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Speaker 1: Hello, Hey, what's up man? What's your name? Oh?

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Speaker 2: My name's Taz Taz like the like.

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Speaker 1: The Tasmanian Devil. Yes, sir, well, Tasmanian devil. What's going on?

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Speaker 2: Well, I've had a crazy last few months and I

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Speaker 2: figured you. I tried calling in it to tell you

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Speaker 2: about it before, but you said my phone sucked.

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Speaker 1: So oh well your phone sounds good now, so let's

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Speaker 1: hear it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well, let's see about say, about five months ago, me

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Speaker 2: and my wife were splitting up, and she said she

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Speaker 2: was going to go down to her mom's for a

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Speaker 2: little bit, just to have some time apart, because we've

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Speaker 2: been married for about five years and been up each others,

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Speaker 2: but literally the whole time, never spent a day apart.

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Speaker 2: And then she said she was doing that and I said, okay.

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Speaker 2: She took my son and they went down probably two

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Speaker 2: and says, actually, I took your son and we moved

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Speaker 2: to Florida with a guy I met online about a

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Speaker 2: month before we broke up, and he's making more money

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Speaker 2: and he's going to let her be a stay at

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Speaker 2: and left and took my son from Texas to Florida.

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Speaker 2: And now she's come back to Texas and is pregnant

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Speaker 2: with this dude's baby and didn't have a place to live.

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Speaker 2: So I let her move back in with me. It's

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Speaker 1: That's very crazy. You let her move back in with you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, man, I couldn't let her just be homeless and

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Speaker 2: live outside and have my son. You know, I still unfortunately,

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Speaker 2: I still love her, So yeah, I just I let

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Speaker 1: And how long it was this?

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Speaker 2: She just moved back in probably two months ago.

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Speaker 1: And is she still there?

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Speaker 4: Yep?

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Speaker 1: And does your son live there?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my son's staying with me. The dude that she

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Speaker 2: moved in with in Florida, he's only three, and he

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Speaker 2: abused him with a belt and all sorts of stuff.

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Speaker 2: So I told her I'm not letting her go anywhere

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Speaker 1: The Okay, So the guy that your wife left you for,

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Speaker 1: who she met on the internet and living down to Florida,

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Speaker 1: you found out that he hit your.

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Speaker 2: Son, yeah, with a belt and he's only three.

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Speaker 1: Thats fucking sucks, man. I'm sorry to hear that. That's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's all right, It definitely makes my blood boil.

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Speaker 2: And I told her, I don't ever want to see

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Speaker 2: too well to the man that was abusing his son.

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Speaker 1: All right, So so where where where's that guy? So

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Speaker 1: she's just been living with you for two months, she's

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Speaker 1: pregnant with this guy's kid, and she's your son. And

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Speaker 1: what she's like, where's the guy? The guy's just down

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Speaker 1: in Florida. Is she's still seeing him? What's going on

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the guy's down in Florida. And she when she

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Speaker 2: moved back up here, she's saying that she wants to

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Speaker 2: and all this stuff. But I'm not too sure about

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Speaker 2: all that. But she said that she's still going to

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Speaker 2: she didn't care whether I was okay with it or not.

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Speaker 2: And she said that's what she's going to do. But

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Speaker 2: she wants to be with me. She wants us to

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Speaker 2: get back together. And I don't know if well.

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Speaker 1: She wants to get back together with you? Yes, Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, man, how's your relationship with your three year

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Speaker 1: old son who's living with you. How's that that sounds good?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, He's the only reason I get up and go

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Speaker 2: to work every day. Really, I mean before I had

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Speaker 2: I kind of felt like I lost my purpose, so

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Speaker 1: Is here says here? You're twenty six, Yes, sir, yep.

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Speaker 1: God damn man, you're more of an adult than I am. M.

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Speaker 2: It's hard, but you know, if he's back, I'm definitely

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: Well, brother, let's talk all right, what's the give me?

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Speaker 1: What's your best case scenario?

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Speaker 2: Well, the best case scenario would be that she gets

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Speaker 2: of what she did. And like I said, I still

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Speaker 2: you know, I feel like we're we're two halfs to

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Speaker 1: Mm hm. So you want to you want to get

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Speaker 2: This I do, but I feel real hesitant about it,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like who and then what

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Speaker 2: what is everybody else going to think of me? Like

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Speaker 2: I'm just a pushover simp, you know. Just she she

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Speaker 4: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 1: Well is how long have you been not even married,

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Speaker 2: So we've been married for five and we were dating

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Speaker 2: for two, so seven we've been together for seven years.

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Speaker 2: Me and her are the exact same age, were only

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Speaker 1: So we're and she's still seeing she's still seeing this

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Speaker 2: She told me that they're not together and that she

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Speaker 2: doesn't want to be with him. That's why she left

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Speaker 2: him to come back to Texas. But she said that

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Speaker 2: it would be hard for me to raise, you know,

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Speaker 1: We are in full doctor Phil mode on this podcast. Man, okay, listen,

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Speaker 1: let me obviously this is a crazy situation, but let

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Speaker 1: me tell you. Let me tell you one. Okay, Ship,

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Speaker 1: what's your name again? I'm sorry, I'm stupid, tes Tess,

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Speaker 1: Tess from everything that you have told me, and I

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Speaker 1: you personally, but clearly you make decisions with your life

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna tell you what to do. I mean,

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Speaker 1: But I just hope you know that you deserve to

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Speaker 1: Does that make sense?

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, okay, And that's that's where it's it's hard. I

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Speaker 1: Taz, do you I mean, I mean this with with

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Speaker 2: I feel like myself isn't as important as my son.

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Speaker 2: You know. I chose to lay down in bed and

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 2: It's not his fault that she took off or my

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm just gonna take my son and leave

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Speaker 2: any kind of way.

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Speaker 1: Does a universe of joint custody exist in this situation?

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Speaker 3: It does.

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Speaker 2: And she said that she would never take him away

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Speaker 2: But at the same time, she well, I mean, I

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Speaker 1: What do you think is best for your son?

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Speaker 2: Now, they probably lived about an hour apart from each other.

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Speaker 2: I absolutely love my dad, especially when I was a kid,

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Speaker 1: Did he treat you well? Did he? Did he prioritize you?

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Speaker 1: So but you feel like all the like fucked up

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because if they were together, I could have went

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Speaker 3: Hmm hmm.

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Speaker 1: Okay, outside of wanting your wife back and wanting to

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm I'm currently in a job that I get,

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Speaker 2: good job, and I don't know, I'd like to make

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Speaker 2: And you know, do you just walk up to a

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Speaker 2: What's your name? Can we be friends? Like this seems

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Speaker 1: Know, Yeah, that's a that's a whole separate phone call.

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Speaker 1: But these are I mean, these are good things to

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Speaker 1: tricky situation, right, Because here's the thing. If you didn't

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Speaker 1: I really am not. I'm really not going to pretend

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Speaker 1: like I know what's best in this situation. But I

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't automatically agree with the idea that

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Speaker 1: really is about like how you can, you know, do

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Speaker 1: so that your kid doesn't feel like you resent them

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Speaker 1: I I I, I I if I if you can

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Speaker 1: I mean this, and I don't want to be sappy.

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Speaker 1: It's just what I want to tell you from what

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Speaker 1: You deserve to not be in a relationship with somebody

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Speaker 1: I I think that you can do all these things

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Speaker 1: don't think that, right. I don't think that they're mutually exclusive,

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Speaker 1: and I don't I don't have the answers, but I

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Speaker 1: kind of want you to believe that. You know, HM,

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Speaker 1: So I mean, that's that's where I've kind of landed

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's kind of somewhether. The advice my mom gave

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Speaker 2: me when I told her about all this, she was like,

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Speaker 2: both of us being happy and doing the right thing,

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Speaker 6: Right right, No, that's that that that that's the issue

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Speaker 6: and whether you want it to or not, it subconsciously

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: So, So I mean, that's good that you are thinking

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Speaker 7: Yeah, and bros.

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Speaker 1: Also, you know, I don't know, I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: want to I want I want to be careful here

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Speaker 1: because I really, I really do submit to the fact

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Speaker 1: that just intrusively entered into my brain. This is such

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Speaker 1: a stupid thing to say. All right, okay, what was

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Speaker 1: I gonna say? What was I gonna say? Stay with me?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Okay? Sometimes like just just sometimes it's good enough for

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Speaker 1: things didn't work out due to factors outside of my control.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't able to give my son this ideal life

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Speaker 1: the best choices that I could, but but it just

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Speaker 1: it's not. It can't be perfect, and you can't control

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Speaker 1: you can't control whether or not these things work out

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Speaker 1: night knowing that you did. Is that helpful?

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Speaker 2: And yeah, absolutely, because hopefully, you know, he would grow

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Speaker 2: I could and hopefully he would understand that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I just hope you don't make yourself miserable. Man, Like,

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Speaker 1: I don't think that that's the answer, you know.

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Speaker 2: if you know, it kind of doesn't matter.

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Speaker 1: So is that really what you want?

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Speaker 2: I mean, honestly, dude, I, like I said, I I

439
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Speaker 2: don't know if it's that I I love her a

440
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Speaker 2: lot and I'm just willing to get back with her,

441
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Speaker 2: or if I'm scared to be alone. You know, I've

442
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 2: me and her been together for seven years and we've

443
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 2: always been She's always paid half the rent and yeah,

444
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Speaker 2: you know, always just been there when I come get

445
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Speaker 2: off work. I couldn't imagine getting off work and like

446
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 2: when she was gone, getting off work and coming home

447
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 2: to an empty house or you know, anything like that.

