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Speaker 1: iHeartRadio and People's Choice Award nominated podcast.

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Speaker 2: You know, it never gets old for us to hear that.

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Speaker 2: But we have a special guest in the building. Yes

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Speaker 2: we have Debbie Ryan.

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Speaker 1: I personally nominated them for the People's Choice. I was

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Speaker 3: I've been trying to figure out who who that's me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they changed her from Debbie's Choice to I just

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Speaker 2: Did you get excited to hear that on the intro

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Speaker 1: I got very excited and he's telling me like kind

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Speaker 4: Okay, well we should actually set up how this happened

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Speaker 4: because Debbie Ryan was in Vegas with us for the

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Speaker 3: Festival and she was like, oh my gosh.

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Speaker 4: I love the podcast, and so I said, we'd love

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Speaker 4: to have you scrub in. And look, I mean, Debbie

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Speaker 4: Ryan is a woman of her word because she is here.

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Speaker 1: We're doers people.

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Speaker 2: You know a lot of people, especially in LA it's

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Speaker 2: always like let's get together, let's hang out, and it

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Speaker 2: never happens. So to say, like I want to come

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Speaker 2: of weeks later, it means a lot, it does, you know.

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Speaker 1: What, I'm a follow through and listen. I'm definitely weekly

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Speaker 1: subscribed to the Like yeah, no, like for sure, let's

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Speaker 1: he goes, I don't have your number, and I go

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Speaker 1: all right then and then wow, and my friend was like, dude,

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Speaker 3: Can I tell you that you are pretty savage? Because

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Speaker 3: But Debbie was like get her number, dude, or like

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Speaker 2: Everyone's been saying.

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Speaker 1: I mean in general, like when someone's like, all right,

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Speaker 2: Modern, modern one that might be the new tagline. I'm

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Speaker 1: You don't know your value. Like, that's the thing that

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Speaker 1: So like if you set the standard and you're like, no,

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Speaker 3: It's so true. You're your longest relationship. Oh oh girl,

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Speaker 3: Oh wow wow, Zingers today comes at us.

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Speaker 2: I'm have to come in with a like a banger

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Speaker 1: Like we're playing quick Flash Fast.

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Speaker 2: We had a lot of requests to have you on

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Speaker 1: See I wonder who.

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Speaker 3: You're a wanted woman?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean clearly you guys on my Facebook comments,

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Speaker 4: No, I will never forget. So the first time we

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Speaker 3: I've been watching them too.

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Speaker 2: This is a thing I am stalking. Yeah, but it's

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was like fond memories. So yeah, I kind

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Speaker 2: Like, unless it was like a horrible breakup, I guess

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Speaker 2: I think it's nice to have those memories at some point,

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 1: It just points to a lot of like the person,

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Speaker 1: I hope you're ready for the harmony hitch match now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, now you know what to come in with. What

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Speaker 3: Him, and distance makes the heart grow fonder.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's hard though, And I think that I think

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Speaker 1: record like cruising around town and although you know it's

442
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Speaker 1: just free candy on the side till we met no, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so like it was, uh, it was kind of less.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: Now they have like built this really cool thing to

446
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Speaker 1: the point where he has a bit more freedom and

447
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Speaker 1: play as far as off days. But in that when

448
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Speaker 1: it's just like four guys and a thing like you

449
00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:36,920
Speaker 1: can't even really take phone calls without three other guys,

450
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Speaker 1: like roasted, it was like we were kind of just yeah,

451
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Speaker 1: it was we would try and not go more than

452
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Speaker 1: four to six weeks, and so sometimes it would be

453
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Speaker 1: like two days and then three weeks apart, and then

454
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Speaker 1: four days and then six weeks apart or whatever. I

455
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Speaker 1: don't think we've ever done yeah, but now we try.

456
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Speaker 1: And when I was in Atlanta, he came on average

457
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Speaker 1: like once a month with our puppy.

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Speaker 3: Oh Jim, do you tell people like does he have

459
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Speaker 3: a name? Or do you keep it private?

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Speaker 1: People know? Okay, people know. I try not to like

461
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Speaker 1: aggressively lean on it because it's like the only thing

462
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Speaker 1: I have that time, and.

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Speaker 3: That's totally fine, but a thing that I want.

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Speaker 4: I do want you to talk about it, because I

465
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Speaker 4: mean we obviously talk about our journey through like love

466
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Speaker 4: lives and our.

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Speaker 3: You know, my fumble through it.

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Speaker 4: But to give people some encouragement on just like how

469
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Speaker 4: you guys met, because there's people everyone thinks like I

470
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Speaker 4: have to meet beyond the dating apps and I have

471
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Speaker 4: to you know, do all these things.

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Speaker 3: But it was really like organic for you guys.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we met through like a work situation kind of

474
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Speaker 1: and then common friends and it was just by nature

475
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Speaker 1: of it not romantic at all.

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Speaker 3: You started off as friends and then you hold a relationship.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and literally like one time. He and my buddy

478
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Speaker 1: who was kind of like driving at Mark who's like

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Speaker 1: the creative director for his band in my just a

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Speaker 1: legend and such a genius. And Mark was the one

481
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Speaker 1: that I was closest to because he does the thing

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Speaker 1: that is most like my industry. So I would be like,

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Speaker 1: if you want to see a multi cam set, come

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Speaker 1: and visit, and you know, he would be like, what

485
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Speaker 1: do you think about this edit? And so we kind

486
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Speaker 1: of just bonded and I was like, come visit, said

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Speaker 1: a Jesse. He was like, we just flew in. Can

488
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Speaker 1: I bring Josh? And I was like yeah, like I

489
00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:21,960
Speaker 1: had met him Coursemonder with then like once t times before,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, yeah, yeah, of course, like whatever, whatever,

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Speaker 1: We'll get you here to come visit. When they came in,

492
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:32,320
Speaker 1: it was like hey, hi, and I was like I've

493
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Speaker 1: known you do I like you do. I have a

494
00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:37,639
Speaker 1: crush on and we like talked about eight liens and

495
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Speaker 1: the X files for whatever, and he left and I

496
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Speaker 1: was like, why do I Why do I want Josh

497
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Speaker 1: to text me? Why am I waiting for him to textit? Yeah,

498
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Speaker 1: it was so funny. It's funny, like the second's shifts

499
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Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, wait, you're a person, You're a

500
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Speaker 1: datable person. Like he literally like I think he had

501
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Speaker 1: the exact same moment with me. He was like, I

502
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Speaker 1: don't know who's this girl, Like just some la girl

503
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Speaker 1: doing like acting, and then he was like, oh, a dater.

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Speaker 2: So how long have you all been together?

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Speaker 1: You know, we were it's kind of been the majority

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Speaker 1: of five years. Wow. Some of it was more public

507
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Speaker 1: than others. There's like moments where we like went our

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Speaker 1: separate ways in order to kind of like work on

509
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:23,000
Speaker 1: our things, and uh, when we reconnected, we were really

510
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Speaker 1: intentional to do so extremely privately. And then his fans

511
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Speaker 1: and listeners are really smart and intuitive and they pay attention,

512
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Speaker 1: and so they were like, don't lie to us. Like

513
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Speaker 1: years ago, like three years ago or four years ago,

514
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Speaker 1: we're like, don't lie to us. Someone in at leant,

515
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Speaker 1: like Nebraska saw a photo of the back of someone's

516
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Speaker 1: head and the background was and like I was just

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Speaker 1: like all right. So it kind of like it became

518
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Speaker 1: a thing where we were like, well, I guess we're

519
00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:49,359
Speaker 1: not gonna lie or hide, but totally we're just not

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Speaker 1: gonna kind of like.

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Speaker 3: Yeah income us when we're like everything.

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Speaker 1: But I was nineteen when I met him. You know,

523
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Speaker 1: that moment happened on the set and then he was like,

524
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go play some festivals. Who's playing like daytime

525
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 1: stages in the back of south By or something. And

526
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Speaker 1: he's like, I'm coming back in a couple of months.

527
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Speaker 1: I don't want to take you on a date. Came

528
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Speaker 1: he took me on a date and adopted me a kitten.

529
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Speaker 1: Maybe not even in that order. It happened fast.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's encouraging for people to hear that,

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Speaker 4: you know what I mean, Like you might be listening

532
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Speaker 4: and you might already know the guy that you could

533
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Speaker 4: end up totally and the m I just click one.

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Speaker 5: I read to stay out on that. What's your hit

535
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Speaker 5: twenty five? You've already met the person you're going to

536
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Speaker 5: spend your life with.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there's actually Yeah, it's like a proven statistic that

538
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Speaker 4: you've already met the person that you're going to spend

539
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Speaker 4: the rest of your life with.

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Speaker 2: Is that because people No, I'm not saying you, but

541
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Speaker 2: is that because people get I don't want to say desperate,

542
00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:43,680
Speaker 2: but they're like, well, let's see, I'm not meeting anyone new,

543
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Speaker 2: Like let's see who I got.

544
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Speaker 1: Maybe then you've just locked in your life.

545
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Speaker 3: But it's such a pessimistic way.

546
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Speaker 2: Okay, that is not I just meant like, see, I

547
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Speaker 2: didn't mean to say desperate. I meant to say, do

548
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Speaker 2: people just start thinking more like, oh, could I be

549
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Speaker 2: romantically with someone that I already have a comfort relationship with.

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Speaker 4: I think it's more of like, you meet people and

551
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Speaker 4: you maybe not be at you might not at the

552
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Speaker 2: What YE meant like, Sorry, I went about that the

554
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Speaker 2: wrong way. I just meant like, if timing wasn't the best,

555
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Speaker 2: And as you get older, you start thinking like, maybe

556
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Speaker 2: there was someone in the past there wasn't the right time,

557
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:20,040
Speaker 2: but maybe if we reconnected now it'd be there totally.

558
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Speaker 3: Or you start dating all these yahoos and you're like, well,

559
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna get back. We gotta get back, but it

560
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Speaker 2: We gotta get to your recent uh date date. But

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Speaker 2: first you have a cat, yes, and you have a dog?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 5: I do?

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Speaker 5: So Tanya had a date on Friday night.

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Speaker 3: Oh scary, Yeah, I did.

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Speaker 2: So.

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Speaker 4: It was It's somebody that I went to college with,

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Speaker 3: He said, you want to get happy Hour tonight? And

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Speaker 3: I said sure, which is so not like me because

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Speaker 3: I always am like, you need to ask me out

653
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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's Friday night, you always.

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Speaker 4: And I always stay in and I cleaned my makeup brushes.

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Speaker 4: Friday Night's not my night.

657
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Speaker 5: To go out like night.

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Speaker 2: Every Friday, Yeah, because.

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Speaker 3: You're supposed to clean them like every other day.

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Speaker 4: So I give myself like one day a week that

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Speaker 4: from the week and I'm not my best self. So

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Speaker 4: I kind of just have made that, Like, you know,

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Speaker 4: Devie's face when I said that was like she was

665
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Speaker 4: kind of embarrassed for me.

666
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Speaker 1: I was embarrassed for the fact that it's been two

667
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 1: and a half years and I've cleaned him once, Like, well,

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Speaker 1: I'm discussing so much bacteria on your brushes I know,

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Speaker 1: but to be fair, I don't really use brushes. I

670
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Speaker 1: use my fingertips because of the warmth that like melts

671
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Speaker 1: the makeups.

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Speaker 5: You know, was the last time you cleaned your fingertips?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:12,520
Speaker 1: Twice a week Fridays. But I do. I do have

675
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:15,920
Speaker 1: like extra white pillowcases, and I use a different wash

676
00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:18,280
Speaker 1: clots room and my makeup every day. Use Like I

677
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 1: have like a Costco wash closs and Costco pillowcase and

678
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 1: I flip them over. So I'm like very aware of

679
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 1: like the skincare of it all, but just makeup. That's

680
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 1: makeup brushes. I don't prioritize. Yeah, you've tasked to me.

681
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm thinking I need to carve out some time

682
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 2: in my life because I gotta go. I'll not.

683
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:37,600
Speaker 7: Wait.

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Speaker 3: How was your It was actually really good.

685
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,840
Speaker 4: Like I had no expectation going in because I was like,

686
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 4: it's a Friday night and it was like last minute

687
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:47,600
Speaker 4: and you know whatever. I had made plans that night

688
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 4: to spend time with some of my friends, so I

689
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 4: was like, I'll just go grab a quick drink for

690
00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:53,560
Speaker 4: like an hour and a half or whatever, then I'll

691
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Speaker 4: meet my friends after.

