Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect
Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Welcome to another episode
Speaker 1: of Reasonably Shady. My name is Gizelle Bryant. What's up?
Speaker 1: What's up everyone, I'm Robin Dixon. Thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: thank you once again for joining us. We love you
Speaker 1: so much for loving us. Yes we do. We're so
Speaker 1: happy to be back once again. And just like usual,
Speaker 1: we have our Reasonably Shady moment of the week. And guys,
Speaker 1: it is a doozy for me. Okay, So, a couple
Speaker 1: of weeks ago, we had a dietitian I believe that
Speaker 1: was we were talking to. Her name was what's her
Speaker 1: name to the trainer trainer, but yes, we're talking about
Speaker 1: nutrition with yes, And she said, asparagus it's great to eat, okay, um,
Speaker 1: it helps you lose weight, it tastes good. Just put
Speaker 1: in an oven like for like fifteen twenty minutes and
Speaker 1: roasted up and you're gonna be like feeling like a
Speaker 1: million bucks. And I was like, you know what, I
Speaker 1: was sick of kale because I've been a kale girl
Speaker 1: for like ten years. Kale, I'm done with you. Broccoli,
Speaker 1: I'm done with you. Two because Brocoli, you give me gas. Okay,
Speaker 1: so um Carly our director of operations, she said, but
Speaker 1: you know that asparagus makes your um piasting God, and
Speaker 1: I can't believe you didn't know that. Well I did
Speaker 1: know that, but to what degree I did not know.
Speaker 1: So I went out of town with my kids last
Speaker 1: weekend and there was a whole lot that went down
Speaker 1: with the with our room that I had. I had
Speaker 1: booked a Sweet I'm in Tallahassee, by the way, I
Speaker 1: had booked the Sweet, but this hotel I don't know
Speaker 1: guests through that reservation in trash can. So we ended
Speaker 1: up in like this little small room. But whatever, We're
Speaker 1: only there for yeah, maybe maybe another episode. That would
Speaker 1: be my shady moment. So I went to go eat
Speaker 1: and my kids were like, Mom, you have funked up
Speaker 1: the whole room. Were you farting? What did you doing there?
Speaker 1: Oh my god? And I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: My piece stinks. I mean like stink stinks, like horribly stinks.
Speaker 1: So long story short, asparagus, you are shady. You are shady,
Speaker 1: okay shady? So are you no longer eating it? Now?
Speaker 1: So this is the deal, guys, I actually really love it,
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna eat it, but not as much as before, okay,
Speaker 1: or just eat it when you're like when you know
Speaker 1: you're not going to be peeing around other people? Right,
Speaker 1: when does that happen? Like you're at home, like eating
Speaker 1: for dinner and you're using your own private that's true,
Speaker 1: that's true, very true. So so if I'm if this,
Speaker 1: but this would make any guy run away from me.
Speaker 1: So if if there's any dayting going on, then asparagus,
Speaker 1: I cannot eat asparacus. You're shady. I want everybody to
Speaker 1: be clear on that. But I don't want anyone to
Speaker 1: like not eat asparacus because it's really good for you.
Speaker 1: I know exactly. So you know, just if you're if
Speaker 1: you're around a guy or whatever, just give them the disclaimer. Okay,
Speaker 1: my piece stinks, yes, because I'm being healthy because I'm
Speaker 1: being okay, Okay, I didn't fart, I didn't go number two,
Speaker 1: it's just my pe Okay, got it because of its
Speaker 1: serious right, Yes, that's it. Okay, that's it. Now do
Speaker 1: you have a shady moment? I mean I just have
Speaker 1: a frustrating moment. So you know, we moved in a
Speaker 1: new house. The first thing my kids want is a
Speaker 1: basketball court. Not just my kids, but my husband wanted
Speaker 1: to So it's like, we have to have a basketball court.
Speaker 1: And I was ready to like put this basketball court
Speaker 1: in and something told me this was literally yesterday something
Speaker 1: and we're scheduled. Actually they're out there doing the court now.
Speaker 1: Something told me, Um, why don't you talk to the
Speaker 1: builder to make sure, like, you know, there's no issues
Speaker 1: with putting this basketball court in long story short, I
Speaker 1: mean it's actually like, you know, a little silver lining.
Speaker 1: Um if we if I had gone with my original plan, yeah,
Speaker 1: I would have been in trouble with the county. I
Speaker 1: would have been like building the court on on in
Speaker 1: an area for like a utility easement, a ten foot
Speaker 1: utility easement. So I had to reduce the size of
Speaker 1: our basketball court by ten feet. So is it a
Speaker 1: half court? It was always a half court, but it
Speaker 1: was literally going to be like a court, a whole
Speaker 1: half court that would allow them allow them to like
Speaker 1: shoot three pointers from every spot on the court, from
Speaker 1: the corners, from the top of the wings, whatever. Now
Speaker 1: we have to reduce it by ten feet, so they
Speaker 1: can't get their corner three point shots. So they just
Speaker 1: they just have a file line. They shoot, come to
Speaker 1: file so they're shooting from like what kind of corner,
Speaker 1: talking about it's still in this this thing and I
Speaker 1: have to care my son, Corey, well this why why
Speaker 1: can't you do this? And why why why and just
Speaker 1: do it and bub and I'm like no because if
Speaker 1: some and I'm like want, I mean not want, Corey,
Speaker 1: if someone from the county comes back here and sees
Speaker 1: that this court is on top of this easement that's
Speaker 1: supposed to be here, like they can literally find me
Speaker 1: and tell us to dig it up. And he's like, well,
Speaker 1: so what just paid a fine boy? Get little boys? Exactly?
Speaker 1: He needs to get a little boys. So our dreams
Speaker 1: of having this amazing full half court basketball have been shattered. Well, clearly, Robbing,
Speaker 1: you're part of the wrong family, and we're going to
Speaker 1: talk to the right family today as it relates to basketball. Okay,
Speaker 1: we have a guest with us and her name is
Speaker 1: we'll let you introduce her Robina. So our guest today
Speaker 1: is none other than the beautiful Saddel Curry Lee. Um.
Speaker 1: A lot of you might know Sadel because she belongs
Speaker 1: to a very prestigious basketball family. Okay, Her father is
Speaker 1: Dell Curry. He played sixteen years in the league. Her
Speaker 1: brother is the amazing Stephen Curry UM. Her other brother
Speaker 1: who plays for the Golden State Warriors. Her younger well,
Speaker 1: I guess middle brother is Seth Curry, who plays for
Speaker 1: the seventy sixers. She is also married to Damien Lee,
Speaker 1: who plays for the Golden State Warriors. I mean, I
Speaker 1: thought I thought I had basketball all around me. But
Speaker 1: so anyway, but we're talking to Saddel not only because
Speaker 1: she's you know, amazing and beautiful, um, because she's a
Speaker 1: beautiful content creator. She also has a podcast but her
Speaker 1: UM her focus is mental space mental health. So I'm
Speaker 1: gonna read her bio and introduce her in the mental
Speaker 1: health before I talk about Saddell. The mental health topic
Speaker 1: UM that we recently discussed got such a positive response.
