Speaker 1: The Nicky Gliser Podcast.
Speaker 2: Nick Glaser, here's Nikki.
Speaker 3: Hello here, I am welcome to the show. It's Nicky
Speaker 3: Glazer Podcast. Second show of the week, the last show
Speaker 3: of the week. Brian Frangie's here, Noah's here. What's up, guys,
Speaker 3: how's your cut? Hear'd you got cut? Yeah? I got cut.
Speaker 3: I got sliced the face. I was having a procedure,
Speaker 3: a medical procedure, just not a medical procedure. I was
Speaker 3: having a I don't want to say who did it.
Speaker 3: I don't want to incriminate anyone, but I was at
Speaker 3: a doctor type thing and there was an accident and
Speaker 3: a tool they were using like scraped my face and
Speaker 3: cut my face, and it felt like a pinch at first,
Speaker 3: like maybe it was just like kind of snagged on
Speaker 3: my cheek.
Speaker 4: And then I was like, oh I.
Speaker 3: And I felt stupid making that noise because I was like, Oh,
Speaker 3: you're overreacting to like a pinch, and they're gonna think
Speaker 3: you're cause I'm really I pride myself on like in
Speaker 3: this type of setting where people are I don't want
Speaker 3: to give away what kind of you can probably figure.
Speaker 4: Out what was near my face. A tool was near
Speaker 4: my face. Sorry I brought it up. No no, no, no
Speaker 4: no no. I was gonna bring it up, but I
Speaker 4: just don't wanna.
Speaker 3: I love the person who did this to me, and
Speaker 3: they do amazing work for me, and I would recommend
Speaker 3: people go to them. Everyone makes mistakes, literally everyone. Where
Speaker 3: was I just hearing this?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 3: I heard it last night during Michelle Obama's speech at
Speaker 3: the DNC. She's like, by the way, everyone's gonna make mistakes.
Speaker 3: And I love that she brought that up during this
Speaker 3: time where we're supposed to be like everything's gonna be
Speaker 3: perfect if it's kam a lot, Like, no, there's gonna
Speaker 3: be Everyone's gonna make mistakes, but we can all come
Speaker 3: together and like get through them. No one is perfect,
Speaker 3: no one. So initially when I talked about this, like
Speaker 3: on the Girl's Chat and like to my parents and everyone,
Speaker 3: they're like that idiot, They're like so mad. I'm like,
Speaker 3: have you never like accidentally done something while you're doing
Speaker 3: your job is completely not what you meant to do?
Speaker 3: Like of course we all have. So I didn't care
Speaker 3: at all. I just felt like I was overreacting and
Speaker 3: I really pride myself, like I was saying on being
Speaker 3: someone who when I'm sitting in this chair where most
Speaker 3: people are like really nervous, I would say to go
Speaker 3: to see this person. I fucking love it, and I
Speaker 3: fall asleep sometimes and I like, I just it's.
Speaker 4: Calming to me.
Speaker 1: What you're talking about.
Speaker 3: Yeah, right, even though I've literally talked about this recently
Speaker 3: on the show.
Speaker 4: You don't know I dancing?
Speaker 1: Oh right, so talking about Raygun, she was.
Speaker 4: Your face on my face?
Speaker 1: Oh my god?
Speaker 3: Okay, well yeah, so I'm laying in a chair and
Speaker 3: someone has a tool near.
Speaker 4: My cheek right here, huh.
Speaker 3: And the tool kind of fell down and cut my face,
Speaker 3: and so I'm glad I did exaggerate what I thought
Speaker 3: was an exaggeration at the time that a pinch, because
Speaker 3: it was a cut and it stopped, and I think
Speaker 3: it would have kept slicing further. So it just like
Speaker 3: has like a little crescent moon slice on my face
Speaker 3: is bleeding a lot. And you could tell if you're
Speaker 3: listening to this person who did this. I love you.
Speaker 3: I'm never gonna stop going to you. You've changed my life. Literally,
Speaker 3: everyone thinks I have fake whatever you do, because.
Speaker 6: You can you spin on your head now, and it really.
Speaker 3: Does look good whatever they do. Yeah, the thing that
Speaker 3: this person does for me, Yes, they have made it
Speaker 3: so I am able to win, h to represent my
Speaker 3: country and a sport that will never be at the Olympics.
Speaker 4: The best smile I win at the next Olympics.
Speaker 3: Okay, here's Can I.
Speaker 2: Just say what I like about what you did as
Speaker 2: far as how you told the story on girls Chat. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I like that you stop and you spoke up, because
Speaker 2: so often something will happen.
Speaker 3: We're just like, oh, okay, we'll just wait.
Speaker 4: I'm sure that they'll know it hurts you so bad
Speaker 4: that it was almost like.
Speaker 3: Involuntary that I was like, ah, But then I felt
Speaker 3: as you know, when you're like reacting to something, and
Speaker 3: a lot of times you do react involuntarily, and it's
Speaker 3: like it's like a little like my sister the other
Speaker 3: day in Vienna. That's a sentence I'll never say again.
Speaker 4: Wow, she on.
Speaker 1: Her finger the other day in Vienna with my sister.
Speaker 4: When we were touring the Papas.
Speaker 3: She had a bee on her finger and went like
Speaker 3: a and like really overacted because by the way, stop
Speaker 3: overreacting to bees if you can. And I anyway, she
Speaker 3: like flipped her hand really hard, and she hit her
Speaker 3: husband's like apple watch so hard she.
Speaker 4: Almost like broke her finger.
Speaker 3: She was overreacting, and so it just seemed I think
Speaker 3: it just seemed crazy that she did that in response
Speaker 3: to like a bee that was not going to hurt her.
Speaker 3: Like bees don't want to sting you. You just everyone
Speaker 3: relax around them.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Everything.
Speaker 6: I've been trying to train Alley to stop doing that
Speaker 6: because she when we first got together, she was really
Speaker 6: sensitive about bees.
Speaker 1: She would like run, she would like sprint out of
Speaker 1: the room.
Speaker 6: Okay, changed a little, She's gotten a lot better. Yeah, Okay,
Speaker 6: is if there are bees around, even if there are
Speaker 6: a lot of bees around, as long as you didn't
Speaker 6: like jostle the bee hive R five. If there's four
Speaker 6: bees around, you just stand still, keep doing sit in
Speaker 6: your chair, keep doing whatever you are doing. They'll buzz
Speaker 6: around and then they'll buzz off.
Speaker 4: Yep, they retirely don't. They don't.
Speaker 3: They die if they sing you, and they know that.
Speaker 3: So they're not the same with manta rays. Unless you
Speaker 3: step on one and violently kick it, it's not gonna
Speaker 3: it's not gonna, you know, send one of its spears
Speaker 3: through your heart because it will die defending you.
Speaker 4: It's like these bees don't want to die.
Speaker 3: So the only reason they do that is if they
Speaker 3: think you're a huge threat to them because you're screaming
Speaker 3: and swatting at them. Yes, so if you literally don't move,
Speaker 3: they'll never literally they'll never sing you. The only thing
Speaker 3: that they will do is just crawling you or whatever.
Speaker 3: And I know that's like just disturbing to people. I
Speaker 3: get it, But.
Speaker 1: My sister claimed be a beast thing doesn't hurt that much.
Speaker 4: It really does.
Speaker 6: Some people are allergic to them. And for those people, yes,
Speaker 6: I give you a pass. Same but I will say this,
Speaker 6: if it's a wasp, I'm not.
Speaker 3: Stand wass are disgusting. They look like they're carrying cargo.
Speaker 3: They look like they're about to dump gas on your city,
Speaker 3: Like I don't. They they don't seem to know where
Speaker 3: they're going. They don't have a plan, like you know,
Speaker 3: I hate a bug with a well June bugs don't
Speaker 3: have a plan, like they're flying willy nilly centipedes really fast.
Speaker 3: House centipedes don't have a plan. They can crawl in
Speaker 3: your vagina, they will crawl in your mouth. But a
Speaker 3: bees seem to know where they're going.
Speaker 4: For the most part.
Speaker 3: They just want to sniff around your coke. Can they
Speaker 3: find out it's diet coke, and then they get addicted
Speaker 3: to it and they need six a day, but they
Speaker 3: just they're not going to hurt you. But I will
Speaker 3: say that it's nice to learn here that Ali has
Speaker 3: learned to not overreact because my sister's like, Nikki, I
Speaker 3: can't not act like that, And I go, well, yes,
Speaker 3: you can by just practicing it right. Run it through
Speaker 3: in your head right now, Like you see a bee,
Speaker 3: how are you going to act like? You can change
Speaker 3: the way you involuntarily respond to something, Like I've done
Speaker 3: it before too, where I have to practice how I'm
Speaker 3: going to feel when this certain thing comes, where I
Speaker 3: get heightened anxiety around it, and then when it happens,
Speaker 3: because I've practiced it, I have a different response. So
Speaker 3: my sister yelled at me initially because I'm like Lauren,
Speaker 3: like bees, first of all, we need to be so
Speaker 3: nice to them. They're all going extinct, and we're all
Speaker 3: going to go extinct because of them, So we have
Speaker 3: to actually protect bees and keep them alive desperately.
