WEBVTT - Girl, Don't Embarrass Baltimore 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.120 Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:15.680 and the Black Effects. And just like that, we're back 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:19.560 with yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl Jess Hilarious. Look, 0:00:19.600 --> 0:00:21.000 I don't want you all to stop calling me no 0:00:21.200 --> 0:00:25.079 doctor Hilarious or or Dr Jessa nothing. But I really 0:00:25.079 --> 0:00:26.680 be feeling like I'm helping you all. I know I 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:29.400 say this every week, but it never gets old to me. 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:31.960 When I opened up my b MS from the Carefully 0:00:32.000 --> 0:00:36.400 Reckless page and you guys are telling me, oh my god, Jess, 0:00:36.400 --> 0:00:38.239 you've helped me. Oh my god, I did sit down 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:40.199 and have a conversation. Oh my god, things are so 0:00:40.280 --> 0:00:42.480 much better now. I only had a few people tell 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:45.000 me that their situation is still the same, but that's 0:00:45.000 --> 0:00:47.959 because they really, really really are in love and they 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:50.199 just want to see it through. And some people want 0:00:50.200 --> 0:00:52.640 to see it through. And sometimes people have to go 0:00:52.800 --> 0:00:55.920 through with their journey to see what wasn't good for them. 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:59.440 Sometimes it's not even what somebody else telling you what 0:00:59.600 --> 0:01:02.720 you can do is the answer. No no, no no no. 0:01:02.800 --> 0:01:04.560 Sometimes you just have to go through things for yourself. 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:07.679 But I love the people that I am able to help. 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:10.280 I love hearing that feedback that I was able to 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:13.000 help you guys, and I love hearing the other feedback 0:01:13.000 --> 0:01:14.680 too that I wasn't able to help. That just means 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:18.720 you need some professional help. Okay, some licensed professional help, 0:01:18.720 --> 0:01:20.679 because I think I'm pretty professional. What y'all think, let 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:23.240 me know, So we're gonna jump right in. This is 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:26.080 a long story, mind you, but it is a good one. 0:01:26.560 --> 0:01:30.280 This woman submitted voice notes, and I mean her situation 0:01:31.319 --> 0:01:34.720 is just, oh my god, up and down crazy. It's 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:37.959 like a ball of confusion that just unravels before our ears. 0:01:38.080 --> 0:01:40.800 So listen and listen carefully because it's rather long. So 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:42.840 this may be the only one I get to cover today, 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:46.600 but trust me, this one story is worth it. All right. Hey, 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:50.600 j I'm gon trying to keep destroying short, but I 0:01:50.680 --> 0:01:54.360 definitely need you to fix my mess. Okay, So a 0:01:54.400 --> 0:01:57.760 little back story. I moved to Charlotte five years ago 0:01:57.800 --> 0:02:02.000 from Baltimore, and I met a maybe a year after 0:02:02.040 --> 0:02:05.120 I moved here, and we have been good up until 0:02:05.160 --> 0:02:09.000 ten months ago and all went left out of really 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:11.600 out of nowhere. You know, when they say you don't 0:02:11.639 --> 0:02:13.480 have to go looking for stuff, it just falls in 0:02:13.560 --> 0:02:18.160 your lap sometimes, So that's what happened. So we were inconsistent, 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:22.320 so it was off and on. But we care for 0:02:22.360 --> 0:02:25.200 each other. We love each other. He never went a 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:27.480 day without telling me how much he loved me. But 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:30.680 we never made it an official official but that definitely 0:02:30.760 --> 0:02:34.080 was an understanding. We definitely had a situation ship, We 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:38.520 talked about having kids, all of that. It just we 0:02:38.560 --> 0:02:41.600 was never consistent. Yes, I talked to other people on 0:02:41.639 --> 0:02:44.639 the side, but he was my main person. We're both 0:02:44.680 --> 0:02:47.240 in our late thirties. He wanted more, but in the 0:02:47.240 --> 0:02:49.120 back of my head, I always felt like there was 0:02:49.200 --> 0:02:52.200 something he was not always been up from me about. 