Speaker 1: This is Conversationous with Olivia Jade and my Heart Radio podcast.
Speaker 1: Hello everybody, Welcome back to another episode of Conversations. I'm
Speaker 1: your host, Olivia Jade, and I am really really excited
Speaker 1: for this episode because it's one of my best friends
Speaker 1: who's coming on as my guest. I have known this
Speaker 1: girl since basically birth. Our moms worked on a TV
Speaker 1: show together. She's one of my oldest friends. We were
Speaker 1: kind of forced to be friends and then just hit
Speaker 1: it off at a really young age, and yeah, I've
Speaker 1: kind of been stuck with each other ever since. So
Speaker 1: with that being said, please welcome Natasha barrd Okay, buddy,
Speaker 1: what's up? What's up buddy? How he's feeling? We're feeling good?
Speaker 1: Are you? You look pretty? Basy? Look pretty too? Um.
Speaker 1: This is gonna feel like a FaceTime for us yet again.
Speaker 1: Last time Natasha and I went Instagram live, we like
Speaker 1: forgot we were live and we're just talking literally nonsense. Um.
Speaker 1: But for those that don't know you, do you want
Speaker 1: to introduce yourself? What you do, who you are? Hi? Guys,
Speaker 1: Hi guys. I'm Natasha Bray. I I'm twenty three years old.
Speaker 1: I do a lot of different things. I act, I
Speaker 1: do music, YouTube, I wrote a book. I'm kind of
Speaker 1: I'm kind of all over the place a little bit,
Speaker 1: but I just love sharing my life on social media
Speaker 1: and getting to know you guys and um hopefully making
Speaker 1: a positive impact into younger girls lives through Yeah, you
Speaker 1: wrote a book, Yeah, let's be real. When I was
Speaker 1: like seventeen, why do I not recall this? Dot? Did it?
Speaker 1: I wrote it? I wrote it when I was like seventeen,
Speaker 1: right out of UM, right out of high school. And
Speaker 1: what was it about? Um? It was basically about being
Speaker 1: real in a time period where I feel like, well,
Speaker 1: I still feel like this is super true for anyone
Speaker 1: any age, but with social media and growing up, I
Speaker 1: felt like I had to be so perfect online and
Speaker 1: have this image in persona that was like squeaky clean
Speaker 1: and edited and like base tuned in like all this stuff.
Speaker 1: And I feel like a lot of people I weren't
Speaker 1: talking about real life situations, whether it be with boys
Speaker 1: or periods, or family issues or mental health or whatever.
Speaker 1: And I would literally go on YouTube to find answers
Speaker 1: because none of my friends to talk about it. None
Speaker 1: of my family members were really talking about it, and
Speaker 1: so I kind of wish that I had like this
Speaker 1: older sister that would have told me all of and
Speaker 1: all this stuff. So I just wrote it kind of
Speaker 1: from my personal experience. Is the good and the bad
Speaker 1: of just like life when I was a teenager and
Speaker 1: what it was like and I was so young, and
Speaker 1: I look back and I'm like, I don't even know
Speaker 1: if any of my advice was good, but it was good.
Speaker 1: It was it was fun, like you know, doing it
Speaker 1: in the moment. But I would never write another one. So, okay,
Speaker 1: one done, great when I've done. Maybe when I'm older,
Speaker 1: But like, definitely, I'm so not. I'm so not you know,
Speaker 1: yes writer like and so you know, some people are
Speaker 1: more like audible, some people are marketing. I'm definitely not.
Speaker 1: I can't really put my thoughts on the papers that quickly.
