WEBVTT - Conversations with… Natasha Bure 0:00:02.160 --> 0:00:06.680 This is Conversationous with Olivia Jade and my Heart Radio podcast. 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:12.280 Hello everybody, Welcome back to another episode of Conversations. I'm 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:16.240 your host, Olivia Jade, and I am really really excited 0:00:16.280 --> 0:00:19.520 for this episode because it's one of my best friends 0:00:19.920 --> 0:00:23.520 who's coming on as my guest. I have known this 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:27.760 girl since basically birth. Our moms worked on a TV 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:29.960 show together. She's one of my oldest friends. We were 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:32.360 kind of forced to be friends and then just hit 0:00:32.400 --> 0:00:35.239 it off at a really young age, and yeah, I've 0:00:35.280 --> 0:00:37.360 kind of been stuck with each other ever since. So 0:00:37.920 --> 0:00:48.520 with that being said, please welcome Natasha barrd Okay, buddy, 0:00:48.560 --> 0:00:53.320 what's up? What's up buddy? How he's feeling? We're feeling good? 0:00:53.360 --> 0:00:57.640 Are you? You look pretty? Basy? Look pretty too? Um. 0:00:57.680 --> 0:00:59.880 This is gonna feel like a FaceTime for us yet again. 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:02.400 Last time Natasha and I went Instagram live, we like 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:07.200 forgot we were live and we're just talking literally nonsense. Um. 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:09.720 But for those that don't know you, do you want 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:14.119 to introduce yourself? What you do, who you are? Hi? Guys, 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:21.640 Hi guys. I'm Natasha Bray. I I'm twenty three years old. 0:01:21.920 --> 0:01:24.600 I do a lot of different things. I act, I 0:01:24.600 --> 0:01:27.400 do music, YouTube, I wrote a book. I'm kind of 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:29.679 I'm kind of all over the place a little bit, 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:32.000 but I just love sharing my life on social media 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:36.199 and getting to know you guys and um hopefully making 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:40.800 a positive impact into younger girls lives through Yeah, you 0:01:40.800 --> 0:01:44.560 wrote a book, Yeah, let's be real. When I was 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:49.360 like seventeen, why do I not recall this? Dot? Did it? 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:52.440 I wrote it? I wrote it when I was like seventeen, 0:01:52.560 --> 0:01:57.000 right out of UM, right out of high school. And 0:01:57.360 --> 0:02:02.320 what was it about? Um? It was basically about being 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:05.440 real in a time period where I feel like, well, 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:07.720 I still feel like this is super true for anyone 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:11.720 any age, but with social media and growing up, I 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:14.040 felt like I had to be so perfect online and 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:17.160 have this image in persona that was like squeaky clean 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:20.200 and edited and like base tuned in like all this stuff. 0:02:20.240 --> 0:02:23.720 And I feel like a lot of people I weren't 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:27.160 talking about real life situations, whether it be with boys 0:02:27.240 --> 0:02:29.880 or periods, or family issues or mental health or whatever. 0:02:29.960 --> 0:02:32.799 And I would literally go on YouTube to find answers 0:02:32.800 --> 0:02:34.440 because none of my friends to talk about it. None 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:36.520 of my family members were really talking about it, and 0:02:36.600 --> 0:02:39.240 so I kind of wish that I had like this 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:41.880 older sister that would have told me all of and 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:43.840 all this stuff. So I just wrote it kind of 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:45.720 from my personal experience. Is the good and the bad 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:47.760 of just like life when I was a teenager and 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:49.600 what it was like and I was so young, and 0:02:49.639 --> 0:02:50.880 I look back and I'm like, I don't even know 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:53.320 if any of my advice was good, but it was good. 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:56.080 It was it was fun, like you know, doing it 0:02:56.120 --> 0:02:59.040 in the moment. But I would never write another one. So, okay, 0:02:59.080 --> 0:03:02.280 one done, great when I've done. Maybe when I'm older, 0:03:02.320 --> 0:03:09.720 But like, definitely, I'm so not. I'm so not you know, 0:03:10.000 --> 0:03:13.639 yes writer like and so you know, some people are 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:17.200 more like audible, some people are marketing. I'm definitely not. 0:03:18.520 --> 0:03:20.919 I can't really put my thoughts on the papers that quickly. 