WEBVTT - The Afterparty 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:02.200 Help We Suck At Being Newlywed? 0:00:02.320 --> 0:00:06.880 With Dean Aungler, Haylen lurkey Man, Jared haven An iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:11.760 What is going on? Everybody? Welcome to an all new 0:00:11.800 --> 0:00:16.639 episode of Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds? Kaylen and 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:19.000 I listened to our last episode and she always made 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:20.959 fun of me for trailing off at the end of 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:23.919 every sentence. And so this week on Help We Suck 0:00:23.960 --> 0:00:28.160 At Being Newlyweds? I am going to fix that problem. 0:00:28.760 --> 0:00:30.400 Can't wait to see We're here. 0:00:30.800 --> 0:00:34.519 Yeah, we're gonna see, We're gonna hear. I want to 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:38.640 just take a quick second and appreciate the way that 0:00:38.760 --> 0:00:42.279 Jared looks right now. Jared, I've known for I want 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:47.839 to say, six or seven years. I don't I legitimately 0:00:47.880 --> 0:00:50.360 think that looking at you right now, this might be 0:00:51.159 --> 0:00:52.279 your best look. 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:55.320 My best look. It's really the black T shirt. I 0:00:55.360 --> 0:00:57.720 appreciate that, buddy. I got a haircut. You know what, 0:00:57.760 --> 0:01:00.080 I got botox, I. 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:00.800 Got a spray tan. 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:06.320 Oh oh, okay, I got a spray tan. So I'm 0:01:06.400 --> 0:01:10.600 in Dallas right now. That's why my schedule has been 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:13.560 a little chaotic. So I got this opportunity to host 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:17.560 a show called First Look, which airs on NBC. It's 0:01:17.600 --> 0:01:19.840 like late night after SNL. But it's a travel show 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:21.440 and it's really cool. We've done a couple of things 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:26.080 with them, and so we're showcasing the city of Dallas 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:29.039 and it's a really cool opportunity for me. And I 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:33.200 wanted to make sure that I wasn't looking like a 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:36.480 Cullen on camera. Yeah, dude, I get pale, as you 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:40.920 guys have probably noticed. I get so pale it sucks. 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:45.160 So of course I couldn't go on camera like that. 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:46.320 So I was like, all right, I'm gonna get a 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:49.160 spray tan. And then you know what's even funnier is 0:01:49.160 --> 0:01:52.040 that I didn't even get a professional spray tan. Ashley 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:54.840 has this stuff. She's like, trust me, I can give 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:58.120 you a spray tan. I'm very confident in this. I said, 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:01.080 all right. So the night before I left, or two 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:03.080 nights before I left, I was standing in the living 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:06.960 room at eleven o'clock at night and then just I 0:02:07.040 --> 0:02:10.000 wasn't naked. I had boxers on, but like the boxes 0:02:10.120 --> 0:02:12.560 rolled up and just standing there and Ashley's spraying me 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:15.160 and rubbing me down. I was like, if anybody could 0:02:15.160 --> 0:02:17.240 see us right now, and how pathetic I must look. 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:20.440 It's a very vulnerable spot to be in. Dean, You've 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:23.480 been naked on the podcast. But man, just like having 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:26.639 my wife just really get in, like for the first time, 0:02:26.720 --> 0:02:30.280 like looking so close, like rubbing my feet to for 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:31.000 the Spraytan. 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:36.200 Well, I've been here. So is Ashley with you in Dallas? 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:39.239 No, she's home. She's home with Dawson. We're going to 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:43.480 think about bringing Dawson in Ashley. But I've been filming. 0:02:43.800 --> 0:02:47.359 It's like ten hour days, and so it had been pointless. 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:51.480 So you're hosting this show by yourself. Yeah, okay, interesting, 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:54.680 that's I know. That's so cool, very very cool. That's 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:56.880 very cool. I feel like typically what people like to 0:02:56.919 --> 0:03:00.560 do for people like us shared that you know, our 0:03:01.240 --> 0:03:03.520 thirty percent of a hole, and once our wives join us, 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:06.799 then we become the other full hole. I think we're 0:03:07.400 --> 0:03:08.120 Batman exactly. 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:11.960 We're fully under understanding of our status exactly exactly. 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:13.600 So it's nice to, you know, break out on your 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:15.720 own and do this on your own. That's pretty awesome. 0:03:16.280 --> 0:03:18.480 It was shocking when they asked. I was like, are 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.880 you sure you're this is Jared not Ashley. I didn't 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:23.640 know if you're inquiring about the right person. Okay, second 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:25.680 question was you look great? 