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:56.120 He's been married before, so he used to say that 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:58.480 he's not rushing into anything, but he knew he wanted 0:02:58.480 --> 0:03:01.640 to get married again, but he wanted to get on everything, 0:03:02.120 --> 0:03:04.919 like a house and all of that stuff first before 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:07.360 he settled down again. He would like to say, because 0:03:07.600 --> 0:03:10.960 his ex wife basically she took everything and he was 0:03:11.000 --> 0:03:12.880 like living in the car and all of that stuff, 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:15.320 so he wanted to have his own before he settled 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:19.600 down again. Okay, whatever, I hear you, But he always 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:22.919 made me feel like I was that one like when 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:25.320 those things happened, because he always kept me in a loop, 0:03:25.680 --> 0:03:28.079 was buying a house, all of that. So he made 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:32.200 me feel like I was that one. But again I 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:35.720 always felt something still wasn't right. So let's get to 0:03:35.760 --> 0:03:38.240 this real story why I need you to fix my mask. 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:42.560 So one night ten months ago, I went over his house, 0:03:43.040 --> 0:03:45.880 and when I got there, I just kept saying some 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:48.280 lame right, and I would just keep asking them, like 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:51.120 what you do different in here? I always used to 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:54.200 tell him. For him to be a single guy living 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:57.960 on his own, his house definitely didn't just look like 0:03:58.000 --> 0:04:01.520 a bachelor's bad look like my body had decorated his house. 0:04:01.640 --> 0:04:03.640 He had a woman's touch, I would say. But he 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:06.520 used to always tell me I was tripping anyway. When 0:04:06.520 --> 0:04:09.600 I would stay with him, I would spending night. He 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:11.600 would get up and go to work, leave me there. 0:04:12.200 --> 0:04:14.240 I would get up whenever I was ready to get 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:16.120 head out to go to work or whatever to go 0:04:16.160 --> 0:04:19.240 back home. He always left me in his house without 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:23.640 any problem. So this one particular night, and it maybe 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:26.160 been like eleven o'clock or so, man, he made a 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:28.880 call me like, yeah, I gotta get up early in 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:32.160 the morning, around three o'clock to be the work by 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:35.880 whatever time. And I'm like, okay, but he made the 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:38.839 comment to make it seem like he wanted me to leave, 0:04:39.040 --> 0:04:41.159 because he said something like, now I want you to 0:04:41.200 --> 0:04:44.279 have to get up at three in the morning, And 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:47.919 I'm saying to myself, any other time you have to 0:04:47.960 --> 0:04:50.440 get up or whatever time you left me here, and 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:53.039 I would just see myself out. But you know, I 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:56.760 was like, I'm not even gonna question it because I'm 0:04:56.760 --> 0:05:00.360 never gonna bag somebody for me to stay. I got 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:03.000 my own place. I take my ass home. So that's 0:05:03.000 --> 0:05:06.120 what I did. But it bothered me so much. The 0:05:06.240 --> 0:05:08.880 next day, I'm at work, but I'm thinking about it, 0:05:09.360 --> 0:05:12.320 and so I said something to him. I'm like, what's 0:05:12.360 --> 0:05:15.800 the difference why all of us are now I need 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:18.560 to go home instead of just staying the night, even 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:21.839 if you got to get up early, And he like, no, baby, 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.279 you know I love you. I didn't want you to 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:26.560 get up and leave them. You know I don't like 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:28.280 for you to go home in the middle of the night. 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:30.680 You could have stayed. You should have just said something, 0:05:31.360 --> 0:05:34.719 I would have rather you stayed. And I'm like, that's bullshit, 0:05:34.920 --> 0:05:37.880 because if you would have rather me stay, you wouldn't 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:40.279 even had commented that you had to get up at 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:41.960 three o'clock in the morning. You don't want me to 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:43.760 have to get up, or you could have been like, yeah, 0:05:43.760 --> 0:05:45.080 I gotta get up at three in the morning, but 0:05:45.120 --> 0:05:48.640 of course see your way out whenever you get ready. Um, 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:51.000 he's like, wow, that's why we need to communicate. I 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:53.200 tell you all the time, speak up if you feel 0:05:53.200 --> 0:05:55.400 some type of way to speak up. I went a kid, 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:58.160 you could have stayed. You already know you could have stayed. 