Speaker 1: I mean I saw emails where people said, I just
Speaker 1: made an appointment because of you all. So people are
Speaker 1: making appointments to talk to mental health professionals because of
Speaker 1: the of the episode that we did with Meriga UM
Speaker 1: and you know, people who said thank you, I was
Speaker 1: in a really dark place. Um. My cousin told me
Speaker 1: it was the best one yet. So yes, you know
Speaker 1: when your family has given out compliments because those don't
Speaker 1: come very easily. So anyway, um but said Though Saddel
Speaker 1: Curry Lee became known in the digital space for entrepreneurship,
Speaker 1: athleticism and taste making in the beauty community, her mission
Speaker 1: online has always been to surface the topic of mental
Speaker 1: health to the forefront of conversation. Having struggled with her
Speaker 1: own mental health for several years, Saddel aims to de
Speaker 1: stigmatize the discussion around mental health and offer firsthand advice
Speaker 1: on how we can all discuss the subject better as
Speaker 1: well as things we can do to improve our mental
Speaker 1: health Because life, that's the name of Her podcast centers
Speaker 1: around an open and honest discussion amongst Saddel, a mental
Speaker 1: health professional and listener input regarding topics ranging from confronting
Speaker 1: anxieties to being a supportive ally when someone close to
Speaker 1: you is struggling with their mental health. So um Saidel
Speaker 1: also recently shared her journey with IBM of her her
Speaker 1: struggles um getting pregnant and she she is pregnant with
Speaker 1: child about to burst. So we're gonna this podcast is
Speaker 1: gonna be fast because she might burst and it um
Speaker 1: with you know without further ado, welcome to reasonably Shady said, welcome, welcome,
Speaker 1: We are so happy to her. Were cracking up. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, I just want to say that just how
Speaker 1: you already got the communication down to the relationship just
Speaker 1: off hand. And if you're gonna go into the relationship
Speaker 1: talking about I had a fagus, I'm sorry. That's great communication,
Speaker 1: is it? Or is a team too much? No, I've
Speaker 1: never seen too much. You're like setting the standard, like, look, dude,
Speaker 1: get real comfortable with me because I'm about to share
Speaker 1: everything because and if you're not comfortable with that, then
Speaker 1: you can go yes, yes, I love it. Now I
Speaker 1: have a quick first top top of the episode questions,
Speaker 1: So your your podcast because life one? How long have
Speaker 1: you been doing it? And why the the title? I
Speaker 1: love it? Thank you? So we just started in May.
Speaker 1: Our first episode was May nineteen, two thousand twenty one.
Speaker 1: And when coming up when I'm sorry, that's around the
Speaker 1: same time we started. So we are podcast movie? Yes? Yes? Um?
Speaker 1: And when I was trying to figure out a name
Speaker 1: or a title for it, because I wanted to health
Speaker 1: to be just like a normal thing. And I think
Speaker 1: because life just shows that should happen like stuff happens
Speaker 1: in life, and it's it's gonna throw you curve balls,
Speaker 1: and so it should not be a thing where everyone
Speaker 1: should be isolated or just surprised by it because life
Speaker 1: is hard and what that brings mental health challenges. I
Speaker 1: feel like everyone has been to health challenges, whether or
Speaker 1: on a high level or a low level. You're gonna
Speaker 1: go through something in your life that's gonna bring you
Speaker 1: anxiety or some sort of like tension that's hard to
Speaker 1: deal with. So that's kind of where because life comes
Speaker 1: from it, make it normal. Yes, yes, I love that.
Speaker 1: And in the church world I used to be a
Speaker 1: first lady, they would call that your test and then
Speaker 1: it's so everybody has a test at some point in
Speaker 1: time in their life. And then they got that a
Speaker 1: good old testimony, my testimony. I got so many testimonies
Speaker 1: you don't even want to get me started. So, siddel Um,
Speaker 1: you have shared that like you recently had some mental
Speaker 1: health struggles. Um, how was that? How was it to
Speaker 1: be able to share that? Because I think sometimes when
Speaker 1: you come from a family like yours, where everyone sees
Speaker 1: the glitz and the glamour and the success and the accomplishments.
Speaker 1: You know, sometimes you kind of feel like you don't
Speaker 1: want to share that type of information because people assume
Speaker 1: your life is perfect or you know, gosh, what could
Speaker 1: be wrong with you? Or you know, why are you struggling?
Speaker 1: So how did you get to the point where or
Speaker 1: you felt like you could share your mental health struggles,
Speaker 1: especially with you know, the spotlight on your whole family. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So to give you just a quick background on how
Speaker 1: my mental health challenges started. Um, I was in a
Speaker 1: very abusive relationship from my the end of my college
Speaker 1: I mean high school years to the first two years
Speaker 1: of college. Um. And so that brought his own set
Speaker 1: of like PHTSD. And then I also have five concussions
Speaker 1: from playing volleyball. UM. So so that I talked about
Speaker 1: that because a lot of people think that mental health
Speaker 1: challenges just come from life experiences, which they do, but
Speaker 1: it also comes from chemical imbalances, getting hit in the
Speaker 1: head five times, like so many other things than just
Speaker 1: what's happening in your environment and how much money do
Speaker 1: you have and how much UH do you have a
Speaker 1: like all these kind of materialistic things that matter, but
Speaker 1: you know, there are other things that play into the
Speaker 1: mental health space. And so when I just I just
Speaker 1: to talk about it, it was really because there was
Speaker 1: a lack of people with the platform talking about it
Speaker 1: at that time. UM and I was going through it
Speaker 1: like I just was just really going through it as
Speaker 1: in a transitional point in my life, going from UM
Speaker 1: college into like the real world, career world and how
Speaker 1: to do it earlier than I thought because I had
Speaker 1: gotten my fifth concussion and my doctors were like, s up,
Speaker 1: You're gonna be a vegetable if you keep playing like
Speaker 1: you needs. Okay, So wait a minute, is that normal
Speaker 1: in the volleyball world. No, And that's why I kept
Speaker 1: playing because after my third one, my doctors were like,
Speaker 1: what's the likelihood of you getting a fourth one? Usually,
Speaker 1: like in football, they'll cut you off at well, they're
Speaker 1: supposed to cut you off at three concussion. Um, So
Speaker 1: after I got my third when they're like, what's the
Speaker 1: likelihood of you getting a fourth one? And then my
Speaker 1: fourth one came, what's the likelihood of you getting a
Speaker 1: fifth one? So it was like the ball hitting you
Speaker 1: in the head. Yeah. So I played against I played
Speaker 1: D one college volleyball, So I was playing against like
Speaker 1: some big, like strong girls and if you don't get
Speaker 1: your hands up fast enough, the ball is just the
Speaker 1: ball has no forgiveness, is going to come right into
Speaker 1: your face. So for four of the concussions were me
Speaker 1: getting hit in the head um down the line, and
Speaker 1: then one of them, I went to dig a ball
Speaker 1: and my head hit the ground first before the rest
Speaker 1: of my body did. I think that's just my reflexes.
