1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: and the Black Effects. And just like that, we're back 3 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: with yet another Carefully Reckless episode with your girl Jess Hilarious. Look, 4 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: I don't want you all to stop calling me no 5 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:25,079 Speaker 1: doctor Hilarious or or Dr Jessa nothing. But I really 6 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 1: be feeling like I'm helping you all. I know I 7 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:29,400 Speaker 1: say this every week, but it never gets old to me. 8 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 1: When I opened up my b MS from the Carefully 9 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:36,400 Speaker 1: Reckless page and you guys are telling me, oh my god, Jess, 10 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:38,239 Speaker 1: you've helped me. Oh my god, I did sit down 11 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:40,199 Speaker 1: and have a conversation. Oh my god, things are so 12 00:00:40,280 --> 00:00:42,480 Speaker 1: much better now. I only had a few people tell 13 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:45,000 Speaker 1: me that their situation is still the same, but that's 14 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:47,959 Speaker 1: because they really, really really are in love and they 15 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:50,199 Speaker 1: just want to see it through. And some people want 16 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: to see it through. And sometimes people have to go 17 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 1: through with their journey to see what wasn't good for them. 18 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:59,440 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's not even what somebody else telling you what 19 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: you can do is the answer. No no, no no no. 20 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:04,560 Speaker 1: Sometimes you just have to go through things for yourself. 21 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: But I love the people that I am able to help. 22 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 1: I love hearing that feedback that I was able to 23 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,000 Speaker 1: help you guys, and I love hearing the other feedback 24 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:14,680 Speaker 1: too that I wasn't able to help. That just means 25 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:18,720 Speaker 1: you need some professional help. Okay, some licensed professional help, 26 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 1: because I think I'm pretty professional. What y'all think, let 27 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: me know, So we're gonna jump right in. This is 28 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 1: a long story, mind you, but it is a good one. 29 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: This woman submitted voice notes, and I mean her situation 30 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: is just, oh my god, up and down crazy. It's 31 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,959 Speaker 1: like a ball of confusion that just unravels before our ears. 32 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 1: So listen and listen carefully because it's rather long. So 33 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:42,840 Speaker 1: this may be the only one I get to cover today, 34 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 1: but trust me, this one story is worth it. All right. Hey, 35 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: j I'm gon trying to keep destroying short, but I 36 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: definitely need you to fix my mess. Okay, So a 37 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 1: little back story. I moved to Charlotte five years ago 38 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: from Baltimore, and I met a maybe a year after 39 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:05,120 Speaker 1: I moved here, and we have been good up until 40 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 1: ten months ago and all went left out of really 41 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 1: out of nowhere. You know, when they say you don't 42 00:02:11,639 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 1: have to go looking for stuff, it just falls in 43 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:18,160 Speaker 1: your lap sometimes, So that's what happened. So we were inconsistent, 44 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: so it was off and on. But we care for 45 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 1: each other. We love each other. He never went a 46 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: day without telling me how much he loved me. But 47 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: we never made it an official official but that definitely 48 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:34,080 Speaker 1: was an understanding. We definitely had a situation ship, We 49 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:38,520 Speaker 1: talked about having kids, all of that. It just we 50 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:41,600 Speaker 1: was never consistent. Yes, I talked to other people on 51 00:02:41,639 --> 00:02:44,639 Speaker 1: the side, but he was my main person. We're both 52 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 1: in our late thirties. He wanted more, but in the 53 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: back of my head, I always felt like there was 54 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 1: something he was not always been up from me about. 55 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:56,120 Speaker 1: He's been married before, so he used to say that 56 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: he's not rushing into anything, but he knew he wanted 57 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:01,640 Speaker 1: to get married again, but he wanted to get on everything, 58 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:04,919 Speaker 1: like a house and all of that stuff first before 59 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 1: he settled down again. He would like to say, because 60 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:10,960 Speaker 1: his ex wife basically she took everything and he was 61 00:03:11,000 --> 00:03:12,880 Speaker 1: like living in the car and all of that stuff, 62 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: so he wanted to have his own before he settled 63 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: down again. Okay, whatever, I hear you, But he always 64 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:22,919 Speaker 1: made me feel like I was that one like when 65 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 1: those things happened, because he always kept me in a loop, 66 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:28,079 Speaker 1: was buying a house, all of that. So he made 67 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 1: me feel like I was that one. But again I 68 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: always felt something still wasn't right. So let's get to 69 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 1: this real story why I need you to fix my mask. 70 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 1: So one night ten months ago, I went over his house, 71 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: and when I got there, I just kept saying some 72 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 1: lame right, and I would just keep asking them, like 73 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:51,120 Speaker 1: what you do different in here? I always used to 74 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 1: tell him. For him to be a single guy living 75 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 1: on his own, his house definitely didn't just look like 76 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:01,520 Speaker 1: a bachelor's bad look like my body had decorated his house. 77 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 1: He had a woman's touch, I would say. But he 78 00:04:03,720 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: used to always tell me I was tripping anyway. When 79 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 1: I would stay with him, I would spending night. He 80 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 1: would get up and go to work, leave me there. 