Speaker 1: What is it's lip service to Angela? Yee, I'm g McGuire,
Speaker 1: I'm Mariah and Tammy Rivera is here. Very sweet Tammy Rivera,
Speaker 1: thank you. She came in here killing it. I know
Speaker 1: it's fast. I got another event to go to. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I saw you in the All Red and everything. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I love it. I just I just love this. Can
Speaker 1: we c Yeah? I just love this ship because you
Speaker 1: are a stylist, so let's never forget that. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I comes from That's what comes from, you know, originally,
Speaker 1: But I just love it. Do you love the fact
Speaker 1: that now you sit in like the front row because
Speaker 1: think about starting starting out as a stylist and how
Speaker 1: much things have changed for you. Yeah. I remember I
Speaker 1: was just telling them last when it was Mercedes Bands
Speaker 1: Fast Week and I came and I came to the show,
Speaker 1: not like, oh wait in bed, but I didn't give
Speaker 1: a damn because I was like, and I feel like
Speaker 1: where I want to be? So where do you you
Speaker 1: need to be? Front row? I mean next to Anna
Speaker 1: win tour? No, I need to be walking down the
Speaker 1: aisle presenting my own clothes and the front right because
Speaker 1: you have the bathing their bathing suits. Yeah, I have
Speaker 1: this one Suitlion, and that's been doing really really really good.
Speaker 1: And you have your new song all these Kisses, and
Speaker 1: you did a video. Did you pick the leading guy
Speaker 1: or how does that work? No? They wouldn't let me
Speaker 1: pay go. But I was like, I told him by
Speaker 1: the stripe, described to them what I wanted and they
Speaker 1: found him. But he was good. He's a guy, he's
Speaker 1: what was that description? Did you see? Daddy? I said?
Speaker 1: I wanted him to be tall, chocolate, tattoos, post cut, walcat. Also,
Speaker 1: everything is right. When would your leading guy be? If
Speaker 1: you had to describe your leading guy each rest album?
Speaker 1: Definitely tall and dark? How come no one said short?
Speaker 1: I'm mean nobody says when not sure? Height is me?
Speaker 1: So we can say you're tall? I'm sure you don't
Speaker 1: want to don't know? I want tall? Oh, I'm like, wait,
Speaker 1: what's going on? Yeah? No, but yeah, tall and dark?
Speaker 1: You know tattoos is it's fine? I like, um, how
Speaker 1: come to its light skin? I don't like lighting? Look
Speaker 1: at us? You know cousins like camelt I guess right,
Speaker 1: don't you lightful? Like man? That's how I feel? First
Speaker 1: of all, like no discrimination to the Yellow brothers but
Speaker 1: me personally, I need a little bit of flavor to
Speaker 1: dilute this mix, you know, swirl it on up because
Speaker 1: I'm light enough. Yeah, that's right. I probably only dated
Speaker 1: one light skinned guy and my whole life I dated
Speaker 1: a couple. But like I mean, well because compared to me,
Speaker 1: like you're saying data, that fucked, because it's a different
Speaker 1: It was my great friend, but he's like my complexion.
Speaker 1: But like all the other guys I've dated is probably
Speaker 1: like light brown skin or darker. I've never dated a
Speaker 1: light skin guy. My husband's the lightest and he hood
Speaker 1: his house. You get have passed when you got like
Speaker 1: getting soft. My ex was He's from Cameroon and was
Speaker 1: dark just like black. He s went his eyes when
Speaker 1: he takes pictures the exes when I'm so black that
Speaker 1: he was blue. It's called blue. Now, what's the difference.
Speaker 1: We were talking about this between dating and fucking, because
Speaker 1: some people mistake those two like they think if I'm
Speaker 1: having sex with you, i'm dating you. Oh we have sex,
Speaker 1: were dating? I mean, I'm just just me. I've always
Speaker 1: been in relationships like I've been. I was people like
Speaker 1: people and I was married. Um when I was to
Speaker 1: my daughter's father. I was with him for ten years.
Speaker 1: He was like my first boyfriend. How old were you
Speaker 1: when you got married nineteen nineteen? Damn? Yeah, I was
Speaker 1: nineteen and I got a friend. I mean when I
Speaker 1: got married. I had my daughter when I was twenty.
Speaker 1: So did you guys get married because you were pregnant
Speaker 1: And it was like, Okay, this is what we need
Speaker 1: to do. Girl. No, my family get they don't give it.
Speaker 1: There un't. I just thought I was he was my first.
Speaker 1: Like I was with him since I was third fourteen
Speaker 1: thirteen or something like that, and um like it was
Speaker 1: one for ten years. So it was just like, you know,
Speaker 1: the right thing to do. I guess we just felt
Speaker 1: like we were in love or whatever. But um yeah,
Speaker 1: not that that. I had two relationships after that. Um
Speaker 1: So everybody that I had sex with I was in
Speaker 1: a relationship with. Right if I'm having sex with you,
Speaker 1: we did, we go together? We go together? I like, damn,
Speaker 1: you love you? You? What made you get divorced with that?
Speaker 1: The last with my ex, Uh, it's a piece of
Speaker 1: relationship just wasn't healthy. I just thought it. You know,
Speaker 1: I didn't growup with the father, so I thought you
Speaker 1: know certain things were loved, but then when you get
Speaker 1: to a point where you get older, you like hold up,
Speaker 1: nig at this thing about right, this thing right? So yeah,
Speaker 1: it was to control and just you know, it was
Speaker 1: just too much. But I don't even blame him because
Speaker 1: he was young, so he's just going off of what
Speaker 1: he feels. So I tell people like, even though it
Speaker 1: was abusing for me, but I still don't blame him
Speaker 1: because he was a childish health You guys are trying
Speaker 1: to figure it out. So you think if you're arguing
Speaker 1: all the time and he's controlling, that's because he loves me.
Speaker 1: I thought like even he with his hands on me,
Speaker 1: I thought that was love. Like I was like, oh
Speaker 1: that's you know, he like he loved me, Like, but what,
Speaker 1: I don't know what the hell was? Then you'l had
Speaker 1: to be younger. You know, so many people go through
Speaker 1: that though, because you don't know. You just feel like
Speaker 1: when a man show you that type of love is like,
Speaker 1: oh he really cares because especially after when he's so
Speaker 1: sorry and he's yeah, both crying. But once I got
Speaker 1: over that girl was like I couldn't nigga, couldn't he
Speaker 1: barely raise his voice at me, like no control and
Speaker 1: like like I could I never could there anyone who
Speaker 1: would even tell me what to do or try to
Speaker 1: talk down on me or anything. It actually affects you
Speaker 1: later on in life though. Now I feel you because
Speaker 1: I think my dad always used to yell at my
Speaker 1: mom all the time. So now if you raise your
Speaker 1: voice at me, um, it's like a bad red flag
Speaker 1: to That's what Walking used to tell. He's like, I'm
Speaker 1: not talking down on you. And it was for years
Speaker 1: I had so I realized like, Okay, yeah, maybe I'll
Speaker 1: be tripping because I just like he could say one
Speaker 1: thing like man, baby, you'll cook them. Well, oh I
Speaker 1: don't cook no more, Like okay, you're talking down on me.
Speaker 1: He's like you really don't cook nor so you become
Speaker 1: like a little sensitive because you're so used to. Even
Speaker 1: when we would play sometimes like we would play and
Speaker 1: he would like jump to fest, I would like kind
Speaker 1: of flinching. He's like walk, He's like baby, stop, He's
Speaker 1: like oh like he would catch himself like we'll be playing,
Speaker 1: but my reaction wild just be like He's like oh
Speaker 1: my god, baby, like don't don't do that, like make
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm about to do something. Yeah, He's like,
Speaker 1: what's wrong? Like why you It really hurt him to
Speaker 1: see me. I didn't think of it like that because
Speaker 1: it was just reaction. It's like, but I'm not there.
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's not. It ain't that seriously, like you know,
Speaker 1: I just He's like, no, it is. You just don't know,
Speaker 1: Like that looks crazy? What was the final straw then
Speaker 1: that made you finally be like you know what? And why?
Speaker 1: What's your first marriage? What was I was just I
Speaker 1: was just done, like I didn't know who I was, like,
Speaker 1: I just looked at I just looked crazy. I just
Speaker 1: didn't feel I wasn't confident in myself. And I think
Speaker 1: I remember he he cheated or I found out he
Speaker 1: cheated or something, and that was just like this is
Speaker 1: your way out right. I was like, oh, nigga, I'm gone.
