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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, on dating, on work, on sex, on parenting,

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Speaker 1: and more. Please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: just like we're going to read this one.

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Speaker 2: Okay, love it? Yeah, let's free book up. Hold on,

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Speaker 2: ty you, we got it for you. Here it is Strawberry.

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Speaker 1: Letter, subject, keep your nasty hands off me. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I am a thirty year old woman that's in a

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Speaker 1: dirty situation with my man. I love my man and

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Speaker 1: couldn't have asked for a better partner, but there's one

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Speaker 1: thing about him that ticks me off. He hates to

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Speaker 1: wash his hands. We've been together for six years and

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Speaker 1: we just got engaged. We moved in together last month,

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Speaker 1: and that's when I noticed his nastiness. He works long

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Speaker 1: days at a factory and when he comes home, he

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Speaker 1: changes his clothes and flops down on the bed. At first,

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to say anything and nag him about it,

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Speaker 1: but last week I couldn't hold it any longer. When

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Speaker 1: I questioned him, he asked me, why was it bothering?

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Speaker 1: Was it bothering me because they're his hands and his germs.

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Speaker 1: I didn't care to argue with him, so I let

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Speaker 1: it go. Over the weekend, he was in our garage

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Speaker 1: tinkering around with his car and working on his motorcycle.

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Speaker 1: He came straight into my kitchen and open the refrigerator

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Speaker 1: to get a beer, and then proceeded to get the

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Speaker 1: bread out of the pantry to make a sandwich. There

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Speaker 1: was a visible trail of oil and grime everywhere he touched.

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Speaker 2: I just stood there.

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Speaker 1: And watched him so I can go behind him and

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Speaker 1: sanitize the kitchen when he finished. Whenever he's in the bathroom,

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Speaker 1: there's a flush and then the door opens right afterwards.

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Speaker 1: I decided to take the same attitude with him, and

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Speaker 1: I started with holding sex. I told him I didn't

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Speaker 1: want his germs from his hands on me. I told

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Speaker 1: him he would have to thoroughly wash his hands and

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Speaker 1: clean under his nails daily or he's cut off from

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Speaker 1: touching me. That caused an instant argument, and he says

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Speaker 1: he can't marry a woman who treats him like a child.

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Speaker 1: I can't believe that he's upset that he's that upset.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to get an infection from his nasty

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Speaker 1: hands on me. How should I handle this?

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Speaker 2: Please?

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Speaker 3: Help?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 1: I think you are handling it. I mean you have

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Speaker 1: asked him, You've asked him nicely. You've not nagged him

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Speaker 1: about it. You know, you've told him about the germs,

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Speaker 1: how you don't want to get an infection. You're not

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Speaker 1: treating him like a child. I don't think you're doing

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Speaker 1: that at all. You are expressing how you feel about

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Speaker 1: what he's not doing, and that's simply being clean. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you find out a lot about a person when you

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Speaker 1: move in together, and that's one of the things maybe

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Speaker 1: you didn't notice in the six years you guys have

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Speaker 1: been just dating before you got engaged. So now everything's

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Speaker 1: come to light. You know, it's just a matter of

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Speaker 1: simply being clean and good hygiene. Okay, for me, cleanliness

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Speaker 1: is just a deal breaker.

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Speaker 2: It just is.

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Speaker 1: Anyone who doesn't watch their hands after using the bathroom,

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Speaker 1: come on, now, they're just nasty, just nasty. He's even

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Speaker 1: all in the kitchen, going all in the refrigerator and

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Speaker 1: touching stuff, making sandwiches and stuff. No, you gotta wash

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Speaker 1: your hands?

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Speaker 2: What are you doing?

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Speaker 1: You know, so after you've done everything, including withholding sex,

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Speaker 1: and he still won't wash. I hope his hands is

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Speaker 1: the only you didn't mention anything else. But I hope

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Speaker 1: that's that's it. I mean, yeah, it would do more

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Speaker 1: than just tick me off. I'm just telling you I

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Speaker 1: would be absolutely mad and appalled. What makes I just think?

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Speaker 1: You know, what makes you think he's gonna change after marriage?