81 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: I would get up whenever I was ready to get 82 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 1: head out to go to work or whatever to go 83 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:19,240 Speaker 1: back home. He always left me in his house without 84 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 1: any problem. So this one particular night, and it maybe 85 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:26,160 Speaker 1: been like eleven o'clock or so, man, he made a 86 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 1: call me like, yeah, I gotta get up early in 87 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:32,160 Speaker 1: the morning, around three o'clock to be the work by 88 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:35,880 Speaker 1: whatever time. And I'm like, okay, but he made the 89 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:38,839 Speaker 1: comment to make it seem like he wanted me to leave, 90 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:41,159 Speaker 1: because he said something like, now I want you to 91 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:44,279 Speaker 1: have to get up at three in the morning, And 92 00:04:44,320 --> 00:04:47,919 Speaker 1: I'm saying to myself, any other time you have to 93 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 1: get up or whatever time you left me here, and 94 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:53,039 Speaker 1: I would just see myself out. But you know, I 95 00:04:53,120 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 1: was like, I'm not even gonna question it because I'm 96 00:04:56,760 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 1: never gonna bag somebody for me to stay. I got 97 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:03,000 Speaker 1: my own place. I take my ass home. So that's 98 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 1: what I did. But it bothered me so much. The 99 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:08,880 Speaker 1: next day, I'm at work, but I'm thinking about it, 100 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 1: and so I said something to him. I'm like, what's 101 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:15,800 Speaker 1: the difference why all of us are now I need 102 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 1: to go home instead of just staying the night, even 103 00:05:18,600 --> 00:05:21,839 Speaker 1: if you got to get up early, And he like, no, baby, 104 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,279 Speaker 1: you know I love you. I didn't want you to 105 00:05:24,279 --> 00:05:26,560 Speaker 1: get up and leave them. You know I don't like 106 00:05:26,640 --> 00:05:28,280 Speaker 1: for you to go home in the middle of the night. 107 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:30,680 Speaker 1: You could have stayed. You should have just said something, 108 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:34,719 Speaker 1: I would have rather you stayed. And I'm like, that's bullshit, 109 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:37,880 Speaker 1: because if you would have rather me stay, you wouldn't 110 00:05:37,880 --> 00:05:40,279 Speaker 1: even had commented that you had to get up at 111 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 1: three o'clock in the morning. You don't want me to 112 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: have to get up, or you could have been like, yeah, 113 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 1: I gotta get up at three in the morning, but 114 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: of course see your way out whenever you get ready. Um, 115 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: he's like, wow, that's why we need to communicate. I 116 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 1: tell you all the time, speak up if you feel 117 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: some type of way to speak up. I went a kid, 118 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:58,160 Speaker 1: you could have stayed. You already know you could have stayed. 119 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 1: So he does this thing where if I bring something 120 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:04,719 Speaker 1: to his attention, if I say something, he likes to 121 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:07,920 Speaker 1: switch it up and then play victim or act like 122 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:11,920 Speaker 1: I'm tripping like he likes to fuss and talk over me. 123 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: So he finds a way to switch up the story 124 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 1: like he always does, and talk about the house and 125 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:20,680 Speaker 1: how he gonna be ready to settle down and move 126 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:23,040 Speaker 1: me in. Like he does that, he will switch up 127 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: the story and did try to start saying stuff he 128 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:27,760 Speaker 1: thinks I want to hear, but that ship was still 129 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:30,480 Speaker 1: on my mind, so I didn't let it go. So 130 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:33,360 Speaker 1: for some reason, something told me to go to his Instagram. 131 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:37,679 Speaker 1: Now every time he posts something, he has like hundreds 132 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 1: of comments under everything he posted majority of my females 133 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 1: and it's like with a bunch of heart emojis and 134 00:06:44,040 --> 00:06:46,560 Speaker 1: stuff which I don't I don't care. I told him 135 00:06:46,560 --> 00:06:49,600 Speaker 1: he got his little fans. Whatever. But I clicked on 136 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:53,360 Speaker 1: this one particular page. So what drew me to this 137 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 1: one particular page was the person does nails Now. He's always, like, 138 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:02,560 Speaker 1: really been into females having their nails and stuff done, 139 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 1: to the point where he would tell me was shape 140 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:07,560 Speaker 1: to get and when I say shapes, he would say 141 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:12,080 Speaker 1: coughing stiletto. He would say, um it like he knew 142 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 1: stuff that most men don't know about nails. And I 143 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:17,360 Speaker 1: asked him one time, like why do you know so 144 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:20,680 Speaker 1: much about nails? And he'd be like, don't forget. I 145 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 1: was married at one time. I did pay for my 146 00:07:23,520 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 1: wife to get her nails and stuff done. And I'm like, 147 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: even if you did pay for your wife to get 148 00:07:28,680 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 1: her nails and you're just giving her the money, you 149 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:36,120 Speaker 1: don't really know most men don't know certain terminology for nails. 