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:00.960 So he does this thing where if I bring something 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:04.719 to his attention, if I say something, he likes to 0:06:04.800 --> 0:06:07.920 switch it up and then play victim or act like 0:06:08.200 --> 0:06:11.920 I'm tripping like he likes to fuss and talk over me. 0:06:12.520 --> 0:06:15.200 So he finds a way to switch up the story 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:18.200 like he always does, and talk about the house and 0:06:18.560 --> 0:06:20.680 how he gonna be ready to settle down and move 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:23.040 me in. Like he does that, he will switch up 0:06:23.040 --> 0:06:25.440 the story and did try to start saying stuff he 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:27.760 thinks I want to hear, but that ship was still 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:30.480 on my mind, so I didn't let it go. So 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:33.360 for some reason, something told me to go to his Instagram. 0:06:33.440 --> 0:06:37.679 Now every time he posts something, he has like hundreds 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:41.320 of comments under everything he posted majority of my females 0:06:41.880 --> 0:06:44.000 and it's like with a bunch of heart emojis and 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:46.560 stuff which I don't I don't care. I told him 0:06:46.560 --> 0:06:49.600 he got his little fans. Whatever. But I clicked on 0:06:49.640 --> 0:06:53.360 this one particular page. So what drew me to this 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:59.760 one particular page was the person does nails Now. He's always, like, 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:02.560 really been into females having their nails and stuff done, 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:05.320 to the point where he would tell me was shape 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:07.560 to get and when I say shapes, he would say 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:12.080 coughing stiletto. He would say, um it like he knew 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:15.360 stuff that most men don't know about nails. And I 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:17.360 asked him one time, like why do you know so 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:20.680 much about nails? And he'd be like, don't forget. I 0:07:20.720 --> 0:07:23.440 was married at one time. I did pay for my 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:25.760 wife to get her nails and stuff done. And I'm like, 0:07:26.640 --> 0:07:28.680 even if you did pay for your wife to get 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:30.600 her nails and you're just giving her the money, you 0:07:30.640 --> 0:07:36.120 don't really know most men don't know certain terminology for nails. 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:39.720 And I'm like, whatever, So I click on this girl's page. 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:43.640 It's our business page, and majority of our page is 0:07:43.680 --> 0:07:48.360 her showing off her work. So I'm scrolling down, scrolling down, 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:52.960 and I come across a video she post of him. 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:57.880 It's a birthday video, and the birthday video basically she 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:01.240 says on their like heppy birthday to my day one 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:04.080 or something like that. It's real generic like so it 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:07.360 doesn't say what they are to each other. But I 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:12.000 held that as evidence, so I screenshot that. So then 0:08:12.320 --> 0:08:16.000 I'm scrolling some more, and then I come across another 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:20.320 video of an exact same video he posted on his 0:08:20.400 --> 0:08:24.400 page when he got his corn dog. It's like the 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:28.400 key to saying like welcome home, home, sweet home, and 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:32.520 under her post it basically was saying how she just 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:34.800 got a new house or whatever, new condole and she 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:39.160 was moving. And I'm like, it's mind boggling, because mindrew 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:41.760 the condo. I've been there. I spent the night there 0:08:41.840 --> 0:08:45.560 several times, like I was always there. But remember I 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:48.240 said to you how I always felt like his condo 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:51.200 looked like it had a woman's touch. But that same 0:08:51.240 --> 0:08:54.120 furniture that he moved into the condo, he had his 0:08:54.200 --> 0:08:57.240 town home when I first met him, mandrew, I used 0:08:57.280 --> 0:09:00.960 to stay at the town home too, So I'm just confused. 