WEBVTT - “I’M LIVING WITH MY EX”

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hey, what's up man? What's your name? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>My name's Taz Taz like the like.

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<v Speaker 1>The Tasmanian Devil. Yes, sir, well, Tasmanian devil. What's going on?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I've had a crazy last few months and I

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<v Speaker 2>figured you. I tried calling in it to tell you

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<v Speaker 2>about it before, but you said my phone sucked.

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<v Speaker 1>So oh well your phone sounds good now, so let's

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<v Speaker 1>hear it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, let's see about say, about five months ago, me

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<v Speaker 2>and my wife were splitting up, and she said she

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<v Speaker 2>was going to go down to her mom's for a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit, just to have some time apart, because we've

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<v Speaker 2>been married for about five years and been up each others,

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<v Speaker 2>but literally the whole time, never spent a day apart.

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<v Speaker 2>And then she said she was doing that and I said, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>She took my son and they went down probably two

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<v Speaker 2>hours away, and I that next Wednesday she called me

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<v Speaker 2>and says, actually, I took your son and we moved

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<v Speaker 2>to Florida with a guy I met online about a

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<v Speaker 2>month before we broke up, and he's making more money

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<v Speaker 2>and he's going to let her be a stay at

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<v Speaker 2>home mom and all this stuff. So she just up

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<v Speaker 2>and left and took my son from Texas to Florida.

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<v Speaker 2>And now she's come back to Texas and is pregnant

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<v Speaker 2>with this dude's baby and didn't have a place to live.

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<v Speaker 2>So I let her move back in with me. It's

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<v Speaker 2>been pretty crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>That's very crazy. You let her move back in with you?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, man, I couldn't let her just be homeless and

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<v Speaker 2>live outside and have my son. You know, I still unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 2>I still love her, So yeah, I just I let

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<v Speaker 2>her move back in.

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<v Speaker 1>And how long it was this?

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<v Speaker 2>She just moved back in probably two months ago.

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<v Speaker 1>And is she still there?

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<v Speaker 4>Yep?

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<v Speaker 1>And does your son live there?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my son's staying with me. The dude that she

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<v Speaker 2>moved in with in Florida, he's only three, and he

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<v Speaker 2>abused him with a belt and all sorts of stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>So I told her I'm not letting her go anywhere

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<v Speaker 2>with my son again.

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<v Speaker 1>The Okay, So the guy that your wife left you for,

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<v Speaker 1>who she met on the internet and living down to Florida,

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<v Speaker 1>you found out that he hit your.

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<v Speaker 2>Son, yeah, with a belt and he's only three.

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<v Speaker 1>Thats fucking sucks, man. I'm sorry to hear that. That's crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's all right, It definitely makes my blood boil.

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<v Speaker 2>And I told her, I don't ever want to see

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<v Speaker 2>this dude, because you know, a father might not react

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<v Speaker 2>too well to the man that was abusing his son.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, So so where where where's that guy? So

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<v Speaker 1>she's just been living with you for two months, she's

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<v Speaker 1>pregnant with this guy's kid, and she's your son. And

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<v Speaker 1>what she's like, where's the guy? The guy's just down

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<v Speaker 1>in Florida. Is she's still seeing him? What's going on

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<v Speaker 1>with that?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the guy's down in Florida. And she when she

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<v Speaker 2>moved back up here, she's saying that she wants to

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<v Speaker 2>get back with me and wants to be with me

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<v Speaker 2>and all this stuff. But I'm not too sure about

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<v Speaker 2>all that. But she said that she's still going to

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<v Speaker 2>continue to talk to this dude, text him and talk

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<v Speaker 2>to him on the phone and all this stuff. And

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<v Speaker 2>she didn't care whether I was okay with it or not.

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<v Speaker 2>And she said that's what she's going to do. But

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<v Speaker 2>she wants to be with me. She wants us to

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<v Speaker 2>get back together. And I don't know if well.

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<v Speaker 1>She wants to get back together with you? Yes, Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, man, how's your relationship with your three year

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<v Speaker 1>old son who's living with you. How's that that sounds good?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, He's the only reason I get up and go

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<v Speaker 2>to work every day. Really, I mean before I had

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<v Speaker 2>a family to take care of him. When they left,

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of felt like I lost my purpose, so

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<v Speaker 2>I started slacking off at work and showing up late

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<v Speaker 2>and stuff like that. But now that he's back, I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like it kind of gives me the motivation to

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<v Speaker 2>wake up at four o'clock in the morning and drive

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<v Speaker 2>an hour and a half to work every day.

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<v Speaker 1>Is here says here? You're twenty six, Yes, sir, yep.

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<v Speaker 1>God damn man, you're more of an adult than I am. M.

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<v Speaker 2>It's hard, but you know, if he's back, I'm definitely

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<v Speaker 2>going to take every advantage of getting to take care

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<v Speaker 2>of him and don't want to, you know, lose my

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<v Speaker 2>job and lose my house and then be in a predicament.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, brother, let's talk all right, what's the give me?

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<v Speaker 1>What's your best case scenario?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, the best case scenario would be that she gets

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<v Speaker 2>a job and we try and work on building trust again,

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<v Speaker 2>because you know, I'm sure you can tell that the

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<v Speaker 2>trust is a little to none at the moment because

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<v Speaker 2>of what she did. And like I said, I still

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<v Speaker 2>love her. She's the mother to my my son. And

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I feel like we're we're two halfs to

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<v Speaker 2>a hole. We get we get along real well. We

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<v Speaker 2>don't seem to fight and argue. It's just money has

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<v Speaker 2>always been an issue, living in Austin, Texas and only

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<v Speaker 2>me having a job.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hm. So you want to you want to get

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<v Speaker 1>back together with her and make it, make it work

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<v Speaker 1>after all.

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<v Speaker 2>This I do, but I feel real hesitant about it,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I mean? Like who and then what

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<v Speaker 2>what is everybody else going to think of me? Like

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just a pushover simp, you know. Just she she

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<v Speaker 2>left and come back and I just take her back,

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<v Speaker 2>no problem type deal.

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<v Speaker 4>Mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>Well is how long have you been not even married,

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<v Speaker 1>but like together with this with this woman.

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<v Speaker 2>So we've been married for five and we were dating

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<v Speaker 2>for two, so seven we've been together for seven years.

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<v Speaker 2>Me and her are the exact same age, were only

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<v Speaker 2>like a month apart her birthdays in April and minds

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<v Speaker 2>in May.

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<v Speaker 1>So we're and she's still seeing she's still seeing this

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<v Speaker 1>this dude down in Florida, who hit your kid.

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<v Speaker 2>She told me that they're not together and that she

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't want to be with him. That's why she left

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<v Speaker 2>him to come back to Texas. But she said that

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<v Speaker 2>he forced her to stop talking to me, like he

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<v Speaker 2>had passwords to her phone and would look at that

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<v Speaker 2>was logged into her face, Facebook and Instagram and all

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<v Speaker 2>that stuff, just to make sure that she wasn't talking

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<v Speaker 2>to nobody else. So he made her completely cut me off,

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<v Speaker 2>and she said that she didn't want to do that,

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<v Speaker 2>but now that she's back in Texas and she doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>ever want to go through that again. So she said

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<v Speaker 2>she's not going to let me tell her who she

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<v Speaker 2>can and can't talk to. But if I ever want

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<v Speaker 2>to look at their messages to feel free that she

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't want to be back with him. She just doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>want to have to go to court for the child

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<v Speaker 2>and all that stuff. So the plan is is she's

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<v Speaker 2>just going to give the baby to him, which I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think is a very good idea after seeing the

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<v Speaker 2>way that he treated my son. But at the same time,

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<v Speaker 2>it would be hard for me to raise, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>this other man's child, and whenever I'm barely even able

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<v Speaker 2>to take care of me, my son, and my wife.

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<v Speaker 1>We are in full doctor Phil mode on this podcast. Man, okay, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>let me obviously this is a crazy situation, but let

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<v Speaker 1>me tell you. Let me tell you one. Okay, Ship,

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<v Speaker 1>what's your name again? I'm sorry, I'm stupid, tes Tess,

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<v Speaker 1>Tess from everything that you have told me, and I

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<v Speaker 1>know in your brain maybe you beat yourself up of like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a simp or whatever you strike me. And I

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<v Speaker 1>mean this as a guy who has a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>integrity and care for other people and for his family, right,

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<v Speaker 1>because you really are. You really are because and for

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<v Speaker 1>better or for worse in terms of how it affects

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<v Speaker 1>you personally, but clearly you make decisions with your life

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<v Speaker 1>that are the most beneficial for your son, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>you understand and accept the response and embrace the responsibility

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<v Speaker 1>that comes with being a father, which is a crazy

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, we're the same age, and you're you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a crazy thing to take in and excel at,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're doing it. And I truly, truly, truly, truly

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<v Speaker 1>truly commend you for that. And you're making some fucking

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<v Speaker 1>difficult decisions to be able to do that, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna tell you what to do. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>later I make it frustrated and tell you what to do.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just hope you know that you deserve to

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<v Speaker 1>be happy, and you deserve to live a drama free life,

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<v Speaker 1>and you deserve to you have relationships where you're loved

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<v Speaker 1>and prioritized and treated well and with respect. And I

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<v Speaker 1>hope you internalize that and understand that, and that those truths,

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<v Speaker 1>in addition to thinking about what's best for your son

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<v Speaker 1>and the people you care about, I hope that those

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<v Speaker 1>truths are what guide your decision making process in this situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Does that make sense?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, okay, And that's that's where it's it's hard. I

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<v Speaker 2>care about my son so much that I would hate to,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, take him away from his mother, even though

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<v Speaker 2>she did it to me, or or for him to

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<v Speaker 2>have to grow up without his mom and his dad,

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<v Speaker 2>even though I still truly love her. I mean, even

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<v Speaker 2>though she did this to me, I still can't change

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<v Speaker 2>if that change that, you know what I mean. I

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<v Speaker 2>hate her for what she did. But at the same time,

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<v Speaker 2>I excuse my wife. You know, I do anything for her. Obviously,

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<v Speaker 2>I let her move back in and she doesn't even

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<v Speaker 2>have a job, and I'm letting, I'm paying all the

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<v Speaker 2>bills and paying for food and all that.

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<v Speaker 1>Taz, do you I mean, I mean this with with

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<v Speaker 1>with respect. What how do you? How do you feel

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<v Speaker 1>about yourself?

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like myself isn't as important as my son.

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<v Speaker 2>You know. I chose to lay down in bed and

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<v Speaker 2>bring that life into this world. So if it, if

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<v Speaker 2>it making his life better comes at the detriment of

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<v Speaker 2>my life, then you know, that's that's what needs to

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<v Speaker 2>be done. He deserves to have a life.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not his fault that she took off or my

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<v Speaker 2>fault that you know, he she did what she did,

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<v Speaker 2>or anything like that, you know. And I would hate

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<v Speaker 2>to take that out on him by just leaving, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>and being like, well, screw you, you screwed me over.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I'm just gonna take my son and leave

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<v Speaker 2>like you did me. You know, I just feel like

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<v Speaker 2>that would be, you know, not beneficial to him in

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<v Speaker 2>any kind of way.

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<v Speaker 1>Does a universe of joint custody exist in this situation?

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<v Speaker 3>It does.

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<v Speaker 2>And she said that she would never take him away

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<v Speaker 2>from me again because she realized that that was wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>But at the same time, she well, I mean, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't what would we what would we do? You know

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm saying. If she were to go back to

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<v Speaker 2>Florida and we were to have joint custody, it wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>really matter at that point because she'd be you know,

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<v Speaker 2>five six states away, fourteen hours, So it wouldn't really

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<v Speaker 2>matter unless she got her own place.

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<v Speaker 3>Close.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, M, who else have you talked to about this? M?

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<v Speaker 2>Just like my mom, But my mom is a drug

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<v Speaker 2>addict and and doesn't really have the best relationship advice

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<v Speaker 2>in her life, and that's kind of, you know, one

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<v Speaker 2>of the that's the only person I really have. Everybody

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<v Speaker 2>else tells me that I'm crazy and that I'm I'm

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<v Speaker 2>crazy strong for you know, just letting her move back

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<v Speaker 2>in like this. But at the same time, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>they kind of look at me like, what's wrong with you?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, like why?

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<v Speaker 4>Who?

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<v Speaker 2>What kind of man lets his wife leave and lets

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<v Speaker 2>her come back just pregnant and puts up with it

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<v Speaker 2>and is okay? I guess you know, the way most

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<v Speaker 2>people put it, they think I'm just okay with it.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's kind of just a situation that kind of

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<v Speaker 2>landed on my lap.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think is best for your son?