Speaker 1: I feel like my mind moved so fast. So doing
Speaker 1: something like this is really fun. But writing a book
Speaker 1: was so challenging. Yeah, And I feel like nowadays there's
Speaker 1: so many ways to get advice through to people through
Speaker 1: social media and through video and talking, which I mean
Speaker 1: and you obviously love to do is just like talk
Speaker 1: to people and talk to a camera and um, but
Speaker 1: a book is that I haven't even thought about that
Speaker 1: part of life yet. I honestly feel like I like
Speaker 1: the idea of doing a podcast better because it's still
Speaker 1: all the same stories and it might not be as
Speaker 1: like crisp and clean the wording of it all, but
Speaker 1: it's just still the same like ron realness that you
Speaker 1: would have in a book. I feel like, yeah, for sure. Well,
Speaker 1: for those of you that don't know, Natasha and I
Speaker 1: have known each other since we were what like literally
Speaker 1: I was probably like one and you were two. Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1: Our moms were on a show together. They were in
Speaker 1: Full House, and Natasha's mom played DJ and my mom
Speaker 1: played Aunt Becky. And that's how we met. Well, I mean,
Speaker 1: we weren't all we weren't alive yet, we didn't me,
Speaker 1: but yeah, that's how we met. We just met. Where
Speaker 1: did we meet, Like, where did they introduce us when
Speaker 1: we were kids? I don't know, I just know, but
Speaker 1: like probably Jeff Franklin's house. Yeah, you guys, when we
Speaker 1: were a little the creator of Full House, Jeff Franklin
Speaker 1: had v or he still has the house. But we
Speaker 1: just thought it was in the coolest house and the
Speaker 1: entire world. I mean, it is. It's the coolest ast ever,
Speaker 1: Like I would I would, I would like to just
Speaker 1: die there. It's amazing. No, I told you this. Remember
Speaker 1: when we were together the other weekend and I used
Speaker 1: to convince my mom like can I please have my
Speaker 1: birthday party? Yet? I was will you tell them the
Speaker 1: mac story about how he asked so. So yeah, Jeff
Speaker 1: has the most beautiful house I've ever seen. Like water slides,
Speaker 1: shark tanks. Yes, and uh, it's just studying, like the
Speaker 1: view everything. You can't beat it. Honestly, when we were younger,
Speaker 1: it felt like Disneyland when I would go there because
Speaker 1: I was like, this is so fun, and I with
Speaker 1: all my friends and my my youngest brother Max, Um,
Speaker 1: he was just obsessed with that house. And I think
Speaker 1: at one point he literally asked my mom like, can
Speaker 1: Jeff be my godfather? I can live here if something
Speaker 1: happens to you guys, And I don't think so genius,
Speaker 1: I know, and I don't even know. Jeff's like agreed,
Speaker 1: but he like is aware of it because my mom
Speaker 1: was like, all right, I guess Jeff your godfather. If
Speaker 1: something happens, I'll go there. It's such a smart outlook
Speaker 1: though for Max to have at that young of an
Speaker 1: age like here, let me just think about if God
Speaker 1: forbid something happens to my mom or dad, who can
Speaker 1: parent me? Oh the guy with the sickest house. And
Speaker 1: it's funny because of anyone who would have think that, like,
Speaker 1: it would be Max, you know, like for sure. So
Speaker 1: that's like a little background obviously as to how we
Speaker 1: know each other. And then I mean we've been friends
Speaker 1: forever since then for our entire lives. Like I would
Speaker 1: say that, you know, those types of friends you have
Speaker 1: for so long in your life, you don't need to
Speaker 1: see or talk to them every day for the entire
Speaker 1: time of your friendship. But like right when you're back together,
Speaker 1: it's nothing changed. That's how I feel like we are
Speaker 1: with each other. Um. So I took to Instagram and
Speaker 1: obviously you did too. I saw um to get some questions.
Speaker 1: This is a good one of somebody how they phrased it.
Speaker 1: Somebody said, how is life living in the spotlight and
Speaker 1: the pressure of being a celebrities kid? Is your goal
Speaker 1: not to be blanks daughter and be known for something else?
Speaker 1: I really love that question. Um, I don't know how
Speaker 1: you feel about it, but for me, growing up. Uh.
Speaker 1: I always felt since I was super little that I
Speaker 1: was like Candice's daughter. And I think especially because with
Speaker 1: acting it's something that like, I'm so passionate about and
Speaker 1: I love and that's also what my mom just happens
Speaker 1: to do. I had to start separating myself at a
Speaker 1: certain age and really trying to like form my own identity,
Speaker 1: and that can be really hard when you get boxed
Speaker 1: into that. And it's funny because I think a lot
Speaker 1: of people to think that I saw my mom acting
Speaker 1: and was like, oh, that's what I want to do.
Speaker 1: But I never even saw my mom on set, Like
Speaker 1: I didn't even really see her work till I was
Speaker 1: probably ten or eleven, and by then I already knew
Speaker 1: what I wanted to do. So um, I feel like
Speaker 1: it's uh, I feel it can just be difficult to
Speaker 1: find her own identity or know what your identity is,
Speaker 1: but then still have people look at you for something else.
Speaker 1: Do you feel that way at all? I mean, I
Speaker 1: know it's different because your your career is so different
Speaker 1: than what my mom does. Yeah, in the acting sense,
Speaker 1: I think for me, I mean I never even initially
Speaker 1: expected or wanted to be in the public eye. When
Speaker 1: I was younger, like when I started my YouTube channel,
Speaker 1: I did not think that was going to garner like
Speaker 1: any sort of following. I didn't think that, um, I
Speaker 1: would be written about a news outlets like Paparazzi. None
Speaker 1: of that. That never even had crossed my mind. Um,
Speaker 1: I just knew I really liked makeup in fashion and
Speaker 1: filming it on YouTube. So for me, it was never
Speaker 1: really an issue because I felt like when I was younger, especially,
Speaker 1: it was really fun when I would get invited to events,
Speaker 1: I could bring my mom as my date, and I
Speaker 1: would be like super proud of it. I think that's
Speaker 1: why I enjoy social media so much, to try to
Speaker 1: have people like know me on my own and to
Speaker 1: be like, you know, this is obviously something I grew
Speaker 1: up with or these are the people that I'm friends
Speaker 1: with or have family members, but this is me, and
Speaker 1: I feel like both of us also too, are very
Speaker 1: independent and like have our own just our own situations
Speaker 1: going on. So I always want people to feel like
Speaker 1: that you could o me for me and not me
Speaker 1: for someone else. That's like my biggest pet thieve. You know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I totally agreed. It's so true. Another person asked, um,
Speaker 1: just changing the topic a little bit. This was just
Speaker 1: I think this isn't really a question because I said
Speaker 1: topics or questions, and I think this one just wanted
Speaker 1: advice on the overall uh statement of boy problems and
Speaker 1: toxic friendships. But I've also seen other questions about like
Speaker 1: how do you find good friends and how do you
Speaker 1: find genuine people and stuff like that, And I feel
Speaker 1: like me and you talk about this all the time
Speaker 1: off camera regardless. I was just about to say, we
Speaker 1: talked about this could be easy for us. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: want to start with boys or friends. I know, start
Speaker 1: with boys and then end with friends friends. Okay, Um.