0:03:20.960 --> 0:03:23.200 I feel like my mind moved so fast. So doing 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:25.120 something like this is really fun. But writing a book 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:27.679 was so challenging. Yeah, And I feel like nowadays there's 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:30.280 so many ways to get advice through to people through 0:03:30.320 --> 0:03:32.600 social media and through video and talking, which I mean 0:03:32.639 --> 0:03:34.840 and you obviously love to do is just like talk 0:03:34.920 --> 0:03:37.720 to people and talk to a camera and um, but 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:40.160 a book is that I haven't even thought about that 0:03:40.200 --> 0:03:43.520 part of life yet. I honestly feel like I like 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:46.160 the idea of doing a podcast better because it's still 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:48.120 all the same stories and it might not be as 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:51.560 like crisp and clean the wording of it all, but 0:03:51.600 --> 0:03:53.800 it's just still the same like ron realness that you 0:03:53.800 --> 0:03:56.600 would have in a book. I feel like, yeah, for sure. Well, 0:03:56.720 --> 0:03:58.920 for those of you that don't know, Natasha and I 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:02.200 have known each other since we were what like literally 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:05.200 I was probably like one and you were two. Yeah, yeah, exactly. 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:07.320 Our moms were on a show together. They were in 0:04:07.400 --> 0:04:11.680 Full House, and Natasha's mom played DJ and my mom 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:15.240 played Aunt Becky. And that's how we met. Well, I mean, 0:04:15.800 --> 0:04:18.840 we weren't all we weren't alive yet, we didn't me, 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:22.000 but yeah, that's how we met. We just met. Where 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:24.160 did we meet, Like, where did they introduce us when 0:04:24.200 --> 0:04:26.320 we were kids? I don't know, I just know, but 0:04:26.480 --> 0:04:30.080 like probably Jeff Franklin's house. Yeah, you guys, when we 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:33.360 were a little the creator of Full House, Jeff Franklin 0:04:33.440 --> 0:04:35.880 had v or he still has the house. But we 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:37.839 just thought it was in the coolest house and the 0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:41.279 entire world. I mean, it is. It's the coolest ast ever, 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:43.120 Like I would I would, I would like to just 0:04:43.760 --> 0:04:47.240 die there. It's amazing. No, I told you this. Remember 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:49.880 when we were together the other weekend and I used 0:04:49.880 --> 0:04:51.840 to convince my mom like can I please have my 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:55.640 birthday party? Yet? I was will you tell them the 0:04:55.680 --> 0:05:01.839 mac story about how he asked so. So yeah, Jeff 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:05.800 has the most beautiful house I've ever seen. Like water slides, 0:05:06.160 --> 0:05:12.400 shark tanks. Yes, and uh, it's just studying, like the 0:05:12.520 --> 0:05:15.360 view everything. You can't beat it. Honestly, when we were younger, 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:17.480 it felt like Disneyland when I would go there because 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:18.680 I was like, this is so fun, and I with 0:05:18.680 --> 0:05:22.800 all my friends and my my youngest brother Max, Um, 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:25.440 he was just obsessed with that house. And I think 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:28.240 at one point he literally asked my mom like, can 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:32.120 Jeff be my godfather? I can live here if something 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:36.000 happens to you guys, And I don't think so genius, 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:38.359 I know, and I don't even know. Jeff's like agreed, 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:41.080 but he like is aware of it because my mom 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:43.880 was like, all right, I guess Jeff your godfather. If 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:48.280 something happens, I'll go there. It's such a smart outlook 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:49.880 though for Max to have at that young of an 0:05:49.880 --> 0:05:51.840 age like here, let me just think about if God 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:55.599 forbid something happens to my mom or dad, who can 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:59.719 parent me? Oh the guy with the sickest house. And 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:01.800 it's funny because of anyone who would have think that, like, 0:06:01.880 --> 0:06:05.840 it would be Max, you know, like for sure. So 0:06:05.920 --> 0:06:07.920 that's like a little background obviously as to how we 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:10.800 know each other. And then I mean we've been friends 0:06:10.880 --> 0:06:13.880 forever since then for our entire lives. Like I would 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:16.400 say that, you know, those types of friends you have 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:18.160 for so long in your life, you don't need to 0:06:18.200 --> 0:06:20.400 see or talk to them every day for the entire 0:06:20.640 --> 0:06:22.880 time of your friendship. But like right when you're back together, 0:06:22.920 --> 0:06:27.360 it's nothing changed. That's how I feel like we are 0:06:27.520 --> 0:06:31.200 with each other. Um. So I took to Instagram and 0:06:31.279 --> 0:06:35.440 obviously you did too. I saw um to get some questions. 