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<v Speaker 2>I think, not being selfish, but I think what I

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<v Speaker 2>want would also would be what's best for him. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>if she could, Like I said, I guess I can't

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<v Speaker 2>really control who she talks to. But at the same time,

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<v Speaker 2>if she's not you know, talking dirty or or you know,

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<v Speaker 2>telling him that she loves him or that she's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>move back, you know, kind of giving him false hope

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<v Speaker 2>and stuff, I would hope that me and her can

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<v Speaker 2>make this work and rebuild trust and move on from

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<v Speaker 2>it and just kind of look at it as a

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<v Speaker 2>thing of the past, and him to have both of

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<v Speaker 2>his parents, his mom and his dad, because I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>have both my parents together, and I remember getting in

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<v Speaker 2>trouble and being like, you know, screw it, I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>gonna go live with my dad. And I'd get in

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<v Speaker 2>trouble there and I'd be like, screw it, I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>gonna go live with my mom and kind of really

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<v Speaker 2>messed my life up because I don't. That's why I

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<v Speaker 2>don't have any long term adult friends, because I moved

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<v Speaker 2>so much because I was a brat and my parents

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<v Speaker 2>had joint custody.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, all right, tell me this. So, all right, so

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<v Speaker 1>you grew up your parents having a joint custody and

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<v Speaker 1>was it a similar thing where they were in very

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<v Speaker 1>different locations?

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<v Speaker 2>Now, they probably lived about an hour apart from each other.

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<v Speaker 2>So we would meet up on the weekends and I

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<v Speaker 2>would go live with the other one whoever I would

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<v Speaker 2>or go stay the weekends and holidays and stuff with

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<v Speaker 2>who the parents I wasn't living with.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so understandably that's hard, But like, what, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>when you were growing up, what was like your relationship

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<v Speaker 1>with your dad, like on an individual outside of outside

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<v Speaker 1>of the joint custody situation and outside of his relationship

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<v Speaker 1>with your mom.

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<v Speaker 2>I absolutely love my dad, especially when I was a kid,

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<v Speaker 2>because I was too young to understand some of the

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<v Speaker 2>kind of you know, living in in Texas and my

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<v Speaker 2>dad is from from Texas his whole life, and he's

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<v Speaker 2>kind of a racist, kind of sort of yeah, he's

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<v Speaker 2>just really racist. And I didn't realize that as a kid,

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<v Speaker 2>and so as a kid, we were great. I loved him,

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<v Speaker 2>I looked up to him a lot. But now that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm an adult and I realize, you know, whoa some

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<v Speaker 2>of the shit you said as a kid, that's kind

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<v Speaker 2>of kind of crazy and whatnot. So I just, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>trying not to have so much going on in my

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<v Speaker 2>life already. I try not to let those outside, you know, influences,

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<v Speaker 2>negative outside influences, you know, way in on my decisions

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<v Speaker 2>because I don't want to be like him.

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<v Speaker 1>Did he treat you well? Did he? Did he prioritize you?

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<v Speaker 1>And and was he like just a good a good dad?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, definitely, and.

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<v Speaker 1>So but you feel like all the like fucked up

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<v Speaker 1>shift from childhood was truly as a result of them

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<v Speaker 1>being divorced.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because if they were together, I could have went

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<v Speaker 2>to the same school or at least not as many

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<v Speaker 2>schools and made, you know, lifelong friends instead of growing

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<v Speaker 2>up to be in twenty six and now I have

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<v Speaker 2>no friends whatsoever. Just that's why me and my wife

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<v Speaker 2>are up each other's butt for four years, because she

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<v Speaker 2>went to a private Catholic school and I moved around

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<v Speaker 2>so much, so neither me nor her had friends or

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<v Speaker 2>went out and did anything. So they were together, I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like that wouldn't have happened. That I had a

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<v Speaker 2>happier life, more people in my life at this age.

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<v Speaker 3>Hmm hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, outside of wanting your wife back and wanting to

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<v Speaker 1>kind of keep the household glued together, what else do

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<v Speaker 1>you want for your life?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I'm I'm currently in a job that I get,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting a raise.

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<v Speaker 5>I'd like to.

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<v Speaker 2>Learn more about, you know, trees and shrubs. That's what

0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:11.679
<v Speaker 2>I'm a tree shrub specialist, So I really enjoy learning

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<v Speaker 2>more about, you know, the different kinds of diseases and

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<v Speaker 2>insects and stuff like that. So, you know, get a

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<v Speaker 2>good job, and I don't know, I'd like to make

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<v Speaker 2>some friends at some point, but I don't really know

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<v Speaker 2>how to do that because I haven't had any friends

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<v Speaker 2>since school. You know, in school, it's a lot easier

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<v Speaker 2>to make friends with someone you see in your class

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<v Speaker 2>every day. But being an adult, it's kind of like

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<v Speaker 2>where do I go and who do I talk to?

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, do you just walk up to a

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<v Speaker 2>random person like, Hi, how are you, what are you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>What's your name? Can we be friends? Like this seems

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<v Speaker 2>a little weird, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, Yeah, that's a that's a whole separate phone call.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's what I want to.

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<v Speaker 1>But these are I mean, these are good things to

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<v Speaker 1>know because I don't. I don't know. Man, you're in

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<v Speaker 1>a you're in a you're in a very very very

0:19:00.080 --> 0:19:03.760
<v Speaker 1>tricky situation, right, Because here's the thing. If you didn't

0:19:03.800 --> 0:19:07.080
<v Speaker 1>have a kid, the answer would be pretty obvious. But

0:19:07.200 --> 0:19:10.720
<v Speaker 1>you have a kid, and you, you know, want to

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<v Speaker 1>do whatever is best for the kid. And I, by

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<v Speaker 1>the way, and I'm not saying either way, I really,

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<v Speaker 1>I really am not. I'm really not going to pretend

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<v Speaker 1>like I know what's best in this situation. But I

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't automatically agree with the idea that

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<v Speaker 1>you somehow need to put up with people treating you

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<v Speaker 1>poorly and you being in a shitty situation that makes

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<v Speaker 1>you unhappy is going to automatically be the most beneficial

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<v Speaker 1>thing for your kid. I don't automatically agree with that

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<v Speaker 1>stand the idea of making sacrifices for the purpose of

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<v Speaker 1>your kid. But I don't. I don't know necessarily where

0:20:11.119 --> 0:20:16.760
<v Speaker 1>you draw that line, you know what I mean? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I and that's the thing, right, and you're and you're

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<v Speaker 1>taking responsibility for it. And that's what's so hard about

0:20:23.040 --> 0:20:25.080
<v Speaker 1>having a kids, because when you do, your life is

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<v Speaker 1>not your life really isn't about yourself anymore. And it

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<v Speaker 1>really is about like how you can, you know, do

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<v Speaker 1>what's most beneficial for your kid, but sometimes it might

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<v Speaker 1>be beneficial for your kid for you to be happy,

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<v Speaker 1>so that your kid doesn't feel like you resent them

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<v Speaker 1>in some way or that you, you know, force yourself

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<v Speaker 1>into into misery for their benefits. And just also so

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<v Speaker 1>I I I, I I if I if you can

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<v Speaker 1>take away anything from this phone call and I and

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<v Speaker 1>I mean this, and I don't want to be sappy.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just what I want to tell you from what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm hearing you talking about. I really think you deserve

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<v Speaker 1>to be happy, and you deserve to go make friends.

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<v Speaker 1>You deserve to not be in a relationship with somebody

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<v Speaker 1>who's treating you poorly. I really do believe that. And

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<v Speaker 1>I I think that you can do all these things

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<v Speaker 1>and still be a good father to your son. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think that, right. I don't think that they're mutually exclusive,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't I don't have the answers, but I

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<v Speaker 1>do kind of want to believe that, and I do

0:21:51.200 --> 0:21:55.639
<v Speaker 1>kind of want you to believe that. You know, HM,

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<v Speaker 1>So I mean, that's that's where I've kind of landed

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<v Speaker 1>on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's kind of somewhether. The advice my mom gave

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<v Speaker 2>me when I told her about all this, she was like,

0:22:06.119 --> 0:22:08.240
<v Speaker 2>you know, if you and her are in a household

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<v Speaker 2>and y'all don't love each other, or y'all aren't you know,

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<v Speaker 2>emotionally connected, that he's he can he can tell that,

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<v Speaker 2>and he would grow up with two parents that are,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, not always on the same page or or

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<v Speaker 2>just together for him, and it could could you know,

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<v Speaker 2>affect him in the end worse than us separating and

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<v Speaker 2>both of us being happy and doing the right thing,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, for our own sake.

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<v Speaker 6>Right right, No, that's that that that that's the issue

0:22:36.359 --> 0:22:39.200
<v Speaker 6>with staying together for the kids, is you stay together

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<v Speaker 6>for the kids, and then both the parents are unhappy,

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<v Speaker 6>and whether you want it to or not, it subconsciously

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<v Speaker 6>seeps its way into the entire family dynamic.

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<v Speaker 3>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>So, So I mean, that's good that you are thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about that and understand that.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, and bros.

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<v Speaker 1>Also, you know, I don't know, I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to I want I want to be careful here

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<v Speaker 1>because I really, I really do submit to the fact

0:23:16.560 --> 0:23:20.040
<v Speaker 1>that I don't I don't know what the best way

0:23:20.080 --> 0:23:23.520
<v Speaker 1>to navigate in life is but ship, What was I

0:23:23.560 --> 0:23:27.520
<v Speaker 1>gonna say? I I have, I have too much, I've

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<v Speaker 1>I was looking at I was I was thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>the Hot Wheels game for Game Boy Advance. That just

0:23:33.280 --> 0:23:36.400
<v Speaker 1>that just intrusively entered into my brain. This is such

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<v Speaker 1>a stupid thing to say. All right, okay, what was

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<v Speaker 1>I gonna say? What was I gonna say? Stay with me?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? Sometimes like just just sometimes it's good enough for

0:23:50.000 --> 0:23:54.359
<v Speaker 1>you to go to bed at night and go Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>things didn't work out due to factors outside of my control.

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't able to give my son this ideal life

0:24:05.520 --> 0:24:10.040
<v Speaker 1>of a perfect nuclear family that was his mom in

0:24:10.080 --> 0:24:15.120
<v Speaker 1>the same house as me. I fucking tried my god

0:24:15.240 --> 0:24:20.440
<v Speaker 1>damn hardest to be a good father, to do make

0:24:20.480 --> 0:24:24.479
<v Speaker 1>the best choices that I could, but but it just

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<v Speaker 1>didn't work out. Because in fucking life, so not everything

0:24:28.840 --> 0:24:32.600
<v Speaker 1>it's not. It can't be perfect, and you can't control

0:24:32.680 --> 0:24:37.920
<v Speaker 1>other people's actions and reactions, and you can't control what

0:24:38.040 --> 0:24:41.119
<v Speaker 1>your ex wife or wife is going to do, and

0:24:41.160 --> 0:24:46.920
<v Speaker 1>you can't control whether or not these things work out

0:24:47.400 --> 0:24:51.359
<v Speaker 1>as picture perfectly as you want. But you can do

0:24:51.480 --> 0:24:53.800
<v Speaker 1>the best that you can and go to sleep at

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<v Speaker 1>night knowing that you did. Is that helpful?

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, absolutely, because hopefully, you know, he would grow

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<v Speaker 2>up one day and I would be able to put

0:25:06.680 --> 0:25:08.439
<v Speaker 2>it that way to him. You know, I tried my

0:25:08.520 --> 0:25:10.640
<v Speaker 2>hardest and I really wanted this to work out, and

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I feel like in the end he would

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<v Speaker 2>respect me for that, you know that I did everything

0:25:15.560 --> 0:25:17.639
<v Speaker 2>I could and hopefully he would understand that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I just hope you don't make yourself miserable. Man, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that that's the answer, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Yeah, I definitely don't want that either. I'm just

0:25:30.119 --> 0:25:32.840
<v Speaker 2>kind of at the moment where I'm I'm kind of

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<v Speaker 2>playing it by ear. I guess you could say, to

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<v Speaker 2>see whether or not she decides that this is what

0:25:39.600 --> 0:25:41.600
<v Speaker 2>she wants, you know, because it doesn't matter how much

0:25:41.640 --> 0:25:43.400
<v Speaker 2>I want this. If she doesn't want it too, then

0:25:43.560 --> 0:25:44.920
<v Speaker 2>if you know, it kind of doesn't matter.

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<v Speaker 1>So is that really what you want?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, honestly, dude, I, like I said, I I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if it's that I I love her a

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<v Speaker 2>lot and I'm just willing to get back with her,

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<v Speaker 2>or if I'm scared to be alone. You know, I've

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<v Speaker 2>me and her been together for seven years and we've

0:26:05.840 --> 0:26:09.200
<v Speaker 2>always been She's always paid half the rent and yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, always just been there when I come get

0:26:11.800 --> 0:26:14.399
<v Speaker 2>off work. I couldn't imagine getting off work and like

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<v Speaker 2>when she was gone, getting off work and coming home

0:26:16.760 --> 0:26:19.840
<v Speaker 2>to an empty house or you know, anything like that.

