Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effects. And just like that, we're back
Speaker 1: with yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl Jess Hilarious. Look,
Speaker 1: I don't want you all to stop calling me no
Speaker 1: doctor Hilarious or or Dr Jessa nothing. But I really
Speaker 1: be feeling like I'm helping you all. I know I
Speaker 1: say this every week, but it never gets old to me.
Speaker 1: When I opened up my b MS from the Carefully
Speaker 1: Reckless page and you guys are telling me, oh my god, Jess,
Speaker 1: you've helped me. Oh my god, I did sit down
Speaker 1: and have a conversation. Oh my god, things are so
Speaker 1: much better now. I only had a few people tell
Speaker 1: me that their situation is still the same, but that's
Speaker 1: because they really, really really are in love and they
Speaker 1: just want to see it through. And some people want
Speaker 1: to see it through. And sometimes people have to go
Speaker 1: through with their journey to see what wasn't good for them.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it's not even what somebody else telling you what
Speaker 1: you can do is the answer. No no, no no no.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you just have to go through things for yourself.
Speaker 1: But I love the people that I am able to help.
Speaker 1: I love hearing that feedback that I was able to
Speaker 1: help you guys, and I love hearing the other feedback
Speaker 1: too that I wasn't able to help. That just means
Speaker 1: you need some professional help. Okay, some licensed professional help,
Speaker 1: because I think I'm pretty professional. What y'all think, let
Speaker 1: me know, So we're gonna jump right in. This is
Speaker 1: a long story, mind you, but it is a good one.
Speaker 1: This woman submitted voice notes, and I mean her situation
Speaker 1: is just, oh my god, up and down crazy. It's
Speaker 1: like a ball of confusion that just unravels before our ears.
Speaker 1: So listen and listen carefully because it's rather long. So
Speaker 1: this may be the only one I get to cover today,
Speaker 1: but trust me, this one story is worth it. All right. Hey,
Speaker 1: j I'm gon trying to keep destroying short, but I
Speaker 1: definitely need you to fix my mess. Okay, So a
Speaker 1: little back story. I moved to Charlotte five years ago
Speaker 1: from Baltimore, and I met a maybe a year after
Speaker 1: I moved here, and we have been good up until
Speaker 1: ten months ago and all went left out of really
Speaker 1: out of nowhere. You know, when they say you don't
Speaker 1: have to go looking for stuff, it just falls in
Speaker 1: your lap sometimes, So that's what happened. So we were inconsistent,
Speaker 1: so it was off and on. But we care for
Speaker 1: each other. We love each other. He never went a
Speaker 1: day without telling me how much he loved me. But
Speaker 1: we never made it an official official but that definitely
Speaker 1: was an understanding. We definitely had a situation ship, We
Speaker 1: talked about having kids, all of that. It just we
Speaker 1: was never consistent. Yes, I talked to other people on
Speaker 1: the side, but he was my main person. We're both
Speaker 1: in our late thirties. He wanted more, but in the
Speaker 1: back of my head, I always felt like there was
Speaker 1: something he was not always been up from me about.
Speaker 1: He's been married before, so he used to say that
Speaker 1: he's not rushing into anything, but he knew he wanted
Speaker 1: to get married again, but he wanted to get on everything,
Speaker 1: like a house and all of that stuff first before
Speaker 1: he settled down again. He would like to say, because
Speaker 1: his ex wife basically she took everything and he was
Speaker 1: like living in the car and all of that stuff,
Speaker 1: so he wanted to have his own before he settled
Speaker 1: down again. Okay, whatever, I hear you, But he always
Speaker 1: made me feel like I was that one like when
Speaker 1: those things happened, because he always kept me in a loop,
Speaker 1: was buying a house, all of that. So he made
Speaker 1: me feel like I was that one. But again I
Speaker 1: always felt something still wasn't right. So let's get to
Speaker 1: this real story why I need you to fix my mask.
Speaker 1: So one night ten months ago, I went over his house,
Speaker 1: and when I got there, I just kept saying some
Speaker 1: lame right, and I would just keep asking them, like
Speaker 1: what you do different in here? I always used to
Speaker 1: tell him. For him to be a single guy living
Speaker 1: on his own, his house definitely didn't just look like
Speaker 1: a bachelor's bad look like my body had decorated his house.
Speaker 1: He had a woman's touch, I would say. But he
Speaker 1: used to always tell me I was tripping anyway. When
Speaker 1: I would stay with him, I would spending night. He
Speaker 1: would get up and go to work, leave me there.