Speaker 1: I think I don't really know obviously the specific of
Speaker 1: this person's boy problem, but I would say rule of
Speaker 1: thumb as i've gotten older, what I've just learned in
Speaker 1: general is fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice,
Speaker 1: shame on me. Um. And I think that's just such
Speaker 1: a truth, Like I'm not literally counting like, oh, they
Speaker 1: messed up once and now I'll forgive them. The second
Speaker 1: time they messed up again, now I have to leave.
Speaker 1: But it's more just like in the grand scheme of
Speaker 1: a situation, if somebody does something that is deliberately and
Speaker 1: just kind of intentionally harmful to you and then you
Speaker 1: kind of let it go, or you make amends, and
Speaker 1: and then it happens again, and then again and then again.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's just like having a boy problem anymore.
Speaker 1: I think that's just maybe not your person. And I
Speaker 1: learned that the hard way in relationships growing up, like
Speaker 1: it's just staying around and trying to make things work.
Speaker 1: And because sometimes letting go can be so painful and
Speaker 1: it really can feel like a death, especially with guys
Speaker 1: like that you're into, because it's not it's never really
Speaker 1: like just a friendship that you can just go back
Speaker 1: to right exactly. So it can be so hard. But
Speaker 1: I think my main advice would be like you will
Speaker 1: be better for it, and if anything, you can take
Speaker 1: away something and that you've learned from that experience and
Speaker 1: that relationship and know what you want and set certain
Speaker 1: boundaries in the future. I think setting boundaries for yourself
Speaker 1: in any relationship, whether it be romantic or friendship, is
Speaker 1: so important. And my whole thing is that I always
Speaker 1: feel that I want to be on my own. I
Speaker 1: want to be confident in who I am, and I
Speaker 1: want to be doing fun. Like if I never find anybody,
Speaker 1: if I never have any friends, like, I'm good on
Speaker 1: my own, I know me, I love myself. If someone
Speaker 1: else can come alongside and add to that, amazing. But
Speaker 1: if you're not adding anything to my life, if you're
Speaker 1: not encouraging me, if you're not not necessarily benefiting me
Speaker 1: in like a material way, but just encouraging me, bringing
Speaker 1: uplifting my spirits, like being a positive impact, then I
Speaker 1: just don't need it. And that goes for any ship,
Speaker 1: and that also goes for relationships with boys, and I
Speaker 1: think the boys want I'm a little less cutthroat when
Speaker 1: it comes to like relationship with boys rather than friendships.
Speaker 1: If I have someone who is remotely toxic, I'm like,
Speaker 1: you're out one strick, You're done for me, Like I
Speaker 1: just don't have I don't have to tolerance of the patients.
Speaker 1: But I think with boys, there's something about having feelings
Speaker 1: for someone and um, you form this attachment that sometimes
Speaker 1: even if like you know it's a little bit toxic,
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I don't want to let this go
Speaker 1: because because you're also blinded. You you're blinded by like love,
Speaker 1: Like that's a real and I know even just like
Speaker 1: from first personal experience, like obviously you know, like recently,
Speaker 1: just having to make hard choices because you know that
Speaker 1: it's going to at the end of the day benefit you,
Speaker 1: and it's it's what needs to happen. But it doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that it's like hard and that you don't like
Speaker 1: you don't struggle with it, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But when you know it's good and you're making the
Speaker 1: right decision to break off a relation ship with someone
Speaker 1: because at the end of the day, it's just it's
Speaker 1: not the right fit. It's so key to have friends
Speaker 1: that are like pushing you and encouraging you to be
Speaker 1: like no, like you you're doing the right thing. You know,
Speaker 1: don't get discouraged about the temporary feelings of heart heartbrokenness
Speaker 1: or is that work heartbreak? Yeah, heartbreak or whatever. And
Speaker 1: that's the same thing with friendships. Yeah, I agree. I
Speaker 1: think Also, my sister always says this, and she's like
Speaker 1: preaches this, and she said it on the podcast before
Speaker 1: two and kind of what you were saying. But it's
Speaker 1: so true, Like you you do want to feel so
Speaker 1: secure within yourself that if you didn't have somebody, you
Speaker 1: would be okay. And especially if you do have somebody
Speaker 1: that's healthy and it's just life, Like the one thing
Speaker 1: we can count on is change. And so let's say
Speaker 1: your relationship ends friendship specifically like a boyfriend maybe or
Speaker 1: a girlfriend. You don't want to lose those other people
Speaker 1: that you have in your life and give all this
Speaker 1: energy and time to one person. So in case God