0:26:19.840 --> 0:26:21.040
<v Speaker 2>That'd be a heartbreaking.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeahs fucking hard. Hm, Yes, it's fucking hard. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>But look, I've said it a bunch of times throughout

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<v Speaker 1>this call, and I'll say it one more. Is that

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<v Speaker 1>you deserve to be with somebody who's appreciative of you

0:26:42.600 --> 0:26:45.560
<v Speaker 1>and respectful of you because you're a good guy. You

0:26:45.600 --> 0:26:46.800
<v Speaker 1>know you really are.

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<v Speaker 3>I thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate that.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh man, oh jeez, well we've both earned ourselves some

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<v Speaker 1>uh wheels. Game boy advance, let's play videos on YouTube.

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<v Speaker 1>I think after this.

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<v Speaker 2>I might look that up just to find out what

0:27:08.640 --> 0:27:08.959
<v Speaker 2>it is.

0:27:09.200 --> 0:27:12.960
<v Speaker 1>No, it's not it's going to ruin your life? What's

0:27:13.119 --> 0:27:13.280
<v Speaker 1>what is?

0:27:13.520 --> 0:27:13.600
<v Speaker 3>What?

0:27:13.800 --> 0:27:17.480
<v Speaker 1>Taz taz taz? All right? Before we go, is there

0:27:17.200 --> 0:27:19.359
<v Speaker 1>is this just any other aspect of any of this

0:27:19.560 --> 0:27:23.359
<v Speaker 1>that you wanted to talk about, or any way at

0:27:23.359 --> 0:27:26.640
<v Speaker 1>all in which I can be remotely helpful to you,

0:27:27.080 --> 0:27:32.000
<v Speaker 1>or any any words of any other just anything.

0:27:33.520 --> 0:27:35.679
<v Speaker 2>No, man, that's that's what I wanted to call and

0:27:35.680 --> 0:27:37.840
<v Speaker 2>talk to you about. And you, you know, it's really

0:27:37.920 --> 0:27:42.840
<v Speaker 2>nice hearing from uh, someone else's opinion, that isn't you know,

0:27:43.000 --> 0:27:47.320
<v Speaker 2>on drugs, I can trust your opinion more than well

0:27:48.600 --> 0:27:49.680
<v Speaker 2>I can get well.

0:27:49.840 --> 0:27:55.160
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'll say, that's very assumptive of you.

0:27:55.400 --> 0:27:56.840
<v Speaker 2>Well, we need a drugs My mom.

0:27:56.680 --> 0:27:58.119
<v Speaker 3>Does hard drugs.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, Well, do you have any final things you want

0:28:02.240 --> 0:28:03.880
<v Speaker 1>to say to the people of the computer before we go.

0:28:05.320 --> 0:28:09.119
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, life's gonna keep knocking you down, but don't let

0:28:09.160 --> 0:28:11.720
<v Speaker 2>it keep you down. Get back up and keep moving,

0:28:11.800 --> 0:28:14.679
<v Speaker 2>try and do what's best for you and in your family.

0:28:14.680 --> 0:28:17.480
<v Speaker 1>If you got one, good fucking luck, Taz, all right,

0:28:17.760 --> 0:28:21.240
<v Speaker 1>good fucking luck and uh God bless you and your family.

0:28:22.359 --> 0:28:28.639
<v Speaker 2>Yep, gek forever take care man Oko.

0:28:29.600 --> 0:28:36.720
<v Speaker 1>Oh jeez. Yeah, that one's tough. That one's tough. I

0:28:36.840 --> 0:28:41.720
<v Speaker 1>just hope he uh makes the decision. Like I've said

0:28:41.800 --> 0:28:43.680
<v Speaker 1>over the course of the phone calls, I hope he

0:28:43.760 --> 0:28:45.680
<v Speaker 1>seems like a nice guy. I don't have like I don't.

0:28:45.680 --> 0:28:50.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't have enough. I couldn't I couldn't be responsible

0:28:50.240 --> 0:28:58.280
<v Speaker 1>to a child right now. I really couldn't. I and

0:28:58.320 --> 0:29:00.720
<v Speaker 1>I respect the fact that he can, that he really

0:29:00.800 --> 0:29:04.000
<v Speaker 1>isn't isn't like pussy footing around the whole thing. He's

0:29:04.040 --> 0:29:08.880
<v Speaker 1>really doing it, and I respect that a lot, and

0:29:08.960 --> 0:29:11.320
<v Speaker 1>I I don't. I don't. I don't think it's going

0:29:11.400 --> 0:29:14.000
<v Speaker 1>to be easier or better with him being miserable and

0:29:14.000 --> 0:29:17.920
<v Speaker 1>the whole thing about like, is it better to be

0:29:18.000 --> 0:29:21.840
<v Speaker 1>alone or with somebody who you don't think you can trust?

0:29:23.440 --> 0:29:26.440
<v Speaker 1>Of course, like, all right, the answer that the answer

0:29:26.560 --> 0:29:32.200
<v Speaker 1>that's obvious, right is better to be alone, But it's

0:29:32.240 --> 0:29:36.040
<v Speaker 1>not so obvious in practice. It's it's obvious to say,

0:29:37.200 --> 0:29:39.560
<v Speaker 1>but it's hard, man, it's hard being alone. It's hard

0:29:39.560 --> 0:29:42.840
<v Speaker 1>to trying to meet new people. It's hard trying to

0:29:42.840 --> 0:29:48.080
<v Speaker 1>make new friends, new romantic partners, and sometimes it's it's

0:29:48.440 --> 0:29:56.280
<v Speaker 1>easier to just be in some shitty thing. But it's

0:29:56.360 --> 0:30:01.280
<v Speaker 1>probably it's probably worth giving it a shot. I'm gonna

0:30:01.280 --> 0:30:05.640
<v Speaker 1>say it's probably worth giving it a shot. What else

0:30:05.640 --> 0:30:07.720
<v Speaker 1>are you gonna do? What else are you gonna do

0:30:08.640 --> 0:30:12.560
<v Speaker 1>besides giving a shot? What else are you gonna do?

0:30:13.920 --> 0:30:16.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I'm just a fucking gecko. Hey, folks,

0:30:16.560 --> 0:30:19.360
<v Speaker 1>this is Lyle. I am very excited to announce that

0:30:19.440 --> 0:30:22.720
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0:30:26.640 --> 0:30:28.560
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0:30:33.760 --> 0:30:37.080
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0:30:37.120 --> 0:30:40.760
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<v Speaker 1>to see you there. Thanks.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi.

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<v Speaker 7>Hi.

0:32:05.400 --> 0:32:06.320
<v Speaker 1>What's your name, sir?

0:32:07.560 --> 0:32:09.280
<v Speaker 3>My name is Seamus.

0:32:09.280 --> 0:32:12.520
<v Speaker 1>Sir Seamus. What's going on, Seamus? How's life?

0:32:12.760 --> 0:32:17.960
<v Speaker 3>So I'm getting really into well, I've been really into

0:32:18.080 --> 0:32:22.440
<v Speaker 3>them the past year. So I bought this fucking huge

0:32:22.480 --> 0:32:28.520
<v Speaker 3>ass vehicle with my partner and uh it used to

0:32:28.560 --> 0:32:30.640
<v Speaker 3>be we got it on discounts because we bought it

0:32:30.680 --> 0:32:33.320
<v Speaker 3>from a skating company that was like not having very

0:32:33.360 --> 0:32:36.840
<v Speaker 3>much business, and so we've been cleaning it up. Some

0:32:37.200 --> 0:32:40.080
<v Speaker 3>gnarly shit in it, like a ship ton of gold

0:32:40.200 --> 0:32:44.960
<v Speaker 3>underneath the seats, and uh, a bunch of snacks that

0:32:45.080 --> 0:32:48.880
<v Speaker 3>looks like they've been in there for like ever, and

0:32:49.000 --> 0:32:52.880
<v Speaker 3>some guy's phone like a whole iPhone.

0:32:54.440 --> 0:32:57.760
<v Speaker 1>Like how surprised you are that you found a lot

0:32:57.800 --> 0:33:01.400
<v Speaker 1>of gross mold and food in a old van that

0:33:01.440 --> 0:33:01.880
<v Speaker 1>you bought.

0:33:03.240 --> 0:33:06.239
<v Speaker 3>Well, it's only it's only a twenty eleven sprinter, So

0:33:06.400 --> 0:33:09.400
<v Speaker 3>like I wasn't and like we've been like taking it

0:33:09.440 --> 0:33:12.400
<v Speaker 3>out a few times, and like we've already done a

0:33:12.400 --> 0:33:13.800
<v Speaker 3>lot of work on it. You know, we bought it

0:33:13.920 --> 0:33:16.560
<v Speaker 3>around Halloween. So I was just shocked that we only

0:33:16.600 --> 0:33:18.280
<v Speaker 3>discovered how much moltivism this thing.

0:33:18.400 --> 0:33:21.360
<v Speaker 1>Like last week, I'm gonna skip to the thing that

0:33:21.400 --> 0:33:23.719
<v Speaker 1>you texted me specifically about. You said you found an

0:33:23.840 --> 0:33:30.160
<v Speaker 1>iPhone in this van and yeah, yeah, and it works,

0:33:30.400 --> 0:33:33.000
<v Speaker 1>and you said you found out. You said you found

0:33:33.000 --> 0:33:36.600
<v Speaker 1>out who the owner is. But quote and don't. I'm

0:33:36.600 --> 0:33:41.080
<v Speaker 1>gonna you said, quote, I want to make the most

0:33:41.200 --> 0:33:44.960
<v Speaker 1>of this discovery before I offer to send it back

0:33:45.000 --> 0:33:49.000
<v Speaker 1>to him. Like ideally I want to do something funny,

0:33:49.080 --> 0:33:51.720
<v Speaker 1>but I dky what yet, what do you want to

0:33:51.720 --> 0:33:51.960
<v Speaker 1>do that?

0:33:52.240 --> 0:33:52.440
<v Speaker 4>Poor?

0:33:52.760 --> 0:33:55.600
<v Speaker 3>I phone said that when I said that, I didn't

0:33:55.600 --> 0:33:59.720
<v Speaker 3>mean anything unethical. It's like I don't think or really

0:33:59.760 --> 0:34:02.520
<v Speaker 3>care if I have access any of like financial stuff

0:34:02.560 --> 0:34:04.880
<v Speaker 3>or personal stuff. But like let me put it in

0:34:05.080 --> 0:34:07.920
<v Speaker 3>perspective for you, Like we found okay, so it's like

0:34:08.400 --> 0:34:11.160
<v Speaker 3>the last time this thing was turned on was twenty fifteen,

0:34:11.640 --> 0:34:15.399
<v Speaker 3>and uh, it's got old the old Instagram app like

0:34:15.440 --> 0:34:17.759
<v Speaker 3>it's got fucking it has Flatpybird on it.

0:34:19.400 --> 0:34:22.040
<v Speaker 1>Okay, by the way, iPhones with Flappybird on them actually

0:34:22.080 --> 0:34:23.480
<v Speaker 1>sell for a lot of money if you want to.

0:34:23.719 --> 0:34:24.840
<v Speaker 3>That's what I'm saying.

0:34:27.880 --> 0:34:32.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so you're gonna you're gonna take a picture of

0:34:32.160 --> 0:34:34.160
<v Speaker 1>your cock and make it the wallpaper and then give

0:34:34.200 --> 0:34:35.080
<v Speaker 1>it back to him.

0:34:35.600 --> 0:34:37.399
<v Speaker 3>I think he would probably sign that funny, But I'm

0:34:37.400 --> 0:34:39.960
<v Speaker 3>not going to do that because the lea legal What

0:34:40.040 --> 0:34:40.279
<v Speaker 3>is it?

0:34:40.560 --> 0:34:44.880
<v Speaker 1>What is it about the In the limited information you

0:34:44.920 --> 0:34:46.719
<v Speaker 1>have about this man, how did you come to the

0:34:46.719 --> 0:34:48.480
<v Speaker 1>conclusion that he would find that funny?

0:34:50.520 --> 0:34:53.400
<v Speaker 3>Okay? I mean, like it's not like I, me and

0:34:53.440 --> 0:34:56.440
<v Speaker 3>my partner like looked around for specific stuff on his phone,

0:34:56.719 --> 0:34:59.560
<v Speaker 3>but like just scrolling through his photos, like he took

0:34:59.760 --> 0:35:04.399
<v Speaker 3>like news, like just news with his friends, Like there's

0:35:04.400 --> 0:35:06.440
<v Speaker 3>a picture of some guy's ass on it.