Speaker 1: With every hit in the head, my reflexus was just
Speaker 1: getting worse and worse and worse. So I have like,
Speaker 1: that's crazy. I've never really heard of concussions in volleyball,
Speaker 1: but it makes sense. Like I was explained, it definitely
Speaker 1: makes sense. Yeah, you know, so you need to bring
Speaker 1: light to that topic exactly. I mean, it's become any
Speaker 1: more of a topic now. I think my my niece
Speaker 1: had a soccer game a couple weeks ago and she
Speaker 1: had gotten hit in the head with the ball and
Speaker 1: she got she got put on concussion protocol and I
Speaker 1: was like, you know what, I'm not mad about that, Like,
Speaker 1: she's nine. How hard are they kid in the ball
Speaker 1: in soccer right now? And not at the nine year
Speaker 1: old league? But they were taking it very seriously, which
Speaker 1: I'm so happy to see um, because I wish that
Speaker 1: I would have taking it seriously. But you know, soccer
Speaker 1: is like the number one concussion. Like you know, people
Speaker 1: think it's all football, football, football, but from what I've heard,
Speaker 1: it's actually the doctor seymore concussions from soccer. Why because
Speaker 1: you hit your head with the ball. I guess you
Speaker 1: hit each other's head. I don't. I don't play that
Speaker 1: for me. Okay, okay, okay. UM. So yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: going into that season of life, that transitional phase of life,
Speaker 1: I had had a platform. People were following me because
Speaker 1: of my family, but I really wasn't doing anything with it.
Speaker 1: And so we live in we live in a digital age.
Speaker 1: I was on Instagram all the time, like for people
Speaker 1: to relate to, and I couldn't find anyone with the
Speaker 1: platform who was really talking about how life can really
Speaker 1: be UM. And I was nervous because obviously you get
Speaker 1: you get the push back like you're in this amazing family,
Speaker 1: there should there should be nothing wrong with you. And
Speaker 1: that was hard. But I think my purpose in life,
Speaker 1: I've always had a passion for like mental health and psychology,
Speaker 1: even before I started dealing with my own challenges. UM.
Speaker 1: But I always my mom always said when you find
Speaker 1: your purpose, you need to go for it and like
Speaker 1: never lose sight of it. And I feel like my
Speaker 1: purpose in life is to share my experiences, however uncomfortable
Speaker 1: it may make other people feel. Um. So yeah, speaking
Speaker 1: of your mom, I look at her and I'm like,
Speaker 1: that's a bad one, right, yes, And look, let me
Speaker 1: tell you I think did I share the story with you?
Speaker 1: How this was? Like, Gosh, in two thousand probably three,
Speaker 1: someone I was at a Pittsburgh Georgetown game because my
Speaker 1: brother in LAWA played for Pittsburgh, and this young white
Speaker 1: dude he was like, you know, a student at Georgetown
Speaker 1: or something, was like, are you Steph Curry's mother? And
Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't see it. It I can see
Speaker 1: I mean, but I was literally like twenty something at
Speaker 1: that time, and so in a way I was like
Speaker 1: super flatter because your mom is so gorgeous. But then
Speaker 1: I was like, do I look old enough to be
Speaker 1: stuff Curries mother? No? My mom literally is like Benjamin Button.
Speaker 1: We call her Benjamin Button. The older she gets the
Speaker 1: younger kid. I don't even know how she does that.
Speaker 1: I just hope that I have that geneous listen, right, Yes,
Speaker 1: now I'm just gonna get right on to it. So
Speaker 1: when the family goes to dinner at an expensive restaurant
Speaker 1: and your brother Steph is there, I mean, is it
Speaker 1: just assoomed he's playing the bill? No. So we've always
Speaker 1: played a game in our family where I I always
Speaker 1: take the bill at the end of at the end
Speaker 1: of the day. No, no, no, I take the the
Speaker 1: actual ill I take it. I said, give it to
Speaker 1: me and we'll go around, Especially once Seth got into
Speaker 1: the league and started making some money as well. They'll
Speaker 1: whoever close the grand schemer thing right, Um, they between
Speaker 1: my my dad, my brothers, whoever got the closest to
Speaker 1: the bill didn't have to pay, but whoever was the
Speaker 1: furthest away had to pay. So we would go around.
Speaker 1: You have to go around, and we make your guests
Speaker 1: on how much you have to guess on how much
Speaker 1: the bill is. Okay, and I want to get the
Speaker 1: closest okay, So okay, because I'm thinking, if if he's
Speaker 1: not there, then we just order one meat. But if
Speaker 1: he's there, we order like the damn it, we order
Speaker 1: get the tasting menu when he When he's there, you
Speaker 1: don't hear any lip from my dad, my dad, and
Speaker 1: when it's just my dad and he has to pay,
Speaker 1: you're gonna you can get what you want. But just
Speaker 1: know that you're gonna hear a little bit of that. Noted, noted,
Speaker 1: that is funny. So speaking of your family, tell us
Speaker 1: it was it like or it hasn't been like growing
Speaker 1: up Curry. So growing up you know with your dad
Speaker 1: as a NBA legend, I mean he played for sixteen years.
Speaker 1: Like that is sixteen years? Is that like a record?
Speaker 1: Is that a record? No? I think Vince car I know,
Speaker 1: but what about um, well ship Lebron right now is
Speaker 1: about to bust a record. Lebron is about almost pace
Speaker 1: fourteen Okay, okay unless the two thousand three he went
Speaker 1: he was in the year after a while and start
Speaker 1: did he a mellow go in at the same time,
Speaker 1: I think, I don't know, he's up there, he's past fifteen.
Speaker 1: He's a long time. There will be a lot of
Speaker 1: people passing my dad. But he did play for that
Speaker 1: for his time, for his for that time in the league.
