Speaker 1: Help We Suck At Being Newlywed?
Speaker 2: With Dean Aungler, Haylen lurkey Man, Jared haven An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 1: What is going on? Everybody? Welcome to an all new
Speaker 1: episode of Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds? Kaylen and
Speaker 1: I listened to our last episode and she always made
Speaker 1: fun of me for trailing off at the end of
Speaker 1: every sentence. And so this week on Help We Suck
Speaker 1: At Being Newlyweds? I am going to fix that problem.
Speaker 3: Can't wait to see We're here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're gonna see, We're gonna hear. I want to
Speaker 1: just take a quick second and appreciate the way that
Speaker 1: Jared looks right now. Jared, I've known for I want
Speaker 1: to say, six or seven years. I don't I legitimately
Speaker 1: think that looking at you right now, this might be
Speaker 1: your best look.
Speaker 4: My best look. It's really the black T shirt. I
Speaker 4: appreciate that, buddy. I got a haircut. You know what,
Speaker 4: I got botox, I.
Speaker 1: Got a spray tan.
Speaker 4: Oh oh, okay, I got a spray tan. So I'm
Speaker 4: in Dallas right now. That's why my schedule has been
Speaker 4: a little chaotic. So I got this opportunity to host
Speaker 4: a show called First Look, which airs on NBC. It's
Speaker 4: like late night after SNL. But it's a travel show
Speaker 4: and it's really cool. We've done a couple of things
Speaker 4: with them, and so we're showcasing the city of Dallas
Speaker 4: and it's a really cool opportunity for me. And I
Speaker 4: wanted to make sure that I wasn't looking like a
Speaker 4: Cullen on camera. Yeah, dude, I get pale, as you
Speaker 4: guys have probably noticed. I get so pale it sucks.
Speaker 4: So of course I couldn't go on camera like that.
Speaker 4: So I was like, all right, I'm gonna get a
Speaker 4: spray tan. And then you know what's even funnier is
Speaker 4: that I didn't even get a professional spray tan. Ashley
Speaker 4: has this stuff. She's like, trust me, I can give
Speaker 4: you a spray tan. I'm very confident in this. I said,
Speaker 4: all right. So the night before I left, or two
Speaker 4: nights before I left, I was standing in the living
Speaker 4: room at eleven o'clock at night and then just I
Speaker 4: wasn't naked. I had boxers on, but like the boxes
Speaker 4: rolled up and just standing there and Ashley's spraying me
Speaker 4: and rubbing me down. I was like, if anybody could
Speaker 4: see us right now, and how pathetic I must look.
Speaker 4: It's a very vulnerable spot to be in. Dean, You've
Speaker 4: been naked on the podcast. But man, just like having
Speaker 4: my wife just really get in, like for the first time,
Speaker 4: like looking so close, like rubbing my feet to for
Speaker 4: the Spraytan.
Speaker 1: Well, I've been here. So is Ashley with you in Dallas?
Speaker 4: No, she's home. She's home with Dawson. We're going to
Speaker 4: think about bringing Dawson in Ashley. But I've been filming.
Speaker 4: It's like ten hour days, and so it had been pointless.
Speaker 1: So you're hosting this show by yourself. Yeah, okay, interesting,
Speaker 1: that's I know. That's so cool, very very cool. That's
Speaker 1: very cool. I feel like typically what people like to
Speaker 1: do for people like us shared that you know, our
Speaker 1: thirty percent of a hole, and once our wives join us,
Speaker 1: then we become the other full hole. I think we're
Speaker 1: Batman exactly.
Speaker 4: We're fully under understanding of our status exactly exactly.
Speaker 1: So it's nice to, you know, break out on your
Speaker 1: own and do this on your own. That's pretty awesome.
Speaker 4: It was shocking when they asked. I was like, are
Speaker 4: you sure you're this is Jared not Ashley. I didn't
Speaker 4: know if you're inquiring about the right person. Okay, second
Speaker 4: question was you look great?
Speaker 1: As I mentioned earlier, it is the tan that I
Speaker 1: think is what makes you stand out to how you
Speaker 1: normally look. You always look good, but it is nice.
Speaker 1: It is a good glowing tan. And the amount of
Speaker 1: the amount of faith that you had in Ashley to
Speaker 1: rub something on.
Speaker 3: Your body, you don't have that faith in me.
Speaker 1: It's not that I wouldn't, it's just I totally would
Speaker 1: because I don't care. But like, I'm not going and
Speaker 1: hosting a show you know that everyone's going to see
Speaker 1: and like we U should just you just still did
Speaker 1: chose not to hire a professional spray tanner. That's just impressive.
Speaker 1: Good for you. Yeah, I was nervous.
Speaker 4: I asked her a couple times because I was like, oh,
Speaker 4: I got a schedule spray tand because obviously I procrastinated,
Speaker 4: and then she was like, I'll just do it, and.
Speaker 1: I was like, are you sure.
Speaker 4: It's just like trust me, I can do it, And
Speaker 4: I said, all right, I just want to I want
Speaker 4: to clarify something so I get this out there.
Speaker 1: In the world.
Speaker 4: You feel confident, very confident that you'd be able to
Speaker 4: give me a spray tan and I will not look
Speaker 4: abnormal on camera, and she said, yes, I feel very
Speaker 4: confident in this.
Speaker 1: I said, all right, let's do it. It looks like you
Speaker 1: we did hit something that. What's that little dent up there? Dude?
Speaker 4: I was just thinking that, you know what it it's
Speaker 4: so weird. I feel like sometimes this is more prominent
Speaker 4: than it's not. So I've this is a scar from
Speaker 4: when I was about a year and a half two
Speaker 4: years old, I ran into the corner of a table
Speaker 4: running after a ball, shocking and cracked my head opening
Speaker 4: and it's been scar ever since. And I feel like
Speaker 4: sometimes it's more prominent.
Speaker 1: It's probably when you get the fresh botox, and actions
Speaker 1: is when it shows up a little bit.
Speaker 4: More obviously, get the eyebrows really high up. I have
Speaker 4: yet to get botox. Oh, I don't know if I
Speaker 4: ever will.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, I mean between cal and to it. Kaylen,
Speaker 1: you're open about your botoxic yet, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2: I just got Daxify. I'm off the botox training onto
Speaker 2: the daf Taxify train.
Speaker 1: And I think that if you look at the two
Speaker 1: of us from when we first met till now, it's
Speaker 1: it almost might be the best selling like case study
Speaker 1: for botox or taxapoint, because you look just as good,
Speaker 1: if not better, than the day that we met. And
Speaker 1: I look like I've aged twenty years and five years.
Speaker 1: So if that's not a good case study for botox,
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: Know what botox. All it does is freeze your forehead
Speaker 2: just a little bit.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you do it to mean youthful.
Speaker 2: Looking, right, Well, I do it because I have this
Speaker 2: one line right here in my elevens that I don't
Speaker 2: want to set into a permanent.
Speaker 1: Gotcha, And how do you get that? Do you just
Speaker 1: get that rink naturally? Yeah?
Speaker 3: Because I scowl a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, I was gonna say, how do you think
Speaker 1: you get it? A lot of scowling? Yeah, And I
Speaker 1: like the botox because now you can scowl at me
Speaker 1: and I don't even know you're scowling at it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: It's pretty frustonrating.
Speaker 1: Because there's no movement up there. Yeah, that's good stuff.
Speaker 3: I think I think give it ten years. You guys
Speaker 3: both have it done.
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I'll do it. I would do it
Speaker 1: just for fun. I would do anything once, and that
Speaker 1: includes botox. I know, guys, I've gotten botox. The problem
Speaker 1: is I get self conscious because I see some of
Speaker 1: the guys that get botox, and including like listen, I
Speaker 1: got no I. Tom Brady definitely gets botox.
Speaker 4: But I've seen interviews with Brady where it's very clear
Speaker 4: that he'd like just got it because his eye, you know,
Speaker 4: And this happens to a lot of guys where like,
Speaker 4: you know, the eyelids are like the eyebrows are really up,
Speaker 4: you know, and it's like they're talking like this, they
Speaker 4: always look they always look surprised.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I can't you know, it.