Speaker 1: I would get up whenever I was ready to get
Speaker 1: head out to go to work or whatever to go
Speaker 1: back home. He always left me in his house without
Speaker 1: any problem. So this one particular night, and it maybe
Speaker 1: been like eleven o'clock or so, man, he made a
Speaker 1: call me like, yeah, I gotta get up early in
Speaker 1: the morning, around three o'clock to be the work by
Speaker 1: whatever time. And I'm like, okay, but he made the
Speaker 1: comment to make it seem like he wanted me to leave,
Speaker 1: because he said something like, now I want you to
Speaker 1: have to get up at three in the morning, And
Speaker 1: I'm saying to myself, any other time you have to
Speaker 1: get up or whatever time you left me here, and
Speaker 1: I would just see myself out. But you know, I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm not even gonna question it because I'm
Speaker 1: never gonna bag somebody for me to stay. I got
Speaker 1: my own place. I take my ass home. So that's
Speaker 1: what I did. But it bothered me so much. The
Speaker 1: next day, I'm at work, but I'm thinking about it,
Speaker 1: and so I said something to him. I'm like, what's
Speaker 1: the difference why all of us are now I need
Speaker 1: to go home instead of just staying the night, even
Speaker 1: if you got to get up early, And he like, no, baby,
Speaker 1: you know I love you. I didn't want you to
Speaker 1: get up and leave them. You know I don't like
Speaker 1: for you to go home in the middle of the night.
Speaker 1: You could have stayed. You should have just said something,
Speaker 1: I would have rather you stayed. And I'm like, that's bullshit,
Speaker 1: because if you would have rather me stay, you wouldn't
Speaker 1: even had commented that you had to get up at
Speaker 1: three o'clock in the morning. You don't want me to
Speaker 1: have to get up, or you could have been like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I gotta get up at three in the morning, but
Speaker 1: of course see your way out whenever you get ready. Um,
Speaker 1: he's like, wow, that's why we need to communicate. I
Speaker 1: tell you all the time, speak up if you feel
Speaker 1: some type of way to speak up. I went a kid,
Speaker 1: you could have stayed. You already know you could have stayed.
Speaker 1: So he does this thing where if I bring something
Speaker 1: to his attention, if I say something, he likes to
Speaker 1: switch it up and then play victim or act like
Speaker 1: I'm tripping like he likes to fuss and talk over me.
Speaker 1: So he finds a way to switch up the story
Speaker 1: like he always does, and talk about the house and
Speaker 1: how he gonna be ready to settle down and move
Speaker 1: me in. Like he does that, he will switch up
Speaker 1: the story and did try to start saying stuff he
Speaker 1: thinks I want to hear, but that ship was still
Speaker 1: on my mind, so I didn't let it go. So
Speaker 1: for some reason, something told me to go to his Instagram.
Speaker 1: Now every time he posts something, he has like hundreds
Speaker 1: of comments under everything he posted majority of my females
Speaker 1: and it's like with a bunch of heart emojis and
Speaker 1: stuff which I don't I don't care. I told him
Speaker 1: he got his little fans. Whatever. But I clicked on
Speaker 1: this one particular page. So what drew me to this
Speaker 1: one particular page was the person does nails Now. He's always, like,
Speaker 1: really been into females having their nails and stuff done,
Speaker 1: to the point where he would tell me was shape
Speaker 1: to get and when I say shapes, he would say
Speaker 1: coughing stiletto. He would say, um it like he knew
Speaker 1: stuff that most men don't know about nails. And I
Speaker 1: asked him one time, like why do you know so
Speaker 1: much about nails? And he'd be like, don't forget. I
Speaker 1: was married at one time. I did pay for my
Speaker 1: wife to get her nails and stuff done. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: even if you did pay for your wife to get
Speaker 1: her nails and you're just giving her the money, you
Speaker 1: don't really know most men don't know certain terminology for nails.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, whatever, So I click on this girl's page.
Speaker 1: It's our business page, and majority of our page is
Speaker 1: her showing off her work. So I'm scrolling down, scrolling down,
Speaker 1: and I come across a video she post of him.