150 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: And I'm like, whatever, So I click on this girl's page. 151 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 1: It's our business page, and majority of our page is 152 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:48,360 Speaker 1: her showing off her work. So I'm scrolling down, scrolling down, 153 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 1: and I come across a video she post of him. 154 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 1: It's a birthday video, and the birthday video basically she 155 00:07:57,960 --> 00:08:01,240 Speaker 1: says on their like heppy birthday to my day one 156 00:08:01,320 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 1: or something like that. It's real generic like so it 157 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 1: doesn't say what they are to each other. But I 158 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 1: held that as evidence, so I screenshot that. So then 159 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 1: I'm scrolling some more, and then I come across another 160 00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 1: video of an exact same video he posted on his 161 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:24,400 Speaker 1: page when he got his corn dog. It's like the 162 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:28,400 Speaker 1: key to saying like welcome home, home, sweet home, and 163 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:32,520 Speaker 1: under her post it basically was saying how she just 164 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:34,800 Speaker 1: got a new house or whatever, new condole and she 165 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:39,160 Speaker 1: was moving. And I'm like, it's mind boggling, because mindrew 166 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 1: the condo. I've been there. I spent the night there 167 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:45,560 Speaker 1: several times, like I was always there. But remember I 168 00:08:45,600 --> 00:08:48,240 Speaker 1: said to you how I always felt like his condo 169 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:51,200 Speaker 1: looked like it had a woman's touch. But that same 170 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 1: furniture that he moved into the condo, he had his 171 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 1: town home when I first met him, mandrew, I used 172 00:08:57,280 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: to stay at the town home too, So I'm just confused. 173 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 1: So our screenshot at that as well. I'm like, I'm 174 00:09:04,120 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 1: gonna just keep holding all the stuff. So I came 175 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:08,960 Speaker 1: up with this whole story, like, you know, I'm looking 176 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:10,760 Speaker 1: for a new person to do my nails because he 177 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:13,480 Speaker 1: knew I was like fed up with going to the 178 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 1: nail salons here, so I was trying to find for 179 00:09:16,320 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 1: real and real life. I really was trying to find 180 00:09:18,800 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 1: like a black person to support. So I went to him. 181 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:24,560 Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I was recommended to this girl, 182 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 1: and I realized, y'all know each other, so let me 183 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:30,240 Speaker 1: ask you about it. You know, you think I should 184 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:32,640 Speaker 1: get my nails done by her. I was trying to 185 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 1: see if he was going to persuade me to go 186 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:37,400 Speaker 1: or not to go to her. So he did exactly 187 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:39,840 Speaker 1: what I thought he was gonna do. He talked man 188 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:43,440 Speaker 1: Ship basically like nah, you know, I went and go 189 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 1: to her. She wrote, inconsistent. She liked to cancel on 190 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 1: people like Ship talked to her, and I'm like, okay, 191 00:09:50,679 --> 00:09:52,160 Speaker 1: I got there in the back of my head too, 192 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:54,079 Speaker 1: because I knew that's what he was going to do. 193 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 1: More and more this situation just not sitting right with me. 194 00:09:58,240 --> 00:10:01,760 Speaker 1: So after that, I started doing a little bit more 195 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:06,640 Speaker 1: research I found her TikTok, and I find that she 196 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:11,960 Speaker 1: is pregnant. She has a sonogram video up of her 197 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:15,160 Speaker 1: in the doctor's office. And I told you him and 198 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 1: I talked about having kids. All right, Let's just say 199 00:10:18,160 --> 00:10:24,680 Speaker 1: he told me he wanted to name his next daughter Tanya. Tanya. Yeah, 200 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 1: let's say he said he wanted to name his daughter 201 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:29,160 Speaker 1: Tanya if he had a child. And so I go 202 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:34,280 Speaker 1: on her Instagram page and I see she says, Tanya, 203 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:38,840 Speaker 1: my man, daddy cannot wait to meet you. We love you. 204 00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:41,680 Speaker 1: We're just gonna say Tanya. But just know the name 205 00:10:41,760 --> 00:10:44,880 Speaker 1: that he really wanted. It's not a name that most 206 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: people would name that child like. It's a unique name. 207 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: Let's say it was like West Okay on blue Out. 208 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 1: It was a name like that, and that everybody is 209 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 1: not going to say they want to leave that child. 210 00:10:57,480 --> 00:11:00,640 Speaker 1: So that's what she puts on the post. And as 211 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: sure as I saw my heart drop because I'm like, what, 212 00:11:04,160 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 1: this girl is pregnant and she never said his name 213 00:11:07,800 --> 00:11:12,000 Speaker 1: her name, but I knew by the child's name. Still 214 00:11:12,120 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 1: don't say nothing to him, though, I still don't say 215 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: nothing to him. I asked him, I say, is there 216 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 1: anything you need to share with me anything you need 217 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:22,599 Speaker 1: to tell me. He's like, no, Baby, you know, I 218 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 1: don't got nothing to tell you. I don't have to 219 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:26,320 Speaker 1: hide nothing from you. If I had something to tell 220 00:11:26,360 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 1: you know, I would tell you I love you and 221 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 1: all of that talking, all that stuff, switch up the 222 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: conversation again. I'm just like, I'm holding to this stuff. 223 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:38,760 Speaker 1: So one night I'm searching, you know, I'm looking up 224 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:44,400 Speaker 1: baby registries. At this point, I did Walmart, Amazon, Target, Burlton, 225 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 1: I did all of that ship I couldn't find nothing. 226 00:11:47,800 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: Like all right, I'm still not gonna give up. I 227 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:53,960 Speaker 1: know I'm not going crazy. This nigga got this girl pregnant. 