Speaker 4: Looks good afterwards, but man, that first couple of days,
Speaker 4: you're like, just stay in the house, Just stay in
Speaker 4: the house. But also it doesn't affect this right the
Speaker 4: lines near the eyes.
Speaker 1: What does that do that?
Speaker 2: But that freaks me out because I don't know. I've
Speaker 2: just heard so many things. You can do, the bags,
Speaker 2: you can do, the crow's feet, My bag just a
Speaker 2: little scary.
Speaker 1: I would love to get my bags taken care of.
Speaker 3: And it's like a long needle.
Speaker 2: I hurt, and then if they hit the wrong thing,
Speaker 2: then your eye closing.
Speaker 1: Oh that sounds miserable.
Speaker 3: And maybe that's a story that's not true.
Speaker 1: But my whole life, going back to middle school and
Speaker 1: high school, my biggest insecurity, one of I had a lot.
Speaker 1: One of my biggest insecurities was my bags because I'm
Speaker 1: not a morning person, as.
Speaker 3: You know, and every day we got to talk about it.
Speaker 1: We have to talk about that, obviously, And every day
Speaker 1: I'd walk into school and I'd be like, dude, you
Speaker 1: it looks like you have four eyes because my bags
Speaker 1: were there, like I was talking about myself. Said no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I just think about it like my eye and my
Speaker 1: bag of my eye were two eyes, and so I
Speaker 1: would have two eyes on each side. It was my
Speaker 1: biggest insecurity. And now it's better. Like you know, I
Speaker 1: woke up at seven name today and I don't know great.
Speaker 1: I don't look great, but I don't have the bags
Speaker 1: aren't as big.
Speaker 3: As they used to be, so I've never really noticed
Speaker 3: your bad.
Speaker 4: Can you do things like that, Caitlyn, aren't there like
Speaker 4: little things?
Speaker 1: I don't know. Ashley does these where it's like a
Speaker 1: little sticky things. The eyes, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: Brett was wearing at the wedding. Brett really cares about skincare. Yes,
Speaker 2: he does, just embrace it and the eye roller, the
Speaker 2: ice roller.
Speaker 1: Bread is a better man than I could ever hope
Speaker 1: to be. Bread is just awesome. I love Brett so much.
Speaker 1: Should we talk about the wedding or should we talk
Speaker 1: about our brain scans?
Speaker 2: We should talk about the brain scans real quick. So
Speaker 2: Dean and I did narrow feedback and got these brain scans.
Speaker 2: They did like fifteen minutes with your eyes closed, fifteen
Speaker 2: minutes with your eyes open, and then they came back
Speaker 2: with our results. It's like alpha, beta, beta, all these
Speaker 2: different waves, and Dean, I don't know know where to.
Speaker 1: Begin, so so just just to help disc paint the
Speaker 1: picture a little bit better too. What it does is
Speaker 1: you wear this little cap with a bunch of nodes
Speaker 1: on it, like I want to say, twenty five nodes,
Speaker 1: And what it does is measures your brain's activity in
Speaker 1: those certain spots of your brain. And so you get
Speaker 1: like your prefrontal cortex, you're that's actually the only part
Speaker 1: of the brain that I know, and you get like
Speaker 1: all these other little sections of your brain that are
Speaker 1: firing during certain things with your eyes open and your
Speaker 1: eyes closed. And then you wait a week and they
Speaker 1: process all the information and they come back and they
Speaker 1: gave us like an hour and a half long explanation
Speaker 1: of what of our things mean.
Speaker 3: It was so interesting.
Speaker 1: It's very interesting. Brain Code Center in Denver. I'm sure
Speaker 1: there's other and I left it to go first, very bravely,
Speaker 1: thank you. And she was like, okay, so before we
Speaker 1: get into this, you know, if you have any gray
Speaker 1: or blue, it's not good. And then she scrolls down
Speaker 1: to these diagrams of my brain. It's like five pictures
Speaker 1: on the top and then five pictures on the bottom,
Speaker 1: all of different phases of your brain, and nine out
Speaker 1: of ten of them were all gray and blue. And
Speaker 1: I was like, that's not good. And there's there was
Speaker 1: one of a lot of red on it, and I
Speaker 1: was like, what's this one. That's got to be good.
Speaker 1: I got a lot of red and a lot of
Speaker 1: activity on that part of my brain. And she goes, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's your trauma center. Did you have any trauma as
Speaker 1: a kid? And I was like, yeah, a lot. And
Speaker 1: she was like are you impulsive? And I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, so impulsive. She goes, do you have
Speaker 1: do you get afraid?
Speaker 5: Very easily?
Speaker 1: I was like nope, never, I'm just chill all the time,
Speaker 1: and she's like, yeah, that's those are those are things
Speaker 1: that like it's fine but not good. Yeah, And there
Speaker 1: weren't really have any positives with my brain.
Speaker 2: Oh there were, there were, because you're fearless. But Dina
Speaker 2: set in his theta waves. So Deane is always sleepy.
Speaker 2: He has trouble motivating, trouble motivating, trouble finishing projects ADHD.
Speaker 1: She said, I have ADHD.
Speaker 3: No, she didn't diagnose you.
Speaker 2: She said, there's signs that's right in your brain, and
Speaker 2: then she scrolled down to the speed and his speed.
Speaker 1: Well, before we get to the speed, there's this other
Speaker 1: section where it's like which parts of your brain communicate
Speaker 1: with the other parts, and it's so Mine was so chaotic.
Speaker 1: It was like one red line for one part of
Speaker 1: your brain communicator with another, and it's basically the whole
Speaker 1: brain map was covered in red lines. And I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's got to be normal. And then we can go
Speaker 1: and see Kaylen's and that part specifically was completely.
Speaker 3: Blank and a single red line.
Speaker 1: I was like, why do I have all these chaotic
Speaker 1: red lines? And she's like, did you have any had
Speaker 1: trauma when you were a kid? I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I had probably a handful of concussions, and she was like,
Speaker 1: that's why. I was like, I haven't had a concussion
Speaker 1: in seventeen years. You're telling me I'm still seeing a
Speaker 1: side effects from that. She's like yeah, She's like that'll
Speaker 1: last for the rest of your life unless you like
Speaker 1: train your brain's plasticity like this. And then yet to
Speaker 1: kate what Kaylen is saying. Then we scrolled down to
Speaker 1: the processing power of our brain and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: here we go. This is the good stuff. And she
Speaker 1: reads my number. It's like eight point five hurts and
Speaker 1: she like audibly goes oh. And I was like, what, Like,
Speaker 1: it's good, right, that's really impressive, and she goes, no,
Speaker 1: that's that's one of the lower ones. I've seen. Your
Speaker 1: brain processes information very slowly. And I was like, I
Speaker 1: wasn't expecting to be so embarrassed by my brain results.
Speaker 1: And then they go to Klin and her everything was
Speaker 1: great for the most part of mine. It's like she
Speaker 1: has a lot more stress and anxiety than I do.
Speaker 1: I think was the main thing, but all the other
Speaker 1: positive things were way better. And then they go to
Speaker 1: her processing power and it's like eleven point five hurts
Speaker 1: and we're both like no, like, no, way, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: Your brain is so productive and processes information is so fast.
Speaker 1: And then she also is like, oh, that's way too high.
Speaker 1: So appairly there's like a sweet spot, but it's so interesting.
Speaker 1: Sorry I'm rambling here.
Speaker 3: No, it's a thing.
Speaker 2: And so the goal we have to wear these little
Speaker 2: headbands that we start training tomorrow, and the goal is
Speaker 2: for neuroplasticity, so to be able to go between alpha, beta, beta,
Speaker 2: all of these. So I'm stuck in beta, I'm stuck
Speaker 2: stressing and have anxiety, and I have a hard time sleeping,
Speaker 2: and Dean stuck in the sleepiness wave.
Speaker 1: I'm drowsy, chill, and nothing phazes me. And it's so
Speaker 1: funny too as a couple to know these things, and
Speaker 1: like if we have a reaction to anything that the
Speaker 1: other person does, or like let's say I forget at
Speaker 1: something or I'm sleepy or Kaylen is stressed, then we
Speaker 1: can both just be like, look, that's just how my
Speaker 1: brain is wired. And it's honestly helped us a lot,
Speaker 1: I think, just communicating. It's only been a week and
Speaker 1: we haven't like trained the brains yet, but it is
Speaker 1: super enlightening and insightful for us as a couple.
