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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen. If you

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Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,

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Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're gonna read this

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Speaker 1: one right here, right now. Yeah, buggle up, hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: We got it for you. Here it is letter. Well,

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Speaker 1: before we get started, Tommy, I'm gonna tell everyone, uh,

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Speaker 1: this letter today is different from yesterday's slave letter. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so no more Carlo you are today, carl you miss

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Speaker 1: yesterday letter. Steve black astray we had a slave. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, explain seller. Steve's black dude. When he has sex,

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Speaker 1: he's having trouble having sex with women twice course in

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Speaker 1: the middle of it, he wants the women to treat

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Speaker 1: him like a slave. Day they won't him what. She

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Speaker 1: wanted him to beat him, spit oning what and called

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Speaker 1: him a n worried and black women, white women and

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Speaker 1: Mexican women and they all have in trouble with doing that,

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Speaker 1: and they think that he's just cisico and you know,

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Speaker 1: oh wow, I to the past. Yeah, all right, here

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Speaker 1: we go subject for today's letter. His wife was very

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Speaker 1: calm on the phone. Dear Stephen Shirley. Six months ago,

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Speaker 1: I met a man and I had no idea that

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Speaker 1: he was married when I met him. We waited a

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Speaker 1: month to have sex, and a week after that, I

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Speaker 1: was talking to a group of friends and told them

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Speaker 1: I met someone, and that's when I found out he

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Speaker 1: is married. When I confronted him, he didn't deny it,

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Speaker 1: and he said that it would not be a problem

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Speaker 1: for long. Unfortunately, I was already in love. I had

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Speaker 1: never dated a married man, and I was extremely hurt.

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Speaker 1: We continued our relationship because he had me believing that

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Speaker 1: he was about to leave his wife. When we went

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Speaker 1: apartment hunting and we found the perfect place to start

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Speaker 1: our new life together, he put down the deposit and

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Speaker 1: first month's rent, but he didn't move in with me.

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Speaker 1: He told me that he was going to move in

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Speaker 1: as soon as he could, but he had to tie

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Speaker 1: up some loose ends in his marriage. Meanwhile, he still

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Speaker 1: lives with his wife, and I'm miserable. So I got

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Speaker 1: impatient last week and called his house. He and I

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Speaker 1: were arguing hot and heavy on the phone, and he

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Speaker 1: told me to hold on. He put his wife on

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Speaker 1: the phone, so now she knows everything, and our love

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Speaker 1: triangle is very complicated. His wife said, they have a

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Speaker 1: lot of history together and they own properties, so he

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Speaker 1: needs time to handle his business first. I'm not sure

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Speaker 1: what kind of woman he's married to, and I couldn't

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Speaker 1: tell if she's angry or not. She seemed cool, but

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Speaker 1: like I said, I've never been involved in a situation

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Speaker 1: with a married man. I'm giving him till the end

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Speaker 1: of the month to see what happens. Should I trust

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Speaker 1: what he says and give him time to get his

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Speaker 1: stuff together, or should I move out of the apartment

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Speaker 1: and move on with my life without him? What he

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Speaker 1: makes is a lot going on, false, don't Yeah, there's

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Speaker 1: a lot going on for just a six month relationship. Okay,

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Speaker 1: but I have to tell you off the bat girl,

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Speaker 1: move on with your life now. When he works out,

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Speaker 1: you know, his so called loose ends with his wife

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Speaker 1: and his history together with her, with all their property

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Speaker 1: and stuff, Let's see what happens. Let's see what he does. Then.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, protect yourself, protect your heart by not

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Speaker 1: seeing him, or don't take his calls for a while

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Speaker 1: because he is still married. Okay, he's still married. Period.

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Speaker 1: I will say this, something is going on in this marriage,

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Speaker 1: meaning they could be breaking off. He could be telling

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Speaker 1: you the truth, because otherwise, why would he put his

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Speaker 1: what's happening in their marriage? I mean, who, who? What wife?

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Speaker 1: Does this? I mean certainly not what I expected when

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Speaker 1: fashioned cussing out or something, but that did not happen.

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Speaker 1: I mean, she kind of explained situation to you with Darrel. Yeah, girl,

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Speaker 1: you can have him, just wait till we you know,

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Speaker 1: she went there with it. So this property, yeah, wait

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Speaker 1: So you know, in this situation, I say, stick to

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Speaker 1: your ultimatum. You gave him an ultimatum by the end

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Speaker 1: if he hasn't moved out, I say, then it is

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Speaker 1: time for you to move on until you see something different. Okay,

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Speaker 1: talk is one thing, but actions a completely different, and

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Speaker 1: that's what you should rely on. What he does not

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Speaker 1: what he says, Steve, Well, that ain't what I see

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Speaker 1: in this letter, So he would go six months ago,

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Speaker 1: he was married. Now this letter, this relationship is six

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Speaker 1: months old. Shirley did say that I didn't know idea

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Speaker 1: he was married. So we waited a month to have sex.

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Speaker 1: And a week after that, I was talking to a

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Speaker 1: I found out. He was mad. I'd haven't told y'all

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Speaker 1: the ninety day rule. I have said it to y'all.

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Speaker 1: But oh, y'all, listen, uncle Steve, See, if you'd have

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Speaker 1: waited ninety days, you could have told your friends after

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Speaker 1: y'all had sex. After a month I met this man.