Speaker 1: I had never coming home. So when I left and
Speaker 1: I'm from Baltimore, and when I started hanging out my
Speaker 1: friends and people like damn, like where are you from, shorty?
Speaker 1: And I'm like I'm Freere. They're like yeah, no, like
Speaker 1: I've never seen you. I'm like, I'm from here. But
Speaker 1: once I got out and I started dating this guy,
Speaker 1: and I was like, oh, nigga, I ain't coming back.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that the next guy you dated to
Speaker 1: it you way better and was completely different, like they
Speaker 1: had like five or six months. It was just he
Speaker 1: was just had a lot of money, and I was
Speaker 1: he was just like just wanted me to do whatever
Speaker 1: I wanted to do, like enjoy yourself, like just you young,
Speaker 1: you just you know, live your life whatever. And I
Speaker 1: was like, cool, this is this is pretty cool. It's
Speaker 1: good right here. I just went the same person for
Speaker 1: a while, so it's probably good to get a taste
Speaker 1: of something new, right. So yeah, I was I just
Speaker 1: thought that that was all. Guess all, I knew that
Speaker 1: that's all it is, like it's just that person. And
Speaker 1: then when you get out, like boy like then you
Speaker 1: look back like you're really a clown. But that's what
Speaker 1: I always say. When you're dating somebody and they treat
Speaker 1: you really fucked up, and then you finally break up,
Speaker 1: and then you look you always look back and you're
Speaker 1: like what you h But you can't see it while
Speaker 1: you're in it. And so it's so important when you
Speaker 1: get that opportunity to leave. That's the hardest part is
Speaker 1: really just leaving and then taking it like day by day,
Speaker 1: every day it gets a little bit easier, but the
Speaker 1: hardest part is just making that commitment to be like,
Speaker 1: all right, I'm done with this. And you know, I
Speaker 1: felt bad because when we separated, we are Everybody's like
Speaker 1: he was going to the real rough time and everybody's
Speaker 1: like dammy, And I felt bad and I was like
Speaker 1: to the point where I was willing to go back,
Speaker 1: but I was like, if you go back, you're gonna
Speaker 1: be You can even go back and be miserable and
Speaker 1: make him happy or leave be happy, and he eventually
Speaker 1: find happiness. And I was like I couldn't do it.
Speaker 1: I was just like, I just can't do it the more.
Speaker 1: And being that you have a child together, how is
Speaker 1: he now? Because you still have to be in contact
Speaker 1: with him, It's clears ever we don't communicate the worst
Speaker 1: communication never, Like it's like such a grudge there, Like
Speaker 1: he hates me. He see you out here flourishing, right,
Speaker 1: he hates me, hateslowed up and he then glowed. Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's like guys, but for my daughter, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like, I just like it's so frustrating, frustrating
Speaker 1: sometimes to have to Like he lives in Maryland, I
Speaker 1: lives in Atlanta. I live in Atlanta, and um, I
Speaker 1: have full custody, but she goes on like once a month,
Speaker 1: and she go on summer. So it's it's hard to
Speaker 1: do that, Like you know what I'm saying, Like, the
Speaker 1: communication is nothing, So we communicate through an app. At
Speaker 1: least your daughter is old enough that she can communicate
Speaker 1: with you directly because it has to be heard. And
Speaker 1: when she's young, Yeah, when she's young, she didn't know better,
Speaker 1: so you couldn't. She didn't know. Now she's getting older
Speaker 1: and she starts to see things and she kind of
Speaker 1: like she starts to see like the little pettiness and
Speaker 1: things that he might say to her due to her
Speaker 1: that she knows. It's because it's a reflection to me,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, so she's she's my
Speaker 1: baby's twelve now, so she's got a baby. She's not
Speaker 1: but she's like, you know, she's very mature. Yeah. What
Speaker 1: about him and Waka did they ever have a conversation.
Speaker 1: He's Walker's reached out to him numerous of times. He's
Speaker 1: never spoke to Walking he's better about to say, woman,
Speaker 1: it's not a heavy man, it's just upset all right. Now, Normally,
Speaker 1: normally we start off with the tip of the day,
Speaker 1: but we didn't start still. We're gonna get to that
Speaker 1: right now, alright. So uh now, we get this question
Speaker 1: all the time from guys. We have this advice thing
Speaker 1: that we do, and people want to ask, how do
Speaker 1: you get your girl back after you cheated? What works
Speaker 1: and what doesn't work? Because there's so many guys out
Speaker 1: there that mess up and don't know, like what can
Speaker 1: I do to get my girl back? And we get
Speaker 1: this question like NonStop. So let's talk about that for
Speaker 1: all of us. When somebody cheating you and we know
Speaker 1: you got cheated on, and but you start damn anybody
Speaker 1: in this room, but we all but we all have
Speaker 1: been you know, honestly, yours was just very public obviously.
Speaker 1: But what does work? Because there's a lot of guys
Speaker 1: who mess up, right and they're girl is like, I'm
Speaker 1: not working with you anymore, But what works and what
Speaker 1: doesn't work when it comes to get your girl back?
Speaker 1: For me personally, I would say I don't think it's
Speaker 1: what they do. It's really I mean it can be
Speaker 1: what they do, but it's really a woman knows, like
Speaker 1: really if she's just completely done. Like I'm a leo,
Speaker 1: I'm loyal to by default, but when I'm completely done,
Speaker 1: I'm like done. Um. Which when I when we separated,
Speaker 1: I was just like I was like by like, just
Speaker 1: don't come back, don't come my house like this, leave
Speaker 1: me alone. Like he was not go away. He was
Speaker 1: coming to that. Yeah, he would not go away. And
Speaker 1: then not even let him. I said, Okay, this is
Speaker 1: what I'm gonna do to get him go away. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna let him come in here, and I'm gonna let
Speaker 1: him mess herself up. So I just kept my wall up.
Speaker 1: I was just like what the first thing he did
Speaker 1: and then getting the funk out he wouldn't. I mean,
Speaker 1: it was so consistent. I thought it was a yeah,
Speaker 1: like I thought it was an act. I was so
Speaker 1: mean to the point that everybody was like, yo, you
Speaker 1: really being like you're really a bit like and I'm
Speaker 1: not like that. I can to you being mean, like
Speaker 1: what's mean? Yeah? Girl, I was just I just didn't care,
Speaker 1: like I would just say anything, do anything. I was
Speaker 1: just and then he was like damn. I was like
Speaker 1: when you can get the funk out, yeah, like you know,
Speaker 1: and he would just eat it like he was just constant,
Speaker 1: and he just came I know, I wouldn't even have
Speaker 1: touched me, like he had to say in Charlie Room.
Speaker 1: I just didn't want nothing to do with him. I
Speaker 1: was like, I'm like, I'm just done. I would trying
Speaker 1: to find reasons. I'm like, maybe if I'm real nasty
Speaker 1: and mean, he'll leave. And then he was just like
Speaker 1: because when we separated, I the last thing I told
Speaker 1: him was I was like, I promise, I said, I
Speaker 1: swear to God, on my child's life, I would never
Speaker 1: love you the same. I was like, it's done. So
Speaker 1: that stuck in my head. Was like a lot of him,
Speaker 1: like a lot of myself. I can't lot to God,
Speaker 1: you know, not on my child. But I was so
Speaker 1: angry at the moment. I was like, I promised to God,
Speaker 1: I would never love you the same. So when he
Speaker 1: came back and I house and he was like one
Speaker 1: day we got into and I was like, listen, I
Speaker 1: met what I was saying there, like I would never
Speaker 1: love you the same, and he was like, I know
Speaker 1: you won't. He's like because you don't love me more.
Speaker 1: He practiced that if I was like this, she told
Speaker 1: me that he like, there's nothing I can say because
Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, if I do love him, and which
Speaker 1: in the end ended up happening, like and part of
Speaker 1: it is your daughter because they had such a great relationship.
Speaker 1: He's it made it so hard for you to be
Speaker 1: like because she was like telling you, yeah, she I mean,
Speaker 1: she don't see no no wrong in him, like she
Speaker 1: loves him to death. But what I can't say is
Speaker 1: even throughout our whole separation, he's like never he picked
Speaker 1: her up from school, he dropped her off, and everybody
Speaker 1: know that's not his biological child. But that I mean,
Speaker 1: there is no blood couldn't make them. So that's interesting
Speaker 1: because you told you let him come. Now, this is
Speaker 1: something that guys have to learn when they sunk up.