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:04.120 So our screenshot at that as well. I'm like, I'm 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.760 gonna just keep holding all the stuff. So I came 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:08.960 up with this whole story, like, you know, I'm looking 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:10.760 for a new person to do my nails because he 0:09:10.840 --> 0:09:13.480 knew I was like fed up with going to the 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:16.200 nail salons here, so I was trying to find for 0:09:16.320 --> 0:09:18.360 real and real life. I really was trying to find 0:09:18.800 --> 0:09:21.760 like a black person to support. So I went to him. 0:09:21.800 --> 0:09:24.560 I was like, yeah, I was recommended to this girl, 0:09:24.800 --> 0:09:28.000 and I realized, y'all know each other, so let me 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:30.240 ask you about it. You know, you think I should 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:32.640 get my nails done by her. I was trying to 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:34.240 see if he was going to persuade me to go 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:37.400 or not to go to her. So he did exactly 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:39.840 what I thought he was gonna do. He talked man 0:09:39.920 --> 0:09:43.440 Ship basically like nah, you know, I went and go 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:46.280 to her. She wrote, inconsistent. She liked to cancel on 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:50.520 people like Ship talked to her, and I'm like, okay, 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:52.160 I got there in the back of my head too, 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:54.079 because I knew that's what he was going to do. 0:09:54.600 --> 0:09:58.000 More and more this situation just not sitting right with me. 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:01.760 So after that, I started doing a little bit more 0:10:01.800 --> 0:10:06.640 research I found her TikTok, and I find that she 0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:11.960 is pregnant. She has a sonogram video up of her 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:15.160 in the doctor's office. And I told you him and 0:10:15.280 --> 0:10:18.160 I talked about having kids. All right, Let's just say 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:24.680 he told me he wanted to name his next daughter Tanya. Tanya. Yeah, 0:10:24.760 --> 0:10:26.600 let's say he said he wanted to name his daughter 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:29.160 Tanya if he had a child. And so I go 0:10:29.240 --> 0:10:34.280 on her Instagram page and I see she says, Tanya, 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:38.840 my man, daddy cannot wait to meet you. We love you. 0:10:39.320 --> 0:10:41.680 We're just gonna say Tanya. But just know the name 0:10:41.760 --> 0:10:44.880 that he really wanted. It's not a name that most 0:10:44.880 --> 0:10:48.120 people would name that child like. It's a unique name. 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:51.880 Let's say it was like West Okay on blue Out. 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:54.880 It was a name like that, and that everybody is 0:10:54.880 --> 0:10:56.520 not going to say they want to leave that child. 0:10:57.480 --> 0:11:00.640 So that's what she puts on the post. And as 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:02.880 sure as I saw my heart drop because I'm like, what, 0:11:04.160 --> 0:11:07.720 this girl is pregnant and she never said his name 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:12.000 her name, but I knew by the child's name. Still 0:11:12.120 --> 0:11:14.280 don't say nothing to him, though, I still don't say 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:17.160 nothing to him. I asked him, I say, is there 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:19.760 anything you need to share with me anything you need 0:11:19.800 --> 0:11:22.599 to tell me. He's like, no, Baby, you know, I 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:24.040 don't got nothing to tell you. I don't have to 0:11:24.120 --> 0:11:26.320 hide nothing from you. If I had something to tell 0:11:26.360 --> 0:11:29.000 you know, I would tell you I love you and 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:32.160 all of that talking, all that stuff, switch up the 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:35.520 conversation again. I'm just like, I'm holding to this stuff. 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:38.760 So one night I'm searching, you know, I'm looking up 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:44.400 baby registries. At this point, I did Walmart, Amazon, Target, Burlton, 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:47.440 I did all of that ship I couldn't find nothing. 