0:06:35.600 --> 0:06:38.599 This is a good one of somebody how they phrased it. 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:42.279 Somebody said, how is life living in the spotlight and 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:44.720 the pressure of being a celebrities kid? Is your goal 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:47.599 not to be blanks daughter and be known for something else? 0:06:49.279 --> 0:06:52.200 I really love that question. Um, I don't know how 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:56.840 you feel about it, but for me, growing up. Uh. 0:06:57.080 --> 0:07:00.760 I always felt since I was super little that I 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:07.240 was like Candice's daughter. And I think especially because with 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:09.520 acting it's something that like, I'm so passionate about and 0:07:09.520 --> 0:07:11.640 I love and that's also what my mom just happens 0:07:11.720 --> 0:07:16.160 to do. I had to start separating myself at a 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:19.440 certain age and really trying to like form my own identity, 0:07:19.480 --> 0:07:21.160 and that can be really hard when you get boxed 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:24.160 into that. And it's funny because I think a lot 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:28.920 of people to think that I saw my mom acting 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:30.680 and was like, oh, that's what I want to do. 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:32.320 But I never even saw my mom on set, Like 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:33.800 I didn't even really see her work till I was 0:07:33.800 --> 0:07:35.640 probably ten or eleven, and by then I already knew 0:07:35.680 --> 0:07:39.520 what I wanted to do. So um, I feel like 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:42.880 it's uh, I feel it can just be difficult to 0:07:42.920 --> 0:07:45.000 find her own identity or know what your identity is, 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:47.760 but then still have people look at you for something else. 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:50.680 Do you feel that way at all? I mean, I 0:07:50.680 --> 0:07:53.320 know it's different because your your career is so different 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:57.360 than what my mom does. Yeah, in the acting sense, 0:07:57.720 --> 0:08:01.840 I think for me, I mean I never even initially 0:08:01.960 --> 0:08:05.440 expected or wanted to be in the public eye. When 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:07.480 I was younger, like when I started my YouTube channel, 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:09.200 I did not think that was going to garner like 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:12.440 any sort of following. I didn't think that, um, I 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:15.800 would be written about a news outlets like Paparazzi. None 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:18.600 of that. That never even had crossed my mind. Um, 0:08:18.720 --> 0:08:20.960 I just knew I really liked makeup in fashion and 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:23.800 filming it on YouTube. So for me, it was never 0:08:23.840 --> 0:08:26.920 really an issue because I felt like when I was younger, especially, 0:08:26.920 --> 0:08:28.960 it was really fun when I would get invited to events, 0:08:29.000 --> 0:08:30.960 I could bring my mom as my date, and I 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:33.640 would be like super proud of it. I think that's 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:39.200 why I enjoy social media so much, to try to 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:42.000 have people like know me on my own and to 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:44.560 be like, you know, this is obviously something I grew 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:46.560 up with or these are the people that I'm friends 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:48.720 with or have family members, but this is me, and 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:51.719 I feel like both of us also too, are very 0:08:51.760 --> 0:08:54.959 independent and like have our own just our own situations 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:57.440 going on. So I always want people to feel like 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:01.040 that you could o me for me and not me 