Speaker 1: It's a birthday video, and the birthday video basically she
Speaker 1: says on their like heppy birthday to my day one
Speaker 1: or something like that. It's real generic like so it
Speaker 1: doesn't say what they are to each other. But I
Speaker 1: held that as evidence, so I screenshot that. So then
Speaker 1: I'm scrolling some more, and then I come across another
Speaker 1: video of an exact same video he posted on his
Speaker 1: page when he got his corn dog. It's like the
Speaker 1: key to saying like welcome home, home, sweet home, and
Speaker 1: under her post it basically was saying how she just
Speaker 1: got a new house or whatever, new condole and she
Speaker 1: was moving. And I'm like, it's mind boggling, because mindrew
Speaker 1: the condo. I've been there. I spent the night there
Speaker 1: several times, like I was always there. But remember I
Speaker 1: said to you how I always felt like his condo
Speaker 1: looked like it had a woman's touch. But that same
Speaker 1: furniture that he moved into the condo, he had his
Speaker 1: town home when I first met him, mandrew, I used
Speaker 1: to stay at the town home too, So I'm just confused.
Speaker 1: So our screenshot at that as well. I'm like, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna just keep holding all the stuff. So I came
Speaker 1: up with this whole story, like, you know, I'm looking
Speaker 1: for a new person to do my nails because he
Speaker 1: knew I was like fed up with going to the
Speaker 1: nail salons here, so I was trying to find for
Speaker 1: real and real life. I really was trying to find
Speaker 1: like a black person to support. So I went to him.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I was recommended to this girl,
Speaker 1: and I realized, y'all know each other, so let me
Speaker 1: ask you about it. You know, you think I should
Speaker 1: get my nails done by her. I was trying to
Speaker 1: see if he was going to persuade me to go
Speaker 1: or not to go to her. So he did exactly
Speaker 1: what I thought he was gonna do. He talked man
Speaker 1: Ship basically like nah, you know, I went and go
Speaker 1: to her. She wrote, inconsistent. She liked to cancel on
Speaker 1: people like Ship talked to her, and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: I got there in the back of my head too,
Speaker 1: because I knew that's what he was going to do.
Speaker 1: More and more this situation just not sitting right with me.
Speaker 1: So after that, I started doing a little bit more
Speaker 1: research I found her TikTok, and I find that she
Speaker 1: is pregnant. She has a sonogram video up of her
Speaker 1: in the doctor's office. And I told you him and
Speaker 1: I talked about having kids. All right, Let's just say
Speaker 1: he told me he wanted to name his next daughter Tanya. Tanya. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's say he said he wanted to name his daughter
Speaker 1: Tanya if he had a child. And so I go
Speaker 1: on her Instagram page and I see she says, Tanya,
Speaker 1: my man, daddy cannot wait to meet you. We love you.
Speaker 1: We're just gonna say Tanya. But just know the name
Speaker 1: that he really wanted. It's not a name that most
Speaker 1: people would name that child like. It's a unique name.
Speaker 1: Let's say it was like West Okay on blue Out.
Speaker 1: It was a name like that, and that everybody is
Speaker 1: not going to say they want to leave that child.
Speaker 1: So that's what she puts on the post. And as
Speaker 1: sure as I saw my heart drop because I'm like, what,
Speaker 1: this girl is pregnant and she never said his name
Speaker 1: her name, but I knew by the child's name. Still
Speaker 1: don't say nothing to him, though, I still don't say
Speaker 1: nothing to him. I asked him, I say, is there
Speaker 1: anything you need to share with me anything you need
Speaker 1: to tell me. He's like, no, Baby, you know, I
Speaker 1: don't got nothing to tell you. I don't have to
Speaker 1: hide nothing from you. If I had something to tell
Speaker 1: you know, I would tell you I love you and
Speaker 1: all of that talking, all that stuff, switch up the
Speaker 1: conversation again. I'm just like, I'm holding to this stuff.
Speaker 1: So one night I'm searching, you know, I'm looking up
Speaker 1: baby registries. At this point, I did Walmart, Amazon, Target, Burlton,
Speaker 1: I did all of that ship I couldn't find nothing.
Speaker 1: Like all right, I'm still not gonna give up. I
Speaker 1: know I'm not going crazy. This nigga got this girl pregnant.
Speaker 1: I'm not stupid. So one random night, in the middle
Speaker 1: of night, I can't sleep, I googled. This time, instead
Speaker 1: of going directly to the websites, I google baby registrates
Speaker 1: and the first thing that pop up was bye bye baby.
