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Speaker 1: My crazy mother in law just passed away, and I

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Speaker 1: think it was my faults. What do I do? Should

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Speaker 1: you go no contact with your family? That's the question

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Speaker 1: we're answering today with this first story.

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Speaker 2: Put the blame on yourself. It's the healthiest thing to do.

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Speaker 1: That is correct. And this comes from my keys were stolen,

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Speaker 1: who says I have decided I will no longer be

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Speaker 1: referring to my soon ex wife as wifey. Even that

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Speaker 1: feels wrong now, so I'll just be saying soon to

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Speaker 1: be ex wife instead.

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Speaker 2: Well, okay, but if you were soon to be ex wife,

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Speaker 2: it would actually be you were remarrying your ex wife

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Speaker 2: or yeah you were me, or yeah that's what it

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Speaker 2: would be.

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Speaker 1: I just feel like we inceptioned marriage. Yeah we did.

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Speaker 2: We did all This person is so mad at their

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Speaker 2: ex wife that they're going to remarry them.

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Speaker 1: Yes, just showed them. A few months ago, I anonymously

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Speaker 1: reported my mother in law as a serious hoarder. Someone

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Speaker 1: here commented I should report my mother in law's hoarding

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Speaker 1: to the fire Marshal. No, you could do that, and

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Speaker 1: at the time I decided to do it because I

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Speaker 1: was angry and wanted to get back at her. For

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Speaker 1: stealing my collection from me making my life hellp.

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Speaker 2: Collection of what great question?

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Speaker 3: It makes sense to tell the fire firefighters that because

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Speaker 3: like it's like fire huzards can exit.

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Speaker 2: I thought they could just burn it all.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like they both. They both

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Speaker 1: make a lot of sense. Mother in law has been

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Speaker 1: building a hoard in her house since my wife was

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Speaker 1: a teenager. The house was filled nearly to the brim

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Speaker 1: with rotten garbage and was rod and invested. I've actually

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Speaker 1: seen rats there. I made a call to the city

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Speaker 1: from a number.

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Speaker 2: I go, oh, I mean to imagine that. I get

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Speaker 2: like sad when there's underwear on the floor. I can't

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Speaker 2: imagine they're being rats too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I imagine there was underwear on the floor, but

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Speaker 1: it was just rats. I don't get this guy taking

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Speaker 1: every opportunity he can.

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Speaker 2: Right before this stream, he's like, yeah, dude, I don't

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Speaker 2: have the credit card. We were looking for the credit card,

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Speaker 2: and he just takes out a condom from his wall,

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Speaker 2: like both it up and he's like, oh, sorry about that.

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Speaker 1: How did later? God? This guy anyways, I've never seen

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Speaker 1: someone trying to convince me so much that he's getting

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Speaker 1: it and I'm like, Rightley, I know you don't have

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Speaker 1: to convince me. Anyways, I first thought nothing came of

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Speaker 1: it as we went by, but I guess someone looked

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Speaker 1: into it because mother in law's house was given an inspection.

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Speaker 1: The house was found to be in even worse shape

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Speaker 1: than I thought. It was not only a serious fire

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Speaker 1: hazard to itself and everything around it, and wrote it infested.

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Speaker 1: There were also some exposed electrical wires, a roof leak

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Speaker 1: that's gone unfixed for years that caused bad rot damage,

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Speaker 1: and black bowles.

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Speaker 2: Uh huh the worst out the willies.

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Speaker 1: Yep. The outside of the house didn't look that bad,

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Speaker 1: and it was in a neighborhood full of old houses

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Speaker 1: that looked similar, which is likely why no one reported

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Speaker 1: it until I did. My soon to be ex wife

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Speaker 1: figured out it was me who reported her mother, what

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Speaker 1: with the timing and all. She came home and ran

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Speaker 1: into me about all the things her mother told her

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Speaker 1: the inspector found and how her mother was likely to

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Speaker 1: lose her house.

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Speaker 2: Now, wow, that's lame. I didn't know you can. It's

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Speaker 2: my property. Yeah, I could be a hoarder if I

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Speaker 2: want to.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like that. That's not right.

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Speaker 2: That feels wrong. Yeah, and they can take you all right,

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Speaker 2: So like they take your stuff away if you have

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Speaker 2: not enough stuff, and they take your stuff away. If

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Speaker 2: you have too much stuff.

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Speaker 1: You can't win.

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Speaker 2: You can't win.

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Speaker 1: You have just the right amount of stuff.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, the goalielocks of stuff.

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Speaker 1: That's right. But it was only a matter of time

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Speaker 1: before something like that happened. If I didn't report her mother,

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Speaker 1: someone else would have eventually soon to be ex screme

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Speaker 1: to me that I was a horrible, deceitful person. I

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Speaker 1: asked her if she wanted to be the pot or

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Speaker 1: the kettle. That reminded her of all the reasons why

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Speaker 1: we were separating. Barn I ended up losing my cool

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Speaker 1: and ranted at her, saying that her enabling of her

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Speaker 1: mother caused this, her acting like her mother stealing any

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Speaker 1: irreplaceable skeleton key collection I've spent a decade building. Wasn't

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Speaker 1: important caused.

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Speaker 2: This skeleton key collection is for breaking into things? Right?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Also, is there a TLDR that should be updated?

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Speaker 1: Boo?

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Speaker 2: But I think a skeleton key collection is a thing

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Speaker 2: used to lock pick right.