228 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 1: I'm not stupid. So one random night, in the middle 229 00:11:57,240 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 1: of night, I can't sleep, I googled. This time, instead 230 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:05,880 Speaker 1: of going directly to the websites, I google baby registrates 231 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:08,840 Speaker 1: and the first thing that pop up was bye bye baby. 232 00:12:08,960 --> 00:12:10,920 Speaker 1: And I go straight to the registrate and I type 233 00:12:10,960 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: her name man, I type his name man, boom, We'll 234 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 1: come up her picture, his name saying the baby was 235 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:24,200 Speaker 1: to do the next mouth okay, and I screenshot at 236 00:12:24,240 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 1: it and I just saw read From there. It was 237 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:30,160 Speaker 1: like two o'clock in the morning, so I screenshot it. 238 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:32,880 Speaker 1: I sent him everything that I had been screenshot and 239 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:36,199 Speaker 1: from when I first got that feeling that he was 240 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 1: lying to me about something. Sent everything to him in 241 00:12:39,440 --> 00:12:40,680 Speaker 1: the middle of the night and I was like, I 242 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:44,200 Speaker 1: know you was lying. It just didn't sit right with me. 243 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: Told him everything how I felt that morning. Once he 244 00:12:47,640 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 1: gets up and see it, he calls me and he's 245 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:53,960 Speaker 1: on a thousand, like right enough, cutting me out, and 246 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:57,840 Speaker 1: he tells me this bullshit is story that he had 247 00:12:57,920 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 1: to go to court for child support for his other 248 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:05,040 Speaker 1: child with his ex, so he paid this girl, however 249 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 1: much money to put up a fake registry to make 250 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:10,520 Speaker 1: it look like he was the father so that he 251 00:13:10,559 --> 00:13:13,360 Speaker 1: didn't have to pay more money and child support to 252 00:13:13,440 --> 00:13:16,959 Speaker 1: his ex wife. And I lost it, and I'm like, 253 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:20,920 Speaker 1: you must think I'm stupid, like I was born yesterday, 254 00:13:21,080 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 1: Like the audacity for you to even think that I 255 00:13:24,040 --> 00:13:27,880 Speaker 1: would believe this story. I was so pissed off. I 256 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:31,520 Speaker 1: hung up and that was it for ten months. We 257 00:13:31,600 --> 00:13:35,960 Speaker 1: didn't talk up until the other day. Hold up, Hold up, 258 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 1: I know the ship getting good, but listen to just 259 00:13:37,960 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me. 260 00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 1: You'll listen now. Within those ten months, I tried to 261 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:48,240 Speaker 1: reach out. He never blocked me. I never blocked him 262 00:13:48,720 --> 00:13:51,520 Speaker 1: on social media or on my phone, never blocked him 263 00:13:51,720 --> 00:13:54,840 Speaker 1: because I knew it wasn't over. I have a thing 264 00:13:54,960 --> 00:13:58,440 Speaker 1: when even when somebody hurts me, if I really care 265 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:00,920 Speaker 1: about them, I end up going back to them, even 266 00:14:00,960 --> 00:14:03,560 Speaker 1: though I'm the one being hurt, trying to fix it 267 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:06,600 Speaker 1: or trying to make it right. So I've reached out 268 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:08,960 Speaker 1: to him several times. He straight left me on red 269 00:14:09,040 --> 00:14:14,040 Speaker 1: ignored me each and every time until last Thursday that 270 00:14:14,240 --> 00:14:17,920 Speaker 1: just passed. I missed him these last ten months. I 271 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:21,000 Speaker 1: missed him and I really do care for him. So 272 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:23,640 Speaker 1: when he came to see me, I knew it probably 273 00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 1: wasn't gonna be a long visit. Because again, since we've 274 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:30,840 Speaker 1: been talking, I noticed he only talked to me when 275 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 1: he's out the house. As soon as he gets home, 276 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:36,680 Speaker 1: I don't hear from him. So that's something new now 277 00:14:36,760 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, was he gets home, I don't 278 00:14:38,960 --> 00:14:42,760 Speaker 1: hear from him. Like Saturday, he called me. He was outside, 279 00:14:42,800 --> 00:14:44,880 Speaker 1: it was like seven in the morning. He was already 280 00:14:44,880 --> 00:14:47,040 Speaker 1: gone out of the house. And I'm the first person 281 00:14:47,120 --> 00:14:49,800 Speaker 1: he calls when he gets outside, So I'm noticing all 282 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:52,000 Speaker 1: of this. I'm noticing all of this in these last 283 00:14:52,000 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: couple of days. I say, I'm not going to bring 284 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:57,000 Speaker 1: it up while he's here. I'm just going to chill 285 00:14:57,120 --> 00:15:00,440 Speaker 1: enjoy his company right now. He's here for maybe words, 286 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 1: So he leaves and then my mind go to ruling. 287 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 1: So I touched him, like, it's just seeing you. It's 288 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:10,920 Speaker 1: been too long, like I know why you had to leave. 289 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 1: I know you had to get back home to your family. 290 00:15:12,880 --> 00:15:15,360 Speaker 1: Because he kept saying certain things when he was here, 291 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:18,400 Speaker 1: like he wanted to tell me, but he wanted me 292 00:15:18,480 --> 00:15:20,080 Speaker 1: to bring it up. And I was just like, I'm 293 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:21,800 Speaker 1: not bringing it up right now. I don't want to 294 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:23,960 Speaker 1: hear the lies because I knew he wasn't gonna tell me. 295 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 1: But he kept saying certain things like he wants to 296 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:29,680 Speaker 1: tell me, but he don't know how I'm going to react, 297 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:33,840 Speaker 1: or he's just not ready. But he was making certain comments, 298 00:15:34,720 --> 00:15:36,840 Speaker 1: saying stuff about babies or what I've been doing the 299 00:15:36,920 --> 00:15:40,240 Speaker 1: last ten months, who's been with me the last ten months, 300 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 1: when I've been doing, who's been at my house and 301 00:15:42,760 --> 00:15:45,320 Speaker 1: all of that stuff, And I was I was throwing 302 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:47,440 Speaker 1: them same questions back at him, and I'm like, I'm 303 00:15:47,440 --> 00:15:50,280 Speaker 1: sure there's been somebody consistent in your life in the 304 00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:52,680 Speaker 1: last ten months. And he's like, oh, that's what you 305 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:55,680 Speaker 1: that's what you believe. And I'm like, I know for sure, 306 00:15:55,720 --> 00:15:58,040 Speaker 1: and he's like, oh, how you know what makes you 307 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 1: think you know? Like he was saying something started saying's 308 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:04,400 Speaker 1: random stuff about babies, and I'm like, just go in 309 00:16:04,520 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 1: and tell me. So when he leaves, I sent a message, 310 00:16:07,760 --> 00:16:09,960 Speaker 1: and then that message again, I'm just like thanking him 311 00:16:09,960 --> 00:16:12,720 Speaker 1: for coming. And then I said to him, I know 312 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:15,240 Speaker 1: that baby is yours, and when you really ready that 313 00:16:15,360 --> 00:16:19,120 Speaker 1: had that conversation, let's have it. I said. I think 314 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: it will make whatever this is a little bit better. 