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There are very few people 20 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:09,880 Speaker 1: whose opinions matter across the entirety of your life. And 21 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 1: I think that's the challenge. We often take people we 22 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:15,240 Speaker 1: love and trust as their opinion matters across every area 23 00:01:15,240 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 1: of my life. The number one health and wellness podcast 24 00:01:18,560 --> 00:01:25,679 Speaker 1: Jay set Jay Shetty s, Hey everyone, welcome back to 25 00:01:25,840 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 1: on Purpose. I am so grateful that you're locked in 26 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 1: right now. 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If you're a new listener, 36 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 1: whether you've listened to one episode, welcome, whether you're listening 37 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 1: to your five hundred episode, welcome back. I am Jay 38 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:10,680 Speaker 1: Sheddy and I'm so happy to be here with you today. 39 00:02:11,040 --> 00:02:16,679 Speaker 1: Today's theme is stop caring about what people think and 40 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 1: the signs that we care too much about what people think. Now. 41 00:02:22,240 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: The reason I dove into this topic is because I 42 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: think we've all had a situation with our friends where 43 00:02:29,720 --> 00:02:33,320 Speaker 1: someone sends a decision they're about to make to the 44 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 1: group chat and they say, what do you think I 45 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:38,359 Speaker 1: should say on my dating profile? Or what do you 46 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: think about this guy that I'm dating? Or what do 47 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:44,080 Speaker 1: you think about this job opportunity that's out there? Or 48 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:45,640 Speaker 1: what do you think about what I should wear to 49 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: the party this weekend. Now, there's nothing wrong about that. 50 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 1: It's harmless, it's totally normal. It's natural for us to 51 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: seek validation from the people around us, to seek insight 52 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 1: from the people around us. But often what we find 53 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 1: is that we've gone down on a whole where we 54 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 1: make decisions, choices, and big directives in our life based 55 00:03:09,760 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: on what other people think. A lot of us when 56 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:15,600 Speaker 1: we're young chose subjects at school based on what our 57 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 1: parents taught. We chose where we went to college, maybe 58 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:23,079 Speaker 1: because of some friends. We maybe even chose what city 59 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 1: we live in because we were in a romantic relationship 60 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 1: until it didn't work out. And to so many of 61 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:33,639 Speaker 1: our decisions, some of our biggest decisions in life are 62 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: made aligned with other people's values and not always with 63 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 1: our own values. And this episode is all about us 64 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 1: really getting clear on that it's not bad to make 65 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 1: a decision based on someone else's value if that value 66 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 1: aligns with us. It's not bad if we're conscious and aware, 67 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 1: but it's really important that we recognize it. So I 68 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: want to talk to you a bit about the signs 69 00:03:57,160 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: that we care too much about what other people think about, 70 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:03,320 Speaker 1: because sometimes it can be so subtle. Right, it's not 71 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:05,680 Speaker 1: always so obvious as you buy the same clothes or 72 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: go to the same places. It can be a lot 73 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:13,640 Speaker 1: more subtle. One of the first ways or signs that 74 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:16,719 Speaker 1: shows we care too much is that we can be 75 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 1: easily swayed. So we often take this as a feeling 76 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 1: of Oh, I'm laid back, I'm open to anything, I'll 77 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:26,920 Speaker 1: do whatever you want. And really it's because we're scared 78 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: of sharing our opinion because we're scared that people may 79 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,840 Speaker 1: not want to do that. Maybe it's deciding what movie 80 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:36,280 Speaker 1: to watch or what restaurant to go to. You end 81 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:38,919 Speaker 1: up at a horror movie even though you