0:35:07.360 --> 0:35:09.120
<v Speaker 1>Listen. Can I just say something to you? And but

0:35:09.320 --> 0:35:12.719
<v Speaker 1>this is not a judgment on you, Okay, Okay, it's not.

0:35:12.840 --> 0:35:14.719
<v Speaker 1>It's really not because I would do the same thing

0:35:14.719 --> 0:35:16.880
<v Speaker 1>if I found an old fucking iPhone because I'm nosy

0:35:16.880 --> 0:35:19.200
<v Speaker 1>and curious. I would do the same. Not a judgment,

0:35:19.280 --> 0:35:21.680
<v Speaker 1>This is not a judgment. But if you're gonna go

0:35:21.800 --> 0:35:24.200
<v Speaker 1>through the guy's photos and his life and his thing,

0:35:24.360 --> 0:35:26.719
<v Speaker 1>just stop being holy about it. You're just you're doing it.

0:35:26.719 --> 0:35:30.279
<v Speaker 1>It's fine, but just stop. We're just stop being like,

0:35:30.360 --> 0:35:32.399
<v Speaker 1>we're not gonna do anything on ethical. We're just gonna

0:35:32.440 --> 0:35:37.239
<v Speaker 1>go through his photos and his back Just it's okay. Again,

0:35:37.320 --> 0:35:39.279
<v Speaker 1>it's not just just do it, don't. You don't have

0:35:39.320 --> 0:35:40.319
<v Speaker 1>to be like cool about it.

0:35:42.080 --> 0:35:44.320
<v Speaker 3>When I say I'm not gonna do anything on ethical,

0:35:44.400 --> 0:35:46.680
<v Speaker 3>I mean like I'm not gonna like rob the guy

0:35:46.719 --> 0:35:48.800
<v Speaker 3>and send or like send all of his money to

0:35:48.960 --> 0:35:50.760
<v Speaker 3>like a big Point account or something.

0:35:51.200 --> 0:35:53.840
<v Speaker 1>Okay. Anyway, all right, so you were looking at pictures

0:35:53.880 --> 0:35:55.880
<v Speaker 1>of this guy's penis on his phone.

0:35:56.520 --> 0:36:01.920
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, his ass, Yeah, and no, it's really interesting. So

0:36:02.080 --> 0:36:05.160
<v Speaker 3>like he's We had no idea who this guy was.

0:36:05.160 --> 0:36:07.960
<v Speaker 3>He had nothing to do with the skateboarding company that

0:36:08.200 --> 0:36:11.680
<v Speaker 3>he that we beught it from, but I'm assuming that

0:36:11.760 --> 0:36:14.160
<v Speaker 3>he was at one of their events because like we

0:36:14.239 --> 0:36:16.680
<v Speaker 3>found his license in the car too, which is just

0:36:16.719 --> 0:36:19.680
<v Speaker 3>really weird. Anyway, we looked him up on Instagram by

0:36:19.719 --> 0:36:24.520
<v Speaker 3>like finding out what his like print, like like looking

0:36:24.560 --> 0:36:26.440
<v Speaker 3>up what his past accounts were, and like I just

0:36:26.480 --> 0:36:28.720
<v Speaker 3>found him tagged in a post and he's been posting

0:36:28.800 --> 0:36:31.799
<v Speaker 3>like car and skateboard content for like the past ten

0:36:31.920 --> 0:36:35.600
<v Speaker 3>or fifteen years, so like, yeah, it's like definitely the

0:36:35.640 --> 0:36:38.080
<v Speaker 3>same guy. And I looked at a video from like

0:36:38.520 --> 0:36:40.680
<v Speaker 3>nine years ago on his account and there's a video

0:36:40.680 --> 0:36:43.160
<v Speaker 3>where like the same then that we have today is

0:36:43.160 --> 0:36:45.719
<v Speaker 3>in it and it's crazy nice man.

0:36:45.840 --> 0:36:47.640
<v Speaker 1>So I mean, so this guy's not dead.

0:36:48.640 --> 0:36:52.560
<v Speaker 3>No, he's very hes he's alive and he's h he

0:36:52.719 --> 0:36:57.840
<v Speaker 3>definitely lives in California and who knows. Yeah, And I

0:36:57.920 --> 0:37:00.239
<v Speaker 3>just figured you out. If I was this guy, like

0:37:00.400 --> 0:37:02.080
<v Speaker 3>I would totally want a phone that I had like

0:37:02.160 --> 0:37:04.520
<v Speaker 3>ten years ago. God only knows how he lost it

0:37:04.560 --> 0:37:06.239
<v Speaker 3>on airplane mode like in the van.

0:37:06.400 --> 0:37:10.319
<v Speaker 1>But yeah, uh, when you hand it back to him,

0:37:10.320 --> 0:37:11.640
<v Speaker 1>are you going to tell him that he has a

0:37:11.719 --> 0:37:14.080
<v Speaker 1>nice penis that you saw on his phone photos?

0:37:14.200 --> 0:37:15.319
<v Speaker 3>I should totally him that.

0:37:15.480 --> 0:37:15.920
<v Speaker 4>Yeah I know that.

0:37:16.040 --> 0:37:18.360
<v Speaker 3>Oh shit. Yeah that's another weird thing is like you

0:37:18.400 --> 0:37:20.319
<v Speaker 3>know it was at a pattery when we found it,

0:37:20.480 --> 0:37:22.319
<v Speaker 3>we plugged it in. It was crazy that at work

0:37:22.360 --> 0:37:25.319
<v Speaker 3>because the screen is fucking shattered and there was no

0:37:25.480 --> 0:37:28.480
<v Speaker 3>password or anything on it. So just like for future reference,

0:37:28.840 --> 0:37:31.600
<v Speaker 3>like always keep a password on your phone or else

0:37:31.640 --> 0:37:33.719
<v Speaker 3>some rando, we'll find it ten years later.

0:37:33.920 --> 0:37:36.239
<v Speaker 1>And I always keep a pass on your phone or else.

0:37:36.280 --> 0:37:38.720
<v Speaker 1>Some weird guy might look through your.

0:37:38.760 --> 0:37:42.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, some weird guy. Yeah, and then you'll call a

0:37:42.120 --> 0:37:43.959
<v Speaker 3>get go about it and like tell the whole world.

0:37:46.239 --> 0:37:48.719
<v Speaker 1>So so I still want to we have to address this.

0:37:48.920 --> 0:37:52.600
<v Speaker 1>You claim that you want to do something funny with

0:37:52.760 --> 0:37:54.600
<v Speaker 1>the phone before you give it back. What what if?

0:37:54.719 --> 0:37:54.960
<v Speaker 4>What if?

0:37:54.960 --> 0:37:57.080
<v Speaker 1>What are some of your ideas for this funny thing

0:37:57.120 --> 0:37:57.759
<v Speaker 1>you want to do?

0:37:58.760 --> 0:38:00.960
<v Speaker 3>I was hoping you would have it is to be honest,

0:38:01.000 --> 0:38:01.560
<v Speaker 3>but I.

0:38:01.480 --> 0:38:09.560
<v Speaker 1>Have no ideas at all. Something funny, something, Ok, all right,

0:38:09.600 --> 0:38:12.800
<v Speaker 1>I got one go into his voice memos and record

0:38:12.880 --> 0:38:20.920
<v Speaker 1>a fart, make make all the ring tones farts.

0:38:21.040 --> 0:38:24.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's kind of like myself farting into the mic

0:38:24.920 --> 0:38:27.080
<v Speaker 3>like with my voice, and I'll change it to like

0:38:28.320 --> 0:38:35.440
<v Speaker 3>I'll record a different part for everybody who calls them.

0:38:35.600 --> 0:38:36.640
<v Speaker 3>I think that would be smart.

0:38:38.880 --> 0:38:40.560
<v Speaker 1>Do you have a job do you have? Like, what

0:38:40.600 --> 0:38:41.319
<v Speaker 1>do you do all day?

0:38:42.160 --> 0:38:44.520
<v Speaker 3>I'm doing the job right now. Yeah, I work in accounting.

0:38:45.200 --> 0:38:47.600
<v Speaker 1>That's cool. So how's the van life?

0:38:48.760 --> 0:38:50.480
<v Speaker 3>The van life? You haven't got to that yet, I

0:38:50.520 --> 0:38:54.120
<v Speaker 3>mean like, oh, what is the van like? Is that

0:38:54.160 --> 0:38:55.120
<v Speaker 3>what you said? No?

0:38:55.239 --> 0:38:57.839
<v Speaker 1>What how is van life for you? How is it going?

0:38:58.000 --> 0:38:58.160
<v Speaker 4>Oh?

0:38:58.239 --> 0:39:00.359
<v Speaker 3>I'm not I am not doing that yet. My lease

0:39:00.480 --> 0:39:03.040
<v Speaker 3>is going to be up in like November this year though,

0:39:03.840 --> 0:39:06.040
<v Speaker 3>and you know it's been it would be pretty hard

0:39:06.040 --> 0:39:08.520
<v Speaker 3>to live in event, considering the old situation up until

0:39:08.520 --> 0:39:13.640
<v Speaker 3>this weekend. Anyways, that yeah, I am. I currently live

0:39:13.680 --> 0:39:18.200
<v Speaker 3>in a pm W and I'm hoping just like travel

0:39:18.280 --> 0:39:22.279
<v Speaker 3>around you, you.

0:39:23.760 --> 0:39:24.800
<v Speaker 1>Live in a BMW.

0:39:25.840 --> 0:39:28.400
<v Speaker 3>No in the p m W and that's just the Northwest.

0:39:28.800 --> 0:39:32.399
<v Speaker 1>Oh I'm done, Okay, I thought, okay, it's definitely this

0:39:32.440 --> 0:39:35.360
<v Speaker 1>has this has this has PNW energy written all over it.

0:39:35.400 --> 0:39:36.280
<v Speaker 1>That's that's kind of where.

0:39:36.120 --> 0:39:39.000
<v Speaker 3>The oh my god, ship, you're right is a thing.

0:39:40.200 --> 0:39:42.160
<v Speaker 1>So when are you When are you expecting to get

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<v Speaker 1>all the molds out of there or you're gonna get

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<v Speaker 1>rid of it? Sounds like you're sentimental about it by now.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh no, I I mean like I I kissed them

0:39:52.680 --> 0:39:56.480
<v Speaker 3>all goodbye first before I blew it away and vacuumed it.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, I know so this. Yeah, No, the most

0:40:03.000 --> 0:40:04.520
<v Speaker 3>is all out. It's just like I got to build

0:40:04.520 --> 0:40:06.560
<v Speaker 3>this thing. Now. It's kind of scary because I got

0:40:06.560 --> 0:40:08.520
<v Speaker 3>to like cut a hole on the feeling to put

0:40:08.520 --> 0:40:12.759
<v Speaker 3>a ventilation fan in, and like there's just a lot

0:40:12.800 --> 0:40:15.359
<v Speaker 3>of like handyman type work you gotta do to do

0:40:15.400 --> 0:40:17.200
<v Speaker 3>this thing, and I have never done it in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>M Well, what, how's your partner? What does your partner have?

0:40:24.520 --> 0:40:28.120
<v Speaker 1>Any ideas of how you can uh fuck with this

0:40:28.320 --> 0:40:31.360
<v Speaker 1>poor guy who left his life in your hands?

0:40:32.960 --> 0:40:35.600
<v Speaker 3>No, I'm fortunately does she knows?

0:40:35.680 --> 0:40:37.040
<v Speaker 1>Does she even know about this?

0:40:38.320 --> 0:40:40.880
<v Speaker 3>No, she knows about it. She absolutely does. I actually

0:40:40.880 --> 0:40:43.799
<v Speaker 3>told her, like, don't message a guy yet, because I

0:40:43.840 --> 0:40:47.120
<v Speaker 3>want to know if like the therapy get go or

0:40:47.160 --> 0:40:50.120
<v Speaker 3>the people of the get nation heavy, any ideas of

0:40:50.160 --> 0:40:53.000
<v Speaker 3>what to do with with with the four Man's device.

0:40:56.320 --> 0:40:58.560
<v Speaker 1>What's your partner's deal? What's she do? Or he?

0:41:00.400 --> 0:41:01.440
<v Speaker 3>She works in an office?

0:41:01.560 --> 0:41:01.640
<v Speaker 4>She?

0:41:02.239 --> 0:41:06.440
<v Speaker 3>You know the most destiny, I just clerical work. But

0:41:06.840 --> 0:41:08.239
<v Speaker 3>it was kind of her idea to do the them

0:41:08.280 --> 0:41:09.600
<v Speaker 3>lifetime Do.

0:41:09.640 --> 0:41:14.600
<v Speaker 1>Straight is partner? Do straight people do partner? What's what's

0:41:14.719 --> 0:41:15.640
<v Speaker 1>what's the deal with? Yeah?