Speaker 1: That was a long time. Yeah. And let me tell
Speaker 1: you so one had um like when he was thirty two,
Speaker 1: his knees just went bad. I mean I think I
Speaker 1: think they're like Arthritick, they're bone on bone and he
Speaker 1: just couldn't play anymore. So for these guys to be
Speaker 1: able to continue to play, and you know, that pounding
Speaker 1: every day, like people don't realize that. Yeah, it's not football,
Speaker 1: but like that pounding on that court, that hard floor
Speaker 1: every day like that is that's major. So for anyone
Speaker 1: that is playing longer than ship seven seven years on
Speaker 1: the body, yeah, it's amazing. So I'm like, okay, maybe
Speaker 1: you know they said what tom Brady is vegan, like
Speaker 1: maybe there's something behind that. Tom Brady is taking doing
Speaker 1: something else, Okay, a regiment, that special special plan. Yeah,
Speaker 1: something he's popping something. But back to your family, Um,
Speaker 1: you know, your father playing in the league for a
Speaker 1: long time, your brother we all, you know, both of
Speaker 1: your brothers are super successful. But Stuff is one of
Speaker 1: the best players in the league. I mean my father,
Speaker 1: like when Stuff was hurt last year, he was like
Speaker 1: wanted to cry because he's like, yeah, thing to do, yeah,
Speaker 1: and and Stuff is like change the game totally. Um
Speaker 1: yeah yeah. So So what was it like being you know,
Speaker 1: just the daughter in the family and then you have
Speaker 1: a daughter and a sister, a super uber successful sister
Speaker 1: in law. So would you when we get to and
Speaker 1: you have and you have a husband that plays in
Speaker 1: the NBA, So what is it like for you as
Speaker 1: you know, do you just feel like I'm just sell
Speaker 1: or do you feel do you get lost in it?
Speaker 1: Do you get lost in it? No, my parents did
Speaker 1: a really really good job at giving us a normal lifestyle. Obviously,
Speaker 1: growing up as a daughter, there wasn't social media. There
Speaker 1: wasn't like a lot of you know, the stuff that
Speaker 1: they have now to make people even more famous. Quote unquote.
Speaker 1: Um So, I never really felt different growing up as
Speaker 1: as a daughter of someone of a guy the NBA.
Speaker 1: But when Stephan went to um well had that big
Speaker 1: breakout at Davidson, I started noticing like people were starting
Speaker 1: to treat me different, and that made me a little
Speaker 1: bit uncomfortable. I never really liked attention. I'm a very
Speaker 1: independent person. Yeah, I just don't. I don't like it
Speaker 1: that much. Um and So when I went to college
Speaker 1: and people would be like, oh, you can come into
Speaker 1: this party because you're sub Curry sister, I'd be a
Speaker 1: little mad, like, no, I'm want to come to your
Speaker 1: party anymore, or like stop telling people that you know,
Speaker 1: like you don't even want people to exactly, but you
Speaker 1: know what, more than anything, like I it's been a
Speaker 1: really really cool experience because I don't like the attention,
Speaker 1: but I love watching the people in my life like
Speaker 1: elevate and like just break break records and do things
Speaker 1: that people never thought that they would be able to do,
Speaker 1: do things that I never thought that they would be
Speaker 1: able to do or could do. And I'm shocked all
Speaker 1: the time. Um, But I again, I feel like I
Speaker 1: live a very I always say I'm an ordinary girl
Speaker 1: who lives an extraordinary or who experiences extraordinary things. And
Speaker 1: I just feel really blessed because again, I could go
Speaker 1: to the store or I could just do normal things
Speaker 1: and not feel like I'm anything special quote unquote and
Speaker 1: just living normal life, which would be a lot for me,
Speaker 1: like with my mental health and all that kinds of stuff,
Speaker 1: Like if I had the same kind of fame as
Speaker 1: stuff that, I think God really did his thing and
Speaker 1: gave the correct talents one of us, because I would
Speaker 1: not be able to handle all the all of the
Speaker 1: attention that he gets. He just does so well with it.
Speaker 1: Even my dad and Seth do really and Damien do
Speaker 1: really well with that. I'd probably never leave my house
Speaker 1: if I had all that attention. So I'm just like,
Speaker 1: I'm like the biggest cheerleader I love. Just then that's awesome. Now.
Speaker 1: I was on the Instagram and I saw how um
Speaker 1: Stephansha responded to you being pregnant right and then was
Speaker 1: freaking bonkers and I didn't get it, Like I was
Speaker 1: just like, why don't you screaming, yelling and going crazy
Speaker 1: like okay, the sisters pregnant? Okay. I did not know
Speaker 1: your story, so I would love for you to share
Speaker 1: a little bit of your story. But before you share
Speaker 1: your story, because you know, I know you're married to
Speaker 1: your husband who's also want the same team as your brother.
Speaker 1: How did that go to play? Okay? Because I want
Speaker 1: to know, like, did you see him and he was
Speaker 1: like you talked? You said to your brother, can you
Speaker 1: hook a sister up? What happened? Because I want to
Speaker 1: note ahead, excuse me, because I mean from I would
Speaker 1: think your brother would be like, there's no way you're
Speaker 1: dating an NBA player, Like, hell no, I'm not having it.
Speaker 1: Find someone else, find a banker, a doctor. I didn't
Speaker 1: go on it. Yeah, I did not want it. I
Speaker 1: always said growing up, I would never date or marry
Speaker 1: a basketball player NBA player because I don't know how
Speaker 1: they are. And I know that like the guys in
Speaker 1: my family are top notch and they're like we called
Speaker 1: them unicorns. Um. And I didn't think that that was possible.
Speaker 1: But when I met I met my husband way before
Speaker 1: he was even in the league. Um, because we went
Speaker 1: to I went to Ellen. He went to Drexel and
Speaker 1: so they're in the same conference. So he was playing
Speaker 1: basketball in drexxl UM. But like, I didn't know if
Speaker 1: he was any good. I didn't know anything. Like he
Speaker 1: even transferred to Louisville and like hit me in my
Speaker 1: d M and I was like, who are you? Like,
Speaker 1: what do you do? Like whatever? And so we met sister.
Speaker 1: He was always he always tells me that he wasn't
Speaker 1: like pawning for me. I'm like, he was trying, you know,
Speaker 1: in the curries. He was trying to get into the curries. Okay,
Speaker 1: we understand. I mean he succeeded. Hey, that is your
Speaker 1: brother feel about it? I mean, I'm sure he's over
Speaker 1: it now. I mean, you guys, are you know? I
Speaker 1: mean the way their best friends. Like their relationship is
Speaker 1: kind of sickening, to be honest. I'm like, they're a
Speaker 1: little too close. And then you know what I mean, look,
Speaker 1: he better, he better stay on Steph's team because Steph
Speaker 1: can keep an eye. Yes, I mean, it's definitely it's
Speaker 1: easier for me maybe, like, excuse me, who are you talking?