Speaker 1: If I let you back in, don't do nothing wrong
Speaker 1: and just understand the fact that I'm gonna treat you
Speaker 1: like shit. Yeah yeah, but you know sometimes when you're
Speaker 1: so damaged, that don't work down there, like I made it,
Speaker 1: like how you said it. Now you're saying it, I'm confused.
Speaker 1: She was saying, take it somewhere else. No, I don't
Speaker 1: just shop sometimes that don't work. No, it don't like me.
Speaker 1: I'm even like, I'm not gonna come. I don't care
Speaker 1: what you think, Jody, I'm not gonna I love you.
Speaker 1: I have an attitude when you're having sex and you're
Speaker 1: mad as Hell's like, yeah, I'm just sucking lay hair'd
Speaker 1: a hell, I'm not making annoy next thing though, you
Speaker 1: forgive me. He was like, Bro, you gotta say I
Speaker 1: don't catch my nu rude, like, I don't care, I
Speaker 1: don't care, I need it now. What doesn't work if
Speaker 1: you have to give guys, if it's like for when
Speaker 1: they're trying to get back after they sucked up. What
Speaker 1: doesn't work blaming? Tell me what I did wrong? Right? Yeah? Yeah, trying?
Speaker 1: I just suck up. Because during that time you was,
Speaker 1: you would talk to the don't want nothing, bring up
Speaker 1: the older ship before I met you. You you know
Speaker 1: you know you love me. So we're just gonna get
Speaker 1: through this. What get yeah exactly all right, So excuses
Speaker 1: does not work. You gotta just admit I sucked up
Speaker 1: and just take it and don't blame sh on me,
Speaker 1: don't blame I don't give a damn If what it was.
Speaker 1: Don't play Okay, we had sex and too much. Don't
Speaker 1: tell me why you wouldn't give me no pussy. I
Speaker 1: don't care. I want to hear nothing. But that is
Speaker 1: kind of sucked up? All right? What else doesn't work? Um?
Speaker 1: And what? All right? No we didn't finish what does work?
Speaker 1: Because you said basically he was very consistent, he said,
Speaker 1: was in contact obviously, you know, with your daughter and
Speaker 1: picking her up and doing all of that stuff and
Speaker 1: just letting you treat him like ship. Yeah, he just
Speaker 1: won't go away. Okay, but he really he really changed,
Speaker 1: Like I can't show improved like he Yeah, you really
Speaker 1: have to like consistently like change, like he really changed.
Speaker 1: Like the guy he is now is not the guy
Speaker 1: that he was like a minute. He's changed. And it
Speaker 1: was suck to putting all that work for somebody else
Speaker 1: to benefit. But I think sometimes you can't think like that.
Speaker 1: You just be like so like I used to think
Speaker 1: like that, like I ain't gonna like benefit. I'm girl.
Speaker 1: I got to a like girl having have everything to
Speaker 1: take my ship, my shoes all because I'm done because
Speaker 1: we've all taken back and cheating guys so lurial Oh God,
Speaker 1: what worked. We'll work for you because we're giving these
Speaker 1: guys advice because maybe some of them are changing too,
Speaker 1: that are listening. I think like you sat being consistent,
Speaker 1: Like that's a big key. It's like if you keep
Speaker 1: trying to show that you care, you change you and
Speaker 1: not even that you change, because I don't believe that
Speaker 1: somebody's gonna change just in one day, one week, that
Speaker 1: you're willing to change, that you're gonna put in an effort,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean something like that, Like everybody
Speaker 1: makes mistakes, so you can't expect somebody to never do
Speaker 1: nothing wrong. But at the same time, I think it's
Speaker 1: like the main thing is like all right, they might
Speaker 1: have cheated or whatever, but what they're disrespecting you in
Speaker 1: a way where it's like, all right, you you could
Speaker 1: find a picture, or you could find this, or you
Speaker 1: could find I know. That's what makes it. I think
Speaker 1: that's what makes it works for us, because if we
Speaker 1: find out something that maybe they sucked somebody when they
Speaker 1: was on the boys trip, you know last year, one
Speaker 1: of the boys, not one of the boys. First of all,
Speaker 1: you don't never have to call me again. Ain't no
Speaker 1: forgiving that So okay, you can't forget oh boy, No,
Speaker 1: but you have some women that take men back when
Speaker 1: they found out that they would other gods are transgender.
Speaker 1: It's different. See. No, I don't think we talked about
Speaker 1: that insecure incident a little bit when he said he
Speaker 1: did something in college. Boy. Yeah that's a boy damnien
Speaker 1: like two is one time, so what you would you
Speaker 1: wouldn't mess with him? No more? Hell no, but that
Speaker 1: was mad long ago. He never did nothing again. No,
Speaker 1: I just wanted to can't do that. I don't want
Speaker 1: to be in that situation. So I don't even because nigga,
Speaker 1: you you like, I don't care what you say you
Speaker 1: liked it, because a man, I can't do for you.
Speaker 1: A man, A man knows how they like. They think,
Speaker 1: you know, suck the tap. But what do you think
Speaker 1: it was? Like? I didn't really like it, man, that
Speaker 1: beard was I came in his beard and looked weird.
Speaker 1: But you didn't even for you to even think that
Speaker 1: that was like appropriate, Like no, shade, no to so
Speaker 1: you never mess for any girls who met me. I
Speaker 1: didn't say that. I'm still experiencing life, but that doesn't
Speaker 1: mean No'm I am curious okay, I'm curious, but I
Speaker 1: don't know that's okay. I know I'm not gay. I
Speaker 1: could never girl. I don't even like females enough like
Speaker 1: that to be living with one, right right? So what
Speaker 1: if he said that he's like, well, I don't really
Speaker 1: like guys. Yeah, that's okay. Would you got to have
Speaker 1: a gay daughter or gay sun? Damn, that's sucked up.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I love either one, just saying oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's the perfect here we know that. Yeah, does my
Speaker 1: son do here? Here? Too? Does he makes are so selfish?
Speaker 1: You have a answer for the Yeah, so Jesus. I
Speaker 1: agree with both Tammy and Loriol said, But I want
Speaker 1: to add to that that UM taking accountability for your actions.
Speaker 1: Put you're all out on the table taking it, taking
Speaker 1: accountability for your actions and sincerely apologizing as well as,
Speaker 1: like you said, he changed and was persistent and all
Speaker 1: of that. I think a nice A nice get nice
Speaker 1: along with two you know that, a little bonus round,
Speaker 1: but definitely UM admitting your faults and and and taking
Speaker 1: responsibility for your action times that can hurt you, because
Speaker 1: I I tell you, when we he was like, I'm
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put it all out on the table, gonna.
Speaker 1: He gave me an iPad, he's delete nothing. I see
Speaker 1: every damn why did he do that? Should have now?
Speaker 1: I didn't say on yourself. I just said, admit that
Speaker 1: you was wrong. Did you want to know all that?
Speaker 1: A part of me did. But then when I've seen it,
Speaker 1: I was like why because he already he admitted, so
Speaker 1: he like, just if you if you want to know,
Speaker 1: like just take it. And I was like, why the
Speaker 1: fund did I take this outfare? So it was so
Speaker 1: funny because I was like reading it and I was like,
Speaker 1: I said, okay, just leave me alone, don't say nothing
Speaker 1: to me. And I guess he was downstairs like patient
Speaker 1: and I'm going through. So he came out. I said,
Speaker 1: get the funk away from that door. He was like
Speaker 1: okay and like and I was just like why did
Speaker 1: I do this? Like why? Girl? Right? Everything? But that's
Speaker 1: why it was so, That's why it was so mean.
Speaker 1: That's why it was so hard to take him back,
Speaker 1: Like it was so hard. Even when we got back,
Speaker 1: I was still like so guarded, like he was like
Speaker 1: I know that you're you're not You're like you're not
Speaker 1: Tammy yet, like you know you still bring it up
Speaker 1: to this day, like I stopped that. Okay, I stopped
Speaker 1: that a long time, Like it took a minute for
Speaker 1: us to get to a point where I was just
Speaker 1: like I just started practicing positive energy and it really works,
Speaker 1: like putting you know, uh, putting things out there or
Speaker 1: not trying to speak or even thinking it because when
Speaker 1: you think it. I remember, I used to have dreams.