Speaker 4: And Lauren was like I know, Nikki, I can't help it,
Speaker 4: you know.
Speaker 3: Like natural sister response. And I realized my response was
Speaker 3: shitty too, because I'm yelling at her about something she
Speaker 3: couldn't help. But I said all I said, Lauren, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: We were like looking at nick Knacks and Vienna on
Speaker 3: this like you know, thrift like outdoor market.
Speaker 4: Sorry, I was I can't help.
Speaker 3: They were telling us no photos because we kept trying
Speaker 3: to take pictures of different things so we could text
Speaker 3: to each other later and make jokes. But anyway, I
Speaker 3: was like, Laurant, I just want to say, I'm sorry
Speaker 3: I yelled at you about the bee thing. But if
Speaker 3: you just if you just get it in your mind
Speaker 3: that they really aren't going to hurt you, and you
Speaker 3: like practice how you're going to respond next time and
Speaker 3: like visualize it, you can respond differently.
Speaker 4: It's not like you don't need to just always go like, well, I.
Speaker 3: Can't help it. It was and I but I'm also
Speaker 3: on the side of like, you can't help it, but
Speaker 3: you can prepare for future things and behaviors can change.
Speaker 4: We've just seen it right now. In Ali, she responds differently.
Speaker 3: She's enough to run and jump off the balcony any
Speaker 3: because that was with her life.
Speaker 6: Yeah, sure, it was slow, Like if she hangs out
Speaker 6: on the balcony and there's a bee, at first she
Speaker 6: would just calmly stand and leave the balcony, and then
Speaker 6: eventually she would just sit there for a little while
Speaker 6: and then leave the balcony. And now she can sit
Speaker 6: there where there's a bee flying around. It's like, Okay,
Speaker 6: it's like incremental exposure theory.
Speaker 3: Totally, it can change, but I will say that so
Speaker 3: when I involuntarily was like, ah, I felt bad because
Speaker 3: I love this guy, and I was embarrassed that something
Speaker 3: hurt because I pride myself on like nothing ever hurts.
Speaker 3: But then I felt blood trickling down my cheek down
Speaker 3: to like my chin, and you could just tell when
Speaker 3: someone's like fucked up and they're trying to like stay
Speaker 3: calm and act like it's not a big deal. But
Speaker 3: I was just like and I immediately felt really bad
Speaker 3: that it happened because it was a mistake, and I
Speaker 3: wanted to be the opposite of the person that's like
Speaker 3: you cut me, are you a fool? You know, like,
Speaker 3: because I just pictured certain people that would do that
Speaker 3: of like, how would you do that because even the
Speaker 3: way my mom responded to that idiot, and I go,
Speaker 3: you don't know him, like you first of all, you
Speaker 3: don't even know if it's a girl or god, she
Speaker 3: knew nothing of you. If you're listening to this and
Speaker 3: and you're not an idiot, you're actually you've changed my life.
Speaker 3: You've saved me thousands and thousands of dollars. I was
Speaker 3: going to get fake whatever you do, and then I
Speaker 3: realized that I can just do anyway. I he I've
Speaker 3: never had a fucking medical professional listen to me and
Speaker 3: hear me go this is what I want and go, oh, okay,
Speaker 3: I'll do that. Like I know I'm not an expert,
Speaker 3: but I'm like, hey, the thing, you know how like
Speaker 3: I don't like this? Could you just like put that?
Speaker 3: Like I talking in my completely po dunk. I don't
Speaker 3: know anything vernacular about the subject. He was able to
Speaker 3: use do what I wanted and didn't treat me like
Speaker 3: in moron like.
Speaker 4: Well we can't do that. Well we could take the
Speaker 4: whole thing out like he just did it.
Speaker 3: He made it work and just when it fucking works,
Speaker 3: and I I I've talked about it on Instagram live
Speaker 3: once because someone was like, accuse me of having.
Speaker 4: Fake whatever. This is, just keep this going. This is great.
Speaker 3: So I was like, I like your new fake blank
Speaker 3: and I go, they're not fake, but they look fake
Speaker 3: because I've come up with a way to actually have
Speaker 3: the perfect thing without getting them all removed and you know,
Speaker 3: filed down to little nubs and spending thousands and thousands
Speaker 3: of dollars. Actually it's like eighty bucks every time I
Speaker 3: go in.
Speaker 1: It's not a big getting little nubs. This isn't break dancing.
Speaker 3: Well if you if you spin hard enough on those knees,
Speaker 3: they will eventually erode to little knubs.
Speaker 1: I guess that's true.
Speaker 6: There's a guy in the subway in New York City
Speaker 6: who would break dance and he had no arms and
Speaker 6: no legs.
Speaker 4: I think that might be advantageous.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well yeah, how do you spend a plate on
Speaker 1: like a a little stick a little stick? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 3: But anyway, I was bleeding, but I was, so I
Speaker 3: I know that he was probably thinking. My friend today
Speaker 3: on girls chat was like, oh my god, he was
Speaker 3: probably like, of all the people have to slice in
Speaker 3: the face. It's like, yes, someone who's on TV and
Speaker 3: like I'm it's like it just and but actually I'm
Speaker 3: the best person to slice in the face because you
Speaker 3: know what I said, I said, do not worry about it.
Speaker 4: I actually don't care about scars.
Speaker 3: I actually and I literally don't even Chris today was like,
Speaker 3: you gotta figure out a way that doesn't scar, and
Speaker 3: I was like, I kind of like scars.
Speaker 4: Is that weird?
Speaker 3: I don't like acne scars per se, because that is
Speaker 3: associated with this thing that we assume is like dirty
Speaker 3: for some reason, even though it's not whatever. You know,
Speaker 3: I can't help the way I think, but scars from
Speaker 3: like an injury or like someone cut you.
Speaker 4: It's like, I don't, please, don't cut me.
Speaker 3: But like I don't care, and I don't think they're
Speaker 3: ugly and I don't think they make me feel less.
Speaker 3: That I kind of like them, So I don't mind
Speaker 3: if scar cool. I think, Yeah, what am I trying
Speaker 3: to be? I'm not gonna be even if I even
Speaker 3: if I do have a scar on my face, I
Speaker 3: still could be the face of Loreal when I turn
Speaker 3: fifty five and they finally I'm famous.
Speaker 6: You feel like places like that are looking for imperfections
Speaker 6: or whatever you want to call them at least now.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's popular.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean Padma's scar on her arm. I'm sorry
Speaker 3: for whatever happened to her, but it's fucking badass and it's.
Speaker 4: Cooler than not half.
Speaker 3: I have to say I love her, And every time
Speaker 3: I see it, I'm like, that is so sexy and badass.
Speaker 3: You you seem to look and I hope this is
Speaker 3: an offensive to people's scars. You look like a super
Speaker 3: villain or a superhero or villain, but like a villain.
Speaker 4: That's cool that I want to be.
Speaker 1: Any want to new leaf and now was a good guy.
Speaker 3: Can you imagine cutting someone in the face and then
Speaker 3: the person not only doesn't yell at you and go
Speaker 3: what are you doing, but they go, don't worry about it.
Speaker 4: I like scars.
Speaker 3: And then they also to make you feel better because
Speaker 3: I was just picturing if I were.
Speaker 4: Him, how I would want the patient to respond.
Speaker 3: And that's what I did, and I go, not only
Speaker 3: do I like scars, I go and by the way,
Speaker 3: my face is bleeding all of the time because I
Speaker 3: get like botox, so it's I constantly have like and
Speaker 3: like lasers that like cut up your face. And so
Speaker 3: he was I was offering all this just like that
Speaker 3: no one needed it right, like I was, I had
Speaker 3: a right to just be upset about what happened, just
Speaker 3: for sake of myself.
Speaker 4: Instead, I was like nurturing his feelings got.
Speaker 1: Me again, cut off my whole.
Speaker 3: Face, make even slice it all off I And then
Speaker 3: he goes, I hope you don't have anything like important tonight,
Speaker 3: and I go, I actually do. I was like, I'm
Speaker 3: going to a fundraiser for for. I didn't know it
Speaker 3: at the time, but it was like for I knew
Speaker 3: it at the time. It was for abortion rights, but
Speaker 3: it's to vote yes on Amendment three, which is to
Speaker 3: get make it, you know, at least partially legal to
Speaker 3: get an abortion in Missouri, which if you don't know,
Speaker 3: in Missouri it is illegal to get an abortion, even
Speaker 3: in cases of rape or incest.
Speaker 4: It's the worst state for it.