Speaker 1: Who is this woman you're talking to? Right? Yeah? You
Speaker 1: know what's kind of annoying though about him being on
Speaker 1: the team is that everyone thinks that Stephen literally called
Speaker 1: up the GM of the Warriors like, hey, is my
Speaker 1: brother in law? But they he was on the team
Speaker 1: before we were even engaged. We were just dating and
Speaker 1: like the whole the whole nepotism thing. And then I'm
Speaker 1: just like, do y'all not know how the NBA works
Speaker 1: because they're not going to give away just money to
Speaker 1: somebody because of who they're related to, Like they have
Speaker 1: to actually be able to contribute something. So your brother
Speaker 1: is married to Doc River's daughter. I know, it's very incestual. Yes,
Speaker 1: I realized that. And how the hell did that he
Speaker 1: ended up on the same team, I don't know, but no,
Speaker 1: I like, I love it. Keep it in the family,
Speaker 1: you know, like good people when you know them, and
Speaker 1: so I feel like, hey, if if we already know
Speaker 1: the Curries are great people, so if the Curries approved
Speaker 1: of you know these Damien, then like he has to
Speaker 1: be an amazing person. And within the n b A,
Speaker 1: it's not just about your talent, it's it is almost
Speaker 1: equally about how good of a person are you? How
Speaker 1: reliable are you? How? Yeah? I mean more and more
Speaker 1: of these days, like it's more important to have people
Speaker 1: of character in your organization than just people with talents. Okay,
Speaker 1: So so share with us you are, by the way, congratulations,
Speaker 1: you get ready? Okay, So what is your day? Can
Speaker 1: you share that orm weeks today? Yeah? Oh my gosh, okay,
Speaker 1: so what well, because I'll give you my brief because
Speaker 1: it's so weird. My kids asked me this this morning.
Speaker 1: They were like, Mom, did you have any trouble getting pregnant?
Speaker 1: And I was like, first of all, why you'll been
Speaker 1: thinking about that? Um? And I? And I did so
Speaker 1: my first child, Grace. You know, it took me like
Speaker 1: six months or so. There was nothing that the doctors
Speaker 1: felt like they needed to do. If it had gone
Speaker 1: longer than of course, we would have done some different things,
Speaker 1: but um, you know, it just took about six months.
Speaker 1: The twins was like that, you know pregnant. Was that
Speaker 1: a mistake? That's what the twins asked. They were like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, we mistakes and like, first of all,
Speaker 1: you no, it was not. It was definitely playing. So
Speaker 1: they soon because they're not even they are Grace and
Speaker 1: the twins or how many, they're eighteen months apart. So
Speaker 1: I wanted them to be wanted to torture yourself? Well, no,
Speaker 1: I thought it was gonna be one more, but it was.
Speaker 1: And I wanted the one more and Grace to be
Speaker 1: grow up together and then two stuff together. But it
Speaker 1: was two more. So yes, then I was tortured. But anyway,
Speaker 1: enough about me. Um what to give us, like your story,
Speaker 1: because that's every woman who's been pregnant, they have a story.
Speaker 1: Yeah for sure. Um So Dammy and I got married
Speaker 1: in two thousand and eighteen. Um, and like June of
Speaker 1: two thousand eighteen, we were like, let's kind of wait
Speaker 1: a year before we start trying to have a baby.
Speaker 1: So I got I got birth control, and then we
Speaker 1: got married and then December of Tusan eighty came around
Speaker 1: and we were like they spent enough time together, like,
Speaker 1: let's let's start trying to have a baby. Yeah. And
Speaker 1: so we haven't tried about six months pretty much. We
Speaker 1: have been trying her about six months, nothing happened. Went
Speaker 1: to my doctors. She was like, oh yeah, yeah, just
Speaker 1: like keep trying and then if the year comes by
Speaker 1: and nothing happens, and come back and we'll do some tests.
Speaker 1: I got pregnant in September two thousand and nineteen. Um,
Speaker 1: but it ended up being a chemical pregnancy, which really
Speaker 1: really sucks. Chemical pregnancy. It's like an early miscarriage. UM.
Speaker 1: So I tested positive, and then because I was trying
Speaker 1: to get pregnant, I would test every day, every day
Speaker 1: in the positive, just get lighter and lighter and lighter
Speaker 1: until it was a false positive. I don't know, no, no,
Speaker 1: that the baby implants, but it doesn't stick long enough, okay, bible.
Speaker 1: So um went went back to my doctor. Six months later,
Speaker 1: we got test done. Uh. Two weeks into or a
Speaker 1: week into quarantine when the lockdown happened. Twenty we get
Speaker 1: the call that we couldn't have kids naturally or we
Speaker 1: had like a really really low chance of having kids naturally. Um.
Speaker 1: Uh issues with both of us kind of yeah, which
Speaker 1: people were shoved was because like we're so young I
Speaker 1: was at that time and he was only So was
Speaker 1: the miscarriage related to the reasons why you can't why
Speaker 1: they said you couldn't get pregnant. My miscarriages happened because
Speaker 1: I have a progesterone level or a progesterone level issue.
Speaker 1: After implantation UM, so my progesons levels didn't stay high enough. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: And so we went into like right into partillary treatments.
Speaker 1: We tried UM three months of i U S, which
Speaker 1: is in inter uterine insemination UM, which basically is a
Speaker 1: step up from natural. They'll put me on medicasions and
Speaker 1: create more eggs and then they'll insert his uh like
Speaker 1: they call it the good swimmers through a capital. And
Speaker 1: we tried those for three months, didn't work, took a
Speaker 1: month off of October, and then we went into IVF. Okay,
Speaker 1: and that's like pretty rigorous, right, like you have to Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: I did two weeks of three injections a day in
Speaker 1: my stomach UM. And honestly, though, like this is this
Speaker 1: is kind of like full circle right now, because it
Speaker 1: was UM this time last year's when I started watching
Speaker 1: the House Lives of Potomac. So you guys, I took
Speaker 1: a whole month off of November to do my IVF
Speaker 1: and just would sit down every day with my husband,
Speaker 1: my mother in law and we would watch Real House
Speaker 1: Lives of Potomach everything. We watched all seasons every day,
Speaker 1: watched the whole scene if you get pregnant. We did,
Speaker 1: so thank you and it's like this literally. So anyways, Um,
Speaker 1: we did our IVF cycle. We got a good amount
Speaker 1: of embryos um, which is as far as they can
Speaker 1: be developed outside of my body, went through our first
Speaker 1: embryo transfer in February. That didn't work. Um, it just
Speaker 1: it was a really devastating time. So then we went
Speaker 1: into my next embryo transfer, which I had asked my
Speaker 1: doctor like, can I go on some progestro and because
Speaker 1: I felt like I think I had another chemical pregnancy
Speaker 1: in the first embryo transfer, so that's kind of where
Speaker 1: I found out. Went on progesterone for the second one,
Speaker 1: and this one stuck. Um and we are thirty five
Speaker 1: weeks pregnant with the first baby. Boy. Oh it's a boy.