Speaker 1: I swear to girl. I used to know where he
Speaker 1: would do something too. But I would have a bad
Speaker 1: dream like Ms Cleo had that premonition. I would wake
Speaker 1: up with and he I know, I know when he lied.
Speaker 1: I know I know him. You know even someone you
Speaker 1: just know them. And I would say something like you
Speaker 1: know we petty, we'll just say a little shit you
Speaker 1: did that somebody telling me you wasn't. I would just
Speaker 1: say something like like if I knew this, Okay, say
Speaker 1: you were in Miami with a girl. I was like
Speaker 1: at a certain spot, I'm like, oh yeah, because my
Speaker 1: whole girl was that um la la lose. He'll be like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you remember that, And they don't say nothing. I'm petty.
Speaker 1: I let it murdin it for like a whole day
Speaker 1: or two. He walking on egg do you happen to
Speaker 1: know where that is? Right? Have you seen that before
Speaker 1: he was tagged in the picture. I would say none
Speaker 1: of that. I would just I didn't sit. So where's
Speaker 1: though he think I miss like premeditated? Like girl, I'm
Speaker 1: one of those ones like that. You would call and
Speaker 1: I'll just put the evidence together, forensic agent, girl, I
Speaker 1: get it together real fast. That's good though, that y'all managed.
Speaker 1: I mean, because it's a lot. Okay, now let's talk
Speaker 1: about things that don't work. This is what you should
Speaker 1: not do when you're trying to get back, what you
Speaker 1: should not do. I think. I think it's never a
Speaker 1: good idea to leave somebody alone if you're trying to
Speaker 1: get back with them. Sometimes people you tell him, leave
Speaker 1: me alone, leave me alone. That's not a great idea
Speaker 1: to really, for real, leave her alone if you're really
Speaker 1: trying to get back. Because too much, especially if you're mad,
Speaker 1: you start doing things that maybe you wouldn't have normally
Speaker 1: did just because you're angry. They have to stay like
Speaker 1: in your faith or not even just yeah, you have
Speaker 1: to stroke my eagle because you know, some guys in
Speaker 1: their head they think, well, she's so mad, I might
Speaker 1: do for some time to chill. That's the worst thing
Speaker 1: to do, because that's time to chill, time for me
Speaker 1: to and not only that, it would make me feel like, well, damn,
Speaker 1: you really didn't care that much to try to put
Speaker 1: out for for for get me not to leave because
Speaker 1: you just let me go right like, and then you
Speaker 1: start thinking about what then is he doing? Yeah? Like, Also,
Speaker 1: don't be trying to post pictures like you're having a
Speaker 1: good time girl. I hate that. I know you're playing
Speaker 1: basketball over everybody in the background. You're like, look at
Speaker 1: the Instagram. I always think of having fun. You just
Speaker 1: want to be in the house. Fine, yeah, you're like,
Speaker 1: let me go out. Guys like me, you be posting
Speaker 1: a pictures on Instagram like I'll post a whole nigger.
Speaker 1: Yeah that no, but that MCM is the best thing
Speaker 1: to do because it could be somebody that you know,
Speaker 1: you don't even know or nothing like that. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: that will make them say Albert earlier, just to put
Speaker 1: it out there. Yeah, I heard. I remember I like
Speaker 1: the Love Interest. You like every time I watching me, Like,
Speaker 1: I was like, I wasn't even looking at that. You
Speaker 1: want to watch this movie because I'm like, nov you
Speaker 1: told on yourself though, because nobody even had was like
Speaker 1: addressed about nowhere was like, that's not who I now
Speaker 1: what about? Do you ever run into any other women
Speaker 1: like that you've seen on the iPad? I've never That's
Speaker 1: the funny thing. Like, I've never had a girl ever
Speaker 1: approached me. I've never had to deal with like one
Speaker 1: particular female. He was just yeah, just like that. That's
Speaker 1: better than one particular person. I think. Okay, I would
Speaker 1: say this. There's two sides of that. No, it's not
Speaker 1: better because you like your whole like you just you
Speaker 1: just bess with anybody. But then the flip side is
Speaker 1: when I catch feelings for one person that can really relationship, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you'd be like, oh you can't stop messing while that
Speaker 1: would drive you nuts. So it's you know what, you think,
Speaker 1: it's worse multiple women are one one. I think so too,
Speaker 1: because it's more invested, it's more time, it's more effort,
Speaker 1: it's more of them being together. He's spreading it then,
Speaker 1: then he spreading it then and he given them all
Speaker 1: a little bit. But he just gives. But he might
Speaker 1: have only seen one. It's probably more than one, but
Speaker 1: you just seen one because you see consistently. I've been
Speaker 1: the catcher because that happened to me, Like I caught
Speaker 1: my ext sheeting on me, and I was saying, caught
Speaker 1: him like walking on na, like on some Instagram ship
Speaker 1: like a dumb he had a girlfriend and she had
Speaker 1: posted a depiction on purpose. But yeah, because for some
Speaker 1: reason she felt like that was okay, or she felt
Speaker 1: like she had one up, like she knew what it was,
Speaker 1: but she's like, oh, I got this pictures, you know,
Speaker 1: but then not knowing me not knowing it's probably was
Speaker 1: about at the time. Well I didn't find out till later,
Speaker 1: but probably like five other bitches that had a similar picture.
Speaker 1: So in my mind, I'm thinking, like, damn, this nig
Speaker 1: is working with this one bit a background. It was
Speaker 1: most of holes, just like you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: all it takes just because they took, Like the girl
Speaker 1: has a picture in a car or something that don't
Speaker 1: make them in a relationship. But in your mind, when
Speaker 1: you see that ship and you keep looking at it,
Speaker 1: have started a family. Dog. I think our minds get
Speaker 1: to us more. Sorry because I got to walk up
Speaker 1: like nigger, you don't answer the phone, RVID and place
Speaker 1: you with Tim bitches, right, that's crazy. But you don't
Speaker 1: feel like that now, No, I don't. You got over that.
Speaker 1: It took a while, you know, And I don't even
Speaker 1: think it's just more so like just him. It's just
Speaker 1: I have gotten into a place in my life. Nigga.
Speaker 1: That's when you pretty happy. At this point, you probably
Speaker 1: scared his as shitless that he's not gonna take the
Speaker 1: chance of going through that with you again because he
Speaker 1: probably know at this point there there will be no return.
Speaker 1: It ain't got the guys at your head with your acts.
Speaker 1: You should know. You know what's got me in trouble.
Speaker 1: That's the fact. I okay, so okay, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: name name. But it was a celebrity basketball game, and
Speaker 1: you know I'm very competitive, and I was assistant coach
Speaker 1: to fatch you on the team. And one of the
Speaker 1: players on the team was like, listen, if I win,
Speaker 1: could you go ask Timmy if I could take her
Speaker 1: on a date? And I said, well, you know, she's
Speaker 1: in a relationship. He was like, I just want to
Speaker 1: take her on one date. I said, okay, if you win,
Speaker 1: but he shot that dunking on a little girl. But
Speaker 1: I knew we wasn't gonna win because the other team
Speaker 1: was stacked up against us. They had all kind of
Speaker 1: ship going for us. But it was something incentive, Thank you, Tammy.
Speaker 1: It wasn't centive. First we came close. Sometimes you got
Speaker 1: to take and then afterward I told Tammy, I said,
Speaker 1: I just got to let you know I did promise
Speaker 1: somebody a date. Yeah, but I'm very competitive. I'm charing
Speaker 1: form and everything. I know. I'm just chairing part. Listen.
Speaker 1: If we would have want I don't know what I
Speaker 1: would have done date like I p her after the tea.
Speaker 1: You're very girl. She would have had to style you
Speaker 1: for the day and just put some glasses on you. Listen.