0:03:25.840 --> 0:03:29.240 As I mentioned earlier, it is the tan that I 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:31.120 think is what makes you stand out to how you 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:33.040 normally look. You always look good, but it is nice. 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:36.119 It is a good glowing tan. And the amount of 0:03:36.160 --> 0:03:38.480 the amount of faith that you had in Ashley to 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:39.640 rub something on. 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:41.920 Your body, you don't have that faith in me. 0:03:42.320 --> 0:03:45.040 It's not that I wouldn't, it's just I totally would 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:48.360 because I don't care. But like, I'm not going and 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:51.640 hosting a show you know that everyone's going to see 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:54.440 and like we U should just you just still did 0:03:54.640 --> 0:03:58.320 chose not to hire a professional spray tanner. That's just impressive. 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:00.840 Good for you. Yeah, I was nervous. 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:05.640 I asked her a couple times because I was like, oh, 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:08.760 I got a schedule spray tand because obviously I procrastinated, 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:11.720 and then she was like, I'll just do it, and. 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:13.000 I was like, are you sure. 0:04:13.480 --> 0:04:14.680 It's just like trust me, I can do it, And 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:15.880 I said, all right, I just want to I want 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:19.360 to clarify something so I get this out there. 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:19.760 In the world. 0:04:20.040 --> 0:04:22.920 You feel confident, very confident that you'd be able to 0:04:22.920 --> 0:04:25.360 give me a spray tan and I will not look 0:04:25.440 --> 0:04:29.080 abnormal on camera, and she said, yes, I feel very 0:04:29.080 --> 0:04:29.640 confident in this. 0:04:29.800 --> 0:04:31.360 I said, all right, let's do it. It looks like you 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:35.120 we did hit something that. What's that little dent up there? Dude? 0:04:35.360 --> 0:04:37.159 I was just thinking that, you know what it it's 0:04:37.279 --> 0:04:40.799 so weird. I feel like sometimes this is more prominent 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:44.240 than it's not. So I've this is a scar from 0:04:44.279 --> 0:04:46.040 when I was about a year and a half two 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:49.080 years old, I ran into the corner of a table 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:53.760 running after a ball, shocking and cracked my head opening 0:04:54.480 --> 0:04:56.240 and it's been scar ever since. And I feel like 0:04:56.279 --> 0:04:58.000 sometimes it's more prominent. 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:00.400 It's probably when you get the fresh botox, and actions 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:01.640 is when it shows up a little bit. 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:04.839 More obviously, get the eyebrows really high up. I have 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:07.279 yet to get botox. Oh, I don't know if I 0:05:07.360 --> 0:05:08.000 ever will. 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:12.480 I don't know. Yeah, I mean between cal and to it. Kaylen, 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:14.800 you're open about your botoxic yet, right, Yeah. 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:17.800 I just got Daxify. I'm off the botox training onto 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:19.279 the daf Taxify train. 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:21.080 And I think that if you look at the two 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:25.040 of us from when we first met till now, it's 0:05:25.080 --> 0:05:28.279 it almost might be the best selling like case study 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:33.320 for botox or taxapoint, because you look just as good, 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:35.279 if not better, than the day that we met. And 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:37.920 I look like I've aged twenty years and five years. 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:40.520 So if that's not a good case study for botox, 0:05:40.760 --> 0:05:41.279 I don't. 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:44.320 Know what botox. All it does is freeze your forehead 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:45.040 just a little bit. 0:05:45.760 --> 0:05:48.719 Yeah, but you do it to mean youthful. 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:50.920 Looking, right, Well, I do it because I have this 0:05:50.960 --> 0:05:53.960 one line right here in my elevens that I don't 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:55.760 want to set into a permanent. 0:05:55.480 --> 0:05:59.120 Gotcha, And how do you get that? Do you just 0:05:59.160 --> 0:06:01.599 get that rink naturally? Yeah? 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:02.800 Because I scowl a lot. 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:04.520 Yeah, Yeah, I was gonna say, how do you think 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:08.279 you get it? A lot of scowling? Yeah, And I 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:10.160 like the botox because now you can scowl at me 0:06:10.200 --> 0:06:11.560 and I don't even know you're scowling at it. 0:06:11.640 --> 0:06:11.800 Yeah. 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:13.240 It's pretty frustonrating. 