absolutely hate them, 82 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 1: and you end up eating a particular cuisine even though 83 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:46,279 Speaker 1: it's your least favorite. You're easily swayed because there's a 84 00:04:46,320 --> 00:04:48,840 Speaker 1: part of you that doesn't want to be the one 85 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:51,839 Speaker 1: to cause conflict. There's a part of you that doesn't 86 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: want to be the one to stand out. Now, you 87 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:57,080 Speaker 1: may be easy going, You genuinely may not care, and 88 00:04:57,120 --> 00:05:01,559 Speaker 1: that's probable too. But for those of you that are thinking, 89 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:04,280 Speaker 1: you know what I do get easily swayed. I do 90 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 1: find it easy to sacrifice and give up on what 91 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 1: I really care about and what I want. This is 92 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 1: an important note. Now. I'm not saying that the way 93 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 1: to do this is to fight for everything you want 94 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: or to retaliate, because often we've been giving people the permission. 95 00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 1: Often we're not easily swayed because someone's persuading us or 96 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:30,360 Speaker 1: negotiating with us. We're easily swayed because we allow ourselves 97 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:32,599 Speaker 1: to be. So this is something that we can set 98 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:38,760 Speaker 1: better boundaries around now. The second sign is you struggle 99 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:43,040 Speaker 1: to turn things down. You struggle to say no. Right. 100 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 1: Someone says to you, oh, you're coming out tomorrow night, right, 101 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 1: And even though you had other plans, even though you 102 00:05:48,160 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 1: knew you didn't want to go, you said yeah, yeah, 103 00:05:50,560 --> 00:05:53,479 Speaker 1: I'll be there, And then the whole next twenty four 104 00:05:53,480 --> 00:05:55,719 Speaker 1: hours you're going. Why did I say yes? I just 105 00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:58,080 Speaker 1: want to stay indoors. I don't want to go anywhere. 106 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:02,040 Speaker 1: But now you've said yes. You struggle with saying no. 107 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:07,719 Speaker 1: You struggle with being clear because we care about what 108 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:09,960 Speaker 1: people think. We're hoping that people don't think we're boring, 109 00:06:10,400 --> 00:06:12,279 Speaker 1: that people don't think that we're not a good time, 110 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:15,159 Speaker 1: that people don't stop inviting us. Right, We're worried about 111 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: all of these things. Another sign is that we are 112 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: self proclaimed people pleases. We know that we're constantly trying 113 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 1: to shape shift. We're constantly trying to be malleable because 114 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,640 Speaker 1: all we want to do is please others, not because 115 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 1: we genuinely want to please them by who we are, 116 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:41,040 Speaker 1: but by actually disconnecting from who we are. Another one 117 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:46,280 Speaker 1: is you outsource your choices. Right, So someone else is 118 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:48,840 Speaker 1: making decision about what you wear, someone else is making 119 00:06:48,839 --> 00:06:52,039 Speaker 1: a decision about the color of your couch, someone else 120 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 1: is making a decision about something else. Right, you're basically saying, guys, 121 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:58,160 Speaker 1: can you make the decision for me? Because I don't 122 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:00,840 Speaker 1: want to make decisions. And in that way, we almost 123 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 1: do that because a part of us doesn't want to 124 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 1: take responsibility. We'd rather be able to say, oh yeah, 125 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:08,080 Speaker 1: but they told me it was a good idea. I 126 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:10,239 Speaker 1: thought it was a good idea, And again it comes 127 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:15,240 Speaker 1: from a lack of trust in ourselves. Now, these are 128 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:19,360 Speaker 1: all very normal things. This doesn't make you weak, it 129 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 1: doesn't make you not strong, it doesn't make you not bold, 130 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 1: it doesn't make you not a good person. These are 131 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: things that we all struggle with, and I still struggle 132 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:30,800 Speaker 1: with too. Right. I remember a couple of weeks ago 133 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 1: when I'd already made plans and I had to say 134 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:34,680 Speaker 1: no to someone and it broke my heart. I still 135 00:07:34,720 --> 00:07:38,560 Speaker 1: feel bad when I have to do that. But I 136 00:07:38,600 --> 00:07:41,480 Speaker 1: started looking into it, and a lot of science and 137 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:45,160 Speaker 1: research suggests that we have to care what people think 138 00:07:45,720 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: in order to develop closeness. Right, we have to care 139 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:53,120 Speaker 1: what people think in order to feel a sense of belonging. 