Speaker 1: We would have to do a lot more than that,
Speaker 1: more of me. But I'm sure that even did you
Speaker 1: ever consider going out with somebody else, like while you
Speaker 1: were single for that period of time. No, I didn't
Speaker 1: think about I mean, no conversations is different. I know
Speaker 1: you have some fantastic options. It looks like that looked
Speaker 1: like he didn't give her a chance. He would like
Speaker 1: killing me like either. I mean I saw he knew
Speaker 1: that I was talking to people or whatever. It wasn't
Speaker 1: nothing like like ever dating or no more than a
Speaker 1: text or so. But I would never like go. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to get shot at, like I like, you
Speaker 1: won't want to fly you to Philippine. I want to
Speaker 1: fly to the Philippines. There's people in the Philippine. That's
Speaker 1: the thing though, when you guys messed up, but you
Speaker 1: don't understand that you're giving us a little bit of
Speaker 1: like space because gig Opportunity don't broke up and so
Speaker 1: many guys wanted to talk to GG all that time,
Speaker 1: and I know it's hard, like and then you start
Speaker 1: feeling like, well, damn, this ain't over popping. Its nice.
Speaker 1: It was nice what this was mean? G Well, yeah
Speaker 1: it was what that fund It was nice when I
Speaker 1: was initially single, if you know, in the beginning and
Speaker 1: it was yourself. I am still single, but in bially
Speaker 1: you know, at first there was a large you know
Speaker 1: pop on coming, you know, trath warm. But you know,
Speaker 1: sometimes you let that breakup happen, and that's when guys
Speaker 1: realizing how much they miss you for real. They just
Speaker 1: realized somebody else about the slatting and take everything, take
Speaker 1: the whole damn family, the mama, everybody else, Like they
Speaker 1: don't realize with their head until they and got it
Speaker 1: no more. That's true too, absolutely. I felt like it
Speaker 1: does sometimes take certain people a while, like especially if
Speaker 1: they're in a relationship where maybe it was like a lot,
Speaker 1: like you were together a lot and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: I felt like sometimes their friends get in their head
Speaker 1: and they're like, yeah, you go, you single, let's go o.
Speaker 1: And then after a while, when the fun is wearing
Speaker 1: down and their friends ain't over there all the time,
Speaker 1: it started to be like my girlfriend, I saw you
Speaker 1: posted a whole bunch of roses in the club and said,
Speaker 1: you've got in so much trouble that night. Oh it
Speaker 1: was in the club. Who get those roses? Who gave
Speaker 1: me the roses in the club? Was holding them? I
Speaker 1: know you wasn't holding toy years roses. It was a
Speaker 1: mess that night. It was that weekend. It was fun.
Speaker 1: It was just like a whole bunch of a whole
Speaker 1: bunch of moving parts. Yeah, like a whole bunch of stuff.
Speaker 1: I was, you know, it was just they were just
Speaker 1: coming like you know, like at your you know what
Speaker 1: guys know your think they know that immediately. It is
Speaker 1: just like I just started coming everywhere. Yeah, yeah, it's
Speaker 1: like anywhere. Yeah, exactly ridiculous, you know, like I like
Speaker 1: out of here people were coming to like so I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: it was just crazy. It was crazy that do you
Speaker 1: think being on reality TV and then just really like
Speaker 1: just becoming because you really did become famous, you know
Speaker 1: after doing that, like everybody knows who Tammy is now
Speaker 1: we see you all the time, and I'm sure you
Speaker 1: can't go anywhere, like life has changed so much, you
Speaker 1: know for you do you think that that was hard
Speaker 1: for him to take into. I think, uh, for like honestly,
Speaker 1: I think for a moment it was like, um yeah,
Speaker 1: because he had to share me walks a Gemini. He's
Speaker 1: like real protective. He's very old school, like keep believing.
Speaker 1: I'm laughing because we was talking about signs. You're into that, right,
Speaker 1: was looking at me like, I don't care about five
Speaker 1: date somebody based on their signs. I mean, I won't
Speaker 1: go back a lot. But you know, it's so crazy.
Speaker 1: I believe so much in the signs. Like my two
Speaker 1: exes were Geminis Gemini and her xs A Gemini. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, how does that work? To Geminis? She had
Speaker 1: twins meet Explo because I dated that. I've been in
Speaker 1: numerous long term relationships and they've all been Geminis and
Speaker 1: it's all within the week of my birthday. That's gem
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Yeah. And like my ex we were
Speaker 1: together for seven years, he's a Gemini. A guy I
Speaker 1: dated after him had the same exact birthday as me,
Speaker 1: and then I just randomly met someone that is in
Speaker 1: that same week too. So it's just like like they
Speaker 1: come to you right, like you can't like your Yeah
Speaker 1: you got ain't feeling this, dude, what's your sign? Like
Speaker 1: you like damn? Oh, like mine is damn you geminize Leo.
Speaker 1: So that's not in the world. I thought it was Capricorn.
Speaker 1: Oh no, Capricorn. Yeah, I think you heard it was
Speaker 1: Capricorn too, that we're the best. Oh yeah, no Capricorne.
Speaker 1: Is that happen? I've never heard that. Shout Jesus was
Speaker 1: a Capricorn. So you so, um Loria said she wouldn't
Speaker 1: date somebody based on their sign. I mean, I'll say
Speaker 1: it's a flag. I wouldn't say that. I'll just be like, no,
Speaker 1: never call me again. But I will always look at
Speaker 1: them like man as the Pisces, like yeah, yeah, you see.
Speaker 1: You know, it's the best sign. Yeah, they're they're super cool.
Speaker 1: They usually act like female. They lie and they lie
Speaker 1: and they lie. Gemini lie. Men of all signs like
Speaker 1: men ciod about nothing all twelve signs. Yeah, you ain't
Speaker 1: never did nothing that you had to apologize for. You
Speaker 1: won't never step out I get caught doing anything. I've
Speaker 1: never cheated. Let me say I've never cheated, but I
Speaker 1: did not with my husband, but like in the past,
Speaker 1: yeah I did. I don't think it's called cheating though.
Speaker 1: Here we go. Let's see. Okay, I was with my
Speaker 1: ex and I found out that he, you know, had
Speaker 1: a whole little situation. So I was like, okay, well
Speaker 1: you was dealing with somebody whatever. But I was talking
Speaker 1: to this guy and he was like my friend. We
Speaker 1: would like go on dates and stuff. I never slept
Speaker 1: with him or nothing, but he would just got me
Speaker 1: stuff and we was just cool. And it was just
Speaker 1: it is that cheating when I never got just as friends.
Speaker 1: It's just inappropriate. Just how I did. I knew that
Speaker 1: he was into me, but I just like, what up
Speaker 1: my nigga? Like home, yeah, yeah, we like that Gucci bag?
Speaker 1: What's good? And then man, my ex got back to
Speaker 1: other I would never forget and he um, I don't
Speaker 1: know what made this dude text this, mind you, He's
Speaker 1: never text nothing inappropriate to my phone. But as soon
Speaker 1: as I got that with my accent. Were on vacation,
Speaker 1: He's gonna say, will you gonna let me eat that?
Speaker 1: I'm like and then my ex no, I left my hap.
Speaker 1: I had nothing to hot, like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So I left my phone in the room and I
Speaker 1: was like out with my cousins. I had nothing to hot.
Speaker 1: And when I came back and he looked like a
Speaker 1: demon and the dog he was like he was from
Speaker 1: these He's like, yo, slim, I will kill you. I'm
Speaker 1: like what then? You know, when you do you think
Speaker 1: your trouble. You started thinking stuff like that, what did
Speaker 1: something I do? Like? What did I do? What did
Speaker 1: I do to like? I didn't do nothing? And then
Speaker 1: he showed me that. I was like, yo, everything my nigga.
Speaker 1: This nigga never touched me. I'm like, I'll caohol And
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, why would you text me something like that?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just felt like saying and I'm like,
Speaker 1: damneah Well, don't. Yeah, it was not the time. Did
Speaker 1: you cut him off after that or did you let
Speaker 1: him meet it next week? As soon as I get
Speaker 1: back right back, was like damn. But then when in
Speaker 1: my ex stop talking, we can't cool again. But he
Speaker 1: never eat it. Okay, that's what she told him. All
Speaker 1: that kind of turned me off, Like, dude, he was tripping, Like,
Speaker 1: don't ask me about because we asked. So is that
Speaker 1: cheating though? Letting somebody buy stuff that you know likes.
Speaker 1: You shut your ass up, because if you're do was
Speaker 1: letting a girl buy him stuff, he was buying her stuff.