Speaker 1: forbid it does end, then you're kind of left with nothing,
Speaker 1: and you're starting below than what you were even at
Speaker 1: your starting point, you know what I mean. Like, I
Speaker 1: think it's so easy to get especially if it's like
Speaker 1: your first love. At least for my experience, when I
Speaker 1: was younger, like my first boyfriend, like all I wanted
Speaker 1: to do was hang out with him and spent all
Speaker 1: my time with this boy, and I like totally, I
Speaker 1: just like kind of let go of my friendships. I
Speaker 1: just didn't make as much of an effort. I didn't
Speaker 1: incorporate them in my relationship, Like I was just kind
Speaker 1: of like doing my own thing. And as I've gotten older,
Speaker 1: I've realized it's so important to find that balance of like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you can be with somebody, but don't leave the people
Speaker 1: that care about you and that are there for you,
Speaker 1: um like hanging. I also think that the right relationship,
Speaker 1: uh boyfriend and girlfriend or even in friendships come at
Speaker 1: the times when you're most secure in yourself. I feel
Speaker 1: like even last year, I I was probably like the
Speaker 1: lowest point mentally for myself. Last year, I just wasn't
Speaker 1: happy with the person I was Like, I just wasn't
Speaker 1: feeling happy at all, and and I was honestly chasing
Speaker 1: like different friendship to relationships as validation. And coming into
Speaker 1: this year, I have a whole different perspective, totally different
Speaker 1: outlook where I'm like, honestly at the highest I've ever
Speaker 1: been in terms of like my mental health and just
Speaker 1: the way that I feel and view myself and like
Speaker 1: telling myself daily affirmations and all that stuff. Where now
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm also attracting those people who are
Speaker 1: going to bring that to me, and I'm not chasing
Speaker 1: something or chasing this validation from someone elsewhere, then I
Speaker 1: am like losing all of the good people around me.
Speaker 1: And I feel like it's always when you're not looking
Speaker 1: for it that those positive people come into your life
Speaker 1: because you really are attracting that energy, like I could
Speaker 1: not agree more. If you're at a good place in
Speaker 1: your life, the chances of more amazing people coming in
Speaker 1: are a lot higher than if you're sitting at home
Speaker 1: all sad and feeling like really down on yourself. You're
Speaker 1: not going to attract positive people because people want to
Speaker 1: be around people that are uplifting, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: And I think that's even just with friendships, like just
Speaker 1: kind of seguing a little bit. I think it's so
Speaker 1: important to make sure your relationships are ones that inspire
Speaker 1: you and that you're learning from somebody or that you're
Speaker 1: excited to be around them and you have just like
Speaker 1: an uplifting feeling when you're around these people, because at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, it's so important. When you
Speaker 1: spend so much time with a person, they are going
Speaker 1: to rub off on you. And in any toxic relationships
Speaker 1: I've been in, it's it's interesting my family, people that
Speaker 1: know me the best will be like you seem so
Speaker 1: different in that in that situation verse how you are
Speaker 1: now or in this and um, whether it's friendship, a boyfriend,
Speaker 1: whatever it is, it's it's it's so true, like you
Speaker 1: really do start to become the people you're around, so
Speaker 1: make sure those people are positive and inspiring to um,
Speaker 1: I fully agree. I think that's also the one thing
Speaker 1: that my parents have done a super good job of
Speaker 1: encouraging me about is whoever I like, I really do
Speaker 1: believe that you become who you surround yourself with. And
Speaker 1: my parents are really quick to be like, hey, I
Speaker 1: see that you start to hang out with this person
Speaker 1: and I don't know if you've noticed, but like you
Speaker 1: started acting different or vice versa. So for me now,
Speaker 1: in my friendships, I keep a super close circle of
Speaker 1: people that I just trust and I know that are gonna,
Speaker 1: you know, bring positivity into my life and love and
Speaker 1: all of that stuff. But I'm a lot more conscious
Speaker 1: of it now where I only really want to invest
Speaker 1: in friendships and relationships that are going to better myself. Like,
Speaker 1: if you're not pushing me in my friendship or in
Speaker 1: my relationship with you, then like what is the point?
Speaker 1: Like I want to I want to be challenged. I
Speaker 1: want to be pushed that I can be a better
Speaker 1: person so that you can be a better person. And overall,
Speaker 1: I feel like when you when you can grow together,
Speaker 1: that's just so key. Yeah. I could not agree more
Speaker 1: so somebody asked kind of just about like dieting is
Speaker 1: such a hard word. Yeah, you know who who did?