0:41:15.719 --> 0:41:18.160
<v Speaker 3>No, yeah, well at least like I do because like

0:41:18.400 --> 0:41:21.560
<v Speaker 3>because the same girlfriend or a boyfriend forever just sounds

0:41:21.600 --> 0:41:26.040
<v Speaker 3>like really like childish to me. So like, you know,

0:41:26.320 --> 0:41:29.080
<v Speaker 3>it's like I'm not at the stage where we're like married,

0:41:29.120 --> 0:41:31.520
<v Speaker 3>but I feel like partner is just a better word.

0:41:32.080 --> 0:41:33.560
<v Speaker 1>What happened to significant other?

0:41:34.960 --> 0:41:35.960
<v Speaker 3>That's too many syllables?

0:41:36.040 --> 0:41:38.120
<v Speaker 1>Man, Yeah, I guess all right, So yeah, it's a

0:41:38.200 --> 0:41:45.279
<v Speaker 1>legitimate argument. Sure, I feel that. Yeah, I guess you don't.

0:41:45.280 --> 0:41:49.399
<v Speaker 1>How old are you? I'm twenty three, you're twenty you're

0:41:49.440 --> 0:41:52.640
<v Speaker 1>twenty three. Yeah, you can have a you can have

0:41:52.680 --> 0:41:55.680
<v Speaker 1>a girlfriend at twenty three.

0:41:55.480 --> 0:41:58.040
<v Speaker 3>No, No, I mean yeah, I mean I kind of

0:41:58.080 --> 0:42:00.160
<v Speaker 3>flip back and forth the stream color or my old

0:42:00.160 --> 0:42:02.800
<v Speaker 3>friend of my partner were living together.

0:42:03.440 --> 0:42:05.359
<v Speaker 1>All right, that's fair. I'm sorry. I don't know why.

0:42:05.360 --> 0:42:07.840
<v Speaker 3>I'm no, that's okay.

0:42:08.200 --> 0:42:09.040
<v Speaker 1>I have no reason to go.

0:42:09.239 --> 0:42:14.920
<v Speaker 7>You may do you feel bad because if it was

0:42:15.000 --> 0:42:19.399
<v Speaker 7>your phone, you would just like I want to want it.

0:42:19.520 --> 0:42:21.200
<v Speaker 3>Like them back to you, with all the asked pictures

0:42:21.200 --> 0:42:21.680
<v Speaker 3>and everything.

0:42:22.360 --> 0:42:26.520
<v Speaker 1>Well, if it was my phone, that would be bad.

0:42:29.080 --> 0:42:30.240
<v Speaker 3>Good thing you have a password.

0:42:32.560 --> 0:42:33.279
<v Speaker 1>What's your name again?

0:42:34.400 --> 0:42:35.360
<v Speaker 3>My name is Seamus.

0:42:35.960 --> 0:42:37.960
<v Speaker 1>Seamus. Is there anything else you want to say to

0:42:38.000 --> 0:42:39.399
<v Speaker 1>the people of the computer before we go.

0:42:40.480 --> 0:42:42.400
<v Speaker 3>No, wait, but I did want to ask you a question,

0:42:43.080 --> 0:42:45.319
<v Speaker 3>just a real quick question before before I go. Where

0:42:45.360 --> 0:42:45.840
<v Speaker 3>are you from?

0:42:46.880 --> 0:42:49.880
<v Speaker 1>Where am I from? I feel like you're trying to

0:42:49.920 --> 0:42:51.600
<v Speaker 1>hack into my bank account. I don't trust you.

0:42:51.719 --> 0:42:52.560
<v Speaker 2>No, no, no, But.

0:42:52.560 --> 0:42:55.360
<v Speaker 3>Like my main question is, like, are you from Chicago?

0:42:57.320 --> 0:42:58.800
<v Speaker 1>Why do you want to know if I'm from Chicago?

0:42:59.640 --> 0:43:02.120
<v Speaker 3>I want to to ask. I don't know what your

0:43:02.200 --> 0:43:04.239
<v Speaker 3>what accent you have, but like I wanted to ask

0:43:04.280 --> 0:43:05.960
<v Speaker 3>if you put ketchup on your hot dogs? That's all?

0:43:07.680 --> 0:43:09.319
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, of course I put ketchups on my hot catch

0:43:09.400 --> 0:43:10.040
<v Speaker 1>up on my hot dog?

0:43:10.120 --> 0:43:16.400
<v Speaker 3>Oh thank god? Yeah? Okay, Ty, what do you now?

0:43:16.440 --> 0:43:18.440
<v Speaker 1>I feel like you're using that information for something?

0:43:19.719 --> 0:43:20.080
<v Speaker 7>No, I'm not.

0:43:20.480 --> 0:43:21.160
<v Speaker 3>Do you want me to.

0:43:23.160 --> 0:43:24.560
<v Speaker 1>You know what? Yes, I do want you to. I

0:43:24.600 --> 0:43:26.600
<v Speaker 1>want you to use that information for something. I want

0:43:26.600 --> 0:43:29.440
<v Speaker 1>you to find a way to use the information that

0:43:29.480 --> 0:43:32.520
<v Speaker 1>I put ketchup on my hot dogs for something positive.

0:43:32.560 --> 0:43:34.279
<v Speaker 1>Not don't use it to hurt I.

0:43:34.200 --> 0:43:35.920
<v Speaker 3>Will use it to make the world a better.

0:43:35.719 --> 0:43:40.040
<v Speaker 1>Place, honestly, Honestly, if you can find a way to

0:43:40.360 --> 0:43:43.160
<v Speaker 1>use the information that I like ketchup on my hot

0:43:43.200 --> 0:43:47.440
<v Speaker 1>dogs to hurt someone, do that. No, I can't my

0:43:47.520 --> 0:43:49.680
<v Speaker 1>imagination maybe your imagination.

0:43:49.280 --> 0:43:52.680
<v Speaker 3>Is My imagination isn't good. I couldn't even I couldn't

0:43:52.680 --> 0:43:54.600
<v Speaker 3>even figure out something funny to do with the guy's though.

0:43:55.400 --> 0:44:00.440
<v Speaker 3>Now I got to report these parts.

0:44:03.800 --> 0:44:07.760
<v Speaker 1>No, I'm still here. I'm just thinking, all right, well

0:44:08.120 --> 0:44:14.600
<v Speaker 1>you're who I now think everyone in Portland is okay?

0:44:15.239 --> 0:44:15.359
<v Speaker 3>Hi?

0:44:19.480 --> 0:44:20.560
<v Speaker 1>Is there anything else you want to say to the

0:44:20.600 --> 0:44:21.799
<v Speaker 1>people of the computer before we go?

0:44:22.880 --> 0:44:24.640
<v Speaker 3>No? Do you have a good day to get go?

0:44:25.239 --> 0:44:28.040
<v Speaker 1>Hey? You two man, take care? Say hello? Say hello

0:44:28.080 --> 0:44:29.160
<v Speaker 1>to the phone guy for me.

0:44:30.800 --> 0:44:43.000
<v Speaker 4>I will I will later. Hello. Hello, Oh my god,

0:44:43.200 --> 0:44:44.600
<v Speaker 4>this is the gek this one?

0:44:45.800 --> 0:44:46.560
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Who is this?

0:44:48.160 --> 0:44:49.400
<v Speaker 4>Oh? My name is Darius.

0:44:50.120 --> 0:44:52.480
<v Speaker 1>Darius. How's it going, Darius?

0:44:52.920 --> 0:44:55.600
<v Speaker 4>I am amazing right now? How are you?

0:44:55.960 --> 0:44:58.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm okay, I'm hanging in there. What's what's going on

0:44:58.160 --> 0:44:58.840
<v Speaker 1>with you? Darius?

0:44:59.600 --> 0:45:02.439
<v Speaker 4>You know Mark's just in the middle of I guess

0:45:02.440 --> 0:45:06.040
<v Speaker 4>I just finished washing my face. But yeah, I mean,

0:45:07.000 --> 0:45:09.080
<v Speaker 4>I guess you can talk about what I texted in

0:45:09.239 --> 0:45:17.480
<v Speaker 4>about all right? So, uh, how do I start? Okay?

0:45:17.560 --> 0:45:22.200
<v Speaker 4>So I don't know. This is like two issues ago.

0:45:22.840 --> 0:45:26.359
<v Speaker 4>I was seeing this girl, and I had been seeing

0:45:26.360 --> 0:45:29.040
<v Speaker 4>her for like two weeks or so. You know. And

0:45:29.080 --> 0:45:34.440
<v Speaker 4>then one night I came over and then she had

0:45:34.480 --> 0:45:38.560
<v Speaker 4>to leave for work, and so I stayed and slept,

0:45:38.600 --> 0:45:41.439
<v Speaker 4>you know, just didn't get up, and then I wake

0:45:41.560 --> 0:45:45.640
<v Speaker 4>up like I ended up going to a vacuum in

0:45:45.680 --> 0:45:47.840
<v Speaker 4>my dream, which you know is the trap as always,

0:45:47.920 --> 0:45:50.040
<v Speaker 4>but so I did that and I woke up and

0:45:50.080 --> 0:45:51.960
<v Speaker 4>I was like, oh shit, you know, I just pissed

0:45:51.960 --> 0:45:57.759
<v Speaker 4>the bag and so yeah, sorry, this is really cool.

0:45:59.719 --> 0:46:04.560
<v Speaker 4>Away I woke up and then I'm like, shit, what

0:46:04.600 --> 0:46:06.880
<v Speaker 4>am I gonna do? Because this is like fucking weird.

0:46:06.920 --> 0:46:09.120
<v Speaker 4>Like two weeks then I didn't piste the bed since

0:46:09.160 --> 0:46:13.520
<v Speaker 4>I was like twelve, and then so I I just

0:46:13.560 --> 0:46:15.960
<v Speaker 4>grabbed your sheets and like was like, hey, I spilled

0:46:16.040 --> 0:46:17.839
<v Speaker 4>orange juice on your sheets.

0:46:18.680 --> 0:46:19.160
<v Speaker 3>And.

0:46:20.840 --> 0:46:22.640
<v Speaker 4>Because I always had a bottle of orange juice on

0:46:22.680 --> 0:46:24.759
<v Speaker 4>me around that time for some reason. But anyways, I

0:46:24.760 --> 0:46:26.600
<v Speaker 4>was like, hey, I spilled orange juice on your sheets

0:46:27.840 --> 0:46:30.040
<v Speaker 4>for me and take them and wash them. And she's like, oh, okay,

0:46:30.080 --> 0:46:31.279
<v Speaker 4>you don't have to do that. I was like, no,

0:46:31.480 --> 0:46:34.239
<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna I'm gonna do that. You know, it's a

0:46:35.880 --> 0:46:37.759
<v Speaker 4>I feel bad if I don't take care of it.

0:46:38.000 --> 0:46:43.080
<v Speaker 4>And then so she's like okay, and so this happened,

0:46:43.080 --> 0:46:50.200
<v Speaker 4>I got her sheets back to whatever. And then so, yeah,

0:46:50.440 --> 0:46:51.239
<v Speaker 4>two weeks so.

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<v Speaker 1>You pissed it, pissed a girl's bed, yes, okay, And

0:46:57.480 --> 0:46:59.080
<v Speaker 1>what how did she respond to that?

0:47:00.520 --> 0:47:04.120
<v Speaker 4>She well, she didn't like know at first, and then

0:47:04.200 --> 0:47:07.440
<v Speaker 4>like two weeks later she made like a comment, like

0:47:07.480 --> 0:47:11.600
<v Speaker 4>a joking comment like that somehow related to that. She's like, oh, yeah,

0:47:11.719 --> 0:47:15.160
<v Speaker 4>like what if you kissed my bed or whatever? And

0:47:15.200 --> 0:47:17.600
<v Speaker 4>then so like I thought I had gotten away with it,

0:47:17.680 --> 0:47:19.560
<v Speaker 4>and then so like I had this nervous look on

0:47:19.600 --> 0:47:22.719
<v Speaker 4>my face and kind of hesitated, and then she was

0:47:22.840 --> 0:47:26.120
<v Speaker 4>like you did not, like did you actually? And then

0:47:26.920 --> 0:47:29.120
<v Speaker 4>I kind of fessed up to it. So I was like, yeah,

0:47:29.280 --> 0:47:34.080
<v Speaker 4>like I kissed your bed, but I took care of it,

0:47:34.160 --> 0:47:35.359
<v Speaker 4>so it's like it's all good.

0:47:35.800 --> 0:47:39.920
<v Speaker 1>And yeah, what did she say?