448
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 2: That'd be a heartbreaking.

449
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:32,199
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeahs fucking hard. Hm, Yes, it's fucking hard. Yeah.

450
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 1: But look, I've said it a bunch of times throughout

451
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Speaker 1: this call, and I'll say it one more. Is that

452
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 1: you deserve to be with somebody who's appreciative of you

453
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Speaker 1: and respectful of you because you're a good guy. You

454
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Speaker 1: know you really are.

455
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Speaker 3: I thank you.

456
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Speaker 2: I appreciate that.

457
00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:58,560
Speaker 1: Oh man, oh jeez, well we've both earned ourselves some

458
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Speaker 1: uh wheels. Game boy advance, let's play videos on YouTube.

459
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 1: I think after this.

460
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 2: I might look that up just to find out what

461
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:08,959
Speaker 2: it is.

462
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: No, it's not it's going to ruin your life? What's

463
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 1: what is?

464
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 3: What?

465
00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 1: Taz taz taz? All right? Before we go, is there

466
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,359
Speaker 1: is this just any other aspect of any of this

467
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 1: that you wanted to talk about, or any way at

468
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 1: all in which I can be remotely helpful to you,

469
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:32,000
Speaker 1: or any any words of any other just anything.

470
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:35,679
Speaker 2: No, man, that's that's what I wanted to call and

471
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 2: talk to you about. And you, you know, it's really

472
00:27:37,920 --> 00:27:42,840
Speaker 2: nice hearing from uh, someone else's opinion, that isn't you know,

473
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 2: on drugs, I can trust your opinion more than well

474
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:49,680
Speaker 2: I can get well.

475
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 1: I mean, I'll say, that's very assumptive of you.

476
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 2: Well, we need a drugs My mom.

477
00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:58,119
Speaker 3: Does hard drugs.

478
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 1: Anyway, Well, do you have any final things you want

479
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:03,880
Speaker 1: to say to the people of the computer before we go.

480
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:09,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, life's gonna keep knocking you down, but don't let

481
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 2: it keep you down. Get back up and keep moving,

482
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:14,679
Speaker 2: try and do what's best for you and in your family.

483
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:17,480
Speaker 1: If you got one, good fucking luck, Taz, all right,

484
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 1: good fucking luck and uh God bless you and your family.

485
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 2: Yep, gek forever take care man Oko.

486
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 1: Oh jeez. Yeah, that one's tough. That one's tough. I

487
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:41,720
Speaker 1: just hope he uh makes the decision. Like I've said

488
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 1: over the course of the phone calls, I hope he

489
00:28:43,760 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 1: seems like a nice guy. I don't have like I don't.

490
00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:50,080
Speaker 1: I don't have enough. I couldn't I couldn't be responsible

491
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:58,280
Speaker 1: to a child right now. I really couldn't. I and

492
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:00,720
Speaker 1: I respect the fact that he can, that he really

493
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 1: isn't isn't like pussy footing around the whole thing. He's

494
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:08,880
Speaker 1: really doing it, and I respect that a lot, and

495
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 1: I I don't. I don't. I don't think it's going

496
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: to be easier or better with him being miserable and

497
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 1: the whole thing about like, is it better to be

498
00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 1: alone or with somebody who you don't think you can trust?

499
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 1: Of course, like, all right, the answer that the answer

500
00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 1: that's obvious, right is better to be alone, But it's

501
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:36,040
Speaker 1: not so obvious in practice. It's it's obvious to say,

502
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 1: but it's hard, man, it's hard being alone. It's hard

503
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,840
Speaker 1: to trying to meet new people. It's hard trying to

504
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 1: make new friends, new romantic partners, and sometimes it's it's

505
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:56,280
Speaker 1: easier to just be in some shitty thing. But it's

506
00:29:56,360 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 1: probably it's probably worth giving it a shot. I'm gonna

507
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 1: say it's probably worth giving it a shot. What else

508
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 1: are you gonna do? What else are you gonna do

509
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 1: besides giving a shot? What else are you gonna do?

510
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just a fucking gecko. Hey, folks,

511
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 1: this is Lyle. I am very excited to announce that

512
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Speaker 1: I am going back on tour in twenty twenty four

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Speaker 1: to do Therapy Gecko Live all across the country. If

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Speaker 1: you've never been to one of my live shows before,

515
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Speaker 1: they're basically like giant Group Gecko therapy sessions where people

516
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Speaker 1: from the audience come on stage to talk to a

517
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Speaker 1: Gecko about whatever they want, just like we do right

518
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Speaker 1: here on the podcast. Plus I mix in a few

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Speaker 1: stories and presentations and little tidbits from my own life.

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Speaker 1: Tickets are available right now at Therapy geckotour dot com

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Speaker 1: or you can find the link in the episode description.

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Speaker 1: I'm announcing many more city in the second half of

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Speaker 1: the year, but right now tickets are on sale. Four Phoenix, Arizona, Louisville, Kentucky,

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Speaker 1: Saint Louis, Missouri, Orlando, Florida, Tampa, Florida, Miami, Florida, Boston, Massachusetts, Denver, Colorado, Syracuse,

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Speaker 1: and you can get tickets for all of those cities

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Speaker 1: at therapygeckotour dot com. If you didn't hear me say

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Speaker 1: your city, you can still go to the link and

531
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Speaker 1: hit the RSVP button to get notified for when I

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Speaker 1: do come to your city in the second half of

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Speaker 1: the year. This is my third tour so far, and

534
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Speaker 1: I think it's going to be sick, so I hope

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Speaker 1: to see you there. Thanks.

536
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Speaker 3: Hi.

537
00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 7: Hi.

538
00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:06,320
Speaker 1: What's your name, sir?

539
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 3: My name is Seamus.

540
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 1: Sir Seamus. What's going on, Seamus? How's life?

541
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 3: So I'm getting really into well, I've been really into

542
00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 3: them the past year. So I bought this fucking huge

543
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 3: ass vehicle with my partner and uh it used to

544
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 3: be we got it on discounts because we bought it

545
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 3: from a skating company that was like not having very

546
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 3: much business, and so we've been cleaning it up. Some

547
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 3: gnarly shit in it, like a ship ton of gold

548
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 3: underneath the seats, and uh, a bunch of snacks that

549
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 3: looks like they've been in there for like ever, and

550
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 3: some guy's phone like a whole iPhone.

551
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 1: Like how surprised you are that you found a lot

552
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:01,400
Speaker 1: of gross mold and food in a old van that

553
00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 1: you bought.

554
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:06,239
Speaker 3: Well, it's only it's only a twenty eleven sprinter, So

555
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 3: like I wasn't and like we've been like taking it

556
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 3: out a few times, and like we've already done a

557
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:13,800
Speaker 3: lot of work on it. You know, we bought it

558
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 3: around Halloween. So I was just shocked that we only

559
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:18,280
Speaker 3: discovered how much moltivism this thing.

560
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:21,360
Speaker 1: Like last week, I'm gonna skip to the thing that

561
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:23,719
Speaker 1: you texted me specifically about. You said you found an

562
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 1: iPhone in this van and yeah, yeah, and it works,

563
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: and you said you found out. You said you found

564
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 1: out who the owner is. But quote and don't. I'm

565
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 1: gonna you said, quote, I want to make the most

566
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:44,960
Speaker 1: of this discovery before I offer to send it back

567
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:49,000
Speaker 1: to him. Like ideally I want to do something funny,

568
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: but I dky what yet, what do you want to

569
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:51,960
Speaker 1: do that?

570
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 4: Poor?

571
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 3: I phone said that when I said that, I didn't

572
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 3: mean anything unethical. It's like I don't think or really

573
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:02,520
Speaker 3: care if I have access any of like financial stuff

574
00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 3: or personal stuff. But like let me put it in

575
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 3: perspective for you, Like we found okay, so it's like

576
00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 3: the last time this thing was turned on was twenty fifteen,

577
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:15,399
Speaker 3: and uh, it's got old the old Instagram app like

578
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 3: it's got fucking it has Flatpybird on it.

579
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 1: Okay, by the way, iPhones with Flappybird on them actually

580
00:34:22,080 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 1: sell for a lot of money if you want to.

581
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:24,840
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.

582
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:32,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you're gonna you're gonna take a picture of

583
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 1: your cock and make it the wallpaper and then give

584
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Speaker 1: it back to him.

585
00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:37,399
Speaker 3: I think he would probably sign that funny, But I'm

586
00:34:37,400 --> 00:34:39,960
Speaker 3: not going to do that because the lea legal What

587
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:40,279
Speaker 3: is it?

588
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:44,880
Speaker 1: What is it about the In the limited information you

589
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 1: have about this man, how did you come to the

590
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 1: conclusion that he would find that funny?

591
00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 3: Okay? I mean, like it's not like I, me and

592
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:56,440
Speaker 3: my partner like looked around for specific stuff on his phone,

593
00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 3: but like just scrolling through his photos, like he took

594
00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:04,399
Speaker 3: like news, like just news with his friends, Like there's

595
00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 3: a picture of some guy's ass on it.

596
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 1: Listen. Can I just say something to you? And but

597
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:12,719
Speaker 1: this is not a judgment on you, Okay, Okay, it's not.