Speaker 4: I think, Yeah, so anytime, Kaylen says, Dean, take out
Speaker 4: the trash, and then three hours goes by and the
Speaker 4: trash is not taken out, and she says, Dean, I
Speaker 4: told you to take out the trash. You could say, babe,
Speaker 4: it's my brain. I process things very slow.
Speaker 3: It's already begun. I have a slow brain.
Speaker 1: I have a slow brain. It's so funny too, because
Speaker 1: I've seen some of my friends and I've told them
Speaker 1: about my results, and it almost like is a crutch
Speaker 1: that I'm leaning on now, where like if I just
Speaker 1: feel like being stupid for a little bit, I'll just
Speaker 1: be like, sorry, guys, I got a slow brain. I'm
Speaker 1: just going to phase out for a lot.
Speaker 2: And let me just tell you his processing power. She
Speaker 2: wants it at a nine. He's at an eight point five.
Speaker 2: But she also mentioned that he has trouble connecting, yeah,
Speaker 2: like with me, friends, all the stuff. Like everything she
Speaker 2: said was so spot on and me too. And basically
Speaker 2: all she said was I just stressed about everything and
Speaker 2: have a hard time relaxing, and then I have this
Speaker 2: little e or cloud in the back of my brain that, like,
Speaker 2: She's like, basically, you wake up and it's sunny, but
Speaker 2: you're like, why is it cloudy? So you have a
Speaker 2: hard time kind of like being positive, which I do
Speaker 2: have a.
Speaker 3: Little bit of that.
Speaker 1: We're so opposites and basically every single way, Yeah, and
Speaker 1: I have a trouble. I have a trouble what being
Speaker 1: connecting with people and being empathetic was the big one too.
Speaker 1: And I'm socially awkward, which I was like, yeah, I
Speaker 1: get I never said that. She did say that. She's like,
Speaker 1: do you struggle with social cues?
Speaker 3: And I was like yeah, all the time, I'd never
Speaker 3: heard her say that.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure she said that. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: have a slow brain, so maybe she didn't say that. Anyways,
Speaker 1: it's very interesting and we're excited. I think what we're
Speaker 1: gonna do is we're gonna they gave us like these
Speaker 1: little head bands to train her brains. So if you
Speaker 1: guys see us improving, I understand that it's because of
Speaker 1: brain contcenter.
Speaker 3: No, I'm so exciting.
Speaker 1: And Ben Higgins and Jess were the ones that got
Speaker 1: us turned on to this, So shout out to them,
Speaker 1: and I'm sure they would do the same thing for
Speaker 1: you and Ashley. If you guys wanted to do that,
Speaker 1: I'm definitely down to do this.
Speaker 4: Kaylin, I can't imagine you seem like a pretty positive person. No, Dean,
Speaker 4: what do you think it's Calen positive?
Speaker 5: She is?
Speaker 1: She?
Speaker 4: She?
Speaker 1: I think she at her core, she's a positive person.
Speaker 1: But she lets the intrusive thoughts win sometimes and she
Speaker 1: lets this is This is my biggest gripe with Kaylen's
Speaker 1: brain is she'll allow future events that haven't even happened
Speaker 1: yet to stress.
Speaker 3: My brain so fast. I'm thinking of every possibility to.
Speaker 1: Stress her out. And so she'll get mad about things
Speaker 1: that haven't even happened yet. And I'm like, Kaylen, you
Speaker 1: can't get mad about that. It hasn't even happened yet
Speaker 1: and so far outside of your own control. And it's
Speaker 1: just so it's just interesting.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my brain just like thinks of everything, and I yeah,
Speaker 2: can get caught.
Speaker 3: Up in things.
Speaker 1: But so that's their brains.
Speaker 2: It's just a small you or cloud. It's not it's
Speaker 2: not anything too scary.
Speaker 1: Yeah, But Jared, I want to talk to you about
Speaker 1: her wedding. Yeah, the wedding. Tell us about how it
Speaker 1: was the best wedding you've ever been a guest at.
Speaker 4: Obviously it was great. I know that I've been. I
Speaker 4: feel like I wonder what that brain scan would say
Speaker 4: to me, because I feel like I'm in a constant
Speaker 4: cloud the past couple of years.
Speaker 1: I got to be honest because I've wanted to reach out.
Speaker 1: It is one of those things too where I feel
Speaker 1: like if I did it when I was twenty five,
Speaker 1: it would have been way better because I feel like
Speaker 1: my cloud is growing as well. But we were talking
Speaker 1: the whole time about it, like I wish all of
Speaker 1: our friends could get this done because it'd be so
Speaker 1: interesting to compare things and like, like, like we were
Speaker 1: saying earlier, all that helps you do is better understand people,
Speaker 1: and so if all of our friends did it, and
Speaker 1: like it's a fun competition thing, you know, like I
Speaker 1: would love to see where you do better than me at,
Speaker 1: but I would really love to see where I do
Speaker 1: better than you at Like those types of things. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm curious.
Speaker 4: I definitely relate hard to Kalin's the little cloud thing.
Speaker 1: Dude.
Speaker 4: If I am dreading something and like I know it's
Speaker 4: coming a good four days before it's there, I'm just
Speaker 4: like I I just like get that like down because
Speaker 4: I'm like it's coming, like it's four days away, and
Speaker 4: like we have to do it.
Speaker 3: That you can get rid of that cloud. Essentially interesting.
Speaker 4: But the reason I say the fog is because I've
Speaker 4: been meeting to reach out to you guys, because I
Speaker 4: just wanted to tell you how amazing your wedding was,
Speaker 4: because it's cool. What I love about weddings is it
Speaker 4: makes you mushy, and like, I feel like I was
Speaker 4: just so much mushier at the wedding and immediately following
Speaker 4: in the wedding than I am right now, which makes
Speaker 4: me sad, which is why I wanted to reach out
Speaker 4: and just like expose all my feelings about you guys
Speaker 4: and tell you what I thought about the wedding. And
Speaker 4: now I feel so much more practical, and I hate
Speaker 4: being practical and talking about these things. Yeah, yeah, because
Speaker 4: it's like you're in the moment. But yeah, when we
Speaker 4: first got there and drove up, first of all, you
Speaker 4: guys put us in a room with Wi Fi, which
Speaker 4: was the best thing ever. I was could not when
Speaker 4: we found out we were in the main lodge right upstairs.
Speaker 1: Ashley and I just were like.
Speaker 4: Woo. It was awesome, and so we got to stay
Speaker 4: in the main lodge. The grounds is beautiful there. It's
Speaker 4: so much more because when we were going there, we
Speaker 4: were nervous about how reclusive this resort was gonna be,
Speaker 4: but it really was very modern. Ben was scaring the
Speaker 4: shit out of us. He was saying there was no
Speaker 4: insulated heat. He was saying that there's gonna be no
Speaker 4: service and the WiFi is gonna be extremely spotty, and
Speaker 4: it's just you know, we're gonna be kind of on
Speaker 4: our own. I was like, there's no insulated heat. He's like, yeah,
Speaker 4: everything's heated by fire and the installation the insulation on
Speaker 4: the cabins is not very good. So like it's gonna
Speaker 4: be really cold tonight. I'm like, well, Jesus all right.
Speaker 4: And it was not like that at all. It was
Speaker 4: very comfortable and warm inside the cabin.
Speaker 1: So we got there on Friday, we had the games.
Speaker 4: It was really great meeting your brother's dean because I've
Speaker 4: heard so much about them and I cannot believe Brett
Speaker 4: was the one who spoke, right, Brad, Brad, Brad's the
Speaker 4: one who spoke, dude. I can't believe you weren't gonna
Speaker 4: let Brad talk. His speech was so good.
Speaker 1: He did give him a great speech. It's not that
Speaker 1: I wouldn't let him talk. I just I guess we
Speaker 1: did talk about that. I just didn't want to have to.