Speaker 3: And if you are a Missouri like I learned so
Speaker 3: much at the fundraiser last night, where I was only
Speaker 3: hired to just come and it's all I had to
Speaker 3: do was take pictures. I didn't have to perform or anything,
Speaker 3: and we raised over fifty thousand dollars and they literally
Speaker 3: said it was because there They got so many more
Speaker 3: people to sign up to go after it was announced
Speaker 3: that I was going to be there, and some people did
Speaker 3: think I was performing, even though it SAIDs explicitly in
Speaker 3: the invite, like she is not performing, because they like
Speaker 3: looked at them and they.
Speaker 4: Go, I was like, why are you not talking?
Speaker 3: And then I looked the invite again and it was like,
Speaker 3: she will not be performing because it's not you know,
Speaker 3: you don't want to perform on someone's deck in a backyard.
Speaker 3: But it was at this guy's house who I love,
Speaker 3: and they raise fifty thousand dollars for to get I mean,
Speaker 3: these you they're like, thank you so much for coming,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, I cannot believe what all of you
Speaker 3: have done to get abortion maybe legalized again in our state.
Speaker 3: Like they have worked their asses off. They were stopped
Speaker 3: at every turn. Their wording wasn't right to put it
Speaker 3: on the ballot. They kept these fucking Republicans kept finding
Speaker 3: ways to figure out why they could maybe not get
Speaker 3: it on the ballot, and like you didn't put a
Speaker 3: comma here, and you're and so they have to start
Speaker 3: over and get signatures again and and sue the courts
Speaker 3: and like it's just so impossible. And these people are
Speaker 3: seriously tirelessly working for women's reproductive rights, which affect all
Speaker 3: of us, not just women who have who want to
Speaker 3: get abortions and need them because they're in abusive relationships
Speaker 3: or whatever the fuck. And I'm just like, if you
Speaker 3: live in Missouri, please vote yes on three. Do not
Speaker 3: just vote for president and then skip the rest of
Speaker 3: the shit. You can skip comptroller. I don't give a
Speaker 3: fuck about that, but please vote yes on Amendment three.
Speaker 3: Please spread the word to anyone you know in Missouri,
Speaker 3: because there are people I learned I am very well
Speaker 3: versed in, like what's school, I feel like what's going on?
Speaker 3: Like not well versed, but versed. And I did not
Speaker 3: know about Amendment three. I didn't know about voting yes.
Speaker 3: I probably would have read it all in the little booth,
Speaker 3: but sometimes you got you're late for something and you
Speaker 3: get in there and you go, I'll just do president
Speaker 3: and leave. Please vote yes on Amendment three. It will
Speaker 3: save so many lives. We'll get so many women out
Speaker 3: of abusive situations. It's proven that women that can't get
Speaker 3: abortions stay in abusive relationships. They have more kids that
Speaker 3: are brought into abusive relationships those kids. It's like it's
Speaker 3: bad for everyone. Please vote Amendment three. Yes on Amendment three.
Speaker 3: I really believe in it. We raise a lot of
Speaker 3: money last night. And thank you to the ACLU of
Speaker 3: Saint Louis and Missouri and for doing all your work,
Speaker 3: and all the abortion doctors I met last night that
Speaker 3: are like risking.
Speaker 4: Their lives doing what they're doing.
Speaker 3: And yes, and to shout out to all the women who.
Speaker 4: Have to take off from work and.
Speaker 3: Get fired for their jobs because they have to schedule
Speaker 3: it at the exact right time, and there's all these
Speaker 3: rules about you have to go do They have to
Speaker 3: do a pelvic exam before you get an abortion, which
Speaker 3: is literally pointless to do, but they make you do
Speaker 3: it so that it's invasive, so that it makes you
Speaker 3: feel horrish and like, uh, you know, it makes you
Speaker 3: feel taken advance. Like when you're a woman and you
Speaker 3: want to get an abortion, you have to go in
Speaker 3: for a pelvic exam, which is just someone being inside
Speaker 3: your vagina. The doctor that has to do these says,
Speaker 3: I feel disgusting doing these because they're pointless and they're
Speaker 3: just mads to make this woman feel uncomfortable to discourage
Speaker 3: her from doing it. So it's a pointless fingering of
Speaker 3: your vagina by a doctor mandatory because they want to
Speaker 3: discourage you from getting an abortion. It's all so tricky
Speaker 3: and disgusting and vote yes, I'm three and we'll be
Speaker 3: back after this. So yeah, I had to go do
Speaker 3: this appearance last night and with a band aid on
Speaker 3: my face, and I said, I'll just be like Nelly.
Speaker 4: That's what I told the doctor too. I was like,
Speaker 4: I'll just it'll be fun.
Speaker 3: It's not a big deal that my face is leading
Speaker 3: I get to this thing and I'm just like, I've a.
Speaker 4: Band aid on my face.
Speaker 3: It's because I got caught today.
Speaker 4: I and everyone's just like, what what happened?
Speaker 3: Will sue him? And I'm like, no, he's a good guy.
Speaker 3: Everyone makes mistakes. What is going on here, and and
Speaker 3: it's healing nicely and that's the end of that.
Speaker 6: But I've seen you get caught in the face before
Speaker 6: and react in a similar manner. It was when we
Speaker 6: were Yeah, I've seen you. This is not the first
Speaker 6: time you've been cut in the face, Nikki. We were
Speaker 6: walking between sets when we were preparing for the I
Speaker 6: think it was the roaster. The special woman was flailing
Speaker 6: in the street.
Speaker 1: I don't know what she was doing.
Speaker 3: Pointing her friends to go like in this direction. She
Speaker 3: was like over here, like waving a car or something.
Speaker 6: And she had either rings or really long nails, and
Speaker 6: she just straight up smacked you in the face literally
Speaker 6: eyes bleeding. And and this is like three days before
Speaker 6: your filing.
Speaker 4: On stage at the Laugh Factory.
Speaker 3: You're walking down sunset, yes, so how oh so, how okay?
Speaker 2: I need like the reactions. How did that lady react?
Speaker 2: Was she like super sorry.
Speaker 1: All or did she do that? I felt like lady.
Speaker 3: Because she felt like she had I remember her, like,
Speaker 3: oh but it was so quick that and I kept
Speaker 3: walking because I was late for my set, and Andrew
Speaker 3: Or and Brian and Chris were like walking behind me,
Speaker 3: so I was just like, come on, guys, we gotta
Speaker 3: keep going. And then I'm like, I think I am bleeding,
Speaker 3: and it was bleeding just like also another mistake. Like
Speaker 3: if you're somebody who like gets mad at people for
Speaker 3: making mistakes, like you have to know that you're having
Speaker 3: a bad day like it, like because if you're I
Speaker 3: was in a good mood yesterday and I let it go,
Speaker 3: because yes, I was upset that I had cut on
Speaker 3: my face, and then I had to put a band
Speaker 3: aid on my face to go to this thing where
Speaker 3: everyone's like, Nicky's a star and I walk in with
Speaker 3: the fucking I put a band aid and I put
Speaker 3: makeup over it, and people really couldn't see it. It
Speaker 3: was actually people were like, oh, I didn't even notice
Speaker 3: it till you said something. But the way you react
Speaker 3: to things when things are not done intentionally to you
Speaker 3: is a reflection of what's going on in your life.
Speaker 4: Like I if I would.
Speaker 3: Have been in a bad mood, I would have been
Speaker 3: a little bit more grumpy about it, or if you know,
Speaker 3: he just caught me, I was. I was in a
Speaker 3: good mood that day, or like at that moment when
Speaker 3: I got cut in the face, and so it really
Speaker 3: because no one means to do that.
Speaker 4: I said to my mom, I go, do you think
Speaker 4: he meant to do that? She goes, no, but what
Speaker 4: an idiot?
Speaker 3: And I go, okay. Or what he said, he it's
Speaker 3: never happened before.
Speaker 4: I believe him.
Speaker 3: Are we not allowed to cut someone in the face
Speaker 3: once in our lives? But I don't know, like I
Speaker 3: Brian come here. I just think it's just I remember
Speaker 3: one time I had a boyfriend. I caught him going
Speaker 3: through my phone and I he felt horrible about it.
Speaker 1: And he was going through your phone.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he he was suspecting that maybe something squirrely was
Speaker 3: going on.
Speaker 1: So I how did he get in there?
Speaker 6: Uh?
Speaker 3: My alarm went off and this was fucking forever ago.
Speaker 3: But my alarm went off and I was walking a
Speaker 3: dog of my friends that I had to walk, and
Speaker 3: so I just left without my phone and I got back. No,
Speaker 3: when the alarm goes off to like shut it off,
Speaker 3: it's like still and maybe this is a time where
Speaker 3: there weren't pass codes on phones.
Speaker 4: I literally don't remember. But I got back and.
Speaker 3: It was like on a text message with me and
Speaker 3: a guy that I hadn't talked to and forever. But
Speaker 3: I knew it was a guy that this guy might
Speaker 3: think I'm involved with, do.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean?