140 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: That's what belonging is all about. And belonging is a 141 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 1: core tenet in life. We need it. Right. If you 142 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:01,360 Speaker 1: feel a part of a team, you feel we all 143 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 1: support the same team, So I do care about what 144 00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:07,119 Speaker 1: you think. Right, If we're going to the same place 145 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 1: of worship or we go to the same community center, 146 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 1: we think to ourselves, yeah, I want to feel like 147 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 1: I fit in and the list goes on and on 148 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:19,200 Speaker 1: and on, And the truth is, if we didn't care 149 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:23,080 Speaker 1: about what people think, the world would be chaotic. Can 150 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: you imagine if everyone on planet Earth didn't care what 151 00:08:27,760 --> 00:08:31,400 Speaker 1: anyone thought. That would lead to chaos. If you've ever 152 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: played GTA, that's what it would be like, right where 153 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 1: there's no consequences, it doesn't matter. You can do whatever 154 00:08:37,040 --> 00:08:39,400 Speaker 1: you want. And I mean, yes, the cops will come 155 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:43,080 Speaker 1: after you, but the reality is that you kind of 156 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:45,160 Speaker 1: live in a way that it doesn't matter what you 157 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:48,480 Speaker 1: do because it's not real. So imagine if we lived 158 00:08:48,520 --> 00:08:51,240 Speaker 1: in a world where everyone did exactly what they wanted. 159 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 1: Although it's a nice idea in theory, in practice it 160 00:08:57,040 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 1: could be extremely, extremely worrying. And so the part that 161 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 1: we have to understand is there are moments in our 162 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:10,840 Speaker 1: life where it is healthy to listen to others, where 163 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:13,400 Speaker 1: it is healthy to care about what other people think. 164 00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:16,800 Speaker 1: And I want to start with that. I want to 165 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:21,240 Speaker 1: start with when should we care about what other people think. 166 00:09:22,400 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 1: One of the ways that I found it really useful 167 00:09:25,160 --> 00:09:28,600 Speaker 1: is if someone has been through an experience previously to you. 168 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:32,440 Speaker 1: Think about a basic example, someone's been to a country 169 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: before you, someone has been to a concert before you. 170 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 1: I'm not saying that their experience will be your experience, 171 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:42,640 Speaker 1: but their advice their insight may be useful if you 172 00:09:42,679 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 1: want to start a podcast, speaking to someone who started 173 00:09:44,760 --> 00:09:46,679 Speaker 1: a podcast and asking them, what are some of the 174 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 1: challenges you came up against, What are some of the 175 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:51,560 Speaker 1: things you were surprised by. What are some of the 176 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 1: things that were easier than you thought. Being able to 177 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:58,920 Speaker 1: talk to someone who's one year, three years, five years 178 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:04,520 Speaker 1: into an experience allows you to understand something deeply. You 179 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 1: can care about what they think and notice there's a 180 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 1: difference between caring about what people think and what people 181 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:18,120 Speaker 1: think of you. I think these two things are often convoluted, right. 182 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:22,080 Speaker 1: It's like I can care about your opinion as your 183 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:26,800 Speaker 1: opinion and still not make it my noise and my opinion. 