315 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:25,280 Speaker 1: We need to have an understand it, I said, because 316 00:16:25,440 --> 00:16:28,040 Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna lie. It's stung at first when 317 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:31,080 Speaker 1: I found out, but everything happens for a reason. I'm 318 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:34,160 Speaker 1: okay with it now, but that still does not deny 319 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:36,200 Speaker 1: the love that I have for you. But I would 320 00:16:36,200 --> 00:16:38,320 Speaker 1: just respect you more if you just came out and 321 00:16:38,360 --> 00:16:41,200 Speaker 1: told me. So, That's what my text master said to him. 322 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:43,200 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm still love you at the end 323 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:45,720 Speaker 1: of the day. Now, does that mean our relationship is 324 00:16:45,720 --> 00:16:48,760 Speaker 1: gonna stay the same? No, because I can't say when 325 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:52,440 Speaker 1: I hear yes, that is my baby, how I'm gonna feel. 326 00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:54,560 Speaker 1: I know how I want to feel. I know how 327 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:57,280 Speaker 1: I want to just move on, but I don't know. 328 00:16:57,720 --> 00:16:59,680 Speaker 1: I know already I know the answer, but I need 329 00:16:59,760 --> 00:17:03,680 Speaker 1: him to tell me. So he calls me after I 330 00:17:03,720 --> 00:17:05,840 Speaker 1: sent a text in message and it's like he's on 331 00:17:05,920 --> 00:17:08,840 Speaker 1: the thousand again. So you want me to call you, 332 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:11,359 Speaker 1: or you want me to read this message while I'm driving. 333 00:17:11,640 --> 00:17:14,800 Speaker 1: I can't read this message while I'm driving and I'm high. 334 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:17,320 Speaker 1: And then like he come off real crazy, and I'm like, 335 00:17:17,480 --> 00:17:21,719 Speaker 1: why what did you talking about? Like what's what you're 336 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:24,040 Speaker 1: trying to say in this message? If man, if you 337 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:26,320 Speaker 1: want to ruin my sunday, you could have just said 338 00:17:26,320 --> 00:17:28,320 Speaker 1: all that what I need to come over your house for? 339 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:30,720 Speaker 1: I need to come over there. If you had something 340 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:32,240 Speaker 1: to say, you should have said it while I was dead, 341 00:17:32,560 --> 00:17:34,159 Speaker 1: or you know, you should have said it on Friday 342 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:36,800 Speaker 1: when we had this conversation, when we was talking about it. 343 00:17:38,200 --> 00:17:40,400 Speaker 1: Now you're gonna ruined my sunday. You want to rule 344 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:44,680 Speaker 1: like Cole, And I'm just like I'm sorry, why are 345 00:17:44,680 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 1: you yawlling? Why you find said nothing? My message was negative? 346 00:17:48,800 --> 00:17:50,480 Speaker 1: I ain't read it. You're talking about I got a 347 00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:52,880 Speaker 1: family at home, And I'm like, what you mean if 348 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:54,679 Speaker 1: you didn't read the message, you would have known that 349 00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:56,760 Speaker 1: I said that in a message. He like, no, you said, 350 00:17:56,760 --> 00:17:58,919 Speaker 1: and when I was there too, Now, why would I 351 00:17:58,920 --> 00:18:01,959 Speaker 1: have somebody at home know me? And I'm here, I'm like, 352 00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:05,520 Speaker 1: just like any other cheating nigga. What you mean, like, 353 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 1: cut that ship out? So he like, we should have 354 00:18:08,640 --> 00:18:10,640 Speaker 1: been had this conversation that I said, Well, you kept 355 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: saying more conversation need to be had, I say, and 356 00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:16,120 Speaker 1: you kept hitting around and stuff, but you just didn't 357 00:18:16,119 --> 00:18:17,600 Speaker 1: want to come out and tell me. I said, I 358 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:19,880 Speaker 1: just wanted you to know. And I'm calm still, I'm 359 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:22,119 Speaker 1: so calm talking to him. I'm like, I just wanted 360 00:18:22,160 --> 00:18:24,800 Speaker 1: you to know, Like I know that baby is yours. 361 00:18:25,359 --> 00:18:28,200 Speaker 1: I've seen the picture she posted, Like the baby got 362 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:30,560 Speaker 1: the same initials as you first in the middle, and 363 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:34,000 Speaker 1: let's name it's all you, same initials and it's the 364 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:36,000 Speaker 1: same exact name that you told me you wanted to 365 00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:40,080 Speaker 1: name our child. So cut it out. He like, man, 366 00:18:40,520 --> 00:18:42,440 Speaker 1: that's what you wanna go with, that's what you wanta 367 00:18:42,480 --> 00:18:45,760 Speaker 1: go with. I'm like, that's what I know. I got 368 00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:49,160 Speaker 1: my answer. I got what I needed because the way 369 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 1: you're responded to me right now is telling me everything 370 00:18:52,119 --> 00:18:55,560 Speaker 1: I need to know. Because if it wasn't your child, 371 00:18:56,080 --> 00:18:59,240 Speaker 1: you'll be like, for real, bag, like that's not my child, 372 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:03,439 Speaker 1: like for real. But every time he goes in this 373 00:19:03,560 --> 00:19:06,840 Speaker 1: defense mode and just start talking over me and fussing 374 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:10,080 Speaker 1: and making it like, um, the problem, and I'm just like, 375 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:12,199 Speaker 1: at this point, I don't know what to do, Like 376 00:19:12,680 --> 00:19:14,120 Speaker 1: I know what to do, I know what I need 377 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:16,120 Speaker 1: to do, and he like, if you want to move on, 378 00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:18,960 Speaker 1: just move on, just say that if you need closure, 379 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:21,879 Speaker 1: just something you need closure. You keep coming at me 380 00:19:21,920 --> 00:19:24,760 Speaker 1: with this bull crap, just something you need closure. I'm like, 381 00:19:24,800 --> 00:19:27,359 Speaker 1: what I need is the truth. But I have the truth. 382 00:19:27,800 --> 00:19:29,960 Speaker 1: I don't need the truth. I just want him to 383 00:19:30,080 --> 00:19:33,040 Speaker 1: really come out and say it, but he's not gonna 384 00:19:33,119 --> 00:19:36,879 Speaker 1: do that. I don't think God's understand Sometimes if you 385 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:40,159 Speaker 1: just tell the truth, you don't know what us women 386 00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:42,639 Speaker 1: are willing to accept. Tell me what it really is, 387 00:19:42,680 --> 00:19:44,679 Speaker 1: so I know what to expect from you, and I 388 00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:47,080 Speaker 1: know what to put out because I can give out 389 00:19:47,119 --> 00:19:49,240 Speaker 1: the same energy. But if I still want you in 390 00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:52,760 Speaker 1: my life for whatever reason, I can do that as well. 391 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:55,560 Speaker 1: So give me the option to figure out what I 392 00:19:55,600 --> 00:19:57,960 Speaker 1: want to do what you don't make that decision for 393 00:19:58,119 --> 00:20:02,080 Speaker 1: me by lying. The trust is already gone. It's gone, 394 00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:05,760 Speaker 1: But for some reason, I still want him in my space, 395 00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:08,920 Speaker 1: even though I know the nigga is lying and had 396 00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:11,119 Speaker 