0:47:43.239 --> 0:47:48.920
<v Speaker 4>What did she say? It was so long ago. She laughed,

0:47:49.239 --> 0:47:52.680
<v Speaker 4>which is a valid response, and she's like, you're kidding,

0:47:52.800 --> 0:47:55.160
<v Speaker 4>and I was like I wish I was. This is

0:47:55.680 --> 0:48:03.200
<v Speaker 4>really embarrassing. And then yeah, hell.

0:48:03.160 --> 0:48:05.000
<v Speaker 1>How long did you continue to date her after this?

0:48:06.920 --> 0:48:08.800
<v Speaker 4>We're still dating now, so I mean.

0:48:09.160 --> 0:48:13.719
<v Speaker 1>Well, fucking Jesus, all right, you know, see that's not.

0:48:14.000 --> 0:48:16.520
<v Speaker 1>That's really like what you want out of a relationship,

0:48:16.600 --> 0:48:20.359
<v Speaker 1>I think is somebody who you can piss their bed.

0:48:21.320 --> 0:48:22.919
<v Speaker 1>Some people like it when you pissed that. Some people

0:48:22.960 --> 0:48:24.960
<v Speaker 1>like it when you pee on their face. Actually, there's

0:48:25.000 --> 0:48:30.120
<v Speaker 1>a whole website of people who who are like trying

0:48:30.120 --> 0:48:34.319
<v Speaker 1>to find somebody to do that to them. All right,

0:48:34.320 --> 0:48:36.839
<v Speaker 1>so you're still dating this you okay? Because you teed

0:48:36.960 --> 0:48:40.719
<v Speaker 1>this ship up like it was your you know, it

0:48:40.760 --> 0:48:43.319
<v Speaker 1>was it, it was this was just some girl. This

0:48:43.440 --> 0:48:45.239
<v Speaker 1>is You've been dating this girl for two years. That's

0:48:45.239 --> 0:48:47.439
<v Speaker 1>pretty great. How many more times than the two years

0:48:47.480 --> 0:48:49.319
<v Speaker 1>have you pissed her bed?

0:48:51.320 --> 0:48:55.680
<v Speaker 4>There's one? Well, there's one night I almost feed my bed.

0:48:56.080 --> 0:48:58.200
<v Speaker 4>They drank way too much water, and then it was

0:48:58.239 --> 0:49:04.440
<v Speaker 4>just like leaking. But that didn't really count. I guess, uh,

0:49:04.480 --> 0:49:11.320
<v Speaker 4>it almost happened. I think it almost happened one more time.

0:49:11.160 --> 0:49:17.239
<v Speaker 1>Since then, tell me about that. Wait, so, so uh uh,

0:49:18.320 --> 0:49:20.680
<v Speaker 1>how's the relationship going? Is it going good?

0:49:21.560 --> 0:49:21.799
<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

0:49:21.840 --> 0:49:23.480
<v Speaker 4>It's really good, i'd.

0:49:23.200 --> 0:49:26.520
<v Speaker 1>Say, Okay, has she ever pissed the bed?

0:49:29.360 --> 0:49:32.280
<v Speaker 4>No? She almost shouted one time, though.

0:49:32.719 --> 0:49:35.720
<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, how would you react if she shouted?

0:49:37.800 --> 0:49:40.080
<v Speaker 4>I thought it was funny. I was really hoping she did,

0:49:40.120 --> 0:49:44.080
<v Speaker 4>because like she tried to fart and then she like

0:49:44.200 --> 0:49:46.560
<v Speaker 4>jumped up out of the bed. It's like, oh my god,

0:49:46.840 --> 0:49:48.640
<v Speaker 4>I gotta go to the packing I was like, oh,

0:49:48.719 --> 0:49:53.279
<v Speaker 4>no way, did you just shart? And she hears a

0:49:53.320 --> 0:49:54.680
<v Speaker 4>brand ran out of the room.

0:49:55.880 --> 0:49:57.040
<v Speaker 3>M m m.

0:49:59.160 --> 0:50:02.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean yeah, that's a good sign of a relationship,

0:50:02.800 --> 0:50:05.680
<v Speaker 1>is one where you can you guys can piss and

0:50:05.719 --> 0:50:08.840
<v Speaker 1>ship all over each other. And I mean that I'm

0:50:08.840 --> 0:50:15.520
<v Speaker 1>not even saying that in jest. I think the tell, well, uh,

0:50:15.640 --> 0:50:17.000
<v Speaker 1>what else is going on?

0:50:20.719 --> 0:50:24.279
<v Speaker 4>Not much looking for a new job.

0:50:24.520 --> 0:50:27.680
<v Speaker 1>But you know, there's a sense of comfortability in that.

0:50:27.719 --> 0:50:32.800
<v Speaker 1>There's a sense of comfortability in that, like having having

0:50:33.760 --> 0:50:35.520
<v Speaker 1>do you do you guys ever go to the bathroom

0:50:35.560 --> 0:50:37.520
<v Speaker 1>with each other? Does she ever like sit on your

0:50:37.600 --> 0:50:39.479
<v Speaker 1>lap while you while you take a ship.

0:50:42.560 --> 0:50:45.640
<v Speaker 4>I've tried to convince her to let me like tee

0:50:45.680 --> 0:50:49.040
<v Speaker 4>while she's peeing, but she won't go for that.

0:50:49.160 --> 0:50:51.920
<v Speaker 1>Like it's hard to it's kind of hard to cross

0:50:52.000 --> 0:51:00.600
<v Speaker 1>streams with a chick. Yeah, because I like a man

0:51:00.680 --> 0:51:04.800
<v Speaker 1>and a woman crossing streams. I feel like that's that

0:51:04.920 --> 0:51:07.480
<v Speaker 1>woman would have to be in quite a h an

0:51:07.600 --> 0:51:08.720
<v Speaker 1>uncomfortable position.

0:51:10.719 --> 0:51:13.440
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I was thinking, like, she's just sitting on the

0:51:13.480 --> 0:51:17.480
<v Speaker 4>toilet and then like kind of like man spreads a

0:51:17.480 --> 0:51:20.120
<v Speaker 4>little bit and I.

0:51:19.080 --> 0:51:22.440
<v Speaker 1>Oh, oh, okay, actually that's kind of interesting. Okay, so

0:51:22.520 --> 0:51:26.360
<v Speaker 1>she sits, you stand, and she leaves. There's like a

0:51:26.600 --> 0:51:28.319
<v Speaker 1>a but you have to have a very precise aim

0:51:28.440 --> 0:51:30.560
<v Speaker 1>or else you're just gonna like start peeking under her

0:51:30.640 --> 0:51:36.480
<v Speaker 1>vagina exactly. That's cool though. Man, that's a fun date idea.

0:51:37.280 --> 0:51:40.080
<v Speaker 1>Next time, next time I google, Next time I google,

0:51:41.160 --> 0:51:44.160
<v Speaker 1>next time I google. Exciting date ideas in New York.

0:51:44.200 --> 0:51:47.880
<v Speaker 1>I want to see pissing on each other on the list.

0:51:49.200 --> 0:51:51.319
<v Speaker 4>That I hope so too. I hope we can make

0:51:51.320 --> 0:51:51.800
<v Speaker 4>that happen.

0:51:52.160 --> 0:51:57.839
<v Speaker 1>What's your name again, sir? It is Darius Darius Jarres.

0:51:57.880 --> 0:51:59.440
<v Speaker 1>How did you feel about this phone call? Do you

0:51:59.480 --> 0:52:01.400
<v Speaker 1>have any I want to start doing like you know

0:52:01.400 --> 0:52:03.799
<v Speaker 1>how you do a customer service line and then they're like,

0:52:03.840 --> 0:52:06.080
<v Speaker 1>stay on the phone for a survey. I'm going to

0:52:06.120 --> 0:52:09.040
<v Speaker 1>start doing that, but just it's on the actual the

0:52:09.080 --> 0:52:13.640
<v Speaker 1>person who gave you customer service just asks you, and

0:52:13.680 --> 0:52:15.759
<v Speaker 1>so you can't you have to lie to them and

0:52:15.800 --> 0:52:18.360
<v Speaker 1>say it was good. What what would you any pointers?

0:52:18.400 --> 0:52:23.040
<v Speaker 1>Any thoughts feeling sentiments, no goad feedback.

0:52:24.600 --> 0:52:25.319
<v Speaker 3>No, it was great.

0:52:25.360 --> 0:52:26.680
<v Speaker 4>I mean I was a little shook up because I

0:52:26.680 --> 0:52:31.440
<v Speaker 4>wasn't expecting the call, but yeah, I mean it was great.

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<v Speaker 4>I have no no pointers that I can think of

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<v Speaker 4>it least.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, Darius, you seems like a nice guy. I'm

0:52:40.680 --> 0:52:44.359
<v Speaker 1>glad that your relationship's working out, and you know, I'm

0:52:44.400 --> 0:52:47.080
<v Speaker 1>excited for your wedding day where you can really just

0:52:47.520 --> 0:52:52.799
<v Speaker 1>consummate that marriage with a uh just eating her ship

0:52:52.920 --> 0:52:53.319
<v Speaker 1>full on.

0:52:55.200 --> 0:52:57.719
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we'll try to make We'll try to make something

0:52:57.719 --> 0:52:58.839
<v Speaker 4>wild happen that day.

0:52:59.640 --> 0:53:07.839
<v Speaker 1>Take Darius, you two. Hello, Hi, what's your name?

0:53:08.120 --> 0:53:09.200
<v Speaker 5>Hey? My name is Miranda.

0:53:09.800 --> 0:53:10.720
<v Speaker 1>How old are you? Miranda?

0:53:11.120 --> 0:53:12.239
<v Speaker 5>I am twenty eight.

0:53:12.480 --> 0:53:13.080
<v Speaker 1>How's life?

0:53:14.120 --> 0:53:18.520
<v Speaker 5>You know, it's going pretty good. I feel like I'm

0:53:18.520 --> 0:53:23.319
<v Speaker 5>doing a lot for my age, though I guess in

0:53:23.400 --> 0:53:26.560
<v Speaker 5>kind of like weird ways. I guess, like a little

0:53:26.600 --> 0:53:29.400
<v Speaker 5>background story. So I told you that. Like, so I

0:53:29.400 --> 0:53:32.439
<v Speaker 5>got into playing stems recently. It's a big thing right now,

0:53:33.000 --> 0:53:36.200
<v Speaker 5>right so, uh, I usually do that when I'm high,

0:53:36.560 --> 0:53:44.600
<v Speaker 5>but I recently stopped doing PhD just like personal reasons.

0:53:44.600 --> 0:53:46.439
<v Speaker 5>I'd feel like my sleep's not is great. I feel

0:53:46.440 --> 0:53:49.480
<v Speaker 5>like I can't like function as well, you know, like

0:53:49.960 --> 0:53:52.040
<v Speaker 5>you know, all the all the things that go along

0:53:52.080 --> 0:53:57.279
<v Speaker 5>with that, right, Yeah. But yeah, So basically like me

0:53:57.320 --> 0:54:00.640
<v Speaker 5>and my husband we both have like a don't jobs,

0:54:00.719 --> 0:54:04.359
<v Speaker 5>and we bought a house and he's a manager. I'm

0:54:04.400 --> 0:54:07.439
<v Speaker 5>like in charge of people, and we're both like twenty eight,

0:54:07.480 --> 0:54:10.120
<v Speaker 5>and I'm like, I feel like, sometimes I wish I

0:54:10.120 --> 0:54:13.520
<v Speaker 5>could just like slow down, you know, have like a

0:54:14.080 --> 0:54:18.359
<v Speaker 5>normal life, normal things to worry about, you.

0:54:18.280 --> 0:54:18.759
<v Speaker 4>Know what I mean.

0:54:19.360 --> 0:54:23.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm confused. You say that you all right, you're married,

0:54:23.320 --> 0:54:27.759
<v Speaker 1>that's great, you have a job, that's great. What about

0:54:27.800 --> 0:54:31.360
<v Speaker 1>your life do you feel to be so abnormal?

0:54:31.560 --> 0:54:34.680
<v Speaker 5>I guess like I just wish that, like sometimes like

0:54:35.160 --> 0:54:37.800
<v Speaker 5>we could just slowed down and like, you know, enjoyed

0:54:37.800 --> 0:54:39.960
<v Speaker 5>our twenties a little bit because we both just like

0:54:40.000 --> 0:54:42.600
<v Speaker 5>graduated college and just kind of like hit the ground

0:54:42.640 --> 0:54:44.359
<v Speaker 5>running and we were like, okay, what else, what else?

0:54:44.400 --> 0:54:44.759
<v Speaker 3>What else?