184 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 1: And I think we don't understand how to filter and 185 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:36,199 Speaker 1: how to create a distance between these two things that automatically, 186 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 1: when someone says something, we subconsciously make it our own. 187 00:10:41,200 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 1: And so I really want you to consider in your 188 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 1: life whenever you listen to people, and it's been really 189 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:48,439 Speaker 1: powerful and useful. I can honestly say I had a 190 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:50,960 Speaker 1: conversation with someone the other day, they say, shared so 191 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:54,080 Speaker 1: many great insights with me. It was all about Juni, 192 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 1: which of course is mine and my wife's sparkling adaptogenic tea. 193 00:10:58,440 --> 00:11:00,320 Speaker 1: And for those of you haven't tried it, please do. 194 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:02,720 Speaker 1: It's one of our favorite things that we've been working on. 195 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: It's a real passion project. And as we've been building 196 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:09,800 Speaker 1: Drink Juni as a company and as a brand, we've 197 00:11:09,800 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 1: had to take advice from other beverage entrepreneurs who've done 198 00:11:12,559 --> 00:11:16,160 Speaker 1: it before us because we're complete novices, and at that 199 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:20,120 Speaker 1: point it is important that I care about what they think. Right. 200 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:23,679 Speaker 1: It's also important to care about what people think when 201 00:11:23,679 --> 00:11:26,200 Speaker 1: it's a group of people that you trust, a group 202 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:31,040 Speaker 1: of people that you recognize have different things to offer you. 203 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:36,280 Speaker 1: So there are four c's of connection. The first one 204 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:39,280 Speaker 1: is care. 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And 238 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:49,120 Speaker 1: I think that's the challenge we often take people we 239 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:51,240 Speaker 1: love and trust, people that have known us for a 240 00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:54,560 Speaker 1: long time, as their opinion matters across every area of 241 00:13:54,559 --> 00:13:58,320 Speaker 1: my life. And often sometimes we trust someone who barely 242 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:02,440 Speaker 1: knows us with their opinion of our entire life. The 243 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 1: third one is competency. This is a really, really important 244 00:14:06,920 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 1: point that I want to make. Often we care about 245 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:14,600 Speaker 1: what people think about us, even when they're not experts 246 00:14:14,760 --> 00:14:17,840 Speaker 1: in the field, and this is potentially one of the 247 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:21,000 Speaker 1: most damaging times we care about what people think because 248 00:14:21,040 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 1: not only are they not an expert, they may not 249 00:14:23,800 --> 00:14:26,800 Speaker 1: be that close to us, yet their opinion matters to 250 00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 1: us so much, Right have you thought about that before? 251 00:14:30,960 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 1: Maybe you're working on a project and then someone shares 252 00:14:33,120 --> 00:14:35,200 Speaker 1: their opinion on it. Now, I'm not saying there may 253 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:38,080 Speaker 1: not be any value in what they're saying, but if 254 00:14:38,080 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 1: they're not an expert in that space, it doesn't make sense. 255 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:43,840 Speaker 1: I often say that to my friends when my friends 256 00:14:43,840 --> 00:14:46,920 Speaker 1: are asking me for advice about a particular career path, 257 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 1: and I'll stop and I'll say to them, I know 258 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:53,880 Speaker 1: nothing about that industry. I can give you some life principles. 259 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:58,160 Speaker 1: I can give you some thought about how humans interact 260 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:01,160 Speaker 1: in that space, and I can some ancient wisdom and 261 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 1: science that I've read, but I can't really give you 262 00:15:03,960 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 1: an example because that industry is something I don't have 263 00:15:06,800 --> 00:15:10,160 Speaker 1: experience with. And I think that's a really important trait 264 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:12,480 Speaker 1: of the people around you as well, who can own 265 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:15,680 Speaker 1: up to when they don't know so. And the last 266 00:15:15,760 --> 00:15:19,080 Speaker 1: one is character. There are people in your life who 267 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:22,480 Speaker 1: you know when you want to test whether you're doing 268 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:25,600 Speaker 1: something that's aligned and of the right values, then these 269 00:15:25,640 --> 00:15:31,040 Speaker 1: people carry that character. So you've got care, consistency, competence, 270 00:15:31,120 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: and character. When you do care about what people think, 271 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:37,640 Speaker 1: make sure they fit into one of these four categories, 272 00:15:37,960 --> 00:15:41,280 Speaker 1: and you allow them to have an impact based on 273 00:15:41,440 --> 00:15:45,160 Speaker 1: that category. So that's all about choosing your friends wisely. 