Speaker 1: Brooking jewels second day. The good thing about today's second
Speaker 1: dater is that he knows he's not good at dating. Well, hey,
Speaker 1: the bad thing he's not good at dating. We've got
Speaker 1: Clint on the phone with us. Clint, how are you?
Speaker 1: I guess I'm all right. How are you? Guys? I'm
Speaker 1: good now. Your email said you know that you're not
Speaker 1: good at going out with girls. That's okay, it's fine.
Speaker 1: We deal with that a lot. What do you think
Speaker 1: the issue is? My biggest problem is like, once I'm
Speaker 1: on a second or a third date and I've gotten
Speaker 1: to know them really well, I come out of my show.
Speaker 1: But my first date, I'm always the quiet guy, or
Speaker 1: I'm like the super awkward guy who would drink like
Speaker 1: fourteen glasses of water at dinner? Right? And how many
Speaker 1: cups of coffee have you had this morning? Right? Because
Speaker 1: you don't seem like the super quiet guy. I'm on
Speaker 1: pop number two right now? Okay, okay, Now you emailed
Speaker 1: us about a girl named Chloe and you took her
Speaker 1: to your college. Well, so I was reading in this
Speaker 1: magazine that if you have a date that you know
Speaker 1: really familiar place where you have a path or where
Speaker 1: you have a big connection to it that it's easy
Speaker 1: to come out of your show because you just already
Speaker 1: have this wealth of things to talk about. Okay, I
Speaker 1: guess I could kind of see that too. If it's
Speaker 1: a familiar place, you're kind of relaxed or whatever, and
Speaker 1: you know it so you're not too uncomfortable. It's also
Speaker 1: not a lot of people's relaxed places school. Yeah. Well,
Speaker 1: but also I think for me too, is like my
Speaker 1: college has like this eco center and this like large
Speaker 1: outdoor garden and like these nature paths, and it's like,
Speaker 1: what a great way to spend like a nice Saturday
Speaker 1: afternoon outdoors in the thought, how did you get How
Speaker 1: did you propose that to her? Like you said, I
Speaker 1: want to come show you my college. Well no, I
Speaker 1: was just like, hey, it's such a pretty date. Do
Speaker 1: you want to spend some time outside? And she's like,
Speaker 1: oh sure then, and the mind I already knew we
Speaker 1: were coming there. I mean, I guess from this she
Speaker 1: said no, but thankfully she didn't. Right. I think about
Speaker 1: that till now. I think that's a great idea, Clint.
Speaker 1: I'm partial to educational dates. Plus you get to be outside.
Speaker 1: Did she seem like she was into it the entire time.
Speaker 1: I thought it went really well for one, Like, I
Speaker 1: thought the conversation was really easy, and I felt like
Speaker 1: I'm the person that I kind of think of myself
Speaker 1: as on second, third, and fourth days, but on a
Speaker 1: first date scenario. So it worked for you. You felt
Speaker 1: more relaxed. Yeah, yes, Also, okay, that's good. Your email
Speaker 1: mentioned a rose trick? What was that? What's that all about?
Speaker 1: Same thing in this magazine. It was like, you know,
Speaker 1: just people sharing romantic things that happened to them, and
Speaker 1: one of them was, Oh, I went to the dates beforehand,
Speaker 1: hit a rose in a place where I knew we
Speaker 1: would end up, and then when I got back there,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh what is this? And then you
Speaker 1: give her the rose? Okay, do you feel like maybe, okay,
Speaker 1: Lydia's shaking your head? Is that too cheesy? Lydia, Well,
Speaker 1: I think the idea behind it is very sweet. But
Speaker 1: were you trying to pass it off like, hey, I
Speaker 1: didn't know this would be here. Yeah. So we walked
Speaker 1: into the room in the rose and there was like, oh, hey,
Speaker 1: what is this? And they give it to her and
Speaker 1: then she kind of doesn't like, did you put this there,
Speaker 1: and I just kind of played though, like, oh, we'll
Speaker 1: never know, kind of coy card. Okay, all right, And
Speaker 1: how many times have you try to get ahold of
Speaker 1: her since your date? Uh? Maybe four times? Okay, that's
Speaker 1: that's not too bad. Now it's been two weeks and
Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, I'm pretty sure that I've done something wrong. Okay,
Speaker 1: you want to what. I think that maybe the date
Speaker 1: is just kind of strange and the rose trick a
Speaker 1: little too cheesy. Yeah, but there's so many good intentions
Speaker 1: behind it. You were trying to be creative. I think
Speaker 1: that there's hope here. Yeah, but you don't think maybe
Speaker 1: trying too hard, Like I think it may have come
Speaker 1: off like you're trying too hard, Clint. I mean, but
Speaker 1: like I feel like all of my other dates have
Speaker 1: been just in really normal bar restaurant settings, and it's
Speaker 1: just been misfire after misfire, And so for me, it
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, let's just go wildly off the beaten
Speaker 1: path and write something else. Okay, all right, Well we're
Speaker 1: gonna play a song come back Caller and get your
Speaker 1: second date update. All right, Okay, all right, hold on
Speaker 1: brooking jubil in the morning, Today's second da or Clint
Speaker 1: took a girl on a college date? Oh, I was
Speaker 1: thinking about if I took a girl to where I
Speaker 1: went to college, it would not be impressive. Hey, here's
Speaker 1: El Camino Community College in Torrence, California. I took like
Speaker 1: half a class here and then just quit. For some people, though,
Speaker 1: it would just be walking them over to their desktop computer.