Speaker 1: And I go straight to the registrate and I type
Speaker 1: her name man, I type his name man, boom, We'll
Speaker 1: come up her picture, his name saying the baby was
Speaker 1: to do the next mouth okay, and I screenshot at
Speaker 1: it and I just saw read From there. It was
Speaker 1: like two o'clock in the morning, so I screenshot it.
Speaker 1: I sent him everything that I had been screenshot and
Speaker 1: from when I first got that feeling that he was
Speaker 1: lying to me about something. Sent everything to him in
Speaker 1: the middle of the night and I was like, I
Speaker 1: know you was lying. It just didn't sit right with me.
Speaker 1: Told him everything how I felt that morning. Once he
Speaker 1: gets up and see it, he calls me and he's
Speaker 1: on a thousand, like right enough, cutting me out, and
Speaker 1: he tells me this bullshit is story that he had
Speaker 1: to go to court for child support for his other
Speaker 1: child with his ex, so he paid this girl, however
Speaker 1: much money to put up a fake registry to make
Speaker 1: it look like he was the father so that he
Speaker 1: didn't have to pay more money and child support to
Speaker 1: his ex wife. And I lost it, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: you must think I'm stupid, like I was born yesterday,
Speaker 1: Like the audacity for you to even think that I
Speaker 1: would believe this story. I was so pissed off. I
Speaker 1: hung up and that was it for ten months. We
Speaker 1: didn't talk up until the other day. Hold up, Hold up,
Speaker 1: I know the ship getting good, but listen to just
Speaker 1: a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me.
Speaker 1: You'll listen now. Within those ten months, I tried to
Speaker 1: reach out. He never blocked me. I never blocked him
Speaker 1: on social media or on my phone, never blocked him
Speaker 1: because I knew it wasn't over. I have a thing
Speaker 1: when even when somebody hurts me, if I really care
Speaker 1: about them, I end up going back to them, even
Speaker 1: though I'm the one being hurt, trying to fix it
Speaker 1: or trying to make it right. So I've reached out
Speaker 1: to him several times. He straight left me on red
Speaker 1: ignored me each and every time until last Thursday that
Speaker 1: just passed. I missed him these last ten months. I
Speaker 1: missed him and I really do care for him. So
Speaker 1: when he came to see me, I knew it probably
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna be a long visit. Because again, since we've
Speaker 1: been talking, I noticed he only talked to me when
Speaker 1: he's out the house. As soon as he gets home,
Speaker 1: I don't hear from him. So that's something new now
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, was he gets home, I don't
Speaker 1: hear from him. Like Saturday, he called me. He was outside,
Speaker 1: it was like seven in the morning. He was already
Speaker 1: gone out of the house. And I'm the first person
Speaker 1: he calls when he gets outside, So I'm noticing all
Speaker 1: of this. I'm noticing all of this in these last
Speaker 1: couple of days. I say, I'm not going to bring
Speaker 1: it up while he's here. I'm just going to chill
Speaker 1: enjoy his company right now. He's here for maybe words,
Speaker 1: So he leaves and then my mind go to ruling.
Speaker 1: So I touched him, like, it's just seeing you. It's
Speaker 1: been too long, like I know why you had to leave.
Speaker 1: I know you had to get back home to your family.
Speaker 1: Because he kept saying certain things when he was here,
Speaker 1: like he wanted to tell me, but he wanted me
Speaker 1: to bring it up. And I was just like, I'm
Speaker 1: not bringing it up right now. I don't want to
Speaker 1: hear the lies because I knew he wasn't gonna tell me.
Speaker 1: But he kept saying certain things like he wants to
Speaker 1: tell me, but he don't know how I'm going to react,
Speaker 1: or he's just not ready. But he was making certain comments,
Speaker 1: saying stuff about babies or what I've been doing the
Speaker 1: last ten months, who's been with me the last ten months,
Speaker 1: when I've been doing, who's been at my house and
Speaker 1: all of that stuff, And I was I was throwing
Speaker 1: them same questions back at him, and I'm like, I'm
Speaker 1: sure there's been somebody consistent in your life in the
Speaker 1: last ten months. And he's like, oh, that's what you
Speaker 1: that's what you believe. And I'm like, I know for sure,
Speaker 1: and he's like, oh, how you know what makes you
Speaker 1: think you know? Like he was saying something started saying's
Speaker 1: random stuff about babies, and I'm like, just go in
Speaker 1: and tell me. So when he leaves, I sent a message,
Speaker 1: and then that message again, I'm just like thanking him
Speaker 1: for coming. And then I said to him, I know
Speaker 1: that baby is yours, and when you really ready that
Speaker 1: had that conversation, let's have it. I said. I think
Speaker 1: it will make whatever this is a little bit better.