692
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Speaker 1: And was it like somewhere near your place.

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00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it was great. I ended up not meeting

694
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Speaker 3: my friends.

695
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 2: After because you were it lasted longer.

696
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, and they were actually super cool about it.

697
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:07,560
Speaker 4: Was Melaniki and they were like yeah, They're like, if

698
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:09,160
Speaker 4: you're having fun, do not worry about us.

699
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 3: And I was like, okay, so yeah it's good.

700
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Have you all made plans?

702
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 3: No plans?

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00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:18,880
Speaker 1: Did he text you? Did he walk you home?

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00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 6: Like?

705
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 1: Was how did things conclude? In like a gorgeous way

706
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:23,240
Speaker 1: that left you want to.

707
00:30:25,120 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 6: No?

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00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 3: Kiss?

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00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: Good? Really? You like that?

710
00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 3: Not on a first date?

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00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:31,840
Speaker 1: Really? See?

712
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:33,880
Speaker 3: Okay? I used to always go in for.

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Speaker 4: The kiss on the first date because I'm like, you

714
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:37,960
Speaker 4: can tell chemistry by like a kiss, So I always

715
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 4: would try and seal the first date with a kiss. Interesting,

716
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 4: and it hasn't happened for me in a long time,

717
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Speaker 4: And I'm like, is this the universe telling me I

718
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 4: need to slow my role?

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Speaker 1: I think like there's there's something to be said for obviously,

720
00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:53,920
Speaker 1: like you can feel, you can feel if you want

721
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 1: to kiss someone, you know that you want to write

722
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 1: someone someone wants to kiss you, you know that they

723
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 1: want to kiss, and if they go to kiss you,

724
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:06,239
Speaker 1: like definitely don't swerve. Yeah, sorry, don't kiss the first day.

725
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 1: It's the first day. But now I think like it

726
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 1: it actually like allows it to not be like clouded

727
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: by a physical attraction for you to be like, am

728
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:20,000
Speaker 1: I just like hiding behind this this like easy kind

729
00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 1: of physical turn key dynamic which is just like a

730
00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 1: smoke screen of maybe we don't actually have conversational chemistry

731
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 1: or we're not on the same page with our goals.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, I feel like, you know, if

733
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Speaker 2: you have chemistry just like as with another person specifically

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00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 2: by conversation, right, And I true think that that is

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00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 2: like really important.

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Speaker 1: Hydrated it looked like I was dreaming more than I

737
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:51,880
Speaker 1: was because it's a tiny bottle that was quickly.

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Speaker 2: I heard it before I saw it.

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00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 1: I was like, what Sho's been doing that for forty

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Speaker 1: five Yeah, okay, I'm feeling a little under the weather

741
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:06,400
Speaker 1: and I'm just trying to do right by all of that.

742
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, thank you, I'm glad. I was like, good

743
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 2: home girl is getting it.

744
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: Over there, happy immediately that the selenite is taking all

745
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 1: the negative energy. Oh, thank you for your selenite tower.

746
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you for like just appreciating.

747
00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:28,600
Speaker 1: That I felt it before I saw it. Is a

748
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Speaker 1: little bit at.

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Speaker 2: That was funny, well playing. I respect it.

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00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 1: It is inspired.

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00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:48,240
Speaker 3: Wow, that made me happy. That made me really hard.

752
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 1: Are your pants and felt?

753
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 2: No?

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00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:55,040
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, it's like my favorite like leisure. Is your

755
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:55,680
Speaker 1: shirt that too?

756
00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 3: Yeah? It is their magic.

757
00:32:56,840 --> 00:32:58,080
Speaker 1: I've never seen the one with the strivers.

758
00:32:58,200 --> 00:32:58,720
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

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00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 1: For those of you who can't see, Tanya is wearing

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00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 1: a black frayed edge hoodie. It's a little off the

761
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Speaker 1: shoulder with a wild kind of loose Kelly's next step

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Speaker 1: up a drop shoulder to white stripes on the side

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00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:15,600
Speaker 1: and Adidas homage but updated a beautifully hanging track pant.

764
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Speaker 3: We'll take a really cute photo.

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00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 2: And post that a beautifully hanging track pant, you.

766
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:22,400
Speaker 3: Know, and like can deby come back every week?

767
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 2: Like scrubbing tany're at and wie Rye flows off the top.

768
00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 4: But I do have to tell you guys about something

769
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,960
Speaker 4: super crazy that happened this week. So I'm not gonna

770
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 4: say who this was about. This is about some guy

771
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:43,000
Speaker 4: that I've had in my zeitgeist. Okay, I had a girl.

772
00:33:43,360 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 4: This is like our our scrubbing in family is so

773
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 4: like connected and deep and to me, it feels like

774
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 4: like I'm back in like my sorority days, where like

775
00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:53,240
Speaker 4: the girls like have my back and they like, do

776
00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 4: you know what I mean? Like it's not mean girls,

777
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:57,280
Speaker 4: it's like everyone has each other's.

778
00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:58,640
Speaker 1: Back, the girl friendships.

779
00:33:58,640 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 3: I know.

780
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,840
Speaker 4: Yes, she reached out to me and was like told

781
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,239
Speaker 4: me that she's like, I don't know you at all.

782
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 4: I listened to the podcast, so I feel like I

783
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:08,879
Speaker 4: know you. This guy is not your dude and said

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00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 4: x y Z why. She's like, I'm not a weirdo.

785
00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:13,880
Speaker 4: I'm not like just trying to like does she know

786
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:16,840
Speaker 4: him personally? Yes, and she goes, I'm not trying to

787
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:18,600
Speaker 4: like do anything. She's like, I have an amazing boyfriend.

788
00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 4: But so I totally stalked her and her boyfriend. They're

789
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:22,640
Speaker 4: super cute and it looks like I would totally be

790
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 4: friends with her, Like she just seems super cute, and

791
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 4: I thought it was so cool that like this stranger

792
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:30,120
Speaker 4: and she just totally had my back. She's like, I

793
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 4: just know who you are and what you want and

794
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 4: that's not.

795
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 3: What you want. Yes, community of women they have like

796
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 3: helping me, you.

797
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 1: Know what I mean?

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00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 3: And it wasn't out of any malice or any like

799
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 3: you know, like oh I want the guy something.

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00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:44,400
Speaker 2: You know.

801
00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:48,440
Speaker 3: It was all pure intentioned and it made me so happy.

802
00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 6: And also you know who they are, and it also

803
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 6: validated what you already knew exactly and what.

804
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:55,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wasn't like so far off that I was

805
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:58,320
Speaker 3: like really, I was like, no, I already heard that.

806
00:34:58,480 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 5: How do you play it with him? Now? Do you

807
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 5: cut it all? Or do you just kind of continue

808
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:03,719
Speaker 5: chatting knowing what you know?

809
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 4: Uh, it's kind of cooled off anyways. So I just like,

810
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:10,320
Speaker 4: I don't really think I'm to really do anything.

811
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 3: Back off a little bit. Yeah, I'm not gonna be

812
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 3: like this.

813
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:16,400
Speaker 1: You know, you don't already get like sky riding over

814
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 1: his house it says, yeah, suck.

815
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:19,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, no, it's not that big of a deal,

816
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:21,239
Speaker 3: you know. But it was like just I don't know,

817
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:22,520
Speaker 3: it made me so happy.

818
00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:24,960
Speaker 4: Like I just feel like we've created this really cool

819
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:29,360
Speaker 4: community of women that are like bonded and awesome and

820
00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 4: positive and like I.

821
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:34,880
Speaker 1: Think like sincerity and earnesty and like good will perpetuates goodwill,

822
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:38,560
Speaker 1: like you attract like people and so for you too,

823
00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 1: if like created like the thing that I'm so attracted

824
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 1: to or whatever. When I listen to the podcast, is

825
00:35:43,160 --> 00:35:44,399
Speaker 1: the same thing that makes me want to hang out

826
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 1: with you, which is the same thing like when I

827
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:48,279
Speaker 1: met you. Out of the people there that are in

828
00:35:48,400 --> 00:35:51,479
Speaker 1: every direction of like a version of this, the ones

829
00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:53,800
Speaker 1: that I bond with have that light and have that

830
00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:55,480
Speaker 1: thing that you guys have, And so for you to

831
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 1: be like and having just met you in Vegas and

832
00:35:57,680 --> 00:35:59,719
Speaker 1: like already feeling like I know you so like and

833
00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:02,200
Speaker 1: I'm just so such a champion for both of you guys,

834
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:04,359
Speaker 1: Like it's very exciting because you're like, oh, you're pouring

835
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 1: into a thing that like is gonna flourish as much

836
00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:12,799
Speaker 1: as you're just like emotionally rooting for it. Yeah, it's

837
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:21,879
Speaker 1: too people talk about like it's I'm like, I'm rooting

838
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:23,839
Speaker 1: for you. I never want anything about Avenue cry.

839
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:27,840
Speaker 2: You're like, what I'm gonna draft up the most amazing

840
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 2: speech to give.

841
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:30,720
Speaker 1: Like, oh please, I'm not prepared.

842
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 4: It is really nice because it's like we go through

843
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:37,960
Speaker 4: life and I don't know, it's I was felt the

844
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:39,800
Speaker 4: same way about you when I first met you. You know,

845
00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:42,680
Speaker 4: like you just you're attracted to people that have this

846
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:46,960
Speaker 4: this energy and this light and it's cool because like

847
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,440
Speaker 4: we're all kind of starting to come together, you know

848
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 4: what I mean, and build this like community where.

849
00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 3: It's not it's not cool to be mean. It's not

850
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:56,240
Speaker 3: cool to be you know, nasty.

851
00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:58,680
Speaker 4: It's not you know, we're like and and and we're

852
00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 4: all coming together and we're helping making it cool to

853
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:02,920
Speaker 4: like be nice.

854
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:06,320
Speaker 1: I've had like girl friendship because I've always kind of

855
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 1: like when I like came here, I didn't have I

856
00:37:10,239 --> 00:37:12,960
Speaker 1: didn't know anyone who was famous. I didn't even know

857
00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:14,839
Speaker 1: that that could happen. Like I thought there were people

858
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:17,719
Speaker 1: in LA and those people were those actors, and those

859
00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 1: people got family. Like it was pre social media. It

860
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:21,239
Speaker 1: was pretty like I was never like, oh, what is

861
00:37:21,280 --> 00:37:23,399
Speaker 1: Lizzie McGuire having for lunch? Like does she have a brother?

862
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 1: I never like it was just you know what I mean,

863
00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:27,480
Speaker 1: Like I was like, y'all exist in an untouchable space.

864
00:37:27,560 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 1: And I was fourteen. Wow, there's literally a button that's

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Speaker 1: highlighted this as top too tired, too tired to say

866
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 1: whoa anyway, It's it was like very strange and I

867
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 1: was on a show and I was I didn't have

868
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:49,680
Speaker 1: anyone helping, and all of a sudden, I just like,

869
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:51,800
Speaker 1: you know, you trade away your privacy and you're like

870
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 1: things are changing, people are putting you in outfits and

871
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 1: you're asked to do And so I didn't have anyone

872
00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 1: that I could kind of look to other than like

873
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:00,800
Speaker 1: my mom, right, But like I just remember being like

874
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:02,880
Speaker 1: I wish, I wish that I had someone that I

875
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,960
Speaker 1: could ask, and then having a version of different people

876
00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 1: like that and having certain people in different areas and

877
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 1: times in my life be like I got you and

878
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 1: I'm rooting for you and I'm willing to like share

879
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:19,320
Speaker 1: that and if I share that, like when I started

880
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:22,800
Speaker 1: meeting people that were also in like a similar position,

881
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 1: position or like we're going to go on this crazy ride,

882
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 1: whether that's just growing up as like a teen or

883
00:38:28,520 --> 00:38:31,600
Speaker 1: whatever it is navigating social media. Like I've always just

884
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 1: been like, if I know anything and I've figured it

885
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 1: out and have gone through it, I'm happy to share

886
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 1: with you because like giving it away doesn't take it

887
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:39,840
Speaker 1: away from me. It only like allows all of us

888
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:41,920
Speaker 1: to rise, and when we all rise, and it like

889
00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:44,279
Speaker 1: is creating a world in which we all can be

890
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:44,800
Speaker 1: doing that.