Speaker 1: First of all, he was buying her stuff if he
Speaker 1: was with a guy and he was buying another chick stuff, Okay,
Speaker 1: so now you buy some stuff. That's that's worse. Guys
Speaker 1: can't do things that girls can't do, and vice versa
Speaker 1: is to catch too. Absolutely, a guy can sleep with
Speaker 1: a bunch of women and it's okay in society, and
Speaker 1: a girl can't. A girl can have sex we still
Speaker 1: and not be getting The guy can have sex with
Speaker 1: a male and he's going to be a girl can
Speaker 1: get gifts and then the girl can get gifts and
Speaker 1: then not be cheating. But a guy can't buy gifts
Speaker 1: or else is cheating? Those are the rules? You care
Speaker 1: about her because you bought hustle them. You took some
Speaker 1: money out of my pocket to say, right, we have
Speaker 1: a problem. That's problem. I have a problem, right all right?
Speaker 1: What about flirting over text? Is that cheating? Honest to god,
Speaker 1: I don't know how to flirt. People think I'm lying.
Speaker 1: I swear I don't know. Anything that you would have
Speaker 1: to hide from your significant other is cheating except for
Speaker 1: them anyway. Yeah, he want me to back not cheating.
Speaker 1: But I mean, let's say, y'all never slept together, like
Speaker 1: her situation, is that cheating? Like just flirting? What do
Speaker 1: you consider flirting? That's what I really want to know.
Speaker 1: Like I can never like I have this conversation with
Speaker 1: my friend. I've never sat there and like, oh I
Speaker 1: like him, I'm gonna flirt with him. I don't know,
Speaker 1: that's not it just seemed corn Yeah. Yeah, well if
Speaker 1: he was like you smell good, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't do ship like that. And if I do, I
Speaker 1: really don't like you'd be like, I tell you got
Speaker 1: a big dick. Print. That's just like I want. I
Speaker 1: want to print yeah, I probably can flirt in the
Speaker 1: text matches before like in like, so, let's say like
Speaker 1: one of your exits hits you up for somebody that
Speaker 1: you know you entertained a little bit but never went
Speaker 1: out with, and they were just like, oh, you look
Speaker 1: so good in that jest and you was like, oh,
Speaker 1: thank you, and you know you look really nice too.
Speaker 1: And a little bit of flirtation is that cheating? Eat
Speaker 1: if my niggy was sex and that, yeah, you cheat,
Speaker 1: and then you slutwater you should have. You're gonna get
Speaker 1: punished the same, Yeah, slptwater. But if somebody sent that
Speaker 1: to you and you would like thank you, all right,
Speaker 1: let's just say he said you look so good a
Speaker 1: fashion New York Fashion Week and you just said thank you. No,
Speaker 1: that's not fair, that's thank you. But I will say
Speaker 1: I can't see myself saying yeah, thank you, you look
Speaker 1: nice to like but not meaning it, like it's the
Speaker 1: way you said it just now, but the way he
Speaker 1: read it is thank you look nice. He looked nice too,
Speaker 1: maybe saying thank you. That's what he says, thank you.
Speaker 1: I think I don't know what I meant. Like it's
Speaker 1: like they can do something, but when you do something,
Speaker 1: it's like the world is gonna be about imagine if
Speaker 1: you girl, So we wouldn't be together if I did
Speaker 1: the things that he did. I don't think we would
Speaker 1: be together. I don't know about that though, because that's
Speaker 1: how they are, because I think guys had to act
Speaker 1: they can't take it. But they're also very competitive, and
Speaker 1: then they're not going to want to to the guy, right,
Speaker 1: And the thought of you being with the guy that
Speaker 1: was that you was sucking it is really difficult for
Speaker 1: a man. They'll get over it, trust me, they'll get
Speaker 1: over it. I don't know. I mean they will get
Speaker 1: over it. My husband, he man. And the beginning a relationship,
Speaker 1: I was dating someone we broke up for like a
Speaker 1: whole year. This way before we got married or engaged
Speaker 1: or anything, but before a whole year. And I was
Speaker 1: dating someone and we, you know, have relations and he
Speaker 1: could not let that go. He was like, I can't believe.
Speaker 1: I'm like, it was a year. I was dating this
Speaker 1: guy for a year and he's like, but you still
Speaker 1: like him touch you. I was like, what were you
Speaker 1: doing in the year you didn't have about the whole
Speaker 1: damn Milana, Like I was dating one person for a
Speaker 1: whole year, and he still couldn't get over for like
Speaker 1: three years, just like was he better than me? I
Speaker 1: think they? Of course he can't ask you that, but
Speaker 1: he thinks that in his mind where he might think, like,
Speaker 1: you know, I might lose her to him at any
Speaker 1: given times. So he's not gonna want that to happen,
Speaker 1: so get over it. But he's gonna bring it up
Speaker 1: more than, like more than a girl does. I feel
Speaker 1: like when a guy feel like he's done wrong, he
Speaker 1: definitely brings it up way more than we would bring
Speaker 1: it up, you know what I mean. It's like so
Speaker 1: hard for them to let it go because it's an
Speaker 1: ego thing and with us we're like really oh emotions
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. They don't think about it like that.
Speaker 1: They're like, that's mother about to take my bitch, and
Speaker 1: now I'm looking stupid. That's the day. You know, in
Speaker 1: relationships is givers and takers, right when in the bedroom,
Speaker 1: I'm a taker and I'm joking and taking what you
Speaker 1: mean about giving a taker? So there's people that do more, like,
Speaker 1: for instance, you might be more active in the bedroom,
Speaker 1: get on top righting suckers, Dick do all of that.
Speaker 1: But then there's people that it's more takers that you
Speaker 1: might be more like he does all of that for you.
Speaker 1: Usually somebody is more giving and somebody's more taking. What
Speaker 1: are you, Angela? I'm more of a giver of giving
Speaker 1: the I knew Litten, so be it. I'm a giver.
Speaker 1: I want you to fucking I do everything. So you
Speaker 1: come on your aggressive like come here, because I wouldn't
Speaker 1: say that I'm aggressive, but I will say that like
Speaker 1: I put in work, Okay, put him in the dirt, Tammy.
Speaker 1: Are you a giver or a taker? I would say
Speaker 1: I'm more submitted. I'm more submitsive. So you're a taker. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take her. I mean, but I have my
Speaker 1: moments and if I will take, if I have to back,
Speaker 1: I'm more like, you know, I'm a leo. We like
Speaker 1: to be, you know, pampered. Yeah, we like k Yeah,
Speaker 1: I like to be. I like to be. I'd rather
Speaker 1: you chase me around the room. Okay. What is the
Speaker 1: craziest thing that you feel like you've done in the
Speaker 1: bedroom that you like? Damn, I never thought I would
Speaker 1: do this. Oh my god. Um, she's like I knew
Speaker 1: you was at home. She says, she's curious. Everybody, don't
Speaker 1: forget that. No, I haven't done that yet. Curious. Okay,
Speaker 1: let me find out somebody's getting at three soome. You
Speaker 1: would yes, she's gonna say, okay, No, that was like
Speaker 1: he's gonna put that in my mouth. Put in her
Speaker 1: mouth was like, at least in her mouth. I think
Speaker 1: it would be more so if it was the situation
Speaker 1: like that, he would just wore so probably watch okay
Speaker 1: because she's like, you know better what happened last. But
Speaker 1: he's somebody I don't even think he could do that.
Speaker 1: My husband is so like my my, my mind that
Speaker 1: he wouldn't like no, he'd be like, you didn't come
Speaker 1: like that for me? Yeah, right, Yeah, he's that type.
Speaker 1: They'd be like, oh no, he's been punched on the
Speaker 1: back of her head. Now he's got charge and you
Speaker 1: try to get him a gift. I was playing, get
Speaker 1: you really gonna go? But it is the craziest thing
Speaker 1: that you're like, damn, I can't believe I did this. Um,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean I've done all the things
Speaker 1: that actually doing stuff for the butt thing I've done.
Speaker 1: You've never done an hell no, but you have the
Speaker 1: perfect but for it the perfect but perfect. But no,
Speaker 1: I can't do anything, guys said a perfectly all that.
Speaker 1: You know, I've done it a few times, a few times,
Speaker 1: but I don't know a few times. But I don't
Speaker 1: love it. I mean it felt a few times. You
Speaker 1: had to like it, You're gonna tell you, because it
Speaker 1: does feel really good. It's just to get to them,
Speaker 1: you gotta get past like I can't get to the pleasure.
