WEBVTT - FULL SHOW: Do You Need A "Solo Dinner"? 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:02.040 From Hollywood to you. 0:00:02.279 --> 0:00:06.440 Thank you for listening to us. Air on Air with 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:07.720 a Ryan Seacrest. 0:00:09.520 --> 0:00:13.319 All right, you always kiss FM. Good morning, sisty Tani 0:00:13.480 --> 0:00:14.320 got the back room. 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:18.799 Hi, everybody got everybody see everybody? Hi, high high. 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:22.560 Uh, let's see clouds this morning, sunshine later highs in 0:00:22.600 --> 0:00:26.599 the low seventies and low eighties inland. Uh. We're paying 0:00:26.640 --> 0:00:29.880 your bills. And also, if your spouse makes this facial expression, 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:33.080 then a divorce is coming. That's going to be this hour. 0:00:33.760 --> 0:00:40.080 Do you make faces when your spouse says something you 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:41.880 disagree with or you get into a little bit of 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:45.080 an argument. Do you over dramatize your expressions? 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:48.519 I probably do, yes, I do one under Give me 0:00:48.560 --> 0:00:50.720 an example of what you do and is it? Is 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:53.840 it good? Or like, let me see it? Like a grunt, like, 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:59.160 oh just listen. I think I do it to you too. 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:02.200 It was a tougher you to three examples. 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:03.040 Tell me what's yours? 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:07.640 I'm like, but babe, but babe, babe, Oh God, I 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:11.480 like Sysney's better, Fabe. 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:13.319 I'd rather be like, oh d why you don't listen 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:13.520 to me? 0:01:15.560 --> 0:01:18.120 Man? I just store them off. Oh wow, you know 0:01:18.360 --> 0:01:21.600 you're Michael has a lot. He's a calm dude. I 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:22.720 could tell you a lot. 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:24.440 I feel like Sney gets more mad. 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:26.600 Yeah, he was well prepared before when he asked my 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:28.840 dad for you know, marriage with me. 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:30.120 You don't with me. 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:35.320 In my relationship, it's all about the clock. I just 0:01:35.400 --> 0:01:37.440 want to know, like, if we're going to go somewhere, 0:01:38.440 --> 0:01:41.880 will it be thirteen minutes or thirty two minutes until 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:43.280 we can walk towards the car. 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:43.960 I don't. 0:01:44.240 --> 0:01:47.240 I don't care, but I need to have because I'm 0:01:47.240 --> 0:01:50.040 playing it all out like I'm producing the evening. So 0:01:50.080 --> 0:01:52.360 I just need to understand, you know, don't tell me 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:54.400 if it's twelve, it's thirty eight, it could be forty two. 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:56.480 But give me a time so I know when we 0:01:56.520 --> 0:01:58.720 can approach to produce the evening. 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:03.160 That's the problem. Yes, I don't, right, but I do. 0:02:03.320 --> 0:02:05.760 I know, and I think it's better I do than 0:02:05.760 --> 0:02:06.080 I don't. 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:06.360 I do. 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:07.880 I love that you do. That's awesome. 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:10.560 I want to produced evening and knowing exactly where we're 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:12.040 going to be at what time and if we're going 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:13.560 to go to the second place and all that. 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:15.920 I love that. And sometimes the food doesn't come, but 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:18.720 we have to go home to bed. Take it together. 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:20.320 You gotta wrap it up. 0:02:20.360 --> 0:02:20.520 Guys. 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:20.680 We did. 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:24.239 Sorry, we gotta go. Time to get approached the vehicle. 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:27.320 Uh yeah, I can't. I can't separate like that. I 0:02:27.360 --> 0:02:28.880 was talking to somebody about this the other day. I 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:31.880 can't separate like the way I run my brain at 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:33.720 work versus the way I do in my real life. 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:35.360 But I'm trying to make that a positive in my 0:02:35.440 --> 0:02:37.000 sales and marketing tape of myself. 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:41.639 I it's great. Schedule is not about do you want 0:02:41.639 --> 0:02:41.880 to do that? 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:45.200 It's I got a plan. Yeah right, I had a 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:49.760 backup plan at him. Now, Ruby, she went to you 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:53.120 wanna and she was faced with the choice, and she 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:55.320 made the choice to do what Ruby. 0:02:55.560 --> 0:02:59.960 I went on a solo dinner, a very dinner. 