274 00:15:45,760 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: Some people will have an opinion about everything right, They'll 275 00:15:49,560 --> 00:15:52,080 Speaker 1: have an opinion about what you're wearing, who you're dating, 276 00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 1: how much money you make, what home you live in. 277 00:15:55,480 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 1: And that can be really hard if someone has an 278 00:15:57,080 --> 00:16:01,480 Speaker 1: opinion about everything you're doing, because if they're close to you, 279 00:16:01,720 --> 00:16:05,040 Speaker 1: it starts to become relevant. So choose your friends wisely 280 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:07,440 Speaker 1: and recognize who are your friends that you value because 281 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: they care for you. Who's the list of people that 282 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 1: you value because they're competent, who are the consistent people, 283 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:17,000 Speaker 1: and who are the people of high character. I actually 284 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:19,240 Speaker 1: want you to write down those four words and make 285 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 1: lists of people in your life so that the next 286 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:24,000 Speaker 1: time you're struggling with one of those areas, you have 287 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:26,360 Speaker 1: someone you can reach out to. And the next time 288 00:16:26,400 --> 00:16:31,400 Speaker 1: you get some unsolicited insight, you get some unsolicited answers 289 00:16:31,440 --> 00:16:33,360 Speaker 1: from one of these people, you can actually think, well, 290 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:36,080 Speaker 1: wait a minute, do they fit into this category of 291 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:39,160 Speaker 1: the advice they're giving. This is a great filtering tool, 292 00:16:39,440 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 1: Like if someone's giving me career advice, but that's not 293 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:47,080 Speaker 1: their forte and that isn't something they understand. It doesn't 294 00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 1: mean that I don't think there's value in it. It 295 00:16:49,360 --> 00:16:51,760 Speaker 1: just means that I still have to live my life 296 00:16:52,040 --> 00:16:54,960 Speaker 1: and I can't be sidetracked because otherwise everyone's opinion is 297 00:16:55,000 --> 00:16:57,480 Speaker 1: relevant at all times. I hope that makes sense. It's 298 00:16:57,480 --> 00:17:00,360 Speaker 1: compassionate and kind, but it has to be clear as well. 299 00:17:01,120 --> 00:17:04,280 Speaker 1: This one's a huge one. Don't be someone who gossips 300 00:17:04,320 --> 00:17:08,080 Speaker 1: about others, because if you talk about others, you'll always 301 00:17:08,080 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 1: assume people are talking about you. Let me say again, 302 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:16,480 Speaker 1: if you gossip about others, you'll always think others are 303 00:17:16,480 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 1: gossiping about you. You'll always feel that other people are 304 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:22,400 Speaker 1: talking about you, because that's what you're doing in your 305 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:25,360 Speaker 1: spare time. In your spare time, you're looking at someone else, 306 00:17:25,400 --> 00:17:27,800 Speaker 1: going can't believe they wore that, can't believe they did that, 307 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:30,919 Speaker 1: can't believe they're dating so and so, can't believe And 308 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:35,040 Speaker 1: if you're having that conversation, you're basically creating a projection. 309 00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:38,320 Speaker 1: See the reason why when someone does something really bad 310 00:17:38,359 --> 00:17:40,680 Speaker 1: to us, it's really hard for us to understand because 311 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 1: we're like, we would never do that to someone, right, 312 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:46,000 Speaker 1: We think to ourselves. Well, I would never ever do 313 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:49,280 Speaker 1: that to you, So you don't even you can't even 314 00:17:49,320 --> 00:17:54,400 Speaker 1: wrap your head around it sometimes. And so similarly, when 315 00:17:54,480 --> 00:17:57,320 Speaker 1: you're treating people a certain way, like if you're thinking 316 00:17:57,359 --> 00:18:00,199 Speaker 1: a lot about other people in your head, you're thinking, well, 317 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:03,360 Speaker 1: they must be thinking about me. We project our own 318 00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:08,200 Speaker 1: insecurities onto the behaviors of others. We project our own 319 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 1: challenges onto the behavior of others. And so that's really 320 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:18,359 Speaker 1: really important that we recognize that we don't want to 321 00:18:18,400 --> 00:18:22,600 Speaker 1: be someone who's gossiping or talking about others and then 322 00:18:22,880 --> 00:18:28,560 Speaker 1: struggling because we are lost in that mindset. And apart 323 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:31,800 Speaker 1: from that, it's just not it's just unhealthy. If it 324 00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:34,160 Speaker 1: constantly speaking about others, we don't have time to speak 325 00:18:34,160 --> 00:18:38,439 Speaker 1: about really big ideas, dreams, goals, things we're working on, 326 00:18:38,520 --> 00:18:42,200 Speaker 1: how we're improving ourselves. And it's a slippery slope, slippery, 327 00:18:42,200 --> 00:18:45,639 Speaker 1: slippery slope, and we often justify that we're doing it 328 00:18:45,680 --> 00:18:48,080 Speaker 1: for the right reason, but we all know that there 329 00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:50,840 Speaker 1: are better things to focus on for our own growth. 