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Speaker 1: He's not gonna change. So if you don't get this

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Speaker 1: situation settled before marriage, you're going to be even more

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Speaker 1: part involved. So you're gonna have to deal with this,

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Speaker 1: I mean, and he doesn't seem to be wanting to

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Speaker 1: hear anything you have to say, so, oh no, this

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Speaker 1: may not missed. Nasty may not be your man after all, Steve.

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Speaker 4: Surely I agree with one hundred percent of everything you've said.

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Speaker 4: So that's a wonderful letter. But we're dealing with something

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Speaker 4: here that's kind of crazy. Now you've been together six

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Speaker 2: Six years and you just now noticed in last month

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Speaker 2: he nasty? What what do you.

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Speaker 4: Must have been living in the most unobservational six year period.

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Speaker 2: Enter any relationship.

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Speaker 4: He work out a factory, he come home, change his club,

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Speaker 4: flop down on the bed. Right now, when you work

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Speaker 4: in a factory, which I have, you smell like the factory.

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Speaker 4: It's a different air in the factory, man, because it's

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Speaker 4: in a confined space. And the oil, the machinery, the combustion,

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Speaker 4: all of that combined. It's just in the air. Every

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Speaker 4: factory has a certain smell to it. You know, you

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Speaker 4: at work, if you blindfolded by the smell gets in

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Speaker 4: your clothes, it's in your hair. Now, it's all under

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Speaker 4: his nails. You just not noticing this. Then you question

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Speaker 4: him about it. And he asked you why I was

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Speaker 4: bothering him because his hands and his germs, well.

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Speaker 2: Your hands and your germs touch me.

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Speaker 4: So you've done what you should have done. You retracted

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Speaker 4: from having sex. Now he mad at you. And now

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Speaker 4: he said he don't know if he can get married

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Speaker 4: to a woman that treats him like a child. He

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Speaker 4: done opened up the pantry with refrigerator. I mean the

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Speaker 2: He making sandwiches, reaching down into bread. Ain't what you

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Speaker 2: open the refrigerator? How many times have you got slept up? Subject?

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Speaker 4: You don't come in this house and open this frigerator

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Speaker 4: without washing your hands.

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Speaker 2: Seen too many ass whoopers for.

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Speaker 1: That, right, Hang on, Steve? Well, yes, yeah, we'll get

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Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response coming up in twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour, subject keep your nasty hands off me.

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Speaker 2: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 2: hard morning show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, Come on, Let's recap today's strawberry letters.

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Speaker 1: Subject keep your next hands off me.

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Speaker 4: It's an interesting letter. The woman's been dating this man.

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Speaker 4: She's thirty years old, dating this man for six years.

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Speaker 4: They finally got engaged. She moved in, and she noticed

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Speaker 4: the last month his nastiness. He works in the factory,

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Speaker 4: he comes home, changes his clothes, flops down on the bed.

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Speaker 4: She mentioned to him that that was bothering her. He

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Speaker 4: didn't understand it. He said, why are you tripping these

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Speaker 4: is my hands and my germs. She won't even wash

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Speaker 4: his hand. She didn't want to argue with the man,

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Speaker 4: so then he was outside working on the car in

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Speaker 4: the motorcycle, came in the house, opened the refrigerator and

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Speaker 4: left a trail of grime. He made a sandwich without

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Speaker 4: washing his head. You can see grime everywhere. Goes in

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Speaker 4: the bathroom, she hears a flush. The next day, you know,

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Speaker 4: he in the hallway.

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Speaker 2: Talking, I'm out, I'm just no watch.

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Speaker 4: So she decided to take the same attitude with him,

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Speaker 4: and the lady started withholding sex. Told him I didn't

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Speaker 4: want his germs from his hands on me unless he

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Speaker 4: thoroughly washed his hand and clean under his nails daily,

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Speaker 4: or he's cut off from touching me instantn argument this food.