Speaker 1: I didn't want to ask anyone to talk because I
Speaker 1: didn't want to give that pressure to anyone. But he
Speaker 1: volunteered himself. He's like, he texted Kaitlin behind my back,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I want to talk, and you're right.
Speaker 1: I did think I had a little trepidation about it,
Speaker 1: but I'm glad he spoke because he's good at speaking.
Speaker 4: And your two girlfriends, I forget their names, what are
Speaker 4: their names? Elli and Tory were so cute and adorable.
Speaker 4: I felt very proud in that moment because when they
Speaker 4: spoke at rehearsal dinner, I looked at Ashton and I
Speaker 4: was like, I don't know if Dean and Kaylen were
Speaker 4: speaking in hyperbole, but they said, the only reason that
Speaker 4: people are speaking is because of the advice I gave
Speaker 4: on the podcast.
Speaker 1: So I feel a little responsible right now. Responsibly responsible, Okay, great.
Speaker 4: So then I felt very proud in that moment that
Speaker 4: everybody that spoke crushed it.
Speaker 1: I was like, hell, yes, we should have let you speak.
Speaker 1: In that case, I just want to say that the
Speaker 1: only reason people are speaking is because of me. You're welcome,
Speaker 1: You're welcome.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'll take all the credit for Dean and Caln's wedding.
Speaker 4: So we got there and then the rehearsal dinner was beautiful.
Speaker 4: Loved the speeches. It was just so nice and that
Speaker 4: whole outdoor table with the lights and between the trees
Speaker 4: it was The food was really good. I love that
Speaker 4: everybody really dressed up for their Western chic Ben just
Speaker 4: looks straight out of eighteen eighty two. And so playing
Speaker 4: games that night was so much fun. Dean, Were you hungover?
Speaker 1: No, you know I didn't. I did get drunk a
Speaker 1: couple nights, but I was never hungover. It was nice
Speaker 1: to little cold plunge in the morning and like hot
Speaker 1: tab cold plunge, hot tub cold plunge. And no, I
Speaker 1: was never hungover. I mean I was, yes, I was,
Speaker 1: but never like pounding headache or anything like that. You know, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was a little nervous.
Speaker 4: I was like, please just tell me, Dean, because then
Speaker 4: when we went up to sleep and this was like
Speaker 4: probably eleven thirty, like your boys were like shots and
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh, dude, please, like Dean, come on, baby, Oh,
Speaker 4: I gotta do it.
Speaker 1: I intercepted Jared and Ashley on the way up to
Speaker 1: their bed the first on Friday night. I was pretty drunk.
Speaker 1: I was like on one, I was like, you guys,
Speaker 1: can't go to bed until I talked to you for
Speaker 1: thirty more minutes. And so I just I just like
Speaker 1: sat at the bottom of the stairs with Jared n
Speaker 1: Ashley probably like two feet away, basically just like you, screaming,
Speaker 1: like speaking way too loud considering how close we were
Speaker 1: to each other.
Speaker 4: It was the best part of the wedding for me.
Speaker 4: It was amazing, and Ashley and I loved it so much.
Speaker 4: The next day, obviously, was the day of the wedding,
Speaker 4: and I wish so bad so because that when you
Speaker 4: talk to us, you were like, Jared, I'd love for
Speaker 4: you to get ready with us, and I was like,
Speaker 4: I would be honored, I would love to hang out
Speaker 4: with you. So during the day I was kind of
Speaker 4: hanging out and I saw your brothers walking around, so
Speaker 4: I was like, all right, I know they're not getting
Speaker 4: ready yet. But then it was like one o'clockish one
Speaker 4: thirty and I hadn't heard from anybody, and I texted Judene.
Speaker 4: I was like, you guys still getting ready? And then
Speaker 4: I was kind of looking around and I was like,
Speaker 4: I don't want to miss out if case they are
Speaker 4: getting all ready. So I was like, ash, I'm just
Speaker 4: going to head to Dean's cabin and just see, like
Speaker 4: what's going on. So I walked over and I felt
Speaker 4: so awkward because it was only you and the cameramen
Speaker 4: and I knocked. I was like, oh, are you Are
Speaker 4: you guys get ready? We're like no, we're not getting ready.
Speaker 4: But then that's when I saw you that you cut
Speaker 4: your hair yeah, And I was like, holy shit, you
Speaker 4: did it?
Speaker 1: Fuck yes, I yeah. That whole haircutting thing was a
Speaker 1: bit of a debacle, just because I wish that I
Speaker 1: had washed it and I've gone it looked so such
Speaker 1: along rant about washing my hair, I should have washed it.
Speaker 1: I didn't wash it. But that whole thing was interesting.
Speaker 1: I completely misjudged the amount of time it would take
Speaker 1: me to get my hair cut, get dressed, and write
Speaker 1: my vows, and I thought that I was going to
Speaker 1: have like two hours to kill with all my buddies
Speaker 1: in the room, like just drinking beers and hanging out
Speaker 1: before the wedding started. But no, I like, like Jared
Speaker 1: came in, and the only other person that came in
Speaker 1: was my one of my brothers, Ross, and I like
Speaker 1: had no time to like go and get on my
Speaker 1: friends and like bring them to the cabin and like
Speaker 1: get ready with me because I was caught from noon
Speaker 1: until from like eleven, I guess, until two PM when
Speaker 1: I had to be ready for pictures. I was like
Speaker 1: doing something the entire time, so I like didn't have
Speaker 1: a chance to like go get people and be like, hey,
Speaker 1: we're getting ready, let's go kind of thing, you know.
Speaker 4: And Caitlyn, I love that you had Emma come do
Speaker 4: your makeup because she's the best, and she's also just
Speaker 4: the part of the family, like she's just and it's
Speaker 4: cool because I don't know, like we were talking because
Speaker 4: Tanya is engaged, and she was like, oh, I think
Speaker 4: you know, I'd love for Emma be there, but I
Speaker 4: know she has another like Tanya has another friend that
Speaker 4: wants to make up, so we'll see. But it's also
Speaker 4: I'm sure that you were very happy that Emma was
Speaker 4: with you that day because it's your day. Yeah, you're
Speaker 4: the bride, and so of course you want your makeup
Speaker 4: to look great. And Emma does such an incredible job.
Speaker 4: But also Emma's just the person that you want to
Speaker 4: be around on the day of your wedding.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And someone kept telling me that they're like the person
Speaker 2: your makeup artist is so important, not only for the
Speaker 2: way you look, but you're spending so much time with
Speaker 2: that person, just like face to face all day. And
Speaker 2: she is the best person. She just kept me so calm,
Speaker 2: and she's so fun and energetic.
Speaker 3: I love Emma.
Speaker 1: Show and your grandparents are the sweetest.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, uh, your I didn't know your grandmother was
Speaker 4: like the most badass woman ever. Uh. And your grandfather's
Speaker 4: so sweet. It feels like she definitely dominates the relationship
Speaker 4: and that's the most adorable thing. And Dean, I don't
Speaker 4: know if you remember at the reception afterwards, because you
Speaker 4: were obviously like feeling it as you well should at
Speaker 4: your wedding day. But you're at Kaylen's grand Kaylen's grandmother
Speaker 4: wanted a tattoo.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I went up to Dean.
Speaker 4: I was like, Brokaylen's grandmother wants to you need to
Speaker 4: like get her at the front of the line before
Speaker 4: anybody else.
Speaker 1: And then you were like, yeah.
Speaker 4: But I want you to get a tattoo, and I
Speaker 4: was like no, no, no, I like, I want to get
Speaker 4: a tattoo and trust me. But there's a huge line here.
Speaker 4: Which it was cool that everybody wanted a tattoo.
Speaker 1: We were excited. Everybody at that wedding wanted attack. We
Speaker 1: were excited, and I was kind of surprised by the
Speaker 1: amount of the amount of excitement about the tattoos. Like
Speaker 1: I thought, there's gonna be like five or six or
Speaker 1: seven or ten of us that wanted tattoos, but there
Speaker 1: was a list of sixty not sixty because there's only
Speaker 1: seventy people at the wedding, but there was probably forty
Speaker 1: to fifty people on that list. Yeah, maybe even more.