330 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 1: Number three really important, be clear about how you feel 331 00:18:56,359 --> 00:19:00,560 Speaker 1: about yourself. What is important to you think, Like among 332 00:19:00,680 --> 00:19:04,360 Speaker 1: chapter one, I give you an auditing exercise. The auditing 333 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:09,320 Speaker 1: exercise is writing down what you think you currently value. 334 00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:11,640 Speaker 1: And remember, what you value is not what you think 335 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:14,919 Speaker 1: you valu it's what you spend your money, your time, 336 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:17,960 Speaker 1: and your energy on. I always say to people that 337 00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:23,560 Speaker 1: your schedule and your expense report shows you more about 338 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:26,199 Speaker 1: what you value than what you think in your head. So, 339 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:29,639 Speaker 1: for example, what's your greatest expenditure. Is it truly on 340 00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:32,800 Speaker 1: family because you say you value family, or is it 341 00:19:32,840 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 1: on personal expenses? Right when you say your schedule, if 342 00:19:35,840 --> 00:19:38,520 Speaker 1: you say you truly value your work, but then your 343 00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:41,439 Speaker 1: work doesn't make up that much of your day. So 344 00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:46,719 Speaker 1: when we analyze our money and our time outgoing, that 345 00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:49,840 Speaker 1: shows us what we value. And what I'm asking you 346 00:19:49,920 --> 00:19:53,720 Speaker 1: here is be clear about what you value and whether 347 00:19:53,760 --> 00:19:56,960 Speaker 1: it's actually showing up in your life. The audit exercise 348 00:19:57,040 --> 00:19:59,480 Speaker 1: is writing down the list of your current values and 349 00:19:59,520 --> 00:20:02,600 Speaker 1: then ask you yourself where you got it from. So 350 00:20:02,640 --> 00:20:05,439 Speaker 1: write down a list of your values, write down a 351 00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:08,399 Speaker 1: list of where you got them from, and then ask yourself, 352 00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:11,880 Speaker 1: do I still want this value? I'll give an example. 353 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 1: There may be someone who has a value that they 354 00:20:16,800 --> 00:20:19,440 Speaker 1: like to spend a lot, and then when they reflect 355 00:20:19,440 --> 00:20:21,360 Speaker 1: on where they got that value, they realize they got 356 00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:24,320 Speaker 1: that value from a parent. And now when they reflect 357 00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:26,280 Speaker 1: on that value themselves, they go, actually, this value is 358 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:29,120 Speaker 1: not serving me. This value is not helping me build 359 00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:31,760 Speaker 1: a good life. I actually want to change my value. 360 00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:36,360 Speaker 1: This is how we get clear about our values. When 361 00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:40,359 Speaker 1: we get really clear about our values, we now even 362 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:43,639 Speaker 1: if the result is in in our favor, we still feel, Okay, 363 00:20:44,119 --> 00:20:46,160 Speaker 1: I've had this experience, right, and you've probably had it too, 364 00:20:46,200 --> 00:20:49,400 Speaker 1: where like, you do something it makes no sense to anyone, 365 00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:51,919 Speaker 1: but because it made sense to you, you think to yourself, 366 00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:56,280 Speaker 1: you know what, that's okay, It's okay, right. But oftentimes 367 00:20:56,520 --> 00:21:00,520 Speaker 1: we do things without a sense of personal clarity. We 368 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:06,160 Speaker 1: take steps without being open and honest with ourselves. Number four, 369 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:12,960 Speaker 1: opinions don't impact your reality. And want this one to 370 00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:16,520 Speaker 1: sink in. Close your eyes and hear me say this. 371 00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 1: Opinions don't become your reality. What they do is that 372 00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:27,600 Speaker 1: they can become your thoughts. Often we think if someone 373 00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:29,639 Speaker 1: says something, then that's just how it's going to go. 374 00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:33,400 Speaker 1: It's not true. If someone thinks your business isn't gonna work, 375 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,240 Speaker 1: that doesn't mean anything. If someone thinks your podcast is 376 00:21:36,240 --> 00:21:39,600 Speaker 1: a bad idea that doesn't necessarily mean anything. If someone 377 00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:42,040 Speaker 1: doesn't think that what you're doing helps people, it doesn't 378 00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:46,760 