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:18.200 Because there's no movement up there. Yeah, that's good stuff. 0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:20.240 I think I think give it ten years. You guys 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:21.200 both have it done. 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:24.240 I mean, look, I'll do it. I would do it 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:26.880 just for fun. I would do anything once, and that 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:29.880 includes botox. I know, guys, I've gotten botox. The problem 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:31.880 is I get self conscious because I see some of 0:06:31.920 --> 0:06:35.719 the guys that get botox, and including like listen, I 0:06:35.720 --> 0:06:38.440 got no I. Tom Brady definitely gets botox. 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:41.040 But I've seen interviews with Brady where it's very clear 0:06:41.080 --> 0:06:43.280 that he'd like just got it because his eye, you know, 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:45.200 And this happens to a lot of guys where like, 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:48.840 you know, the eyelids are like the eyebrows are really up, 0:06:49.160 --> 0:06:50.760 you know, and it's like they're talking like this, they 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:52.320 always look they always look surprised. 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:55.000 I was like, oh, I can't you know, it. 0:06:54.960 --> 0:06:57.360 Looks good afterwards, but man, that first couple of days, 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:00.960 you're like, just stay in the house, Just stay in 0:07:01.000 --> 0:07:03.479 the house. But also it doesn't affect this right the 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:04.479 lines near the eyes. 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:05.520 What does that do that? 0:07:05.640 --> 0:07:08.840 But that freaks me out because I don't know. I've 0:07:08.839 --> 0:07:10.440 just heard so many things. You can do, the bags, 0:07:10.440 --> 0:07:12.400 you can do, the crow's feet, My bag just a 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:12.960 little scary. 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:16.360 I would love to get my bags taken care of. 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:18.080 And it's like a long needle. 0:07:18.120 --> 0:07:20.320 I hurt, and then if they hit the wrong thing, 0:07:20.360 --> 0:07:21.880 then your eye closing. 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:23.640 Oh that sounds miserable. 0:07:23.280 --> 0:07:25.160 And maybe that's a story that's not true. 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:28.320 But my whole life, going back to middle school and 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:32.120 high school, my biggest insecurity, one of I had a lot. 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:35.560 One of my biggest insecurities was my bags because I'm 0:07:35.600 --> 0:07:36.760 not a morning person, as. 0:07:36.640 --> 0:07:39.640 You know, and every day we got to talk about it. 0:07:39.800 --> 0:07:42.360 We have to talk about that, obviously, And every day 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:44.080 I'd walk into school and I'd be like, dude, you 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:46.320 it looks like you have four eyes because my bags 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:51.280 were there, like I was talking about myself. Said no, no, no, 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:53.040 I just think about it like my eye and my 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:55.120 bag of my eye were two eyes, and so I 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:56.680 would have two eyes on each side. It was my 0:07:56.720 --> 0:07:59.160 biggest insecurity. And now it's better. Like you know, I 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:02.239 woke up at seven name today and I don't know great. 0:08:02.480 --> 0:08:04.679 I don't look great, but I don't have the bags 0:08:04.720 --> 0:08:05.360 aren't as big. 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:07.000 As they used to be, so I've never really noticed 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:07.480 your bad. 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:10.680 Can you do things like that, Caitlyn, aren't there like 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:11.280 little things? 0:08:11.280 --> 0:08:12.960 I don't know. Ashley does these where it's like a 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:15.280 little sticky things. The eyes, yeah, yeah. 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:18.360 Brett was wearing at the wedding. Brett really cares about skincare. Yes, 0:08:18.480 --> 0:08:21.720 he does, just embrace it and the eye roller, the 0:08:21.800 --> 0:08:22.440 ice roller. 0:08:22.520 --> 0:08:24.240 Bread is a better man than I could ever hope 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:26.800 to be. Bread is just awesome. I love Brett so much. 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:40.079 Should we talk about the wedding or should we talk 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:41.079 about our brain scans? 0:08:41.080 --> 0:08:42.920 We should talk about the brain scans real quick. So 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:47.080 Dean and I did narrow feedback and got these brain scans. 