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:03.960 for someone else. That's like my biggest pet thieve. You know, Yeah, 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:23.120 I totally agreed. It's so true. Another person asked, um, 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:26.199 just changing the topic a little bit. This was just 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:28.520 I think this isn't really a question because I said 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:31.480 topics or questions, and I think this one just wanted 0:09:31.520 --> 0:09:35.520 advice on the overall uh statement of boy problems and 0:09:35.600 --> 0:09:39.080 toxic friendships. But I've also seen other questions about like 0:09:39.120 --> 0:09:40.760 how do you find good friends and how do you 0:09:40.800 --> 0:09:43.400 find genuine people and stuff like that, And I feel 0:09:43.400 --> 0:09:44.960 like me and you talk about this all the time 0:09:45.040 --> 0:09:47.880 off camera regardless. I was just about to say, we 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:52.040 talked about this could be easy for us. Yeah, you 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:57.720 want to start with boys or friends. I know, start 0:09:57.760 --> 0:10:02.240 with boys and then end with friends friends. Okay, Um. 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:04.840 I think I don't really know obviously the specific of 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:08.720 this person's boy problem, but I would say rule of 0:10:08.800 --> 0:10:11.800 thumb as i've gotten older, what I've just learned in 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:16.600 general is fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:20.079 shame on me. Um. And I think that's just such 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:23.240 a truth, Like I'm not literally counting like, oh, they 0:10:23.240 --> 0:10:25.520 messed up once and now I'll forgive them. The second 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:27.040 time they messed up again, now I have to leave. 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:29.040 But it's more just like in the grand scheme of 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:32.480 a situation, if somebody does something that is deliberately and 0:10:32.559 --> 0:10:37.080 just kind of intentionally harmful to you and then you 0:10:37.160 --> 0:10:40.040 kind of let it go, or you make amends, and 0:10:40.040 --> 0:10:42.360 and then it happens again, and then again and then again. 0:10:42.679 --> 0:10:45.160 I don't think that's just like having a boy problem anymore. 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:47.840 I think that's just maybe not your person. And I 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:51.280 learned that the hard way in relationships growing up, like 0:10:51.400 --> 0:10:53.720 it's just staying around and trying to make things work. 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:56.800 And because sometimes letting go can be so painful and 0:10:56.840 --> 0:10:59.360 it really can feel like a death, especially with guys 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:03.199 like that you're into, because it's not it's never really 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:05.160 like just a friendship that you can just go back 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:08.280 to right exactly. So it can be so hard. But 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:10.920 I think my main advice would be like you will 0:11:10.960 --> 0:11:12.959 be better for it, and if anything, you can take 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:15.640 away something and that you've learned from that experience and 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:18.679 that relationship and know what you want and set certain 0:11:18.720 --> 0:11:23.199 boundaries in the future. I think setting boundaries for yourself 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:26.200 in any relationship, whether it be romantic or friendship, is 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:30.080 so important. And my whole thing is that I always 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:33.719 feel that I want to be on my own. I 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:35.400 want to be confident in who I am, and I 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:37.760 want to be doing fun. Like if I never find anybody, 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:39.360 if I never have any friends, like, I'm good on 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:42.280 my own, I know me, I love myself. If someone 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:45.080 else can come alongside and add to that, amazing. But 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:47.400 if you're not adding anything to my life, if you're 0:11:47.440 --> 0:11:50.120 not encouraging me, if you're not not necessarily benefiting me 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:53.200 in like a material way, but just encouraging me, bringing 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:56.400 uplifting my spirits, like being a positive impact, then I 0:11:56.440 --> 0:12:00.320 just don't need it. And that goes for any ship, 0:12:00.360 --> 0:12:03.040 and that also goes for relationships with boys, and I 0:12:03.080 --> 0:12:07.960 think the boys want I'm a little less cutthroat when 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:11.320 it comes to like relationship with boys rather than friendships. 