891
00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:47,759
Speaker 4: But that's so cool that you like recognize that, you

892
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:48,840
Speaker 4: know what I mean, Because I think a lot of

893
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 4: people in your position, like you have, like you started

894
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:53,760
Speaker 4: out so young and you learned all these life lessons.

895
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 4: A lot of people don't want to share that. And

896
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 4: like you know, if somebody is up and coming and

897
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:00,919
Speaker 4: new and scared, like they they almost want to hold

898
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:02,800
Speaker 4: like all the things that they've learned to themselves and

899
00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:04,560
Speaker 4: not want to share that. So that's really cool that

900
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 4: you recognize that and like want to be that conduit

901
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 4: that light for other actors and actresses and people.

902
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 1: I mean, I think that's that's what purpose is, right,

903
00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 1: Like being in movies and then like having a family

904
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:19,800
Speaker 1: and then dying, like is not actually my purpose, like ultimately,

905
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:22,720
Speaker 1: like my purpose is to like meet people and connect

906
00:39:22,719 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 1: with people. And the thing that I leave behind is

907
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 1: going to be, you know, it's going to primarily live

908
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:30,320
Speaker 1: in like the heartbeats of human beings. Like that's actually

909
00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 1: going to speak longer than like any project that I

910
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:34,320
Speaker 1: do or any like whatever. And so to know that

911
00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:38,399
Speaker 1: like that and protecting that and having like worked really

912
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:41,320
Speaker 1: hard to like so many people have crashed on my couch,

913
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:45,279
Speaker 1: and so many people I have like just been able

914
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 1: to be that, and it's been really lovely, and I've

915
00:39:47,960 --> 00:39:50,200
Speaker 1: been able to watch people really flourish and grow and

916
00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 1: like people that I'm proud of and believed in. And

917
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 1: then people have like completely weaponized my vulnerability and my

918
00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 1: generosity against me and use it to like take from

919
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:02,160
Speaker 1: me and cut me down and turn people against me

920
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:04,719
Speaker 1: and rewrite this narrative in a way that like I

921
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:08,879
Speaker 1: was completely robbed of my ability to introduce my intentions.

922
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:12,480
Speaker 1: And then I'm still dealing with that and like to

923
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:15,560
Speaker 1: know that like out of people who are all rooting

924
00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:18,680
Speaker 1: for one another or at least like like, if you

925
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 1: want something that I have and I would like to

926
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:23,320
Speaker 1: give it to you, or am fine to give it

927
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:27,040
Speaker 1: to you, or it's a renewable resource or whatever, then

928
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 1: you take that thing. You no longer need that thing,

929
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 1: and you're like trading up for something more relevant. That's fine,

930
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:36,800
Speaker 1: and you can go and leave, and you can go

931
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:40,399
Speaker 1: and I don't need or expect follow through. I grew

932
00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 1: up in LA Like I'm positive and I try to

933
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:45,759
Speaker 1: be optimistic, but I'm not like idealistic to the point

934
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:48,440
Speaker 1: where I'm naive, Like I know how it works. And

935
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:50,439
Speaker 1: this has happened in ways, and I've seen it happening

936
00:40:50,440 --> 00:40:53,760
Speaker 1: to everyone that I know at least once, and sometimes

937
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 1: in really public and destructive ways in which your hands

938
00:40:57,480 --> 00:41:01,759
Speaker 1: are completely tied. But like when that happens, no one

939
00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 1: makes you, like, no one's making you burn my things

940
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 1: to the ground, Like if you can't have it for

941
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:09,600
Speaker 1: yourself and you want to take it for me, because

942
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 1: maybe it won't give it to you, but it's easier

943
00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:13,800
Speaker 1: for you to not see people around you have what

944
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:18,200
Speaker 1: you want, Like that's unfair, that's malicious, You're a mean, mean,

945
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:21,279
Speaker 1: dark person, Like you're going to live a lonely life

946
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 1: if you don't already, and like that that is a

947
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 1: thing that like I realize I don't actually have control over.

948
00:41:26,360 --> 00:41:28,359
Speaker 1: And like if one out of every however many times

949
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:30,120
Speaker 1: that happens, and that happens to be the time that

950
00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 1: like stays with me the longest, that sucks, and there's

951
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:36,280
Speaker 1: nothing I can do about that. But it shouldn't affect

952
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:39,960
Speaker 1: my ability to continue doing this and being able to

953
00:41:40,040 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 1: like be a good friend to my friends and be

954
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: a good daughter and be a good sister. And then

955
00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 1: like I found myself in this room right of people

956
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:48,600
Speaker 1: who probably have all experienced a very similar version of

957
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 1: these things, and to know that like, ultimately sometimes it's

958
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 1: used against us and fully weaponized, and sometimes it like

959
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:58,600
Speaker 1: benefits us and it's a blessing. Yeah, and then what

960
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 1: we can do and this is like back to our

961
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 1: friendship is whenever I see that light in you and

962
00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:05,520
Speaker 1: I know what you value. And before you and I

963
00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:08,239
Speaker 1: were even really this close, I reached out to you

964
00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:10,400
Speaker 1: and I was like, I just want you to know

965
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:15,320
Speaker 1: that this person is someone who like and like knowing

966
00:42:15,640 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 1: that you and I have talked so many times about

967
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 1: so many people and I do not talk. It's not

968
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 1: a thing that I like to do.

969
00:42:21,880 --> 00:42:23,000
Speaker 3: No, I didn't vouch for that.

970
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 1: I like, I will always it's like a fun game

971
00:42:26,560 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 1: to hunt for something positive or like a really tender

972
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 1: way to frame something about someone that I would otherwise

973
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:37,279
Speaker 1: not jump to. But like I literally reached out to

974
00:42:37,360 --> 00:42:40,239
Speaker 1: you privately and was just like, dude, I want you

975
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:42,000
Speaker 1: to know that this is a garbage person. Like I

976
00:42:42,080 --> 00:42:45,479
Speaker 1: want you to know that this person I like. People

977
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:46,880
Speaker 1: still come up to me and are like, hey, you

978
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,239
Speaker 1: remember that girl you introduced me to she tried to

979
00:42:49,560 --> 00:42:51,920
Speaker 1: sleep with my husband, And I'm like, my bad, My bad,

980
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:53,680
Speaker 1: I didn't know she was that person. I'm so sorry,

981
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,000
Speaker 1: like really vouch for this person that was on me

982
00:42:56,120 --> 00:42:57,279
Speaker 1: for not doing a character.

983
00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:59,920
Speaker 3: Background joke totally, but like and then letting you know, like.

984
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 1: Just so you know, this is publicly what you're ligning with,

985
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:07,040
Speaker 1: but also underneath, like within relationship, this is what you're

986
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 1: vouching for. And I wish someone had told me when

987
00:43:08,840 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 1: I vouched for this person, because a I'd be way

988
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:13,960
Speaker 1: less hurt and be like less ostracized. But I just

989
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:14,320
Speaker 1: didn't know.

990
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 4: It's so true because I think like for me, I

991
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 4: try to do like I'm very vocal when I like

992
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,800
Speaker 4: love somebody and support somebody, I'm like very vocal about

993
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:24,200
Speaker 4: those things.

994
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:25,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, I align.

995
00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 4: Myself with people, and I think for the people that

996
00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 4: I don't, I don't think are great people, Like I

997
00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 4: won't come out and say like you're a bad person,

998
00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:37,160
Speaker 4: but I won't publicly support them.

999
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1000
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 3: So to me that was like a big move. When

1001
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:44,759
Speaker 3: you were like just the heads up, I was like, okay, you.

1002
00:43:44,800 --> 00:43:47,239
Speaker 1: Want, but yeah, yeah, it's funny because I'm that way

1003
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 1: to where like if it's like an app or like

1004
00:43:50,719 --> 00:43:53,279
Speaker 1: a crystal or a cup of coffee or like my

1005
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:55,839
Speaker 1: favorite clothing line or like whatever it is, Like I'm

1006
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 1: very hype about it, very much, Like this is the

1007
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:00,480
Speaker 1: coolest best thing I've ever seen. Like you should meet

1008
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 1: this person. This is why there's spectacular and captivating an incredible,

1009
00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 1: Like I love that getting passionate about things because I

1010
00:44:06,880 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 1: like do it with depression anxiety, so like there are

1011
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 1: times where I will dissociate for days at a time

1012
00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:13,800
Speaker 1: and not feel anything at all. So for something to

1013
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 1: move my needle, I like hold it very valuable and rare,

1014
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:18,560
Speaker 1: and like I think it's important to lean into that

1015
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 1: and encourage that in ourselves and others.

1016
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 4: But what's cool about you is like obviously we all

1017
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:26,200
Speaker 4: deal with people that are, you know, not great people,

1018
00:44:26,360 --> 00:44:28,479
Speaker 4: Like we've all been taken advantage of We've had people

1019
00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 4: across us. Like I think everybody deals with that in

1020
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 4: some aspect of their life, whether they're a teacher, they

1021
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 4: work at a retail store, you know what I mean.

1022
00:44:35,640 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 4: Like everybody deals with those things. But it's like you

1023
00:44:39,200 --> 00:44:42,640
Speaker 4: not like it's not up to you to like bring karma.

1024
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 3: To them, do you know what I mean?

1025
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:44,799
Speaker 1: It's yeah, you're not totally.

1026
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 4: Irresponsible for making you know anything bad happen to them,

1027
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:51,040
Speaker 4: it's like believing that everything's gonna happen the way it's.

1028
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:51,400
Speaker 3: Supposed to be.

1029
00:44:51,480 --> 00:44:52,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, totally, you know what I mean.

1030
00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:55,000
Speaker 3: It's like releasing that like just releasing that energy and

1031
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:56,439
Speaker 3: that like negativity. Yeah.

1032
00:44:56,920 --> 00:44:59,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have like such a streak of justice. And

1033
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 1: I love those like movies where like Keanu Reeves is

1034
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:05,640
Speaker 1: doing Wick and like that's like my favorite genre of

1035
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:08,759
Speaker 1: movie because I love being like you took something for me, No,

1036
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:13,400
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make it right. But also like I have

1037
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:16,000
Speaker 1: to know, like that's obviously like nothing that I can do,

1038
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:19,759
Speaker 1: and even in that situation, knowing when just defending yourself

1039
00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 1: and being like, listen, there was a blatant attack on

1040
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:25,800
Speaker 1: my character. And I can tell you I've lived really

1041
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:27,640
Speaker 1: hard to make sure that my reputation lines up with

1042
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: who I am actively, so like this is unfair for

1043
00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 1: you to like make these presumptions and say this about me,

1044
00:45:33,080 --> 00:45:35,320
Speaker 1: but knowing that in order to like reclaim that and

1045
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:37,960
Speaker 1: introduce yourself, it's gonna like fan the flames. And there

1046
00:45:38,000 --> 00:45:40,080
Speaker 1: are people who are not rooting for you and listening

1047
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:42,000
Speaker 1: for you to reintroduce themselves because they just heard whatever

1048
00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: they heard on first listen. Yeah, and it was from

1049
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 1: someone who had like ulterior motives, and you're just like,

1050
00:45:46,719 --> 00:45:49,560
Speaker 1: it's not worth it. Like the people who are looking

1051
00:45:49,600 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: for the truth will find the truth and the people

1052
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 1: who aren't can, like you know, find their own thing.

1053
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:56,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so true. It's like having to decide, like

1054
00:45:57,360 --> 00:46:00,359
Speaker 2: you you're only responsible for what you put out there

1055
00:46:00,560 --> 00:46:04,760
Speaker 2: and does what people take from it, whether they choose

1056
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:06,400
Speaker 2: to go in the right direction or use it for

1057
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:09,480
Speaker 2: good or use it for a different purpose. It's not

1058
00:46:09,600 --> 00:46:14,200
Speaker 2: on you on that's on everyone else. Everyone else is

1059
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:17,360
Speaker 2: responsible for their own actions, how they present themselves and

1060
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:22,000
Speaker 2: how they speak about other people. And yeah, but I agree.

1061
00:46:22,080 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 2: I think I think the fact that you are in

1062
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 2: your position and are such a there's so much competition

1063
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:31,120
Speaker 2: in your world, Like that's you know, that's what it is.

1064
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 2: It's competition. There's so many people coming up and for

1065
00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 2: you to say, hey, I have I've been through a lot,

1066
00:46:36,800 --> 00:46:38,560
Speaker 2: and I'm willing to give advice on this and it

1067
00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:41,239
Speaker 2: doesn't take away from my talent or what I've accomplished.