Speaker 1: I just see an interview. I think it was Kanye Westies. Like,
Speaker 1: I call it living instead of because dieting as the
Speaker 1: word diet dieting. I don't like the word dieting. But
Speaker 1: I obviously have a diet Like there, you know, everyone
Speaker 1: has a diet of like what they're eating, but I'm
Speaker 1: not necessarily dieting, right, So I guess we could start
Speaker 1: people ask like what we were doing to stay in
Speaker 1: shape or like a workout routine, and then like what
Speaker 1: we typically eat. Yeah, well we've been working out consistently
Speaker 1: for like two weeks together. I worked out this morning, Daniel,
Speaker 1: I didn't. I'm going to work out later though. I
Speaker 1: worked I got up at like seven because I here,
Speaker 1: let me tell you guys, this is my diet. I
Speaker 1: had a whole box of pizza to myself last night,
Speaker 1: and so I woke up feeling really sick and I
Speaker 1: just had to go run it off. Um do the routine. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I basically for my little routine, I just go on
Speaker 1: the treadmill. This treadmill has like a setting in it
Speaker 1: which it changes the speed it inclines for you every minute,
Speaker 1: so it's interval training. So I like jog and then
Speaker 1: I'll sprint and then it'll walk and then it'll turn
Speaker 1: the incline up and I'll be running again and then
Speaker 1: I'll do that for like thirty minutes. That's my workout
Speaker 1: routine and then like abs. Yeah, we do like a
Speaker 1: ten minute our glass app work out on YouTube, or
Speaker 1: we do um one time we tried doing it dance
Speaker 1: like a dance class. We did a little zoom we
Speaker 1: did to zoomba dance classes. That was so funny. It
Speaker 1: was fun. We should do that again. I know, I
Speaker 1: think honestly for working out, for me personally, it is
Speaker 1: it's really hard because I think just growing up in
Speaker 1: l A, I have such a negative perception of working
Speaker 1: out and eating right because I associated with wanting to
Speaker 1: look a certain way. And I think recently, as I've
Speaker 1: gotten older, I found that when I focus my my
Speaker 1: thoughts more on the fact that like I'm going to
Speaker 1: feel good and I'm gonna feel healthy and I'm going
Speaker 1: to have more energy and I'm not going to be
Speaker 1: so groggy um by working out, I enjoy it so
Speaker 1: much more. And the same with eating clean. It's like
Speaker 1: if I'm just eating clean and trying to force myself
Speaker 1: to have salads and stuff and never giving myself like
Speaker 1: a little break or a cheap day or chea week
Speaker 1: or whatever, it is like it's just never gonna work
Speaker 1: for me. But if I'm thinking about it, if I
Speaker 1: change my mindset and I'm like, I'm doing this because
Speaker 1: I want to feel good. And there's also ways to
Speaker 1: eat stuff that's healthy that doesn't feel like you're eating
Speaker 1: plants out of the ground. Um, which I think is
Speaker 1: so important too, is to just find stuff that you
Speaker 1: genuinely enjoy doing. Like I found that I really do
Speaker 1: like interval training on this treadmill, so I've been really
Speaker 1: motivated to get up and do that, and then I
Speaker 1: feel really good internally after, which keeps the motivation. I
Speaker 1: couldn't agree more. I think growing up having a father
Speaker 1: who was a professional athlete and having everyone in my
Speaker 1: family on like the male side be an athlete, I
Speaker 1: was taught at such a young age about healthy lifestyle
Speaker 1: and healthy living, and I'm really blessed and privilege that
Speaker 1: I was able to learn that information because now the
Speaker 1: way that I view and always have like working out
Speaker 1: eating healthy. It is such a gift and a privilege
Speaker 1: that I'm able to do that and to be able
Speaker 1: to move my body and like, uh, fuel it with
Speaker 1: clean foods and stuff like that. But I feel like
Speaker 1: a lot of the culture is almost sees healthy eating
Speaker 1: and working out as almost like a punishment to look
Speaker 1: good or to um achieve a specific appearance, and I
Speaker 1: wish that I wish that society would kind of change
Speaker 1: that perspective of it's not that you have to work
Speaker 1: out and you have to eat healthy, it's that you're
Speaker 1: able to and like you can and it's really good
Speaker 1: for you, and it's something that you should like want
Speaker 1: to do because it's not necessarily always about looks. It's
Speaker 1: definitely not for me. I think for a while, maybe
Speaker 1: it when I get really obsessive about it could be.
Speaker 1: But now it's just like if I wake up, I
Speaker 1: want to be able to move my body, work out
Speaker 1: and feel it with good food. Know that it's just
Speaker 1: affecting my not only physically the way that like my
Speaker 1: health is, but my my mental health. I know every
Speaker 1: single time that we go to the gym or you know,
Speaker 1: we go work out or do something like I leave
Speaker 1: in such a good mood because I'm like, I got
Speaker 1: it done. I feel better, my endoor friends are out,
Speaker 1: and I'm you know, releasing all that negative energy. And
Speaker 1: I don't feel like a lot of people have that
Speaker 1: mentality about it. I know, um, like one of my
Speaker 1: best friends, she she always kind of talks about it
Speaker 1: and like wishes that she had that shift in her
Speaker 1: mind of seeing it differently, And UM, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just feel like that's a really important part to
Speaker 1: living a healthy lifself to have the like mentality shift.