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ. Girls. We have three girls, already we have
Speaker 1: that girls, three girls and boy. Okay, so now I
Speaker 1: get it. Now I get why. Um, your brother and
Speaker 1: your sister in law were super excited that you are preggers,
Speaker 1: and so like your husband, I know, he was just
Speaker 1: like through the roof, he was so excited. I actually
Speaker 1: got to surprise him too with this pregnancy because when
Speaker 1: you go through this and there's doctors and timelines involved,
Speaker 1: like you know, every single time, I got a doctor
Speaker 1: at this day this time, so I had actually tested
Speaker 1: and found out earlier than expected that I was pregnant,
Speaker 1: and so he they were in the middle of the
Speaker 1: season last year and he was away for a road
Speaker 1: trip when I had found out that I was pregnant.
Speaker 1: So I got to surprise him when he came home. Um,
Speaker 1: he had no idea that I was pregnant, because again
Speaker 1: we had a week to go until I went to
Speaker 1: the doctor from my blood test to see if it
Speaker 1: had worked. UM. And that was just like one of
Speaker 1: the best moments of my life because you know, I
Speaker 1: really wanted this to be as normal of an experience
Speaker 1: as possible. UM, and it hasn't been that normal because
Speaker 1: all the doctors and all my legs and stirrups and
Speaker 1: all kinds of oh my gosh, it was great, Like
Speaker 1: how were you able to even keep that from him?
Speaker 1: Like day and my hardest thing? Every he was like,
Speaker 1: I am I the last one to know? Did you
Speaker 1: tell everyone except from me? Like? No, no, I only
Speaker 1: people I told my mom and my sister mom. Okay,
Speaker 1: speaking of sister in law, let's get back to this
Speaker 1: dinner that y'all play Russian Roulette with the bill. Um. So, yeah, first,
Speaker 1: does she let you cook with her? Because she's got this,
Speaker 1: you know, all this cooking situations going on. It's her
Speaker 1: food really good. Yeah, that's getting there. We're not done
Speaker 1: with the question yet. Hold on, hold time. Okay, when
Speaker 1: y'all have moments at because you know, any family have
Speaker 1: some tense moments at the table. Okay, nine times out
Speaker 1: of ten she starts it right, she starts she's a jokester.
Speaker 1: She's she's trying to do this everyone. I'm just staying
Speaker 1: her jokes. Okay. Are the jokes really not funny? They're funny,
Speaker 1: but she has a different type of humor and you
Speaker 1: really have to understand her to really like, I think
Speaker 1: it's funny, and sometimes look at her like I laugh,
Speaker 1: but like you laugh at her because she's she thinks
Speaker 1: she's hilarious and she is. Her and stuff in just
Speaker 1: feed off of each other. So that's funny to watch.
Speaker 1: Even if you don't get the joke, you know that
Speaker 1: they're and they're all a little world. Okay, good for
Speaker 1: them right now? She food's bomb if you have bomb? Really,
Speaker 1: have you been to any of the restaurants? Yeah? Really,
Speaker 1: it's got like three or four. Where have I been
Speaker 1: under a rock? I mean they're there aren't any like
Speaker 1: over here. They're more like what isn't in Texas or something.
Speaker 1: She has one in Miami. She has one in the
Speaker 1: MGM in Vegas. Okay in Miami. What's the one that
Speaker 1: called in Miami? Because I'm about to go back down there.
Speaker 1: They're all called International Smoke because she has It's like
Speaker 1: it's it's barbecue from all around the world though, but
Speaker 1: they have everything. Okay, mac and cheese, tried tip, mac
Speaker 1: and cheese. Okay, okay, okay, there was one in Miami,
Speaker 1: but okay, okay, I'm gonna. I'm gonna okay, So Miami, Vegas,
Speaker 1: we're where else? And and San Francisco. There was one
Speaker 1: in Houston, but Houston, they don't like the Warriors. And
Speaker 1: it was they started yelping her like before they started negative, negative,
Speaker 1: yelping her. That is that deep. But y'all, that's not
Speaker 1: on some food, So goodad that is. Now, how is
Speaker 1: your relationship with your sister in law? You all, from
Speaker 1: what I can tell you all appear to be really
Speaker 1: really close. Yeah no, I super blessed. I was always
Speaker 1: really hard on all my brother's girlfriends, and you should be,
Speaker 1: because you know the holes out here in the streets ran.
Speaker 1: I ran a few of them, all ran a few,
Speaker 1: actually the one that ran. And that's a long movement.
Speaker 1: And it's a lot to live up to because their
Speaker 1: mother is a bad one. And so if like the
Speaker 1: girlfriend or discali wag got a hole on the side,
Speaker 1: can't live up to the mama, it's a problem. Yeah no,
Speaker 1: but with Aasha like I was mean to her for
Speaker 1: about two weeks okay, good, and I couldn't be I
Speaker 1: couldn't be mean to her anymore. I was like, I
Speaker 1: can't not like you, um and we became like that.
Speaker 1: I was her maid of honor in their wedding. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I couldn't be with both my sister in laws are
Speaker 1: amazing their sisters. I always wanted, Oh yeah, they perfectly.
Speaker 1: If you all have Thanksgiving dinner, I wouldn't mind being
Speaker 1: invited one day, or if y'all want, I could just
Speaker 1: like fit in. Y'all be like, oh there's cousin everyone does.
Speaker 1: Everyone does. Or going to a restaurant because I just
Speaker 1: want to go and order the home menu because I
Speaker 1: know I'm not paying it, so I'm just gonna, okay,
Speaker 1: bring me the lobster. And I don't know, you might
Speaker 1: you might have to, you might have to guess on
Speaker 1: that on the on the bill. Just know she makes
Speaker 1: money to anyone money. Let's g get into your Instagram
Speaker 1: because it is the pictures, the way it's laid out,
Speaker 1: like everything about it. It's like clearly I look at
Speaker 1: it and I'm like, okay, what professional is doing this?
Speaker 1: Um it's it's amazing. So talk to us about like
Speaker 1: why you there's like a style to it, is there.
Speaker 1: I mean I don't try to fit any kind of style.
Speaker 1: I think that I just try to be myself and
Speaker 1: it's a gets sometimes imposter syndrome like I'm not doing enough,
Speaker 1: I'm not good enough, because then I go look at
Speaker 1: other people's pages and I'm like, wow, that's so aesthetically pleasing.