0:54:44.760 --> 0:54:46.560
<v Speaker 5>What else? You know what I mean? So like we've

0:54:46.560 --> 0:54:49.040
<v Speaker 5>just been like checking off all these boxes and not

0:54:49.120 --> 0:54:51.880
<v Speaker 5>really like taking time to like slow down and like

0:54:52.719 --> 0:54:56.640
<v Speaker 5>enjoy our twenties before kids and all of the things,

0:54:56.680 --> 0:54:58.879
<v Speaker 5>you know what I mean. So it feels like we've

0:54:58.960 --> 0:55:01.040
<v Speaker 5>kind of almost wasted that time that we had.

0:55:01.560 --> 0:55:02.840
<v Speaker 1>Do you have kids?

0:55:03.680 --> 0:55:03.919
<v Speaker 3>No?

0:55:04.120 --> 0:55:04.520
<v Speaker 5>Not yet?

0:55:04.640 --> 0:55:07.400
<v Speaker 1>Oh well then what go to quit your jobs and

0:55:07.560 --> 0:55:09.720
<v Speaker 1>move to Thailand? Who gives a fucking ship?

0:55:10.239 --> 0:55:11.600
<v Speaker 4>What do you?

0:55:11.320 --> 0:55:12.000
<v Speaker 3>What do you?

0:55:12.080 --> 0:55:12.920
<v Speaker 5>What do you?

0:55:13.000 --> 0:55:13.200
<v Speaker 7>Yeah?

0:55:13.239 --> 0:55:14.880
<v Speaker 1>Okay, so I mean I mean yeah, I mean no,

0:55:15.000 --> 0:55:18.160
<v Speaker 1>you don't you're not. Yeah, if you don't have kids,

0:55:18.200 --> 0:55:21.120
<v Speaker 1>you can do whatever you want kind of. If you

0:55:21.120 --> 0:55:23.040
<v Speaker 1>don't have kids, you can do whatever. I mean you

0:55:23.440 --> 0:55:28.239
<v Speaker 1>some people abandon their kids, which I mean you can.

0:55:28.320 --> 0:55:30.200
<v Speaker 1>You can do that. That's an option available to you

0:55:30.239 --> 0:55:33.000
<v Speaker 1>as a human being. But some people think that that's

0:55:33.040 --> 0:55:35.600
<v Speaker 1>not cool, and they have a legitimate argument when they

0:55:35.640 --> 0:55:39.160
<v Speaker 1>say that. But you can do it. What was I

0:55:39.239 --> 0:55:41.000
<v Speaker 1>going to say? Just now, it's going to say something?

0:55:41.080 --> 0:55:46.000
<v Speaker 1>Don't wait? Okay you said you get specific with meha, Miranda,

0:55:46.080 --> 0:55:49.440
<v Speaker 1>What exactly do you want to do? Because I understand

0:55:49.480 --> 0:55:59.359
<v Speaker 1>the idea of like a vague longing, right, but the

0:55:59.400 --> 0:56:02.920
<v Speaker 1>mo if you, if you uh, swat away the fog

0:56:03.040 --> 0:56:06.839
<v Speaker 1>of that vague longing, maybe you'll find a specific thing

0:56:06.920 --> 0:56:09.520
<v Speaker 1>that you want to do, and maybe after that you'll realize, oh,

0:56:09.520 --> 0:56:13.959
<v Speaker 1>I actually can do this, you know, so, so wipe

0:56:13.960 --> 0:56:17.160
<v Speaker 1>away the smoke for me here real quick, what's what's

0:56:17.239 --> 0:56:19.600
<v Speaker 1>the What are some actual things you want to do

0:56:19.600 --> 0:56:22.239
<v Speaker 1>that you feel like you cannot do well.

0:56:22.880 --> 0:56:24.880
<v Speaker 5>I guess like my biggest thing is I just like

0:56:25.800 --> 0:56:28.120
<v Speaker 5>I guess like I just feel all these outside pressures

0:56:28.160 --> 0:56:31.480
<v Speaker 5>from like family and friends. So like that's kind of

0:56:31.480 --> 0:56:33.799
<v Speaker 5>what I mean about like putting life into perspective, and

0:56:33.840 --> 0:56:36.520
<v Speaker 5>I feel like we kind of like wasted the time

0:56:36.560 --> 0:56:39.200
<v Speaker 5>that we had like in our earlier twenties, like not

0:56:39.320 --> 0:56:42.680
<v Speaker 5>traveling and like just saving money and like being super

0:56:42.719 --> 0:56:46.480
<v Speaker 5>cautious about everything all the time, versus like you know,

0:56:46.600 --> 0:56:49.040
<v Speaker 5>quitting our jobs and moving to a city and enjoying

0:56:49.080 --> 0:56:51.919
<v Speaker 5>life of meeting people and creating our own like kind

0:56:51.920 --> 0:56:54.600
<v Speaker 5>of way. We just both kind of fell into that

0:56:54.640 --> 0:56:58.520
<v Speaker 5>cookie cutter like graduate college, be successful, get a house,

0:56:58.640 --> 0:57:02.240
<v Speaker 5>start a family. But like now that we've graduated college

0:57:02.440 --> 0:57:04.719
<v Speaker 5>and we've got a house, like now our family is

0:57:04.800 --> 0:57:07.520
<v Speaker 5>kind of like pressuring that like whole like, Okay, when

0:57:07.520 --> 0:57:08.080
<v Speaker 5>are you gonna start?

0:57:09.800 --> 0:57:11.880
<v Speaker 1>Like you're like your like your parents.

0:57:12.680 --> 0:57:17.959
<v Speaker 5>Yeah yeah, like just.

0:57:16.640 --> 0:57:21.920
<v Speaker 1>Off man, you're hold on, hold on. I look, I

0:57:21.960 --> 0:57:25.520
<v Speaker 1>get everyone has different relationships with their family, but like, dude,

0:57:25.600 --> 0:57:28.240
<v Speaker 1>you have you have money, right, you have a job,

0:57:28.280 --> 0:57:30.000
<v Speaker 1>you have money. You sound like you have an adult

0:57:30.080 --> 0:57:31.560
<v Speaker 1>job that pays you adult money.

0:57:33.000 --> 0:57:35.360
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, So like that's the hard part is like it

0:57:35.480 --> 0:57:38.160
<v Speaker 5>kind of goes beyond like just our parents too, because

0:57:38.240 --> 0:57:40.120
<v Speaker 5>like you do your parents parents?

0:57:40.520 --> 0:57:42.080
<v Speaker 1>Do your parents give you money? Still?

0:57:43.000 --> 0:57:43.280
<v Speaker 5>No?

0:57:43.520 --> 0:57:46.400
<v Speaker 3>No, Okay, listen, if.

0:57:46.280 --> 0:57:48.760
<v Speaker 1>You listen, if you pay your water bill, If you

0:57:48.840 --> 0:57:51.400
<v Speaker 1>pay your water bill, you can tell your mom to

0:57:51.440 --> 0:57:53.840
<v Speaker 1>go fuck yourself. That's that's what being an adult is.

0:57:55.120 --> 0:57:57.080
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, No, I get you. That's kind of what we're

0:57:57.560 --> 0:57:59.920
<v Speaker 5>That's kind of what we've been doing, uh, is just

0:58:00.160 --> 0:58:02.240
<v Speaker 5>like hey, like we're not we don't even think we

0:58:02.280 --> 0:58:04.040
<v Speaker 5>want to do that, Like we'll do it on our

0:58:04.080 --> 0:58:06.520
<v Speaker 5>own terms type thing. But like it's just kind of

0:58:06.520 --> 0:58:10.040
<v Speaker 5>increasingly getting harder to like make friends as well, especially

0:58:10.120 --> 0:58:12.480
<v Speaker 5>like going because like my husband will be thirty this

0:58:12.600 --> 0:58:15.120
<v Speaker 5>year and I'll be twenty nine this year. Right, So,

0:58:15.280 --> 0:58:17.480
<v Speaker 5>like a lot of our friends, especially friends that we

0:58:17.520 --> 0:58:21.760
<v Speaker 5>meet like in our community, have kids, like around our age,

0:58:22.160 --> 0:58:24.360
<v Speaker 5>Like well the people are around our age and they're

0:58:24.400 --> 0:58:26.160
<v Speaker 5>starting families and they're starting.

0:58:25.800 --> 0:58:26.400
<v Speaker 8>To have kids.

0:58:26.440 --> 0:58:29.240
<v Speaker 5>And then it's almost like they get offended if we say,

0:58:29.280 --> 0:58:31.200
<v Speaker 5>like that's great, you're having kids, and like I'll buy

0:58:31.200 --> 0:58:33.800
<v Speaker 5>your kid a birthday president. But like I really think

0:58:33.840 --> 0:58:36.640
<v Speaker 5>that's something that I want to do, you know what

0:58:36.640 --> 0:58:39.520
<v Speaker 5>I mean, Like, it's just becoming increasingly harder to like

0:58:40.120 --> 0:58:43.640
<v Speaker 5>meet people and make friendships like where we're currently at.

0:58:44.360 --> 0:58:45.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, does that make sense?

0:58:45.880 --> 0:58:49.520
<v Speaker 1>And of course, yeah, definitely makes sense. So it's something

0:58:49.560 --> 0:58:51.160
<v Speaker 1>I struggle with. I'm trying to figure out how to

0:58:51.160 --> 0:58:54.920
<v Speaker 1>make more community in my life. It used to be

0:58:54.960 --> 0:58:57.960
<v Speaker 1>easy and now it feels like it requires a lot

0:58:58.000 --> 0:59:01.920
<v Speaker 1>more thought at ten. But I mean, okay, but you're

0:59:02.120 --> 0:59:05.720
<v Speaker 1>but I guess Miranda, like we're you just took me

0:59:05.760 --> 0:59:13.400
<v Speaker 1>through five different conundrums, so let's start with I mean,

0:59:13.480 --> 0:59:17.960
<v Speaker 1>let's just do this one. Right. Is like the like

0:59:18.040 --> 0:59:24.560
<v Speaker 1>pressure from your parents, I mean, you you see, you

0:59:24.600 --> 0:59:28.320
<v Speaker 1>sound like a smart person, and so you're aware that

0:59:28.400 --> 0:59:31.800
<v Speaker 1>your parents, like You're like, you're aware you were the

0:59:31.840 --> 0:59:34.360
<v Speaker 1>only you and your husband are the only one that

0:59:34.440 --> 0:59:38.840
<v Speaker 1>have to live your lives right, right, And so who

0:59:39.880 --> 0:59:42.560
<v Speaker 1>gives any amount of a fuck about the opinion of

0:59:42.640 --> 0:59:46.520
<v Speaker 1>any other person that doesn't have to live your life.

0:59:47.920 --> 0:59:49.880
<v Speaker 5>Right? I mean, I guess it just comes from like

0:59:49.920 --> 0:59:52.160
<v Speaker 5>a place of like I've always been like just such

0:59:52.160 --> 0:59:54.600
<v Speaker 5>a people pleaser, and so it's kind of what I

0:59:54.640 --> 0:59:57.280
<v Speaker 5>mean about like just kind of putting like time into

0:59:57.360 --> 1:00:00.000
<v Speaker 5>perspective with your life. Like I know, I keep saying

1:00:00.040 --> 1:00:02.360
<v Speaker 5>approach and thirty and like I've you.

1:00:02.240 --> 1:00:04.640
<v Speaker 6>Know one day state.

1:00:05.080 --> 1:00:08.400
<v Speaker 1>Just just just just stay stay on this particular topic

1:00:08.400 --> 1:00:10.800
<v Speaker 1>with me, because now we're talking about getting older and whatnot.

1:00:10.840 --> 1:00:16.280
<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about like like like there's okay, there's pressure

1:00:16.360 --> 1:00:19.800
<v Speaker 1>and influence from like people and then specific people like

1:00:19.840 --> 1:00:23.560
<v Speaker 1>your family, and there's like pressure and influence from what

1:00:23.720 --> 1:00:29.000
<v Speaker 1>is generally societally accepted as the normal life of a

1:00:29.040 --> 1:00:32.760
<v Speaker 1>certain people of a certain age. Right, So I mean,

1:00:32.840 --> 1:00:34.800
<v Speaker 1>just stay with me real quick on the family side

1:00:34.840 --> 1:00:39.160
<v Speaker 1>of things. What what what's the block there?

1:00:41.200 --> 1:00:41.760
<v Speaker 8>I guess like.

1:00:41.800 --> 1:00:45.160
<v Speaker 5>Just because I've always been like I've always been like

1:00:45.160 --> 1:00:47.240
<v Speaker 5>a goodie two shoes with like my family, and I've

1:00:47.240 --> 1:00:50.160
<v Speaker 5>always done like what they want me to do, and

1:00:50.200 --> 1:00:52.840
<v Speaker 5>so like me standing up for myself and like what

1:00:52.880 --> 1:00:56.640
<v Speaker 5>I want for my life, it like obviously upsets them,

1:00:56.680 --> 1:00:59.960
<v Speaker 5>which again I'm learning to not care. But it's like

1:01:00.120 --> 1:01:02.320
<v Speaker 5>one of those things where I've just I've never done

1:01:02.320 --> 1:01:05.160
<v Speaker 5>that before, so it's uncomfortable to be like, hey, actually

1:01:05.240 --> 1:01:06.920
<v Speaker 5>that's not what I want and I have to like

1:01:07.800 --> 1:01:09.880
<v Speaker 5>be okay with that backlash. Does that make sense?