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Speaker 1: You could have told him that before you had sex,

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Speaker 1: and then they would have told you the same thing

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Speaker 1: could have made a better decision. But all, now, y'all,

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Speaker 1: don't listen to me. They had a ninety rue old fashioned. Well,

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Speaker 1: y'all old and I'm gonna tell you how I know

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Speaker 1: that too. I confronted him. He didn't deny it, said

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Speaker 1: it wouldn't be a problem for loan Unfortunately I was

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Speaker 1: already in love. Okay, after one month, no and and one,

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Speaker 1: y'all had sex at one week and now you just gone.

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Speaker 1: You thought this was it? He put it right on

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Speaker 1: the phone. See this, How I know it was a problem.

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Speaker 1: I was already in love, and I've never dated a

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Speaker 1: married man, which means she's been around for a while,

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Speaker 1: and I was extremely hurt. We continued our relationship. I'll

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Speaker 1: tell you about that. Yeah, all right, we'll have part

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Speaker 1: two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour. Subject his wife was very calm on

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Speaker 1: all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry. Let

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Speaker 1: the subject his wife, it's very calm on the phone.

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Speaker 1: Jumped the gun, had sex with the man, found out

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Speaker 1: he was mad. Got you talking to some friends. They

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Speaker 1: something came up, and found out he was married. Confronted him.

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Speaker 1: He denied, but he said it wouldn't be a problem

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Speaker 1: for long. But unfortunately, you was already in love because

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Speaker 1: you're old, and you thought this was it. I never

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Speaker 1: dated a married man before me, and you've been around

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Speaker 1: to leave his wife. No, you continued the relationship because

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Speaker 1: about to leave his wife. We went apartment hunting. That's

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Speaker 1: what he always here. This is what we are. That's

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Speaker 1: what they say. It won't be a problem for long.

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Speaker 1: That's a common line. Then I'm about to leave my wife.

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Speaker 1: That's another common line. We went apartment hunting, that where

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Speaker 1: and we found the perfect place to start our new

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Speaker 1: life together. What didn't you? Ain't this the same dude

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Speaker 1: that's married? What new life together you talking about? He

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Speaker 1: put down the deposit and the first month's rent, but

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Speaker 1: he didn't move in with me. Oh that ain't not done.

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Speaker 1: That the fold. That's a sugar daddy. He told me

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Speaker 1: that he was gonna move in as soon as he could. Well,

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Speaker 1: that don't have a date on it. But he had

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Speaker 1: to tie some loose ends in his marriage. That's true,

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Speaker 1: like the divorce. That's a big ass, Lucien. Meanwhile, he

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Speaker 1: still lives with his wife, and I'm miserable. So I

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Speaker 1: got impatient last week and called his house. Who got

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Speaker 1: a house fault? Young people don't have house, Paul, young

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Speaker 1: people got a problems day. He had got no house fault.

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Speaker 1: You call his house. That's caused, y'all old all of

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Speaker 1: this stuff, says these This is grown people right here.

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Speaker 1: So now you are arguing hot and heavy on the phone.

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Speaker 1: He told me to hold on because in the background,

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Speaker 1: who are you talking to? Herbert? His name is Herbert Herbert?

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Speaker 1: Who is you in that argue with here? Bernard did hill? Hell?

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Speaker 1: He put his wife on the phone, so now she

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Speaker 1: knows everything. And I love triangle. It's very complicated. It's

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Speaker 1: all this hen you can call this house. But now

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Speaker 1: y'all got a love triangle. And this six months after

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Speaker 1: months of still seeing this man. His wife said that

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Speaker 1: Once again, that's an old ass statement. And they own properties. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: needs time to handle his business first. I'm not sure

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Speaker 1: I couldn't tell if she's angry or not. Now this

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Speaker 1: a fatal attraction. It's been to be rappits in a pot,

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Speaker 1: It's gonna start like that. Then you're gonna turn up missing.

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Speaker 1: I've never been involved in a situation with a married

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Speaker 1: man where you quit saying that. Stop saying that because

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Speaker 1: you involved in a situation with a married man now

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Speaker 1: involved with one before. You've been involved with him for

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Speaker 1: six months. I'm giving him to the end of the

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Speaker 1: month to see what happened. You what all you want

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Speaker 1: to move it to? Get started? Oh? See what happened?

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you get yourself some security at your

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Speaker 1: to do. Should I trust what he says and give

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Speaker 1: him time to get his stuff together? Lady? You already

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Speaker 1: doing that even in this letter. You've been sawing before

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Speaker 1: you sent us to letter. Y'all still sleeping together, y'all

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Speaker 1: still in a complicated triangle. So quit talking about should

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Speaker 1: I give him time you're still seeing him? Or should

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Speaker 1: I move out the apartment and move on with your

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Speaker 1: lap That partment in your name, he gave you. All

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Speaker 1: he gave you was the first monst rent and the deposit,

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Speaker 1: that apartment in your name that ain't in his name.

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Speaker 1: Move out if you want to go, get your ass sued.

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Speaker 1: That's what shouldn't have happened. Now. Now you're getting sued,

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Speaker 1: and you're gonna come up missing your life and be

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