Speaker 1: Every every filter is perfect with the other. But that's
Speaker 1: just not me. Like if I've spen hours editing a
Speaker 1: photo or thinking about, you know what I'm gonna post like,
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel genuine and authentic. And I want everything
Speaker 1: that I do to feel genuine, authentic because that's where
Speaker 1: how I've gotten to this point. And it's much harder
Speaker 1: to be someone else than it is just to be me.
Speaker 1: And I don't have time, Like I just I don't
Speaker 1: have time. It's exhausting. So but thank you. I appreciate that.
Speaker 1: I know I want people to look at my Instagram
Speaker 1: and know that that's me, and it's there's nothing fake
Speaker 1: about it. There's nothing, um you know, highlight really like
Speaker 1: I like to be. I like to show all the
Speaker 1: good and the bad of my life because it's normal.
Speaker 1: I think you do an awesome job and it is
Speaker 1: definitely aesthetically pleasing, but without being you know, it doesn't
Speaker 1: it does not look fake or forced. Um so in
Speaker 1: in in the content creator world, if that's really it's
Speaker 1: it's people don't really realize how hard it is actually
Speaker 1: to put out good content, aesthetically pleasing content. So you know,
Speaker 1: kudos to you for doing a great job. You're welcome.
Speaker 1: Now are you gonna I'm sorry, go ahead. Do you
Speaker 1: have to get into this topic? Okay? Are you going
Speaker 1: to um, you know, after your son is born? By
Speaker 1: the way, do we have a name? Is it an
Speaker 1: s name? So y'all are going to have an empire
Speaker 1: of d's like, it's just fair, okay, very good. Are
Speaker 1: you going to show a bunch of pictures of him? Like,
Speaker 1: how do you feel about social media and your child?
Speaker 1: Because it's all it's it's a little tricky. It's a
Speaker 1: little tricky. Yeah, I mean I've seen both sides of that. Um,
Speaker 1: Stefan and Aisha they show their kids a lot, Seth, Callie,
Speaker 1: don't show there's that much. Um just the back of
Speaker 1: I didn't even realize he had a child, mm hmm. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I've seen both sides. Honestly, when he's when my
Speaker 1: baby is first born, I'm gonna really determine on if
Speaker 1: he's cute or not because the last thing, that's what
Speaker 1: I want thing I wanted for him to be eighteen
Speaker 1: twenty years I'd like, ma, why is this picture on
Speaker 1: the online of me looking all like I don't want that.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to have problems. But if you like, wait,
Speaker 1: don't feel rushed to put your child. If he looks
Speaker 1: like an alien, you're gonna think his hand, his little foot,
Speaker 1: wait until he fills out a little bit. I mean
Speaker 1: my my son Carter that was talking to you or
Speaker 1: he was I don't like to use the word ugly
Speaker 1: cute and look at him now so time. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: like the I got a d M one time from
Speaker 1: the phone who was like yelling at me because I
Speaker 1: didn't show pictures of my nieces and nephew. She's like, oh,
Speaker 1: you have our pictures like your dogs, And I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: well first that's not a responsibility like my dogs. But
Speaker 1: she and I like was like, well, ma'am, I don't now.
Speaker 1: I definitely don't feel full showing pictures of my of
Speaker 1: my nieces and nephews, because like there's people like you
Speaker 1: who are incessant on the fact that I post them
Speaker 1: and what are you gonna do with them? And why
Speaker 1: do you need them so badly? And their parents post
Speaker 1: pictures of them so and so that to me like
Speaker 1: really with a red flag about you know, the craziness
Speaker 1: of people. But um, I don't want people to dictate,
Speaker 1: you know, what I do or don't do. So it's
Speaker 1: really game time decision on on little baby boy. But okay,
Speaker 1: all right, Yeah, he's gonna be cute, stop it. It's
Speaker 1: gonna be adorable six months from now, and he's gonna
Speaker 1: be goocy down to the socks I already know. Listen,
Speaker 1: I got them. I got them hand me downs from
Speaker 1: Stephan and Aisha. There we go, listen, there we go,
Speaker 1: There we go, because you know they only wear one time.
Speaker 1: And yes, the whole bag at Gucci hand me down,
Speaker 1: so good, must be nice, must be nice. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: before we let you go, let's talk a little bit
Speaker 1: more about mental health, um, specifically seasonal depression, because I'll
Speaker 1: be honest. The other day it was like two pm.
Speaker 1: It was gloomy outside, and I was on my couch
Speaker 1: and I just felt this like heaviness over me and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, it's starting already. Um, So,
Speaker 1: you know, do you have any advice or remedies or
Speaker 1: just you know, any words of wisdom that you can
Speaker 1: give to people who may be around this time of year?
Speaker 1: Are alreat even feel different and they don't know why. Definitely,
Speaker 1: it's a normal thing. A lot of people who don't
Speaker 1: experience depression during the other uh seasonal months of the year,
Speaker 1: experience it during this time. So now that you're not alone.
Speaker 1: One thing for sure, especially for us black people, we
Speaker 1: need to be Vitamin D is huge because we get
Speaker 1: vitamin D from the sun and vitamin D deficiency. So
Speaker 1: get your supple vitamin D supplement. Make sure you're taking
Speaker 1: that because it will not only help you mentally but
Speaker 1: also physically. Um, it gives your energy backup and stuff
Speaker 1: like that. Uh. And now what so why is that
Speaker 1: like not a universal thing? Why is that like geared
Speaker 1: towards black people. We're just known to have low vitamin
Speaker 1: D deficiency. Um. I mean, I'm sure white people can
Speaker 1: get it as well during this time, but especially black people. Uh.
Speaker 1: And I didn't know that was a thing. I don't
Speaker 1: know that was a thing. So that's good to sure.
Speaker 1: It's could be very isolating too, because it's cooled outside,
Speaker 1: it's dark faster. Don't really want to go anywhere, but
Speaker 1: make an effort to if you feel safe. Obviously we're
Speaker 1: still living in COVID times. Uh. See people, go get
Speaker 1: drinks with people, go hang out. Um, just walk around
Speaker 1: something with someone other than yourself, because that's gonna be
Speaker 1: really good to get you out of that mood. For me, Um,
Speaker 1: it's not. I mean it kind of might not be
Speaker 1: too late. I have a summer set in a winter scent.