Speaker 1: So at least you got one up on the Yeah,
Speaker 1: the University of Phoenix is where I went to college.
Speaker 1: This is my computer. Now. You said, Clint that you
Speaker 1: got the idea for the college date from reading a
Speaker 1: magazine that gave you dating advice and things like that.
Speaker 1: Do you think that maybe it just seemed too planned out?
Speaker 1: And possibly? Absolutely possibly, But I just am so sick
Speaker 1: of like all of the other first dates that I've
Speaker 1: been on, like the drinking bar alternative, that I was
Speaker 1: just really eager for something maybe a little different, but
Speaker 1: also something that where I wouldn't feel like I was
Speaker 1: man out. You know, Hey, Clint, everything about this. Maybe
Speaker 1: she's dumb and she felt like you were rubbing it
Speaker 1: in that you went to school and she didn't. I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess it's better than having wide set eyes you know,
Speaker 1: I'll take it. Wide set eyes. All right, Clint, here
Speaker 1: we go. We're gonna call it right now. Okay, Hello,
Speaker 1: how can I speak to Chloe? Please? This is her?
Speaker 1: Hey Chloe, how are you? This is Jewbil from brook
Speaker 1: and Jewil in the morning. I'm moving eighty two point five.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, how's it going. I'm good? How are you?
Speaker 1: I'm good. It's nice to meet you. Nice to meet you.
Speaker 1: Are you wondering why I'm calling? Yeah? I'm calling you
Speaker 1: because you recently went out on a date with one
Speaker 1: of our listeners. Oh, a guy named Clint who listens
Speaker 1: to our show, and Clint wanted us to call you.
Speaker 1: Remember Clint, did you have fun on your date with Clint? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: Clint and I are probably not really meant for each other,
Speaker 1: but yeah, Clint did tell us about your date a
Speaker 1: little bit, and from the sounds of it, it it sounded
Speaker 1: kind of awkward to me, like he took you to
Speaker 1: back to his college and walked around there, and then
Speaker 1: he did like an awkward little oh look I found
Speaker 1: a rose and gave it to you. I mean, he
Speaker 1: went through the trouble of like planting a rose, you know,
Speaker 1: like on this walk that we were going to take.
Speaker 1: So so you liked that, Yeah, it was a super
Speaker 1: romantic idea. Okay, I just felt weird, you know, like
Speaker 1: a weird feeling throughout the date, like a general bad
Speaker 1: vibe or like I realized it probably like an hour
Speaker 1: or so into the date he just hadn't taken his
Speaker 1: eyes off me the entire time. What really, I don't
Speaker 1: know if you've ever really liked been in a situation
Speaker 1: where someone is just not taking their eyes off of you.