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Speaker 1: I think that we've had stories where there's like skelet

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Speaker 1: and keys for like disabled bathrooms and stuff. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's like a universal key to different areas

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Speaker 2: around like the city. It could be.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe I don't know what.

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Speaker 2: Somebody let us know what a skeleton key is. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: we trust Chat more than Google.

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Speaker 1: That is actually, yes, forget Google Chat.

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Speaker 3: Skeleton ty tie of master key in which the touretted

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Speaker 3: edge has been removed in such a way it can

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Speaker 3: open numerous locks.

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Speaker 1: Got it? Oh yeah, it opens It's a lock picking tool.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy. We need to reinvent keys.

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Speaker 3: And also question if you were given a handful of

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Speaker 3: keys in a like a villa or whatever late at night,

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Speaker 3: whenever all the stores are closed, how much would you

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Speaker 3: pay to just explore it?

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Speaker 2: What? Episode know what this? I don't even know what

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Speaker 2: that hypothetical is. So I went to a villa.

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Speaker 3: No, no, I went to a German keys Okay, so

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Speaker 3: my first night, yeah yeah, my first day with Angie.

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Speaker 1: We got there late.

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Speaker 3: So it was in a German town and there was

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Speaker 3: like a lot of cool shops, but everything was closed,

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Speaker 3: and I was like, magic, if you had a bunch

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Speaker 3: of keys and you could just explore this little place,

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Speaker 3: how much would you pay?

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Speaker 1: To do it.

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Speaker 2: Is this just a way for you to talk about

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Speaker 2: your first date with Angie and then remind us of

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Speaker 2: how much you're getting laid once again?

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Speaker 1: Oh do you guys ever?

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Speaker 2: You know, like go on this first day where he

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Speaker 2: like lights some candles.

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Speaker 1: He lights candles. I do like candles. It was a

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Speaker 1: whole pre show banter.

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Speaker 2: You could like candles too, Yeah, I do like candles. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: see this lights candles.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we know he loves hot wax. So back to

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Speaker 1: the story. Her selfish unilateral decision making and brady behavior

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Speaker 1: ever since we got married caused this. Couples are supposed

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Speaker 1: to make decisions together, instead, she kept making them for

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Speaker 1: So I made a unilateral decision of my own for

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Speaker 1: once and reported her mother's hoarding, which needed to be

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Speaker 1: reported anyway, because it's a danger to her and the

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Speaker 1: people around her. I told soon to be X, I

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Speaker 1: was long sick of sucking it up all the time

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Speaker 1: and just letting things pass while they acted like I

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Speaker 1: was the bad guy and walked all over me. Her

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Speaker 1: mother would get nothing more from me, and maybe she wouldn't.

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Speaker 1: He is crazy. Once she's no longer filled in a

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Speaker 1: house filled with fumes of rotten garbage, rode an excrement,

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Speaker 1: and black freaking mold.

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Speaker 2: Just can't imat? Can we look up pictures of order houses?

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Speaker 1: Oh no, you've never seen the dels.

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Speaker 2: I grew up without television.

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Speaker 1: Bro orses, graze. They literally just like document orders.

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Speaker 2: Show us after this, Fully, that's the treat for the end.

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Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen stay around. Soon to be extra just

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Speaker 1: walked away, sniffling and cursing at me. Yeah, I knew

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Speaker 1: I went too far. I'd been reduced to being just

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Speaker 1: as petty as her. I made that call because I

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Speaker 1: was angry, but I had no choice but to stand

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Speaker 1: by that decision after I'd done it. He's kind of weird.

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Speaker 1: Mother in law ended up demanding my soon to be

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Speaker 1: ex wife what the cost of the cleaning and restoring

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Speaker 1: of the house, but she couldn't afford it. From what

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Speaker 1: I hear, mother in law went off on her with

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Speaker 1: her demands and told her to get the money any

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Speaker 1: way she could.

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Speaker 2: Whoa, Oh what does that mean?

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Speaker 1: Chat? What's she gonna do to get the money?

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Speaker 2: Chat?

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Speaker 1: Comments? Chat? Do you like being called? Chat? Or comments?

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Speaker 2: Or I've heard too many? Twenty year olds.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we've we've just been having a lot of twenty

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Speaker 1: year olds here talking.

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Speaker 2: To sounds so sus it is. It's not one of

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Speaker 2: our friends was having a birthday.

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Speaker 1: It's a zero Aura l No baby Grond.

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Speaker 2: Do you guys know about baby Grond?

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Speaker 1: That's another after after episode discussion. Crazy he is though,

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Speaker 1: he's going to LSU. Congrats to him. So mother in

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Speaker 1: law went off with her demands and told her to

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Speaker 1: get the money anyway she could, even demanding I pay

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Speaker 1: for it since I was the one who reported the house.

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Speaker 1: She even said to sue me. But my soon to

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Speaker 1: be X told her it wouldn't work. The house was

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Speaker 1: an exceedingly poor shape, rotten, garbage, exposed wires, roof lea

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Speaker 1: rotten and we've got over rest right back one more time, leaks, garbage.

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Speaker 1: No one should be living like that. Would soon to

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Speaker 1: be X try to tell her mother she couldn't afford

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Speaker 1: to pay for the house to be clean and renovated.

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Speaker 1: Her mother actually attacked her like a wild animal.

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Speaker 3: What