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:03.760 It was just why is this a topic here now? 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:07.160 Because it made me realize I hadn't done a solo 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:09.400 dinner like that in a really long time. It wasn't 0:03:09.440 --> 0:03:11.480 like a casual lunch where you just go, you know, 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:15.160 like you're sitting at sweet Greens or something like that 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:16.720 and you're just eating salad quickly. 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:17.640 It was like they. 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:19.880 Bring out your food, they bring out your drinks, like 0:03:19.919 --> 0:03:21.000 a sit down meal. 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:23.720 Dude, did they say what they do to me often 0:03:23.760 --> 0:03:26.240 if I were to be waiting for someone or pretending 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:28.520 they're coming, then lying and saying they canceled, Do they 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:29.920 say are you expecting anyone? 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:32.639 No, they asked me if they'd like, if they're like, 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:33.960 would you like us to remove the. 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:37.000 Red like the other plate and to basically clear the table? 0:03:37.000 --> 0:03:39.480 And I was like, uh yeah, But then I realized 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:40.440 how weird it was. 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:41.800 No, No, No, it's not. 0:03:42.240 --> 0:03:46.200 My insecurities run so deep about eating alone that I 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:48.520 will actually say I'm not so sure. They might they're 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:50.960 running a little bit late at work. It might might 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:52.120 not make it. I'll let you know. 0:03:52.600 --> 0:03:55.000 And then phone call, fake phone call. 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:57.320 No, I didn't have my phone. That was a thing 0:03:58.160 --> 0:03:59.560 dog raw dogging my. 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:01.520 Dinner. 0:04:01.720 --> 0:04:02.880 So then I couldn't even. 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:06.160 Like pretend or scroll or text or I just was like. 0:04:06.160 --> 0:04:09.280 Sitting there crazy, And you do look at other people 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:10.280 and judge, Yes. 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:12.480 I was just looking at it was two other couples. 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:14.920 There was two other couples there, and what can you 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:15.640 tell us about them? 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:16.080 Nothing? 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:18.080 They were celebrating a birthday. So it made it also 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:20.800 a little like weirder for me because I'm like Wow, 0:04:20.880 --> 0:04:23.960 look at them like they're you know, and then look 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:24.279 at me. 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:27.640 Yeah, but that's all right. Maybe they're not happy. I 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:30.000 mean I see couples in the unhappy solo party. 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:31.360 One maybe talk to each other. 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:35.440 Yeah, I do have this weird thing. Tanya knows this. 0:04:35.560 --> 0:04:37.120 She's gonna jump in on and put a pin in 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:39.080 and want to take it to a therapist. But I 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:40.560 have this thing of like I don't want to be 0:04:40.640 --> 0:04:43.800 alone out in the wild really usually like grocery store. Yes, 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:45.400 I'm happy to be alone, but I don't want to 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:47.720 really be alone always when I'm having my meal out 0:04:48.160 --> 0:04:50.560 or something like that. And also if I'm triving for 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:51.800 work and I got to get something brought to the 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:56.000 room because I'm rushing coffee. 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:56.400 Like how many am I two? 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:00.480 And I turned the shower on, like if somebody's in 0:05:00.520 --> 0:05:01.440 the shower when they bring it. 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:08.360 Not that a line. It's like a whole charade, you do, see. I. 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:10.799 I also would have pretended that I got the phone 0:05:10.800 --> 0:05:13.000 call in the restaurant that she had to cancel. 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:15.520 And then you would have told the server the same time, 0:05:16.240 --> 0:05:18.320 did you have any is there a signal can have 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:19.480 something to go for her? 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:23.040 Yeah, it's so good. Let's take half of mine to 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:26.320 go very busy, very busy. 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:28.279 I love eating alone. I do at least once a week. 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:31.279 But someone, this is the difference. 0:05:31.320 --> 0:05:33.360 When you're with someone all the time in a partnership, 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:34.120 you love being alone. 