Speaker 3: So I knew it was like, you know, two a
Speaker 3: text message from two years before, so you could tell you.
Speaker 1: Like search the name WOWK.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And and.
Speaker 1: So when you came back, you caught him with your No, I.
Speaker 3: Saw the phone still where I left it, but it
Speaker 3: was on that screen, right, So I think he accidentally
Speaker 3: maybe got out of it and then couldn't get back
Speaker 3: in because of the password or something, and then it
Speaker 3: was just left on the where he had been searching. Anyway,
Speaker 3: everything flipped through my head of like being like mad
Speaker 3: about it and being like, what the fuck, it's an
Speaker 3: invasion of privacy. But I was just like, I could
Speaker 3: see myself doing the same thing. If I'm feeling like
Speaker 3: insecure in a relationship and like maybe thinking he's pulled
Speaker 3: away and maybe he's talking to someone, he leaves his
Speaker 3: phone out, and I'm just like, that's right there, Like
Speaker 3: I could see a world where I could also make
Speaker 3: this intentional mistake, Like even though there was intent behind it,
Speaker 3: there was motive behind it. He had to click a
Speaker 3: bunch of buttons and type things in Like it's still
Speaker 3: like is could be a mistake, I guess.
Speaker 4: And I remember just being like, hey, did you look
Speaker 4: through my phone?
Speaker 3: It was just like, yeah, I did, and I was like, okay, why,
Speaker 3: And then we kind of talked and he was just
Speaker 3: he was so embarrassed, so ashamed of himself, like really
Speaker 3: disgusted with himself, and I was just like and we
Speaker 3: had to like go, he had to go to work
Speaker 3: and I had to go to work, and I just
Speaker 3: remember I was just like, just don't this isn't gonna
Speaker 3: this is gonna blow over.
Speaker 4: It's not a big deal.
Speaker 3: Please don't let this ruin your day, because I was
Speaker 3: just thinking, what would I want to.
Speaker 4: Know, what would I want to hear right now?
Speaker 3: And this thing that I could easily do, And I
Speaker 3: would want my boyfriend to say, I'm not going to
Speaker 3: break up with you over this. This isn't going to
Speaker 3: end us. It's a conversation later. But don't catastrophize this
Speaker 3: and beat yourself up.
Speaker 4: We're all human.
Speaker 3: And I like gave him that, and I felt so
Speaker 3: good that I did because I would have wanted that.
Speaker 3: So I just think my best version of myself is
Speaker 3: when I can instantly put myself in their shoes and
Speaker 3: then react accordingly.
Speaker 4: And maybe I gave a.
Speaker 3: Little too much to the doctor yesterday by being like,
Speaker 3: I love a cut on my face, Like I was
Speaker 3: really trying to make him feel better, but that's actually
Speaker 3: what I would have wanted from someone that I cut
Speaker 3: in the face. So I kind of gave him that,
Speaker 3: But it was a little bit like I didn't need to,
Speaker 3: you know, offer up my face as a place for
Speaker 3: him to you know, sharpen his knives.
Speaker 4: But that that was just my reaction in the moment.
Speaker 6: I have to admit one time in my life, I
Speaker 6: did look through one of my girlfriend's phones and I
Speaker 6: feel great shame about it, but I was so I
Speaker 6: was feeling so insecure. I had a hunch that things
Speaker 6: were going on, and I just knew the person's past code,
Speaker 6: so uh it was like I looked in it, and uh,
Speaker 6: they were cheating on me. So I was like, that
Speaker 6: was a tough one. I didn't feel vindicated or anything.
Speaker 6: I just like it just made me feel even worse. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 6: I'll never do it, obviously. I trust my wife. I mean,
Speaker 6: my wife will hand me her phone, like look through
Speaker 6: whatever you want, I'll hand her.
Speaker 1: Mind. Yeah, Like that's like not even an issue anymore.
Speaker 3: Freedom when you can hand your partner or your phone
Speaker 3: and you're not worried about someone texting you that like
Speaker 3: no talking about them, like not even cheating. Just like
Speaker 3: something will come up where you're like maybe like I
Speaker 3: don't know, just anything, like.
Speaker 6: It's just why are you texting rob Videos of Kamala Harris.
Speaker 1: It's like.
Speaker 3: He's like, you got a Swift Alert and I'm like, oh, okay,
Speaker 3: thank you. This app I pay one ninety nine a
Speaker 3: month for that tells me when she's wearing a new
Speaker 3: skirt during nineteen eighty nine Eras tour. Yeah, that's that's
Speaker 3: That's an interesting conundrum. I met someone recently who would
Speaker 3: go his girlfriend had gone through his phone and they
Speaker 3: were kind of like dating but not dating. They hadn't
Speaker 3: had the exclusive talk yet, but it was kind of
Speaker 3: like he was flirting with someone and just sexy texting
Speaker 3: with them and nothing had happened, but she caught that
Speaker 3: and he he was upset at the invasion of privacy,
Speaker 3: but she was upset at him, and he felt guilty
Speaker 3: about cheating or whatever, so he couldn't be mad at her.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, that's the honestly you can. You can
Speaker 3: separate the two. You can be mad about the invasion
Speaker 3: of privacy, but you can also feel bad that you
Speaker 3: were cheating on her, and you can. It doesn't have
Speaker 3: to be all or nothing.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, well, yeah, if you discover that someone's
Speaker 6: cheating on you through nefarious means means, then you you
Speaker 6: lose a little bit of the upper hand to be
Speaker 6: mad at them for cheating.
Speaker 3: I mean, women would think, no, I didn't and I
Speaker 3: obviously knew, so fuck you, and I.
Speaker 1: Should go through it and I did the right thing.
Speaker 3: But I would I would disagree with those women and say, Nope,
Speaker 3: you did something. Then you stole from the rich to
Speaker 3: give to the poor, but you still still.
Speaker 6: So Then what will you need to catch them in
Speaker 6: the act? Like you need to be coming home innything.
Speaker 3: You just need to not be in a relationship. You
Speaker 3: need to go work on yourself. If you're either in
Speaker 3: a relationship with someone who's cheating on you, or you
Speaker 3: are so distrusting of someone who isn't cheating on you,
Speaker 3: that is like your your relationship is gonna end. If
Speaker 3: you're someone who's so jealous that anytime their phone either
Speaker 3: on their phone, you think that they're cheating. You are
Speaker 3: either with someone who's cheating on you, which sucks and
Speaker 3: get you know, go just leave him anyway. If you
Speaker 3: think leave, I would say, but it's easier said than done.
Speaker 4: Obviously, Noah, what what's your experience with this?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 2: I was gonna also admit that I've gone through an
Speaker 2: ex's phone, and it's exactly what you said, Nikki. It
Speaker 2: was just like a very toxic relationship. I did find flirting,
Speaker 2: but at the same time, like I felt like this
Speaker 2: like like the shittiest feeling after doing it, because one
Speaker 2: is I found the flirting, and then two is I
Speaker 2: felt like, I like, you know, it's just like gross
Speaker 2: going in the phone, and yeah, ultimately the relationship ended,
Speaker 2: so it's like I just GI, Yeah, it's like I
Speaker 2: would never do that today, by the way, because our
Speaker 2: phones are like our journals and they're so personal.
Speaker 3: But you would if you you would though, if you
Speaker 3: were an unhealthier version of you, and yes, and the
Speaker 3: phones being a journalist is not what's keeping you out
Speaker 3: of them. You're a healthier person in a healthy relationship
Speaker 3: where you trust Avi true and he has and you
Speaker 3: trust that he has integrity, which, by the way, like
Speaker 3: I remember you telling me something and you can cut
Speaker 3: this if you don't want, but it in there, but
Speaker 3: I always remember it. It's like, you know, you were
Speaker 3: having trust issues that had nothing to do with obvious behavior,
Speaker 3: but just based on your past relationships, and you're kind
Speaker 3: of like a little bit getting jealous of things that
Speaker 3: he was maybe talking having relationships even like friendships with
Speaker 3: other women or whatever, just like acquaintanceships with other women.
Speaker 3: And he told you, like I forget what he said,
Speaker 3: but he was, like he said, you had to trust
Speaker 3: me to have integrity. Like maybe I like, maybe men
Speaker 3: do want to have sex with other women or like
Speaker 3: can be attracted to other women, but they're not going
Speaker 3: to because they have integrity, so you have to you can't.
Speaker 3: Of course they're gonna think her boobs look nice, they're
Speaker 3: not fucking you. I've always said this. You should get
Speaker 3: your man checked for a his bones being riddled with cancer.
Speaker 3: If he's not getting turned on by something that it
Speaker 3: was also about you that turned him on, like boobs
Speaker 3: or tits or ass like, he's sick. If he's not
Speaker 3: still getting turned on, there's something wrong with his libido,
Speaker 3: there's something wrong with his mood. There's something wrong, there's
Speaker 3: something wrong inside. A healthy man should be turned on
Speaker 3: by tits that aren't yours. I'm sorry, ladies, it's true.