Speaker 1: We need to have an understand it, I said, because
Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna lie. It's stung at first when
Speaker 1: I found out, but everything happens for a reason. I'm
Speaker 1: okay with it now, but that still does not deny
Speaker 1: the love that I have for you. But I would
Speaker 1: just respect you more if you just came out and
Speaker 1: told me. So, That's what my text master said to him.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm still love you at the end
Speaker 1: of the day. Now, does that mean our relationship is
Speaker 1: gonna stay the same? No, because I can't say when
Speaker 1: I hear yes, that is my baby, how I'm gonna feel.
Speaker 1: I know how I want to feel. I know how
Speaker 1: I want to just move on, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: I know already I know the answer, but I need
Speaker 1: him to tell me. So he calls me after I
Speaker 1: sent a text in message and it's like he's on
Speaker 1: the thousand again. So you want me to call you,
Speaker 1: or you want me to read this message while I'm driving.
Speaker 1: I can't read this message while I'm driving and I'm high.
Speaker 1: And then like he come off real crazy, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: why what did you talking about? Like what's what you're
Speaker 1: trying to say in this message? If man, if you
Speaker 1: want to ruin my sunday, you could have just said
Speaker 1: all that what I need to come over your house for?
Speaker 1: I need to come over there. If you had something
Speaker 1: to say, you should have said it while I was dead,
Speaker 1: or you know, you should have said it on Friday
Speaker 1: when we had this conversation, when we was talking about it.
Speaker 1: Now you're gonna ruined my sunday. You want to rule
Speaker 1: like Cole, And I'm just like I'm sorry, why are
Speaker 1: you yawlling? Why you find said nothing? My message was negative?
Speaker 1: I ain't read it. You're talking about I got a
Speaker 1: family at home, And I'm like, what you mean if
Speaker 1: you didn't read the message, you would have known that
Speaker 1: I said that in a message. He like, no, you said,
Speaker 1: and when I was there too, Now, why would I
Speaker 1: have somebody at home know me? And I'm here, I'm like,
Speaker 1: just like any other cheating nigga. What you mean, like,
Speaker 1: cut that ship out? So he like, we should have
Speaker 1: been had this conversation that I said, Well, you kept
Speaker 1: saying more conversation need to be had, I say, and
Speaker 1: you kept hitting around and stuff, but you just didn't
Speaker 1: want to come out and tell me. I said, I
Speaker 1: just wanted you to know. And I'm calm still, I'm
Speaker 1: so calm talking to him. I'm like, I just wanted
Speaker 1: you to know, Like I know that baby is yours.
Speaker 1: I've seen the picture she posted, Like the baby got
Speaker 1: the same initials as you first in the middle, and
Speaker 1: let's name it's all you, same initials and it's the
Speaker 1: same exact name that you told me you wanted to
Speaker 1: name our child. So cut it out. He like, man,
Speaker 1: that's what you wanna go with, that's what you wanta
Speaker 1: go with. I'm like, that's what I know. I got
Speaker 1: my answer. I got what I needed because the way
Speaker 1: you're responded to me right now is telling me everything
Speaker 1: I need to know. Because if it wasn't your child,
Speaker 1: you'll be like, for real, bag, like that's not my child,
Speaker 1: like for real. But every time he goes in this
Speaker 1: defense mode and just start talking over me and fussing
Speaker 1: and making it like, um, the problem, and I'm just like,
Speaker 1: at this point, I don't know what to do, Like
Speaker 1: I know what to do, I know what I need
Speaker 1: to do, and he like, if you want to move on,
Speaker 1: just move on, just say that if you need closure,
Speaker 1: just something you need closure. You keep coming at me
Speaker 1: with this bull crap, just something you need closure. I'm like,
Speaker 1: what I need is the truth. But I have the truth.
Speaker 1: I don't need the truth. I just want him to
Speaker 1: really come out and say it, but he's not gonna
Speaker 1: do that. I don't think God's understand Sometimes if you
Speaker 1: just tell the truth, you don't know what us women
Speaker 1: are willing to accept. Tell me what it really is,
Speaker 1: so I know what to expect from you, and I
Speaker 1: know what to put out because I can give out
Speaker 1: the same energy. But if I still want you in
Speaker 1: my life for whatever reason, I can do that as well.