Speaker 1: So if I'm feel like a perfume, if I'm feeling
Speaker 1: really I'm really really down or really like just depressed
Speaker 1: or whatever, I'll spray my summer set and that sen
Speaker 1: use your senses during this time. Eyes ears. Now it's
Speaker 1: some watermelon. I don't know something that you know can
Speaker 1: bring you to summary. That's my craving right now. I
Speaker 1: mean I was gonna I was gonna ask you because
Speaker 1: I was gonna tell you my child. My pregnancy cras
Speaker 1: were ridiculous. But I love that. So either, So spray
Speaker 1: something that's gonna remind you of like the sum more
Speaker 1: time and happy and sunshine and all that I love.
Speaker 1: So throw the pumpkin spice in the trash. But I
Speaker 1: love me a little pumpkin. Yeah, life, but afraid either
Speaker 1: during right Christmas? But opiniata really good like that. That
Speaker 1: is good. But a lot of people talk about um
Speaker 1: in the wintertime, it's like coffing seasons, like when you
Speaker 1: got to make sure you gotta boo so and but
Speaker 1: now that you kind of like broke it down, like
Speaker 1: make sure you're engaging, make sure you're going out going
Speaker 1: and you have drinks whatever. That makes sense. Like I
Speaker 1: couldn't understand coughing season, but I understand it now because
Speaker 1: you do need somebody, are you. You should have somebody
Speaker 1: that you can just kind of like cuddle up with um,
Speaker 1: you know, hang out with whatever, go to the movies
Speaker 1: with whatever. And my thing is, you know I don't
Speaker 1: like to leave the house, right yeah, and I think
Speaker 1: you have the battle is like putting on clothes and
Speaker 1: make a little hare. Yeah, it's hard. It's hard. Self
Speaker 1: care is it's easy to talk about, but it's hard
Speaker 1: to get going. But you always feel better afterwards. Like
Speaker 1: it's like working out. It's really hard to start working out,
Speaker 1: but as soon as you're done, you're like, I mean
Speaker 1: I'm tired, but I'm so happy I did that. So
Speaker 1: they just think about the reward at the end um
Speaker 1: of getting started. And then also, like my last advice
Speaker 1: with the seasonal depression is no, this is a season
Speaker 1: like there will beat in, the sun will come out again,
Speaker 1: the days will be longer, it'll be lighter outside longer again.
Speaker 1: So it's just as time span. There is light at
Speaker 1: the end of the tunnel um and so it's not
Speaker 1: gonna be like this forever. Oh I love that. No,
Speaker 1: I mean I love that. It's so funny. So the
Speaker 1: other day I was talking to Wan and I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm starting to feel it and he was like, you know.
Speaker 1: He was like, I'm like, do you feel the same thing?
Speaker 1: And he was like no. I said, remember when we
Speaker 1: lived in Portland. We lived in Portland, Oregon, and he
Speaker 1: you know, it rained every day literally from like early
Speaker 1: December until the middle of May. It literally rained like
Speaker 1: every single day. So I was like, one, you remember
Speaker 1: the feeling when we lived in Portland, Like how when
Speaker 1: it rained every day, you just it just did feel great.
Speaker 1: And he was like yeah. I was like, well that's
Speaker 1: how I feel, you know, this time of year until
Speaker 1: probably early February, right or maybe you know, maybe March.
Speaker 1: And he was like wow, like you know, he doesn't
Speaker 1: feel that at all. And I'm just like, damn, like, yes,
Speaker 1: that must be like, so I'm like I don't. I
Speaker 1: mean yeah, I gotta really make an effort because it
Speaker 1: does keep me in the house, like told the dark,
Speaker 1: you know, just balling up on the couch, not wanting
Speaker 1: to get dressed. Now, it's but it it becomes debilitating
Speaker 1: because I do feel like I do miss out on
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff. For me to get Rabbit out
Speaker 1: of the house in the wintertime, is it's a struggle, yes, really,
Speaker 1: And I feel bad because I think people think that
Speaker 1: I'm being like anti social and it's just like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm just a lot of energy. Yeah, or like they're
Speaker 1: taking it personal because I'm not hanging out with them,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, well, don't take a person. I'm not
Speaker 1: hanging out with anyone, right, But yes, I gotta make
Speaker 1: more of an effort because it's yeah, for sure. Um.
Speaker 1: And then my mom always said, you know, if you
Speaker 1: are having a bad day, just put on lipstick and
Speaker 1: I'll make you feel better. So I I like live
Speaker 1: by that. Yeah, you always have to have your lips popping,
Speaker 1: like you feel bad, and so put lipstick on and
Speaker 1: just looking at yourself in the mirror and just say
Speaker 1: I'm beautiful, Like I'm beautiful. I don't care what you say.
Speaker 1: Affirmation yeah, talking affirmations will start becoming a real thing. Yes,
Speaker 1: I do say though. One of my advice is, like
Speaker 1: when you're feeling down is just to like smile and
Speaker 1: brind because when the smile, like the endorphins you get
Speaker 1: from the smile like really changes your mood. So sometimes
Speaker 1: you just like sit there and just like put on
Speaker 1: the big, cheesiest smile and you can like feel a
Speaker 1: little bit better, like feel a little endorphin rush. So well,
Speaker 1: you have been amazing, amazing, and we got you know,
Speaker 1: you didn't mind us getting all up into the curry
Speaker 1: leaf business. All right, I'll tell all the I'll tell
Speaker 1: all the stuff nobody else talk. I'll talk. And if
Speaker 1: we ever see y'all out, I'm just coming to sit
Speaker 1: down at the table. I'm fine. They will never know
Speaker 1: I'm not family. They won't. They won't. Me and Robert
Speaker 1: are coming to the family reunion, okay, because I think
Speaker 1: it's gonna be off. The chain always is. It's always
Speaker 1: a good time. People never want to leave us. That's
Speaker 1: so awesome. Well you have been to drink? Yeah, do
Speaker 1: you have anything you want to like um promote? Well,
Speaker 1: what's your Instagram page? You have my websites or anything
Speaker 1: else going on. My Instagram is just my name, Sadel
Speaker 1: Curry Lee. Um. And then my podcast because life with
Speaker 1: Saddel on Instagram and anywhere you listen to your podcast.
Speaker 1: So yes, yes, you're you're I'm gonna recommend your instagram.
Speaker 1: It is beautiful, Like I just throw pictures up because
Speaker 1: it's just it's a mess, but it's fine. But yours
Speaker 1: it's absolutely beautiful. And thank you so much. Um. Always
Speaker 1: remember never forget live your life, either reasonable or shade.
Speaker 1: You know what, we weren't even shady with you, see,
Speaker 1: I mean we tried to throw your system law under
Speaker 1: the bus, but you would like I can't, I can't,
Speaker 1: all right, I think there's nothing okay, alright, So this
Speaker 1: was a very reasonable episode people, which we probably need
Speaker 1: some of those. We got to balance it called balance. Yes,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. We appreciate you, all right, girl,
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