Speaker 1: For sure, It's so important because also for me, like I, um,
Speaker 1: I feel like this is just kind of common of
Speaker 1: growing up in l A and then being on social
Speaker 1: media at such a young age, because I I can't
Speaker 1: even imagine being a kid right now, like I thought
Speaker 1: we had. I remember when Instagram first became a thing,
Speaker 1: I was what probably thirteen, I would think I was
Speaker 1: in like six or seventh grade. I didn't even get yeah,
Speaker 1: because I was like I didn't get instagrams. You knew
Speaker 1: she was going to go downhill when people and this
Speaker 1: was like the first week of Instagram being a thing.
Speaker 1: And I swear like if you remember, you remember, but
Speaker 1: when you hit like eleven likes and you would get
Speaker 1: all jazzed up because it would be double digits instead
Speaker 1: of having all the names on the screen. I'm like, now,
Speaker 1: I look back at how excited I would get if
Speaker 1: I had double digits on my likes, and I'm like, wow,
Speaker 1: I was twelve years old already like seeking validation from
Speaker 1: a double digit number, Like, of course this is all
Speaker 1: going to go downhill. But I mean it's it happened
Speaker 1: really quickly, and it's just so easy to compare yourself,
Speaker 1: and especially when you see people living this healthy, perfect,
Speaker 1: beautiful lifestyle on their social media of them working out
Speaker 1: all the time and eating all these clean foods, and
Speaker 1: it feels like, Okay, well, I don't have all white,
Speaker 1: perfect apartment and I don't have this perfect grocery store
Speaker 1: I can go do and get the cleanest produce, So
Speaker 1: instead I'm going to do the exact opposite, when in reality,
Speaker 1: you don't need all of that to just live a
Speaker 1: healthy life. You will feel so much better. And it's
Speaker 1: just like starting with the most basic things of like
Speaker 1: take a walk in the morning and listen to a
Speaker 1: thirty minute podcast about something inspiring, like you just have
Speaker 1: to start, you know, that was one of that was
Speaker 1: and we talked about this. This is one of my
Speaker 1: New Year's resolutions. I I think when I think about
Speaker 1: working out or being healthy, I'm like, oh, it has
Speaker 1: to be all or nothing, Like I can't do something little.
Speaker 1: Like if I'm going to work out, I have to
Speaker 1: do a full workout for an hour and it has
Speaker 1: to be hard training and all this stuff. And if
Speaker 1: I'm going to eat clean, then I can't have pizza
Speaker 1: for the whole week or I can't have whatever. And
Speaker 1: my New Year's resolution is year was just every single day,
Speaker 1: wake up and for twenty minutes to do something active.
Speaker 1: It could literally be a walker on the block. It
Speaker 1: could be taking a pilates class. It could be you know,
Speaker 1: literally just doing anything, taking a bike ride, or if
Speaker 1: I want to do a hard workout, do a hard workout.
Speaker 1: Just starting somewhere and being able to like be active
Speaker 1: in some way, shape and form. It's so good for
Speaker 1: your physical body but also in your mind. Like I
Speaker 1: just don't know what I would do without physical activity
Speaker 1: because for me, it's it affects the way that my
Speaker 1: day goes every day consistently. I don't know if you
Speaker 1: feel the same way. I totally feel that way. And
Speaker 1: also I think it's just so it's so easy to
Speaker 1: look at like Toss or myself for somebody that is
Speaker 1: on social media that puts out this like incredible lifestyle,
Speaker 1: because I've talked about this before publicly, but I feel
Speaker 1: like a hypocrite. And I also feel like I don't
Speaker 1: think I'm lying by posting my best moments, but it's
Speaker 1: like I definitely am not going to show when I'm
Speaker 1: like crying or I feel really insecure. And I just
Speaker 1: want people, especially young girls and guys that watch or
Speaker 1: listen to this podcast, to know that, like it's super
Speaker 1: normal to feel like you don't of your life together
Speaker 1: and that um, it's like so easy to compare yourself
Speaker 1: to other people on social media and online, and I
Speaker 1: do it all the time. Like take it from me.
Speaker 1: I could eat poorly for one day and wake up
Speaker 1: with like the worst guilt ever and just want to
Speaker 1: beat myself up for it. And it's just like I swear,
Speaker 1: it's just because of the society we live in and
Speaker 1: these pressures and standards we have that we like need
Speaker 1: to live up to certain expectations. But I know what
Speaker 1: it feels like to just be like, oh, I'm like
Speaker 1: I'm nothing. I'm so like down on myself and I
Speaker 1: can't even get it together. And you would never expect
Speaker 1: that or see that on my social media. But if
Speaker 1: you talk to me or no, mere you or anybody
Speaker 1: really just human beings in general, like nobody has it
Speaker 1: figured out, and nobody like is completely secure within themselves,
Speaker 1: even the people that you think are the most beautiful secure,
Speaker 1: honest whatever, it is, like, everybody's struggling inside. I can
Speaker 1: guarantee that. Also, social media is such a high I
Speaker 1: really you're literally posting the point one percent of your
Speaker 1: you know, day, or your camera or whatever it is.
