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Speaker 1: I guess I'm all right. How are you? Guys? I'm

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Speaker 1: good now. Your email said you know that you're not

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Speaker 1: We deal with that a lot. What do you think

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Speaker 1: But my first date, I'm always the quiet guy, or

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Speaker 1: you don't seem like the super quiet guy. I'm on

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Speaker 1: pop number two right now? Okay, okay, Now you emailed

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Speaker 1: want to come show you my college. Well no, I

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Speaker 1: that till now. I think that's a great idea, Clint.

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Speaker 1: Hey Chloe, how are you? This is Jewbil from brook

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Speaker 1: That's not in his magazine. Okay, Clint, you just did

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Speaker 1: will pay for it, um, you know what? Yes? I

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Speaker 1: well good. Look at what you did, Clint. It goes

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Speaker 1: helping usself. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, Chloe, are you

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Speaker 1: excited to go out with Clintigan? Now that you know?

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Speaker 1: The eye contact thing was just something that he read.

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Speaker 1: Just kind of being yourself is sort of the key

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Speaker 1: Chloe's just saying, be yourself, man, don't try too hard.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, go ahead and google how do I

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Speaker 1: be myself? Before your date broken? Jubil in the morning,