Speaker 3: But will he suck on those tits? No, because he
Speaker 3: has integrity because you don't do everything that you impulsively
Speaker 3: want to do, so he's allowed to have those inner thoughts.
Speaker 3: And you can appreciate his integrity that keeps it. That's
Speaker 3: what love is, is having enough integrity to not do
Speaker 3: those things because they love you.
Speaker 6: Yeah, love is a constant repression of natural urges.
Speaker 3: Uh. I would agree that that monogamy makes it such,
Speaker 3: and that it's not very healthy. But I do believe
Speaker 3: that if you praise men for not fucking. I know
Speaker 3: this sounds crazy, but men do want to have sex
Speaker 3: with other things. Do they have the opportunity? Probably not literally,
Speaker 3: And and they don't because they're with you, And that's
Speaker 3: means something. It's not because they're not. They don't want to,
Speaker 3: right they been, by the way, also are attracted to
Speaker 3: other things, and they don't because.
Speaker 4: They they love you and that is enough.
Speaker 3: And so I just don't understand us all kind of
Speaker 3: trying to convince ourselves that our partner is no longer
Speaker 3: attracted to anyone else. I just I don't believe it.
Speaker 3: And and if you believe that your partner's intructed anyone else,
Speaker 3: you're gonna get Lacy Peterson.
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm just kidding, you're not.
Speaker 1: But we think about this way.
Speaker 6: If your partner is it's it's more impressive isn't it
Speaker 6: more flattering if your partner is attracted to all these
Speaker 6: people but still chooses you versus they're not attracted to
Speaker 6: anybody except you.
Speaker 3: That's what I said to my friend Saralena, because we
Speaker 3: were talking about this, and I was like, would you
Speaker 3: really like your partner to be not attracted to anyone
Speaker 3: and only attracted to you?
Speaker 4: Because I would feel like I didn't win?
Speaker 3: Then, yeah, like I want them to be like, I
Speaker 3: choose you even though I do want other things, like
Speaker 3: I'm constantly winning, whereas instead they're just like, well, my
Speaker 3: own dick only works for you, so I guess I'll
Speaker 3: stick around. Like that's boring to me, And she was like, no,
Speaker 3: I'd like him to not have any feelings for anyone
Speaker 3: but me, And I understand where that comes from too,
Speaker 3: for people that have been and cheated on and their
Speaker 3: trust has been broken.
Speaker 4: I want to get back to my Lacy Peterson comment.
Speaker 3: It made it sound like I thought she was like
Speaker 3: at fault for getting murdered because she didn't acknowledge that
Speaker 3: Scott had sexual desires.
Speaker 4: That is not what happened in there at all. I'm
Speaker 4: fascinated by this case.
Speaker 3: I am the Lazy Peterson documentary is awesome.
Speaker 4: Everyone should watch it. They did a really good job
Speaker 4: with it.
Speaker 3: There.
Speaker 1: I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 4: Please.
Speaker 3: Lazy was a woman who was murdered by her husband
Speaker 3: in two thousand and three Christmas Eve. What he did
Speaker 3: was he probably did a quiet murder where he strangled
Speaker 3: her or suffocated her. He then let the dog out
Speaker 3: with its leash on, then bought a had a met
Speaker 3: a girl who was having an affair with November twenty
Speaker 3: second or something like that. By December ninth, he told
Speaker 3: that woman who had found out from friends that this
Speaker 3: guy was married. He or she didn't find out, but
Speaker 3: Scott who was lying to this woman and saying like,
Speaker 3: I'm single and I want to have a family, And
Speaker 3: this woman had a young daughter and he's like, I
Speaker 3: don't need I don't need a baby. I don't need
Speaker 3: to have kids. Your daughter is enough for me. Being
Speaker 3: a stepdad would be enough for me. He has a
Speaker 3: baby on the way with his wife two hours from
Speaker 3: where this woman lives, maybe an hour one hundred miles
Speaker 3: or something. So this woman Amber Fry, who is his
Speaker 3: or his the girl that he was having an affair with,
Speaker 3: She has no idea he's married.
Speaker 4: He's lied to her.
Speaker 3: A friend of hers runs into a friend of his
Speaker 3: and they find out Scott's married, and they call Scott
Speaker 3: and go, if you're not gonna tell Amber, we will
Speaker 3: so Then Scott December nine's ninth, calls Amber and says,
Speaker 3: I lied, I'm I was married, but she's I lost
Speaker 3: my wife. She doesn't ask details because he's so upset
Speaker 3: about it. December ninth is the same day. He also
Speaker 3: buys a boat, doesn't tell Lacey, doesn't tell anyone buys
Speaker 3: a boat. Then cut to December twenty fourth, takes a
Speaker 3: boat out for the first time, has the whole ticket
Speaker 3: to go where he had to docket or whatever it is.
Speaker 3: I don't even know what you do with the boat
Speaker 3: and the and he offers that to the police because
Speaker 3: by then his wife is missing, and what they think
Speaker 3: he did is like strangled his wife and then he
Speaker 3: disposed of her body in this bay because they later
Speaker 3: find it.
Speaker 4: Dah da da da da. He is insane.
Speaker 3: He keeps lying to this woman who doesn't really know
Speaker 3: about Lacey. She finds out about Lacey because uh, she
Speaker 3: finally sees the news and this guy's all over the news,
Speaker 3: but she keeps it up like she hasn't seen the news,
Speaker 3: and she keeps calling him and that he's in Paris
Speaker 3: for New Year's Eve, but he's had a candlelight vigil
Speaker 3: to look for her, for Lacey, and he's like, I
Speaker 3: can see the Eiffel Tower and he's like at a
Speaker 3: candlelight vigil for his missing wife, who he doesn't seem
Speaker 3: to give a fuck about that she's missing. He's such
Speaker 3: a psychopath. He clearly does it. The whole documentary, I'm
Speaker 3: not giving too much. I am giving a lot away,
Speaker 3: but I'm not giving too much away.
Speaker 1: Why did she let the dog out?
Speaker 3: Because he wanted to have it be like she was
Speaker 3: kidnapped while she was walking the dog.
Speaker 1: Did they find the dog?
Speaker 4: The dog ended up.
Speaker 3: The neighbor saw the dog with the leash on and
Speaker 3: just put it in their backyard. So he gets home
Speaker 3: from disposing of her body. He sees the dog with
Speaker 3: the leash on in the backyard, thinks nothing of it.
Speaker 3: His wife isn't there, her purse is still there, her eye,
Speaker 3: her clothes are still there, her shoes are still there,
Speaker 3: her car's still there. And he decides to eat some
Speaker 3: pizza and take a shower and wash his one pair
Speaker 3: of clothes that he was wearing. What a normal thing
Speaker 3: for a guy to do. Whose wife he comes home
Speaker 3: to and the dog has a leash on and he
Speaker 3: doesn't know where she is.
Speaker 4: What a cool, normal thing? Eight and a half month.
Speaker 3: Pregnant woman and her to be gone and the husband
Speaker 3: washes his clothes in the middle of the day.
Speaker 4: Get guilty, and.
Speaker 3: Then they check his fucking computer. This is where I
Speaker 3: would have convicted. This is the I'm gonna I'm gonna
Speaker 3: go off a little bit. If you've seen this documentary,
Speaker 3: exip to the next section. If you haven't, because the
Speaker 3: thing is Scott clearly did it from the get go,
Speaker 3: but they it's all circumstantial evidence. This guy. They check
Speaker 3: his fucking computer. This is two thousand and two, by
Speaker 3: the way, so this is before like people knew that
Speaker 3: you could really get into your computer.
Speaker 4: He searches the tides of the bay he's going.
Speaker 3: To, which is not something fishermen check, Like the tides
Speaker 3: are not something you would check. And by the way,
Speaker 3: he said he was fishing, but all the fishing equipment
Speaker 3: he brought was unpackaged or like still packaged. So the lure.
Speaker 3: He said he used all this stuff. Such a lie.
Speaker 3: Then they find a pair of needle nose players in
Speaker 3: his boat that have her hair wrapped around him. Explain
Speaker 3: to me that Scott and also Lacey didn't know about
Speaker 3: the boat. No one in Lacy's family knew about the
Speaker 3: boat he had bought this. They're like, why were you
Speaker 3: You were out of a boat, since when do you
Speaker 3: own a boat? Like everyone was on his side at first,
Speaker 3: even Lacey's family, and we're like, he didn't do it.
Speaker 3: But then Amber Fry comes out and is like, I
Speaker 3: was dating this guy. Because eventually she has to go
Speaker 3: to the press because the pictures of them at a
Speaker 3: Christmas party where Lacey had to go to a Christmas
Speaker 3: party by herself because Scott is that a Christmas party with
Speaker 3: his new girlfriend who he's lying to and saying, I
Speaker 3: want to spend the rest of my life with you.