Speaker 1: And of course we're going to post the best photos
Speaker 1: that we have. We're not you know, if we're feeling
Speaker 1: bloated or we're not feeling cute one day. It's like
Speaker 1: the odds of us posting a photo from that day,
Speaker 1: it's not very high. But I mean we're posting it
Speaker 1: on the days that we're feeling the most confident or whatever.
Speaker 1: So I try to remind myself of that all the
Speaker 1: time because I see girls on social media who might
Speaker 1: be skinnier than me or have a better body or
Speaker 1: have clear skin than me or whatever my like insecurity
Speaker 1: is for that day, and I'm immediately just I compare
Speaker 1: myself so quick and that I have to realize, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is literally a highlight reel. This is taken from
Speaker 1: one moment of one day of how many years you know,
Speaker 1: everyone goes through this type of stuff, and I really
Speaker 1: admire and wanted you this more. Even just on my
Speaker 1: own social media, like just I have a few of
Speaker 1: friends who are super super transparent on their social I'll
Speaker 1: whether be on their stories or their posts or just
Speaker 1: showing those raw moments and it makes me feel more
Speaker 1: comfortable to have them and not necessarily about anything specific.
Speaker 1: But if I if, for example, like my my skin.
Speaker 1: I've always had um like issues with my skin, and
Speaker 1: I feel like every go on Instagram has like amazing
Speaker 1: flawless skin, and you know, with makeup, maybe I can
Speaker 1: achieve that. But like if I don't have makeup on,
Speaker 1: like I you know, might have acne scars or whatever breakouts.
Speaker 1: And when I see some of my favorite you know,
Speaker 1: influencers or actors or whoever, post things on their social
Speaker 1: media where I can see their raw skin and it's real,
Speaker 1: it makes me more more comfortable and more confident to go, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is actually normal, and you know, everything that I'm
Speaker 1: seeing online isn't. I shouldn't take it for fakes value,
Speaker 1: And so I feel like moving forward, more people need
Speaker 1: to do that, and more people meet me included, Like
Speaker 1: I need more raw and real because I know that
Speaker 1: there's people who will look at you and look at
Speaker 1: me and think, oh my gosh, their life is so perfect,
Speaker 1: and the meanwhile, me and you talk about our insecurities
Speaker 1: you know all the time. Yeah, it's so true. Um.
Speaker 1: I think we can wrap up after this, but I
Speaker 1: want them to know, like upcoming stuff that you're doing,
Speaker 1: or anything fun that you've been up to that you
Speaker 1: want to share with the audience that doesn't know you,
Speaker 1: doesn't follow you yet. Um, you guys can check me
Speaker 1: out on YouTube as a TikTok star. She's a TikToker.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I need to tell this story please
Speaker 1: when we're just at the at the at Bryce Hall's
Speaker 1: roast that Um when the bartender, can I please tell
Speaker 1: that story? I was crying. I forgot about that. The
Speaker 1: fact that the two of them happened back to back
Speaker 1: and they're both like not what I like want to
Speaker 1: be known for is it's very funny. Yeah exactly. So
Speaker 1: we were at the Bryce Halls roast and we were
Speaker 1: getting a drink at the bar before it started, like
Speaker 1: mingling whatever, and this bartender was so sweet. He came
Speaker 1: right over to us, got it, asked whatever we wanted,
Speaker 1: and then he points in Atash and he's like, hey,
Speaker 1: I know you, like, I'm such a fan. And then
Speaker 1: you go really and he goes yeah from the voice,
Speaker 1: and your face went from like oh he's a fair too.
Speaker 1: From the voice just like it looked like somebody shot her,
Speaker 1: Like she just like went completely blank. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh oh. And then he was like yeah, Crimeer River
Speaker 1: like and it's one of the songs Natasha performed. Wasn't
Speaker 1: that like your battle song? Yeah? So they and I'm
Speaker 1: I'm a little tipsy off my wine like thing and
Speaker 1: this is the greatest thing ever. I pull up my
Speaker 1: iTunes I show him that I have Crimeer River downloaded
Speaker 1: from her battles. I'm like same, Oh my god, it
Speaker 1: was my favorite performance. But it's just really funny because
Speaker 1: that's not something that you ever talked about that you
Speaker 1: were on the voice. I forgot you were on the voice.
Speaker 1: It's something I'm like mortified about, So why like wrought
Speaker 1: it up? Because it was I just that whole experience
Speaker 1: for me was just so not I just I did
Speaker 1: not like, do you feel like you weren't there musically
Speaker 1: as to where you are now that you wish you
Speaker 1: didn't like show show your talent at that early on
Speaker 1: in your life, or do you just feel like, why
Speaker 1: the hell did I go on the points? Both To
Speaker 1: be honest with you, I didn't even want to go on.
Speaker 1: I literally didn't want to go on the show at all.
Speaker 1: The only reason that I went on was because there
Speaker 1: was this thing my mom told me earlier in the year.