Speaker 1: So give me the option to figure out what I
Speaker 1: want to do what you don't make that decision for
Speaker 1: me by lying. The trust is already gone. It's gone,
Speaker 1: But for some reason, I still want him in my space,
Speaker 1: even though I know the nigga is lying and had
Speaker 1: a baby on me. Now. I don't even know how
Speaker 1: long he was knowing this girl, but I know he
Speaker 1: talked about he wasn't had a child with me, and
Speaker 1: then this girl ends up pregnant. Just help me, Joss
Speaker 1: stinks girl. First of all, that was long and ship,
Speaker 1: all right, and you made me mad so many goddamned
Speaker 1: times that I had to write notes. I had to
Speaker 1: write notes while I was listening to your story. First
Speaker 1: of all, you from Baltimore, that's what you're doing. What
Speaker 1: the fund is you doing just for me? To you
Speaker 1: and me? And you got the same name, and I
Speaker 1: ain't talking about my first name. Me and you got
Speaker 1: the same name. Bitch. What the funk is you doing
Speaker 1: going down there taking that ship from a Charlotte nigga?
Speaker 1: You could have stayed home and took that ship from
Speaker 1: one of these niggas. The fuck you pissing me off
Speaker 1: for real because you're too old for the ship. Now
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be professional, all right. So after listening to everything,
Speaker 1: baby girl, all right, let's go to the beginning. Your
Speaker 1: first instinct when you walked in that damn condo, you've
Speaker 1: seen the woman's touch. You pointed that out specifically. You've
Speaker 1: seen it, so you already know what it was. Because
Speaker 1: most of the time when we feel something in our stomach,
Speaker 1: we feel something and we know it's called woman in
Speaker 1: the wish and you know that we're right most of
Speaker 1: the time. I'm not gonna say women are always right,
Speaker 1: but very seldom are we not. You are right in
Speaker 1: your mind. You seem to have a lot of sense,
Speaker 1: but you ignore that ship a lot you ever heard of,
Speaker 1: like mind over matter, You need to do mind over heart.
Speaker 1: Sometimes that's what us women need to realize. We need
Speaker 1: to do mind over heart. You love with your heart.
Speaker 1: You think what your mind, but you need both. But
Speaker 1: you need your mind more than your motherfucking heart because
Speaker 1: your heart gonna have you somewhere. Girl going crazy? All
Speaker 1: ain't now? Bringing it back to that one particular night
Speaker 1: when he told you that three o'clock in the morning bullshit,
Speaker 1: and you got up and left, and you waited till
Speaker 1: the next day to say something. Now, he was right
Speaker 1: about one thing. Communicate. Communicate. He ain't ship, all right,
Speaker 1: But he was not lying about that. Communicate because honestly,
Speaker 1: if you would have said that ship when he told you,
Speaker 1: I don't want you to have to get up three
Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning, you should have said that ship
Speaker 1: right there. Well, I never had to get up three
Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning. You always leave me. And what's
Speaker 1: the problem now? Do you want me to leave or
Speaker 1: what are you expecting somebody else or you know whatever.
Speaker 1: Regardless of his fucking response, as long as this is
Speaker 1: with a swan one, you ain't shipped. You can get
Speaker 1: mad in my face all day, huff and puff, blow
Speaker 1: this motherfucking house down there. But I'm asking you a question,
Speaker 1: why would you say this to me when you let
Speaker 1: me let myself off any other time you'ven't left me
Speaker 1: in your house. You said you've been to the condo,
Speaker 1: you've been to the townhouse, and all of that. You
Speaker 1: were supposed to say something right then and there. But
Speaker 1: you're leaving time for it to summer. You're saying something
Speaker 1: the next day. Gave him a chance to fucking to you.
Speaker 1: He lied to He was able to lie because he
Speaker 1: could have said anything at that point, because the moment
Speaker 1: is now past, it's over, and he did what is
Speaker 1: exactly what he was supposed to do. Oh no, baby,
Speaker 1: why do you say nothing? Then? I you know, I
Speaker 1: would never want you to leave you. You know, the
Speaker 1: the the that's moving ship over for you. Communicate in
Speaker 1: real time, you know. That's what I'm learning in my
Speaker 1: relationship now. I have to communicate things in real time.