598
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:14,719
Speaker 1: It's really not because I would do the same thing

599
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:16,880
Speaker 1: if I found an old fucking iPhone because I'm nosy

600
00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:19,200
Speaker 1: and curious. I would do the same. Not a judgment,

601
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 1: This is not a judgment. But if you're gonna go

602
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 1: through the guy's photos and his life and his thing,

603
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 1: just stop being holy about it. You're just you're doing it.

604
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:30,279
Speaker 1: It's fine, but just stop. We're just stop being like,

605
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:32,399
Speaker 1: we're not gonna do anything on ethical. We're just gonna

606
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 1: go through his photos and his back Just it's okay. Again,

607
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 1: it's not just just do it, don't. You don't have

608
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Speaker 1: to be like cool about it.

609
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Speaker 3: When I say I'm not gonna do anything on ethical,

610
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 3: I mean like I'm not gonna like rob the guy

611
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:48,800
Speaker 3: and send or like send all of his money to

612
00:35:48,960 --> 00:35:50,760
Speaker 3: like a big Point account or something.

613
00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 1: Okay. Anyway, all right, so you were looking at pictures

614
00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:55,880
Speaker 1: of this guy's penis on his phone.

615
00:35:56,520 --> 00:36:01,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, his ass, Yeah, and no, it's really interesting. So

616
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 3: like he's We had no idea who this guy was.

617
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 3: He had nothing to do with the skateboarding company that

618
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 3: he that we beught it from, but I'm assuming that

619
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 3: he was at one of their events because like we

620
00:36:14,239 --> 00:36:16,680
Speaker 3: found his license in the car too, which is just

621
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 3: really weird. Anyway, we looked him up on Instagram by

622
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 3: like finding out what his like print, like like looking

623
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Speaker 3: up what his past accounts were, and like I just

624
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:28,720
Speaker 3: found him tagged in a post and he's been posting

625
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:31,799
Speaker 3: like car and skateboard content for like the past ten

626
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 3: or fifteen years, so like, yeah, it's like definitely the

627
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 3: same guy. And I looked at a video from like

628
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 3: nine years ago on his account and there's a video

629
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 3: where like the same then that we have today is

630
00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:45,719
Speaker 3: in it and it's crazy nice man.

631
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Speaker 1: So I mean, so this guy's not dead.

632
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 3: No, he's very hes he's alive and he's h he

633
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:57,840
Speaker 3: definitely lives in California and who knows. Yeah, And I

634
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:00,239
Speaker 3: just figured you out. If I was this guy, like

635
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 3: I would totally want a phone that I had like

636
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,520
Speaker 3: ten years ago. God only knows how he lost it

637
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:06,239
Speaker 3: on airplane mode like in the van.

638
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:10,319
Speaker 1: But yeah, uh, when you hand it back to him,

639
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 1: are you going to tell him that he has a

640
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: nice penis that you saw on his phone photos?

641
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 3: I should totally him that.

642
00:37:15,480 --> 00:37:15,920
Speaker 4: Yeah I know that.

643
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:18,360
Speaker 3: Oh shit. Yeah that's another weird thing is like you

644
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:20,319
Speaker 3: know it was at a pattery when we found it,

645
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:22,319
Speaker 3: we plugged it in. It was crazy that at work

646
00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:25,319
Speaker 3: because the screen is fucking shattered and there was no

647
00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 3: password or anything on it. So just like for future reference,

648
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,600
Speaker 3: like always keep a password on your phone or else

649
00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 3: some rando, we'll find it ten years later.

650
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,239
Speaker 1: And I always keep a pass on your phone or else.

651
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:38,720
Speaker 1: Some weird guy might look through your.

652
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:42,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, some weird guy. Yeah, and then you'll call a

653
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:43,959
Speaker 3: get go about it and like tell the whole world.

654
00:37:46,239 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 1: So so I still want to we have to address this.

655
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Speaker 1: You claim that you want to do something funny with

656
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 1: the phone before you give it back. What what if?

657
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:54,960
Speaker 4: What if?

658
00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 1: What are some of your ideas for this funny thing

659
00:37:57,120 --> 00:37:57,759
Speaker 1: you want to do?

660
00:37:58,760 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 3: I was hoping you would have it is to be honest,

661
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 3: but I.

662
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 1: Have no ideas at all. Something funny, something, Ok, all right,

663
00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:12,800
Speaker 1: I got one go into his voice memos and record

664
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 1: a fart, make make all the ring tones farts.

665
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's kind of like myself farting into the mic

666
00:38:24,920 --> 00:38:27,080
Speaker 3: like with my voice, and I'll change it to like

667
00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 3: I'll record a different part for everybody who calls them.

668
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 3: I think that would be smart.

669
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: Do you have a job do you have? Like, what

670
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:41,319
Speaker 1: do you do all day?

671
00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 3: I'm doing the job right now. Yeah, I work in accounting.

672
00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 1: That's cool. So how's the van life?

673
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 3: The van life? You haven't got to that yet, I

674
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:54,120
Speaker 3: mean like, oh, what is the van like? Is that

675
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 3: what you said? No?

676
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,839
Speaker 1: What how is van life for you? How is it going?

677
00:38:58,000 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 4: Oh?

678
00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:00,359
Speaker 3: I'm not I am not doing that yet. My lease

679
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:03,040
Speaker 3: is going to be up in like November this year though,

680
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:06,040
Speaker 3: and you know it's been it would be pretty hard

681
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 3: to live in event, considering the old situation up until

682
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 3: this weekend. Anyways, that yeah, I am. I currently live

683
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:18,200
Speaker 3: in a pm W and I'm hoping just like travel

684
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 3: around you, you.

685
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:24,800
Speaker 1: Live in a BMW.

686
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 3: No in the p m W and that's just the Northwest.

687
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:32,399
Speaker 1: Oh I'm done, Okay, I thought, okay, it's definitely this

688
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:35,360
Speaker 1: has this has this has PNW energy written all over it.

689
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:36,280
Speaker 1: That's that's kind of where.

690
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:39,000
Speaker 3: The oh my god, ship, you're right is a thing.

691
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,160
Speaker 1: So when are you When are you expecting to get

692
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:46,839
Speaker 1: all the molds out of there or you're gonna get

693
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 1: rid of it? Sounds like you're sentimental about it by now.

694
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 3: Oh no, I I mean like I I kissed them

695
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:56,480
Speaker 3: all goodbye first before I blew it away and vacuumed it.

696
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:02,919
Speaker 3: But yeah, I know so this. Yeah, No, the most

697
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 3: is all out. It's just like I got to build

698
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 3: this thing. Now. It's kind of scary because I got

699
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 3: to like cut a hole on the feeling to put

700
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 3: a ventilation fan in, and like there's just a lot

701
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:15,359
Speaker 3: of like handyman type work you gotta do to do

702
00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 3: this thing, and I have never done it in my life.

703
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 1: M Well, what, how's your partner? What does your partner have?

704
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:28,120
Speaker 1: Any ideas of how you can uh fuck with this

705
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:31,360
Speaker 1: poor guy who left his life in your hands?

706
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,600
Speaker 3: No, I'm fortunately does she knows?

707
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 1: Does she even know about this?

708
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 3: No, she knows about it. She absolutely does. I actually

709
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,799
Speaker 3: told her, like, don't message a guy yet, because I

710
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:47,120
Speaker 3: want to know if like the therapy get go or

711
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 3: the people of the get nation heavy, any ideas of

712
00:40:50,160 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 3: what to do with with with the four Man's device.

713
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 1: What's your partner's deal? What's she do? Or he?

714
00:41:00,400 --> 00:41:01,440
Speaker 3: She works in an office?

715
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 4: She?

716
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:06,440
Speaker 3: You know the most destiny, I just clerical work. But

717
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 3: it was kind of her idea to do the them

718
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 3: lifetime Do.

719
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 1: Straight is partner? Do straight people do partner? What's what's

720
00:41:14,719 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 1: what's the deal with? Yeah?

721
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:18,160
Speaker 3: No, yeah, well at least like I do because like

722
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 3: because the same girlfriend or a boyfriend forever just sounds

723
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 3: like really like childish to me. So like, you know,

724
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:29,080
Speaker 3: it's like I'm not at the stage where we're like married,

725
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 3: but I feel like partner is just a better word.

726
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:33,560
Speaker 1: What happened to significant other?

727
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 3: That's too many syllables?

728
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 1: Man, Yeah, I guess all right, So yeah, it's a

729
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:45,279
Speaker 1: legitimate argument. Sure, I feel that. Yeah, I guess you don't.

730
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:49,399
Speaker 1: How old are you? I'm twenty three, you're twenty you're

731
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:52,640
Speaker 1: twenty three. Yeah, you can have a you can have

732
00:41:52,680 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 1: a girlfriend at twenty three.

733
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 3: No, No, I mean yeah, I mean I kind of

734
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 3: flip back and forth the stream color or my old

735
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:02,800
Speaker 3: friend of my partner were living together.

736
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:05,359
Speaker 1: All right, that's fair. I'm sorry. I don't know why.

737
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:07,840
Speaker 3: I'm no, that's okay.

738
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:09,040
Speaker 1: I have no reason to go.

739
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:14,920
Speaker 7: You may do you feel bad because if it was

740
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:19,399
Speaker 7: your phone, you would just like I want to want it.