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:37.919 When you're alone, you don't want to be alone alone. No, 0:05:38.120 --> 0:05:40.279 I do know. Don't make me scream. 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:43.320 It's because I just have such a full house. Yeah, 0:05:43.320 --> 0:05:47.440 you're right, I do like same time because it's like 0:05:47.720 --> 0:05:50.960 my whole or telling you exactly. So when I'm home alone, 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:52.240 when I go out, I want to be alone. 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:54.880 I'm alone. I can go home for that. Yeah, that's crazy. 0:05:56.839 --> 0:05:59.239 Why don't you call me? I'll come up with you 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:03.200 because I work you all dan? What about me? 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:05.400 Well, if I said that to Sistney, you want to 0:06:05.400 --> 0:06:12.720 hear what I'm gonna say to you. Yes, anyway, rub Plus, 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:16.440 your traveling is fine. Yes, Now, I didn't know about this. 0:06:16.480 --> 0:06:18.800 Did you guys know about setting your like wake up 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:19.920 time to a sleep cycle? 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:22.920 I heard about people doing it, and I know about 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:24.320 like sleep cycles. 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:26.359 In general, but no, have you ever done it? No, 0:06:26.560 --> 0:06:29.680 I've tried, I've never I don't know that. 0:06:29.800 --> 0:06:31.960 I honestly, we talked about I think everything here over 0:06:32.000 --> 0:06:34.120 the last two decades, I don't. 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:35.120 Remember this conversation. 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:39.479 Leave it to the next generation over there to set 0:06:39.520 --> 0:06:42.760 their alarm to sleep cycle. So this is what you're doing, Sophia, 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:44.440 explain out works and why you're doing it. 0:06:44.480 --> 0:06:46.800 Setting your alarm to a sleep cycle. Yeah. 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:49.560 So now that I come in with you guys every 0:06:49.560 --> 0:06:51.880 morning and we start really early, I've had to like 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:55.479 adjust my sleep a lot. So I've learned that when 0:06:55.480 --> 0:06:56.960 we go to sleep, we go through four to six 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:59.680 stages of sleep, and those are like your sleep cycles. 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:03.960 So if you wake up like in the middle of 0:07:03.960 --> 0:07:05.839 one of those sleep cycles, you're gonna wake up feeling 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:06.600 groggy and. 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:08.400 Just more tired and not ready for the day. 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:10.640 But if you time it perfectly, and each of these 0:07:10.640 --> 0:07:13.160 cycles are ninety minutes long, So if you time it 0:07:13.200 --> 0:07:16.560 perfectly to where you finish a cycle at the end 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:18.440 of the ninety minutes, and you wake up and set 0:07:18.440 --> 0:07:20.960 your alarm to that time, you wake up feeling refreshed, 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:23.720 ready to go, like you're not tired, even though it's 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:25.680 like early in the morning, You'll still be like, good 0:07:25.720 --> 0:07:25.960 to go. 0:07:26.280 --> 0:07:27.360 This is impossible. 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:30.040 I don't sleep in forty five or ninety minute segments. 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:31.520 But you know what I know, I do not. 0:07:32.160 --> 0:07:35.760 No, he gets up those pe No that too, But 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:36.400 I don't sleep. 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:38.800 I sleep like in twelve minute increments or twenty minute 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:41.000 in of course you do. So how would I set 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:42.880 my alarm for one of those delios? Whe I'm going 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:44.040 to come out of my sleep cycle. I have to 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:45.360 wake up to set my alarm to know what I'm 0:07:45.360 --> 0:07:47.080 gonna wake up, Like, how do you know when you're 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:47.640 gonna wake up? 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:49.880 That's the problem I have with this. So listen something. 0:07:50.000 --> 0:07:51.960 If you have like a specific time the next day 0:07:51.960 --> 0:07:53.920 you want to wake up, you can kind of like 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:58.080 count backwards in ninety minute increments of like how long 0:07:58.120 --> 0:07:58.560 you want. 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:00.480 To sleep, like six hours, seven hours. 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:04.800 You basically see science that you get exactly ninety minutes 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:05.400 every cycle. 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:07.520 To me, I don't think, I know. I don't. 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:10.240 For someone that sleeps through the whole cycle, I think, yes, 0:08:10.600 --> 0:08:12.320 you get up, science sleep. 0:08:12.560 --> 0:08:13.280 Not when I get up. 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:16.240 It's just me flipping, like I flip every fifteen, twelve, 0:08:16.280 --> 0:08:16.760 twenty eight. 0:08:16.760 --> 0:08:18.720 So you're still sleeping. I'm not. 