Speaker 1: She was like, it's something there's an opportunity that comes
Speaker 1: and it scares you. You You should say yes just because
Speaker 1: it scares you. And this opportunity got brought to me
Speaker 1: while I was still in high school, and I was like, well,
Speaker 1: this is the perfect time and taken advice like this
Speaker 1: scares the crap out of me, so let me do it.
Speaker 1: But um I did it, and I had the worst
Speaker 1: nerves of my life, Like I literally both both performances.
Speaker 1: I sobbed my eyes out probably ten minutes before I
Speaker 1: went on like it was just so out of my
Speaker 1: comfort soon, not the music part, but just like to
Speaker 1: be judged in that community, like it just it really
Speaker 1: terrified me. And to know that like everyone was going
Speaker 1: to watch this. So now I'm just mortified by it
Speaker 1: because I I think I did a terrible job. Been like, no,
Speaker 1: you didn't. People would like know or like think that
Speaker 1: I could that that's like what I sound like compared
Speaker 1: to now. Um so, but I mean, you know, it
Speaker 1: was a good growing experience. But when people say like
Speaker 1: that they've seen or they watched, and I'm like, I
Speaker 1: feel bad for you. I'm so sorry, Like I thought
Speaker 1: you did so well though, like obviously you're going to
Speaker 1: be your own harsh's critic, but like from somebody that
Speaker 1: doesn't sing, and obviously I know that you've grown as
Speaker 1: a singer exponentially since you were in high school, but
Speaker 1: it was still amazing, Like you didn't do a bad
Speaker 1: job by any means, like you killed it. I could
Speaker 1: never but yeah, that was very funny anyway. So I
Speaker 1: literally was like my hard dropped. It was really funny.
Speaker 1: And then a few days before she was out and
Speaker 1: somebody said she was her favorite TikToker and Natasha just
Speaker 1: like all she cares about is acting. This girl like
Speaker 1: all she was she is so appreciative of like the
Speaker 1: art of acting and theater and like doesn't care about
Speaker 1: the fame aspect, like you just love the craft. And
Speaker 1: so the fact that you got noticed for being a
Speaker 1: TikToker and on the voice is just I remember I
Speaker 1: remember I called my mom after um the TikTok or wanted.
Speaker 1: She was just laughing, she was just dying, and she
Speaker 1: thought it was the funniest thing. It was like that's
Speaker 1: so cute and nice, and I was like, I know,
Speaker 1: it was really sweet, Like it's a super sweet compliment.
Speaker 1: It's just hysterical that Like it's also funny because now
Speaker 1: there's so many there's just so many different platforms, YouTube
Speaker 1: and TikTok and like actually being on screen, there's so
Speaker 1: many like different places that every single time that someone
Speaker 1: will come up, I'm like, I never know what it's from,
Speaker 1: which which social media are we about to talk about?
Speaker 1: Which one son both of them? So anyway, guys, have
Speaker 1: you ever seen Natasha out, Make sure you go up
Speaker 1: to her and say I loved you on the voice
Speaker 1: and you're my favorite TikTok TikTok. It would actually make
Speaker 1: my day. Well, thanks for coming on, Tosh, you're the best.
Speaker 1: Oh thanks, thanks for having me. Guys, make sure you
Speaker 1: tune into next week's episode as well, because we're going
Speaker 1: to do a little part two series where we our thing.
Speaker 1: I think since we've been kids has been like we
Speaker 1: both have been super into just like skincare, beauty, makeup,
Speaker 1: just that whole realm of life. Me and her have
Speaker 1: always just gone along and really bonded over that since
Speaker 1: we were literally like ten. Um So we wanted to
Speaker 1: do a whole another little mini episode um the following
Speaker 1: week about beauty and our skincare routines in our favorite products,
Speaker 1: and we'll make it quick and cute and helpful for
Speaker 1: those that are maybe just getting started with beauty and
Speaker 1: need some advice from people that have tried nearly everything
Speaker 1: under the sun. Um So, make sure you guys stay
Speaker 1: tuned for that. Make sure you're following Natasha on her
Speaker 1: social media. It's just her name at Natasha Burret and
Speaker 1: anything else you'd like to say. Um, I have a
Speaker 1: new Auroricy Guarden movie coming out in February on the
Speaker 1: Homework channel. Yes, tune in. Yes, I forgot about that.
Speaker 1: That's really exciting. She plays her mom as flashback, which
Speaker 1: I think is am I allowed to say that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's fine. I play I played the younger her. I
Speaker 1: just think it's I mean, it's genius because you are identical.
Speaker 1: But I'm so excited to watch. It'll be fun. I'm
Speaker 1: really excited. I haven't done any sort of This one
Speaker 1: was super spooky and haunted and like horror vibes, which
Speaker 1: I haven't done anything like that before, so it'll be
Speaker 1: really fun to see how it turned out. Hallmark Channel
Speaker 1: fab He said, Yep, yep, great tune in guys. Thank
Speaker 1: you so much, love Utosh, thank you for coming on
Speaker 1: you and we'll see you guys next week. Peace