Speaker 1: necessarily mean anything. And what I've realized is that a 379 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:51,760 Speaker 1: lot of us get so lost in trying to overvalue 380 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:56,240 Speaker 1: what someone feels that we undervalue doing the work. So 381 00:21:56,400 --> 00:22:00,440 Speaker 1: when someone else's opinions become your own thoughts, that's when 382 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:04,080 Speaker 1: it really starts to hurt. That's when it really starts 383 00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:07,159 Speaker 1: to dismantle you. And so what we have to be 384 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:10,240 Speaker 1: careful of is we have to recognize that everyone's entitled 385 00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:13,200 Speaker 1: to their opinion, but we can't make it a part 386 00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:16,040 Speaker 1: of our inner dialogue. We can't make it a part 387 00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:20,920 Speaker 1: of our inner thought process. Here's an activity I want 388 00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:23,640 Speaker 1: you to do for step number five, I want you 389 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: to think of your three best decisions you've made in life, 390 00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:32,880 Speaker 1: the best decisions you ever made that you could see 391 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:35,480 Speaker 1: afterwards that they were the best decisions. So, if I 392 00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 1: was to choose mine, one would be choosing to become 393 00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 1: a monk, one would be leaving to become a monk, 394 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:47,000 Speaker 1: and the third one would be starting the podcast. For example, 395 00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:48,800 Speaker 1: I could pick many others, but those would be three 396 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:51,639 Speaker 1: that I would consider to be really good decisions in 397 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:54,200 Speaker 1: my life, some of my best decisions. So I want 398 00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:58,520 Speaker 1: you to make a list of your three best decisions. Now. 399 00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:01,400 Speaker 1: I want you to think about it, because I guarantee 400 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:05,679 Speaker 1: that your three best decisions in life weren't based on 401 00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:09,840 Speaker 1: other people's opinions. I'm pretty sure that your best three 402 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:14,639 Speaker 1: decisions in life maybe even made others feel uncomfortable. I 403 00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:16,800 Speaker 1: remember when I chose to become a monk, people didn't 404 00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:19,040 Speaker 1: think that was the best idea. And when I left 405 00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,000 Speaker 1: being a monk, people didn't think that was the best idea. 406 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:23,400 Speaker 1: When I wanted to start my podcast, people didn't think 407 00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:26,240 Speaker 1: it was the best idea. Right, A lot of people didn't. Actually, 408 00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:29,439 Speaker 1: I didn't have a lot of validation for those three decisions. 409 00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:33,520 Speaker 1: But I was really sure that this was going to 410 00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:36,280 Speaker 1: be good for me, that I was really passionate about 411 00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 1: the decisions I was making, And I truly believe that 412 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:44,760 Speaker 1: your best decisions in life were not influenced by someone else. 413 00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,240 Speaker 1: Now that doesn't mean you didn't get inspiration, it doesn't 414 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:51,880 Speaker 1: mean that other people didn't positively impact it. But what 415 00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:54,480 Speaker 1: I find is that they weren't based on the opinion 416 00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:57,359 Speaker 1: of others, And I want you to take confidence in that. 417 00:23:57,400 --> 00:23:59,479 Speaker 1: I want you to take confidence in the fact that 418 00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:02,479 Speaker 1: you have made mad brilliant decisions in the past, and 419 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:05,560 Speaker 1: they were brilliant because you weren't being impacted by other 420 00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:09,320 Speaker 1: people's opinions. Right. If other people's opinions aligned with you, 421 00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:12,240 Speaker 1: that's great. But you have to ask yourself, is it 422 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:15,840 Speaker 1: actually making you feel uncomfortable to pursuing the path that 423 00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:22,080 Speaker 1: someone else thinks is good for you? Number six, People 424 00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:26,720 Speaker 1: are not thinking about you as much, as often or 425 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:30,200 Speaker 1: as deeply as you think they are. Let me say 426 00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:34,679 Speaker 1: that again. Take this one in. Let it sink in. 427 00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:41,400 Speaker 1: People are never