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:20.960 I know I'm away because I make a moan when 0:08:20.960 --> 0:08:22.640 I have to move my pillow to the other side. 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:26.840 Really my hug pillow. That's fascinating. When I fall asleep, 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:29.080 I don't wake up and that alarm goes off. Y'all 0:08:29.080 --> 0:08:29.920 should see me sleep. 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:32.800 You have a huggy pillow and you've set up a 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:34.680 camera put it on the time last. 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:37.000 From I don't mind, if that's what you want. I 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:39.200 do have a huggy pillow. Yes, I so just to 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:42.199 reb I love that. Yeah, it's like this. 0:08:46.160 --> 0:08:48.000 Yeah, it's like a third person in the bed. 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:50.280 But I have to flip my huggy to the other side. 0:08:50.280 --> 0:08:53.160 When I flip, yeaes and I go, oh, Now. 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:55.720 If you get another huggy pillow on the other side, no, 0:08:55.840 --> 0:08:57.120 but then I run into's like a bumper. 0:08:57.160 --> 0:08:59.920 I run into it. A great idea. 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:01.800 Yeah, I only know that because I did it when 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:03.480 I was pregnant. I had so many pillows that every 0:09:03.520 --> 0:09:05.280 time i'd have to move over, I'd have to move 0:09:05.280 --> 0:09:05.720 the pillows. 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:07.400 So and then I just got two pillows on each side. 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:10.000 That doesn't work. It's very busy on that side. I 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:14.120 can't intrude on space in case anybody shows up. All right, 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:16.719 I don't know, Sophia, good luck with that. But I'm 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:19.000 just saying if that works for you, great, I just 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:21.120 don't know that it's perfect ninety minutes every time you 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:25.959 have a sleep cycle for me, we heard you. What 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:26.760 great conversation. 0:09:26.880 --> 0:09:27.680 Thank you, it's kiss. 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:29.040 I've ever got a quote of the day on the 0:09:29.040 --> 0:09:32.160 way all right, So, facial expressions, body language can say 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:35.960 a lot. Like you know when your partner is mad 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:38.240 at you, just by their body language, like you can 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:39.880 tell something wrong if you ask me, they say no, 0:09:39.920 --> 0:09:42.839 everything's fine, but their body language tells you everything right. 0:09:43.240 --> 0:09:45.720 So there's a very famous psychologist that says he can 0:09:45.800 --> 0:09:50.559 predict divorce with ninety four percent accuracy. If your partner 0:09:50.600 --> 0:09:53.960 makes this facial expression, do you think it is all. 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:55.720 The time or just like once once? 0:09:55.800 --> 0:10:00.600 Ever it's I don't know, once or more couple times, 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:05.120 but it's coming. If you see this expression, you want 0:10:05.160 --> 0:10:05.800 to guess what it is. 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:11.000 I don't like a snarky look. I don't know. That's it. 0:10:11.040 --> 0:10:12.319 You got it? Yeah, that's it. 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:16.040 Basically contempt. Contempt is the word. But if your partner 0:10:16.160 --> 0:10:19.120 smirks at you with one side of the mouth raised, 0:10:19.520 --> 0:10:20.240 you know that look. 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:23.320 I don't know. 0:10:23.960 --> 0:10:25.319 Maybe it's a good thing that I don't know. 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:26.600 Maybe if you're not here with that look, it is 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.840 a good thing. But you know that's that one sided smirk. 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:33.360 Apparently your marriage is in real trouble. Like it's very 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:35.040 annoying that look. If you get it, if you know 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:38.520 when people have made it, it's very annoying. It's like 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:42.320 when someone acts like they look or are better than you. 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:46.200 They make a facial expression, this is it God, like 0:10:46.240 --> 0:10:47.160 you're beneath them. 0:10:47.320 --> 0:10:49.680 Yeah, or there beneath you. 0:10:50.200 --> 0:10:52.680 It's not anger, it's just disrespect. Like they don't angry, 0:10:53.120 --> 0:10:56.360 they just look like they're acting and are better than you. 0:10:56.440 --> 0:10:58.079 It's derogatory and demeaning. 0:10:58.200 --> 0:11:01.440 And that right there, when there's no respect, that's the 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:03.200 end of the marriage. I think it's over. 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:07.640 Contempt is like a big word. Uh is that big? 0:11:08.120 --> 0:11:08.280 No? 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:09.760 But I mean like I feel like I've heard a 0:11:09.800 --> 0:11:12.000 lot of people talking about contempt. 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:17.760 Okay in my algorithm, Well, they're in trouble with their marriage. 