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:50.120 They did like fifteen minutes with your eyes closed, fifteen 0:08:50.160 --> 0:08:53.400 minutes with your eyes open, and then they came back 0:08:53.400 --> 0:08:56.600 with our results. It's like alpha, beta, beta, all these 0:08:56.600 --> 0:09:00.480 different waves, and Dean, I don't know know where to. 0:09:00.480 --> 0:09:03.400 Begin, so so just just to help disc paint the 0:09:03.400 --> 0:09:05.480 picture a little bit better too. What it does is 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:07.520 you wear this little cap with a bunch of nodes 0:09:07.559 --> 0:09:09.280 on it, like I want to say, twenty five nodes, 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:13.079 And what it does is measures your brain's activity in 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:15.520 those certain spots of your brain. And so you get 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:18.520 like your prefrontal cortex, you're that's actually the only part 0:09:18.520 --> 0:09:20.600 of the brain that I know, and you get like 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:23.920 all these other little sections of your brain that are 0:09:23.920 --> 0:09:26.440 firing during certain things with your eyes open and your 0:09:26.480 --> 0:09:29.120 eyes closed. And then you wait a week and they 0:09:29.200 --> 0:09:32.120 process all the information and they come back and they 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:34.880 gave us like an hour and a half long explanation 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:36.320 of what of our things mean. 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:37.400 It was so interesting. 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:39.839 It's very interesting. Brain Code Center in Denver. I'm sure 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:45.679 there's other and I left it to go first, very bravely, 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:49.240 thank you. And she was like, okay, so before we 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:51.600 get into this, you know, if you have any gray 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:54.800 or blue, it's not good. And then she scrolls down 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:58.040 to these diagrams of my brain. It's like five pictures 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:00.160 on the top and then five pictures on the bottom, 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:03.240 all of different phases of your brain, and nine out 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:05.240 of ten of them were all gray and blue. And 0:10:05.280 --> 0:10:08.400 I was like, that's not good. And there's there was 0:10:08.480 --> 0:10:09.960 one of a lot of red on it, and I 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:11.360 was like, what's this one. That's got to be good. 0:10:11.400 --> 0:10:12.560 I got a lot of red and a lot of 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:14.720 activity on that part of my brain. And she goes, oh, yeah, 0:10:14.720 --> 0:10:17.520 that's your trauma center. Did you have any trauma as 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:19.200 a kid? And I was like, yeah, a lot. And 0:10:19.240 --> 0:10:21.120 she was like are you impulsive? And I was like, 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:23.319 oh my god, so impulsive. She goes, do you have 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:24.960 do you get afraid? 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:25.559 Very easily? 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:27.600 I was like nope, never, I'm just chill all the time, 0:10:27.640 --> 0:10:30.199 and she's like, yeah, that's those are those are things 0:10:30.200 --> 0:10:33.760 that like it's fine but not good. Yeah, And there 0:10:33.760 --> 0:10:35.440 weren't really have any positives with my brain. 0:10:35.640 --> 0:10:38.720 Oh there were, there were, because you're fearless. But Dina 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.320 set in his theta waves. So Deane is always sleepy. 0:10:41.679 --> 0:10:47.280 He has trouble motivating, trouble motivating, trouble finishing projects ADHD. 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:48.560 She said, I have ADHD. 0:10:48.679 --> 0:10:49.640 No, she didn't diagnose you. 0:10:49.800 --> 0:10:52.760 She said, there's signs that's right in your brain, and 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:55.280 then she scrolled down to the speed and his speed. 0:10:55.480 --> 0:10:57.520 Well, before we get to the speed, there's this other 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:01.240 section where it's like which parts of your brain communicate 0:11:01.280 --> 0:11:03.720 with the other parts, and it's so Mine was so chaotic. 0:11:03.760 --> 0:11:05.400 It was like one red line for one part of 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:08.080 your brain communicator with another, and it's basically the whole 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:10.120 brain map was covered in red lines. And I was like, oh, 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:12.840 that's got to be normal. And then we can go 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:16.520 and see Kaylen's and that part specifically was completely. 0:11:16.080 --> 0:11:17.600 Blank and a single red line. 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:19.040 I was like, why do I have all these chaotic 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:21.439 red lines? And she's like, did you have any had 0:11:21.600 --> 0:11:22.920 trauma when you were a kid? I was like, yeah, 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:25.480 I had probably a handful of concussions, and she was like, 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:27.720 that's why. I was like, I haven't had a concussion 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:30.959 in seventeen years. You're telling me I'm still seeing a 0:11:30.960 --> 0:11:33.720 side effects from that. She's like yeah, She's like that'll 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:35.240 last for the rest of your life unless you like 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:37.760 train your brain's plasticity like this. And then yet to 0:11:37.840 --> 0:11:40.200 kate what Kaylen is saying. Then we scrolled down to 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:43.360 the processing power of our brain and I'm like, oh, 0:11:43.360 --> 0:11:45.280 here we go. This is the good stuff. And she 0:11:45.320 --> 0:11:47.280 reads my number. It's like eight point five hurts and 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:51.360 she like audibly goes oh. And I was like, what, Like, 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:53.280 it's good, right, that's really impressive, and she goes, no, 0:11:53.360 --> 0:11:56.160 that's that's one of the lower ones. I've seen. Your 0:11:56.160 --> 0:11:59.800 brain processes information very slowly. And I was like, I 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:03.720 wasn't expecting to be so embarrassed by my brain results. 