0:12:11.320 --> 0:12:13.320 If I have someone who is remotely toxic, I'm like, 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:15.640 you're out one strick, You're done for me, Like I 0:12:15.679 --> 0:12:18.040 just don't have I don't have to tolerance of the patients. 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:20.319 But I think with boys, there's something about having feelings 0:12:20.320 --> 0:12:24.600 for someone and um, you form this attachment that sometimes 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:26.559 even if like you know it's a little bit toxic, 0:12:26.600 --> 0:12:28.080 you're like, oh, I don't want to let this go 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:31.800 because because you're also blinded. You you're blinded by like love, 0:12:32.000 --> 0:12:38.679 Like that's a real and I know even just like 0:12:38.720 --> 0:12:41.720 from first personal experience, like obviously you know, like recently, 0:12:42.200 --> 0:12:45.600 just having to make hard choices because you know that 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:48.240 it's going to at the end of the day benefit you, 0:12:48.320 --> 0:12:50.640 and it's it's what needs to happen. But it doesn't 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:52.840 mean that it's like hard and that you don't like 0:12:54.040 --> 0:12:55.600 you don't struggle with it, you know what I mean. 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:58.319 But when you know it's good and you're making the 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:00.640 right decision to break off a relation ship with someone 0:13:00.640 --> 0:13:02.440 because at the end of the day, it's just it's 0:13:02.440 --> 0:13:05.520 not the right fit. It's so key to have friends 0:13:05.520 --> 0:13:07.160 that are like pushing you and encouraging you to be 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:09.200 like no, like you you're doing the right thing. You know, 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:13.880 don't get discouraged about the temporary feelings of heart heartbrokenness 0:13:13.960 --> 0:13:17.360 or is that work heartbreak? Yeah, heartbreak or whatever. And 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:19.960 that's the same thing with friendships. Yeah, I agree. I 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:22.440 think Also, my sister always says this, and she's like 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:25.120 preaches this, and she said it on the podcast before 0:13:25.200 --> 0:13:26.800 two and kind of what you were saying. But it's 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:29.559 so true, Like you you do want to feel so 0:13:29.559 --> 0:13:31.880 secure within yourself that if you didn't have somebody, you 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:34.600 would be okay. And especially if you do have somebody 0:13:34.640 --> 0:13:37.400 that's healthy and it's just life, Like the one thing 0:13:37.400 --> 0:13:39.439 we can count on is change. And so let's say 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:43.160 your relationship ends friendship specifically like a boyfriend maybe or 0:13:43.200 --> 0:13:46.679 a girlfriend. You don't want to lose those other people 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:49.160 that you have in your life and give all this 0:13:49.320 --> 0:13:52.200 energy and time to one person. So in case God 0:13:52.240 --> 0:13:54.679 forbid it does end, then you're kind of left with nothing, 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:57.959 and you're starting below than what you were even at 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:00.199 your starting point, you know what I mean. Like, I 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:02.360 think it's so easy to get especially if it's like 0:14:02.360 --> 0:14:04.400 your first love. At least for my experience, when I 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:06.560 was younger, like my first boyfriend, like all I wanted 0:14:06.559 --> 0:14:09.080 to do was hang out with him and spent all 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:12.080 my time with this boy, and I like totally, I 0:14:12.160 --> 0:14:14.000 just like kind of let go of my friendships. I 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:16.320 just didn't make as much of an effort. I didn't 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:19.560 incorporate them in my relationship, Like I was just kind 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:23.040 of like doing my own thing. And as I've gotten older, 0:14:23.080 --> 0:14:26.000 I've realized it's so important to find that balance of like, yeah, 0:14:26.000 --> 0:14:28.120 you can be with somebody, but don't leave the people 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:29.640 that care about you and that are there for you, 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:34.840 um like hanging. I also think that the right relationship, 0:14:35.720 --> 0:14:39.760 uh boyfriend and girlfriend or even in friendships come at 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:43.680 the times when you're most secure in yourself. I feel 0:14:43.680 --> 0:14:47.640 like even last year, I I was probably like the 