Speaker 2: What sucked is I didn't realize he wasn't going to
Speaker 2: size them, which it makes sense, but I also didn't
Speaker 2: realize every gonna be so big, like Dean's ghost is huge.
Speaker 2: So that definitely cuts some people from the list, which
Speaker 2: might have helped in hindsight.
Speaker 1: Good clean lines, though actually I haven't really looked at
Speaker 1: it yet. Until today. It's a good look good, it's
Speaker 1: a good ghost.
Speaker 4: And then so you have to get you have to
Speaker 4: get a tattoo with Klen's grandmother.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, she.
Speaker 3: Said she's going to schedule the appointment. She told me that, oh.
Speaker 1: I missed that. Maybe I should schedule it. He should,
Speaker 1: I should take the initiative on that. Okay, I think
Speaker 1: you should take the initiative. Okay, but.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, dude, you just looked straight up like Jack Dawson.
Speaker 1: It was insanity, like you straight up.
Speaker 3: It was just I just wish and accept the compliment.
Speaker 1: It's just we're gonna be looking at those pictures for
Speaker 1: the rest of our lives, and every time the first
Speaker 1: thing I'm going to see is my greasy hair. And
Speaker 1: it's not bad, but there were some no, it looks good.
Speaker 1: There were some pictures where I like slicked it back
Speaker 1: and I like didn't settle back properly in time.
Speaker 3: So now Dean has a mullet and I kind of
Speaker 3: like it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the mullet place, the mullet place. It slaps and
Speaker 1: place interesting.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And then of course, my favorite part of any wedding
Speaker 4: is the ceremony, because that's why we're all there to
Speaker 4: witness the union what I find so cool, And obviously,
Speaker 4: you know, you guys are the ones that have gone
Speaker 4: through this, so I'm literally just witnessing everything. But you know,
Speaker 4: we always talk about family, and obviously both of you
Speaker 4: have had stories about your own personal families, and so
Speaker 4: for me and Ashley as well, I could speak for
Speaker 4: her about this because we talked about it afterwards. Was
Speaker 4: so beautiful about weddings in general, but specifically your wedding
Speaker 4: is that it was the of course not the beginning,
Speaker 4: because you guys have been together for a while, but
Speaker 4: really the symbolism of you guys are family, like you.
Speaker 1: Know, it's.
Speaker 4: I think just you two being each other's family now
Speaker 4: has such a gravity to it compared to other stories,
Speaker 4: Like of course Ashley and I are family and we
Speaker 4: love the symbolism of it and coming together. But I
Speaker 4: think for you two, with your own personal stories, I
Speaker 4: think that there's just a more of an impact to
Speaker 4: that moment of YouTube just joining to be one and really,
Speaker 4: you know, the very very infancy of your relationship and
Speaker 4: the beginning of your family and and you know, going
Speaker 4: down this path I just found beautiful and it was
Speaker 4: really cool to witness and of course you know your
Speaker 4: guys vows. I mean, we're just well, I spicked over Jackson.
Speaker 1: By Jackson, I mean crushed it. Yeah, so good, so good.
Speaker 1: He was the perfect I'm glad we asked him because
Speaker 1: if it was some person we didn't know, it wouldn't
Speaker 1: have been good.
Speaker 2: And I don't know if any of your other friends
Speaker 2: could have done what.
Speaker 1: He did, like Mike could have, but Jackson was much
Speaker 1: better than Yeah, Jackson was perfect, dude.
Speaker 4: Jackson crushed it, did such a good job, funny, entertaining, emotional.
Speaker 1: I just know you guy.
Speaker 4: You know I love an efficient that really is just
Speaker 4: personally chosen by the couple and can give really a
Speaker 4: perspective on both of you that other people don't have
Speaker 4: and really just make it personal because that's why we're there.
Speaker 1: We're they're celebrating your love.
Speaker 4: That's one of the things that I love about speeches
Speaker 4: is that like I want to I want to witness YouTube.
Speaker 1: You know, I was telling Ashley.
Speaker 4: I forget if I told someone else too, but I
Speaker 4: was like on wedding days and wedding you know, ceremonies,
Speaker 4: even with our hearselenar as creepy as this is gonna
Speaker 4: sound and it's not meant to be that. I just
Speaker 4: love watching you guys. I love watching your interactions and
Speaker 4: you guys interact with each other and your friends and
Speaker 4: your family on your day because there's just so much happiness.
Speaker 1: Like I'm you know, uh so anyway, that's cool.
Speaker 4: But then your vows, your personal vows again, just like Dean,
Speaker 4: you went first, Yeah, and just bro, do you realize
Speaker 4: that everybody in that area was crying like you?
Speaker 1: I can't even that's what people. I felt like I
Speaker 1: was blowing it because I was reading the notes for
Speaker 1: the like I just wrote them down. I hadn't had
Speaker 1: a chance to like read them and kind of like
Speaker 1: get a pace for the vows. And I remember reading
Speaker 1: it and then I remember like stuttering a couple of
Speaker 1: times and literally looking into the crowd and be like
Speaker 1: I suck at this. And then so like the people
Speaker 1: kept saying they were crying. I was like, what do
Speaker 1: you mean you were crying? I was like, I I
Speaker 1: didn't even know how to put a sentence together.
Speaker 4: Dude, Well, yeah, you flubbed a couple of times. But
Speaker 4: it was very endearing because it's like up Dean, but
Speaker 4: it was yeah, I think what happened. I can't even
Speaker 4: like get through it. As soon as you said I
Speaker 4: want to talk about my mom, it was like, oh
Speaker 4: my god, here we go, Like I can't handle this shit. Yeah,
Speaker 4: and you started speaking, and I think what makes it? So?
Speaker 4: There's a couple things that were going through my head
Speaker 4: during this one. Of course, you know, we've talked about
Speaker 4: the relationsip that you had with your mom, the relationship
Speaker 4: that your brothers and your sister had with your mom,
Speaker 4: and so to hear you just kind of talk about
Speaker 4: it in a very grand environment but very personal and
Speaker 4: vulnerable was emotional in itself. And you know, just knowing
Speaker 4: how much she meant to you, how much you miss her,
Speaker 4: and knowing that she was still, you know, very much
Speaker 4: there in spirit. And I think also you telling these things,
Speaker 4: of course, like the person you're talking to is Kaylin,
Speaker 4: and we're just witnessing it, and so I think for us,
Speaker 4: you know, I don't want to put words in your mouth,
Speaker 4: but I would imagine this is the scenario that the
Speaker 4: most important woman in your life up to this point
Speaker 4: has been your mother, and now you're kind of talking
Speaker 4: about your mom to the most important woman in your life. Now,
Speaker 4: which is Kaitlin, is really just a powerful moment and
Speaker 4: that I think had everybody in tears, and just of
Speaker 4: course like Dean, you being the Golden Retriever puppy you
Speaker 4: are and just the innocent man, and like how everybody
Speaker 4: loves you. Just yeah, a lot of tears. And then
Speaker 4: of course personally for me and Ashley, you know, I
Speaker 4: was thinking about your mom not being there and just
Speaker 4: how me personally, like the idea that I wouldn't be
Speaker 4: there for Dawson's wedding is just tough to swallow. Yeah,
Speaker 4: like I thought, I can't even process right now for
Speaker 4: sure that I can only pray doesn't happen.
Speaker 1: So yeah, a lot of emotions going on in that moment, man. Yeah,
Speaker 1: being apparent I can imagine must put a twist on
Speaker 1: the emotions when it comes to that kind of stuff,
Speaker 1: because it's like the last thing you could even imagine
Speaker 1: is not being there at Dawson's wedding, you.
Speaker 4: Know, No, Yeah, And so the whole thing are emotional.