Speaker 3: My wife is gone, which he said December ninth, and
Speaker 3: she goes missing December twenty fourth, so he predicted that.
Speaker 4: She was gonna be gone before she was gone. He's
Speaker 4: fucking guilty.
Speaker 3: Then he goes on Diane Sawyer and she's like, tell
Speaker 3: me about Connor's room. Connor is his unborn baby that
Speaker 3: they had the whole room decked out because it suppos
Speaker 3: to be born in a month. This baby's room is like.
Speaker 3: He's like, I can't go in there, and I'm not
Speaker 3: gonna go back in there till I have a little
Speaker 3: boy to put back in and that's before they find
Speaker 3: the body. So he's still pretending like they're gonna come back.
Speaker 1: The whole nation thinks that he's just the man who
Speaker 1: lost his wife.
Speaker 6: No.
Speaker 4: At this point, people are like bullshit.
Speaker 3: So he finally has to give an interview because he's
Speaker 3: been dodging interviews for weeks since finally they're like, dude,
Speaker 3: you look so guilty.
Speaker 4: Do an interview.
Speaker 3: So he does this interview, but he looked old. Only
Speaker 3: the bottom of his face moves. The top of his
Speaker 3: face never moves, never shows any expression. He's just like
Speaker 3: it's like a marionette his bottom. Watch it and it's disgusting.
Speaker 3: He sucks so much. He's such a fucking sociopath to murder.
Speaker 3: You're pregnant eight and a half months and they find oh,
Speaker 3: they find a journal entry from Lacey and she's like,
Speaker 3: you know, today I felt the baby kick and I
Speaker 3: put Scott's hand on it, and for the first time
Speaker 3: Scott could feel it. It's so nice to have someone
Speaker 3: else feel what I've been feeling alone for months now.
Speaker 3: And Scott didn't really react. He acted like he didn't
Speaker 3: care in par parentheses, but I know he does. It's
Speaker 3: like this guy didn't give a fuck. He's lying and
Speaker 3: so here's here's my problem. Amber Fry is lauded as
Speaker 3: a hero, which I will say she is because she
Speaker 3: her testimony really convicted him because they found the bodies,
Speaker 3: wash up and everything. But they in the bay where
Speaker 3: he was fishing, one hundred miles from Modesto where she
Speaker 3: went missing. So like it's everything's pointing to Scott in
Speaker 3: terms of circumstantially, but there's no like actual hard evidence
Speaker 3: to place to put him murdering her because he did
Speaker 3: it quietly, which is a quiet kill.
Speaker 4: As for a pussy.
Speaker 3: It's when there won't be any evidence it's a strangulation
Speaker 3: or it's a suffocation and anyway, so he so then
Speaker 3: Amber Fry because she gets him on tape. They record
Speaker 3: all these calls where she's like Scott, like you know,
Speaker 3: what are you doing? And he's lying about being in
Speaker 3: Like I want to be with you forever. Because the
Speaker 3: cops found her before she told him she knew about it.
Speaker 3: She's she's playing dumb, like she doesn't watch the games,
Speaker 3: so he's keeping up like he's just.
Speaker 4: This guy who lost his wife.
Speaker 3: She has no idea like, but she knows right, so
Speaker 3: she's recording all this stuff and then finally it gets
Speaker 3: lead to the press, so she has to be like, Scott,
Speaker 3: I know what's going on. Here's what I would have
Speaker 3: done if I were the cops, And tell me I'm
Speaker 3: not fucking brilliant. If you want to get a confession
Speaker 3: of Scott Peterson, have Amber Fry, who's the only one
Speaker 3: in his court right now, I mean his family believes
Speaker 3: is in the sense. Have Amber Fry. Go Scott, listen.
Speaker 3: I'm looking at the news. It looks like you did that,
Speaker 3: and honestly I don't want you to go to prison
Speaker 3: for it. If you did this, please let me help
Speaker 3: you cover it up. Let's go early in the morning.
Speaker 3: Tell me where you what you did with her. I
Speaker 3: will go comb the beaches and look for evidence of
Speaker 3: so that they don't find it first. Like I want you,
Speaker 3: I want to be with you, and I want to
Speaker 3: keep you out of prison. If you did this, I
Speaker 3: can forgive you. You did it for us, you did it
Speaker 3: for me and Aliah, her daughter. I would have sounded
Speaker 3: horny about the fact that he murdered his wife. I
Speaker 3: would have told Amber to get horny about it, because
Speaker 3: Scott is such a fucking idiot. All of a sudden,
Speaker 3: he literally thought that his wife's disappearance would just people
Speaker 3: would be like, oh, I guess she's gone.
Speaker 4: And then he could like move on with his life.
Speaker 3: So the room by the way that he said he
Speaker 3: can't go in anymore because it's until I have.
Speaker 4: A baby to put in that room.
Speaker 3: I can't even.
Speaker 4: Walk in it.
Speaker 3: They the cops hear that interview, and they go, let's
Speaker 3: get a warrant for let's let's search his house again
Speaker 3: and see what's going on in the house. He sold
Speaker 3: Lacey's car, her shit is strewn about everywhere, not waiting
Speaker 3: for his wife to come back. And his honors bedroom
Speaker 3: that was like this perfect angelic little nursery is strewn
Speaker 3: with shit. It is a storage room now. So this
Speaker 3: isn't a man waiting for his disappearing wife. He's such
Speaker 3: a fucking idiot. So I would have just made Amber
Speaker 3: sound horny for it.
Speaker 4: Huh.
Speaker 2: So just pause on your on your setting Amber up
Speaker 2: against Scott to like try to get a confession or whatever.
Speaker 2: So I think probably the police didn't want to do
Speaker 2: that because it would endanger her life in case he
Speaker 2: snapped or something.
Speaker 3: Great point, the cops should have paid for twenty four
Speaker 3: hour security for her during that time before they could
Speaker 3: get a confession.
Speaker 4: Like witness detection.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that would be total that what's that cost over
Speaker 3: a course of two months if that would take that long,
Speaker 3: because they're gonna get him, I mean, they know he's guilty.
Speaker 3: One hundred thousand dollars at most that would be worth
Speaker 3: it to them to spend to get her to to
Speaker 3: get a confession because it would have worked. So I
Speaker 3: was thinking about that, Yeah, she needs security because he
Speaker 3: would probably try to kill her, but he actually wouldn't
Speaker 3: have because he's such a fucking pussy. He's just like
Speaker 3: I just I hate him so much. Anyone who thinks
Speaker 3: he's innocent, it's like insane to me.
Speaker 4: He's in prison now.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, he got fucking death penalty, but then they
Speaker 3: overturned it in twenty twenty and now he's just sentenced
Speaker 3: to life without parole. But he's such a scum, and
Speaker 3: his poor family believes he's innocent, and they really seem
Speaker 3: like great people, and they just it just shows you
Speaker 3: the power of denial, Like you just can't imagine someone
Speaker 3: you love would do this to someone else that you love,
Speaker 3: and so you just have to think of a reason
Speaker 3: why you wouldn't, Like, why would he search the tithes.
Speaker 6: This is an instance where I think Lacey probably should
Speaker 6: have looked through his phone.
Speaker 1: I would have. I was it's justified, really good point.
Speaker 1: You're about to get murdered. I think it's okay she
Speaker 1: That's the thing.
Speaker 3: Chris was watching this with me, and he goes, is
Speaker 3: there any like, does Lacy ever tell her friends like
Speaker 3: this guy sucks or whatever? They were like, I go, no,
Speaker 3: there's really nothing except that diary entry. She was so
Speaker 3: in love with them, and that's what her mom says.
Speaker 3: It's really sad. But at the end of the thing,
Speaker 3: they say the number this is so tragic, but it
Speaker 3: just makes you realize the number one cause of death
Speaker 3: for pregnant women is homicide at the hands of.
Speaker 1: Out of all things, even pregnancy itself.
Speaker 3: I think I mean that's what it said. The number
Speaker 3: one cause of death in women who are pregnant is homicide.
Speaker 3: And then also Lacey's best friends at the end were like,
Speaker 3: you know, a lot's changed since then. We just tell
Speaker 3: each other everything now because we learned that we didn't
Speaker 3: know what was going on in our best friend's life.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh my god, this is what women
Speaker 3: have to do because of male unpredictable violence, no offense. Brian, like,
Speaker 3: this is not all men, hashtag whatever women we need
Speaker 3: to These women now have to like talk about the
Speaker 3: deep interworkings of their relationships with their friends in case
Speaker 3: they might get murdered by their husbands. It's so crazy
Speaker 3: to me. Yeah, and it's not men's fault, you guys. Yes,
Speaker 3: it's not all men obviously, But this isn't.
Speaker 6: To defend uh, Jordan Peterson now because I'm a man, Listen,
Speaker 6: having a baby's hard.
Speaker 1: I mean, he he didn't.
Speaker 4: Want, you know, Jordan Peterson Peterson.