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:06.120 And then they go to Klin and her everything was 0:12:06.160 --> 0:12:07.640 great for the most part of mine. It's like she 0:12:07.679 --> 0:12:09.280 has a lot more stress and anxiety than I do. 0:12:09.400 --> 0:12:11.680 I think was the main thing, but all the other 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:13.920 positive things were way better. And then they go to 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:16.240 her processing power and it's like eleven point five hurts 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:19.680 and we're both like no, like, no, way, that's awesome. 0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:22.440 Your brain is so productive and processes information is so fast. 0:12:22.480 --> 0:12:25.840 And then she also is like, oh, that's way too high. 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:29.199 So appairly there's like a sweet spot, but it's so interesting. 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:30.439 Sorry I'm rambling here. 0:12:30.679 --> 0:12:31.520 No, it's a thing. 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:33.920 And so the goal we have to wear these little 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:36.800 headbands that we start training tomorrow, and the goal is 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:40.920 for neuroplasticity, so to be able to go between alpha, beta, beta, 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:43.439 all of these. So I'm stuck in beta, I'm stuck 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.200 stressing and have anxiety, and I have a hard time sleeping, 0:12:46.640 --> 0:12:48.559 and Dean stuck in the sleepiness wave. 0:12:48.840 --> 0:12:51.640 I'm drowsy, chill, and nothing phazes me. And it's so 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:54.840 funny too as a couple to know these things, and 0:12:54.920 --> 0:12:57.400 like if we have a reaction to anything that the 0:12:57.400 --> 0:13:00.200 other person does, or like let's say I forget at 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:03.480 something or I'm sleepy or Kaylen is stressed, then we 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:05.440 can both just be like, look, that's just how my 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:08.160 brain is wired. And it's honestly helped us a lot, 0:13:08.240 --> 0:13:10.280 I think, just communicating. It's only been a week and 0:13:10.320 --> 0:13:12.040 we haven't like trained the brains yet, but it is 0:13:12.520 --> 0:13:16.079 super enlightening and insightful for us as a couple. 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:19.280 I think, Yeah, so anytime, Kaylen says, Dean, take out 0:13:19.280 --> 0:13:22.360 the trash, and then three hours goes by and the 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:25.520 trash is not taken out, and she says, Dean, I 0:13:25.559 --> 0:13:28.040 told you to take out the trash. You could say, babe, 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:30.920 it's my brain. I process things very slow. 0:13:31.000 --> 0:13:35.680 It's already begun. I have a slow brain. 0:13:35.800 --> 0:13:39.440 I have a slow brain. It's so funny too, because 0:13:39.440 --> 0:13:41.440 I've seen some of my friends and I've told them 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:45.079 about my results, and it almost like is a crutch 0:13:45.160 --> 0:13:47.440 that I'm leaning on now, where like if I just 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:49.280 feel like being stupid for a little bit, I'll just 0:13:49.280 --> 0:13:51.040 be like, sorry, guys, I got a slow brain. I'm 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:52.040 just going to phase out for a lot. 0:13:52.120 --> 0:13:53.760 And let me just tell you his processing power. She 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:55.680 wants it at a nine. He's at an eight point five. 0:13:56.040 --> 0:13:59.680 But she also mentioned that he has trouble connecting, yeah, 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:02.880 like with me, friends, all the stuff. Like everything she 0:14:02.920 --> 0:14:05.319 said was so spot on and me too. And basically 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:08.160 all she said was I just stressed about everything and 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:10.600 have a hard time relaxing, and then I have this 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:13.800 little e or cloud in the back of my brain that, like, 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:16.760 She's like, basically, you wake up and it's sunny, but 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:18.720 you're like, why is it cloudy? So you have a 0:14:18.760 --> 0:14:21.200 hard time kind of like being positive, which I do 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:21.520 have a. 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:22.080 Little bit of that. 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:25.240 We're so opposites and basically every single way, Yeah, and 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:29.360 I have a trouble. I have a trouble what being 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:32.520 connecting with people and being empathetic was the big one too. 