Speaker 1: You don't let a person make you mad and then
Speaker 1: you wait days and days or even hours and hours.
Speaker 1: Just say something, Say something right then and there. Now,
Speaker 1: not about every little thing, but you have to communicate
Speaker 1: in real time. You can't just let ship go on
Speaker 1: because niggas can't read minds. Men cannot read your mind,
Speaker 1: all right, We can read there's a lot more than
Speaker 1: they can read outs. And honestly, men don't want to
Speaker 1: read our minds because they have the time. They already
Speaker 1: can kind of feel what we're thinking. And they scared
Speaker 1: of that ship, that confrontation. So communicate Now you said
Speaker 1: he likes to flip the script. He likes to cut
Speaker 1: you off when you talk. You lex to yell over
Speaker 1: you and play the victim and make you feel bad,
Speaker 1: and then you end up feeling bad and all of
Speaker 1: that ship. Girl, that's manipulative. That's narcissism. You're dealing with
Speaker 1: the manipulative narcissist here, grade A. Now, you're smart. You
Speaker 1: seem to have some nice investigation skills talking about the
Speaker 1: evidence that you see from the girl's page and you
Speaker 1: figured out she was a nail tech. That's good. You're
Speaker 1: snooping game is a one, all right. But I knew
Speaker 1: before you finished that ship, because I'd have been fixing
Speaker 1: mess for months now that that damn condo it's either
Speaker 1: hers or theirs, it ain't just his, And you were
Speaker 1: there probably when I asked, and his ass wasn't getting
Speaker 1: along because just like y'all been on and off, they've
Speaker 1: probably been on and off too, but just much longer.
Speaker 1: He seems to notice Gary Pipe and fucking with that
Speaker 1: girl since he had his wife. Right after he had
Speaker 1: his wife tombody, he was living in his fucking call. Okay,
Speaker 1: Tyler Paris, the fuck get up on your motherfucking own
Speaker 1: two feet. So it seems like he still likes for
Speaker 1: woman to take care of him because he's still he
Speaker 1: living with the nailzech bitch. I'm sorry his baby mother
Speaker 1: slash girlfriend probably soon to be another fucking wife because
Speaker 1: she's taking care of him that fucking townhouse he had
Speaker 1: you sitting up and probably wasn't he is either. We
Speaker 1: have to realize patterns and act accordingly, not keep going
Speaker 1: on and on with it, girl, keep playing along and
Speaker 1: ship because if you asked me, you waited too damn
Speaker 1: long to say anything to him. You call yourself building
Speaker 1: a case like he was gonna give a fuck. Girl,
Speaker 1: he didn't give a fuck. After you found out that
Speaker 1: he was dealing with the nail teck. You even made
Speaker 1: it your business. You put so much energy and to
Speaker 1: investigating when you already knew what the hell was going on.
Speaker 1: You even asked them, showed him his own girlfriend because
Speaker 1: that's what the funk she was, and ask oh, should
Speaker 1: I go to her to get my nails? And you're
Speaker 1: playing games with your damn self. You already knew what
Speaker 1: he was gonna dude, and of course he was gonna say,
Speaker 1: oh no, she she has problems and na, na, she
Speaker 1: don't do good and and she do no call, no shows,
Speaker 1: and she's not the most professional. He wanted to keep
Speaker 1: y'all apart as long as he could, not even to
Speaker 1: save your feelings, but to save hers, because he got
Speaker 1: way more to lose with her than with you. Because
Speaker 1: you ain't going no damn were. That's your problem. Still
Speaker 1: after I try to fix your mess, you still ain't
Speaker 1: gonna go no damn were. That's my problem with you.
Speaker 1: And the way you talk about Oh, we've been on
Speaker 1: and off, on and off, it's no real foundation. It
Speaker 1: was never any real foundation or any loyalty there. It
Speaker 1: was never any of that. So how did you expect
Speaker 1: for this man to have kids with you, to marry
Speaker 1: you? You You know, listen, I'm gonna tell you something. Money.