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Speaker 4: Mister Nasty says, I can't marry a woman that treat

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Speaker 4: me like a child. Once she can't marry man to

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Speaker 4: act like a child. So what is your two kids

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Speaker 4: getting married? Right? It's time to break up. But I

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Speaker 4: think I have a few solutions. There are some things

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Speaker 4: that you might have to try, lady. Obviously, withholding sex,

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Speaker 4: he's not equating that to cleanings because now he tripping.

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Speaker 4: I think you gotta do little things to attract his attention.

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Speaker 4: All of this has to do if the kitchen and

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Speaker 4: things you can do to get him to understand the

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Speaker 4: necessity for cleaning. Here's a couple of suggestions you might

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Speaker 4: want to try the next time. Y'all sit down and

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Speaker 4: eat the meal, take your shoes off, put them on

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Speaker 4: top of the table.

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Speaker 2: Don't say nothing, Just keep eating. Don't say anything. Here's

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Speaker 2: another suggestion.

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Speaker 4: You come out the bathroom and while y'all in the

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Speaker 4: living room, while y'all in the chinchen fit eat, just

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Speaker 4: bring some tarlet tissue in there. Set it in the

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Speaker 4: middle of the table. Don't open your damn mouth. Get

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Speaker 4: you a sugar bowl, go outside, put some dirt in it.

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Speaker 4: Put that on the table, and when you make his food,

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Speaker 4: open it and just sprinkle a little dirt around the.

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Speaker 2: Edge of his plate. Don't say an.

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Speaker 4: You like, just sprinkling around the plate, keeping it all

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Speaker 4: over on his side of the table. It just it'll

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Speaker 4: make him feel more at home. Don't say nothing. Don't

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Speaker 4: say nothing. From now, when it's time to make his sandwich.

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Speaker 4: I want you to start reusing as much bread as

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Speaker 4: you can.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, just reach down in there, get the.

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Speaker 4: End out the trash and put little peanut butter on it.

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Speaker 4: Make little old dirt pieces, and just make a plate

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Speaker 4: with just broken.

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Speaker 2: Pieces of beer, reuse bread.

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Speaker 4: Matter of fact, before you make his sandwich with the bread,

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Speaker 4: wipe off the counter with a slice of bread.

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Speaker 2: Make his damn sayingwich.

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Speaker 4: Oh oh, you got to do serious to take his draws.

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Speaker 2: Take a pair of his draws.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, just the house with it, wax the furniture, and

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Speaker 4: then you hand them to him and tell him have

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Speaker 4: a nice day at work.

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Speaker 2: Put them on. That's how you draws.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you have to do things to people who are

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Speaker 4: nasty and don't even mention it.

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Speaker 2: Baby, what did you? What did you?

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Speaker 4: Washing the flu and then handing me these draws? Just

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Speaker 4: wear them, don't worry about it's just germs. You're gonna

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Speaker 4: have to do things like that.

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Speaker 2: Fellas. You have any suggestions, Yes, I have something. I

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Speaker 2: have a couple right here. What do you have to

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Speaker 2: lead his.

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Speaker 3: Underwear, his underwear that he took off the night before,

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Speaker 3: wrap his sandwich with it, and then wrap that in

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Speaker 3: doom in the fall when he go to work to

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Speaker 3: eat his sandwich. Yeah, yeah, yeah, do that, said the fall.

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Speaker 2: His sandwiches just wrapped in his drawl and his.

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Speaker 3: Sandwich is wrapped in his draws. Now, if he likes

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Speaker 3: I got most men like you know we like bananas.

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Speaker 3: Peel the banana, peel it down. Put the banana in

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Speaker 3: his socks. Put that in you fox, Yeah, and know

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Speaker 3: that his banana.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I got it since you brought up socks. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I have them wash his factress socks in a pot

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Speaker 2: on the stove. I was, but serve it also as

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Speaker 2: socks soup.

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Speaker 3: Add to that, the put put some chicken in there

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Speaker 3: so he didn't decide to eat around the sock.

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Speaker 2: Bunker socks soup. Yeah, bunker chicken, chicken, chicken, and right

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Speaker 2: socks soup. When they gonna need something to drink, they

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Speaker 4: Get that picture, fill it up, same colored lemonade.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's another funk.

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