Speaker 4: And then Kayln, you started beginning your vows and just
Speaker 4: the way that you talked about Dean and your relationship
Speaker 4: blossoming from how you guys started in Paradise all those
Speaker 4: years ago to the moment that you are now and
Speaker 4: what Dean has done for you personally and within a
Speaker 4: relationship was just cool because I think what calin you
Speaker 4: present this like you're very calm, cool, collective, like even
Speaker 4: like we talked about the brain scans, like things that
Speaker 4: I didn't know about you in terms of like the
Speaker 4: fear that you have that I can relate to in
Speaker 4: terms of like, well, if something's happening in a week,
Speaker 4: I'm going to be depressed for a week because I
Speaker 4: just dread it coming. But you put on this exterior
Speaker 4: that like nothing bothers you. You have everything collected, like
Speaker 4: you are just, for lack of a way of putting it,
Speaker 4: put together very very well. And don't take this the
Speaker 4: wrong way, but that's just not the truth, because you
Speaker 4: wouldn't be human if you were. And you have your
Speaker 4: own story with your own family and how you were
Speaker 4: brought up, and I think you talking about those things
Speaker 4: in your vows and what Dean has done for you
Speaker 4: in a relationship stance, and how you've have grown and
Speaker 4: you've grown individually but also grown together with Dean over
Speaker 4: the past few years and having this moment where you
Speaker 4: guys finally make it official and put the rings on
Speaker 4: each other. It was just beautiful to witness, and you
Speaker 4: guys looked incredible. Obviously some of those photos damn, well,
Speaker 4: I didn't know that you guys took photos in a boat,
Speaker 4: like god, damn straight out of the notebook. Man.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we debated on whose idea that was. I still
Speaker 1: think it was mine. Well it was mine. Well, thanks, thanks, Jared.
Speaker 1: We appreciate the kind words. It was fun. It's so
Speaker 1: interesting to look back now because I've talked on this
Speaker 1: podcast before, not about how I wasn't excited for the wedding,
Speaker 1: but how I was.
Speaker 3: You've said that, You've said.
Speaker 1: That it just yeah, okay, fine, let's say that that's
Speaker 1: what I was saying, which maybe isn't too far from
Speaker 1: the truth. But now that it's over, I have like
Speaker 1: post wedding post trauma. Yeah, post wedding depression. I guess
Speaker 1: it would be because now, like you know, aside from
Speaker 1: having a kid, that's going to be the best day
Speaker 1: of our life. It was so much fun having all
Speaker 1: of our friends together. It was so much fun, like
Speaker 1: being the reason our friends were together, which I don't
Speaker 1: really often experience that I hate hosting parties because I
Speaker 1: have the insecurity of like people not showing up, as
Speaker 1: we've talked about so many times, and now knowing that
Speaker 1: like that grand event of our lives is behind us
Speaker 1: is kind of like saddening to me because it was
Speaker 1: so fun and because it went so much better than
Speaker 1: I could have ever possibly dreamed of it going. And
Speaker 1: now to know that's not going to happen again for ever,
Speaker 1: his kind of well, that's.
Speaker 2: What's crazy is that Dean never wanted a wedding. He
Speaker 2: was like adamant, he wants to a lope, he doesn't
Speaker 2: want this. He wasn't excited about it. It was stressing
Speaker 2: him out, like he made all of those things known.
Speaker 2: And then a few days after the wedding he was like,
Speaker 2: we were just on a hide, like still are It's
Speaker 2: just the best day of our lives. And he kept saying,
Speaker 2: oh my god, that was the best day of my life.
Speaker 2: That was the best weekend of my life. And just
Speaker 2: to hear him say that someone who didn't want a
Speaker 2: wedding is so cool.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was great. And then it was so interesting too.
Speaker 1: We were hanging out and Aspen a couple of days afterwards,
Speaker 1: and one of my kind of friends from high school
Speaker 1: came walking by tapped me on the shoulder and I
Speaker 1: was like, Hey, what's up, blah blah blah. So I
Speaker 1: got married. Congratulations, I'm getting married this weekend in snow
Speaker 1: mass which is right right next to Aspen. And I
Speaker 1: was like, Oh, I've got so much advice for you, Like,
Speaker 1: relish every moment, understand like everything is, everyone's there for you.
Speaker 1: You're you know, you're the main event for the most part,
Speaker 1: and just make sure you cherish every single moment. Because
Speaker 1: if I could go back, it's not that I didn't
Speaker 1: cherish every moment, because I really did, but I would say, like,
Speaker 1: just take it all in because before you know it,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be over and you're gonna be wishing it
Speaker 1: never ended. And it was just so interesting to have
Speaker 1: such a I like have. I don't think I've ever
Speaker 1: flipped on something so hard as I did about that
Speaker 1: I have about the wedding.
Speaker 3: You know, it's crazy to see.
Speaker 1: Honestly, Yeah, on part of it here too, is like
Speaker 1: hearing Jared and our other friends talk so positively about it,
Speaker 1: and I'm sure there were some people that maybe had
Speaker 1: some negative things to say that we just don't hear.
Speaker 1: But all I've heard is the positive things and just
Speaker 1: hearing about how this party that we put on for
Speaker 1: everyone went off so well and everyone had such a
Speaker 1: great time. It was just a very positive experience for me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, very positive.
Speaker 2: And Deane and I talked about this a little bit,
Speaker 2: just having friends that pump us up for marriage and
Speaker 2: get us so excited for marriage. Like Dean was talking
Speaker 2: to Josh and Josh was just telling him how awesome
Speaker 2: marriage is and how great it's been married, being married
Speaker 2: for two years and having friends that enjoy marriage and
Speaker 2: don't shun it is being cool.
Speaker 1: It's so funny. I told Josh this so many times
Speaker 1: throughout the course of that weekend. I was like texting you,
Speaker 1: like thanking him for coming to the wedding before we
Speaker 1: you know, just like when he rsvp'ed for the wedding.
Speaker 1: I was like, thank you so much for coming. I
Speaker 1: can't wait to hang out with you guys. He was
Speaker 1: like raving about marriage. He's like marriage is the best thing.
Speaker 1: I just like kind of going on and I was
Speaker 1: like I was like, okay, yeah, yeah, whatever, whatever, Sure,
Speaker 1: I'm sure it is. You probably just like have to
Speaker 1: say that. And then last week I was playing golf
Speaker 1: with my buddies in LA and we're on like the
Speaker 1: twelfth tee or something like that, and I've had a
Speaker 1: couple of beers and I was just like standing up there.
Speaker 1: No one said an word for like thirty seconds, and
Speaker 1: I was just like, I said this hell. I was like,
Speaker 1: marriage is going awesome, you guys. And then I was like, shoot,
Speaker 1: I'm becoming the guy that like preaches marriage. But granted,
Speaker 1: one of the guys that I played off with regularly
Speaker 1: is married and he was like, yeah, it is. And
Speaker 1: then like to my two single friends, I just feel
Speaker 1: like I'm the guy that's like trying to preach this
Speaker 1: gospel of marriage. But it's true. It's like marriage, we're
Speaker 1: a weekend, so who really knows how things are gonna go,
Speaker 1: but a weekend. I like him so happy to be
Speaker 1: a husband, and like it's it's the coolest thing I've
Speaker 1: ever done, hands down, And I like, I'll say it
Speaker 1: till the day I die. His marriage is way cooler
Speaker 1: than I ever possibly thought it could have been. So
Speaker 1: it's going, well, it's going, well, yeah that's awesome. But
Speaker 1: we're glad, you guys. Had fun. We're glad you guys
Speaker 1: stayed warm because I know that you were stressed out
Speaker 1: about that.
Speaker 4: No, it was great, It was awesome, So thank you
Speaker 4: again for having us.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: I do want to talk about like the biggest dating
Speaker 4: news in all the world.
Speaker 3: Oh, Taylor and Travis?
Speaker 1: Oh is that it is?
Speaker 5: That? It?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, one of these is the biggest dating world.
Speaker 1: You must be in a unique situation because you're a
Speaker 1: big NFL football fan, you are you well, yeah, but
Speaker 1: I I don't give one crap about Taylor Swift. But
Speaker 1: you are married to Ashley, who I'm sure cares very deeply,
Speaker 1: and Kayln cares as well. But I don't think anyone
Speaker 1: cares harder than Ashley about that type of stuff, like
Speaker 1: pop culture, Taylor Swift's type of stuff.