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:51.000 lowest point mentally for myself. Last year, I just wasn't 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:53.400 happy with the person I was Like, I just wasn't 0:14:53.440 --> 0:14:59.120 feeling happy at all, and and I was honestly chasing 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:03.680 like different friendship to relationships as validation. And coming into 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:07.160 this year, I have a whole different perspective, totally different 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:10.520 outlook where I'm like, honestly at the highest I've ever 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:12.920 been in terms of like my mental health and just 0:15:12.960 --> 0:15:14.960 the way that I feel and view myself and like 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:18.600 telling myself daily affirmations and all that stuff. Where now 0:15:18.720 --> 0:15:21.160 I feel like I'm also attracting those people who are 0:15:21.160 --> 0:15:23.280 going to bring that to me, and I'm not chasing 0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:26.560 something or chasing this validation from someone elsewhere, then I 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:28.880 am like losing all of the good people around me. 0:15:29.240 --> 0:15:31.960 And I feel like it's always when you're not looking 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:34.640 for it that those positive people come into your life 0:15:34.640 --> 0:15:38.720 because you really are attracting that energy, like I could 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:41.360 not agree more. If you're at a good place in 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:44.080 your life, the chances of more amazing people coming in 0:15:44.120 --> 0:15:46.080 are a lot higher than if you're sitting at home 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:49.720 all sad and feeling like really down on yourself. You're 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:52.680 not going to attract positive people because people want to 0:15:52.720 --> 0:15:54.720 be around people that are uplifting, you know what I mean. 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:57.040 And I think that's even just with friendships, like just 0:15:57.080 --> 0:15:58.840 kind of seguing a little bit. I think it's so 0:15:58.880 --> 0:16:02.480 important to make sure your relationships are ones that inspire 0:16:02.560 --> 0:16:05.120 you and that you're learning from somebody or that you're 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:07.200 excited to be around them and you have just like 0:16:07.240 --> 0:16:10.760 an uplifting feeling when you're around these people, because at 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:12.440 the end of the day, it's so important. When you 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:14.320 spend so much time with a person, they are going 0:16:14.360 --> 0:16:17.440 to rub off on you. And in any toxic relationships 0:16:17.480 --> 0:16:20.320 I've been in, it's it's interesting my family, people that 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:21.880 know me the best will be like you seem so 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:24.720 different in that in that situation verse how you are 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:28.160 now or in this and um, whether it's friendship, a boyfriend, 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:30.360 whatever it is, it's it's it's so true, like you 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:33.040 really do start to become the people you're around, so 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:37.960 make sure those people are positive and inspiring to um, 0:16:38.000 --> 0:16:40.200 I fully agree. I think that's also the one thing 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:41.920 that my parents have done a super good job of 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:45.760 encouraging me about is whoever I like, I really do 0:16:45.840 --> 0:16:48.000 believe that you become who you surround yourself with. And 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:50.600 my parents are really quick to be like, hey, I 0:16:50.600 --> 0:16:52.120 see that you start to hang out with this person 0:16:52.160 --> 0:16:53.680 and I don't know if you've noticed, but like you 0:16:53.680 --> 0:16:56.960 started acting different or vice versa. So for me now, 0:16:57.000 --> 0:16:59.920 in my friendships, I keep a super close circle of 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:02.320 people that I just trust and I know that are gonna, 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:05.000 you know, bring positivity into my life and love and 0:17:05.040 --> 0:17:08.200 all of that stuff. But I'm a lot more conscious 0:17:08.240 --> 0:17:11.040 of it now where I only really want to invest 0:17:11.119 --> 0:17:16.320 in friendships and relationships that are going to better myself. Like, 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:18.159 if you're not pushing me in my friendship or in 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:20.760 my relationship with you, then like what is the point? 