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:35.760 And I'm socially awkward, which I was like, yeah, I 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:37.680 get I never said that. She did say that. She's like, 0:14:37.680 --> 0:14:38.920 do you struggle with social cues? 0:14:38.920 --> 0:14:40.520 And I was like yeah, all the time, I'd never 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:41.080 heard her say that. 0:14:41.120 --> 0:14:42.800 I'm pretty sure she said that. I don't know. I 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:45.200 have a slow brain, so maybe she didn't say that. Anyways, 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:47.680 it's very interesting and we're excited. I think what we're 0:14:47.680 --> 0:14:49.200 gonna do is we're gonna they gave us like these 0:14:49.200 --> 0:14:50.960 little head bands to train her brains. So if you 0:14:51.000 --> 0:14:53.880 guys see us improving, I understand that it's because of 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:54.520 brain contcenter. 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:55.440 No, I'm so exciting. 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:57.520 And Ben Higgins and Jess were the ones that got 0:14:57.560 --> 0:14:59.040 us turned on to this, So shout out to them, 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:00.480 and I'm sure they would do the same thing for 0:15:00.520 --> 0:15:02.040 you and Ashley. If you guys wanted to do that, 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:04.160 I'm definitely down to do this. 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:08.520 Kaylin, I can't imagine you seem like a pretty positive person. No, Dean, 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:10.160 what do you think it's Calen positive? 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:11.320 She is? 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:12.800 She? 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:12.920 She? 0:15:13.120 --> 0:15:15.720 I think she at her core, she's a positive person. 0:15:15.800 --> 0:15:18.400 But she lets the intrusive thoughts win sometimes and she 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:23.120 lets this is This is my biggest gripe with Kaylen's 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:28.000 brain is she'll allow future events that haven't even happened 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:29.480 yet to stress. 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:31.280 My brain so fast. I'm thinking of every possibility to. 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:33.560 Stress her out. And so she'll get mad about things 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:36.840 that haven't even happened yet. And I'm like, Kaylen, you 0:15:36.960 --> 0:15:38.880 can't get mad about that. It hasn't even happened yet 0:15:38.920 --> 0:15:41.920 and so far outside of your own control. And it's 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:43.080 just so it's just interesting. 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:46.440 Yeah, my brain just like thinks of everything, and I yeah, 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:47.240 can get caught. 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:47.640 Up in things. 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:49.360 But so that's their brains. 0:15:49.520 --> 0:15:51.640 It's just a small you or cloud. It's not it's 0:15:51.680 --> 0:15:53.160 not anything too scary. 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:55.800 Yeah, But Jared, I want to talk to you about 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:59.720 her wedding. Yeah, the wedding. Tell us about how it 0:15:59.760 --> 0:16:02.440 was the best wedding you've ever been a guest at. 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:09.120 Obviously it was great. I know that I've been. I 0:16:09.200 --> 0:16:11.840 feel like I wonder what that brain scan would say 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:14.520 to me, because I feel like I'm in a constant 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:15.880 cloud the past couple of years. 0:16:15.920 --> 0:16:18.520 I got to be honest because I've wanted to reach out. 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:20.440 It is one of those things too where I feel 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:21.640 like if I did it when I was twenty five, 0:16:21.640 --> 0:16:23.120 it would have been way better because I feel like 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:25.640 my cloud is growing as well. But we were talking 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:28.080 the whole time about it, like I wish all of 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:30.040 our friends could get this done because it'd be so 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:33.800 interesting to compare things and like, like, like we were 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:36.120 saying earlier, all that helps you do is better understand people, 0:16:36.160 --> 0:16:39.160 and so if all of our friends did it, and 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:40.880 like it's a fun competition thing, you know, like I 0:16:40.920 --> 0:16:42.720 would love to see where you do better than me at, 0:16:42.720 --> 0:16:43.960 but I would really love to see where I do 0:16:44.000 --> 0:16:46.400 better than you at Like those types of things. Yeah, 0:16:46.400 --> 0:16:46.880 I'm curious. 0:16:46.920 --> 0:16:50.840 I definitely relate hard to Kalin's the little cloud thing. 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:51.360 Dude. 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:54.240 If I am dreading something and like I know it's 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:58.480 coming a good four days before it's there, I'm just 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:03.120 like I I just like get that like down because 0:17:03.120 --> 0:17:06.320 I'm like it's coming, like it's four days away, and 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:07.520 like we have to do it. 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:11.280 That you can get rid of that cloud. Essentially interesting. 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:13.200 But the reason I say the fog is because I've 0:17:13.200 --> 0:17:16.040