Speaker 1: You gotta be drunk as fuck, like so you you're
Speaker 1: down with it. I mean, I've done it. I'll do
Speaker 1: it again. I can't because I haven't had ant sex
Speaker 1: in a really long time, but I have done it.
Speaker 1: And you it's hurt at first, yeah, getting through that,
Speaker 1: and then once you get past the pain, it's like
Speaker 1: when you let that wall down that takes it takes
Speaker 1: a lot to get I tried it. I tried it,
Speaker 1: and let me tell you something. That ship was two painful.
Speaker 1: I couldn't do it. I couldn't relax. And then when
Speaker 1: I went to take a ship, it hurt first of all,
Speaker 1: don't talk about sex. And then shipped right after, like
Speaker 1: and it makes you have to ship, yeah, because it's
Speaker 1: just like, let's say you have a baby, right, and
Speaker 1: your baby is constipated, and you gotta stick your finger
Speaker 1: in there back. So imagine you're grown baby and somebody
Speaker 1: sticking up big old So you never had a finger after.
Speaker 1: I mean that's yeah, I mean, that's that's like natural.
Speaker 1: But see see how it feels after it gets a
Speaker 1: little comforting. No, I mean that is cool, that's like okay,
Speaker 1: let's just say hypothetically a thumb like like future said, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's experience. That's cool. But something like this in your asshole,
Speaker 1: I couldn't tell me. Just get some just and next
Speaker 1: time when you come back, let us know. What happened.
Speaker 1: Is one day we were you know, having you know,
Speaker 1: slipped and I should worried to the top of my
Speaker 1: long and I just she just was and that I
Speaker 1: laid it in the fetal position and it's ruining me
Speaker 1: for the rest of my girl. That's the worst you
Speaker 1: got to be mortally that that whoops. It was like yeah,
Speaker 1: and then he gonna say, can we finish? I was
Speaker 1: like it heard it so, but I like said that
Speaker 1: you could not You can't know you should have been
Speaker 1: like my turn again, game over? No, Well tell me,
Speaker 1: I know you got a lot going on because it
Speaker 1: is fashion me. But we do so much appreciate you
Speaker 1: for coming to and we love hearing you saying girl,
Speaker 1: oh yo, thank you. I'm not gonna lie because at
Speaker 1: first I was like, really really good. I just saying
Speaker 1: since I was a kid and just people just never knew,
Speaker 1: like my family and my close friends every time they
Speaker 1: saw me, like why you're not saying on why are
Speaker 1: you saying that? You know, you know you had a
Speaker 1: real talent that you keep hating. And I'm like, it's
Speaker 1: just I'm just you know, I'm good, But I just like,
Speaker 1: I think what kept me from doing it for so
Speaker 1: long it is worried about people's opinions. I'm thirty one
Speaker 1: years old, and I really don't get a funk when
Speaker 1: nobody said, but you did get a great response. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's I mean it went gold already. Yeah. And it's like,
Speaker 1: I mean it's over how many downloads you got the statistics?
Speaker 1: She's like, yeah, it's like it's doing amazing. It's caught
Speaker 1: legs and it's like moving extremely well. So and who
Speaker 1: said you've been in the studio with Rico Love. Yes.
Speaker 1: He executive produced the whole EP. That's incredible just playing around,
Speaker 1: messing in the studio with nobody. He's like serious like that,
Speaker 1: that's you don't have time. Yeah, I just know he
Speaker 1: had some female artist that you know, might have just
Speaker 1: got rid of. Not just but you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: He don't play. No, he's very straightfor's. He's such an
Speaker 1: artist and he has so much creativity that like you
Speaker 1: literally can just sit in the room and how we
Speaker 1: having this conversation. I swear to god, here write twenty
Speaker 1: songs like that. Did he come to you or did
Speaker 1: you go to him? Like I want to work with him.
Speaker 1: I actually know his wife, Robin, so um I called
Speaker 1: her and I was like, she's from Baltimore. So I
Speaker 1: was like hey what, I'm like, you know, you know
Speaker 1: we're both from Baltimore because I was in the house
Speaker 1: but saying here, but she ain't it, like yo, I
Speaker 1: want to work with you know your husband? And so
Speaker 1: she was like, um, she was like girl, what you
Speaker 1: wanted to She's like you sing? And I was like yeah.
Speaker 1: So she was like I'm gonna ask Rico but I
Speaker 1: don't know. So I was like all right, so I'm
Speaker 1: gonna see your video and I get home so I
Speaker 1: see her a video singing um in Vogue the remake
Speaker 1: for Michael Jackson and yeah, hold no, yeah that one
Speaker 1: and wait it it was hold on okay, singing it together. Okay.
Speaker 1: Next she send it to him and she called back
Speaker 1: and he was like yeah. He was like, yeah, she's serious.
Speaker 1: I saw, I just booked it everything, and I went
Speaker 1: in and I didn't walk it ain't no damn and
Speaker 1: no ide. I just went and did it, saying how
Speaker 1: did you keep that from him? I was just like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna because you know, I've been I do a
Speaker 1: lot of stuff, like my swim suits, I do all
Speaker 1: my outsoldes. I designed all my pieces, so I go
Speaker 1: and pick out my materials and all that stuff. I
Speaker 1: was just like, I don't gonna take it some business
Speaker 1: from um, you know, for Ti Rivera. But I just say,
Speaker 1: what you damn he was doing that. You couldn't been
Speaker 1: doing anything. But then when I got in there and
Speaker 1: I was like I faced time with him, I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: let's guess what, man, man you know the studio He
Speaker 1: was like what, ain't like? Weally, like, bitch, why were
Speaker 1: the studio where? I was like, where we going? He's like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's my brother, Like would like I'm cool with that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like you do some music and I'm like yeah, like
Speaker 1: hell no, and I'm like I'm serious. So when I
Speaker 1: sent it to him, he was like what the funk? Like,
Speaker 1: but he knew you sing. He didn't know I really sing.
Speaker 1: He didn't know that, Czy, how did you keep that
Speaker 1: from him? He knew, you know, like all I could
Speaker 1: saying oh, he's probably just saying in church choir. He
Speaker 1: just thought that he never really heard me sing. So
Speaker 1: when he actually heard it, he was like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: like like I never would just like say, I kept
Speaker 1: it hitting for like the first three years because I
Speaker 1: don't want to. I think I was trying to have
Speaker 1: a come up off his career and trying to be
Speaker 1: a singer. So I was like, like, I need you
Speaker 1: on the remix. Yeah you know what I'm saying. He
Speaker 1: asked him to get on the song or something. No,
Speaker 1: He's like, it's so funny because one of the songs
Speaker 1: that we had doing song Enrico singing one person, it
Speaker 1: was that supposed to be my part. So are you
Speaker 1: writing stuff like about your relationship and all of that?
Speaker 1: That whole EP is based off my relationship. I was
Speaker 1: about to say it has a real the song has
Speaker 1: a real like nineties R and B love song feel
Speaker 1: to it, and I love that thank you the whole ep.
Speaker 1: And then when I sat on one am, I told
Speaker 1: him that's the feel I was going for. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: exactly what I felt from it. He felt about that though,
Speaker 1: like your relationship, like you know, you're putting out your
Speaker 1: feelings and stuff on your relationship. He actually cool with
Speaker 1: and he's like, um when he heard the I mean,
Speaker 1: it's some songs that he didn't like. I had this
Speaker 1: one song called only One, and it's like pretty much
Speaker 1: like you ain't the only one whould turn your phone off, nigger,
Speaker 1: I can do it. Yeah, He's like that's You're like, baby,
Speaker 1: these are old experiences. Yeah, you know, but I'm sure
Speaker 1: as an artist he didn't appreciate your creative release. He do.
Speaker 1: He and the emotion of what you guys went through
Speaker 1: versus you wanting to come up. You know, you could
Speaker 1: you could have released that anger or create you know,
Speaker 1: you could have released those emotions on on so many
Speaker 1: different levels. But the fact that you took it to
Speaker 1: talent and with him being an artist, I'm sure he
Speaker 1: can appreciate that. He do. He was like, he's like
Speaker 1: he's so supportive, Like he's more excited about my project
Speaker 1: than he is his own, and that's and that's crazy.