Speaker 1: But welcome to every single conversation I ever have, Chloe,
Speaker 1: it's tough. I feel your pain. Did he just creep
Speaker 1: you out? Is that what you mean? I don't think
Speaker 1: he's a creepy guy, but like he did kind of
Speaker 1: creep me out, you know, Like it got to the
Speaker 1: point where like I literally was trying to like throw
Speaker 1: and he's like gaze onto like another you know, saying
Speaker 1: like it was this awesome building you could see kind
Speaker 1: of like over these like trees. I was pointed at
Speaker 1: the building. I was like looked this Bosom architecture, and
Speaker 1: he like awkwardly turned around so that like I would
Speaker 1: be the building behind me, Like he wouldn't just like
Speaker 1: turn his head. I know it was. It was just
Speaker 1: like really weird. He would not It was never a
Speaker 1: moment when I was not in his eyesight, So he
Speaker 1: was just staring at you the whole time. I think
Speaker 1: I know what the issue is, Chloe. Yeah, and I
Speaker 1: think there's only one real way to find out, and
Speaker 1: that's to ask Clint Clint. Why Clint is on the
Speaker 1: phone with us? What? My god? Hi, Hi, how are
Speaker 1: you Clint? Did you read in one of your little
Speaker 1: dating help magazines that you should always make intense eye contact? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Intense wasn't the word that they used. Considerate eye contact
Speaker 1: was one of the pointers. Do you realize you were
Speaker 1: just staring at Chloe the whole time? That it hadn't
Speaker 1: occurred to me? But I do remember moving to look
Speaker 1: at Heranna buildings. So Chloe, I'm gonna help Clint out here. Okay.
Speaker 1: Clint is not very good at dating, and he talked
Speaker 1: to us about it. He read a bunch of articles
Speaker 1: and dating tips before he went out with you. That's
Speaker 1: where he came up with the college date and the
Speaker 1: little rose trick and everything else, because he wanted to
Speaker 1: do something special for you. But he doesn't really know
Speaker 1: how and he finds himself being very awkward on dates.
Speaker 1: And even after all that help, still found himself being
Speaker 1: awkward on dates. So that's probably where the eye contact
Speaker 1: came from. Okay, yeah, well the thing is, once people
Speaker 1: get to know me, I feel like I come out
Speaker 1: of my show and I'm really personable and I'm really engaging.
Speaker 1: I just like I can't like I'll be on a
Speaker 1: date and the entire time of what I'm thinking is well,
Speaker 1: what do you do with your hands? Or you could
Speaker 1: put him in your lap, I can put him on
Speaker 1: the table, maybe put that down. I should go to
Speaker 1: the bathroom. Do I tell her I'm going to the bathroom.
Speaker 1: Don't tell her where you're going, though you will note
Speaker 1: what tell her where you're going. We don't tell her
Speaker 1: what you're doing. Okay, you're kind of like actually an
Speaker 1: average woman on a date. Yeah, that's how many things
Speaker 1: we normally think about. It's so sweet that you've taken
Speaker 1: the time to like, you know, research dating, read a
Speaker 1: magazine and like take all these helpful can't seep out
Speaker 1: just the eye contacted It just like was so weird
Speaker 1: and kind of cheep me out and all of that,
Speaker 1: And I mean, I would say, like, maybe just next time, Like,
Speaker 1: you know, don't taking so much advice from a magazine
Speaker 1: if you just you know, be yourself in the future.
Speaker 1: You know, I thought, you know, a lot of girls
Speaker 1: are gonna like you over the phone. Clint. Yeah, like honestly,
Speaker 1: but I would said, I feel like if you were
Speaker 1: willing to go on a second date, I feel like,
Speaker 1: now we know each other a little better, it would
Speaker 1: probably be like walkerd or I could like wear an eyepatch, Clint,
Speaker 1: you know, sunglasses? You dog? Are you asking her out
Speaker 1: on a second date? Look at you? Okay, I bet you.
Speaker 1: That's not in his magazine. Okay, Clint, you just did
Speaker 1: that on your own, buddy, It's true. I did it.
Speaker 1: I did it everybody, Chloe good line, Chloe, Clint just
Speaker 1: asked you out. He manned up and did it. Would
Speaker 1: you go out on a second date with Clint? We
Speaker 1: will pay for it, um, you know what? Yes? I
Speaker 1: well good. Look at what you did, Clint. It goes
Speaker 1: with Jewel's theory about you should just never read. Yeah,
Speaker 1: stop reading things, Clint. Congratulations, I see just a little
Speaker 1: bit of confidence. You relaxed and you were able to
Speaker 1: actually ask her out. That's impressive. Thanks, thank you for
Speaker 1: helping usself. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, Chloe, are you
Speaker 1: excited to go out with Clintigan? Now that you know?
Speaker 1: The eye contact thing was just something that he read.
Speaker 1: Just kind of being yourself is sort of the key
Speaker 1: thing and and kind of being able to really just
Speaker 1: kind of go with whatever's happening. So you hear that, Clint,
Speaker 1: Chloe's just saying, be yourself, man, don't try too hard.
Speaker 1: In the meantime, go ahead and google how do I
Speaker 1: be myself? Before your date broken? Jubil in the morning,