741
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 3: Like them back to you, with all the asked pictures

742
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 3: and everything.

743
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 1: Well, if it was my phone, that would be bad.

744
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:30,240
Speaker 3: Good thing you have a password.

745
00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 1: What's your name again?

746
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:35,360
Speaker 3: My name is Seamus.

747
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 1: Seamus. Is there anything else you want to say to

748
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:39,399
Speaker 1: the people of the computer before we go.

749
00:42:40,480 --> 00:42:42,400
Speaker 3: No, wait, but I did want to ask you a question,

750
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:45,319
Speaker 3: just a real quick question before before I go. Where

751
00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:45,840
Speaker 3: are you from?

752
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,880
Speaker 1: Where am I from? I feel like you're trying to

753
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 1: hack into my bank account. I don't trust you.

754
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:52,560
Speaker 2: No, no, no, But.

755
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:55,360
Speaker 3: Like my main question is, like, are you from Chicago?

756
00:42:57,320 --> 00:42:58,800
Speaker 1: Why do you want to know if I'm from Chicago?

757
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 3: I want to to ask. I don't know what your

758
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:04,239
Speaker 3: what accent you have, but like I wanted to ask

759
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 3: if you put ketchup on your hot dogs? That's all?

760
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:09,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course I put ketchups on my hot catch

761
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 1: up on my hot dog?

762
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:16,400
Speaker 3: Oh thank god? Yeah? Okay, Ty, what do you now?

763
00:43:16,440 --> 00:43:18,440
Speaker 1: I feel like you're using that information for something?

764
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 7: No, I'm not.

765
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 3: Do you want me to.

766
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:24,560
Speaker 1: You know what? Yes, I do want you to. I

767
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 1: want you to use that information for something. I want

768
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 1: you to find a way to use the information that

769
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 1: I put ketchup on my hot dogs for something positive.

770
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:34,279
Speaker 1: Not don't use it to hurt I.

771
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 3: Will use it to make the world a better.

772
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:40,040
Speaker 1: Place, honestly, Honestly, if you can find a way to

773
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 1: use the information that I like ketchup on my hot

774
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:47,440
Speaker 1: dogs to hurt someone, do that. No, I can't my

775
00:43:47,520 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 1: imagination maybe your imagination.

776
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:52,680
Speaker 3: Is My imagination isn't good. I couldn't even I couldn't

777
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 3: even figure out something funny to do with the guy's though.

778
00:43:55,400 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 3: Now I got to report these parts.

779
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:07,760
Speaker 1: No, I'm still here. I'm just thinking, all right, well

780
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:14,600
Speaker 1: you're who I now think everyone in Portland is okay?

781
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:15,359
Speaker 3: Hi?

782
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to say to the

783
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:21,799
Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go?

784
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 3: No? Do you have a good day to get go?

785
00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 1: Hey? You two man, take care? Say hello? Say hello

786
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:29,160
Speaker 1: to the phone guy for me.

787
00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:43,000
Speaker 4: I will I will later. Hello. Hello, Oh my god,

788
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:44,600
Speaker 4: this is the gek this one?

789
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:46,560
Speaker 1: Yeah? Who is this?

790
00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:49,400
Speaker 4: Oh? My name is Darius.

791
00:44:50,120 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: Darius. How's it going, Darius?

792
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:55,600
Speaker 4: I am amazing right now? How are you?

793
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 1: I'm okay, I'm hanging in there. What's what's going on

794
00:44:58,160 --> 00:44:58,840
Speaker 1: with you? Darius?

795
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:02,439
Speaker 4: You know Mark's just in the middle of I guess

796
00:45:02,440 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 4: I just finished washing my face. But yeah, I mean,

797
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:09,080
Speaker 4: I guess you can talk about what I texted in

798
00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 4: about all right? So, uh, how do I start? Okay?

799
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:22,200
Speaker 4: So I don't know. This is like two issues ago.

800
00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:26,359
Speaker 4: I was seeing this girl, and I had been seeing

801
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 4: her for like two weeks or so. You know. And

802
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:34,440
Speaker 4: then one night I came over and then she had

803
00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 4: to leave for work, and so I stayed and slept,

804
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:41,439
Speaker 4: you know, just didn't get up, and then I wake

805
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 4: up like I ended up going to a vacuum in

806
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:47,840
Speaker 4: my dream, which you know is the trap as always,

807
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 4: but so I did that and I woke up and

808
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 4: I was like, oh shit, you know, I just pissed

809
00:45:51,960 --> 00:45:57,759
Speaker 4: the bag and so yeah, sorry, this is really cool.

810
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:04,560
Speaker 4: Away I woke up and then I'm like, shit, what

811
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:06,880
Speaker 4: am I gonna do? Because this is like fucking weird.

812
00:46:06,920 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 4: Like two weeks then I didn't piste the bed since

813
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 4: I was like twelve, and then so I I just

814
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 4: grabbed your sheets and like was like, hey, I spilled

815
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:17,839
Speaker 4: orange juice on your sheets.

816
00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 3: And.

817
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:22,640
Speaker 4: Because I always had a bottle of orange juice on

818
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:24,759
Speaker 4: me around that time for some reason. But anyways, I

819
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 4: was like, hey, I spilled orange juice on your sheets

820
00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 4: for me and take them and wash them. And she's like, oh, okay,

821
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 4: you don't have to do that. I was like, no,

822
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 4: I'm gonna I'm gonna do that. You know, it's a

823
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:37,759
Speaker 4: I feel bad if I don't take care of it.

824
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:43,080
Speaker 4: And then so she's like okay, and so this happened,

825
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 4: I got her sheets back to whatever. And then so, yeah,

826
00:46:50,440 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 4: two weeks so.

827
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:56,839
Speaker 1: You pissed it, pissed a girl's bed, yes, okay, And

828
00:46:57,480 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 1: what how did she respond to that?

829
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:04,120
Speaker 4: She well, she didn't like know at first, and then

830
00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:07,440
Speaker 4: like two weeks later she made like a comment, like

831
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 4: a joking comment like that somehow related to that. She's like, oh, yeah,

832
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:15,160
Speaker 4: like what if you kissed my bed or whatever? And

833
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 4: then so like I thought I had gotten away with it,

834
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 4: and then so like I had this nervous look on

835
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:22,719
Speaker 4: my face and kind of hesitated, and then she was

836
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:26,120
Speaker 4: like you did not, like did you actually? And then

837
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:29,120
Speaker 4: I kind of fessed up to it. So I was like, yeah,

838
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 4: like I kissed your bed, but I took care of it,

839
00:47:34,160 --> 00:47:35,359
Speaker 4: so it's like it's all good.

840
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:39,920
Speaker 1: And yeah, what did she say?

841
00:47:43,239 --> 00:47:48,920
Speaker 4: What did she say? It was so long ago. She laughed,

842
00:47:49,239 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 4: which is a valid response, and she's like, you're kidding,

843
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:55,160
Speaker 4: and I was like I wish I was. This is

844
00:47:55,680 --> 00:48:03,200
Speaker 4: really embarrassing. And then yeah, hell.

845
00:48:03,160 --> 00:48:05,000
Speaker 1: How long did you continue to date her after this?

846
00:48:06,920 --> 00:48:08,800
Speaker 4: We're still dating now, so I mean.

847
00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:13,719
Speaker 1: Well, fucking Jesus, all right, you know, see that's not.

848
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 1: That's really like what you want out of a relationship,

849
00:48:16,600 --> 00:48:20,359
Speaker 1: I think is somebody who you can piss their bed.

850
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:22,919
Speaker 1: Some people like it when you pissed that. Some people

851
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: like it when you pee on their face. Actually, there's

852
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:30,120
Speaker 1: a whole website of people who who are like trying

853
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 1: to find somebody to do that to them. All right,

854
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:36,839
Speaker 1: so you're still dating this you okay? Because you teed

855
00:48:36,960 --> 00:48:40,719
Speaker 1: this ship up like it was your you know, it

856
00:48:40,760 --> 00:48:43,319
Speaker 1: was it, it was this was just some girl. This

857
00:48:43,440 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 1: is You've been dating this girl for two years. That's

858
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:47,439
Speaker 1: pretty great. How many more times than the two years

859
00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:49,319
Speaker 1: have you pissed her bed?

860
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:55,680
Speaker 4: There's one? Well, there's one night I almost feed my bed.

861
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 4: They drank way too much water, and then it was

862
00:48:58,239 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 4: just like leaking. But that didn't really count. I guess, uh,

863
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:11,320
Speaker 4: it almost happened. I think it almost happened one more time.

864
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 1: Since then, tell me about that. Wait, so, so uh uh,

865
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 1: how's the relationship going? Is it going good?

866
00:49:21,560 --> 00:49:21,799
Speaker 3: Yeah?

867
00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:23,480
Speaker 4: It's really good, i'd.

868
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:26,520
Speaker 1: Say, Okay, has she ever pissed the bed?

869
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:32,280
Speaker 4: No? She almost shouted one time, though.

870
00:49:32,719 --> 00:49:35,720
Speaker 1: Oh okay, how would you react if she shouted?

871
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:40,080
Speaker 4: I thought it was funny. I was really hoping she did,

872
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:44,080
Speaker 4: because like she tried to fart and then she like

873
00:49:44,200 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 4: jumped up out of the bed. It's like, oh my god,

874
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 4: I gotta go to the packing I was like, oh,

875
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:53,279
Speaker 4: no way, did you just shart? And she hears a

876
00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:54,680
Speaker 4: brand ran out of the room.

