You were trying to be creative. I think

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<v Speaker 1>that there's hope here. Yeah, but you don't think maybe

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<v Speaker 1>trying too hard, Like I think it may have come

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<v Speaker 1>off like you're trying too hard, Clint. I mean, but

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<v Speaker 1>like I feel like all of my other dates have

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<v Speaker 1>been just in really normal bar restaurant settings, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>just been misfire after misfire, And so for me, it

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<v Speaker 1>was like, Okay, let's just go wildly off the beaten

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<v Speaker 1>path and write something else. Okay, all right, Well we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna play a song come back Caller and get your

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<v Speaker 1>second date update. All right, Okay, all right, hold on

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<v Speaker 1>brooking jubil in the morning, Today's second da or Clint

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<v Speaker 1>took a girl on a college date? Oh, I was

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about if I took a girl to where I

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<v Speaker 1>went to college, it would not be impressive. Hey, here's

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<v Speaker 1>El Camino Community College in Torrence, California. I took like

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<v Speaker 1>half a class here and then just quit. For some people, though,

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<v Speaker 1>it would just be walking them over to their desktop computer.

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<v Speaker 1>So at least you got one up on the Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the University of Phoenix is where I went to college.

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<v Speaker 1>This is my computer. Now. You said, Clint that you

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<v Speaker 1>got the idea for the college date from reading a

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<v Speaker 1>magazine that gave you dating advice and things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think that maybe it just seemed too planned out?

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<v Speaker 1>And possibly? Absolutely possibly, But I just am so sick

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<v Speaker 1>of like all of the other first dates that I've

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<v Speaker 1>been on, like the drinking bar alternative, that I was

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<v Speaker 1>just really eager for something maybe a little different, but

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<v Speaker 1>also something that where I wouldn't feel like I was

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<v Speaker 1>man out. You know, Hey, Clint, everything about this. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>she's dumb and she felt like you were rubbing it

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<v Speaker 1>in that you went to school and she didn't. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it's better than having wide set eyes you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll take it. Wide set eyes. All right, Clint, here

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<v Speaker 1>we go. We're gonna call it right now. Okay, Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>how can I speak to Chloe? Please? This is her?

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<v Speaker 1>Hey Chloe, how are you? This is Jewbil from brook

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<v Speaker 1>and Jewil in the morning. I'm moving eighty two point five.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, how's it going. I'm good? How are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good. It's nice to meet you. Nice to meet you.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you wondering why I'm calling? Yeah? I'm calling you

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<v Speaker 1>because you recently went out on a date with one

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<v Speaker 1>of our listeners. Oh, a guy named Clint who listens

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<v Speaker 1>to our show, and Clint wanted us to call you.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember Clint, did you have fun on your date with Clint? Yeah? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Clint and I are probably not really meant for each other,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, Clint did tell us about your date a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit, and from the sounds of it, it it sounded

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<v Speaker 1>kind of awkward to me, like he took you to

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<v Speaker 1>back to his college and walked around there, and then

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<v Speaker 1>he did like an awkward little oh look I found

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<v Speaker 1>a rose and gave it to you. I mean, he

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<v Speaker 1>went through the trouble of like planting a rose, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like on this walk that we were going to take.

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<v Speaker 1>So so you liked that, Yeah, it was a super

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<v Speaker 1>romantic idea. Okay, I just felt weird, you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>a weird feeling throughout the date, like a general bad

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<v Speaker 1>vibe or like I realized it probably like an hour

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<v Speaker 1>or so into the date he just hadn't taken his

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<v Speaker 1>eyes off me the entire time. What really, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if you've ever really liked been in a situation

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<v Speaker 1>where someone is just not taking their eyes off of you.

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<v Speaker 1>But welcome to every single conversation I ever have, Chloe,

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<v Speaker 1>it's tough. I feel your pain. Did he just creep

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<v Speaker 1>you out? Is that what you mean? I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>he's a creepy guy, but like he did kind of

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<v Speaker 1>creep me out, you know, Like it got to the

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<v Speaker 1>point where like I literally was trying to like throw

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<v Speaker 1>and he's like gaze onto like another you know, saying

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<v Speaker 1>like it was this awesome building you could see kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like over these like trees. I was pointed at

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<v Speaker 1>the building. I was like looked this Bosom architecture, and

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<v Speaker 1>he like awkwardly turned around so that like I would

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<v Speaker 1>be the building behind me, Like he wouldn't just like

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<v Speaker 1>turn his head. I know it was. It was just