1068
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 2: It just is saying like I'm here to help others

1069
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:45,840
Speaker 2: and that's the purpose.

1070
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:47,520
Speaker 3: That's what's going to come back to you tenfold?

1071
00:46:47,880 --> 00:46:50,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean it's it's just as like I know

1072
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:53,319
Speaker 1: what it's like to be like wandering around in the dark,

1073
00:46:53,719 --> 00:46:56,440
Speaker 1: and if I can keep anyone from doing that, And

1074
00:46:56,600 --> 00:46:59,319
Speaker 1: like there were women around me that I was like, hey,

1075
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:01,920
Speaker 1: what do you think about this? And they would be

1076
00:47:02,000 --> 00:47:07,080
Speaker 1: super unhelpful. And then there would be women who, like example,

1077
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:08,880
Speaker 1: when people have whatever, be like, oh, you were on

1078
00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:10,920
Speaker 1: Disney Channel, so like how are the other Disney girls are?

1079
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,520
Speaker 1: They kind of like cutting and whatever. Like Ashley Tisdale

1080
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 1: comes on Sweet Life and was like, hey, like don't

1081
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 1: like Dylan and Cole would just like be boys, and

1082
00:47:20,320 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 1: she'd be like, don't you don't don't talk to other

1083
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 1: her like that, Like stop, it's fine, do you want

1084
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:26,400
Speaker 1: to like sit with me? And then we did like

1085
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 1: a crossover with Hannah Montana and Miley was like, dude,

1086
00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:30,960
Speaker 1: stop talking to her like that, Hey, you don't have

1087
00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 1: to like let them talk to you like that, just

1088
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 1: like sass them back and like me being like, oh,

1089
00:47:34,400 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 1: I have permission to do that, like right, and Miley

1090
00:47:37,280 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 1: like automatically having not knowing me at all and like

1091
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 1: having really no horse in the race, but being able

1092
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:45,239
Speaker 1: to be like, well, that's a girl, and I would

1093
00:47:45,239 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 1: want someone to empower me to speak in my voice.

1094
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 1: And then like Selena, literally she and I were going

1095
00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:55,520
Speaker 1: through like breakups, hers very more much more public and

1096
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:57,600
Speaker 1: visible in the mind, but like people we had to

1097
00:47:57,600 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 1: see around and work situations and whatever. And we were

1098
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:02,160
Speaker 1: on a flight back together from a wee day and

1099
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:05,400
Speaker 1: we just like started talking and we're just like sitting

1100
00:48:05,440 --> 00:48:07,320
Speaker 1: on this plane and we're talking and she just like

1101
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 1: is actively like come over hang out with me. And

1102
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:11,680
Speaker 1: it was the first time that someone had ever done

1103
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:16,400
Speaker 1: like generously did that and like saw me and invited

1104
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:18,160
Speaker 1: me into that circle of the way that I would

1105
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:20,600
Speaker 1: constantly find like five people that I didn't know super

1106
00:48:20,680 --> 00:48:23,239
Speaker 1: well but like wanted to be a home for because

1107
00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:26,560
Speaker 1: we're all like implants here and we're all just kind

1108
00:48:26,600 --> 00:48:28,400
Speaker 1: of like the thanksgivings and l like are really funny.

1109
00:48:28,480 --> 00:48:31,400
Speaker 1: Like it's just we're all just you know, creating these

1110
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:34,360
Speaker 1: nuclear families and like to see other people like that.

1111
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 1: It definitely perpetuates it, and like you said, like it's

1112
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 1: gonna come back tenfold. Like anyone who has anything to

1113
00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:42,399
Speaker 1: say about Selena is like she's kind she's really warm.

1114
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:44,680
Speaker 1: She like even in the midst where she carried way

1115
00:48:44,800 --> 00:48:48,400
Speaker 1: too much for one person, she has never lost her

1116
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:51,120
Speaker 1: class and grace in that and like totally to see

1117
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:53,319
Speaker 1: people like that, then you're like, oh, that makes them

1118
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:56,520
Speaker 1: look cool. Like Selena Gomez is a rock star, Like

1119
00:48:56,600 --> 00:49:00,360
Speaker 1: she's cool, she's really awesome. And something that's cool about

1120
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:03,160
Speaker 1: her that's like a large thing is that I ever

1121
00:49:03,239 --> 00:49:05,919
Speaker 1: be her reputation? Yeah, yeah, she's kind and like that's

1122
00:49:06,680 --> 00:49:09,840
Speaker 1: you know, I think that really does speak for you

1123
00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:13,080
Speaker 1: and speak on your behalfs because there's other people who

1124
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:16,880
Speaker 1: when doing that like transaction of like who am I

1125
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:18,200
Speaker 1: going to hire? Who am I going to put on

1126
00:49:18,280 --> 00:49:21,200
Speaker 1: the radio? Who am I gonna do this for this campaign?

1127
00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 2: I always say that.

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00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:25,120
Speaker 4: I always say that too whenever like Selena, whenever she

1129
00:49:25,160 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 4: comes on the morning show or anything. I always make

1130
00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 4: a point to be like, I see you behind the scenes,

1131
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:33,200
Speaker 4: and you are so kind to people when like there's

1132
00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:36,840
Speaker 4: no cameras around, there's no you know, nobody's watching you,

1133
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:40,320
Speaker 4: and you're just as kind and generous to like not

1134
00:49:40,480 --> 00:49:41,200
Speaker 4: just your fans, to.

1135
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:43,560
Speaker 3: People, you know what I mean, Like she actually like

1136
00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:45,239
Speaker 3: looks at people and like.

1137
00:49:45,440 --> 00:49:47,719
Speaker 4: You know what I mean, Like even I'm just trying

1138
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 4: to think, Like what I'm saying is like not necessarily

1139
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:50,759
Speaker 4: they don't have to be like fans that come up

1140
00:49:50,760 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 4: and say like, oh we love you, like you barista

1141
00:49:52,760 --> 00:49:55,279
Speaker 4: or something like she will like you are seen, and

1142
00:49:55,360 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 4: she makes that a point.

1143
00:49:56,280 --> 00:49:57,799
Speaker 3: I think it's really really cool of her.

1144
00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like holding someone's baby. Whenever I see her,

1145
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:05,680
Speaker 1: she's like someone's kid, or she'll just be like like

1146
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:09,719
Speaker 1: interactions that in a world where like it's so there's

1147
00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:12,359
Speaker 1: such a currency of like but is it the right

1148
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 1: person's baby. It's like no, like it's you know, it's baby,

1149
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:19,160
Speaker 1: it's whoever she likes and wants, and like that's sincere.

1150
00:50:19,239 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 1: And I feel like there's so much like value of

1151
00:50:21,680 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 1: your time, really make sure whoever you're networking, and like

1152
00:50:24,800 --> 00:50:28,279
Speaker 1: that's not I think like and obviously listen, we all

1153
00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:31,399
Speaker 1: find it like when you're a teenager and she being

1154
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 1: in your twenties and you're a woman and you're in

1155
00:50:34,160 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 1: LA we go through different friend circles. At least all

1156
00:50:38,719 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 1: the girls that I know, it's like really broad friend circles.

1157
00:50:42,080 --> 00:50:44,600
Speaker 1: Whenever you're going through like troubling times where you don't

1158
00:50:44,640 --> 00:50:47,120
Speaker 1: really know yourself as much. Your friend circle is very

1159
00:50:47,160 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 1: broad with shallow relationships people who won't hold you accountable

1160
00:50:49,760 --> 00:50:51,880
Speaker 1: and who are more toxic and garbage than you, so

1161
00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:53,839
Speaker 1: you don't feel like the most toxic prison in the room.

1162
00:50:54,239 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: And then that's only like perpetuating like bad ideals and

1163
00:50:57,040 --> 00:50:59,440
Speaker 1: behaviors and like whatever. I don't know, if you know,

1164
00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:01,840
Speaker 1: I'm not definitely not speaking too Selena on that, but

1165
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:05,239
Speaker 1: like myself and the people that I've been around, like

1166
00:51:05,320 --> 00:51:08,320
Speaker 1: that is absolutely an easy dynamic to fall into, just

1167
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:10,800
Speaker 1: in growing up. And I think that even in the

1168
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:14,359
Speaker 1: midst of that, like we all have regrets, but having

1169
00:51:14,440 --> 00:51:18,240
Speaker 1: not lost like your kindness and having not like given

1170
00:51:18,320 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 1: in to malice, which is my biggest pride, is like

1171
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:24,800
Speaker 1: I've you know, I lost a lot of that like

1172
00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 1: wonder like that thing that just made me trust that

1173
00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:29,040
Speaker 1: if I was good to people, people would also be

1174
00:51:29,120 --> 00:51:31,279
Speaker 1: good to me. And knowing like, oh, that doesn't work

1175
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:34,880
Speaker 1: like that. But then also that I think makes me

1176
00:51:35,000 --> 00:51:37,839
Speaker 1: so much more grateful for when people do things out

1177
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 1: of their abundance or even out of like just generosity

1178
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:46,160
Speaker 1: and humility, and you're like, oh, okay, if anyone can

1179
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:47,960
Speaker 1: do it. Then like anyone can do it. You know,

1180
00:51:48,040 --> 00:51:48,879
Speaker 1: there's a room for all.

1181
00:51:48,760 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 2: Of us to do it.

1182
00:51:49,640 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 3: If anyone can do it, anyone can do it.

1183
00:51:51,239 --> 00:51:52,600
Speaker 1: That's sound. It's smarter in my head.

1184
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:55,520
Speaker 2: No, it's actually really so simple, but it's so true.

1185
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:59,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, something that I'm very passionate about.

1186
00:52:00,520 --> 00:52:01,040
Speaker 1: Heavy with it.

1187
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:02,000
Speaker 3: Working out.

1188
00:52:02,800 --> 00:52:03,840
Speaker 2: You are very passionate.

1189
00:52:03,920 --> 00:52:06,320
Speaker 3: I love working out. It makes me happy.

1190
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 2: Workout clothes.

1191
00:52:08,880 --> 00:52:09,800
Speaker 3: Well, outdoor voices.

1192
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 4: I've actually been wearing some of their stuff to work

1193
00:52:11,560 --> 00:52:15,800
Speaker 4: out recently, and they're really high quality active apparel and

1194
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:18,320
Speaker 4: you kind of you can wear to the gym, but

1195
00:52:18,480 --> 00:52:21,040
Speaker 4: kind of just wear them every day, like I wear

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00:52:21,080 --> 00:52:21,600
Speaker 4: them to work.

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00:52:21,920 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 3: They're really really super cute.

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Speaker 2: So basically I like to wear workout clothes even when

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Speaker 2: I'm not working out, and they're so cute and I

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Speaker 2: every time you post them on your story. I love

1201
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:35,400
Speaker 2: the their office. They're so cute.

1202
00:52:35,520 --> 00:52:36,560
Speaker 3: They're so cute.

1203
00:52:36,680 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 4: One of the sports bras that I have, I literally

1204
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:41,120
Speaker 4: want to wear it every day, but obviously, like I

1205
00:52:41,160 --> 00:52:43,359
Speaker 4: don't do my launder every day, but it's like when

1206
00:52:43,360 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 4: I have it clean, it's the first one I put on.

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Speaker 3: I'm really obsessed with it.

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00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:50,640
Speaker 4: But they encourage living healthier, happier, and more sustainable lives

1209
00:52:50,640 --> 00:52:53,600
Speaker 4: through daily exercise of any form, and it's more about

1210
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:56,800
Speaker 4: getting out there and trying than setting a record. So

1211
00:52:57,239 --> 00:52:59,719
Speaker 4: the Outdoor Voices regularly host events across the country to

1212
00:52:59,800 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 4: keep be doing things and meeting new friends along the way.