Speaker 6: But Jordan's uh the same coin, right, Jordan Peterson is Wait?
Speaker 6: Is that that internet guy?
Speaker 4: Yeah, he's the guy that wait, Jordan.
Speaker 1: Peterson killed his wife in two thousand and three.
Speaker 3: Jordan Peterson Lizzie Coopermantal said that he has chronic Uh
Speaker 3: what's the what's the vocal fry?
Speaker 4: He really does.
Speaker 3: He has like a girl's vocal fry, the thing that
Speaker 3: like women are hated for so much, whether I talk
Speaker 3: like that, it's like he has chronic lu.
Speaker 6: He's got a weird voice. A lot of Internet famous
Speaker 6: people have weird voices. Kay yeah, oh yeah, like rfk uh,
Speaker 6: Charlie Kirk, a lot of people. I don't know, I
Speaker 6: can't think of that, but the other guy.
Speaker 4: Yeah, voices are a thing.
Speaker 3: It's I just can't believe that some people walk around
Speaker 3: with the voices that they have, And I just sometimes
Speaker 3: want to just.
Speaker 5: Like I will literally like hear a girl like talking
Speaker 5: like that, like and that's not it's like not her
Speaker 5: fault the voices like that, but like I just like
Speaker 5: want to walk around someday like with advice like this
Speaker 5: and like see.
Speaker 3: What people do, like because it's not that weird. It's
Speaker 3: it's not that to hear someone with a voice like that.
Speaker 6: If you weren't famous, I would say, one hundred percent
Speaker 6: do that for a day and as an as like
Speaker 6: a social experiment.
Speaker 5: Just like around like that, a voice like that's like
Speaker 5: I could.
Speaker 4: It's not that hard to do, but we could hit
Speaker 4: on a lot more.
Speaker 6: Yeah, possibly that's why they do it. It becomes an afficcation.
Speaker 3: Come here often. All right, we got to go to break.
Speaker 3: We'll be back with more upter this.
Speaker 4: What do you got, Brian?
Speaker 6: So I tried this thing a couple of days ago
Speaker 6: that I think you're going to really appreciate and probably
Speaker 6: even adopt.
Speaker 1: Oh I had something.
Speaker 6: I had something I wanted to say to someone that
Speaker 6: was like very effusive, complimentary, emotional. I just wanted to say,
Speaker 6: like how much I appreciated somebody. But I did not
Speaker 6: want to hear all of the shit that comes after it,
Speaker 6: like oh I under like thank you for saying that,
Speaker 6: Like oh you know I mean so much to you,
Speaker 6: blah blah, like as a response.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you didn't want them to have to reflexively give
Speaker 3: it back to you.
Speaker 6: Exactly or just like, you know, say whatever the bullshit is.
Speaker 6: So I called this person up and I said, listen,
Speaker 6: I'm going to tell you these things, and I'm going
Speaker 6: to hang up the phone. I do not want a response.
Speaker 6: I just want to tell you these things. So I went,
Speaker 6: I said all these things, I said, For like three minutes,
Speaker 6: I was like, I was getting a little choked up,
Speaker 6: and then I said, and that's what I want to say,
Speaker 6: and goodbye, and I hung up.
Speaker 1: Haven't talked to the person since.
Speaker 4: Okay. Interesting, I really like this.
Speaker 3: I don't think it's quite fair what you're doing, because
Speaker 3: it's like it's it is obviously you're doing something selfless
Speaker 3: in the sense that you're saying a bunch of compliments
Speaker 3: and you you literally want nothing back. But sometimes people need,
Speaker 3: in order to actually take in a compliment, need to
Speaker 3: say things like you're not giving them the opportunity to
Speaker 3: do the same to you. You know, I guess you are,
Speaker 3: because they could call you back and say the same
Speaker 3: thing and say just listen and don't fucking say a thing.
Speaker 4: They should do that. It's such an interesting thing. I I.
Speaker 3: You know, we you often get a text from someone
Speaker 3: you know that's like you don't have to write back
Speaker 3: to this. We've all gotten that before, or an email
Speaker 3: being like I and then you always do.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But I do like when people say that because when
Speaker 3: I say that, I really do mean it, and I
Speaker 3: just yeah, I think that's I like, I I think
Speaker 3: I will adopt that to be honest with you, because
Speaker 3: it is sometimes I don't want to tell people how
Speaker 3: they I feel about them because it's it's too emotional,
Speaker 3: it's too vulnerable. I think it really is probably what
Speaker 3: you're doing protecting you from like maybe crying and like hearing,
Speaker 3: oh absolutely like intimacy and because that's really uncomfortable to
Speaker 3: me too. And that's why a lot of times I
Speaker 3: will write how I feel about someone in a card,
Speaker 3: like that's always how I really, like if someone's birthday
Speaker 3: or like some event, like if I get a card,
Speaker 3: I will really go to town emotionally in a card, and
Speaker 3: then they cannot read it in front of me. They
Speaker 3: have to read it alone and like maybe at a
Speaker 3: time where they don't even feel like they can text
Speaker 3: me back. And then that is how I can do it.
Speaker 3: But it's it really is for me to like.
Speaker 1: Keep right, but I don't want to get back.
Speaker 4: I don't want to up crying and hugging.
Speaker 6: This is this is not like card appropriate like it
Speaker 6: was like no, but it's the same. I'm a huge
Speaker 6: fan of writing the emotional cards. I do it all
Speaker 6: the time. I do it not all the time. On occasion,
Speaker 6: I will do it if I really am feeling something, Yeah,
Speaker 6: and I'll know what.
Speaker 2: I just learned actually about that about journaling, which I mean,
Speaker 2: I knew it was like very healthy to do it,
Speaker 2: but I didn't realize that there's like an oxytocin response, oh,
Speaker 2: in your brain.
Speaker 1: That's when you when you journal it all when you Yeah.
Speaker 2: Like anytime you journal or write something, especially if it's
Speaker 2: like about your feelings or like you know, like your
Speaker 2: day and your thoughts and stuff, there's a release of oxytocin.
Speaker 6: No matter what you're right, even if you're writing something
Speaker 6: bad like I want to kill Probably not that.
Speaker 4: No, that that makes sense. I mean, journaling is so.
Speaker 1: Raspberry, you feel amazing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, journaling is pretty dope. I haven't done it for
Speaker 3: a really long time, but it is. It is the
Speaker 3: answer to a lot of things. And you don't want
Speaker 3: to hear it. But it kind of is the same.
Speaker 1: Meditation, just like can we stop? And I know I
Speaker 1: get it, it's.
Speaker 3: The no and it will work, but it's just I
Speaker 3: don't want to do it, and I or go outside
Speaker 3: and go for a walk, whatever it is, put down
Speaker 3: your phone. But journaling, it's it's just so embarrassing sometimes
Speaker 3: to do because you're just like, I'm just like writing
Speaker 3: myself so sometimes and I've I think I probably shaid
Speaker 3: this before. You write a letter to yourself from like
Speaker 3: God or whatever, and you just like say like, hey,
Speaker 3: I've cool that you've been doing this, or you like
Speaker 3: you just write someone you write from the perspective of
Speaker 3: someone else writing to you, and that's like a way
Speaker 3: to make it not feel so masturbatory, I guess.
Speaker 4: But yeah, that's that's a good one.
Speaker 3: I will say I got the fucking best dm of
Speaker 3: my life, maybe of my I think of my life.
Speaker 3: A couple days ago, final thought. I was driving home
Speaker 3: after two shows in Cape Girardo, which was, you know,
Speaker 3: one hundred miles away from Saint Louis, and so I
Speaker 3: was driving back to Saint Louis. I was in the
Speaker 3: car with Sean O'Brien, he was driving, and I just like, oh,
Speaker 3: was like okay, so we all know that I missed
Speaker 3: two shows in Vienna to see my girl Taylor, and
Speaker 3: I was gonna have a total of twenty two shows
Speaker 3: that I had been to, which is an important number
Speaker 3: in the end after she closes up in Vancouver. I
Speaker 3: would have been to twenty two which is a song
Speaker 3: she does, and it just was like a better number
Speaker 3: than nineteen or than twenty. But then I lost the
Speaker 3: two vienna once, so I was like, twenty, which is great,
Speaker 3: I got to the to the two.
Speaker 4: Whatever.
Speaker 6: It's got to be eras tour because I mean, I
Speaker 6: think I think in the future there'll be other tours
Speaker 6: and you'll get to twenty two.
Speaker 3: Now, it's got to be eras because all in all
Speaker 3: Taylor's shows I've been to now I guess one extra
Speaker 3: so but yeah, it's just eras, like this has just
Speaker 3: been such a long running tour. It's just like, I
Speaker 3: don't know, it's just feels I wanted twenty two.
Speaker 4: And whatever.
Speaker 3: I And also, I'm going to see this kid perform
Speaker 3: this on Sunday, so that kind of counts as like
Speaker 3: I think a half at least, because I think he's
Speaker 3: gonna do at least half of the show.