877
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 3: M m m.

878
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:02,480
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, that's a good sign of a relationship,

879
00:50:02,800 --> 00:50:05,680
Speaker 1: is one where you can you guys can piss and

880
00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:08,840
Speaker 1: ship all over each other. And I mean that I'm

881
00:50:08,840 --> 00:50:15,520
Speaker 1: not even saying that in jest. I think the tell, well, uh,

882
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:17,000
Speaker 1: what else is going on?

883
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:24,279
Speaker 4: Not much looking for a new job.

884
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:27,680
Speaker 1: But you know, there's a sense of comfortability in that.

885
00:50:27,719 --> 00:50:32,800
Speaker 1: There's a sense of comfortability in that, like having having

886
00:50:33,760 --> 00:50:35,520
Speaker 1: do you do you guys ever go to the bathroom

887
00:50:35,560 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 1: with each other? Does she ever like sit on your

888
00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:39,479
Speaker 1: lap while you while you take a ship.

889
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:45,640
Speaker 4: I've tried to convince her to let me like tee

890
00:50:45,680 --> 00:50:49,040
Speaker 4: while she's peeing, but she won't go for that.

891
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:51,920
Speaker 1: Like it's hard to it's kind of hard to cross

892
00:50:52,000 --> 00:51:00,600
Speaker 1: streams with a chick. Yeah, because I like a man

893
00:51:00,680 --> 00:51:04,800
Speaker 1: and a woman crossing streams. I feel like that's that

894
00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:07,480
Speaker 1: woman would have to be in quite a h an

895
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:08,720
Speaker 1: uncomfortable position.

896
00:51:10,719 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, I was thinking, like, she's just sitting on the

897
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 4: toilet and then like kind of like man spreads a

898
00:51:17,480 --> 00:51:20,120
Speaker 4: little bit and I.

899
00:51:19,080 --> 00:51:22,440
Speaker 1: Oh, oh, okay, actually that's kind of interesting. Okay, so

900
00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:26,360
Speaker 1: she sits, you stand, and she leaves. There's like a

901
00:51:26,600 --> 00:51:28,319
Speaker 1: a but you have to have a very precise aim

902
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:30,560
Speaker 1: or else you're just gonna like start peeking under her

903
00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 1: vagina exactly. That's cool though. Man, that's a fun date idea.

904
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: Next time, next time I google, Next time I google,

905
00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 1: next time I google. Exciting date ideas in New York.

906
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:47,880
Speaker 1: I want to see pissing on each other on the list.

907
00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:51,319
Speaker 4: That I hope so too. I hope we can make

908
00:51:51,320 --> 00:51:51,800
Speaker 4: that happen.

909
00:51:52,160 --> 00:51:57,839
Speaker 1: What's your name again, sir? It is Darius Darius Jarres.

910
00:51:57,880 --> 00:51:59,440
Speaker 1: How did you feel about this phone call? Do you

911
00:51:59,480 --> 00:52:01,400
Speaker 1: have any I want to start doing like you know

912
00:52:01,400 --> 00:52:03,799
Speaker 1: how you do a customer service line and then they're like,

913
00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:06,080
Speaker 1: stay on the phone for a survey. I'm going to

914
00:52:06,120 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 1: start doing that, but just it's on the actual the

915
00:52:09,080 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 1: person who gave you customer service just asks you, and

916
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:15,759
Speaker 1: so you can't you have to lie to them and

917
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:18,360
Speaker 1: say it was good. What what would you any pointers?

918
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:23,040
Speaker 1: Any thoughts feeling sentiments, no goad feedback.

919
00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 3: No, it was great.

920
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:26,680
Speaker 4: I mean I was a little shook up because I

921
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:31,440
Speaker 4: wasn't expecting the call, but yeah, I mean it was great.

922
00:52:31,719 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 4: I have no no pointers that I can think of

923
00:52:36,000 --> 00:52:36,439
Speaker 4: it least.

924
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:40,640
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, Darius, you seems like a nice guy. I'm

925
00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:44,359
Speaker 1: glad that your relationship's working out, and you know, I'm

926
00:52:44,400 --> 00:52:47,080
Speaker 1: excited for your wedding day where you can really just

927
00:52:47,520 --> 00:52:52,799
Speaker 1: consummate that marriage with a uh just eating her ship

928
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:53,319
Speaker 1: full on.

929
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, we'll try to make We'll try to make something

930
00:52:57,719 --> 00:52:58,839
Speaker 4: wild happen that day.

931
00:52:59,640 --> 00:53:07,839
Speaker 1: Take Darius, you two. Hello, Hi, what's your name?

932
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 5: Hey? My name is Miranda.

933
00:53:09,800 --> 00:53:10,720
Speaker 1: How old are you? Miranda?

934
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:12,239
Speaker 5: I am twenty eight.

935
00:53:12,480 --> 00:53:13,080
Speaker 1: How's life?

936
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:18,520
Speaker 5: You know, it's going pretty good. I feel like I'm

937
00:53:18,520 --> 00:53:23,319
Speaker 5: doing a lot for my age, though I guess in

938
00:53:23,400 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 5: kind of like weird ways. I guess, like a little

939
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:29,400
Speaker 5: background story. So I told you that. Like, so I

940
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:32,439
Speaker 5: got into playing stems recently. It's a big thing right now,

941
00:53:33,000 --> 00:53:36,200
Speaker 5: right so, uh, I usually do that when I'm high,

942
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:44,600
Speaker 5: but I recently stopped doing PhD just like personal reasons.

943
00:53:44,600 --> 00:53:46,439
Speaker 5: I'd feel like my sleep's not is great. I feel

944
00:53:46,440 --> 00:53:49,480
Speaker 5: like I can't like function as well, you know, like

945
00:53:49,960 --> 00:53:52,040
Speaker 5: you know, all the all the things that go along

946
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:57,279
Speaker 5: with that, right, Yeah. But yeah, So basically like me

947
00:53:57,320 --> 00:54:00,640
Speaker 5: and my husband we both have like a don't jobs,

948
00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:04,359
Speaker 5: and we bought a house and he's a manager. I'm

949
00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:07,439
Speaker 5: like in charge of people, and we're both like twenty eight,

950
00:54:07,480 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 5: and I'm like, I feel like, sometimes I wish I

951
00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 5: could just like slow down, you know, have like a

952
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:18,359
Speaker 5: normal life, normal things to worry about, you.

953
00:54:18,280 --> 00:54:18,759
Speaker 4: Know what I mean.

954
00:54:19,360 --> 00:54:23,280
Speaker 1: I'm confused. You say that you all right, you're married,

955
00:54:23,320 --> 00:54:27,759
Speaker 1: that's great, you have a job, that's great. What about

956
00:54:27,800 --> 00:54:31,360
Speaker 1: your life do you feel to be so abnormal?

957
00:54:31,560 --> 00:54:34,680
Speaker 5: I guess like I just wish that, like sometimes like

958
00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:37,800
Speaker 5: we could just slowed down and like, you know, enjoyed

959
00:54:37,800 --> 00:54:39,960
Speaker 5: our twenties a little bit because we both just like

960
00:54:40,000 --> 00:54:42,600
Speaker 5: graduated college and just kind of like hit the ground

961
00:54:42,640 --> 00:54:44,359
Speaker 5: running and we were like, okay, what else, what else?

962
00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:44,759
Speaker 3: What else?

963
00:54:44,760 --> 00:54:46,560
Speaker 5: What else? You know what I mean? So like we've

964
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:49,040
Speaker 5: just been like checking off all these boxes and not

965
00:54:49,120 --> 00:54:51,880
Speaker 5: really like taking time to like slow down and like

966
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:56,640
Speaker 5: enjoy our twenties before kids and all of the things,

967
00:54:56,680 --> 00:54:58,879
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. So it feels like we've

968
00:54:58,960 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 5: kind of almost wasted that time that we had.

969
00:55:01,560 --> 00:55:02,840
Speaker 1: Do you have kids?

970
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:03,919
Speaker 3: No?

971
00:55:04,120 --> 00:55:04,520
Speaker 5: Not yet?

972
00:55:04,640 --> 00:55:07,400
Speaker 1: Oh well then what go to quit your jobs and

973
00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:09,720
Speaker 1: move to Thailand? Who gives a fucking ship?

974
00:55:10,239 --> 00:55:11,600
Speaker 4: What do you?

975
00:55:11,320 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 3: What do you?

976
00:55:12,080 --> 00:55:12,920
Speaker 5: What do you?

977
00:55:13,000 --> 00:55:13,200
Speaker 7: Yeah?

978
00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:14,880
Speaker 1: Okay, so I mean I mean yeah, I mean no,

979
00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 1: you don't you're not. Yeah, if you don't have kids,

980
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:21,120
Speaker 1: you can do whatever you want kind of. If you

981
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:23,040
Speaker 1: don't have kids, you can do whatever. I mean you

982
00:55:23,440 --> 00:55:28,239
Speaker 1: some people abandon their kids, which I mean you can.

983
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 1: You can do that. That's an option available to you

984
00:55:30,239 --> 00:55:33,000
Speaker 1: as a human being. But some people think that that's

985
00:55:33,040 --> 00:55:35,600
Speaker 1: not cool, and they have a legitimate argument when they

986
00:55:35,640 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 1: say that. But you can do it. What was I

987
00:55:39,239 --> 00:55:41,000
Speaker 1: going to say? Just now, it's going to say something?