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:23.120 Today's quote some people don't like you because your spirit 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:28.760 irritates their demons. My dear goodness makes them feel bad 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:29.520 about themselves. 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:33.319 So ke wow sicity with the headlines what do you 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:36.600 have this FM headlines with siciny, Well. 0:11:36.440 --> 0:11:40.640 The Cineramadome Theater moved closer to reopening after the city 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:44.040 appeared likely to approve a conditional use permit for the 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:49.280 iconic Hollywood venue. Around six hundred goats grazed on dry 0:11:49.400 --> 0:11:53.360 brush in the Arroyo Seco community of Pasadena yesterday to 0:11:53.440 --> 0:11:57.480 help reduce the fire risk. Grocery prices jumped again in April, 0:11:57.600 --> 0:12:01.560 driving driven by high fuel costs and rising prizes on 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:05.240 things like produce, beef, and coffee. And the Dodgers will 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:08.559 host their thirteenth annual Pride Night on Friday and unveil 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:14.120 a permanent display to honor LGBTQ trailblazers during the pregame ceremonies. 0:12:14.200 --> 0:12:16.960 One of two point sevens Kiss FM. All right, let's 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:20.120 talk about sharing locations. Tanya isn't even asking to share 0:12:20.240 --> 0:12:22.160 locations with me? For I don't know as long as 0:12:22.160 --> 0:12:25.120 you could share locations, I've denied the request. I don't 0:12:25.200 --> 0:12:29.160 need that, you know, call me, text me, message me. 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:31.320 Is it we done right now? 0:12:31.400 --> 0:12:31.520 No? 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:33.320 I was counting how many people I follow with share 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:36.160 my location with, and fourteen. 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:39.840 I was right, thirty seven literally to the number. But 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:41.199 isn't that too much information? 0:12:41.520 --> 0:12:43.800 Now? Joe's in the back room. You have a former 0:12:43.920 --> 0:12:46.360 friend that still has your location? 0:12:47.360 --> 0:12:49.800 Yes, So in college I feel like you end up 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:52.160 with everyone's location, like random girls I would meet in 0:12:52.200 --> 0:12:54.600 the bathroom, you know, let me make sure. 0:12:54.480 --> 0:12:57.120 You get home sick. But I haven't talked to them 0:12:57.120 --> 0:12:59.600 in years and they can still see what I'm up to. 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:03.560 Can you just drop them? Yes? Okay, why don't you 0:13:03.640 --> 0:13:04.400 just drop them? 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:06.000 So that's where the issue comes in. 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:08.600 So after graduating, I did a little bit of cleansing, 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.480 you know, nothing personal, just I don't talk to you anymore. 0:13:11.559 --> 0:13:14.400 And this friend specifically, she lives in a different city, 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:16.480 so if I'm in danger, she's not going to get to. 0:13:16.480 --> 0:13:17.560 Me anytime soon. 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:21.480 But she noticed that I unshared, and so the first 0:13:21.520 --> 0:13:24.520 time she texts me since graduating was to say, Jesse, 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:26.040 did you and share your location with me? 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:28.920 Oh my gosh, this is too much? And then you 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:30.080 say yes, I did. 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:31.280 And so I told her. 0:13:31.320 --> 0:13:34.080 I was like, it was nothing, I explain, not trying 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:36.960 to make it personal and create tension, right exactly. 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:38.959 And so I tell her it's nothing personal, and her 0:13:39.000 --> 0:13:41.440 response back was okay, share it back with me. 0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:45.559 So me, no, this, but what what do you want 0:13:45.559 --> 0:13:47.040 to know for you don't even live near me. Why 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:48.560 does she want to know where you are? What is 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:50.360 that about? It's more about her than you. She just 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:52.400 doesn't want to. It's the ego of her feeling like 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:53.959 she's been dropped or unfollowed. 0:13:54.040 --> 0:13:56.480 I just feel and exactly I feel like nowadays that's 0:13:56.559 --> 0:13:59.240 like the new form of you cannot unshare your location 0:13:59.280 --> 0:14:01.640 with somebody in my or how long it's been, unless 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:03.520 that is your sign to let them know you are 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:04.760 out of my life. 0:14:04.960 --> 0:14:07.640 And I think that's how she took it as. 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:09.880 I think this is why I don't share locations. This 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:11.400 is why I didn't get a dog for a long time, 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:13.199 but I ended up doing that. But it's a longer story. 