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Speaker 1: Well, guys, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And

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Speaker 1: if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting

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Speaker 1: it's time for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend Shirley. Stay.

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Speaker 1: Thank you my good friend Junior subject one of my

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Speaker 1: homies is my side piece. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a

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Speaker 1: thirty two year old single man and I started a

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Speaker 1: and my boys. She's like one of the boys, and

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Speaker 1: we party together, work out together, and she travels with

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Speaker 1: us on our annual guys trips. She is a good

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Speaker 1: friend and we respect her and her sexual preference. We've

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Speaker 1: ever dated a man before. We've been friends since middle

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Speaker 1: school and she has always been a pretty girl. She's tall,

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Speaker 1: with nice legs, a six pack and pretty feet. She's

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Speaker 1: a woman by all means, but she hangs out with

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Speaker 1: all of us dudes. Four months ago, we all went

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Speaker 1: for the night. She crashed on my couch like she's

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Speaker 1: done so many other times before. I went to bed,

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Speaker 1: I imagined how soft her big breaths were. What. I

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Speaker 1: got up and offered her my bed. She said she

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Speaker 1: it too. She got up and started taking her clothes

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Speaker 1: off and walked into my bedroom. The rest is history.

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Speaker 1: just because we were drunk, so I tried it again

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Speaker 1: the next morning, and she was with it. We have

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Speaker 1: be her secret side piece anymore. Should I have a

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Speaker 1: talk with her and see where she stands on dating

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Speaker 1: a man or control my feelings and enjoy the great sex. Wow,

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Speaker 1: the great sex, he said. Okay, I think you know

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Speaker 1: you like her way more than a friend. Now, otherwise

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Speaker 1: You know, for this reason, you've got to talk to her,

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Speaker 1: and if she feels the same way, she's gonna have

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Speaker 1: to tell her girlfriend at some point. What's hard to

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Speaker 1: believe is that for three months, you guys haven't talked

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Speaker 1: about it at all. Not at all. I mean that

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Speaker 1: could mean two things. Either she likes things status quo

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Speaker 1: on the other hand, don't want to cut off the

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Speaker 1: great sex by saying anything that could rock the boat.

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Speaker 1: You don't want to be the secret side piece anymore,

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Speaker 1: you say, But you're making the sacrifice for the great sex. Okay,

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Speaker 1: but it's time. It is time. Now it's been three

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Speaker 1: about ninety days around here. Steve taught us all about

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Speaker 1: the ninety day rule. Okay, so again I say it's time.

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Speaker 1: It's risky, you know, but if you really want her,

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Speaker 1: Is it more than a secret side piece? What is

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Speaker 1: two year old dude. Got this woman that's been one

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Speaker 1: she got nice legs, six pack, pretty feet. I got

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Speaker 1: your dog. I'm here, I'm tall, pretty, nice feet, six pack.

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Speaker 1: other friends will react. So Shirley right there. They have

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Speaker 1: discussed it to a degree. Yes, how the other friends

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Speaker 1: got now is he wants more. And when we come back,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you what your options are. Dog. All right,

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Speaker 1: thank you, Steve. We'll have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject

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Speaker 1: of today's letter, one of my homies is my side piece.

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Speaker 1: Will get back into it right after this. You're listening,

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Speaker 1: all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: Subject one of my homies is my side piece. Well,

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Speaker 1: this guy's been friends with this girl for a number

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Speaker 1: of years, since middle school. She's very pretty, tall, nice legs,

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Speaker 1: he assumes with jess women, and so she's days because

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Speaker 1: she's best been one of the guys traveling with him. Well,

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Speaker 1: has done many times, but in this drunken state, he claims,

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Speaker 1: Lord Himmers, let the church say a man, Hallelujah glory.

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Speaker 1: So she takes her clothes off and she walks into

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Speaker 1: The next morning she was with it again. Now they've

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Speaker 1: Now here dude's problem. I don't want to be her

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Speaker 1: past three months been good. Yeah, he's thing ain't working

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Speaker 1: for me no more. Man, we needs to go public. Now.

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Speaker 1: Should I have a talk with her and see where

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Speaker 1: and enjoy the great sex? Well, here we go. I'm

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Speaker 1: glad you called me. See, as far as I'm concerned

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Speaker 1: with that proposal that you're putting forward, you have absolutely

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Speaker 1: nothing to lose. Let's say you ask her how she feels.

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Speaker 1: and say you want to see if you want to

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Speaker 1: Now supposed she says she prefers women. What you have

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Speaker 1: prefer women, which puts you right back where you at.

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Speaker 1: Now she's gonna keep her girl for any are just

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Speaker 1: gonna hear a great sex? What? This is a magic show.

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Speaker 1: Everybody gets something out of this. You reach you in

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Speaker 1: the hat, you get a rabbit. You reach you in

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Speaker 1: You get everybody get a damn rabbit out of this trick.

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Speaker 1: So now I don't see what the problem is. And

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Speaker 1: which again makes you the side piece. But you want more.

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Speaker 1: And now the part that you didn't mention. And if

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Speaker 1: I give you my word. All of them and thought

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Speaker 1: got nice legs, pretty feat six package, sheep pretty all

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Speaker 1: of them know that they've just been trying to play

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Speaker 1: the game. Because y'all thirty two, y'all young, I'd have

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Speaker 1: been an ass to something long time ago. Hey, I

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Speaker 1: good with that. I'm gonna share something with you. All

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Speaker 1: way way back my early thirties, I've been in love

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Speaker 1: it's no big deal. There ain't really nothing. I just

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Speaker 1: so you know, it didn't work out. They were gorgeous. Uh.

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Speaker 1: what I mean. Why we ain't got to fight over

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Speaker 1: this hit? I ain't that See, it's no stories fighting. Well,

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Speaker 1: it was not gonna be a fight right here because

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Speaker 1: it didn't look like a win for me. Because if

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Speaker 1: back where we had. He worried about that. He will.

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Speaker 1: He don't want to be a side piece, no most shit.

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