thinking about you as much as often 428 00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:46,119 Speaker 1: or as deeply as you think they are. We think 429 00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:49,720 Speaker 1: that people are sitting there just thinking about us, that 430 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:53,160 Speaker 1: they're talking about us. And I wish I could find 431 00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:56,399 Speaker 1: the studies on how much time people actually spend thinking 432 00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:59,680 Speaker 1: about you, and I promise you it is less than 433 00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:03,200 Speaker 1: one percent of their day. I think we have something 434 00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:06,680 Speaker 1: like forty five thoughts per minute or something like that. 435 00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:10,240 Speaker 1: I promise you there aren't that many thoughts that are 436 00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:13,800 Speaker 1: about you. Most of our challenge with that is we're 437 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:17,040 Speaker 1: thinking it. We're thinking that people are thinking it about us. 438 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:19,960 Speaker 1: Going back to my favorite Charles Houghton Cooley quote, which 439 00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:21,800 Speaker 1: you've heard me say a million times, but I'm going 440 00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:24,359 Speaker 1: to say it again because it's my favorite. Charles Houghton 441 00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:27,640 Speaker 1: Cooley said, I'm not what I think I am. I'm 442 00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:30,640 Speaker 1: not what you think I am. I am what I 443 00:25:30,720 --> 00:25:34,040 Speaker 1: think you think I am. Right, let that blow your 444 00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:36,760 Speaker 1: mind for a moment. He said, I am what I 445 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:41,440 Speaker 1: think you think I am. So we think we think 446 00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:43,760 Speaker 1: we know what other people are thinking about us, and 447 00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:47,160 Speaker 1: we base our perception of ourselves on that. So if 448 00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:49,840 Speaker 1: I think you think I'm weak, then I feel weak. 449 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:53,320 Speaker 1: If I think you think I'm strong, then I feel strong. 450 00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:58,679 Speaker 1: We want to get out of that inception, right. And 451 00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:01,560 Speaker 1: the last point I wanted to make the point place 452 00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:05,680 Speaker 1: value on the source based on their qualities and attributes. 453 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:14,000 Speaker 1: Don't misplace don't overvalue someone's opinion without really understanding where 454 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:16,720 Speaker 1: they're coming from and the place with which it's coming from. 455 00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,960 Speaker 1: Is it coming from the place of wanting to invest 456 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:22,080 Speaker 1: in your growth? Is it coming from being a well wisher? 457 00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:26,680 Speaker 1: Where is it coming from Recognizing that intention can make 458 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:29,960 Speaker 1: a huge difference. I want to thank you for tuning 459 00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,840 Speaker 1: in today. I hope this episode helps you. I hope 460 00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:34,760 Speaker 1: it sparks a conversation. I hope you share it with 461 00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:39,280 Speaker 1: a friend. Remember I am always rooting for you. I 462 00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:42,680 Speaker 1: want you to win, and I'm in your corner forever. 463 00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:46,800 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening. I appreciate you. Get 464 00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:49,960 Speaker 1: excited for Monday and come back and go back through 465 00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:52,400 Speaker 1: all the episodes and catch up on some of those 466 00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:55,760 Speaker 1: two Thank you. Thank you so much for listening to 467 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:59,560 Speaker 1: this conversation. If you enjoyed it, you'll love my chat 468 00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:03,119 Speaker 1: with Adam Grant on why discomfort is the key to 469 00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:07,720 Speaker 1: growth and the strategies for unlocking your hidden potential. If 470 00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,840 Speaker 1: you know you want to be more and achieve more 471 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:12,920 Speaker 1: this year, go check it out right now. You set 472 00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,760 Speaker 1: a goal today, you achieve it in six months, and 473 00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:18,480 Speaker 1: then by the time it happens, it's almost a relief. 474 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,840 Speaker 1: There's no sense of meaning and purpose. You sort of 475 00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:22,960 Speaker 1: expected it, and you would have been disappointed if it 476 00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:23,560 Speaker 1: didn't happen.