Speaker 4: Yeah, there's a lot of intricacies. There's a lot of
Speaker 4: going on here.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll tell you what. As a football fan, I'm
Speaker 1: so sick of it. I don't want to see Taylor
Speaker 1: Swift on my screen every time Travis Kelsey gets mentioned
Speaker 1: on Sunday Night football. I don't want to have to
Speaker 1: watch the Giants game the next night and still have
Speaker 1: to be hearing about Taylor Swift.
Speaker 2: But I'm trying to put pull their her lyrics into
Speaker 2: every single aspect of the show.
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 2: I am just so confused by their relationship because she's
Speaker 2: so private and was so private for so long that
Speaker 2: she dated Matt heally was kind of public, and this
Speaker 2: is like so public.
Speaker 3: I don't understand. It doesn't make sense.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, is cute, but like Travis is hot, Taylor
Speaker 2: can get anywhere.
Speaker 1: Travis is hot. Travis Kelsey's not hot, Bro, He's hilarious
Speaker 1: and he's hot, and he's like the Harold that does
Speaker 1: the best tight end of our generation. So he's got
Speaker 1: a lot go Okay, but.
Speaker 3: Taylor Swift doesn't care about football, it makes.
Speaker 1: Sense for her to use him to bolster her singing career.
Speaker 3: That's insane.
Speaker 4: Yeah, obviously he's lifting her up. Wait a minute, you
Speaker 4: think just quickly hands down the best tight end of
Speaker 4: our time.
Speaker 1: I would, oh gronk yeah, good point good, Well.
Speaker 4: You know, I don't know, it's it's a debate anyway,
Speaker 4: point being listen, just it's it's getting too much.
Speaker 1: I respect Taylor so much, and.
Speaker 4: That's why it's like, bro Travis Kelsey, all right, Like
Speaker 4: I guess, like I like the fact that she's dating
Speaker 4: a man, you know, like like like you know, he's
Speaker 4: a football player, Like, yeah, that's a Mayan. You know,
Speaker 4: she usually goes for a more feminine man. But that's
Speaker 4: totally fine. But like I like her changing her her
Speaker 4: uh her likes. But it's just like it's not gonna last,
Speaker 4: Like everybody in the world knows this will not last,
Speaker 4: which is totally fine, just have fun date. But like
Speaker 4: the idea that these Swifties are now twisting themselves into
Speaker 4: a princil about how like, oh, no, we're gonna love
Speaker 4: Travis Kelsey, We're gonna love the NFL. This is great,
Speaker 4: even though you know, in six months when it doesn't
Speaker 4: end well and she writes a song that says like
Speaker 4: I dated the football player and we're like, yeah, we
Speaker 4: hate Travis kelcey, you know, because it's just gonna end
Speaker 4: that way, which is totally fine. But the over like, dude,
Speaker 4: I don't mind, of course, Like it's pretty cool, Like oh,
Speaker 4: when the first time it happened was like, oh, Taylor's
Speaker 4: in the suite, That's pretty cool, dude.
Speaker 1: It's getting way too much. It's getting overboard.
Speaker 4: The Kansas City Chiefs are now the evil lumpire to me,
Speaker 4: like I am rooting against them every single time they play,
Speaker 4: and I'm rooting against them, and I pray that when
Speaker 4: they lose, there's just a shot of t Swift in
Speaker 4: the owner's booth or whatever boots she's in, just sitting.
Speaker 1: There because it's like it's time to open I root
Speaker 1: against enough. It makes me sad. And I was watching
Speaker 1: this TikTok video the other day. It was so funny.
Speaker 1: It was these two guys sitting down watching football, big
Speaker 1: Chiefs fans, and they were like going through Taylor Swift's
Speaker 1: past relationships and they're like, yeah, so Taylor Swift dates
Speaker 1: guys typically for about two months. That puts us at
Speaker 1: week twelve of the NFL season. That means Travis Kelcey
Speaker 1: is going to hit a major slump Week twelve and
Speaker 1: the major crunch time for the playoffs, Like and then
Speaker 1: Travis kelsey is gonna start playing so horribly because he's
Speaker 1: gonna get this on slot of negativity from all the Swifties.
Speaker 1: The Chiefs are screwed. We're not going to win another
Speaker 1: super Bowl. And it was just like so funny. How
Speaker 1: like it because you're right, Jared, Like they're gonna presumably
Speaker 1: they'll break up at some point unless they get married.
Speaker 1: That's awesome if they do, because marriage is awesome, but awesome,
Speaker 1: but just but that will not happen both of their
Speaker 1: track records combined, because Travis kelce is kind of a
Speaker 1: serial dater as well.
Speaker 4: I think at least like yeah, do you remember he
Speaker 4: had a show called Catching Kelsey and cringe. That's right,
Speaker 4: so cringe Tanner Tolbert, his sister was on that show.
Speaker 1: I did not know. That's funny. Well, it's gonna be
Speaker 1: interesting if they break up in the middle of the
Speaker 1: season because it will have an impact regardless of whether
Speaker 1: we regardless of whether we'll see it or not, it
Speaker 1: will have some sort of impact on Kelsey and the Chiefs,
Speaker 1: and it's just gonna be curious to see that because
Speaker 1: they are, you know, every year it seems like they're
Speaker 1: super Bowl contenders, like the favorites to win the super Bowl,
Speaker 1: and this could either help him or hurt them if
Speaker 1: they're going to stay together. The sheet and she wants
Speaker 1: the Chiefs to win the super Bowl, they have to
Speaker 1: break up like in March, exactly right, They have to
Speaker 1: make it to at least March.
Speaker 3: Also, should we talk about our house before we go?
Speaker 1: Yeah. So one of my favorite things about the wedding
Speaker 1: is the aftermath. We were in Aspen on our mini
Speaker 1: moon in the hotel and Caitlyn was just like sitting
Speaker 1: on the couch in the hotel room. She's like, I
Speaker 1: just love it here so much, and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I know, I tell you all the time about how
Speaker 1: this is the best place in the world, and she
Speaker 1: like is kind of like would always like nod her
Speaker 1: head and like agree with me, but she didn't really
Speaker 1: have a full understanding of how great it is.
Speaker 2: Oh I did, because every time we go to Aspin,
Speaker 2: I would be so sad when we left, and I
Speaker 2: always felt like it wasn't enough time.
Speaker 1: But I think what it really took was the wedding
Speaker 1: weekend for you to be like, this place is what
Speaker 1: it's hyped up to be.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but if you put it at the.
Speaker 2: Well, we put in an offer, We extended our mini
Speaker 2: moon God and we we stid an extra day. We
Speaker 2: stayed at the Saint Regis, which was awesome and probably
Speaker 2: the only time we'll be able to stay there. And
Speaker 2: then we saw two houses with our realitor, and the
Speaker 2: second house is the one so we've been we thought
Speaker 2: by now we know. Yeah, it's been a longer process
Speaker 2: than I thought.
Speaker 1: We submitted an offer, we got pre approof for a loan.
Speaker 1: We're like going through the process of hopefully finalizing this.
Speaker 1: We did under shoot low ball. They offer a little.
Speaker 2: Bit bit Well, if you look at the neighborhood. All
Speaker 2: of the houses are at a certain price and ours
Speaker 2: is way above. So we're trying to bring him down
Speaker 2: a bit. But yeah, he won't give us a price back,
Speaker 2: like we gave him an offer. He won't counter offer
Speaker 2: with us. He's just like, well, what's your number. I'm like,
Speaker 2: we gave you a number, Well what's your highest. Well
Speaker 2: that is our highest.
Speaker 1: It's a little more involved because it's a new construction
Speaker 1: house and so that like we went't and viewed it,
Speaker 1: but it was just the framing was done and so
Speaker 1: we didn't see any finishing. We didn't see an drywall,
Speaker 1: we didn't see any flooring, nothing like that. But it's
Speaker 1: on a golf course, which is awesome, and it's big.
Speaker 1: It's like a four bedroom, five bath.
Speaker 2: House or bed six bath, yeah, thirty three square feet.
Speaker 2: So it's perfect for kids and we wouldn't have to
Speaker 2: move again.