1: a baby on me. Now. I don't even know how 397 00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:14,119 Speaker 1: long he was knowing this girl, but I know he 398 00:20:14,240 --> 00:20:16,800 Speaker 1: talked about he wasn't had a child with me, and 399 00:20:16,840 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 1: then this girl ends up pregnant. Just help me, Joss 400 00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:25,159 Speaker 1: stinks girl. First of all, that was long and ship, 401 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,119 Speaker 1: all right, and you made me mad so many goddamned 402 00:20:28,119 --> 00:20:31,680 Speaker 1: times that I had to write notes. I had to 403 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:36,440 Speaker 1: write notes while I was listening to your story. First 404 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:39,160 Speaker 1: of all, you from Baltimore, that's what you're doing. What 405 00:20:39,200 --> 00:20:41,480 Speaker 1: the fund is you doing just for me? To you 406 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:43,080 Speaker 1: and me? And you got the same name, and I 407 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:45,320 Speaker 1: ain't talking about my first name. Me and you got 408 00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 1: the same name. Bitch. What the funk is you doing 409 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:52,119 Speaker 1: going down there taking that ship from a Charlotte nigga? 410 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:54,439 Speaker 1: You could have stayed home and took that ship from 411 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:58,159 Speaker 1: one of these niggas. The fuck you pissing me off 412 00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:01,000 Speaker 1: for real because you're too old for the ship. Now 413 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:04,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be professional, all right. So after listening to everything, 414 00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:08,600 Speaker 1: baby girl, all right, let's go to the beginning. Your 415 00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:11,840 Speaker 1: first instinct when you walked in that damn condo, you've 416 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:16,200 Speaker 1: seen the woman's touch. You pointed that out specifically. You've 417 00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:18,439 Speaker 1: seen it, so you already know what it was. Because 418 00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:20,439 Speaker 1: most of the time when we feel something in our stomach, 419 00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:22,520 Speaker 1: we feel something and we know it's called woman in 420 00:21:22,560 --> 00:21:24,840 Speaker 1: the wish and you know that we're right most of 421 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:26,880 Speaker 1: the time. I'm not gonna say women are always right, 422 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:31,280 Speaker 1: but very seldom are we not. You are right in 423 00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:34,359 Speaker 1: your mind. You seem to have a lot of sense, 424 00:21:34,760 --> 00:21:37,399 Speaker 1: but you ignore that ship a lot you ever heard of, 425 00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:40,200 Speaker 1: like mind over matter, You need to do mind over heart. 426 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:42,680 Speaker 1: Sometimes that's what us women need to realize. We need 427 00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:46,400 Speaker 1: to do mind over heart. You love with your heart. 428 00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:50,639 Speaker 1: You think what your mind, but you need both. But 429 00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:54,720 Speaker 1: you need your mind more than your motherfucking heart because 430 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:59,600 Speaker 1: your heart gonna have you somewhere. Girl going crazy? All 431 00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:02,200 Speaker 1: ain't now? Bringing it back to that one particular night 432 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:05,360 Speaker 1: when he told you that three o'clock in the morning bullshit, 433 00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:08,080 Speaker 1: and you got up and left, and you waited till 434 00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:09,840 Speaker 1: the next day to say something. Now, he was right 435 00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:13,880 Speaker 1: about one thing. Communicate. Communicate. He ain't ship, all right, 436 00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:17,480 Speaker 1: But he was not lying about that. Communicate because honestly, 437 00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:20,040 Speaker 1: if you would have said that ship when he told you, 438 00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:21,359 Speaker 1: I don't want you to have to get up three 439 00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:23,480 Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning, you should have said that ship 440 00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:24,959 Speaker 1: right there. Well, I never had to get up three 441 00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:26,720 Speaker 1: o'clock in the morning. You always leave me. And what's 442 00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:29,199 Speaker 1: the problem now? Do you want me to leave or 443 00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 1: what are you expecting somebody else or you know whatever. 444 00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:35,240 Speaker 1: Regardless of his fucking response, as long as this is 445 00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:37,680 Speaker 1: with a swan one, you ain't shipped. You can get 446 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:39,640 Speaker 1: mad in my face all day, huff and puff, blow 447 00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:42,960 Speaker 1: this motherfucking house down there. But I'm asking you a question, 448 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 1: why would you say this to me when you let 449 00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:47,679 Speaker 1: me let myself off any other time you'ven't left me 450 00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:49,639 Speaker 1: in your house. You said you've been to the condo, 451 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 1: you've been to the townhouse, and all of that. You 452 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,199 Speaker 1: were supposed to say something right then and there. But 453 00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,600 Speaker 1: you're leaving time for it to summer. You're saying something 454 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 1: the next day. Gave him a chance to fucking to you. 455 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:02,760 Speaker 1: He lied to He was able to lie because he 456 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:05,840 Speaker 1: could have said anything at that point, because the moment 457 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:08,280 Speaker 1: is now past, it's over, and he did what is 458 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:11,560 Speaker 1: exactly what he was supposed to do. Oh no, baby, 459 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,080 Speaker 1: why do you say nothing? Then? I you know, I 460 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:14,920 Speaker 1: would never want you to leave you. You know, the 461 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:18,639 Speaker 1: the the that's moving ship over for you. Communicate in 462 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:20,960 Speaker 1: real time, you know. That's what I'm learning in my 463 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:23,639 Speaker 1: relationship now. I have to communicate things in real time. 464 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,119 Speaker 1: You don't let a person make you mad and then 465 00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:28,880 Speaker 1: you wait days and days or even hours and hours. 