1:01:09.960 --> 1:01:10.160
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

1:01:10.680 --> 1:01:18.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm there's no there's no magical spell

1:01:18.600 --> 1:01:21.080
<v Speaker 1>that I can put upon you to give you the

1:01:21.120 --> 1:01:24.800
<v Speaker 1>courage to be okay with that backlash, But I I

1:01:26.800 --> 1:01:31.760
<v Speaker 1>think it is. It is a worthy thing to learn

1:01:31.800 --> 1:01:33.400
<v Speaker 1>how to deal with, for sure.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, So there's that, and then there's like we

1:01:40.360 --> 1:01:44.720
<v Speaker 1>talked about the just general societal pressure for your life

1:01:44.720 --> 1:01:52.560
<v Speaker 1>to be a certain way at certain ages, which is legitimate.

1:01:52.680 --> 1:01:55.959
<v Speaker 1>Is a legitimate form of pressure. I mean, I guess

1:01:55.960 --> 1:02:00.360
<v Speaker 1>all these are legitimate, but yeah, it's something that everyone

1:02:01.000 --> 1:02:07.880
<v Speaker 1>fucking thinks about. But again, but it all comes back

1:02:07.920 --> 1:02:12.160
<v Speaker 1>to the fact that nobody, you know, in the comparatively

1:02:12.600 --> 1:02:17.080
<v Speaker 1>to like the sun and stuff. We're all little little babies,

1:02:17.520 --> 1:02:22.720
<v Speaker 1>right So at the end of the day, society doesn't

1:02:22.720 --> 1:02:23.720
<v Speaker 1>have do you know, at the end of the day

1:02:24.000 --> 1:02:26.920
<v Speaker 1>one it has to live your life? So what what

1:02:27.000 --> 1:02:30.160
<v Speaker 1>kind of what kind of life do you want to live?

1:02:30.840 --> 1:02:34.160
<v Speaker 1>You want to travel? What do you want to travel to? Right? Like,

1:02:34.160 --> 1:02:36.600
<v Speaker 1>like some of these things like that there you get

1:02:36.680 --> 1:02:40.200
<v Speaker 1>you can just find yourself crushed under the weight of

1:02:40.320 --> 1:02:47.160
<v Speaker 1>this horrible, ambiguous uh bolder I was trying to think.

1:02:47.160 --> 1:02:49.560
<v Speaker 1>I was just gonna say rock but by the bolder, better,

1:02:51.880 --> 1:02:57.800
<v Speaker 1>bolder of societal expectations and oh, I want to do

1:02:57.880 --> 1:03:01.840
<v Speaker 1>that and just vague feelings. But you can actually attack

1:03:01.920 --> 1:03:06.120
<v Speaker 1>some of those vague feelings by trying to travel a

1:03:06.120 --> 1:03:08.120
<v Speaker 1>little bit more if you can figure it out. With

1:03:08.160 --> 1:03:10.120
<v Speaker 1>your job. You do you work remote? What do you do?

1:03:11.200 --> 1:03:14.000
<v Speaker 5>Yeah? So I work from home full time. So that's

1:03:14.040 --> 1:03:16.200
<v Speaker 5>like another positive. So that was like one thing I

1:03:16.360 --> 1:03:20.320
<v Speaker 5>changed a couple of years ago. My previous office was

1:03:20.360 --> 1:03:22.720
<v Speaker 5>talking about going back and I was like, I really

1:03:23.440 --> 1:03:25.160
<v Speaker 5>don't want to do that because I feel like I

1:03:25.280 --> 1:03:27.480
<v Speaker 5>get way more like out of my afternoons and my

1:03:27.520 --> 1:03:30.240
<v Speaker 5>weekends because I can do chores while on a work

1:03:30.360 --> 1:03:32.880
<v Speaker 5>or do things like this well while at work. Don't

1:03:32.880 --> 1:03:34.800
<v Speaker 5>tell my boss that, but you know what I mean, Like,

1:03:34.840 --> 1:03:36.720
<v Speaker 5>I just I feel like I can stay on top

1:03:36.760 --> 1:03:39.680
<v Speaker 5>of like the mundane things, and then I can enjoy

1:03:39.680 --> 1:03:41.800
<v Speaker 5>the time that I have when I'm not working.

1:03:41.920 --> 1:03:45.720
<v Speaker 1>So what are the mundane things like, you know.

1:03:45.680 --> 1:03:48.360
<v Speaker 5>Like laundry dishes, like all the things that we all do,

1:03:48.400 --> 1:03:50.280
<v Speaker 5>you know what I mean, like keeping up with wiping

1:03:50.320 --> 1:03:54.280
<v Speaker 5>down the kitchen countertops and unloading the dishwasher, you know

1:03:54.360 --> 1:03:56.600
<v Speaker 5>what I mean, Like go into the gym a couple

1:03:56.560 --> 1:03:58.400
<v Speaker 5>of times a week, like that sort of stuff.

1:03:58.440 --> 1:03:58.680
<v Speaker 6>You know.

1:03:59.640 --> 1:04:04.600
<v Speaker 1>One of the sacrifices I've learned this through touring and

1:04:05.280 --> 1:04:07.200
<v Speaker 1>trying to travel a lot of my own personal life.

1:04:07.200 --> 1:04:11.320
<v Speaker 1>One of the sacrifices of trying to travel more is

1:04:11.320 --> 1:04:16.600
<v Speaker 1>that you.

1:04:11.960 --> 1:04:12.040
<v Speaker 4>H.

1:04:14.040 --> 1:04:17.720
<v Speaker 1>You gotta be okay with doing a little bit less

1:04:17.800 --> 1:04:24.760
<v Speaker 1>laundry then maybe is socially acceptable. Yeah, you get what

1:04:24.800 --> 1:04:26.919
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. I mean, maybe you wear maybe you wear

1:04:26.960 --> 1:04:33.000
<v Speaker 1>the same pair of underwear maybe four times in a

1:04:33.080 --> 1:04:36.440
<v Speaker 1>row is egregious. I've done that before, but uh, you know,

1:04:36.520 --> 1:04:37.240
<v Speaker 1>a few days.

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<v Speaker 5>In a row, right, Yeah, yeah, I mean that is

1:04:41.280 --> 1:04:43.840
<v Speaker 5>like one thing we're like hoping to, you know, change

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<v Speaker 5>in the upcoming year. Like we both renewed our passports

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<v Speaker 5>and we booked a trip to Japan and a trip

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<v Speaker 5>to Europe.

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<v Speaker 1>Wonderful.

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<v Speaker 2>So, like you've both.

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<v Speaker 5>Never been out of the country though, So it's gonna

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<v Speaker 5>be a little bit of a shock, I'm afraid. But

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, like I said, we're both always too careful,

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<v Speaker 5>So I feel like it'll be good for us to

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<v Speaker 5>kind of like step out and just go explore and

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<v Speaker 5>check out what you know, what other places how to

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<v Speaker 5>offer you know, No.

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<v Speaker 1>That's gonna be awesome. No, it's you're already doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't need a get go to tell you how

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<v Speaker 1>to live your fucking.

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<v Speaker 5>We're trying it. We're doing our best. But yeah, it's

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<v Speaker 5>just like I don't know, it's just been something I've

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<v Speaker 5>been like sitting with a lot recently. It's just like,

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<v Speaker 5>how do you not you like specifically, but just like

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<v Speaker 5>how does a person, like a young person like fight

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<v Speaker 5>those expectations. I mean it's not it's not that it

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<v Speaker 5>weighs on me like twenty four to seven, but you

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<v Speaker 5>know what I mean whenever I go to Thanksgiving and

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<v Speaker 5>everyone's like, oh, you're married and you have a house

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<v Speaker 5>and you do have a good job, so like why

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<v Speaker 5>do you not want kids? And then you have to

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<v Speaker 5>like explain it to them and then they still don't

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<v Speaker 5>understand because obviously they're boomers and that's just the way

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<v Speaker 5>that they were raised is get married, have kids, start

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<v Speaker 5>a family.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's just like you should you take advance. I

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<v Speaker 1>think that you should take advant everything that you've have

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<v Speaker 1>going for you in your life generationally, even like take

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<v Speaker 1>advantage of it. Right, You're still young, you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>any kids, you work from home, fucking hack it, you know. Go,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you're I don't even you don't even need

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<v Speaker 1>me to. It's a motivational speech you because you're already

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<v Speaker 1>doing it. You already have the plane tickets booked in

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<v Speaker 1>the passport and all that stuff. So I mean it

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like you're doing what you want to do. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's that's pretty great.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it's just a matter of like, like I said,

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<v Speaker 5>like I'm just like a recovering people pleaser, which I'm

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<v Speaker 5>sure a lot of people can relate to. So it's

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<v Speaker 5>just it's like I'm doing all these things, but at

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<v Speaker 5>the same time, like I feel kind of like not

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<v Speaker 5>selfish about it, but you know what I mean, Like

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<v Speaker 5>I'm just like should I be doing something else? Like

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think I should be, But at the same time,

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<v Speaker 5>like I overthink it sometimes. So it's just like my

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<v Speaker 5>thing is like I just don't want to waste time,

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<v Speaker 5>like you know, especially like in your younger years. And

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know, I just like I think about the

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<v Speaker 5>big picture a little too much instead of like just

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<v Speaker 5>impulsively living life. Does that make sense.

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<v Speaker 1>It does. It does, but I don't know why. My takeaway,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why my take away from this phone

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<v Speaker 1>call is that you should do the dishes less. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>it's not. Maybe I'm just projecting because I want to

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<v Speaker 1>feel less bad about all the paper plates have been

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<v Speaker 1>using lately.

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<v Speaker 5>I was actually loading the dishwasher when you called, so

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<v Speaker 5>maybe I'll just wait, Miranda.

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<v Speaker 1>Is there anything else you want to say to the

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<v Speaker 1>people of the computer before we go?

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<v Speaker 5>No, I mean not really. I just make sure, like

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<v Speaker 5>the friendships and stuff that you have like count if

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<v Speaker 5>they're not productive, you know, there's no sense in maintaining those,

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<v Speaker 5>and find people that align with your values.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, have a good rest of the night. I

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<v Speaker 1>wish you good luck on your journey. Have fun in

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<v Speaker 1>Japan and Europe. Those are great places, and well, for sure, enjoy.

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<v Speaker 1>We first started talking about this because of the SIM right, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I don't know why that like really triggered it,

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<v Speaker 5>But I just got really stressed, like playing the SIMS

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<v Speaker 5>and I was like, oh my god, there's not enough

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<v Speaker 5>time in the day. And then I got to chase

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<v Speaker 5>these kids to like do their homework, and they're failing

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<v Speaker 5>school now. Because I'm too busy with like everything I'm

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<v Speaker 5>doing or one so I'm like whoa, whoa, wait a second.

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<v Speaker 5>So I don't know. I was just I got way

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<v Speaker 5>too high one day and I was playing it and

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<v Speaker 5>it just like all clicked for some reason. Yeah, anyway,

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<v Speaker 5>it was just so yeah, play it, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Have a night, Miranda, thank you? Yeah, you know. Okay, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>here's the thing, you guys. Ever go on Instagram and

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<v Speaker 1>you see all those travel influencers who are going all

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<v Speaker 1>over the place. And next time you see a really

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<v Speaker 1>hot Instagram couple who uh is traveling all around the

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<v Speaker 1>world and scuba diving and Greece one day and at

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<v Speaker 1>the Great Wall of China the next day. Just remember

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<v Speaker 1>when you look at them that they have been wearing

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<v Speaker 1>the same pair of underwear for several days. It's important

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me about what makes you feel noom normal.

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<v Speaker 8>For instance, like to me and my friend go to

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<v Speaker 8>the gas stations and I want to buy something, like,

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<v Speaker 8>I feel normal, like because I really don't have much

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<v Speaker 8>the opportunity to go buy even if it's seven nine sense.

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<v Speaker 8>That makes me feel quote unquote normal.

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<v Speaker 1>Mm hm.

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<v Speaker 8>It's like having him to pay for me or whatever.

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<v Speaker 8>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that sounds backwards. Oh, I completely understand

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<v Speaker 1>where the happiness of that moment is coming from. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think you need to climb to Mount Everest or

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<v Speaker 1>the happiness from something as normal as being able to

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<v Speaker 8>Never goes on the line, taking of his own calls

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<v Speaker 8>every night.

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