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:15.800 But the reason I'll share locations, don't. I have pictures 0:14:15.840 --> 0:14:17.599 of all of my relationships on my Instagram, Like I 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:19.400 think you're all still there. I say, I follow all 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:22.480 of everyone right, Yeah, me too, taking stuff down and 0:14:22.560 --> 0:14:25.840 dropping stuff. So once you get in, you could be 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:29.800 in for quite a long time. So siciny, yes, you 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:32.560 got thirty eight people you're gonna fall and follow you 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:33.080 for life. 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:35.000 I'm fine with that. People have moved away to live. 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:38.240 In Jersey it's fine until they become not your friend, 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:42.880 which is the situation here. Yeah, just let it go, Josie, 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:45.760 let it go. It's just stuption locations with random people. 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:47.480 Now I'm pick here, Now I'm picky. 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:52.800 Okay, Well, good selective, selective location. All right, thanks for 0:14:52.840 --> 0:14:55.840 being here. We've got clouds this morning, sunshine later. Highs 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:58.520 in the low seventies and eighties Inland, some nice temperatures. 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:02.400 Tanya with a trending about Hailey Bieber using the best 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:04.720 word to describe being a woman. 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:07.680 Go ahead, Yes, So Hailey Bieber is getting real about 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:10.760 the last year of her life. Within twelve months, this 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:14.400 is crazy. She welcomed her first baby, Jack Blues, and 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:18.280 then she sold her skincare company Road for one billion dollars, 0:15:18.360 --> 0:15:21.960 all within the same twelve months, like window. And so 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:24.640 she did an interview and she used this word to 0:15:24.680 --> 0:15:28.400 describe kind of her experience. She said, she felt stretched, 0:15:28.880 --> 0:15:30.520 And I've never used that word, but I think it's 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:35.160 like the perfect way to describe womanhood is just like stretch. 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:35.440 She said. 0:15:35.440 --> 0:15:37.680 The biggest identity shift that you go through in your 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:40.560 life is becoming a parent. She's turning thirty this year 0:15:40.600 --> 0:15:42.320 and looking back on it. She said she wouldn't change 0:15:42.360 --> 0:15:44.880 a thing, and she basically said, it's really hard. It 0:15:44.920 --> 0:15:46.840 was hard to do all of these major things at 0:15:46.880 --> 0:15:49.360 one time, but it did strengthen her. And I love 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:51.120 that because I feel like a lot of people say, 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:52.840 as a woman, you kind of have to like pick 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:56.760 a lane, baby or business, family, or career, And it's 0:15:56.800 --> 0:15:59.680 really cool that she's kind of talking about her experience 0:15:59.800 --> 0:16:02.440 of kind of becoming those two things at the exact 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:02.880 same time. 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:08.200 Have you never used the word stretched, like stretched? Yeah, 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:10.480 I've never said I've never used the word stretched. I 0:16:10.480 --> 0:16:14.560 feel stretched. I always say stressed or overwhelmed. What about depleted? 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:16.880 That's a that's another word that I think describes how 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:17.560 people can feel. 0:16:17.600 --> 0:16:21.040 You feel depleted. I use it emotionally, depleted, exhausted. But 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:24.400 those are the same as stretched, respectfully, No, they're not. 0:16:24.560 --> 0:16:26.240 They're not the same respectfully back. 0:16:26.280 --> 0:16:28.120 But I'm just thinking, like, these are terms every wonder 0:16:28.120 --> 0:16:30.120 if you use any of those terms, which would also 0:16:30.120 --> 0:16:33.760 help describe the feeling of being pulled, and you're saying 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:36.480 being pulled in different directions, yes, but also not having 0:16:36.480 --> 0:16:37.880 to pick a lane. I didn't know she sold her 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:41.240 company for one billion dollars yadline of cosmetics. 0:16:41.320 --> 0:16:41.560 Huge. 0:16:41.600 --> 0:16:44.040 Feel like that would make you stretch less once you 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:45.680 sell a company for a one billion. 0:16:45.440 --> 0:16:48.440 Yeah, right, right, here you go. I'm out. I'm out. 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:50.680 My stretching is only going to be in the yoga class. Yeah, 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:51.280 coming up. 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:54.600 Got some tickets to see Olivia Udrigo playing match game. 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:56.160 If you want to play the match game, get in 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:59.040 here and we'll play together. All right, it's time to 0:16:59.040 --> 0:17:02.400