Speaker 1: I know you didn't hurt your mom or your grandmother
Speaker 1: or some older woman in your life. Tell you, these
Speaker 1: men will tell you what the fuck you want to
Speaker 1: hear to get what they want. I've been hearing that
Speaker 1: ship since I was eight years old. My aunt's telling
Speaker 1: my cousins, my mother telling my aunt's, you know, my
Speaker 1: grandmother telling my mother, Like seriously, it's true. So when
Speaker 1: you finally bring this ship up to him. You sent
Speaker 1: them all the screenshots from all your investigation, you gathered
Speaker 1: all your evidence, and you show him and he calls
Speaker 1: you or intend made up a whole motherfucking lie about
Speaker 1: how it's ex wife was gonna use something with alimony
Speaker 1: or something, so he had to pay this nail tech
Speaker 1: girl to put up a fake registry for a real
Speaker 1: fucking baby. So now you have a man lying on
Speaker 1: his unborn child. So he really don't give a fuck.
Speaker 1: He really is socio for real. And if you don't
Speaker 1: know what socio is, that's the person with no motherfucking feelings.
Speaker 1: They just lie. They just do ship and don't fail.
Speaker 1: Anything going around hurt people, and they don't feel ship.
Speaker 1: That's why when you hung up that damn phone after
Speaker 1: telling him you knew that the baby was his and
Speaker 1: you found out hen with the nail tech and all
Speaker 1: of that ship, he didn't call your ass back. A
Speaker 1: matter of fact, he didn't talk to your ass for
Speaker 1: ten months and you came back to him. You're bothering him.
Speaker 1: You're the damn problem. You in your own way, you're
Speaker 1: too good for this ship. What you're doing, you don't
Speaker 1: know you're damn worth. What is wrong with you? You
Speaker 1: said he ignored you over that course of ten months.
Speaker 1: He ignored you. Over those ten months, you kept reaching out,
Speaker 1: reaching out for what what do you want? I would
Speaker 1: feel the same way if I was him, What do
Speaker 1: you want? Cats out the bead. He don't need a
Speaker 1: lie to you. I don't know why the hell you
Speaker 1: ever even tried to lie to you. He don't need to.
Speaker 1: Obviously you're staying You're gonna be fine with the truth
Speaker 1: or damn lie. So he just lying for fun because
Speaker 1: you ain't going nowhere. In fact, you're begging him for time,
Speaker 1: and you know he got a family. So now you're
Speaker 1: in the wrong because just because you will accept that
Speaker 1: ship does not mean somebody else will. You're putting itself
Speaker 1: through this ship. You never gave that man no real consequences,
Speaker 1: so you gave him a lot of power over you.
Speaker 1: And then to hear you say that you told him
Speaker 1: ten months later after he came to see you, you
Speaker 1: didn't want to say nothing because you just want to
Speaker 1: enjoy the time. How the hell can you enjoy anything
Speaker 1: with him like? This is just unrelatable and this is
Speaker 1: just disgusting. This is crazy, tell of all you want
Speaker 1: is the truth. You know the truth. Why do you
Speaker 1: need confirmation from him? Why? And listen? You think that
Speaker 1: little ten months was a break, you tried to move on.
Speaker 1: You think you try to move on. You never did,
Speaker 1: because you said it yourself. You never blocked him on
Speaker 1: social media. You ever deleted his number? You never did.
Speaker 1: He never blocked you. He didn't need to. It didn't matter.
Speaker 1: You don't care. He don't give a fuck because you're
Speaker 1: gonna be there no matter what. And that's not good, Hay,
Speaker 1: this hand walking all over you and ship and you're
Speaker 1: begging him to be back with you. He had a
Speaker 1: fucking baby on you line, having you and everybody else
Speaker 1: house but his own because he don't have none. Now
Speaker 1: we got a baby, and you just need for him
Speaker 1: to say his his girl. Get your fucking life together. Seriously,
Speaker 1: don't even check back in with me because you're still
Speaker 1: gonna be there. You're a damn fool. I'm sorry, Bible say,
Speaker 1: don't call people fools. You're a damn nut. And just
Speaker 1: like that, we're gonna end this episode. That ship pissed
Speaker 1: me off. This girl from fucking Baltimore. You crazy, It's over. Girl.
Speaker 1: Tune in each and every wednesday' all, I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: the hell up out of here. Oh my god, this
Speaker 1: ship got me so pissed off. Tune and also to
Speaker 1: Reckless Discussions tonight. And she did have made me mad
Speaker 1: this morning. And you're gonna see on this episode of
Speaker 1: Reckless Discussions, London gonna make my ass mad tonight. I'm
Speaker 1: tired of these women, y'all. Y'all tune in every Wednesday
Speaker 1: to everything I got going on and then my deepest
Speaker 1: band boys, peace ship. Yeah h. Carefully Reckless is a
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