0:11:47.800 --> 0:11:50.040 Like all right, I'm still not gonna give up. I 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:53.960 know I'm not going crazy. This nigga got this girl pregnant. 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:57.240 I'm not stupid. So one random night, in the middle 0:11:57.240 --> 0:12:00.800 of night, I can't sleep, I googled. This time, instead 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:05.880 of going directly to the websites, I google baby registrates 0:12:05.920 --> 0:12:08.840 and the first thing that pop up was bye bye baby. 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:10.920 And I go straight to the registrate and I type 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:14.400 her name man, I type his name man, boom, We'll 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:17.880 come up her picture, his name saying the baby was 0:12:17.920 --> 0:12:24.200 to do the next mouth okay, and I screenshot at 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:27.000 it and I just saw read From there. It was 0:12:27.080 --> 0:12:30.160 like two o'clock in the morning, so I screenshot it. 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:32.880 I sent him everything that I had been screenshot and 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:36.199 from when I first got that feeling that he was 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:39.400 lying to me about something. Sent everything to him in 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:40.680 the middle of the night and I was like, I 0:12:40.800 --> 0:12:44.200 know you was lying. It just didn't sit right with me. 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:47.640 Told him everything how I felt that morning. Once he 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:50.400 gets up and see it, he calls me and he's 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:53.960 on a thousand, like right enough, cutting me out, and 0:12:54.000 --> 0:12:57.840 he tells me this bullshit is story that he had 0:12:57.920 --> 0:13:00.480 to go to court for child support for his other 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:05.040 child with his ex, so he paid this girl, however 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:08.400 much money to put up a fake registry to make 0:13:08.440 --> 0:13:10.520 it look like he was the father so that he 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:13.360 didn't have to pay more money and child support to 0:13:13.440 --> 0:13:16.959 his ex wife. And I lost it, and I'm like, 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:20.920 you must think I'm stupid, like I was born yesterday, 0:13:21.080 --> 0:13:24.000 Like the audacity for you to even think that I 0:13:24.040 --> 0:13:27.880 would believe this story. I was so pissed off. I 0:13:28.000 --> 0:13:31.520 hung up and that was it for ten months. We 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:35.960 didn't talk up until the other day. Hold up, Hold up, 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:37.920 I know the ship getting good, but listen to just 0:13:37.960 --> 0:13:40.040 a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me. 0:13:40.080 --> 0:13:44.920 You'll listen now. Within those ten months, I tried to 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:48.240 reach out. He never blocked me. I never blocked him 0:13:48.720 --> 0:13:51.520 on social media or on my phone, never blocked him 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:54.840 because I knew it wasn't over. I have a thing 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:58.440 when even when somebody hurts me, if I really care 0:13:58.440 --> 0:14:00.920 about them, I end up going back to them, even 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:03.560 though I'm the one being hurt, trying to fix it 0:14:03.640 --> 0:14:06.600 or trying to make it right. So I've reached out 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:08.960 to him several times. He straight left me on red 0:14:09.040 --> 0:14:14.040 ignored me each and every time until last Thursday that 0:14:14.240 --> 0:14:17.920 just passed. I missed him these last ten months. I 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:21.000 missed him and I really do care for him. So 0:14:21.200 --> 0:14:23.640 when he came to see me, I knew it probably 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:27.600 wasn't gonna be a long visit. Because again, since we've 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:30.840 been talking, I noticed he only talked to me when 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:33.360 he's out the house. As soon as he gets home, 0:14:33.440 --> 0:14:36.680 I don't hear from him. So that's something new now 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:38.960 all of a sudden, was he gets home, I don't 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:42.760 hear from him. Like Saturday, he called me. He was outside, 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:44.880 it was like seven in the morning. He was already 0:14:44.880 --> 0:14:47.040 gone out of the house. And I'm the first person 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:49.800 he calls when he gets outside, So I'm noticing all 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:52.000 of this. I'm noticing all of this in these last 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:54.480 couple of days. I say, I'm not going to bring 0:14:54.520 --> 0:14:57.000 it up while he's here. I'm just going to chill 0:14:57.120 --> 0:15:00.440 enjoy his company right now. He's here for maybe words, 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:04.360 So he leaves and then my mind go to ruling. 