466 00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 1: Just say something, Say something right then and there. Now, 467 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:35,719 Speaker 1: not about every little thing, but you have to communicate 468 00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:37,359 Speaker 1: in real time. You can't just let ship go on 469 00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:40,359 Speaker 1: because niggas can't read minds. Men cannot read your mind, 470 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:42,879 Speaker 1: all right, We can read there's a lot more than 471 00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:44,960 Speaker 1: they can read outs. And honestly, men don't want to 472 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:47,440 Speaker 1: read our minds because they have the time. They already 473 00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:50,399 Speaker 1: can kind of feel what we're thinking. And they scared 474 00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:55,720 Speaker 1: of that ship, that confrontation. So communicate Now you said 475 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:57,640 Speaker 1: he likes to flip the script. He likes to cut 476 00:23:57,720 --> 00:23:59,440 Speaker 1: you off when you talk. You lex to yell over 477 00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:01,720 Speaker 1: you and play the victim and make you feel bad, 478 00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,879 Speaker 1: and then you end up feeling bad and all of 479 00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:08,480 Speaker 1: that ship. Girl, that's manipulative. That's narcissism. You're dealing with 480 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:13,159 Speaker 1: the manipulative narcissist here, grade A. Now, you're smart. You 481 00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:16,119 Speaker 1: seem to have some nice investigation skills talking about the 482 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:19,399 Speaker 1: evidence that you see from the girl's page and you 483 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,880 Speaker 1: figured out she was a nail tech. That's good. You're 484 00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 1: snooping game is a one, all right. But I knew 485 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:27,760 Speaker 1: before you finished that ship, because I'd have been fixing 486 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:31,720 Speaker 1: mess for months now that that damn condo it's either 487 00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,160 Speaker 1: hers or theirs, it ain't just his, And you were 488 00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 1: there probably when I asked, and his ass wasn't getting 489 00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:41,240 Speaker 1: along because just like y'all been on and off, they've 490 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,760 Speaker 1: probably been on and off too, but just much longer. 491 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:45,960 Speaker 1: He seems to notice Gary Pipe and fucking with that 492 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:48,360 Speaker 1: girl since he had his wife. Right after he had 493 00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:50,840 Speaker 1: his wife tombody, he was living in his fucking call. Okay, 494 00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:54,440 Speaker 1: Tyler Paris, the fuck get up on your motherfucking own 495 00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:56,960 Speaker 1: two feet. So it seems like he still likes for 496 00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:58,399 Speaker 1: woman to take care of him because he's still he 497 00:24:58,480 --> 00:25:01,160 Speaker 1: living with the nailzech bitch. I'm sorry his baby mother 498 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:05,000 Speaker 1: slash girlfriend probably soon to be another fucking wife because 499 00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: she's taking care of him that fucking townhouse he had 500 00:25:07,800 --> 00:25:10,080 Speaker 1: you sitting up and probably wasn't he is either. We 501 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:13,960 Speaker 1: have to realize patterns and act accordingly, not keep going 502 00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:16,800 Speaker 1: on and on with it, girl, keep playing along and 503 00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:19,160 Speaker 1: ship because if you asked me, you waited too damn 504 00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,480 Speaker 1: long to say anything to him. You call yourself building 505 00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,000 Speaker 1: a case like he was gonna give a fuck. Girl, 506 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:26,399 Speaker 1: he didn't give a fuck. After you found out that 507 00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:28,640 Speaker 1: he was dealing with the nail teck. You even made 508 00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:31,240 Speaker 1: it your business. You put so much energy and to 509 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:34,160 Speaker 1: investigating when you already knew what the hell was going on. 510 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:39,320 Speaker 1: You even asked them, showed him his own girlfriend because 511 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:42,280 Speaker 1: that's what the funk she was, and ask oh, should 512 00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:43,680 Speaker 1: I go to her to get my nails? And you're 513 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,879 Speaker 1: playing games with your damn self. You already knew what 514 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:49,360 Speaker 1: he was gonna dude, and of course he was gonna say, 515 00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:52,159 Speaker 1: oh no, she she has problems and na, na, she 516 00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:54,560 Speaker 1: don't do good and and she do no call, no shows, 517 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:56,360 Speaker 1: and she's not the most professional. He wanted to keep 518 00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:58,840 Speaker 1: y'all apart as long as he could, not even to 519 00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:01,640 Speaker 1: save your feelings, but to save hers, because he got 520 00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:04,040 Speaker 1: way more to lose with her than with you. Because 521 00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:07,679 Speaker 1: you ain't going no damn were. That's your problem. Still 522 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:10,040 Speaker 1: after I try to fix your mess, you still ain't 523 00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:12,639 Speaker 1: gonna go no damn were. That's my problem with you. 524 00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:15,280 Speaker 1: And the way you talk about Oh, we've been on 525 00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:17,800 Speaker 1: and off, on and off, it's no real foundation. It 526 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 1: was never any real foundation or any loyalty there. It 527 00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,400 Speaker 1: was never any of that. So how did you expect 528 00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 1: for this man to have kids with you, to marry 529 00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:29,080 Speaker 1: you? You You know, listen, I'm gonna tell you something. Money. 530 00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:31,440 Speaker 1: I know you didn't hurt your mom or your grandmother 531 00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:34,359 Speaker 1: or some older woman in your life. Tell you, these 532 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:36,439 Speaker 1: men will tell you what the fuck you want to 533 00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:38,440 Speaker 1: hear to get what they want. I've been hearing that 534 00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:40,960 Speaker 1: ship since I was eight years old. My aunt's telling 535 00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:43,520 Speaker 1: my cousins, my mother telling my aunt's, you know, my 536 00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:48,480 Speaker 1: grandmother telling my mother, Like seriously, it's true. So when 537 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:50,440 Speaker 1: you finally bring this ship up to him. You sent 538 00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,000 Speaker 1: them all the screenshots from all your investigation, you gathered 539 00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:55,080 Speaker 1: all your evidence, and you show him and he calls 540 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:59,280 Speaker 1: you or intend made up a whole motherfucking lie about 541 00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:02,359 Speaker 1: how it's ex wife was gonna use something with alimony 542 00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:04,520 Speaker 1: or something, so he had to pay this nail tech 543 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:07,160 Speaker 1: girl to put up a fake registry for a real 544 00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:10,399 Speaker 1: fucking baby. So now you have a man lying on 545 00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:13,120 Speaker 1: his unborn child. So he really don't give a fuck. 546 00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:15,840 Speaker 1: He really is socio for real. And if you don't 547 00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:18,320 Speaker 1: know what socio is, that's the person with no motherfucking feelings. 