988
00:55:41,080 --> 00:55:46,000
Speaker 1: Don't wait? Okay you said you get specific with meha, Miranda,

989
00:55:46,080 --> 00:55:49,440
Speaker 1: What exactly do you want to do? Because I understand

990
00:55:49,480 --> 00:55:59,359
Speaker 1: the idea of like a vague longing, right, but the

991
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:02,920
Speaker 1: mo if you, if you uh, swat away the fog

992
00:56:03,040 --> 00:56:06,839
Speaker 1: of that vague longing, maybe you'll find a specific thing

993
00:56:06,920 --> 00:56:09,520
Speaker 1: that you want to do, and maybe after that you'll realize, oh,

994
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:13,959
Speaker 1: I actually can do this, you know, so, so wipe

995
00:56:13,960 --> 00:56:17,160
Speaker 1: away the smoke for me here real quick, what's what's

996
00:56:17,239 --> 00:56:19,600
Speaker 1: the What are some actual things you want to do

997
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:22,239
Speaker 1: that you feel like you cannot do well.

998
00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:24,880
Speaker 5: I guess like my biggest thing is I just like

999
00:56:25,800 --> 00:56:28,120
Speaker 5: I guess like I just feel all these outside pressures

1000
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:31,480
Speaker 5: from like family and friends. So like that's kind of

1001
00:56:31,480 --> 00:56:33,799
Speaker 5: what I mean about like putting life into perspective, and

1002
00:56:33,840 --> 00:56:36,520
Speaker 5: I feel like we kind of like wasted the time

1003
00:56:36,560 --> 00:56:39,200
Speaker 5: that we had like in our earlier twenties, like not

1004
00:56:39,320 --> 00:56:42,680
Speaker 5: traveling and like just saving money and like being super

1005
00:56:42,719 --> 00:56:46,480
Speaker 5: cautious about everything all the time, versus like you know,

1006
00:56:46,600 --> 00:56:49,040
Speaker 5: quitting our jobs and moving to a city and enjoying

1007
00:56:49,080 --> 00:56:51,919
Speaker 5: life of meeting people and creating our own like kind

1008
00:56:51,920 --> 00:56:54,600
Speaker 5: of way. We just both kind of fell into that

1009
00:56:54,640 --> 00:56:58,520
Speaker 5: cookie cutter like graduate college, be successful, get a house,

1010
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:02,240
Speaker 5: start a family. But like now that we've graduated college

1011
00:57:02,440 --> 00:57:04,719
Speaker 5: and we've got a house, like now our family is

1012
00:57:04,800 --> 00:57:07,520
Speaker 5: kind of like pressuring that like whole like, Okay, when

1013
00:57:07,520 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 5: are you gonna start?

1014
00:57:09,800 --> 00:57:11,880
Speaker 1: Like you're like your like your parents.

1015
00:57:12,680 --> 00:57:17,959
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, like just.

1016
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:21,920
Speaker 1: Off man, you're hold on, hold on. I look, I

1017
00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:25,520
Speaker 1: get everyone has different relationships with their family, but like, dude,

1018
00:57:25,600 --> 00:57:28,240
Speaker 1: you have you have money, right, you have a job,

1019
00:57:28,280 --> 00:57:30,000
Speaker 1: you have money. You sound like you have an adult

1020
00:57:30,080 --> 00:57:31,560
Speaker 1: job that pays you adult money.

1021
00:57:33,000 --> 00:57:35,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, So like that's the hard part is like it

1022
00:57:35,480 --> 00:57:38,160
Speaker 5: kind of goes beyond like just our parents too, because

1023
00:57:38,240 --> 00:57:40,120
Speaker 5: like you do your parents parents?

1024
00:57:40,520 --> 00:57:42,080
Speaker 1: Do your parents give you money? Still?

1025
00:57:43,000 --> 00:57:43,280
Speaker 5: No?

1026
00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:46,400
Speaker 3: No, Okay, listen, if.

1027
00:57:46,280 --> 00:57:48,760
Speaker 1: You listen, if you pay your water bill, If you

1028
00:57:48,840 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 1: pay your water bill, you can tell your mom to

1029
00:57:51,440 --> 00:57:53,840
Speaker 1: go fuck yourself. That's that's what being an adult is.

1030
00:57:55,120 --> 00:57:57,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, No, I get you. That's kind of what we're

1031
00:57:57,560 --> 00:57:59,920
Speaker 5: That's kind of what we've been doing, uh, is just

1032
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:02,240
Speaker 5: like hey, like we're not we don't even think we

1033
00:58:02,280 --> 00:58:04,040
Speaker 5: want to do that, Like we'll do it on our

1034
00:58:04,080 --> 00:58:06,520
Speaker 5: own terms type thing. But like it's just kind of

1035
00:58:06,520 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 5: increasingly getting harder to like make friends as well, especially

1036
00:58:10,120 --> 00:58:12,480
Speaker 5: like going because like my husband will be thirty this

1037
00:58:12,600 --> 00:58:15,120
Speaker 5: year and I'll be twenty nine this year. Right, So,

1038
00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:17,480
Speaker 5: like a lot of our friends, especially friends that we

1039
00:58:17,520 --> 00:58:21,760
Speaker 5: meet like in our community, have kids, like around our age,

1040
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:24,360
Speaker 5: Like well the people are around our age and they're

1041
00:58:24,400 --> 00:58:26,160
Speaker 5: starting families and they're starting.

1042
00:58:25,800 --> 00:58:26,400
Speaker 8: To have kids.

1043
00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:29,240
Speaker 5: And then it's almost like they get offended if we say,

1044
00:58:29,280 --> 00:58:31,200
Speaker 5: like that's great, you're having kids, and like I'll buy

1045
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:33,800
Speaker 5: your kid a birthday president. But like I really think

1046
00:58:33,840 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 5: that's something that I want to do, you know what

1047
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:39,520
Speaker 5: I mean, Like, it's just becoming increasingly harder to like

1048
00:58:40,120 --> 00:58:43,640
Speaker 5: meet people and make friendships like where we're currently at.

1049
00:58:44,360 --> 00:58:45,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, does that make sense?

1050
00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:49,520
Speaker 1: And of course, yeah, definitely makes sense. So it's something

1051
00:58:49,560 --> 00:58:51,160
Speaker 1: I struggle with. I'm trying to figure out how to

1052
00:58:51,160 --> 00:58:54,920
Speaker 1: make more community in my life. It used to be

1053
00:58:54,960 --> 00:58:57,960
Speaker 1: easy and now it feels like it requires a lot

1054
00:58:58,000 --> 00:59:01,920
Speaker 1: more thought at ten. But I mean, okay, but you're

1055
00:59:02,120 --> 00:59:05,720
Speaker 1: but I guess Miranda, like we're you just took me

1056
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:13,400
Speaker 1: through five different conundrums, so let's start with I mean,

1057
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:17,960
Speaker 1: let's just do this one. Right. Is like the like

1058
00:59:18,040 --> 00:59:24,560
Speaker 1: pressure from your parents, I mean, you you see, you

1059
00:59:24,600 --> 00:59:28,320
Speaker 1: sound like a smart person, and so you're aware that

1060
00:59:28,400 --> 00:59:31,800
Speaker 1: your parents, like You're like, you're aware you were the

1061
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:34,360
Speaker 1: only you and your husband are the only one that

1062
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:38,840
Speaker 1: have to live your lives right, right, And so who

1063
00:59:39,880 --> 00:59:42,560
Speaker 1: gives any amount of a fuck about the opinion of

1064
00:59:42,640 --> 00:59:46,520
Speaker 1: any other person that doesn't have to live your life.

1065
00:59:47,920 --> 00:59:49,880
Speaker 5: Right? I mean, I guess it just comes from like

1066
00:59:49,920 --> 00:59:52,160
Speaker 5: a place of like I've always been like just such

1067
00:59:52,160 --> 00:59:54,600
Speaker 5: a people pleaser, and so it's kind of what I

1068
00:59:54,640 --> 00:59:57,280
Speaker 5: mean about like just kind of putting like time into

1069
00:59:57,360 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 5: perspective with your life. Like I know, I keep saying

1070
01:00:00,040 --> 01:00:02,360
Speaker 5: approach and thirty and like I've you.

1071
01:00:02,240 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 6: Know one day state.

1072
01:00:05,080 --> 01:00:08,400
Speaker 1: Just just just just stay stay on this particular topic

1073
01:00:08,400 --> 01:00:10,800
Speaker 1: with me, because now we're talking about getting older and whatnot.

1074
01:00:10,840 --> 01:00:16,280
Speaker 1: Let's talk about like like like there's okay, there's pressure

1075
01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:19,800
Speaker 1: and influence from like people and then specific people like

1076
01:00:19,840 --> 01:00:23,560
Speaker 1: your family, and there's like pressure and influence from what

1077
01:00:23,720 --> 01:00:29,000
Speaker 1: is generally societally accepted as the normal life of a

1078
01:00:29,040 --> 01:00:32,760
Speaker 1: certain people of a certain age. Right, So I mean,

1079
01:00:32,840 --> 01:00:34,800
Speaker 1: just stay with me real quick on the family side

1080
01:00:34,840 --> 01:00:39,160
Speaker 1: of things. What what what's the block there?