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Speaker 2: That's so fun. I like act group activities. Yeah, I

1214
00:53:06,120 --> 00:53:08,520
Speaker 2: feel like y'all everyone listening. You should look and see

1215
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Speaker 2: if they're doing any events around your area, whether it's

1216
00:53:12,239 --> 00:53:15,600
Speaker 2: through events or they're dedicated hashtag on social which is

1217
00:53:15,680 --> 00:53:20,040
Speaker 2: hashtag doing things. The brand is uniting exercisers who live

1218
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Speaker 2: for fue. This is really funny because when I went

1219
00:53:22,360 --> 00:53:25,840
Speaker 2: to Nantucket with Laura, we kept saying, like, I'm just

1220
00:53:25,960 --> 00:53:29,920
Speaker 2: doing some things, doing things, doing big things. It's almost

1221
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:33,400
Speaker 2: like I knew this was gonna happen. For twenty percent

1222
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Speaker 2: off your first order of one hundred dollars or more

1223
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Speaker 2: of vi is it outdoor Voices dot Com, slash Becca

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Speaker 2: and intercode Becca. That's Outdoor Voices dot Com, slash Becca,

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Speaker 2: intercode Becca for twenty percent off your first order of

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Speaker 2: one hundred dollars or more. One more time Outdoor Voices

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Speaker 2: dot Com, slash Becca and intercode.

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Speaker 1: Becca.

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00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:55,960
Speaker 4: No, I'm actually excited that they're really excited there respons

1230
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:59,279
Speaker 4: on the podcast because I have been wearing these, like

1231
00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 4: since before they were a sponsor on the podcast, and

1232
00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:04,960
Speaker 4: everybody always asks me where I get my sports bras from.

1233
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:07,759
Speaker 3: This was I posted on my Instagram story and one's like,

1234
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:08,719
Speaker 3: where'd you get that sports bros?

1235
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:09,439
Speaker 2: On the ones?

1236
00:54:11,719 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, because my sweat twist the sweat out of my

1237
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 3: sports brings it out.

1238
00:54:16,600 --> 00:54:18,799
Speaker 2: She disgusting.

1239
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:21,920
Speaker 4: So you know you're doing work, Debbie, it's time for

1240
00:54:22,040 --> 00:54:27,040
Speaker 4: you to go, all right bye, but you have you

1241
00:54:27,120 --> 00:54:27,840
Speaker 4: have things to do.

1242
00:54:28,040 --> 00:54:29,919
Speaker 2: Yes, you're doing things. You're doing things.

1243
00:54:30,520 --> 00:54:31,840
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for coming in.

1244
00:54:33,280 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 4: If you guys haven't checked out season one of Insatiable,

1245
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:36,640
Speaker 4: you absolutely should.

1246
00:54:36,640 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 3: It's on Netflix. What else can we look forward to

1247
00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 3: from you?

1248
00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:41,879
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1249
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:44,360
Speaker 1: I have. I did a little role in like a

1250
00:54:44,440 --> 00:54:47,080
Speaker 1: sweet movie called Grace, which is doing festivals right now,

1251
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:49,319
Speaker 1: and so if you see that, it's very you check

1252
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:51,600
Speaker 1: it out. I have one called The Opening Act. But

1253
00:54:51,680 --> 00:54:54,239
Speaker 1: I'm also and it's just like I've kind of am

1254
00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:56,440
Speaker 1: at a point where I get to be very choosy

1255
00:54:56,480 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 1: and work with people that I like and cool directors

1256
00:54:59,600 --> 00:55:02,000
Speaker 1: in film makers, and I'm doing a lot of studying

1257
00:55:02,280 --> 00:55:04,759
Speaker 1: in that realm, which is nice. So yeah, it's just

1258
00:55:04,840 --> 00:55:05,359
Speaker 1: been nice.

1259
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:09,560
Speaker 2: Yes, So basically whatever you see, Debian, We're supporting our

1260
00:55:09,600 --> 00:55:10,720
Speaker 2: girl for sure.

1261
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Speaker 1: Bless you guys, love.

1262
00:55:12,640 --> 00:55:15,200
Speaker 2: You, Thank you so much for coming on sticking to

1263
00:55:15,280 --> 00:55:21,319
Speaker 2: your word. Yes, we really appreciate it. She's the best,

1264
00:55:21,640 --> 00:55:22,080
Speaker 2: she really.

1265
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:25,400
Speaker 3: I'm so happy that she was that she scrubbed in today.

1266
00:55:25,480 --> 00:55:28,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too. We have another very special guest on

1267
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:33,480
Speaker 2: the phone, Jensen Pastor Jensen Franklin. You're friends with his

1268
00:55:33,680 --> 00:55:34,560
Speaker 2: daughter Caroline.

1269
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:36,320
Speaker 3: Yes, I love Caroline.

1270
00:55:36,480 --> 00:55:36,719
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1271
00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:40,800
Speaker 2: And they have like a massive church in is it

1272
00:55:40,800 --> 00:55:41,400
Speaker 2: Orange County?

1273
00:55:41,600 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 1: Yes?

1274
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:45,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, so he's on the phone with us, Jensen Pastor Jensen,

1275
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:49,640
Speaker 2: are you there, Hi? This is Becca Tilly and Tanya.

1276
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 1: Hi.

1277
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:51,799
Speaker 7: Hello, Hi.

1278
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:54,840
Speaker 2: We just had some quick questions for you. Thank you

1279
00:55:54,920 --> 00:55:59,320
Speaker 2: so much for being here. We have, I think ourselves

1280
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:01,160
Speaker 2: and like our love. A lot of our listeners been

1281
00:56:01,280 --> 00:56:04,960
Speaker 2: through heartache and pain, whether it's been in a relationship

1282
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:09,000
Speaker 2: or with family or with friends, and I feel like

1283
00:56:09,120 --> 00:56:11,040
Speaker 2: you could kind of give some insight of how do

1284
00:56:11,160 --> 00:56:14,120
Speaker 2: you move on past that hurt that we experience in

1285
00:56:14,200 --> 00:56:15,880
Speaker 2: life and just relationships in general.

1286
00:56:16,480 --> 00:56:18,680
Speaker 7: Well, you know, you hear people all the time say

1287
00:56:18,920 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 7: forgive and forget. When somebody really does, you're wrong, and

1288
00:56:22,040 --> 00:56:24,480
Speaker 7: I don't. We first of all have to realize that

1289
00:56:24,600 --> 00:56:28,280
Speaker 7: you're going to be hurt. That the price of relationship

1290
00:56:28,880 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 7: is you're going to be hurt sooner or later. There's

1291
00:56:31,600 --> 00:56:34,200
Speaker 7: it's just going to happen in a family, in a marriage,

1292
00:56:34,400 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 7: in a relationship. And so when people stay forgive and forget,

1293
00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 7: what does that mean is it even possible? Forgiveness is

1294
00:56:41,760 --> 00:56:46,160
Speaker 7: not amnesia. Forgiveness is not you know, getting a little

1295
00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:50,000
Speaker 7: lot of me and not even thinking about what someone

1296
00:56:50,160 --> 00:56:53,800
Speaker 7: did to you that really hurts you. But forgiveness is

1297
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:59,520
Speaker 7: remembering it differently. It actually becomes a reference point of

1298
00:56:59,600 --> 00:57:04,360
Speaker 7: how far you've come since the incident happened. And you know,

1299
00:57:04,440 --> 00:57:06,399
Speaker 7: I talk about in my book love like you've never

1300
00:57:06,480 --> 00:57:08,640
Speaker 7: been hurt? How to do that? How do you get

1301
00:57:08,760 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 7: beyond it? It's not a quacking of if. But when

1302
00:57:13,000 --> 00:57:16,240
Speaker 7: you get hurt, and too many people quit and walk

1303
00:57:16,280 --> 00:57:21,200
Speaker 7: away too easy. And even in family relationships, you know,

1304
00:57:21,400 --> 00:57:24,200
Speaker 7: brothers and sisters not speaking to one another because they

1305
00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:27,280
Speaker 7: got in an argument. Parents that live in the same

1306
00:57:27,400 --> 00:57:30,480
Speaker 7: city as their children and they haven't spoken in a

1307
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:33,080
Speaker 7: year because of something that blew up and happened, and

1308
00:57:34,200 --> 00:57:36,040
Speaker 7: we've got to learn how to love like we've never

1309
00:57:36,160 --> 00:57:38,840
Speaker 7: been hurt. And the title of the book implies, first

1310
00:57:38,880 --> 00:57:41,680
Speaker 7: of all, don't be surprised that you get hurt. It's

1311
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:45,720
Speaker 7: going to happen. And you know, I feel like I

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Speaker 7: can lay out some things, some easy steps that you

1313
00:57:48,160 --> 00:57:50,800
Speaker 7: can take. It not easy steps they take that tack,

1314
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:52,760
Speaker 7: but the real steps that you can take.

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00:57:53,320 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, we would love to hear.

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Speaker 4: So it's kind of like, well, the entire book is

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00:57:57,320 --> 00:57:59,800
Speaker 4: basically like a work book of kind of giving people,

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00:58:00,480 --> 00:58:02,200
Speaker 4: you know, the guidelines and the things.

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Speaker 7: That they like to Really, yeah, it's coming from a

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00:58:06,120 --> 00:58:09,600
Speaker 7: biblical perspective on the teachings of Christ. You know when

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00:58:09,680 --> 00:58:13,640
Speaker 7: he said forgive seventy times seven, which is four hundred

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00:58:13,640 --> 00:58:15,560
Speaker 7: and ninety times in a day, Well, how in the

1323
00:58:15,640 --> 00:58:17,720
Speaker 7: world does that work? And what it was really saying

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00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:22,400
Speaker 7: was forgiveness is not about keeping score. It's about losing count.

1325
00:58:23,160 --> 00:58:25,560
Speaker 7: And you know so many times we keep score when

1326
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Speaker 7: it comes to well you did this, and you did that,

1327
00:58:28,080 --> 00:58:30,960
Speaker 7: you did this, you did that. And what Christ was

1328
00:58:31,040 --> 00:58:33,680
Speaker 7: talking about was if you really want to learn how

1329
00:58:33,760 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 7: to live with somebody. It's not forgiveness, it's not keeping score,

1330
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:40,240
Speaker 7: it's losing count. And that doesn't mean you're walking back.

1331
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:42,680
Speaker 7: That doesn't mean that you let people run all over you.

1332
00:58:43,320 --> 00:58:46,760
Speaker 7: But it begins to govern your life in that way

1333
00:58:46,800 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 7: that you realize that, you know, we if you want

1334
00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:53,960
Speaker 7: a relationship, there has to come those times where you

1335
00:58:54,120 --> 00:58:57,480
Speaker 7: have to say, you know, it doesn't even matter who's

1336
00:58:57,600 --> 00:59:01,640
Speaker 7: right or who's wrong on some issues. What it's going

1337
00:59:01,680 --> 00:59:03,080
Speaker 7: to go back to is do you want to be

1338
00:59:03,240 --> 00:59:05,840
Speaker 7: right or do you want to be reconciled. If you

1339
00:59:05,920 --> 00:59:08,200
Speaker 7: want to be reconciled, at some point, you're going to

1340
00:59:08,280 --> 00:59:13,560
Speaker 7: have to give up your natural inclination for revenge and

1341
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Speaker 7: making them pay.

1342
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I think there's a quote about that actually that says,

1344
00:59:18,960 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 4: like maturity comes when you learn to accept the the

1345
00:59:22,640 --> 00:59:25,720
Speaker 4: apology that you never that you never got, you know,

1346
00:59:26,320 --> 00:59:29,240
Speaker 4: you learn to So it's not necessarily about yeah, like

1347
00:59:29,320 --> 00:59:30,080
Speaker 4: seeking revenge.

1348
00:59:30,120 --> 00:59:32,200
Speaker 3: It's like everyone's going to get hurt. It's just about

1349
00:59:32,560 --> 00:59:33,960
Speaker 3: you know, moving forward.

1350
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Speaker 7: Yeah, absolutely, Well that's awesome.

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Speaker 6: Think.

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Speaker 4: So the book is called Love Like You've Never Been Hurt,

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Speaker 4: and it's available now and people can get it on Amazon.

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Speaker 3: Where else can they get the book.

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Speaker 7: They can get it to our website, Jenson Franklin dot

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Speaker 7: org is filled with a Z my name or they

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Speaker 7: it's at Jensenfranklin dot dot org. But Amazon is great.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's an Amazon on bestseller list for Christian inspiration

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Speaker 2: and Christian personal development. That's awesome. Well, thank you so

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Speaker 2: much for taking your time to be here.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this is so cool. I'm really good friends with

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Speaker 3: your daughter, Caroline. I love her so much. You must

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Speaker 3: be really proud.