Speaker 1: But he's like super supportive. And you know that, Like
Speaker 1: even when we went through our separation, like I ain't
Speaker 1: gonna still let nobody talk about you go crazy my
Speaker 1: ep I talk about all that, like because most time
Speaker 1: people think that you you're so bid even when you're bitter,
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes you want to get back with you like, oh,
Speaker 1: I can't do that to them be a home. You know.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I can't do that. I don't
Speaker 1: want to say this, so you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: but you just you like, I gotta respect myself even
Speaker 1: I want to get back at you or do something
Speaker 1: to hurt you, I'm too much of a woman to
Speaker 1: do that. And you know that's not true because I
Speaker 1: see a lot of people go through these public breakups,
Speaker 1: right and then they dating somebody else like two days later.
Speaker 1: And I feel like it's like, even if you do
Speaker 1: talk to other people, just keep it low. You don't
Speaker 1: have to let the whole world like see that, especially
Speaker 1: because it's very fragile at that time. I just feel
Speaker 1: like and sometimes you do things like as revenge because
Speaker 1: I feel like when people do that, they want the
Speaker 1: other person to be mad. Like I'm doing this because
Speaker 1: I'm trying to show you this because I want you
Speaker 1: to feel like, oh man, I messed up. I want
Speaker 1: to if I want to hurt you back, I want
Speaker 1: to get you back some type of way. I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: like I'm trying to tell you that's what. Didn't you
Speaker 1: just think about you like, damn the how is that
Speaker 1: gonna make me look? Or how my daughter gonna feel
Speaker 1: about that? Or you get what I'm like, you end
Speaker 1: up hurting yourself and then you just look crazy. It's
Speaker 1: a lot of uh we call celebrities or people who
Speaker 1: are in the public figures who you see them in
Speaker 1: a relationship laship relation, They're just like I don't care,
Speaker 1: Like I mean, I get the attitude too. But it
Speaker 1: could work for them, but I think that, yeah, it
Speaker 1: could also backfire. Do you remember the first time that
Speaker 1: you guys had sex and you didn't have your walls
Speaker 1: up anymore? Like when you finally were like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: hope she still has her walls none oh, but I mean,
Speaker 1: like I got when you're right from that cam back
Speaker 1: came to okay, we're back now. You know what's so
Speaker 1: crazy because sex is sex. So even when I did,
Speaker 1: I can get in that and then and then turn
Speaker 1: around just get back on my phone like like you
Speaker 1: see who d M man Like, yeah, I got it
Speaker 1: back coming baby, let's cut a court a right, you
Speaker 1: did your job work. I'm good. So what about being
Speaker 1: in the studio? Is there like anybody that do you
Speaker 1: have to think, like, Okay, I'm going in the studio
Speaker 1: with this artist, with this artist, do you have to
Speaker 1: be cautious about like who am I going to work with?
Speaker 1: Because I don't want him to see me in the
Speaker 1: studio with this person. Tell your girl or anybody like that.
Speaker 1: I'm just study. I mean, I think when it comes
Speaker 1: to rappers, but I wouldn't probably be working with a
Speaker 1: lot of rappers. And sure, no, I said, maybe in
Speaker 1: the future, I like you already mentioned, but oh my god,
Speaker 1: you know, in the future, maybe I can be working
Speaker 1: with some rappers. But no, I don't really the type
Speaker 1: of R and B I want to do, Like I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, the type of music I want to do.
Speaker 1: I want to just do like real army. If you
Speaker 1: look at my oh my playlist, it's so old school,
Speaker 1: like all old school music, like you know, so that's
Speaker 1: what I like. But I'm respectable, I feel because it's
Speaker 1: certain people that I don't want you to work well.
Speaker 1: I don't want you to do certain things like I've
Speaker 1: been not see you host the party or LOLLI lotly
Speaker 1: on on Instagram inst the snap with somebody from love
Speaker 1: and hip hop that I don't know nigger like what No,
Speaker 1: so yeah, so it's just like it's perspecting. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, right, I'm I would never or I
Speaker 1: would come to him and say maybe how would you
Speaker 1: feel about and I would probably let him, uh contact
Speaker 1: that person as opposed to be trying to go to them.
Speaker 1: Can it come to the studio too, No, I don't
Speaker 1: want him there. I don't like tell them to be
Speaker 1: in my sick because creatively it like messes me up,
Speaker 1: like he blocks me. He'd probably be making you laugh.
Speaker 1: I don't get Yeah, I don't get serious from him
Speaker 1: or getting super easy that eye laughing or I'm super
Speaker 1: nervous when he's in the wrong. Yeah on him around
Speaker 1: how much this ep? Has done so far, the whole EPs.
Speaker 1: It's done. It's absolutely done. So when is it coming out?
Speaker 1: We're working on the release date now. We just make it,
Speaker 1: trying to make sure that it is roll without the
Speaker 1: the right way. I'm not gonna just throw and Kisses
Speaker 1: are still moving so good so at that I haven't
Speaker 1: never listened the video. I done. I'm done with the
Speaker 1: video for Kisses and I haven't released it yet, but
Speaker 1: I'm about to release that at least at the end
Speaker 1: of the month and then let that keep moving and then,
Speaker 1: you know, just make sure I do it the right way.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna just drop out. I want to make
Speaker 1: sure that I'm serious and that people take me serious
Speaker 1: as an artist before even just every move I make.
Speaker 1: You know, right, what if one of his boys try
Speaker 1: to highlight at you, like while y'all was on your break,
Speaker 1: would you tell him I have they have been there
Speaker 1: have been something I would sat homeboy, but nigas that
Speaker 1: I've seen him be cool with associates and that you yeah,
Speaker 1: and I have like they have like hit me in
Speaker 1: my d M and I have screenshot like while we
Speaker 1: weren't talking, I have screenshot it and sitting it to
Speaker 1: him like don't you know him? And he'd be like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I know nigga, and I'm like, yeah, what he just
Speaker 1: tried to talk to me, you know, don't like nigga
Speaker 1: like I was like I would, but I would do
Speaker 1: that because I'm like, at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: think you. I swear, I like, even I don't like you, nigga,
Speaker 1: but this nigga trying to talk to me, and I
Speaker 1: would do that because regardless if we ever together, I
Speaker 1: love that man, and you can't when you love somebody,
Speaker 1: you can't take that back. And if I wasn't with
Speaker 1: him and he run a nigga that I know don't
Speaker 1: have his best interest and something happened to him and
Speaker 1: I didn't tell him like oh this this dude wasn't
Speaker 1: really cool with you, then I'm I'm gonna take that
Speaker 1: weight on me, you know what I'm saying. So how
Speaker 1: to he react? Does that make him just cut that
Speaker 1: person off? Yeah? Oh he just know how to move
Speaker 1: when some people you just gotta know how to move with.
Speaker 1: It didn't even like a personal like, man, you aren't friends,
Speaker 1: I don't talk to you every day. So if someone
Speaker 1: told me some about Angela, oh, she did something like this.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, cool, I'm not glad. Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be your asked when I see you unless she
Speaker 1: was too disrespectful, but I'll probably just know how to
Speaker 1: move with you. Here, sh he wasna front harding and
Speaker 1: we can tell you know, but you give him saying that,
Speaker 1: I just don't know how to carry it with you.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be too friendly. I would you meet shady
Speaker 1: And as soon as you say something, I'm gonna let
Speaker 1: your ask know what I know. But just tell y'all
Speaker 1: know we goold, ain't nothing? And what's the name of
Speaker 1: the EP? I haven't decided a name yet. Maybe you
Speaker 1: can't help me taker because you're a taker about Dick
Speaker 1: since you say that everywhere everywhere big hut. Yeah, like
Speaker 1: that you know something I don't know. I haven't thought.
Speaker 1: I think I'm rediculous with big scary bold type. I've
Speaker 1: been trying to stuff that's like, I mean, thinking too
Speaker 1: deep about the time, no slip up? Yeah, alright, curious ship, curious, curious.
Speaker 1: This album is not about me. We like that. How
Speaker 1: about you can watch ya petty? Alright, well, listen makes
Speaker 1: you y'all hit her up? And let her know what
Speaker 1: you think. We're gonna come up with some more names, though,
Speaker 1: I'm exciting for yes. But congratulations, Tammy, thank you so much,
Speaker 1: and I'm thank you all for having me Tammy Beary
Speaker 1: lip service