0:17:20.880 --> 0:17:23.720 Like I want to I want to be challenged. I 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:25.160 want to be pushed that I can be a better 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:27.800 person so that you can be a better person. And overall, 0:17:27.840 --> 0:17:30.800 I feel like when you when you can grow together, 0:17:30.960 --> 0:17:34.200 that's just so key. Yeah. I could not agree more 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:38.760 so somebody asked kind of just about like dieting is 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:41.160 such a hard word. Yeah, you know who who did? 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:44.560 I just see an interview. I think it was Kanye Westies. Like, 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:48.119 I call it living instead of because dieting as the 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:51.520 word diet dieting. I don't like the word dieting. But 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:55.359 I obviously have a diet Like there, you know, everyone 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:57.400 has a diet of like what they're eating, but I'm 0:17:57.440 --> 0:18:01.639 not necessarily dieting, right, So I guess we could start 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:04.000 people ask like what we were doing to stay in 0:18:04.000 --> 0:18:05.880 shape or like a workout routine, and then like what 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:11.360 we typically eat. Yeah, well we've been working out consistently 0:18:11.400 --> 0:18:15.120 for like two weeks together. I worked out this morning, Daniel, 0:18:15.240 --> 0:18:17.119 I didn't. I'm going to work out later though. I 0:18:17.160 --> 0:18:19.680 worked I got up at like seven because I here, 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:21.960 let me tell you guys, this is my diet. I 0:18:22.000 --> 0:18:24.440 had a whole box of pizza to myself last night, 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:26.479 and so I woke up feeling really sick and I 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:31.440 just had to go run it off. Um do the routine. Yeah, 0:18:31.600 --> 0:18:33.800 I basically for my little routine, I just go on 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:35.919 the treadmill. This treadmill has like a setting in it 0:18:36.000 --> 0:18:39.280 which it changes the speed it inclines for you every minute, 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:41.720 so it's interval training. So I like jog and then 0:18:41.720 --> 0:18:43.800 I'll sprint and then it'll walk and then it'll turn 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:45.520 the incline up and I'll be running again and then 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:47.919 I'll do that for like thirty minutes. That's my workout 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:51.320 routine and then like abs. Yeah, we do like a 0:18:51.400 --> 0:18:54.840 ten minute our glass app work out on YouTube, or 0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:59.520 we do um one time we tried doing it dance 0:18:59.640 --> 0:19:03.480 like a dance class. We did a little zoom we 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:10.199 did to zoomba dance classes. That was so funny. It 0:19:10.320 --> 0:19:27.800 was fun. We should do that again. I know, I 0:19:27.880 --> 0:19:31.560 think honestly for working out, for me personally, it is 0:19:32.240 --> 0:19:35.159 it's really hard because I think just growing up in 0:19:35.320 --> 0:19:40.920 l A, I have such a negative perception of working 0:19:40.920 --> 0:19:44.040 out and eating right because I associated with wanting to 0:19:44.080 --> 0:19:46.640 look a certain way. And I think recently, as I've 0:19:46.680 --> 0:19:52.600 gotten older, I found that when I focus my my 0:19:52.720 --> 0:19:54.560 thoughts more on the fact that like I'm going to 0:19:54.720 --> 0:19:56.720 feel good and I'm gonna feel healthy and I'm going 0:19:56.800 --> 0:19:59.040 to have more energy and I'm not going to be 0:19:59.080 --> 0:20:03.480 so groggy um by working out, I enjoy it so 0:20:03.560 --> 0:20:05.520 much more. And the same with eating clean. It's like 0:20:05.560 --> 0:20:07.840 if I'm just eating clean and trying to force myself 0:20:07.880 --> 0:20:10.320 to have salads and stuff and never giving myself like 0:20:10.600 --> 0:20:12.760 a little break or a cheap day or chea week 0:20:12.840 --> 0:20:15.160 or whatever, it is like it's just never gonna work 0:20:15.160 --> 0:20:17.119 for me. But if I'm thinking about it, if I 0:20:17.200 --> 0:20:19.600 change my mindset and I'm like, I'm doing this because 0:20:19.720 --> 0:20:21.840 I want to feel good. And there's also ways to 0:20:21.960 --> 0:20:24.879 eat stuff that's healthy that doesn't feel like you're eating 0:20:24.920 --> 0:20:27.560 plants out of the ground. Um, which I think is 0:20:27.800 --> 0:20:30.040 so important too, is to just find stuff that you 0:20:30.119 --> 0:20:32.640 genuinely enjoy doing. Like I found that I really do 0:20:32.720 --> 0:20:35.640 like interval training on this treadmill, so I've been really 0:20:35.680 --> 0:20:37.320 motivated to get up and do that, and then I 0:20:37.359 --> 0:20:43.400 feel really good internally after, which keeps the motivation. I 0:20:43.440 --> 0:20:49.280 couldn't agree more. I think growing up having a father 0:20:49.359 --> 0:20:52.199 who was a professional athlete and having everyone in my 0:20:52.280 --> 0:20:56.400 family on like the male side be an athlete, I 0:20:56.400 --> 0:20:59.480