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Speaker 7: I am proud of her, and I'm glad that you're

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Speaker 7: a friend to Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well, thank you so much for coming. All right, So

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Speaker 2: basically what we need to work on as humans and

1368
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Speaker 2: relationships in general is not expecting an apology, but accepting

1369
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Speaker 2: that you can move on even if you don't get it.

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Speaker 5: Tanya, What was just going on with your armpit there

1402
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Speaker 5: while she was talking?

1403
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Speaker 2: Yeah, you tell me.

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01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:23,920
Speaker 3: I just get so sweaty sometimes.

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01:02:24,080 --> 01:02:26,720
Speaker 5: Why now, like it's cold in here, and there's and

1406
01:02:26,840 --> 01:02:30,360
Speaker 5: Debbie's gone. It's like you wouldn't have any guest anxiety.

1407
01:02:30,440 --> 01:02:33,160
Speaker 3: No, I don't think it's anxiety. I think it's from coffee.

1408
01:02:33,440 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 2: And it's so I do that when I when I

1409
01:02:35,240 --> 01:02:36,160
Speaker 2: drink coffee.

1410
01:02:35,840 --> 01:02:39,040
Speaker 3: Specifically the Zoomi coffee from Whole Foods. It's I don't

1411
01:02:39,080 --> 01:02:39,440
Speaker 3: know what it is.

1412
01:02:39,480 --> 01:02:41,320
Speaker 4: It's like frend rows or something, but every time I

1413
01:02:41,440 --> 01:02:45,080
Speaker 4: drink it, I get so sweaty in my armpits. It's embarrassing.

1414
01:02:45,240 --> 01:02:46,680
Speaker 2: Actually have zoomies.

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01:02:46,960 --> 01:02:47,080
Speaker 1: Uh.

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01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:50,880
Speaker 2: Phoebe normally has recently been getting the zoomies where she

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01:02:51,240 --> 01:02:52,720
Speaker 2: Have you ever heard that it's called the zoomies where

1418
01:02:52,720 --> 01:02:55,440
Speaker 2: they go like, I think it's what it's called, and

1419
01:02:55,560 --> 01:02:57,320
Speaker 2: they go crazy, they just start running everywhere.

1420
01:02:57,800 --> 01:02:59,520
Speaker 5: Oh okay, I've never heard it called that but yeah,

1421
01:02:59,560 --> 01:02:59,840
Speaker 5: I know with that.

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Speaker 2: So last night, yesterday, I went to the beach with

1423
01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:07,240
Speaker 2: some of my friends. I don't smoke weed, but I

1424
01:03:07,760 --> 01:03:10,640
Speaker 2: have people in my life who do smoke weed, and

1425
01:03:11,000 --> 01:03:15,440
Speaker 2: they had a joint that was in It's illegal here,

1426
01:03:15,520 --> 01:03:17,280
Speaker 2: it's illegal here, right, I'm allowed to talk about it.

1427
01:03:17,440 --> 01:03:19,240
Speaker 5: It's legal. Marijuana is legal.

1428
01:03:19,480 --> 01:03:22,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's California. Yes, legal, okay, just didn't want to

1429
01:03:22,760 --> 01:03:25,080
Speaker 2: get anyone in trouble, not that I'm saying any names.

1430
01:03:25,360 --> 01:03:28,080
Speaker 2: But anyways, we go to the beach. Someone left one

1431
01:03:28,200 --> 01:03:31,280
Speaker 2: of the joints in my bag, and I guess it

1432
01:03:31,360 --> 01:03:33,200
Speaker 2: was on a towel or something. So when everyone took

1433
01:03:33,240 --> 01:03:36,120
Speaker 2: the towel, someone took the towels out. I'm assuming what

1434
01:03:36,240 --> 01:03:38,920
Speaker 2: happened is the joint fell on the floor. I'm about

1435
01:03:38,960 --> 01:03:41,640
Speaker 2: to leave to go to dinner, and I noticed Phoebe's

1436
01:03:41,680 --> 01:03:47,480
Speaker 2: head is like wobbling back and forth, and I'm like, uh, Caroline,

1437
01:03:47,600 --> 01:03:50,480
Speaker 2: like Phoebe's act my sister. I'm like, Carolin's acting weird.

1438
01:03:50,640 --> 01:03:53,560
Speaker 2: I mean, Phoebe's acting weird. Do you like her head's

1439
01:03:53,600 --> 01:03:56,640
Speaker 2: going back and forth? Did she eat anything? Caroline's like no,

1440
01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:59,440
Speaker 2: I haven't mean, I haven't given her anything different. We

1441
01:03:59,600 --> 01:04:01,520
Speaker 2: did swim her food, so I didn't know if that

1442
01:04:01,680 --> 01:04:04,040
Speaker 2: was having a weird effect on her. So as I'm

1443
01:04:04,080 --> 01:04:06,880
Speaker 2: about to leave, she's like literally sleeping, and she never

1444
01:04:07,040 --> 01:04:08,840
Speaker 2: just sleeps in her arms like when she It was

1445
01:04:08,840 --> 01:04:11,360
Speaker 2: almost like when she was a little puppy. So I'm

1446
01:04:11,480 --> 01:04:13,560
Speaker 2: leaving and I'm like, okay, keep an eye on her,

1447
01:04:13,680 --> 01:04:16,080
Speaker 2: let me know if anything weird happens, and I'll come home.

1448
01:04:17,080 --> 01:04:19,479
Speaker 2: So she calls me when I'm on when I'm at dinner,

1449
01:04:19,520 --> 01:04:22,000
Speaker 2: and she's like, we're gonna take her to the emergency

1450
01:04:22,120 --> 01:04:24,520
Speaker 2: room like she's her eyes are like rolling back in

1451
01:04:24,560 --> 01:04:27,480
Speaker 2: her head, and I'm like, okay, rush her there and

1452
01:04:27,560 --> 01:04:30,240
Speaker 2: then like let me know as soon as you like.

1453
01:04:30,360 --> 01:04:32,160
Speaker 2: They take her back and step. So she calls me

1454
01:04:32,280 --> 01:04:35,720
Speaker 2: and she's like, well, we brought her in and they

1455
01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:39,200
Speaker 2: said she looks like she's stoned, but well, we're going

1456
01:04:39,280 --> 01:04:40,680
Speaker 2: to take her back to do test on her. So

1457
01:04:40,760 --> 01:04:43,520
Speaker 2: they did a drug test on my dog, my sweet

1458
01:04:43,520 --> 01:04:44,080
Speaker 2: little Wow.

1459
01:04:44,160 --> 01:04:45,040
Speaker 5: I didn't know they could do that.

1460
01:04:45,600 --> 01:04:47,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, and they said she was just like stoned out

1461
01:04:48,000 --> 01:04:50,439
Speaker 2: of her mind. Her her heart rate was super low.

1462
01:04:50,880 --> 01:04:51,760
Speaker 2: It was like awful.

1463
01:04:51,840 --> 01:04:56,040
Speaker 3: They kept her like for a few hours so dangerous

1464
01:04:56,080 --> 01:04:56,919
Speaker 3: and scary.

1465
01:04:57,760 --> 01:05:01,240
Speaker 2: And so I had a lash out at my friends

1466
01:05:01,440 --> 01:05:04,880
Speaker 2: who I'm like, no more weed around my apartment or

1467
01:05:05,000 --> 01:05:08,120
Speaker 2: my dog. I don't even like I and whatever. If

1468
01:05:08,120 --> 01:05:10,160
Speaker 2: you smoke weed, that's fine. Tanya wants to get some

1469
01:05:10,360 --> 01:05:12,760
Speaker 2: to be able to sleep better. But and I said

1470
01:05:12,840 --> 01:05:13,920
Speaker 2: I would join her in that.

1471
01:05:14,080 --> 01:05:16,600
Speaker 4: If I just never I've never, I don't. I think

1472
01:05:16,640 --> 01:05:18,800
Speaker 4: I've tried smoking weed once my entire life, and it

1473
01:05:18,840 --> 01:05:19,439
Speaker 4: was in high school.

1474
01:05:19,480 --> 01:05:20,200
Speaker 3: I've never done it.

1475
01:05:20,320 --> 01:05:23,240
Speaker 5: You should look at the oils. You shouldn't smoke like

1476
01:05:23,320 --> 01:05:25,560
Speaker 5: the CBD or correct the type of person that's gonna

1477
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:26,680
Speaker 5: smoke into her lunch.

1478
01:05:26,800 --> 01:05:27,680
Speaker 3: No, so yeah, sure not.

1479
01:05:28,040 --> 01:05:31,240
Speaker 2: No, I don't like being around like regular cigarettes. I

1480
01:05:31,400 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 2: just don't like the smell of weed like I just whatever,

1481
01:05:34,560 --> 01:05:36,320
Speaker 2: if you want to do it, cool, I don't like it.

1482
01:05:36,840 --> 01:05:40,760
Speaker 2: So now if anyone even comes around my apartment with it,

1483
01:05:41,840 --> 01:05:42,560
Speaker 2: they're in trouble.

1484
01:05:43,480 --> 01:05:44,200
Speaker 5: How is she now?

1485
01:05:44,640 --> 01:05:47,560
Speaker 2: She's fine? I guess she slept like on her back

1486
01:05:47,640 --> 01:05:49,840
Speaker 2: with her palls up all night. My sister said she

1487
01:05:49,880 --> 01:05:51,919
Speaker 2: didn't sleep at all because she kept checking to see

1488
01:05:52,240 --> 01:05:54,120
Speaker 2: if she was awake, like every twenty minutes.

1489
01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:58,760
Speaker 5: That's no more zoomies. Well she that cured the zoomies for.

1490
01:05:58,840 --> 01:06:01,160
Speaker 2: A while, because I heard that you can give dogs

1491
01:06:01,200 --> 01:06:04,360
Speaker 2: CBD oil to relax them, but like not marijuana.

1492
01:06:05,960 --> 01:06:08,920
Speaker 5: CEBD oil doesn't make you high, so I basically and like.

1493
01:06:08,920 --> 01:06:12,080
Speaker 3: A joint is like a lot of marijuana packed in

1494
01:06:12,160 --> 01:06:14,480
Speaker 3: real tight. So that's probably like a lot of right,

1495
01:06:14,600 --> 01:06:16,920
Speaker 3: isn't that. When I join us, it was anything with

1496
01:06:17,040 --> 01:06:19,120
Speaker 3: Phoebe would be a lot, That's true.

1497
01:06:19,840 --> 01:06:23,640
Speaker 2: So anyways, I was not happy, almost lost a friendship

1498
01:06:23,720 --> 01:06:29,120
Speaker 2: over it. Yeah, it was dark, but she's alive and

1499
01:06:29,200 --> 01:06:31,760
Speaker 2: she's well. Probably had a great night sleep, they said.

1500
01:06:32,160 --> 01:06:34,640
Speaker 2: They said she probably was. What they assume happened was

1501
01:06:34,680 --> 01:06:38,560
Speaker 2: that she was hallucinating when they took her in, so

1502
01:06:38,720 --> 01:06:41,280
Speaker 2: she was like really scared and like, oh wow, I know,

1503
01:06:41,560 --> 01:06:42,480
Speaker 2: isn't this traumatic?

1504
01:06:42,520 --> 01:06:44,480
Speaker 3: I wonder if she ate the whole joint. I think

1505
01:06:44,520 --> 01:06:46,720
Speaker 3: she ate the whole thing because we couldn't spos to

1506
01:06:46,720 --> 01:06:48,920
Speaker 3: smugles all at once too, Like you're only supposed to like,

1507
01:06:49,040 --> 01:06:50,880
Speaker 3: you know, it's like a it was a chocolate barn.

1508
01:06:50,960 --> 01:06:52,760
Speaker 3: It was only supposed to eat like a little nibble

1509
01:06:52,800 --> 01:06:53,440
Speaker 3: of it or something.

1510
01:06:54,320 --> 01:06:56,440
Speaker 2: I eat a whole chocolate bar one.

1511
01:06:56,400 --> 01:06:59,919
Speaker 5: Oh oh, Yeah, Oh, I showed up at a party

1512
01:07:00,000 --> 01:07:02,400
Speaker 5: and they had pot brownies and luckily I was late

1513
01:07:02,480 --> 01:07:04,160
Speaker 5: and so I didn't eat them. But some people late

1514
01:07:04,200 --> 01:07:06,320
Speaker 5: them and they were down for the count for the day.

1515
01:07:06,360 --> 01:07:07,840
Speaker 5: And so one guy I never saw because he was

1516
01:07:07,880 --> 01:07:09,080
Speaker 5: in the bathroom thrown up the whole time.