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<v Speaker 1>like really weird. He would not It was never a

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<v Speaker 1>moment when I was not in his eyesight, So he

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<v Speaker 1>was just staring at you the whole time. I think

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<v Speaker 1>I know what the issue is, Chloe. Yeah, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think there's only one real way to find out, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's to ask Clint Clint. Why Clint is on the

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<v Speaker 1>phone with us? What? My god? Hi, Hi, how are

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<v Speaker 1>you Clint? Did you read in one of your little

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<v Speaker 1>dating help magazines that you should always make intense eye contact? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Intense wasn't the word that they used. Considerate eye contact

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<v Speaker 1>was one of the pointers. Do you realize you were

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<v Speaker 1>just staring at Chloe the whole time? That it hadn't

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<v Speaker 1>occurred to me? But I do remember moving to look

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<v Speaker 1>at Heranna buildings. So Chloe, I'm gonna help Clint out here. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Clint is not very good at dating, and he talked

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<v Speaker 1>to us about it. He read a bunch of articles

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<v Speaker 1>and dating tips before he went out with you. That's

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<v Speaker 1>where he came up with the college date and the

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<v Speaker 1>little rose trick and everything else, because he wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>do something special for you. But he doesn't really know

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<v Speaker 1>how and he finds himself being very awkward on dates.

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<v Speaker 1>And even after all that help, still found himself being

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<v Speaker 1>awkward on dates. So that's probably where the eye contact

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<v Speaker 1>came from. Okay, yeah, well the thing is, once people

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<v Speaker 1>get to know me, I feel like I come out

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<v Speaker 1>of my show and I'm really personable and I'm really engaging.

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<v Speaker 1>I just like I can't like I'll be on a

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<v Speaker 1>date and the entire time of what I'm thinking is well,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you do with your hands? Or you could

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<v Speaker 1>put him in your lap, I can put him on

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<v Speaker 1>the table, maybe put that down. I should go to

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<v Speaker 1>the bathroom. Do I tell her I'm going to the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't tell her where you're going, though you will note

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<v Speaker 1>what tell her where you're going. We don't tell her

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<v Speaker 1>what you're doing. Okay, you're kind of like actually an

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<v Speaker 1>average woman on a date. Yeah, that's how many things

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<v Speaker 1>we normally think about. It's so sweet that you've taken

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<v Speaker 1>the time to like, you know, research dating, read a

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<v Speaker 1>magazine and like take all these helpful can't seep out

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<v Speaker 1>just the eye contacted It just like was so weird

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<v Speaker 1>and kind of cheep me out and all of that,

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<v Speaker 1>And I mean, I would say, like, maybe just next time, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, don't taking so much advice from a magazine

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<v Speaker 1>if you just you know, be yourself in the future.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I thought, you know, a lot of girls

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<v Speaker 1>are gonna like you over the phone. Clint. Yeah, like honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>but I would said, I feel like if you were

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<v Speaker 1>willing to go on a second date, I feel like,

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<v Speaker 1>now we know each other a little better, it would

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<v Speaker 1>probably be like walkerd or I could like wear an eyepatch, Clint,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, sunglasses? You dog? Are you asking her out

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<v Speaker 1>on a second date? Look at you? Okay, I bet you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not in his magazine. Okay, Clint, you just did

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<v Speaker 1>that on your own, buddy, It's true. I did it.

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<v Speaker 1>I did it everybody, Chloe good line, Chloe, Clint just

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<v Speaker 1>asked you out. He manned up and did it. Would

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<v Speaker 1>you go out on a second date with Clint? We

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<v Speaker 1>will pay for it, um, you know what? Yes? I

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<v Speaker 1>well good. Look at what you did, Clint. It goes

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<v Speaker 1>with Jewel's theory about you should just never read. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>stop reading things, Clint. Congratulations, I see just a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of confidence. You relaxed and you were able to

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<v Speaker 1>actually ask her out. That's impressive. Thanks, thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>helping usself. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, Chloe, are you

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<v Speaker 1>excited to go out with Clintigan? Now that you know?

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<v Speaker 1>The eye contact thing was just something that he read.

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<v Speaker 1>Just kind of being yourself is sort of the key

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<v Speaker 1>thing and and kind of being able to really just

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<v Speaker 1>kind of go with whatever's happening. So you hear that, Clint,

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<v Speaker 1>Chloe's just saying, be yourself, man, don't try too hard.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime, go ahead and google how do I

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<v Speaker 1>be myself? Before your date broken? Jubil in the morning,