1081
01:00:41,200 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 8: I guess like.

1082
01:00:41,800 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 5: Just because I've always been like I've always been like

1083
01:00:45,160 --> 01:00:47,240
Speaker 5: a goodie two shoes with like my family, and I've

1084
01:00:47,240 --> 01:00:50,160
Speaker 5: always done like what they want me to do, and

1085
01:00:50,200 --> 01:00:52,840
Speaker 5: so like me standing up for myself and like what

1086
01:00:52,880 --> 01:00:56,640
Speaker 5: I want for my life, it like obviously upsets them,

1087
01:00:56,680 --> 01:00:59,960
Speaker 5: which again I'm learning to not care. But it's like

1088
01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:02,320
Speaker 5: one of those things where I've just I've never done

1089
01:01:02,320 --> 01:01:05,160
Speaker 5: that before, so it's uncomfortable to be like, hey, actually

1090
01:01:05,240 --> 01:01:06,920
Speaker 5: that's not what I want and I have to like

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Speaker 5: be okay with that backlash. Does that make sense?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm there's no there's no magical spell

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Speaker 1: that I can put upon you to give you the

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Speaker 1: courage to be okay with that backlash, But I I

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Speaker 1: think it is. It is a worthy thing to learn

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Speaker 1: how to deal with, for sure.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: All right, So there's that, and then there's like we

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Speaker 1: talked about the just general societal pressure for your life

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Speaker 1: to be a certain way at certain ages, which is legitimate.

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Speaker 1: Is a legitimate form of pressure. I mean, I guess

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Speaker 1: all these are legitimate, but yeah, it's something that everyone

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01:02:01,000 --> 01:02:07,880
Speaker 1: fucking thinks about. But again, but it all comes back

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Speaker 1: to the fact that nobody, you know, in the comparatively

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Speaker 1: to like the sun and stuff. We're all little little babies,

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Speaker 1: right So at the end of the day, society doesn't

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Speaker 1: have do you know, at the end of the day

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Speaker 1: one it has to live your life? So what what

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Speaker 1: kind of what kind of life do you want to live?

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Speaker 1: You want to travel? What do you want to travel to? Right? Like,

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Speaker 1: like some of these things like that there you get

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01:02:36,680 --> 01:02:40,200
Speaker 1: you can just find yourself crushed under the weight of

1114
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Speaker 1: this horrible, ambiguous uh bolder I was trying to think.

1115
01:02:47,160 --> 01:02:49,560
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say rock but by the bolder, better,

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01:02:51,880 --> 01:02:57,800
Speaker 1: bolder of societal expectations and oh, I want to do

1117
01:02:57,880 --> 01:03:01,840
Speaker 1: that and just vague feelings. But you can actually attack

1118
01:03:01,920 --> 01:03:06,120
Speaker 1: some of those vague feelings by trying to travel a

1119
01:03:06,120 --> 01:03:08,120
Speaker 1: little bit more if you can figure it out. With

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Speaker 1: your job. You do you work remote? What do you do?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? So I work from home full time. So that's

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01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:16,200
Speaker 5: like another positive. So that was like one thing I

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01:03:16,360 --> 01:03:20,320
Speaker 5: changed a couple of years ago. My previous office was

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Speaker 5: talking about going back and I was like, I really

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01:03:23,440 --> 01:03:25,160
Speaker 5: don't want to do that because I feel like I

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01:03:25,280 --> 01:03:27,480
Speaker 5: get way more like out of my afternoons and my

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01:03:27,520 --> 01:03:30,240
Speaker 5: weekends because I can do chores while on a work

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Speaker 5: or do things like this well while at work. Don't

1129
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Speaker 5: tell my boss that, but you know what I mean, Like,

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Speaker 5: I just I feel like I can stay on top

1131
01:03:36,760 --> 01:03:39,680
Speaker 5: of like the mundane things, and then I can enjoy

1132
01:03:39,680 --> 01:03:41,800
Speaker 5: the time that I have when I'm not working.

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Speaker 1: So what are the mundane things like, you know.

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01:03:45,680 --> 01:03:48,360
Speaker 5: Like laundry dishes, like all the things that we all do,

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01:03:48,400 --> 01:03:50,280
Speaker 5: you know what I mean, like keeping up with wiping

1136
01:03:50,320 --> 01:03:54,280
Speaker 5: down the kitchen countertops and unloading the dishwasher, you know

1137
01:03:54,360 --> 01:03:56,600
Speaker 5: what I mean, Like go into the gym a couple

1138
01:03:56,560 --> 01:03:58,400
Speaker 5: of times a week, like that sort of stuff.

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01:03:58,440 --> 01:03:58,680
Speaker 6: You know.

1140
01:03:59,640 --> 01:04:04,600
Speaker 1: One of the sacrifices I've learned this through touring and

1141
01:04:05,280 --> 01:04:07,200
Speaker 1: trying to travel a lot of my own personal life.

1142
01:04:07,200 --> 01:04:11,320
Speaker 1: One of the sacrifices of trying to travel more is

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01:04:11,320 --> 01:04:16,600
Speaker 1: that you.

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01:04:11,960 --> 01:04:12,040
Speaker 4: H.

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01:04:14,040 --> 01:04:17,720
Speaker 1: You gotta be okay with doing a little bit less

1146
01:04:17,800 --> 01:04:24,760
Speaker 1: laundry then maybe is socially acceptable. Yeah, you get what

1147
01:04:24,800 --> 01:04:26,919
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I mean, maybe you wear maybe you wear

1148
01:04:26,960 --> 01:04:33,000
Speaker 1: the same pair of underwear maybe four times in a

1149
01:04:33,080 --> 01:04:36,440
Speaker 1: row is egregious. I've done that before, but uh, you know,

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01:04:36,520 --> 01:04:37,240
Speaker 1: a few days.

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Speaker 5: In a row, right, Yeah, yeah, I mean that is

1152
01:04:41,280 --> 01:04:43,840
Speaker 5: like one thing we're like hoping to, you know, change

1153
01:04:43,840 --> 01:04:46,280
Speaker 5: in the upcoming year. Like we both renewed our passports

1154
01:04:46,320 --> 01:04:48,280
Speaker 5: and we booked a trip to Japan and a trip

1155
01:04:48,320 --> 01:04:48,920
Speaker 5: to Europe.

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01:04:49,120 --> 01:04:49,600
Speaker 1: Wonderful.

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01:04:50,280 --> 01:04:51,600
Speaker 2: So, like you've both.

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01:04:51,480 --> 01:04:53,360
Speaker 5: Never been out of the country though, So it's gonna

1159
01:04:53,400 --> 01:04:57,400
Speaker 5: be a little bit of a shock, I'm afraid. But

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01:04:57,640 --> 01:05:00,160
Speaker 5: I mean, like I said, we're both always too careful,

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01:05:00,200 --> 01:05:01,440
Speaker 5: So I feel like it'll be good for us to

1162
01:05:01,520 --> 01:05:03,880
Speaker 5: kind of like step out and just go explore and

1163
01:05:04,160 --> 01:05:06,680
Speaker 5: check out what you know, what other places how to

1164
01:05:06,760 --> 01:05:08,680
Speaker 5: offer you know, No.

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01:05:08,760 --> 01:05:10,800
Speaker 1: That's gonna be awesome. No, it's you're already doing it.

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01:05:10,840 --> 01:05:12,120
Speaker 1: You don't need a get go to tell you how

1167
01:05:12,160 --> 01:05:12,960
Speaker 1: to live your fucking.

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01:05:12,960 --> 01:05:16,840
Speaker 5: We're trying it. We're doing our best. But yeah, it's

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01:05:16,880 --> 01:05:19,560
Speaker 5: just like I don't know, it's just been something I've

1170
01:05:19,600 --> 01:05:21,600
Speaker 5: been like sitting with a lot recently. It's just like,

1171
01:05:21,720 --> 01:05:25,320
Speaker 5: how do you not you like specifically, but just like

1172
01:05:25,520 --> 01:05:29,280
Speaker 5: how does a person, like a young person like fight

1173
01:05:29,560 --> 01:05:32,640
Speaker 5: those expectations. I mean it's not it's not that it

1174
01:05:32,680 --> 01:05:34,320
Speaker 5: weighs on me like twenty four to seven, but you

1175
01:05:34,360 --> 01:05:36,560
Speaker 5: know what I mean whenever I go to Thanksgiving and

1176
01:05:36,560 --> 01:05:38,400
Speaker 5: everyone's like, oh, you're married and you have a house

1177
01:05:38,440 --> 01:05:40,400
Speaker 5: and you do have a good job, so like why

1178
01:05:40,400 --> 01:05:42,280
Speaker 5: do you not want kids? And then you have to

1179
01:05:42,400 --> 01:05:45,360
Speaker 5: like explain it to them and then they still don't

1180
01:05:45,400 --> 01:05:48,560
Speaker 5: understand because obviously they're boomers and that's just the way

1181
01:05:48,600 --> 01:05:51,600
Speaker 5: that they were raised is get married, have kids, start

1182
01:05:51,600 --> 01:05:52,120
Speaker 5: a family.