1517
01:07:09,200 --> 01:07:09,400
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1518
01:07:09,440 --> 01:07:11,840
Speaker 4: Apparent with like those with the edibles, you're only supposed

1519
01:07:11,840 --> 01:07:14,560
Speaker 4: to eat like a really small small amount of them.

1520
01:07:14,760 --> 01:07:14,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1521
01:07:15,360 --> 01:07:18,640
Speaker 2: Well yeah, and I mean she's literally tiny, a tiny

1522
01:07:18,680 --> 01:07:21,800
Speaker 2: little baby. So anyways, that was probably. Oh and I

1523
01:07:21,880 --> 01:07:24,200
Speaker 2: got a new car. That's something else that happened that

1524
01:07:24,320 --> 01:07:24,880
Speaker 2: was exciting.

1525
01:07:25,360 --> 01:07:26,120
Speaker 3: That is exciting.

1526
01:07:26,720 --> 01:07:28,880
Speaker 5: Tanya got her new apartment.

1527
01:07:29,440 --> 01:07:30,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, new car, new apartment.

1528
01:07:31,320 --> 01:07:34,280
Speaker 5: That's exciting. Twenty nineteen baby, living them by yourself for

1529
01:07:34,320 --> 01:07:36,840
Speaker 5: the first time ever. It's true making friends.

1530
01:07:36,800 --> 01:07:39,240
Speaker 3: Making friends in a new town.

1531
01:07:39,720 --> 01:07:41,560
Speaker 2: Are you gonna like, go door. I bet you're gonna

1532
01:07:41,600 --> 01:07:43,840
Speaker 2: go door or door and bring people like brownies or something.

1533
01:07:43,960 --> 01:07:47,440
Speaker 4: I'm actually gonna get some sort of like chocolates or candy,

1534
01:07:47,560 --> 01:07:50,520
Speaker 4: some sort of something, and I'm gonna leave it on

1535
01:07:50,600 --> 01:07:52,760
Speaker 4: every doorstep with a note just being like, hey, I'm

1536
01:07:52,800 --> 01:07:55,640
Speaker 4: Tanya in the new neighbor My apartment number is bloody blah,

1537
01:07:55,920 --> 01:07:58,520
Speaker 4: like cause I only had it's a small like building,

1538
01:07:58,560 --> 01:08:00,240
Speaker 4: there's only twelve apartments.

1539
01:08:00,680 --> 01:08:04,400
Speaker 5: And you like your neighbors. There's a couple next door who.

1540
01:08:04,320 --> 01:08:07,800
Speaker 4: Are not they're not romantic, but they're a guy and

1541
01:08:07,880 --> 01:08:12,680
Speaker 4: a girl and they've been friends for ever apparently, but

1542
01:08:13,440 --> 01:08:14,200
Speaker 4: they're not dating.

1543
01:08:14,560 --> 01:08:16,320
Speaker 3: Interesting, I haven't met them yet. This is just like

1544
01:08:16,520 --> 01:08:17,000
Speaker 3: what I hear.

1545
01:08:17,640 --> 01:08:19,120
Speaker 5: And they're both like attractive people.

1546
01:08:19,479 --> 01:08:20,080
Speaker 3: No, I don't know.

1547
01:08:20,720 --> 01:08:22,559
Speaker 5: You haven't met them yet. Oh okay, interesting?

1548
01:08:22,640 --> 01:08:25,240
Speaker 2: Well yeah that could That could be a topic if

1549
01:08:25,760 --> 01:08:29,600
Speaker 2: there's any interesting details about them. If they're both super attractive,

1550
01:08:29,760 --> 01:08:32,719
Speaker 2: if they're both straight, that's important.

1551
01:08:32,840 --> 01:08:36,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, but we'll get yeah maybe, but we'll get emails

1552
01:08:36,200 --> 01:08:38,400
Speaker 5: from people saying, look, i'm straight, he's straight. We've been

1553
01:08:38,439 --> 01:08:40,960
Speaker 5: friends our whole lives. Never anything's happened. It's so odd

1554
01:08:41,000 --> 01:08:42,679
Speaker 5: to a lot of us. And maybe you're better people

1555
01:08:42,720 --> 01:08:44,800
Speaker 5: than I am. But I feel like if I was

1556
01:08:44,920 --> 01:08:47,040
Speaker 5: really good friends with this girl my whole life, at

1557
01:08:47,120 --> 01:08:49,080
Speaker 5: some point in my life, I would be interested in

1558
01:08:49,160 --> 01:08:49,920
Speaker 5: crossing that line.

1559
01:08:50,479 --> 01:08:50,680
Speaker 2: It is.

1560
01:08:50,840 --> 01:08:52,800
Speaker 5: I would catch feelings for sure, and like.

1561
01:08:52,880 --> 01:08:53,840
Speaker 3: To live with them too.

1562
01:08:54,040 --> 01:08:58,120
Speaker 2: Is like, yes, living with anyone is a lot.

1563
01:08:59,080 --> 01:09:00,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, more about them.

1564
01:09:00,920 --> 01:09:03,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm going to do a lot of like, Yeah,

1565
01:09:03,439 --> 01:09:05,320
Speaker 4: I'm going to ask a lot of questions to everybody

1566
01:09:05,360 --> 01:09:05,920
Speaker 4: that I live by.

1567
01:09:06,080 --> 01:09:08,439
Speaker 5: We got an email from Rachel. She's very embarrassed by

1568
01:09:08,479 --> 01:09:10,200
Speaker 5: a DM she sent this past weekend. She had a

1569
01:09:10,200 --> 01:09:12,640
Speaker 5: future many drinks at a friend's wedding. She met this

1570
01:09:12,680 --> 01:09:15,000
Speaker 5: guy the weekend before out with one of her best friends.

1571
01:09:15,120 --> 01:09:17,200
Speaker 5: Her best friend is engaged to one of his good friends,

1572
01:09:17,240 --> 01:09:19,759
Speaker 5: so they all went out as a group on Saturday night. Anyway,

1573
01:09:20,120 --> 01:09:22,720
Speaker 5: I sent them a DM one week later. It ended

1574
01:09:22,800 --> 01:09:26,120
Speaker 5: with we should talk sometime. Regardless of having zero game,

1575
01:09:26,320 --> 01:09:28,720
Speaker 5: this guy, who is everything I would want in a guy,

1576
01:09:29,280 --> 01:09:33,360
Speaker 5: ghosted me zero reply. I'm so embarrassed by my alcohol

1577
01:09:33,439 --> 01:09:36,080
Speaker 5: fueled actions. How do I recover from this? Do I

1578
01:09:36,160 --> 01:09:39,400
Speaker 5: just forget him the whole situation? All I can think

1579
01:09:39,400 --> 01:09:41,240
Speaker 5: about is how he now thinks I'm creepy and that

1580
01:09:41,400 --> 01:09:42,800
Speaker 5: makes me so uncomfortable.

1581
01:09:43,520 --> 01:09:46,800
Speaker 2: Wait, did she do not really send the whole DM?

1582
01:09:46,960 --> 01:09:49,120
Speaker 2: She's just saying It ended it with we should talk,

1583
01:09:49,280 --> 01:09:51,639
Speaker 2: correct because that's not that bad.

1584
01:09:51,720 --> 01:09:52,920
Speaker 5: I don't think this is that bad.

1585
01:09:53,040 --> 01:09:54,880
Speaker 2: But she didn't share the rest of the DM.

1586
01:09:55,320 --> 01:09:57,439
Speaker 5: Is there any excuse on his part, Like, are there

1587
01:09:57,520 --> 01:09:59,559
Speaker 5: guys that just don't to check their dms? They don't

1588
01:09:59,560 --> 01:10:01,400
Speaker 5: have the notice cations on. Is there any way he

1589
01:10:01,479 --> 01:10:02,360
Speaker 5: didn't get this DM?

1590
01:10:03,640 --> 01:10:05,920
Speaker 2: There's a small chance that he didn't get it. But

1591
01:10:06,000 --> 01:10:09,280
Speaker 2: I would say mostly follow each other. Oh they are

1592
01:10:09,320 --> 01:10:09,880
Speaker 2: following each other.

1593
01:10:10,000 --> 01:10:12,800
Speaker 4: Well, we don't know if they're not following each other.

1594
01:10:13,040 --> 01:10:14,840
Speaker 4: I think there might be a good chance he never

1595
01:10:14,920 --> 01:10:16,960
Speaker 4: saw it because I don't think guys check their dms

1596
01:10:16,960 --> 01:10:17,719
Speaker 4: as much as girls.

1597
01:10:17,840 --> 01:10:20,879
Speaker 2: I think guys check it more than girls, really totally,

1598
01:10:21,400 --> 01:10:25,040
Speaker 2: because the girls slide into guys dms often.

1599
01:10:25,800 --> 01:10:27,160
Speaker 3: Maybe that's just something I tell us.

1600
01:10:29,560 --> 01:10:33,439
Speaker 5: That's why post Malone has it responded, Yeah, guys don't.

1601
01:10:33,360 --> 01:10:34,000
Speaker 3: Check their DM.

1602
01:10:34,320 --> 01:10:36,200
Speaker 2: I mean there's like a chance that maybe if he's

1603
01:10:36,240 --> 01:10:38,200
Speaker 2: not on social media all the time, maybe he doesn't

1604
01:10:38,439 --> 01:10:40,519
Speaker 2: check those. But I feel like most guys for the

1605
01:10:40,560 --> 01:10:45,040
Speaker 2: most part check those. However, I wouldn't let it like

1606
01:10:45,439 --> 01:10:49,760
Speaker 2: I wouldn't be embarrassed or like allow you to get

1607
01:10:49,840 --> 01:10:50,439
Speaker 2: down about it.

1608
01:10:51,280 --> 01:10:54,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's okay. I think if you see him again,

1609
01:10:54,560 --> 01:10:57,439
Speaker 5: gauge it because it's gonna be a little weird. If

1610
01:10:57,439 --> 01:10:59,040
Speaker 5: he got it and didn't respond, it might be a

1611
01:10:59,080 --> 01:11:01,200
Speaker 5: little weird. If it's not weird at all, then I

1612
01:11:01,280 --> 01:11:03,680
Speaker 5: think everything's fine. He probably never saw it. Either way,

1613
01:11:03,720 --> 01:11:05,040
Speaker 5: it's fine. I wouldn't stress about it.

1614
01:11:05,160 --> 01:11:07,439
Speaker 2: I would not stress about it. I would not. I

1615
01:11:07,439 --> 01:11:10,240
Speaker 2: wouldn't DM him again. I wouldn't say anything. I would

1616
01:11:10,240 --> 01:11:11,320
Speaker 2: just let it, let it die.

1617
01:11:11,680 --> 01:11:14,240
Speaker 3: That would be my advice. M again, did you get this?

1618
01:11:14,520 --> 01:11:19,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, that like makes me look so cringe.

1619
01:11:19,760 --> 01:11:21,240
Speaker 3: I know my whole life.

1620
01:11:21,560 --> 01:11:24,479
Speaker 2: Oh why do you do that? You know not too though,

1621
01:11:24,960 --> 01:11:26,000
Speaker 2: I know, but like.

1622
01:11:27,640 --> 01:11:30,080
Speaker 3: It's embarrassing until it's not. Do you know what I mean?

1623
01:11:30,479 --> 01:11:34,519
Speaker 2: No? No, well no, no, it's embarrassing until it's not.

1624
01:11:34,720 --> 01:11:37,200
Speaker 4: I think it's like embarrassing because it's like everything I'm

1625
01:11:37,240 --> 01:11:40,000
Speaker 4: not supposed to do until it's not, until the right

1626
01:11:40,120 --> 01:11:41,240
Speaker 4: guy it's not.

1627
01:11:41,560 --> 01:11:43,960
Speaker 5: I see, Hey, Becca, I heard that you're a fan

1628
01:11:44,000 --> 01:11:44,559
Speaker 5: of islands.

1629
01:11:44,960 --> 01:11:46,120
Speaker 2: I love islands.

1630
01:11:46,200 --> 01:11:47,679
Speaker 5: They brought us a bunch of food, so I wanted

1631
01:11:47,720 --> 01:11:48,200
Speaker 5: to mention them.