548 00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,240 Speaker 1: They just lie. They just do ship and don't fail. 549 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:24,160 Speaker 1: Anything going around hurt people, and they don't feel ship. 550 00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:27,800 Speaker 1: That's why when you hung up that damn phone after 551 00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:29,720 Speaker 1: telling him you knew that the baby was his and 552 00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:31,560 Speaker 1: you found out hen with the nail tech and all 553 00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:33,720 Speaker 1: of that ship, he didn't call your ass back. A 554 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:35,720 Speaker 1: matter of fact, he didn't talk to your ass for 555 00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:39,880 Speaker 1: ten months and you came back to him. You're bothering him. 556 00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:44,080 Speaker 1: You're the damn problem. You in your own way, you're 557 00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:46,400 Speaker 1: too good for this ship. What you're doing, you don't 558 00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:49,639 Speaker 1: know you're damn worth. What is wrong with you? You 559 00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:52,760 Speaker 1: said he ignored you over that course of ten months. 560 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:56,000 Speaker 1: He ignored you. Over those ten months, you kept reaching out, 561 00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:59,480 Speaker 1: reaching out for what what do you want? I would 562 00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:01,439 Speaker 1: feel the same way if I was him, What do 563 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,960 Speaker 1: you want? Cats out the bead. He don't need a 564 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:05,320 Speaker 1: lie to you. I don't know why the hell you 565 00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:07,480 Speaker 1: ever even tried to lie to you. He don't need to. 566 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,480 Speaker 1: Obviously you're staying You're gonna be fine with the truth 567 00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:12,880 Speaker 1: or damn lie. So he just lying for fun because 568 00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:16,000 Speaker 1: you ain't going nowhere. In fact, you're begging him for time, 569 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:18,160 Speaker 1: and you know he got a family. So now you're 570 00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:21,520 Speaker 1: in the wrong because just because you will accept that 571 00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:25,560 Speaker 1: ship does not mean somebody else will. You're putting itself 572 00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:28,080 Speaker 1: through this ship. You never gave that man no real consequences, 573 00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:29,639 Speaker 1: so you gave him a lot of power over you. 574 00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:32,320 Speaker 1: And then to hear you say that you told him 575 00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:34,600 Speaker 1: ten months later after he came to see you, you 576 00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:36,760 Speaker 1: didn't want to say nothing because you just want to 577 00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,480 Speaker 1: enjoy the time. How the hell can you enjoy anything 578 00:28:39,960 --> 00:28:42,920 Speaker 1: with him like? This is just unrelatable and this is 579 00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:46,600 Speaker 1: just disgusting. This is crazy, tell of all you want 580 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:48,200 Speaker 1: is the truth. You know the truth. Why do you 581 00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:52,040 Speaker 1: need confirmation from him? Why? And listen? You think that 582 00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:55,120 Speaker 1: little ten months was a break, you tried to move on. 583 00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:56,920 Speaker 1: You think you try to move on. You never did, 584 00:28:56,920 --> 00:28:59,040 Speaker 1: because you said it yourself. You never blocked him on 585 00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,840 Speaker 1: social media. You ever deleted his number? You never did. 586 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:04,600 Speaker 1: He never blocked you. He didn't need to. It didn't matter. 587 00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:07,080 Speaker 1: You don't care. He don't give a fuck because you're 588 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:10,560 Speaker 1: gonna be there no matter what. And that's not good, Hay, 589 00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:13,160 Speaker 1: this hand walking all over you and ship and you're 590 00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:14,680 Speaker 1: begging him to be back with you. He had a 591 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,920 Speaker 1: fucking baby on you line, having you and everybody else 592 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:21,040 Speaker 1: house but his own because he don't have none. Now 593 00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:22,920 Speaker 1: we got a baby, and you just need for him 594 00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:27,600 Speaker 1: to say his his girl. Get your fucking life together. Seriously, 595 00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:29,640 Speaker 1: don't even check back in with me because you're still 596 00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:33,560 Speaker 1: gonna be there. You're a damn fool. I'm sorry, Bible say, 597 00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,440 Speaker 1: don't call people fools. You're a damn nut. And just 598 00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:38,520 Speaker 1: like that, we're gonna end this episode. That ship pissed 599 00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:42,240 Speaker 1: me off. This girl from fucking Baltimore. You crazy, It's over. Girl. 600 00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:45,719 Speaker 1: Tune in each and every wednesday' all, I'm gonna get 601 00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:48,200 Speaker 1: the hell up out of here. Oh my god, this 602 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:51,280 Speaker 1: ship got me so pissed off. Tune and also to 603 00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:54,160 Speaker 1: Reckless Discussions tonight. And she did have made me mad 604 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:55,920 Speaker 1: this morning. And you're gonna see on this episode of 605 00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:58,560 Speaker 1: Reckless Discussions, London gonna make my ass mad tonight. I'm 606 00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:01,000 Speaker 1: tired of these women, y'all. Y'all tune in every Wednesday 607 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:02,800 Speaker 1: to everything I got going on and then my deepest 608 00:30:02,800 --> 00:31:17,040 Speaker 1: band boys, peace ship. Yeah h. Carefully Reckless is a 609 00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:20,000 Speaker 1: production of I Heart Radio and The Black Effect. 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