1183
01:05:52,200 --> 01:05:54,640
Speaker 1: But it's just like you should you take advance. I

1184
01:05:54,960 --> 01:05:57,280
Speaker 1: think that you should take advant everything that you've have

1185
01:05:57,440 --> 01:06:00,480
Speaker 1: going for you in your life generationally, even like take

1186
01:06:00,520 --> 01:06:03,280
Speaker 1: advantage of it. Right, You're still young, you don't have

1187
01:06:03,280 --> 01:06:07,000
Speaker 1: any kids, you work from home, fucking hack it, you know. Go,

1188
01:06:07,040 --> 01:06:09,280
Speaker 1: I mean, you're I don't even you don't even need

1189
01:06:09,320 --> 01:06:12,720
Speaker 1: me to. It's a motivational speech you because you're already

1190
01:06:12,720 --> 01:06:14,360
Speaker 1: doing it. You already have the plane tickets booked in

1191
01:06:14,400 --> 01:06:16,800
Speaker 1: the passport and all that stuff. So I mean it

1192
01:06:16,840 --> 01:06:19,160
Speaker 1: sounds like you're doing what you want to do. So

1193
01:06:19,200 --> 01:06:20,360
Speaker 1: that's that's pretty great.

1194
01:06:21,720 --> 01:06:24,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's just a matter of like, like I said,

1195
01:06:24,200 --> 01:06:26,520
Speaker 5: like I'm just like a recovering people pleaser, which I'm

1196
01:06:26,520 --> 01:06:28,640
Speaker 5: sure a lot of people can relate to. So it's

1197
01:06:28,720 --> 01:06:30,720
Speaker 5: just it's like I'm doing all these things, but at

1198
01:06:30,760 --> 01:06:34,200
Speaker 5: the same time, like I feel kind of like not

1199
01:06:34,280 --> 01:06:36,160
Speaker 5: selfish about it, but you know what I mean, Like

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01:06:36,640 --> 01:06:38,680
Speaker 5: I'm just like should I be doing something else? Like

1201
01:06:38,720 --> 01:06:40,760
Speaker 5: I don't think I should be, But at the same time,

1202
01:06:40,840 --> 01:06:43,440
Speaker 5: like I overthink it sometimes. So it's just like my

1203
01:06:43,520 --> 01:06:45,200
Speaker 5: thing is like I just don't want to waste time,

1204
01:06:45,600 --> 01:06:48,520
Speaker 5: like you know, especially like in your younger years. And

1205
01:06:50,560 --> 01:06:52,120
Speaker 5: I don't know, I just like I think about the

1206
01:06:52,160 --> 01:06:54,200
Speaker 5: big picture a little too much instead of like just

1207
01:06:54,280 --> 01:06:57,080
Speaker 5: impulsively living life. Does that make sense.

1208
01:06:58,920 --> 01:07:06,040
Speaker 1: It does. It does, but I don't know why. My takeaway,

1209
01:07:06,040 --> 01:07:08,840
Speaker 1: I don't know why my take away from this phone

1210
01:07:08,880 --> 01:07:13,200
Speaker 1: call is that you should do the dishes less. Maybe

1211
01:07:13,200 --> 01:07:15,040
Speaker 1: it's not. Maybe I'm just projecting because I want to

1212
01:07:15,040 --> 01:07:18,840
Speaker 1: feel less bad about all the paper plates have been

1213
01:07:18,920 --> 01:07:19,600
Speaker 1: using lately.

1214
01:07:22,760 --> 01:07:25,600
Speaker 5: I was actually loading the dishwasher when you called, so

1215
01:07:25,840 --> 01:07:29,960
Speaker 5: maybe I'll just wait, Miranda.

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01:07:30,600 --> 01:07:31,920
Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to say to the

1217
01:07:31,920 --> 01:07:33,360
Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go?

1218
01:07:34,800 --> 01:07:37,720
Speaker 5: No, I mean not really. I just make sure, like

1219
01:07:37,760 --> 01:07:39,880
Speaker 5: the friendships and stuff that you have like count if

1220
01:07:39,880 --> 01:07:43,920
Speaker 5: they're not productive, you know, there's no sense in maintaining those,

1221
01:07:44,000 --> 01:07:47,240
Speaker 5: and find people that align with your values.

1222
01:07:47,280 --> 01:07:49,000
Speaker 1: You know, have a good rest of the night. I

1223
01:07:49,040 --> 01:07:50,640
Speaker 1: wish you good luck on your journey. Have fun in

1224
01:07:50,680 --> 01:07:55,720
Speaker 1: Japan and Europe. Those are great places, and well, for sure, enjoy.

1225
01:07:58,280 --> 01:08:01,080
Speaker 1: We first started talking about this because of the SIM right, Yeah.

1226
01:08:01,160 --> 01:08:03,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know why that like really triggered it,

1227
01:08:03,480 --> 01:08:06,120
Speaker 5: But I just got really stressed, like playing the SIMS

1228
01:08:06,120 --> 01:08:07,560
Speaker 5: and I was like, oh my god, there's not enough

1229
01:08:07,560 --> 01:08:08,800
Speaker 5: time in the day. And then I got to chase

1230
01:08:08,840 --> 01:08:11,240
Speaker 5: these kids to like do their homework, and they're failing

1231
01:08:11,320 --> 01:08:14,680
Speaker 5: school now. Because I'm too busy with like everything I'm

1232
01:08:14,680 --> 01:08:17,799
Speaker 5: doing or one so I'm like whoa, whoa, wait a second.

1233
01:08:17,920 --> 01:08:19,559
Speaker 5: So I don't know. I was just I got way

1234
01:08:19,560 --> 01:08:22,080
Speaker 5: too high one day and I was playing it and

1235
01:08:22,120 --> 01:08:27,839
Speaker 5: it just like all clicked for some reason. Yeah, anyway,

1236
01:08:28,120 --> 01:08:33,320
Speaker 5: it was just so yeah, play it, you know.

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01:08:34,040 --> 01:08:40,400
Speaker 1: Have a night, Miranda, thank you? Yeah, you know. Okay, Well,

1238
01:08:40,400 --> 01:08:43,040
Speaker 1: here's the thing, you guys. Ever go on Instagram and

1239
01:08:43,080 --> 01:08:45,920
Speaker 1: you see all those travel influencers who are going all

1240
01:08:45,960 --> 01:08:48,799
Speaker 1: over the place. And next time you see a really

1241
01:08:49,080 --> 01:08:54,479
Speaker 1: hot Instagram couple who uh is traveling all around the

1242
01:08:54,520 --> 01:09:00,519
Speaker 1: world and scuba diving and Greece one day and at

1243
01:09:00,520 --> 01:09:03,200
Speaker 1: the Great Wall of China the next day. Just remember

1244
01:09:03,680 --> 01:09:06,719
Speaker 1: when you look at them that they have been wearing

1245
01:09:06,760 --> 01:09:11,759
Speaker 1: the same pair of underwear for several days. It's important

1246
01:09:11,800 --> 01:09:15,320
Speaker 1: to know. Hello, folks, it's Lyle here. That's the end

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Speaker 8: For me, when I feel like I'm clinical normal, I

1258
01:09:55,960 --> 01:09:58,719
Speaker 8: feel like the most happy. I know that sounds backwards, but.

1259
01:09:58,680 --> 01:10:00,240
Speaker 1: Tell me about what makes you feel noom normal.

1260
01:10:00,320 --> 01:10:02,519
Speaker 8: For instance, like to me and my friend go to

1261
01:10:02,960 --> 01:10:06,040
Speaker 8: the gas stations and I want to buy something, like,

1262
01:10:06,120 --> 01:10:08,360
Speaker 8: I feel normal, like because I really don't have much

1263
01:10:08,400 --> 01:10:11,400
Speaker 8: money because I'm for college students, so I can find

1264
01:10:11,400 --> 01:10:15,040
Speaker 8: the opportunity to go buy even if it's seven nine sense.

1265
01:10:16,040 --> 01:10:17,759
Speaker 8: That makes me feel quote unquote normal.

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01:10:18,080 --> 01:10:18,400
Speaker 1: Mm hm.

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01:10:18,439 --> 01:10:21,719
Speaker 8: It's like having him to pay for me or whatever.

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01:10:21,760 --> 01:10:21,960
Speaker 8: You know.

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01:10:22,160 --> 01:10:24,519
Speaker 1: I don't think that sounds backwards. Oh, I completely understand

1270
01:10:24,520 --> 01:10:27,120
Speaker 1: where the happiness of that moment is coming from. I

1271
01:10:27,120 --> 01:10:30,200
Speaker 1: don't think you need to climb to Mount Everest or

1272
01:10:30,360 --> 01:10:33,800
Speaker 1: do some crazy thing to feel happy. I think the

1273
01:10:33,800 --> 01:10:39,240
Speaker 1: best you can get is really siphoning the beauty and

1274
01:10:39,240 --> 01:10:44,040
Speaker 1: the happiness from something as normal as being able to

1275
01:10:44,479 --> 01:10:48,599
Speaker 1: afford a candy bar when you're going out to the

1276
01:10:48,640 --> 01:10:51,800
Speaker 1: gas station with your friends. If you want to hear

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Speaker 1: to say.

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Speaker 8: Never goes on the line, taking of his own calls

1283
01:11:12,880 --> 01:11:13,439
Speaker 8: every night.

1284
01:11:13,800 --> 01:11:15,719
Speaker 1: The Repy goes doing his eye.

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Speaker 7: He's teaching you about the liver your life, but he's

1286
01:11:18,880 --> 01:11:21,360
Speaker 7: not really an expert.