1632
01:11:48,439 --> 01:11:51,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm starving. I haven't eaten anything all day. It's

1633
01:11:51,240 --> 01:11:55,040
Speaker 2: just letting y'all know. It is to forty and I

1634
01:11:55,600 --> 01:11:56,559
Speaker 2: fourteen forty.

1635
01:11:58,280 --> 01:12:02,320
Speaker 5: Oh, graze, we never talked about graves Stormy. Oh okay,

1636
01:12:02,520 --> 01:12:05,479
Speaker 5: we'll get to graze a second. Yeah, speaking of the

1637
01:12:05,560 --> 01:12:09,000
Speaker 5: wait Finish Islands. I love Islands. We go there regularly

1638
01:12:09,160 --> 01:12:12,880
Speaker 5: with my full family. We're Saturday night regulars. So enjoy

1639
01:12:13,000 --> 01:12:14,760
Speaker 5: Islands because they're doing an all day happy hour on

1640
01:12:14,800 --> 01:12:15,960
Speaker 5: Sunday during football season.

1641
01:12:16,080 --> 01:12:19,080
Speaker 2: That's amazing. You need to go their basket of fries. Oh,

1642
01:12:19,320 --> 01:12:21,080
Speaker 2: and they're burgers. Oh do you know what?

1643
01:12:21,320 --> 01:12:21,439
Speaker 1: Uh?

1644
01:12:22,240 --> 01:12:25,400
Speaker 3: Papa rad is a big Islands. I would imagine that

1645
01:12:25,640 --> 01:12:29,040
Speaker 3: he enjoys the the soup, the tortillas.

1646
01:12:29,160 --> 01:12:31,160
Speaker 5: Oh, it's great. I enjoy that as well.

1647
01:12:31,520 --> 01:12:34,840
Speaker 2: Icy white caeso dip they have new I haven't had.

1648
01:12:35,120 --> 01:12:37,800
Speaker 2: White caeso is not does not exist here like it

1649
01:12:37,880 --> 01:12:40,840
Speaker 2: does in the South and the Midwest, so Islands might be.

1650
01:12:40,960 --> 01:12:42,400
Speaker 3: My taking colors it.

1651
01:12:42,479 --> 01:12:46,080
Speaker 2: Normally they don't really have keeso dip out here in general,

1652
01:12:46,520 --> 01:12:48,200
Speaker 2: but white caeso is the best.

1653
01:12:48,680 --> 01:12:50,639
Speaker 5: Thanks Islands for bringing us food. I have the rewards

1654
01:12:50,680 --> 01:12:53,839
Speaker 5: app on my phone, fifty six of them in California, Arizona, Hawaii,

1655
01:12:53,880 --> 01:12:57,120
Speaker 5: and Nevada. Sorry O the forty six states you're missing out.

1656
01:12:58,160 --> 01:13:00,320
Speaker 5: Grays is Grays, I'm not. I have no beef with

1657
01:13:00,360 --> 01:13:02,160
Speaker 5: the new season of Grays. Every time I mentioned Gray

1658
01:13:02,200 --> 01:13:04,880
Speaker 5: at the time, he goes, how, how how is this

1659
01:13:04,960 --> 01:13:05,280
Speaker 5: the case?

1660
01:13:05,400 --> 01:13:08,400
Speaker 2: I didn't even watch this last episode because we were

1661
01:13:08,479 --> 01:13:11,360
Speaker 2: doing videos for People's choice word don't forget to vote

1662
01:13:11,360 --> 01:13:16,960
Speaker 2: today and people responding being like, you're literally not missing

1663
01:13:17,160 --> 01:13:19,120
Speaker 2: anything during Grace right now. It's horrible.

1664
01:13:20,439 --> 01:13:21,200
Speaker 3: It's so true.

1665
01:13:21,800 --> 01:13:24,479
Speaker 2: I'm gonna die. I'm gonna watch it, but I wasn't.

1666
01:13:25,080 --> 01:13:27,720
Speaker 2: It took away the excitement of watching it when I

1667
01:13:27,760 --> 01:13:29,080
Speaker 2: got that many responds about it.

1668
01:13:29,200 --> 01:13:32,320
Speaker 5: I enjoyed it. I'm sorry, I enjoy I'm enjoying Grays

1669
01:13:32,400 --> 01:13:32,920
Speaker 5: this season.

1670
01:13:33,080 --> 01:13:33,360
Speaker 1: I am.

1671
01:13:33,520 --> 01:13:36,360
Speaker 5: I love the woman who's trying to match up Meredith.

1672
01:13:36,520 --> 01:13:38,920
Speaker 5: She's a great actress and a very endearing character.

1673
01:13:40,040 --> 01:13:40,240
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1674
01:13:40,360 --> 01:13:43,000
Speaker 3: The patients, the patient, Yeah, I think I'm gonna enjoy

1675
01:13:43,080 --> 01:13:43,360
Speaker 3: that too.

1676
01:13:44,720 --> 01:13:47,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like I haven't seen episodes, so I don't

1677
01:13:47,240 --> 01:13:48,240
Speaker 2: know really what you are talking.

1678
01:13:48,280 --> 01:13:48,479
Speaker 3: I know.

1679
01:13:50,000 --> 01:13:52,800
Speaker 5: In the first two I think, oh yeah, because there's

1680
01:13:52,800 --> 01:13:54,360
Speaker 5: been three now hours.

1681
01:13:56,600 --> 01:13:59,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I'm gonna keep watching. I just didn't.

1682
01:13:59,360 --> 01:14:01,840
Speaker 2: I like didn't my TV, like I used to watch

1683
01:14:01,880 --> 01:14:03,639
Speaker 2: it live with all the commercials and everything.

1684
01:14:04,240 --> 01:14:07,120
Speaker 5: Oh, I don't recommend that I did to do that.

1685
01:14:07,439 --> 01:14:09,160
Speaker 5: I did want to read you this tweet that we

1686
01:14:09,320 --> 01:14:13,479
Speaker 5: got from Brittany use my last one percent of battery

1687
01:14:13,840 --> 01:14:16,600
Speaker 5: voting for Becca, Tilly and Tanya ad scrub it in

1688
01:14:16,720 --> 01:14:21,040
Speaker 5: pod hashtag worth it hashtag you guys are my red starbursts.

1689
01:14:22,160 --> 01:14:27,439
Speaker 2: Oh, Brittany, that's so sweet.

1690
01:14:27,680 --> 01:14:28,240
Speaker 1: I love that.

1691
01:14:28,680 --> 01:14:32,519
Speaker 5: Thank you for using your last one dot e online

1692
01:14:32,560 --> 01:14:32,960
Speaker 5: dot com.

1693
01:14:33,200 --> 01:14:35,360
Speaker 6: I voted for like two and a half hours straight

1694
01:14:35,680 --> 01:14:38,680
Speaker 6: on Tanya uses my I vote at night, like as

1695
01:14:38,720 --> 01:14:41,640
Speaker 6: I'm laying in bed and Tanya uses my email and

1696
01:14:41,800 --> 01:14:43,880
Speaker 6: max is out, which is fine, but then.

1697
01:14:43,760 --> 01:14:46,920
Speaker 2: She's like, did you guess what I just did? I

1698
01:14:47,040 --> 01:14:50,240
Speaker 2: used your email and max all your votes, and I'm like,

1699
01:14:51,320 --> 01:14:52,920
Speaker 2: I do it at night. I would have found out,

1700
01:14:53,600 --> 01:14:55,320
Speaker 2: but like, don't yell.

1701
01:14:55,760 --> 01:14:57,560
Speaker 3: It was eight thirty pm, by the way, like the

1702
01:14:58,600 --> 01:15:02,280
Speaker 3: stay up till the day was like already wine way

1703
01:15:02,360 --> 01:15:02,920
Speaker 3: wound down.

1704
01:15:03,000 --> 01:15:05,040
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't get bed at eight thirty

1705
01:15:05,160 --> 01:15:07,080
Speaker 2: like you. That's when I do it. I lay in bed.

1706
01:15:07,560 --> 01:15:09,120
Speaker 4: I do have to stay shout out to our Facebook

1707
01:15:09,120 --> 01:15:11,120
Speaker 4: group because I was like, I had max out on

1708
01:15:11,160 --> 01:15:12,880
Speaker 4: all the emails that I have, so I was like,

1709
01:15:12,880 --> 01:15:13,599
Speaker 4: I need some emails.

1710
01:15:13,640 --> 01:15:15,479
Speaker 3: If nobody you know, if you don't have time to vote,

1711
01:15:15,479 --> 01:15:17,439
Speaker 3: I'm happy to use your email we got. I didn't

1712
01:15:17,479 --> 01:15:19,240
Speaker 3: even use everybody's emails because I couldn't.

1713
01:15:19,360 --> 01:15:19,559
Speaker 5: Wow.

1714
01:15:19,720 --> 01:15:23,000
Speaker 3: I was like, so people were like, thank god, six day,

1715
01:15:24,040 --> 01:15:25,400
Speaker 3: like six hundred emails in there.

1716
01:15:25,439 --> 01:15:28,840
Speaker 2: I was like, Wow, actually enabling people to be lazy. Yeah,

1717
01:15:28,960 --> 01:15:29,720
Speaker 2: you're saying you're going.

1718
01:15:29,720 --> 01:15:29,960
Speaker 1: To do it.

1719
01:15:30,080 --> 01:15:34,400
Speaker 3: Guess what, No, but you're going to have to do it.

1720
01:15:34,640 --> 01:15:36,400
Speaker 2: I'm doing it all six hundred.

1721
01:15:36,520 --> 01:15:38,760
Speaker 3: I've been trying. I went through a hefty I went

1722
01:15:38,840 --> 01:15:41,160
Speaker 3: through a I went through a hefty bunch of them.

1723
01:15:41,280 --> 01:15:43,200
Speaker 5: This may be our only shot. And if people's choice

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Speaker 5: awards in.

1725
01:15:43,760 --> 01:15:47,000
Speaker 2: Our lives you guys what I don't believe in. I

1726
01:15:47,080 --> 01:15:49,040
Speaker 2: don't think so. I think we're going to come around

1727
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Speaker 2: with something next year. Yeah yeah, okay actress actress leading

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Speaker 3: Yeah, best extras in a sitcom.

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Speaker 5: They're all beca this week. It's easy to remember.

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Speaker 3: I have a tease for next week.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 3: I love that I decided something about my wedding over

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Speaker 3: the weekend. It involves a singer that I want to

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Speaker 3: sing at my wedding. So I was going to FaceTime

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Speaker 3: said person and ask if they will perform at my wedding.

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Speaker 5: And you recently changed your dream engagement ring. The when

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Speaker 5: you've dreamed about your whole life is now changed.

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Speaker 4: It's changed what what I just don't want to I

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Speaker 4: used to want like a big fatty rock like kind

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Speaker 4: of hanging out off my finger, And now I realize

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Speaker 4: I want it more like set in into the ring.

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Speaker 3: Like not as like.

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Speaker 2: It's a huge change.

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Speaker 5: She wants a ring that she doesn't have to take

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Speaker 5: off at the gym and when she's whatever. She wants

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Speaker 5: to be able to leave it on all.

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Speaker 3: The time, leave it on all the time.

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Speaker 2: I want a big ring that sits up.

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Speaker 1: Out.

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Speaker 5: You want to take it off from time to time,

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Speaker 5: that's fine with you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't love wearing rings in general. So I

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Speaker 2: want to have a band, the really pretty band that

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Speaker 2: I keep on all the time, and then wear that

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Speaker 2: have the ring for whatever.

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Speaker 5: What about a tattoo that's very hot right now? It's

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Speaker 5: getting tattooed rings because then you don't feel like you

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Speaker 5: rang a ring.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, not a pose, but not completely for it, not

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Speaker 2: opposed to it, just like, don't know if it's my style.

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Speaker 2: I would like to have. I have actually a very

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Speaker 2: lovely hands my mom always told me.

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Speaker 5: I did, but I can't see those hands from them.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, very.

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Speaker 3: Lovelyess and thank you, lovelier than you're like I would.

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Speaker 2: I would like just like a really pretty dainty like

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Speaker 2: diamond band to wear it is like every day, because

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Speaker 2: I don't like having anything too big bulky. But I

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Speaker 2: would like to sluck.

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Speaker 5: Rock, yeah, fatty rock.

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Speaker 2: The people know I'm taking alright on that note, do

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Speaker 2: you want to call time of death?

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Speaker 3: Twelve thirteen fourteen time of death fourteen forty seven