Speaker 1: That's the thing is, we would buy this house and
Speaker 1: because like we're not going to raise our kids in Vegas,
Speaker 1: no chance, And we would buy this house and it
Speaker 1: would just be like the perfect house to have two
Speaker 1: little kids running, five little kids running around, seventeen little
Speaker 1: kids running around in So this is it in Aspen,
Speaker 1: right outside of Aspen. Yeah, it's a few towns down.
Speaker 1: Did you guys fly in to Aspen or flying to
Speaker 1: Denver and drove Aspen? Yeah, so you didn't drive through
Speaker 1: this town, then this is it's further down. It's further
Speaker 1: down Deley Kill And saying not to say the town.
Speaker 2: Well you just said it's on a golf course. We're
Speaker 2: just going to give away exactly where nine.
Speaker 1: Courses in the valley there. But it just made my
Speaker 1: heart so happy to hear her want because like, I've
Speaker 1: always wanted to live in the valley again, but I can't.
Speaker 1: I can't just transfer that yearning for it onto you.
Speaker 1: Like you had to come to that conclusion yourself, and
Speaker 1: the fact that you did is so awesome because I
Speaker 1: grew up there and it's it's a it's a bubble
Speaker 1: in a good way. Like you know, you're kind of
Speaker 1: cut off from the rest of the world in a
Speaker 1: way that like you're not worried so much about crime,
Speaker 1: you're not worried so much about all of these like
Speaker 1: geopolitical things that are going on. Of course you still
Speaker 1: care about them, but they don't affect you so much
Speaker 1: on a day to day basis, and so to give
Speaker 1: our kids the same luxury of growing up in a
Speaker 1: town like that would be. So it's similar to like
Speaker 1: you moving back to Rhode Island. You know you love
Speaker 1: your childhood so much, and so you want to give
Speaker 1: Dawson a similar experience. And it's the same for me,
Speaker 1: Like I want my kids to be able to go
Speaker 1: hiking and skiing and growing up on a golf course.
Speaker 1: My kids are going to be sticks with the golf clubs.
Speaker 1: It's going to be awesome, obviously. And the next time,
Speaker 1: it's just so, we're probably not going to get this house.
Speaker 1: We're hey, we're banking well, of course we want it
Speaker 1: really bad, but it's like, I don't think we should
Speaker 1: put allur eggs in this basket. And if we don't
Speaker 1: get this one, then we'll just continue to look for
Speaker 1: something else that might be suitable for us. But just
Speaker 1: the fact that it's even within the realm of conversation
Speaker 1: is so exciting for me.
Speaker 2: Hopefully next week we'll have a number that's just yeah,
Speaker 2: been drawn out quite a bit.
Speaker 1: It's so interesting too, because when I was living in
Speaker 1: la I was looking at people that still lived in
Speaker 1: the valley, and I was like, how could you still
Speaker 1: live there? There's so much more world to see, There's
Speaker 1: so many more people to meet, so many more things
Speaker 1: to do, And now that I'm thirty two and married,
Speaker 1: I'm like, all I want to do is get back
Speaker 1: to that quite a little town and start a life.
Speaker 1: And if I were to do if, I don't know
Speaker 1: what kind of business I want to get into at
Speaker 1: some point in my life, but it would involve building
Speaker 1: things or some type of like creative thing, and I
Speaker 1: think that that would benefit that type of stuff as well,
Speaker 1: living in a small town like that, where creativity is
Speaker 1: kind of like apexing out there like in a smaller town.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know how to explain it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, also real quick, I don't know this is true,
Speaker 2: and I need to look into it. Maybe I shouldn't
Speaker 2: even speak on it. But someone said that they're trying
Speaker 2: to pass a bill so if you leave LA, you
Speaker 2: have to pay taxes there for ten years.
Speaker 1: That doesn't Yeah, I should fact check it.
Speaker 2: But that would be crazy and good thing we got
Speaker 2: out when we did, Yeah, all of us.
Speaker 4: I gotta be honest. That sounds like LA, which is
Speaker 4: so frustrating. Yeah, it's like we were so good to you.
Speaker 3: You can not let people believe it's crazy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know. La is great. I do love La.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm happy we got out and I'm happy
Speaker 2: we're not settling down there.
Speaker 1: It's just funny that our price range. We were looking
Speaker 1: at houses in LA and they were less expensive than
Speaker 1: the house we're going to buy in Colorado.
Speaker 2: You know, well, it's just prices have gone up. It's
Speaker 2: the market these days, you know.
Speaker 1: It's the market these days. Yeah, so hopefully we get
Speaker 1: a house in Colorado. Obviously, we'll keep you guys updated
Speaker 1: on the podcast because it is an ever changing situation
Speaker 1: that we're in right now. We did, we moved really
Speaker 1: fast up to this point, and now it kind of
Speaker 1: seems like everything's come to screeching halt, halt.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's frustrating.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it Yeah, it's.
Speaker 3: Frustraating for me. Dean doesn't think it's frushating.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I mean, the thing is, you still have a great
Speaker 4: house in Vegas. There's really no rush. I mean, I
Speaker 4: hope you guys get this house, but even if you don't,
Speaker 4: I mean, it kind of makes it fun where you
Speaker 4: can also still continue looking. It's always nice house hunting
Speaker 4: frustrating as it is.
Speaker 1: That's what I keep telling Kaylan. It's like, yeah, of
Speaker 1: course we want to be there sooner rather than later,
Speaker 1: but we're not in any rush because we have this house.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then like if we were to buy this house
Speaker 1: in Colorado, what would we do? Would we sell this
Speaker 1: house or would be rented out? Because our rate is
Speaker 1: so good in this house and it'd be crazy to like,
Speaker 1: our interest rate is like two point nine percent and
Speaker 1: you're not going to see that probably ever again in
Speaker 1: our lives, and so just be crazy. That's all the
Speaker 1: house at that rate. You know, it's just there's lots
Speaker 1: of a lot to process, and it's just it's just
Speaker 1: so great to see that, Kaylen, so much.
Speaker 4: All good things though, all good things, yeah, all good things,
Speaker 4: all exciting thing.
Speaker 1: The new mortgage would not be a good thing. It'd
Speaker 1: be expensive.
Speaker 4: But oh that's all right. Yeah, you know you'll just nothing,
Speaker 4: no find away.
Speaker 1: We're gonna we're gonna know it. Yeah, we're gonna find
Speaker 1: a way. But I guess that's probably gonna do it.
Speaker 1: How much longer are you in Dallas for? I leave Sunday?
Speaker 4: So there for a while filming some b roll outside
Speaker 4: of Dallas.
Speaker 1: Right now, I head down.
Speaker 4: Immediately after this podcast, we interviewed this woman, miss ople Lee,
Speaker 4: who is ninety seven years old, and she is such
Speaker 4: an inspirational story. She was born in Fort Worth, born
Speaker 4: and raised there, which is like twenty minutes out of Dallas.
Speaker 4: She's the grandmother of Juneteenth. She is the one who
Speaker 4: was able to really push for Juneteenth to become a
Speaker 4: federal holiday. And she was there when President Biden inside
Speaker 4: it into office, and she actually has the pen that
Speaker 4: he used.
Speaker 1: So it was just it's great hearing her story.
Speaker 4: And she's just an amazing human being who does like
Speaker 4: so much work that I could even fathom. She's still
Speaker 4: she still is dropping off. She was like, I gotta
Speaker 4: drop ninety seven years old. She doesn't drive anymore, she
Speaker 4: has someone driver. She's like, I gotta drop ten boxes
Speaker 4: of food off at this local church to hand out.
Speaker 1: And she's like, I do it every day. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, some people are really good at making
Speaker 1: you feel like a piece of crap. Seriously in the world,
Speaker 1: yeah right, and we won't be that great ever, but anyway,
Speaker 1: so doing some cool stuff like that and so it's fun.
Speaker 1: It's cool. I'm excited. Nice man. Well, congratulations on branch
Speaker 1: down on your own and get rid of that old
Speaker 1: ball and chainey or Yeah, get her out of the way.
Speaker 1: Yeah this woman, that's awesome. Well that's going to do
Speaker 1: it for this week's episode, Jared, thank you for carving
Speaker 1: time out of your busy filming schedule out there. You
Speaker 1: guys are very busy as well, Senor and bought it.
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