0:15:04.840 --> 0:15:08.080 So I touched him, like, it's just seeing you. It's 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:10.920 been too long, like I know why you had to leave. 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:12.720 I know you had to get back home to your family. 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:15.360 Because he kept saying certain things when he was here, 0:15:15.800 --> 0:15:18.400 like he wanted to tell me, but he wanted me 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:20.080 to bring it up. And I was just like, I'm 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:21.800 not bringing it up right now. I don't want to 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:23.960 hear the lies because I knew he wasn't gonna tell me. 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:26.840 But he kept saying certain things like he wants to 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:29.680 tell me, but he don't know how I'm going to react, 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:33.840 or he's just not ready. But he was making certain comments, 0:15:34.720 --> 0:15:36.840 saying stuff about babies or what I've been doing the 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:40.240 last ten months, who's been with me the last ten months, 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:42.440 when I've been doing, who's been at my house and 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:45.320 all of that stuff, And I was I was throwing 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:47.440 them same questions back at him, and I'm like, I'm 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:50.280 sure there's been somebody consistent in your life in the 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:52.680 last ten months. And he's like, oh, that's what you 0:15:52.880 --> 0:15:55.680 that's what you believe. And I'm like, I know for sure, 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:58.040 and he's like, oh, how you know what makes you 0:15:58.080 --> 0:16:00.760 think you know? Like he was saying something started saying's 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:04.400 random stuff about babies, and I'm like, just go in 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:07.280 and tell me. So when he leaves, I sent a message, 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:09.960 and then that message again, I'm just like thanking him 0:16:09.960 --> 0:16:12.720 for coming. And then I said to him, I know 0:16:12.800 --> 0:16:15.240 that baby is yours, and when you really ready that 0:16:15.360 --> 0:16:19.120 had that conversation, let's have it. I said. I think 0:16:19.160 --> 0:16:22.440 it will make whatever this is a little bit better. 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:25.280 We need to have an understand it, I said, because 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:28.040 I'm not even gonna lie. It's stung at first when 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:31.080 I found out, but everything happens for a reason. I'm 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:34.160 okay with it now, but that still does not deny 0:16:34.280 --> 0:16:36.200 the love that I have for you. But I would 0:16:36.200 --> 0:16:38.320 just respect you more if you just came out and 0:16:38.360 --> 0:16:41.200 told me. So, That's what my text master said to him. 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:43.200 I was like, I'm still love you at the end 0:16:43.200 --> 0:16:45.720 of the day. Now, does that mean our relationship is 0:16:45.720 --> 0:16:48.760 gonna stay the same? No, because I can't say when 0:16:48.800 --> 0:16:52.440 I hear yes, that is my baby, how I'm gonna feel. 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:54.560 I know how I want to feel. I know how 0:16:54.600 --> 0:16:57.280 I want to just move on, but I don't know. 0:16:57.720 --> 0:16:59.680 I know already I know the answer, but I need 0:16:59.760 --> 0:17:03.680 him to tell me. So he calls me after I 0:17:03.720 --> 0:17:05.840 sent a text in message and it's like he's on 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:08.840 the thousand again. So you want me to call you, 0:17:09.040 --> 0:17:11.359 or you want me to read this message while I'm driving. 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:14.800 I can't read this message while I'm driving and I'm high. 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.320 And then like he come off real crazy, and I'm like, 0:17:17.480 --> 0:17:21.719 why what did you talking about? Like what's what you're 0:17:21.760 --> 0:17:24.040 trying to say in this message? If man, if you 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:26.320 want to ruin my sunday, you could have just said 0:17:26.320 --> 0:17:28.320 all that what I need to come over your house for? 