Speaker 4: It's so exciting.
Speaker 3: But he has to turn in early because he has
Speaker 3: school the next day. But I am I am driving
Speaker 3: two hours to go see an eight era old form
Speaker 3: Taylor Swift. Yeah, and I'm not going to be cute
Speaker 3: and be like I'm like, he's not a fan. His
Speaker 3: parents aren't fans, no one's I'm a fan of his.
Speaker 3: I'm literally going because this kid, I'll tell you it
Speaker 3: is because people might be interested if you want to
Speaker 3: follow him. He's gone viral in the swifty community for sure.
Speaker 3: Uh kellen k e. And this is run by his neighbor,
Speaker 3: not his parents, like his parents' friends, who are neighbors
Speaker 3: that have their permission. It's Kellen k E l l
Speaker 3: E N dot I T T Kellen I T kellen
Speaker 3: dot I T T. And he's this little kid who's
Speaker 3: just really has a great voice, great theatrics, dances like Taylor,
Speaker 3: sings like Taylor. I'm obsessed and I'm gonna go watch
Speaker 3: him perform in his deck in the backyard of a
Speaker 3: small town in Michigan. And but anyway, so driving home
Speaker 3: and I check my message requests, which is where like
Speaker 3: you get people writing you who you don't follow or
Speaker 3: I don't really understand it, but it's usually where the
Speaker 3: blue check marks land and or like endorsement deals or
Speaker 3: people being like we've noticed that your engagement needs to
Speaker 3: come up.
Speaker 1: Do you want to?
Speaker 4: Or this is message request?
Speaker 1: This is like deep, this three level.
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is where like if you have over I
Speaker 3: think ten thousand, you start getting a chance to have
Speaker 3: message requests. Anyway, It's it's just where celebrities who you
Speaker 3: don't follow will end up. So sometimes I find people
Speaker 3: like messaging me and I check it once every couple
Speaker 3: of days or whatever. And and but it's a lot
Speaker 3: of people with seven million followers, and they're guys like
Speaker 3: hanging by pools with sunglasses on that just say what's up, Nikki.
Speaker 3: And it's like, I don't go, who are you?
Speaker 4: And what do you do?
Speaker 3: Like this person's clearly bought followers, but seven million, I'm.
Speaker 1: Not kidding you. These guys all up like our twenty two.
Speaker 3: Year olds with seven million follows, Like it's I'll send
Speaker 3: some of you them to you. Brian's insane, and they.
Speaker 4: Just go sup, Nikki.
Speaker 3: And so anyway, this guy, I'm not gonna reveal who,
Speaker 3: but he goes, hey, I saw you're a fan of
Speaker 3: Taylor Swift and I might reveal this later after I
Speaker 3: get permission, and I am this big deal. He didn't
Speaker 3: say I'm a big deal, but he was like, you
Speaker 3: can have my you can feel free to use and
Speaker 3: bring some friends to my suite in this town. On
Speaker 3: these dates to the show or shows you want to
Speaker 3: go to, And I'm like, what the fuck? And I'm
Speaker 3: like this is so nice, but I can't go because
Speaker 3: I know her whole schedule, and if I have a
Speaker 3: weekend off, I would already be going, like I have
Speaker 3: every ticket to every show that I can go to already,
Speaker 3: and it's just not possible. So I go, let me
Speaker 3: just look at that weekend where am I like, maybe
Speaker 3: I can move some stuff or like whatever fain and illness,
Speaker 3: And it's Andrew's wedding And I'm like, oh, I had
Speaker 3: that weekend blocked up for Andrew's wedding, which is on Saturday, okay,
Speaker 3: And I go, where is his wedding two hours from
Speaker 3: where these shows are happening. So I said, uh, hell yeah,
Speaker 3: I'll go. I'm gonna go Friday to t Era's, drive
Speaker 3: two hours, go to Andrew's wedding, then drive two hours
Speaker 3: the next go to Aras again on Sunday.
Speaker 4: I'm getting my two in Wow.
Speaker 3: And I get to bring some friends with me in
Speaker 3: this box of this amazing guy who said that, you know,
Speaker 3: he was like, I just saw you talking about Taylor Swift,
Speaker 3: and you seem like someone so fun to meet.
Speaker 4: You can bring your boyfriend, like he knows.
Speaker 3: He's not trying to you know that. It's like he
Speaker 3: knows I have a boyfriend. He was like, we can
Speaker 3: get some phone books to sit on because I know
Speaker 3: he's short. So you saw my special clearly, like I
Speaker 3: think the all from my special and aw and and
Speaker 3: I'm going it's like, it's so amazed. And Taylor or Brenna,
Speaker 3: Andrew's fiance, has never seen eras and she is a
Speaker 3: huge swiftie. She just couldn't find a way to go.
Speaker 3: And so I write to Andrew and Brenna. I'm like, hey,
Speaker 3: what are you guys doing the day after your wedding?
Speaker 3: And they're like, we might go to blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: We don't really know yet. And I go, do you
Speaker 3: want to go see Ara's tour? And they're like what,
Speaker 3: And so Brenna starts crying. So the first night they're
Speaker 3: like an official couple, they get to go and it goes,
Speaker 3: I don't even care about my wedding, and I'm so
Speaker 3: excited that I get to take them for their wedding gift.
Speaker 3: And now I don't have to buy them a fucking
Speaker 3: toaster or whatever I was gonna do. Oh yeah, it's
Speaker 3: just so fun. I don't want to give away too much,
Speaker 3: but it's like you could probably figure it out if
Speaker 3: you really wanted to figure out when Andrew's getting married.
Speaker 3: I don't know IF's talked about it on this podcast,
Speaker 3: but like, yeah, it's because I don't want to give
Speaker 3: away who to give the tickets or whatever, because it's
Speaker 3: someone involved with whatever. But it's like so fucking cool.
Speaker 3: I can't believe it. Things happen for a reason. I'm
Speaker 3: gonna get twenty two shows again. I get to go,
Speaker 3: and I have to say, though, you know how I
Speaker 3: feel about a box seat.
Speaker 4: I love a box for.
Speaker 3: Like the people in the food, in the private bathroom
Speaker 3: and the whole thing. But I gotta get up close.
Speaker 3: So I think I'm gonna buy one ticket for the floor,
Speaker 3: and I think I'm gonna buy one front row ticket
Speaker 3: for each of the shows I'm going to just so
Speaker 3: like I can be in the box, but then I
Speaker 3: can go down to the floor like during torture.
Speaker 4: Oh, it's on all the things I want to And like.
Speaker 3: One ticket is like fourteen thousand dollars, Oh my god.
Speaker 3: But I'm like, I think I need to do it,
Speaker 3: And I think this is it's if I know all
Speaker 3: my friends are up in the box and they're having
Speaker 3: a good time, and this guy would be okay with
Speaker 3: me abandoning the box just for one or two.
Speaker 4: Sets or whatever.
Speaker 3: I might do that too, So I don't know, but
Speaker 3: I am so excited to go to Florida.
Speaker 1: We'll do it.
Speaker 6: Buy the ticket for the first show and then see
Speaker 6: how that goes. Don't buy a ticket for each show
Speaker 6: early unless it's possiah.
Speaker 4: I think he.
Speaker 3: Can't be mad at me about this, Like he has
Speaker 3: to understand that he's giving a drug addict, Like he's
Speaker 3: giving me some cocaine. But I smoke crack and I
Speaker 3: love the cocaine. Thank you so much for the piles
Speaker 3: and piles of cocaine. But I gotta get a little crack, okay.
Speaker 3: And it's dirty and it's expense, it's expensive, and it's
Speaker 3: shameful and I'm gonna I'm a little ashamed about it.
Speaker 6: It's like going to the bathroom to do coke at
Speaker 6: a party, Like I gotta go step out for a
Speaker 6: minute and then yeah, they come back.
Speaker 1: You're all wired, you'll understand you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, based on the city where we're going to see
Speaker 3: this happen. It's it's part of the culture there to
Speaker 3: to sneak off to the bathroom for some coke. So yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna skip sneak off to the bathroom to
Speaker 3: snort some tea Swift and by the way, freaking out
Speaker 3: about the new uh I can do it with the
Speaker 3: Broken Heart video that shows behind the scenes of the aristour.
Speaker 4: It's so good, it's so fun. Her outfits are so cute.
Speaker 3: I have so much to say about that, but I'll
Speaker 3: probably just talk about it on Instagram Live this weekend
Speaker 3: in Michigan. Come see us Battle Creek, Michigan Friday and Saturday.
Speaker 3: Anya and me will be there, and then Sunday I'm
Speaker 3: going to that airstore. We'll see you next week on
Speaker 3: the show. Thank you guys so much for listening. Thank
Speaker 3: you Brian, thank you.
Speaker 4: Noah, don't be cut Bye bye