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:30.720 I need to come over there. If you had something 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:32.240 to say, you should have said it while I was dead, 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:34.159 or you know, you should have said it on Friday 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:36.800 when we had this conversation, when we was talking about it. 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:40.400 Now you're gonna ruined my sunday. You want to rule 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:44.680 like Cole, And I'm just like I'm sorry, why are 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:48.320 you yawlling? Why you find said nothing? My message was negative? 0:17:48.800 --> 0:17:50.480 I ain't read it. You're talking about I got a 0:17:50.520 --> 0:17:52.880 family at home, And I'm like, what you mean if 0:17:52.880 --> 0:17:54.679 you didn't read the message, you would have known that 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:56.760 I said that in a message. He like, no, you said, 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:58.919 and when I was there too, Now, why would I 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:01.959 have somebody at home know me? And I'm here, I'm like, 0:18:02.160 --> 0:18:05.520 just like any other cheating nigga. What you mean, like, 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.600 cut that ship out? So he like, we should have 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:10.640 been had this conversation that I said, Well, you kept 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:13.840 saying more conversation need to be had, I say, and 0:18:13.840 --> 0:18:16.120 you kept hitting around and stuff, but you just didn't 0:18:16.119 --> 0:18:17.600 want to come out and tell me. I said, I 0:18:17.720 --> 0:18:19.880 just wanted you to know. And I'm calm still, I'm 0:18:19.920 --> 0:18:22.119 so calm talking to him. I'm like, I just wanted 0:18:22.160 --> 0:18:24.800 you to know, Like I know that baby is yours. 0:18:25.359 --> 0:18:28.200 I've seen the picture she posted, Like the baby got 0:18:28.200 --> 0:18:30.560 the same initials as you first in the middle, and 0:18:30.720 --> 0:18:34.000 let's name it's all you, same initials and it's the 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:36.000 same exact name that you told me you wanted to 0:18:36.080 --> 0:18:40.080 name our child. So cut it out. He like, man, 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:42.440 that's what you wanna go with, that's what you wanta 0:18:42.480 --> 0:18:45.760 go with. I'm like, that's what I know. I got 0:18:45.800 --> 0:18:49.160 my answer. I got what I needed because the way 0:18:49.200 --> 0:18:52.080 you're responded to me right now is telling me everything 0:18:52.119 --> 0:18:55.560 I need to know. Because if it wasn't your child, 0:18:56.080 --> 0:18:59.240 you'll be like, for real, bag, like that's not my child, 0:18:59.800 --> 0:19:03.439 like for real. But every time he goes in this 0:19:03.560 --> 0:19:06.840 defense mode and just start talking over me and fussing 0:19:06.880 --> 0:19:10.080 and making it like, um, the problem, and I'm just like, 0:19:10.400 --> 0:19:12.199 at this point, I don't know what to do, Like 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:14.120 I know what to do, I know what I need 0:19:14.160 --> 0:19:16.120 to do, and he like, if you want to move on, 0:19:16.640 --> 0:19:18.960 just move on, just say that if you need closure, 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:21.879 just something you need closure. You keep coming at me 0:19:21.920 --> 0:19:24.760 with this bull crap, just something you need closure. I'm like, 0:19:24.800 --> 0:19:27.359 what I need is the truth. But I have the truth. 0:19:27.800 --> 0:19:29.960 I don't need the truth. I just want him to 0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:33.040 really come out and say it, but he's not gonna 0:19:33.119 --> 0:19:36.879 do that. I don't think God's understand Sometimes if you 0:19:36.960 --> 0:19:40.159 just tell the truth, you don't know what us women 0:19:40.200 --> 0:19:42.639 are willing to accept. Tell me what it really is, 0:19:42.680 --> 0:19:44.679 so I know what to expect from you, and I 0:19:44.800 --> 0:19:47.080 know what to put out because I can give out 0:19:47.119 --> 0:19:49.240 the same energy. But if I still want you in 0:19:49.280 --> 0:19:52.760 my life for whatever reason, I can do that as well. 0:19:52.800 --> 0:19:55.560 So give me the option to figure out what I 0:19:55.600 --> 0:19:57.960 want to do what you don't make that decision for 0:19:58.119 --> 0:20:02.080 me by lying. The trust is already gone. It's gone, 0:20:02.520 --> 0:20:05.760 But for some reason, I still want him in my space, 0:20:06.080 --> 0:20:08.920 even though I know the nigga is lying and had 0:20:08.960 --> 0:20:11.119 a baby on me. Now. I don't even know how 0:20:11.160 --> 0:20:14.119 long he was knowing this girl, but I know he 0:20:14.240 --> 0:20:16.800 talked about he wasn't had a child with me, and 0:20:16.840 --> 0:20:19.600 then this girl ends up pregnant. Just help me, Joss 0:20:19.720 --> 0:20:25.159 stinks girl. First of all, that was long and ship, 0:20:25.280 --> 0:20:28.119